WEBVTT - Ep. 421: The History Of The D

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think you should say decision decisions. It sounded

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<v Speaker 2>like you was talking to Kirsty. You definitely say to welcome, welcome.

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<v Speaker 1>To the new podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to say.

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<v Speaker 1>Together, decisions decisions.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome everybody to another episode of Decision Decision.

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<v Speaker 3>My teeth are changing, so now I say it, it

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<v Speaker 3>actually is decisions decisions.

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<v Speaker 2>It's funny because I just listened to Charlemagne on Brilliant

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<v Speaker 2>Idiots and he was like, I still just be I

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<v Speaker 2>list I don't know how to say decisions decisions, goddamn it,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm glad he's working on saying that in our

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<v Speaker 2>book correctly.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of before we get started with this.

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, let's kids, have have you gotten your

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<v Speaker 3>man's bigger?

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<v Speaker 2>Alwa's crazy that I'm not talking about my man today.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, first of y'all be nosy, like I don't like,

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<v Speaker 2>there's so many parts of me in this relationship that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like really enjoying, and so many of y'all will

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<v Speaker 2>not let me be in peace in private. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>working on the things that I want to share with y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Because y'all are fucking annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>And I guess it was different because, like my last

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<v Speaker 2>relationship was, he was essentially a ghost. He was an

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<v Speaker 2>old ass, fifty year old retired nigga with no social media,

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<v Speaker 2>so he was just a agomilation.

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<v Speaker 1>What's that word?

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<v Speaker 2>You know what You're just like it is just like

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<v Speaker 2>an envision ship aglomination, eybody, y'all know the god word holo.

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<v Speaker 1>An agglogamation, a gloggamation, Hollo.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna get the goddamn word agglomination that it caught up.

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<v Speaker 1>Be the bitch.

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<v Speaker 5>It's Coggloborations is a master collection of things.

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<v Speaker 1>Agglomeration. Alright, we're dumb, don't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was close agglomeration. But like so, I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>happy like right now, like we are both steel right

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<v Speaker 2>at the phase where I feel like you about to

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<v Speaker 2>say to l word and I'm like, oh, I know

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<v Speaker 2>it's coming. Yeah, no, no, no, no, I said it. I

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<v Speaker 2>said the L word last or time, and look, this

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<v Speaker 2>could be my trauma. Why I don't want to say

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<v Speaker 2>it again, But we're great. I actually wanted to talk

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<v Speaker 2>about therapy. Something that I had recently in a therapy

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<v Speaker 2>session stemmed from conversations that we've been having on the podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>and I got into therapy and burnt into tears, and

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<v Speaker 2>it was about our conversations about me needing the space

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe not feeling confident with how I was speaking

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<v Speaker 2>about it, but like, through reading the comments and through

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<v Speaker 2>trying to express myself on this pod, I was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I'm a bad person.

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<v Speaker 1>Like because I'm not like the compromising I wasn't willing

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<v Speaker 1>to have, or.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'm associating all these things with needing space as

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<v Speaker 2>like am I a bad person? Am I a bad partner?

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<v Speaker 2>And I started getting like into these tropes of why

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<v Speaker 2>am I like this? And my therapy my therapist brought

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<v Speaker 2>up how last year, through specifically my sobriety, is where

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<v Speaker 2>I have come to terms with being way more of

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<v Speaker 2>an introvert as I thought myself to be. I thought

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<v Speaker 2>I was like this extroverted love to be around people,

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<v Speaker 2>need to be around people, feed off of energy and

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<v Speaker 2>all these things. And like last year, through not only sobriety,

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<v Speaker 2>but definitely desensoring sex for the amount of time that

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<v Speaker 2>I did after my last breakup, I've like realized how

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<v Speaker 2>much more my introverted needs of being alone, being isolated,

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<v Speaker 2>recharging socially has been something I'm navigating newly and so

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<v Speaker 2>in trying to explain that to a new partner. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's so crazy because I went out with my best

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<v Speaker 2>friend last night, we had dinner, and she was just like, yeah, bro,

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<v Speaker 2>like we get it, like because we've been with you

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<v Speaker 2>for so long as friends. But yeah, I just wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to share like the conversations that we're having here and

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<v Speaker 2>me trying to express how I'm showing up differently or

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<v Speaker 2>trying to express how I am in this new relationship

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<v Speaker 2>isn't even necessarily from the trauma of my last relationship

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<v Speaker 2>as much as through the healing journey of breaking up

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<v Speaker 2>and finding more about myself again.

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<v Speaker 1>Really through sobriety was really was really uh.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to say life changing, because we're still

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<v Speaker 2>going through me navigating that, but I just wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>bring that up because I think taking in the comments

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<v Speaker 2>taking in trying to defend my need for space or

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<v Speaker 2>not wanting to compromise and things. I genuinely sat and

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<v Speaker 2>was like, Damn, am I a shitty partner? Am I

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<v Speaker 2>a bad person? Am I someone made to be in

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<v Speaker 2>a relationship with the way that I'm fine with moving?

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<v Speaker 2>And So I just kind of wanted to bring up

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<v Speaker 2>that because it was like aha, and it was a

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<v Speaker 2>moment that I know we haven't had the episode about

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<v Speaker 2>it yet, but I would love and I'm looking for

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<v Speaker 2>a professional if any of you guys are listening, no one,

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<v Speaker 2>I would love to have the conversation about the relationship

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<v Speaker 2>between drinking and introverts and drinking and sex, because I

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<v Speaker 2>think through through removing alcohol for the time that I did,

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<v Speaker 2>I found so I found out so much about myself

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<v Speaker 2>that now I'm just trying to figure out how to

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<v Speaker 2>fucking communicate it.

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<v Speaker 3>So you're definitely not a bad person. I think even

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<v Speaker 3>the worst people are deserving of love.

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<v Speaker 1>No, and I believe I'm deserving of it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm not saying that about you in any means.

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<v Speaker 3>I just mean, like, I think even a terrible person

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<v Speaker 3>deserves love. I don't think that your habits sounded crazy

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<v Speaker 3>out loud. I think the conversation only came from hearing

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<v Speaker 3>the person want more, Like I don't think you saying

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<v Speaker 3>I need four days is bad. I think comparatively, like

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<v Speaker 3>your man wants more and you're like, no, that's it,

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<v Speaker 3>like that that's and it still doesn't make you bad person.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's that tone of one person wants this

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<v Speaker 3>the other doesn't, because a lot of sometimes the boundaries

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<v Speaker 3>you can have now show up as learning lessons from

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<v Speaker 3>your last relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah so it can.

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<v Speaker 3>It can sound like it's pain, it can sound like

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<v Speaker 3>you're being defensives, but really it's like you're opening your

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<v Speaker 3>heart again. I remember when you talk about your actually

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<v Speaker 3>like he doesn't there was a moment where you say

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<v Speaker 3>he doesn't know anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>I love him. Do you remember that episode.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, damn, I even is in love in

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<v Speaker 3>a minute, and you.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't even care to Like I mean, if that

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<v Speaker 2>was within the first year. He did everything right first.

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<v Speaker 3>Year, And I'm saying like you were just And I think,

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<v Speaker 3>like falling in love that fast is probably something you

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<v Speaker 3>just don't want to do, like you know you've been

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<v Speaker 3>through pain, even if you don't consciously know that. I

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<v Speaker 3>think all of us are like that. I fell in

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<v Speaker 3>love deep hard, this happened to me. I met somebody new, better, great,

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<v Speaker 3>treating me better. I still got to make sure I

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<v Speaker 3>have my guard up. I think that was what I

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<v Speaker 3>took from the conversation when you said you need time, like,

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<v Speaker 3>I actually think a year from now, when your relationship

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<v Speaker 3>is growing and blossoming, I think you might be like

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<v Speaker 3>now I'm six and may laugh about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I just think what I've realized in what

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<v Speaker 2>the conversation was in therapy and what I'm really adamant

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<v Speaker 2>on is my boundaries are not for anyone else, They're

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<v Speaker 2>for me. And if I know that my boundaries are

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<v Speaker 2>to protect myself, I don't want the resentment to happen

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<v Speaker 2>or I don't want to on who's then I would

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<v Speaker 2>I would absolutely resent someone and probably grow out of

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<v Speaker 2>like or love for them if I felt like I

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<v Speaker 2>had to change the boundaries that make me feel safe

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<v Speaker 2>and that are for me in order to appease them.

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<v Speaker 2>Like And that's the thing, Like a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>take people's boundaries as slights to them, and it's not

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<v Speaker 2>so Like There's been a lot of conversations about that, like,

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<v Speaker 2>I need you to accept me for who I am

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm accepting you, like, and we do this thing

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<v Speaker 2>now too, where he'll wake up and he'll be like, Babe,

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<v Speaker 2>i'm not in a good mood. I'll call you later,

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<v Speaker 2>because I've told him I don't want my my day

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<v Speaker 2>affected because you're in a shitty mood, Like I would

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<v Speaker 2>much rather we not talk until you get better. Girls,

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<v Speaker 2>And I got to do that, but we all need

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<v Speaker 2>that to Yeah, And that's and that's that's because I've

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<v Speaker 2>I've I've told him a boundary where I'm like, I've

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<v Speaker 2>been in relationships, well the past relationship where I've had friendship,

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<v Speaker 2>so even situationships where I've allowed someone's mood to ruin

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<v Speaker 2>my day and me and.

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<v Speaker 1>Him talk so much. We're still at three hours a day.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't talk three hours straight.

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<v Speaker 2>Now it's broken up. But I've literally told him, I

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<v Speaker 2>know we're long distance, but if you wake up and

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<v Speaker 2>you're not in a good mood, do not feel the

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<v Speaker 2>need to talk to me. And so literally he woke

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<v Speaker 2>up in a shitty mood the other day, Babe, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to go to the gym. I'll talk to you

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<v Speaker 2>when I when I feel better, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you, Like so to me, if that's a boundary,

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<v Speaker 2>like to me, the boundaries are for me and to

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<v Speaker 2>protect me. And if I feel like I have to

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<v Speaker 2>move on my boundaries to appease someone, then I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>for you like the boundaries.

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<v Speaker 1>When we make boundaries, we have.

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<v Speaker 2>To we have to know that they're for us and

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<v Speaker 2>not for other people. And so for me, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>looking to push those boundaries or move them to appease

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<v Speaker 2>someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>Which is why the.

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<v Speaker 3>Conference we should have a dialogue, not today. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>think we both can even have that conversation boundaries and compromise.

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<v Speaker 1>What's what we've had, We've.

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<v Speaker 3>Had those conversations real, but we should feel not Mandy situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just for example. I'm like, that's a really.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a really big thing, especially in relationships, sacrifice, compromise, boundaries, Like.

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<v Speaker 1>There's three different things. How do you dissect what things?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>What a boundary is to me? And this is why

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<v Speaker 3>I was going back and forth with you about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Your four day rule that you have for yourself didn't

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<v Speaker 3>seem like a hard no.

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<v Speaker 1>It felt like, right now, it's for my sanity. No no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>So boundary to me is hard. No, that's a hard

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<v Speaker 1>note for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Like, especially right now while I'm navigating my need

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<v Speaker 2>to recharge.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to have to drink to be around him.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to what do you mean you mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I realized, like again, through through therapy and going

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<v Speaker 2>through going sober, I realized my ability to be around

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<v Speaker 2>so many people in an extended amount of time that

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<v Speaker 2>the energy is.

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<v Speaker 1>Only on alcohol. Got it?

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<v Speaker 2>And so in this relationship and mind you, with my ex,

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of the sex, a lot of the time

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<v Speaker 2>together was drinking and drug filled.

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<v Speaker 1>It was fun, we were rock stars. I loved it.

