1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:02,040 Speaker 1: The Nicky Gliser Podcasts. 2 00:00:10,119 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 2: Here's Nikki. 3 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 3: Hello here, I am welcome to the show. It's Nicky 4 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 3: Glazer podcast. I'm here with Brian Frangie. Hello, Noah, Hello 5 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 3: in Arizona. Uh, we we're here. 6 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:26,280 Speaker 2: We're doing it, a new week of shows. Oh my god? 7 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:27,600 Speaker 2: How did how far we've come? 8 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: How do we do it? 9 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 3: I was just talking to someone about doing a podcast 10 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 3: and how even like you think doing something once a 11 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 3: week will be like, oh, it's just once a week, 12 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 3: that's like easy, but even once a week catches up 13 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:45,879 Speaker 3: to you and you go, oh my. 14 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:47,640 Speaker 2: God, again two times a week. 15 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:50,600 Speaker 3: I like doing multiple times a week because it feels 16 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 3: like it never goes away and you never have that 17 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 3: thing of like, oh fuck, I gotta do that thing, 18 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 3: like it's just it's always, it's more ever present. 19 00:00:57,160 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 2: Four times a week was fucking bananas. 20 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: When we used to do that, I don't know. 21 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 2: How we did that. How did we do that? 22 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: I mean that started during COVID right, No. 23 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 3: Well, we used to do our radio show for two hours, 24 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 3: four days a week, from ten to twelve Eastern. 25 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,959 Speaker 1: Every single day. Yeah, a full time job. 26 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:19,319 Speaker 3: And that was not something you could pre record, right, 27 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 3: Like we just have a love non Negosa had to 28 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 3: do it. That's how I met Noah in case Bessie's 29 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 3: don't know. Was at Serious XM and she's my producer 30 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 3: and we met early January. Oh my god, it was 31 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 3: so long ago. Twenty eighteen is like, is legit long ago? 32 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: Now? 33 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 3: Twenty's my favorite year. It was the best year. It 34 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 3: was the year the Dance with the Stars. I loved 35 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 3: that year. I was terribly depressed in January when we 36 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 3: were starting the show. I was going through a really 37 00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 3: bad bout. And then I started transcendental meditation and then 38 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,440 Speaker 3: that really helped. And then it was just like a 39 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 3: fun year, going to like starting the show, being excited 40 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 3: about the show, still doing clubs, like starting to do 41 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:10,080 Speaker 3: pretty well in clubs, really getting in back into the 42 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 3: New York scene. I just moved back in January of 43 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 3: twenty eighteen to do the show from LA where I 44 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:16,519 Speaker 3: did not say for a couple of years. 45 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 2: And then. 46 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was just like nightlife. All my friends were single. 47 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 3: That sounds like a good Netflix series. All my friends 48 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 3: were single. Yeah, the summer, all my friends were single. 49 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: That does seem to be a trend amongst titles of 50 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 1: shows now they have to be like long sentences. Yes, 51 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: well there are sentence fragments. Really, I should say the 52 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: fragments the year that I was pretty nobody wants this 53 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 1: or or the It's really like a three word title. 54 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: It used to be one word titles or the blank. 55 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: You have the sopranos, the wire, and now it's like 56 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: nobody wants this. Sharp little objects, pretty little liars, little 57 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 1: fires everywhere. 58 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 4: You know. 59 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 2: It's like, I think the name is so crude. 60 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, obs of a show. I can tell you 61 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 1: if a show is going to succeed based on the 62 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: name alone. 63 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,799 Speaker 3: But Slow Horses, you wouldn't think that would be a 64 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 3: good show. 65 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 2: And I think it would do better if it didn't 66 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:14,359 Speaker 2: have that. 67 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 3: Name, to be honest with you about because I have 68 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 3: I have not wanted to watch it because of the name, 69 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 3: and then people who know it's actually great, and I 70 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 3: thought it was going to be some kind of like 71 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 3: Yellowstone thing. Yeah, yeah, like western drama. Right, it's not 72 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 3: that at all. 73 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 1: I still haven't watched it, even though people tell me 74 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,160 Speaker 1: it's going to be great, and people tell me what 75 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: it's about, and I don't believe them because it's the name. 76 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 1: Slow horses at spies in England. 77 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's Britan, It's yes, isn't it about like a campaign? 78 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: I don't know what it's about. I still confused, actually, 79 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: because I just think it's about what you're saying. It's 80 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 1: like Kevin Costner must be in it. 81 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 3: There's galloping horses in slow motion and I'm not interested. 82 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 3: And that's what I have to watch to get through 83 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 3: the credits to get to the show. Credits are there? 84 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 3: I credit you enjoy watching that. You do not skip over? 85 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 1: Well, A galloping horse in slow motion was actually the 86 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: first ever movie ever made. 87 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you're right, or animation. 88 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 1: Animation, it was the first movie. 89 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, I guess you're right. That's what people want 90 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:16,279 Speaker 2: to watch. 91 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:20,480 Speaker 3: It's crazy, it's it's it's it's a fun thing to watch. 92 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 3: I'll i'd watch a galloping horse. I've never been on 93 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 3: a galloping horse. I don't think I've never galloped. I've 94 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:28,039 Speaker 3: definitely trotted, trotted, gallop, but never got to gallop. I 95 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 3: would love to just be like looking behind me while 96 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:33,560 Speaker 3: I'm I'm being chased by someone, and I. 97 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 2: Like, let's look faster. Oh that'd be so fun. 98 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:40,840 Speaker 1: He he is that what you have to do he Hey. 99 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 2: Where do you go? What cha whatha? What do you say? 100 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: Yeah? 101 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 3: I think it's yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, you're right, you're right. 102 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:50,800 Speaker 1: That would be a pretty fun look behind you at 103 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:52,719 Speaker 1: someone chasing you and have to go faster, have a 104 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: bow and. 105 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 3: Arrow, or it's like a flirty look because you're like 106 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 3: flirting with another cowboy and you guys are like and 107 00:04:58,480 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 3: you're gonna fall off the horse and then he's gonna 108 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 3: like come to your rescue and hold you and then 109 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 3: you make out. 110 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, And so sometimes you see that in reality shows 111 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:07,559 Speaker 1: where like people like have fun on a horse together, 112 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: but it's always slow because of because they're worried about lawsuits. 113 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, okay. 114 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 3: How often do you think in real life two people 115 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 3: tumble on each other like something goofy happens, and then 116 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:23,159 Speaker 3: they kiss after they tumble upon one another. 117 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: I would say zero percent of the time. 118 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 2: Zero times. Ever. 119 00:05:27,920 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 3: I mean, I'm trying to think of any meat cute 120 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 3: where I let's even talk about like you spill something 121 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 3: and then like your hand hits the thing at the 122 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:36,840 Speaker 3: same time, and whoever thought of that the first time? 123 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,279 Speaker 3: For a rom com A brilliant person I don't like 124 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:41,920 Speaker 3: when like things become cliche and we make fun of 125 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 3: them and we don't give credit when the first person 126 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 3: who thought of it brilliant, Like the first time you 127 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 3: saw a girl drop a bunch of books and then 128 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 3: she's like, oh, I'm sorry, excuse me, and then they 129 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 3: both their hands touch on one of the books. That's 130 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:55,600 Speaker 3: a great moment. That's a great TV moment. It's just 131 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 3: been done to death when the first time was good? 132 00:05:58,040 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 1: Was the first one? Was that in the what year? 133 00:05:59,839 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: Do you? 134 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 3: I'm sure someone could trace it for us. Yeah, but 135 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 3: that is like a thing that happens all the time. 136 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:07,280 Speaker 3: But I don't think it happens ever in real life. 137 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:10,280 Speaker 3: I'm trying to think if I've ever had a moment where. 138 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 1: Well, you literally fall on top of each other and 139 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:14,919 Speaker 1: you're on the ground. 140 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 3: I just watched a movie two nights ago that had 141 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 3: that happened in it, and it was it was a 142 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 3: cute scene. I'm glad it happened, but it was in 143 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:25,320 Speaker 3: I really recommend. It's called My Old Ass and it's 144 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 3: on Amazon Prime. 145 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 2: You guys. 146 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 3: It is so fucking good. The performances are great. It's 147 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 3: just a realistic dialogue realistic like acting, and then it's 148 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 3: just just I know you're gonna like the whole movie. 149 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 3: You're gonna go, Okay, really is this like the best movie? 150 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 3: And then you just wait, wait, wait for it, because 151 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:48,160 Speaker 3: you're gonna feel emotions you haven't felt in a really 152 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 3: long time, and there's gonna be like answers about your 153 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 3: life that you're like, You're just gonna live a different 154 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 3: life the next day, and then it'll wear off because 155 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 3: it's been two days now and I'm I'm back to 156 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 3: being the person I was before, but for a day 157 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 3: I was like I need to be I need to 158 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 3: save her things more. It's just a really great movie, 159 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 3: my old ass. It's starring Aubrey Plaza and then a 160 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 3: little girl that was like I guess created the cup song, 161 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 3: which seems way too crazy. 162 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 2: Stella Mazie Stella. 163 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 3: She looks by the way, if you want to know 164 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 3: what gen z M looks like, even though you can 165 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 3: go see it on our YouTube when she was on 166 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 3: the show, she looks exactly like Mazie Stella, literally and 167 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 3: she talks the same as her in the movie, like 168 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 3: they are the same person. They are the same person. 169 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 3: I was, I, oh yeah, Jesus, it was It was wild, right. 170 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,559 Speaker 1: It is. That's gen z m gen Z was ae. 171 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 2: They talk the same and act the same. 172 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: It's like, wait a second. Gen z N's name is 173 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 1: Mazie Stella and she's a famous actor who has seven 174 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: Instagram followers. 175 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 3: She should have more, to be honest with you, she 176 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:53,119 Speaker 3: is so good and so cute. 177 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 2: I fell in love with her in this movie. 178 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:57,680 Speaker 3: I just can't wait to ever meet her and be like, 179 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 3: you are so good. And then the little girl from 180 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:02,440 Speaker 3: the Sea music videos. 181 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't know what you're talking about. 182 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: This is making me depressed. Okay, so I don't know 183 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: what the Cup song is. I don't know what the 184 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: Cup song. 185 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 2: I didn't say pitch perfect, but it's in pitch perfect. 