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Speaker 2: Before we get into these wild stories, we have a

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Speaker 2: quick two minute break from the sponsors that keep the

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Speaker 2: show going. I didn't want to invite one person to

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Speaker 2: my wedding. Here's what I designed.

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Speaker 3: It cooked up a master plan.

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Speaker 4: Let me tell you.

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Speaker 2: The high school I twenty three female went to lasted

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Speaker 2: five years. Three that we spent on boarding house, and

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Speaker 2: two what we lived in flats close to the school building.

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Speaker 2: That made me and my thirty two classmates grow really close.

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Speaker 2: And we met up multiple times a year and whenever

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Speaker 2: one of us has a big life event happening likeways,

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Speaker 2: and even though I'm not totally close with all of them,

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Speaker 2: I love them all to the grave, well with one exception.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh, by.

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Speaker 2: The way, this comes from deleted And if you want

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Speaker 2: us your own stories, you know where to go. I'm Riley,

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Speaker 2: I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and we're here to be funny.

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Speaker 2: You're here to calm me down below and hope he says,

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Speaker 2: I'm getting married next year. And right now we're looking

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Speaker 2: at the guest list I'm the fifth from my class

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Speaker 2: to get married, and four before me all divided everyone

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Speaker 2: from her class. I would love to continue this tradition,

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Speaker 2: but I just I just can't stand this one girl.

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Speaker 2: She's a huge self absorbed person, which is a trait

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Speaker 2: I hate.

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Speaker 5: I haven't met anyone other than those type of people

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Speaker 5: who likes that trait. Have you ever met anyone saying,

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Speaker 5: you know what I do? Like those kind of people.

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Speaker 5: They're fun people, they're married to.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I was a bit jealous about all the attention

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Speaker 2: she got. Maybe our personalities were just too different. I

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Speaker 2: don't know, but I spent the majority of our five

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Speaker 2: school years together by ignoying her. It was fine, we

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Speaker 2: still got along. But in our fourth year we did

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Speaker 2: a school project and she was the project manager. Oh

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Speaker 2: nice boy. We all know someone like this in school.

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Speaker 4: This is just gonna get into such like, like, guys,

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Speaker 4: it's not high school anymore. I don't know how long

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Speaker 4: it's been since high school, but it's not high school anymore,

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Speaker 4: and we're gonna get annoyed with how people were in

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Speaker 5: Is she gonna be like the person who's like I

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Speaker 5: did all the work and nobody else did anything.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's probably.

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Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, we knew people in high school, but

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Speaker 4: like we can, we can leave that in the past.

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Speaker 3: Was high school.

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Speaker 4: We don't need to like drudge up this dumb stuff. Again.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to get too much into details, but

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Speaker 2: making mountains out of mohills. With one of those mountains,

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Speaker 2: she shouted at and embarrassed me in front of the

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Speaker 5: Hmmmm, this is not a friend, that's yeah.

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Speaker 2: I left school early that day to cry. In the afternoon,

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Speaker 2: she sent me a message saying everything cleared smiley face emoji.

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Speaker 5: Everything cleared?

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Speaker 4: Like what the rainy clouds that you had hanging over

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Speaker 4: your head?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 6: Huh?

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Speaker 2: Till this day, I have not received an apology. I

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Speaker 2: do not want this girl, who has never been kind

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Speaker 2: to me unless it pleased her, at my wedding. I

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Speaker 2: planning to not invite her, and I was told it

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Speaker 2: would be really unfair and a holish move because it

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Speaker 5: Okay, great, this is not my friend. It's my wedding,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not really worried that she would get angry

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Speaker 2: invited to major life events. What I'd mean they hope

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Speaker 2: for not invited her. Anyways, here's my thought process. Is

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Speaker 2: If it's not bigger, don't invite her. If it is bigger, yeah,

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Speaker 2: invit her. That simple as that.

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Speaker 3: Honestly.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if if this tradition breaks, I mean, it's not

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Speaker 4: I don't have to do that because maybe someone can't

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Speaker 3: Change after high school. People be you know, and you

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Speaker 2: People do change. They either become welding instructors or they

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Speaker 2: Sure thing, having a couple of my buddies.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, those are very oddly specific.

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Speaker 3: Edit.

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Speaker 2: I'm very thankful for the input so far. What apparently

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Speaker 2: didn't get through, though, is that I'm not asking if

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Speaker 2: I'm the A hole for inviting her or not inviting her.

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Speaker 2: I'm perfectly aware that, of course, technically it's my right

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Speaker 2: to invite whoever I want to to my wedding, that

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Speaker 2: I'm technically not the A hole, but that's not my issue.

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Speaker 2: The issue that I'm asking about is whether I'm the

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Speaker 2: that I have going on. We have an update, all right? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: been over two years since my post.

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Speaker 3: Really, Oh wow.

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Speaker 2: We had our wedding last September, everything according to my

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Speaker 2: regional VID restrictions, and I just thought about giving an update.

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Speaker 2: I ended up inviting her as well.

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Speaker 5: Okay, you're right, called it to tradition.

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Speaker 2: A lot of the comments on my post told me

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Speaker 2: myself which was more important to me. The tradition of

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Speaker 3: That's what you said.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, she chose tradition.

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Speaker 3: She did.

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Speaker 2: She choose the six or the seven seven, And it

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Speaker 2: didn't take long to figure that out. So I got

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Speaker 2: off my high horse and invited her. Basing the comments

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Speaker 2: I might be extremely overreacting to everything she does and says,

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Speaker 2: that was true.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: She didn't wear anything scandalous like I had feared, nor

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Speaker 2: when a lot of guests had already left. There was, however,

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Speaker 4: Okay, so she did do exactly what you were worried about.

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Speaker 4: She did make it all about her.

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Speaker 5: Up until I mean not at the at the very end.

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Speaker 5: She was good all day. You missed her all day,

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Speaker 5: but until it was just like you and your classmates

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Speaker 5: all sitting at the table. She's like, so that was

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Speaker 5: a cool wedding. I'm pregnant by the way.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess silver lightning she did it. Yeah, at

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Speaker 4: the end of the day, maybe it worked for the

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Speaker 4: timing of things, like things were ending up down and

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Speaker 4: we just weren't. We don't always get to see our friends,

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Speaker 4: so it was perfect time to.

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Speaker 2: Say say no, not buying it.

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Speaker 5: Here's my com buying it. You got my question?

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Speaker 2: You got Facebook and Instagram, dude, yeah, true.

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Speaker 5: But here's my question. Is she announced. I'm like, okay, one,

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Speaker 5: are you actually pregnant? Because I feel like she might not.

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Speaker 2: Be pee on it, pee on it?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, I guess I can't be serving you

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Speaker 5: Are you drinking the night?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Question? Do pregnancy tests expire?

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Speaker 5: I don't know. I've never been pregnant in my life.

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Speaker 2: Everyone congratulated her, but that was about it what I

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Speaker 3: Okay, well that's good.

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Speaker 2: I also didn't really have the time to think about

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Speaker 2: that I have grown as a person from this whole issue.

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Speaker 2: Of course, also thinks to the feedback I got on

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Speaker 2: my original post. I'm still learning to question my feelings

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Speaker 2: for certain situations or people instead of blindly acting on them.

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Speaker 2: But I think I'm getting somewhere. We got nedded? Do

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Speaker 2: we want to read this? I feel like it's just

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Speaker 5: She's no longer in my life, but I'll keep her

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Speaker 5: in my back pocket if I need to because of tradition.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: I'm understanding that the comments that this topic has been

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Speaker 2: culturally speaking, I don't think it's a big deal where

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Speaker 2: I live as everyone makes it out to be. Only

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Speaker 2: put in the post because it was literally the only

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Speaker 2: time when I took notice of her throughout the whole wedding,

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Speaker 2: and expect it to take over all the comments hahaha

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Speaker 2: at it two did I just defend her at A three?

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Speaker 2: I just want to mention that I didn't regret inviting

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Speaker 2: her in case that didn't come across. Again, the pregnancy

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Speaker 2: thing is not a big deal.

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Speaker 3: That's good.

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Speaker 5: I like the editude. She's like, wait, wait, wait, wait

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Speaker 5: wait I defended her.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just is this real?

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Speaker 2: You guys are best friends now.

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Speaker 4: Like, listen, that makes sense. I'm glad that she was

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Speaker 4: able to be in that mindset. It is her wedding.

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Speaker 4: I'm sure she had a much more exciting day that

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Speaker 4: that this thing could not just like ruin that. And

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Speaker 4: it's good that she's not in the mindset where that

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Speaker 4: could ruin it. You know, I'm glad that. Like, you know,

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Speaker 4: some people feel different about like people overshadowing someone at

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Speaker 4: their wedding. You know, like some people don't want people

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Speaker 4: to wear certain colors because they or like things in

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Speaker 4: their hair or something like that, because they really don't

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Speaker 4: want to come close to how the bride looks and

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Speaker 4: they don't want to be overpowered. Other people are like,

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Speaker 4: are you kidding me? How could you over overshadow me?

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Speaker 4: Like I look amazing? Where whatever you want, it's not

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Speaker 4: gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean. Yeah, So I'm happy with that.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad you know. Fair, fair, fair fair.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And that's the end of this story.

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Speaker 4: We're going on to the next one. A member of

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Speaker 4: my wedding party died their whole head and planned to keep.

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Speaker 2: It for my wedding without asking you first.

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Speaker 4: I am getting married this fall Rona Willing, and one

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Speaker 4: member of the wedding party has neon yellow green hair

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Speaker 4: and has said that they plan on keeping that color

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Speaker 3: Them to be in the wedding party.

