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Speaker 1: This is John.

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Speaker 2: This is your og Okay Storytime podcast hosts, and.

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Speaker 3: We have some rocking stories for you coming up.

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Speaker 2: But before you rock out with your socks out, I

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Speaker 2: got a quick two minute ad break from a sponsors

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Speaker 2: keeping the show rocking and rolling. My wife's wedding ring

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Speaker 2: was destroyed, so I secretly replaced It is it secret.

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Speaker 3: My wife forty.

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Speaker 2: Four female, and I forty eight male, have been together

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Speaker 2: for seventeen years.

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Speaker 3: We are still stupid for each other and she is the.

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Speaker 2: Apps who loved my life, best friend, confidant, and co conspirator.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from deleted and if you

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Speaker 2: slash Okay Storytime subprend it. So, about two years ago

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Speaker 2: she started having joint aches and pains and some minor

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Speaker 2: swelling in her hands, wrist, ankles, et cetera. So off

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Speaker 2: we go to the general practitioner who gives us a

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Speaker 2: consult to a rheumatologist. Come to find out she has

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Speaker 2: rheumatoid arthritis, but no worries.

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Speaker 3: She starts treatment.

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Speaker 2: Fast forward to a month ago when our North Texas

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Speaker 2: weather decided to go full men and started changing temperatures, rain,

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Speaker 2: slash weather by the hour.

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Speaker 3: It seemed.

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Speaker 2: She woke up after overnight tempts changed and thunderstorms, and

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Speaker 2: her hands were huge worse. Her small petite fingers looked

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Speaker 2: like sausages. And even though she had been previously worn

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Speaker 2: about this, had slept in her wedding ring. So off

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Speaker 2: to the doctor's office. They had to cut off her ring.

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Speaker 2: So now for the bad our. Rings were special ordered

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Speaker 2: from Ireland and custom designed and have words in Gaelic

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Speaker 2: around the exterior of the ring negating any type of repair,

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Speaker 2: and they were designed and made seventeen years ago. But

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Speaker 2: she was absolutely gutted. I assured her we would figure

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Speaker 2: it out and it wasn't a big deal, but I

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Speaker 2: could tell to her it was begin Sherlock Holmes mode.

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Speaker 2: I googled until I couldn't google any more. I was

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Speaker 2: able to find the original jeweler had closed up shop

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Speaker 2: ten plus years ago, just due to age.

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Speaker 3: I searched some more.

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Speaker 2: I finally found his personal Facebook page and I message him,

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Speaker 2: and wait and wait. I finally get a response from

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Speaker 2: his daughter and she has noticed a pending message on

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Speaker 2: her dad's page and that he passed away just six

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Speaker 2: months ago. I expressed my condolences, and she asked what

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Speaker 2: the purpose of my inquiry was. I go into a

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Speaker 2: long diet tribe about what had happened. She tells me

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Speaker 2: she understands and is so sorry about what had happened.

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Speaker 2: Thust forward a couple of weeks, I get a message

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Speaker 2: on Facebook from an unknown person until she explains that

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Speaker 2: she was a daughter of the jeweler. She explains that

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Speaker 2: she went through all her dad's designs and looked at

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Speaker 2: the approximate dates and thinks she found the drawings, details

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Speaker 2: and molds in her dad's things and wanted me to confirm.

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Speaker 2: She sent pictures and I confirmed that yes, those are

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Speaker 2: our rings. She said she would get all this to

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Speaker 2: us as soon as possible and asked for our address.

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Speaker 2: I opened my email this morning to find tracking information

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Speaker 2: and pictures of our rings. She went ahead and had

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Speaker 2: her brother, who had taken over her father's business, make

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Speaker 2: our wedding bands again in her original size and two

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Speaker 2: extra in two larger sizes in case her condition causes

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Speaker 2: her fingers to swell slash change, and mailed them to

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Speaker 2: us at no charge. I asked why they did both

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Speaker 2: as mine was fine, and she said it would not

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Speaker 2: be fair that my wife had to have a new

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Speaker 2: ring and I was allowed to keep my old one.