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<v Speaker 2>But when I chose to remove those things, I realized

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<v Speaker 2>a lot more about my capacity with being with people.

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<v Speaker 2>And so for me, I don't want to get to

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<v Speaker 2>the point where he's coming. My anxiety has risen now

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<v Speaker 2>because there's an extended amount of time and now I

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<v Speaker 2>have to feel the need to get into any advice

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<v Speaker 2>to be around him. And so where I'm at right now,

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<v Speaker 2>at thirty four, I'm literally learning myself right now as

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<v Speaker 2>an introvert that needs the recharge.

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<v Speaker 3>I think people learn themselves every Yeah, my ma is

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<v Speaker 3>relearning herself at seventy four. Like something I learned from

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<v Speaker 3>the Tempest X episode that that's makes me think about

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<v Speaker 3>what you're saying about drinking and drugs and dating I

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<v Speaker 3>with this current partner.

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<v Speaker 1>He was kind of like saying, the first.

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<v Speaker 3>Three months, we need to have a weekend where we're

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<v Speaker 3>not going out. Now, I'm not saying that we're getting

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<v Speaker 3>sucked up, like we're not going to the cloud, We're

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<v Speaker 3>not going to a lounge, we're not going to hear jazz.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not like, let's just be in the house.

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<v Speaker 3>And he was super super for adamant about us doing this,

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<v Speaker 3>And what I didn't realize was that I'm so used

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<v Speaker 3>to people enjoying me for my extrovertedness and fun same.

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<v Speaker 3>I was scared not that he wouldn't like me, but

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<v Speaker 3>that the time with me would be boring. And now

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<v Speaker 3>it's so crazy to see like we liked the boring shit.

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<v Speaker 3>There was a comment we made like, dayn't I want

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<v Speaker 3>to go back to Thailand and fucking three weeks wasn't enough,

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, I wish we had.

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<v Speaker 1>One day where we weren't doing anything. In Thailand, we

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<v Speaker 1>did something every day and he's like, now, look he

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<v Speaker 1>is talking. I will say, that's what I like, not

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<v Speaker 1>many things.

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<v Speaker 2>I will say, there are many things that I learned

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<v Speaker 2>and are still taking from my last relationship. And because

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<v Speaker 2>of the pandemic, we got to get me and my

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<v Speaker 2>ex got together where we didn't have.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of inclusion of other people. And I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like when.

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<v Speaker 2>We started needing to be at bars or sex clubs

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<v Speaker 2>or be around so many other people, it complicated it.

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<v Speaker 2>So I know that now that's what I'm enjoying with

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<v Speaker 2>my partner is making sure I don't feel the need

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<v Speaker 2>for us to be in clubs or bars or spaces

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<v Speaker 2>where now we're just enjoying each other. So like he's

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<v Speaker 2>coming to Atlanta. I'm gonna say it's a week. It's

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<v Speaker 2>Monday to Friday, even though late Monday leave early Friday.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's coming, say Atlanta for a week, and we're

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<v Speaker 2>doing Coca Cola World, the gun Range and we're just

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<v Speaker 2>doing Yeah, he's met my best friend.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like I already met my best friend.

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<v Speaker 3>He is the only thing that matters, Like out with

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<v Speaker 3>you with all these people, Yeah, just who's like my

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<v Speaker 3>corecors I've met his best friend, he's met my best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>He just asked if it's okay. His mom wants my

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<v Speaker 2>number for us to talk housewives. So his mom like, adoors,

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<v Speaker 2>I love his mom.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna like yeah, love.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's like, I don't know if it's a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>but my mom doesn't really have anyone to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>housewives with. And you hang up with me to watch housewives.

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<v Speaker 2>And I told her you're special house lives. So he's like, uh, babe,

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<v Speaker 2>do you mind talking to my mom about housewives?

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<v Speaker 1>I said no, not, like you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, those things are so sweet because to me, it

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<v Speaker 3>reminds me and I wonder if this is age or

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<v Speaker 3>him being like, I'm not about to turn Mandy off.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we see this a lot when.

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<v Speaker 3>Women don't know what to do when they need more,

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<v Speaker 3>or they want to give more, or they want to

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<v Speaker 3>open a man up to more because they're so used

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<v Speaker 3>to men running. People run from commitment, people run from

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<v Speaker 3>all those types of things. Like genuinely, I remember the

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<v Speaker 3>first year of my relationship thinking it was bullshit, like

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<v Speaker 3>there's no way that he's still like showing up doing

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<v Speaker 3>these things like we were just talking. My dad turns

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<v Speaker 3>ninety June first, and we're like, Okay, what are we

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<v Speaker 3>going to do? And so he's like my dad's got

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm not here, just trying to be funny. One

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<v Speaker 3>last nan in Vegas, and we're like, all right, well,

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<v Speaker 3>let's figure out like how we're going to make this work.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's literally right after my partner's birthday and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>sitting there thinking, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, should we have a nurse doing all this shit?

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, this is such a heavy convo for

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<v Speaker 3>someone so young whose parents aren't necessarily going through what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going through, but watching people support you.

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<v Speaker 2>Is just very impressive. Yeah, Like we literally google like

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<v Speaker 2>should we take a private jet? Cause it's, by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not that rich and neither is he. However, from

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<v Speaker 2>Vegas or La to Vegas, it's only two hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 2>person on a jet.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't notice if you do the shared one. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So now we're like, all right, cool, let's just take

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<v Speaker 3>the whole family there. Like, but I like seeing this

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<v Speaker 3>side of like how people will show up and it's

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<v Speaker 3>interesting seeing the side of me to think, oh, really,

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<v Speaker 3>like are you doing this for me? Like or you know,

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<v Speaker 3>just questioning it questioning people's love. How did I hold

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<v Speaker 3>you actually being friends with the nigga first?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, y'all game changer, bitch like cool like bitch like

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<v Speaker 4>I got to know as a friend first, Like I

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<v Speaker 4>if we go to the very inception of this goddamn podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Any nigga I liked, any nigga who.

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<v Speaker 2>Had a nickname on this goddamn podcast had a nickname

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<v Speaker 2>because I liked him because the dick was good. Like

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<v Speaker 2>all of my my my like and lust and quote

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<v Speaker 2>unquote love for anybody stem from getting my back bloone

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<v Speaker 2>now and so to have spent five six months getting

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<v Speaker 2>to know him first, Like, it's so interesting being in

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<v Speaker 2>a relationship where sex is not the center of it.

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<v Speaker 1>And now it's like we're we're.

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<v Speaker 2>Talking, we're trying to incorporate it a lot more, and

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<v Speaker 2>we're talking, but it's like, damn, it's my friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Damn.

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<v Speaker 2>We talk about so much other ship that it's not

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<v Speaker 2>even about sexting or lusting or not waiting to get.

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<v Speaker 1>To each other to tear each other apart.

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<v Speaker 2>There's like I'm so excited to just lay on the

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<v Speaker 2>couch with you and watch Netflix. Like we were talking

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<v Speaker 2>about Matt Damon the other day and cause the nigga

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<v Speaker 2>Young we talked about him and his friendship with Ben

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<v Speaker 2>Affleck and I was like, oh my god, I love

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<v Speaker 2>their movie together.

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<v Speaker 1>And he was like, what's the one that y'all know progress, No,

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<v Speaker 1>not broke back now and he played brog Jacob Jo.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, I'm confusing my wife that you like, what's the

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<v Speaker 2>other one? On Google hunting so he can bring up

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<v Speaker 2>good walle Hunting And I was like, no, I'm talking

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<v Speaker 2>about dog one dog, one dog.

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<v Speaker 1>That I love.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all are the first two people. But if I have

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<v Speaker 2>said dog but and they don't, don't do it? I

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<v Speaker 2>like it, don't that's age that age that's saying, is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's my fun. Ye oh yeah, that's a great Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Like no, no, this is our age and that whole

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<v Speaker 1>eight No dog but either.

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<v Speaker 2>But she also loves Trick Daddy and you know that

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<v Speaker 2>she only know like Hood Miami ship.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, we do love some hood cinema. I

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<v Speaker 3>had that phase in my relationship recently. There's a I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know if you guys have seen it. Oh, I

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<v Speaker 3>hope we can post it. There's a checklist of black

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<v Speaker 3>movies to see you said it to him.

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<v Speaker 1>No, he said it to me and.

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<v Speaker 2>Said, baby, filled this out with your fucking viracial ass,

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<v Speaker 2>show biracial ass.

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<v Speaker 1>How many of them had you seen? Like sixty percent?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but he saw not very biracial of you.

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<v Speaker 1>That is prettily. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>do don't get razy. I love a concussion wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Every time you talk about a movie here, you bring

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<v Speaker 2>up the Secretary once the money, but you still haven't

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<v Speaker 2>seen it. You love bringing up some white cinema that

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<v Speaker 2>is like a b side to movies. I don't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>You know black rom coms are good, but how many

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<v Speaker 1>do we have? We got what love the Phone? They

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<v Speaker 1>out those are drop round time.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, love movies, Black Love Stories, brown sugar just right

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<v Speaker 3>jumping in the bros Basketball just like they got Naga.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, no, there's a lot more. Okay, but

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<v Speaker 1>also look at the country.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you want to talk to Mandy about it,

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<v Speaker 3>Gabrielle Union apparently isn't even.

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<v Speaker 1>Let never forget that.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let me tell you it was a crazy shit

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<v Speaker 2>that happen before we get into this outline, because I

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<v Speaker 2>know we need to get to it, so I'm driving

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<v Speaker 2>to see my dad. It's our last day, and he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>go by yourself, because I feel.

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<v Speaker 3>Like your dad is like over me being there, like

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<v Speaker 3>because we've been spending a lot of time together, because

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<v Speaker 3>you and your dad need a moment. So I'm heading

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<v Speaker 3>to my dad and I suddenly feel I was eating strawberries,

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<v Speaker 3>which is crazy because with my braces, I've been eating chips,

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<v Speaker 3>chicken wings, bag gets.

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<v Speaker 1>They told me the seeds. I don't know what happened. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't. You can have a strawberry.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what angle I ate it on, but

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<v Speaker 2>the bracket of my braces broke.

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<v Speaker 1>They say this is common.

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<v Speaker 3>However, it was the back wisdom tooth, and the bracket

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<v Speaker 3>dug into my gum. So the end of the wire,

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<v Speaker 3>just to be more helpful, the wire of the races.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I'm not saying the bracket. The end of the

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<v Speaker 3>wire was stuck in my gum. I immediately felt like

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<v Speaker 3>a shooting headpain. I was only three minutes from the house.

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<v Speaker 3>I call him.

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<v Speaker 1>I opened my mouth. I realized I can't talk.

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<v Speaker 2>I like this.

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<v Speaker 1>Nigga thinks I got in a car accident. He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>how the fuck. She just left.

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<v Speaker 3>She calling and like, and I can't say it's my braces.

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<v Speaker 3>He gets to the floor of my cars on he

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<v Speaker 3>sees what's going on. He's like, oh my god, we

0:20:01.480 --> 0:20:06.600
<v Speaker 3>gotta go upstairs, bitch. We get upstairs and it's stuck

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<v Speaker 3>down there. Every time he moves it, it's like, I mean, die,

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<v Speaker 3>you're screaming. I'm like, oh my god, call my mom.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell her I can't see my dad. Take me the

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<v Speaker 3>emergency room. I was texting. That's how much I couldn't talk.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, get an emergency dentist. This is how

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<v Speaker 3>niggas gonna dig girl. He called three. They all said

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<v Speaker 3>it's five hundred dollars to come in plus the fees,

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<v Speaker 3>and mind you, all it is is just stuck.

