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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you should say decision decisions. It sounded

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Speaker 2: like you was talking to Kirsty. You definitely say to welcome, welcome.

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Speaker 1: To the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: You want to say.

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Speaker 1: Together, decisions decisions.

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Speaker 2: Welcome everybody to another episode of Decision Decision.

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Speaker 3: My teeth are changing, so now I say it, it

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Speaker 2: It's funny because I just listened to Charlemagne on Brilliant

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Speaker 2: Idiots and he was like, I still just be I

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Speaker 2: list I don't know how to say decisions decisions, goddamn it,

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Speaker 2: but I'm glad he's working on saying that in our

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Speaker 2: book correctly.

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Speaker 1: Speaking of before we get started with this.

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Speaker 2: studio today. I mean Ed is here, but he don't care.

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Speaker 3: So you know, let's kids, have have you gotten your

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Speaker 3: man's bigger?

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Speaker 2: Alwa's crazy that I'm not talking about my man today.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Like, first of y'all be nosy, like I don't like,

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Speaker 2: there's so many parts of me in this relationship that

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Speaker 2: I'm like really enjoying, and so many of y'all will

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Speaker 2: not let me be in peace in private. So I'm

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Speaker 2: working on the things that I want to share with y'all.

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Speaker 1: Because y'all are fucking annoying.

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Speaker 2: And I guess it was different because, like my last

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Speaker 2: relationship was, he was essentially a ghost. He was an

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Speaker 2: old ass, fifty year old retired nigga with no social media,

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Speaker 2: so he was just a agomilation.

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Speaker 1: What's that word?

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Speaker 2: You know what You're just like it is just like

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Speaker 2: an envision ship aglomination, eybody, y'all know the god word holo.

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Speaker 1: An agglogamation, a gloggamation, Hollo.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna get the goddamn word agglomination that it caught up.

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Speaker 1: Be the bitch.

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Speaker 5: It's Coggloborations is a master collection of things.

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Speaker 1: Agglomeration. Alright, we're dumb, don't do that.

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Speaker 2: I was close agglomeration. But like so, I mean, I'm

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Speaker 2: happy like right now, like we are both steel right

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Speaker 2: at the phase where I feel like you about to

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Speaker 2: say to l word and I'm like, oh, I know

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Speaker 2: it's coming. Yeah, no, no, no, no, I said it. I

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Speaker 2: said the L word last or time, and look, this

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Speaker 2: could be my trauma. Why I don't want to say

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Speaker 2: it again, But we're great. I actually wanted to talk

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Speaker 2: about therapy. Something that I had recently in a therapy

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Speaker 2: session stemmed from conversations that we've been having on the podcast,

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Speaker 2: and I got into therapy and burnt into tears, and

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Speaker 2: it was about our conversations about me needing the space

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Speaker 2: about it, but like, through reading the comments and through

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Speaker 2: trying to express myself on this pod, I was just like,

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm a bad person.

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Speaker 1: Like because I'm not like the compromising I wasn't willing

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Speaker 2: Like I'm associating all these things with needing space as

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Speaker 2: like am I a bad person? Am I a bad partner?

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Speaker 2: And I started getting like into these tropes of why

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Speaker 2: up how last year, through specifically my sobriety, is where

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Speaker 2: I have come to terms with being way more of

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Speaker 2: an introvert as I thought myself to be. I thought

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Speaker 2: all these things. And like last year, through not only sobriety,

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Speaker 2: much more my introverted needs of being alone, being isolated,

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Speaker 2: recharging socially has been something I'm navigating newly and so

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Speaker 2: in trying to explain that to a new partner. And

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Speaker 2: it's so crazy because I went out with my best

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Speaker 2: friend last night, we had dinner, and she was just like, yeah, bro,

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Speaker 2: like we get it, like because we've been with you

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Speaker 2: isn't even necessarily from the trauma of my last relationship

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Speaker 1: Really through sobriety was really was really uh.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to say life changing, because we're still

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Speaker 2: was like, Damn, am I a shitty partner? Am I

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Speaker 2: a relationship with the way that I'm fine with moving?

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Speaker 2: And So I just kind of wanted to bring up

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Speaker 2: a professional if any of you guys are listening, no one,

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Speaker 2: I would love to have the conversation about the relationship

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Speaker 2: between drinking and introverts and drinking and sex, because I

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Speaker 2: I found so I found out so much about myself

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Speaker 2: that now I'm just trying to figure out how to

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Speaker 2: fucking communicate it.

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Speaker 3: So you're definitely not a bad person. I think even

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Speaker 3: the worst people are deserving of love.

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Speaker 1: No, and I believe I'm deserving of it.

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Speaker 3: And I'm not saying that about you in any means.

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Speaker 3: I just mean, like, I think even a terrible person

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Speaker 3: deserves love. I don't think that your habits sounded crazy

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Speaker 3: out loud. I think the conversation only came from hearing

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Speaker 3: the person want more, Like I don't think you saying

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Speaker 3: like that that's and it still doesn't make you bad person.

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Speaker 3: I think it's that tone of one person wants this

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Speaker 3: the other doesn't, because a lot of sometimes the boundaries

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Speaker 3: you can have now show up as learning lessons from

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Speaker 3: your last relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yeah so it can.

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Speaker 3: It can sound like it's pain, it can sound like

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Speaker 3: you're being defensives, but really it's like you're opening your

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Speaker 3: heart again. I remember when you talk about your actually

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Speaker 3: like he doesn't there was a moment where you say

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Speaker 3: he doesn't know anything wrong.

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Speaker 1: I love him. Do you remember that episode.

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Speaker 3: I was like, damn, I even is in love in

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Speaker 2: You didn't even care to Like I mean, if that

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Speaker 3: Year, And I'm saying like you were just And I think,

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Speaker 3: just don't want to do, like you know you've been

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Speaker 3: through pain, even if you don't consciously know that. I

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Speaker 3: think all of us are like that. I fell in

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Speaker 3: love deep hard, this happened to me. I met somebody new, better, great,

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Speaker 3: treating me better. I still got to make sure I

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Speaker 3: have my guard up. I think that was what I

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Speaker 3: took from the conversation when you said you need time, like,

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Speaker 3: I actually think a year from now, when your relationship

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Speaker 3: is growing and blossoming, I think you might be like

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Speaker 2: I mean, I just think what I've realized in what

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Speaker 2: the conversation was in therapy and what I'm really adamant

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Speaker 2: on is my boundaries are not for anyone else, They're

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Speaker 2: for me. And if I know that my boundaries are

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Speaker 2: to protect myself, I don't want the resentment to happen

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Speaker 2: I would absolutely resent someone and probably grow out of

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Speaker 2: had to change the boundaries that make me feel safe

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Speaker 2: and that are for me in order to appease them.

