WEBVTT - So Rich 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:04.440 This is How Men Think with Broths and Gavin to 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:09.000 Grab and I heard radio podcast. Welcome to another episode 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:11.880 of How Men Think. My name is Brooks Like and 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:15.080 this is the show where we dive into the male 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:17.759 mind and we give you the male perspective on all 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:22.040 things life. And we have a very special co host. 0:00:22.120 --> 0:00:23.959 We do not have our good buddy Gavin to Ground 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:27.800 with us today, but we have a much more handsome, 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:34.400 much more rugged Hey, we have another fantastic musician to 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:37.800 sit in Gavin's chair and carry the load for Gab 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:41.000 while he's not here. We have the country music star 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:45.280 Mr Tyler Rich with us today. Tyler my brother. Welcome 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:49.520 to the show. What's up man? Happy to be here, dude. 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:51.280 I love One, I just want to say thank you 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:53.680 for coming on the show. And two, I love having artists. 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:57.279 I love like doing this show with gav artists in 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:59.800 my I have a lot of artist friends, and you guys, 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:03.040 sem to have just a real depth and interesting perspective 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.800 on so many things in life, and you just come 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:09.640 at things from a different angle. Um. So I always 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.040 appreciate when artists come on the show and I just 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:15.240 sit back and I listen, and we have producer Danielle 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:18.040 and producer Tor with us as well. And sometimes artists 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.840 will say stuff and we're just like damn, no wonder 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:25.479 they can write songs and like, just so well, I've 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:27.280 got I've got big shoes to fill because Gavin is 0:01:27.319 --> 0:01:30.720 one of the best. You don't you have. I've only 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.560 met Gavin a couple of times in passing. Um, he 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:35.640 lives in Nashville, I believe most of the time or 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.040 all the time. So you know, we got some mutual 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:41.080 friends and stuff. Um, I'm uh. I know Brett Young 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:43.120 fairly well. We've toured together and stuff, and him and 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:45.959 bred are super tight. Um. But Gavin man one of 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:48.360 one of my big influences growing up. And so that's 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:51.240 really cool to phillip spot for a day. Man. Yeah, 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:53.120 you got, you get you get a cote with like 0:01:53.160 --> 0:01:54.560 in a couple of days in the mail, you'll get 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:57.960 a co host, a co host like Sheriff's badge. You 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:01.720 can wear that around town if you want. Perfect Brett 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:04.400 was on the on the show. I know Brett well 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:06.280 as well, and I know you toured with Brett. I 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:09.520 think right, you toured with Brett, was it? Yeah, we 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:11.920 did the samet on tour is what it's called. Uh. 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:15.400 And that was yeah, the end of God Man, time's flying. 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:18.040 It was the end. It feels like it was yesterday. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.240 It's crazy. So I want to talk to you first. 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:22.359 I want to get into what you're doing, Tyler, because 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:26.560 you're doing something super cool. Um. And it seems to 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:29.800 me that you have taken this quarantine time, this unique 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:34.280 and crazy, chaotic time, and spun it into an amazing opportunity. 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:38.400 UM because as an artist, you're not touring, you're not 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:42.760 performing concerts and venues. And so then it seems like 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.040 you said, Okay, I still love music. I have a 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:47.440 passion for music. I need to get it to people 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.120 people now more than ever. I know I'm consuming more 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:54.680 music than ever before. Um, during this time. And so 0:02:54.800 --> 0:03:00.560 you've done something really unique where you go instant ground live. 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:03.399 What is it every you do Sunday, but you also 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:05.560 do it? Is it Wednesdays? What's the other one you do? 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:09.239 It kind of depends on my schedule, but anywhere towards 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:11.400 like the mid to the end of the week of 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:16.120 the work week, Thursdays, Friday's depends, and you put on 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:21.560 a live concert from your home. Yeah, man, this's couch trailer. 