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Speaker 2: studio today. I mean Ed is here, but he don't care.
Speaker 3: So you know, let's kids, have have you gotten your
Speaker 3: man's bigger?
Speaker 2: Alwa's crazy that I'm not talking about my man today.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Like, first of y'all be nosy, like I don't like,
Speaker 2: there's so many parts of me in this relationship that
Speaker 2: I'm like really enjoying, and so many of y'all will
Speaker 2: not let me be in peace in private. So I'm
Speaker 2: working on the things that I want to share with y'all.
Speaker 1: Because y'all are fucking annoying.
Speaker 2: And I guess it was different because, like my last
Speaker 2: relationship was, he was essentially a ghost. He was an
Speaker 2: old ass, fifty year old retired nigga with no social media,
Speaker 2: so he was just a agomilation.
Speaker 1: What's that word?
Speaker 2: You know what You're just like it is just like
Speaker 2: an envision ship aglomination, eybody, y'all know the god word holo.
Speaker 1: An agglogamation, a gloggamation, Hollo.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get the goddamn word agglomination that it caught up.
Speaker 1: Be the bitch.
Speaker 5: It's Coggloborations is a master collection of things.
Speaker 1: Agglomeration. Alright, we're dumb, don't do that.
Speaker 2: I was close agglomeration. But like so, I mean, I'm
Speaker 2: happy like right now, like we are both steel right
Speaker 2: at the phase where I feel like you about to
Speaker 2: say to l word and I'm like, oh, I know
Speaker 2: it's coming. Yeah, no, no, no, no, I said it. I
Speaker 2: said the L word last or time, and look, this
Speaker 2: could be my trauma. Why I don't want to say
Speaker 2: it again, But we're great. I actually wanted to talk
Speaker 2: about therapy. Something that I had recently in a therapy
Speaker 2: session stemmed from conversations that we've been having on the podcast,
Speaker 2: and I got into therapy and burnt into tears, and
Speaker 2: it was about our conversations about me needing the space
Speaker 2: and maybe not feeling confident with how I was speaking
Speaker 2: about it, but like, through reading the comments and through
Speaker 2: trying to express myself on this pod, I was just like,
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm a bad person.
Speaker 1: Like because I'm not like the compromising I wasn't willing
Speaker 1: to have, or.
Speaker 2: Like I'm associating all these things with needing space as
Speaker 2: like am I a bad person? Am I a bad partner?
Speaker 2: And I started getting like into these tropes of why
Speaker 2: am I like this? And my therapy my therapist brought
Speaker 2: up how last year, through specifically my sobriety, is where
Speaker 2: I have come to terms with being way more of
Speaker 2: an introvert as I thought myself to be. I thought
Speaker 2: I was like this extroverted love to be around people,
Speaker 2: need to be around people, feed off of energy and
Speaker 2: all these things. And like last year, through not only sobriety,
Speaker 2: but definitely desensoring sex for the amount of time that
Speaker 2: I did after my last breakup, I've like realized how
Speaker 2: much more my introverted needs of being alone, being isolated,
Speaker 2: recharging socially has been something I'm navigating newly and so
Speaker 2: in trying to explain that to a new partner. And
Speaker 2: it's so crazy because I went out with my best
Speaker 2: friend last night, we had dinner, and she was just like, yeah, bro,
Speaker 2: like we get it, like because we've been with you
Speaker 2: for so long as friends. But yeah, I just wanted
Speaker 2: to share like the conversations that we're having here and
Speaker 2: me trying to express how I'm showing up differently or
Speaker 2: trying to express how I am in this new relationship
Speaker 2: isn't even necessarily from the trauma of my last relationship
Speaker 2: as much as through the healing journey of breaking up
Speaker 2: and finding more about myself again.
Speaker 1: Really through sobriety was really was really uh.
Speaker 2: I don't want to say life changing, because we're still
Speaker 2: going through me navigating that, but I just wanted to
Speaker 2: bring that up because I think taking in the comments
Speaker 2: taking in trying to defend my need for space or
Speaker 2: not wanting to compromise and things. I genuinely sat and
Speaker 2: was like, Damn, am I a shitty partner? Am I
Speaker 2: a bad person? Am I someone made to be in
Speaker 2: a relationship with the way that I'm fine with moving?
Speaker 2: And So I just kind of wanted to bring up
Speaker 2: that because it was like aha, and it was a
Speaker 2: moment that I know we haven't had the episode about
Speaker 2: it yet, but I would love and I'm looking for
Speaker 2: a professional if any of you guys are listening, no one,
Speaker 2: I would love to have the conversation about the relationship
Speaker 2: between drinking and introverts and drinking and sex, because I
Speaker 2: think through through removing alcohol for the time that I did,
Speaker 2: I found so I found out so much about myself
Speaker 2: that now I'm just trying to figure out how to
Speaker 2: fucking communicate it.
Speaker 3: So you're definitely not a bad person. I think even
Speaker 3: the worst people are deserving of love.
Speaker 1: No, and I believe I'm deserving of it.
Speaker 3: And I'm not saying that about you in any means.
Speaker 3: I just mean, like, I think even a terrible person
Speaker 3: deserves love. I don't think that your habits sounded crazy
Speaker 3: out loud. I think the conversation only came from hearing
Speaker 3: the person want more, Like I don't think you saying
Speaker 3: I need four days is bad. I think comparatively, like
Speaker 3: your man wants more and you're like, no, that's it,
Speaker 3: like that that's and it still doesn't make you bad person.
Speaker 3: I think it's that tone of one person wants this
Speaker 3: the other doesn't, because a lot of sometimes the boundaries
Speaker 3: you can have now show up as learning lessons from
Speaker 3: your last relationship.
Speaker 1: Yeah so it can.
Speaker 3: It can sound like it's pain, it can sound like
Speaker 3: you're being defensives, but really it's like you're opening your
Speaker 3: heart again. I remember when you talk about your actually
Speaker 3: like he doesn't there was a moment where you say
Speaker 3: he doesn't know anything wrong.
Speaker 1: I love him. Do you remember that episode.
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, I even is in love in
Speaker 3: a minute, and you.
Speaker 2: You didn't even care to Like I mean, if that
Speaker 2: was within the first year. He did everything right first.
Speaker 3: Year, And I'm saying like you were just And I think,
Speaker 3: like falling in love that fast is probably something you
Speaker 3: just don't want to do, like you know you've been
Speaker 3: through pain, even if you don't consciously know that. I
Speaker 3: think all of us are like that. I fell in
Speaker 3: love deep hard, this happened to me. I met somebody new, better, great,
Speaker 3: treating me better. I still got to make sure I
Speaker 3: have my guard up. I think that was what I
Speaker 3: took from the conversation when you said you need time, like,
Speaker 3: I actually think a year from now, when your relationship
Speaker 3: is growing and blossoming, I think you might be like
Speaker 3: now I'm six and may laugh about it.
Speaker 2: I mean, I just think what I've realized in what
Speaker 2: the conversation was in therapy and what I'm really adamant
Speaker 2: on is my boundaries are not for anyone else, They're
Speaker 2: for me. And if I know that my boundaries are
Speaker 2: to protect myself, I don't want the resentment to happen
Speaker 2: or I don't want to on who's then I would
Speaker 2: I would absolutely resent someone and probably grow out of
Speaker 2: like or love for them if I felt like I
Speaker 2: had to change the boundaries that make me feel safe
Speaker 2: and that are for me in order to appease them.