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Speaker 2: Like And that's the thing, Like a lot of people

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Speaker 2: take people's boundaries as slights to them, and it's not

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Speaker 2: so Like There's been a lot of conversations about that, like,

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Speaker 2: I need you to accept me for who I am

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Speaker 2: if I'm accepting you, like, and we do this thing

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Speaker 2: now too, where he'll wake up and he'll be like, Babe,

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Speaker 2: because I've told him I don't want my my day

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Speaker 2: affected because you're in a shitty mood, Like I would

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Speaker 2: much rather we not talk until you get better. Girls,

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Speaker 2: And I got to do that, but we all need

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Speaker 2: that to Yeah, And that's and that's that's because I've

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Speaker 2: I've I've told him a boundary where I'm like, I've

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Speaker 2: been in relationships, well the past relationship where I've had friendship,

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Speaker 2: so even situationships where I've allowed someone's mood to ruin

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Speaker 1: Him talk so much. We're still at three hours a day.

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Speaker 1: We don't talk three hours straight.

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Speaker 2: Now it's broken up. But I've literally told him, I

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Speaker 2: know we're long distance, but if you wake up and

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Speaker 2: up in a shitty mood the other day, Babe, I'm

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Speaker 2: going to go to the gym. I'll talk to you

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Speaker 2: when I when I feel better, and I was like,

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Speaker 2: thank you, Like so to me, if that's a boundary,

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Speaker 2: like to me, the boundaries are for me and to

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Speaker 2: for you like the boundaries.

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Speaker 1: When we make boundaries, we have.

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Speaker 2: To we have to know that they're for us and

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Speaker 2: not for other people. And so for me, I'm not

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Speaker 2: looking to push those boundaries or move them to appease

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Speaker 1: Which is why the.

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Speaker 3: Conference we should have a dialogue, not today. I don't

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Speaker 3: think we both can even have that conversation boundaries and compromise.

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Speaker 1: What's what we've had, We've.

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Speaker 3: Had those conversations real, but we should feel not Mandy situation.

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Speaker 1: Let's just for example. I'm like, that's a really.

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Speaker 2: It's a really big thing, especially in relationships, sacrifice, compromise, boundaries, Like.

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Speaker 1: There's three different things. How do you dissect what things?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 3: What a boundary is to me? And this is why

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Speaker 3: I was going back and forth with you about it.

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Speaker 3: Your four day rule that you have for yourself didn't

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Speaker 3: seem like a hard no.

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Speaker 1: It felt like, right now, it's for my sanity. No no, no,

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Speaker 1: So boundary to me is hard. No, that's a hard

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Speaker 1: note for me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Like, especially right now while I'm navigating my need

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Speaker 2: to recharge.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to have to drink to be around him.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to what do you mean you mean?

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Speaker 2: Like I realized, like again, through through therapy and going

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Speaker 2: through going sober, I realized my ability to be around

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Speaker 2: so many people in an extended amount of time that

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Speaker 2: the energy is.

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Speaker 1: Only on alcohol. Got it?

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Speaker 2: And so in this relationship and mind you, with my ex,

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Speaker 2: a lot of the sex, a lot of the time

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Speaker 1: It was fun, we were rock stars. I loved it.

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Speaker 2: But when I chose to remove those things, I realized

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Speaker 2: We talk about so much other ship that it's not

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Speaker 2: There's like I'm so excited to just lay on the

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Speaker 1: And he was like, what's the one that y'all know progress, No,

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Speaker 2: good walle Hunting And I was like, no, I'm talking

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Speaker 3: I was like, we do love some hood cinema. I

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Speaker 1: No, he said it to me and.

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Speaker 2: Said, baby, filled this out with your fucking viracial ass,

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Speaker 1: How many of them had you seen? Like sixty percent?

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Speaker 1: That is prettily. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't

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Speaker 2: Every time you talk about a movie here, you bring

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Speaker 1: Nigga thinks I got in a car accident. He's like,

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Speaker 1: And I was like, let's see what we can do.

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Speaker 2: We found a YouTube. Oh gee, of course said all

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Speaker 3: on the side.

437
00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:03,680
Speaker 1: There's no blood coming out. It's just stuck.

438
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,879
Speaker 3: Oh, and he's trying to fucking break it. If you

439
00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,520
Speaker 3: break it, it'll come apart. So it it'll relieve the pain.

440
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,840
Speaker 1: It couldn't happen. I was like, let's go to the doctor.

441
00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:15,440
Speaker 3: We call one more doctor. I ain't like his attitude,

442
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,879
Speaker 3: so this doctor would feel like so the guy.

443
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:19,680
Speaker 1: So my man's on the phone. He's like, Yo, can

444
00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 1: you do this price? All you have to do is

445
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 1: cut it?

446
00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:24,359
Speaker 3: Can we just give you cash because they're estimating fifteen

447
00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:28,040
Speaker 3: hundred dollars god. And he's like, I'm with my family

448
00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,520
Speaker 3: and my children and if you want me to leave

449
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,560
Speaker 3: my hall, I was like, oh fuck this la shit.

450
00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:36,399
Speaker 1: I'm like, look then, thunk, get the wire cutters. Bruh.

451
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:38,760
Speaker 3: We're in the car and he's mad at me because

452
00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:40,560
Speaker 3: I kept screaming at him and I was like, why

453
00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:42,120
Speaker 3: are you not evening out?

454
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,159
Speaker 1: And he's like, oh my god, stopped. I'm like.

455
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:45,840
Speaker 4: Mad.

456
00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 1: Tape oh, bitch, o' cian.

457
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 3: This nigga goes in the home depot, comes out with

458
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 3: a wire cutter. I'm like, where's the alcohol in the

459
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,240
Speaker 3: hot water. He's like, we're not sterilizing it. Just come

460
00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:59,520
Speaker 3: home where I really fucking used. And this is for

461
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,639
Speaker 3: like table people. I was sitting in the parking lot.

462
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,120
Speaker 3: I felt like people were staring at me fucking doing

463
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 3: my own braces work. When it came out because it

464
00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:12,200
Speaker 3: had to pull away from the nerves to pull out

465
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:13,639
Speaker 3: of my gum, I.

466
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 2: Screamed so loud. There's an apartment complex around. I think

467
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 2: they thought I was getting murdered. And do you know

468
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:19,719
Speaker 2: what this nigga did?

469
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:20,159
Speaker 1: Do you know what?

470
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 3: Like last nothing my real estate investment well to do

471
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:30,959
Speaker 3: African boyfriend did put it back in the plastic. They said, oh,

472
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 3: we don't need them anymore, right, Oh my god. I

473
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:39,960
Speaker 3: wanted to die laughing, but I was like, yeah, guy

474
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:41,440
Speaker 3: David was the thing. I was like, yeah, baby, go

475
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:42,640
Speaker 3: get the thirty five dollars bad.

