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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Evan is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ruby. So in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: a second date. But first, Evan, how long has it,

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Speaker 2: Vinceince you heard from Ruby?

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Speaker 3: It's been about four days.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's too bad. Yeah, have you hit her up

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Speaker 4: a bunch in that time?

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Speaker 3: I did try a couple of times.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't want to overdo it, but reached out and

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Speaker 5: definitely got nothing back.

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Speaker 4: Okay, And you feel like that's weird, Like you feel

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Speaker 4: like four days is a long time? Did not hear

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Speaker 4: from her?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we're kind of hitting it off, so it is

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Speaker 5: it's out of the ordinary.

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Speaker 4: Well, tell us about your date.

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Speaker 5: Well, Ruby and I went to Rooftop Bar, and you know,

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Speaker 5: I had the best view of the city.

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Speaker 3: It was it's her idea. Actually it was super cool.

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Speaker 5: You know, can't really be beat it for a first dage.

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Speaker 5: This great, great place to grab drinks, shared a charcoterie

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Speaker 5: board and you know our conversation was just really easy, natural.

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Speaker 5: The vibe was laid back and plenty of kind of

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Speaker 5: flirty moments.

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Speaker 3: She's hilarious, you know.

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Speaker 5: We're making each other laugh the whole night, and they

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Speaker 5: were just sparked, you know, the kind you can't fake.

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Speaker 3: We ended up taking a.

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Speaker 5: Walk after and because we were both a little buzzed,

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Speaker 5: and before we.

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Speaker 3: Said good night, there are a few kisses and.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, it's just a kind of date you'd

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Speaker 5: never want to stop.

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Speaker 6: Okay, well, why do you think you're getting ghosted them?

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Speaker 3: Honestly, really confused.

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Speaker 5: You know, we were texting NonStop for two days after,

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Speaker 5: so things are you know, they felt promising and then nothing,

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Speaker 5: it just stop.

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Speaker 4: So wait, you went on the date and you ended

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Speaker 4: up hearing from her after the date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the date for about two days and then

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Speaker 3: it stopped. Right.

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Speaker 6: Could it be something you texted?

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. I mean I don't think it was.

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Speaker 3: I did text her a pick of me, like in the.

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Speaker 5: Bathroom with a towel on as a tease, like I

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Speaker 5: thought it would be harmless.

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Speaker 6: Okay, is that the last time you heard from her?

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Speaker 3: I believe so.

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Speaker 4: Rd trip and if I got ghosted after that, she.

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Speaker 5: Was teuting me about having abs, so I just decided

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Speaker 5: to show her. You know, I don't know, maybe it

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Speaker 5: was too much. It wasn't like a pick or anything.

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Speaker 6: You know, do you have abs? Or was joking around

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Speaker 6: me and like check out mine, but you don't have them?

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Speaker 6: You know I have abs?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I just wanted to prove myself.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that could be it. So was a selfie?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean if you stopped talking to you right

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Speaker 2: after that, then that probably it probably has something to

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Speaker 2: do with that.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, I don't think it was

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Speaker 3: that bad or racy or anything.

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Speaker 4: But what did you say when you send the picture

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Speaker 4: of yourself in a towel?

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Speaker 3: Nothing much.

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Speaker 5: I just I think I've put like a little blurb

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Speaker 5: like you know, here proved or something like along those lines.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Evan is on the phone and he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by Ruby. So we're about to call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she tell us why she's ghosting him and hopefully

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Speaker 2: get him a second date. But first, Evan, why don't

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Speaker 2: you break down your date for us one more time?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: So we had a lot of great moments on our dates.

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Speaker 5: Barks flew. Everything was perfect. I thought we had a connection.

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Speaker 5: And you know, two days after the date, I've not

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Speaker 5: heard from her.

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Speaker 4: And the last thing that you sent her was, let's

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Speaker 4: not forget this part, a picture of yourself in the

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Speaker 4: bathroom and a towel.

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Speaker 3: I did send her my ab.

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Speaker 6: All right, Well, are you ready to see if that's

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Speaker 6: the reason you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. I'm gonna call it right now. Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Ruby. Please, Hey Ruby, how are you?

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Speaker 2: This is a radio show, It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Ruby. My name is Nina.

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Speaker 6: Hi, I'm Victoria and I'm Jebel. How are you.

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm good.

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Speaker 6: Have you ever listened to the show before? I have dope?

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Speaker 6: Thank you? Well? What if I told you that you

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Speaker 6: are the star of a first eight follow up? Right now?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 1: God?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we got an email about you from somebody that

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting, and they don't know why.

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Speaker 6: You know who would emails?

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Speaker 1: Hmmm, I'm pretty sure it's probably Evan.

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Speaker 6: You're very smart.

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Speaker 2: Evan told us about your date, said that he really

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Speaker 2: liked you, thought you guys had an awesome time. But

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Speaker 2: you texted for a little while after, and then you

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Speaker 2: just ghosted him, and he wants to know what's up?

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Speaker 6: Would you mind telling us?

