1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: iHeart podcasts, bring you the ultimate summer of love Tree. 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:09,280 Speaker 1: This is Famously Available. Hey, it's Ben Higgins back with 3 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:12,879 Speaker 1: you on Famously Available. Make sure to catch up on 4 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:16,319 Speaker 1: the last episode. I am handing over the microphones to 5 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:22,600 Speaker 1: all three of our amazing famously Available women, Kathy, Dianna, 6 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:26,280 Speaker 1: the Mercedes. I want to know what they're looking forward 7 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: to in twenty twenty six as we enter the new year. 8 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,840 Speaker 1: So let's jump back into their conversation. 9 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 2: Man, it feels like everybody's had a tough twenty twenty five. 10 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 2: Is there anything that you're looking to leave behind? 11 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 3: Ooh, you're going to laugh when I say it. So 12 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 3: I said it last year too, and I will say 13 00:00:47,159 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 3: I've made improvement this year. What is it? Interrupting people 14 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 3: while we are laughing. 15 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 4: But that's a good goal. That's a good goal, you 16 00:00:59,000 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 4: know what I mean. 17 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 3: I am better this year than I was last year, 18 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 3: So I I you know, I left half of it 19 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 3: behind last year. I want to leave the other half 20 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:08,760 Speaker 3: behind this year. 21 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:10,760 Speaker 4: That's an awesome goal. I love that. 22 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:11,319 Speaker 1: You know. 23 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 2: It's funny because I believe as people, we think that 24 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 2: our opinion is so important that we need to be 25 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:20,399 Speaker 2: heard right Instead of actively listening. That is equality that 26 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:22,640 Speaker 2: is really important to me when I'm looking to date 27 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 2: is someone who is an active listener. But we as humans, 28 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 2: I believe it is in our nature. We think that 29 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 2: our opinion is so important. We think we need to 30 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 2: be heard, and truth of the matter is is nine 31 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 2: times out of ten, it's really not important. 32 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 3: Or we don't like silence. We're awkward, awkward, so let's 33 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 3: fill it. You know before I'm going to interrupt you 34 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 3: because you might not say anything and then it'll be quiet, so. 35 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 5: Then we will. Yeah. I feel that I'm kind of 36 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 5: like that where I'm like, I don't want anything to 37 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 5: ever feel awkward, so I'm always like, okay, I need 38 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:54,480 Speaker 5: to like start talking. What can I say? And I 39 00:01:54,560 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 5: still like it keeps going Okay, something I want to leave. 40 00:02:00,600 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 5: In twenty twenty five, this one's like kind of deep, 41 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 5: but I feel like it's like the thing that like 42 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 5: is coming to me is like negative talk when it 43 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 5: comes to like myself, I feel like I get like 44 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 5: when I'm on dates or when I'm like even if 45 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 5: I meet new people, like, I'm like, do they think 46 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 5: I was weird? Like you know what I'm saying and 47 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 5: I'm so unapologetically myself, but at the same time, I 48 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 5: still do have these voices in my head. No one 49 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 5: would ever know except for me that I'm like, did 50 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 5: they think I was weird? That's like my biggest thing 51 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 5: is like do they think I was weird? Which is 52 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 5: so crazy because I know it's not true, and I 53 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 5: know that it's just the enemy in my head trying 54 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 5: to like bring me down. So that's something that I 55 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:42,640 Speaker 5: really want to like just kick out and say, Syinara, 56 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 5: stay in twenty twenty five. 57 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 2: I love that for you. Yeah, you're not alone, Just 58 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 2: so you know you're not alone. 59 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:49,799 Speaker 5: I know, I know. It's a very common thing. 60 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, there, I can take one thought and turn it 61 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 2: eight way sideways in a matter of seconds. 62 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 5: Yes, Oh I'm an overthinker for sure. 63 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,360 Speaker 3: We all could do that. But to be aware, self 64 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 3: aware enough that you're doing it that right, there is 65 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:05,520 Speaker 3: half the battle, Mercedes. Yeah, for all of us. If 66 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 3: you recognize it, then you can sort of say, nope, 67 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:08,799 Speaker 3: I'm not going to let that happen. I'm going to 68 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 3: turn from that before it really gets its grips on me. 69 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 5: Yeah. 70 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's something that I have also been working on 71 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 2: this year, and I don't always see the improvement in myself. 