WEBVTT - #190 Do Soldiers Go To Heaven?

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<v Speaker 1>When you are at war, you commit great sins. What

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<v Speaker 1>does God think about me since I've committed these sins?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the podcast. Special guest Bernie is back. It's

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<v Speaker 1>in fact, you're not even special anymore. We're just normal,

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<v Speaker 1>the non special uh normal normal guest Bernie. And you

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<v Speaker 1>were on a few weeks ago and you were you

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<v Speaker 1>just finished or you were just about to go on

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<v Speaker 1>this run, and then everyone was worried about you, thinking

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<v Speaker 1>you might die, and so they were emailing like how's Bernie?

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<v Speaker 1>And then people are talking to me at meet and

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<v Speaker 1>greets like how's Bernie? Haven't heard anything? So can you

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<v Speaker 1>give a little recap?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I'll give a brief little recap and you

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<v Speaker 2>can follow us on Instagram. It's at Burn and Coco

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<v Speaker 2>and then well we have a lot of stuff from

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<v Speaker 2>the race on there, and we're actually going to start

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<v Speaker 2>doing these little segments called Coffee with Burn where it's

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<v Speaker 2>me just kind of talking about the things I call

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<v Speaker 2>you and talk about like these little nuggets that I

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<v Speaker 2>find in the woods that are like, oh man, I

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<v Speaker 2>wonder if the world needs that. So yeah, I go

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<v Speaker 2>follow us there and keep up. But oh man, there's

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<v Speaker 2>so much I did make it. I ran a good

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<v Speaker 2>race preparation for.

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<v Speaker 1>The people that don't know how far was it.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was thirty four miles, there was over five

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<v Speaker 2>thousand feet of elevation. It was on a single track,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, trail run in Cleeborn, Texas. It was awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>It was really awesome. I went in with a good

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<v Speaker 2>kind of race plan, and my plan was stay humble,

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<v Speaker 2>don't go out too fast, and try to finish strong.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that, especially this being the first ultra

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<v Speaker 2>of this link that I've done, there's always and maybe

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<v Speaker 2>this is true for life in general, but there's always

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<v Speaker 2>a tendency to just go out too fast, and when

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<v Speaker 2>you get into an ultra marathon, just can't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna burn out, you're gonna blow up, your muscles

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<v Speaker 2>are gonna crash, and you're gonna have to DNF and

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<v Speaker 2>not finish the race. And so, man, it took everything

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<v Speaker 2>in me those first you know, twenty or fifteen, sixteen

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<v Speaker 2>miles to just let people pass me and just kind

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<v Speaker 2>of find my pace and be like, okay, this is it.

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<v Speaker 1>Set the ego aside.

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<v Speaker 2>Set the ego aside, And oddly enough, I didn't put

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<v Speaker 2>this together until I was actually on the trail, but

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<v Speaker 2>months earlier. You know that I take like a verse

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<v Speaker 2>and I'll just like rest on that verse for like

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<v Speaker 2>a month or two. Well, I was on Isaiah forty

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<v Speaker 2>thirty one. But those who wait upon the Lord will

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<v Speaker 2>renew their strength. They will rise up on wings like eagles.

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<v Speaker 2>They will run and not grow weary, they will walk

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<v Speaker 2>and not grow tired. And I had been on that,

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<v Speaker 2>so I got on the trail and all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 2>all I heard was that verse over and over. Just wait,

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<v Speaker 2>just wait on the Lord, he will renew your strength.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, for whatever reason, I got to about

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<v Speaker 2>mile twenty six and some I mean, I can't explain it,

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<v Speaker 2>like it was euphoric. I felt like I was running

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<v Speaker 2>the first mile, and I ran that last eight and

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<v Speaker 2>a half miles fifteen minutes faster than the previous eight

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<v Speaker 2>and a half miles. It was like some of the

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<v Speaker 2>fastest of the race. And so there was this constant

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<v Speaker 2>like just stay humble. My mind is telling me, dude,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to push. You got more in the tank,

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<v Speaker 2>keep going, but it was like no, just wait, just wait.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I felt like the time came and I

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<v Speaker 2>pushed and I finished strong, and it was a really

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<v Speaker 2>great experience. It likely, Lord Willing, won't be the last

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<v Speaker 2>one that I do.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, I just.

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<v Speaker 2>Had a blast.

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<v Speaker 1>So first meal you had when you finished, first meal

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<v Speaker 1>was what a burger order?

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<v Speaker 2>It was a huge like, uh, what's the spicy, sweet

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<v Speaker 2>and spicy double cheeseburger, French fries.

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<v Speaker 1>A milkshake.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't think I did a milkshake. I could

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<v Speaker 2>have done a milkshake, but I ate so much for

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<v Speaker 2>the next week, like I kind of said, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>just let let yourself go a little bit, you you know,

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<v Speaker 2>kind of pushed her in training. So I ate what

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted. I drank what I wanted, I slept in,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't I didn't really exercise. I did like a

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<v Speaker 2>few three mile runs just to kind of like shake

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<v Speaker 2>out the muscles. But yeah, it was. It was a

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<v Speaker 2>good burger. I'll tell you that, I'm bad. I had

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<v Speaker 2>earned it.

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<v Speaker 1>Bernie over here, David Goggins, Now.

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<v Speaker 2>No, not even close. But I appreciate the support, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>It was.

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<v Speaker 2>It was really cool fun to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys. Everyone was because you literally did this podcast a

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<v Speaker 1>few weeks ago and then went and did that run,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I came back and did a solo podcast

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<v Speaker 1>the next week and they were like, oh, how's how's Bernie.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad get the recap and I think some of

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<v Speaker 1>the knowledge that you learned on that run will come

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<v Speaker 1>out in the question today. I'm positive they will at

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<v Speaker 1>some point. And that's what we do on this podcast

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<v Speaker 1>is answer your questions, and you could email your questions

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<v Speaker 1>to Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. If we don't

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<v Speaker 1>have anything in front of us, we're just going to

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<v Speaker 1>talk it through like we're just friends. Okay, I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to randomly go through these in the first one with

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<v Speaker 1>the subject line of this one questioning God's plan, Hey Grandeer,

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<v Speaker 1>my name is Toner. That's the last name I'll go by.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be thirty five in September and I've never had

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<v Speaker 1>a serious relationship. All my friends are getting married and

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'm just left on the sidelines. Everyone

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<v Speaker 1>asked all the time, when am I going to be next?

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<v Speaker 1>I have a fear that God doesn't have anyone planned

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<v Speaker 1>for me and that I should be forever alone. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been on several dates, but it was with the wrong girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I supposed to pray for God to give me

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<v Speaker 1>patience or just trust he has a plan for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I've recently felt a calling back into student ministry, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's been fun helping out youth as a youth pastor

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<v Speaker 1>by being a positive influence and sharing my testimony because

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of stuff I went through there. This is

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<v Speaker 1>this is now on a deeper level. I also have

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<v Speaker 1>tickets to your show in Tulsa, Okay, Toner, Let's focus

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<v Speaker 1>on that first part. Thirty five years old and single.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what's interesting, Bernie. This is what he says,

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<v Speaker 1>like there's always a line in one of these questions

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<v Speaker 1>after by the way, one hundred and ninety, that's the

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<v Speaker 1>episode one hundred and ninety. Oh, so after one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and ninety of these, there's always sentences that pop out

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<v Speaker 1>to me. And you probably know which one I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the one that says, I have a fear that

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<v Speaker 1>God doesn't have anyone plan for me and that I

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<v Speaker 1>should be forever alone. So let me just ask you

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<v Speaker 1>back another question. If God has a plan for you,

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<v Speaker 1>which here's your sentence, God doesn't have anyone plan for me?

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<v Speaker 1>So if that is God's plan, would you reject his plan?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you consciously revolt, rebel against his plan? It's an

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<v Speaker 1>interesting thought. I'm not it's rhetorical, but this is us,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, this is what we do. We go, we go.

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<v Speaker 1>I trust God. I see this so many times in

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<v Speaker 1>the questions. Somebody's typing a question right now as we speak,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's saying, I trust God, but there's always a

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<v Speaker 1>butt but but I don't know this or I'm fearful

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<v Speaker 1>of this. So what do you say to this guy?