476
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,960
Speaker 1: Yeah. I was about say how much your wirecutters? Yeah,

477
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,359
Speaker 1: there's like thirty something dollars. He got something. No, he

478
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:49,200
Speaker 1: got like two three different conds. He got the skinny

479
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 1: ones he had.

480
00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:52,800
Speaker 2: He didn't know what's going so so he returned multiple

481
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:56,680
Speaker 2: but one of them was in your mouth unfairlized those

482
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 2: horn people.

483
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 3: Well, we went to go have dinner at this restaurant.

484
00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:02,400
Speaker 3: This isn't really tea, but I just wanted to say

485
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 3: we go sit.

486
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: We were almost we were just gonna go, like just

487
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 1: to like fusing the return the cutters. You're right restaurant.

488
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 3: So we're like, oh, let's just fuck it, let's go

489
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 3: or you know. He said to me, He's like, let's

490
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 3: go home. I ain't feeling and I was like, no,

491
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:18,359
Speaker 3: I'm not ruining my night. How do you get to

492
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:19,879
Speaker 3: see my I'm not ruining my night.

493
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 2: We get in there and even when we get in

494
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:25,439
Speaker 2: he's like kind of act like YO, want me there.

495
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 2: We sit right down next to four black people.

496
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:31,359
Speaker 3: It's two friends that are sitting with Sasha and Malie Obama,

497
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:36,200
Speaker 3: and I was like, wow, I needed to see this.

498
00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,159
Speaker 3: Bit's don't sitting there eating like this, you know what,

499
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 3: You're trying not to stare at somebody. I'm trying to

500
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:41,680
Speaker 3: look at me And I'm like, oh my god, these

501
00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 3: girls are so cute, so sweet. I can overhear some

502
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,919
Speaker 3: of their conversation. They are so innocent, so adorable. They

503
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 3: lived together, and we were saying, like, yo, do you

504
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 3: know how special it is to see siblings like this close,

505
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,960
Speaker 3: Like I don't know. It really was hitting me and

506
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,160
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, I think LA is a cool

507
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:01,200
Speaker 3: place to me because you kind of realize how normal

508
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 3: everybody is, Like you kind of get to see, you

509
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,639
Speaker 3: see celebrities walking down street New York too. You can

510
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 3: go to a club and interact with somebody that you

511
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 3: love and know. And I'm such a fucking fan of

512
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 3: seeing that these girls are moving up in film and

513
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 3: production and doing their ship swarm.

514
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody knows this. Childish Gambino directed it,

515
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 1: Sasha Obama produced it. It was one of the EP's

516
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 1: or something. But yeah, it was just a great day,

517
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 1: and it really like it was a great day, great

518
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 1: great day. There was a great moment to see these

519
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:30,960
Speaker 1: two black girls that to me, I grew up with.

520
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 2: I watched them grow up and I was just like

521
00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 2: wow and no, And all the way home, I was like,

522
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:36,680
Speaker 2: we gonna see Blue Ivy.

523
00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 1: Nidda, We're gonna be eating. We go see Blue Ivy.

524
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 1: Nixt and often be like, oh my god, you ain't

525
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 1: Blue Ivy going she about to be a star and

526
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 1: role Yeah, no, are you right? We're probably gonna see

527
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:51,120
Speaker 1: North first? Have you gone through disses since that? Look

528
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 1: the questions they need since? Oh yeah, yeah that's true.

529
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 1: I'm no, sorry I didn't. That's what I'm going to

530
00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: two forty five. Okay, well I literally told it. I

531
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 1: think I got to hear twenty. I have to go

532
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 1: to that doctor. So if I sound like I'm rushing

533
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 1: the last time at all, like you just you're fine,

534
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: it's gone. It's yeah. So once it's gone, it's gone.

535
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 1: I just need to put enough new wire down there.

536
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:18,040
Speaker 3: Bruh the parking lot because niggas say no, no, no, no, no, no.

537
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 2: You need you need to go, because that's what niggas

538
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 2: think about STDs. Once the symptoms is going, they think

539
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 2: it's going, and sometimes it ain't.

540
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: Girl, can I get there?

541
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 2: Ship?

542
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 1: I'm just saying my appointments are two forty five once

543
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: the year. But I will tell you though, I.

544
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 3: Think that when it comes to like survival mode type shit,

545
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 3: that was a good partner moment. How the fuck are

546
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 3: you gonna hold me? Down niggas anyway, no, no holds barred.

547
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 5: Uh.

548
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:51,919
Speaker 3: We have been trying to do this on solo episodes

549
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 3: where we're trying to like bring up an excerpt and

550
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 3: just dig into it. So this one is from my

551
00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:03,119
Speaker 3: chapter about sugaring. Uh oh no, sorry, this is an

552
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 3: old bit. One says, quote unquote, they all do the

553
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 3: same shit. Feed you a pipe dream before piping, tell

554
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 3: you how amazing you are, how beautiful you are, not

555
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 3: like the other gold diggers on the site. Oh yeah,

556
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 3: this is the spoiling chef and how they want to

557
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 3: spoil you. Like regular dating, this is all the boyfriendly

558
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 3: type game. In the boyfriendly type game, you will experience

559
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 3: the following consistent communication and maybe even good morning texts, chivalry,

560
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 3: compliments and charm, dates, plans made and promising. So when

561
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 3: I wrote this, I was thinking about all this shit

562
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 3: that niggas do to win you over, and I want

563
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:41,159
Speaker 3: to ask you, edin, are there anything that women do

564
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 3: that they fall off.

565
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:46,679
Speaker 1: From when dating that they fall off from? Because in the.

566
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:49,120
Speaker 3: Beginning of this thing, I'm saying, men are giving you compliments,

567
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 3: men are giving you consistent communication, They're making plans, they're

568
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 3: going on the dates, good morning text.

569
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:59,199
Speaker 1: What do women fall off from? You're saying that they

570
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:04,920
Speaker 1: stop doing the thing? I believe once once they fucked. Okay,

571
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 1: you know what I've experienced.

572
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 5: I hate saying this out loud. They start cooking a

573
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 5: little less. I've had that happen, Nigga, we got jobs.

574
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 5: I understand, Hey, our own understand. But you know what

575
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 5: it is, because i'd be a triggered because I did know.

576
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:25,920
Speaker 5: You know what it is is that this is what

577
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 5: I've experienced, right, It's two things that that's one. So

578
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 5: it's more of like the fact that it's like you

579
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 5: want to show off that you could cook and that

580
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 5: you could throw it down. So they just start cooking

581
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,440
Speaker 5: you like almost every and anything in their arsenal. And

582
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 5: then next thing, I know, you're cooking a little exactly,

583
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 5: the quality start going a little lower. But eggs, you

584
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 5: start cooking a little less. Now doubt you know. It

585
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 5: used to be pancakes, eggs, you know, bacon. Now it's

586
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 5: just maybe eggs, right, okay, maybe just coffee. Another thing, brod.