Speaker 2: Like And that's the thing, Like a lot of people
Speaker 2: take people's boundaries as slights to them, and it's not
Speaker 2: so Like There's been a lot of conversations about that, like,
Speaker 2: I need you to accept me for who I am
Speaker 2: if I'm accepting you, like, and we do this thing
Speaker 2: now too, where he'll wake up and he'll be like, Babe,
Speaker 2: i'm not in a good mood. I'll call you later,
Speaker 2: because I've told him I don't want my my day
Speaker 2: affected because you're in a shitty mood, Like I would
Speaker 2: much rather we not talk until you get better. Girls,
Speaker 2: And I got to do that, but we all need
Speaker 2: that to Yeah, And that's and that's that's because I've
Speaker 2: I've I've told him a boundary where I'm like, I've
Speaker 2: been in relationships, well the past relationship where I've had friendship,
Speaker 2: so even situationships where I've allowed someone's mood to ruin
Speaker 2: my day and me and.
Speaker 1: Him talk so much. We're still at three hours a day.
Speaker 1: We don't talk three hours straight.
Speaker 2: Now it's broken up. But I've literally told him, I
Speaker 2: know we're long distance, but if you wake up and
Speaker 2: you're not in a good mood, do not feel the
Speaker 2: need to talk to me. And so literally he woke
Speaker 2: up in a shitty mood the other day, Babe, I'm
Speaker 2: going to go to the gym. I'll talk to you
Speaker 2: when I when I feel better, and I was like,
Speaker 2: thank you, Like so to me, if that's a boundary,
Speaker 2: like to me, the boundaries are for me and to
Speaker 2: protect me. And if I feel like I have to
Speaker 2: move on my boundaries to appease someone, then I'm not
Speaker 2: for you like the boundaries.
Speaker 1: When we make boundaries, we have.
Speaker 2: To we have to know that they're for us and
Speaker 2: not for other people. And so for me, I'm not
Speaker 2: looking to push those boundaries or move them to appease
Speaker 2: someone else.
Speaker 1: Which is why the.
Speaker 3: Conference we should have a dialogue, not today. I don't
Speaker 3: think we both can even have that conversation boundaries and compromise.
Speaker 1: What's what we've had, We've.
Speaker 3: Had those conversations real, but we should feel not Mandy situation.
Speaker 1: Let's just for example. I'm like, that's a really.
Speaker 2: It's a really big thing, especially in relationships, sacrifice, compromise, boundaries, Like.
Speaker 1: There's three different things. How do you dissect what things?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 3: What a boundary is to me? And this is why
Speaker 3: I was going back and forth with you about it.
Speaker 3: Your four day rule that you have for yourself didn't
Speaker 3: seem like a hard no.
Speaker 1: It felt like, right now, it's for my sanity. No no, no,
Speaker 1: So boundary to me is hard. No, that's a hard
Speaker 1: note for me.
Speaker 2: Okay, Like, especially right now while I'm navigating my need
Speaker 2: to recharge.
Speaker 1: I don't want to have to drink to be around him.
Speaker 1: I don't want to what do you mean you mean?
Speaker 2: Like I realized, like again, through through therapy and going
Speaker 2: through going sober, I realized my ability to be around
Speaker 2: so many people in an extended amount of time that
Speaker 2: the energy is.
Speaker 1: Only on alcohol. Got it?
Speaker 2: And so in this relationship and mind you, with my ex,
Speaker 2: a lot of the sex, a lot of the time
Speaker 2: together was drinking and drug filled.
Speaker 1: It was fun, we were rock stars. I loved it.
Speaker 2: But when I chose to remove those things, I realized
Speaker 2: a lot more about my capacity with being with people.
Speaker 2: And so for me, I don't want to get to
Speaker 2: the point where he's coming. My anxiety has risen now
Speaker 2: because there's an extended amount of time and now I
Speaker 2: have to feel the need to get into any advice
Speaker 2: to be around him. And so where I'm at right now,
Speaker 2: at thirty four, I'm literally learning myself right now as
Speaker 2: an introvert that needs the recharge.
Speaker 3: I think people learn themselves every Yeah, my ma is
Speaker 3: relearning herself at seventy four. Like something I learned from
Speaker 3: the Tempest X episode that that's makes me think about
Speaker 3: what you're saying about drinking and drugs and dating I
Speaker 3: with this current partner.
Speaker 1: He was kind of like saying, the first.
Speaker 3: Three months, we need to have a weekend where we're
Speaker 3: not going out. Now, I'm not saying that we're getting
Speaker 3: sucked up, like we're not going to the cloud, We're
Speaker 3: not going to a lounge, we're not going to hear jazz.
Speaker 1: We're not like, let's just be in the house.
Speaker 3: And he was super super for adamant about us doing this,
Speaker 3: And what I didn't realize was that I'm so used
Speaker 3: to people enjoying me for my extrovertedness and fun same.
Speaker 3: I was scared not that he wouldn't like me, but
Speaker 3: that the time with me would be boring. And now
Speaker 3: it's so crazy to see like we liked the boring shit.
Speaker 3: There was a comment we made like, dayn't I want
Speaker 3: to go back to Thailand and fucking three weeks wasn't enough,
Speaker 3: And I was like, I wish we had.
Speaker 1: One day where we weren't doing anything. In Thailand, we
Speaker 1: did something every day and he's like, now, look he
Speaker 1: is talking. I will say, that's what I like, not
Speaker 1: many things.
Speaker 2: I will say, there are many things that I learned
Speaker 2: and are still taking from my last relationship. And because
Speaker 2: of the pandemic, we got to get me and my
Speaker 2: ex got together where we didn't have.
Speaker 1: A lot of inclusion of other people. And I feel
Speaker 1: like when.
Speaker 2: We started needing to be at bars or sex clubs
Speaker 2: or be around so many other people, it complicated it.
Speaker 2: So I know that now that's what I'm enjoying with
Speaker 2: my partner is making sure I don't feel the need
Speaker 2: for us to be in clubs or bars or spaces
Speaker 2: where now we're just enjoying each other. So like he's
Speaker 2: coming to Atlanta. I'm gonna say it's a week. It's
Speaker 2: Monday to Friday, even though late Monday leave early Friday.
Speaker 2: But he's coming, say Atlanta for a week, and we're
Speaker 2: doing Coca Cola World, the gun Range and we're just
Speaker 2: doing Yeah, he's met my best friend.
Speaker 1: It's like I already met my best friend.
Speaker 3: He is the only thing that matters, Like out with
Speaker 3: you with all these people, Yeah, just who's like my
Speaker 3: corecors I've met his best friend, he's met my best friend.
Speaker 2: He just asked if it's okay. His mom wants my
Speaker 2: number for us to talk housewives. So his mom like, adoors,
Speaker 2: I love his mom.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna like yeah, love.
Speaker 2: But he's like, I don't know if it's a lot,
Speaker 2: but my mom doesn't really have anyone to talk about
Speaker 2: housewives with. And you hang up with me to watch housewives.
Speaker 2: And I told her you're special house lives. So he's like, uh, babe,
Speaker 2: do you mind talking to my mom about housewives?
Speaker 1: I said no, not, like you.
Speaker 3: Know, those things are so sweet because to me, it
Speaker 3: reminds me and I wonder if this is age or
Speaker 3: him being like, I'm not about to turn Mandy off.
Speaker 1: I feel like we see this a lot when.
Speaker 3: Women don't know what to do when they need more,
Speaker 3: or they want to give more, or they want to
Speaker 3: open a man up to more because they're so used
Speaker 3: to men running. People run from commitment, people run from
Speaker 3: all those types of things. Like genuinely, I remember the
Speaker 3: first year of my relationship thinking it was bullshit, like
Speaker 3: there's no way that he's still like showing up doing
Speaker 3: these things like we were just talking. My dad turns
Speaker 3: ninety June first, and we're like, Okay, what are we
Speaker 3: going to do? And so he's like my dad's got
Speaker 3: like I'm not here, just trying to be funny. One
Speaker 3: last nan in Vegas, and we're like, all right, well,
Speaker 3: let's figure out like how we're going to make this work.
Speaker 3: And it's literally right after my partner's birthday and I'm
Speaker 3: sitting there thinking, you know.
Speaker 1: Oh, should we have a nurse doing all this shit?