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<v Speaker 1>Burns as he says, maybe I'm going to be single forever,

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<v Speaker 1>forever alone and that's God's plan, and I fear that.

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<v Speaker 2>Right first, I think it's I think it's okay. These

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<v Speaker 2>what you're feeling is legitimate.

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<v Speaker 1>You're human.

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<v Speaker 2>We've talked before about these, these things of fear and faith,

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<v Speaker 2>like it can sometimes it can be both. But I

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<v Speaker 2>think Granger's hitting on this idea of contentment that he's

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<v Speaker 2>talked about many, many times on the podcast. What if

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<v Speaker 2>that is God's best for you is to live your

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<v Speaker 2>life without a wife, without a partner, or whatever are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Would you be content with that? I guess the other thing,

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<v Speaker 2>the other question would be, like Granger said, or would

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<v Speaker 2>you kind of rebel against that and not accept that

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<v Speaker 2>and and ultimately that would come down to not trusting

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<v Speaker 2>that he loves you and has your best at heart

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<v Speaker 2>in his plan. I think that this is a place

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<v Speaker 2>where Toner just has to kind of spend some time.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think it's okay to wrestle. You read through

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<v Speaker 2>the Psalms like David wrestled with God a lot about

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<v Speaker 2>and question things, and so I think the best thing

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<v Speaker 2>that you can do is kind of wrestle through this.

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<v Speaker 2>If there is that desire, you know, continue to pray

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<v Speaker 2>about it. But I think there's a bigger heart I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to say issue, but I think there's a

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<v Speaker 2>bigger opportunity for you to understand your heart and the

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<v Speaker 2>current position of your heart towards God through what you're

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<v Speaker 2>feeling right now. So I would just press in, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean you're thirty five, like I want to say,

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<v Speaker 2>you're still young, because you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he might have expected us to just go straight

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<v Speaker 1>in and be like, no, you know, you'll find somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>you're young, You're everything's gonna be okay. And so but

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<v Speaker 1>before we do that, and we might we might agree

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<v Speaker 1>to that, but before we say that we got to

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<v Speaker 1>first just say, but would you be cool being part

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<v Speaker 1>of God's plan? Period? Like nothing else after that? Would

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<v Speaker 1>you be cool with that? It's like this, you know London,

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<v Speaker 1>My daughter, she doesn't do good with dairy products, but

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<v Speaker 1>she loves them. And so when me and Amber are saying, now,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't have ice cream tonight. You can't because you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna wake up in the middle of night with a

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<v Speaker 1>belly ache, and she's like, no, but I want ice cream.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I never gonna have ice cream the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>my life? And we're like, listen, we're talking about tonight,

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<v Speaker 1>and you cannot have it tonight. This will affect you.

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<v Speaker 1>You will wake up with the belly ache. And she

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't remember that, and she can't see that. We say

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<v Speaker 1>that because we love her, because we care about her,

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<v Speaker 1>but she doesn't see it. She doesn't trust it, she's

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<v Speaker 1>fearful of it. And it's the same thing. We do

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<v Speaker 1>this with God all the time. It's interesting. Bernie brought

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<v Speaker 1>up the psalms and David wrestling with God. I heard

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<v Speaker 1>Tim Keller this morning saying in a book that he

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<v Speaker 1>wrote that having doubt in you would be like having

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<v Speaker 1>antibodies in you. It's like basically what he's saying is

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<v Speaker 1>you don't you don't want to be someone that's that

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<v Speaker 1>has zero doubt at all, zero fear, zero doubt, nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's like a body without antibodies. And you then

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<v Speaker 1>are very open to an attack at some point because

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<v Speaker 1>your whole belief system could come crashing down because what

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<v Speaker 1>that small sliver of fear in you does, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to promote fear, but what it does in

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<v Speaker 1>you is it makes you wrestle with it makes you

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<v Speaker 1>attack it. It makes you dig and learn and read

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<v Speaker 1>and think like Bernie going on this, you know, thirty

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<v Speaker 1>mile run and he's thinking and he's wrestling with verses,

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<v Speaker 1>and revelation comes through that wrestling. If you don't have that,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're like, no, I'm pretty it's like spiritually I'm

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<v Speaker 1>pretty perfect. Like you don't have I don't have anything

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<v Speaker 1>that all the scripture just I'm on good with it all,

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<v Speaker 1>then you're in a really dangerous place at that point.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and that's a great analogy. Those antibodies are what

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<v Speaker 2>are killing the virus. Yeah, so there are these these

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<v Speaker 2>untruths in your head, the wrestling, the antibodies, this this,

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<v Speaker 2>this is actually what kills the things that are not true.

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<v Speaker 2>So but here's here's the last thing I'll say to Toner.

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<v Speaker 1>What if.

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<v Speaker 2>You decided you made the choice God, I am all in,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm content in you, and maybe maybe I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>right now, but give.

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<v Speaker 1>Me that heart.

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<v Speaker 2>And all of a sudden God started to speak to you.

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<v Speaker 2>He started to reveal things to you, and you started

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<v Speaker 2>to write those things down and you started to develop

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<v Speaker 2>this heart that was so passionate for the gospel that

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<v Speaker 2>He took you on these adventures that you never thought.

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<v Speaker 2>That you published books that were best sellers, that you

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<v Speaker 2>that people knew who you were because of this mission

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<v Speaker 2>that you were solely focused on. But you were single.

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<v Speaker 2>Much like Paul. This is the same story of Paul Right.

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<v Speaker 2>He was solely focused on this message and it it

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<v Speaker 2>took him to places and it brought things out of

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<v Speaker 2>him that we still read and we still are inspired

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<v Speaker 2>by today. Toner, what if that? What if that is

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<v Speaker 2>your story? But you're too busy focused on suburban two

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<v Speaker 2>and a half kids with my family just live in this,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, typical American dream life that you're gonna miss out.

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<v Speaker 1>He says, like everyone asks all the time when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be next. No, stop that, stop listening to that,

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna miss out that you can't follow social media

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<v Speaker 1>and listen to all these people. Bernie's right, Granger's right,

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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's look to another one. Uh. This is

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<v Speaker 1>interesting subject line savior complex. Hey Granger, my husband and

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<v Speaker 1>I are a big fan of your podcast in the

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<v Speaker 1>Smiths and recently went to your show in Louisville. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to ask ask a question regarding my brother in law.

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<v Speaker 1>He is a very kind hearted and selfless person and

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<v Speaker 1>has been a Christian since he was a young kid.

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<v Speaker 1>About nine years ago, he began a relationship with a

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<v Speaker 1>woman who claimed to know Christ, but is very clearly

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<v Speaker 1>not living a christ like life. She goes out to

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<v Speaker 1>bars four to five days a week. She also spent

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<v Speaker 1>a year in a rehab program from meth and alcohol.

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<v Speaker 1>My brother in law has a savior complex and has

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<v Speaker 1>paid for everything for her, all of her nights out

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<v Speaker 1>to the bars, her rehab, and even some of her bills.

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<v Speaker 1>She talks to other guys while out and has cheated

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<v Speaker 1>on him multiple times. This is very She is very

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<v Speaker 1>clearly using him, but is also very clearly controlling him.

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<v Speaker 1>She gets angry at him for spending time with his

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<v Speaker 1>family and we don't get to see him very much.

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<v Speaker 1>What can we do as his brother and sister in

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<v Speaker 1>law to help him get out of this situation? So

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<v Speaker 1>thank you. This is Ashley. Thank you Ashley. This is

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<v Speaker 1>similar Burns to a question that we got a few

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<v Speaker 1>weeks ago about the son in law who was to say,

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<v Speaker 1>some Satan worshipers. Yeah, right, yeah, And we could probably

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<v Speaker 1>give a similar answer. In fact, the Gospel is going

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<v Speaker 1>to always be the answer. And sometimes Bernie and I

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<v Speaker 1>will say that very clearly, and we'll go straight to

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<v Speaker 1>like the actual cross, and then sometimes we'll say it

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<v Speaker 1>more metaphorically and what the implications of the cross mean?