72 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 2: It is much easier for me to see the improvement 73 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:21,839 Speaker 2: in you guys or someone else. 74 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,160 Speaker 4: But I would say that I go down the rabbit 75 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 4: hole less. 76 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 2: It still happens because I am human, so I have 77 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 2: to have some grace with myself. But I go down 78 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 2: the rabbit hole less, I spin out of control, just 79 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 2: a little bit less. And so I'll take those as 80 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 2: wins because you used to. I could spend days mother 81 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 2: mother effing anyone. 82 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 3: So what do you want to leave behind or is 83 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 3: that what you want to leave behind? Diana? 84 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 2: Well, no, no, Mine is kind of deep too, and 85 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 2: I think that's just because of the transformative year that 86 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 2: I have had. But I want to leave my old 87 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 2: self behind. 88 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 3: I think there's all of you behind. 89 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 2: Nope, no, but I just think that what I have 90 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 2: gone through over the last few years. And Kathy, we 91 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 2: have discussed this, like, divorce is grief, right, there are 92 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 2: many many versions of grief, and my divorce was very 93 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 2: much grief for me, and I rode every wave and 94 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 2: so there is this beautiful piece where like I still 95 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:26,559 Speaker 2: am me, but I also get to be a different 96 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 2: version of me, and I think I have spent a 97 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 2: lot of time feeding into myself and doing a law 98 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:34,480 Speaker 2: of work, you guys, doing a law of work all 99 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 2: the therapy. I am a person of growth. I will 100 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:40,920 Speaker 2: I will jump on any experience to learn more about 101 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 2: myself and to be better with myself. I'm going to 102 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 2: a retreat in January and I'm going to meditate, and 103 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 2: I'm going to listen to my own like inner voice 104 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 2: and be one with God, you know. And I am 105 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 2: so excited because so ex I have always been like that, like, please, yeah, 106 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 2: tell me what I did wrong. I want to work 107 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:00,599 Speaker 2: on that. I want to grow. I want to be better. 108 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 2: I want to be better for myself. But I also 109 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 2: just want to be a better woman and a better mother. 110 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:08,799 Speaker 2: I don't want my children to experience the same grief 111 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 2: and heartache that I have that I have had, and 112 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 2: so I just want to be a better person. So 113 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:15,919 Speaker 2: I say that I want to leave my old self 114 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 2: behind because I think it's really wonderful that I get 115 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 2: to learn more about myself this year and I get 116 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:24,840 Speaker 2: to choose greatness. I get to choose to be different, 117 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,159 Speaker 2: I get to choose to pause. You guys, I too, 118 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 2: Kathy believe that my opinion is very important that I. 119 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 4: Need to be heard as it is not everybody needs 120 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 4: to hear it. 121 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 3: Wait, I have a question for both of you though, 122 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 3: And I think Deanna, you and I have touched on this, 123 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 3: but your horrific divorce. Mercedes, I don't know. I'm sure 124 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:58,720 Speaker 3: in your fabulous, beautiful twenty seven years of life, I'm 125 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 3: sure you've had heartache and this appointment because we all have, 126 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:03,520 Speaker 3: none of us escape it. My question do you both? 127 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 5: Then? 128 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 3: I ponder this all the time because of my husband's suicide, 129 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 3: Because of what I've been through, I am a better person. 130 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 3: I did a ton of grief therapy. Here's my question. 131 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 3: Do you think it takes that kind of cataclysmic, catastrophic 132 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 3: event for us to work as hard as we are 133 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 3: working to be better people? Like? That's what I wonder, 134 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,840 Speaker 3: like sometimes say, God, really, you know? Did I need this? 135 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:36,359 Speaker 3: Couldn't you just like broken my wrist or something? You know? Slightly? 136 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 2: I kind of love this question, Yeah, I mean I 137 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 2: love this question. And Mercedes, I know that you're a 138 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 2: Christian as well, so I don't believe in a punishing God. 139 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 2: I believe we are given free will to make decisions. 