Speaker 3: And I'm like, this is such a heavy convo for
Speaker 3: someone so young whose parents aren't necessarily going through what
Speaker 3: I'm going through, but watching people support you.
Speaker 2: Is just very impressive. Yeah, Like we literally google like
Speaker 2: should we take a private jet? Cause it's, by the way,
Speaker 2: I'm not that rich and neither is he. However, from
Speaker 2: Vegas or La to Vegas, it's only two hundred dollars
Speaker 2: person on a jet.
Speaker 1: I don't notice if you do the shared one. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So now we're like, all right, cool, let's just take
Speaker 3: the whole family there. Like, but I like seeing this
Speaker 3: side of like how people will show up and it's
Speaker 3: interesting seeing the side of me to think, oh, really,
Speaker 3: like are you doing this for me? Like or you know,
Speaker 3: just questioning it questioning people's love. How did I hold
Speaker 3: you actually being friends with the nigga first?
Speaker 4: Oh, y'all game changer, bitch like cool like bitch like
Speaker 4: I got to know as a friend first, Like I
Speaker 4: if we go to the very inception of this goddamn podcast.
Speaker 1: Any nigga I liked, any nigga who.
Speaker 2: Had a nickname on this goddamn podcast had a nickname
Speaker 2: because I liked him because the dick was good. Like
Speaker 2: all of my my my like and lust and quote
Speaker 2: unquote love for anybody stem from getting my back bloone
Speaker 2: now and so to have spent five six months getting
Speaker 2: to know him first, Like, it's so interesting being in
Speaker 2: a relationship where sex is not the center of it.
Speaker 1: And now it's like we're we're.
Speaker 2: Talking, we're trying to incorporate it a lot more, and
Speaker 2: we're talking, but it's like, damn, it's my friend.
Speaker 1: Damn.
Speaker 2: We talk about so much other ship that it's not
Speaker 2: even about sexting or lusting or not waiting to get.
Speaker 1: To each other to tear each other apart.
Speaker 2: There's like I'm so excited to just lay on the
Speaker 2: couch with you and watch Netflix. Like we were talking
Speaker 2: about Matt Damon the other day and cause the nigga
Speaker 2: Young we talked about him and his friendship with Ben
Speaker 2: Affleck and I was like, oh my god, I love
Speaker 2: their movie together.
Speaker 1: And he was like, what's the one that y'all know progress, No,
Speaker 1: not broke back now and he played brog Jacob Jo.
Speaker 2: Girl, I'm confusing my wife that you like, what's the
Speaker 2: other one? On Google hunting so he can bring up
Speaker 2: good walle Hunting And I was like, no, I'm talking
Speaker 2: about dog one dog, one dog.
Speaker 1: That I love.
Speaker 2: Y'all are the first two people. But if I have
Speaker 2: said dog but and they don't, don't do it? I
Speaker 2: like it, don't that's age that age that's saying, is it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's my fun. Ye oh yeah, that's a great Yeah.
Speaker 1: Like no, no, this is our age and that whole
Speaker 1: eight No dog but either.
Speaker 2: But she also loves Trick Daddy and you know that
Speaker 2: she only know like Hood Miami ship.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was like, we do love some hood cinema. I
Speaker 3: had that phase in my relationship recently. There's a I
Speaker 3: don't know if you guys have seen it. Oh, I
Speaker 3: hope we can post it. There's a checklist of black
Speaker 3: movies to see you said it to him.
Speaker 1: No, he said it to me and.
Speaker 2: Said, baby, filled this out with your fucking viracial ass,
Speaker 2: show biracial ass.
Speaker 1: How many of them had you seen? Like sixty percent?
Speaker 2: Okay, but he saw not very biracial of you.
Speaker 1: That is prettily. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't
Speaker 1: do don't get razy. I love a concussion wrong.
Speaker 2: Every time you talk about a movie here, you bring
Speaker 2: up the Secretary once the money, but you still haven't
Speaker 2: seen it. You love bringing up some white cinema that
Speaker 2: is like a b side to movies. I don't know why.
Speaker 1: You know black rom coms are good, but how many
Speaker 1: do we have? We got what love the Phone? They
Speaker 1: out those are drop round time.
Speaker 3: Sorry, love movies, Black Love Stories, brown sugar just right
Speaker 3: jumping in the bros Basketball just like they got Naga.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, no, there's a lot more. Okay, but
Speaker 1: also look at the country.
Speaker 3: And if you want to talk to Mandy about it,
Speaker 3: Gabrielle Union apparently isn't even.
Speaker 1: Let never forget that.
Speaker 2: Okay, let me tell you it was a crazy shit
Speaker 2: that happen before we get into this outline, because I
Speaker 2: know we need to get to it, so I'm driving
Speaker 2: to see my dad. It's our last day, and he's like,
Speaker 2: go by yourself, because I feel.
Speaker 3: Like your dad is like over me being there, like
Speaker 3: because we've been spending a lot of time together, because
Speaker 3: you and your dad need a moment. So I'm heading
Speaker 3: to my dad and I suddenly feel I was eating strawberries,
Speaker 3: which is crazy because with my braces, I've been eating chips,
Speaker 3: chicken wings, bag gets.
Speaker 1: They told me the seeds. I don't know what happened. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: you can't. You can have a strawberry.
Speaker 2: I don't know what angle I ate it on, but
Speaker 2: the bracket of my braces broke.
Speaker 1: They say this is common.
Speaker 3: However, it was the back wisdom tooth, and the bracket
Speaker 3: dug into my gum. So the end of the wire,
Speaker 3: just to be more helpful, the wire of the races.
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm not saying the bracket. The end of the
Speaker 3: wire was stuck in my gum. I immediately felt like
Speaker 3: a shooting headpain. I was only three minutes from the house.
Speaker 3: I call him.
Speaker 1: I opened my mouth. I realized I can't talk.
Speaker 2: I like this.
Speaker 1: Nigga thinks I got in a car accident. He's like,
Speaker 1: how the fuck. She just left.
Speaker 3: She calling and like, and I can't say it's my braces.
Speaker 3: He gets to the floor of my cars on he
Speaker 3: sees what's going on. He's like, oh my god, we
Speaker 3: gotta go upstairs, bitch. We get upstairs and it's stuck
Speaker 3: down there. Every time he moves it, it's like, I mean, die,
Speaker 3: you're screaming. I'm like, oh my god, call my mom.
Speaker 3: Tell her I can't see my dad. Take me the
Speaker 3: emergency room. I was texting. That's how much I couldn't talk.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, get an emergency dentist. This is how
Speaker 3: niggas gonna dig girl. He called three. They all said
Speaker 3: it's five hundred dollars to come in plus the fees,
Speaker 3: and mind you, all it is is just stuck.
Speaker 2: So this is like orthodonist. You can't get a regular
Speaker 2: dentist anywhere from one to two thousand.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, hold on it. I do, but I
Speaker 1: was like, you got it. Hold on was worth it.
Speaker 2: I was like, let me see the motive in mind.
Speaker 2: Jo's screaming and crying right and he's like, okay, let's
Speaker 2: get in the car.
Speaker 1: And I was like, let's see what we can do.
Speaker 1: So bitch.
Speaker 2: We found a YouTube. Oh gee, of course said all
Speaker 2: you gotta do is get a nail clipper.
Speaker 1: Of course you did.
Speaker 3: So he's boiling the nail clipper, all sitting there, drooling
Speaker 3: on the side.
Speaker 1: There's no blood coming out. It's just stuck.
Speaker 3: Oh, and he's trying to fucking break it. If you
Speaker 3: break it, it'll come apart. So it it'll relieve the pain.
Speaker 1: It couldn't happen. I was like, let's go to the doctor.
Speaker 3: We call one more doctor. I ain't like his attitude,
Speaker 3: so this doctor would feel like so the guy.