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<v Speaker 1>What am I talking about? Right? Let me get to

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<v Speaker 1>the point. The only way that this that this woman

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<v Speaker 1>is going to be healed is through the Gospel. The

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<v Speaker 1>only way that your brother is a brother in law,

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<v Speaker 1>brother in law is going to have his eyes opened

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<v Speaker 1>to the world is through the Gospel. So what do

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<v Speaker 1>you do? You speak the Gospel, you live the Gospel,

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<v Speaker 1>and you love like the Gospel. You love as a

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<v Speaker 1>person that has been redeemed a person you I'm speaking

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<v Speaker 1>to you Ashley. You don't deserve Christ, you don't deserve Heaven.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't deserve a relationship with God. You don't deserve

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<v Speaker 1>to be worthy of any of that. Now, neither do I,

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<v Speaker 1>neither does Bernie, neither does anybody. We were born rebels,

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<v Speaker 1>we were born sinners, We were born not worthy of heaven.

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<v Speaker 1>But God and his grace and his mercy sent his

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<v Speaker 1>son to be a substitution for us, so that in

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<v Speaker 1>him we are worthy. We are full of grace, we

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<v Speaker 1>are full of hope. Right, that's the story of the Gospel.

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<v Speaker 1>So you look at her and you skid. She's in

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<v Speaker 1>rehab and she's tearing him down. She goes to bars

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<v Speaker 1>four or five. I go, Yeah, you could do anything,

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<v Speaker 1>including worshiping Satan. Like we heard a few weeks ago,

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<v Speaker 1>you could do anything when you're outside of Christ. So

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<v Speaker 1>what you do is you appropriately speak truth to them.

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<v Speaker 1>That is your only answer. And now there's a thousand ways,

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<v Speaker 1>a million ways to act that out, but that ultimately

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<v Speaker 1>at the bottom of the foundation, that is your only

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<v Speaker 1>answer is to do this in love.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's really good. I For some reason, I'm reminded

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<v Speaker 2>of something that Tyler David at the Stone said this

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<v Speaker 2>was probably a few months ago and it was just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of the opening of his his sermon, and for

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<v Speaker 2>some reason it's really stuck with me. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>we talked briefly about the bridge, right, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we go we go to Sunday service, and we hear

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<v Speaker 2>these these things about Jesus, and we about you know,

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<v Speaker 2>propitiation and about you know, sanctification. We hear about Heaven.

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<v Speaker 2>We hear about these very high and lofty things, and

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<v Speaker 2>then we immediately we go to lunch. And it probably

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<v Speaker 2>takes till Sunday evening or Monday that the very like

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<v Speaker 2>earthy and real tangible, taking kids to soccer, to school,

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<v Speaker 2>relationships with our brother in laws, like the these things

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<v Speaker 2>start to kind of like they feel so separate, they

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<v Speaker 2>feel so different. It's like this, this is eternal and

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<v Speaker 2>lofty and this is like here and now, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know how to go through this. And so what

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<v Speaker 2>Grangeer and I have been talking about is, Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 2>how do we how do we communicate a bridge? What

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<v Speaker 2>is the thing that bridges this what can seem like

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<v Speaker 2>a gap between these two. For some reason, I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 2>about that with you, Ashley, and how do you take

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<v Speaker 2>the things that Granger has said and bring them into

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<v Speaker 2>just like the earthy humanness of relationship with the brother

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<v Speaker 2>in law.

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<v Speaker 1>One.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you you could just start with praying. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if you have prayed for this guy, have

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<v Speaker 2>prayed for this relationship, prayed for her and prayed like, God,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you want me to know about this? And God,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you want me to do? Don't over complicate it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think when we can be humble enough to

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<v Speaker 2>just kind of sit and wait on the Lord, like, God,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you want me to do? Just practically and

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it you know, like we want her and we

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<v Speaker 2>want him to hear the gospel and for it to change.

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<v Speaker 2>It's probably not going to happen outside of a relationship

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<v Speaker 2>that is covered in grace and love and mercy. It's

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<v Speaker 2>the same as our story. So if you can have

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<v Speaker 2>that lofty eye idea in mind, but then bring it

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<v Speaker 2>to something that's very Hey, do you want to come

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<v Speaker 2>home for dinner and just have that dinner be so

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<v Speaker 2>significant to them, for them to feel so provided for,

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<v Speaker 2>for them to feel protected, that was a safe place. Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>you want to do this next Sunday?

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<v Speaker 1>Next Sunday, night.

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<v Speaker 2>I guarantee you if you begin to just practically earthy

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<v Speaker 2>hands and feet serve them and love them and show

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<v Speaker 2>them grace and a safe place. In that way, it

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<v Speaker 2>will provide the opportunity to either show them or to

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<v Speaker 2>speak truth into their lives. But even if it doesn't,

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<v Speaker 2>this is what the word calls us to do. I

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<v Speaker 2>think we so often like, Okay, well, we got to

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<v Speaker 2>do this in order to get this opportunity. It's like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>God just calls us to do this part. Allow him

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<v Speaker 2>to do the rest.

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<v Speaker 1>He might.

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<v Speaker 2>He might not move in any one of these people,

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<v Speaker 2>but that's not our place. That's not what we do.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not what we're called to do. Just be the

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<v Speaker 2>hands and feet of his grace and allow him to

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<v Speaker 2>do the rest, and and just rest in that.

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley, let me tell you something that you might not know.

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<v Speaker 1>Your brother in law knows that you hate his girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>You might not realize that, but it's obvious in your

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<v Speaker 1>email that this consumes you. He knows that. So what

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<v Speaker 1>are you gonna do with that? What are you gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do with the fact that she he knows you don't

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<v Speaker 1>approve of this at all? And this has been almost

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<v Speaker 1>a decade. Have you ever built him up? Like, have

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<v Speaker 1>you ever been out with him and just been like,

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<v Speaker 1>you are a good catch. You're such a I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you're handsome, you're smart, you you're really good at this, this, this,

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<v Speaker 1>these talents you have, you're you're just you're just a

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<v Speaker 1>good guy. Have you ever said that to him? Have

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<v Speaker 1>you ever built him up? Or is it always she's

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<v Speaker 1>doing this and she didn't the blah blah blah nine

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<v Speaker 1>years of this mess that you've gone through. I wonder

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<v Speaker 1>it's just questions I have. So what Bernie's saying is,

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<v Speaker 1>how do you act that out? Can you act out

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<v Speaker 1>out with love? Can you invite them over for dinner?

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<v Speaker 1>Can you put aside all of this anger that you

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<v Speaker 1>have for this relationship in general and this woman? Can

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<v Speaker 1>you just stop it and see it looks like you've

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<v Speaker 1>probably tried everything else you might consider trying love.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, one last thing I'll add, And this is like

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<v Speaker 2>a nugget from the trail when I was running, just

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<v Speaker 2>thinking of life. We've heard it's not a sprint, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a marathon. I don't think it's a marathon. I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's an ultra marathon on a trail and here is why.

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<v Speaker 1>You know a few things.

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<v Speaker 2>One, it's really long guys, you know, even a short life.

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<v Speaker 2>It feels like, man, there's a lot of suffering that's

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<v Speaker 2>going into this if we're doing it right. It's not

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<v Speaker 2>a straight line. There's there's paths in this relationship that

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<v Speaker 2>will wind ways that you don't really know, and there's

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<v Speaker 2>going to be a bunch of climbs and a bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of descents. But also on a trail run. Much in life,

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<v Speaker 2>you always always have to be aware that there are

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<v Speaker 2>snakes on the trail. And I don't know these people.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know y'all's relationship. But if there is a

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<v Speaker 2>sense that you have that there are boundaries that need

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<v Speaker 2>to be put in place, that's okay. That's an okay

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<v Speaker 2>thing to recognize and to put in place. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>calling these people snakes, like please stop sending your email

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<v Speaker 2>back to us like I don't know. I'm just speaking

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<v Speaker 2>generally that we do need And this is something I've

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<v Speaker 2>personally experienced and learned from, is that it is okay

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<v Speaker 1>Could be about any subject. We're gonna walk through it.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not always right, but we're gonna walk through it

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<v Speaker 1>as friends would and discuss whatever is on your heart,

0:27:12.400 --> 0:27:15.000
<v Speaker 1>whatever's on your mind or in your life. And we

0:27:15.119 --> 0:27:16.760
<v Speaker 1>see that it's kind of all over the place.