587
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 1: I started off good.

588
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,119
Speaker 2: I gave that nigga just eggs and a bagel. Now

589
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 2: I'm going to move up and give him some meat.

590
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:02,880
Speaker 2: Like I did it the opposite way.

591
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: I like conditioning.

592
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 3: Now now what then he does with Dick. He says

593
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 3: he stot you at c Gray Dick because he don't

594
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,680
Speaker 3: want you to attach. Indeed, he works his life, you

595
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:13,879
Speaker 3: know when he comes. This time, I'm doing like the

596
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:15,400
Speaker 3: shripping grits.

597
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 1: With I'm gonna it was just the very at lantern. Listen.

598
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: I was doing shripping grits like it's my thing. I

599
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 1: just have to buy vegan butter and vegan vecon and grits.

600
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 3: I'm coming to Atlanta for us to record, do the

601
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:33,479
Speaker 3: audiobook and lack effect. I just realized that you niggas

602
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 3: never lied about toast on Linux. Oh my god, what

603
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 3: you like it?

604
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: Holy shit? I ate there three days in a row.

605
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 1: Oh that's crazy.

606
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 3: It was one hundred dollars to Uber eat the fucking

607
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 3: Fried's not for I wanted with my hotel room was speaking.

608
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 3: Girl was cripy that that was my Uber because I

609
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:52,400
Speaker 3: was about to say that weight.

610
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 1: I went there twice. It wasn't wait, but maybe because

611
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: I didn't say when I went yeah, there are always

612
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 1: being waited, then I was. I was so addicted to

613
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 1: the first one. I was like now I want to

614
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: go to the other one. Bruh. You know it's crazy

615
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:05,720
Speaker 1: not shipping on a black business because the food is phenomenal.

616
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 1: Service when the food is good, I really don't think

617
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: it needs to matter.

618
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 2: Hole shit, no, no, no for patrons, hear me out again,

619
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 2: say this again. You don't think that service needs to

620
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: be good when the food is good.

621
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 1: That was food.

622
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 3: Look at you right now, y'all have been hearing me

623
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 3: talking about Lucy for almost eight years on this show.

624
00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 3: I have never experienced worst service in New York City

625
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 3: than Lucy n However, I will die on the sword

626
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 3: that that is one of the best pops outside of France.

627
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 2: Now go good food, plumes with good price. If I

628
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 2: a lot of times and now you could do a

629
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 2: hole in the wall that has really good food. To me,

630
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 2: if I'm going to a restaurant and the food is

631
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 2: so good that it's price, that is nigga, you crave.

632
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: That's why I love you.

633
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 2: And all of my friends told me, I can't say

634
00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 2: the name of the restaurant anymore, though, what oh you're

635
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 2: talking about?

636
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 1: The bitch bleeped that out. I don't bleep it out.

637
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 1: I don't think the ood is so good.

638
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 2: The service though, but baby, because like every time I

639
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: brought people, everything comes out on time.

640
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 1: It's not the ambiance is not there for it. But

641
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: the food is so fucking good. I love it.

642
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 2: They be bringing us out a little shop like it's

643
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 2: so great. Okay, so I just found a new My

644
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 2: whole girl's be cussing me out, like bitch. I tweeted

645
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 2: it one time because a fan wanted to know where

646
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 2: to eat. I got two calls, bitch, if you don't

647
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 2: delete that sweet, we already cake out the name about Cadence.

648
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 1: The vegan soulfood, but it's black on this one is

649
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 1: not black. But I love it. And ice time and

650
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 1: now you just want to give them tips. You want

651
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 1: to give them hints.

652
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 3: Oh no, let me tell you this almost give out surveys.

653
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Speaker 3: So for my birthday, my man takes me to this

654
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 3: French spot on the East Side. Right, I'm not gonna

655
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 3: say the name, but it's fairly like best friend in

656
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Speaker 3: New York.

657
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: Now we go.

658
00:30:57,520 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 3: It was two weeks later we get back from Mexico,

659
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 3: Like was he that shit again? We had a reservation

660
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 3: for nine We didn't get seated. Now I did see celebrities.

661
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 3: I think I saw Tessa Thompson and the someone else

662
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 3: from Game of Thrones, and I was like.

663
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: All right, ten twenty we got seated. Oh I would

664
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 1: have left.

665
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 3: No, we were enjoying, like they have a cool cocktail bar,

666
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 3: so we were having a good time.

667
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 2: But you made a reservation. Girl, hold on, suck my

668
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 2: dick from the back. I don't know if we knew

669
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 2: what was going to happen, but you know, when you

670
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 2: know they about akusho ass. I started huffing and puffing

671
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 2: right around forty minutes.

672
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 3: But when I saw all these celebrities walking, oh taper

673
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 3: for two, I was like, oh, so they're treating us

674
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 3: like shit.

675
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: You know we own the celebrities. Bitch. Oh no, no, bitch.

676
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 3: That hour and twenty minutes was so worth it. Matre

677
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 3: D comes over to him, Sir, we saw you here

678
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 3: two weeks ago. We want to apologize. We shouldn't have

679
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 3: opened that reservation up when we had stuff on the books.

680
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 3: We're going to make sure whenever you want a reservation,

681
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 3: you're here. I'd appreciate it if you can call me

682
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 3: twenty four hours before, but if you can't, no problem,

683
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 3: doesn't matter how many people you're in.

684
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: Bitch, we get downstairs. Would you like more mess coming?

685
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 4: Yeah?

686
00:31:57,720 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 2: Do?

687
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: It's all on the way out. Oh yeah, I do

688
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 1: desert another app. I actually do want a dozen s cargo,

689
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 1: not six. Oh, bitch.

690
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 2: Let a restaurant fuck up. And it's supposed to be

691
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 2: a high end restaurant. Oh you let us sit. Let

692
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 2: their shit sit.

693
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 1: Y'all been a hope. They take a little too long.

694
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 4: Bro.

695
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 2: When I tell you I chick came, he was like,

696
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 2: this should have been two hundred fifty dollars one like kissing.

697
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: I love your patience.

698
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 5: So do you not think your food takets it a

699
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 5: little better because of the service in this case that

700
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 5: is half of it was free.

701
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: Well it was so good.

702
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 3: I came back, but oh, I sounded to say, uh

703
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 3: toastallen if they weren't rude or anything, not saying that

704
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 3: like they were kind, It's just it wasn't great service.

705
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 1: But I also didn't give a fuck. Is that's so good? Good?