Speaker 1: So my man's on the phone. He's like, Yo, can
Speaker 1: you do this price? All you have to do is
Speaker 1: cut it?
Speaker 3: Can we just give you cash because they're estimating fifteen
Speaker 3: hundred dollars god. And he's like, I'm with my family
Speaker 3: and my children and if you want me to leave
Speaker 3: my hall, I was like, oh fuck this la shit.
Speaker 1: I'm like, look then, thunk, get the wire cutters. Bruh.
Speaker 3: We're in the car and he's mad at me because
Speaker 3: I kept screaming at him and I was like, why
Speaker 3: are you not evening out?
Speaker 1: And he's like, oh my god, stopped. I'm like.
Speaker 4: Mad.
Speaker 1: Tape oh, bitch, o' cian.
Speaker 3: This nigga goes in the home depot, comes out with
Speaker 3: a wire cutter. I'm like, where's the alcohol in the
Speaker 3: hot water. He's like, we're not sterilizing it. Just come
Speaker 3: home where I really fucking used. And this is for
Speaker 3: like table people. I was sitting in the parking lot.
Speaker 3: I felt like people were staring at me fucking doing
Speaker 3: my own braces work. When it came out because it
Speaker 3: had to pull away from the nerves to pull out
Speaker 3: of my gum, I.
Speaker 2: Screamed so loud. There's an apartment complex around. I think
Speaker 2: they thought I was getting murdered. And do you know
Speaker 2: what this nigga did?
Speaker 1: Do you know what?
Speaker 3: Like last nothing my real estate investment well to do
Speaker 3: African boyfriend did put it back in the plastic. They said, oh,
Speaker 3: we don't need them anymore, right, Oh my god. I
Speaker 3: wanted to die laughing, but I was like, yeah, guy
Speaker 3: David was the thing. I was like, yeah, baby, go
Speaker 3: get the thirty five dollars bad.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I was about say how much your wirecutters? Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's like thirty something dollars. He got something. No, he
Speaker 1: got like two three different conds. He got the skinny
Speaker 1: ones he had.
Speaker 2: He didn't know what's going so so he returned multiple
Speaker 2: but one of them was in your mouth unfairlized those
Speaker 2: horn people.
Speaker 3: Well, we went to go have dinner at this restaurant.
Speaker 3: This isn't really tea, but I just wanted to say
Speaker 3: we go sit.
Speaker 1: We were almost we were just gonna go, like just
Speaker 1: to like fusing the return the cutters. You're right restaurant.
Speaker 3: So we're like, oh, let's just fuck it, let's go
Speaker 3: or you know. He said to me, He's like, let's
Speaker 3: go home. I ain't feeling and I was like, no,
Speaker 3: I'm not ruining my night. How do you get to
Speaker 3: see my I'm not ruining my night.
Speaker 2: We get in there and even when we get in
Speaker 2: he's like kind of act like YO, want me there.
Speaker 2: We sit right down next to four black people.
Speaker 3: It's two friends that are sitting with Sasha and Malie Obama,
Speaker 3: and I was like, wow, I needed to see this.
Speaker 3: Bit's don't sitting there eating like this, you know what,
Speaker 3: You're trying not to stare at somebody. I'm trying to
Speaker 3: look at me And I'm like, oh my god, these
Speaker 3: girls are so cute, so sweet. I can overhear some
Speaker 3: of their conversation. They are so innocent, so adorable. They
Speaker 3: lived together, and we were saying, like, yo, do you
Speaker 3: know how special it is to see siblings like this close,
Speaker 3: Like I don't know. It really was hitting me and
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, I think LA is a cool
Speaker 3: place to me because you kind of realize how normal
Speaker 3: everybody is, Like you kind of get to see, you
Speaker 3: see celebrities walking down street New York too. You can
Speaker 3: go to a club and interact with somebody that you
Speaker 3: love and know. And I'm such a fucking fan of
Speaker 3: seeing that these girls are moving up in film and
Speaker 3: production and doing their ship swarm.
Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody knows this. Childish Gambino directed it,
Speaker 1: Sasha Obama produced it. It was one of the EP's
Speaker 1: or something. But yeah, it was just a great day,
Speaker 1: and it really like it was a great day, great
Speaker 1: great day. There was a great moment to see these
Speaker 1: two black girls that to me, I grew up with.
Speaker 2: I watched them grow up and I was just like
Speaker 2: wow and no, And all the way home, I was like,
Speaker 2: we gonna see Blue Ivy.
Speaker 1: Nidda, We're gonna be eating. We go see Blue Ivy.
Speaker 1: Nixt and often be like, oh my god, you ain't
Speaker 1: Blue Ivy going she about to be a star and
Speaker 1: role Yeah, no, are you right? We're probably gonna see
Speaker 1: North first? Have you gone through disses since that? Look
Speaker 1: the questions they need since? Oh yeah, yeah that's true.
Speaker 1: I'm no, sorry I didn't. That's what I'm going to
Speaker 1: two forty five. Okay, well I literally told it. I
Speaker 1: think I got to hear twenty. I have to go
Speaker 1: to that doctor. So if I sound like I'm rushing
Speaker 1: the last time at all, like you just you're fine,
Speaker 1: it's gone. It's yeah. So once it's gone, it's gone.
Speaker 1: I just need to put enough new wire down there.
Speaker 3: Bruh the parking lot because niggas say no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2: You need you need to go, because that's what niggas
Speaker 2: think about STDs. Once the symptoms is going, they think
Speaker 2: it's going, and sometimes it ain't.
Speaker 1: Girl, can I get there?
Speaker 2: Ship?
Speaker 1: I'm just saying my appointments are two forty five once
Speaker 1: the year. But I will tell you though, I.
Speaker 3: Think that when it comes to like survival mode type shit,
Speaker 3: that was a good partner moment. How the fuck are
Speaker 3: you gonna hold me? Down niggas anyway, no, no holds barred.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 3: We have been trying to do this on solo episodes
Speaker 3: where we're trying to like bring up an excerpt and
Speaker 3: just dig into it. So this one is from my
Speaker 3: chapter about sugaring. Uh oh no, sorry, this is an
Speaker 3: old bit. One says, quote unquote, they all do the
Speaker 3: same shit. Feed you a pipe dream before piping, tell
Speaker 3: you how amazing you are, how beautiful you are, not
Speaker 3: like the other gold diggers on the site. Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: this is the spoiling chef and how they want to
Speaker 3: spoil you. Like regular dating, this is all the boyfriendly
Speaker 3: type game. In the boyfriendly type game, you will experience
Speaker 3: the following consistent communication and maybe even good morning texts, chivalry,
Speaker 3: compliments and charm, dates, plans made and promising. So when
Speaker 3: I wrote this, I was thinking about all this shit
Speaker 3: that niggas do to win you over, and I want
Speaker 3: to ask you, edin, are there anything that women do
Speaker 3: that they fall off.
Speaker 1: From when dating that they fall off from? Because in the.
Speaker 3: Beginning of this thing, I'm saying, men are giving you compliments,
Speaker 3: men are giving you consistent communication, They're making plans, they're
Speaker 3: going on the dates, good morning text.
Speaker 1: What do women fall off from? You're saying that they
Speaker 1: stop doing the thing? I believe once once they fucked. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know what I've experienced.
Speaker 5: I hate saying this out loud. They start cooking a
Speaker 5: little less. I've had that happen, Nigga, we got jobs.
Speaker 5: I understand, Hey, our own understand. But you know what
Speaker 5: it is, because i'd be a triggered because I did know.
