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Speaker 1: All right, so Steve, this is from Corey on Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey FM. Corey says, I'm a senior in high school

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Speaker 1: and now looking at colleges in which to apply, and

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Speaker 1: that's something my pops is not the least bit happy with.

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Speaker 1: Thirty years ago, my dad started a roofing business and

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Speaker 1: he's done very well with it. Over the last three years,

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Speaker 1: he's dropped multiple not so subtle hints that he would

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Speaker 1: love to retire and can't wait for me to take

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Speaker 1: over the business. The problem is I have zero interest

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Speaker 1: in roofing or running his business. I helped out a

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Speaker 1: little over the summer to earn some side cash and

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Speaker 1: found it boring, tedious, hot, and miserable. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to do that for the rest of my life. I

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Speaker 1: can't have that conversation with him, though, because when I

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Speaker 1: try to talk about about it, he acts like I'm

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Speaker 1: sugar honey iced teaing all over his legacy and disrespecting

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Speaker 1: the life he's trying to give me. Is there a

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Speaker 1: way to talk about this without him tripping on me

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Speaker 1: or the fact that I want to live my own

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Speaker 1: life not his good question.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a tough one. That's really really a tough one.

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Speaker 2: But this is really something that your father is gonna

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Speaker 2: have to arrive at the conclusion of. I think you

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Speaker 2: should probably set your father down. You're gonna have to

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Speaker 2: tell him eventually because it's not what you want to do.

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Speaker 2: And it's unfair of your father to impose his will

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Speaker 2: or wishes of your life projections on you because this

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Speaker 2: is what he sees for you. But if you don't

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Speaker 2: see it for yourself, it's gonna be hard to live

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Speaker 2: that life. And so I think you're gonna have to

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Speaker 2: sit your father down and say, Dad, I'm really grateful

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Speaker 2: man for all you've done for our family. I'm really

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Speaker 2: really grateful for the example you've been of hard work

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Speaker 2: and excellence, and I'm really an appreciate what the lifestyle

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Speaker 2: you've given us. But Dad, this is my dream and

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Speaker 2: my vision. This is why I want my life to go.

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Speaker 2: I'm not a roofer. I'm not as good as you.

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Speaker 2: I don't have the gift you got, and I don't

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Speaker 2: even have the same desire you have. Dad. I'm just

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Speaker 2: a different person, and I really wish you'd give me

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Speaker 2: your blessings to pursue my life so I can get

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Speaker 2: on the path that's right for me. Now, what I

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Speaker 2: will do is go to college and take up marketing

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Speaker 2: and economics, and when you're ready to retire, I'll help

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Speaker 2: you with the buyout plan for your company and we

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Speaker 2: can sell it. And you could make far more money

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Speaker 2: in the buyout plan than you could by ever having

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Speaker 2: me continue to run it. So maybe we sell your

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Speaker 2: business and then you retire and in everything you can

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Speaker 2: get all the benefits from it. That's a smarter play

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Speaker 2: right there. But when you tell your father that you

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Speaker 2: don't want to do something, you have to have an alternative.

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Speaker 2: But you got to be a young man. I think

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Speaker 2: you got to think this retirement plan out to help

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Speaker 2: your dad because he sees his son taking over his business.

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Speaker 2: I see my sons doing certain things too, and they

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Speaker 2: just they didn't have it lined up for them all.

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Speaker 2: They just haven't. And I had to understand that they

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Speaker 2: have the right to pursue their own life. What I

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Speaker 2: feel about my accomplishments and things that I want to

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Speaker 2: leave for you, if you don't want them, what I'm

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Speaker 2: leaving them for. That's why everybody after will I'm not

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Speaker 2: leaving nothing to nobody. We're gonna spend eighty five percent

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Speaker 2: of our money. We're not gonna have a fifteen percent

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Speaker 2: left when we pull up out of here. That's all. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that was a good way to put it though. For

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Speaker 2: the young man, that was a great job.

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Speaker 1: I could I like that. I like that because that

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Speaker 1: was that was a tough question.

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Speaker 2: It is a tough question, man. It's a difficult situation

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Speaker 2: for the young man to be in, but it's toughest

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Speaker 2: situation for your father to be in because sometimes as

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Speaker 2: older people, we can be a little bit stubborn with

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Speaker 2: what we want and what we see, and we expect,

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Speaker 2: because of our children, to see it our way. It's

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Speaker 2: just not the way it works. And I've had to

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Speaker 2: learn that because I have all have children who are

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Speaker 2: decision making ages, and they made some decisions I don't

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Speaker 2: agree with. But I did the same thing when I

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Speaker 2: was growing up, made a lot of decisions just going

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Speaker 2: into comedy. Was the only person thought I should was

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Speaker 2: my father, brothers, sisters, friends, X. Everybody thought it was

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Speaker 2: just a his poor decision, dumbest thing you could do.

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Speaker 2: I didn't have one friend that thought I should do

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Speaker 2: it except Russell Middlebrooks out of Cleaved as only dude.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right. Hopefully that young man will take that

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Speaker 1: great advice. Yeah, we'll have more of the Steve Harvey

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