WEBVTT - #490 What Nikki Is Watching, Relationship Advice & Is Dying Abruptly Better?

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<v Speaker 1>The Nicky Gliser Podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's Nikki.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello here, I am welcome to the show. It's Nicky

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<v Speaker 3>Glazer podcast. I'm here with Brian Frangie. Hello, Noah, Hello

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<v Speaker 3>in Arizona. Uh, we we're here.

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<v Speaker 2>We're doing it, a new week of shows. Oh my god?

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<v Speaker 2>How did how far we've come?

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<v Speaker 1>How do we do it?

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<v Speaker 3>I was just talking to someone about doing a podcast

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<v Speaker 3>and how even like you think doing something once a

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<v Speaker 3>week will be like, oh, it's just once a week,

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<v Speaker 3>that's like easy, but even once a week catches up

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<v Speaker 3>to you and you go, oh my.

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<v Speaker 2>God, again two times a week.

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<v Speaker 3>I like doing multiple times a week because it feels

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<v Speaker 3>like it never goes away and you never have that

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<v Speaker 3>thing of like, oh fuck, I gotta do that thing,

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<v Speaker 3>like it's just it's always, it's more ever present.

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<v Speaker 2>Four times a week was fucking bananas.

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<v Speaker 1>When we used to do that, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>How we did that. How did we do that?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that started during COVID right, No.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we used to do our radio show for two hours,

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<v Speaker 3>four days a week, from ten to twelve Eastern.

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<v Speaker 1>Every single day. Yeah, a full time job.

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<v Speaker 3>And that was not something you could pre record, right,

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<v Speaker 3>Like we just have a love non Negosa had to

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<v Speaker 3>do it. That's how I met Noah in case Bessie's

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<v Speaker 3>don't know. Was at Serious XM and she's my producer

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<v Speaker 3>and we met early January. Oh my god, it was

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<v Speaker 3>so long ago. Twenty eighteen is like, is legit long ago?

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<v Speaker 1>Now?

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<v Speaker 3>Twenty's my favorite year. It was the best year. It

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<v Speaker 3>was the year the Dance with the Stars. I loved

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<v Speaker 3>that year. I was terribly depressed in January when we

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<v Speaker 3>were starting the show. I was going through a really

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<v Speaker 3>bad bout. And then I started transcendental meditation and then

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<v Speaker 3>that really helped. And then it was just like a

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<v Speaker 3>fun year, going to like starting the show, being excited

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<v Speaker 3>about the show, still doing clubs, like starting to do

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<v Speaker 3>pretty well in clubs, really getting in back into the

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<v Speaker 3>New York scene. I just moved back in January of

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<v Speaker 3>twenty eighteen to do the show from LA where I

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<v Speaker 3>did not say for a couple of years.

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<v Speaker 2>And then.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was just like nightlife. All my friends were single.

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<v Speaker 3>That sounds like a good Netflix series. All my friends

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<v Speaker 3>were single. Yeah, the summer, all my friends were single.

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<v Speaker 1>That does seem to be a trend amongst titles of

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<v Speaker 1>shows now they have to be like long sentences. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>well there are sentence fragments. Really, I should say the

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<v Speaker 1>fragments the year that I was pretty nobody wants this

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<v Speaker 1>or or the It's really like a three word title.

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<v Speaker 1>It used to be one word titles or the blank.

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<v Speaker 1>You have the sopranos, the wire, and now it's like

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<v Speaker 1>nobody wants this. Sharp little objects, pretty little liars, little

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<v Speaker 1>fires everywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, I think the name is so crude.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, obs of a show. I can tell you

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<v Speaker 1>if a show is going to succeed based on the

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<v Speaker 1>name alone.

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<v Speaker 3>But Slow Horses, you wouldn't think that would be a

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<v Speaker 3>good show.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think it would do better if it didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have that.

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<v Speaker 3>Name, to be honest with you about because I have

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<v Speaker 3>I have not wanted to watch it because of the name,

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<v Speaker 3>and then people who know it's actually great, and I

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<v Speaker 3>thought it was going to be some kind of like

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<v Speaker 3>Yellowstone thing. Yeah, yeah, like western drama. Right, it's not

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<v Speaker 3>that at all.

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<v Speaker 1>I still haven't watched it, even though people tell me

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to be great, and people tell me what

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<v Speaker 1>it's about, and I don't believe them because it's the name.

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<v Speaker 1>Slow horses at spies in England.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's Britan, It's yes, isn't it about like a campaign?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what it's about. I still confused, actually,

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<v Speaker 1>because I just think it's about what you're saying. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like Kevin Costner must be in it.

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<v Speaker 3>There's galloping horses in slow motion and I'm not interested.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's what I have to watch to get through

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<v Speaker 3>the credits to get to the show. Credits are there?

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<v Speaker 3>I credit you enjoy watching that. You do not skip over?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, A galloping horse in slow motion was actually the

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<v Speaker 1>first ever movie ever made.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, you're right, or animation.

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<v Speaker 1>Animation, it was the first movie.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh, I guess you're right. That's what people want

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<v Speaker 2>to watch.

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<v Speaker 3>It's crazy, it's it's it's it's a fun thing to watch.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll i'd watch a galloping horse. I've never been on

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<v Speaker 3>a galloping horse. I don't think I've never galloped. I've

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<v Speaker 3>definitely trotted, trotted, gallop, but never got to gallop. I

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<v Speaker 3>would love to just be like looking behind me while

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<v Speaker 3>I'm I'm being chased by someone, and I.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, let's look faster. Oh that'd be so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>He he is that what you have to do he Hey.

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<v Speaker 2>Where do you go? What cha whatha? What do you say?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, you're right, you're right.

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<v Speaker 1>That would be a pretty fun look behind you at

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<v Speaker 1>someone chasing you and have to go faster, have a

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<v Speaker 1>bow and.

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<v Speaker 3>Arrow, or it's like a flirty look because you're like

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<v Speaker 3>flirting with another cowboy and you guys are like and

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna fall off the horse and then he's gonna

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<v Speaker 3>like come to your rescue and hold you and then

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<v Speaker 3>you make out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And so sometimes you see that in reality shows

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<v Speaker 1>where like people like have fun on a horse together,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's always slow because of because they're worried about lawsuits.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>How often do you think in real life two people

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<v Speaker 3>tumble on each other like something goofy happens, and then

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<v Speaker 3>they kiss after they tumble upon one another.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say zero percent of the time.

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<v Speaker 2>Zero times. Ever.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I'm trying to think of any meat cute

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<v Speaker 3>where I let's even talk about like you spill something

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<v Speaker 3>and then like your hand hits the thing at the

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<v Speaker 3>same time, and whoever thought of that the first time?

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<v Speaker 3>For a rom com A brilliant person I don't like

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<v Speaker 3>when like things become cliche and we make fun of

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<v Speaker 3>them and we don't give credit when the first person

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<v Speaker 3>who thought of it brilliant, Like the first time you

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<v Speaker 3>saw a girl drop a bunch of books and then

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<v Speaker 3>she's like, oh, I'm sorry, excuse me, and then they

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<v Speaker 3>both their hands touch on one of the books. That's

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<v Speaker 3>a great moment. That's a great TV moment. It's just

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<v Speaker 3>been done to death when the first time was good?

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<v Speaker 1>Was the first one? Was that in the what year?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure someone could trace it for us. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 3>that is like a thing that happens all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't think it happens ever in real life.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to think if I've ever had a moment where.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you literally fall on top of each other and

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<v Speaker 1>you're on the ground.

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<v Speaker 3>I just watched a movie two nights ago that had

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<v Speaker 3>that happened in it, and it was it was a

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<v Speaker 3>cute scene. I'm glad it happened, but it was in

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<v Speaker 3>I really recommend. It's called My Old Ass and it's

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<v Speaker 3>on Amazon Prime.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys.

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<v Speaker 3>It is so fucking good. The performances are great. It's

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<v Speaker 3>just a realistic dialogue realistic like acting, and then it's

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<v Speaker 3>just just I know you're gonna like the whole movie.

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<v Speaker 3>You're gonna go, Okay, really is this like the best movie?

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<v Speaker 3>And then you just wait, wait, wait for it, because

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna feel emotions you haven't felt in a really

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<v Speaker 3>long time, and there's gonna be like answers about your

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<v Speaker 3>life that you're like, You're just gonna live a different

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<v Speaker 3>life the next day, and then it'll wear off because

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<v Speaker 3>it's been two days now and I'm I'm back to

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<v Speaker 3>being the person I was before, but for a day

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<v Speaker 3>I was like I need to be I need to

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<v Speaker 3>save her things more. It's just a really great movie,

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<v Speaker 3>my old ass. It's starring Aubrey Plaza and then a

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<v Speaker 3>little girl that was like I guess created the cup song,

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<v Speaker 3>which seems way too crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Stella Mazie Stella.

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<v Speaker 3>She looks by the way, if you want to know

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<v Speaker 3>what gen z M looks like, even though you can

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<v Speaker 3>go see it on our YouTube when she was on

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<v Speaker 3>the show, she looks exactly like Mazie Stella, literally and

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<v Speaker 3>she talks the same as her in the movie, like

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<v Speaker 3>they are the same person. They are the same person.

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<v Speaker 3>I was, I, oh yeah, Jesus, it was It was wild, right.

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<v Speaker 1>It is. That's gen z m gen Z was ae.

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<v Speaker 2>They talk the same and act the same.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, wait a second. Gen z N's name is

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<v Speaker 1>Mazie Stella and she's a famous actor who has seven

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram followers.

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<v Speaker 3>She should have more, to be honest with you, she

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<v Speaker 3>is so good and so cute.

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<v Speaker 2>I fell in love with her in this movie.

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<v Speaker 3>I just can't wait to ever meet her and be like,

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<v Speaker 3>you are so good. And then the little girl from

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<v Speaker 3>the Sea music videos.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I don't know what you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>This is making me depressed. Okay, so I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what the Cup song is. I don't know what the

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<v Speaker 1>Cup song.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't say pitch perfect, but it's in pitch perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>You know. They're like Someday you go away, and they

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<v Speaker 3>sing like a slow song and they're like and then

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<v Speaker 3>they flip cups around and it's really impressive.

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<v Speaker 1>The song for Colonial Times.

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<v Speaker 2>Anna Kendrick sings it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, yeah, I've been down this road before, and

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<v Speaker 3>they're like doing the cups and they're flipping the cups around.

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<v Speaker 2>I swear to god, I don't know anything else about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never seen perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>I stomp, yes, exactly, and it becomes really rhythmic and

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<v Speaker 3>like kind of hypnotizing, and it's really cute and fun.

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<v Speaker 3>But I never learned it, and I had never seen

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<v Speaker 3>pitch perfect. And I know I should because I know

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<v Speaker 3>it's like a seminal comedy classic, but I've just never

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<v Speaker 3>seen it.

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<v Speaker 2>So slay off me.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, just lay on me and then kiss me as

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<v Speaker 3>we fall onto each other. But okay, so wait, let

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<v Speaker 3>me just say the so Sea the music videos Chandelier h.

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<v Speaker 1>Huh okay, and then Chandal so the dancing.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl, that little dancing girl, OKAYH know that. My mom

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<v Speaker 3>the other night was like, I don't know because I go,

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<v Speaker 3>that's a little dancing girl, and by her her.

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<v Speaker 2>Name is damn it.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to know it.

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<v Speaker 3>Her sister sings one of my favorite songs ever that

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<v Speaker 3>I learned from Dancing with the Stars because she did

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<v Speaker 3>a live performance of it on one of the nights.

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<v Speaker 2>I was kicked off.

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<v Speaker 3>Every day I try harder than the one before. Du

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<v Speaker 3>It's uh, I forget her name? Why am I I

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<v Speaker 3>have her name if you want it? And then her

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<v Speaker 3>sister something Ziggler made this song called every day and

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<v Speaker 3>it is truly one of my favorite songs of all time.

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<v Speaker 3>And so Dolph, yeah, her sister, Dolph Ziggler, and then

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<v Speaker 3>so Mattie Ziggler was the little amazing dancer in Chandelier.

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<v Speaker 3>They did a trilogy and Elastic Heart, which is my

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<v Speaker 3>favorite of them, even though it made people uncomfortable because

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<v Speaker 3>it seemed to be a little bit like old man

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<v Speaker 3>and little girl danced together and then she's almost like

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<v Speaker 3>naked and it's in the cage, and it's my favorite

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<v Speaker 3>if you're not perverted, or I mean, I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>people who think it's perverted are perverted. I just if

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<v Speaker 3>you look at it through a lens of like these

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<v Speaker 3>are her two selves battling it out, Yeah them her

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<v Speaker 3>getting figured at the end of it was a little

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<v Speaker 3>took me out of it, but you know, nothing, nothing

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<v Speaker 3>bad happens. It's it's a really that that music video,

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<v Speaker 3>those music videos I watch all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the other one is.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh, the one that's dead dad though that's Shakira, but

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<v Speaker 3>just say no that I was singing forever. It sounds

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<v Speaker 3>like that song, but it's uh, I forget the name

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<v Speaker 3>of it, but that.

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<v Speaker 2>One's really good.

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<v Speaker 3>Too, but it's always just that little girl in a

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<v Speaker 3>dirty house dancing or like in a dirty setting and

0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.320
<v Speaker 3>she's wearing like kind of like bandages and stuff. But

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<v Speaker 3>Matty Sigler is that was one of the like I'm

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<v Speaker 3>usually creeped out by children being really good at performing

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<v Speaker 3>and being really able to summon like an emotional performance.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's just unsettling and makes me believe in

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<v Speaker 3>like past lives or something.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't like it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like when little girls can sing too well

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<v Speaker 3>or they yodel and they have too much emotion.

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<v Speaker 1>I just an adults are cun past lives than that emotion.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't summon that emotion.