140 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 3: I agree. 141 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 4: We are allowed to do that. 142 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:56,479 Speaker 2: And therefore there are consequences for our actions when you 143 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,719 Speaker 2: try to deviate from the path you are meant to 144 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 2: be on. When you deviate from that, you get to 145 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 2: reap the consequences, whether they are good or bad, consequences 146 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:10,120 Speaker 2: for our choices and our actions. So, if you are 147 00:07:10,200 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 2: allowed allow yourself to relinquish full control and let your universe, 148 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 2: your God, your higher being, whatever it is, have full 149 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 2: control of your life. If you can truly do that, 150 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 2: then you could have less heartache, less grief, less things 151 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 2: if you're able to get yourself on the right path. 152 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 2: But as humans, we are allowed fore will to make 153 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 2: our own decisions, and therefore sometimes we have consequences for 154 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 2: our actions. So if I'm going to use myself, for example, 155 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 2: I sometimes look back at my marriage. I'm not sure 156 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 2: why I married that person, other than my children are 157 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 2: my greatest gifts. I was meant to have Addison and Austin. 158 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 2: They were made for me. That's what I believe. Call 159 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 2: me nuts whatever you want, I believe my children were 160 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 2: made for me. 161 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 4: They were a gift. 162 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 2: My God knew that I needed them in my life, 163 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 2: that I needed those kids and the only way to 164 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 2: have those two children was to have them with my 165 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 2: ex husband. 166 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 4: They are my greatest gift. 167 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 2: I could not have made them without him. But because 168 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 2: of some of the decisions that I made and the 169 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 2: path that I walked, I had to endure grief and 170 00:08:23,560 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 2: heartache and pain, and he did as well. Because ultimately, 171 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 2: I don't believe that we are supposed to spend a 172 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 2: lifetime together. 173 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 4: I don't know, what do you think, Mercedes. 174 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I'm with you, like the same thing. Like, 175 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 5: I do not think God does anything to punish us. 176 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:42,199 Speaker 5: I think God is like, he's not chaos, He's not 177 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 5: so anything outside of that I don't think is necessarily 178 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:49,560 Speaker 5: from him or was meant for us. But I do 179 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 5: think back to Kathy's question, like my heartbreak, I had 180 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:58,679 Speaker 5: never so I experienced heartbreak when I was twenty three 181 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 5: or four. I think, worst thing ever. And I know 182 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 5: that it probably it did like I was a twenty three, 183 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 5: twenty four year old whatever like, But genuinely I was like, 184 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 5: I do not wish this feeling upon anyone. I felt 185 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 5: like I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep. 186 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 3: It was. 187 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 5: It was genuinely the worst thing ever. And because of 188 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 5: that I feel like I had so much hate in 189 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 5: my heart towards that person, because I'm like, why would 190 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 5: you do this to me? Like why are we doing this? 191 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 5: Like can we try to figure it out? Whatever? But 192 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:33,680 Speaker 5: I will say because of that, it gave me values 193 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:36,679 Speaker 5: that I love about myself now. Like the only way 194 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:38,559 Speaker 5: I got over that was because I prayed for him, 195 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 5: and I was like, he needs he needs healing, and 196 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 5: it has nothing to do with me. It has everything 197 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:44,560 Speaker 5: to do with him, and he needs healing, so let 198 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 5: me pray for him. And it made me forgive him. 199 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 5: And now everything I do in life, like if someone 200 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 5: makes me mad or someone does me wrong, like I 201 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 5: pray for them and it's I don't know. It just 202 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:57,880 Speaker 5: completely changed my thought and it took me like a 203 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 5: year to get there, but now I feel like it 204 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 5: because I went through heartbreak and because I went through that, 205 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 5: now I have something about me that I know what 206 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:09,960 Speaker 5: to do when people do do me wrong. And it 207 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 5: just completely changed my life. 208 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 3: That's beautiful too. Yeah, just to be clear, that's beautiful, Mercedes. 