Speaker 1: I think IVF is a great thing, Thank goodness for science.
Speaker 1: I just feel that it's not right for me right now.
Speaker 1: I just don't know if I want to put my
Speaker 1: body through that. And people might think, Okay, is it
Speaker 1: because you don't want to ruin your body. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. That's part of it. But then again, I
Speaker 1: could just have a surrogate. You know. It's more of
Speaker 1: the responsibility of having a child. If God wants to
Speaker 1: put a child in my womb and I'm forty five,
Speaker 1: that is his will, and I will raise it a
Speaker 1: wonderful child. I know I'll be a wonderful mother. What up, guys,
Speaker 1: Welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill. I'm your
Speaker 1: host Cheeky's and I am so happy to be here.
Speaker 1: And I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday
Speaker 1: with your friends and family. I had the best time
Speaker 1: with my family and I ate some really delicious food. AnyWho,
Speaker 1: Today's episode is going to be a very personal one.
Speaker 1: About a year ago, I recorded an episode on my
Speaker 1: experience with IVF. I decided not to go through with it.
Speaker 1: I gave myself until October of this year to figure
Speaker 1: out if IVF is right for me, and so that's
Speaker 1: what I'm going to talk about today. I hope you
Speaker 1: all listen to this episode with open ears and open hearts,
Speaker 1: because I'm going to get very vulnerable with you guys.
Speaker 1: This is Cheeky's and chill. Okay, let me take a
Speaker 1: deep breath. So, motherhood, I think it's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 1: I think it's a blessing. I think children are a blessing.
Speaker 1: And I have been with Emilio for two and a
Speaker 1: half years. He's younger than I am, he has no children,
Speaker 1: and before I met him, I was pretty sure that
Speaker 1: I was okay with not having any kids. And I've
Speaker 1: told you guys a story before on the pod that
Speaker 1: the day I met him, I had removed my IUD.
Speaker 1: That's how I was, you know, taking care of myself.
Speaker 1: That was my form of birth control, the one that
Speaker 1: has no hormones, the copper one, right, So that's what
Speaker 1: I was using, and the day I met him, or
Speaker 1: the day that we started talking, I had removed it.
Speaker 1: And well, we've been doing our thing and I haven't
Speaker 1: gotten pregnant, and I really feel that that is God's
Speaker 1: plan if it hasn't happened. Naturally, it's because God wants
Speaker 1: to wait, or he has a different plan for me.
Speaker 1: I don't know. The only reason I even thought about
Speaker 1: having children you guys are going through with IVF was
Speaker 1: because Emilia's younger, and I don't want to take that
Speaker 1: from him either. And it's a very heavy topic for
Speaker 1: me because I've had a lot of issues with my ovaries.
Speaker 1: I've had cysts, i have endometriosis. Now this whole situation
Speaker 1: with you know, polyps in the lightning of my uterus,
Speaker 1: and there are times that I feel like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: my body is giving up on me. And it's not
Speaker 1: a sexy conversation. It's not a conversation that a lot
Speaker 1: of women want to talk about. But I feel that
Speaker 1: God has given me this position, and thank goodness a
Speaker 1: podcast and listeners like you guys where I can share
Speaker 1: these things because I know I'm not the only one
Speaker 1: out there. And yes, I know, and I'm aware that
Speaker 1: talking about these things kind of age me. But then again,
Speaker 1: there are women in their twenties that also have these,
Speaker 1: you know, endometriosis or things going on with their bodies,
Speaker 1: and I think it's important to talk about it because
Speaker 1: it is something that is very personal and I feel
Speaker 1: like being vulnerable there's a lot of power in that.
Speaker 1: So I just want to tell you guys my story. Okay,
Speaker 1: So anyways, now we're here. Now, October came around. I
Speaker 1: kept my word. I said, Okay, I'm gonna see if
Speaker 1: it happens naturally, because when I first started IVF last
Speaker 1: October of twenty twenty two, I wasn't ready mentally, physically.
Speaker 1: And I explained it to you guys in that episode.
Speaker 1: So if you haven't heard it, if you haven't listened
Speaker 1: to that episode, go back to that one where I
Speaker 1: talk about my experience and why I decided to hold off.
Speaker 1: And I told myself, Okay, I'm gonna give myself into
Speaker 1: October of twenty twenty three and see if I get
Speaker 1: pregnant naturally, and that's going to be God's will. And
Speaker 1: so I went to the doctor and they told me
Speaker 1: that I had another CIS, but not to worry about it.