186 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 3: You know. They're like Someday you go away, and they 187 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:18,360 Speaker 3: sing like a slow song and they're like and then 188 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 3: they flip cups around and it's really impressive. 189 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 1: The song for Colonial Times. 190 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 2: Anna Kendrick sings it. 191 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,040 Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, I've been down this road before, and 192 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 3: they're like doing the cups and they're flipping the cups around. 193 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 2: I swear to god, I don't know anything else about it. 194 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: I've never seen perfect. 195 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 3: I stomp, yes, exactly, and it becomes really rhythmic and 196 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 3: like kind of hypnotizing, and it's really cute and fun. 197 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 3: But I never learned it, and I had never seen 198 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 3: pitch perfect. And I know I should because I know 199 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:45,959 Speaker 3: it's like a seminal comedy classic, but I've just never 200 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 3: seen it. 201 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 2: So slay off me. 202 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 3: Okay, just lay on me and then kiss me as 203 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:53,440 Speaker 3: we fall onto each other. But okay, so wait, let 204 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 3: me just say the so Sea the music videos Chandelier h. 205 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:00,679 Speaker 1: Huh okay, and then Chandal so the dancing. 206 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 3: Girl, that little dancing girl, OKAYH know that. My mom 207 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 3: the other night was like, I don't know because I go, 208 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:07,320 Speaker 3: that's a little dancing girl, and by her her. 209 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 2: Name is damn it. 210 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: I used to know it. 211 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 3: Her sister sings one of my favorite songs ever that 212 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 3: I learned from Dancing with the Stars because she did 213 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 3: a live performance of it on one of the nights. 214 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 2: I was kicked off. 215 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:24,440 Speaker 3: Every day I try harder than the one before. Du 216 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 3: It's uh, I forget her name? Why am I I 217 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 3: have her name if you want it? And then her 218 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 3: sister something Ziggler made this song called every day and 219 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 3: it is truly one of my favorite songs of all time. 220 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:45,959 Speaker 3: And so Dolph, yeah, her sister, Dolph Ziggler, and then 221 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 3: so Mattie Ziggler was the little amazing dancer in Chandelier. 222 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 3: They did a trilogy and Elastic Heart, which is my 223 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 3: favorite of them, even though it made people uncomfortable because 224 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 3: it seemed to be a little bit like old man 225 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 3: and little girl danced together and then she's almost like 226 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 3: naked and it's in the cage, and it's my favorite 227 00:10:03,120 --> 00:10:05,560 Speaker 3: if you're not perverted, or I mean, I don't think 228 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:07,720 Speaker 3: people who think it's perverted are perverted. I just if 229 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 3: you look at it through a lens of like these 230 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:14,839 Speaker 3: are her two selves battling it out, Yeah them her 231 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 3: getting figured at the end of it was a little 232 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 3: took me out of it, but you know, nothing, nothing 233 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 3: bad happens. It's it's a really that that music video, 234 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:22,719 Speaker 3: those music videos I watch all the time. 235 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 2: And then the other one is. 236 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 3: Uh, the one that's dead dad though that's Shakira, but 237 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 3: just say no that I was singing forever. It sounds 238 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:39,559 Speaker 3: like that song, but it's uh, I forget the name 239 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:40,200 Speaker 3: of it, but that. 240 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 2: One's really good. 241 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 3: Too, but it's always just that little girl in a 242 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 3: dirty house dancing or like in a dirty setting and 243 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 3: she's wearing like kind of like bandages and stuff. But 244 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:50,319 Speaker 3: Matty Sigler is that was one of the like I'm 245 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:53,679 Speaker 3: usually creeped out by children being really good at performing 246 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 3: and being really able to summon like an emotional performance. 247 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 3: I think it's just unsettling and makes me believe in 248 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:01,480 Speaker 3: like past lives or something. 249 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:02,200 Speaker 2: I just don't like it. 250 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 3: I don't like when little girls can sing too well 251 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 3: or they yodel and they have too much emotion. 252 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:10,440 Speaker 1: I just an adults are cun past lives than that emotion. 253 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:11,959 Speaker 1: You can't summon that emotion. 254 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 4: With it's questionable, it's totally questionable. 255 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:18,079 Speaker 3: Or they're just that good of performing right, like they 256 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:19,720 Speaker 3: don't need to access the boat because I think some 257 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 3: actors don't even feel emotion. 258 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 2: They just know how to like mimic it, you know 259 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 2: what I mean, right, like a robot, like a right. 260 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:29,120 Speaker 3: But Mattie Zigler in those god in those music videos, 261 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:31,680 Speaker 3: the choices she makes with her face and all the 262 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 3: things she does, like it's so artistic. I guess I'm 263 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:37,719 Speaker 3: just boggled by it and then she has she has 264 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 3: like a smaller role in this film, but I think 265 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 3: her acting choices. There's this one scene where she's on 266 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 3: the dock and she's just like talking to her friend 267 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 3: and she just like coughs into her arm, and I'm like, 268 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:49,280 Speaker 3: did she think to cough? 269 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:51,160 Speaker 2: Like did she plan that cough or did she let 270 00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 2: it come out? 271 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 3: And just like was like, oh, I have to cough, 272 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 3: and so my my character's gonna cough right now. Like 273 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 3: it's shit like that that I fucking love, Like I 274 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 3: love mess performances that are grounded in how people actually talk. 275 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 3: Everyone knows that I already like that in dialogue. Anyway, 276 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 3: this movie nailed it and I really recommend you seeing it, 277 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 3: my old ass. And then Aubrey Plaza is just fantastic 278 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 3: in it and so funny. And my dad like didn't 279 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 3: know of her Aubrey Plaza no, And my dad was transfixed, 280 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 3: like he you could see, you know the thing that 281 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:22,959 Speaker 3: happens to all men with Aubrey Plaza where they're just 282 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 3: kind of like why am I so horny for her? 283 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:26,680 Speaker 3: And I don't even know why, Like she's hot, but 284 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 3: like there's something like she's like scares me. 285 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 2: Like I saw that, like happen to my dad. A 286 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 2: dad feel the offense, she's dangerous. Yeah. 287 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:35,679 Speaker 3: He was just like I like, wait, who is that? 288 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:37,960 Speaker 3: Like you could just see it. I was like, oh God, 289 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:40,959 Speaker 3: she's got that j squa like that. 290 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 2: Is that the word? 291 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 1: Well, well that's like a Jewish thing that for men 292 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 1: mostly where you have the yeah, you have that energy 293 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: that area about you. But Cavorka, I think, so am 294 00:12:55,480 --> 00:13:01,199 Speaker 1: I wrong about this? Cavorka. Cavorka. There's a Seinfeld episode 295 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: where Kramer has it. 296 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, you guys have some really good words mentioned 297 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 3: the animal. It means yeah, she's got it. She's got 298 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 3: the career for sure. And it's just it's a great film. 299 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 3: And then and then I so I've been going over 300 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 3: to my parents' house because Chris is out of town 301 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:22,480 Speaker 3: and I'm in Saint Louis for four nights, which is absurd. 302 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:24,840 Speaker 3: I haven't been here that long for months and months, 303 00:13:24,840 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 3: it feels. 304 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 2: And so I've just got like my night's free. I'm 305 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:31,680 Speaker 2: not sitting around by myself. 306 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 3: I'm not someone who would ever sit around by myself 307 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 3: for a night. If that happens, things are going wrong, 308 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 3: and like I will just do bad behaviors. 309 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: I don't. 310 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 2: I don't want to be alone. 311 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 3: So I go over to my parents' house as soon 312 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 3: as I'm done with my day, because I truly don't 313 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:48,960 Speaker 3: know what I would do if I just sat. I 314 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 3: just can't do it. And so I go over to 315 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:52,920 Speaker 3: my parents and we hang out and I just watch 316 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 3: them make. 317 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 2: Dinner or whatever. 318 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 3: And then my mom and I were laughing last night 319 00:13:58,559 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 3: because there was a there was an Alzheimer's ad, like 320 00:14:01,880 --> 00:14:04,839 Speaker 3: there's a medication ad for Alzheimer's. Not laughing about that, 321 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:07,719 Speaker 3: but it was like this woman was talking about her mother, 322 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 3: her mother with Alzheimer's or dementia or whatever it is, 323 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:17,320 Speaker 3: whatever kind of dementia, and there's this Rick Salty is 324 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 3: the thing, and it was like, you know, my mom's 325 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 3: demeanor had changed. She was just angry all the time, 326 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 3: and she was even cursing, and I just knew something 327 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:31,000 Speaker 3: was up. And now her symptoms have completely gone down 328 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:33,920 Speaker 3: since Rook sulty and I was like, I'll know when 329 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:36,280 Speaker 3: you have dementia because you'll stop CUsing. 330 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: Me. 331 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 3: Taking my mom in and being like sir. Her behavior 332 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:44,000 Speaker 3: has just changed so much. She's just behaving radically and 333 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 3: they're like the cursing and the violet and the throwing 334 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 3: and the yelling, and I'm like, it's all gone. 335 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 2: She's pretty peaceful and measured. 336 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 3: I think there's something wrong because it's like I guess 337 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:58,680 Speaker 3: when people get dementia, they just get fucking nuts. That's 338 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 3: why I love Raissan's joke, Raissan hirshberg Am I being 339 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 3: correct and saying his name, I don't know. I never 340 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 3: I always get his name wrong. You've got to know 341 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:12,120 Speaker 3: who Raissan is. 342 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't go a YouTube special camera, but. 343 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 3: He has a brilliant joke that I've quoted on here 344 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 3: before about like if you're racist or have any bigotry 345 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 3: in your heart, get it sorted before you get senile, 346 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 3: because it's all coming out. 347 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:28,880 Speaker 2: And like that is so funny to me. 348 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 3: It's like that because it does, like you get so, 349 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:35,640 Speaker 3: you get crazy, you say weird things. Sometimes you get 350 00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 3: hyper sexual. Yeah, it's it's not a it's not a sexual. 351 00:15:40,720 --> 00:15:41,880 Speaker 2: I haven't heard of that one. 352 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 3: I think they I think some I think some men 353 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 3: get perverted or women too in nursing homes. My dad 354 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 3: had a he my dad performs in nursing homes and 355 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 3: one time he was playing guitar and a woman just 356 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 3: wheeled her wheelchair up and started like rubbing on his 357 00:15:56,600 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 3: pants on the crotch area. Like I think he was 358 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:01,200 Speaker 3: playing guitar, so I don't understand how that happened, but 359 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 3: she maybe she was rubbing her crotch. I kind of 360 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 3: forget the story, but there was something really indecent going 361 00:16:05,480 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 3: on while my dad was playing, and he just had 362 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 3: to laugh it off, you know, yeah, and keep on 363 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 3: singing a Neil Young song that they probably were. 364 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 2: Like, oh, this old racket the new age music. 