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Speaker 2: She told me we needed to put our original set

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Speaker 2: away and to enjoy our new wedding bands. I asked

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Speaker 2: about compensation, and she said she was honored to keep

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Speaker 2: her dad's work and spirit alive. Our new wedding bands

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Speaker 2: will be here Thursday. Trying to think of a romantic

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Speaker 2: way to present her with them, as she has no

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Speaker 2: idea any of this took place. Any advice, We have

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Speaker 2: a quick edit, but first we all three need to

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Speaker 2: quickly say a romantic setting that we could present this

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Speaker 2: in Dakota.

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Speaker 4: Go.

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Speaker 1: It's not romantic, but it'd be funny.

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Speaker 5: Go go.

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Speaker 6: If you could somehow get your wife to say, well,

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Speaker 6: we're not just gonna find a new ring under a rock,

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Speaker 6: and you have them planted right under a rock, you

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Speaker 6: can go, I don't know, let's look here, Oh look

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Speaker 6: I found him. Think how think of how like broken

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Speaker 6: her brain would be in that moment.

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Speaker 1: It'd be so hilarious.

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Speaker 3: Let's do that one, you know, Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 7: I was.

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Speaker 3: You gave me just the perfect amount of time to cook.

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Speaker 2: You plan out a great day, like hey, honey, We're

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Speaker 2: gonna go to this this great restaurant.

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Speaker 3: It's like fancy, it's big, it's like all this stuff.

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Speaker 2: You're like, oh wow, cool. You get her all hyped up.

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Speaker 2: You keep like mentioning it. Then you hire someone as

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Speaker 2: like the uber to go there, but secretly they're in

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Speaker 2: cahoots with you, right, and then the uber driver, he's like,

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Speaker 2: starts going the wrong way, and then your wife is like, hey,

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Speaker 2: is this it?

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Speaker 3: And you're like hey, dude, like, what's what's going on?

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Speaker 3: What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Where are we going? Like where are we at?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: This is so frustrating. And then finally uh oh he

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Speaker 2: she's like, just let us get out here. Right, they

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Speaker 2: get out the freaking car. They're right in front of

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Speaker 2: the place they first met. And then the wife's like,

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Speaker 2: oh my gosh, like this is you took what I

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Speaker 2: was gonna say. And then he's like, oh, this is

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Speaker 2: this is the place we first met. And he's like,

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Speaker 2: that's because despite we've only been together seventeen years, our

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Speaker 2: love is timeless, and from the moment I met you

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Speaker 2: till the end of time, you just know that you

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Speaker 2: have my love.

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Speaker 3: Here's a new ring you took.

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Speaker 8: I was like, oh yeah, go to like your first

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Speaker 8: date or the first place you met or you know

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Speaker 8: where you got engaged, and just recreate the moment.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that three great ideas.

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Speaker 8: Also mine was really dumb too. Had a dumb one

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Speaker 8: go to a magic show and be like, go with

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Speaker 8: the magician, like, oh, have her go up there, and

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Speaker 8: he goes, oh is this your rings?

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Speaker 1: Exactly?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, honestly, be funny to me. It's got to be

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Speaker 2: Or like I've seen people propose on stage on stage,

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Speaker 2: but then it turns into like them proposing on stage

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Speaker 2: and it was all a fun little gimmick. But anyways,

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Speaker 2: we got net ited ladies, gentleman, So I rarely keep

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Speaker 2: was trying only for her to be ultimately disappointed. The

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Speaker 2: absolute hardest thing for me, for me now until they arrive,

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Speaker 2: will be to not tell her as we tell each

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Speaker 2: other everything. So now I need to not only figure

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Speaker 2: beans until then. Our friends nicknamed us Mickey and Mallory,

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Speaker 2: as well as Marshall and Lily from How I met

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Speaker 2: your mother, because we literally tell each other everything.

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Speaker 3: Edit number two.

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Speaker 2: I thought about taking her to our favorite favorite local

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Speaker 2: restaurant where I actually proposed to her. She's a nurse,

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Speaker 2: a via nurse, that's how we met eighteen years ago,

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Speaker 2: and so always goes to the bathroom to wash her

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Speaker 2: hands prior to ordering. When I originally proposed, I waited

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Speaker 2: until she got up to wash her hands and dropped

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Speaker 2: her ring in the wine glass and waited. I'm thinking

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Speaker 2: of a repeat there.