0:20:30.160 --> 0:20:32.359
<v Speaker 2>So this is like orthodonist. You can't get a regular

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<v Speaker 2>dentist anywhere from one to two thousand.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, hold on it. I do, but I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you got it. Hold on was worth it.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, let me see the motive in mind.

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<v Speaker 2>Jo's screaming and crying right and he's like, okay, let's

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<v Speaker 2>get in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, let's see what we can do.

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<v Speaker 1>So bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>We found a YouTube. Oh gee, of course said all

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<v Speaker 2>you gotta do is get a nail clipper.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course you did.

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<v Speaker 3>So he's boiling the nail clipper, all sitting there, drooling

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<v Speaker 3>on the side.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no blood coming out. It's just stuck.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, and he's trying to fucking break it. If you

0:21:06.960 --> 0:21:09.520
<v Speaker 3>break it, it'll come apart. So it it'll relieve the pain.

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<v Speaker 1>It couldn't happen. I was like, let's go to the doctor.

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<v Speaker 3>We call one more doctor. I ain't like his attitude,

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<v Speaker 3>so this doctor would feel like so the guy.

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<v Speaker 1>So my man's on the phone. He's like, Yo, can

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<v Speaker 1>you do this price? All you have to do is

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<v Speaker 1>cut it?

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<v Speaker 3>Can we just give you cash because they're estimating fifteen

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<v Speaker 3>hundred dollars god. And he's like, I'm with my family

0:21:28.240 --> 0:21:30.520
<v Speaker 3>and my children and if you want me to leave

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<v Speaker 3>my hall, I was like, oh fuck this la shit.

0:21:32.880 --> 0:21:36.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, look then, thunk, get the wire cutters. Bruh.

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<v Speaker 3>We're in the car and he's mad at me because

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<v Speaker 3>I kept screaming at him and I was like, why

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<v Speaker 3>are you not evening out?

0:21:42.440 --> 0:21:44.159
<v Speaker 1>And he's like, oh my god, stopped. I'm like.

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<v Speaker 4>Mad.

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<v Speaker 1>Tape oh, bitch, o' cian.

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<v Speaker 3>This nigga goes in the home depot, comes out with

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<v Speaker 3>a wire cutter. I'm like, where's the alcohol in the

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<v Speaker 3>hot water. He's like, we're not sterilizing it. Just come

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<v Speaker 3>home where I really fucking used. And this is for

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<v Speaker 3>like table people. I was sitting in the parking lot.

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<v Speaker 3>I felt like people were staring at me fucking doing

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<v Speaker 3>my own braces work. When it came out because it

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<v Speaker 3>had to pull away from the nerves to pull out

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<v Speaker 3>of my gum, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Screamed so loud. There's an apartment complex around. I think

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<v Speaker 2>they thought I was getting murdered. And do you know

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<v Speaker 2>what this nigga did?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what?

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<v Speaker 3>Like last nothing my real estate investment well to do

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<v Speaker 3>African boyfriend did put it back in the plastic. They said, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>we don't need them anymore, right, Oh my god. I

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to die laughing, but I was like, yeah, guy

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<v Speaker 3>David was the thing. I was like, yeah, baby, go

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<v Speaker 3>get the thirty five dollars bad.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I was about say how much your wirecutters? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there's like thirty something dollars. He got something. No, he

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<v Speaker 1>got like two three different conds. He got the skinny

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<v Speaker 1>ones he had.

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<v Speaker 2>He didn't know what's going so so he returned multiple

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<v Speaker 2>but one of them was in your mouth unfairlized those

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<v Speaker 2>horn people.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we went to go have dinner at this restaurant.

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<v Speaker 3>This isn't really tea, but I just wanted to say

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<v Speaker 3>we go sit.

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<v Speaker 1>We were almost we were just gonna go, like just

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<v Speaker 1>to like fusing the return the cutters. You're right restaurant.

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<v Speaker 3>So we're like, oh, let's just fuck it, let's go

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<v Speaker 3>or you know. He said to me, He's like, let's

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<v Speaker 3>go home. I ain't feeling and I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not ruining my night. How do you get to

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<v Speaker 3>see my I'm not ruining my night.

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<v Speaker 2>We get in there and even when we get in

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<v Speaker 2>he's like kind of act like YO, want me there.

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<v Speaker 2>We sit right down next to four black people.

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<v Speaker 3>It's two friends that are sitting with Sasha and Malie Obama,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was like, wow, I needed to see this.

0:23:36.560 --> 0:23:38.159
<v Speaker 3>Bit's don't sitting there eating like this, you know what,

0:23:38.200 --> 0:23:40.000
<v Speaker 3>You're trying not to stare at somebody. I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 3>look at me And I'm like, oh my god, these

0:23:41.760 --> 0:23:44.280
<v Speaker 3>girls are so cute, so sweet. I can overhear some

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<v Speaker 3>of their conversation. They are so innocent, so adorable. They

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<v Speaker 3>lived together, and we were saying, like, yo, do you

0:23:50.560 --> 0:23:52.720
<v Speaker 3>know how special it is to see siblings like this close,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I don't know. It really was hitting me and

0:23:56.000 --> 0:23:58.160
<v Speaker 3>I was like, wow, I think LA is a cool

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<v Speaker 3>place to me because you kind of realize how normal

0:24:01.280 --> 0:24:04.240
<v Speaker 3>everybody is, Like you kind of get to see, you

0:24:04.280 --> 0:24:06.639
<v Speaker 3>see celebrities walking down street New York too. You can

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<v Speaker 3>go to a club and interact with somebody that you

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<v Speaker 3>love and know. And I'm such a fucking fan of

0:24:12.119 --> 0:24:14.119
<v Speaker 3>seeing that these girls are moving up in film and

0:24:14.200 --> 0:24:16.000
<v Speaker 3>production and doing their ship swarm.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if anybody knows this. Childish Gambino directed it,

0:24:20.200 --> 0:24:22.800
<v Speaker 1>Sasha Obama produced it. It was one of the EP's

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<v Speaker 1>or something. But yeah, it was just a great day,

0:24:24.880 --> 0:24:26.600
<v Speaker 1>and it really like it was a great day, great

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<v Speaker 1>great day. There was a great moment to see these

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<v Speaker 1>two black girls that to me, I grew up with.

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<v Speaker 2>I watched them grow up and I was just like

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<v Speaker 2>wow and no, And all the way home, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>we gonna see Blue Ivy.

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<v Speaker 1>Nidda, We're gonna be eating. We go see Blue Ivy.

0:24:38.880 --> 0:24:42.280
<v Speaker 1>Nixt and often be like, oh my god, you ain't

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<v Speaker 1>Blue Ivy going she about to be a star and

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<v Speaker 1>role Yeah, no, are you right? We're probably gonna see

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<v Speaker 1>North first? Have you gone through disses since that? Look

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<v Speaker 1>the questions they need since? Oh yeah, yeah that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm no, sorry I didn't. That's what I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>two forty five. Okay, well I literally told it. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I got to hear twenty. I have to go

0:25:02.280 --> 0:25:04.200
<v Speaker 1>to that doctor. So if I sound like I'm rushing

0:25:04.200 --> 0:25:06.840
<v Speaker 1>the last time at all, like you just you're fine,

0:25:07.240 --> 0:25:12.240
<v Speaker 1>it's gone. It's yeah. So once it's gone, it's gone.

0:25:12.760 --> 0:25:14.600
<v Speaker 1>I just need to put enough new wire down there.

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<v Speaker 3>Bruh the parking lot because niggas say no, no, no, no, no, no.

0:25:18.280 --> 0:25:19.879
<v Speaker 2>You need you need to go, because that's what niggas

0:25:19.880 --> 0:25:21.840
<v Speaker 2>think about STDs. Once the symptoms is going, they think

0:25:21.880 --> 0:25:22.920
<v Speaker 2>it's going, and sometimes it ain't.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl, can I get there?

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<v Speaker 2>Ship?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying my appointments are two forty five once

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<v Speaker 1>the year. But I will tell you though, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Think that when it comes to like survival mode type shit,

0:25:35.200 --> 0:25:36.840
<v Speaker 3>that was a good partner moment. How the fuck are

0:25:36.840 --> 0:25:48.320
<v Speaker 3>you gonna hold me? Down niggas anyway, no, no holds barred.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh.

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<v Speaker 3>We have been trying to do this on solo episodes

0:25:51.920 --> 0:25:53.720
<v Speaker 3>where we're trying to like bring up an excerpt and

0:25:54.200 --> 0:25:57.240
<v Speaker 3>just dig into it. So this one is from my

0:25:57.520 --> 0:26:03.119
<v Speaker 3>chapter about sugaring. Uh oh no, sorry, this is an

0:26:03.119 --> 0:26:07.320
<v Speaker 3>old bit. One says, quote unquote, they all do the

0:26:07.359 --> 0:26:10.480
<v Speaker 3>same shit. Feed you a pipe dream before piping, tell

0:26:10.520 --> 0:26:12.920
<v Speaker 3>you how amazing you are, how beautiful you are, not

0:26:13.200 --> 0:26:15.240
<v Speaker 3>like the other gold diggers on the site. Oh yeah,

0:26:15.280 --> 0:26:17.399
<v Speaker 3>this is the spoiling chef and how they want to

0:26:17.440 --> 0:26:20.399
<v Speaker 3>spoil you. Like regular dating, this is all the boyfriendly

0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:24.840
<v Speaker 3>type game. In the boyfriendly type game, you will experience

0:26:24.920 --> 0:26:29.280
<v Speaker 3>the following consistent communication and maybe even good morning texts, chivalry,

0:26:29.320 --> 0:26:34.000
<v Speaker 3>compliments and charm, dates, plans made and promising. So when

0:26:34.000 --> 0:26:35.760
<v Speaker 3>I wrote this, I was thinking about all this shit

0:26:35.800 --> 0:26:37.840
<v Speaker 3>that niggas do to win you over, and I want

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<v Speaker 3>to ask you, edin, are there anything that women do

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<v Speaker 3>that they fall off.

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<v Speaker 1>From when dating that they fall off from? Because in the.

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<v Speaker 3>Beginning of this thing, I'm saying, men are giving you compliments,

0:26:49.200 --> 0:26:52.280
<v Speaker 3>men are giving you consistent communication, They're making plans, they're

0:26:52.320 --> 0:26:54.320
<v Speaker 3>going on the dates, good morning text.

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<v Speaker 1>What do women fall off from? You're saying that they

0:26:59.280 --> 0:27:04.920
<v Speaker 1>stop doing the thing? I believe once once they fucked. Okay,

0:27:06.000 --> 0:27:07.520
<v Speaker 1>you know what I've experienced.

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<v Speaker 5>I hate saying this out loud. They start cooking a

0:27:12.000 --> 0:27:15.520
<v Speaker 5>little less. I've had that happen, Nigga, we got jobs.

0:27:15.600 --> 0:27:18.840
<v Speaker 5>I understand, Hey, our own understand. But you know what

0:27:18.920 --> 0:27:22.480
<v Speaker 5>it is, because i'd be a triggered because I did know.

0:27:23.440 --> 0:27:25.920
<v Speaker 5>You know what it is is that this is what

0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:29.440
<v Speaker 5>I've experienced, right, It's two things that that's one. So

0:27:29.640 --> 0:27:31.440
<v Speaker 5>it's more of like the fact that it's like you

0:27:31.520 --> 0:27:33.680
<v Speaker 5>want to show off that you could cook and that

0:27:33.760 --> 0:27:35.720
<v Speaker 5>you could throw it down. So they just start cooking

0:27:35.800 --> 0:27:38.440
<v Speaker 5>you like almost every and anything in their arsenal. And

0:27:38.520 --> 0:27:41.960
<v Speaker 5>then next thing, I know, you're cooking a little exactly,

0:27:42.480 --> 0:27:44.879
<v Speaker 5>the quality start going a little lower. But eggs, you

0:27:44.920 --> 0:27:47.600
<v Speaker 5>start cooking a little less. Now doubt you know. It

0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:50.320
<v Speaker 5>used to be pancakes, eggs, you know, bacon. Now it's

0:27:50.400 --> 0:27:56.919
<v Speaker 5>just maybe eggs, right, okay, maybe just coffee. Another thing, brod.