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<v Speaker 2>Did y'all hear that?

0:27:18.600 --> 0:27:19.040
<v Speaker 1>He said?

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<v Speaker 2>Any subject you can get as creative anything you would

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<v Speaker 2>ever want to ask granger Smith.

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<v Speaker 1>Go for it. Here we go. Subdecline says a high

0:27:29.000 --> 0:27:33.720
<v Speaker 1>school junior who loves someone. Hey, Grainger, my name is Joshua.

0:27:33.720 --> 0:27:36.479
<v Speaker 1>I'm seventeen years old. I'm a junior. I hope your

0:27:36.520 --> 0:27:40.600
<v Speaker 1>day was good. But there's a girl. There's the question, right.

0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:43.960
<v Speaker 1>But there's this girl that I went to prom with

0:27:44.440 --> 0:27:48.000
<v Speaker 1>and it was fun. But I asked her out and

0:27:48.080 --> 0:27:50.440
<v Speaker 1>she said she'll think about it, and then next week

0:27:50.600 --> 0:27:53.240
<v Speaker 1>she got with my best friend. This girl means a

0:27:53.240 --> 0:27:55.480
<v Speaker 1>lot to me. This was back in March. But should

0:27:55.520 --> 0:27:58.480
<v Speaker 1>I keep waiting or try and move forward? I don't

0:27:58.520 --> 0:28:00.560
<v Speaker 1>really know what to do. Thank you for taking your

0:28:00.560 --> 0:28:02.720
<v Speaker 1>time reading my email. I hope you have a good

0:28:02.720 --> 0:28:07.240
<v Speaker 1>rest of the day. Joshua, thanks for emailing, brother.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm gonna go back to Somerset earlier. We always

0:28:12.119 --> 0:28:15.159
<v Speaker 2>advise to wait on the Lord. We do not advise

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<v Speaker 2>to wait on seventeen year old girls. Not for a minute.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it's so good. Yeah, that's the new theme of

0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:23.879
<v Speaker 1>this podcast. Wait on the Lord. Don't wait on your

0:28:23.920 --> 0:28:30.479
<v Speaker 1>girl to be seventeen again to have this kind of problem. Buddy,

0:28:30.920 --> 0:28:35.720
<v Speaker 1>you were going through something that you must go through

0:28:35.880 --> 0:28:42.320
<v Speaker 1>and you that's really interesting actually, because I'm actually writing

0:28:42.320 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 1>a paper in seminary and the paper is going to

0:28:45.360 --> 0:28:50.720
<v Speaker 1>be called there must be Battle and you. Not only

0:28:50.800 --> 0:28:55.960
<v Speaker 1>is this is this a scenario that's possible for seventeen

0:28:56.040 --> 0:28:58.120
<v Speaker 1>year old boys to go through. Not only is this

0:28:58.160 --> 0:29:02.520
<v Speaker 1>something that is suggested that maybe it could help you,

0:29:02.920 --> 0:29:05.840
<v Speaker 1>but I'm gonna suggest to you that you have to

0:29:05.880 --> 0:29:09.600
<v Speaker 1>go through this at seventeen or somewhere around here. You

0:29:09.680 --> 0:29:12.520
<v Speaker 1>have to know what it's like to be rejected or

0:29:12.560 --> 0:29:15.360
<v Speaker 1>to be hurt or to see her go to another guy,

0:29:15.800 --> 0:29:18.960
<v Speaker 1>because this is gonna work for you. It's gonna matter

0:29:19.040 --> 0:29:23.240
<v Speaker 1>to you later in your perception of girls and relationships

0:29:23.320 --> 0:29:26.240
<v Speaker 1>and so so you can't see it now, but I

0:29:26.240 --> 0:29:29.960
<v Speaker 1>want to encourage you that this is actually good. This

0:29:30.040 --> 0:29:33.680
<v Speaker 1>is a good thing. And the fact that she goes

0:29:33.720 --> 0:29:37.360
<v Speaker 1>to your best friend, hang on. You asked her to prom.

0:29:37.400 --> 0:29:40.440
<v Speaker 1>You went to prom. That's kind of a big deal.

0:29:40.960 --> 0:29:45.400
<v Speaker 1>You go to prom, right and then the next week

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:47.960
<v Speaker 1>or you asked her out. She said she'll think about it.

0:29:48.000 --> 0:29:50.840
<v Speaker 1>Then she went with your friend. Buddy, this girl is

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<v Speaker 1>not for you and you shouldn't wait on that. There's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot more girls.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, I'm gonna give you, Joshua, the greatest advice

0:30:01.680 --> 0:30:03.920
<v Speaker 2>for a seventeen year old boy that has ever been given.

0:30:05.400 --> 0:30:09.000
<v Speaker 2>Learn to play the guitar. You learn to play the guitar,

0:30:10.200 --> 0:30:12.960
<v Speaker 2>and you are gonna have girls all around you. And

0:30:13.000 --> 0:30:15.160
<v Speaker 2>you tell her eat your heart out. Baby. You had

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<v Speaker 2>your shot.

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<v Speaker 1>At the kid.

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<v Speaker 2>You only get one and you just sing and sing. Dude,

0:30:20.000 --> 0:30:21.440
<v Speaker 2>pick up a guitar, buddy.

0:30:21.560 --> 0:30:23.960
<v Speaker 1>Learn the guitar. Bro. That's a great piece of advice.

0:30:24.040 --> 0:30:31.040
<v Speaker 1>Let's move on here. Septicon here, says friend in need. Hey, Granger,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a friend that's a war veteran and he's

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<v Speaker 1>been looking for an answer to a question of his.

0:30:36.760 --> 0:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>The question is, when you are at war, you commit

0:30:39.840 --> 0:30:42.960
<v Speaker 1>great sins. What does God think about me? Since I've

0:30:42.960 --> 0:30:46.680
<v Speaker 1>committed these sins. He's been searching for an answer for

0:30:46.760 --> 0:30:48.760
<v Speaker 1>quite a while, but has yet to find a good answer.

0:30:49.280 --> 0:30:53.680
<v Speaker 1>He's read the scriptures, he knows the stories, but he

0:30:53.720 --> 0:30:57.959
<v Speaker 1>has not heard a message from God. I cannot help him,

0:30:58.000 --> 0:31:00.720
<v Speaker 1>for I am not a Christian myself, but I know

0:31:02.480 --> 0:31:06.160
<v Speaker 1>and can see that it causes him distress to think

0:31:06.200 --> 0:31:09.640
<v Speaker 1>that the sins he has committed can never be redeemed,

0:31:10.200 --> 0:31:13.479
<v Speaker 1>and that pushes him towards that pushes him from Christ.

0:31:14.000 --> 0:31:17.440
<v Speaker 1>He feels that he is a wolf in sheep's clothing,

0:31:17.520 --> 0:31:21.719
<v Speaker 1>but only to protect the flock from other wolves. If

0:31:21.760 --> 0:31:24.960
<v Speaker 1>you can give an answer to this and show him

0:31:25.000 --> 0:31:28.600
<v Speaker 1>on the podcast, that may give him some consolation. Thanks.

0:31:29.000 --> 0:31:33.520
<v Speaker 1>Interesting question, But I know that this is probably European.

0:31:33.600 --> 0:31:39.880
<v Speaker 1>This is not American because of the name here. Floky

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<v Speaker 1>Flo Okay, I so, okay. There's so much packed in here.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very interesting and one of the interesting things about

0:31:50.600 --> 0:31:53.920
<v Speaker 1>it is the fact that I'm pretty sure you're not American.