Speaker 5: You know what it is is that this is what
Speaker 5: I've experienced, right, It's two things that that's one. So
Speaker 5: it's more of like the fact that it's like you
Speaker 5: want to show off that you could cook and that
Speaker 5: you could throw it down. So they just start cooking
Speaker 5: you like almost every and anything in their arsenal. And
Speaker 5: then next thing, I know, you're cooking a little exactly,
Speaker 5: the quality start going a little lower. But eggs, you
Speaker 5: start cooking a little less. Now doubt you know. It
Speaker 5: used to be pancakes, eggs, you know, bacon. Now it's
Speaker 5: just maybe eggs, right, okay, maybe just coffee. Another thing, brod.
Speaker 1: I started off good.
Speaker 2: I gave that nigga just eggs and a bagel. Now
Speaker 2: I'm going to move up and give him some meat.
Speaker 2: Like I did it the opposite way.
Speaker 1: I like conditioning.
Speaker 3: Now now what then he does with Dick. He says
Speaker 3: he stot you at c Gray Dick because he don't
Speaker 3: want you to attach. Indeed, he works his life, you
Speaker 3: know when he comes. This time, I'm doing like the
Speaker 3: shripping grits.
Speaker 1: With I'm gonna it was just the very at lantern. Listen.
Speaker 1: I was doing shripping grits like it's my thing. I
Speaker 1: just have to buy vegan butter and vegan vecon and grits.
Speaker 3: I'm coming to Atlanta for us to record, do the
Speaker 3: audiobook and lack effect. I just realized that you niggas
Speaker 3: never lied about toast on Linux. Oh my god, what
Speaker 3: you like it?
Speaker 1: Holy shit? I ate there three days in a row.
Speaker 1: Oh that's crazy.
Speaker 3: It was one hundred dollars to Uber eat the fucking
Speaker 3: Fried's not for I wanted with my hotel room was speaking.
Speaker 3: Girl was cripy that that was my Uber because I
Speaker 3: was about to say that weight.
Speaker 1: I went there twice. It wasn't wait, but maybe because
Speaker 1: I didn't say when I went yeah, there are always
Speaker 1: being waited, then I was. I was so addicted to
Speaker 1: the first one. I was like now I want to
Speaker 1: go to the other one. Bruh. You know it's crazy
Speaker 1: not shipping on a black business because the food is phenomenal.
Speaker 1: Service when the food is good, I really don't think
Speaker 1: it needs to matter.
Speaker 2: Hole shit, no, no, no for patrons, hear me out again,
Speaker 2: say this again. You don't think that service needs to
Speaker 2: be good when the food is good.
Speaker 1: That was food.
Speaker 3: Look at you right now, y'all have been hearing me
Speaker 3: talking about Lucy for almost eight years on this show.
Speaker 3: I have never experienced worst service in New York City
Speaker 3: than Lucy n However, I will die on the sword
Speaker 3: that that is one of the best pops outside of France.
Speaker 2: Now go good food, plumes with good price. If I
Speaker 2: a lot of times and now you could do a
Speaker 2: hole in the wall that has really good food. To me,
Speaker 2: if I'm going to a restaurant and the food is
Speaker 2: so good that it's price, that is nigga, you crave.
Speaker 1: That's why I love you.
Speaker 2: And all of my friends told me, I can't say
Speaker 2: the name of the restaurant anymore, though, what oh you're
Speaker 2: talking about?
Speaker 1: The bitch bleeped that out. I don't bleep it out.
Speaker 1: I don't think the ood is so good.
Speaker 2: The service though, but baby, because like every time I
Speaker 2: brought people, everything comes out on time.
Speaker 1: It's not the ambiance is not there for it. But
Speaker 1: the food is so fucking good. I love it.
Speaker 2: They be bringing us out a little shop like it's
Speaker 2: so great. Okay, so I just found a new My
Speaker 2: whole girl's be cussing me out, like bitch. I tweeted
Speaker 2: it one time because a fan wanted to know where
Speaker 2: to eat. I got two calls, bitch, if you don't
Speaker 2: delete that sweet, we already cake out the name about Cadence.
Speaker 1: The vegan soulfood, but it's black on this one is
Speaker 1: not black. But I love it. And ice time and
Speaker 1: now you just want to give them tips. You want
Speaker 1: to give them hints.
Speaker 3: Oh no, let me tell you this almost give out surveys.
Speaker 3: So for my birthday, my man takes me to this
Speaker 3: French spot on the East Side. Right, I'm not gonna
Speaker 3: say the name, but it's fairly like best friend in
Speaker 3: New York.
Speaker 1: Now we go.
Speaker 3: It was two weeks later we get back from Mexico,
Speaker 3: Like was he that shit again? We had a reservation
Speaker 3: for nine We didn't get seated. Now I did see celebrities.
Speaker 3: I think I saw Tessa Thompson and the someone else
Speaker 3: from Game of Thrones, and I was like.
Speaker 1: All right, ten twenty we got seated. Oh I would
Speaker 1: have left.
Speaker 3: No, we were enjoying, like they have a cool cocktail bar,
Speaker 3: so we were having a good time.
Speaker 2: But you made a reservation. Girl, hold on, suck my
Speaker 2: dick from the back. I don't know if we knew
Speaker 2: what was going to happen, but you know, when you
Speaker 2: know they about akusho ass. I started huffing and puffing
Speaker 2: right around forty minutes.
Speaker 3: But when I saw all these celebrities walking, oh taper
Speaker 3: for two, I was like, oh, so they're treating us
Speaker 3: like shit.
Speaker 1: You know we own the celebrities. Bitch. Oh no, no, bitch.
Speaker 3: That hour and twenty minutes was so worth it. Matre
Speaker 3: D comes over to him, Sir, we saw you here
Speaker 3: two weeks ago. We want to apologize. We shouldn't have
Speaker 3: opened that reservation up when we had stuff on the books.
Speaker 3: We're going to make sure whenever you want a reservation,
Speaker 3: you're here. I'd appreciate it if you can call me
Speaker 3: twenty four hours before, but if you can't, no problem,
Speaker 3: doesn't matter how many people you're in.
Speaker 1: Bitch, we get downstairs. Would you like more mess coming?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Do?
Speaker 1: It's all on the way out. Oh yeah, I do
Speaker 1: desert another app. I actually do want a dozen s cargo,
Speaker 1: not six. Oh, bitch.
Speaker 2: Let a restaurant fuck up. And it's supposed to be
Speaker 2: a high end restaurant. Oh you let us sit. Let
Speaker 2: their shit sit.
Speaker 1: Y'all been a hope. They take a little too long.
Speaker 4: Bro.
Speaker 2: When I tell you I chick came, he was like,
Speaker 2: this should have been two hundred fifty dollars one like kissing.
Speaker 1: I love your patience.
Speaker 5: So do you not think your food takets it a
Speaker 5: little better because of the service in this case that
Speaker 5: is half of it was free.
Speaker 1: Well it was so good.
Speaker 3: I came back, but oh, I sounded to say, uh
Speaker 3: toastallen if they weren't rude or anything, not saying that
Speaker 3: like they were kind, It's just it wasn't great service.
Speaker 1: But I also didn't give a fuck. Is that's so good? Good?
Speaker 3: And I think when places are so busy or fatty
Speaker 3: like TikTok and everybody talks about toast on nis, Yeah,
Speaker 3: maybe that's why it's like heart and people are rude
Speaker 3: as fuck coming in. You know, I don't know if
Speaker 3: they're dealing with a lot, but bitch, I don't give
Speaker 3: a shit. She could have called me a whore and
Speaker 3: I would said, thank you, I'll take extra cream better
Speaker 3: that crazy, of course. Okay, reaction sinary clip. Oh sorry,
Speaker 3: I actually had hypothetical for you guys.
Speaker 2: Hypothetic would you guys go on a date without being
Speaker 2: able to see or without being able to talk?
Speaker 1: Oh, without being able to talk, I'm fallow.
Speaker 2: I want to sit across a good look at motherfucker, Like,
Speaker 2: nothing's worse than talking to an ugly moment.
Speaker 1: But you wouldn't know because you can't see. To me, no,
Speaker 1: I can't talk. That means I could see, right, But if.