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<v Speaker 1>I started off good.

0:27:58.000 --> 0:28:00.119
<v Speaker 2>I gave that nigga just eggs and a bagel. Now

0:28:00.160 --> 0:28:01.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to move up and give him some meat.

0:28:01.760 --> 0:28:02.880
<v Speaker 2>Like I did it the opposite way.

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<v Speaker 1>I like conditioning.

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<v Speaker 3>Now now what then he does with Dick. He says

0:28:07.080 --> 0:28:09.480
<v Speaker 3>he stot you at c Gray Dick because he don't

0:28:09.520 --> 0:28:11.680
<v Speaker 3>want you to attach. Indeed, he works his life, you

0:28:11.800 --> 0:28:13.879
<v Speaker 3>know when he comes. This time, I'm doing like the

0:28:14.200 --> 0:28:15.400
<v Speaker 3>shripping grits.

0:28:15.119 --> 0:28:19.720
<v Speaker 1>With I'm gonna it was just the very at lantern. Listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I was doing shripping grits like it's my thing. I

0:28:22.840 --> 0:28:26.160
<v Speaker 1>just have to buy vegan butter and vegan vecon and grits.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm coming to Atlanta for us to record, do the

0:28:29.600 --> 0:28:33.479
<v Speaker 3>audiobook and lack effect. I just realized that you niggas

0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:37.760
<v Speaker 3>never lied about toast on Linux. Oh my god, what

0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:38.280
<v Speaker 3>you like it?

0:28:38.560 --> 0:28:40.680
<v Speaker 1>Holy shit? I ate there three days in a row.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's crazy.

0:28:41.480 --> 0:28:43.120
<v Speaker 3>It was one hundred dollars to Uber eat the fucking

0:28:43.240 --> 0:28:46.720
<v Speaker 3>Fried's not for I wanted with my hotel room was speaking.

0:28:47.160 --> 0:28:51.240
<v Speaker 3>Girl was cripy that that was my Uber because I

0:28:51.280 --> 0:28:52.400
<v Speaker 3>was about to say that weight.

0:28:52.840 --> 0:28:54.720
<v Speaker 1>I went there twice. It wasn't wait, but maybe because

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't say when I went yeah, there are always

0:28:57.040 --> 0:28:58.760
<v Speaker 1>being waited, then I was. I was so addicted to

0:28:58.840 --> 0:29:00.280
<v Speaker 1>the first one. I was like now I want to

0:29:00.320 --> 0:29:02.680
<v Speaker 1>go to the other one. Bruh. You know it's crazy

0:29:03.440 --> 0:29:05.720
<v Speaker 1>not shipping on a black business because the food is phenomenal.

0:29:06.320 --> 0:29:09.000
<v Speaker 1>Service when the food is good, I really don't think

0:29:09.040 --> 0:29:09.680
<v Speaker 1>it needs to matter.

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<v Speaker 2>Hole shit, no, no, no for patrons, hear me out again,

0:29:16.600 --> 0:29:19.480
<v Speaker 2>say this again. You don't think that service needs to

0:29:19.520 --> 0:29:21.320
<v Speaker 2>be good when the food is good.

0:29:21.800 --> 0:29:22.640
<v Speaker 1>That was food.

0:29:22.840 --> 0:29:24.560
<v Speaker 3>Look at you right now, y'all have been hearing me

0:29:24.640 --> 0:29:28.120
<v Speaker 3>talking about Lucy for almost eight years on this show.

0:29:28.480 --> 0:29:31.720
<v Speaker 3>I have never experienced worst service in New York City

0:29:31.760 --> 0:29:34.200
<v Speaker 3>than Lucy n However, I will die on the sword

0:29:34.520 --> 0:29:36.960
<v Speaker 3>that that is one of the best pops outside of France.

0:29:37.440 --> 0:29:42.520
<v Speaker 2>Now go good food, plumes with good price. If I

0:29:43.080 --> 0:29:44.600
<v Speaker 2>a lot of times and now you could do a

0:29:44.680 --> 0:29:46.720
<v Speaker 2>hole in the wall that has really good food. To me,

0:29:46.840 --> 0:29:50.640
<v Speaker 2>if I'm going to a restaurant and the food is

0:29:50.680 --> 0:29:53.160
<v Speaker 2>so good that it's price, that is nigga, you crave.

0:29:55.360 --> 0:29:56.040
<v Speaker 1>That's why I love you.

0:29:56.480 --> 0:29:58.160
<v Speaker 2>And all of my friends told me, I can't say

0:29:58.200 --> 0:30:01.040
<v Speaker 2>the name of the restaurant anymore, though, what oh you're

0:30:01.040 --> 0:30:01.480
<v Speaker 2>talking about?

0:30:01.960 --> 0:30:04.920
<v Speaker 1>The bitch bleeped that out. I don't bleep it out.

0:30:04.920 --> 0:30:06.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't think the ood is so good.

0:30:06.640 --> 0:30:09.160
<v Speaker 2>The service though, but baby, because like every time I

0:30:09.240 --> 0:30:10.920
<v Speaker 2>brought people, everything comes out on time.

0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:13.920
<v Speaker 1>It's not the ambiance is not there for it. But

0:30:14.320 --> 0:30:18.000
<v Speaker 1>the food is so fucking good. I love it.

0:30:18.040 --> 0:30:19.800
<v Speaker 2>They be bringing us out a little shop like it's

0:30:19.960 --> 0:30:23.600
<v Speaker 2>so great. Okay, so I just found a new My

0:30:23.720 --> 0:30:26.520
<v Speaker 2>whole girl's be cussing me out, like bitch. I tweeted

0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:28.080
<v Speaker 2>it one time because a fan wanted to know where

0:30:28.080 --> 0:30:30.520
<v Speaker 2>to eat. I got two calls, bitch, if you don't

0:30:30.560 --> 0:30:34.200
<v Speaker 2>delete that sweet, we already cake out the name about Cadence.

0:30:33.880 --> 0:30:36.800
<v Speaker 1>The vegan soulfood, but it's black on this one is

0:30:36.880 --> 0:30:41.240
<v Speaker 1>not black. But I love it. And ice time and

0:30:41.840 --> 0:30:43.560
<v Speaker 1>now you just want to give them tips. You want

0:30:43.600 --> 0:30:44.240
<v Speaker 1>to give them hints.

0:30:44.320 --> 0:30:46.760
<v Speaker 3>Oh no, let me tell you this almost give out surveys.

0:30:47.080 --> 0:30:50.120
<v Speaker 3>So for my birthday, my man takes me to this

0:30:50.160 --> 0:30:51.920
<v Speaker 3>French spot on the East Side. Right, I'm not gonna

0:30:51.920 --> 0:30:55.520
<v Speaker 3>say the name, but it's fairly like best friend in

0:30:55.560 --> 0:30:55.920
<v Speaker 3>New York.

0:30:56.000 --> 0:30:57.080
<v Speaker 1>Now we go.

0:30:57.520 --> 0:30:59.560
<v Speaker 3>It was two weeks later we get back from Mexico,

0:30:59.680 --> 0:31:01.840
<v Speaker 3>Like was he that shit again? We had a reservation

0:31:01.920 --> 0:31:05.200
<v Speaker 3>for nine We didn't get seated. Now I did see celebrities.

0:31:05.200 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 3>I think I saw Tessa Thompson and the someone else

0:31:07.280 --> 0:31:08.440
<v Speaker 3>from Game of Thrones, and I was like.

0:31:08.400 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 1>All right, ten twenty we got seated. Oh I would

0:31:12.320 --> 0:31:12.640
<v Speaker 1>have left.

0:31:12.840 --> 0:31:15.000
<v Speaker 3>No, we were enjoying, like they have a cool cocktail bar,

0:31:15.080 --> 0:31:16.000
<v Speaker 3>so we were having a good time.

0:31:16.480 --> 0:31:19.480
<v Speaker 2>But you made a reservation. Girl, hold on, suck my

0:31:19.560 --> 0:31:21.280
<v Speaker 2>dick from the back. I don't know if we knew

0:31:21.320 --> 0:31:23.320
<v Speaker 2>what was going to happen, but you know, when you

0:31:23.400 --> 0:31:26.400
<v Speaker 2>know they about akusho ass. I started huffing and puffing

0:31:26.480 --> 0:31:27.440
<v Speaker 2>right around forty minutes.

0:31:27.480 --> 0:31:29.960
<v Speaker 3>But when I saw all these celebrities walking, oh taper

0:31:30.000 --> 0:31:31.920
<v Speaker 3>for two, I was like, oh, so they're treating us

0:31:31.960 --> 0:31:32.240
<v Speaker 3>like shit.

0:31:32.320 --> 0:31:35.240
<v Speaker 1>You know we own the celebrities. Bitch. Oh no, no, bitch.

0:31:35.440 --> 0:31:38.320
<v Speaker 3>That hour and twenty minutes was so worth it. Matre

0:31:38.440 --> 0:31:40.680
<v Speaker 3>D comes over to him, Sir, we saw you here

0:31:40.680 --> 0:31:43.360
<v Speaker 3>two weeks ago. We want to apologize. We shouldn't have

0:31:43.400 --> 0:31:46.240
<v Speaker 3>opened that reservation up when we had stuff on the books.

0:31:46.640 --> 0:31:48.800
<v Speaker 3>We're going to make sure whenever you want a reservation,

0:31:49.240 --> 0:31:51.240
<v Speaker 3>you're here. I'd appreciate it if you can call me

0:31:51.280 --> 0:31:52.960
<v Speaker 3>twenty four hours before, but if you can't, no problem,

0:31:53.000 --> 0:31:54.240
<v Speaker 3>doesn't matter how many people you're in.

0:31:54.600 --> 0:31:56.800
<v Speaker 1>Bitch, we get downstairs. Would you like more mess coming?

0:31:56.840 --> 0:31:57.040
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:31:57.720 --> 0:31:57.760
<v Speaker 2>Do?

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<v Speaker 1>It's all on the way out. Oh yeah, I do

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<v Speaker 1>desert another app. I actually do want a dozen s cargo,

0:32:04.520 --> 0:32:05.920
<v Speaker 1>not six. Oh, bitch.

0:32:06.320 --> 0:32:08.240
<v Speaker 2>Let a restaurant fuck up. And it's supposed to be

0:32:08.280 --> 0:32:11.280
<v Speaker 2>a high end restaurant. Oh you let us sit. Let

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:12.040
<v Speaker 2>their shit sit.

0:32:12.280 --> 0:32:14.280
<v Speaker 1>Y'all been a hope. They take a little too long.

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<v Speaker 4>Bro.

0:32:14.720 --> 0:32:16.000
<v Speaker 2>When I tell you I chick came, he was like,

0:32:16.040 --> 0:32:19.600
<v Speaker 2>this should have been two hundred fifty dollars one like kissing.

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<v Speaker 1>I love your patience.

0:32:22.080 --> 0:32:23.440
<v Speaker 5>So do you not think your food takets it a

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<v Speaker 5>little better because of the service in this case that

0:32:25.600 --> 0:32:26.400
<v Speaker 5>is half of it was free.

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<v Speaker 1>Well it was so good.