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:25.760 Live from home, so cool, live at home, so you 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:28.560 put on a live concert for fans for people to 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:32.919 tune in for free and watch. Um, and have been 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:35.000 creative with this? Has this been? I just want to 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:37.600 ask you, like, how what has been your mentality and 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:42.560 how have you turned this quarantine time into an opportunity 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:45.720 to be more creative? Is it? Are you finding yourself 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:48.600 more creative? Are you finding more time to write? Like? 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:51.600 How how does this work for you as an artist? Yeah? 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:53.720 I mean we've got we for sure have more time 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:55.960 to write, you know, We've got all the time in 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.400 the world. Um. It was. It was kind of crazy 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:00.600 when it first went down because I was on tour 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:04.800 with this band called Lanka Country bandon he got canceled 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:06.520 and then all of a sudden, within one day, we 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:09.160 were just everybody was home with no end in sight, 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:10.880 and then I had a headlining It was gonna be 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:14.040 my first sever headlining tour. I was so pumped. Um, 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.640 We're kicking off at the Troubadoor, which I lived between 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:20.520 Nashville and l a and so our place in the 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:22.599 l A is I could walk to the Troubador, you know, 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.280 and it's uh The coolest part though, still all through 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:27.719 this in really quick, is that on the Troubadoor window 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:29.840 still it says Tyler Rich sold out because it was 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:32.159 a week before the show. So I've claimed to my 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.960 steak at the Troubador. But you know, it was all 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:36.360 of a sudden, we're all stuck at home and we've 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:39.520 gotta figure out how do we maximize a brand new 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:43.240 business model we know nothing about. And so and that 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.640 is the Internet, right, We've all we're all toyed with it. 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:48.320 We've all had Instagram Live for so long. We've had 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:50.920 all these things for so long, but we've never fully 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.000 at least my perspective of a lot of artists, I know, 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:56.159 we would jump on in strogram Live for just a 0:04:56.160 --> 0:04:58.080 few minutes be like heay, what's up, I'm on a 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:02.000 roller coaster. Look at me now. It's like, hey, I've 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:05.039 got this staying at my fingertips. Where I could have 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:09.000 created these relationships just for months and months and months 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.239 and years with these fans that I've never fully connected 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:14.320 with yet. And so immediately I was like, man, I 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.600 see some people that are some fellow artists that are 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:18.039 just jumping on and playing songs. I was like, I 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:19.840 want to create a structure. I want to create a 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:24.680 virtual tour. So every Tuesday I did the thing called 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:28.440 sing behind the Scene Tyler and Friends sing behind the Scenes. 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:30.960 So what that was is I would invite these songwriters 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.679 that I've worked with before, people have written songs with before. 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.960 You're just the best of the best in Nashville. And 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:38.159 they've come on and they tell a story and play 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:40.400 one of their hits, and then I would play a 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:43.559 song that we've written together. Um, and then I would 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:46.240 take a stab at covering one of their songs, and 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:50.920 then they would afterwards do the same thing, play another song, 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:55.000 telling story, et cetera. M Friday's Thursdays and Fridays and 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:57.000 give I feel like it feels like Home the Couch series. 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:01.279 And then that one is you know, at first it 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:03.200 gets a little weird, man, because you're just playing music 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:05.280 and you're used to interaction, you know, you used to 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:09.920 hearing people and now the claps are just hoping. They say, man, 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:12.120 I loved that song. You know, I didn't see this 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:15.080 watching it kind of go down and um. And then 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:17.919 Sunday's is my favorite. We do this. My wife is 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:21.640 she's wild. It's crazy. She's fun, she's the life of 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:26.200 any party she's at, always um. And we wrote a 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:30.560 song called Leave Her Wild. It's about Sabina's wonderful thanks 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:34.040 man I wonderful, crazy personality and my goal of I 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:35.920 met her that way and it was my goal to 0:06:36.000 --> 0:06:39.160 leave her that way, and so I wrote that song 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:40.960 about it. And it's kind of been this beacon we've 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:43.719 realized for just you know, so many women and little 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.880 girls man at concerts will jump on their dad's shoulders, 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:47.839 you know, and they're like, this is my anthem with 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:51.200 my dad, leave me Wild. And uh, it's been really cool. 