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Speaker 1: This is Mandy be Welcome to Selective Ignorance, a production

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Speaker 1: of the Black Eppec podcast network and iHeartRadio. Hey, welcome

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Speaker 1: to a bonus episode, but another episode of Selective Ignorance.

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Speaker 1: And I'm really excited because this is gonna be a

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Speaker 1: little something new that I'm starting because I want to

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Speaker 1: bring the classmates into the episode's more so, I'm like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I know my audience kind of thinks I'm ignorant, sometimes selectively,

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Speaker 1: but I would love for them to dig deep into

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Speaker 1: bringing me their ignorant moments. So this episode is am

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Speaker 1: I ignorant? And I'm pulling some topics that I found

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Speaker 1: online through the Reddit threads, the deep dark Web, and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna share my opinions on where they're selectively ignorant,

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Speaker 1: but also just show you how selectively ignorant we are

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Speaker 1: as people, whether you think it's from morals, ethical bounds,

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Speaker 1: or even just maybe not be a way in which

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Speaker 1: order to bring you little nigglets in, I need to

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Speaker 1: know what ignorant thoughts, ignorant moments, ignorant dilemmas you are

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Speaker 1: on over to the email. It's Selective Ignorance pod pod

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Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. So am I ignorant? Put it

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Speaker 1: in the title let me know your dilemma, and I'm

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Speaker 1: excited to read it here Now before we start this week,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to actually lean into my ignorant moment, which

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Speaker 1: only let me know was ignorant because the same thing

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Speaker 1: happened to a woman who decided to post a video

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Speaker 1: I was like, damn, bitch, was I ignorant? So anyways,

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Speaker 1: I am currently shopping for a studio space here in Atlanta,

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Speaker 1: and last week I linked up with my friend's side. Y'all,

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Speaker 1: I've heard him on the podcast before, and I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: let me look through this office space because I'm really

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Speaker 1: looking to get a home for Selective Ignorance. Yes, shout

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Speaker 1: out to Black Effects and the iHeart Studios, but baby,

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Speaker 1: I need my own look, I need my own jug.

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Speaker 1: So I'm currently looking for a podcast studio here in Atlanta.

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Speaker 1: And so I met him at this food court. It

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Speaker 1: is like twelve thirty in the afternoon. School is back,

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Speaker 1: So what does my mind think? No kids anywhere until

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Speaker 1: after two? That's like my mind during the week. Listen,

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Speaker 1: I am confused between September in May when I see

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Speaker 1: children out roaming the world when it's school time, because bitch,

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Speaker 1: why are they not in school? But then I forgot

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Speaker 1: there's some kids that is too young for school. So anyways,

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Speaker 1: to call CPS because at this point it's given child abuse.

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Speaker 1: Why is your baby crying? That's so goddamn much like,

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Speaker 1: and yes, for y'all listening, I do not have children.

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Speaker 1: I get this, I get this, I know and do

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Speaker 1: I want any No, I don't want any kids. But

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Speaker 1: my mind I was like, damn, Mitch, why a baby

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Speaker 1: say this white man did try it. She confronted him

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Speaker 1: that's just what babies do, But no, bitch, all babies

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Speaker 1: Because to be fair, she did bring up the privilege

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Speaker 1: you should leave now. Now, a lot of people in

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Speaker 1: I just don't. I just don't. It's crazy because further investigating,

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Speaker 1: seems total toed with how people think. I know that

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Speaker 1: If you're a patron, head on over to the discord.

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Speaker 1: I want to know, if you're a parent and you

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Speaker 1: If you're driving behind a car and your mind immediately

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Speaker 1: calling in like the Crash Dummies podcast. I want to

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Speaker 1: you get my book, Noah's Barred, a dull manifesto of

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Speaker 1: Here, I'll tell you it. Autumn goddamn calories, all right?