Speaker 3: You couldn't, you said nothing's worse than going on to
Speaker 3: dinner with the ugly motherfucker.
Speaker 2: If I could talk, then I can see, which means
Speaker 2: I'm talking to an ugly nigga.
Speaker 1: No no, no, no no no no. Oh see we
Speaker 1: both okay.
Speaker 3: Without being able to see them and just talking, or
Speaker 3: being able to see them and know talking. Oh, I'm
Speaker 3: still going for the sea because I feel like I
Speaker 3: can get a vibe, like I've done that with in
Speaker 3: places like they don't.
Speaker 1: Seek the language I've seen. I've seen men. I just
Speaker 1: looked at them and wanted to subject and then don't start.
Speaker 1: And then they started talking, and I didn't want to second.
Speaker 1: No more.
Speaker 2: There hasn't been many ugly men that talked their way
Speaker 2: into But you don't know if they're ugly.
Speaker 1: You're going on a date with a motherfucking lyricist.
Speaker 2: I told you I don't watch Love is Blind because
Speaker 2: love is very blind, not blind.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: No, love is is the other one? I like looking
Speaker 2: at someone beautiful. Love is hi, luster is not because
Speaker 2: the second baby.
Speaker 3: Like, I can't wait my grandma, Please tell one of
Speaker 3: the producers to give them my grandma's old wedding ring.
Speaker 3: They've been doing all that shit and then next day,
Speaker 3: you know they know at the aisle because they don't
Speaker 3: support black lives matter, like none.
Speaker 1: He said that, it's just I don't know which one
Speaker 1: I mean to me. I still would like to be
Speaker 1: on a date.
Speaker 2: What an attractive ass motherfucker, because mind you, if you
Speaker 2: find we could just eat our food, we.
Speaker 1: Don't have to talk. But what if the date is
Speaker 1: not just food, what if it's an activity? Then I'm
Speaker 1: just shooting the gun or I'm just looking at the
Speaker 1: art on the wall. You know what I could do.
Speaker 3: I would go to a lounge jazz listening music because
Speaker 3: I feel like that's the energy itself vibing with someone.
Speaker 1: We can go to the movies.
Speaker 2: You shouldn't be talking at the movie anyway, and then
Speaker 2: I can look over and look at your finance.
Speaker 1: That work. Yeah, all right, let's sello period. Let's see
Speaker 1: what this clip is all right playing?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 6: Highly spiritual women are single because they understand the metaphysical
Speaker 6: essence of the transportation of energy and alchemy. And the
Speaker 6: primary reason why it's so hard for them to day
Speaker 6: and being relationships is because they harness energy that requires
Speaker 6: a man to have supreme masculinity so much because only
Speaker 6: a weak man will only demonize and subjugate for spiritual gifts. Now,
Speaker 6: when you study historical context in anchr history, the king
Speaker 6: might have had ten twenty ten eight wives, but the
Speaker 6: one that he loved the most for the witch, the healer,
Speaker 6: the one who had the spiritual gifts. And the reason
Speaker 6: that is because you highly.
Speaker 5: Spirit What's funny is that the voice over a AI,
Speaker 5: but the video is and it's just fucking hilarious.
Speaker 3: Oh the voice is so funny. Yeah, kindly, spiritual women
Speaker 3: are single. Let me try to repeat what like.
Speaker 6: And this isn't just spirit women are single because they
Speaker 6: understand the metaphysical essence of the transportation of energy and
Speaker 6: the primary reason why so hard for them today.
Speaker 1: During the date. So I'm gonna say this hotel ship.
Speaker 1: But if you're a very intuitive person, it is hard
Speaker 1: for you to date.
Speaker 2: I think someone and this might not be a synonym,
Speaker 2: but I look at someone who may be highly spiritual.
Speaker 2: That means in terms of how they view the universe themselves,
Speaker 2: maybe they're more in tune with themselves, which means oftentimes
Speaker 2: they're single because maybe they're just happy with themselves.
Speaker 1: That's a good point.
Speaker 2: We talk about that, like, I think that in terms
Speaker 2: of how a lot of people date, they date with
Speaker 2: the means of looking for a band aid. They date
Speaker 2: to find someone to bring them happiness or to make
Speaker 2: them whole. And we've had the conversations that unfortunately that's
Speaker 2: what we were taught right, like to become one right
Speaker 2: or like finding your soulmates, and nan are doing this too,
Speaker 2: by the way, not wanting to be alone so to
Speaker 2: me someone who is happier with themselves. And we've talked
Speaker 2: about this even in sense of like, once you're able
Speaker 2: to fully fund your own lifestyle, once you're able to
Speaker 2: find community, find friends, be happy with who you are
Speaker 2: physically emotionally. If you find spiritually your niche, like if
Speaker 2: you're going to church or you're you're finding ways to
Speaker 2: just meditate and be with self, and you're happy with self,
Speaker 2: it is a lot harder to.
Speaker 1: Date because you're less net to put up with all
Speaker 1: the bullshit.
Speaker 3: I don't think there's a world where being happy by
Speaker 3: yourself doesn't look a little bit like it's spinster.
Speaker 1: Oh she can't meet anyone in there's always someone that's
Speaker 1: like thinking being single is bad.
Speaker 3: But when you get to that point where you're single
Speaker 3: because you know exactly what you want, that's to me
Speaker 3: when you're on this level.
Speaker 2: I was just having the conversation with my homegirl and
Speaker 2: she was like, bruh, I've been single for so long
Speaker 2: that I have anxiety about bringing someone into my home.
Speaker 1: How long?
Speaker 2: I say, she's been single for three years, and so
Speaker 2: does that mean sexless? Been sexless for about six months,
Speaker 2: which is like, goddamn girl, I'll pray for you.
Speaker 1: For real. It's tough out here.
Speaker 2: But we were having the conversation because she's at the
Speaker 2: age where she's like motherhood is now leaving the idea
Speaker 2: because she would want to have kids with a man
Speaker 2: she likes, and it's becoming so almost foreign to her
Speaker 2: that there's anxiety about like, damn, I wonder if because
Speaker 2: I've been so single with myself and have this routine
Speaker 2: in my home, if I'm going to be able to
Speaker 2: open it to someone else. Like she's literally like, I
Speaker 2: don't know if I want someone in my apartment to
Speaker 2: ruin my days.
Speaker 1: Because we don't. I don't like anyone yet, which yes,
Speaker 1: that's just like the real truth. I was like on
Speaker 1: my soap bag.
Speaker 3: And then when you like, nigga is so over and
Speaker 3: I don't mean it's over for the bad reasons.
Speaker 1: It's the same with men. My Nigga jokes a lot
Speaker 1: about me, like.
Speaker 2: Bruh, when I tell you you came soon as fuck
Speaker 2: like I thought I sing to be out here, and
Speaker 2: like it's really it.
Speaker 1: When you like the motherfucker, that's when this shit starts
Speaker 1: to happen. So don't get.
Speaker 3: Discouraged if you're listening and you're like, I don't know,
Speaker 3: I got my routine with friends. I don't know I
Speaker 3: got my routine with this because at the end of
Speaker 3: the day, when you're excited about someone, you can't wait
Speaker 3: to incorporate them in that Just like, for example, one
Speaker 3: of my friends uh Oh, Gila and neg my friend
Speaker 3: Gila's wedding. I went to their wedding in Mexico City.
Speaker 3: I kept eating people in their dodgeball team dodgeball or kickball.
Speaker 3: And I'm laughing because she flies, fuck he flies. She's
Speaker 3: in fashion and beauty and I'm like, y'all, dog buck.
Speaker 1: But he did it before her. He loved doing this
Speaker 1: thing with his friends.
Speaker 3: He works in community and parks like for a living,
Speaker 3: and now she loves it, Like you can't wait to
Speaker 3: like bring your people in, and it's silly to maybe
Speaker 3: bring up her doesn't sound the exact same, but I
Speaker 3: found it interesting that something that someone does alone for
Speaker 3: so long that's their thing.