209 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 3: And by the way, do not diminish when you say 210 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 3: I was only twenty three or twenty four. Do not 211 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 3: diminish your heartbreak, what you went through, that's as real 212 00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 3: as anything that I've gone through. That's your life, and 213 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 3: your life has all as much value as our lives do. 214 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 3: So yeah, But just to be clear, though, I wasn't 215 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 3: saying that God punished me. I was saying, if God 216 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:44,440 Speaker 3: wanted my attention, obviously my husband of the free will, 217 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 3: I agree with you, Dianna to do what he did. 218 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:51,640 Speaker 3: But at the same time, I also believe that God 219 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,480 Speaker 3: is in control of our lives, and so I'm thinking 220 00:10:56,320 --> 00:11:00,439 Speaker 3: God was trying to really get my attention, which he did, uh, 221 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 3: you know, whiplash. But that that was my question sort 222 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 3: of now a question, more of a comment. I wish 223 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 3: that it didn't we didn't. I wish Johnny, you didn't 224 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 3: have to go through the horrible divorce to get you 225 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 3: where you are today. I wish I didn't have to 226 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 3: go through what I went through. Mercedes, I wish that 227 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 3: that hadn't happened to you. But I realized saying that 228 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:25,719 Speaker 3: at the same time, you know, as we close out 229 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 3: this fabulous here, that these that life lessons. I mean, 230 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 3: life is what happens to us on the way to death. 231 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 3: You know, we have all these lessons, and I just 232 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 3: I sometimes wish it they weren't quite so stringent, quite 233 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:41,080 Speaker 3: such a big smack across the face. And having said that, 234 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 3: I am a much better person. I joke all the 235 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 3: time that the guy that gets me, mister Wright, who 236 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:50,840 Speaker 3: is right around the corner, he is getting so much 237 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 3: of a better version of me than than my husband had, 238 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 3: which is sad to say. 239 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 2: I hate the saying that there's beauty and pain, Yeah, 240 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 2: because there is is right the pain and exactly what 241 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 2: you said you went through, Mercedes, like we've all done it, right, 242 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 2: We've all done it. I did it just a few 243 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:08,319 Speaker 2: years ago. There were days I could not get out 244 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,439 Speaker 2: of the bed. Had I not had children, I would 245 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 2: not have gotten out. 246 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:12,760 Speaker 4: Of the bed. It is awful. 247 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:15,960 Speaker 2: But then there when I say that rebirth, you guys 248 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 2: for me, look at the beauty in that, Look at 249 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 2: the beauty in that. Yes, I would have absolutely And 250 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:26,440 Speaker 2: my ex husband is not my only heartache, right, I had, 251 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:32,600 Speaker 2: like grateful to have loved many times and loved really 252 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 2: great guys like I wouldn't change that for the world. 253 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 4: I might change some of this circumstances. 254 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 2: I might take a few bad decisions back, But like 255 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 2: I am grateful to have loved and lost than to 256 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 2: have never loved it all. And I hate cliche sayings. 257 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:51,640 Speaker 2: I hate them, hate them, hate them, pay them, but 258 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 2: it is true I would have taken it over anything. 259 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:57,599 Speaker 3: Well, I just want to say, we're we're going to 260 00:12:57,679 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 3: move into what we think about twenty twenty six. Here 261 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:01,880 Speaker 3: a second, bet, I just want to say, for me, 262 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 3: one of the other fabulous things about twenty twenty five 263 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 3: is getting to know both of you and your beautiful 264 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 3: such incredible women. But one thing I've learned from both 265 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 3: of you that I don't even think you set out 266 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:20,440 Speaker 3: to teach me, is that we all it doesn't matter. 