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<v Speaker 4>With it's questionable, it's totally questionable.

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<v Speaker 3>Or they're just that good of performing right, like they

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<v Speaker 3>don't need to access the boat because I think some

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<v Speaker 3>actors don't even feel emotion.

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<v Speaker 2>They just know how to like mimic it, you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean, right, like a robot, like a right.

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<v Speaker 3>But Mattie Zigler in those god in those music videos,

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<v Speaker 3>the choices she makes with her face and all the

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<v Speaker 3>things she does, like it's so artistic. I guess I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just boggled by it and then she has she has

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<v Speaker 3>like a smaller role in this film, but I think

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<v Speaker 3>her acting choices. There's this one scene where she's on

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<v Speaker 3>the dock and she's just like talking to her friend

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<v Speaker 3>and she just like coughs into her arm, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>did she think to cough?

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<v Speaker 2>Like did she plan that cough or did she let

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<v Speaker 2>it come out?

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<v Speaker 3>And just like was like, oh, I have to cough,

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<v Speaker 3>and so my my character's gonna cough right now. Like

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<v Speaker 3>it's shit like that that I fucking love, Like I

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<v Speaker 3>love mess performances that are grounded in how people actually talk.

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<v Speaker 3>Everyone knows that I already like that in dialogue. Anyway,

0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:09.040
<v Speaker 3>this movie nailed it and I really recommend you seeing it,

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<v Speaker 3>my old ass. And then Aubrey Plaza is just fantastic

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<v Speaker 3>in it and so funny. And my dad like didn't

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<v Speaker 3>know of her Aubrey Plaza no, And my dad was transfixed,

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<v Speaker 3>like he you could see, you know the thing that

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<v Speaker 3>happens to all men with Aubrey Plaza where they're just

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<v Speaker 3>kind of like why am I so horny for her?

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't even know why, Like she's hot, but

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<v Speaker 3>like there's something like she's like scares me.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I saw that, like happen to my dad. A

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<v Speaker 2>dad feel the offense, she's dangerous. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>He was just like I like, wait, who is that?

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<v Speaker 3>Like you could just see it. I was like, oh God,

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<v Speaker 3>she's got that j squa like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that the word?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, well that's like a Jewish thing that for men

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<v Speaker 1>mostly where you have the yeah, you have that energy

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<v Speaker 1>that area about you. But Cavorka, I think, so am

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<v Speaker 1>I wrong about this? Cavorka. Cavorka. There's a Seinfeld episode

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<v Speaker 1>where Kramer has it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, yeah, you guys have some really good words mentioned

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<v Speaker 3>the animal. It means yeah, she's got it. She's got

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<v Speaker 3>the career for sure. And it's just it's a great film.

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<v Speaker 3>And then and then I so I've been going over

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<v Speaker 3>to my parents' house because Chris is out of town

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm in Saint Louis for four nights, which is absurd.

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't been here that long for months and months,

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<v Speaker 3>it feels.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I've just got like my night's free. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not sitting around by myself.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not someone who would ever sit around by myself

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<v Speaker 3>for a night. If that happens, things are going wrong,

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<v Speaker 3>and like I will just do bad behaviors.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to be alone.

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<v Speaker 3>So I go over to my parents' house as soon

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<v Speaker 3>as I'm done with my day, because I truly don't

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<v Speaker 3>know what I would do if I just sat. I

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<v Speaker 3>just can't do it. And so I go over to

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<v Speaker 3>my parents and we hang out and I just watch

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<v Speaker 3>them make.

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<v Speaker 2>Dinner or whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>And then my mom and I were laughing last night

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<v Speaker 3>because there was a there was an Alzheimer's ad, like

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<v Speaker 3>there's a medication ad for Alzheimer's. Not laughing about that,

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<v Speaker 3>but it was like this woman was talking about her mother,

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<v Speaker 3>her mother with Alzheimer's or dementia or whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 3>whatever kind of dementia, and there's this Rick Salty is

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<v Speaker 3>the thing, and it was like, you know, my mom's

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<v Speaker 3>demeanor had changed. She was just angry all the time,

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<v Speaker 3>and she was even cursing, and I just knew something

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<v Speaker 3>was up. And now her symptoms have completely gone down

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<v Speaker 3>since Rook sulty and I was like, I'll know when

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<v Speaker 3>you have dementia because you'll stop CUsing.

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<v Speaker 1>Me.

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<v Speaker 3>Taking my mom in and being like sir. Her behavior

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<v Speaker 3>has just changed so much. She's just behaving radically and

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<v Speaker 3>they're like the cursing and the violet and the throwing

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<v Speaker 3>and the yelling, and I'm like, it's all gone.

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<v Speaker 2>She's pretty peaceful and measured.

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<v Speaker 3>I think there's something wrong because it's like I guess

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<v Speaker 3>when people get dementia, they just get fucking nuts. That's

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<v Speaker 3>why I love Raissan's joke, Raissan hirshberg Am I being

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<v Speaker 3>correct and saying his name, I don't know. I never

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<v Speaker 3>I always get his name wrong. You've got to know

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<v Speaker 3>who Raissan is.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't go a YouTube special camera, but.

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<v Speaker 3>He has a brilliant joke that I've quoted on here

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<v Speaker 3>before about like if you're racist or have any bigotry

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<v Speaker 3>in your heart, get it sorted before you get senile,

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<v Speaker 3>because it's all coming out.

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<v Speaker 2>And like that is so funny to me.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like that because it does, like you get so,

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<v Speaker 3>you get crazy, you say weird things. Sometimes you get

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<v Speaker 3>hyper sexual. Yeah, it's it's not a it's not a sexual.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't heard of that one.

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<v Speaker 3>I think they I think some I think some men

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<v Speaker 3>get perverted or women too in nursing homes. My dad

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<v Speaker 3>had a he my dad performs in nursing homes and

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<v Speaker 3>one time he was playing guitar and a woman just

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<v Speaker 3>wheeled her wheelchair up and started like rubbing on his

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<v Speaker 3>pants on the crotch area. Like I think he was

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<v Speaker 3>playing guitar, so I don't understand how that happened, but

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<v Speaker 3>she maybe she was rubbing her crotch. I kind of

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<v Speaker 3>forget the story, but there was something really indecent going

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<v Speaker 3>on while my dad was playing, and he just had

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<v Speaker 3>to laugh it off, you know, yeah, and keep on

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<v Speaker 3>singing a Neil Young song that they probably were.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, oh, this old racket the new age music.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that part of your brain that stops you from

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<v Speaker 1>doing things just stops working and then you can't your

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<v Speaker 1>your core animalistic tendencies come through.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, Like, Okay, I was thinking about this because I'm

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<v Speaker 3>trying to make a point on stage about how like

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<v Speaker 3>no one can really tell if they're like, you can't

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<v Speaker 3>you can't really predict what your brain is ever gonna do.

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<v Speaker 3>You think you know, but because there's no free will,

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<v Speaker 3>you really don't know what your brain is up to.

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<v Speaker 2>You can only go based on.

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<v Speaker 3>Like how you have behaved in the past, and kind

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<v Speaker 3>of you're gambling all the time with what your brain

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<v Speaker 3>will say. We've all had moments where it's like, what

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<v Speaker 3>if I just screamed something right now that's really fucked

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<v Speaker 3>up and you're like, whoa, The only thing stopping me

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<v Speaker 3>from doing it is doing it, Like it's in my

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<v Speaker 3>brain and like what if I just did it and

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<v Speaker 3>you kind of like freak out unwanted thought syndrome, like,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was I'm trying to prove this point on

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<v Speaker 3>stage that it makes people really uncomfortable. Is that Like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna give away the joke, but it's like,

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<v Speaker 3>you don't know that you wouldn't do this really fucked

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<v Speaker 3>up thing, and I don't know that I wouldn't do

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<v Speaker 3>it either, So I just don't put myself in circumstances

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<v Speaker 3>where I would ever be able to do that thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Even though I know I don't want to do that thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just scared my brain might be like do it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>It's why I don't own a gun. It's why I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>And the one kind of gets it. But the other

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<v Speaker 3>day I was like, I really made a good point.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, and I.

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<v Speaker 3>Kind of didn't steal it from Louis's show, but I

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<v Speaker 3>definitely it's it's it's white popped into my head, and

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<v Speaker 3>I would never give myself credit for thinking of it,

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<v Speaker 3>but yeah, but it's it's kind of it would be

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<v Speaker 3>like I wouldn't be able to put this in anything,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think, but it's.

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<v Speaker 2>A point made. Yes, I was inspired to steal from him.

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<v Speaker 3>I was aspired to do something naughty in front of everyone,

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<v Speaker 3>and so I there's in one of his shows, he's

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<v Speaker 3>with Parker Posey on a date and she runs it.

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<v Speaker 3>They run up to the top of this building and

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<v Speaker 3>she's like on the very ledge.

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<v Speaker 2>Of it, and he's like, what are you doing? Come

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<v Speaker 2>back and she's.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I'm not gonna jump, and he's like, just come back,

0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:11.399
<v Speaker 3>and she's like, but I know how to not move

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<v Speaker 3>an inch over and I trust that I'm not going

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<v Speaker 3>to do it. You don't go over to the edge

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<v Speaker 3>because you don't trust yourself. And I really love that

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<v Speaker 3>moment because it's true, like we all know, like there's

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<v Speaker 3>no way if you're on a building that there's no

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<v Speaker 3>win active wind or anything that you're just gonna like

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<v Speaker 3>fall over the ledge. Yet none of us will even

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<v Speaker 3>get close enough for that to even be a possibility,

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<v Speaker 3>because there's a part of your brain that doesn't trust

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<v Speaker 3>that you just won't right right, or there's a part

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<v Speaker 3>of your brain that doesn't trust that you won't trip

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<v Speaker 3>for the first time, just standing still as if that's

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<v Speaker 3>ever happened to you before. So we all have it

0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:46.800
<v Speaker 3>in us to not trust ourselves, but we when we're

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<v Speaker 3>talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>To not trust yourself that you might trip because that's

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<v Speaker 1>just an accident. You didn't mean to trip. I think

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<v Speaker 1>that that profound Parker Posey moment. I think she's insane.

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<v Speaker 1>She's lacking and she's lacking a fear complex that allows

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<v Speaker 1>her to protect herself.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree Chris does not have that part of his

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<v Speaker 3>brain either. We were in Philly this weekend and okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so Noah, you go to this hotel, You get out

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<v Speaker 3>of the car at the lobby right like the valet,

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<v Speaker 3>you walk in through the valet, and this is the

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<v Speaker 3>Four Seasons in Philly. Very much recommend anyone staying there

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<v Speaker 3>if you have a lot of money to spend and

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<v Speaker 3>you want to go, treat yourself to an amazing hotels.

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<v Speaker 1>Hotel, second best hotel, second past.

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<v Speaker 2>It was my second best hotel too. What was your first?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say the first because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want people to flood it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well we'll save it for interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>That'll be intrusive thoughts. I'll give you my recommendation for

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<v Speaker 1>my best hotel.

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<v Speaker 3>So, so you walk in and then you take an

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<v Speaker 3>elevator to the lobby, which is commonplace. Sometimes the lobby's

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<v Speaker 3>not on the same floor, and you press a button

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<v Speaker 3>and then you go up in the elevator and you're

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<v Speaker 3>not really paying attention to the lobby button. What floor

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<v Speaker 3>it says, And then you shoot up into the sky

0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:03.760
<v Speaker 3>sixty stories six zero and it is so and you

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<v Speaker 3>have it's a clear window looking out on the off

0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:10.760
<v Speaker 3>on Philly, and you're going all the way up. You

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<v Speaker 3>shoot up so fast and it's dizzy ing, and then

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<v Speaker 3>on the way down it almost goes so fast you

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<v Speaker 3>feel like you are falling at the speed of falling,

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<v Speaker 3>like it's slower than falling.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's like it's it gives.

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<v Speaker 1>A remarkable view. It's like Charlie and the Great Glass

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<v Speaker 1>Elevator that book. You really do shoot up into space

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<v Speaker 1>and you're you're just overlooking Philly like you're the like

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<v Speaker 1>you're Movefassa looking over your lamb.

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<v Speaker 3>So cool, and then you go to your room and

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<v Speaker 3>you have to go down from the lobby because your

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<v Speaker 3>room's like room fifty two. But I was like, Chris,

0:20:38.760 --> 0:20:40.359
<v Speaker 3>our room is on this fifty second floor. I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I think this is the highest I've ever sleep slept

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<v Speaker 3>in my life besides in college when that pot but

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<v Speaker 3>I think it was the highest I've ever been sleeping. Like,

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<v Speaker 3>when have I ever slept at that elevation? That's insane?

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<v Speaker 3>The plane, Oh yeah, you got me back door. Well, anyway, Chris,

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<v Speaker 3>on the way down, I was like, do you feel

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<v Speaker 3>anything in your bones, in your body? Is there any

0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:10.040
<v Speaker 3>movement in your stomach? Is there any like tightness in

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<v Speaker 3>your chest? Is there any tingling in your feet, anything

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<v Speaker 3>that you feel when you look down and we're going down,

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<v Speaker 3>And he said nothing, And that is indication to me

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<v Speaker 3>that he doesn't have the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you do you feel? Willie?

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen him do some fearless things that were yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that were like I would never do that. Like remember

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<v Speaker 1>when we were walking from between like the comedy store

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<v Speaker 1>and the Improv or something like that, and that he

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<v Speaker 1>was just walking in like the street, basically in the

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<v Speaker 1>street with.

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<v Speaker 3>His back to traffic. You guys, people do this all

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<v Speaker 3>the time. What is I honestly, what is wrong with you?

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<v Speaker 3>If you if you were walking.

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<v Speaker 2>On a street and you don't have a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>sidewalk space. Even if you have a lot of sidewalk space.