365 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:20,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, that part of your brain that stops you from 366 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 1: doing things just stops working and then you can't your 367 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 1: your core animalistic tendencies come through. 368 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 3: Well, Like, Okay, I was thinking about this because I'm 369 00:16:30,600 --> 00:16:32,520 Speaker 3: trying to make a point on stage about how like 370 00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 3: no one can really tell if they're like, you can't 371 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 3: you can't really predict what your brain is ever gonna do. 372 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:41,520 Speaker 3: You think you know, but because there's no free will, 373 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 3: you really don't know what your brain is up to. 374 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 2: You can only go based on. 375 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 3: Like how you have behaved in the past, and kind 376 00:16:46,640 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 3: of you're gambling all the time with what your brain 377 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 3: will say. We've all had moments where it's like, what 378 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 3: if I just screamed something right now that's really fucked 379 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 3: up and you're like, whoa, The only thing stopping me 380 00:16:57,200 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 3: from doing it is doing it, Like it's in my 381 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 3: brain and like what if I just did it and 382 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 3: you kind of like freak out unwanted thought syndrome, like, 383 00:17:04,960 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 3: and I was I'm trying to prove this point on 384 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:08,639 Speaker 3: stage that it makes people really uncomfortable. Is that Like 385 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:10,199 Speaker 3: I'm not gonna give away the joke, but it's like, 386 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 3: you don't know that you wouldn't do this really fucked 387 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:14,960 Speaker 3: up thing, and I don't know that I wouldn't do 388 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:17,200 Speaker 3: it either, So I just don't put myself in circumstances 389 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:19,320 Speaker 3: where I would ever be able to do that thing. 390 00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 3: Even though I know I don't want to do that thing. 391 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 3: I'm just scared my brain might be like do it. 392 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 2: You know. 393 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 3: It's why I don't own a gun. It's why I don't. 394 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:28,040 Speaker 3: And the one kind of gets it. But the other 395 00:17:28,119 --> 00:17:29,640 Speaker 3: day I was like, I really made a good point. 396 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:30,800 Speaker 2: I was like, and I. 397 00:17:30,760 --> 00:17:33,560 Speaker 3: Kind of didn't steal it from Louis's show, but I 398 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 3: definitely it's it's it's white popped into my head, and 399 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 3: I would never give myself credit for thinking of it, 400 00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:41,919 Speaker 3: but yeah, but it's it's kind of it would be 401 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:43,680 Speaker 3: like I wouldn't be able to put this in anything, 402 00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:44,639 Speaker 3: I don't think, but it's. 403 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:48,400 Speaker 2: A point made. Yes, I was inspired to steal from him. 404 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 3: I was aspired to do something naughty in front of everyone, 405 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:55,920 Speaker 3: and so I there's in one of his shows, he's 406 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:58,119 Speaker 3: with Parker Posey on a date and she runs it. 407 00:17:58,119 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 3: They run up to the top of this building and 408 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 3: she's like on the very ledge. 409 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 2: Of it, and he's like, what are you doing? Come 410 00:18:03,640 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 2: back and she's. 411 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:07,920 Speaker 3: Like, I'm not gonna jump, and he's like, just come back, 412 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:11,399 Speaker 3: and she's like, but I know how to not move 413 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 3: an inch over and I trust that I'm not going 414 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:16,120 Speaker 3: to do it. You don't go over to the edge 415 00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 3: because you don't trust yourself. And I really love that 416 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 3: moment because it's true, like we all know, like there's 417 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 3: no way if you're on a building that there's no 418 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:27,240 Speaker 3: win active wind or anything that you're just gonna like 419 00:18:27,400 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 3: fall over the ledge. Yet none of us will even 420 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 3: get close enough for that to even be a possibility, 421 00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:34,560 Speaker 3: because there's a part of your brain that doesn't trust 422 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:37,800 Speaker 3: that you just won't right right, or there's a part 423 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:39,359 Speaker 3: of your brain that doesn't trust that you won't trip 424 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:41,840 Speaker 3: for the first time, just standing still as if that's 425 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 3: ever happened to you before. So we all have it 426 00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 3: in us to not trust ourselves, but we when we're 427 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 3: talking about. 428 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:50,199 Speaker 1: To not trust yourself that you might trip because that's 429 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 1: just an accident. You didn't mean to trip. I think 430 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:56,600 Speaker 1: that that profound Parker Posey moment. I think she's insane. 431 00:18:57,280 --> 00:19:00,920 Speaker 1: She's lacking and she's lacking a fear complex that allows 432 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:02,440 Speaker 1: her to protect herself. 433 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:05,199 Speaker 3: I agree Chris does not have that part of his 434 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 3: brain either. We were in Philly this weekend and okay, 435 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:12,040 Speaker 3: so Noah, you go to this hotel, You get out 436 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:15,320 Speaker 3: of the car at the lobby right like the valet, 437 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:17,720 Speaker 3: you walk in through the valet, and this is the 438 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:21,080 Speaker 3: Four Seasons in Philly. Very much recommend anyone staying there 439 00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 3: if you have a lot of money to spend and 440 00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:25,120 Speaker 3: you want to go, treat yourself to an amazing hotels. 441 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 1: Hotel, second best hotel, second past. 442 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 2: It was my second best hotel too. What was your first? 443 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 1: I don't want to say the first because I don't 444 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:32,800 Speaker 1: want people to flood it. 445 00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:36,120 Speaker 2: Okay, well we'll save it for interesting. 446 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:38,359 Speaker 1: That'll be intrusive thoughts. I'll give you my recommendation for 447 00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: my best hotel. 448 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 3: So, so you walk in and then you take an 449 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,479 Speaker 3: elevator to the lobby, which is commonplace. Sometimes the lobby's 450 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:50,400 Speaker 3: not on the same floor, and you press a button 451 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 3: and then you go up in the elevator and you're 452 00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 3: not really paying attention to the lobby button. What floor 453 00:19:54,760 --> 00:19:57,639 Speaker 3: it says, And then you shoot up into the sky 454 00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 3: sixty stories six zero and it is so and you 455 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:08,320 Speaker 3: have it's a clear window looking out on the off 456 00:20:08,359 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 3: on Philly, and you're going all the way up. You 457 00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:14,239 Speaker 3: shoot up so fast and it's dizzy ing, and then 458 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:16,119 Speaker 3: on the way down it almost goes so fast you 459 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 3: feel like you are falling at the speed of falling, 460 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 3: like it's slower than falling. 461 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 2: But it's like it's it gives. 462 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,000 Speaker 1: A remarkable view. It's like Charlie and the Great Glass 463 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 1: Elevator that book. You really do shoot up into space 464 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,119 Speaker 1: and you're you're just overlooking Philly like you're the like 465 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: you're Movefassa looking over your lamb. 466 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:34,960 Speaker 3: So cool, and then you go to your room and 467 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:36,560 Speaker 3: you have to go down from the lobby because your 468 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 3: room's like room fifty two. But I was like, Chris, 469 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:40,359 Speaker 3: our room is on this fifty second floor. I was like, 470 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,520 Speaker 3: I think this is the highest I've ever sleep slept 471 00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:47,399 Speaker 3: in my life besides in college when that pot but 472 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:49,479 Speaker 3: I think it was the highest I've ever been sleeping. Like, 473 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 3: when have I ever slept at that elevation? That's insane? 474 00:20:52,320 --> 00:21:02,479 Speaker 3: The plane, Oh yeah, you got me back door. Well, anyway, Chris, 475 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:04,200 Speaker 3: on the way down, I was like, do you feel 476 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:07,640 Speaker 3: anything in your bones, in your body? Is there any 477 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 3: movement in your stomach? Is there any like tightness in 478 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 3: your chest? Is there any tingling in your feet, anything 479 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 3: that you feel when you look down and we're going down, 480 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,320 Speaker 3: And he said nothing, And that is indication to me 481 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:18,720 Speaker 3: that he doesn't have the thing. 482 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:20,760 Speaker 2: Did you do you feel? Willie? 483 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:24,600 Speaker 1: I've seen him do some fearless things that were yeah, 484 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 1: that were like I would never do that. Like remember 485 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:29,160 Speaker 1: when we were walking from between like the comedy store 486 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:33,040 Speaker 1: and the Improv or something like that, and that he 487 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 1: was just walking in like the street, basically in the 488 00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 1: street with. 489 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:39,400 Speaker 3: His back to traffic. You guys, people do this all 490 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:42,720 Speaker 3: the time. What is I honestly, what is wrong with you? 491 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,200 Speaker 3: If you if you were walking. 492 00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,520 Speaker 2: On a street and you don't have a lot of 493 00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:49,680 Speaker 2: sidewalk space. Even if you have a lot of sidewalk space. 494 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:51,120 Speaker 3: There are people texting all the time that their car 495 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:54,200 Speaker 3: will just drove up on the sidewalk or drunk. You guys, 496 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,840 Speaker 3: always always walk with your never walk with your back 497 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:01,040 Speaker 3: to traffic coming at you. Always on the side so 498 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:02,560 Speaker 3: that you can see it coming, so that you can 499 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 3: dart out of the way if it comes at you. 500 00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 3: This is I mean, I can't I can't believe how 501 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 3: many families I see on Sunset Boulevard walking in a 502 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,719 Speaker 3: construction zone where there is cars going by at forty 503 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,199 Speaker 3: to fifty miles an hour right next to them, with 504 00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 3: no sidewalk and children like I've seen, like families from 505 00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:21,600 Speaker 3: the Midwest with children walking on the side of the road. 506 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 3: It is the most dangerous thing ever. Please, please, besties, 507 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 3: please walk on the side of the streets so you 508 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 3: can face the traffic. Don't ever run if you go running, 509 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,879 Speaker 3: don't ever run with traffic. Don't bike with traffic. I mean, 510 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,479 Speaker 3: I guess you have to bike with traffic. But that's 511 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:36,200 Speaker 3: why I don't bike. 512 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:38,800 Speaker 2: I'm not doing it. I don't want my back to cars. 513 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:42,639 Speaker 1: Yeah. So every few months there's a story about some 514 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 1: like professional basketball player who got hit by a car 515 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,200 Speaker 1: biking and now they can't walk, and it's just like. 516 00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:51,080 Speaker 2: No, it's is it worth it to bike? 517 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 3: Is biking that great? But I think it is, Okay, 518 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 3: we gotta go to break. We'll come back after this. 519 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 2: And Brian has something to say, yes, Brian. 520 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,520 Speaker 1: So I feel like there are some cities where there's 521 00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 1: a culture of pedestrian confidence that borderlines dangerous, where there's 522 00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:11,880 Speaker 1: there's like I was in Well, I was in Boston 523 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 1: this weekend, and I just noticed that it was like 524 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:17,040 Speaker 1: around like the Cambridge, like the college campus areas, and 525 00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 1: I just noticed that every single pedestrian would not like 526 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,439 Speaker 1: look to see like when they cross a crosswalk, they 527 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:26,399 Speaker 1: wouldn't look to see if the car was going to 528 00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:29,520 Speaker 1: actually stop. They would just expect it to stop and 529 00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:33,159 Speaker 1: sometimes not even look. People were just like darting in 530 00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:35,080 Speaker 1: and out of the streets without looking it. 531 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:40,199 Speaker 3: It does look cool when you aren't like looking both ways, Like, 532 00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:43,639 Speaker 3: there's no question you look cool when you aren't super 533 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 3: scared and cautious, but is it worth it? Is it 534 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:50,280 Speaker 3: worth it? Or do you also have your backpack on 535 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,720 Speaker 3: one shoulder? Do you also not wear a seatbelt? Do 536 00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:55,760 Speaker 3: you also not wear a helmet? Like? Is looking cool 537 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,680 Speaker 3: and maybe not scared? Worth you get? 538 00:23:58,720 --> 00:23:58,840 Speaker 1: Like? 539 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,440 Speaker 4: I also think felt like worth it what Brian experienced 540 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 4: being in like a big city in Boston When I 541 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 4: used to live in Brooklyn, Like I just got so 542 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,800 Speaker 4: desensitized to everything. I just knew how it worked, and 543 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:12,159 Speaker 4: I was like, oh, I know, I'm not gonna get 544 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,399 Speaker 4: hit by this truck, at least not today. 