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:53.719 It's we're like, well, Sundays, if Sabina can't go out 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:56.520 on a rooftop and day drink and do normal brunch, 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:58.520 you know, and I can't go and do that with her, 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.200 why don't we take brunch tome. And so we created 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:06.640 a show called Leave Her Wild Sunday Brunched, and we 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:10.000 just we sit right here in this exact spot and 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:14.960 we get super drunk um and we we have guests, 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:18.720 you know, surprise surprise guests pop on and catch us 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:20.360 up with what they're doing, and then we do a 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:22.760 little bit of drinking trivia where we challenge them to 0:07:22.840 --> 0:07:25.800 this card trivia card game and losers have to take 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.440 shots back and forth. Um, and we closed the show 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:30.960 almost like a talk show man. We closed the show 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:33.720 with the musical guests every week and somebody comes on 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:36.600 and plays their new single and then it's over. Um, 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.400 it's kind of created this whole. It really sucks, but 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:41.040 we don't get out there man, in front of people, 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:45.200 but it just creates created such an incredible and unique 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:49.600 bond with my fans that I've never even remotely had before. 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:51.120 I mean, you can get meat and greets, you can 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:53.960 run into a fan of the bar exchange, you know, 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:57.640 a little dialogue and whatnot. But there's been such because 0:07:57.640 --> 0:07:59.520 it's the same people every week, you know, same people 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:02.800 tune in and to hang out and uh, it's it's 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:06.760 been cool, man. It's been a extremely inspiring and from 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:10.520 the fan perspective, they probably feel more than ever like 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:13.480 they know you, like they're friends with you, even though 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:15.800 they've never physically met you or something, or maybe they 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:18.560 haven't yet been to one of your concerts. Maybe they 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:21.520 were going to come to the headlining tour. But um, 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:25.160 even digitally, I'm finding it more myself as well. People, 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:29.360 people find ways. It's kind of the new It's kind 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:33.400 of the new normal. People are finding ways to connect digitally, 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.720 and friendships are forming that way and connections are forming 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.120 that way. I think it's super cool that you involve 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:41.920 your wife and your music. I think that's just like 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:44.280 what atribute to her. And I think the Difference was 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:48.640 was the Difference inspired by your wife as well? Yeah, 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:50.520 so the Difference is actually one of the few one 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:52.199 of the only songs I've put out. I didn't write 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:55.880 um and so, but when I was in that song 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:58.559 meeting and that song got pitched me and I heard 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:01.480 the lyrics of it'sunny because Sabina would always text me, 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.040 especially like that first year. If I would quickly be like, hey, 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:07.320 I'm going to the store, I love you, she'd always say, 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:12.760 I love you. There's a difference feeding me this song. 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:15.480 I didn't even know needing to exist for like a 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:18.559 year's time. And then we had a bunch of music ready, 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:19.920 and I had got my record deal and we were 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:22.000 getting ready to put out the first single. And it's 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:23.640 that first single has to make a splash, you know 0:09:23.679 --> 0:09:26.120 what I mean, and what's gonna be And so we 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:29.600 did these songwriting meetings, and it was four hours into 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:32.800 a pitch meeting and the different started playing. And as 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.120 soon as I heard that hook in that course, there's 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.480 a difference between love you and I love you, and 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:39.800 I don't want to be the difference. I was like, 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.280 So I texted, I text I was like, yo, babe, 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:46.120 I'm sorry. You've been feeding me this song for a 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.959 year and I didn't take the bait. But I think 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.160 I found the hit song. Uh, and I'm gonna record 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:53.440 it and you're gonna love it. Ah. That's awesome, just 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:56.520 that encoded energy. Man, that's so awesome. I love it. 