WEBVTT - We are all Caregivers

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<v Speaker 1>Stay Calm as a production of I Heart Radio. Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Bob Roth, and I've been teaching people to meditate

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<v Speaker 1>for fifty years, helping them to stay calm under pressure,

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<v Speaker 1>reboot and re energize their lives, and basically be a happier,

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<v Speaker 1>healthier version of themselves. And now I want to help

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<v Speaker 1>you do the same. Welcome to Stay Calm, your daily

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<v Speaker 1>dose of calmness. Every weekday morning, I'll share a meditation story,

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<v Speaker 1>offer a simple practical tip about how you or a

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<v Speaker 1>loved one can stay a bit calmer in your life,

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<v Speaker 1>and then we'll end each episode together with a moment

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<v Speaker 1>of gratitude. My hope is that I can share what

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<v Speaker 1>I know to anyone who needs it. Ready, sit comfortably,

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<v Speaker 1>take a few deep breaths, and let's begin today's journey.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like to tell you about Tanya Malcolm, who's an

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<v Speaker 1>emergency room registered nurse at one of the large hospitals

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<v Speaker 1>outside of Washington, d C. On the front lines of

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<v Speaker 1>the COVID nineteen epidemic. Tanya is also a member of

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<v Speaker 1>the National Advisory Board of the Heal the Healers Now Initiative,

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<v Speaker 1>which is bringing evidence based meditation to doctors nurses, orderlies,

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<v Speaker 1>custodial staff to help them overcome the ravages of post

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<v Speaker 1>traumatic stress disorder that they're experiencing right now, much like

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<v Speaker 1>what veterans report when they come back from combat. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to tell you the story about Tanya and some

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<v Speaker 1>of the lessons that she's learned. Her experiences as an

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<v Speaker 1>emergency room nurse are to the extreme, perhaps, but all

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<v Speaker 1>of us now or in the future are going to

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<v Speaker 1>be caregivers. All of us are going to have an

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<v Speaker 1>elderly parent to take care of who may be suffering

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<v Speaker 1>from Alzheimer's, a child who has some learning difficulties, spouse,

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<v Speaker 1>a partner who suffers from deep depression, all of whom

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<v Speaker 1>need our time and attention. So Tanya's experience in the

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<v Speaker 1>emergency room is one of sheer hell. Tanya is a

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<v Speaker 1>triage nurse, which means that all the patients who come

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<v Speaker 1>into the hospital, she screens them first. She said. The

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<v Speaker 1>fear and the anxiety that all the staff are feeling

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<v Speaker 1>is palpable. She said. One of the biggest things is

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<v Speaker 1>she has to isolate the patients from their families. Wife

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<v Speaker 1>drives her husband of forty years to the hospital because

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<v Speaker 1>he has symptoms of coronavirus and she has to leave

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<v Speaker 1>the hospital. She may never see him again. She also said,

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<v Speaker 1>is such a stress when she goes home, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>so afraid that she's going to bring the virus to

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<v Speaker 1>her two children. So she has not hugged her children

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<v Speaker 1>or her husband in over a month. All this pressure

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<v Speaker 1>builds up against the desire to be a nurse. She

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<v Speaker 1>loves nursing, she loves caregiving, so this is great battle

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<v Speaker 1>going on inside for Tanya. The practice of meditation has

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<v Speaker 1>been an absolute life saver because she can take a

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<v Speaker 1>break in the middle of the day, go into the

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<v Speaker 1>women's bathroom or the chapel, the quiet room somewhere in

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<v Speaker 1>the hospital, and take twenty minutes and do her TM

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<v Speaker 1>transcendental meditation. It eliminates the build up of stress, wakes

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<v Speaker 1>up her mind. It's like a rebooting so that she

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<v Speaker 1>can face these people who come with such fear, and

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<v Speaker 1>she can do it with love and with a smile

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<v Speaker 1>on her face. Again. Tanya's situation, while to the extreme,

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<v Speaker 1>is a situation that either many of you are facing

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<v Speaker 1>now or will face in the future. If there was

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<v Speaker 1>one piece of advice that Tanya would have for all

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<v Speaker 1>of us in a caregiver role is do not take

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<v Speaker 1>it on yourself. It's so important to have people you

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<v Speaker 1>can talk to, people you can share your experiences, people

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<v Speaker 1>you could cry with if you need to, people you

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<v Speaker 1>could vent your anger and your frustration. Yes, you should

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<v Speaker 1>definitely look into meditation, exercise, take time for yourself. Avoid

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of thinking that only I can handle this problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Why should I get any time off my husband, wife?

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<v Speaker 1>You fill in the blanket suffering. Those are self defeating

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<v Speaker 1>and destructive thoughts. My message don't let the pressure bottle

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<v Speaker 1>up inside of you. Find people you can talk to,

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<v Speaker 1>share your experiences, and at the same time take care

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<v Speaker 1>of yourself. All right, let's end this time together doing

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<v Speaker 1>something that I think should be a feature of our

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<v Speaker 1>everyday life, and that's appreciation and gratitude. So let's take

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<v Speaker 1>thirty seconds of quiet, thirty seconds to take a break,

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<v Speaker 1>just take a moment. It turns out when we do

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<v Speaker 1>that it's good for our health as well. I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>right back, all right. Thank you for joining. This is

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<v Speaker 1>Bob Roth. Keep calm, Thanks for listening today. I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you heard something that inspires that uplifts you and that

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<v Speaker 1>you can incorporate into your own life. Until next time,

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<v Speaker 1>remember meditate, be kind, and be true to yourself. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>all of you out there, I'd love to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 1>You can send me your stories, your question or anything

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<v Speaker 1>else on your mind. Just connect with me on Twitter,

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<v Speaker 1>me an email at meditation Bob Roth at gmail dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>I look forward to hearing from you.