0:31:54.480 --> 0:32:00.080
<v Speaker 1>And only only in America would someone pretend to be

0:32:00.080 --> 0:32:04.760
<v Speaker 1>a Christian in this email. And only outside of America

0:32:04.760 --> 0:32:07.080
<v Speaker 1>would they say, can you help him? Because I'm not

0:32:07.160 --> 0:32:10.880
<v Speaker 1>a Christian? And so, first of all, kudos to you

0:32:12.200 --> 0:32:17.040
<v Speaker 1>for calling it like it is. And then there's something

0:32:17.040 --> 0:32:20.120
<v Speaker 1>else that's kind of facked into this question when he

0:32:20.360 --> 0:32:24.480
<v Speaker 1>says he's been searching for an answer for quite a

0:32:24.480 --> 0:32:27.360
<v Speaker 1>while but has yet to find a good answer. Let

0:32:27.360 --> 0:32:30.240
<v Speaker 1>me just hang there for a second. He's searching for

0:32:30.320 --> 0:32:32.720
<v Speaker 1>quite a while yet to find a good answer. How

0:32:32.720 --> 0:32:35.400
<v Speaker 1>many of y'all have said something like that. Here's what's

0:32:35.440 --> 0:32:40.280
<v Speaker 1>interesting about truth. It is objective. Truth is truth. It

0:32:40.360 --> 0:32:44.120
<v Speaker 1>is objective, So we don't search for the best version

0:32:44.160 --> 0:32:47.120
<v Speaker 1>of the truth. That would be strange to search for

0:32:47.200 --> 0:32:50.840
<v Speaker 1>a subjective truth. And what it almost sounds like is

0:32:50.880 --> 0:32:53.920
<v Speaker 1>that he's been asking the question but no one's given

0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:56.360
<v Speaker 1>him an answer that he agrees.

0:32:55.880 --> 0:33:03.120
<v Speaker 2>With, even the scriptures, because it says that he he's

0:33:03.520 --> 0:33:06.800
<v Speaker 2>read the scriptures and he knows the stories, but he

0:33:06.880 --> 0:33:11.720
<v Speaker 2>has not heard a message from God that is a

0:33:11.800 --> 0:33:12.720
<v Speaker 2>message from God.

0:33:12.840 --> 0:33:17.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, so floky without knowing it I hope you're

0:33:17.360 --> 0:33:19.680
<v Speaker 1>listening to this podcast, by the way, because I'm giving

0:33:19.680 --> 0:33:22.840
<v Speaker 1>you a lot of credit for calling this just like

0:33:22.920 --> 0:33:26.400
<v Speaker 1>you see it and not pretending to be a cultural

0:33:26.480 --> 0:33:30.400
<v Speaker 1>Christian in this email. But what's interesting is the email.

0:33:30.520 --> 0:33:33.160
<v Speaker 1>This question might be for you more than your friend,

0:33:33.800 --> 0:33:36.680
<v Speaker 1>but I hope that you hear it and need to

0:33:36.800 --> 0:33:42.160
<v Speaker 1>relay this information to him. What Bernie's saying is there

0:33:42.280 --> 0:33:46.280
<v Speaker 1>is maybe a misconception that hearing from God and reading

0:33:46.280 --> 0:33:50.600
<v Speaker 1>the Bible are two separate events when we know now

0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:55.040
<v Speaker 1>that hearing from God comes through reading the ever living,

0:33:55.120 --> 0:33:58.680
<v Speaker 1>breathing Word of God, which is the Bible. So when

0:33:58.720 --> 0:34:01.720
<v Speaker 1>you read the scriptures, you're hearing from God, whether or

0:34:01.760 --> 0:34:06.000
<v Speaker 1>not you like the information you're reading or hearing or not. Right,

0:34:06.160 --> 0:34:09.719
<v Speaker 1>So that's an interesting concept. You don't even have to

0:34:09.719 --> 0:34:12.440
<v Speaker 1>be a Christian to hear from God. If you read

0:34:12.480 --> 0:34:15.760
<v Speaker 1>the scriptures. Now, your ears might not be opened, your

0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:18.960
<v Speaker 1>eyes might not be open to what you're seeing and hearing,

0:34:19.400 --> 0:34:22.120
<v Speaker 1>but that doesn't change the fact that you are hearing

0:34:22.120 --> 0:34:24.759
<v Speaker 1>from God. So this is what I'm saying. We haven't

0:34:24.760 --> 0:34:27.160
<v Speaker 1>even gotten to the question at all, but there's some

0:34:27.320 --> 0:34:31.680
<v Speaker 1>interesting things packed in here. So truth is objective. There

0:34:31.760 --> 0:34:36.040
<v Speaker 1>is only one truth. So when we search for truth,

0:34:36.719 --> 0:34:40.080
<v Speaker 1>we're not looking to find the best version we like

0:34:40.239 --> 0:34:43.120
<v Speaker 1>to hear or what makes the most sense to us.

0:34:43.800 --> 0:34:45.480
<v Speaker 1>There is only one truth, and in the truth, the

0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:49.920
<v Speaker 1>Bible is going to say that your sins are forgiven,

0:34:50.560 --> 0:34:54.120
<v Speaker 1>no matter the cost, because it was paid for by

0:34:54.160 --> 0:34:57.120
<v Speaker 1>the most precious resource in the universe, and that is

0:34:57.160 --> 0:35:01.040
<v Speaker 1>the blood of the Son of God. So if you

0:35:01.239 --> 0:35:05.080
<v Speaker 1>say friend, if you say war veteran, I don't even

0:35:05.120 --> 0:35:08.760
<v Speaker 1>know his name. But if you're saying that your sins

0:35:09.560 --> 0:35:14.759
<v Speaker 1>are so great because what you committed in war, then

0:35:15.320 --> 0:35:23.400
<v Speaker 1>Christ death didn't wasn't all encompassing. It didn't matter for everyone.

0:35:23.680 --> 0:35:26.480
<v Speaker 1>That just mattered for some or maybe even most, but

0:35:26.680 --> 0:35:27.319
<v Speaker 1>not for you.

0:35:28.440 --> 0:35:34.440
<v Speaker 2>The death or some sins but not some sins liked.

0:35:33.520 --> 0:35:37.240
<v Speaker 1>Not this bad at sin. So you're saying that Jesus

0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:41.080
<v Speaker 1>died on the cross, I'm not even speaking about my belief.

0:35:41.400 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm just speaking about the story as revealed in the scripture,

0:35:44.840 --> 0:35:48.640
<v Speaker 1>the story of the resurrection and the crucifixion. What you're

0:35:48.680 --> 0:35:53.160
<v Speaker 1>saying is going against two thousand years of church doctrine

0:35:53.200 --> 0:35:57.399
<v Speaker 1>and teaching that that knows the objective truth of what

0:35:57.440 --> 0:36:01.839
<v Speaker 1>that word says that Jesus, once again, regardless of what

0:36:01.920 --> 0:36:05.120
<v Speaker 1>you believe, this is what is claimed by Jesus himself

0:36:05.719 --> 0:36:10.600
<v Speaker 1>that when he died and was resurrected, all sins were forgiven.

0:36:12.040 --> 0:36:17.440
<v Speaker 1>It was totally finished. He said, it is finished, all

0:36:17.480 --> 0:36:20.839
<v Speaker 1>of it. It was done in the death of the

0:36:20.880 --> 0:36:25.680
<v Speaker 1>Son of God followed by the resurrection. So you come

0:36:25.719 --> 0:36:29.920
<v Speaker 1>in war veteran and say, but not my sins. It

0:36:29.960 --> 0:36:34.600
<v Speaker 1>wasn't totally effective because there was some leftover sins here

0:36:36.120 --> 0:36:39.800
<v Speaker 1>right right then. I'm not even speaking from my own faith.

