Speaker 1: As far as like him being able to go into it.
Speaker 1: If I die, he wouldn't be able to. Bella knows
Speaker 1: all my passwords, you know what I call them. That's
Speaker 1: a cleanup crew. I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican.
Speaker 1: I was born and raised in New York City. I
Speaker 1: love sneakers and I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez,
Speaker 1: but i was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife,
Speaker 1: a mama, and a worker being. This is life is English,
Speaker 1: and we are back. I'm Honey German and I am
Speaker 1: Carolina Bermudez, and we are ready to do this. Are
Speaker 1: you ready? I'm ready? Are you holiday ready? That's the
Speaker 1: question I want to ask you, girl? We were? This
Speaker 1: is the thing? Okay, No, you first, because how many
Speaker 1: people do you have to buy for? I feel like
Speaker 1: you have a bigger family. So then like, do you
Speaker 1: have an actual total of people that you're doing. I'm
Speaker 1: probably doing like eighteen, I'm doing kids, and then I'm
Speaker 1: doing everybody that really like part of my life in
Speaker 1: some way, shape or form. So I'm doing like my
Speaker 1: hair girl, my makeup girl, my nail But you have
Speaker 1: consistent people that I do. Yeah, yeah, these are like
Speaker 1: my right hands. And then I'm doing like everybody who
Speaker 1: works on my Sunday show, my my producer, my board op.
Speaker 1: So I my list was long, but for many years
Speaker 1: my list was only children. But I feel like I've
Speaker 1: had such an amazing year thanks to old these people
Speaker 1: that I have in my life. It's great that I
Speaker 1: want to give back and I want to make them
Speaker 1: feel special. Well, I haven't done a damn thing. I
Speaker 1: have not do, not purchased one gift. Honka is now
Speaker 1: and my husband, God bless him, said you didn't get anything, Ronica.
Speaker 1: I was like, uh, really, it's it's it's like today,
Speaker 1: it's happening now, what are you talking about? So I
Speaker 1: would frantically get things for my kids, but like, honestly
Speaker 1: for Christmas, definitely not Christmas ready. But I'm not alone.
Speaker 1: I feel like anybody who might be like listening right now.
Speaker 1: I feel like there are some people who are very
Speaker 1: strategic and they have their lists, and I just feel
Speaker 1: like life was so crazy easy that Cyber Monday, I
Speaker 1: was trying to like buy a bunch of stuff, and
Speaker 1: then I was going to the car the H and
Speaker 1: M site kept crashing. Sorry, but I'm gonna throwing under
Speaker 1: the bus h and m and um. And every time
Speaker 1: I would go to my cart, it was like things
Speaker 1: were missing because then they were sold, so it was
Speaker 1: I got so frustrated. I was like, no, no, I'm
Speaker 1: going to devote like one day because I just don't
Speaker 1: know how that. Are you going to devote one day
Speaker 1: and go to the stores? Are you going to devote
Speaker 1: one day and go online? Let's not go crazy. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do one day and I'm just gonna like look
Speaker 1: at my entire list, and I want to be thoughtful
Speaker 1: with my gift giving because I don't like just giving
Speaker 1: a gift just to give it to like cross that
Speaker 1: person off the list. You know. I'm kind of like
Speaker 1: I prepared this year and I asked people like, what
Speaker 1: what do you thinking? Did you really what do you want?
Speaker 1: The only thing that I did prepare is that there
Speaker 1: are thirteen children in our family, all of the grandchildren,
Speaker 1: and so I said to my brothers and sisters, I'm like, look,
Speaker 1: we all end up getting gifts for the kids that
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, what is your kid? And do what
Speaker 1: are they? You know, and we don't know what each
Speaker 1: one because we all live so far apart, I said,
Speaker 1: why don't we just do gift hearts everybody. That's a
Speaker 1: good idea, and then we say to them, you get
Speaker 1: to spend it anyway you want. If you want to
Speaker 1: spend it on gaming, if you want to spend it
Speaker 1: on going to the movies with your friends. That's from
Speaker 1: your family and they want you to enjoy that. So yeah,
Speaker 1: but then also, you know, you get the kids their
Speaker 1: gifts and stuff like that. But I feel like your
Speaker 1: husband might be onto you as far as what does
Speaker 1: he check? Like does he say, like, do you guys
Speaker 1: have a holiday budget? No, you don't, don't. We don't
Speaker 1: even have a joint bank account. Wait, so how do
Speaker 1: you guys do things at home? Like? Wait, like I
Speaker 1: be like I need money for the light bill and
Speaker 1: then he'll like memo it to me. You guys each other.