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:58.520 I love that you bring your love, that you bring 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:00.960 your heart into your passion. And I've always wondered that, 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.800 Like I have such a That's why I love doing 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:06.080 the show with Gavin. I have such a respect and 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:09.439 appreciation for artists one the ability to sing, the ability 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:13.720 to create music, the ability to to express themselves through 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:19.320 so much of myself. I find comfort and like a 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.920 companionship in music, you know, But I've never been able 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:27.000 to create it. I've never don't really creating. I played 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:28.840 different instruments and stuff, but I've never tried to like 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:33.600 express my heart through music and you guys, uh men 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:35.480 and women that are artists. I just have such an 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:39.439 appreciation for what you do. Somehow when you write songs, 0:10:39.720 --> 0:10:42.640 they speak to me in my life and I'm like, 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.240 how it's it's almost like I was like, oh my god, 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.560 I couldn't have wrote this any better, you know, and 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:49.760 it was it's something that you're going through. So from 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:52.360 a fan perspective, like, I just want you to know 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:55.520 that what you guys do is so important. You know, 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:58.200 it's so vital and important, and especially now when the 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:02.280 world is running high on emotions and not all the 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:06.199 ones to have that kind of an outlet. Um. I 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:08.320 just commend you for one bringing your music to people 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:10.000 because you could have very easily. You don't have to 0:11:10.040 --> 0:11:11.640 do any of that stuff. You don't have to make 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:15.240 yourself available or perform songs for people. You do it 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:17.800 because you love it and it helps people. So I 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:19.280 just want to commend you, man. I think it's really 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:23.200 noble what you're doing. Thanks man, Thanks man, I appreciate it. Yeah. 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:26.120 I mean, you know, obviously, all all artists, all musicians 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:28.240 are music fans. You know, that's where it starts. And uh, 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:30.839 you know, as an artist. I feed off that exact 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:33.200 same energy from people, and uh, you know, songs that 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:36.080 inspire me, I feel the exact same way. How the 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:39.280 hell did this person get that on paper make me 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:41.760 feel this way? And why can't I write songs like that? 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:46.040 So it's this content, Uh cons Evan flow for sure. Well, UM, 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.960 my schedule is pretty open. So like Gavin was gonna 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.400 feature me on his new record, you know, so you 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.880 need can come in years. I can probably do that. 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:59.000 You know, I've been man, I know nothing about ice skating, 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:08.640 and we can, we can, we can swift. Well, dude, 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:10.280 I love what you're doing. We'll get back. We'll get 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:12.240 more into that at the end of the show. But UM, 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:14.360 I want to I want to ask you some questions. 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:17.160 We have some listener questions and we want you know. 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:21.120 You're a married man, You're a very successful person. UM. 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:23.800 I also love that you are a dreamer and an 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:26.960 achiever of dreams. You didn't just end up as a 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.120 country music star like you said. You are a fan 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:32.240 of music. You created a life in music, um, and 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:36.040 are literally living your dreams. So um a great role 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:39.960 model for our community. So our community has some questions. Uh. 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:42.200 Producer Tor is gonna read them and then you and 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:44.400 I are just going to rip through them, uh and 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:46.920 see if we serve our community the best from the 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:49.720 male perspective, because the show is called Hell many things. 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:54.240 So producer to fire away with question number one, please 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.360 and thank you all right? Question number one? Moving in together? 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:59.640 What is it a good time? Is it a quicker 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:05.160 process us when you're older? Oh? How does this work 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:10.280 to you? Go first? You and your wife? How long 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:11.959 was it when you guys moved in? How long do 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:14.720 you know each other? Uh? It's hard because we're we 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:17.840 are still back and forth is an actors, and so 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:19.640 I'm gonna so we go back and forth still in 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.440 the same two places we lived when we met. Um. 