0:36:39.880 --> 0:36:42.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying this is what the scripture says.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if your friend happens to be listening or I

0:36:46.520 --> 0:36:49.040
<v Speaker 2>would love to hear more from them on this. Like

0:36:49.120 --> 0:36:52.239
<v Speaker 2>one thing that you said that they feel is they

0:36:52.280 --> 0:36:57.000
<v Speaker 2>feel like a wolf in sheep's clothing. I think I

0:36:57.040 --> 0:37:00.640
<v Speaker 2>feel like what is happening and this is a war

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 2>vet and I I'm guessing that there has been probably

0:37:06.160 --> 0:37:08.440
<v Speaker 2>some trauma that he's been through. I don't know that

0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:12.640
<v Speaker 2>he's worked through with a counselor with a Christian counselor

0:37:12.680 --> 0:37:16.200
<v Speaker 2>if he is, you know, a believer, but I think

0:37:16.200 --> 0:37:20.000
<v Speaker 2>that I have. I think I've mentioned this song by

0:37:20.080 --> 0:37:24.719
<v Speaker 2>Shane and Shane on here before embracing accusations. And there's

0:37:24.719 --> 0:37:27.960
<v Speaker 2>a line in this in this song that's from the

0:37:27.960 --> 0:37:33.160
<v Speaker 2>Scripture that says, you know, the devil is singing over

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:36.560
<v Speaker 2>me this age old song that I am cursed and

0:37:36.600 --> 0:37:42.720
<v Speaker 2>gone astray, and and what he's referencing is the Old Testament,

0:37:42.880 --> 0:37:45.440
<v Speaker 2>like you know, all who have gone astray are cursed

0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:49.400
<v Speaker 2>in And the song goes on to say, but he's

0:37:49.560 --> 0:37:55.560
<v Speaker 2>he's singing the first verse conveniently over me. He's forgetting

0:37:55.640 --> 0:38:00.840
<v Speaker 2>the refrain that Jesus saves. And so I think that

0:38:00.960 --> 0:38:04.560
<v Speaker 2>you may have the enemy in your ear war veteran

0:38:05.680 --> 0:38:08.440
<v Speaker 2>saying like you did this sin, You're you're cursed and

0:38:08.680 --> 0:38:11.640
<v Speaker 2>God can't save you you because his word says this,

0:38:11.719 --> 0:38:14.920
<v Speaker 2>and you you did this and that's it, instead of

0:38:15.040 --> 0:38:18.799
<v Speaker 2>hearing the refrain that Grangeer is talking about, which is

0:38:18.840 --> 0:38:25.400
<v Speaker 2>the gospel like Jesus saves. And I don't I feel

0:38:25.440 --> 0:38:30.880
<v Speaker 2>like this guy we were talking earlier about Paul with Toner, right, Ye,

0:38:32.680 --> 0:38:35.320
<v Speaker 2>Paul is another character that we can look at that

0:38:35.320 --> 0:38:38.440
<v Speaker 2>that dude killed a lot of people and probably in

0:38:38.480 --> 0:38:41.080
<v Speaker 2>a very different way than you did. So if you're

0:38:41.120 --> 0:38:43.520
<v Speaker 2>reading these stories. I hope that there is some hope

0:38:43.760 --> 0:38:47.319
<v Speaker 2>in reading the story of Paul and what God did

0:38:47.360 --> 0:38:49.200
<v Speaker 2>in his life and his you know, went on to

0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:49.879
<v Speaker 2>use him for.

0:38:50.080 --> 0:38:55.239
<v Speaker 1>But I don't know. Yeah, buddy, let me say, let

0:38:55.239 --> 0:38:57.000
<v Speaker 1>me kind of flip the script a little bit too,

0:38:57.520 --> 0:39:00.640
<v Speaker 1>because first of all, you say, his quest is when

0:39:00.680 --> 0:39:03.520
<v Speaker 1>you are at war, you commit great sins. Let me

0:39:03.640 --> 0:39:06.719
<v Speaker 1>change the sentence and make it also accurate. When you

0:39:06.800 --> 0:39:11.000
<v Speaker 1>are a human born of a woman, you commit great sins.

0:39:11.080 --> 0:39:15.520
<v Speaker 1>We are all sinners from birth. We are infected with

0:39:15.600 --> 0:39:16.960
<v Speaker 1>the disease. Yeah.

0:39:16.960 --> 0:39:18.319
<v Speaker 2>I think he's got a misconception.

0:39:18.480 --> 0:39:21.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we are all infected with a disease. There is

0:39:21.760 --> 0:39:24.919
<v Speaker 1>a cure, and his name is Jesus. Here's the next,

0:39:24.960 --> 0:39:27.520
<v Speaker 1>here's the next. This is fascinating, Okay, and I'm not

0:39:27.520 --> 0:39:29.359
<v Speaker 1>going to hold anything back on this, But you say,

0:39:29.360 --> 0:39:32.080
<v Speaker 1>what does God think about me? Since I've committed those thins,

0:39:32.200 --> 0:39:37.040
<v Speaker 1>those sins wrath, the wrath of God is upon you

0:39:37.760 --> 0:39:41.480
<v Speaker 1>and everyone. If you're not under the grace of Jesus,

0:39:41.960 --> 0:39:46.440
<v Speaker 1>you're under the wrath of him. It doesn't matter what

0:39:46.440 --> 0:39:50.440
<v Speaker 1>you've done, because sins are sins, and you are born

0:39:50.680 --> 0:39:54.279
<v Speaker 1>a sinner. You're born a rebel and you were born.

0:39:55.040 --> 0:39:58.400
<v Speaker 1>We said, last break not worthy, undeserving, but through the

0:39:58.400 --> 0:40:03.960
<v Speaker 1>blood of Christ, who accomplis who defeated death in one moment,

0:40:04.840 --> 0:40:08.920
<v Speaker 1>completely destroyed it. In trusting in that you have been

0:40:09.000 --> 0:40:14.160
<v Speaker 1>redeemed and restored and ransomed from your old self. You

0:40:14.239 --> 0:40:17.839
<v Speaker 1>became a new self, a new creature. So you turn

0:40:17.880 --> 0:40:21.880
<v Speaker 1>from your old ways. You turn. That's called repentance, and

0:40:21.920 --> 0:40:25.480
<v Speaker 1>that's a response from the salvation. So that's how you

0:40:25.640 --> 0:40:30.000
<v Speaker 1>know the salvation worked because you seeing yourself starting to

0:40:30.080 --> 0:40:33.000
<v Speaker 1>hate it. So my question to the veteran Bernie would

0:40:33.000 --> 0:40:35.400
<v Speaker 1>ask the same thing. If we were live live podcast,

0:40:35.880 --> 0:40:39.359
<v Speaker 1>we would say, those sins that you committed in war,

0:40:40.480 --> 0:40:42.600
<v Speaker 1>how do you feel about it? And if he says,

0:40:42.719 --> 0:40:46.960
<v Speaker 1>I hate them, let me go good. That's exactly where you

0:40:47.040 --> 0:40:49.560
<v Speaker 1>need to be. Yeah, and we should say that about

0:40:49.600 --> 0:40:53.360
<v Speaker 1>everything are idolatry. You think the things that I start

0:40:53.400 --> 0:40:55.880
<v Speaker 1>becoming that become an idol in my life. I start

0:40:56.080 --> 0:40:59.239
<v Speaker 1>idolizing certain things in my life. Do you think that's

0:40:59.280 --> 0:41:04.239
<v Speaker 1>not any worse to a war crime to God? Idolizing

0:41:04.320 --> 0:41:09.399
<v Speaker 1>something other than your own creator. When I do that,

0:41:08.719 --> 0:41:14.120
<v Speaker 1>that is tyranny, that is sabotage, that is blasphemy, and

0:41:14.160 --> 0:41:17.800
<v Speaker 1>so God doesn't look at that differently. We are rebels

0:41:17.960 --> 0:41:21.520
<v Speaker 1>until we are under the grace of Jesus. So flee

0:41:21.600 --> 0:41:24.759
<v Speaker 1>to him. Run to him as fast as you can.