Speaker 1: That is so millennial. This is like the coolest thing ever.
Speaker 1: He doesn't know how much I make? What are you kidding?
Speaker 1: I sound like little John right now, Like his check
Speaker 1: is his check, my check is my check. And then um,
Speaker 1: we just split the bills. Do you guys know each
Speaker 1: other's credit scores? What's really? And we're shaming you, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I don't want no, no, no, no, I don't want
Speaker 1: anybody who's listening right now to think that I'm shaming
Speaker 1: at all. I'm just I'm not taking it that way. No, no,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna qualify this because I'm married to a financial planner.
Speaker 1: Oh so he needs to know everything that's happening. That's
Speaker 1: why I'm saying this is so different for me. No, nothing,
Speaker 1: Like I shop for my family, he shops for his family.
Speaker 1: Or so it's kind of like we're very um fifty
Speaker 1: with everything. So it's like the cablebile is fifty the like.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's very even. But we've always kind of
Speaker 1: been like that through our whole entire relationship. But he
Speaker 1: has no idea how much money you make, or how
Speaker 1: much money have in a bank? What is that retirement savings?
Speaker 1: Like nothing, It's just and we like to keep it
Speaker 1: that way. I don't know why, but it's just like
Speaker 1: it even though we're married, it kind of like still
Speaker 1: gives us a sense of being independent individuals, if that
Speaker 1: makes any sense. It's just like, you don't know how
Speaker 1: much I spend, You don't know how much I make,
Speaker 1: You don't know how much I have, but if he
Speaker 1: needs me for anything, I'm there, and if I need him,
Speaker 1: he's there. But it it's we're really big on privacy.
Speaker 1: We both have our phones with passwords, so we don't
Speaker 1: have each other's password. You don't have his password. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, this just happened to me the other day.
Speaker 1: So I'm getting a new car and um, my husband
Speaker 1: was communicating with the person and I said, have you
Speaker 1: spoken to this person? And he said, oh no, UM,
Speaker 1: it's on my email and I know his password to
Speaker 1: his phone. So I went over to his phone and
Speaker 1: I picked it up and then I was just like,
Speaker 1: I go, you're you're yah? Who was logged out? He's
Speaker 1: like why and I'm like I don't know. And he
Speaker 1: was like, oh, put in my password, and so I
Speaker 1: put in. I put in his password and it came
Speaker 1: up again. He was like, well, what's wrong with my phone?
Speaker 1: So we spend half the day trying to figure out
Speaker 1: we know each other's there isn't anything. Well, I'm trying
Speaker 1: to think we we do do something similar to what
Speaker 1: you guys do. But I mean as far as my phone,
Speaker 1: he picks up my phone all the time and like,
Speaker 1: I don't mind if my husband holds my phone like
Speaker 1: he looks at anything. But as far as like him
Speaker 1: being able to go into it, if I die, he
Speaker 1: wouldn't be able to. Bella knows all my passwords, you
Speaker 1: know what I call him. That's a lean up crew.
Speaker 1: Yeah everything. Don't let them know how crazy I was.
Speaker 1: My memories and pick too. That's right, because we had
Speaker 1: a problem with some pictures. Girl, please, we don't want
Speaker 1: to go there. So we do something similar to you guys.
Speaker 1: When it comes to expenses as far as holiday um expenses, um,
Speaker 1: we don't really have a holiday budget, which a lot
Speaker 1: of people do have, and I would recommend because the
Speaker 1: one thing that you don't want to do is carry
Speaker 1: debt into the next year. This is my finanity, this
Speaker 1: is my financial year. This is my this is what
Speaker 1: I've learned from my husband. If you don't have the cash,
Speaker 1: you can't buy it. That's like, that's we did our
Speaker 1: wedding like that. I'll tell you that much. We did
Speaker 1: our whole entire wedding cash. And I tell people that's
Speaker 1: one of the best things you can do, one of
Speaker 1: the best decisions you could have done. Absolutely. So my
Speaker 1: husband and I we um, we know what the other.