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<v Speaker 3>There are people texting all the time that their car

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<v Speaker 3>will just drove up on the sidewalk or drunk. You guys,

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<v Speaker 3>always always walk with your never walk with your back

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<v Speaker 3>to traffic coming at you. Always on the side so

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<v Speaker 3>that you can see it coming, so that you can

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<v Speaker 3>dart out of the way if it comes at you.

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<v Speaker 3>This is I mean, I can't I can't believe how

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<v Speaker 3>many families I see on Sunset Boulevard walking in a

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<v Speaker 3>construction zone where there is cars going by at forty

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<v Speaker 3>to fifty miles an hour right next to them, with

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<v Speaker 3>no sidewalk and children like I've seen, like families from

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<v Speaker 3>the Midwest with children walking on the side of the road.

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<v Speaker 3>It is the most dangerous thing ever. Please, please, besties,

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<v Speaker 3>please walk on the side of the streets so you

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<v Speaker 3>can face the traffic. Don't ever run if you go running,

0:22:31.200 --> 0:22:33.879
<v Speaker 3>don't ever run with traffic. Don't bike with traffic. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>I guess you have to bike with traffic. But that's

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<v Speaker 3>why I don't bike.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not doing it. I don't want my back to cars.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So every few months there's a story about some

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<v Speaker 1>like professional basketball player who got hit by a car

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<v Speaker 1>biking and now they can't walk, and it's just like.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's is it worth it to bike?

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<v Speaker 3>Is biking that great? But I think it is, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>we gotta go to break. We'll come back after this.

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<v Speaker 2>And Brian has something to say, yes, Brian.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like there are some cities where there's

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<v Speaker 1>a culture of pedestrian confidence that borderlines dangerous, where there's

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<v Speaker 1>there's like I was in Well, I was in Boston

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend, and I just noticed that it was like

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<v Speaker 1>around like the Cambridge, like the college campus areas, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just noticed that every single pedestrian would not like

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<v Speaker 1>look to see like when they cross a crosswalk, they

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't look to see if the car was going to

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<v Speaker 1>actually stop. They would just expect it to stop and

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes not even look. People were just like darting in

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<v Speaker 1>and out of the streets without looking it.

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<v Speaker 3>It does look cool when you aren't like looking both ways, Like,

0:23:40.280 --> 0:23:43.639
<v Speaker 3>there's no question you look cool when you aren't super

0:23:43.680 --> 0:23:47.720
<v Speaker 3>scared and cautious, but is it worth it? Is it

0:23:47.840 --> 0:23:50.280
<v Speaker 3>worth it? Or do you also have your backpack on

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<v Speaker 3>one shoulder? Do you also not wear a seatbelt? Do

0:23:52.720 --> 0:23:55.760
<v Speaker 3>you also not wear a helmet? Like? Is looking cool

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<v Speaker 3>and maybe not scared? Worth you get?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 4>I also think felt like worth it what Brian experienced

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<v Speaker 4>being in like a big city in Boston When I

0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:07.520
<v Speaker 4>used to live in Brooklyn, Like I just got so

0:24:07.720 --> 0:24:10.800
<v Speaker 4>desensitized to everything. I just knew how it worked, and

0:24:10.840 --> 0:24:12.159
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh, I know, I'm not gonna get

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<v Speaker 4>hit by this truck, at least not today.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm actually glad that I left New York City because

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<v Speaker 3>I was starting to get like that.

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<v Speaker 2>My parents would come visit and go, Nikki, what are

0:24:20.400 --> 0:24:20.800
<v Speaker 2>you doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Like and I would just be like the car would

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<v Speaker 3>pass and my nose hair would like there'd be like

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<v Speaker 3>the tiniest hair on my chin would like graize the

0:24:28.480 --> 0:24:30.880
<v Speaker 3>cab that pick came by, And that was okay because

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't get hit by it.

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<v Speaker 2>I knew, I knew how closed I was getting.

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<v Speaker 3>And you're just playing with fire constantly and it's like you're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna get It's almost like how I felt when I

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<v Speaker 3>quit drinking like I would flirt with duys right, like

0:24:42.040 --> 0:24:44.000
<v Speaker 3>you would just go, oh, i've only had one drink

0:24:44.080 --> 0:24:46.639
<v Speaker 3>or two, or it's been enough hours since my third

0:24:46.760 --> 0:24:51.000
<v Speaker 3>drink that and just I was getting just a little

0:24:51.000 --> 0:24:52.080
<v Speaker 3>bit too brazen.

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<v Speaker 2>And then that's when you get fucking caught.

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<v Speaker 3>And also, I I know I'm gonna have to die someday.

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<v Speaker 3>I just don't to go in a miserable way. And

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<v Speaker 3>can I just say that getting hit by a car

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<v Speaker 3>while you're on a bike or walking is a terrible,

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<v Speaker 3>mangled way to die. It's just you don't want to

0:25:11.520 --> 0:25:15.400
<v Speaker 3>go that way. Take risks elsewhere, smoke cigarettes, I don't care.

0:25:15.520 --> 0:25:18.560
<v Speaker 3>Like that's like that's shitty too, but at least it's

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<v Speaker 3>not like your bones are all twisted and like all

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<v Speaker 3>like it's just I'm sorry if this is triggering anyone

0:25:24.680 --> 0:25:26.600
<v Speaker 3>who lost someone in that kind of way, but it's

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<v Speaker 3>just it's just think about the way you want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Fault you don't want to go. I read a story

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<v Speaker 1>like there was this man who was just like crossing

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<v Speaker 1>the street to go to his car to go to work.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like six o'clock in the morning, and someone

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<v Speaker 1>just blew through a light and killed them. Yeah, and

0:25:42.760 --> 0:25:45.520
<v Speaker 1>it's like, what do you You just can't avoid it sometimes,

0:25:45.680 --> 0:25:46.400
<v Speaker 1>But that's why you.

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<v Speaker 3>Look both ways all the time if you're being as

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<v Speaker 3>conscious as you can be.

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<v Speaker 2>There was a guy. Have you ever seen the picture?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I'm on Reddit and I see last images

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<v Speaker 3>all the time of people and there's one that always

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<v Speaker 3>comes up, and it's a man who lost his life.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it was last year.

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<v Speaker 3>He saw a group of ducklings crossing the road and

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<v Speaker 3>he wanted to help safely get them there, and his

0:26:07.520 --> 0:26:10.280
<v Speaker 3>daughter was filming him, like, be cute with these ducklings.

0:26:10.640 --> 0:26:13.359
<v Speaker 3>And you see the car that runs over him and

0:26:13.440 --> 0:26:17.440
<v Speaker 3>kills him as it's turning and blowing through this stoplight.

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<v Speaker 3>When you see it in the picture that she took

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<v Speaker 3>of her dad, and he's like shuffling these little ducklings,

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<v Speaker 3>so cute, and you know what happened next. It's obviously

0:26:25.119 --> 0:26:28.600
<v Speaker 3>the last image because that's the subreddit. But it's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes you're just at the wrong place at the wrong time,

0:26:31.280 --> 0:26:34.920
<v Speaker 3>and it's just you gotta watch my old ass because

0:26:34.920 --> 0:26:37.960
<v Speaker 3>you're gonna learn that you just gotta enjoy everything while

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<v Speaker 3>you have it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then you get hit by the car and

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<v Speaker 1>you're mangled. Then the person comes out and trips and

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<v Speaker 1>falls on top of you and starts kissing you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I was actually thinking this weekend because someone asked

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<v Speaker 3>me if I'd ever fainted, and when I did, I

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<v Speaker 3>fainted once in my life. And when I fainted, I

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<v Speaker 3>had like a dream and it was awesome, like and

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<v Speaker 3>my body was going through shock, and it was like

0:27:00.560 --> 0:27:02.679
<v Speaker 3>my body was passing out, so my body was not healthy,

0:27:02.720 --> 0:27:05.399
<v Speaker 3>but like I went to a really awesome place in

0:27:05.400 --> 0:27:07.800
<v Speaker 3>my brain. And so I was thinking last night on

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<v Speaker 3>my drive home from my parents because the roads were

0:27:09.960 --> 0:27:12.040
<v Speaker 3>slick and I sometimes let my mind wander, like what

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<v Speaker 3>if something happens, I'm like, I hope that I just

0:27:14.200 --> 0:27:16.360
<v Speaker 3>go to the same place that I did the last time.

0:27:16.359 --> 0:27:18.520
<v Speaker 3>My body was like, we need to shut down. Like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in an ocean and I'm floating and the waves

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<v Speaker 3>are lapping up and I'm just like and then I

0:27:24.520 --> 0:27:27.040
<v Speaker 3>wake up and I'm like, you know, it's there's this

0:27:27.080 --> 0:27:29.200
<v Speaker 3>fucking tube down my throat and stuff that would be horrifying,

0:27:29.240 --> 0:27:31.440
<v Speaker 3>But at least I hope that when I go, it's

0:27:31.480 --> 0:27:34.360
<v Speaker 3>like a very peaceful like I I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Not with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, some say that that's the purpose of DMT releasing

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<v Speaker 1>in your brain and so that it calms you and

0:27:41.160 --> 0:27:44.000
<v Speaker 1>puts you in a place where you don't even care

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<v Speaker 1>what's happening, right right, I mean some also say that

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<v Speaker 1>that's like your transition into the next dimension. But I

0:27:51.240 --> 0:27:53.480
<v Speaker 1>think more or so, it's just like a you know,

0:27:53.520 --> 0:27:56.960
<v Speaker 1>a chemical response to death that allows the body to

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<v Speaker 1>It is evolutionarily important for us to die so that

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<v Speaker 1>we can continue reproducing and having our genes advance to

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<v Speaker 1>be more appropriate for the you know, the nature. So

0:28:10.480 --> 0:28:12.240
<v Speaker 1>if you don't die, then you just have a bunch

0:28:12.280 --> 0:28:15.040
<v Speaker 1>of like obsolete people walking around. So there is a

0:28:15.320 --> 0:28:20.679
<v Speaker 1>reason for nature to provide a calming effect for you

0:28:20.840 --> 0:28:25.000
<v Speaker 1>to accept death when it happens. Otherwise we'd have these

0:28:25.359 --> 0:28:28.119
<v Speaker 1>you know people the iPhone threes walking around.

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<v Speaker 3>But maybe Brian, it's because death is peaceful and it's

0:28:32.160 --> 0:28:34.480
<v Speaker 3>a good thing, and it's maybe it's not lying to

0:28:34.560 --> 0:28:36.960
<v Speaker 3>you and anesthetizing you from the horror of it. Maybe

0:28:36.960 --> 0:28:39.080
<v Speaker 3>it actually is good and that is what you're feeling

0:28:39.200 --> 0:28:40.080
<v Speaker 3>is like a good thing.

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<v Speaker 4>So is that why, I guess like a part of

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<v Speaker 4>it if someone dies like abruptly, like gets hit by

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:49.160
<v Speaker 4>a car. I mean, that's why it's so tragic, because

0:28:49.160 --> 0:28:51.040
<v Speaker 4>they didn't really have the chance to do all that.

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:52.280
<v Speaker 1>NAT hit at the end.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know, I think that's the kind of the

0:28:55.240 --> 0:28:56.880
<v Speaker 3>way I want to go. There is a part of

0:28:56.880 --> 0:28:59.720
<v Speaker 3>me that does want that d MT release before I go,

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<v Speaker 3>because I've heard of it and it would be nice

0:29:01.600 --> 0:29:03.920
<v Speaker 3>to know, like, oh, this is the end. But there's

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<v Speaker 3>also a part of me that just wants a bridge

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<v Speaker 3>to fall on me because it's like the fastest or

0:29:08.360 --> 0:29:10.280
<v Speaker 3>like to be in a submarine and go, you know,

0:29:10.400 --> 0:29:10.960
<v Speaker 3>really quick.

0:29:11.040 --> 0:29:13.320
<v Speaker 2>But apparently in that submarine.

0:29:12.840 --> 0:29:15.480
<v Speaker 3>It wasn't that quick, and I was probably really horrified,

0:29:15.680 --> 0:29:18.160
<v Speaker 3>and they probably just sunk and sunk and sunk until

0:29:18.160 --> 0:29:19.040
<v Speaker 3>it finally was like.

0:29:20.360 --> 0:29:24.040
<v Speaker 4>And dying with other people, like watching them panic and stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>No thanks, I'd be like, calm down, we don't you

0:29:28.080 --> 0:29:29.560
<v Speaker 3>guys know we had to do this eventually.

0:29:29.600 --> 0:29:30.840
<v Speaker 2>I would be like the one.

0:29:33.320 --> 0:29:35.440
<v Speaker 3>I always have wanted to work on a joke about

0:29:35.480 --> 0:29:38.640
<v Speaker 3>being in a plane crash and trying to figure out

0:29:38.680 --> 0:29:41.280
<v Speaker 3>how to get on the Boingo Wi Fi to say

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<v Speaker 3>good by to my parents and having to like think

0:29:43.760 --> 0:29:46.480
<v Speaker 3>of like change my password and like enter a new password.

0:29:46.520 --> 0:29:48.720
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, they're not matching, and I'm jostling around, like,

0:29:48.840 --> 0:29:52.280
<v Speaker 3>oh god, I already used that fucking dead dog's name. Okay,

0:29:52.280 --> 0:29:54.760
<v Speaker 3>I'll do a question mark and an exclamation point, like

0:29:55.120 --> 0:29:57.680
<v Speaker 3>how you have to like click like the accept cookies

0:29:57.760 --> 0:29:59.560
<v Speaker 3>and like all the things, and like you look at

0:29:59.560 --> 0:30:02.320
<v Speaker 3>their entertainment and you're like, Okay, should I use my

0:30:02.600 --> 0:30:04.520
<v Speaker 3>status or should I just buy it? And you go

0:30:04.920 --> 0:30:08.400
<v Speaker 3>eight dollars and it's like it's that would be just

0:30:08.400 --> 0:30:10.480
<v Speaker 3>as such a funny panic as you're trying to say

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<v Speaker 3>goodbye and you just go, I guess I'm just not

0:30:12.440 --> 0:30:16.240
<v Speaker 3>gonna like I guess I'm just not gonna finny.