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Speaker 3: Goofly.

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Speaker 4: But we don't have all the answers. We just know

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Speaker 3: So honestly, I just didn't see it coming.

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Speaker 4: Everyone else has more muted colors of hair, and the

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Speaker 4: it's going to stand out. I know it's just hair,

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Speaker 3: However, I also frankly.

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Speaker 4: Don't want to look at my wedding pictures for the

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Speaker 4: Ideas we have come up with to mitigate this. Make

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Speaker 4: all the photos of the wedding party be in black

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Speaker 4: hair to not any on yellow green color, which may also.

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Speaker 4: Opinions are welcome, or the option that someone proposed that

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Speaker 4: I'm really conflicted about. Ask the person to wear a

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Speaker 3: Tucked away for most of the pictures.

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Speaker 4: If it matters, we bought slash rented dresses and tuxes

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Speaker 4: I don't want to then force them to pay to

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Speaker 4: taking my input a step too far. It was a

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Speaker 1: Of their neon hair for my wedding.

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Speaker 3: We do have an edit to.

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Speaker 4: Claire Fine, I'm asking would I be the a hole

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Speaker 3: If they're not comfortable with the hair piece, then I'd.

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Speaker 4: Ask how they feel if there was editing, our color balance,

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Speaker 4: there's still a no, then we'd just pick black and

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Speaker 4: white photos. We get one professional album with our photography pack,

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Speaker 4: so we'd just make the whole thing black and white photos.

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Speaker 4: We'd still have digital copies of all the photos color

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Speaker 4: and not just the ones. We'd hang in our house

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Speaker 4: and stuff would probably be black and white. No one

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Speaker 4: is going to be forced to do anything, but we

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Speaker 4: do have an update. But what do you think Opie

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Speaker 2: I'm not forcing them to do anything. They don't have

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Speaker 4: You think it sounds like that, Yeah, explain yourself.

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Speaker 2: We want to be here. If that was case Opie,

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Speaker 2: it's not bling to us. Yeah you want them to

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Speaker 2: change their hair color?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we will be on Reddit.

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Speaker 2: You just don't want to be the ahole. Thus is

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Speaker 2: what we're gonna do. Crazy bachelorette party the night before God, no,

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Speaker 3: No, Oh my gosh, Oh I'd be crazy.

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Speaker 2: I just invited a couple of girls. Yes, their professions

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Speaker 2: are hair styling, that doesn't matter. They're here to have fun.

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Speaker 2: Bring this problem solved.

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Speaker 5: So don't do that.

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Speaker 2: I said, how bad do you want to get done?

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Speaker 2: Really bad? Or kind of that? We're really bad? There

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Speaker 2: you go.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if you throw your morals away, that is a

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Speaker 4: way to do it.

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Speaker 2: All right, All right, now we've got morals in the mix.

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Speaker 2: What are we gonna do?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: But anyway, we have an update here. My original post

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Speaker 4: an update since the situation is fully resolved. While the

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Speaker 4: was putting all my stress and anxiety about life and

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Speaker 4: the wedding, as well as my frustration with some unrelated, rude,

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Speaker 4: it wasn't worth saying anything about covering the hair for

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Speaker 4: my mental health. I needed to just let it go

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Speaker 4: and let everything else go too. My wedding day was amazing.

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Speaker 4: I'm so glad to not only be married but also

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Speaker 4: be done with wedding planning and moving in all of it,

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Speaker 4: because holy.

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Speaker 3: Heck, it was a lot.

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Speaker 4: Some people said I was shallow to even care about

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Speaker 4: the hair and pictures at all, and yeah, I probably am.

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Speaker 4: I accept that the hair does stand out a lot

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Speaker 4: in the color pictures, and the person had their natural roots,

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Speaker 4: which looked absolutely awful.

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Speaker 3: That would bug me the most.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, You're gonna come to my wedding with this bright

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Speaker 4: even gonna have a redone for my wedding, Like really,

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Speaker 4: I mean, why should Why wouldn't she want that for herself? Anyway,

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Speaker 4: come on, you're gonna look bad.

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Speaker 2: See that's fun delicious.

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 4: I found it incredibly rude that they died their hair

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Speaker 4: and meon, and that they didn't even bother to make

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Speaker 4: sure it was maintained for being in a wedding fair.

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Speaker 4: But in black and white everything looks totally fine, and

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Speaker 4: I love black and white pictures anyway. They also got

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Speaker 4: married a bit after my wedding. The Witchy Voice in

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Speaker 4: my head couldn't help, but note that they bothered to

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Speaker 4: get their roots done for.

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Speaker 3: Their own wedding.

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Speaker 4: I complained to my husband a bit in our hotel

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Speaker 3: Had a great time in their wedding.

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Speaker 4: I guess all this to say whether or not it

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Speaker 4: worth it. The hair did bother me. I am a

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Speaker 4: little shallow, I am a little selfish, but it wasn't

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Speaker 4: as big of a deal as I was making it

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Speaker 4: out to be. It was better to keep all shallow,

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Speaker 4: selfish and witchy thoughts to myself and my husband, work

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Speaker 4: on acceptance and move on writing. This is my closure.

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Speaker 4: I will spare no more thoughts or energy for the

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Speaker 4: neon hair. Thank you all for helping me find perspective,

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Speaker 4: and we do have an edit here before.

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Speaker 2: We are my favorite part. There was no personality trait

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Speaker 2: of this person that countered the neon hair, and you

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Speaker 2: still asked them to be bridesmaid Like that.

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Speaker 3: That was better than the neon hair?

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Speaker 1: Is that what we're saying?

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Speaker 2: Like if you decided day before we got married, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna don my hair Neon and key On, who's my groomsman.

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Speaker 2: Also the day before was like, I'm.

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Speaker 5: Gonna do it too, I'm gonna shave my head.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna shave my head. Yeah, Kean is an awesome person.

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Speaker 2: I love him.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, was kind of weird. Come, I love you so much.

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Speaker 2: We're already at the point about to get married. Let's

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Speaker 2: just tie the not already. Yeah, you know you're gonna

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Speaker 2: look back on it. It's gonna be whatever. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 2: because of how awesome a person you were. Didn't see

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Speaker 2: this here. The only personal we try to sell this

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Speaker 2: person was they have neon hair. Yeah, not that they're

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Speaker 2: fun to be around or they helped me through a

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Speaker 4: I mean, it was honestly even the opposite, because she

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Speaker 4: did say like, well, this person, I think what was bothering, Like,

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Speaker 4: it was just so easy to be bad about. So

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Speaker 4: it's like, yeah, exactly, it's the opposite of that. But

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Speaker 4: I've seen come up. Since people have cared enough to

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Speaker 4: message me about it, Why do I think it was

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Speaker 4: rude to not dye their roots? What I've paid for it?

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Speaker 4: Did I pay for things for them to be in

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Speaker 4: the way wedding? Where are weddings far apart enough etc?

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Speaker 4: I paid for everything that I could to help take

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Speaker 4: If they had told me it was a money issue,

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Speaker 4: I'd gladly have paid for the roots to be done too,

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Speaker 4: if they told me that they needed help. I know

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Speaker 4: people are in various financial situations. I told my wedding

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Speaker 4: party if there were any financial challenges coming up in

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Speaker 4: and I would help, because I didn't want it to

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Speaker 3: You're going to do what you need to do to

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Speaker 4: In my perspective, if you dye your hair, a very

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Speaker 4: attention grabbing color that differs dramatically from your natural hair color.

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Speaker 4: That you make sure the dye job looks decent and

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Speaker 4: well done and not an inch grown out, And that's

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Speaker 4: part of looking presentable for a formal event. The weddings

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Speaker 4: just not my wedding, and that to me shows a

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Speaker 4: lack of care, especially when again I would have paid

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Speaker 3: Riley, what do you think about that?

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Speaker 2: Fair? I'm not going to go to a wedding really

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Speaker 2: long curly hair. Yeah, not put together. I like the thing,

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Speaker 2: I get it.

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Speaker 4: I don't know how angry I would be. I think

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Speaker 4: I would be more like, uh, like annoyed. I think

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Speaker 4: that is like a fair point to make. Like it's

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Speaker 4: almost similar to someone wearing like sweatpants your wedding, Like, Okay, guys,

445
00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:39,840
Speaker 4: this is the attire you're supposed to match the dress code.

446
00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:42,840
Speaker 4: Let's like, why are you looking not put together? Like

447
00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:44,440
Speaker 4: you just rolled out of bed to my wedding.

448
00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:47,720
Speaker 5: Cargo shorts, say, cargo shorts and like a Hawaiian shirt.

449
00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, come on, so I get that. I would

450
00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:53,280
Speaker 4: probably be more annoyed just for like that person, especially

451
00:18:53,280 --> 00:18:55,639
Speaker 4: if they're in the wedding party too, like if they

452
00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:57,400
Speaker 4: were in to not be as big of a deal,

453
00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:00,600
Speaker 4: I think, But it's like, come on, man, wouldn't don't

454
00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:03,520
Speaker 4: you want to look pretty and like like refreshed for

455
00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:04,000
Speaker 4: a wedding.

456
00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:05,040
Speaker 2: What's going on here?

457
00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:07,399
Speaker 4: I don't know, but whatever, we got a little bit

458
00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:10,320
Speaker 4: more to this story. Additionally, I was in their wedding

459
00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,639
Speaker 4: and paid for my dress and for their bachelorette party,

460
00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:16,720
Speaker 4: and they did not contribute to or come to mine.