267 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:23,680 Speaker 3: You know, Mercedes, you're the youngest, Deanna you're in the middle, 268 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 3: and I'm bringing up the rear. Hear. But we all 269 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 3: are looking for love, We're all looking for connection. We 270 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 3: all have families, we love, We all work hard, and 271 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:37,599 Speaker 3: that gives me joy to know that there's some consistency 272 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 3: in the world that you know, we're on this journey 273 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:42,200 Speaker 3: and we're working hard to be the best we can be. 274 00:13:42,640 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 3: But we all Age doesn't really Again another cliche, age 275 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:48,720 Speaker 3: is only a number. We usually talk about that in 276 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:50,800 Speaker 3: terms of dating. I'm talking about it in terms of you, 277 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 3: two guys. Age is only a number. I value you guys, 278 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:57,080 Speaker 3: your opinions, your thought, your friendship. So I just wanted 279 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 3: you to know that I. 280 00:13:58,520 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 4: Love you guys. 281 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 2: I think there is some path for us all, and 282 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 2: look at the three of us. Is that we're on 283 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:05,080 Speaker 2: the right path right now. The three of us were 284 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 2: meant to meet each other this year and do this 285 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:10,880 Speaker 2: podcast together. We might not walk off here with the 286 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:15,760 Speaker 2: man of our dreams. Oh yeah, oh okay, take me 287 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:16,080 Speaker 2: with you. 288 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 4: Take me with you. 289 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 3: And by the way, Mercedes and Dianna, you will too, 290 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 3: believe you know, it's still we're We're in the moment 291 00:14:23,120 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 3: of believe. That's my word for twenty twenty six. What 292 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 3: is yours? My word is believe. I believe that good 293 00:14:30,320 --> 00:14:32,480 Speaker 3: things are out there and we just need to open 294 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 3: our eye. Need to keep my eyes open and wait 295 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 3: for it and believe that it will happen. And I 296 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 3: do believe it. Yeah, what about you, guys, what's your word? 297 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 5: My word for twenty twenty six? Let's go with maybe 298 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 5: like alignment. That's so good, Like I hope that like 299 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 5: everyone that comes into my life is aligned with where 300 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 5: I am. That's that's the word amusing and even even 301 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 5: people but like also like job opportunities everything, Like I 302 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:10,360 Speaker 5: hope it's just all aligned with who I am as 303 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 5: a person and my values. 304 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 4: I want to steal that. I don't think I have 305 00:15:15,760 --> 00:15:16,160 Speaker 4: a word. 306 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 3: You can have the same word. 307 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe I might. 308 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:23,160 Speaker 2: Maybe I might borrow Mercedes word because I have lots 309 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 2: of feelings for it. Like you know what, I think. 310 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:29,440 Speaker 2: I really want some peace. I want some peace. Yeah, 311 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:31,600 Speaker 2: but I have multiple words. I don't know that I 312 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:33,800 Speaker 2: can choose one. I want peace, I want acceptance. I 313 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 2: want to be fully and holy loved as I am 314 00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:37,720 Speaker 2: as I was made. 315 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:38,520 Speaker 5: I love that. 316 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 4: Was that too much to ask? 317 00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:41,760 Speaker 5: Oh no, not at all. 318 00:15:42,040 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 3: Like I said, keep your eyes open and believe it's 319 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:45,440 Speaker 3: coming for you. 320 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:46,400 Speaker 4: Well, I don't know how far. 321 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 3: However, the line starts here, so it's behind getting lied by. 322 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, well there we are, there we are. 323 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 5: Are you on riah or anything? Would you ever do 324 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 5: dating apps? 325 00:16:10,280 --> 00:16:11,360 Speaker 4: I have done dating apps. 326 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 2: Kathy and I have had this conversation because I was 327 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 2: trying to encourage her to get on them and try it. 328 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:18,840 Speaker 2: I applied to be on Riya, but apparently I'm not 329 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 2: cool enough either. 330 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:24,040 Speaker 4: Mine has not been approved. Yeah, no, you. 331 00:16:24,320 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 5: Guys definitely aren't too old. 332 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:28,200 Speaker 4: What's the end? How do you get in on Riya? 333 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 2: Because it mine just continues to say that my application 334 00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 2: is being reviewed. 335 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 5: Oh I don't know. I mean you have to have 336 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 5: did you put like people like references? 337 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:40,000 Speaker 2: I did, yeah, and I have like a lot of 338 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 2: my references were celebrity friends who are also on the app. 339 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 5: Weird. 