0:32:29.200 --> 0:32:31.840
<v Speaker 3>I came back, but oh, I sounded to say, uh

0:32:31.920 --> 0:32:34.840
<v Speaker 3>toastallen if they weren't rude or anything, not saying that

0:32:35.040 --> 0:32:37.440
<v Speaker 3>like they were kind, It's just it wasn't great service.

0:32:37.520 --> 0:32:40.760
<v Speaker 1>But I also didn't give a fuck. Is that's so good? Good?

0:32:41.240 --> 0:32:44.200
<v Speaker 3>And I think when places are so busy or fatty

0:32:44.320 --> 0:32:46.600
<v Speaker 3>like TikTok and everybody talks about toast on nis, Yeah,

0:32:46.760 --> 0:32:48.800
<v Speaker 3>maybe that's why it's like heart and people are rude

0:32:48.800 --> 0:32:51.360
<v Speaker 3>as fuck coming in. You know, I don't know if

0:32:51.360 --> 0:32:53.000
<v Speaker 3>they're dealing with a lot, but bitch, I don't give

0:32:53.040 --> 0:32:54.720
<v Speaker 3>a shit. She could have called me a whore and

0:32:54.720 --> 0:32:56.520
<v Speaker 3>I would said, thank you, I'll take extra cream better

0:32:57.200 --> 0:33:03.160
<v Speaker 3>that crazy, of course. Okay, reaction sinary clip. Oh sorry,

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<v Speaker 3>I actually had hypothetical for you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Hypothetic would you guys go on a date without being

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<v Speaker 2>able to see or without being able to talk?

0:33:12.320 --> 0:33:14.960
<v Speaker 1>Oh, without being able to talk, I'm fallow.

0:33:16.800 --> 0:33:19.560
<v Speaker 2>I want to sit across a good look at motherfucker, Like,

0:33:19.800 --> 0:33:21.480
<v Speaker 2>nothing's worse than talking to an ugly moment.

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:25.000
<v Speaker 1>But you wouldn't know because you can't see. To me, no,

0:33:25.120 --> 0:33:27.320
<v Speaker 1>I can't talk. That means I could see, right, But if.

0:33:27.240 --> 0:33:29.120
<v Speaker 3>You couldn't, you said nothing's worse than going on to

0:33:29.160 --> 0:33:30.280
<v Speaker 3>dinner with the ugly motherfucker.

0:33:30.440 --> 0:33:33.760
<v Speaker 2>If I could talk, then I can see, which means

0:33:33.840 --> 0:33:35.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm talking to an ugly nigga.

0:33:35.200 --> 0:33:36.840
<v Speaker 1>No no, no, no no no no. Oh see we

0:33:37.120 --> 0:33:38.840
<v Speaker 1>both okay.

0:33:40.400 --> 0:33:43.920
<v Speaker 3>Without being able to see them and just talking, or

0:33:44.120 --> 0:33:49.040
<v Speaker 3>being able to see them and know talking. Oh, I'm

0:33:49.080 --> 0:33:51.200
<v Speaker 3>still going for the sea because I feel like I

0:33:51.240 --> 0:33:53.600
<v Speaker 3>can get a vibe, like I've done that with in

0:33:53.760 --> 0:33:54.680
<v Speaker 3>places like they don't.

0:33:54.480 --> 0:33:58.600
<v Speaker 1>Seek the language I've seen. I've seen men. I just

0:33:58.640 --> 0:34:01.840
<v Speaker 1>looked at them and wanted to subject and then don't start.

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:03.880
<v Speaker 1>And then they started talking, and I didn't want to second.

0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:04.160
<v Speaker 1>No more.

0:34:05.840 --> 0:34:10.359
<v Speaker 2>There hasn't been many ugly men that talked their way

0:34:10.440 --> 0:34:12.080
<v Speaker 2>into But you don't know if they're ugly.

0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:15.160
<v Speaker 1>You're going on a date with a motherfucking lyricist.

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:17.759
<v Speaker 2>I told you I don't watch Love is Blind because

0:34:17.840 --> 0:34:20.480
<v Speaker 2>love is very blind, not blind.

0:34:20.640 --> 0:34:21.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

0:34:21.320 --> 0:34:24.120
<v Speaker 2>No, love is is the other one? I like looking

0:34:24.160 --> 0:34:27.560
<v Speaker 2>at someone beautiful. Love is hi, luster is not because

0:34:27.600 --> 0:34:28.560
<v Speaker 2>the second baby.

0:34:28.440 --> 0:34:31.200
<v Speaker 3>Like, I can't wait my grandma, Please tell one of

0:34:31.239 --> 0:34:33.239
<v Speaker 3>the producers to give them my grandma's old wedding ring.

0:34:33.239 --> 0:34:35.680
<v Speaker 3>They've been doing all that shit and then next day,

0:34:35.719 --> 0:34:38.480
<v Speaker 3>you know they know at the aisle because they don't

0:34:38.480 --> 0:34:40.719
<v Speaker 3>support black lives matter, like none.

0:34:40.760 --> 0:34:44.839
<v Speaker 1>He said that, it's just I don't know which one

0:34:45.360 --> 0:34:47.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean to me. I still would like to be

0:34:47.320 --> 0:34:47.759
<v Speaker 1>on a date.

0:34:48.320 --> 0:34:51.440
<v Speaker 2>What an attractive ass motherfucker, because mind you, if you

0:34:51.520 --> 0:34:53.719
<v Speaker 2>find we could just eat our food, we.

0:34:53.760 --> 0:34:55.320
<v Speaker 1>Don't have to talk. But what if the date is

0:34:55.360 --> 0:34:58.000
<v Speaker 1>not just food, what if it's an activity? Then I'm

0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:01.000
<v Speaker 1>just shooting the gun or I'm just looking at the

0:35:01.400 --> 0:35:02.800
<v Speaker 1>art on the wall. You know what I could do.

0:35:03.239 --> 0:35:06.959
<v Speaker 3>I would go to a lounge jazz listening music because

0:35:07.000 --> 0:35:09.560
<v Speaker 3>I feel like that's the energy itself vibing with someone.

0:35:09.760 --> 0:35:10.640
<v Speaker 1>We can go to the movies.

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:12.200
<v Speaker 2>You shouldn't be talking at the movie anyway, and then

0:35:12.239 --> 0:35:13.720
<v Speaker 2>I can look over and look at your finance.

0:35:14.760 --> 0:35:18.839
<v Speaker 1>That work. Yeah, all right, let's sello period. Let's see

0:35:18.840 --> 0:35:20.880
<v Speaker 1>what this clip is all right playing?

0:35:20.960 --> 0:35:21.040
<v Speaker 2>Now?

0:35:21.840 --> 0:35:24.800
<v Speaker 6>Highly spiritual women are single because they understand the metaphysical

0:35:24.920 --> 0:35:27.960
<v Speaker 6>essence of the transportation of energy and alchemy. And the

0:35:28.040 --> 0:35:29.680
<v Speaker 6>primary reason why it's so hard for them to day

0:35:29.719 --> 0:35:33.280
<v Speaker 6>and being relationships is because they harness energy that requires

0:35:33.320 --> 0:35:35.759
<v Speaker 6>a man to have supreme masculinity so much because only

0:35:35.840 --> 0:35:39.920
<v Speaker 6>a weak man will only demonize and subjugate for spiritual gifts. Now,

0:35:40.000 --> 0:35:42.880
<v Speaker 6>when you study historical context in anchr history, the king

0:35:43.000 --> 0:35:46.040
<v Speaker 6>might have had ten twenty ten eight wives, but the

0:35:46.080 --> 0:35:48.560
<v Speaker 6>one that he loved the most for the witch, the healer,

0:35:48.680 --> 0:35:51.479
<v Speaker 6>the one who had the spiritual gifts. And the reason

0:35:51.560 --> 0:35:53.640
<v Speaker 6>that is because you highly.

0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:55.879
<v Speaker 5>Spirit What's funny is that the voice over a AI,

0:35:56.040 --> 0:35:58.440
<v Speaker 5>but the video is and it's just fucking hilarious.

0:35:58.440 --> 0:36:01.200
<v Speaker 3>Oh the voice is so funny. Yeah, kindly, spiritual women

0:36:01.360 --> 0:36:04.920
<v Speaker 3>are single. Let me try to repeat what like.

0:36:05.160 --> 0:36:07.880
<v Speaker 6>And this isn't just spirit women are single because they

0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:10.960
<v Speaker 6>understand the metaphysical essence of the transportation of energy and

0:36:12.160 --> 0:36:14.120
<v Speaker 6>the primary reason why so hard for them today.

0:36:15.800 --> 0:36:18.279
<v Speaker 1>During the date. So I'm gonna say this hotel ship.

0:36:18.400 --> 0:36:22.319
<v Speaker 1>But if you're a very intuitive person, it is hard

0:36:22.360 --> 0:36:22.879
<v Speaker 1>for you to date.

0:36:23.680 --> 0:36:28.520
<v Speaker 2>I think someone and this might not be a synonym,

0:36:28.640 --> 0:36:32.640
<v Speaker 2>but I look at someone who may be highly spiritual.

0:36:32.960 --> 0:36:37.080
<v Speaker 2>That means in terms of how they view the universe themselves,

0:36:37.160 --> 0:36:40.879
<v Speaker 2>maybe they're more in tune with themselves, which means oftentimes

0:36:40.920 --> 0:36:43.240
<v Speaker 2>they're single because maybe they're just happy with themselves.

0:36:43.400 --> 0:36:44.080
<v Speaker 1>That's a good point.

0:36:44.160 --> 0:36:46.920
<v Speaker 2>We talk about that, like, I think that in terms

0:36:47.000 --> 0:36:50.320
<v Speaker 2>of how a lot of people date, they date with

0:36:50.600 --> 0:36:53.239
<v Speaker 2>the means of looking for a band aid. They date

0:36:53.520 --> 0:36:56.600
<v Speaker 2>to find someone to bring them happiness or to make

0:36:56.680 --> 0:37:01.160
<v Speaker 2>them whole. And we've had the conversations that unfortunately that's

0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:03.360
<v Speaker 2>what we were taught right, like to become one right

0:37:03.840 --> 0:37:08.480
<v Speaker 2>or like finding your soulmates, and nan are doing this too,

0:37:08.520 --> 0:37:11.200
<v Speaker 2>by the way, not wanting to be alone so to

0:37:11.360 --> 0:37:15.479
<v Speaker 2>me someone who is happier with themselves. And we've talked

0:37:15.480 --> 0:37:18.600
<v Speaker 2>about this even in sense of like, once you're able

0:37:18.719 --> 0:37:21.640
<v Speaker 2>to fully fund your own lifestyle, once you're able to

0:37:22.040 --> 0:37:25.400
<v Speaker 2>find community, find friends, be happy with who you are

0:37:25.480 --> 0:37:30.160
<v Speaker 2>physically emotionally. If you find spiritually your niche, like if

0:37:30.200 --> 0:37:33.800
<v Speaker 2>you're going to church or you're you're finding ways to

0:37:33.960 --> 0:37:36.640
<v Speaker 2>just meditate and be with self, and you're happy with self,

0:37:37.320 --> 0:37:38.279
<v Speaker 2>it is a lot harder to.

0:37:38.320 --> 0:37:40.719
<v Speaker 1>Date because you're less net to put up with all

0:37:40.719 --> 0:37:41.240
<v Speaker 1>the bullshit.

0:37:41.480 --> 0:37:45.160
<v Speaker 3>I don't think there's a world where being happy by

0:37:45.239 --> 0:37:49.680
<v Speaker 3>yourself doesn't look a little bit like it's spinster.

0:37:49.920 --> 0:37:52.879
<v Speaker 1>Oh she can't meet anyone in there's always someone that's

0:37:52.960 --> 0:37:56.320
<v Speaker 1>like thinking being single is bad.