461
00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:19,359
Speaker 4: And you know what, Oh that is fine. They're well

462
00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:21,640
Speaker 4: in their right to do whatever they want with their

463
00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:23,960
Speaker 4: money and their hair. It's just it all added up

464
00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:27,320
Speaker 4: and me knowing them, knowing their situation, I found it rude.

465
00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:28,560
Speaker 3: It is what it is.

466
00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,760
Speaker 4: With respect to that friend. I am unbelievably happy with

467
00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,119
Speaker 4: my wedding day and my black and white pictures, and

468
00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:36,640
Speaker 4: I'm so grateful to be married and to have all

469
00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:39,199
Speaker 4: my friends by my side for the day, regardless of

470
00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:39,680
Speaker 4: their hair.

471
00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:40,960
Speaker 3: And that's the end of that story.

472
00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:45,040
Speaker 4: All right, good peaceful mindset to have at the end

473
00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:45,440
Speaker 4: of it all.

474
00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:47,200
Speaker 3: And that's the end of this story.

475
00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,600
Speaker 4: We're going on to the next one.

476
00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:53,080
Speaker 2: My friend slept with my crush at my own party.

477
00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:54,520
Speaker 3: And she did it at my birthday dinner.

478
00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:58,639
Speaker 2: I am pissed for the background. I twenty three female,

479
00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:02,760
Speaker 2: have no mind bff Vicky twenty three female for seven years.

480
00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:05,320
Speaker 2: We are very close and we would always rely on

481
00:20:05,359 --> 00:20:07,439
Speaker 2: each other. On the other side is my friend of

482
00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:10,480
Speaker 2: two years Chris with the k twenty eight mal ew

483
00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,399
Speaker 2: thing is. I have a huge crush on him, but

484
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,240
Speaker 2: unfortunately it looks like he friendzoned to me.

485
00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:17,560
Speaker 3: It is unfortunate.

486
00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,280
Speaker 5: That's the that's the honor. That's the honor system right there.

487
00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,800
Speaker 2: Okay, we told me a few times I am crazy

488
00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:25,440
Speaker 2: attractive and all. But at the same time he turned

489
00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:27,720
Speaker 2: down my flirt attempts. What he says, you're train to?

490
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:31,560
Speaker 7: What did I like so attractive and like so hot

491
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:33,919
Speaker 7: and I would like totally do you, but like I

492
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 7: just need to like work on myself.

493
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:39,160
Speaker 5: But emotionally it's not fitting for me. Sorry, it doesn't

494
00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:39,520
Speaker 5: work for me.

495
00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:43,800
Speaker 7: Whenever you flirt with me, I do get repulsive diarrhea.

496
00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from midtown witch. And if

497
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 2: you want to see you own stories, go to the

498
00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:48,960
Speaker 2: r slage. Okay, story time, super at it.

499
00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 5: I'm Riley, I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and we are here.

500
00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 2: To be funny. You are here to comment your real

501
00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 2: experiences and be our experts. All right. So until yesterday,

502
00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:00,879
Speaker 2: they never met each other, or as I thought, but

503
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:05,040
Speaker 2: I spoke often about each other to one another. About

504
00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,560
Speaker 2: six months ago, Vicki told me she met a guy

505
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:10,919
Speaker 2: in the club and they had such great chemistry that

506
00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:14,440
Speaker 2: they went to her place and did the Bangy bang

507
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 2: chapau Paw with the Boon Dunes and the Coon Dunes.

508
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 5: In the club.

509
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:24,080
Speaker 2: We're all fam supplosedly the best spicy tango dance of

510
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:24,760
Speaker 2: her life.

511
00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:26,639
Speaker 4: Oh man.

512
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 2: But the guy was out in the morning when she

513
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 2: woke up, and she didn't have his phone number or

514
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:33,520
Speaker 2: any social media info.

515
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:34,240
Speaker 5: That's weird.

516
00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:37,040
Speaker 2: I believe you know already where I'm going with them. Yesterday,

517
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,640
Speaker 2: I was making an early birthday party for my friends,

518
00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:43,360
Speaker 2: and I invited people from different circles of friends. So yeah,

519
00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:46,440
Speaker 2: he was on time, and she came half an hour later.

520
00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 2: I went to greet her. She immediately noticed him from

521
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:53,560
Speaker 2: the hall and was very surprised. Oh, as we were alone,

522
00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:55,720
Speaker 2: she told me that he was a guy from half

523
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:56,680
Speaker 2: a year ago.

524
00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 5: Oh man, wait, that's very odd to me. Like, how

525
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 5: has your best friend never met your other really good

526
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:07,399
Speaker 5: friend of two years of two years? Oh no, Vicky's

527
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:10,040
Speaker 5: been seven years, seven years, Chris, Chris is two or

528
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:13,359
Speaker 5: like Vicky's like six or seven years, Vicky's seven years. Yeah,

529
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:13,920
Speaker 5: I don't know.

530
00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 3: I guess the paths never crossed.

531
00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:18,640
Speaker 5: Also, like yeah, like especially when like you talk about like, oh,

532
00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:20,640
Speaker 5: I've been friend zoned by this guy.

533
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 3: I'm just confused.

534
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,360
Speaker 4: Why you didn't even get the name of the guy

535
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 4: that you slept with.

536
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 2: We didn't.

537
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:27,679
Speaker 4: We didn't get social media, we didn't get number, but

538
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:28,600
Speaker 4: we didn't have a name.

539
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, we didn't talk about a name.

540
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:31,640
Speaker 5: A lot of questions going on.

541
00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:33,399
Speaker 4: I feel like if that was in the mix, we

542
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:35,360
Speaker 4: would have figured this out way earlier.

543
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,640
Speaker 2: For holy elf, el fuego, that's what happens. You get

544
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:39,119
Speaker 2: horned up.

545
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 3: Just doesn't even matter your name night we met.

546
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 4: You just were scared to say it because he's you're

547
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 4: going to mess it up my name.

548
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:49,639
Speaker 3: He also got my Instagram, so that is true. It

549
00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 3: was there. It was in the in the in the name.

550
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:53,119
Speaker 2: Wow, we really made that happen.

551
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 3: We sure did. Here we are so I was.

552
00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 2: Blown away and was only able to stutter he is

553
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:03,240
Speaker 2: my crush. Next dozens of minutes were awkward for them.

554
00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 2: They said hi, and I looked like she avoided him

555
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 2: a little. At this point, I somehow already regretted that

556
00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:11,879
Speaker 2: they met at my party. Took me to the side

557
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 2: and told me that she had no idea about who

558
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,840
Speaker 2: he was and that she will leave him alone. Next

559
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 2: few hours, all people were having a good time, but

560
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 2: I was a little down. I noticed that they started

561
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:25,159
Speaker 2: to talk with each other and drink and dance.

562
00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 3: Canton night chemistry.

563
00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,200
Speaker 5: Man, what kind of dancing? Like are we talking about?

564
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 5: Like the YMCA or like get low space for Jesus?

565
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,680
Speaker 2: That's what I always say. Later that night, we all

566
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:39,400
Speaker 2: went to an outdoor event close to my place. After midnight,

567
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 2: I was quite wasted. What is this outdoor event? Is

568
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:43,679
Speaker 2: this line dancing? What is this?

569
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:44,719
Speaker 6: I don't know.

570
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:45,399
Speaker 5: I don't know.

571
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 3: Might be like an outdoor bar or something, or.

572
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:52,119
Speaker 5: Maybe like backyard wrestling. Sure, I don't know. Yeah, the

573
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 5: world is your oyster.

574
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:54,640
Speaker 3: There's options out there.

575
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 2: Usually I don't drink too much, but yesterday I could

576
00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 2: not stop myself. I saw im all had this plan

577
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:02,879
Speaker 2: concollected in my waste and mind that I will ask

578
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:04,640
Speaker 2: Chris to escort me back home.

579
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna lie. That ship has sailed.

580
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, he literally friend zoned you.

581
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 4: I think if that, however long ago, this friend zone

582
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 4: thing happened, I think we need to stop calling him

583
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 4: your crush.

584
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we need to get over that fast.

585
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 2: That's true. He's already escorting someone else.

586
00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's blinking other people.

587
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 2: I wanted to split them as he was spending more

588
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 2: and more time with VICKI, but it somehow didn't work

589
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:32,439
Speaker 2: well for me. I didn't even have a chance to

590
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,880
Speaker 2: ask him, as two of my other friends quite literally

591
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 2: dragged me out and we went home. And I do

592
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 2: not remember that part either way. When I woke today

593
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,720
Speaker 2: with a huge handover, I could not stop thinking about

594
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 2: Chris and VICKI invited all the people from the party

595
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 2: to my place for coffee and wine and some adult soda.

596
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 2: At the same time, I was talking with three people

597
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 2: that I remember were there most probably until the end.

598
00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 2: My friend told me that Chris and Vicky were making

599
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 2: out at the end and he left the party together.

600
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 4: Oh man, all you did was just bring them closer together.

601
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,239
Speaker 4: You could be responsible for a lifetime.

602
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 2: Love.

603
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 5: You're the catalyst. You're the catalyst. OPI yeah, sorry.

604
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:16,639
Speaker 2: Sometimes it takes a friend zone to make that happen.

605
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:19,919
Speaker 2: Sean act normal, but not make a scene. But I

606
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 2: was boiling on the inside. It was obviously they had

607
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 2: spicy sleep. He was fond of her, but she again

608
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 2: tried to avoid both me and him. I suppose at

609
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,879
Speaker 2: least shouldn't tell him my secret. An hour later, this

610
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 2: after party had ended, and since then Vicky was avoiding

611
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,239
Speaker 2: my messages. Two hours ago, she just sent me a

612
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 2: message asking to meet tomorrow. She wrote that she is sorry.