0:30:16.320 --> 0:30:18.440
<v Speaker 1>Nine dollars for a flight passes a lot to ask

0:30:18.560 --> 0:30:20.360
<v Speaker 1>to just say good bye to your family.

0:30:20.800 --> 0:30:23.280
<v Speaker 2>It's my mom. I know that my mom would not

0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:24.480
<v Speaker 2>want it that way.

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<v Speaker 3>Nikki, listen. I told my last I told my parents

0:30:30.360 --> 0:30:32.480
<v Speaker 3>last night or two nights ago. We were at dinner

0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:34.280
<v Speaker 3>and I was like, if I die tragically, will you

0:30:34.320 --> 0:30:37.000
<v Speaker 3>please please be generous with my money as I am

0:30:37.040 --> 0:30:39.200
<v Speaker 3>with my Like I don't want it. I sometimes worry

0:30:39.200 --> 0:30:41.560
<v Speaker 3>that you guys are gonna get it and then you'll

0:30:41.560 --> 0:30:43.760
<v Speaker 3>be weird about it and then you'll just die with

0:30:43.800 --> 0:30:45.719
<v Speaker 3>it because you'll be like, we're not doing and I

0:30:45.800 --> 0:30:48.560
<v Speaker 3>just want you to try to think like me in

0:30:48.920 --> 0:30:52.120
<v Speaker 3>your generosity with it and helping family and friends. And

0:30:52.160 --> 0:30:54.160
<v Speaker 3>they go, well, we're not getting anything. You gave it

0:30:54.200 --> 0:30:56.240
<v Speaker 3>all to Lauren, and I go because I just trust

0:30:56.360 --> 0:30:57.920
<v Speaker 3>her to be more generous than you are. And there

0:30:57.960 --> 0:31:00.040
<v Speaker 3>she was like, there's no guarantee she'll give it to

0:31:00.280 --> 0:31:02.560
<v Speaker 3>and I was like, then we got into a fight

0:31:02.600 --> 0:31:04.440
<v Speaker 3>about my money and what my sister's gonna do. It

0:31:04.480 --> 0:31:07.320
<v Speaker 3>was like this whole thing that so I gotta get

0:31:07.360 --> 0:31:09.240
<v Speaker 3>back in there and and make sure it all goes

0:31:09.240 --> 0:31:11.960
<v Speaker 3>to like I don't know, Pia or something that really

0:31:11.960 --> 0:31:15.800
<v Speaker 3>pissed them off. But but I was, Uh, what was

0:31:15.840 --> 0:31:19.680
<v Speaker 3>I gonna say? Oh, we were talking about Yeah, I've

0:31:19.680 --> 0:31:22.280
<v Speaker 3>just been hanging out with my parents so much and

0:31:22.320 --> 0:31:24.840
<v Speaker 3>it's been really fun. We've been having lots of laughs

0:31:24.840 --> 0:31:27.280
<v Speaker 3>and we oh, we watched the Martha Stewart Stewart documentary

0:31:27.360 --> 0:31:27.720
<v Speaker 3>last night.

0:31:28.000 --> 0:31:30.120
<v Speaker 2>Oh what did you think of that? Did you watch it?

0:31:30.240 --> 0:31:30.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:31:30.480 --> 0:31:32.800
<v Speaker 4>Noah, I saw the trailer for it and it actually

0:31:32.840 --> 0:31:33.680
<v Speaker 4>looks good.

0:31:34.080 --> 0:31:34.920
<v Speaker 2>It's it's good.

0:31:35.080 --> 0:31:37.120
<v Speaker 3>I was like, kind of not wanting to watch it

0:31:37.160 --> 0:31:41.200
<v Speaker 3>because I thought, oh, here's another documentary produced by the

0:31:41.240 --> 0:31:45.200
<v Speaker 3>person it's about. It's gonna be a fluff piece or

0:31:45.280 --> 0:31:48.440
<v Speaker 3>what you know, and it's it's it's it's very revealing

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:51.840
<v Speaker 3>of her and of what she wanted to reveal, obviously, but.

0:31:51.800 --> 0:31:52.560
<v Speaker 2>It's I thought.

0:31:52.560 --> 0:31:53.800
<v Speaker 3>I felt like it was kind of like the j

0:31:53.960 --> 0:31:57.600
<v Speaker 3>LO documentaries where I was like, Okay, well, she could

0:31:57.600 --> 0:31:59.280
<v Speaker 3>have taken a lot of stuff out that I would

0:31:59.320 --> 0:32:01.400
<v Speaker 3>have been like, yeah, I could. I could have seen

0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:03.120
<v Speaker 3>someone taking that out if they were in charge of

0:32:03.120 --> 0:32:05.320
<v Speaker 3>their own documentary, and she didn't. She left some stuff in,

0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:08.360
<v Speaker 3>and she surrendered all these letters that she had written

0:32:08.360 --> 0:32:10.640
<v Speaker 3>her husband who cheated on her, that were very revealing,

0:32:11.120 --> 0:32:15.080
<v Speaker 3>and one of them she was like, she was flying

0:32:15.160 --> 0:32:18.960
<v Speaker 3>somewhere after her husband's leaving her and she's telling him

0:32:18.960 --> 0:32:22.080
<v Speaker 3>I can't eat, I can't sleep. I'm forty years old.

0:32:22.240 --> 0:32:24.800
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, this should be the prime of my life.

0:32:24.920 --> 0:32:28.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm a beautiful, amazing woman, and I want to die.

0:32:28.400 --> 0:32:30.440
<v Speaker 3>I hope this plane crashes, and it's just like her

0:32:30.480 --> 0:32:33.200
<v Speaker 3>writing I hope this plane crashes, and I'm instantly getting

0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:35.120
<v Speaker 3>out my phone to take a picture to send a

0:32:35.160 --> 0:32:37.560
<v Speaker 3>girls Chat, because I've sent that exact line, like probably

0:32:37.600 --> 0:32:39.480
<v Speaker 3>a thirty times to girls Chat when I'm in a

0:32:39.520 --> 0:32:43.480
<v Speaker 3>depressive mood and and my mom goes, Nikki, she sounds

0:32:43.480 --> 0:32:45.160
<v Speaker 3>like you, and I go, I was just getting my

0:32:45.280 --> 0:32:47.720
<v Speaker 3>phone out, like I go, when have I told you that?

0:32:47.840 --> 0:32:50.440
<v Speaker 2>So it was just I felt, really, it felt really.

0:32:50.200 --> 0:32:55.400
<v Speaker 3>Good to see someone as you know, perfect in quotes,

0:32:55.520 --> 0:32:58.240
<v Speaker 3>because I didn't ever look at Martha Stewart as perfect.

0:32:58.320 --> 0:32:59.800
<v Speaker 3>But that's kind of what the theme of the whole

0:32:59.840 --> 0:33:03.240
<v Speaker 3>movie is, is that she was seen as this perfect person.

0:33:03.720 --> 0:33:09.960
<v Speaker 1>That uct like going to jail and stuff. Yes, totally maker.

0:33:10.480 --> 0:33:13.680
<v Speaker 3>James Comy, James fucking Comy, who's the reason Trump won

0:33:13.720 --> 0:33:15.800
<v Speaker 3>in the fucking first place, because he was the one

0:33:15.840 --> 0:33:19.800
<v Speaker 3>that did the Hillary bullshit and made us all think

0:33:19.840 --> 0:33:22.120
<v Speaker 3>but her emails, that was all James coming. So he's

0:33:22.120 --> 0:33:24.480
<v Speaker 3>a part of this and he prosecutes her, and she's

0:33:24.680 --> 0:33:27.040
<v Speaker 3>just they want to get her so bad because you

0:33:27.240 --> 0:33:29.240
<v Speaker 3>just they explored in the thing and they go because

0:33:29.280 --> 0:33:30.960
<v Speaker 3>you want to see someone perfect fall.

0:33:31.040 --> 0:33:33.880
<v Speaker 2>People love it. People love it, And I'll.

0:33:33.720 --> 0:33:36.160
<v Speaker 3>Admit, I fucking love when someone who has just had

0:33:36.200 --> 0:33:38.280
<v Speaker 3>it all seems to not and lose some of it.

0:33:38.280 --> 0:33:41.200
<v Speaker 3>It's the best feeling in the world. It's a disgusting feeling.

0:33:41.280 --> 0:33:44.040
<v Speaker 3>But I like that they focus on that because we

0:33:44.120 --> 0:33:45.840
<v Speaker 3>all have it, and I think that people don't admit

0:33:46.080 --> 0:33:50.240
<v Speaker 3>they hate. Yeah, it comes from insecurity. If you're secure

0:33:50.240 --> 0:33:52.880
<v Speaker 3>with yourself, you don't care at all what other people

0:33:53.040 --> 0:33:55.040
<v Speaker 3>are doing or is going on with them. It's just

0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:58.520
<v Speaker 3>it's you know, when when you have when you feel

0:33:58.520 --> 0:34:01.800
<v Speaker 3>good about yourself, you really don't don't You just don't care.

0:34:01.920 --> 0:34:05.360
<v Speaker 3>That's such a good sign of someone's mental health, when

0:34:05.400 --> 0:34:09.400
<v Speaker 3>they're not like wanting to gossip or relish in someone

0:34:09.400 --> 0:34:13.680
<v Speaker 3>else's misfortune when they do, you you don't like yourself

0:34:13.800 --> 0:34:16.560
<v Speaker 3>and any you can't. You can't convince me otherwise. There's

0:34:16.600 --> 0:34:19.440
<v Speaker 3>just no way you do. And that's okay because I'm

0:34:19.520 --> 0:34:25.319
<v Speaker 3>the same way. But Martha Stewart was, Uh, she's fascinating

0:34:25.440 --> 0:34:29.680
<v Speaker 3>and she is very masculine, very very masculine. Noah, there's

0:34:29.680 --> 0:34:32.680
<v Speaker 3>a part in it where she's talking about like being

0:34:32.680 --> 0:34:37.799
<v Speaker 3>in relationships, and I forget what they what gets into it,

0:34:37.840 --> 0:34:42.520
<v Speaker 3>but they say something like, you know, how did he

0:34:44.600 --> 0:34:46.840
<v Speaker 3>It was something about a boyfriend she had and she

0:34:46.960 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 3>was like, you know, we just hang out I'm not

0:34:49.320 --> 0:34:52.080
<v Speaker 3>interested in how he's feeling. I'm not interested in how

0:34:52.120 --> 0:34:55.040
<v Speaker 3>anyone's feeling. I'm interested in how what he thinks. And

0:34:55.080 --> 0:34:59.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh, so she's playing the feminine energy well

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:03.880
<v Speaker 3>like she's being in relationships, even though she is a

0:35:03.920 --> 0:35:08.080
<v Speaker 3>masculine energy completely in her day to day life and

0:35:08.160 --> 0:35:09.400
<v Speaker 3>her professional life.

0:35:09.600 --> 0:35:11.560
<v Speaker 2>She you don't know this about mother to it she

0:35:11.600 --> 0:35:12.960
<v Speaker 2>was she started out as.

0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:16.759
<v Speaker 3>A model because she was Yeah she got scouted as

0:35:16.800 --> 0:35:17.520
<v Speaker 3>a model or not.

0:35:18.280 --> 0:35:19.680
<v Speaker 1>I know her as an old felon.

0:35:20.239 --> 0:35:21.120
<v Speaker 2>I was just gonna.

0:35:20.920 --> 0:35:24.200
<v Speaker 4>Say, you you forget that she was young and looked different,

0:35:24.200 --> 0:35:25.680
<v Speaker 4>like her hair was different than it does.

0:35:27.080 --> 0:35:30.160
<v Speaker 3>She's beautiful, she looks like herself, though I think she's

0:35:30.200 --> 0:35:33.640
<v Speaker 3>aged exactly like how she should like. She's still stunning.

0:35:33.640 --> 0:35:37.479
<v Speaker 3>But she was a bottle. And then don't even don't

0:35:37.520 --> 0:35:40.640
<v Speaker 3>even sleep on this, Brian. She then goes and says,

0:35:40.719 --> 0:35:43.560
<v Speaker 3>I want to work on Wall Street and is one

0:35:43.600 --> 0:35:47.080
<v Speaker 3>of the only men at this Wall Street firm or

0:35:47.080 --> 0:35:49.160
<v Speaker 3>whatever they're called that doesn't even have a women's room

0:35:49.480 --> 0:35:51.960
<v Speaker 3>where the office is because there's no women who work there.

0:35:52.239 --> 0:35:56.160
<v Speaker 3>She's one of the only brokers at this and she

0:35:56.400 --> 0:35:57.000
<v Speaker 3>is killing it.

0:35:57.040 --> 0:35:58.160
<v Speaker 2>But then there's like kind.

0:35:57.960 --> 0:36:02.600
<v Speaker 3>Of a stock that really falls and fails miserably. And

0:36:02.640 --> 0:36:04.600
<v Speaker 3>she felt so bad about losing her client's money that

0:36:04.640 --> 0:36:06.239
<v Speaker 3>she kind of got out of it. And then she

0:36:06.239 --> 0:36:08.040
<v Speaker 3>got married because she just thought that's what you're supposed

0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:09.480
<v Speaker 3>to do. And then she had a baby because she

0:36:09.480 --> 0:36:11.440
<v Speaker 3>thought this is what you're supposed to do. And she

0:36:11.680 --> 0:36:13.759
<v Speaker 3>said being a mother did not come naturally to me

0:36:13.960 --> 0:36:16.000
<v Speaker 3>at all. I thought it was supposed to come naturally.