0:37:57.040 --> 0:37:59.640
<v Speaker 3>But when you get to that point where you're single

0:37:59.680 --> 0:38:01.960
<v Speaker 3>because you know exactly what you want, that's to me

0:38:02.040 --> 0:38:02.919
<v Speaker 3>when you're on this level.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just having the conversation with my homegirl and

0:38:05.040 --> 0:38:07.799
<v Speaker 2>she was like, bruh, I've been single for so long

0:38:08.520 --> 0:38:13.080
<v Speaker 2>that I have anxiety about bringing someone into my home.

0:38:13.200 --> 0:38:13.560
<v Speaker 1>How long?

0:38:13.760 --> 0:38:18.960
<v Speaker 2>I say, she's been single for three years, and so

0:38:19.320 --> 0:38:23.479
<v Speaker 2>does that mean sexless? Been sexless for about six months,

0:38:23.560 --> 0:38:25.560
<v Speaker 2>which is like, goddamn girl, I'll pray for you.

0:38:27.080 --> 0:38:28.960
<v Speaker 1>For real. It's tough out here.

0:38:29.280 --> 0:38:32.880
<v Speaker 2>But we were having the conversation because she's at the

0:38:32.960 --> 0:38:36.840
<v Speaker 2>age where she's like motherhood is now leaving the idea

0:38:36.920 --> 0:38:39.440
<v Speaker 2>because she would want to have kids with a man

0:38:39.560 --> 0:38:42.799
<v Speaker 2>she likes, and it's becoming so almost foreign to her

0:38:43.200 --> 0:38:46.279
<v Speaker 2>that there's anxiety about like, damn, I wonder if because

0:38:46.280 --> 0:38:48.800
<v Speaker 2>I've been so single with myself and have this routine

0:38:48.840 --> 0:38:51.800
<v Speaker 2>in my home, if I'm going to be able to

0:38:51.960 --> 0:38:55.040
<v Speaker 2>open it to someone else. Like she's literally like, I

0:38:55.080 --> 0:38:58.560
<v Speaker 2>don't know if I want someone in my apartment to

0:38:58.680 --> 0:38:59.640
<v Speaker 2>ruin my days.

0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:02.399
<v Speaker 1>Because we don't. I don't like anyone yet, which yes,

0:39:02.560 --> 0:39:05.759
<v Speaker 1>that's just like the real truth. I was like on

0:39:06.040 --> 0:39:07.040
<v Speaker 1>my soap bag.

0:39:08.680 --> 0:39:10.680
<v Speaker 3>And then when you like, nigga is so over and

0:39:10.760 --> 0:39:12.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't mean it's over for the bad reasons.

0:39:12.960 --> 0:39:15.160
<v Speaker 1>It's the same with men. My Nigga jokes a lot

0:39:15.200 --> 0:39:15.799
<v Speaker 1>about me, like.

0:39:15.960 --> 0:39:18.439
<v Speaker 2>Bruh, when I tell you you came soon as fuck

0:39:18.640 --> 0:39:20.680
<v Speaker 2>like I thought I sing to be out here, and

0:39:20.840 --> 0:39:21.759
<v Speaker 2>like it's really it.

0:39:21.880 --> 0:39:24.520
<v Speaker 1>When you like the motherfucker, that's when this shit starts

0:39:24.520 --> 0:39:25.719
<v Speaker 1>to happen. So don't get.

0:39:25.680 --> 0:39:28.120
<v Speaker 3>Discouraged if you're listening and you're like, I don't know,

0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:29.560
<v Speaker 3>I got my routine with friends. I don't know I

0:39:29.640 --> 0:39:31.719
<v Speaker 3>got my routine with this because at the end of

0:39:31.800 --> 0:39:36.120
<v Speaker 3>the day, when you're excited about someone, you can't wait

0:39:36.200 --> 0:39:39.359
<v Speaker 3>to incorporate them in that Just like, for example, one

0:39:39.400 --> 0:39:43.839
<v Speaker 3>of my friends uh Oh, Gila and neg my friend

0:39:43.880 --> 0:39:48.359
<v Speaker 3>Gila's wedding. I went to their wedding in Mexico City.

0:39:48.600 --> 0:39:51.440
<v Speaker 3>I kept eating people in their dodgeball team dodgeball or kickball.

0:39:51.719 --> 0:39:54.319
<v Speaker 3>And I'm laughing because she flies, fuck he flies. She's

0:39:54.400 --> 0:39:57.120
<v Speaker 3>in fashion and beauty and I'm like, y'all, dog buck.

0:39:58.160 --> 0:40:01.520
<v Speaker 1>But he did it before her. He loved doing this

0:40:01.600 --> 0:40:02.400
<v Speaker 1>thing with his friends.

0:40:03.160 --> 0:40:05.200
<v Speaker 3>He works in community and parks like for a living,

0:40:05.840 --> 0:40:08.120
<v Speaker 3>and now she loves it, Like you can't wait to

0:40:08.320 --> 0:40:11.680
<v Speaker 3>like bring your people in, and it's silly to maybe

0:40:11.719 --> 0:40:13.920
<v Speaker 3>bring up her doesn't sound the exact same, but I

0:40:14.000 --> 0:40:16.320
<v Speaker 3>found it interesting that something that someone does alone for

0:40:16.440 --> 0:40:17.879
<v Speaker 3>so long that's their thing.

0:40:18.600 --> 0:40:20.960
<v Speaker 2>Once they're so into you and they love you, now

0:40:21.040 --> 0:40:22.759
<v Speaker 2>it's like, no, no, no, I want to share this

0:40:22.840 --> 0:40:25.279
<v Speaker 2>with you. I think you can probably attribute that you're

0:40:25.280 --> 0:40:27.760
<v Speaker 2>gonna se a good movie and you like, you gotta

0:40:27.840 --> 0:40:30.319
<v Speaker 2>watch this ship. It could be a friend, somebody you love.

0:40:30.520 --> 0:40:32.600
<v Speaker 2>You need them to experience the same thing. So when

0:40:32.640 --> 0:40:35.640
<v Speaker 2>it comes to your home, yeah, you can watch fel

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:40.920
<v Speaker 2>bad what you said? I told my boyfriend, please go

0:40:41.640 --> 0:40:45.239
<v Speaker 2>and enjoy I call it jousting. He hates it, but

0:40:45.360 --> 0:40:48.920
<v Speaker 2>it's the wrestling, the a W, the WWE, what's aw

0:40:49.160 --> 0:40:51.280
<v Speaker 2>aw like wrestling Federation?

0:40:51.600 --> 0:40:54.400
<v Speaker 1>And I told him I want you to enjoy as

0:40:54.480 --> 0:40:56.359
<v Speaker 1>much of it as you can. With that. Well, didn't

0:40:56.360 --> 0:40:58.600
<v Speaker 1>you just you said what?

0:40:58.960 --> 0:41:03.200
<v Speaker 2>You just go there now with me charenting it sports, Yeah,

0:41:04.040 --> 0:41:06.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm not surprised. She it's a little different. It's a

0:41:06.200 --> 0:41:06.720
<v Speaker 2>little different.

0:41:06.960 --> 0:41:07.440
<v Speaker 1>It's okay.

0:41:07.600 --> 0:41:10.640
<v Speaker 2>So here's what And for the men listening, it was

0:41:10.640 --> 0:41:14.320
<v Speaker 2>explained to me the a W short, a w W,

0:41:14.600 --> 0:41:18.640
<v Speaker 2>W E, wrestling, whatever, all the things is like a

0:41:18.760 --> 0:41:19.759
<v Speaker 2>male telenovella.

0:41:20.200 --> 0:41:22.880
<v Speaker 1>Yes, did you watch that shirt on Netflix? Edit a

0:41:23.000 --> 0:41:25.560
<v Speaker 1>year round? There's storylines, there's people baked into it.

0:41:26.200 --> 0:41:30.000
<v Speaker 2>The audience there was, oh my god, the audience looked

0:41:30.080 --> 0:41:32.920
<v Speaker 2>like they were either half versions or half serial killers

0:41:32.960 --> 0:41:33.680
<v Speaker 2>bodies in the fridge.

0:41:33.760 --> 0:41:38.960
<v Speaker 1>Ports know, that's truly crazy. I said, baby, just the

0:41:39.000 --> 0:41:41.120
<v Speaker 1>crowd you be like, I don't know, you don't really

0:41:42.920 --> 0:41:46.080
<v Speaker 1>watched wrestlers. I'm sure. All I know is I told him,

0:41:46.800 --> 0:41:48.840
<v Speaker 1>please enjoy that by yourself, Babe. I don't want to

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:57.759
<v Speaker 1>ruin it for you. So like, yeah, people don't care.

0:41:58.320 --> 0:42:01.120
<v Speaker 1>They don't. And I was like, I was watching it.

0:42:01.280 --> 0:42:03.720
<v Speaker 1>It is the man in the in the type. Okay,

0:42:03.800 --> 0:42:09.160
<v Speaker 1>maybe if we go see Roman Rains fight bitch is

0:42:09.160 --> 0:42:09.719
<v Speaker 1>because he's a.

0:42:11.360 --> 0:42:15.040
<v Speaker 2>Jason, So maybe I'll go in Raymond Rains, Roman rings

0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:19.480
<v Speaker 2>or his brother's cousins. It's like a hall love skins

0:42:20.000 --> 0:42:23.440
<v Speaker 2>and that's one that I'll take some with but shout

0:42:23.480 --> 0:42:27.160
<v Speaker 2>out to swerve, like when look at the locks the

0:42:27.239 --> 0:42:29.320
<v Speaker 2>laskin black dude, No, no, no, no, no, this is

0:42:29.440 --> 0:42:30.239
<v Speaker 2>Roman Rains bitch.

0:42:31.160 --> 0:42:32.279
<v Speaker 1>Oh wrong guy, But I'll suck.

0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:37.200
<v Speaker 2>He got a light like you can go enjoy it

0:42:37.239 --> 0:42:41.319
<v Speaker 2>because they all take wrestlers, they all beautifer back.

0:42:41.640 --> 0:42:44.200
<v Speaker 1>Have you actually watched a netflixhip of WW you should?

0:42:45.440 --> 0:42:46.080
<v Speaker 1>I A'm gonna laugh.

0:42:46.480 --> 0:42:49.399
<v Speaker 2>The last thing that got that before Karadise, the last

0:42:49.440 --> 0:42:52.120
<v Speaker 2>thing that I really had the TV like what I

0:42:52.200 --> 0:42:54.279
<v Speaker 2>went to it and I have no no, no, it's

0:42:54.320 --> 0:42:57.680
<v Speaker 2>like the dirty deep dark ship they do I have.

0:42:58.480 --> 0:43:00.800
<v Speaker 1>I have just said this could be your thing. Sexual

0:43:00.840 --> 0:43:05.920
<v Speaker 1>assault whoa, No, the documentary.

0:43:06.040 --> 0:43:09.319
<v Speaker 2>It was the documentary document like, oh, that's what I mean,

0:43:09.400 --> 0:43:20.880
<v Speaker 2>not because it's good sexual assaultid bro, you've seen that

0:43:20.960 --> 0:43:25.560
<v Speaker 2>Nigga tweets, but you like I would have gotten to

0:43:25.840 --> 0:43:28.120
<v Speaker 2>nig I'll say, yes, when you find a person and

0:43:28.160 --> 0:43:31.520
<v Speaker 2>they have their thing, you absolutely can join them, but

0:43:31.719 --> 0:43:34.520
<v Speaker 2>also feel free to also let them keep their ship

0:43:34.719 --> 0:43:35.440
<v Speaker 2>if it ain't for you.

0:43:41.960 --> 0:43:43.880
<v Speaker 3>Well, let's talk about the history of the d The

0:43:44.000 --> 0:43:46.919
<v Speaker 3>people that don't enjoy the same things as.