613
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,120
Speaker 5: Oh boy, okay, sorry only go so far.

614
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:49,160
Speaker 2: But right now I could not think straight. I'm trying

615
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 2: to justify me and Chris. We're just friends. We are

616
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 2: not a couple or anything. I could not claim him.

617
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 2: At the same time, I'm furious about making this stupid

618
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 2: party where they found each other. To be honest, Chris

619
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 2: had a dozen relationships in the past two years. That

620
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:08,719
Speaker 2: we know each other and probably more one night stands

621
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 2: or something similaris he is quite a ladies man, and

622
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 2: I was always jealous, but for some reason I could

623
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 2: not stand him being with Vicki even more. Five days later, Well,

624
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 2: we're thinking.

625
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 4: I think that's a really fair feeling to feel that,

626
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 4: like jealousy of like, ah, I wanted to be me,

627
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 4: But at the same time, he doesn't seem like someone

628
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 4: we want to get into a relationship with.

629
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:36,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly he's a womanizer.

630
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:38,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't want that.

631
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 2: Update Five days later, I met Chris twenty eight male,

632
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:43,199
Speaker 2: two years ago. I fell in love with him at

633
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 2: first sight. I could praise him for hours. But that

634
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 2: is not the part, So let's skip this part.

635
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 3: I think, So, I don't know.

636
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:51,919
Speaker 5: I don't like that, like praise him for hours. I

637
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 5: could praise him for hours.

638
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 2: She's twenty three, he's twenty eight.

639
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 5: Listen right, Riley, I could praise you for hours too.

640
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 2: I couldn't. You could not.

641
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,080
Speaker 3: Just sounds like a lot of infatuation.

642
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 5: It's infatuation, like do you really know this guy? Yeah?

643
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 2: I was a little bit shy around him at first,

644
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 2: so I didn't make a move Initially, he met at

645
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 2: my workplace, and he introduced me to about ten other people.

646
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 2: I started to hang out with Chris and the rest

647
00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:16,479
Speaker 2: of the pack, both in work and outside of it.

648
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 2: Most of these people were quite young. Y're going to thirty,

649
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 2: so we were partying whenever we could. After a few weeks,

650
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 2: I overcame my shyness and I tried to flirt with Chris.

651
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 2: But I think it was already too late. I was

652
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 2: already in his friend zone. He rejected my subtle attempts

653
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 2: to pick him up. Over time, we grew even closer

654
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 2: and started to hang out alone. Only we went to

655
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 2: dinner together, go shopping, or just hang out in front

656
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 2: of the TV at his or my place. Looking back,

657
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 2: I think it was just a substitute for a date

658
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 2: for me, but that was never the case. During these

659
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 2: next two years, Chris was in and out of the

660
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 2: romantic relationships many times. On the other hand, I was

661
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 2: not involved in anything, mostly because I hope we would

662
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 2: be together at some point. Last week I realized that

663
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 2: I'm going nowhere. It had been two years, and I

664
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 2: missed my chance.

665
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,919
Speaker 5: Opie, you spent two years chasing after this guy, in

666
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:12,879
Speaker 5: and out of relationships.

667
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

668
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,199
Speaker 5: Dang, at what point do you give up when my

669
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 5: subtle flirting isn't working? Or am I not my subtle

670
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 5: flirting my flirting isn't working and I've been rejected, then

671
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 5: I'm like, you know what, I respect that, Yeah, you know,

672
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 5: but like also the fact that Chris was taking her out,

673
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:32,200
Speaker 5: but I need the context of like were these friend dates?

674
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 5: Like how was he going on dates? About it? Like yeah,

675
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:37,879
Speaker 5: was he flirting back? But like not, I need to

676
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 5: know there's like.

677
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, I give up as soon as he goes on

678
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 4: a date with someone else. It's like, okay, well, then

679
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 4: now I know that you were not interested in me,

680
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 4: because if you were, then you wouldn't be dating other people.

681
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 5: You would have been hung up on this guy for

682
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 5: the rest of this time when he was like not

683
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 5: one relationship, but however many, because it seemed like it

684
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 5: was more than three.

685
00:28:57,560 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, Opie, have some some more value in yourself. Explore

686
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 4: other options that you've got. Chris is not the only

687
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 4: thing out there. He does not seem like a great

688
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 4: option for you.

689
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 2: My biggest headache right now is that I think I

690
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 2: won't be able to move on as long as we

691
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 2: are still friends and we are seeing each other on

692
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 2: a nearly daily basis at work. At the same time,

693
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 2: I am heartbroken when I think I should end our friendship.

694
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 2: Our friendship and our time together is still important for me.

695
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 2: Update two weeks later, girlfriend girl, girly pop.

696
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 5: Girl, come on, girl period, friend.

697
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 2: Period, Queen, Princess Bay.

698
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 4: Goddess, ah it, figure it out, Layer.

699
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 2: Come on. Update two weeks later. We have been friends

700
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 2: for more than two years now, and I already had

701
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 2: a big crush on him since the very beginning. I

702
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 2: was not really able to confess or flour or ask

703
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 2: him out at the very beginning, so we became just friends.

704
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 2: I really value our friendship, but it is really hard

705
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 2: for me since I was looking for something more with

706
00:29:56,840 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: him out here we go later, I realize I cannot

707
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 2: go oh with it any longer. I just have to try.

708
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: I'm really scared of rejection, but I understand now that

709
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 2: even that that might be beneficial in the long run.

710
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: So yeah, I asked to meet up with him today.

711
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 2: I mean, it is not that weird for us, but

712
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 2: we are spending time together on an almost weekly basis.

713
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 2: This time will be different. I'm ready to confess my

714
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 2: feelings and I want to do this. I'm still wondering

715
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 2: on the details on how I want to do this,

716
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,400
Speaker 2: but I have to do this. It is long overdue.

717
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 2: I'm trying to prepare for this, like some public speaking

718
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 2: or presentation, but I do not know if it is

719
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 2: a good approach. Try to act spontaneously and not plan everything.

720
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 2: Is there any good method to overcome anxiety?

721
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 5: We have a post, we're still shooting our shot.

722
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's nervous, bro, after all.

723
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 5: Of this, after he slept with Vicky, not once but twice.

724
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, if that's what she needed to do to

725
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 4: get over this man, go for it and like get rejected.

726
00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 4: But I think she's so young. I mean she's known

727
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 4: this guy since she was twenty one, been hooked on

728
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 4: him since twenty one, is now twenty three.

729
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 3: I mean, like she's.

730
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 4: Gonna need a moment where she, I don't know, falls

731
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 4: on her face a bit with it. She needs to

732
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 4: learn the hard way how to get over anxiety, and

733
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 4: that's to just get a bunch of it, and you

734
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 4: just kind of have to learn how to deal with

735
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 4: it because you don't want to have that for the

736
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 4: rest of your life.

737
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 2: You know update two days after. I did confess my

738
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 2: feelings eventually, and it looked like my friend shared similar feeling.

739
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 3: Gosh, I do not try.

740
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,680
Speaker 5: I'm shaking my head back here. This is not the way.

741
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, we agreed to promote our friendship and try this

742
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 2: couple's thing. Oh people, what about Vicky?

743
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 3: Okay? Yeah what?

744
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 2: But I almost messed this up in every possible way.

745
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 3: I wish she did.

746
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 2: We had dinner for a few hours. I was not

747
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 2: able to force myself to start this topic at all,

748
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 2: almost part of our ways. But as we were talking

749
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 2: in front of the restaurant, fur it out. No one

750
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 2: had better things to do on a Friday evening at

751
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 2: this time, so we agreed to spend more time together.

752
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 2: We went to two other places to drink and dance

753
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 2: a little, and me being me, I was still not

754
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 2: able to say anything. But that was just heartbreaking. At

755
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 2: this point, I had the last chance. He told me

756
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:19,719
Speaker 2: earlier about some projects he was working on, so I

757
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 2: asked if I could see it. We went to his

758
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 2: place and I had one more glass of wine and

759
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 2: we were chilling for a bit. At one point we

760
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 2: were teasing one another in a playful way and messing around.

761
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 2: He was tickling me, and to make him stop, I

762
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 2: pinned him down. Or is this going?

763
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 5: Oh you know where it's going.

764
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 2: I don't want this going.

765
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 5: It's going to town. No, it's going to town. It's

766
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 5: going to Poundtown.

767
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 2: I don't want it to go to Poundtown.

768
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 4: It's going to It's done. He's pinned down, ready to

769
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 4: go to Poundtown. Consensually, I'm assuming.

770
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 2: I have no idea what I was thinking by that time.

771
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 2: I just kissed him, immediately panicked and backed off, and

772
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 2: he was like that. I was scared heck, but I

773
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 2: told him that we have this unique bond. For some time,

774
00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 2: I was feeling like I would do something more and

775
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 2: asked him if he could see us as a couple.

776
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 2: He told me that he really appreciates our friendship and

777
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 2: trust me a lot, and then complimented me a little.

778
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 2: But the next thing he told me was really earth shattering. Basically,

779
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 2: he didn't think I might be into him romantically. What

780
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 2: I thought he knew.

781
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 3: I don't trust this.

782
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 5: I don't trust this.

783
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 2: He reminded me about one conversation we had. It was

784
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 2: after my last breakup. I said something like, there was

785
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 2: no man, I'm really attracted to which was straight up

786
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 2: a line. I was attracted to him, just couldn't admit that,

787
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 2: and because of that, he was never thinking we could

788
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,160
Speaker 2: be a couple or anything like that. I told him

789
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 2: it was a stupid thing to say then, and that

790
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 2: I'm really attracted to him. I'm just gonna get rid

791
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 2: get through this suempt. I don't want to read it anymore.