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:24.720 That being said, had we been in the same city, 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:29.040 I feel like we would have steadily been staying together, 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:33.120 probably within like five weeks. I think when you're older, 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:35.560 it's easier. I think, Oh, no, I guess the full 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:38.800 move is harder. When you're younger. I'm gonna say younger, 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:44.319 it's easier. You've got less stuff stuff. I think the opposite. 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:47.080 I think the older is easier because you're like I 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:49.080 think you just have a better grasp on where you 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.720 are and where the relationship might be. When you're young, 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:55.679 it's like you want your space and this one and 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:57.200 like I'm like, what what did it stay out of 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.040 my space? What did you stay there? Stay here? But 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:01.439 as you're older, I think just the composure within a 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:06.440 relationship changes, and so all the all the interactions like 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:09.400 a moving in change. And I also think you get 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:10.800 to the point when you're a little bit older of 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:14.920 like is this real or just is this just kind 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:18.959 of a facetious relationship. So when you're younger, I think 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.360 you can be in a relationship longer without really knowing 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:23.440 what it is. When you're older, I think you get 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:25.360 down to the nitty gritty, like, yes, I'm invested in 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:27.760 this person, they're invested in me, and so maybe you 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:32.240 move in quicker. Um, that would be my answer. Yeah, 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:35.440 I could get that. That makes sense. The one is 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:39.240 from Shannon What do men think about dating woman with 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:44.840 a child? What are the drawbacks? Um, so, either you 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:49.640 wanted to if I met a woman with a child, 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:53.000 It kind of goes back to what you're saying with 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:55.280 you know pretty quick if that's something you're in a 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.480 fully invest in when you're um, at least my age 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:01.280 if I met somebody you know and she had a kid, 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:08.440 I mean that's a question. Uh okay, this is this 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.720 is this is the show Man because it's we try 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:14.160 and be honest. But also it's like so like I'll 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.880 say it like I would, I would probably prefer to 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:20.840 meet somebody who didn't have a kid, just in honesty 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:23.840 that there's nothing wrong than having a kid. But just 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.520 like I would prefer to meet somebody and and start 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:31.280 my family fresh and new with them. Um to, people 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:33.120 are gonna, you know, say what they want to say, 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.800 but um, it just is I'd love to start a 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:39.120 life and build a life together. Um you don't know 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:42.760 what the history is of the other partner or if 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.560 it's been good or bad. There's nothing wrong with a 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:49.080 woman having a child, but um, just being honest to 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:52.160 this show, I would prefer to meet somebody without a child, 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:55.880 you know, just to start fresh new history. I don't know, 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.000 I think yeah, I think the pre the preference is 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:00.200 there for sure because you want that first it to 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:03.320 be yours. You wanted to be that bond of you know, 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:06.400 you and her and then the child. Whereas in a 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:08.760 kid Man you nailed it with the ex thing you 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:12.680 know who knows what you're dealing with with the other parent. Um, 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:15.040 I travel a ton. I have to travel for work 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.920 or seven. So my specific situation would be I would 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:23.360 need um, a mobile partner and a kid, you know, 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:25.240 with the X in another place, I can pose a 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:27.040 lot of issues. So it kind of comes down to 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:31.160 career and but preferably without. But yeah, not a game, 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:34.080 not a not a deal breaker. I have one of 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:37.360 my best buddies has four kids and met somebody with 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:42.400 four kids, so now they have eight. And uh, I 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:44.560 was like, I was like, you guys, gotta have one 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:46.240 together just so you have nine. Then you have a 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:52.640 full ball team. Yeah, you're good to good man. Um 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:54.560 oh man, I think once you have for though, man, 0:16:54.600 --> 0:16:56.200 I think if you have four and you meet somebody before, 0:16:56.200 --> 0:17:00.920 you're like, oh, yeah, that's what it is here we are, right, Tory. 