0:43:46.840 --> 0:43:48.799
<v Speaker 2>Their partner and they never will, they don't give off

0:43:50.000 --> 0:43:53.919
<v Speaker 2>history of divorce, Okay, right now, Okay, So I thought

0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:56.120
<v Speaker 2>we were going to do the history of the dick. Oh,

0:43:56.160 --> 0:43:59.040
<v Speaker 2>the history of the d The earliest known divorce laws

0:43:59.080 --> 0:44:03.279
<v Speaker 2>were written on clay tablets in Mesopotamia, and you just.

0:44:03.320 --> 0:44:04.080
<v Speaker 1>Like bringing up clay.

0:44:04.239 --> 0:44:05.520
<v Speaker 2>This is the second time you done brought up the

0:44:05.560 --> 0:44:08.560
<v Speaker 2>goddamn plods. Yes, the girl had to suck at clay

0:44:08.640 --> 0:44:11.840
<v Speaker 2>dick for the mummy or something. Mesopotamia keeps coming up

0:44:11.880 --> 0:44:12.399
<v Speaker 2>in our history.

0:44:12.480 --> 0:44:13.799
<v Speaker 1>Secment, Come on, Mesopotamia.

0:44:13.880 --> 0:44:17.319
<v Speaker 3>Okay, women were actually granted the right to separate from

0:44:17.400 --> 0:44:18.000
<v Speaker 3>the husbands.

0:44:18.040 --> 0:44:20.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't believe this back then, Okay.

0:44:21.640 --> 0:44:24.040
<v Speaker 3>And then there was a code where they had provisions

0:44:24.080 --> 0:44:26.400
<v Speaker 3>for divorce, so there were a lot of religious influence

0:44:26.480 --> 0:44:30.440
<v Speaker 3>on why you could or couldn't. In Europe, Christian churches

0:44:30.480 --> 0:44:33.879
<v Speaker 3>controlled divorced from the eleventh century, with the Catholic Church

0:44:34.000 --> 0:44:39.000
<v Speaker 3>banning it entirely and Protestant churches allowing it restricted. Muslims

0:44:39.040 --> 0:44:42.120
<v Speaker 3>in Africa, the Middle East and Asia began using Quran rules,

0:44:42.440 --> 0:44:46.400
<v Speaker 3>with the husbands generally able to divorce without cause or anything,

0:44:46.719 --> 0:44:48.840
<v Speaker 3>while the wife needs the agreement. So that's why the

0:44:48.880 --> 0:44:51.080
<v Speaker 3>thing in Mesopotamia was women being able to leave was

0:44:51.120 --> 0:44:55.480
<v Speaker 3>a big deal. What's interesting is today the place where

0:44:56.360 --> 0:44:57.600
<v Speaker 3>you cannot get divorced.

0:44:58.000 --> 0:45:01.840
<v Speaker 1>It's a country. Does anyone know in there? Before guitar

0:45:03.080 --> 0:45:07.880
<v Speaker 1>keep guess cutter, Actually is how I said. Singapore, Philippines

0:45:07.880 --> 0:45:10.120
<v Speaker 1>it's illegal, Oh, Philippines.

0:45:09.600 --> 0:45:13.359
<v Speaker 3>To get divorced. And Chile in twenty two thousand and four.

0:45:13.440 --> 0:45:16.719
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to be ready. Uh, they were one of

0:45:16.760 --> 0:45:20.560
<v Speaker 3>the last countries to legalize divorce. So now yeah, it's

0:45:20.560 --> 0:45:21.719
<v Speaker 3>still not I don't know if.

0:45:21.640 --> 0:45:22.319
<v Speaker 1>You if you.

0:45:23.880 --> 0:45:26.920
<v Speaker 2>Heard so, I want to say it was in Europe.

0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:30.200
<v Speaker 2>Y'all can in fact check me while I talk. But

0:45:30.680 --> 0:45:35.160
<v Speaker 2>there women were not able to file for divorce, especially

0:45:35.360 --> 0:45:39.120
<v Speaker 2>Christian Church. However, there became a rule that if they

0:45:39.160 --> 0:45:42.120
<v Speaker 2>could show that their spouse wasn't able to get their

0:45:42.160 --> 0:45:45.480
<v Speaker 2>dick hard, that they could actually file.

0:45:45.400 --> 0:45:48.399
<v Speaker 1>Like okay, you cannot goods, I mean.

0:45:48.680 --> 0:45:51.440
<v Speaker 2>You couldn't maybe like a blamement on that kids, if this.

0:45:51.520 --> 0:45:52.879
<v Speaker 1>Dick don't get hard all the time?

0:45:53.160 --> 0:45:57.000
<v Speaker 5>Did you did you find it a frenchwoman's to obtain

0:45:57.000 --> 0:45:59.640
<v Speaker 5>the divorce because of her husband's lack of sexual function

0:45:59.800 --> 0:46:02.000
<v Speaker 5>was the European Court of Human Rights?

0:46:02.040 --> 0:46:03.200
<v Speaker 1>That's fire, So I mean.

0:46:05.840 --> 0:46:08.360
<v Speaker 2>Crazy is in order to prove it too, which this

0:46:08.560 --> 0:46:11.279
<v Speaker 2>is so dumb, they had to see like he had

0:46:11.320 --> 0:46:12.480
<v Speaker 2>to try to get hard in front of.

0:46:12.920 --> 0:46:13.680
<v Speaker 1>I swear.

0:46:15.760 --> 0:46:18.439
<v Speaker 2>You can't get it up in the how you gonna

0:46:18.480 --> 0:46:19.839
<v Speaker 2>get it up in front of everyone? But I thought

0:46:19.840 --> 0:46:20.920
<v Speaker 2>she was able to get a divorce.

0:46:21.360 --> 0:46:23.279
<v Speaker 3>Speaking of divorce, you know what's crazy about reading the

0:46:23.280 --> 0:46:26.680
<v Speaker 3>Philippines thing? How many times on ninety Fiance they want

0:46:26.719 --> 0:46:30.719
<v Speaker 3>that fucking green card. Literally this last season they're showing

0:46:30.760 --> 0:46:33.880
<v Speaker 3>you the opposite. A white dude who's homeless goes to Philippines.

0:46:33.920 --> 0:46:36.520
<v Speaker 3>He's like, oh, well, since he's dating a trans woman,

0:46:36.560 --> 0:46:38.480
<v Speaker 3>he can't marry her because she's.

0:46:38.360 --> 0:46:41.239
<v Speaker 2>A man really, So he's like, I'll marry your mom.

0:46:41.960 --> 0:46:44.800
<v Speaker 2>And I didn't understand when some of the business charact it.

0:46:44.880 --> 0:46:48.200
<v Speaker 1>Now this is real. She was still to show this,

0:46:48.440 --> 0:46:51.279
<v Speaker 1>Oh faith. He was the one that got gone Ria.

0:46:51.840 --> 0:46:54.800
<v Speaker 1>You seen the clip. No, I'm sorry, I am my

0:46:54.920 --> 0:46:56.560
<v Speaker 1>algorithm is not ninety day fiance.

0:46:56.920 --> 0:46:59.360
<v Speaker 2>So wait, what happened? He went to the Philippines to

0:46:59.440 --> 0:47:02.080
<v Speaker 2>marry a lady boy, but they couldn't get married because

0:47:02.120 --> 0:47:03.640
<v Speaker 2>they're same sex, and so he said.

0:47:03.520 --> 0:47:04.359
<v Speaker 1>Let me marry your mama.

0:47:04.480 --> 0:47:07.120
<v Speaker 2>He's like, yeah, homeless and ain't got nothing to offer,

0:47:07.239 --> 0:47:09.680
<v Speaker 2>got no money, hanged love has no price to it.

0:47:10.000 --> 0:47:10.719
<v Speaker 1>Man, shut the fuck.

0:47:10.920 --> 0:47:14.200
<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you. Wait, he said, let me marry

0:47:14.239 --> 0:47:16.960
<v Speaker 2>your mama for what so he can have When he

0:47:17.160 --> 0:47:19.040
<v Speaker 2>when he told her about the Gonerria, her face was so.

0:47:19.440 --> 0:47:22.120
<v Speaker 2>She was like, wait, he had gone reea from you

0:47:22.200 --> 0:47:25.319
<v Speaker 2>have a the aid? Wait he had gotten Ria from

0:47:25.360 --> 0:47:27.120
<v Speaker 2>lu though from a girl that he let suck his

0:47:27.320 --> 0:47:30.279
<v Speaker 2>another transgirl. Wait, he he had gone Ria while he

0:47:30.400 --> 0:47:32.160
<v Speaker 2>was with her, or before he found out. He had

0:47:32.200 --> 0:47:35.360
<v Speaker 2>gone Ria while he flew out there. Wow, So he's like,

0:47:35.400 --> 0:47:36.000
<v Speaker 2>don't worry about it.

0:47:36.000 --> 0:47:38.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get the medicine and player down. No, I'm monogamous.

0:47:38.520 --> 0:47:41.879
<v Speaker 2>He fucking just lady boys everywhere, homeless and now trying

0:47:41.920 --> 0:47:42.799
<v Speaker 2>to marry one's mama.

0:47:42.920 --> 0:47:44.759
<v Speaker 1>He was he said, she's not right.

0:47:45.800 --> 0:47:49.120
<v Speaker 3>The craziest mart the Filipino girls like how who did

0:47:49.160 --> 0:47:50.400
<v Speaker 3>you get it from? You told her and she's like,

0:47:51.120 --> 0:47:53.239
<v Speaker 3>I didn't know what, How did this happen you? I

0:47:53.280 --> 0:47:54.840
<v Speaker 3>didn't even have sex with her? He's like, well, I

0:47:54.840 --> 0:47:55.879
<v Speaker 3>said I was gonna sleep over.

0:47:56.080 --> 0:47:59.600
<v Speaker 1>She thought it was because he got no home. Girl

0:48:00.120 --> 0:48:02.120
<v Speaker 1>thought he needed a place. So now he's moving to

0:48:02.239 --> 0:48:06.719
<v Speaker 1>a country where he can not have a divorce. Well, yeah,

0:48:06.960 --> 0:48:08.000
<v Speaker 1>so that was the big thing.

0:48:08.040 --> 0:48:11.399
<v Speaker 3>I don't think they're still together, but yeah, when people

0:48:11.440 --> 0:48:13.080
<v Speaker 3>were saying that in the comments, I didn't understand it

0:48:13.160 --> 0:48:15.040
<v Speaker 3>till this outline. Yeah, because they were like, oh, it's

0:48:15.080 --> 0:48:16.680
<v Speaker 3>so he can never leave because he wanted a cheap

0:48:16.719 --> 0:48:17.239
<v Speaker 3>place to live.

0:48:17.320 --> 0:48:20.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm curious to know if, with all of the changes

0:48:21.000 --> 0:48:24.319
<v Speaker 2>that just have happened with technology, with how we date,

0:48:24.520 --> 0:48:28.640
<v Speaker 2>with how we consume information, if there will be any

0:48:30.000 --> 0:48:34.320
<v Speaker 2>changes done to divorce, Because for the friends and people

0:48:34.360 --> 0:48:37.400
<v Speaker 2>that I know currently going through divorces, I was shocked

0:48:37.440 --> 0:48:40.520
<v Speaker 2>to know that the courts. You can file and then

0:48:40.600 --> 0:48:43.000
<v Speaker 2>be separated, but you have to be separated for a

0:48:43.040 --> 0:48:45.240
<v Speaker 2>certain amount of time before they finalize the divorce.

0:48:45.800 --> 0:48:46.759
<v Speaker 1>There's so many laws.