792
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 5: The sumped, the sumped.

793
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 2: So yeah, he proposed for us to try this, and

794
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 2: we guessed. I felt so happy and relieved, and I

795
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 2: started crying a little, but he was really comforting about it.

796
00:33:55,960 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 2: And then one thing led to another, and hm M,

797
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 2: I don't like this story. It was a really great

798
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 2: ending of the day and all happy ending. So long

799
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:08,759
Speaker 2: story shorts. We are meeting today again for a real date.

800
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 2: It will be a little weird, as we already have

801
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 2: trust and intimacy from our friendship that is usually building

802
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 2: during dating, but it's nice to try it. I cannot wait.

803
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 2: I think I have never been so happy. We need

804
00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 2: an update on this, acunt.

805
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 5: I'm looking right now.

806
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 2: We need an update on this.

807
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 4: I don't believe this, really, just don't trust it.

808
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 5: There's no update. Dang, there's your update, it's just like

809
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 5: a lot of the comments, which is really weird to me.

810
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 5: On that final update, was like, yes, ladies, you need

811
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 5: to tell us men that you're interested in us because

812
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 5: we don't get it. Which, yeah, sometimes men are stupid.

813
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 5: But also, he slept with VICKI he has a terrible

814
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 5: dating history with It's just a red flag. It's red

815
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 5: flag back.

816
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 4: You guys slept together on the first date, which is

817
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 4: totally fine. I just knowing all that that context, I

818
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 4: don't trust it's true.

819
00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 5: And was this really the first date if they went

820
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:02,200
Speaker 5: on so many friend days before, good question.

821
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 2: Ope, he just wants a little project to work on.

822
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:07,439
Speaker 2: She can fix them. Come on, come on, come on,

823
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 2: what else you about effects?

824
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 3: There's something to fix.

825
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 4: The thing that she would have to fix is his

826
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 4: attraction to her, you know.

827
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 3: What I mean.

828
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 5: Also, they're coworkers.

829
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 2: Oh you should never sleep with your coworkers.

830
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 3: I'll do it. And that's the end of the story.

831
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:23,760
Speaker 3: We're going on to the next one.

832
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,439
Speaker 2: Hey, this is Riley the host. I can't really read that. Well,

833
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:28,439
Speaker 2: we're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three

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Speaker 3: I spend my boyfriend's birthday cooking and cleaning, but it's

836
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 3: still not enough for him.

837
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: He wants you to be Cinderella.

838
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,520
Speaker 3: My boyfriend thirty three male, and I twenty five female,

839
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 3: have been together for eight months. I'm putting myself through

840
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 3: school and I'm working towards getting my third degree. Because

841
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 3: of this, I'm super broke and penny pension every way

842
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 3: I can't. My boyfriend is settled in his career with

843
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:56,959
Speaker 3: disposable income, so we have different habits when it comes

844
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 3: to spending money. Our finances are completely separate. And by

845
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,919
Speaker 3: the way, this comes from International East six to three.

846
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 3: And if you want to make your own stories good

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Speaker 3: at the r slash Okay storytime severed it. I'm Sofia, I'm.

848
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Speaker 5: Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good of

849
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:11,840
Speaker 5: uce goofy.

850
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 3: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

851
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 3: what we'd do, So I'll let us know what you

852
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 3: would do in the comments, and Op says his birthday

853
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 3: was last week, but I didn't get him a physical

854
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 3: gift because all of the things he really wants or

855
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:27,719
Speaker 3: needs are wildly out of my budget. Instead, I woke

856
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 3: up super early in the morning to make them a

857
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:34,760
Speaker 3: big spst to make him a big special breakfast French toast, eggs, bacon,

858
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 3: and coffee and brought it to him in bed. He's

859
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:39,839
Speaker 3: the type to work even on his birthday, so I

860
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 3: also made him a special packed lunch grilled chicken sandwich

861
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 3: with pesto, mozzarella, cheese, veggies, the works, and rice on

862
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 3: the side. While he was at work, I cleaned his

863
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:54,399
Speaker 3: whole house. I swept, dusted, mopped, picked up, and organized.

864
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 3: Then I made his favorite dinner, penne vodka and organized

865
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 3: a movie night of his all time favorites. When he

866
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 3: got home, I gave him a handwritten happy Birthday card

867
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:07,280
Speaker 3: before we ate dinner and watched the movies. I also

868
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 3: planned a surprise party that weekend with his friends and family,

869
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 3: which I also cleaned up everything after, and I thought

870
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 3: he had a great time. But he admitted to me

871
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 3: yesterday that he was upset and felt unimportant because I

872
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 3: didn't get him an actual present. Eh, what was all

873
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:27,840
Speaker 3: that before?

874
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 1: That was kind of the present, dude.

875
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:33,279
Speaker 3: I reminded him about my financial situation. He said it

876
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 3: wasn't about the cost of the gift, but the gesture

877
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 3: behind giving something and it could have been something small.

878
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 3: I asked him if everything else I did wasn't enough

879
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 3: of a gesture, and he said that wasn't the point.

880
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 3: Now we're both just upset at each other. So am

881
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 3: I the A hole for not getting my boyfriend a

882
00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 3: physical birthday present?

883
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 2: Hey?

884
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 1: I don't think you're the a whole. But if gift

885
00:37:55,600 --> 00:38:00,319
Speaker 1: giving or receiving is someone's big love language, yep, that's

886
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:03,399
Speaker 1: a good thing to work out early on. And even

887
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 1: if you don't have the budget, you can get him

888
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: something tiny.

889
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I mean clearly that's what he prefers, you know,

890
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 3: So maybe instead of I mean, if you could afford it,

891
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 3: maybe instead of doing all the cooking and getting all

892
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 3: the groceries for that, or like just limiting the amount

893
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 3: that you did that day, you could spend, like you

894
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 3: could make something for him or I don't know, sometimes

895
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:32,840
Speaker 3: you can like thrift cool clues or something.

896
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: Now, I don't think that you're the a hole for

897
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 1: this time.

898
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 3: Because you didn't know. Yeah, and he should be eight months,

899
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:42,839
Speaker 3: so this is probably first birthday that you're together.

900
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:45,799
Speaker 1: Exactly, And he should stop being rude about it to

901
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 1: you because you obviously weren't on the same page of

902
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: what everyone wanted. Yeah, the next birthday, if there's a

903
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 1: next birthday together, just get him something tiny and don't

904
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:56,760
Speaker 1: worry about the gift.

905
00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, just be like very clear about what you like

906
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 3: to get on your birthdays.

907
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 5: Edit.

908
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 3: I see a lot of people talking about love languages

909
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 3: and communication. I agree those are super important. My love

910
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 3: language is actually physical touch, not acts of service like

911
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:13,799
Speaker 3: a lot of people are kissing. I know his love

912
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:16,439
Speaker 3: language is gifts, so I thought a handmade card would

913
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 3: be enough along with everything else. I'm just confused and

914
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 3: upset because I tried to go above and beyond due

915
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 3: to the fact that my budget constraints meant I couldn't

916
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 3: buy him a gift that wasn't from the dollar store.

917
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 3: I liked the comments about craft gifts. I think those

918
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,359
Speaker 3: are good alternatives, and I'll talk to my boyfriend about

919
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 3: that to see what he thinks. I hope this is

920
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 3: just a communication issue.

921
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, if he's not show what the craft gifts or

922
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: like the tiny like homemade stuff, yeah, red flags, those

923
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 1: are the muses. Red.

924
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 3: Yeah. A lot of people are also asking about using

925
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,760
Speaker 3: the money I spent on food for a gift instead

926
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 3: the money I spent on food was part of my

927
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 3: grocery budget. It's money I would have spent anyway. I

928
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:58,920
Speaker 3: just factored in his favorite things. Plus I use a

929
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 3: small bit from his fridge. My budget was and continues

930
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 3: to be very tight. And we've got a verdict and

931
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 3: an update seven months later.

932
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: What do you think though, Like, you're not the a

933
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 1: hole that's so obvious, and I hope that it's just

934
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 1: a big misunderstanding I need too. He's kind of being

935
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 1: an a hole right now though, But yeah, I think.

936
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 3: He could have talked about it a little bit nicer well. Also, yeah,

937
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 3: and recognizing that you still did a lot for him.

938
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 1: No, exactly.

939
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 3: It just doesn't feel like he's valuing what you're offering

940
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 3: so far.

941
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: Take a guess in this update, are they together still.

942
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 3: Based off of prior Reddit stories?

943
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 1: No, I also think it's a no.

944
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:46,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's tough. I just be as Shanni Ope says,

945
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 3: seven months equals break up ninety percent of the time. Yeah,

946
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:52,040
Speaker 3: they're at eight months. I don't know if that's long enough.

947
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna guess her birthday came around and that was

948
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 1: the catalyst.

949
00:40:57,320 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, because we do have Yeah, we do have seven

950
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 3: months later update. So so my birthday was last week.

951
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:04,359
Speaker 3: How did you know?

952
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:05,959
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

953
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 3: When we first got together, we had only been dating

954
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 3: for a couple months and we're not very serious, so

955
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:13,879
Speaker 3: we'd just had dinner to celebrate this year.

956
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 1: Though.

957
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 3: When he asked me what I wanted for my birthday,

958
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 3: I told him I wanted an experience. I'm not that

959
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:22,359
Speaker 3: into gifts, especially if they're not something useful. If I'm

960
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 3: going to spend money on something, I want to get

961
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:26,719
Speaker 3: a lot of use out of it to justify the expense.