Speaker 2: Once they're so into you and they love you, now
Speaker 2: it's like, no, no, no, I want to share this
Speaker 2: with you. I think you can probably attribute that you're
Speaker 2: gonna se a good movie and you like, you gotta
Speaker 2: watch this ship. It could be a friend, somebody you love.
Speaker 2: You need them to experience the same thing. So when
Speaker 2: it comes to your home, yeah, you can watch fel
Speaker 2: bad what you said? I told my boyfriend, please go
Speaker 2: and enjoy I call it jousting. He hates it, but
Speaker 2: it's the wrestling, the a W, the WWE, what's aw
Speaker 2: aw like wrestling Federation?
Speaker 1: And I told him I want you to enjoy as
Speaker 1: much of it as you can. With that. Well, didn't
Speaker 1: you just you said what?
Speaker 2: You just go there now with me charenting it sports, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm not surprised. She it's a little different. It's a
Speaker 2: little different.
Speaker 1: It's okay.
Speaker 2: So here's what And for the men listening, it was
Speaker 2: explained to me the a W short, a w W,
Speaker 2: W E, wrestling, whatever, all the things is like a
Speaker 2: male telenovella.
Speaker 1: Yes, did you watch that shirt on Netflix? Edit a
Speaker 1: year round? There's storylines, there's people baked into it.
Speaker 2: The audience there was, oh my god, the audience looked
Speaker 2: like they were either half versions or half serial killers
Speaker 2: bodies in the fridge.
Speaker 1: Ports know, that's truly crazy. I said, baby, just the
Speaker 1: crowd you be like, I don't know, you don't really
Speaker 1: watched wrestlers. I'm sure. All I know is I told him,
Speaker 1: please enjoy that by yourself, Babe. I don't want to
Speaker 1: ruin it for you. So like, yeah, people don't care.
Speaker 1: They don't. And I was like, I was watching it.
Speaker 1: It is the man in the in the type. Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe if we go see Roman Rains fight bitch is
Speaker 1: because he's a.
Speaker 2: Jason, So maybe I'll go in Raymond Rains, Roman rings
Speaker 2: or his brother's cousins. It's like a hall love skins
Speaker 2: and that's one that I'll take some with but shout
Speaker 2: out to swerve, like when look at the locks the
Speaker 2: laskin black dude, No, no, no, no, no, this is
Speaker 2: Roman Rains bitch.
Speaker 1: Oh wrong guy, But I'll suck.
Speaker 2: He got a light like you can go enjoy it
Speaker 2: because they all take wrestlers, they all beautifer back.
Speaker 1: Have you actually watched a netflixhip of WW you should?
Speaker 1: I A'm gonna laugh.
Speaker 2: The last thing that got that before Karadise, the last
Speaker 2: thing that I really had the TV like what I
Speaker 2: went to it and I have no no, no, it's
Speaker 2: like the dirty deep dark ship they do I have.
Speaker 1: I have just said this could be your thing. Sexual
Speaker 1: assault whoa, No, the documentary.
Speaker 2: It was the documentary document like, oh, that's what I mean,
Speaker 2: not because it's good sexual assaultid bro, you've seen that
Speaker 2: Nigga tweets, but you like I would have gotten to
Speaker 2: nig I'll say, yes, when you find a person and
Speaker 2: they have their thing, you absolutely can join them, but
Speaker 2: also feel free to also let them keep their ship
Speaker 2: if it ain't for you.
Speaker 3: Well, let's talk about the history of the d The
Speaker 3: people that don't enjoy the same things as.
Speaker 2: Their partner and they never will, they don't give off
Speaker 2: history of divorce, Okay, right now, Okay, So I thought
Speaker 2: we were going to do the history of the dick. Oh,
Speaker 2: the history of the d The earliest known divorce laws
Speaker 2: were written on clay tablets in Mesopotamia, and you just.
Speaker 1: Like bringing up clay.
Speaker 2: This is the second time you done brought up the
Speaker 2: goddamn plods. Yes, the girl had to suck at clay
Speaker 2: dick for the mummy or something. Mesopotamia keeps coming up
Speaker 2: in our history.
Speaker 1: Secment, Come on, Mesopotamia.
Speaker 3: Okay, women were actually granted the right to separate from
Speaker 3: the husbands.
Speaker 1: I don't believe this back then, Okay.
Speaker 3: And then there was a code where they had provisions
Speaker 3: for divorce, so there were a lot of religious influence
Speaker 3: on why you could or couldn't. In Europe, Christian churches
Speaker 3: controlled divorced from the eleventh century, with the Catholic Church
Speaker 3: banning it entirely and Protestant churches allowing it restricted. Muslims
Speaker 3: in Africa, the Middle East and Asia began using Quran rules,
Speaker 3: with the husbands generally able to divorce without cause or anything,
Speaker 3: while the wife needs the agreement. So that's why the
Speaker 3: thing in Mesopotamia was women being able to leave was
Speaker 3: a big deal. What's interesting is today the place where
Speaker 3: you cannot get divorced.
Speaker 1: It's a country. Does anyone know in there? Before guitar
Speaker 1: keep guess cutter, Actually is how I said. Singapore, Philippines
Speaker 1: it's illegal, Oh, Philippines.
Speaker 3: To get divorced. And Chile in twenty two thousand and four.
Speaker 3: I wanted to be ready. Uh, they were one of
Speaker 3: the last countries to legalize divorce. So now yeah, it's
Speaker 3: still not I don't know if.
Speaker 1: You if you.
Speaker 2: Heard so, I want to say it was in Europe.
Speaker 2: Y'all can in fact check me while I talk. But
Speaker 2: there women were not able to file for divorce, especially
Speaker 2: Christian Church. However, there became a rule that if they
Speaker 2: could show that their spouse wasn't able to get their
Speaker 2: dick hard, that they could actually file.
Speaker 1: Like okay, you cannot goods, I mean.
Speaker 2: You couldn't maybe like a blamement on that kids, if this.
Speaker 1: Dick don't get hard all the time?
Speaker 5: Did you did you find it a frenchwoman's to obtain
Speaker 5: the divorce because of her husband's lack of sexual function
Speaker 5: was the European Court of Human Rights?
Speaker 1: That's fire, So I mean.
Speaker 2: Crazy is in order to prove it too, which this
Speaker 2: is so dumb, they had to see like he had
Speaker 2: to try to get hard in front of.
Speaker 1: I swear.
Speaker 2: You can't get it up in the how you gonna
Speaker 2: get it up in front of everyone? But I thought
Speaker 2: she was able to get a divorce.
Speaker 3: Speaking of divorce, you know what's crazy about reading the
Speaker 3: Philippines thing? How many times on ninety Fiance they want
Speaker 3: that fucking green card. Literally this last season they're showing
Speaker 3: you the opposite. A white dude who's homeless goes to Philippines.
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, well, since he's dating a trans woman,
Speaker 3: he can't marry her because she's.
Speaker 2: A man really, So he's like, I'll marry your mom.
Speaker 2: And I didn't understand when some of the business charact it.
Speaker 1: Now this is real. She was still to show this,
Speaker 1: Oh faith. He was the one that got gone Ria.
Speaker 1: You seen the clip. No, I'm sorry, I am my
Speaker 1: algorithm is not ninety day fiance.
Speaker 2: So wait, what happened? He went to the Philippines to
Speaker 2: marry a lady boy, but they couldn't get married because
Speaker 2: they're same sex, and so he said.
Speaker 1: Let me marry your mama.
Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, homeless and ain't got nothing to offer,
Speaker 2: got no money, hanged love has no price to it.
Speaker 1: Man, shut the fuck.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you. Wait, he said, let me marry
Speaker 2: your mama for what so he can have When he
Speaker 2: when he told her about the Gonerria, her face was so.