0:41:25.120 --> 0:41:27.319
<v Speaker 1>Turn from the old self, turn from the old war

0:41:27.719 --> 0:41:30.759
<v Speaker 1>crimes or whatever crimes that you've committed, because we all

0:41:30.800 --> 0:41:34.279
<v Speaker 1>have them, and run to him. Run to him. He

0:41:34.320 --> 0:41:37.680
<v Speaker 1>wraps his arms around you metaphorically, and the grace of

0:41:37.760 --> 0:41:40.319
<v Speaker 1>Him is on top of you. God no longer sees

0:41:40.360 --> 0:41:44.040
<v Speaker 1>your sin. He just sees perfection in his son. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the gospel.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Floky, I guess is the persure. Maybe you could

0:41:51.040 --> 0:41:54.440
<v Speaker 2>just sit and read the scripture with your friend and

0:41:54.480 --> 0:41:57.080
<v Speaker 2>maybe you guys could like talk about it together and

0:41:57.440 --> 0:42:00.480
<v Speaker 2>wrestle through. You don't believe, so no harm, right, but

0:42:00.520 --> 0:42:02.920
<v Speaker 2>you're doing it for your friend. Maybe you guys could

0:42:02.960 --> 0:42:04.359
<v Speaker 2>just sit and talk about it. You could ask him

0:42:04.440 --> 0:42:08.840
<v Speaker 2>questions because your view of that could help him to

0:42:09.000 --> 0:42:11.919
<v Speaker 2>understand and like really study it together. And your eyes

0:42:11.920 --> 0:42:14.200
<v Speaker 2>may be open to eternal life, which would be awesome too.

0:42:14.080 --> 0:42:19.359
<v Speaker 1>So wouldn't hurt. It's good? Nice question. See what you're

0:42:19.400 --> 0:42:22.960
<v Speaker 1>doing there burning? I see through your way.

0:42:25.320 --> 0:42:27.880
<v Speaker 2>I just say it's just a you know, just an

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<v Speaker 2>option idea. It's what could have.

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<v Speaker 1>Hurt seb Decline says, what's your view as a dad? Hey, Grandeur,

0:42:34.320 --> 0:42:36.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm twenty two years old. I'd like to remain anonymous.

0:42:37.040 --> 0:42:40.640
<v Speaker 1>There's this guy and he's thirty six. He has expressed

0:42:40.680 --> 0:42:43.360
<v Speaker 1>that he likes me through letters and sending me gifts,

0:42:43.840 --> 0:42:46.440
<v Speaker 1>but he hasn't even talked to my stepdad or my

0:42:46.520 --> 0:42:49.680
<v Speaker 1>mom to see if it's okay. He recently came all

0:42:49.719 --> 0:42:52.680
<v Speaker 1>the way from California to a church event that we

0:42:52.760 --> 0:42:59.600
<v Speaker 1>had in our hometown and he even and even then

0:43:00.320 --> 0:43:04.080
<v Speaker 1>he didn't even talk to me what. I'm not interested,

0:43:04.640 --> 0:43:07.480
<v Speaker 1>but I'm not sure how to tell him. I know

0:43:07.680 --> 0:43:10.279
<v Speaker 1>God has other plans for me, and he is not

0:43:10.520 --> 0:43:13.839
<v Speaker 1>one of them. My pastors say they are okay with it,

0:43:14.120 --> 0:43:16.840
<v Speaker 1>but my parents and I both agree that's not their place.

0:43:17.239 --> 0:43:20.240
<v Speaker 1>My stepdad has really held back from telling me telling

0:43:20.280 --> 0:43:23.440
<v Speaker 1>them anything, and he has told me that God will

0:43:23.440 --> 0:43:25.920
<v Speaker 1>see me through. But how do I tell this guy

0:43:25.920 --> 0:43:28.439
<v Speaker 1>to leave me alone without hurting him? Thanks? I'm sorry

0:43:28.480 --> 0:43:29.360
<v Speaker 1>for the long message.

0:43:29.480 --> 0:43:31.719
<v Speaker 2>This is the kind of stuff I'm talking about. You guys,

0:43:31.760 --> 0:43:34.440
<v Speaker 2>sin in love it. There's so much going on that

0:43:34.520 --> 0:43:39.400
<v Speaker 2>I don't understand in color to this email. This is beautiful.

0:43:39.920 --> 0:43:40.759
<v Speaker 2>Let's break it down.

0:43:40.920 --> 0:43:41.400
<v Speaker 1>Jennifer.

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<v Speaker 2>So, she's twenty two, he's thirty six.

0:43:44.160 --> 0:43:44.359
<v Speaker 1>Yep.

0:43:44.520 --> 0:43:45.920
<v Speaker 2>He lives in California.

0:43:46.040 --> 0:43:46.239
<v Speaker 1>Yep.

0:43:46.280 --> 0:43:51.640
<v Speaker 2>She lives in I don't know, somewhere not California, yep. Right,

0:43:53.280 --> 0:43:55.600
<v Speaker 2>this whole thing was starting off like.

0:43:56.840 --> 0:43:59.040
<v Speaker 1>She loved him, I love him, and they don't.

0:43:58.880 --> 0:44:02.640
<v Speaker 2>Understand, and you know, Romeo and Juliet style, right, take

0:44:02.680 --> 0:44:06.719
<v Speaker 2>a turn, but like, I don't know what the problem is.

0:44:07.280 --> 0:44:09.200
<v Speaker 2>You don't like him?

0:44:09.440 --> 0:44:11.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so you know what this probably is. It's probably

0:44:11.680 --> 0:44:14.960
<v Speaker 1>a product of a like a dating app or social

0:44:15.000 --> 0:44:17.120
<v Speaker 1>media of some sort. That's what I'm thinking. This is

0:44:17.160 --> 0:44:21.160
<v Speaker 1>a product of a dating app. And they met, and

0:44:23.120 --> 0:44:28.120
<v Speaker 1>they he decided to make a trip to from California

0:44:28.400 --> 0:44:31.880
<v Speaker 1>to the hometown to the church event, and then he

0:44:32.000 --> 0:44:36.640
<v Speaker 1>was awkward. He didn't really talk. You've got she's got

0:44:36.680 --> 0:44:39.400
<v Speaker 1>all these people speaking into her life, like pastors and

0:44:39.520 --> 0:44:41.440
<v Speaker 1>parents and step parents.

0:44:41.080 --> 0:44:42.759
<v Speaker 2>And you said her name.

0:44:43.080 --> 0:44:45.560
<v Speaker 1>I know, forget that, I said that.

0:44:47.600 --> 0:44:52.880
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So here's the deal, Anonymous. If you don't like

0:44:52.920 --> 0:44:58.120
<v Speaker 2>this dude, communicate that to him clearly, and he must

0:44:58.160 --> 0:45:00.920
<v Speaker 2>respect you. If he doesn't, you need to talk to somebody,

0:45:01.160 --> 0:45:04.560
<v Speaker 2>like the police, like the police, or you know, is

0:45:04.600 --> 0:45:09.399
<v Speaker 2>she living with her mom and dad? Well, okay, yeah,

0:45:09.520 --> 0:45:12.279
<v Speaker 2>talk talk to somebody and tell him, like, hey, this dude,

0:45:12.400 --> 0:45:13.840
<v Speaker 2>I met him on this app and we met this

0:45:13.880 --> 0:45:15.880
<v Speaker 2>one time. But like I have made it clear and

0:45:15.920 --> 0:45:18.080
<v Speaker 2>he is being aggressive and he won't let it go.

0:45:18.719 --> 0:45:23.240
<v Speaker 2>You have got to say something and he must respect

0:45:23.320 --> 0:45:24.360
<v Speaker 2>you one way or another.

0:45:24.719 --> 0:45:26.279
<v Speaker 1>You know what I do like about this? I do

0:45:26.440 --> 0:45:29.560
<v Speaker 1>like that you I kind of almost criticized it, but

0:45:30.040 --> 0:45:32.000
<v Speaker 1>I like that you have a lot of people speaking

0:45:32.080 --> 0:45:34.359
<v Speaker 1>into you, and it seems like a lot of people

0:45:34.440 --> 0:45:36.799
<v Speaker 1>that love you are speaking into you, and you're you're

0:45:36.880 --> 0:45:39.719
<v Speaker 1>kind of getting advice, which you could take with a

0:45:39.719 --> 0:45:42.600
<v Speaker 1>grain of salt, but you're still You're feeling the love

0:45:42.640 --> 0:45:45.560
<v Speaker 1>around you and you're not just isolated. And this situation

0:45:45.600 --> 0:45:48.920
<v Speaker 1>could get bad if you were isolated by yourself. I

0:45:48.920 --> 0:45:50.880
<v Speaker 1>don't like the age difference, to be honest with you,

0:45:51.040 --> 0:45:54.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't like the fourteen years between you two. It

0:45:54.400 --> 0:45:57.640
<v Speaker 1>doesn't make me feel comfortable. Your subject line says, what's

0:45:57.680 --> 0:45:59.920
<v Speaker 1>your view as a dad? I'm wondering if you mean

0:46:00.320 --> 0:46:01.160
<v Speaker 1>like dad of her?