962
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 3: I like memories and new experiences more. Anyway, I basically

963
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 3: told them to pretend like it was our first date

964
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,919
Speaker 3: and he was trying to impress me. When he asked

965
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 3: me what I meant, I gave him some suggestions. A

966
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 3: cool coffee shop or ice cream place that was far

967
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 3: enough away to require a mini road trip with curated playlists,

968
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 3: trivia and iight at a weird themed bar with cool drinks,

969
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 3: A museum crawl with funky exhibits. I basically gave him

970
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 3: a map. He said okay, and I started to get

971
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 3: excited about what he might plan will when my birthday

972
00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:02,120
Speaker 3: came around. He didn't tell me about any plans. It

973
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 3: was during the week and I wasn't expecting him to

974
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 3: take the day off work. But I thought maybe he

975
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 3: had a day set aside during that weekend or next

976
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 3: I was wrong. I went to his place after he

977
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 3: got home from work, and he kissed me, gave me

978
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 3: flowers and a box, and said happy birthday. The box

979
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 3: had a necklace in it, very pretty, but very not

980
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:26,799
Speaker 3: my thing, unfortunately, Plus it was silver. I don't wear

981
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:31,799
Speaker 3: silver jewelry. I wear gold. Ooh. Do we think that

982
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:34,800
Speaker 3: he's trying to get back at her or he actually

983
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 3: doesn't know that she likes gold.

984
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: I think he probably just doesn't know. I heard a

985
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 1: thing about guys paying attention in.

986
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 3: The wrong way.

987
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 1: They'll notice that you're wearing a bunch of gold jewelry,

988
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:47,359
Speaker 1: and they'll go, oh, my god, she doesn't have any

989
00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 1: silver jewelry. I should get her some.

990
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 3: She really wants silver jewelry, and she clearly doesn't have any. Yeah.

991
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 3: I guess he noticed my disappointment because he asked what

992
00:42:57,239 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 3: was wrong. I told him the necklace and flower were beautiful,

993
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 3: but not what I was expecting. He replied that the

994
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 3: necklace was expensive, and he put a lot of thought

995
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 3: into choosing it. I asked him why he would explicitly

996
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 3: ask me what I wanted for my birthday if he

997
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 3: wasn't gonna listen. Then he said, sucks to be blindsided

998
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 3: and disappointed on your birthday.

999
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it was vengeful.

1000
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 3: Seven months later, Dang, I was hoping maybe they just

1001
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 3: weren't compatible on a love language level and it wasn't

1002
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 3: gonna work.

1003
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 4: Not that he's just suck.

1004
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 3: Like seven months later, you were holding a grudge for

1005
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 3: seven months, ding, dude, break up? The breakup, Dang, that

1006
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 3: hurt a lot. Were in very different financial situations. I'm

1007
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 3: a student with an unpaid internship. He's settled in his

1008
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 3: career with disposable income, And when I asked what he

1009
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 3: wanted for his birthday, he said he would love whatever

1010
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 3: I ended up getting him, even if it was tiny,

1011
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:58,920
Speaker 3: so I had nothing to go on. It feels like

1012
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:00,880
Speaker 3: he asked me what I wanted so he could do

1013
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 3: something completely different and make me feel bad because I

1014
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 3: accidentally made him feel bad on his birthday. Does that

1015
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:11,879
Speaker 3: make sense? Am I being hypocritical because of how he

1016
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 3: felt on his birthday? Am I overreacting about my birthday?

1017
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 3: And we've got a second update, but what do you think.

1018
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 1: No, he admitted it was vengeful.

1019
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, he sucks man.

1020
00:44:24,160 --> 00:44:26,840
Speaker 5: But Rika, I promise not to do that for your birthday,

1021
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 5: to be vengeful.

1022
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:30,360
Speaker 3: I promise I won't be vengeful on your birthday.

1023
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 1: Edward imply that you have something to be vengeful about.

1024
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 3: I promise. I'm not plotting right now. I can't believe

1025
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:41,319
Speaker 3: that they were together for literally fifteen months over a year,

1026
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 3: and this is this is how he treats your birthday.

1027
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 3: So weird he was.

1028
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 6: Vengeful for half of it. Yeah, update two two days later. First,

1029
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 6: thank you so much to everyone who opened my eyes

1030
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 6: to the awfulness of his actions. There were a lot

1031
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 6: of little things I overlooked in our relationship that were

1032
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 6: super not okay in Rutcher's and I really needed someone

1033
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 6: to give me perspectives, So thank you. Second, some of

1034
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 6: the comments out here had me feeling like a snob

1035
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 6: for turning my nose up at something so expensive. Sure,

1036
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 6: it wasn't my style, but he tried, and he spent

1037
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 6: money on me with the intention of giving me.

1038
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 3: A luxury item. I couldn't get myself right. Wrong break

1039
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 3: up with your puffin, Yeah, yeah, he doesn't like you.

1040
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 3: He does not. No, he's just a plotter. Sometimes you

1041
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 3: date a plotter and you don't even know it.

1042
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:34,439
Speaker 1: You find out on your birthday. Yeah, and game pass girl,

1043
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:35,320
Speaker 1: this is live.

1044
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 3: This is live. Anyway, we've got a little bit left.

1045
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:41,880
Speaker 3: I brought it back to the store this morning. I

1046
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:44,080
Speaker 3: had the gift receipt with the intention to return the

1047
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 3: money to my now ex boyfriend. Makes sense, even if

1048
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 3: we were still together, I would feel uncomfortable with someone

1049
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:53,840
Speaker 3: spending so much money on me. After all, I was

1050
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 3: told it was real silver. Turns out it was silver

1051
00:45:57,239 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 3: plated cost about eighteen dollars. I know this term is

1052
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 3: overused online, but that was the textbook definition of gaslighting.

1053
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 3: After our argument, we decided to take some time apart,

1054
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 3: and it didn't feel right to keep such an expensive gift,

1055
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 3: especially if he weren't together. It went from taking time

1056
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 3: apart two broken up the moment the clerk told me

1057
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 3: it was fake silver. I ended up keeping the necklace

1058
00:46:20,120 --> 00:46:21,840
Speaker 3: just so I could drop it off to him in

1059
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 3: an envelope with the eighteen dollars in cash. I put

1060
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 3: a bit of a stitch in my grocery budget for

1061
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 3: the week, but fully worth it, and that is the

1062
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 3: end of that story.

1063
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 1: I told my girlfriend about my prenup requirements. I didn't

1064
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:36,360
Speaker 1: expect her reaction.

1065
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:40,720
Speaker 3: Rule number one is that you gotta have fun.

1066
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 1: I'm in my late twenties dating a woman in her

1067
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:47,319
Speaker 1: late twenties. We've been together about six months, and I

1068
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:50,880
Speaker 1: want to start to talk about long term plans, potentially

1069
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,839
Speaker 1: moving in together, marriage and kids someday. By the way,

1070
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:56,719
Speaker 1: this comes from can't dress myself And if you want

1071
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 1: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

1072
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 1: Okay storytime subreddit. I'm I'm Sophia, and we're here to

1073
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:05,320
Speaker 1: give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers.

1074
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:06,880
Speaker 1: We only know what we would do. Let us know

1075
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 1: what you would do in the comments and opiece. About

1076
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 1: seven years ago, my parents passed away, and since I

1077
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 1: was an only child, I inherited their house. It's fully

1078
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:21,160
Speaker 1: paid off. I rent out the upstairs currently and live

1079
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 1: in the basement after I renovated it to be its

1080
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:27,360
Speaker 1: own separate unit. Nice because of their life insurance and

1081
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 1: other assets. I'm financially secure and technically don't need to work.

1082
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:34,439
Speaker 1: I have a job, but it's not like I make

1083
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: six figures or anything. The house is my childhood home

1084
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: and has emotional value to me. I've already decided I

1085
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:45,400
Speaker 1: will never add anyone to the deed, even if I

1086
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: get married. If I have kids, I would structure things

1087
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 1: so that the house gets passed directly to them, I

1088
00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 1: guess through a trust. Same thing with the inheritance money.

1089
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:58,439
Speaker 1: I'm fine using income or growth from it to build

1090
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 1: a life together, but the poor inherited assets themselves would

1091
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:06,880
Speaker 1: always remain legally separate. If I ever get married, a

1092
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,880
Speaker 1: prenup would be mandatory for me. It wanted to just

1093
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 1: cover the house, but also clearly defined that my inheritance

1094
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 1: remains separate property. This isn't about assuming divorce or not

1095
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: loving someone fully. It's about protecting what my parents left

1096
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 1: me and making sure it ultimately benefits my children. I

1097
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 1: have a friend that ended up not getting anything from

1098
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 1: their mother when she passed because she left everything to

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00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 1: her second husband, and I refuse to even let that

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00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:39,360
Speaker 1: be an option if I have children. I haven't brought

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00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: this up yet because we haven't been dating that long,

1102
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 1: but I don't want to waste her time as we

1103
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 1: get more serious. If this is unacceptable to her, I

1104
00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: definitely don't want to profit off her if we move

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00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: in together. If we moved into my place, she would

1106
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:55,320
Speaker 1: never have to pay anything to maintenance or property tax,

1107
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: only utilities and groceries. And if that seemed weird for her,

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00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:02,600
Speaker 1: I'd be happy to move into a separate place together

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00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: and split costs. I don't want to have this be

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00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 1: viewed as me being controlling or worried. It'll sound like

1111
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 1: I'm planning for failure before we're even engaged. How would

1112
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 1: you approach this conversation? And if you were in her position,

1113
00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 1: would you want to know this sooner rather than later.