Speaker 2: She was like, wait, he had gone reea from you
Speaker 2: have a the aid? Wait he had gotten Ria from
Speaker 2: lu though from a girl that he let suck his
Speaker 2: another transgirl. Wait, he he had gone Ria while he
Speaker 2: was with her, or before he found out. He had
Speaker 2: gone Ria while he flew out there. Wow, So he's like,
Speaker 2: don't worry about it.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get the medicine and player down. No, I'm monogamous.
Speaker 2: He fucking just lady boys everywhere, homeless and now trying
Speaker 2: to marry one's mama.
Speaker 1: He was he said, she's not right.
Speaker 3: The craziest mart the Filipino girls like how who did
Speaker 3: you get it from? You told her and she's like,
Speaker 3: I didn't know what, How did this happen you? I
Speaker 3: didn't even have sex with her? He's like, well, I
Speaker 3: said I was gonna sleep over.
Speaker 1: She thought it was because he got no home. Girl
Speaker 1: thought he needed a place. So now he's moving to
Speaker 1: a country where he can not have a divorce. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: so that was the big thing.
Speaker 3: I don't think they're still together, but yeah, when people
Speaker 3: were saying that in the comments, I didn't understand it
Speaker 3: till this outline. Yeah, because they were like, oh, it's
Speaker 3: so he can never leave because he wanted a cheap
Speaker 3: place to live.
Speaker 2: I'm curious to know if, with all of the changes
Speaker 2: that just have happened with technology, with how we date,
Speaker 2: with how we consume information, if there will be any
Speaker 2: changes done to divorce, Because for the friends and people
Speaker 2: that I know currently going through divorces, I was shocked
Speaker 2: to know that the courts. You can file and then
Speaker 2: be separated, but you have to be separated for a
Speaker 2: certain amount of time before they finalize the divorce.
Speaker 1: There's so many laws.
Speaker 2: Why are you making me say what a nigga I'm
Speaker 2: saying I don't want to be with because they're like, well,
Speaker 2: maybe y'all can work through this, and I'm like, wait,
Speaker 2: I have to be separated from this person before you sure.
Speaker 1: That you want to get divorced. That is crazy to me.
Speaker 1: But there's another thing.
Speaker 3: In Japan, women have to wait and this is kind
Speaker 3: of the opposite six months until they can get married
Speaker 3: to someone. Oh really, So if you want to know
Speaker 3: Marrily Kardashian, no better, you gotta fucking know unless the
Speaker 3: woman's pregnant.
Speaker 2: And then in Japan, since they have that role in
Speaker 2: the beginning. Most divorces are straightforward, one page form. It
Speaker 2: doesn't even require going to core.
Speaker 1: You can do the shit online.
Speaker 2: Oh we get I might get get married in Japan
Speaker 2: if I'm finna get married, one page document, no court,
Speaker 2: We just divorced and is done, okay. Common reasons for divorce.
Speaker 2: I mean, tell me, I'm gonna give you the the four.
Speaker 3: Tell me what you think is number one, two, three, four, okay, okay,
Speaker 3: drugs and alcohol abuse, infidelity, mental abuse or physical abuse,
Speaker 3: and incompatibility.
Speaker 2: Well, I know most people, when they don't want us
Speaker 2: to be in their motherfucking business, say that they rooted
Speaker 2: for irreconcilable differences. So I'm going to say that one's first,
Speaker 2: then in fidelity, then the vices, then the abuse and shit, because.
Speaker 3: Yeah, incompatibility is the first number one, and then it's infidelity, yeah,
Speaker 3: and then yeah other the other two are Unfortunately people
Speaker 3: stay and put up with those things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for quite some time before that becomes a reason,
Speaker 2: Like it has to get really bad for people to
Speaker 2: leave for those reasons.
Speaker 1: But I think most most of the forces that we see.
Speaker 2: Publicly or irreconcilable differences, which is I think incompatibility.
Speaker 3: The lowest rate for the divorce in the world is India.
Speaker 3: Out of a thousand marriages, only thirteen.
Speaker 1: But most of them are Muslim, which means they can
Speaker 1: have multiple Right now, they're Hindu, isn't that their religion?
Speaker 1: Am I dumb? Maybe I don't know religion like that?
Speaker 1: What's the religion in India?
Speaker 2: But can't Hindus can Hindu's Hinduism followed right. Islam can
Speaker 2: they have can they have multi? Can Hindus have more?
Speaker 2: Eighty percent of Hindu is No, it's muscle.
Speaker 1: Is Hindu? Can Hindu get? Can Hindu get? Hindu get multiple? Wise?
Speaker 1: Listen the way, by the way, just the way we
Speaker 1: be asking questions.
Speaker 2: Just watch hat GBT know exactly what the hell we'll
Speaker 2: be talking about and be offering out even more.
Speaker 1: Well, I have to go get my home depot rates
Speaker 1: dis sorted. I hope you guys.
Speaker 2: By the way, Hindus, Oh, Hindu law generally prohibits polygamy.
Speaker 1: They just they're just staying and get it. They having
Speaker 1: fun in the sun. That's crazy. Not fun in the sun.
Speaker 1: But that's wild.
Speaker 2: What it's a sunny and sunny I don't know how
Speaker 2: sunny in Philadelphia and Mumbai it is.
Speaker 1: It is like on the equator. I think, so it's
Speaker 1: really hot. I think it's close to the equation. I
Speaker 1: don't know there's a problem about it.
Speaker 3: White girls that do restaurants reviews, we just I don't
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 2: The girl from Top Chef tried to get them on
Speaker 2: how they know, No, she got it.
Speaker 3: They said Tiki massala and they said Brianni whatever this is.
Speaker 3: Tiki Masala is crazy and two white women judging ethnic cuisine.
Speaker 1: To that degree. Okay, do you want to not fue bro?
Speaker 1: You want to know how bad that who white went
Speaker 1: to Jamaicans the Ox and that's how they do tikas tika.
Speaker 2: And you know what I just found out, buttered chicken
Speaker 2: get Indian food only on the East coast. Bitch, I
Speaker 2: didn't know buttered chicken really wasn't It's like East Coast
Speaker 2: Indian food.
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, no, no, this is different.
Speaker 3: No when I'm talking about South Asian Southeast Asian, like
Speaker 3: you know, you're trying.
Speaker 1: To say Indian cuisine right right right.
Speaker 2: Buttered chicken, chicken, egg, buttered chicken.
Speaker 1: We tried three in La.
Speaker 2: I know now I think about Tiki said, where the
Speaker 2: fuck is the buttered chicken? Well, let me stop talking
Speaker 2: shit because the family wite girls.
Speaker 1: And if I'm going to wait, wait wait, wait, where
Speaker 1: are you gonna say about better chicken? Where that at?
Speaker 2: Because I tried three different Indian it's just that Indian
Speaker 2: they have butter chicken. I said, they don't have butter
Speaker 2: chicken in Lad.
Speaker 1: I came back home and I said, nigga they got Bama,
Speaker 1: get one free, bought a chicken it love it, don't.
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, I don't know where the Indian
Speaker 2: restaurant is from, but like, for example, Dashome, which is
Speaker 2: really popular in London.
Speaker 1: I don't know what India was called before it was India.
Speaker 1: Oh there was another name for it. It got Bombay,
Speaker 1: it got the rebreak Bombay. Their cuisine is a little
Speaker 1: bit different, so like there's different shiit too.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was gonna say that there's like different types
Speaker 5: of Asian cuisine.
Speaker 2: I know Asian cuisines when I'm talking about Indian goddamn. Okay, y'all,
Speaker 2: do not mind our geography lesson at the end of
Speaker 2: this episode.
Speaker 1: Let them talking about sex. This is not a food show.
Speaker 1: This is not a history chick. But you gotta go see.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lock me.
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