340 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:46,040 Speaker 3: Okay, I need you all to suddenly a list of 341 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 3: who's on there, because when I applied, they did not. 342 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 3: I don't even remember. I don't think I got a 343 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 3: response back. 344 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:57,400 Speaker 2: They pull it from your contacts and sometimes you're in 345 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 2: review for a period of time, and I guess they 346 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:01,400 Speaker 2: only let us an amount of people on the app, 347 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,959 Speaker 2: like they meet at one point in time in your area. 348 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 2: But they'll pull your your references from your contacts. Once 349 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:11,639 Speaker 2: you do it, you click on whomever might be on 350 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 2: Riya and that person can be your reference. And so 351 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:15,760 Speaker 2: I have done that. So I didn't get approved to 352 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 2: be on Riya, but I've done bumble And that's for 353 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:22,040 Speaker 2: another podcast, Mercedes. 354 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 4: That was a bit of a show, shall we say. 355 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:26,840 Speaker 5: Okay, I was. 356 00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:30,840 Speaker 2: Really surprised at how many men wanted to send me 357 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 2: pictures of their genitalia. 358 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,920 Speaker 4: Oh and I really bumble. Yeah, And I just didn't 359 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 4: want that. It's just not what I'm in it for. 360 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 2: I don't think the penis is attractive anyway, let alone 361 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:43,199 Speaker 2: sending me a picture of it. 362 00:17:43,280 --> 00:17:43,919 Speaker 4: I don't want it. 363 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:44,600 Speaker 5: I don't want it. 364 00:17:44,640 --> 00:17:45,280 Speaker 4: I don't want it. 365 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:49,159 Speaker 5: Yeah, No, that's weird, and especially on the Yeah, no, no. 366 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 2: I did meet a couple of guys that I went 367 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:54,720 Speaker 2: out with that turned into second or third dates. One 368 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 2: guy in particular, I dated off and on for a 369 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 2: year and a half and I really really liked him, 370 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:01,720 Speaker 2: cared about him, and I have nothing but wonderful things 371 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 2: to say. But I just think in the long run, 372 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:06,640 Speaker 2: the things that I need to align in the long 373 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:09,880 Speaker 2: run weren't there. Like I could never imagine introducing him 374 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 2: to my children. Yeah, and that's a huge red flag 375 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:13,119 Speaker 2: for me. 376 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. There was one and I can't think of the 377 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 3: name of it. I just thought of the name of it, 378 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 3: Keller International that approached me when I came off the show. 379 00:18:22,280 --> 00:18:25,760 Speaker 3: But they wanted me to pay thirty five thousand dollars. 380 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:33,679 Speaker 3: It's a membership deal and I just didn't really feel 381 00:18:33,680 --> 00:18:37,399 Speaker 3: like it sort of felt like I would be I 382 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 3: don't want to say prostitution. 383 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:45,119 Speaker 5: But they wanted you to pay thirty five thousand dollars 384 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:46,360 Speaker 5: for them to find you a man. 385 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:49,159 Speaker 2: So there are several apps you guys that are like 386 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:52,160 Speaker 2: that where you have to pay a lot of ship Yep, 387 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:55,359 Speaker 2: you pay a membership in Mercedes. It's a lot of money. Like, 388 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:57,520 Speaker 2: it's like a thousands of dollars. I don't want to 389 00:18:57,520 --> 00:19:00,560 Speaker 2: invest that much to go on seventeen for states. 390 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 3: Well, I figure if if. When she called me right 391 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 3: afterranking off the show, she said, you know, we saw 392 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 3: you on the show. We think you'd be great. Da 393 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:14,159 Speaker 3: da da da da, And of course then asked me 394 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 3: to go and say, I'm somebody's island. Do you know 395 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:19,640 Speaker 3: what I'm talking about? Some guys a date an island, 396 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:22,960 Speaker 3: some famous Hollywood person and somebody knew who It wasn't like, 397 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:24,399 Speaker 3: really you got invited to go to that. I was 398 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 3: like yeah, And by the way, that was thirty five 399 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,880 Speaker 3: thousand dollars to go there as well. You know there's 400 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:29,160 Speaker 3: a lot. 401 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 2: No, yeah, those sound like pyramid schemes to me. What 402 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 2: I think the three of us need to get on board. 403 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 3: Richard Branson, That's what it was. 404 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:39,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, well he's listened. He's a multimillionaire for a reason. 405 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:42,439 Speaker 2: But what I think the three of us need to 406 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 2: start doing is we need to all send our emails 407 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,040 Speaker 2: to iHeart and and maybe what needs to happen is 408 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 2: they need to do the next couple of podcasts in 409 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:53,840 Speaker 2: twenty twenty six as a matchmaking service. Maybe we need 410 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,800 Speaker 2: to have a matchmaker come on and set the three 411 00:19:56,840 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 2: of us up. And now that we have done you know, 412 00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:03,400 Speaker 2: the dates, maybe we should start exploring. Because I did 413 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:05,359 Speaker 2: hear this in Bryce's interview as well. He was like, 414 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:07,400 Speaker 2: it was kind of hard to date with eighty other 415 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:10,880 Speaker 2: people around. Maybe we start exploring, you know, in our 416 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:13,920 Speaker 2: next couple of episodes, more traditional dates. And I believe 417 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:17,080 Speaker 2: our listeners would like that as well, a more traditional 418 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,560 Speaker 2: situation where we actually get to know someone and see 419 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:20,400 Speaker 2: if there's something there. 