1114
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 1: I do not need advice on how to structure a prenup.

1115
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 1: She will have her own lawyer should she agree to

1116
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,840
Speaker 1: a prenup. I will pay for this with a smile

1117
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 1: on my face. I'm not forcing her to forever live

1118
00:49:32,760 --> 00:49:35,760
Speaker 1: in this home. We can live anywhere. She just won't

1119
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:39,240
Speaker 1: have an equity in this one home. I'm not counting

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Speaker 1: down the days until I can make her become a

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00:49:41,239 --> 00:49:44,440
Speaker 1: homeless widow. Things would be structured so she wouldn't have

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00:49:44,560 --> 00:49:47,839
Speaker 1: to leave my home when I pass. She would be

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00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: very well taken care of. Once we actually come to

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00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 1: an agreement on prenup terms. I am a huge believer

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00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:56,319
Speaker 1: in life insurance. I have my own retirement accounts she

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00:49:56,360 --> 00:49:59,279
Speaker 1: will get access to and we have an update one

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00:49:59,360 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 1: month later.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, well, I mean definitely sooner rather than later. You're,

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00:50:06,040 --> 00:50:08,280
Speaker 3: you know, gonna get married.

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00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, they are only dating six months, but they're trying

1131
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 1: to start those discussions.

1132
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:19,359
Speaker 3: They're trying to start those discussions. I think I think

1133
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 3: once you start talking about the you know, once we

1134
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:26,800
Speaker 3: start having the discussions, then I think you could maybe

1135
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 3: bring up, Hey, like, you know, when we get to

1136
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 3: that point. This is something I've always considered having.

1137
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:40,320
Speaker 1: I feel like it almost makes it easier because because

1138
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:43,400
Speaker 1: you're so early in the relationship. Yeah, so you can

1139
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 1: be like this has always been a non negotiable for me.

1140
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 1: It's not because it's you. It would be like this

1141
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:51,359
Speaker 1: for anybody.

1142
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that would be helpful to hear.

1143
00:50:55,200 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, so maybe, yeah, maybe do it now. Maybe we

1144
00:50:58,200 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 1: just get it over with, but we have an update

1145
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:02,720
Speaker 1: one month later. She brought up moving in together first.

1146
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 1: A couple of weeks after the original post, we were

1147
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 1: talking about her lease being up in a few months,

1148
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:10,720
Speaker 1: and she asked whether I'd thought about us living together.

1149
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 1: That naturally opened the door to a bigger, long term conversation.

1150
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: I told her I had been thinking about it too,

1151
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:21,320
Speaker 1: and that before we made any major decisions, I wanted

1152
00:51:21,320 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: to be transparent about something important regarding my house and inheritance.

1153
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 1: I framed it not as planning for divorce, but as

1154
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:32,720
Speaker 1: long but as ensuring long term success for future kids.

1155
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:37,600
Speaker 1: I explained clearly, the house will always remain solely in

1156
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:42,319
Speaker 1: my name. The inherited principle will remain separate property. If

1157
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: I ever get married, a prenup would be mandatory. I

1158
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 1: would ensure my partner is protected life insurance, retirement accounts,

1159
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 1: et cetera, but the core inherited assets would stay legally separate.

1160
00:51:54,920 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 1: Then I waited for the dramatic fallout many commenters seemed

1161
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:01,880
Speaker 1: convinced was inevitable. She respec that makes complete sense.

1162
00:52:02,160 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 3: Nice, you guys are perfect for each other.

1163
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:08,839
Speaker 1: Whoooo move her in. Yeah, she said she would think

1164
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:11,720
Speaker 1: it was irresponsible not to protect inherited assets.

1165
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:15,360
Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, she's like, She's like, I don't think anyone

1166
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:16,920
Speaker 3: who doesn't do that, it's an idiot.

1167
00:52:16,960 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: And he's like, and now we're about to find out

1168
00:52:19,719 --> 00:52:21,400
Speaker 1: that she's a secret millionaire.

1169
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 3: She's like, well, Na, that you said that I could

1170
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:27,840
Speaker 3: bring up that I have millions of dollars that I

1171
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:30,120
Speaker 3: want to protect, and there you go, and now we're

1172
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 3: on the same page.

1173
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:33,720
Speaker 1: She said, it made sense. I would want it confirmed

1174
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 1: in writing that she was aware of these conditions beforehand

1175
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:40,880
Speaker 1: to remove any confusion or contention. Later on, she appreciated

1176
00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 1: that I had thought through it carefully and had clear

1177
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 1: values around it. When I told her she would absolutely

1178
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:50,200
Speaker 1: have her own independent lawyer paid for by me, to

1179
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:53,400
Speaker 1: review any agreement, she said, that's exactly how it should

1180
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: be handled. She was also genuinely excited when she realized

1181
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 1: how financially secure I am. No, no weird way, just that

1182
00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:03,799
Speaker 1: it made her feel stable and optimistic about building a

1183
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:08,279
Speaker 1: future with someone who plans ahead. She especially appreciated that,

1184
00:53:08,320 --> 00:53:11,240
Speaker 1: while I made it clear the house itself is off limits,

1185
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:15,200
Speaker 1: I was completely willing to move if shared property equity

1186
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 1: was important to her. She's never even seen the upper

1187
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:21,840
Speaker 1: levels since it's currently rented out. If we ever bought

1188
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 1: a different home together, that would be joint. The inherited

1189
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: house is the only thing that stays separate. And yes,

1190
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:32,440
Speaker 1: I showed her the original post, her main takeaway was

1191
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:35,759
Speaker 1: asking why over half of the people couldn't understand that

1192
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:38,600
Speaker 1: the house was off limits while it was clearly stated

1193
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:41,319
Speaker 1: that I was willing to move to another house if

1194
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:45,800
Speaker 1: property equity was important to her. She was genuinely baffled

1195
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 1: at how many responses ignored that basic detail. She also

1196
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 1: didn't understand why so many people kept explaining what a

1197
00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:56,600
Speaker 1: prenup was when that was completely unrelated to the post.

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00:53:56,960 --> 00:54:00,359
Speaker 1: As for my apparent villain arc, if living together goes

1199
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:02,840
Speaker 1: well and we get married somehow, we will have to

1200
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: survive me being under employed and only working forty hours

1201
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 1: a week, splitting the tragic pittance of my above median salary,

1202
00:54:10,800 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 1: rental income and an interest slash dividends while she saves

1203
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 1: nearly thirty K a year that she previously spent on

1204
00:54:18,280 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 1: rent ah while I cackle with glee, knowing I set

1205
00:54:21,520 --> 00:54:23,360
Speaker 1: it up so she is out of the streets the

1206
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 1: second I pass away. I'll be sure to tell the

1207
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 1: next homeless person I meet that they're lucky they don't

1208
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:31,680
Speaker 1: have to deal with real financial insecurity like she does.

1209
00:54:31,840 --> 00:54:34,320
Speaker 1: The only painful thing is now that she fully understands

1210
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:38,400
Speaker 1: my financial situation. She truly questions why I voluntarily drive

1211
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:40,200
Speaker 1: a ten year old Prius.

1212
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:42,439
Speaker 3: Cause ten year old Priuses are where it's at.

1213
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 5: Okay, did you feel attacked on that one? Prieces are sturdy,

1214
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:47,279
Speaker 5: they get from point you to point B.

1215
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:50,040
Speaker 3: Yes, it doesn't matter how old they are.

1216
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:51,839
Speaker 1: I'm a Honda fan.

1217
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:54,280
Speaker 3: I also love Honda as I had a Honda before

1218
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:56,320
Speaker 3: and it was very old.

1219
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:58,480
Speaker 5: This video is not sponsored by the Way.

1220
00:54:58,600 --> 00:55:00,439
Speaker 3: No, it's not sponsored by either of them.

1221
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:02,279
Speaker 1: But if either of them wanted it to be.

1222
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 5: Someone said loss of points for the Prius big Joe shirt.

1223
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:09,799
Speaker 3: No one should be driving you. How dare she talk?

1224
00:55:10,120 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 1: Nico says, meet with my ten year old as Nico,

1225
00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 1: you're quote Apparently financial security does not excuse that level

1226
00:55:17,600 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 1: of commitment to fuel efficiency.

1227
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 3: But you know what is efficient?

1228
00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 1: Anonymous with one hundred dollars can't go wild.

1229
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 3: Gotta safer gas and merch for this weekend. Gus is expensive,

1230
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:33,560
Speaker 3: but happy birthday, Carly, Love you guys. You what merch for?

1231
00:55:33,680 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 3: What What are you buying?

1232
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 2: Uh?

1233
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:37,680
Speaker 3: I feel like you guys are perfect for each other

1234
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:40,720
Speaker 3: and there's I don't know anyone who says otherwise doesn't

1235
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:42,879
Speaker 3: know your relationship Like you do.

1236
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:45,440
Speaker 1: Sounds like it went as good as it could.

1237
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 3: It sounds like it went perfect. We shouldn't. Yeah, you

1238
00:55:49,160 --> 00:55:51,080
Speaker 3: don't need to worry. We're good. She's right on board.

1239
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:54,200
Speaker 1: She's on board. All Sary has them aside. The conversation

1240
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:57,360
Speaker 1: made us closer. It forced us to talk seriously about

1241
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:01,880
Speaker 1: long term values, money, philosophy, and what marriage actually means

1242
00:56:01,880 --> 00:56:04,480
Speaker 1: to each of us. I'm glad I didn't avoid it

1243
00:56:04,560 --> 00:56:08,640
Speaker 1: because of worst case predictions from strangers online. For anyone

1244
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:12,399
Speaker 1: in a similar position, have the conversation sooner rather than later.