Speaker 1: So I was like, okay, it's not bothering me. You know,
Speaker 1: we're going to leave it alone. And then she said,
Speaker 1: but the reason why you're spotting is because you have
Speaker 1: poly ups. I'm like, what the hell are those? I'm like,
Speaker 1: now what, and she said, well, you know, it's pretty
Speaker 1: normal and women that have endometriosis and they're like these
Speaker 1: little kind of like blood cloths like just I guess
Speaker 1: it's weird, but like little Bolita's like little balls of
Speaker 1: I guess tissue, you know, filled with blood. And that's
Speaker 1: why I was spotting and I was cramping and I
Speaker 1: rarely cramped, so I was like, oh my goodness. So AnyWho,
Speaker 1: she says, we have to remove those because if you
Speaker 1: want to start IVF, you're only going to feed this
Speaker 1: stuff with other hormones that they're going to give you.
Speaker 1: So I don't recommend it. This is what my obg
Speaker 1: y N said. So she told me, you know, I
Speaker 1: think you should wait and then maybe once you remove them.
Speaker 1: I find that a lot of women get pregnant naturally.
Speaker 1: So That's where I'm at right now, which brings me
Speaker 1: back to the IVF. Guys. I've been thinking about it,
Speaker 1: and I just don't know if I want to put
Speaker 1: my body through that. I respect everyone's decision. I think
Speaker 1: IVF is a great thing. I think that Thank goodness
Speaker 1: for science and you know that we're able to do this.
Speaker 1: You know, I just feel that it's not right for
Speaker 1: me right now. I don't want to force it. I
Speaker 1: feel that for me personally, I feel like i'd be
Speaker 1: forcing it. I feel like, Okay, if I haven't gotten
Speaker 1: pregnant naturally in these two and a half years, then
Speaker 1: that's God's will and that's how I really feel. And
Speaker 1: if it happens, then it'll be a blessing. But the
Speaker 1: more time that passes by and the older that I get,
Speaker 1: I'm really enjoying my life. And that might sound selfish
Speaker 1: to some people, but let me remind you, guys. I
Speaker 1: am the eldest of five and I have, you know,
Speaker 1: raised my siblings. I'm still in a way them because
Speaker 1: I'm the oldest sister. And even though they are grown
Speaker 1: up and they live in their own homes and you
Speaker 1: have their own children, oh Janica doesn't, but they come
Speaker 1: to me. I'm still that mother figure to them in
Speaker 1: some way, you know. And I love it. I absolutely
Speaker 1: love it, especially with Johnny. Johnny still lives with me,
Speaker 1: and you know, I still worry about him. I still
Speaker 1: I'm still guiding him. And I had him. See look
Speaker 1: at this, I had him on my mom said here
Speaker 1: at six months, take care of this kid. I gotta
Speaker 1: go work, and I have and it's been a blessing
Speaker 1: and I love it and I don't regret a minute
Speaker 1: of it. I learned so much about myself, about life,
Speaker 1: about having children with him, because he was given to
Speaker 1: me so young, so I went through all of it everything.
Speaker 1: I really feel like I know what it is to
Speaker 1: have a child and once they grow up, how much
Speaker 1: it hurts, and how you still worry about your children
Speaker 1: no matter what. So I feel for so many years
Speaker 1: I focused on my siblings and raising them, and now
Speaker 1: they're grown and they're doing their thing, and I'm so proud,
Speaker 1: and I feel like right now is my time to travel,
Speaker 1: to do as I please. And that's why I just
Speaker 1: want to hold off on having kids. I have thought
Speaker 1: about it. I'm like, Okay, what if I have no children, Well,
Speaker 1: I regret it, and there is that possibility. There is
Speaker 1: the possibility of me regretting it ten years from now.
Speaker 1: But I don't want to think that way. I want
Speaker 1: to think about what is best for me now. And
Speaker 1: here's the thing. I'm not saying I don't want kids
Speaker 1: at all. I'm just saying I don't want to actively try.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go through IVF, because if I'm
Speaker 1: getting a period, guys, and I'm pretty regular, I feel like, Okay,
Speaker 1: there's eggs in there, so why isn't happening. I should
Speaker 1: start worrying or really like obviously or say that I
Speaker 1: can't do anything about it if I no longer have
Speaker 1: a period. But I have a period. I get a
Speaker 1: period every month. I'm very regular, so I feel like
Speaker 1: if it's not sticking, it's for a reason. That's what
Speaker 1: my body's telling me, that's what my faith tells me.