420 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:23,560 Speaker 4: But maybe, you guys, we need. 421 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:27,200 Speaker 2: To talk to our producers as if they're not listening 422 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:29,399 Speaker 2: right now, I have a match. 423 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:33,159 Speaker 3: Ida you sound like a producer, But with that not 424 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:34,360 Speaker 3: I mean, I'm. 425 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:37,680 Speaker 2: Really pulling for the three of us, okay, And maybe 426 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:39,960 Speaker 2: we need a matchmaking service here. 427 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 3: Can I just need to point out something. I never 428 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:46,679 Speaker 3: got a concert date, but after watching yours concert date, 429 00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 3: I'm going to take a hard pass on this. 430 00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 2: Listen, Kathy, you can you can learn from our mistake. 431 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,680 Speaker 2: So okay, although I would say I think Mercedes went 432 00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:58,560 Speaker 2: really well, but but yeah, let's let's you know, concerts 433 00:20:58,560 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 2: are fun. 434 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 4: They're fun. Let's let's let's do this. Let's do this, 435 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:03,639 Speaker 4: all right. 436 00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:06,480 Speaker 3: I will one more question I have for you. I'm 437 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,680 Speaker 3: loaded with questions. That's another thing I asked any questions. 438 00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:10,640 Speaker 3: I'm going to try to stop that too, all right, 439 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:14,199 Speaker 3: how do you plan to prioritize loving yourself in the 440 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 3: new year. I stay up late night thinking of these questions. 441 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:20,120 Speaker 4: You're just your head. 442 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,399 Speaker 2: Look at her, Mercedes, if you need her head is 443 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:23,200 Speaker 2: just out of control. 444 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 4: She's just spinning down the rabbit hole right now. 445 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:30,640 Speaker 2: I will answer first, if that's okay, I'm already practicing this. 446 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:34,160 Speaker 2: I have been practicing this for the last I don't 447 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 2: know eight plus months. Is prioritizing myself putting myself first, 448 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 2: and that goes across the board with everything. Because I 449 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:45,080 Speaker 2: told you guys a lot what my prayer is when 450 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:46,679 Speaker 2: I wake up in the morning, is like, you know, 451 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,160 Speaker 2: thank you for my gifts. I've got a lot of them, 452 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,439 Speaker 2: and I'm really, I'm really really grateful for everything that 453 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 2: I have and the way my life is going, in 454 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,520 Speaker 2: the path that I'm going down. But truthfully, I want 455 00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 2: to be a better woman. I want to be a 456 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:00,160 Speaker 2: better now. 457 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:01,439 Speaker 3: How do you plan to do that? 458 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:03,359 Speaker 4: Though, I'm about to tell you Ken, oh. 459 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:04,560 Speaker 3: Sorry, I thought you were saying just one. 460 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:06,280 Speaker 4: I want to bet. 461 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 3: Six can't come soon or not. 462 00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:13,320 Speaker 4: We're almost there, Cathy, you just hold on tight. I 463 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:14,200 Speaker 4: want to be a better woman. 464 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:15,360 Speaker 2: I want to be a better mom, and I want 465 00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:18,000 Speaker 2: to be a better partner some someday. Right those are like, 466 00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:20,359 Speaker 2: those are my top three priorities right now in myself. 467 00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,000 Speaker 2: And so what I'm doing is I'm diving into myself 468 00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:25,400 Speaker 2: and that comes with self care, like waking up, making 469 00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:28,200 Speaker 2: sure I'm doing my prayer and my meditation. I have 470 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 2: to do that, you guys, to get myself right before 471 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 2: I can be present for anyone else. And then it's 472 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:37,119 Speaker 2: really just feeding into myself and being really aware and 473 00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 2: listening to my own intuition of what I need. And 474 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 2: some days I really want to go out and I 475 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:42,600 Speaker 2: want to be social and I want to meet people, 476 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:44,119 Speaker 2: and some days I want to lock myself in my 477 00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:46,480 Speaker 2: house and binge television and go to bed at seven 478 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:49,199 