545 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,200 Speaker 3: I'm actually glad that I left New York City because 546 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 3: I was starting to get like that. 547 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:20,399 Speaker 2: My parents would come visit and go, Nikki, what are 548 00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:20,800 Speaker 2: you doing? 549 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 3: Like and I would just be like the car would 550 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,159 Speaker 3: pass and my nose hair would like there'd be like 551 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,480 Speaker 3: the tiniest hair on my chin would like graize the 552 00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:30,880 Speaker 3: cab that pick came by, And that was okay because 553 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:31,760 Speaker 3: I didn't get hit by it. 554 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 2: I knew, I knew how closed I was getting. 555 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 3: And you're just playing with fire constantly and it's like you're 556 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 3: gonna get It's almost like how I felt when I 557 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 3: quit drinking like I would flirt with duys right, like 558 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 3: you would just go, oh, i've only had one drink 559 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,639 Speaker 3: or two, or it's been enough hours since my third 560 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:51,000 Speaker 3: drink that and just I was getting just a little 561 00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:52,080 Speaker 3: bit too brazen. 562 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,000 Speaker 2: And then that's when you get fucking caught. 563 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:59,199 Speaker 3: And also, I I know I'm gonna have to die someday. 564 00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,719 Speaker 3: I just don't to go in a miserable way. And 565 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 3: can I just say that getting hit by a car 566 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,800 Speaker 3: while you're on a bike or walking is a terrible, 567 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:11,480 Speaker 3: mangled way to die. It's just you don't want to 568 00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:15,400 Speaker 3: go that way. Take risks elsewhere, smoke cigarettes, I don't care. 569 00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:18,560 Speaker 3: Like that's like that's shitty too, but at least it's 570 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,159 Speaker 3: not like your bones are all twisted and like all 571 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:24,640 Speaker 3: like it's just I'm sorry if this is triggering anyone 572 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:26,600 Speaker 3: who lost someone in that kind of way, but it's 573 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,359 Speaker 3: just it's just think about the way you want to. 574 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,720 Speaker 1: Fault you don't want to go. I read a story 575 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,120 Speaker 1: like there was this man who was just like crossing 576 00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 1: the street to go to his car to go to work. 577 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 1: It was like six o'clock in the morning, and someone 578 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 1: just blew through a light and killed them. Yeah, and 579 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 1: it's like, what do you You just can't avoid it sometimes, 580 00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:46,400 Speaker 1: But that's why you. 581 00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:50,680 Speaker 3: Look both ways all the time if you're being as 582 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 3: conscious as you can be. 583 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:53,679 Speaker 2: There was a guy. Have you ever seen the picture? 584 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:56,160 Speaker 3: I mean, I'm on Reddit and I see last images 585 00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 3: all the time of people and there's one that always 586 00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 3: comes up, and it's a man who lost his life. 587 00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:01,720 Speaker 2: I think it was last year. 588 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:05,439 Speaker 3: He saw a group of ducklings crossing the road and 589 00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:07,439 Speaker 3: he wanted to help safely get them there, and his 590 00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:10,280 Speaker 3: daughter was filming him, like, be cute with these ducklings. 591 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,359 Speaker 3: And you see the car that runs over him and 592 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:17,440 Speaker 3: kills him as it's turning and blowing through this stoplight. 593 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:19,760 Speaker 3: When you see it in the picture that she took 594 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,440 Speaker 3: of her dad, and he's like shuffling these little ducklings, 595 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 3: so cute, and you know what happened next. It's obviously 596 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:28,600 Speaker 3: the last image because that's the subreddit. But it's like, yeah, 597 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,160 Speaker 3: sometimes you're just at the wrong place at the wrong time, 598 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 3: and it's just you gotta watch my old ass because 599 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,960 Speaker 3: you're gonna learn that you just gotta enjoy everything while 600 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:38,480 Speaker 3: you have it. 601 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you get hit by the car and 602 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,520 Speaker 1: you're mangled. Then the person comes out and trips and 603 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:45,359 Speaker 1: falls on top of you and starts kissing you. 604 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. 605 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,440 Speaker 3: Well, I was actually thinking this weekend because someone asked 606 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,480 Speaker 3: me if I'd ever fainted, and when I did, I 607 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:55,040 Speaker 3: fainted once in my life. And when I fainted, I 608 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 3: had like a dream and it was awesome, like and 609 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 3: my body was going through shock, and it was like 610 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,679 Speaker 3: my body was passing out, so my body was not healthy, 611 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:05,399 Speaker 3: but like I went to a really awesome place in 612 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,800 Speaker 3: my brain. And so I was thinking last night on 613 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,960 Speaker 3: my drive home from my parents because the roads were 614 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 3: slick and I sometimes let my mind wander, like what 615 00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:14,119 Speaker 3: if something happens, I'm like, I hope that I just 616 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,360 Speaker 3: go to the same place that I did the last time. 617 00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,520 Speaker 3: My body was like, we need to shut down. Like 618 00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 3: I'm in an ocean and I'm floating and the waves 619 00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:24,439 Speaker 3: are lapping up and I'm just like and then I 620 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:27,040 Speaker 3: wake up and I'm like, you know, it's there's this 621 00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:29,200 Speaker 3: fucking tube down my throat and stuff that would be horrifying, 622 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,440 Speaker 3: But at least I hope that when I go, it's 623 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,360 Speaker 3: like a very peaceful like I I'm. 624 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 2: Not with it. 625 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:38,920 Speaker 1: Well, some say that that's the purpose of DMT releasing 626 00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,119 Speaker 1: in your brain and so that it calms you and 627 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 1: puts you in a place where you don't even care 628 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:48,800 Speaker 1: what's happening, right right, I mean some also say that 629 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,199 Speaker 1: that's like your transition into the next dimension. But I 630 00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:53,480 Speaker 1: think more or so, it's just like a you know, 631 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,960 Speaker 1: a chemical response to death that allows the body to 632 00:27:57,240 --> 00:28:01,439 Speaker 1: It is evolutionarily important for us to die so that 633 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:06,000 Speaker 1: we can continue reproducing and having our genes advance to 634 00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:10,399 Speaker 1: be more appropriate for the you know, the nature. So 635 00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:12,240 Speaker 1: if you don't die, then you just have a bunch 636 00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,040 Speaker 1: of like obsolete people walking around. So there is a 637 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 1: reason for nature to provide a calming effect for you 638 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 1: to accept death when it happens. Otherwise we'd have these 639 00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:28,119 Speaker 1: you know people the iPhone threes walking around. 640 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:32,160 Speaker 3: But maybe Brian, it's because death is peaceful and it's 641 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,480 Speaker 3: a good thing, and it's maybe it's not lying to 642 00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,960 Speaker 3: you and anesthetizing you from the horror of it. Maybe 643 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,080 Speaker 3: it actually is good and that is what you're feeling 644 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 3: is like a good thing. 645 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,640 Speaker 4: So is that why, I guess like a part of 646 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:47,000 Speaker 4: it if someone dies like abruptly, like gets hit by 647 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 4: a car. I mean, that's why it's so tragic, because 648 00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,040 Speaker 4: they didn't really have the chance to do all that. 649 00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 1: NAT hit at the end. 650 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I think that's the kind of the 651 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:56,880 Speaker 3: way I want to go. There is a part of 652 00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 3: me that does want that d MT release before I go, 653 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 3: because I've heard of it and it would be nice 654 00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 3: to know, like, oh, this is the end. But there's 655 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:05,760 Speaker 3: also a part of me that just wants a bridge 656 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,240 Speaker 3: to fall on me because it's like the fastest or 657 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:10,280 Speaker 3: like to be in a submarine and go, you know, 658 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:10,960 Speaker 3: really quick. 659 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:13,320 Speaker 2: But apparently in that submarine. 660 00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:15,480 Speaker 3: It wasn't that quick, and I was probably really horrified, 661 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:18,160 Speaker 3: and they probably just sunk and sunk and sunk until 662 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:19,040 Speaker 3: it finally was like. 663 00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:24,040 Speaker 4: And dying with other people, like watching them panic and stuff. 664 00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:28,080 Speaker 3: No thanks, I'd be like, calm down, we don't you 665 00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 3: guys know we had to do this eventually. 666 00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 2: I would be like the one. 667 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 3: I always have wanted to work on a joke about 668 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,640 Speaker 3: being in a plane crash and trying to figure out 669 00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,280 Speaker 3: how to get on the Boingo Wi Fi to say 670 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,720 Speaker 3: good by to my parents and having to like think 671 00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,480 Speaker 3: of like change my password and like enter a new password. 672 00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,720 Speaker 3: I'm like, they're not matching, and I'm jostling around, like, 673 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:52,280 Speaker 3: oh god, I already used that fucking dead dog's name. Okay, 674 00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,760 Speaker 3: I'll do a question mark and an exclamation point, like 675 00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 3: how you have to like click like the accept cookies 676 00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:59,560 Speaker 3: and like all the things, and like you look at 677 00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,320 Speaker 3: their entertainment and you're like, Okay, should I use my 678 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,520 Speaker 3: status or should I just buy it? And you go 679 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 3: eight dollars and it's like it's that would be just 680 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,480 Speaker 3: as such a funny panic as you're trying to say 681 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:12,320 Speaker 3: goodbye and you just go, I guess I'm just not 682 00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 3: gonna like I guess I'm just not gonna finny. 683 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,440 Speaker 1: Nine dollars for a flight passes a lot to ask 684 00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: to just say good bye to your family. 685 00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 2: It's my mom. I know that my mom would not 686 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:24,480 Speaker 2: want it that way. 687 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 3: Nikki, listen. I told my last I told my parents 688 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 3: last night or two nights ago. We were at dinner 689 00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,280 Speaker 3: and I was like, if I die tragically, will you 690 00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,000 Speaker 3: please please be generous with my money as I am 691 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,200 Speaker 3: with my Like I don't want it. I sometimes worry 692 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 3: that you guys are gonna get it and then you'll 693 00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:43,760 Speaker 3: be weird about it and then you'll just die with 694 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,719 Speaker 3: it because you'll be like, we're not doing and I 695 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,560 Speaker 3: just want you to try to think like me in 696 00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:52,120 Speaker 3: your generosity with it and helping family and friends. And 697 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,160 Speaker 3: they go, well, we're not getting anything. You gave it 698 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:56,240 Speaker 3: all to Lauren, and I go because I just trust 699 00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:57,920 Speaker 3: her to be more generous than you are. And there 700 00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,040 Speaker 3: she was like, there's no guarantee she'll give it to 701 00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 3: and I was like, then we got into a fight 702 00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 3: about my money and what my sister's gonna do. It 703 00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,320 Speaker 3: was like this whole thing that so I gotta get 704 00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,240 Speaker 3: back in there and and make sure it all goes 705 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 3: to like I don't know, Pia or something that really 706 00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:15,800 Speaker 3: pissed them off. But but I was, Uh, what was 707 00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,680 Speaker 3: I gonna say? Oh, we were talking about Yeah, I've 708 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,280 Speaker 3: just been hanging out with my parents so much and 709 00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 3: it's been really fun. We've been having lots of laughs 710 00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:27,280 Speaker 3: and we oh, we watched the Martha Stewart Stewart documentary 711 00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:27,720 Speaker 3: last night. 