706
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 3: And I think when places are so busy or fatty

707
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 3: like TikTok and everybody talks about toast on nis, Yeah,

708
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 3: maybe that's why it's like heart and people are rude

709
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 3: as fuck coming in. You know, I don't know if

710
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 3: they're dealing with a lot, but bitch, I don't give

711
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 3: a shit. She could have called me a whore and

712
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 3: I would said, thank you, I'll take extra cream better

713
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 3: that crazy, of course. Okay, reaction sinary clip. Oh sorry,

714
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 3: I actually had hypothetical for you guys.

715
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 2: Hypothetic would you guys go on a date without being

716
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 2: able to see or without being able to talk?

717
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 1: Oh, without being able to talk, I'm fallow.

718
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 2: I want to sit across a good look at motherfucker, Like,

719
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 2: nothing's worse than talking to an ugly moment.

720
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 1: But you wouldn't know because you can't see. To me, no,

721
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: I can't talk. That means I could see, right, But if.

722
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 3: You couldn't, you said nothing's worse than going on to

723
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 3: dinner with the ugly motherfucker.

724
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 2: If I could talk, then I can see, which means

725
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 2: I'm talking to an ugly nigga.

726
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: No no, no, no no no no. Oh see we

727
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 1: both okay.

728
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,920
Speaker 3: Without being able to see them and just talking, or

729
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 3: being able to see them and know talking. Oh, I'm

730
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 3: still going for the sea because I feel like I

731
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 3: can get a vibe, like I've done that with in

732
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 3: places like they don't.

733
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: Seek the language I've seen. I've seen men. I just

734
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 1: looked at them and wanted to subject and then don't start.

735
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 1: And then they started talking, and I didn't want to second.

736
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: No more.

737
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:10,359
Speaker 2: There hasn't been many ugly men that talked their way

738
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 2: into But you don't know if they're ugly.

739
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: You're going on a date with a motherfucking lyricist.

740
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 2: I told you I don't watch Love is Blind because

741
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 2: love is very blind, not blind.

742
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: I don't know.

743
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 2: No, love is is the other one? I like looking

744
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 2: at someone beautiful. Love is hi, luster is not because

745
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 2: the second baby.

746
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 3: Like, I can't wait my grandma, Please tell one of

747
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 3: the producers to give them my grandma's old wedding ring.

748
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 3: They've been doing all that shit and then next day,

749
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 3: you know they know at the aisle because they don't

750
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 3: support black lives matter, like none.

751
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:44,839
Speaker 1: He said that, it's just I don't know which one

752
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 1: I mean to me. I still would like to be

753
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: on a date.

754
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 2: What an attractive ass motherfucker, because mind you, if you

755
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 2: find we could just eat our food, we.

756
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 1: Don't have to talk. But what if the date is

757
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 1: not just food, what if it's an activity? Then I'm

758
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 1: just shooting the gun or I'm just looking at the

759
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:02,800
Speaker 1: art on the wall. You know what I could do.

760
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:06,959
Speaker 3: I would go to a lounge jazz listening music because

761
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 3: I feel like that's the energy itself vibing with someone.

762
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 1: We can go to the movies.

763
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 2: You shouldn't be talking at the movie anyway, and then

764
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:13,720
Speaker 2: I can look over and look at your finance.

765
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:18,839
Speaker 1: That work. Yeah, all right, let's sello period. Let's see

766
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 1: what this clip is all right playing?

767
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 2: Now?

768
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:24,800
Speaker 6: Highly spiritual women are single because they understand the metaphysical

769
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 6: essence of the transportation of energy and alchemy. And the

770
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 6: primary reason why it's so hard for them to day

771
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:33,280
Speaker 6: and being relationships is because they harness energy that requires

772
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 6: a man to have supreme masculinity so much because only

773
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 6: a weak man will only demonize and subjugate for spiritual gifts. Now,

774
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,880
Speaker 6: when you study historical context in anchr history, the king

775
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 6: might have had ten twenty ten eight wives, but the

776
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 6: one that he loved the most for the witch, the healer,

777
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:51,479
Speaker 6: the one who had the spiritual gifts. And the reason

778
00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 6: that is because you highly.

779
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:55,879
Speaker 5: Spirit What's funny is that the voice over a AI,

780
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,440
Speaker 5: but the video is and it's just fucking hilarious.

781
00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 3: Oh the voice is so funny. Yeah, kindly, spiritual women

782
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 3: are single. Let me try to repeat what like.

783
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 6: And this isn't just spirit women are single because they

784
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 6: understand the metaphysical essence of the transportation of energy and

785
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 6: the primary reason why so hard for them today.

786
00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 1: During the date. So I'm gonna say this hotel ship.

787
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 1: But if you're a very intuitive person, it is hard

788
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:22,879
Speaker 1: for you to date.

789
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 2: I think someone and this might not be a synonym,

790
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 2: but I look at someone who may be highly spiritual.

791
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 2: That means in terms of how they view the universe themselves,

792
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:40,879
Speaker 2: maybe they're more in tune with themselves, which means oftentimes

793
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,240
Speaker 2: they're single because maybe they're just happy with themselves.

794
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 1: That's a good point.

795
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 2: We talk about that, like, I think that in terms

796
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:50,320
Speaker 2: of how a lot of people date, they date with

797
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 2: the means of looking for a band aid. They date

798
00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:56,600
Speaker 2: to find someone to bring them happiness or to make

799
00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 2: them whole. And we've had the conversations that unfortunately that's

800
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,360
Speaker 2: what we were taught right, like to become one right

801
00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 2: or like finding your soulmates, and nan are doing this too,

802
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 2: by the way, not wanting to be alone so to

803
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:15,479
Speaker 2: me someone who is happier with themselves. And we've talked

804
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 2: about this even in sense of like, once you're able

805
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 2: to fully fund your own lifestyle, once you're able to

806
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 2: find community, find friends, be happy with who you are

807
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 2: physically emotionally. If you find spiritually your niche, like if

808
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:33,800
Speaker 2: you're going to church or you're you're finding ways to

809
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 2: just meditate and be with self, and you're happy with self,

810
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 2: it is a lot harder to.

811
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,719
Speaker 1: Date because you're less net to put up with all

812
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:41,240
Speaker 1: the bullshit.

813
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 3: I don't think there's a world where being happy by

814
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 3: yourself doesn't look a little bit like it's spinster.

815
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,879
Speaker 1: Oh she can't meet anyone in there's always someone that's

816
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:56,320
Speaker 1: like thinking being single is bad.

817
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 3: But when you get to that point where you're single

818
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 3: because you know exactly what you want, that's to me

819
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:02,919
Speaker 3: when you're on this level.

820
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 2: I was just having the conversation with my homegirl and

821
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:07,799
Speaker 2: she was like, bruh, I've been single for so long

822
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 2: that I have anxiety about bringing someone into my home.

823
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 1: How long?