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Speaker 1: I mean, like, look, I really I thought Evan was

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Speaker 1: great and we had an amazing time. But then after

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Speaker 1: my date, my friend showed me something and it just

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Speaker 1: it kind of killed the vibe for me.

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Speaker 4: Okay, what was it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I tested my friend the picture of Evan

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Speaker 1: when we were on the base because she wanted.

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Speaker 3: To do what to look like.

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Speaker 1: And then the next night she sends me a picture

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Speaker 1: of him with some other girl, like literally the night

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Speaker 1: after we went on the date, and then she was

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Speaker 1: at another bar and they were making out.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, you've got it.

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Speaker 2: Wrong, Ruby, that's Evan. He's actually on the phone and

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Speaker 2: wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. I mean like, yeah, okay, I knew,

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Speaker 1: I guess I knew this was con Oh man, hi.

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Speaker 3: Hi, h Look, You've got it all wrong.

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Speaker 1: It's not no, no, even you are literally in the picture.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's not hard to recognize someone when you

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Speaker 1: were just right there, you know.

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Speaker 5: Oh okay, yeah it happened, but it's not what you think.

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Speaker 5: Like she's she's someone I've been cooking up with for

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Speaker 5: a while, and I was I was going to tell

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Speaker 5: her it was over because I wanted to focus on

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Speaker 5: you that night, and I just I didn't get to

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Speaker 2: So you were with someone else right after your day

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Speaker 2: making out with her?

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Speaker 3: Technically, yeah, Agan, you were just with.

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Speaker 1: Me and then you just go and make out with

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Speaker 1: someone else. I mean, I know I send people date

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Speaker 1: multiple people, but it just it felt wrong to me.

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Speaker 3: I swear, I swear I'm done with her. I'm not

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Speaker 3: seeing anyone else. I like you.

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Speaker 5: I was going to tell her that the next day,

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Speaker 5: but it was like, it wasn't like that anymore.

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Speaker 3: Like you're the one that I want to date.

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Speaker 4: Did you tell her that?

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Speaker 3: I told her?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I wouldn't want to see a picture of

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Speaker 4: the dude that I just want to date with mixed

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Speaker 4: like messing around with somebody else again, Like she said,

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Speaker 4: I get people are dating other people, but if I

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Speaker 4: don't know, I wouldn't feel good about that either. I

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Speaker 4: just would have too many questions.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like are you just saying that, like do you

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Speaker 1: want to date me? Or like did you hook up

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Speaker 1: with her that night? You know, that's just powerful to me.

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Speaker 3: You hook up her. Yeah, but it was like this morning.

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Speaker 3: It was just like a last like last.

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Speaker 5: Round type of thing. I swear I told her about

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Speaker 5: you at that point, and that was the last time.

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Speaker 6: You told her after you hooked up.

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Speaker 1: You're hooked up with her after you told her about me?

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Speaker 3: Like, seriously, no, I told her about you after I

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Speaker 3: hooked up with her.

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Speaker 6: Truthful.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, so you hooked up with her after you

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Speaker 1: told her about me, Like seriously, no, I hooked.

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Speaker 5: Up with her and then I told her about you,

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Speaker 5: like it's but that's because things so different with you,

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Speaker 5: Like we've been on one date. It's not like I

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Speaker 5: cheated on you or anything. I was just I was

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Speaker 5: trying to do the right thing.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it would have been better if you told

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Speaker 1: her before and didn't hook up.

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Speaker 5: Way, Okay, I get that, but it was, you know,

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Speaker 5: it was just kind of desperate and sad I didn't

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Speaker 5: get to see you, and.

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Speaker 3: You know, I was just trying.

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Speaker 5: To break things off and it didn't go as smoothly

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Speaker 5: as I hoped it was.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if we were to date and you didn't

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Speaker 1: see me, you can't hook up with other people.

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Speaker 3: Like I'm not trying to do that.

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Speaker 4: I swear it's kind of tricky because he kind of

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Speaker 4: does have a point. He is trying to do the

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Speaker 4: right thing, like he didn't cheat on anybody, and she's

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Speaker 4: out of the picture.

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Speaker 2: Now, Ruby, would you like to go on a second

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Speaker 2: date with Evan?

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Speaker 6: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, Evan, are there any other people I need

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Speaker 1: to know about?

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Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, well yes, but I'm going to text

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Speaker 5: them and let them know I'm not available via text.

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Speaker 3: I'm not going to meet up with them. I will

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Speaker 3: show you the text.

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Speaker 6: What do you think, Ruby, Oh, it sounds like a

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Speaker 6: serious yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean, like, honestly, we did just go in one

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Speaker 1: date and it was like a really really good date.

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Speaker 1: But I swear to God, Evan, if any of my

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Speaker 1: friends send me more pictures of you out with other women,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna wish I was just ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: It will be way.

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Speaker 5: Promise you will never see that again. I don't want

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Speaker 5: to to ever meet that side of you again.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Sure, all right, we'll go out again.

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Speaker 4: Are you happy?

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Speaker 3: Yes? Thank you? You love them. Jubile's first day fall