Speaker 1: And I feel like even if I'm forty two and
Speaker 1: I still have a period and God says here's the baby,
Speaker 1: then I'll be happy. I'll be like, Okay, God, this
Speaker 1: is your will, Let's go for it, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So I think I'm at that point right
Speaker 1: now where I'm like, I don't know if IVF is
Speaker 1: right for me. And obviously with IVF, the longer you wait,
Speaker 1: the less eggs you can you know they can remove.
Speaker 1: So I understand that. And yes, some people might say, okay, well,
Speaker 1: cheeky's why don't you just do the IVF have the
Speaker 1: eggs just in case? But then I'd feel like, there
Speaker 1: they are they're just frozen, and what am I gonna do.
Speaker 1: What if I decide not to have kids, then what
Speaker 1: I just throw them away? You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I'd rather just go through it naturally,
Speaker 1: and I have faith that if that is what's meant
Speaker 1: for me, it's going to happen. And people might think,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, because they've asked me, okay, is it
Speaker 1: because you know you don't want to ruin your body.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. That's part of it. I mean.
Speaker 1: But then again, I could just have a surrogate. You know.
Speaker 1: It's more of the responsibility of having a child. It's
Speaker 1: a lifetime thing, you guys. It's not something to play with.
Speaker 1: And I know I'd be a good mother, I know it.
Speaker 1: I just don't know in my heart if I want
Speaker 1: to stop my life. I feel like I'm finally living
Speaker 1: it for myself and doing as I place it. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just don't know. So I think,
Speaker 1: if I'm already feeling like this, why would I go
Speaker 1: through IVF And kind of in a way, I guess
Speaker 1: I don't know if the correct word is force it
Speaker 1: and go through the process and then knowing that I
Speaker 1: feel this way, I feel like, is that fair to
Speaker 1: the child? Is that fair to myself? Is that fair
Speaker 1: to their future versus me just leaving it in God's hands,
Speaker 1: doing my thing with my man, and if it happens,
Speaker 1: then it happens, then I'll be like, well, this is
Speaker 1: God's will and I'll feel better about it. I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I've done my part. I got off birth control, been
Speaker 1: having unprotected sets with my man. Hasn't happened. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: just not the right time. I'm a woman of faith,
Speaker 1: So even if it happens when I'm forty five, I'm
Speaker 1: forty five and it happens, and whoa, that's what God wants.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of where I'm at before. If you
Speaker 1: would have asked me this, I don't know, maybe ten years,
Speaker 1: five years ago. Is it because you don't want to
Speaker 1: ruin your body or you don't want to gain more weight?
Speaker 1: I'd be like, yes, that scares the hell out of me,
Speaker 1: you know. But now that I've kind of taken control
Speaker 1: of that part of my life and I know what
Speaker 1: I need to do in order for that not to happen,
Speaker 1: or keep working out as I'm pregnant. I'm not as
Speaker 1: scared of that anymore. It's more of the world we
Speaker 1: live in, all of the realities that surround us on
Speaker 1: a daily basis. My reality, my personal reality, what I
Speaker 1: lived taking care of my siblings, and it's been a
Speaker 1: beautiful thing, but also experiencing all that and I don't
Speaker 1: want to take it away from immedia either. So we've
Speaker 1: had these conversations and that's kind of what we're working through.
Speaker 1: One of the conversations that or should I say topics
Speaker 1: in you know, premarital counseling is the topic of children,
Speaker 1: like we have to be on the same page, and
Speaker 1: we've talked about it, and I'm like, what if I can't,
Speaker 1: What if I don't want to? What if he says, well,
Speaker 1: I'm fine with that, I'll be fine with you. Just
Speaker 1: give me a lot of love. And I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's perfect, that's great. But then again, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I think about it all the time. Guys. I'm like,
Speaker 1: he's seven years younger than I am. What if he
Speaker 1: regrets it later? What if he wants something different? And
Speaker 1: I've thought about that and it's kept me up at night.
Speaker 1: But I'm like you know what. I can't think about that.
Speaker 1: I can't think that way. I have to think about
Speaker 1: it right now, enjoy our relationship now, and once that happens,
Speaker 1: and if it happens, or maybe it never will happen,
Speaker 1: maybe he will be one hundred percent a thousand percent,
Speaker 1: you know, satisfied with me and not having to have kids.