712 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 2: Oh what did you think of that? Did you watch it? 713 00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:30,440 Speaker 1: Yeah? 714 00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:32,800 Speaker 4: Noah, I saw the trailer for it and it actually 715 00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:33,680 Speaker 4: looks good. 716 00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:34,920 Speaker 2: It's it's good. 717 00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,120 Speaker 3: I was like, kind of not wanting to watch it 718 00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 3: because I thought, oh, here's another documentary produced by the 719 00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 3: person it's about. It's gonna be a fluff piece or 720 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:48,440 Speaker 3: what you know, and it's it's it's it's very revealing 721 00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:51,840 Speaker 3: of her and of what she wanted to reveal, obviously, but. 722 00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:52,560 Speaker 2: It's I thought. 723 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:53,800 Speaker 3: I felt like it was kind of like the j 724 00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 3: LO documentaries where I was like, Okay, well, she could 725 00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:59,280 Speaker 3: have taken a lot of stuff out that I would 726 00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,400 Speaker 3: have been like, yeah, I could. I could have seen 727 00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:03,120 Speaker 3: someone taking that out if they were in charge of 728 00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,320 Speaker 3: their own documentary, and she didn't. She left some stuff in, 729 00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,360 Speaker 3: and she surrendered all these letters that she had written 730 00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:10,640 Speaker 3: her husband who cheated on her, that were very revealing, 731 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:15,080 Speaker 3: and one of them she was like, she was flying 732 00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:18,960 Speaker 3: somewhere after her husband's leaving her and she's telling him 733 00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:22,080 Speaker 3: I can't eat, I can't sleep. I'm forty years old. 734 00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,800 Speaker 3: I'm like, this should be the prime of my life. 735 00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:28,280 Speaker 3: I'm a beautiful, amazing woman, and I want to die. 736 00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:30,440 Speaker 3: I hope this plane crashes, and it's just like her 737 00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:33,200 Speaker 3: writing I hope this plane crashes, and I'm instantly getting 738 00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,120 Speaker 3: out my phone to take a picture to send a 739 00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:37,560 Speaker 3: girls Chat, because I've sent that exact line, like probably 740 00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,480 Speaker 3: a thirty times to girls Chat when I'm in a 741 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:43,480 Speaker 3: depressive mood and and my mom goes, Nikki, she sounds 742 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,160 Speaker 3: like you, and I go, I was just getting my 743 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,720 Speaker 3: phone out, like I go, when have I told you that? 744 00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 2: So it was just I felt, really, it felt really. 745 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:55,400 Speaker 3: Good to see someone as you know, perfect in quotes, 746 00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:58,240 Speaker 3: because I didn't ever look at Martha Stewart as perfect. 747 00:32:58,320 --> 00:32:59,800 Speaker 3: But that's kind of what the theme of the whole 748 00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 3: movie is, is that she was seen as this perfect person. 749 00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:09,960 Speaker 1: That uct like going to jail and stuff. Yes, totally maker. 750 00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,680 Speaker 3: James Comy, James fucking Comy, who's the reason Trump won 751 00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:15,800 Speaker 3: in the fucking first place, because he was the one 752 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:19,800 Speaker 3: that did the Hillary bullshit and made us all think 753 00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,120 Speaker 3: but her emails, that was all James coming. So he's 754 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:24,480 Speaker 3: a part of this and he prosecutes her, and she's 755 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 3: just they want to get her so bad because you 756 00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:29,240 Speaker 3: just they explored in the thing and they go because 757 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:30,960 Speaker 3: you want to see someone perfect fall. 758 00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,880 Speaker 2: People love it. People love it, And I'll. 759 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,160 Speaker 3: Admit, I fucking love when someone who has just had 760 00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:38,280 Speaker 3: it all seems to not and lose some of it. 761 00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:41,200 Speaker 3: It's the best feeling in the world. It's a disgusting feeling. 762 00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:44,040 Speaker 3: But I like that they focus on that because we 763 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:45,840 Speaker 3: all have it, and I think that people don't admit 764 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:50,240 Speaker 3: they hate. Yeah, it comes from insecurity. If you're secure 765 00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,880 Speaker 3: with yourself, you don't care at all what other people 766 00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 3: are doing or is going on with them. It's just 767 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:58,520 Speaker 3: it's you know, when when you have when you feel 768 00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:01,800 Speaker 3: good about yourself, you really don't don't You just don't care. 769 00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 3: That's such a good sign of someone's mental health, when 770 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:09,400 Speaker 3: they're not like wanting to gossip or relish in someone 771 00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:13,680 Speaker 3: else's misfortune when they do, you you don't like yourself 772 00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:16,560 Speaker 3: and any you can't. You can't convince me otherwise. There's 773 00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:19,440 Speaker 3: just no way you do. And that's okay because I'm 774 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:25,319 Speaker 3: the same way. But Martha Stewart was, Uh, she's fascinating 775 00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:29,680 Speaker 3: and she is very masculine, very very masculine. Noah, there's 776 00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:32,680 Speaker 3: a part in it where she's talking about like being 777 00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:37,799 Speaker 3: in relationships, and I forget what they what gets into it, 778 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:42,520 Speaker 3: but they say something like, you know, how did he 779 00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:46,840 Speaker 3: It was something about a boyfriend she had and she 780 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:49,160 Speaker 3: was like, you know, we just hang out I'm not 781 00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,080 Speaker 3: interested in how he's feeling. I'm not interested in how 782 00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,040 Speaker 3: anyone's feeling. I'm interested in how what he thinks. And 783 00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:59,160 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, so she's playing the feminine energy well 784 00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:03,880 Speaker 3: like she's being in relationships, even though she is a 785 00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:08,080 Speaker 3: masculine energy completely in her day to day life and 786 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:09,400 Speaker 3: her professional life. 787 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:11,560 Speaker 2: She you don't know this about mother to it she 788 00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:12,960 Speaker 2: was she started out as. 789 00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:16,759 Speaker 3: A model because she was Yeah she got scouted as 790 00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:17,520 Speaker 3: a model or not. 791 00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 1: I know her as an old felon. 792 00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:21,120 Speaker 2: I was just gonna. 793 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,200 Speaker 4: Say, you you forget that she was young and looked different, 794 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:25,680 Speaker 4: like her hair was different than it does. 795 00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:30,160 Speaker 3: She's beautiful, she looks like herself, though I think she's 796 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,640 Speaker 3: aged exactly like how she should like. She's still stunning. 797 00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:37,479 Speaker 3: But she was a bottle. And then don't even don't 798 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:40,640 Speaker 3: even sleep on this, Brian. She then goes and says, 799 00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:43,560 Speaker 3: I want to work on Wall Street and is one 800 00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:47,080 Speaker 3: of the only men at this Wall Street firm or 801 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:49,160 Speaker 3: whatever they're called that doesn't even have a women's room 802 00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,960 Speaker 3: where the office is because there's no women who work there. 803 00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:56,160 Speaker 3: She's one of the only brokers at this and she 804 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:57,000 Speaker 3: is killing it. 805 00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:58,160 Speaker 2: But then there's like kind. 806 00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:02,600 Speaker 3: Of a stock that really falls and fails miserably. And 807 00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,600 Speaker 3: she felt so bad about losing her client's money that 808 00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:06,239 Speaker 3: she kind of got out of it. And then she 809 00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,040 Speaker 3: got married because she just thought that's what you're supposed 810 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,480 Speaker 3: to do. And then she had a baby because she 811 00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,440 Speaker 3: thought this is what you're supposed to do. And she 812 00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:13,759 Speaker 3: said being a mother did not come naturally to me 813 00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,000 Speaker 3: at all. I thought it was supposed to come naturally. 814 00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,040 Speaker 3: I just didn't really get a lot of affection from 815 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,840 Speaker 3: my mother. I didn't really care about my daughter's feelings. 816 00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:22,880 Speaker 2: My mom didn't hug me enough. I probably didn't hug my. 817 00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:27,600 Speaker 3: Daughter enough, and I just didn't like I thought real 818 00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:30,360 Speaker 3: It really resonated with me because if I was having 819 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:31,759 Speaker 3: to be a mother, that's the kind of mother I 820 00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,279 Speaker 3: would be. Like if I lived in Martha Stewart's day 821 00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:35,759 Speaker 3: and age, where you just that's what you do and 822 00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:37,840 Speaker 3: there's no other options, I would have totally had a 823 00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:42,360 Speaker 3: kid and felt like why do I This isn't this 824 00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:43,440 Speaker 3: is supposed to come naturally. 825 00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:43,960 Speaker 2: Why isn't. 826 00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:47,080 Speaker 3: I could just see myself like in that a lot, 827 00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:48,640 Speaker 3: and I'm just so grateful that I live in a 828 00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,120 Speaker 3: time where I can explore other options, because I don't 829 00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,359 Speaker 3: think she would have had kids if she didn't live 830 00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:56,200 Speaker 3: in that time. It seemed to be in the way 831 00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:00,719 Speaker 3: for her. And then she totally rehabbed this house after 832 00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,680 Speaker 3: she got married to this rich guy who was like 833 00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 3: in publishing music publishing. She got married to him, she 834 00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,640 Speaker 3: rehabbed this house and got into like and her dad 835 00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:15,560 Speaker 3: was really stern and strict, alcoholic, abusive, verbally, emotionally, even 836 00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:18,040 Speaker 3: though she was his favorite. And she learned gardening from 837 00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:20,560 Speaker 3: him because they would just have to garden as kids, 838 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:24,000 Speaker 3: because they would sell fruits and vegetables to get other 839 00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:26,120 Speaker 3: food because they didn't have money because they had like 840 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:27,399 Speaker 3: six kids and they were poor. 841 00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:29,320 Speaker 2: So she learned how to garden. 842 00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 3: And then she also went on a honeymoon for six 843 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,640 Speaker 3: months with her husband, where she toured museums and learned 844 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:39,279 Speaker 3: all about just different the European way of doing it. 845 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,840 Speaker 3: And in the sixties in America, there was no taste, 846 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,480 Speaker 3: like it was all canned vegetables. It was just like 847 00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,880 Speaker 3: putting soup cans like cream of mushroom on top of asparagus, 848 00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:50,680 Speaker 3: and that was like or putting up pineapple and like 849 00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:54,080 Speaker 3: a cherry on a chicken and then that's like you know, 850 00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:58,400 Speaker 3: better homes and gardens like just jellow molds of bullshit. 851 00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:02,560 Speaker 3: Like it was just tasteless garbage, boiling vegetables. 852 00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:03,320 Speaker 2: Everything was gross. 853 00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:05,080 Speaker 3: And she went to Europe and was like, I had 854 00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,480 Speaker 3: never tasted in olive that wasn't like green with a 855 00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,680 Speaker 3: machine or like one of the pimento in the middle. 856 00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,080 Speaker 3: Like she was like, it just expanded my horizons. And 857 00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:16,560 Speaker 3: then she started a catering business and just really adapted 858 00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,160 Speaker 3: what she had learned in that six month trip in 859 00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:19,839 Speaker 3: Europe and like. 860 00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:22,320 Speaker 2: Started this business. 