Speaker 1: We know what we both make and then um, we
Speaker 1: have the joint family accounts, so that takes care of
Speaker 1: like you know, mortgage insurance, cars, like kids. I've always
Speaker 1: wanted one of those things like that. We've never been
Speaker 1: able to make it to the bank. Do you know? No,
Speaker 1: you know what you need. You just need to sit
Speaker 1: down and get every bill that you guys have to
Speaker 1: pay and then just because then that that will eliminate
Speaker 1: the venmoing. No, seriously, like that that may be mad ragic.
Speaker 1: Can you vemmo me the damn grocery money? I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: I think this is like such a millennial thing and
Speaker 1: like there are people who are listening right now. I
Speaker 1: am forty years old. This is like not we have
Speaker 1: a joint bank account, and this is that's not how
Speaker 1: we do it. That doesn't mean that you're not doing
Speaker 1: it the right way the supermarket, like give me the
Speaker 1: money now before I pay it, because I'm not chasing you.
Speaker 1: So I just went the whole foods okay, So then um,
Speaker 1: what we do though. The funny thing is is that
Speaker 1: I have my my m X and he has his
Speaker 1: and then it's like he would never question me and
Speaker 1: say like, oh, would you buy you know, so it's
Speaker 1: like I can buy my own things. Like it's I
Speaker 1: don't know. I think maybe our is are set up weird.
Speaker 1: Is are set up a little bit weird because like
Speaker 1: we don't know, you know what I'm saying, Like, um no,
Speaker 1: me and my husband moved very privately in a weird way,
Speaker 1: and I think that came from us living together for
Speaker 1: so many years without being married. So it's like, okay,
Speaker 1: we're not co mingling anything because if you cheat on me,
Speaker 1: I'm kicking you out into the streets. And then we
Speaker 1: got married and it kind of stood that way. Well
Speaker 1: then that's like then you guys are kind of it's
Speaker 1: a habit. Then it's like for you guys worked in
Speaker 1: the beginning, like you formed this habit. But yeah, my
Speaker 1: my husband has been the biggest asset to me as
Speaker 1: far as financial planning because I was in order well
Speaker 1: you know what it was. I actually had a financial
Speaker 1: planner before I met him. So I had been working
Speaker 1: over at Z for a while, and um, I had
Speaker 1: a person who was like managing my money and I
Speaker 1: you know, I wasn't happy with what he was doing.
Speaker 1: And I met this guy and then I said to
Speaker 1: him after like three months of dating, was like, so,
Speaker 1: when are you gonna help me figure out I say.
Speaker 1: He was like, uh no, because I like you too much,
Speaker 1: and I don't like because they didn't want to mix
Speaker 1: the business and you were just eighty three months. So
Speaker 1: it's kind of exactly. Yes. Later it took about a
Speaker 1: year before he would do it, before he would really
Speaker 1: take me on as a client, you know. And and
Speaker 1: I said to him, and so now I'll be like, uh,
Speaker 1: when is my appointment? It's your end. I have not
Speaker 1: had time with you. I'd like to look at my
Speaker 1: assets office, I know. And then he's like he goes,
Speaker 1: he goes, we can have our meeting. I like where
Speaker 1: He's like, um, go to the bedroom. We'll talk about
Speaker 1: it exactly. But I think it's important for people to
Speaker 1: talk about finances, especially like in this day and age,
Speaker 1: and you know what it's like you can get caught
Speaker 1: up in the whole, like you know, keeping track of everything,
Speaker 1: but you really do have to maintain a budget. Do
Speaker 1: you and your husband actually meet, like meet me? You
Speaker 1: know what we do? Yeah? We do? Where do you
Speaker 1: meet in the kitchen? And at least you don't go
Speaker 1: to the office. No no, no, no, no, no, I
Speaker 1: actually I love his office. Um, I would actually prefer that,
Speaker 1: but no, we sit down at the kitchen table and
Speaker 1: we'll just go through things. He'll just be like, you know,
Speaker 1: what do you what do you like? Like what you know?
Speaker 1: Where do you think you want to grow? Like what
Speaker 1: do you want to do? Like he's just he's the
Speaker 1: brains behind the operation. That's good that you actually have that.