824
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 2: I say, she's been single for three years, and so

825
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:23,479
Speaker 2: does that mean sexless? Been sexless for about six months,

826
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 2: which is like, goddamn girl, I'll pray for you.

827
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 1: For real. It's tough out here.

828
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 2: But we were having the conversation because she's at the

829
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 2: age where she's like motherhood is now leaving the idea

830
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 2: because she would want to have kids with a man

831
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 2: she likes, and it's becoming so almost foreign to her

832
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,279
Speaker 2: that there's anxiety about like, damn, I wonder if because

833
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:48,800
Speaker 2: I've been so single with myself and have this routine

834
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,800
Speaker 2: in my home, if I'm going to be able to

835
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 2: open it to someone else. Like she's literally like, I

836
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 2: don't know if I want someone in my apartment to

837
00:38:58,680 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 2: ruin my days.

838
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:02,399
Speaker 1: Because we don't. I don't like anyone yet, which yes,

839
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 1: that's just like the real truth. I was like on

840
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: my soap bag.

841
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 3: And then when you like, nigga is so over and

842
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 3: I don't mean it's over for the bad reasons.

843
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 1: It's the same with men. My Nigga jokes a lot

844
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 1: about me, like.

845
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:18,439
Speaker 2: Bruh, when I tell you you came soon as fuck

846
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 2: like I thought I sing to be out here, and

847
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 2: like it's really it.

848
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 1: When you like the motherfucker, that's when this shit starts

849
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 1: to happen. So don't get.

850
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 3: Discouraged if you're listening and you're like, I don't know,

851
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 3: I got my routine with friends. I don't know I

852
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 3: got my routine with this because at the end of

853
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 3: the day, when you're excited about someone, you can't wait

854
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 3: to incorporate them in that Just like, for example, one

855
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:43,839
Speaker 3: of my friends uh Oh, Gila and neg my friend

856
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:48,359
Speaker 3: Gila's wedding. I went to their wedding in Mexico City.

857
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 3: I kept eating people in their dodgeball team dodgeball or kickball.

858
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 3: And I'm laughing because she flies, fuck he flies. She's

859
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 3: in fashion and beauty and I'm like, y'all, dog buck.

860
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 1: But he did it before her. He loved doing this

861
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 1: thing with his friends.

862
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 3: He works in community and parks like for a living,

863
00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 3: and now she loves it, Like you can't wait to

864
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 3: like bring your people in, and it's silly to maybe

865
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 3: bring up her doesn't sound the exact same, but I

866
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,320
Speaker 3: found it interesting that something that someone does alone for

867
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:17,879
Speaker 3: so long that's their thing.

868
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 2: Once they're so into you and they love you, now

869
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 2: it's like, no, no, no, I want to share this

870
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 2: with you. I think you can probably attribute that you're

871
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,760
Speaker 2: gonna se a good movie and you like, you gotta

872
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:30,319
Speaker 2: watch this ship. It could be a friend, somebody you love.

873
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 2: You need them to experience the same thing. So when

874
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 2: it comes to your home, yeah, you can watch fel

875
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 2: bad what you said? I told my boyfriend, please go

876
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 2: and enjoy I call it jousting. He hates it, but

877
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 2: it's the wrestling, the a W, the WWE, what's aw

878
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:51,280
Speaker 2: aw like wrestling Federation?

879
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 1: And I told him I want you to enjoy as

880
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,359
Speaker 1: much of it as you can. With that. Well, didn't

881
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: you just you said what?

882
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 2: You just go there now with me charenting it sports, Yeah,

883
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 2: I'm not surprised. She it's a little different. It's a

884
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:06,720
Speaker 2: little different.

885
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 1: It's okay.

886
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 2: So here's what And for the men listening, it was

887
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 2: explained to me the a W short, a w W,

888
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 2: W E, wrestling, whatever, all the things is like a

889
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 2: male telenovella.

890
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 1: Yes, did you watch that shirt on Netflix? Edit a

891
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: year round? There's storylines, there's people baked into it.

892
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 2: The audience there was, oh my god, the audience looked

893
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:32,920
Speaker 2: like they were either half versions or half serial killers

894
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 2: bodies in the fridge.

895
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 1: Ports know, that's truly crazy. I said, baby, just the

896
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 1: crowd you be like, I don't know, you don't really

897
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: watched wrestlers. I'm sure. All I know is I told him,

898
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:48,840
Speaker 1: please enjoy that by yourself, Babe. I don't want to

899
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 1: ruin it for you. So like, yeah, people don't care.

900
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 1: They don't. And I was like, I was watching it.

901
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:03,720
Speaker 1: It is the man in the in the type. Okay,

902
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 1: maybe if we go see Roman Rains fight bitch is

903
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 1: because he's a.

904
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 2: Jason, So maybe I'll go in Raymond Rains, Roman rings

905
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 2: or his brother's cousins. It's like a hall love skins

906
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 2: and that's one that I'll take some with but shout

907
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 2: out to swerve, like when look at the locks the

908
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,320
Speaker 2: laskin black dude, No, no, no, no, no, this is

909
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 2: Roman Rains bitch.

910
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:32,279
Speaker 1: Oh wrong guy, But I'll suck.

911
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 2: He got a light like you can go enjoy it

912
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 2: because they all take wrestlers, they all beautifer back.

913
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 1: Have you actually watched a netflixhip of WW you should?

914
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:46,080
Speaker 1: I A'm gonna laugh.

915
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,399
Speaker 2: The last thing that got that before Karadise, the last

916
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 2: thing that I really had the TV like what I

917
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 2: went to it and I have no no, no, it's

918
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 2: like the dirty deep dark ship they do I have.

919
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 1: I have just said this could be your thing. Sexual

920
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 1: assault whoa, No, the documentary.

921
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 2: It was the documentary document like, oh, that's what I mean,

922
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 2: not because it's good sexual assaultid bro, you've seen that

923
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 2: Nigga tweets, but you like I would have gotten to

924
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 2: nig I'll say, yes, when you find a person and

925
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 2: they have their thing, you absolutely can join them, but

926
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 2: also feel free to also let them keep their ship

927
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 2: if it ain't for you.

928
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:43,880
Speaker 3: Well, let's talk about the history of the d The

929
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:46,919
Speaker 3: people that don't enjoy the same things as.

930
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 2: Their partner and they never will, they don't give off

931
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:53,919
Speaker 2: history of divorce, Okay, right now, Okay, So I thought

932
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 2: we were going to do the history of the dick. Oh,

933
00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 2: the history of the d The earliest known divorce laws

934
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 2: were written on clay tablets in Mesopotamia, and you just.

935
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 1: Like bringing up clay.

936
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 2: This is the second time you done brought up the

937
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 2: goddamn plods. Yes, the girl had to suck at clay

938
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:11,840
Speaker 2: dick for the mummy or something. Mesopotamia keeps coming up

939
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:12,399
Speaker 2: in our history.