0:36:16.080 --> 0:36:18.040
<v Speaker 3>I just didn't really get a lot of affection from

0:36:18.040 --> 0:36:20.840
<v Speaker 3>my mother. I didn't really care about my daughter's feelings.

0:36:21.040 --> 0:36:22.880
<v Speaker 2>My mom didn't hug me enough. I probably didn't hug my.

0:36:22.920 --> 0:36:27.600
<v Speaker 3>Daughter enough, and I just didn't like I thought real

0:36:27.680 --> 0:36:30.360
<v Speaker 3>It really resonated with me because if I was having

0:36:30.360 --> 0:36:31.759
<v Speaker 3>to be a mother, that's the kind of mother I

0:36:31.760 --> 0:36:34.279
<v Speaker 3>would be. Like if I lived in Martha Stewart's day

0:36:34.280 --> 0:36:35.759
<v Speaker 3>and age, where you just that's what you do and

0:36:35.800 --> 0:36:37.840
<v Speaker 3>there's no other options, I would have totally had a

0:36:37.920 --> 0:36:42.360
<v Speaker 3>kid and felt like why do I This isn't this

0:36:42.400 --> 0:36:43.440
<v Speaker 3>is supposed to come naturally.

0:36:43.480 --> 0:36:43.960
<v Speaker 2>Why isn't.

0:36:44.000 --> 0:36:47.080
<v Speaker 3>I could just see myself like in that a lot,

0:36:47.120 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 3>and I'm just so grateful that I live in a

0:36:48.680 --> 0:36:51.120
<v Speaker 3>time where I can explore other options, because I don't

0:36:51.120 --> 0:36:53.359
<v Speaker 3>think she would have had kids if she didn't live

0:36:53.400 --> 0:36:56.200
<v Speaker 3>in that time. It seemed to be in the way

0:36:56.680 --> 0:37:00.719
<v Speaker 3>for her. And then she totally rehabbed this house after

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:03.680
<v Speaker 3>she got married to this rich guy who was like

0:37:03.719 --> 0:37:06.279
<v Speaker 3>in publishing music publishing. She got married to him, she

0:37:06.320 --> 0:37:08.640
<v Speaker 3>rehabbed this house and got into like and her dad

0:37:09.640 --> 0:37:15.560
<v Speaker 3>was really stern and strict, alcoholic, abusive, verbally, emotionally, even

0:37:15.600 --> 0:37:18.040
<v Speaker 3>though she was his favorite. And she learned gardening from

0:37:18.120 --> 0:37:20.560
<v Speaker 3>him because they would just have to garden as kids,

0:37:20.560 --> 0:37:24.000
<v Speaker 3>because they would sell fruits and vegetables to get other

0:37:24.040 --> 0:37:26.120
<v Speaker 3>food because they didn't have money because they had like

0:37:26.160 --> 0:37:27.399
<v Speaker 3>six kids and they were poor.

0:37:28.280 --> 0:37:29.320
<v Speaker 2>So she learned how to garden.

0:37:29.920 --> 0:37:32.040
<v Speaker 3>And then she also went on a honeymoon for six

0:37:32.080 --> 0:37:35.640
<v Speaker 3>months with her husband, where she toured museums and learned

0:37:35.680 --> 0:37:39.279
<v Speaker 3>all about just different the European way of doing it.

0:37:39.320 --> 0:37:41.840
<v Speaker 3>And in the sixties in America, there was no taste,

0:37:41.880 --> 0:37:44.480
<v Speaker 3>like it was all canned vegetables. It was just like

0:37:44.520 --> 0:37:47.880
<v Speaker 3>putting soup cans like cream of mushroom on top of asparagus,

0:37:47.880 --> 0:37:50.680
<v Speaker 3>and that was like or putting up pineapple and like

0:37:50.760 --> 0:37:54.080
<v Speaker 3>a cherry on a chicken and then that's like you know,

0:37:54.120 --> 0:37:58.400
<v Speaker 3>better homes and gardens like just jellow molds of bullshit.

0:37:58.520 --> 0:38:02.560
<v Speaker 3>Like it was just tasteless garbage, boiling vegetables.

0:38:02.600 --> 0:38:03.320
<v Speaker 2>Everything was gross.

0:38:03.520 --> 0:38:05.080
<v Speaker 3>And she went to Europe and was like, I had

0:38:05.120 --> 0:38:07.480
<v Speaker 3>never tasted in olive that wasn't like green with a

0:38:08.080 --> 0:38:10.680
<v Speaker 3>machine or like one of the pimento in the middle.

0:38:10.719 --> 0:38:13.080
<v Speaker 3>Like she was like, it just expanded my horizons. And

0:38:13.120 --> 0:38:16.560
<v Speaker 3>then she started a catering business and just really adapted

0:38:16.560 --> 0:38:18.160
<v Speaker 3>what she had learned in that six month trip in

0:38:18.200 --> 0:38:19.839
<v Speaker 3>Europe and like.

0:38:20.200 --> 0:38:22.320
<v Speaker 2>Started this business.

0:38:22.520 --> 0:38:25.880
<v Speaker 3>And then she like started you know, and then she

0:38:25.960 --> 0:38:29.880
<v Speaker 3>got a deal with kmart to like do you know

0:38:29.920 --> 0:38:32.799
<v Speaker 3>cookware and stuff because she had made enough appearances on

0:38:32.880 --> 0:38:36.120
<v Speaker 3>TV Today's show, different talk shows, and she was kind

0:38:36.120 --> 0:38:37.719
<v Speaker 3>of getting a name for being like this, you know,

0:38:39.040 --> 0:38:39.840
<v Speaker 3>to go from.

0:38:39.640 --> 0:38:42.400
<v Speaker 1>Being a starting I can understand how someone might start

0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:44.640
<v Speaker 1>a catering company, then how do you go from.

0:38:44.560 --> 0:38:47.920
<v Speaker 3>Started catering for rich people and then had that lead

0:38:48.680 --> 0:38:51.680
<v Speaker 3>famous She just started being friends with billionaires and rich

0:38:51.719 --> 0:38:53.799
<v Speaker 3>people and she started just being like a caterer to

0:38:53.840 --> 0:38:55.919
<v Speaker 3>the fame to famous people. So then she started getting

0:38:55.960 --> 0:38:59.839
<v Speaker 3>TV appearances just by like people her being in these

0:38:59.880 --> 0:39:02.040
<v Speaker 3>like kind of circles. She was like, that's how I

0:39:02.080 --> 0:39:03.880
<v Speaker 3>that's when I learned how to act around billionaires.

0:39:04.120 --> 0:39:05.879
<v Speaker 2>She was like, it's very rare in the sixties to be.

0:39:05.800 --> 0:39:10.080
<v Speaker 3>A billionaire, and I learned how to behave myself and

0:39:10.080 --> 0:39:13.319
<v Speaker 3>and she was very popular and just really social and

0:39:13.360 --> 0:39:15.400
<v Speaker 3>like just knew how to work the system.

0:39:15.760 --> 0:39:17.919
<v Speaker 1>How do you act around a billionaire? Did she say how?

0:39:18.239 --> 0:39:22.280
<v Speaker 3>She didn't say, but I'm guessing it's just you dress

0:39:22.480 --> 0:39:27.840
<v Speaker 3>immaculately and you are feminine but kind of a badass

0:39:27.880 --> 0:39:29.880
<v Speaker 3>and kind of don't give them too much and always

0:39:29.920 --> 0:39:32.400
<v Speaker 3>leave them wanting more and wondering does she even like me?

0:39:33.239 --> 0:39:38.880
<v Speaker 3>And and not being too sycophanic, and yeah, I don't know.

0:39:39.200 --> 0:39:40.600
<v Speaker 2>She's being a challenging.

0:39:40.880 --> 0:39:43.280
<v Speaker 4>Cultured and just like knowing a lot about like food

0:39:43.320 --> 0:39:46.240
<v Speaker 4>and all that. That's that's probably very impressive for cover.

0:39:46.120 --> 0:39:48.839
<v Speaker 3>Really well read a right, she wrote a journaled all

0:39:48.880 --> 0:39:52.440
<v Speaker 3>the time. She just is so cool and then and

0:39:52.480 --> 0:39:55.280
<v Speaker 3>then that goes into the whole scandal and then her comeback.

0:39:55.360 --> 0:39:58.920
<v Speaker 3>But when she started doing things at kmart, okay, she

0:39:59.080 --> 0:40:02.200
<v Speaker 3>was like the a list. Like most she was kind

0:40:02.200 --> 0:40:07.359
<v Speaker 3>of like the Anna win tour of home and food, right,

0:40:07.560 --> 0:40:09.520
<v Speaker 3>But then she did a deal with Kmart, and she

0:40:09.719 --> 0:40:13.000
<v Speaker 3>like lost work because they were like, that is we

0:40:13.000 --> 0:40:14.240
<v Speaker 3>don't want to that's low class.

0:40:14.320 --> 0:40:15.440
<v Speaker 2>Kmart's low class.

0:40:15.480 --> 0:40:18.799
<v Speaker 3>And she was like, well, actually, people at Kmart, just

0:40:18.800 --> 0:40:20.640
<v Speaker 3>because you're poor doesn't mean you don't have taste. And

0:40:20.680 --> 0:40:23.600
<v Speaker 3>so she appealed to seventy five million people who shop

0:40:23.640 --> 0:40:28.840
<v Speaker 3>at kmart weekly and was just uh, became a billionaire

0:40:28.880 --> 0:40:32.200
<v Speaker 3>from it. And then she lost a billion dollars after

0:40:32.320 --> 0:40:34.680
<v Speaker 3>her scandal, which was such bullshit.

0:40:34.800 --> 0:40:38.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't really understand what her a billion over a

0:40:38.080 --> 0:40:39.640
<v Speaker 2>billion dollars and.

0:40:39.600 --> 0:40:42.399
<v Speaker 1>Her scandal, wait, what was the scandal on her own?

0:40:42.520 --> 0:40:46.080
<v Speaker 3>And she got a tip to sell some stock that

0:40:46.280 --> 0:40:48.280
<v Speaker 3>amounted to about like I think it was around thirty

0:40:48.320 --> 0:40:51.799
<v Speaker 3>thousand dollars that she saved by selling that stock, so

0:40:51.840 --> 0:40:56.879
<v Speaker 3>it was like nothing to her billionaire and and it was.

0:40:57.360 --> 0:40:57.839
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was.

0:40:57.920 --> 0:40:59.359
<v Speaker 3>I was kind of on my phone during that part

0:40:59.360 --> 0:41:01.680
<v Speaker 3>because I didn't care. But apparently it was a hit job.

0:41:01.800 --> 0:41:03.880
<v Speaker 3>It was just to take her down, and they pretty

0:41:03.920 --> 0:41:06.919
<v Speaker 3>much wanted this guy who she apparently got the tip

0:41:06.960 --> 0:41:08.319
<v Speaker 3>from to sell her out and he was like, I

0:41:08.320 --> 0:41:10.960
<v Speaker 3>didn't give her a tip, I didn't, and he could have.

0:41:11.280 --> 0:41:14.000
<v Speaker 3>Really he went to jail, and they were even going

0:41:14.040 --> 0:41:15.800
<v Speaker 3>to do a deal with him where he would avoid

0:41:15.840 --> 0:41:17.920
<v Speaker 3>jail time if he just threw Martha under the bus,

0:41:17.960 --> 0:41:22.640
<v Speaker 3>and he refused to do it, and so she eventually

0:41:22.640 --> 0:41:25.040
<v Speaker 3>did go to jail for one hundred and fifty two days.

0:41:25.040 --> 0:41:27.879
<v Speaker 3>And it's I know, it sounds like I'm giving away

0:41:27.920 --> 0:41:30.200
<v Speaker 3>everything in the documentary. I'm not at all like her

0:41:30.360 --> 0:41:35.400
<v Speaker 3>prison fascinating. It's yeah, yeah, I know what happened, but

0:41:35.520 --> 0:41:40.439
<v Speaker 3>she's just such a fascinating person and I really admire her.

0:41:40.600 --> 0:41:42.640
<v Speaker 2>And I think she's so.

0:41:43.840 --> 0:41:47.760
<v Speaker 1>Thought like public image that she lost a billion dollars

0:41:47.760 --> 0:41:48.640
<v Speaker 1>in profits.

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:50.000
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it wasn't like it.

0:41:51.080 --> 0:41:54.480
<v Speaker 3>No, it was her public image. Her stock tanked, both

0:41:54.520 --> 0:41:58.480
<v Speaker 3>like figuratively and literally. And when she did the roast

0:41:58.640 --> 0:42:00.000
<v Speaker 3>of Bruce willis that I was.

0:42:00.280 --> 0:42:01.480
<v Speaker 2>I think that's the one that she was on.

0:42:02.320 --> 0:42:05.399
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I didn't really know her whole story. I think

0:42:05.440 --> 0:42:07.600
<v Speaker 3>I like obviously did research and found out some stuff,

0:42:07.600 --> 0:42:10.400
<v Speaker 3>But I had a joke about her being like my

0:42:10.480 --> 0:42:12.520
<v Speaker 3>mom learned so much from her about like how to

0:42:12.560 --> 0:42:14.719
<v Speaker 3>be cold to her daughter and stuff like that, And

0:42:14.840 --> 0:42:17.800
<v Speaker 3>I think I just assumed that because I didn't think

0:42:17.840 --> 0:42:20.120
<v Speaker 3>there was any evidence of that when I was researching,

0:42:20.239 --> 0:42:21.560
<v Speaker 3>but damn I was spot on.

0:42:21.800 --> 0:42:24.719
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, and my mom obviously resent such joke.

0:42:24.760 --> 0:42:29.400
<v Speaker 2>But because my mom is not, they have similarities and

0:42:29.440 --> 0:42:29.920
<v Speaker 2>it's not ter.