Speaker 1: And like we talked about our goals as a couple,
Speaker 1: like where do we like, where do we want to
Speaker 1: end up? Like what do we want to do? Do
Speaker 1: we want to buy a place like we you know
Speaker 1: for the kids, And so there's just a lot of
Speaker 1: stuff doing. No, no, but you know what it's it's
Speaker 1: just different different strokes for different folks, you know. And
Speaker 1: it's like that's why I say he was the best
Speaker 1: thing that ever happened to me. And I truly mean
Speaker 1: that because like not even just from a emotional perspective
Speaker 1: or a love perspective, but it's just like mentally he's
Speaker 1: challenged me, he's introduced me to new things. He's really
Speaker 1: like helped me grow as a person. But yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll I'll hook you up. You know, it's crazy, Like
Speaker 1: all the time, I would be like, the only type
Speaker 1: of husband want was a plastic surgeon so he could
Speaker 1: keep me snatched all your long. We'll probably have you know,
Speaker 1: a clinic at the house with me every time I
Speaker 1: pull off the bandwagon. No, you know what it's it's
Speaker 1: funny because my brother is actually a dermatologist and he
Speaker 1: won't work on me. Here we go. I know, I'm
Speaker 1: just like, why are you so selfish? I would pull
Speaker 1: up to office and be like, I'm waiting, I'm outside
Speaker 1: coffee for me to come on hook us to strup.
Speaker 1: But no, my mom. You know what my mom always
Speaker 1: tells me. She's like, when I'm you already know that.
Speaker 1: I tell my husband all the time, I will leave you.
Speaker 1: I don't need you. Do you know that I do not.
Speaker 1: I do not have a secret bank account. There are
Speaker 1: a lot of women who do have a secret And
Speaker 1: that's what my mom was saying. My mom was always like,
Speaker 1: you know, you always have to have like a little
Speaker 1: side hustle or like a little side money. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I've always been a true believer and
Speaker 1: like I am who I am? I'm not who am
Speaker 1: I going to hide it from hid it from my husband,
Speaker 1: like he sees everything. I don't even let him see
Speaker 1: my timber seats. Are you serious? Now? It sounds like,
Speaker 1: you know what, it's kind of sexy. He'll apply pressure
Speaker 1: to me. It is it is, and it's very like
Speaker 1: it's very mysterious we are. And it's like if he
Speaker 1: has like an t he'll like crumble it up and
Speaker 1: throw it out the window, and then you'll go and
Speaker 1: dive into the I'm like on the Guarden State Parkway
Speaker 1: doing like tumbles trying to get to piece of paper.
Speaker 1: But yeah, if you see honey on the side of
Speaker 1: the road with a stick, she's looking, you already know
Speaker 1: what I'm looking for. My man's a TM meracy. I
Speaker 1: want to know how many bands you got in here.
Speaker 1: It's so funny. But wait, so now, what do you
Speaker 1: guys do as far as buying each other gifts? Like
Speaker 1: does he give you a list or does he tell
Speaker 1: you I have my eye on me. He'll tell me exactly,
Speaker 1: and then what do you do? And I'll tell him
Speaker 1: what I want? Okay, so why don't you just go
Speaker 1: buy it exactly? That's what we should do. And we
Speaker 1: kind of like we're weird. We kind of like I
Speaker 1: want to match each other's amount that we spent. Oh really,
Speaker 1: I was like, I spent a thousand dollars on you
Speaker 1: might get better to be a thousand hollars to Like
Speaker 1: we're that type of people. I swear were like kids.
Speaker 1: I guess you guys are the most entertaining, adorable couple.
Speaker 1: You have to come over. He told me what he wants.
Speaker 1: What does he want? He wants like a coat, like
Speaker 1: a really good winter coat, probably a month clear exactly.
Speaker 1: That's already like that's already like that way I need
Speaker 1: to go get Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll show you heard you.
Speaker 1: But you know what, I feel like, that's a very
Speaker 1: practical smart gift. It is, and he'll wear and he'll
Speaker 1: wear it a lot. Sometimes I tell him like, don't
Speaker 1: buy that. Yeah, Like sometimes you look at things, I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know with that like three times, yeah it's to trendy,
Speaker 1: or if it's like a Gucci T shirt or something
Speaker 1: like three snakes on the chest and it's green, I'm like,
Speaker 1: where are you going with that? Right? So you know,
Speaker 1: spend final jobs were two times and then it's just
Speaker 1: gonna sit in the drawer. But let's say it might
Speaker 1: be a Gucci belt that he might wear, then I'd
Speaker 1: be like, definitely buy it. I don't care, so I
Speaker 1: kind of like sometimes have to pull him off the
Speaker 1: ledge with the things that he bought. I love that
Speaker 1: he is so definitive about his style. He definitely is.
Speaker 1: He is, and he's very finicky about everything he wears.