Speaker 1: That could be our reality, you know. But if it
Speaker 1: does and he's like, you know, I want a kid,
Speaker 1: and now I just really can't. You know, let's say
Speaker 1: five years from her, I don't know. Then we'll cross
Speaker 1: that bridge when we get there, you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to have to put myself through that
Speaker 1: stress or my body through that stress thinking about that
Speaker 1: right now. I just want to enjoy the moment. And
Speaker 1: that's where I'm at. And I wanted to be really
Speaker 1: honest with you guys, because it is something that I'm
Speaker 1: asked about all the time. Like, I know a lot
Speaker 1: of people would want me to have a kid, and
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I wouldn't be happy if it happened,
Speaker 1: but I'm also okay not having kids. And on the
Speaker 1: other side of the token, I have thought about my career.
Speaker 1: It's going well or moving forward. Things are happening, thank goodness.
Speaker 1: You know, it's been ten long years uphill battle, and
Speaker 1: I feel like we're finally somewhere where it's a little
Speaker 1: bit more stable, and I don't want to lose a momentum.
Speaker 1: And I've thought, Okay, would I have to stop for
Speaker 1: nine months while I'm pregnant and then sometime after that
Speaker 1: because i have to tend to the baby. But then again,
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, But that doesn't even stop
Speaker 1: me anymore. I'm like, Okay, I've seen Cardi b I've
Speaker 1: seen Jennifer Lopez. I've seen so many different women do
Speaker 1: their thing while they're pregnant, and it's all good, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like I'll have my baby with me,
Speaker 1: I'll have a nanny, Like I feel like I can
Speaker 1: figure it out. It's really more of the long term.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm still even as I'm speaking to
Speaker 1: you guys, I'm still a little conflicted because I'm like,
Speaker 1: there are days where I'm like, yes, I want kids
Speaker 1: so bad. I'm like, oh my god, because I love children,
Speaker 1: you know, like kids gravitate towards me. I love kids.
Speaker 1: And Johnny, my brother, was actually saying that. He's like,
Speaker 1: I think it's because you tell yourself so much that
Speaker 1: you don't want them, or you're not sure that your
Speaker 1: body's kind of like you have a very powerful mind.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, yeah, I really do believe in
Speaker 1: the law of attraction. So maybe if I were to
Speaker 1: tell myself, yes, I want a kid, I want a kid.
Speaker 1: I want a kid, it right now, God will give
Speaker 1: it to me. But since I'm like, oh, in the
Speaker 1: gray area, I'm like, I don't know. Yes, no, maybe,
Speaker 1: so it hasn't happened. But I have so much faith
Speaker 1: you guys, and I'm like, I know if that is
Speaker 1: what's going to happen for me, it's going to happen naturally.
Speaker 1: I really truly, really truly believe that. But right now
Speaker 1: I'm just not sure. But I am very sure that
Speaker 1: IVF for the time being is not for me, because
Speaker 1: if I was meant to do it in October the
Speaker 1: way I had told myself, then I wouldn't have had
Speaker 1: the ciss. These polyps I get put another halt on
Speaker 1: the IVF process, this whole situation that I'm dealing with
Speaker 1: right now, which, thank goodness, the polyps are out. I
Speaker 1: don't know what's going on with the damn cys. It's
Speaker 1: just there. They love me. But I can't start IVF
Speaker 1: because even if I wanted to, I would have to
Speaker 1: get this it's removed. It's like this whole thing. So
Speaker 1: I'm just like, you know what, it's not for me.
Speaker 1: I'm good with not doing it. The only reason I'm
Speaker 1: talking to you guys about this is because I want to,
Speaker 1: you know, hold myself accountable. And I told you guys,
Speaker 1: you guys have been with me, my listeners here on
Speaker 1: chigizin Chill, you guys have been with me through the
Speaker 1: entire process when I talked to the IVF doctor, when
Speaker 1: I went, when I stopped the whole thing. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: I want to be accountable and have you guys with
Speaker 1: me on this process the entire way. And I feel
Speaker 1: like the best thing to do is be transparent with
Speaker 1: you guys, and that's what I'm doing. I feel like
Speaker 1: that's my responsibility and I owe that to you guys
Speaker 1: now that we're going to talking about this. My brother
Speaker 1: once told me, Mikey, he told me, you know what, well,
Speaker 1: that's what you came to the earth for to reproduce
Speaker 1: and I'm like, wait a second, some people really think that.