861 00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:25,880 Speaker 3: And then she like started you know, and then she 862 00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:29,880 Speaker 3: got a deal with kmart to like do you know 863 00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,799 Speaker 3: cookware and stuff because she had made enough appearances on 864 00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:36,120 Speaker 3: TV Today's show, different talk shows, and she was kind 865 00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:37,719 Speaker 3: of getting a name for being like this, you know, 866 00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:39,840 Speaker 3: to go from. 867 00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:42,400 Speaker 1: Being a starting I can understand how someone might start 868 00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,640 Speaker 1: a catering company, then how do you go from. 869 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,920 Speaker 3: Started catering for rich people and then had that lead 870 00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:51,680 Speaker 3: famous She just started being friends with billionaires and rich 871 00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:53,799 Speaker 3: people and she started just being like a caterer to 872 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:55,919 Speaker 3: the fame to famous people. So then she started getting 873 00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:59,839 Speaker 3: TV appearances just by like people her being in these 874 00:38:59,880 --> 00:39:02,040 Speaker 3: like kind of circles. She was like, that's how I 875 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:03,880 Speaker 3: that's when I learned how to act around billionaires. 876 00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:05,879 Speaker 2: She was like, it's very rare in the sixties to be. 877 00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:10,080 Speaker 3: A billionaire, and I learned how to behave myself and 878 00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:13,319 Speaker 3: and she was very popular and just really social and 879 00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:15,400 Speaker 3: like just knew how to work the system. 880 00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:17,919 Speaker 1: How do you act around a billionaire? Did she say how? 881 00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:22,280 Speaker 3: She didn't say, but I'm guessing it's just you dress 882 00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:27,840 Speaker 3: immaculately and you are feminine but kind of a badass 883 00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:29,880 Speaker 3: and kind of don't give them too much and always 884 00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,400 Speaker 3: leave them wanting more and wondering does she even like me? 885 00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:38,880 Speaker 3: And and not being too sycophanic, and yeah, I don't know. 886 00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:40,600 Speaker 2: She's being a challenging. 887 00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:43,280 Speaker 4: Cultured and just like knowing a lot about like food 888 00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:46,240 Speaker 4: and all that. That's that's probably very impressive for cover. 889 00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,839 Speaker 3: Really well read a right, she wrote a journaled all 890 00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:52,440 Speaker 3: the time. She just is so cool and then and 891 00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,280 Speaker 3: then that goes into the whole scandal and then her comeback. 892 00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:58,920 Speaker 3: But when she started doing things at kmart, okay, she 893 00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:02,200 Speaker 3: was like the a list. Like most she was kind 894 00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:07,359 Speaker 3: of like the Anna win tour of home and food, right, 895 00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,520 Speaker 3: But then she did a deal with Kmart, and she 896 00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,000 Speaker 3: like lost work because they were like, that is we 897 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:14,240 Speaker 3: don't want to that's low class. 898 00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:15,440 Speaker 2: Kmart's low class. 899 00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:18,799 Speaker 3: And she was like, well, actually, people at Kmart, just 900 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:20,640 Speaker 3: because you're poor doesn't mean you don't have taste. And 901 00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:23,600 Speaker 3: so she appealed to seventy five million people who shop 902 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:28,840 Speaker 3: at kmart weekly and was just uh, became a billionaire 903 00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:32,200 Speaker 3: from it. And then she lost a billion dollars after 904 00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:34,680 Speaker 3: her scandal, which was such bullshit. 905 00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:38,080 Speaker 2: I don't really understand what her a billion over a 906 00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:39,640 Speaker 2: billion dollars and. 907 00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,399 Speaker 1: Her scandal, wait, what was the scandal on her own? 908 00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:46,080 Speaker 3: And she got a tip to sell some stock that 909 00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:48,280 Speaker 3: amounted to about like I think it was around thirty 910 00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:51,799 Speaker 3: thousand dollars that she saved by selling that stock, so 911 00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:56,879 Speaker 3: it was like nothing to her billionaire and and it was. 912 00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:57,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was. 913 00:40:57,920 --> 00:40:59,359 Speaker 3: I was kind of on my phone during that part 914 00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:01,680 Speaker 3: because I didn't care. But apparently it was a hit job. 915 00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,880 Speaker 3: It was just to take her down, and they pretty 916 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,919 Speaker 3: much wanted this guy who she apparently got the tip 917 00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:08,319 Speaker 3: from to sell her out and he was like, I 918 00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,960 Speaker 3: didn't give her a tip, I didn't, and he could have. 919 00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:14,000 Speaker 3: Really he went to jail, and they were even going 920 00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:15,800 Speaker 3: to do a deal with him where he would avoid 921 00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:17,920 Speaker 3: jail time if he just threw Martha under the bus, 922 00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:22,640 Speaker 3: and he refused to do it, and so she eventually 923 00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:25,040 Speaker 3: did go to jail for one hundred and fifty two days. 924 00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:27,879 Speaker 3: And it's I know, it sounds like I'm giving away 925 00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,200 Speaker 3: everything in the documentary. I'm not at all like her 926 00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:35,400 Speaker 3: prison fascinating. It's yeah, yeah, I know what happened, but 927 00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:40,439 Speaker 3: she's just such a fascinating person and I really admire her. 928 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,640 Speaker 2: And I think she's so. 929 00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:47,760 Speaker 1: Thought like public image that she lost a billion dollars 930 00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:48,640 Speaker 1: in profits. 931 00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:50,000 Speaker 2: Yes, it wasn't like it. 932 00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:54,480 Speaker 3: No, it was her public image. Her stock tanked, both 933 00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:58,480 Speaker 3: like figuratively and literally. And when she did the roast 934 00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:00,000 Speaker 3: of Bruce willis that I was. 935 00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:01,480 Speaker 2: I think that's the one that she was on. 936 00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:05,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't really know her whole story. I think 937 00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:07,600 Speaker 3: I like obviously did research and found out some stuff, 938 00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,400 Speaker 3: But I had a joke about her being like my 939 00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:12,520 Speaker 3: mom learned so much from her about like how to 940 00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:14,719 Speaker 3: be cold to her daughter and stuff like that, And 941 00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:17,800 Speaker 3: I think I just assumed that because I didn't think 942 00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:20,120 Speaker 3: there was any evidence of that when I was researching, 943 00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:21,560 Speaker 3: but damn I was spot on. 944 00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,719 Speaker 2: I was like, oh, and my mom obviously resent such joke. 945 00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:29,400 Speaker 2: But because my mom is not, they have similarities and 946 00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:29,920 Speaker 2: it's not ter. 947 00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:31,759 Speaker 3: I would have been a cold mother too, And not 948 00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:35,080 Speaker 3: that my mom was cold, it just wasn't like she 949 00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:37,040 Speaker 3: wasn't as like get on the ground and play with 950 00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:39,319 Speaker 3: us as my dad was. And that's why I've always said, 951 00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:40,880 Speaker 3: if I have kids, I need to be with a 952 00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,879 Speaker 3: man who's like, like wants to play with kids all 953 00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:47,880 Speaker 3: the time, not like a creepy wit like a Chris Pratt. 954 00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:50,719 Speaker 2: From Port Yes. 955 00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:54,600 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, There's been a couple guys that I've dated 956 00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:56,439 Speaker 3: where I've been like, Okay, I would probably if if 957 00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:58,720 Speaker 3: we were together long enough, I'd have your kid, because 958 00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:00,759 Speaker 3: you seem to really want one, and you seem to 959 00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:04,680 Speaker 3: be someone who just wants to be so involved in 960 00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,600 Speaker 3: the day to day with kids that it makes sense. 961 00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:09,680 Speaker 2: And Chris Convey is one of those people. But I don't. 962 00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:11,040 Speaker 2: And I've said this to his. 963 00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,239 Speaker 3: Family or a couple of his family members that have 964 00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:14,160 Speaker 3: been like, he'd be a great dad. 965 00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:16,360 Speaker 2: I'm like, there's no question. He would be amazing. 966 00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:19,000 Speaker 3: He's so playful, he loves he's there's no one better 967 00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,239 Speaker 3: with kids, like he has great banter with kids. I'm 968 00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:23,040 Speaker 3: always like, I don't even know what to say to kids, 969 00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:24,239 Speaker 3: like do you come here? 970 00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:24,560 Speaker 2: Often? 971 00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:28,160 Speaker 3: Like I don't, and I don't cool name. I always 972 00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:29,879 Speaker 3: just say like I like your name, or like how 973 00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:32,080 Speaker 3: old are you? Oh that's a great age. I like 974 00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:34,680 Speaker 3: your backpack, thank you. I just don't even know what 975 00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:36,560 Speaker 3: I'd literally amount of stuff to say to them. It's 976 00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:39,160 Speaker 3: gets so awkward. But Chris is so creative when it 977 00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:40,239 Speaker 3: comes talking with kids. 978 00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:43,360 Speaker 2: But I'm just like I don't want him. I'd be jealous. 979 00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:44,279 Speaker 2: I'd be like, hang out with me. 980 00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:46,440 Speaker 3: I don't want you playing with kids, like I like, 981 00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,600 Speaker 3: I want to play with Chris. So that's why I've said, yes, 982 00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:50,560 Speaker 3: I know it'd be a good dad. 983 00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,319 Speaker 1: But I don't. I don't. It might change if it's 984 00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:54,240 Speaker 1: your kid, because then it would be like he's playing 985 00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:57,160 Speaker 1: with an extension of you and something that you care about. 986 00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:02,520 Speaker 3: Not interested, not interested in extension of me either. 987 00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:04,440 Speaker 2: I just I don't know. 988 00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:08,680 Speaker 3: After hearing what my girlfriends have been through giving birth 989 00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,880 Speaker 3: and being pregnant and afterwards I know that you completely 990 00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,400 Speaker 3: heal and you go back to normal. You gotta say, 991 00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:20,279 Speaker 3: well eventually maybe like a year. A year, yeah, a year, 992 00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:22,680 Speaker 3: So I'm talking years. And I've seen my sister have 993 00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:25,680 Speaker 3: three and she's like, you know her, you would never 994 00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:27,799 Speaker 3: even know it from like my body is made to 995 00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:30,200 Speaker 3: Like if by anything like my sister, I'd be fine. 996 00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:34,280 Speaker 2: It just I don't think it's even for that amount 997 00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:34,800 Speaker 2: of time. 998 00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:37,520 Speaker 3: Even if it go completely back to normal, it seems 999 00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:42,640 Speaker 3: like it really sucks. And I just like major shout 1000 00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,920 Speaker 3: out to everyone that puts their body through that, and like, 1001 00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:48,200 Speaker 3: and you think you know what it's gonna be, but 1002 00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:50,480 Speaker 3: you are not told everything. You can read all the 1003 00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:52,040 Speaker 3: books and you can watch all the tiktoks, and you 1004 00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:53,600 Speaker 3: can watch all the reels, and you can get advice 1005 00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:56,279 Speaker 3: from friends. But Noah, would you say that like you 1006 00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:58,800 Speaker 3: were completely informed of everything that would happen. 1007 00:44:58,840 --> 00:44:59,000 Speaker 2: Oh? 1008 00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:02,800 Speaker 4: No, absolutely, And you looked into everything right, like you've 1009 00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:05,160 Speaker 4: thought you knew everything, right. I mean, I had an 1010 00:45:05,239 --> 00:45:07,480 Speaker 4: idea of what I wanted in terms of like my 1011 00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:11,239 Speaker 4: pregnancy and delivery and stuff, but like there's definitely not 1012 00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:14,839 Speaker 4: enough information because there's no template for what happens it's 1013 00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:16,240 Speaker 4: it's all unique to the person. 1014 00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:20,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I don't want to I don't want to 1015 00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,040 Speaker 3: get that surprise of like what what's it gonna be 1016 00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:25,719 Speaker 3: like for me? Like what are my nipples gonna look like? 1017 00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,560 Speaker 3: Will she will there be a comment? 