Speaker 1: He even tells me like take that off, that don't
Speaker 1: even match. What's his real name? What's what's his name?
Speaker 1: I call him noony Noon is so cute. He looks
Speaker 1: liked his sister give he is. I call him teddy.
Speaker 1: But you guys have to follow us on Ali Spanglish
Speaker 1: on all of our social media. He is we have
Speaker 1: to post a picture of We do have to put yeah.
Speaker 1: But here's the problem with I don't post pictures of him?
Speaker 1: Why oh am I not supposed to? Because you know,
Speaker 1: he has been around a lot, like born and raised
Speaker 1: in New York. And then sometimes you know, somebody will
Speaker 1: tag somebody and be like, look who I found? Did
Speaker 1: you found my husband? Why are you tagging somebody else?
Speaker 1: Talk about look who you found? He has no social media,
Speaker 1: so whenever a picture of him goes up like on
Speaker 1: a friend's account or something. I will look at the
Speaker 1: comments and then it's like old school females, and then
Speaker 1: you're like me, No, don't say. He doesn't need a
Speaker 1: hide from you. He's been living fine without your heart.
Speaker 1: You know. He was kind of like a mail that
Speaker 1: before I met him, so, oh my god, the whole entirely. Well,
Speaker 1: then we're not going to post it. We're not going
Speaker 1: to post him. I hate to disappoint you, but just
Speaker 1: take my word for it. He's an adorable little t browntle.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's move on. Let's talk about our
Speaker 1: listener emails, which, by the way, we love when you
Speaker 1: guys email us Life in Spanglish podcast at gmail dot com. Uh,
Speaker 1: when it was the ladies. I'm a mama to two
Speaker 1: beautiful boys. Oh, just like you, Carolina. They are my
Speaker 1: whole life, and I couldn't picture a better job than
Speaker 1: being a mama. I agree. Okay. Recently my five year
Speaker 1: old entered kindergarten has been getting along better with the
Speaker 1: girls in his class rather than the boys. My husband
Speaker 1: recently sat me down and asked if we should be
Speaker 1: worried about him hanging out with too many girls. I
Speaker 1: love my son, and I hate to think my husband
Speaker 1: thinks less of him for having girlfriends. Should I tell
Speaker 1: him to lay off and let our little boy just be?
Speaker 1: I'm not worried about my son, and I don't think
Speaker 1: he should be either. Please help. Yeah, So there's a
Speaker 1: lot of different directions that this can go. I'm not
Speaker 1: I don't know if your husband is letting you know too,
Speaker 1: So forgive me because I don't have that information. Um.
Speaker 1: I think that there are times and it's not just
Speaker 1: letting you knows, it's other you know, ethnicities or cultures
Speaker 1: that where people um tend to be very like macho.
Speaker 1: They want their son to be like a football player,
Speaker 1: you know, testosterone and you know, trucks and things like that. Personally,
Speaker 1: I believe your son is in an exploratory age and
Speaker 1: it's a beautiful thing. And I think that by talking
Speaker 1: to him about it, you might be putting thoughts into
Speaker 1: his head that aren't even there to begin with. You know,
Speaker 1: um my son's and I'll just tell you from my perspective,
Speaker 1: um my son asked for a kitchen one year, and
Speaker 1: we were like, absolutely, there was not even because you know,
Speaker 1: a lot of traditional latinos or maybe, um, you know,
Speaker 1: just anybody who's macho or anybody who's old school traditional
Speaker 1: might be like, I'm not getting a kitchen. So that
Speaker 1: for a boy. Well, but you know what, look at
Speaker 1: your chefs. You've got Bobby Flay, You've got like David Burke,
Speaker 1: You've got all of these wonderful, notable chefs, and their
Speaker 1: passion for cooking came from something, whether it was from
Speaker 1: watching their mothers or whoever they were brought up by
Speaker 1: in the kitchen. So for me, I never equated my
Speaker 1: son asking for a kitchen with it being girly. I thought, oh, wow,
Speaker 1: he wants to like play house and he sees me
Speaker 1: cooking all the time because I cook all the time,
Speaker 1: So maybe that was like his way of being like mommy.