0:46:01.600 --> 0:46:03.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's a home, it's a note.

0:46:03.600 --> 0:46:07.799
<v Speaker 1>Sure, for sure, he's fourteen years older, lives in California,

0:46:08.160 --> 0:46:10.479
<v Speaker 1>and he's probably you found him on a dating app.

0:46:10.480 --> 0:46:13.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, so Bernie's right, you need to say it.

0:46:13.440 --> 0:46:15.920
<v Speaker 1>How he reacts to it determines your next step. But

0:46:15.960 --> 0:46:17.880
<v Speaker 1>you could say it with grace and kindness, and you

0:46:17.880 --> 0:46:22.600
<v Speaker 1>could say you could say whatever your name is. I

0:46:22.640 --> 0:46:25.279
<v Speaker 1>just want to be completely honest with you. I'm not

0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:32.320
<v Speaker 1>interested romantically or in a friendship, and I appreciate you

0:46:32.400 --> 0:46:36.239
<v Speaker 1>caring thus far. I think you're a sweet person. I

0:46:36.320 --> 0:46:40.239
<v Speaker 1>am not interested at all, and there is nothing I

0:46:40.239 --> 0:46:41.600
<v Speaker 1>am interested for in the future.

0:46:41.840 --> 0:46:43.080
<v Speaker 2>You're just in all caps.

0:46:44.360 --> 0:46:48.520
<v Speaker 1>You're cutting it off completely and you say best of

0:46:48.840 --> 0:46:50.839
<v Speaker 1>wishes with the rest of your life.

0:46:50.880 --> 0:46:51.919
<v Speaker 2>Okay, bye bye.

0:46:52.239 --> 0:46:54.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but we think we have time to hit one

0:46:54.440 --> 0:46:55.920
<v Speaker 1>more in just a few minutes. Let's do it.

0:46:56.000 --> 0:46:56.600
<v Speaker 2>Let's do it.

0:46:56.800 --> 0:46:58.040
<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is gonna be a speed one.

0:46:58.120 --> 0:46:59.160
<v Speaker 2>You guys doing okay out there?

0:46:59.280 --> 0:47:02.440
<v Speaker 1>Thinking handle one? How about one that's called girl Trouble. Hey, Grangdeer,

0:47:02.440 --> 0:47:03.880
<v Speaker 1>A big fan of yours, and I would like to

0:47:03.920 --> 0:47:07.160
<v Speaker 1>remain anonymous. Yes, I'll remember that. I'm from Utah. I've

0:47:07.160 --> 0:47:10.200
<v Speaker 1>been listening to the podcast while my friend recommended me

0:47:10.280 --> 0:47:14.400
<v Speaker 1>listening to this podcast a while back, and quite recently,

0:47:15.000 --> 0:47:17.640
<v Speaker 1>I have discovered I still have feelings for this girl

0:47:17.760 --> 0:47:19.400
<v Speaker 1>that I have known for eight years. We met in

0:47:19.440 --> 0:47:22.680
<v Speaker 1>the fourth grade. I've had deep feelings since we met.

0:47:23.719 --> 0:47:26.000
<v Speaker 1>Seeing that we will be graduating the twenty sixth of

0:47:26.040 --> 0:47:28.600
<v Speaker 1>this month, I feel like I should go and ask

0:47:28.640 --> 0:47:30.279
<v Speaker 1>her on a date. But at the same time, I'm

0:47:30.320 --> 0:47:33.560
<v Speaker 1>confused because I have been single for a while now,

0:47:33.560 --> 0:47:37.760
<v Speaker 1>and it seems that I've decided to I haven't decided

0:47:37.760 --> 0:47:40.200
<v Speaker 1>what to do. I deeply believe in God and that

0:47:40.280 --> 0:47:42.879
<v Speaker 1>he has plans for each of us. Any advice would

0:47:42.880 --> 0:47:44.800
<v Speaker 1>be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time and advice.

0:47:44.840 --> 0:47:49.000
<v Speaker 1>God bless you and your family. Okay, well, thank goodness.

0:47:49.000 --> 0:47:50.560
<v Speaker 1>This is the question we get just a couple of

0:47:50.600 --> 0:47:53.520
<v Speaker 1>minutes because we we're going to say, go for it, man.

0:47:53.640 --> 0:47:55.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, go for it. Are we scared?

0:47:55.840 --> 0:47:56.359
<v Speaker 1>Go for it?

0:47:56.920 --> 0:47:58.440
<v Speaker 2>I don't know why he threw the last part in.

0:47:59.320 --> 0:48:00.920
<v Speaker 2>I believe in God and he has a plan for

0:48:00.960 --> 0:48:04.280
<v Speaker 2>all of us. Okay, that's great.

0:48:04.120 --> 0:48:11.360
<v Speaker 1>Too, buddy. You need to be vulnerable and be open,

0:48:11.719 --> 0:48:14.600
<v Speaker 1>and I think I think girls are attracted to that.

0:48:15.440 --> 0:48:19.200
<v Speaker 1>If you just come out and say can I take

0:48:19.200 --> 0:48:21.719
<v Speaker 1>you up for coffee? And then she says yes, and

0:48:21.719 --> 0:48:25.680
<v Speaker 1>then you go at the coffee place, you're like, actually,

0:48:25.680 --> 0:48:31.080
<v Speaker 1>you're from Utah, so maybe lemonade you could say? Can

0:48:31.120 --> 0:48:35.520
<v Speaker 1>I be honest with you? I am so intimidated by

0:48:35.520 --> 0:48:37.880
<v Speaker 1>you because you're so pretty, and I've liked you for

0:48:37.920 --> 0:48:41.160
<v Speaker 1>a long time and I just have kind of put

0:48:41.160 --> 0:48:44.640
<v Speaker 1>off asking you because I just think you're You're really pretty.

0:48:44.680 --> 0:48:47.200
<v Speaker 1>And I even emailed Granger Smith to ask him what

0:48:47.280 --> 0:48:50.600
<v Speaker 1>he thought about the situation. So he told me to.

0:48:50.560 --> 0:48:52.640
<v Speaker 2>Do it, and I'm doing what he said. Yeah, and

0:48:52.680 --> 0:48:54.400
<v Speaker 2>then player the podcast and you guys go for a

0:48:54.400 --> 0:48:56.240
<v Speaker 2>little drink, lemonade, whatever.

0:48:56.480 --> 0:49:00.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Yeah, that's all I got. Man, go for it.

0:49:00.920 --> 0:49:02.480
<v Speaker 1>Go for it. We love you. Go for it.

0:49:02.719 --> 0:49:05.520
<v Speaker 2>Y'all are the best Granger Smith fans or the podcast fans.

0:49:05.560 --> 0:49:07.200
<v Speaker 1>If you want to see guys travel and do a

0:49:07.280 --> 0:49:09.680
<v Speaker 1>live version of this in your town, let me know

0:49:09.760 --> 0:49:14.359
<v Speaker 1>comment below or hit me up on Instagram and let

0:49:14.480 --> 0:49:16.480
<v Speaker 1>us know where to go. But we'd love to go

0:49:16.560 --> 0:49:20.000
<v Speaker 1>travel and bring the podcast live to you do live

0:49:20.120 --> 0:49:22.160
<v Speaker 1>Q and A. It would be so fun. Love you guys,

0:49:22.440 --> 0:49:24.680
<v Speaker 1>so you Yeah, thanks for joining me on the Granger

0:49:24.719 --> 0:49:27.799
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