1018 00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:33,240 Speaker 2: Yes, will. It's just like there are some things in life. 1019 00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:37,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't I'm not interested in having because 1020 00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:40,560 Speaker 3: I'm not, or like will my feet swell like Sara 1021 00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,120 Speaker 3: Lena's foot wasn't fitting in her shoe, Like I just 1022 00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,640 Speaker 3: don't it. And I know that's like that's Nikki. That's 1023 00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,239 Speaker 3: a small potatoes and they look like big ones to me. 1024 00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:52,480 Speaker 3: But that's small potatoes for what you get out of it, 1025 00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:55,279 Speaker 3: which is a child. But I would also argue like 1026 00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:57,359 Speaker 3: I'm trying to make a comparison my set and it's 1027 00:45:57,400 --> 00:46:00,920 Speaker 3: not working. That having a kid to me is the 1028 00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:05,920 Speaker 3: same as like being an astronaut, and like yeah, when 1029 00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:08,080 Speaker 3: I was a little girl, like everything was possible, like 1030 00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:10,759 Speaker 3: I could be an astronaut. Not really because I'm not 1031 00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:12,839 Speaker 3: good at math, but like if I worked hard enough, 1032 00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,960 Speaker 3: I probably could have been an astronaut and some like worked. 1033 00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,640 Speaker 2: In but it seemed too hard. 1034 00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:21,239 Speaker 3: And yes, going to space is amazing, but it's too 1035 00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:23,399 Speaker 3: hard to get there, so I'm not gonna do it. 1036 00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:27,120 Speaker 3: And for some reason, people can grasp that when you 1037 00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:29,080 Speaker 3: talk about a career, but when it comes to like 1038 00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:32,040 Speaker 3: a kid, people are like, no, you just do it 1039 00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:32,960 Speaker 3: and then it's fine. 1040 00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:34,839 Speaker 2: But it's like, no, I get it. 1041 00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:37,360 Speaker 3: It's like amazing at the finish line, but I'm just 1042 00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:38,720 Speaker 3: not willing to put in that work. 1043 00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:39,920 Speaker 2: I just I can't carry it. 1044 00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:42,880 Speaker 1: Like it's just as hard to become an astronaut as 1045 00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:45,000 Speaker 1: it is to be a parent, But no one's coming 1046 00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:48,080 Speaker 1: at you like, oh, but you'll go to space one day. 1047 00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:50,080 Speaker 1: You know you should like that. 1048 00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:51,680 Speaker 2: You want to go to space. 1049 00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,880 Speaker 3: It'd be amazing. You're missing out on going to space. 1050 00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:59,080 Speaker 3: And it's like, I you understand, don't. 1051 00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,400 Speaker 2: You want to age? Yeah? Yeah, yeah. 1052 00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:05,200 Speaker 3: It's just but I just think that that's an interesting 1053 00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,359 Speaker 3: point that people just kind of negate all of the 1054 00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:10,920 Speaker 3: bullshit you go through to become a mom because the 1055 00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,000 Speaker 3: mom part is so worth it, and it is to 1056 00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:16,200 Speaker 3: some people, but to me it is not, even though 1057 00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:18,120 Speaker 3: I know that I would fucking love it and it 1058 00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:19,680 Speaker 3: would be the best thing I've ever done and I 1059 00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,719 Speaker 3: would never regret it, and ever, I would always say 1060 00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:24,439 Speaker 3: it was the greatest thing I've ever done, because I've 1061 00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,680 Speaker 3: literally never heard someone not say that. It's still not 1062 00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,319 Speaker 3: worth it, and it's it's hard for people to wrap 1063 00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:34,239 Speaker 3: their heads around that. Sometimes I think, Uh, we gotta 1064 00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:34,760 Speaker 3: go to break. 1065 00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:39,960 Speaker 2: We'll be back out of this. Okay, I have to 1066 00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:41,920 Speaker 2: ask a question, please, no I ask. 1067 00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:44,279 Speaker 4: I feel like we've made it in long enough to 1068 00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:46,520 Speaker 4: the show where I can ask you this. I need 1069 00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:48,919 Speaker 4: like a little bit of relationship help. And I could 1070 00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:50,680 Speaker 4: have texted you guys relations help. 1071 00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:51,760 Speaker 2: Wow. 1072 00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:55,560 Speaker 4: So I have just been a raging bitch for like 1073 00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:57,840 Speaker 4: a week and it's definitely hormonal. 1074 00:47:58,760 --> 00:47:59,719 Speaker 2: I can't control it. 1075 00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:04,719 Speaker 4: It's beyond and I just like, I feel like the 1076 00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:08,760 Speaker 4: hormones have subsided. And I was wondering, when you guys 1077 00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:11,960 Speaker 4: have something with your partners, how do you reset and 1078 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:13,879 Speaker 4: go back to zero? Because I feel like if I'm 1079 00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:15,959 Speaker 4: just all of a sudden cheery in the kitchen, he's 1080 00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,520 Speaker 4: gonna commit me because. 1081 00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:21,200 Speaker 1: You were just a bitch five minutes ago exactly. 1082 00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:23,839 Speaker 3: So I do have a good one for this. All right, 1083 00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:31,560 Speaker 3: you have to fucking eat some shit. You have to go. Hey, 1084 00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:36,920 Speaker 3: can I just address the elephant in the house, which 1085 00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:40,080 Speaker 3: is me being in a really bad mood this week. 1086 00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:44,440 Speaker 3: I just take up accountability, be like, I don't know 1087 00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:46,520 Speaker 3: what's going on with me, but I have been really 1088 00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:49,279 Speaker 3: difficult to be around. And I can't imagine what it's 1089 00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:51,359 Speaker 3: felt like on your end dealing with it. And I 1090 00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:54,120 Speaker 3: had literally no control over it. And I'm so sorry 1091 00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:56,600 Speaker 3: and I'm so sorry I put you through that. But 1092 00:48:56,800 --> 00:49:00,000 Speaker 3: I am feeling embarrassed about him, feeling like hung over 1093 00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:02,319 Speaker 3: from it, and I just want you to know, like 1094 00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:06,080 Speaker 3: I'm really sorry for what you went through dealing with it, 1095 00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:09,719 Speaker 3: Like just empathize with his point of view without making 1096 00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:13,640 Speaker 3: too many excuses for yourself, and just you have to 1097 00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:15,600 Speaker 3: address it. You can't just like change back to like 1098 00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,280 Speaker 3: I'm nice, because like when that happens to me at least, 1099 00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,640 Speaker 3: like where someone just goes from being shitty to being nice, 1100 00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,160 Speaker 3: I'm just like, oh no, no, now I get to 1101 00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:25,200 Speaker 3: be shitty because you're in a safe space. Now I 1102 00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:27,080 Speaker 3: get to be the one that's gonna make you feel 1103 00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:29,560 Speaker 3: what I just felt, because I need an apology. 1104 00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,120 Speaker 2: I need an acknowledgment of what I went through. 1105 00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:36,719 Speaker 1: Character from Fargo when she you know, when she's like 1106 00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:39,040 Speaker 1: bleeding and she's making pancakes and she's like, you want 1107 00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:40,879 Speaker 1: some bis quick and it's like you're yeah, you. 1108 00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,560 Speaker 3: Just oh my god, that's such a good Yeah, that's 1109 00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:46,319 Speaker 3: exactly that scene. I just you know, I've been there 1110 00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:49,279 Speaker 3: before too, Noah, where I've I've just like I think 1111 00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:51,480 Speaker 3: we all have where you just like are acting like 1112 00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:54,279 Speaker 3: a fucking raging bitch and even when you I've talked 1113 00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:57,239 Speaker 3: about it before on the podcast, you're saying something so 1114 00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:01,200 Speaker 3: mean or so shitty or so passive agress and you 1115 00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:03,919 Speaker 3: know you're gonna have to apologize for it at some point. 1116 00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:06,600 Speaker 2: It's not now, it ain't. It feels too good to 1117 00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:07,120 Speaker 2: coming out. 1118 00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:09,960 Speaker 3: But you know, you know, you've just created a job 1119 00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:11,920 Speaker 3: for yourself that is going to be way more painful 1120 00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:15,120 Speaker 3: than it is to whatever. Like it's it's going to 1121 00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,319 Speaker 3: be so hard to do, but you have to do 1122 00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:21,040 Speaker 3: the hard thing and just like apologize and then come 1123 00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:23,600 Speaker 3: back and help you so much farther down the road 1124 00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:25,799 Speaker 3: because it will buy it will show him how to 1125 00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:26,600 Speaker 3: do the same thing. 1126 00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:31,640 Speaker 1: I have a adjustment to that. I think was there 1127 00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:35,239 Speaker 1: an acute incident where you did something specifically like so 1128 00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:38,760 Speaker 1: over the top bitchy that that needs to be addressed, 1129 00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:41,520 Speaker 1: or is it just a general malaise of bitchiness over 1130 00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:43,399 Speaker 1: the course of the week. It was like, you know what, 1131 00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:46,120 Speaker 1: like there's nothing specific that can be pointed to, but like, 1132 00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:47,680 Speaker 1: I'm definitely being a piece of shit. 1133 00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:51,400 Speaker 4: Oh, I think a lot of it is just my 1134 00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:54,640 Speaker 4: tone in the way that I answer or try to 1135 00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:55,719 Speaker 4: control the situation. 1136 00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:59,759 Speaker 1: And yeah, if that's the case, I don't think it 1137 00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:04,279 Speaker 1: apology is necessarily fully warranted. I think kind you can 1138 00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:07,600 Speaker 1: do kind of like a half apology by going up 1139 00:51:07,640 --> 00:51:13,640 Speaker 1: to them and thanking them for being so understanding while 1140 00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:16,919 Speaker 1: you've been such a bitch over the past. Good, nice, 1141 00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:18,040 Speaker 1: thank you for. 1142 00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:20,280 Speaker 2: It feels a little bit easier than the apology. 1143 00:51:20,320 --> 00:51:22,600 Speaker 1: To be honest, the apology is a little heavy. If 1144 00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:26,000 Speaker 1: you did something really like in like specific, like you 1145 00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:28,680 Speaker 1: stabbed him with a knife and he was bleeding, then 1146 00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:31,400 Speaker 1: you would apologize for that. But if you're just like 1147 00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:33,200 Speaker 1: I want to stab you with a knife and it 1148 00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:34,800 Speaker 1: was just kind of like was that a joke? Was 1149 00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:36,560 Speaker 1: that not a joke? Then I think you go, you 1150 00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:39,040 Speaker 1: give him a hug, and you go, I'm just so 1151 00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:42,600 Speaker 1: thankful that you can, you know, understand what I'm okay, bitch. 1152 00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:45,279 Speaker 4: I feel like that is me, is all is me 1153 00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:47,240 Speaker 4: being all of a sudden nice, and he would. 1154 00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:51,040 Speaker 1: Just be like, you're addressing it. 1155 00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:53,520 Speaker 3: You're addressing me to say the word of acknowledge. I 1156 00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:57,320 Speaker 3: acknowledge that I have been not fun to be around, 1157 00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:00,120 Speaker 3: and I am working. I am working on it, and 1158 00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:03,040 Speaker 3: I truly did not have control over it. And I 1159 00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:06,000 Speaker 3: am embarrassed if you are, you know, like I am 1160 00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:08,600 Speaker 3: embarrassed for how I don't have control over it. And 1161 00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:10,680 Speaker 3: it's something I don't want to do again to you, 1162 00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:15,520 Speaker 3: and it probably will happen again because I'm a flawed person. 1163 00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:17,399 Speaker 2: But thank you for. 1164 00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:21,239 Speaker 3: Loving me and being with me and knowing that this 1165 00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:24,440 Speaker 3: is a part of me and tolerating it as I 1166 00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:28,160 Speaker 3: navigate what it's like to have all these feelings coming 1167 00:52:28,239 --> 00:52:31,239 Speaker 3: up that are making me not treat you the way 1168 00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:31,680 Speaker 3: I want to. 1169 00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:34,440 Speaker 2: Final thought, I think you do. 1170 00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:40,000 Speaker 3: I think trying to apologize without saying the word I'm 1171 00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,399 Speaker 3: sorry or I apologize is shitty. I think people need 1172 00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,319 Speaker 3: to hear it. I think people need to hear it. 1173 00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:48,400 Speaker 3: They need to feel like they need to. Okay, at 1174 00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,759 Speaker 3: least for with Chris, I just feel like it's really 1175 00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:54,879 Speaker 3: bought me a lot to say, like, man, thinking about 1176 00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:57,600 Speaker 3: like your side of things, like if I even say that, 1177 00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:00,360 Speaker 3: like thinking how it must feel to have me be 1178 00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:03,280 Speaker 3: like such a brat for the past couple of days. 1179 00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:05,160 Speaker 3: I'm just so sorry I put you through that, Like 1180 00:53:05,600 --> 00:53:09,640 Speaker 3: just give him some grasp of you feeling what he 1181 00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:13,000 Speaker 3: felt or acknowledging that, like you put yourself in his shoes. 