0:42:30.200 --> 0:42:31.759
<v Speaker 3>I would have been a cold mother too, And not

0:42:31.800 --> 0:42:35.080
<v Speaker 3>that my mom was cold, it just wasn't like she

0:42:35.160 --> 0:42:37.040
<v Speaker 3>wasn't as like get on the ground and play with

0:42:37.120 --> 0:42:39.319
<v Speaker 3>us as my dad was. And that's why I've always said,

0:42:39.360 --> 0:42:40.880
<v Speaker 3>if I have kids, I need to be with a

0:42:40.920 --> 0:42:43.879
<v Speaker 3>man who's like, like wants to play with kids all

0:42:43.920 --> 0:42:47.880
<v Speaker 3>the time, not like a creepy wit like a Chris Pratt.

0:42:48.640 --> 0:42:50.719
<v Speaker 2>From Port Yes.

0:42:51.239 --> 0:42:54.600
<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, There's been a couple guys that I've dated

0:42:54.640 --> 0:42:56.439
<v Speaker 3>where I've been like, Okay, I would probably if if

0:42:56.440 --> 0:42:58.720
<v Speaker 3>we were together long enough, I'd have your kid, because

0:42:58.920 --> 0:43:00.759
<v Speaker 3>you seem to really want one, and you seem to

0:43:00.760 --> 0:43:04.680
<v Speaker 3>be someone who just wants to be so involved in

0:43:04.719 --> 0:43:06.600
<v Speaker 3>the day to day with kids that it makes sense.

0:43:06.960 --> 0:43:09.680
<v Speaker 2>And Chris Convey is one of those people. But I don't.

0:43:10.000 --> 0:43:11.040
<v Speaker 2>And I've said this to his.

0:43:10.880 --> 0:43:13.239
<v Speaker 3>Family or a couple of his family members that have

0:43:13.280 --> 0:43:14.160
<v Speaker 3>been like, he'd be a great dad.

0:43:14.200 --> 0:43:16.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, there's no question. He would be amazing.

0:43:16.440 --> 0:43:19.000
<v Speaker 3>He's so playful, he loves he's there's no one better

0:43:19.000 --> 0:43:21.239
<v Speaker 3>with kids, like he has great banter with kids. I'm

0:43:21.280 --> 0:43:23.040
<v Speaker 3>always like, I don't even know what to say to kids,

0:43:23.600 --> 0:43:24.239
<v Speaker 3>like do you come here?

0:43:24.280 --> 0:43:24.560
<v Speaker 2>Often?

0:43:24.640 --> 0:43:28.160
<v Speaker 3>Like I don't, and I don't cool name. I always

0:43:28.200 --> 0:43:29.879
<v Speaker 3>just say like I like your name, or like how

0:43:29.920 --> 0:43:32.080
<v Speaker 3>old are you? Oh that's a great age. I like

0:43:32.120 --> 0:43:34.680
<v Speaker 3>your backpack, thank you. I just don't even know what

0:43:34.800 --> 0:43:36.560
<v Speaker 3>I'd literally amount of stuff to say to them. It's

0:43:36.600 --> 0:43:39.160
<v Speaker 3>gets so awkward. But Chris is so creative when it

0:43:39.360 --> 0:43:40.239
<v Speaker 3>comes talking with kids.

0:43:40.760 --> 0:43:43.360
<v Speaker 2>But I'm just like I don't want him. I'd be jealous.

0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:44.279
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, hang out with me.

0:43:44.400 --> 0:43:46.440
<v Speaker 3>I don't want you playing with kids, like I like,

0:43:47.120 --> 0:43:49.600
<v Speaker 3>I want to play with Chris. So that's why I've said, yes,

0:43:49.600 --> 0:43:50.560
<v Speaker 3>I know it'd be a good dad.

0:43:50.480 --> 0:43:52.319
<v Speaker 1>But I don't. I don't. It might change if it's

0:43:52.360 --> 0:43:54.240
<v Speaker 1>your kid, because then it would be like he's playing

0:43:54.280 --> 0:43:57.160
<v Speaker 1>with an extension of you and something that you care about.

0:43:58.239 --> 0:44:02.520
<v Speaker 3>Not interested, not interested in extension of me either.

0:44:02.640 --> 0:44:04.440
<v Speaker 2>I just I don't know.

0:44:05.160 --> 0:44:08.680
<v Speaker 3>After hearing what my girlfriends have been through giving birth

0:44:08.800 --> 0:44:11.880
<v Speaker 3>and being pregnant and afterwards I know that you completely

0:44:11.920 --> 0:44:15.400
<v Speaker 3>heal and you go back to normal. You gotta say,

0:44:16.200 --> 0:44:20.279
<v Speaker 3>well eventually maybe like a year. A year, yeah, a year,

0:44:20.640 --> 0:44:22.680
<v Speaker 3>So I'm talking years. And I've seen my sister have

0:44:22.800 --> 0:44:25.680
<v Speaker 3>three and she's like, you know her, you would never

0:44:25.719 --> 0:44:27.799
<v Speaker 3>even know it from like my body is made to

0:44:27.880 --> 0:44:30.200
<v Speaker 3>Like if by anything like my sister, I'd be fine.

0:44:30.840 --> 0:44:34.280
<v Speaker 2>It just I don't think it's even for that amount

0:44:34.280 --> 0:44:34.800
<v Speaker 2>of time.

0:44:34.680 --> 0:44:37.520
<v Speaker 3>Even if it go completely back to normal, it seems

0:44:37.560 --> 0:44:42.640
<v Speaker 3>like it really sucks. And I just like major shout

0:44:42.680 --> 0:44:45.920
<v Speaker 3>out to everyone that puts their body through that, and like,

0:44:46.400 --> 0:44:48.200
<v Speaker 3>and you think you know what it's gonna be, but

0:44:48.400 --> 0:44:50.480
<v Speaker 3>you are not told everything. You can read all the

0:44:50.520 --> 0:44:52.040
<v Speaker 3>books and you can watch all the tiktoks, and you

0:44:52.040 --> 0:44:53.600
<v Speaker 3>can watch all the reels, and you can get advice

0:44:53.600 --> 0:44:56.279
<v Speaker 3>from friends. But Noah, would you say that like you

0:44:56.360 --> 0:44:58.800
<v Speaker 3>were completely informed of everything that would happen.

0:44:58.840 --> 0:44:59.000
<v Speaker 2>Oh?

0:44:59.239 --> 0:45:02.800
<v Speaker 4>No, absolutely, And you looked into everything right, like you've

0:45:02.840 --> 0:45:05.160
<v Speaker 4>thought you knew everything, right. I mean, I had an

0:45:05.239 --> 0:45:07.480
<v Speaker 4>idea of what I wanted in terms of like my

0:45:07.560 --> 0:45:11.239
<v Speaker 4>pregnancy and delivery and stuff, but like there's definitely not

0:45:11.400 --> 0:45:14.839
<v Speaker 4>enough information because there's no template for what happens it's

0:45:14.920 --> 0:45:16.240
<v Speaker 4>it's all unique to the person.

0:45:17.800 --> 0:45:20.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I don't want to I don't want to

0:45:20.000 --> 0:45:23.040
<v Speaker 3>get that surprise of like what what's it gonna be

0:45:23.120 --> 0:45:25.719
<v Speaker 3>like for me? Like what are my nipples gonna look like?

0:45:26.239 --> 0:45:28.560
<v Speaker 3>Will she will there be a comment?

0:45:29.000 --> 0:45:33.240
<v Speaker 2>Yes, will. It's just like there are some things in life.

0:45:34.120 --> 0:45:37.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I just don't I'm not interested in having because

0:45:37.560 --> 0:45:40.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm not, or like will my feet swell like Sara

0:45:40.640 --> 0:45:43.120
<v Speaker 3>Lena's foot wasn't fitting in her shoe, Like I just

0:45:43.200 --> 0:45:46.640
<v Speaker 3>don't it. And I know that's like that's Nikki. That's

0:45:46.680 --> 0:45:49.239
<v Speaker 3>a small potatoes and they look like big ones to me.

0:45:49.520 --> 0:45:52.480
<v Speaker 3>But that's small potatoes for what you get out of it,

0:45:52.480 --> 0:45:55.279
<v Speaker 3>which is a child. But I would also argue like

0:45:55.320 --> 0:45:57.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to make a comparison my set and it's

0:45:57.400 --> 0:46:00.920
<v Speaker 3>not working. That having a kid to me is the

0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:05.920
<v Speaker 3>same as like being an astronaut, and like yeah, when

0:46:05.920 --> 0:46:08.080
<v Speaker 3>I was a little girl, like everything was possible, like

0:46:08.160 --> 0:46:10.759
<v Speaker 3>I could be an astronaut. Not really because I'm not

0:46:10.800 --> 0:46:12.839
<v Speaker 3>good at math, but like if I worked hard enough,

0:46:12.840 --> 0:46:15.960
<v Speaker 3>I probably could have been an astronaut and some like worked.

0:46:15.680 --> 0:46:17.640
<v Speaker 2>In but it seemed too hard.

0:46:18.360 --> 0:46:21.239
<v Speaker 3>And yes, going to space is amazing, but it's too

0:46:21.360 --> 0:46:23.399
<v Speaker 3>hard to get there, so I'm not gonna do it.

0:46:23.840 --> 0:46:27.120
<v Speaker 3>And for some reason, people can grasp that when you

0:46:27.280 --> 0:46:29.080
<v Speaker 3>talk about a career, but when it comes to like

0:46:29.080 --> 0:46:32.040
<v Speaker 3>a kid, people are like, no, you just do it

0:46:32.080 --> 0:46:32.960
<v Speaker 3>and then it's fine.

0:46:33.000 --> 0:46:34.839
<v Speaker 2>But it's like, no, I get it.

0:46:34.840 --> 0:46:37.360
<v Speaker 3>It's like amazing at the finish line, but I'm just

0:46:37.400 --> 0:46:38.720
<v Speaker 3>not willing to put in that work.

0:46:38.800 --> 0:46:39.920
<v Speaker 2>I just I can't carry it.

0:46:40.000 --> 0:46:42.880
<v Speaker 1>Like it's just as hard to become an astronaut as

0:46:42.880 --> 0:46:45.000
<v Speaker 1>it is to be a parent, But no one's coming

0:46:45.040 --> 0:46:48.080
<v Speaker 1>at you like, oh, but you'll go to space one day.

0:46:48.280 --> 0:46:50.080
<v Speaker 1>You know you should like that.

0:46:50.480 --> 0:46:51.680
<v Speaker 2>You want to go to space.

0:46:51.920 --> 0:46:54.880
<v Speaker 3>It'd be amazing. You're missing out on going to space.

0:46:54.920 --> 0:46:59.080
<v Speaker 3>And it's like, I you understand, don't.

0:46:58.880 --> 0:47:01.400
<v Speaker 2>You want to age? Yeah? Yeah, yeah.

0:47:01.440 --> 0:47:05.200
<v Speaker 3>It's just but I just think that that's an interesting

0:47:05.640 --> 0:47:08.359
<v Speaker 3>point that people just kind of negate all of the

0:47:08.400 --> 0:47:10.920
<v Speaker 3>bullshit you go through to become a mom because the

0:47:10.960 --> 0:47:13.000
<v Speaker 3>mom part is so worth it, and it is to

0:47:13.080 --> 0:47:16.200
<v Speaker 3>some people, but to me it is not, even though

0:47:16.200 --> 0:47:18.120
<v Speaker 3>I know that I would fucking love it and it

0:47:18.160 --> 0:47:19.680
<v Speaker 3>would be the best thing I've ever done and I

0:47:19.680 --> 0:47:22.719
<v Speaker 3>would never regret it, and ever, I would always say

0:47:22.719 --> 0:47:24.439
<v Speaker 3>it was the greatest thing I've ever done, because I've

0:47:24.440 --> 0:47:27.680
<v Speaker 3>literally never heard someone not say that. It's still not

0:47:27.800 --> 0:47:30.319
<v Speaker 3>worth it, and it's it's hard for people to wrap

0:47:30.320 --> 0:47:34.239
<v Speaker 3>their heads around that. Sometimes I think, Uh, we gotta

0:47:34.280 --> 0:47:34.760
<v Speaker 3>go to break.

0:47:35.680 --> 0:47:39.960
<v Speaker 2>We'll be back out of this. Okay, I have to

0:47:40.000 --> 0:47:41.920
<v Speaker 2>ask a question, please, no I ask.

0:47:42.000 --> 0:47:44.279
<v Speaker 4>I feel like we've made it in long enough to

0:47:44.320 --> 0:47:46.520
<v Speaker 4>the show where I can ask you this. I need

0:47:46.560 --> 0:47:48.919
<v Speaker 4>like a little bit of relationship help. And I could

0:47:48.920 --> 0:47:50.680
<v Speaker 4>have texted you guys relations help.

0:47:51.320 --> 0:47:51.760
<v Speaker 2>Wow.

0:47:51.840 --> 0:47:55.560
<v Speaker 4>So I have just been a raging bitch for like

0:47:55.680 --> 0:47:57.840
<v Speaker 4>a week and it's definitely hormonal.

0:47:58.760 --> 0:47:59.719
<v Speaker 2>I can't control it.

0:47:59.719 --> 0:48:04.719
<v Speaker 4>It's beyond and I just like, I feel like the

0:48:04.800 --> 0:48:08.760
<v Speaker 4>hormones have subsided. And I was wondering, when you guys

0:48:08.840 --> 0:48:11.960
<v Speaker 4>have something with your partners, how do you reset and

0:48:12.000 --> 0:48:13.879
<v Speaker 4>go back to zero? Because I feel like if I'm

0:48:13.920 --> 0:48:15.959
<v Speaker 4>just all of a sudden cheery in the kitchen, he's

0:48:16.000 --> 0:48:18.520
<v Speaker 4>gonna commit me because.