Speaker 1: I really think that him having a little girlfriends, that's
Speaker 1: not a bad thing. That's not like a bad life
Speaker 1: skill to have either is to be able to connect
Speaker 1: to the other sex. So what I would say, and this,
Speaker 1: I would go to your husband and just say, look,
Speaker 1: let him be for a little bit. If it turns
Speaker 1: out that you know, you want to have a conversation
Speaker 1: with him about it. But like, what's the conversation is
Speaker 1: my question, hang out with the guys. You know, some
Speaker 1: some men are just like that. It's like, why are
Speaker 1: you not hanging out with the guys? Why are you
Speaker 1: hanging out with the girls? And you know it also
Speaker 1: comes from again macho old school mentality. But I would say,
Speaker 1: just tell your husband and layoff or let him be.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's just gravitating. So it's kids to have similar
Speaker 1: interest and sometimes it's gonna be girls. Just maybe some
Speaker 1: of the boys are kind of you know, he doesn't
Speaker 1: get along with them. Yeah, maybe you have the connection
Speaker 1: because of that. But um, I don't know. I think
Speaker 1: that like little boys and girls that personally. Asher one
Speaker 1: of his little best friends, he tells me all the
Speaker 1: time he is a Hunter. It's a little girl. And
Speaker 1: I said to her mom, I said, we have to
Speaker 1: have a playdate. I said, because my my son's so
Speaker 1: highly of her daughter. And another one of his best
Speaker 1: friends is Logan. She's a little girl. You know, can
Speaker 1: we rewind Hunter and Logan are both girls. I love
Speaker 1: these names. Yeah, and um and and so, I said,
Speaker 1: you know who asked here connects. I'm just glad he's
Speaker 1: making friends. That's bay when everybody hated you in class
Speaker 1: and I don't have friends, I know, and you were
Speaker 1: like the only person needed lunch by yourself. But you
Speaker 1: know what too, I think it's very important to focus
Speaker 1: on something like this because, um, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: like gender inequality. There's a lot of gender speak in
Speaker 1: the news right now, and so, um, I believe that
Speaker 1: as this next generation grows up, it's important for us
Speaker 1: to kind of dispel those like previous thoughts about like
Speaker 1: what a girl should be doing or what a guy
Speaker 1: should be doing. You know, we were putting together the
Speaker 1: Christmas tree so funny, and Noah says to me, Mommy,
Speaker 1: do you need Daddy to come and do that? And
Speaker 1: I said, do what? He goes put the stand together.
Speaker 1: I said why he goes because and I said because
Speaker 1: what I said, girls can do anything guys can do.
Speaker 1: He was like, okay, Mommy, I'll help you, and like,
Speaker 1: but it was you broke that cycle right there at
Speaker 1: that moment. It was a moment and it was almost
Speaker 1: like you know, but then instead of getting defensive and
Speaker 1: be like why do you think that way? And you know,
Speaker 1: and I was like, wait, why why would we call daddy?
Speaker 1: You know? And he was like, oh, because you know,
Speaker 1: you might know, Mama can do it. You know, that's right. So,
Speaker 1: you know, it's almost like raising my boys to recognize
Speaker 1: that women are capable. And my hope is that they
Speaker 1: end up with strong, independent women or if they're you know,
Speaker 1: whatever it is that they decide to do and be,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be supportive of that. And it starts now,
Speaker 1: it really does. What do you have more girlfriends or
Speaker 1: guy friends? You know, I'm really proud to say at
Speaker 1: this point in my life I have both, but for
Speaker 1: a long long time, mostly men I connected to. Yeah
Speaker 1: that's interesting because I always say, um, I worry about
Speaker 1: women that connect more with men and women. Well, and
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you, I was more with gay
Speaker 1: men growing up. So it's like, really women where I
Speaker 1: grew up, it wasn't an easy thing. Um. You know,
Speaker 1: there were times where I was targeted because I think
Speaker 1: I mentioned to you guys that we're talking about back
Speaker 1: in Ohio. Back in Ohio, it was a problem predominantly white,
Speaker 1: uh you know environment in town. So um, yeah, I
Speaker 1: grew up kind of like going more towards you know,
Speaker 1: guys and having guy friends. But I always had a monogamous,
Speaker 1: like long term relationship so you know, I was always
Speaker 1: like I feel like I was maybe like the home girl,
Speaker 1: like you know, but like not in that way. Um,
Speaker 1: and until like recently in my twenties and thirties is
Speaker 1: when I really I've had some very long term friendships
Speaker 1: that I've taken with me throughout my life. But no,
Speaker 1: I've I've really connected more, I think with a lot
Speaker 1: of like guy friends and gay friends. Yeah, what about
Speaker 1: you your girls, I've connected more with girls. Just recently
Speaker 1: after I started working at Power, I made guy friends.