1182 00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:16,000 Speaker 1: So I agree with that, Ben, But I I think 1183 00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,399 Speaker 1: maybe then it's a tone thing because like the way 1184 00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,839 Speaker 1: that you're saying it feels so heavy, and I don't 1185 00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,239 Speaker 1: think this is such a heavy thing to be addressing, 1186 00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:29,120 Speaker 1: Like it feels very like therapy speak heavy. 1187 00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,920 Speaker 3: Yes, do it when you're both in like kind of 1188 00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:34,440 Speaker 3: a fun mood and just say, hey, I just want 1189 00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:36,640 Speaker 3: to say, like this is really nice. And I know 1190 00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:39,120 Speaker 3: that this has not been my general tone for the 1191 00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:43,440 Speaker 3: past couple of weeks. And I know I don't want 1192 00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:45,719 Speaker 3: you to feel like you're crazy for thinking I've been 1193 00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:49,239 Speaker 3: off because I have been off or just like I 1194 00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:53,080 Speaker 3: think that's where we get into so much muck in relationships, 1195 00:53:53,200 --> 00:53:56,640 Speaker 3: is just not it's just acting like something didn't happen, 1196 00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:59,520 Speaker 3: or like moving on from it or like now it's fine, 1197 00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:03,080 Speaker 3: or like just there needs to be more accountability or 1198 00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:07,560 Speaker 3: like more just more self awareness just like being like, man, 1199 00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:10,000 Speaker 3: I could be shitty to be like sometimes I'm like Chris, 1200 00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:13,320 Speaker 3: it's awesome that you love me because I am really 1201 00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,880 Speaker 3: a lot. Like I know I'm great in all these ways, 1202 00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:19,319 Speaker 3: but like not other guys got other guys couldn't do 1203 00:54:19,440 --> 00:54:21,080 Speaker 3: what you do in terms of put up with me, 1204 00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:22,800 Speaker 3: like make him feel special for me. 1205 00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:26,279 Speaker 2: What I don't say that for sure, And I think 1206 00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:27,520 Speaker 2: we need to feel it a little more. 1207 00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:29,520 Speaker 3: I don't think I feel it enough sometimes and I'm 1208 00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:33,960 Speaker 3: sometimes I am struck by like wow, I am like crazy, 1209 00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:36,960 Speaker 3: Like I put Chris through some like weird not even 1210 00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:39,200 Speaker 3: tests I don't mean to, but like I'll drop like 1211 00:54:39,320 --> 00:54:42,400 Speaker 3: a bunch of feelings about myself that he's like what 1212 00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:44,239 Speaker 3: like doesn't even know what to do with. 1213 00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:47,000 Speaker 2: I just hand him a junk. 1214 00:54:46,760 --> 00:54:51,399 Speaker 3: Drawer of wires and broken things and batteries, and I'm 1215 00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:53,839 Speaker 3: just like take it and make it art. 1216 00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:54,600 Speaker 2: Like I just like. 1217 00:54:54,760 --> 00:54:56,760 Speaker 3: Give him my shit and then tell him to do 1218 00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,680 Speaker 3: something with it. And he he's just like standing there 1219 00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:03,080 Speaker 3: hold my pile of shit, and like I feel and then. 1220 00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:05,640 Speaker 2: I'm like I'm gonna go take a nap. You sort through. 1221 00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:09,239 Speaker 3: This, And I think that I when I acknowledge, like, 1222 00:55:09,320 --> 00:55:12,439 Speaker 3: thank you so much for being the person who loves 1223 00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:15,000 Speaker 3: me and get it, even gets to see the side 1224 00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:17,879 Speaker 3: where I get to let myself be this way around you, 1225 00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:20,360 Speaker 3: like you're so strong and special. 1226 00:55:21,080 --> 00:55:24,360 Speaker 2: I think that is helpful. Or a blowjob. 1227 00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:28,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, just start going out to him and rubbing his 1228 00:55:28,560 --> 00:55:30,200 Speaker 1: pants while he plays the guitar. 1229 00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:34,799 Speaker 4: That would just delay everything. I think I have to 1230 00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:37,640 Speaker 4: just rip the band aid off and just apologize. 1231 00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:40,520 Speaker 1: Walk into the kitchen wearing a scream mask, and then 1232 00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:43,200 Speaker 1: take off the scream mask and be like, that's how 1233 00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:44,640 Speaker 1: I was, and this is how I am. 1234 00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:47,400 Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's actually try that. 1235 00:55:47,680 --> 00:55:49,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I can stab him and it'll make sense. 1236 00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:53,120 Speaker 2: Do a dance performance. 1237 00:55:54,360 --> 00:55:56,960 Speaker 1: Go into get a life sized cage and do a 1238 00:55:57,040 --> 00:56:00,320 Speaker 1: dance with an adult that is the old you for 1239 00:56:00,440 --> 00:56:02,719 Speaker 1: the you do, and you can come to terms with 1240 00:56:02,840 --> 00:56:05,319 Speaker 1: the two versions of yourself via dance. 1241 00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:10,040 Speaker 3: And make it kind of uncomfortable sexually for everyone who 1242 00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:14,880 Speaker 3: watches it. Yeah, this is an interesting topic and I 1243 00:56:14,960 --> 00:56:17,000 Speaker 3: just was. I'm again I hate to keep saying I'm 1244 00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:18,759 Speaker 3: working on a bit about it, but I am, like, 1245 00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:23,400 Speaker 3: there is something I wanted to work on about how relationships, 1246 00:56:23,440 --> 00:56:25,799 Speaker 3: Like if in long term relationships where you know you're 1247 00:56:25,800 --> 00:56:27,000 Speaker 3: gonna be together forever. 1248 00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:28,960 Speaker 2: You always check in. 1249 00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:32,000 Speaker 3: There's I don't know anyone in long term relationship where 1250 00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:34,440 Speaker 3: it's good all the time. You check in and you go, 1251 00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:38,480 Speaker 3: how are you guys, we've been good, We've it's been 1252 00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:39,240 Speaker 3: a rough patch. 1253 00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:42,280 Speaker 2: It is never steady. It is always changing. 1254 00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:45,560 Speaker 3: You think you're really good and you dip back down 1255 00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:50,600 Speaker 3: like there's it's it's never it's never always great in 1256 00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:53,000 Speaker 3: a long term relationship. It's just not gonna be You're 1257 00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:56,719 Speaker 3: gonna you're gonna hit rough air. There's gonna be turbulence always. 1258 00:56:57,320 --> 00:57:01,279 Speaker 1: And if you think it's it's one hundred percent good 1259 00:57:01,360 --> 00:57:04,920 Speaker 1: one hundred percent of the time, your partner is probably suffering. 1260 00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:09,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, I just can't imagine anyone being in a 1261 00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:12,359 Speaker 3: relationship where it's just smooth sailing the whole time, like 1262 00:57:12,680 --> 00:57:15,040 Speaker 3: you check because we all have that, whether or not 1263 00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:16,920 Speaker 3: you're in a long term relationship. We all have a 1264 00:57:17,120 --> 00:57:19,240 Speaker 3: Mary friend, how you go, how are you? And John 1265 00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:22,760 Speaker 3: h We've been good? Like it's it's always like there's 1266 00:57:22,960 --> 00:57:25,840 Speaker 3: it's it's always a fucking gamble. You never know because 1267 00:57:25,880 --> 00:57:29,760 Speaker 3: and so often it's just okay, we're fine, Like we're 1268 00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:32,320 Speaker 3: not thriving, we're not all over each other, we're not 1269 00:57:32,440 --> 00:57:36,880 Speaker 3: deeply in love. We're just fine, and or you're we've 1270 00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:40,040 Speaker 3: been really good, he's not hitting me anymore. Like it's 1271 00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:42,800 Speaker 3: just bare men of like, you know, like in a 1272 00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:44,920 Speaker 3: long term relationship when someone's like, we have been so 1273 00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:49,320 Speaker 3: connected lately, you know, he only has one mistress now, 1274 00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:51,800 Speaker 3: Like it's always just like something it's it's so it's 1275 00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:54,480 Speaker 3: never really that great. When people talk about a long 1276 00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:58,040 Speaker 3: term relationship being amazing, We've never been so connected. 1277 00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:01,320 Speaker 2: It's it's just hard. 1278 00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:05,520 Speaker 3: But I do think last night in the Martha Stewart documentary, 1279 00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:10,880 Speaker 3: it was pretty much kind of I guess the narrative 1280 00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:15,520 Speaker 3: was established that she her relationship failed, he cheated on 1281 00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:21,520 Speaker 3: her because she was too career oriented, and the you know, 1282 00:58:23,240 --> 00:58:27,640 Speaker 3: documentarian interviewing her, that's yeah, well it was it was 1283 00:58:27,720 --> 00:58:31,280 Speaker 3: kind of like, oh, it's your fault, Martha. But the 1284 00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:36,600 Speaker 3: documentary documentary and whatever that word is, asked her what's 1285 00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:40,160 Speaker 3: more important a career or a marriage, and she's like, 1286 00:58:41,720 --> 00:58:43,760 Speaker 3: I don't know, that's the question, and I just. 1287 00:58:43,720 --> 00:58:47,480 Speaker 2: Go career like very quickly. I'm like, who gives a 1288 00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:48,440 Speaker 2: marriage is? 1289 00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:52,280 Speaker 3: And I really believe that because I believe happy wife, 1290 00:58:52,360 --> 00:58:55,040 Speaker 3: happy life, Like if I'm happy in my career, I'll 1291 00:58:55,080 --> 00:58:56,720 Speaker 3: have a good marriage. If I have a good marriage 1292 00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:59,040 Speaker 3: and not a career fuck that I don't want, I 1293 00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:01,840 Speaker 3: will not be a good partner. 1294 00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:06,200 Speaker 2: Career is. Career for me is baby, Career is. 1295 00:59:07,280 --> 00:59:09,320 Speaker 3: I don't think there's anything wrong with that, Like, yeah, 1296 00:59:09,360 --> 00:59:10,320 Speaker 3: career is your purpose. 1297 00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:13,400 Speaker 1: A lot of time compare career to marriage. You compare 1298 00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:15,919 Speaker 1: career to baby. I think it's a better comparison. 1299 00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:19,800 Speaker 3: But I also think of relationship, like when I'm Chris 1300 00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:22,400 Speaker 3: just got done doing two huge career things and we 1301 00:59:22,880 --> 00:59:26,800 Speaker 3: I did not see him at all. Our relationship was just, uh, 1302 00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:30,360 Speaker 3: it was non existent, and I understood that. I was like, 1303 00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:32,840 Speaker 3: I would never expect you to be around right now, 1304 00:59:32,880 --> 00:59:35,320 Speaker 3: like you're working two shows. That would be insane, and 1305 00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:37,760 Speaker 3: so it was just like he had to choose one 1306 00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:39,560 Speaker 3: or the other. And he keeps saying like, and I've 1307 00:59:39,560 --> 00:59:41,200 Speaker 3: been a bad boyfriend the past two months, and I'm like, 1308 00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:43,600 Speaker 3: you haven't been because it's you haven't been a boyfriend, 1309 00:59:43,600 --> 00:59:45,800 Speaker 3: like it's I don't expect you to be good right now, 1310 00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:47,840 Speaker 3: Like that would be crazy for me to expect that. 1311 00:59:48,000 --> 00:59:50,680 Speaker 3: So stop saying you've been a bad boyfriend, because that's 1312 00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:56,280 Speaker 3: the that's the deal we have. But I I would say, yes, 1313 00:59:56,360 --> 00:59:59,280 Speaker 3: relationships are important, but like no one's ever been like 1314 00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:01,520 Speaker 3: a friendship or a career more important. And it's like 1315 01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:03,600 Speaker 3: it's always about like a marriage, Like marriage has to 1316 01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:06,200 Speaker 3: be the most that is the that is the goal 1317 01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:08,520 Speaker 3: for every woman and every man, and it's like I 1318 01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:10,880 Speaker 3: just don't think that it can be. I do think 1319 01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:12,960 Speaker 3: a career is more important than a marriage. Do I 1320 01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:16,240 Speaker 3: think friendships are more important than the career? Probably I'd 1321 01:00:16,320 --> 01:00:19,240 Speaker 3: rather have. I think relationships are more important than a career, 1322 01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:21,160 Speaker 3: but a marriage, no, sir. 1323 01:00:21,480 --> 01:00:24,600 Speaker 1: Frequently the career is the longest term relationship you'll ever. 1324 01:00:24,440 --> 01:00:25,960 Speaker 2: Have, I hope. 1325 01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:29,000 Speaker 1: So it was there before your marriage, and it might 1326 01:00:29,040 --> 01:00:29,680 Speaker 1: be there after. 1327 01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:30,520 Speaker 2: Well. 1328 01:00:30,560 --> 01:00:35,320 Speaker 3: After meeting and talking to al Michaels, veteran of sportscasting 1329 01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:38,920 Speaker 3: legend the other night and he's eighty years old, I 1330 01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:42,640 Speaker 3: know that that man is so fucking rapid fire, so 1331 01:00:42,840 --> 01:00:46,040 Speaker 3: with it slightly hard of hearing, but not really. We 1332 01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:48,880 Speaker 3: are in a really loud restaurant. There is nothing different 1333 01:00:48,920 --> 01:00:52,280 Speaker 3: from talking to him or my dad, who's in his sixties, 1334 01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:54,960 Speaker 3: and that's a you know, eighty is up there. Yeah, 1335 01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:58,240 Speaker 3: he is so with it because he works. He's still working. 1336 01:00:58,880 --> 01:01:02,200 Speaker 3: You gotta stay active, you gotta stay talking, you gotta 1337 01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:03,880 Speaker 3: stay involved and with it. 1338 01:01:03,920 --> 01:01:07,120 Speaker 2: I really I was just I was blown away by him. 1339 01:01:07,240 --> 01:01:08,920 Speaker 3: I was I was almost nervous to talk to him 1340 01:01:08,920 --> 01:01:11,120 Speaker 3: because I'm like, I, you know, like I don't I 1341 01:01:11,120 --> 01:01:13,120 Speaker 3: get nervous around to older people because I don't. 1342 01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:14,560 Speaker 2: Want to baby them. I didn't have to do that 1343 01:01:14,600 --> 01:01:15,120 Speaker 2: with him at all. 1344 01:01:15,240 --> 01:01:18,320 Speaker 3: He's a fucking there was nothing elderly about him at all. 1345 01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:22,160 Speaker 1: And it's because he's still he's still active, had a 1346 01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:24,600 Speaker 1: career who's been in the same career for forty years. 1347 01:01:24,640 --> 01:01:27,120 Speaker 1: They're always sharp and like with it. But then when 1348 01:01:27,120 --> 01:01:29,160 Speaker 1: you meet someone who's been in the same marriage for 1349 01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:30,760 Speaker 1: forty years, they can talk. 1350 01:01:30,880 --> 01:01:35,080 Speaker 3: That's very funny. There's something there, all right. We gotta go, 1351 01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:36,480 Speaker 3: thank you so much for listening to the show. 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