940
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 1: Secment, Come on, Mesopotamia.

941
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:17,319
Speaker 3: Okay, women were actually granted the right to separate from

942
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 3: the husbands.

943
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 1: I don't believe this back then, Okay.

944
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:24,040
Speaker 3: And then there was a code where they had provisions

945
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 3: for divorce, so there were a lot of religious influence

946
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 3: on why you could or couldn't. In Europe, Christian churches

947
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:33,879
Speaker 3: controlled divorced from the eleventh century, with the Catholic Church

948
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 3: banning it entirely and Protestant churches allowing it restricted. Muslims

949
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 3: in Africa, the Middle East and Asia began using Quran rules,

950
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:46,400
Speaker 3: with the husbands generally able to divorce without cause or anything,

951
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 3: while the wife needs the agreement. So that's why the

952
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 3: thing in Mesopotamia was women being able to leave was

953
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 3: a big deal. What's interesting is today the place where

954
00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 3: you cannot get divorced.

955
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:01,840
Speaker 1: It's a country. Does anyone know in there? Before guitar

956
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 1: keep guess cutter, Actually is how I said. Singapore, Philippines

957
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 1: it's illegal, Oh, Philippines.

958
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 3: To get divorced. And Chile in twenty two thousand and four.

959
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 3: I wanted to be ready. Uh, they were one of

960
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 3: the last countries to legalize divorce. So now yeah, it's

961
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 3: still not I don't know if.

962
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: You if you.

963
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 2: Heard so, I want to say it was in Europe.

964
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 2: Y'all can in fact check me while I talk. But

965
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 2: there women were not able to file for divorce, especially

966
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 2: Christian Church. However, there became a rule that if they

967
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 2: could show that their spouse wasn't able to get their

968
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 2: dick hard, that they could actually file.

969
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:48,399
Speaker 1: Like okay, you cannot goods, I mean.

970
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 2: You couldn't maybe like a blamement on that kids, if this.

971
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:52,879
Speaker 1: Dick don't get hard all the time?

972
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 5: Did you did you find it a frenchwoman's to obtain

973
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 5: the divorce because of her husband's lack of sexual function

974
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 5: was the European Court of Human Rights?

975
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 1: That's fire, So I mean.

976
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:08,360
Speaker 2: Crazy is in order to prove it too, which this

977
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 2: is so dumb, they had to see like he had

978
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:12,480
Speaker 2: to try to get hard in front of.

979
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: I swear.

980
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:18,439
Speaker 2: You can't get it up in the how you gonna

981
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:19,839
Speaker 2: get it up in front of everyone? But I thought

982
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 2: she was able to get a divorce.

983
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 3: Speaking of divorce, you know what's crazy about reading the

984
00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:26,680
Speaker 3: Philippines thing? How many times on ninety Fiance they want

985
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 3: that fucking green card. Literally this last season they're showing

986
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:33,880
Speaker 3: you the opposite. A white dude who's homeless goes to Philippines.

987
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, well, since he's dating a trans woman,

988
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 3: he can't marry her because she's.

989
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 2: A man really, So he's like, I'll marry your mom.

990
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:44,800
Speaker 2: And I didn't understand when some of the business charact it.

991
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 1: Now this is real. She was still to show this,

992
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: Oh faith. He was the one that got gone Ria.

993
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:54,800
Speaker 1: You seen the clip. No, I'm sorry, I am my

994
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: algorithm is not ninety day fiance.

995
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,360
Speaker 2: So wait, what happened? He went to the Philippines to

996
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 2: marry a lady boy, but they couldn't get married because

997
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 2: they're same sex, and so he said.

998
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:04,359
Speaker 1: Let me marry your mama.

999
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, homeless and ain't got nothing to offer,

1000
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 2: got no money, hanged love has no price to it.

1001
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: Man, shut the fuck.

1002
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 2: Let me tell you. Wait, he said, let me marry

1003
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 2: your mama for what so he can have When he

1004
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 2: when he told her about the Gonerria, her face was so.

1005
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 2: She was like, wait, he had gone reea from you

1006
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:25,319
Speaker 2: have a the aid? Wait he had gotten Ria from

1007
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 2: lu though from a girl that he let suck his

1008
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 2: another transgirl. Wait, he he had gone Ria while he

1009
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 2: was with her, or before he found out. He had

1010
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:35,360
Speaker 2: gone Ria while he flew out there. Wow, So he's like,

1011
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 2: don't worry about it.

1012
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get the medicine and player down. No, I'm monogamous.

1013
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:41,879
Speaker 2: He fucking just lady boys everywhere, homeless and now trying

1014
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 2: to marry one's mama.

1015
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 1: He was he said, she's not right.

1016
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 3: The craziest mart the Filipino girls like how who did

1017
00:47:49,160 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 3: you get it from? You told her and she's like,

1018
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 3: I didn't know what, How did this happen you? I

1019
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:54,840
Speaker 3: didn't even have sex with her? He's like, well, I

1020
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 3: said I was gonna sleep over.

1021
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 1: She thought it was because he got no home. Girl

1022
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,120
Speaker 1: thought he needed a place. So now he's moving to

1023
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 1: a country where he can not have a divorce. Well, yeah,

1024
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 1: so that was the big thing.

1025
00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:11,399
Speaker 3: I don't think they're still together, but yeah, when people

1026
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 3: were saying that in the comments, I didn't understand it

1027
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 3: till this outline. Yeah, because they were like, oh, it's

1028
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 3: so he can never leave because he wanted a cheap

1029
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:17,239
Speaker 3: place to live.

1030
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 2: I'm curious to know if, with all of the changes

1031
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:24,319
Speaker 2: that just have happened with technology, with how we date,

1032
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 2: with how we consume information, if there will be any

1033
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:34,320
Speaker 2: changes done to divorce, Because for the friends and people

1034
00:48:34,360 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 2: that I know currently going through divorces, I was shocked

1035
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 2: to know that the courts. You can file and then

1036
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 2: be separated, but you have to be separated for a

1037
00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:45,240
Speaker 2: certain amount of time before they finalize the divorce.

1038
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 1: There's so many laws.

1039
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 2: Why are you making me say what a nigga I'm

1040
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 2: saying I don't want to be with because they're like, well,

1041
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 2: maybe y'all can work through this, and I'm like, wait,

1042
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:56,760
Speaker 2: I have to be separated from this person before you sure.

1043
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 1: That you want to get divorced. That is crazy to me.

1044
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 1: But there's another thing.

1045
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 3: In Japan, women have to wait and this is kind

1046
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:06,359
Speaker 3: of the opposite six months until they can get married

1047
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 3: to someone. Oh really, So if you want to know

1048
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 3: Marrily Kardashian, no better, you gotta fucking know unless the

1049
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:15,320
Speaker 3: woman's pregnant.