Speaker 1: I think he was joking. Obviously he's going to respect
Speaker 1: whatever decision I make. And I love being a Nina
Speaker 1: and I love being Athia like I love it. I
Speaker 1: love giving kisses and loving them and loving on them
Speaker 1: and giving them whatever they want. I'm the THEATA likes
Speaker 1: to spoil and then giving them back to their parents.
Speaker 1: It's fun. So but there are people guys that really
Speaker 1: feel that that's what women came to Earth for, that's
Speaker 1: what we're here for. That's our main purpose is to
Speaker 1: have children. And now I'm not trying to be feminists.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying we have a choice, and it is
Speaker 1: okay for us to choose for ourselves because it's not
Speaker 1: like those people are gonna come and take care of
Speaker 1: the kid financially, physically, emotionally, like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So it's like it's a personal decision and if it
Speaker 1: fits your life and if it's meant for you, I
Speaker 1: feel like it's going to happen regardless of anything. But
Speaker 1: if you choose, I don't want kids for the rest
Speaker 1: of my life. No one should judge you on that.
Speaker 1: I don't feel that that's our only purpose. I feel
Speaker 1: like I could be a mother to many people. I
Speaker 1: have dear Cheeky's, I'm a big sister to many people,
Speaker 1: like I can maybe one day adopt. That's another thing.
Speaker 1: I was just talking to my sister Jennaka about it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what I mean, all adopt. She's
Speaker 1: on the same page. There are so many children in
Speaker 1: the world that need parents, and I've thought about that
Speaker 1: quite a bit, and maybe sometime down the year, if
Speaker 1: I don't have my own child, I'll adopt. And I
Speaker 1: think that's okay. But don't let anyone ever make you
Speaker 1: feel that that is the only reason or your purpose
Speaker 1: on earth is to have children and that's it. No,
Speaker 1: there are so many different things. I feel like I
Speaker 1: have a mission on earth and I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: fulfilling it every single day and like walking towards my
Speaker 1: godly purpose each and every single day in some way
Speaker 1: or another. And if God wants to put a child
Speaker 1: in my womb and I'm forty five, that is his will,
Speaker 1: and I will raise in a wonderful child. I know
Speaker 1: I'll be a wonderful mother. I just don't know if
Speaker 1: I am necessarily one hundred percent ready right now. And
Speaker 1: I don't think you'll ever be one hundred percent ready
Speaker 1: right but I don't even think I'm like fifty percent ready,
Speaker 1: you guys, to be honest, I'm just kind of like,
Speaker 1: hold up, I have a lot of fun. I'm chilling,
Speaker 1: like I'm doing my thing right now, and there's nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with that. I really don't feel like there's anything
Speaker 1: wrong with that at all. I don't feel guilty for it.
Speaker 1: I really don't. And I guess as a Latin, and
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm the only one, because we've talked
Speaker 1: about it quite a bit here on the podcast as well,
Speaker 1: how we are constantly being asked, especially now that I'm
Speaker 1: engaged and I have someone in my life, like Okay,
Speaker 1: when are you having kids? And it's a question that
Speaker 1: comes up quite a bit in interviews in my personal
Speaker 1: life and people that I just meet on the street
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh my god, Cheki's wh are you
Speaker 1: gonna have kids? Like you know said there and the
Speaker 1: whole thing, like, hey, the clock is ticking, but I've
Speaker 1: gone to the point before I was like kind of
Speaker 1: like I'm a little worried, and I felt a little
Speaker 1: guilty maybe saying I don't know if I want kids now.
Speaker 1: I'm okay with saying that because I feel like this
Speaker 1: is my life and I should be able to live
Speaker 1: it any way that I can. I think now that
Speaker 1: I've gotten older and I'm understanding my body and I'm
Speaker 1: understanding things on a different level, and now I guess
Speaker 1: I'm not ashamed. I'm not ashamed to say I love
Speaker 1: kids and i'd be I know, I know for a
Speaker 1: fact i'd be a great mom, and I'm a great
Speaker 1: Thea and Nina and stuff. But I don't feel a
Speaker 1: shame saying that I don't want kids of my own
Speaker 1: right now. But I don't know what changes, guys, because
Speaker 1: last year I was I had a lot of baby fever,
Speaker 1: and now I'm just chilling now and focus on my music.