0:48:46.840 --> 0:48:48.520
<v Speaker 2>Why are you making me say what a nigga I'm

0:48:48.520 --> 0:48:50.200
<v Speaker 2>saying I don't want to be with because they're like, well,

0:48:50.200 --> 0:48:52.000
<v Speaker 2>maybe y'all can work through this, and I'm like, wait,

0:48:52.400 --> 0:48:56.760
<v Speaker 2>I have to be separated from this person before you sure.

0:48:56.800 --> 0:48:58.719
<v Speaker 1>That you want to get divorced. That is crazy to me.

0:48:59.000 --> 0:49:00.719
<v Speaker 1>But there's another thing.

0:49:00.800 --> 0:49:03.400
<v Speaker 3>In Japan, women have to wait and this is kind

0:49:03.440 --> 0:49:06.359
<v Speaker 3>of the opposite six months until they can get married

0:49:06.400 --> 0:49:09.920
<v Speaker 3>to someone. Oh really, So if you want to know

0:49:10.040 --> 0:49:14.440
<v Speaker 3>Marrily Kardashian, no better, you gotta fucking know unless the

0:49:14.480 --> 0:49:15.320
<v Speaker 3>woman's pregnant.

0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:18.160
<v Speaker 2>And then in Japan, since they have that role in

0:49:18.200 --> 0:49:22.080
<v Speaker 2>the beginning. Most divorces are straightforward, one page form. It

0:49:22.160 --> 0:49:23.440
<v Speaker 2>doesn't even require going to core.

0:49:23.560 --> 0:49:24.480
<v Speaker 1>You can do the shit online.

0:49:25.360 --> 0:49:27.800
<v Speaker 2>Oh we get I might get get married in Japan

0:49:28.200 --> 0:49:31.879
<v Speaker 2>if I'm finna get married, one page document, no court,

0:49:31.960 --> 0:49:35.920
<v Speaker 2>We just divorced and is done, okay. Common reasons for divorce.

0:49:37.360 --> 0:49:40.640
<v Speaker 2>I mean, tell me, I'm gonna give you the the four.

0:49:42.000 --> 0:49:45.160
<v Speaker 3>Tell me what you think is number one, two, three, four, okay, okay,

0:49:45.440 --> 0:49:50.640
<v Speaker 3>drugs and alcohol abuse, infidelity, mental abuse or physical abuse,

0:49:51.160 --> 0:49:52.160
<v Speaker 3>and incompatibility.

0:49:53.680 --> 0:49:56.400
<v Speaker 2>Well, I know most people, when they don't want us

0:49:56.440 --> 0:50:00.319
<v Speaker 2>to be in their motherfucking business, say that they rooted

0:50:00.440 --> 0:50:04.240
<v Speaker 2>for irreconcilable differences. So I'm going to say that one's first,

0:50:04.719 --> 0:50:09.080
<v Speaker 2>then in fidelity, then the vices, then the abuse and shit, because.

0:50:08.960 --> 0:50:14.839
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, incompatibility is the first number one, and then it's infidelity, yeah,

0:50:15.000 --> 0:50:18.960
<v Speaker 3>and then yeah other the other two are Unfortunately people

0:50:19.040 --> 0:50:20.920
<v Speaker 3>stay and put up with those things.

0:50:20.800 --> 0:50:23.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, for quite some time before that becomes a reason,

0:50:23.719 --> 0:50:25.719
<v Speaker 2>Like it has to get really bad for people to

0:50:25.800 --> 0:50:26.600
<v Speaker 2>leave for those reasons.

0:50:26.840 --> 0:50:30.120
<v Speaker 1>But I think most most of the forces that we see.

0:50:30.000 --> 0:50:34.120
<v Speaker 2>Publicly or irreconcilable differences, which is I think incompatibility.

0:50:34.520 --> 0:50:37.760
<v Speaker 3>The lowest rate for the divorce in the world is India.

0:50:38.480 --> 0:50:40.800
<v Speaker 3>Out of a thousand marriages, only thirteen.

0:50:41.719 --> 0:50:43.359
<v Speaker 1>But most of them are Muslim, which means they can

0:50:43.400 --> 0:50:48.360
<v Speaker 1>have multiple Right now, they're Hindu, isn't that their religion?

0:50:48.880 --> 0:50:52.080
<v Speaker 1>Am I dumb? Maybe I don't know religion like that?

0:50:52.320 --> 0:50:53.480
<v Speaker 1>What's the religion in India?

0:50:55.320 --> 0:50:59.640
<v Speaker 2>But can't Hindus can Hindu's Hinduism followed right. Islam can

0:50:59.719 --> 0:51:01.719
<v Speaker 2>they have can they have multi? Can Hindus have more?

0:51:01.960 --> 0:51:04.760
<v Speaker 2>Eighty percent of Hindu is No, it's muscle.

0:51:05.520 --> 0:51:13.760
<v Speaker 1>Is Hindu? Can Hindu get? Can Hindu get? Hindu get multiple? Wise?

0:51:14.920 --> 0:51:18.120
<v Speaker 1>Listen the way, by the way, just the way we

0:51:18.239 --> 0:51:18.879
<v Speaker 1>be asking questions.

0:51:18.920 --> 0:51:20.719
<v Speaker 2>Just watch hat GBT know exactly what the hell we'll

0:51:20.719 --> 0:51:22.759
<v Speaker 2>be talking about and be offering out even more.

0:51:23.120 --> 0:51:25.759
<v Speaker 1>Well, I have to go get my home depot rates

0:51:25.800 --> 0:51:27.600
<v Speaker 1>dis sorted. I hope you guys.

0:51:28.000 --> 0:51:32.920
<v Speaker 2>By the way, Hindus, Oh, Hindu law generally prohibits polygamy.

0:51:33.640 --> 0:51:36.319
<v Speaker 1>They just they're just staying and get it. They having

0:51:36.400 --> 0:51:40.640
<v Speaker 1>fun in the sun. That's crazy. Not fun in the sun.

0:51:42.280 --> 0:51:43.200
<v Speaker 1>But that's wild.

0:51:43.880 --> 0:51:46.880
<v Speaker 2>What it's a sunny and sunny I don't know how

0:51:47.400 --> 0:51:49.719
<v Speaker 2>sunny in Philadelphia and Mumbai it is.

0:51:49.920 --> 0:51:52.200
<v Speaker 1>It is like on the equator. I think, so it's

0:51:52.239 --> 0:51:55.279
<v Speaker 1>really hot. I think it's close to the equation. I

0:51:55.320 --> 0:51:56.320
<v Speaker 1>don't know there's a problem about it.

0:52:00.160 --> 0:52:03.080
<v Speaker 3>White girls that do restaurants reviews, we just I don't

0:52:03.160 --> 0:52:03.320
<v Speaker 3>like that.

0:52:03.440 --> 0:52:05.600
<v Speaker 2>The girl from Top Chef tried to get them on

0:52:05.719 --> 0:52:07.880
<v Speaker 2>how they know, No, she got it.

0:52:08.080 --> 0:52:11.880
<v Speaker 3>They said Tiki massala and they said Brianni whatever this is.

0:52:11.960 --> 0:52:17.080
<v Speaker 3>Tiki Masala is crazy and two white women judging ethnic cuisine.

0:52:16.600 --> 0:52:18.560
<v Speaker 1>To that degree. Okay, do you want to not fue bro?

0:52:18.640 --> 0:52:20.759
<v Speaker 1>You want to know how bad that who white went

0:52:20.800 --> 0:52:28.200
<v Speaker 1>to Jamaicans the Ox and that's how they do tikas tika.

0:52:29.080 --> 0:52:31.680
<v Speaker 2>And you know what I just found out, buttered chicken

0:52:32.080 --> 0:52:35.239
<v Speaker 2>get Indian food only on the East coast. Bitch, I

0:52:35.239 --> 0:52:37.759
<v Speaker 2>didn't know buttered chicken really wasn't It's like East Coast

0:52:37.840 --> 0:52:38.480
<v Speaker 2>Indian food.

0:52:39.400 --> 0:52:41.360
<v Speaker 1>Oh no, no, no, no, no, this is different.

0:52:41.480 --> 0:52:44.239
<v Speaker 3>No when I'm talking about South Asian Southeast Asian, like

0:52:44.280 --> 0:52:45.120
<v Speaker 3>you know, you're trying.

0:52:44.920 --> 0:52:46.440
<v Speaker 1>To say Indian cuisine right right right.

0:52:46.440 --> 0:52:51.720
<v Speaker 2>Buttered chicken, chicken, egg, buttered chicken.

0:52:52.040 --> 0:52:53.920
<v Speaker 1>We tried three in La.

0:52:54.360 --> 0:52:56.520
<v Speaker 2>I know now I think about Tiki said, where the

0:52:56.560 --> 0:52:58.200
<v Speaker 2>fuck is the buttered chicken? Well, let me stop talking

0:52:58.200 --> 0:52:59.319
<v Speaker 2>shit because the family wite girls.

0:52:59.360 --> 0:53:00.879
<v Speaker 1>And if I'm going to wait, wait wait, wait, where

0:53:00.880 --> 0:53:02.400
<v Speaker 1>are you gonna say about better chicken? Where that at?

0:53:02.440 --> 0:53:05.000
<v Speaker 2>Because I tried three different Indian it's just that Indian

0:53:05.360 --> 0:53:06.920
<v Speaker 2>they have butter chicken. I said, they don't have butter

0:53:07.040 --> 0:53:08.960
<v Speaker 2>chicken in Lad.

0:53:09.000 --> 0:53:11.800
<v Speaker 1>I came back home and I said, nigga they got Bama,

0:53:11.960 --> 0:53:15.399
<v Speaker 1>get one free, bought a chicken it love it, don't.

0:53:15.719 --> 0:53:18.120
<v Speaker 2>I was gonna say, I don't know where the Indian

0:53:18.239 --> 0:53:21.120
<v Speaker 2>restaurant is from, but like, for example, Dashome, which is

0:53:21.160 --> 0:53:22.240
<v Speaker 2>really popular in London.

0:53:22.960 --> 0:53:26.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what India was called before it was India.

0:53:26.920 --> 0:53:29.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh there was another name for it. It got Bombay,

0:53:29.120 --> 0:53:31.919
<v Speaker 1>it got the rebreak Bombay. Their cuisine is a little

0:53:31.960 --> 0:53:33.719
<v Speaker 1>bit different, so like there's different shiit too.

0:53:33.760 --> 0:53:35.239
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I was gonna say that there's like different types

0:53:35.280 --> 0:53:36.120
<v Speaker 5>of Asian cuisine.

0:53:36.520 --> 0:53:42.239
<v Speaker 2>I know Asian cuisines when I'm talking about Indian goddamn. Okay, y'all,

0:53:42.560 --> 0:53:44.759
<v Speaker 2>do not mind our geography lesson at the end of

0:53:44.840 --> 0:53:45.480
<v Speaker 2>this episode.

0:53:45.920 --> 0:53:48.799
<v Speaker 1>Let them talking about sex. This is not a food show.

0:53:49.040 --> 0:53:51.440
<v Speaker 1>This is not a history chick. But you gotta go see.

0:53:51.480 --> 0:53:52.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lock me.

0:53:53.120 --> 0:53:56.760
<v Speaker 3>Roast these girls on a Michelin starred restaurant named Semma

0:53:57.040 --> 0:53:58.200
<v Speaker 3>Bitch today for you crackers.

0:53:58.280 --> 0:54:00.840
<v Speaker 1>She really you know why you don't like it because

0:54:00.840 --> 0:54:03.960
<v Speaker 1>it's not for you. I'm like, yeah, I like that ship.

0:54:04.040 --> 0:54:04.759
<v Speaker 1>I didn't like that ship.

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