0:48:18.760 --> 0:48:21.200
<v Speaker 1>You were just a bitch five minutes ago exactly.

0:48:21.719 --> 0:48:23.839
<v Speaker 3>So I do have a good one for this. All right,

0:48:25.200 --> 0:48:31.560
<v Speaker 3>you have to fucking eat some shit. You have to go. Hey,

0:48:32.960 --> 0:48:36.920
<v Speaker 3>can I just address the elephant in the house, which

0:48:36.960 --> 0:48:40.080
<v Speaker 3>is me being in a really bad mood this week.

0:48:40.480 --> 0:48:44.440
<v Speaker 3>I just take up accountability, be like, I don't know

0:48:44.440 --> 0:48:46.520
<v Speaker 3>what's going on with me, but I have been really

0:48:46.560 --> 0:48:49.279
<v Speaker 3>difficult to be around. And I can't imagine what it's

0:48:49.280 --> 0:48:51.359
<v Speaker 3>felt like on your end dealing with it. And I

0:48:51.400 --> 0:48:54.120
<v Speaker 3>had literally no control over it. And I'm so sorry

0:48:54.480 --> 0:48:56.600
<v Speaker 3>and I'm so sorry I put you through that. But

0:48:56.800 --> 0:49:00.000
<v Speaker 3>I am feeling embarrassed about him, feeling like hung over

0:49:00.200 --> 0:49:02.319
<v Speaker 3>from it, and I just want you to know, like

0:49:02.520 --> 0:49:06.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm really sorry for what you went through dealing with it,

0:49:06.160 --> 0:49:09.719
<v Speaker 3>Like just empathize with his point of view without making

0:49:09.719 --> 0:49:13.640
<v Speaker 3>too many excuses for yourself, and just you have to

0:49:13.680 --> 0:49:15.600
<v Speaker 3>address it. You can't just like change back to like

0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:18.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm nice, because like when that happens to me at least,

0:49:18.320 --> 0:49:20.640
<v Speaker 3>like where someone just goes from being shitty to being nice,

0:49:20.640 --> 0:49:23.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm just like, oh no, no, now I get to

0:49:23.160 --> 0:49:25.200
<v Speaker 3>be shitty because you're in a safe space. Now I

0:49:25.239 --> 0:49:27.080
<v Speaker 3>get to be the one that's gonna make you feel

0:49:27.080 --> 0:49:29.560
<v Speaker 3>what I just felt, because I need an apology.

0:49:29.840 --> 0:49:32.120
<v Speaker 2>I need an acknowledgment of what I went through.

0:49:33.440 --> 0:49:36.719
<v Speaker 1>Character from Fargo when she you know, when she's like

0:49:36.760 --> 0:49:39.040
<v Speaker 1>bleeding and she's making pancakes and she's like, you want

0:49:39.040 --> 0:49:40.879
<v Speaker 1>some bis quick and it's like you're yeah, you.

0:49:40.840 --> 0:49:43.560
<v Speaker 3>Just oh my god, that's such a good Yeah, that's

0:49:43.600 --> 0:49:46.319
<v Speaker 3>exactly that scene. I just you know, I've been there

0:49:46.320 --> 0:49:49.279
<v Speaker 3>before too, Noah, where I've I've just like I think

0:49:49.320 --> 0:49:51.480
<v Speaker 3>we all have where you just like are acting like

0:49:51.560 --> 0:49:54.279
<v Speaker 3>a fucking raging bitch and even when you I've talked

0:49:54.280 --> 0:49:57.239
<v Speaker 3>about it before on the podcast, you're saying something so

0:49:57.520 --> 0:50:01.200
<v Speaker 3>mean or so shitty or so passive agress and you

0:50:01.440 --> 0:50:03.919
<v Speaker 3>know you're gonna have to apologize for it at some point.

0:50:04.400 --> 0:50:06.600
<v Speaker 2>It's not now, it ain't. It feels too good to

0:50:06.640 --> 0:50:07.120
<v Speaker 2>coming out.

0:50:07.239 --> 0:50:09.960
<v Speaker 3>But you know, you know, you've just created a job

0:50:10.000 --> 0:50:11.920
<v Speaker 3>for yourself that is going to be way more painful

0:50:12.000 --> 0:50:15.120
<v Speaker 3>than it is to whatever. Like it's it's going to

0:50:15.200 --> 0:50:17.319
<v Speaker 3>be so hard to do, but you have to do

0:50:17.360 --> 0:50:21.040
<v Speaker 3>the hard thing and just like apologize and then come

0:50:21.120 --> 0:50:23.600
<v Speaker 3>back and help you so much farther down the road

0:50:23.640 --> 0:50:25.799
<v Speaker 3>because it will buy it will show him how to

0:50:25.800 --> 0:50:26.600
<v Speaker 3>do the same thing.

0:50:27.640 --> 0:50:31.640
<v Speaker 1>I have a adjustment to that. I think was there

0:50:31.680 --> 0:50:35.239
<v Speaker 1>an acute incident where you did something specifically like so

0:50:35.440 --> 0:50:38.760
<v Speaker 1>over the top bitchy that that needs to be addressed,

0:50:38.840 --> 0:50:41.520
<v Speaker 1>or is it just a general malaise of bitchiness over

0:50:41.560 --> 0:50:43.399
<v Speaker 1>the course of the week. It was like, you know what,

0:50:43.840 --> 0:50:46.120
<v Speaker 1>like there's nothing specific that can be pointed to, but like,

0:50:46.160 --> 0:50:47.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely being a piece of shit.

0:50:48.320 --> 0:50:51.400
<v Speaker 4>Oh, I think a lot of it is just my

0:50:51.600 --> 0:50:54.640
<v Speaker 4>tone in the way that I answer or try to

0:50:54.640 --> 0:50:55.719
<v Speaker 4>control the situation.

0:50:56.760 --> 0:50:59.759
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, if that's the case, I don't think it

0:50:59.840 --> 0:51:04.279
<v Speaker 1>apology is necessarily fully warranted. I think kind you can

0:51:04.320 --> 0:51:07.600
<v Speaker 1>do kind of like a half apology by going up

0:51:07.640 --> 0:51:13.640
<v Speaker 1>to them and thanking them for being so understanding while

0:51:13.680 --> 0:51:16.919
<v Speaker 1>you've been such a bitch over the past. Good, nice,

0:51:17.480 --> 0:51:18.040
<v Speaker 1>thank you for.

0:51:18.080 --> 0:51:20.280
<v Speaker 2>It feels a little bit easier than the apology.

0:51:20.320 --> 0:51:22.600
<v Speaker 1>To be honest, the apology is a little heavy. If

0:51:22.600 --> 0:51:26.000
<v Speaker 1>you did something really like in like specific, like you

0:51:26.120 --> 0:51:28.680
<v Speaker 1>stabbed him with a knife and he was bleeding, then

0:51:28.680 --> 0:51:31.400
<v Speaker 1>you would apologize for that. But if you're just like

0:51:31.880 --> 0:51:33.200
<v Speaker 1>I want to stab you with a knife and it

0:51:33.239 --> 0:51:34.800
<v Speaker 1>was just kind of like was that a joke? Was

0:51:34.840 --> 0:51:36.560
<v Speaker 1>that not a joke? Then I think you go, you

0:51:36.840 --> 0:51:39.040
<v Speaker 1>give him a hug, and you go, I'm just so

0:51:39.320 --> 0:51:42.600
<v Speaker 1>thankful that you can, you know, understand what I'm okay, bitch.

0:51:43.080 --> 0:51:45.279
<v Speaker 4>I feel like that is me, is all is me

0:51:45.360 --> 0:51:47.240
<v Speaker 4>being all of a sudden nice, and he would.

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<v Speaker 1>Just be like, you're addressing it.

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<v Speaker 3>You're addressing me to say the word of acknowledge. I

0:51:53.680 --> 0:51:57.320
<v Speaker 3>acknowledge that I have been not fun to be around,

0:51:57.600 --> 0:52:00.120
<v Speaker 3>and I am working. I am working on it, and

0:52:00.200 --> 0:52:03.040
<v Speaker 3>I truly did not have control over it. And I

0:52:03.080 --> 0:52:06.000
<v Speaker 3>am embarrassed if you are, you know, like I am

0:52:06.000 --> 0:52:08.600
<v Speaker 3>embarrassed for how I don't have control over it. And

0:52:08.640 --> 0:52:10.680
<v Speaker 3>it's something I don't want to do again to you,

0:52:11.680 --> 0:52:15.520
<v Speaker 3>and it probably will happen again because I'm a flawed person.

0:52:16.200 --> 0:52:17.399
<v Speaker 2>But thank you for.

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<v Speaker 3>Loving me and being with me and knowing that this

0:52:21.360 --> 0:52:24.440
<v Speaker 3>is a part of me and tolerating it as I

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<v Speaker 3>navigate what it's like to have all these feelings coming

0:52:28.239 --> 0:52:31.239
<v Speaker 3>up that are making me not treat you the way

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<v Speaker 3>I want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Final thought, I think you do.

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<v Speaker 3>I think trying to apologize without saying the word I'm

0:52:40.040 --> 0:52:43.399
<v Speaker 3>sorry or I apologize is shitty. I think people need

0:52:43.400 --> 0:52:45.319
<v Speaker 3>to hear it. I think people need to hear it.

0:52:45.360 --> 0:52:48.400
<v Speaker 3>They need to feel like they need to. Okay, at

0:52:48.480 --> 0:52:50.759
<v Speaker 3>least for with Chris, I just feel like it's really

0:52:50.760 --> 0:52:54.879
<v Speaker 3>bought me a lot to say, like, man, thinking about

0:52:55.000 --> 0:52:57.600
<v Speaker 3>like your side of things, like if I even say that,

0:52:57.719 --> 0:53:00.360
<v Speaker 3>like thinking how it must feel to have me be

0:53:00.640 --> 0:53:03.280
<v Speaker 3>like such a brat for the past couple of days.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just so sorry I put you through that, Like

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<v Speaker 3>just give him some grasp of you feeling what he

0:53:09.760 --> 0:53:13.000
<v Speaker 3>felt or acknowledging that, like you put yourself in his shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>So I agree with that, Ben, But I I think

0:53:16.040 --> 0:53:18.399
<v Speaker 1>maybe then it's a tone thing because like the way

0:53:18.400 --> 0:53:20.839
<v Speaker 1>that you're saying it feels so heavy, and I don't

0:53:20.840 --> 0:53:24.239
<v Speaker 1>think this is such a heavy thing to be addressing,

0:53:24.320 --> 0:53:29.120
<v Speaker 1>Like it feels very like therapy speak heavy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, do it when you're both in like kind of

0:53:31.920 --> 0:53:34.440
<v Speaker 3>a fun mood and just say, hey, I just want

0:53:34.480 --> 0:53:36.640
<v Speaker 3>to say, like this is really nice. And I know

0:53:36.760 --> 0:53:39.120
<v Speaker 3>that this has not been my general tone for the

0:53:39.120 --> 0:53:43.440
<v Speaker 3>past couple of weeks. And I know I don't want

0:53:43.480 --> 0:53:45.719
<v Speaker 3>you to feel like you're crazy for thinking I've been

0:53:45.760 --> 0:53:49.239
<v Speaker 3>off because I have been off or just like I

0:53:49.280 --> 0:53:53.080
<v Speaker 3>think that's where we get into so much muck in relationships,

0:53:53.200 --> 0:53:56.640
<v Speaker 3>is just not it's just acting like something didn't happen,

0:53:57.000 --> 0:53:59.520
<v Speaker 3>or like moving on from it or like now it's fine,

0:53:59.640 --> 0:54:03.080
<v Speaker 3>or like just there needs to be more accountability or

0:54:03.120 --> 0:54:07.560
<v Speaker 3>like more just more self awareness just like being like, man,

0:54:07.680 --> 0:54:10.000
<v Speaker 3>I could be shitty to be like sometimes I'm like Chris,

0:54:10.719 --> 0:54:13.320
<v Speaker 3>it's awesome that you love me because I am really

0:54:13.440 --> 0:54:15.880
<v Speaker 3>a lot. Like I know I'm great in all these ways,

0:54:15.880 --> 0:54:19.319
<v Speaker 3>but like not other guys got other guys couldn't do

0:54:19.440 --> 0:54:21.080
<v Speaker 3>what you do in terms of put up with me,

0:54:21.200 --> 0:54:22.800
<v Speaker 3>like make him feel special for me.

0:54:22.920 --> 0:54:26.279
<v Speaker 2>What I don't say that for sure, And I think

0:54:26.320 --> 0:54:27.520
<v Speaker 2>we need to feel it a little more.

0:54:27.520 --> 0:54:29.520
<v Speaker 3>I don't think I feel it enough sometimes and I'm

0:54:29.560 --> 0:54:33.960
<v Speaker 3>sometimes I am struck by like wow, I am like crazy,

0:54:33.960 --> 0:54:36.960
<v Speaker 3>Like I put Chris through some like weird not even

0:54:37.000 --> 0:54:39.200
<v Speaker 3>tests I don't mean to, but like I'll drop like

0:54:39.320 --> 0:54:42.400
<v Speaker 3>a bunch of feelings about myself that he's like what

0:54:42.880 --> 0:54:44.239
<v Speaker 3>like doesn't even know what to do with.

0:54:44.320 --> 0:54:47.000
<v Speaker 2>I just hand him a junk.

0:54:46.760 --> 0:54:51.399
<v Speaker 3>Drawer of wires and broken things and batteries, and I'm

0:54:51.440 --> 0:54:53.839
<v Speaker 3>just like take it and make it art.

0:54:53.920 --> 0:54:54.600
<v Speaker 2>Like I just like.

0:54:54.760 --> 0:54:56.760
<v Speaker 3>Give him my shit and then tell him to do

0:54:56.960 --> 0:54:59.680
<v Speaker 3>something with it. And he he's just like standing there

0:54:59.719 --> 0:55:03.080
<v Speaker 3>hold my pile of shit, and like I feel and then.