Speaker 1: I'm really looking forward to next year and being able
Speaker 1: to go somewhere for a few weeks and record my album,
Speaker 1: something I've never been able to do. Like there are
Speaker 1: things that I want to do, and not saying that
Speaker 1: I can't do that while I'm pregnant. I mean, if
Speaker 1: that's God's will, I'm still going to do it. You know,
Speaker 1: if I get pregnant at the beginning of the year
Speaker 1: or whenever he says, then so be it. I'm going
Speaker 1: to receive it. But I think another part of it too,
Speaker 1: and just being honest here is I guess I've been
Speaker 1: forced in a way mentally not to get over the
Speaker 1: idea of having kids because my body is saying something different.
Speaker 1: So instead of being disappointed every month, it's more of like,
Speaker 1: let me push it out of the way. And I
Speaker 1: think that's where I'm at. The conclusion to this episode
Speaker 1: is that I have decided not to go through with IVF.
Speaker 1: I can't even do it even if I want to,
Speaker 1: because I have the cyst and I have to fix
Speaker 1: all of that first. I feel like IVF for me
Speaker 1: would be forcing it right now, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to do that. I really want to put my self
Speaker 1: in God's way and let his will be done completely.
Speaker 1: If it happens, great, If it doesn't happen, I'm okay
Speaker 1: with it. Is where I'm at, genuinely, from the bottom
Speaker 1: of my heart. I can probably right now. I feel
Speaker 1: like I can live the rest of my life if
Speaker 1: I don't have kids fine and happy. I have my siblings,
Speaker 1: I have my nieces and nephews, I have my god children,
Speaker 1: I love it, but if God decides to get me pregnant,
Speaker 1: then I'm fine with that as well. Does that make sense?
Speaker 1: So that's where I'm at, guys. That's a truth. If
Speaker 1: something changes for next year, I will update you guys
Speaker 1: on that and be like, hey, guys, I decided to
Speaker 1: do it. But right now, I am chillin. I am
Speaker 1: taking care of my body. I am unwinding. It's almost
Speaker 1: well the end of the year basically, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to do a detox and that's it. And if it happens,
Speaker 1: great and I'll be fine. That's where we're at. I
Speaker 1: just want to tell you don't let anyone, especially if
Speaker 1: you're a Latina, because I feel you pressure you into
Speaker 1: you need to have kids. That is what you have
Speaker 1: to do. That is your decision, it is your body,
Speaker 1: it is your future. Even if you do decide and
Speaker 1: IVF is for you, that's amazing, you know how I
Speaker 1: am you guys. I'm all about live and let live
Speaker 1: whatever you want to do. And I hope that you
Speaker 1: guys can also show me that grace and not judge
Speaker 1: me with not wanting to go through with IVF. I
Speaker 1: am really just writing on faith right now. I really
Speaker 1: feel that if I'm meant to have a child, God
Speaker 1: is going to make it happen no matter how old
Speaker 1: I am. I truly, truly in my heart believe that.
Speaker 1: So that's my advice to you guys. If you are
Speaker 1: trying to have a child and you feel IVF is
Speaker 1: for you, go for it. If you want to do
Speaker 1: it naturally. If you don't want any kids at all,
Speaker 1: don't ever let anyone make you feel bad for that
Speaker 1: because those people aren't going to come and take care
Speaker 1: of your child and support you financially in it every way.
Speaker 1: Because as women, we go through so much being pregnant,
Speaker 1: having the child, even after you have the child, you
Speaker 1: have the baby blues, like there's postpartum. There's so many
Speaker 1: things that women go through that I feel, especially a man,
Speaker 1: should not force you or tell you what you have
Speaker 1: to do with your body and how you should do it.
Speaker 1: That is solely your decision. I really truly feel that.
Speaker 1: And of course, if you have your partner, you have
Speaker 1: you know your husband, and that's a conversation you guys
Speaker 1: have together. But at the end of the day, I
Speaker 1: really feel it's the woman's decision. So that is the episode.
Speaker 1: I really appreciate you guys listening to me. And before
Speaker 1: I let you guys go, I have a motivational quote
Speaker 1: for you guys, and the quote is my body shows
Speaker 1: up for me each and every day and it deserves
Speaker 1: my wholehearted love. And That's exactly where I'm at right now.
Speaker 1: You guys, thank you. I love you. Thank you for
Speaker 1: allowing me to express myself, for listening to me, for
Speaker 1: coming back each and every week to listen to a
Speaker 1: new episode Los quiro mucho. Oh and also, you guys,
Speaker 1: next week, we're going to be having my therapist Tanya
Speaker 1: for an episode on couples therapies, so you can't miss that. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, besitos. Do you need advice on love, relationships,
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