1245
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:15,520
Speaker 1: How you frame it matters far more than the fact

1246
00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 1: that you want a prenup. Don't be selfish and only

1247
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:21,880
Speaker 1: discuss how this will protect you and anyone who insists

1248
00:56:21,880 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 1: you split equity with someone who contributed nothing is an idiot.

1249
00:56:25,560 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 1: And that's the end of that story. Hey, it's Carly,

1250
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:30,920
Speaker 1: your favorite Axelottel host.

1251
00:56:30,960 --> 00:56:31,240
Speaker 3: Here.

1252
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:33,520
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's

1253
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: three minutes of ads from our sponsors. I thought I.

1254
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:40,240
Speaker 3: Knew the guy I was seeing his girlfriend's Instagram told

1255
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 3: a different story. That's not good. I've been seeing Nate

1256
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 3: for about two months now, and I really like him.

1257
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 3: I met him at the gym. When we first got together,

1258
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:52,160
Speaker 3: he took me out to dinner and then asked if

1259
00:56:52,160 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 3: I wanted to come back to his place. Before we

1260
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,720
Speaker 3: hooked up. He said that he wasn't looking for anything

1261
00:56:57,800 --> 00:57:01,560
Speaker 3: serious and that he's seeing other people. Was I okay

1262
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:04,840
Speaker 3: with that? I really liked the guys, so I said sure.

1263
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:07,640
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Artistic Royal ninety eight

1264
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:09,560
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00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:12,840
Speaker 3: go to the arslash Okay, storytime suvered it. I'm Sophia, I'm.

1266
00:57:12,680 --> 00:57:14,040
Speaker 5: Carly, I'm ke On, and.

1267
00:57:14,040 --> 00:57:15,719
Speaker 3: We're here to give good advice. Goofy, but we don't

1268
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:17,760
Speaker 3: have all the answers. We only know what we do,

1269
00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 3: so let us know what you would do in the

1270
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:22,400
Speaker 3: comments and nope, he says. I see him every week

1271
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 3: or so, to the point where I definitely consider Nate

1272
00:57:25,400 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 3: my boyfriend, but we hadn't talked about taking the next step.

1273
00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 3: One night, I was sleeping over at his place and

1274
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:33,960
Speaker 3: I saw a text on his phone that said my

1275
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 3: baby love you, and I was floored. I knows passcode

1276
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:39,960
Speaker 3: from playing music off his phone, so I took a

1277
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:41,160
Speaker 3: peek and it was clear.

1278
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 5: Listen, I say that to all my friends.

1279
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:44,800
Speaker 3: YEA, love you, baby.

1280
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:46,760
Speaker 5: I said that to Dakota every night before we go.

1281
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 1: Baby can confirm he usually does go okay, good night boy.

1282
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:56,600
Speaker 3: He has a long time girlfriends. I don't know what

1283
00:57:56,680 --> 00:57:59,200
Speaker 3: came over me, but I was a livid. I knew

1284
00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 3: he was seeing other people, but not that he had

1285
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 3: a full blown girlfriend that he says, I love you too.

1286
00:58:05,840 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 3: I immediately confronted Nate about it, and he just said

1287
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 3: that it wasn't any of my business.

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00:58:09,960 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 1: I will say, I don't think you could consider him

1289
00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:16,040
Speaker 1: your boyfriend because you guys never had that conversation. So

1290
00:58:16,240 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 1: you being like, at this point, I was seeing him

1291
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 1: for two months and I considered him my boyfriend.

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00:58:20,120 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 3: He was basically my boyfriend, even though he said he

1293
00:58:22,240 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 3: was never looking to be my boyfriend.

1294
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:28,200
Speaker 1: He did communicate that now, if he doesn't have an

1295
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:33,720
Speaker 1: open relationship with this long term girl, then I think

1296
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 1: you do have a job to do, and that's to

1297
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:36,880
Speaker 1: tell her.

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00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 3: When I pushed him on it, he said she knows everything,

1299
00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:43,640
Speaker 3: that they're long distance and eventually she'll move in with him,

1300
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:48,240
Speaker 3: but until then they're fine with casual relationships on the side.

1301
00:58:48,280 --> 00:58:50,920
Speaker 3: He then immediately drove me home and hasn't responded to me,

1302
00:58:51,040 --> 00:58:52,960
Speaker 3: since I feel like I have a right to be

1303
00:58:53,040 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 3: upset because he didn't give me the full extent of

1304
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:58,440
Speaker 3: his other relationships. I'm also not sure if I trust

1305
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:01,400
Speaker 3: that she knows about him seeing girls, because that seems

1306
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 3: like a line he just used. The girl's name is

1307
00:59:04,560 --> 00:59:07,200
Speaker 3: like burn into my head? Do I try to reach

1308
00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 3: out to her. Part of me still wants to fix

1309
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,000
Speaker 3: things with Nate if I could, because I do really

1310
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 3: like him, but I have no clue how. And we

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Speaker 3: have an update three days later.

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Speaker 5: Pizza Hut.

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Speaker 1: It feels as though you are not comfortable with him

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Speaker 1: seeing other people regardless, so I think you should end it.

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Speaker 1: And I don't think there's anything wrong with a tactfully,

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Speaker 1: nicely crafted thing that's like, hey, for my own comfortability,

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Speaker 1: I've been seeing Nate. I just want to make sure

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Speaker 1: that you one hundred percent know that he is seeing

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Speaker 1: me and maybe other people.

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Speaker 4: And if that is cool, like it's it's.

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Speaker 1: Over between us, because I'm not comfortable with it, like

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Speaker 1: I wanted you to know, like I want to just

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00:59:49,720 --> 00:59:51,600
Speaker 1: straight up do like a hey, girl, your man is

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00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:54,480
Speaker 1: cheating on you. Because if she does know about you,

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Speaker 1: then it's weird.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think. I think with the way that you

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Speaker 3: phrased it perfect. We had an update three days I

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Speaker 3: did it, I told the girlfriend. I ended up finding

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Speaker 3: her on Instagram. When I got access to her feed.

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Speaker 3: It was mind blowing. She had so many pictures of

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01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 3: her and Nate together, dating back like four years ago.

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Speaker 3: He's taken her to Iceland for her birthday and they

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01:00:16,800 --> 01:00:20,080
Speaker 3: spent New Years in a fancy ski lodge. Honestly, seeing

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01:00:20,120 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 3: all that made me seethe because other than like two

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01:00:23,080 --> 01:00:26,280
Speaker 3: nice dinners, Nate and I mostly stayed in Also, I

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01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:28,720
Speaker 3: knew he was well off, but not like birthday trips

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01:00:28,720 --> 01:00:32,160
Speaker 3: to Iceland well off. Now I feel like I hardly

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Speaker 3: know anything about him. So I messaged the girlfriend and

1339
01:00:34,640 --> 01:00:36,720
Speaker 3: told her what happened. That I'd been seeing Nate for

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01:00:36,720 --> 01:00:39,800
Speaker 3: a couple months now she knew already. She said pretty

1341
01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 3: much exactly what he said, that, well they're apart, they

1342
01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:45,440
Speaker 3: don't mind if they're both having casual relationships with other people.

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Speaker 3: I asked her if she knew why he didn't tell

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01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 3: me about her, and she just said he's a pretty

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01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 3: private person. He doesn't share more than he feels necessary.

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Speaker 1: So now step out of it, girl.

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Speaker 3: Believe stop it, stop it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's a little weird that he did and

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01:01:00,200 --> 01:01:03,440
Speaker 1: disclose it up front, but yes, knowing that all parties

1350
01:01:03,480 --> 01:01:05,400
Speaker 1: are okay with it, I think if you are still

1351
01:01:05,440 --> 01:01:07,720
Speaker 1: not okay with it, get out of there, head out

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01:01:07,760 --> 01:01:10,120
Speaker 1: of there, head out because they're chilling.

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01:01:10,360 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, and he was, for the most part, told you

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01:01:14,000 --> 01:01:16,680
Speaker 5: like you if yeah, I don't know what you expect, Opie.

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01:01:16,920 --> 01:01:18,320
Speaker 3: Then I asked her if there was a way to

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01:01:18,360 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 3: get him to respond to me, and she just said

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01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 3: that he's sending a pretty clear message and that she

1358
01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:25,640
Speaker 3: hoped she gave me some closure, but it would be

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01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 3: in everybody's best interest to please not contact either of

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01:01:29,040 --> 01:01:32,440
Speaker 3: us again, which okay, ouch, no need to treat me

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01:01:32,480 --> 01:01:35,400
Speaker 3: like a child. Now I'm blocked. I texted Nate to

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01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:37,960
Speaker 3: apologize and ask if we could get coffee to talk

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01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:40,440
Speaker 3: it through, but he hasn't responded. So that's the update.

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Speaker 3: Pretty much the strangest relationship situation I've ever been in,

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01:01:43,760 --> 01:01:46,320
Speaker 3: and now I'm at a loss. I really liked him.

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01:01:46,360 --> 01:01:50,520
Speaker 1: This sucks and he never wanted a relationship, which told

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01:01:50,600 --> 01:01:53,440
Speaker 1: you upfront, and they're calling him your boyfriend.

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01:01:53,760 --> 01:01:57,360
Speaker 3: If you were not comfortable with not being anything more

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01:01:57,400 --> 01:01:59,760
Speaker 3: than casual. You should have let him know that up

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01:01:59,760 --> 01:02:03,320
Speaker 3: front and said no, thank you, and that's the end

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Speaker 3: of this story.