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Speaker 1: So again, let's be real. We know we side. He

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Speaker 1: pregnancy tests. This is my weird way of grieving. I

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Speaker 1: guess I didn't want to be the only one who

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Speaker 1: knows about my baby, so I felt compelled to write

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Speaker 1: maybe baby, favorite baby, favorite baby, baby, babit ooh there's

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Speaker 1: a baby. Ooh, I don't know if that landed. I

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Speaker 1: don't know why I went there. Okay, tricky here, because say,

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Speaker 1: even you get to a place with this man where

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Speaker 1: you're emotional, financial, and spiritually ready for this baby, you

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Speaker 1: move forward with having a baby, and you tell him

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Speaker 1: down the line that you aborted a baby without even

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Speaker 1: his knowledge, without his consideration. I just wonder, like to me,

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Speaker 1: do you wonder if it's a i'll tell later thing?

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Speaker 1: This is one of these absolutely selectively ignorant decisions because

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Speaker 1: you know that you're wrong as hell for not telling him.

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Speaker 1: And what's crazy is where I am pro choice. You

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Speaker 1: both laid in bed together and knew the consequences of

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Speaker 1: the baby when you're there. While I believe in a woman, yes,

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Speaker 1: being able to make the final decision. This might be

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Speaker 1: ignorant to say I believe you should tell the man,

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Speaker 1: but I do believe it's your right to do what

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Speaker 1: to do it. That's where again I teeter with a

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Speaker 1: bit of what's right and wrong as a woman. You

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Speaker 1: If I don't want this baby, I ain't gonna have it.

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Speaker 1: I do, however, subconsciously, subconsciously feel like a man should

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Speaker 1: be at least notified, It should at least be a conversation.

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Speaker 1: And to me, if you don't feel in the right

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Speaker 1: to hold this space of a conversation for this type

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Speaker 1: of this huge monumental thing, is this a nigga you

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Speaker 1: need to be laying up with? Is this you need

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Speaker 1: to be in a relationship with? I mean, if you

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Speaker 1: can hold this as a secret and lie about this

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Speaker 1: and be so distraught as to being able to even

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Speaker 1: come to him and have this conversation as grown ass adults,

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Speaker 1: because twenty four to twenty eight, y'all grown. What else

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Speaker 1: would you lie about? What else would you hide? Like this?

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Speaker 2: Is?

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Speaker 1: This?

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Speaker 2: Is?

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Speaker 1: This is kind of tricky. Now, Yes, it's crazy because

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Speaker 1: in your mind you don't want to hurt him. Is

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Speaker 1: it not inevitable for him to be hurt? You're literally

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Speaker 1: saving all of this information. You're gonna know how many

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Speaker 1: weeks you were. You're saving a copy of the ultra sound,

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Speaker 1: You're saving the pregnancy test. This almost reminds me bitch,

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Speaker 1: And maybe because I was just watching it last night.

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Speaker 1: I watch a monster. This reminds me of the serial

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Speaker 1: killers that choose to like save Oh and listen. I

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Speaker 1: don't think abortion is killing a baby. Don't listen. But

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Speaker 1: you like keeping all the things but keeping it a secret.

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Speaker 1: And look, this is where my mind goes. I don't

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Speaker 1: think you will say real killses. I don't think anybody

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Speaker 1: who has an abortion is a killer. Don't think you

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Speaker 1: a murderer. I find it weird though, that you're holding

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Speaker 1: the secret. You're going through all this alone. You're not

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Speaker 1: letting anyone know specifically the partner that you had the

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Speaker 1: baby with, but you're keeping all of the items. To me,

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Speaker 1: that leads me to believe you will tell him eventually,

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Speaker 1: which to me, what is the saying just rip off

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Speaker 1: the band aid? Because I would hate for you to

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Speaker 1: be in a more emotional, mental, spiritual, financial better space.

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Speaker 1: You choose to build a family down the line, this

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Speaker 1: comes out and then this comes back to haunt you.