Speaker 1: I'm my husband really doesn't believe them, like guys and
Speaker 1: girls being able to be friends without being sexually attracted
Speaker 1: to each other or eventually having some type of sexual contact.
Speaker 1: So I really had think guy friends wasn't really a
Speaker 1: thing for us, like since we've been together for so long,
Speaker 1: and it's like, yeah, I had like my gay guy
Speaker 1: friends that he's like, nothing's going to happen. They're they're cool,
Speaker 1: But as far as like having like a male regular
Speaker 1: hetero sexual cute potentially could slip up and give them
Speaker 1: the buns, No, that wasn't a thing in my relationship.
Speaker 1: You want to hear something so funny Cubby and I,
Speaker 1: which we do our morning show together on KTU. Comby
Speaker 1: and I met in two thousand three. We remained friends
Speaker 1: and then we ended up working together, you know years later.
Speaker 1: At One always remained friends. Michael Yo, one of his interns,
Speaker 1: an attractive dude. We were always friends. Like these are
Speaker 1: the people that I would talk to at night or
Speaker 1: text or they had asked me for advice about their
Speaker 1: girls or like you know what I mean. So it's like,
Speaker 1: I think it's a responsibility of a friend, though of
Speaker 1: a woman, to not let it cross that line. So
Speaker 1: you know, I mean, that's why I feel like I
Speaker 1: was raised by I have three brothers, so for me too,
Speaker 1: I have that connection with with men where I can, like,
Speaker 1: I laugh at the jokes. I think farts are hilarious,
Speaker 1: you know, like I really do. I mean, stuff like
Speaker 1: that doesn't offend me. So um yeah, I think throughout
Speaker 1: my life, I've definitely had like a lot of guy friends,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate that because it's given me a different perspective.
Speaker 1: Now I now I have guy friends as adult guy
Speaker 1: friends that I can go to, I can ask question.
Speaker 1: Now he doesn't now he doesn't really care. Now, no
Speaker 1: offense to my guy friends, but now he feels like
Speaker 1: I'm like at such a stage in my life that
Speaker 1: he feels like I probably don't think anybody is worthy
Speaker 1: of like ruining my marriage over well. So now he's
Speaker 1: like super confident, like, oh, she'll never like mess with
Speaker 1: that guy. But when I was young, when I was
Speaker 1: in college, it was just like, why are you talking
Speaker 1: to this guy? So now it's like now it's like
Speaker 1: to whoever you want, Like, I know you're my wife.
Speaker 1: I know you're like a career woman. You're not going anywhere.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna be like trying to have lunch on
Speaker 1: the sneak tip behind the station. So he's more comfortable
Speaker 1: with me where I'm at in life. And the guy
Speaker 1: friends that I have are are super mature and and
Speaker 1: adults and established and have their own relationship. So now
Speaker 1: it's different as opposed to like everybody just being single. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think I'm actually gonna do something I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do. Well, look, John John Pascuarella just texted me.
Speaker 1: He's one of my one of my best das. I
Speaker 1: love want. Uh he wants to know if I want
Speaker 1: the Target coupon for this let's see. Um, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: have one, two, three, four in my text messages. Okay,
Speaker 1: there's more girls in here, but I have five five
Speaker 1: dudes all married. What one's married when it has a
Speaker 1: partner too? Are married? Now I'm going up. Uh yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, and we just talk. That's it, and it's
Speaker 1: it's a it's a great thing to have a friendship
Speaker 1: because sometimes I'll go to them and say like, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm dealing with this, and there's nothing that I ever
Speaker 1: say to my guy friends that is so intimate that
Speaker 1: it would kind of like break across that line between
Speaker 1: me and my husband. But um, and I think that's
Speaker 1: important too. It is, It definitely is. And and also
Speaker 1: what's very important is not disclosing too much information because
Speaker 1: my husband, like, you didn't say that to anybody, did you?
Speaker 1: Or like if my friends come over, he's like, were
Speaker 1: you talking about me to them? I'm like, no, I
Speaker 1: was not. No, I know, But that's the thing. It's
Speaker 1: like because then they wonder, like, what are they saying
Speaker 1: about me behind my back? Yeah, that's that's another topic
Speaker 1: for another day. And we'll do it definitely. We definitely
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