1050
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 2: And then in Japan, since they have that role in

1051
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 2: the beginning. Most divorces are straightforward, one page form. It

1052
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:23,440
Speaker 2: doesn't even require going to core.

1053
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:24,480
Speaker 1: You can do the shit online.

1054
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,800
Speaker 2: Oh we get I might get get married in Japan

1055
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:31,879
Speaker 2: if I'm finna get married, one page document, no court,

1056
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 2: We just divorced and is done, okay. Common reasons for divorce.

1057
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 2: I mean, tell me, I'm gonna give you the the four.

1058
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 3: Tell me what you think is number one, two, three, four, okay, okay,

1059
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 3: drugs and alcohol abuse, infidelity, mental abuse or physical abuse,

1060
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:52,160
Speaker 3: and incompatibility.

1061
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:56,400
Speaker 2: Well, I know most people, when they don't want us

1062
00:49:56,440 --> 00:50:00,319
Speaker 2: to be in their motherfucking business, say that they rooted

1063
00:50:00,440 --> 00:50:04,240
Speaker 2: for irreconcilable differences. So I'm going to say that one's first,

1064
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 2: then in fidelity, then the vices, then the abuse and shit, because.

1065
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:14,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, incompatibility is the first number one, and then it's infidelity, yeah,

1066
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 3: and then yeah other the other two are Unfortunately people

1067
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 3: stay and put up with those things.

1068
00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, for quite some time before that becomes a reason,

1069
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 2: Like it has to get really bad for people to

1070
00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 2: leave for those reasons.

1071
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 1: But I think most most of the forces that we see.

1072
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 2: Publicly or irreconcilable differences, which is I think incompatibility.

1073
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:37,760
Speaker 3: The lowest rate for the divorce in the world is India.

1074
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:40,800
Speaker 3: Out of a thousand marriages, only thirteen.

1075
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:43,359
Speaker 1: But most of them are Muslim, which means they can

1076
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 1: have multiple Right now, they're Hindu, isn't that their religion?

1077
00:50:48,880 --> 00:50:52,080
Speaker 1: Am I dumb? Maybe I don't know religion like that?

1078
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:53,480
Speaker 1: What's the religion in India?

1079
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:59,640
Speaker 2: But can't Hindus can Hindu's Hinduism followed right. Islam can

1080
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 2: they have can they have multi? Can Hindus have more?

1081
00:51:01,960 --> 00:51:04,760
Speaker 2: Eighty percent of Hindu is No, it's muscle.

1082
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:13,760
Speaker 1: Is Hindu? Can Hindu get? Can Hindu get? Hindu get multiple? Wise?

1083
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 1: Listen the way, by the way, just the way we

1084
00:51:18,239 --> 00:51:18,879
Speaker 1: be asking questions.

1085
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 2: Just watch hat GBT know exactly what the hell we'll

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Speaker 2: be talking about and be offering out even more.

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Speaker 1: Well, I have to go get my home depot rates

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00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 1: dis sorted. I hope you guys.

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Speaker 2: By the way, Hindus, Oh, Hindu law generally prohibits polygamy.

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00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:36,319
Speaker 1: They just they're just staying and get it. They having

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00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:40,640
Speaker 1: fun in the sun. That's crazy. Not fun in the sun.

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00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:43,200
Speaker 1: But that's wild.

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00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 2: What it's a sunny and sunny I don't know how

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00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:49,719
Speaker 2: sunny in Philadelphia and Mumbai it is.

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00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 1: It is like on the equator. I think, so it's

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00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 1: really hot. I think it's close to the equation. I

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00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:56,320
Speaker 1: don't know there's a problem about it.

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Speaker 3: White girls that do restaurants reviews, we just I don't

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Speaker 3: like that.

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Speaker 2: The girl from Top Chef tried to get them on

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00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,880
Speaker 2: how they know, No, she got it.

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Speaker 3: They said Tiki massala and they said Brianni whatever this is.

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00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 3: Tiki Masala is crazy and two white women judging ethnic cuisine.

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Speaker 1: To that degree. Okay, do you want to not fue bro?

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00:52:18,640 --> 00:52:20,759
Speaker 1: You want to know how bad that who white went

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00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 1: to Jamaicans the Ox and that's how they do tikas tika.

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Speaker 2: And you know what I just found out, buttered chicken

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00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:35,239
Speaker 2: get Indian food only on the East coast. Bitch, I

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00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:37,759
Speaker 2: didn't know buttered chicken really wasn't It's like East Coast

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Speaker 2: Indian food.

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00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:41,360
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, no, no, this is different.

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Speaker 3: No when I'm talking about South Asian Southeast Asian, like

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Speaker 3: you know, you're trying.

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00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 1: To say Indian cuisine right right right.

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00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:51,720
Speaker 2: Buttered chicken, chicken, egg, buttered chicken.

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Speaker 1: We tried three in La.

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Speaker 2: I know now I think about Tiki said, where the

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00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 2: fuck is the buttered chicken? Well, let me stop talking

1119
00:52:58,200 --> 00:52:59,319
Speaker 2: shit because the family wite girls.

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Speaker 1: And if I'm going to wait, wait wait, wait, where

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Speaker 1: are you gonna say about better chicken? Where that at?

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Speaker 2: Because I tried three different Indian it's just that Indian

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00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:06,920
Speaker 2: they have butter chicken. I said, they don't have butter

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00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 2: chicken in Lad.

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Speaker 1: I came back home and I said, nigga they got Bama,

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00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:15,399
Speaker 1: get one free, bought a chicken it love it, don't.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, I don't know where the Indian

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00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 2: restaurant is from, but like, for example, Dashome, which is

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Speaker 2: really popular in London.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what India was called before it was India.

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00:53:26,920 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 1: Oh there was another name for it. It got Bombay,

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00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:31,919
Speaker 1: it got the rebreak Bombay. Their cuisine is a little

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00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:33,719
Speaker 1: bit different, so like there's different shiit too.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I was gonna say that there's like different types

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Speaker 5: of Asian cuisine.

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Speaker 2: I know Asian cuisines when I'm talking about Indian goddamn. Okay, y'all,

1137
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 2: do not mind our geography lesson at the end of

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Speaker 2: this episode.

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00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 1: Let them talking about sex. This is not a food show.

1140
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 1: This is not a history chick. But you gotta go see.

1141
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lock me.

1142
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:56,760
Speaker 3: Roast these girls on a Michelin starred restaurant named Semma

1143
00:53:57,040 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 3: Bitch today for you crackers.

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00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 1: She really you know why you don't like it because

1145
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 1: it's not for you. I'm like, yeah, I like that ship.

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00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:04,759
Speaker 1: I didn't like that ship.

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