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Speaker 1: I do feel like we need to be in a

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Speaker 1: space of at least laying with some niggas that we

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Speaker 1: could talk to. Y'all, we know the consequences of unprotected sex.

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Speaker 1: It's a baby or a disease, or hopefully or orgasm

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Speaker 1: oftentimes not so if we know that you're gonna be

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Speaker 1: pleased or unpleased, and whether you're pleased or unbleased, you

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Speaker 1: hold and bear the risk of nothing happening, a baby happening,

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Speaker 1: or STD happening. I would at least hope that you

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Speaker 1: would be in a space to be able to hold

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Speaker 1: that those three conversations, whether there's nothing that y'all want

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Speaker 1: to do it again, whether a baby comes, or whether

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Speaker 1: you got a little itching and burning and they I

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Speaker 1: gotta go get tested to be able to have that

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Speaker 1: conversation with whatever man you laying up with. It's also

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Speaker 1: crazy to me that y'all be going on the internet,

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Speaker 1: just writing this whole shit out, but can't talk to

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Speaker 1: the person in your life that you adore, that you love,

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Speaker 1: that you believe is truly a great man that you

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Speaker 1: would do anything to protect. I also think that that's

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Speaker 1: crazy too, This idea of secrets and white lies or

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Speaker 1: FIBs or whatever you want to call them, as the

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Speaker 1: idea of protecting another person. We gotta let that go.

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Speaker 1: We cannot fully believe that our wrongdoings and not sharing

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Speaker 1: them with the people who are directly impacted and directly involved,

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Speaker 1: that were protecting them by not sharing how they're involved

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Speaker 1: or something that if they eventually find out, will hurt

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Speaker 1: them down the line. It's not up to you. You're

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Speaker 1: not protecting them. You are making the choice and decision

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Speaker 1: to do this knowing inevitably when if he finds out,

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Speaker 1: and it sounds like it's an inevitable because you're keeping

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Speaker 1: this small box with all of the evidence, why you

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Speaker 1: wouldn't just want to tear the band aid off classmates again?

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Speaker 1: In your mind, you know what's right and wrong in

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Speaker 1: your mind, you know how what you're gonna say or

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Speaker 1: what you're gonna do, how it's gonna impact whoever it's

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Speaker 1: gonna affect. Right, saying with your motherfucker chest, y'all gotta

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Speaker 1: start saying shit with your chests. That's gonna be the

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Speaker 1: moral of this. It's gonna be the moral of a

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Speaker 1: lot of shit I say, because clearly I say a

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Speaker 1: lot of shit with my chests, and I be loud

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Speaker 1: or wrong sometimes, or at least to y'all. To me,

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Speaker 1: I'm right. To me, it makes sense to me and

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Speaker 1: I like to share parts of my story and my

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Speaker 1: upbringing and constantly lean into my geographical upbringing to allow

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Speaker 1: you to understand why my mind works the way it does.

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Speaker 1: A lot of our minds work differently. If you read

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Speaker 1: the book, I talk about a lot of it having

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Speaker 1: to do with genetics, psychological factors, such as you know,

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Speaker 1: how your parents navigate, what socioeconomic status you had growing

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Speaker 1: up Geographically there's different traditions and cultures that you're brought

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Speaker 1: into and all these things. H But we have to

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Speaker 1: start saying shit with our chests. You have to. If

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Speaker 1: you're gonna make the decision to do the bullshit you're

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Speaker 1: gonna do, you gotta be able to deal with the

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Speaker 1: bullshit coming your way from people judging you, from people

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Speaker 1: being hurt, from people having their opinion, because guess what

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Speaker 1: we live in fucking life world. It's life, that is

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Speaker 1: literally life. This is absolutely a moral dilemma. I think

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Speaker 1: you are absolutely selectively, ignorantly using here to lean into

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Speaker 1: this secret on the guys of protecting him from unnecessary

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Speaker 1: emotional pain. And so you're making that decision, and you're

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Speaker 1: choosing to lean into that bullshit little thin line down,

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