Speaker 2: thirty at night. So I am truly just trying to 479 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:53,399 Speaker 2: tap into my own intuition and understand what it is 480 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 2: that I need my soul's purpose for this upcoming year 481 00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:02,280 Speaker 2: and really really listen hard because I want to be 482 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:06,280 Speaker 2: on that path, because y'all, that path has got to 483 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:09,480 Speaker 2: be better than my own path for myself, and you 484 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:11,880 Speaker 2: have seen me in the last year. That path has 485 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:13,879 Speaker 2: got to be better than anything else that I have 486 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,639 Speaker 2: experienced in twenty twenty five. And so I am trying 487 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 2: to sit with myself in the uncomfortable pieces and listen 488 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 2: to my own intuition and really be sure of those 489 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:28,159 Speaker 2: decisions before I jump the gun. 490 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 4: On those things. And a lot of that looks like 491 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 4: just being alone. 492 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:36,440 Speaker 5: I feel like for me, I feel like just taking, yeah, 493 00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:39,160 Speaker 5: taking care of myself and putting myself first and listening 494 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 5: to what I need. I feel like I'm a helper, 495 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 5: I'm a giver and I love, love, love that about myself, 496 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:51,840 Speaker 5: but sometimes people take advantage of it. So again, like 497 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:53,879 Speaker 5: with what I was saying earlier of me being like 498 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,560 Speaker 5: this is me, take it if you will. Like, I 499 00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,560 Speaker 5: just want to be like so in the zone with 500 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:03,000 Speaker 5: myself and know that we do have goals that we're 501 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:06,199 Speaker 5: going to reach. But like I have to be I 502 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 5: have to put myself first, and sometimes that's hard for me. 503 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:11,000 Speaker 5: But I think that once I figure out how to 504 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,200 Speaker 5: do that, I'm going to be a lot happier. 505 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 2: You're so wise beyond your years. It's just a really beautiful. 506 00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:21,439 Speaker 3: Thing, Diana, because honestly, my answer is a combination of 507 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:24,399 Speaker 3: both of you. I want to spend more time in 508 00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:28,840 Speaker 3: the morning praying, meditating, getting myself right before I get 509 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:33,160 Speaker 3: up out of bed, but also listening. Uh what you said, 510 00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:35,879 Speaker 3: Merced is sort of listening to myself. And because I 511 00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:39,600 Speaker 3: also am a gimber, I'm also checking on my friends 512 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,359 Speaker 3: all the time, trying to help and instead of sitting 513 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:44,520 Speaker 3: back and being a little bit quiet with myself and saying, 514 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 3: you know, what do you need Kathy. So it really again, 515 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,240 Speaker 3: this is proof that the three of us, regardless of 516 00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:55,680 Speaker 3: the age difference, we all have the similar challenges, similar goals. 517 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:56,280 Speaker 3: I love here. 518 00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, we're not putting on ourselves on the back 519 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:01,400 Speaker 5: twenty six can know. 520 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:01,879 Speaker 4: We are not. 521 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 2: No, we are not. 522 00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:05,159 Speaker 4: I love you, guys. 523 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,680 Speaker 2: I'm so glad we're doing this, and I'm really really 524 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,159 Speaker 2: glad to be doing it with the both of you. 525 00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:11,480 Speaker 3: I second that second that. 526 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,359 Speaker 4: Happy holidays you guys. 527 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:16,920 Speaker 3: Happy happy Highs, Happy New Year, Happy Christmas, happy Kwanza, 528 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:18,000 Speaker 3: whatever you're celebrating. 529 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 4: Here's to twenty twenty six. 530 00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:23,920 Speaker 5: Yes, it's gonna be a good year. I can feel 531 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:25,400 Speaker 5: it's all going to find our. 532 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:26,680 Speaker 3: Man fabulous here. 533 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:30,119 Speaker 2: If we don't find him, we'll find ourselves right exactly. 534 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 3: Oh. 535 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:32,200 Speaker 4: I love you guys. 536 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 3: Have a great day, you guys too. 537 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 1: Thank you night Wow, ladies, thank you, thank you for 538 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 1: letting me be a part of this journey along with 539 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,760 Speaker 1: all of you listeners. It's been a great fun getting 540 00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 1: to know all of you on a deeper level and 541 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:49,159 Speaker 1: seeing you not give up on love at any age. 542 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 1: I'm hoping we make some love connections in the new 543 00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:55,440 Speaker 1: year for all of you. But until then, I've been 544 00:25:55,520 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 1: Ben