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:04.000 Next one. Next one is from Jessica, how to respect 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:08.760 your boyfriend's relationship with his mother. She is so overbearing? 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.920 Oh interesting questions. Thank you for that with Jessica. Interesting 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:17.959 question because overbearing is a very general term. I'd like 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:21.080 to know more in depth on what she meant by overbearing, 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:26.680 like injects in their relationship or is still so motherly 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:31.240 to the boyfriend, Like what kind of overbearing is it? 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:36.960 But like looking at it from the opposite, you know, 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:40.560 you also have to carve out your boundaries, you know, 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.800 for Jessica, like if if I was looking at a 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:48.040 father in law, if the father because like if I 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:51.080 was dating a girl the father in law it was overbearing, 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:53.080 I don't think I'd have to have a discussion and 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:56.680 carve out some boundaries with both of them, one with 0:17:56.680 --> 0:18:00.000 with the woman and one with the dad. So maybe 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:03.000 that's the conversation with the boyfriend and be like what's 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:05.600 going on here? This is just what I see? Or 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:10.640 maybe maybe a conversation with the mom too, I don't know. Yeah, 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:12.359 I think you for sure have to. You have to 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:19.200 immediately signal that you of the respect issue there you 0:18:19.000 --> 0:18:22.000 and you know you have to compliment sandwich it. You've 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:24.399 gotta hit her immediately with like, I understand, this is 0:18:24.440 --> 0:18:26.119 your little boy, this is who you raised, and I 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.320 understand that you raised in a certain way that you've 0:18:28.359 --> 0:18:30.720 been in control of his life, his entire life, and 0:18:30.840 --> 0:18:33.520 you know you're his mom. There's nothing to'll ever change that, 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:37.600 replace that um and then figure out the nicest way 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:40.439 to possibly say it's my turn and then end it 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:44.520 with we love your input at the right time. But 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:49.080 you are so good. I have a wonderful father mother 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:51.240 in law, so I don't deal with that, but I 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:56.160 have in the past to an ungodly extent. That's why 0:18:56.160 --> 0:18:58.400 you're so good at this. But how did you do 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:00.040 the how did you do the middle of this? And 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:03.400 which where you were like hey, bar pump your brakes, 0:19:03.800 --> 0:19:07.880 you know like that? I was no. I was terrified 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:09.880 of her. I never had the talk and just let 0:19:09.880 --> 0:19:12.840 the relationship and I was no. She was a scary 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:17.959 as well. What was the following up? Um, do you 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:23.520 guys value the dad's input more or moms? As a son? 0:19:24.440 --> 0:19:26.920 I don't think you value one more than the other. 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:30.800 I don't think you value one more than the other. 0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:34.200 What do you mean, like, oh from our parents? Yeah? 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:37.359 As a as a son? Yeah. Whose opinions do you 0:19:37.480 --> 0:19:41.040 value more? Is it the moms or is it dad's speaking? 0:19:41.080 --> 0:19:44.120 Just from my perspective, I don't value one more than 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:48.040 the other. Um, they're very different, but they they're very 0:19:48.160 --> 0:19:53.119 they're both very um influential and necessary and loving and 0:19:53.240 --> 0:19:58.360 kind um in their own ways. Um, I've always said 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:01.280 this about my hockey career. My dad was very constructively, 0:20:01.840 --> 0:20:05.800 gave constructive criticism, always helping me to be better, wanting 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:08.600 me to improve and be better. And my mom was 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:10.600 always just like, you played your heart out, I'm so 0:20:10.640 --> 0:20:12.520 proud of you, Like I could never play a bad 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:16.240 game with my mom. So they're both are very They're 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:18.159 very different, but they're very important and the same as 0:20:18.240 --> 0:20:21.040 kind of in life, Like they show up different ways 0:20:21.080 --> 0:20:23.600 in life. But I don't put more stock or value. 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:26.959 I respect my parents equally just how my life has 0:20:27.000 --> 0:20:29.760 turned out, but it might be different for somebody else, Tyler, 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:34.760 what about you? Yeah, definitely. And I think in the 0:20:34.800 --> 0:20:38.040 perspective of if it's um the mom that's overbearing or 0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:39.320 the dad, and if you had to look at it 0:20:39.359 --> 0:20:42.080 that way. On that other side, I feel like an 0:20:42.080 --> 0:20:47.160 overbearing dad is a protective dad more than controlling. And 0:20:48.520 --> 0:20:52.000 I feel like every dad i've ever you know, other 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:57.399