0:55:02.960 --> 0:55:05.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like I'm gonna go take a nap. You sort through.

0:55:05.400 --> 0:55:09.239
<v Speaker 3>This, And I think that I when I acknowledge, like,

0:55:09.320 --> 0:55:12.439
<v Speaker 3>thank you so much for being the person who loves

0:55:12.480 --> 0:55:15.000
<v Speaker 3>me and get it, even gets to see the side

0:55:15.000 --> 0:55:17.879
<v Speaker 3>where I get to let myself be this way around you,

0:55:18.320 --> 0:55:20.360
<v Speaker 3>like you're so strong and special.

0:55:21.080 --> 0:55:24.360
<v Speaker 2>I think that is helpful. Or a blowjob.

0:55:25.600 --> 0:55:28.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just start going out to him and rubbing his

0:55:28.560 --> 0:55:30.200
<v Speaker 1>pants while he plays the guitar.

0:55:32.680 --> 0:55:34.799
<v Speaker 4>That would just delay everything. I think I have to

0:55:34.800 --> 0:55:37.640
<v Speaker 4>just rip the band aid off and just apologize.

0:55:37.080 --> 0:55:40.520
<v Speaker 1>Walk into the kitchen wearing a scream mask, and then

0:55:40.600 --> 0:55:43.200
<v Speaker 1>take off the scream mask and be like, that's how

0:55:43.239 --> 0:55:44.640
<v Speaker 1>I was, and this is how I am.

0:55:44.920 --> 0:55:47.400
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, that's actually try that.

0:55:47.680 --> 0:55:49.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I can stab him and it'll make sense.

0:55:50.520 --> 0:55:53.120
<v Speaker 2>Do a dance performance.

0:55:54.360 --> 0:55:56.960
<v Speaker 1>Go into get a life sized cage and do a

0:55:57.040 --> 0:56:00.320
<v Speaker 1>dance with an adult that is the old you for

0:56:00.440 --> 0:56:02.719
<v Speaker 1>the you do, and you can come to terms with

0:56:02.840 --> 0:56:05.319
<v Speaker 1>the two versions of yourself via dance.

0:56:05.920 --> 0:56:10.040
<v Speaker 3>And make it kind of uncomfortable sexually for everyone who

0:56:10.120 --> 0:56:14.880
<v Speaker 3>watches it. Yeah, this is an interesting topic and I

0:56:14.960 --> 0:56:17.000
<v Speaker 3>just was. I'm again I hate to keep saying I'm

0:56:17.000 --> 0:56:18.759
<v Speaker 3>working on a bit about it, but I am, like,

0:56:19.800 --> 0:56:23.400
<v Speaker 3>there is something I wanted to work on about how relationships,

0:56:23.440 --> 0:56:25.799
<v Speaker 3>Like if in long term relationships where you know you're

0:56:25.800 --> 0:56:27.000
<v Speaker 3>gonna be together forever.

0:56:27.960 --> 0:56:28.960
<v Speaker 2>You always check in.

0:56:29.560 --> 0:56:32.000
<v Speaker 3>There's I don't know anyone in long term relationship where

0:56:32.040 --> 0:56:34.440
<v Speaker 3>it's good all the time. You check in and you go,

0:56:34.520 --> 0:56:38.480
<v Speaker 3>how are you guys, we've been good, We've it's been

0:56:38.520 --> 0:56:39.240
<v Speaker 3>a rough patch.

0:56:39.320 --> 0:56:42.280
<v Speaker 2>It is never steady. It is always changing.

0:56:42.680 --> 0:56:45.560
<v Speaker 3>You think you're really good and you dip back down

0:56:45.960 --> 0:56:50.600
<v Speaker 3>like there's it's it's never it's never always great in

0:56:50.640 --> 0:56:53.000
<v Speaker 3>a long term relationship. It's just not gonna be You're

0:56:53.040 --> 0:56:56.719
<v Speaker 3>gonna you're gonna hit rough air. There's gonna be turbulence always.

0:56:57.320 --> 0:57:01.279
<v Speaker 1>And if you think it's it's one hundred percent good

0:57:01.360 --> 0:57:04.920
<v Speaker 1>one hundred percent of the time, your partner is probably suffering.

0:57:05.640 --> 0:57:09.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, honestly, I just can't imagine anyone being in a

0:57:09.920 --> 0:57:12.359
<v Speaker 3>relationship where it's just smooth sailing the whole time, like

0:57:12.680 --> 0:57:15.040
<v Speaker 3>you check because we all have that, whether or not

0:57:15.040 --> 0:57:16.920
<v Speaker 3>you're in a long term relationship. We all have a

0:57:17.120 --> 0:57:19.240
<v Speaker 3>Mary friend, how you go, how are you? And John

0:57:20.120 --> 0:57:22.760
<v Speaker 3>h We've been good? Like it's it's always like there's

0:57:22.960 --> 0:57:25.840
<v Speaker 3>it's it's always a fucking gamble. You never know because

0:57:25.880 --> 0:57:29.760
<v Speaker 3>and so often it's just okay, we're fine, Like we're

0:57:29.760 --> 0:57:32.320
<v Speaker 3>not thriving, we're not all over each other, we're not

0:57:32.440 --> 0:57:36.880
<v Speaker 3>deeply in love. We're just fine, and or you're we've

0:57:37.000 --> 0:57:40.040
<v Speaker 3>been really good, he's not hitting me anymore. Like it's

0:57:40.040 --> 0:57:42.800
<v Speaker 3>just bare men of like, you know, like in a

0:57:42.800 --> 0:57:44.920
<v Speaker 3>long term relationship when someone's like, we have been so

0:57:45.280 --> 0:57:49.320
<v Speaker 3>connected lately, you know, he only has one mistress now,

0:57:49.360 --> 0:57:51.800
<v Speaker 3>Like it's always just like something it's it's so it's

0:57:51.840 --> 0:57:54.480
<v Speaker 3>never really that great. When people talk about a long

0:57:54.520 --> 0:57:58.040
<v Speaker 3>term relationship being amazing, We've never been so connected.

0:57:59.520 --> 0:58:01.320
<v Speaker 2>It's it's just hard.

0:58:01.680 --> 0:58:05.520
<v Speaker 3>But I do think last night in the Martha Stewart documentary,

0:58:07.760 --> 0:58:10.880
<v Speaker 3>it was pretty much kind of I guess the narrative

0:58:11.440 --> 0:58:15.520
<v Speaker 3>was established that she her relationship failed, he cheated on

0:58:15.520 --> 0:58:21.520
<v Speaker 3>her because she was too career oriented, and the you know,

0:58:23.240 --> 0:58:27.640
<v Speaker 3>documentarian interviewing her, that's yeah, well it was it was

0:58:27.720 --> 0:58:31.280
<v Speaker 3>kind of like, oh, it's your fault, Martha. But the

0:58:31.320 --> 0:58:36.600
<v Speaker 3>documentary documentary and whatever that word is, asked her what's

0:58:36.640 --> 0:58:40.160
<v Speaker 3>more important a career or a marriage, and she's like,

0:58:41.720 --> 0:58:43.760
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, that's the question, and I just.

0:58:43.720 --> 0:58:47.480
<v Speaker 2>Go career like very quickly. I'm like, who gives a

0:58:47.760 --> 0:58:48.440
<v Speaker 2>marriage is?

0:58:49.080 --> 0:58:52.280
<v Speaker 3>And I really believe that because I believe happy wife,

0:58:52.360 --> 0:58:55.040
<v Speaker 3>happy life, Like if I'm happy in my career, I'll

0:58:55.080 --> 0:58:56.720
<v Speaker 3>have a good marriage. If I have a good marriage

0:58:56.720 --> 0:58:59.040
<v Speaker 3>and not a career fuck that I don't want, I

0:59:00.120 --> 0:59:01.840
<v Speaker 3>will not be a good partner.

0:59:02.000 --> 0:59:06.200
<v Speaker 2>Career is. Career for me is baby, Career is.

0:59:07.280 --> 0:59:09.320
<v Speaker 3>I don't think there's anything wrong with that, Like, yeah,

0:59:09.360 --> 0:59:10.320
<v Speaker 3>career is your purpose.

0:59:10.520 --> 0:59:13.400
<v Speaker 1>A lot of time compare career to marriage. You compare

0:59:13.480 --> 0:59:15.919
<v Speaker 1>career to baby. I think it's a better comparison.

0:59:16.600 --> 0:59:19.800
<v Speaker 3>But I also think of relationship, like when I'm Chris

0:59:19.880 --> 0:59:22.400
<v Speaker 3>just got done doing two huge career things and we

0:59:22.880 --> 0:59:26.800
<v Speaker 3>I did not see him at all. Our relationship was just, uh,

0:59:27.760 --> 0:59:30.360
<v Speaker 3>it was non existent, and I understood that. I was like,

0:59:30.400 --> 0:59:32.840
<v Speaker 3>I would never expect you to be around right now,

0:59:32.880 --> 0:59:35.320
<v Speaker 3>like you're working two shows. That would be insane, and

0:59:35.400 --> 0:59:37.760
<v Speaker 3>so it was just like he had to choose one

0:59:37.840 --> 0:59:39.560
<v Speaker 3>or the other. And he keeps saying like, and I've

0:59:39.560 --> 0:59:41.200
<v Speaker 3>been a bad boyfriend the past two months, and I'm like,

0:59:41.240 --> 0:59:43.600
<v Speaker 3>you haven't been because it's you haven't been a boyfriend,

0:59:43.600 --> 0:59:45.800
<v Speaker 3>like it's I don't expect you to be good right now,

0:59:45.880 --> 0:59:47.840
<v Speaker 3>Like that would be crazy for me to expect that.

0:59:48.000 --> 0:59:50.680
<v Speaker 3>So stop saying you've been a bad boyfriend, because that's

0:59:50.760 --> 0:59:56.280
<v Speaker 3>the that's the deal we have. But I I would say, yes,

0:59:56.360 --> 0:59:59.280
<v Speaker 3>relationships are important, but like no one's ever been like

0:59:59.360 --> 1:00:01.520
<v Speaker 3>a friendship or a career more important. And it's like

1:00:01.520 --> 1:00:03.600
<v Speaker 3>it's always about like a marriage, Like marriage has to

1:00:03.640 --> 1:00:06.200
<v Speaker 3>be the most that is the that is the goal

1:00:06.240 --> 1:00:08.520
<v Speaker 3>for every woman and every man, and it's like I

1:00:08.600 --> 1:00:10.880
<v Speaker 3>just don't think that it can be. I do think

1:00:10.880 --> 1:00:12.960
<v Speaker 3>a career is more important than a marriage. Do I

1:00:12.960 --> 1:00:16.240
<v Speaker 3>think friendships are more important than the career? Probably I'd

1:00:16.320 --> 1:00:19.240
<v Speaker 3>rather have. I think relationships are more important than a career,

1:00:19.280 --> 1:00:21.160
<v Speaker 3>but a marriage, no, sir.

1:00:21.480 --> 1:00:24.600
<v Speaker 1>Frequently the career is the longest term relationship you'll ever.

1:00:24.440 --> 1:00:25.960
<v Speaker 2>Have, I hope.

1:00:25.960 --> 1:00:29.000
<v Speaker 1>So it was there before your marriage, and it might

1:00:29.040 --> 1:00:29.680
<v Speaker 1>be there after.

1:00:30.280 --> 1:00:30.520
<v Speaker 2>Well.

1:00:30.560 --> 1:00:35.320
<v Speaker 3>After meeting and talking to al Michaels, veteran of sportscasting

1:00:35.760 --> 1:00:38.920
<v Speaker 3>legend the other night and he's eighty years old, I

1:00:39.000 --> 1:00:42.640
<v Speaker 3>know that that man is so fucking rapid fire, so

1:00:42.840 --> 1:00:46.040
<v Speaker 3>with it slightly hard of hearing, but not really. We

1:00:46.040 --> 1:00:48.880
<v Speaker 3>are in a really loud restaurant. There is nothing different

1:00:48.920 --> 1:00:52.280
<v Speaker 3>from talking to him or my dad, who's in his sixties,

1:00:52.320 --> 1:00:54.960
<v Speaker 3>and that's a you know, eighty is up there. Yeah,

1:00:55.000 --> 1:00:58.240
<v Speaker 3>he is so with it because he works. He's still working.

1:00:58.880 --> 1:01:02.200
<v Speaker 3>You gotta stay active, you gotta stay talking, you gotta

1:01:02.280 --> 1:01:03.880
<v Speaker 3>stay involved and with it.

1:01:03.920 --> 1:01:07.120
<v Speaker 2>I really I was just I was blown away by him.

1:01:07.240 --> 1:01:08.920
<v Speaker 3>I was I was almost nervous to talk to him

1:01:08.920 --> 1:01:11.120
<v Speaker 3>because I'm like, I, you know, like I don't I

1:01:11.120 --> 1:01:13.120
<v Speaker 3>get nervous around to older people because I don't.

1:01:13.000 --> 1:01:14.560
<v Speaker 2>Want to baby them. I didn't have to do that

1:01:14.600 --> 1:01:15.120
<v Speaker 2>with him at all.

1:01:15.240 --> 1:01:18.320
<v Speaker 3>He's a fucking there was nothing elderly about him at all.

1:01:18.920 --> 1:01:22.160
<v Speaker 1>And it's because he's still he's still active, had a

1:01:22.200 --> 1:01:24.600
<v Speaker 1>career who's been in the same career for forty years.

1:01:24.640 --> 1:01:27.120
<v Speaker 1>They're always sharp and like with it. But then when

1:01:27.120 --> 1:01:29.160
<v Speaker 1>you meet someone who's been in the same marriage for

1:01:29.160 --> 1:01:30.760
<v Speaker 1>forty years, they can talk.

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