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Speaker 3: Come to number one. How about you tell her the

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Speaker 3: story you just told us. Step one.

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Speaker 2: Arrive at the dinner, tell her about the story you've

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Speaker 2: been really wanting to tell her.

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Speaker 3: Then show her the designs that the daughter sent you.

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Speaker 2: Oh this is pretty good as you tell it. This

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Speaker 2: by itself is incredibly sweet. Step two order the drinks

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Speaker 2: to give your aunt and uncle plenty of time for

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Speaker 2: some subtle, candid initial reaction picks as you tell the

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Speaker 2: first half of the story. Step three when your life

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Speaker 2: when your wife leaves to wash your hands, complete the

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Speaker 2: ring swap as you originally planned. Plot twist, but maybe

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Speaker 2: put your ring in two so you can replace your

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Speaker 2: rings together.

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Speaker 3: That's cute.

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Speaker 2: Step four, when she returns to discover the ring, complete

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Speaker 2: the story, et cetera, et cetera. Step five, sell the

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Speaker 2: story rights to Hallmark slash Lifetime because dang it, that's

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Speaker 2: the most heartwarming story I've ever heard on Reddit. However

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Speaker 2: you decide to unveal it. What an amazing story and surprise.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for posting it. By the sounds

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Speaker 2: of it, I'm not the only one whose day has

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Speaker 2: been made by reading this.

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Speaker 3: I'll definitely keep an eye out for.

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Speaker 2: Your updates and there is a reply freaking Wingman category

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Speaker 2: here I will be using this exact outline.

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Speaker 3: Thanks.

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Speaker 2: So, I have just returned from lunch where my wife

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Speaker 2: received her new bands. We kept it low key, no pictures,

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Speaker 2: nod and semi private. What we did was plan to

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Speaker 2: take her a cut band to the local jeweler after

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Speaker 2: lunch and invited our two sons before the appointments. While ordering,

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Speaker 2: saying he might be able to fix it. He takes

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Speaker 2: and strained, and then placed the fixed band on the

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Speaker 2: table and ask Mom, if that works, that's great, that's

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Speaker 2: that's amazing.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I would love it, She said, how did you

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Speaker 1: do that? He's like, I'm just Irish. Yeah, I'm just

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Speaker 1: it's just an Irish thing. I guess I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Look of the draw it runs in my blood.

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Speaker 2: She is astounded and places the band on her finger,

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Speaker 2: but it's too big.

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Speaker 3: Youngest son says, oh, he can fix that and asks

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Speaker 2: Wife reluctantly and with a lot of what the f

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Speaker 2: is going on on her face, hands the band to

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Speaker 2: our youngest. He takes it below the table and squeezes

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Speaker 2: it in strains and makes it smaller but not quite perfect.

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Speaker 3: When she puts it on. She's now trying to figure

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Speaker 2: As she takes it off, it starts to inspect it.

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Speaker 2: I take it away from her and do the same

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Speaker 2: act as our boys, but this time the band fits

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Speaker 2: perfectly on her finger, and she has quite literally had enough.

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Speaker 2: She finally takes it off and is expecting it pretty

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Speaker 2: hard and cannot figure it out until my oldest places

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Speaker 2: her cut an older band on the table, and our

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Speaker 2: youngest places to the large band on the table, and

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Speaker 2: I placed the next size on the table at this point,

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Speaker 2: she's just staring at all of us, and I explained

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Speaker 2: the jeweler, etcetera, etcetera, et cetera. I even showed her

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Speaker 2: the Reddit post and she didn't start crying until reading

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Speaker 2: the comments and all the caring and support that you

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Speaker 2: guys had post lunch resorder, and we talked about everything

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Speaker 2: we ate lunch as of family, parted ways back to

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Speaker 2: our respective work homes, et cetera. She, my wife, did

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Speaker 2: mention that after reading all the replies, she would have

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Speaker 2: unlived me if.

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Speaker 1: You need rain and sunshine to make a rainbow.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that is correct.

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Speaker 3: He's doing it right now. He's doing it right now.

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Speaker 2: They sent copies of the drawings and molds for our

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Speaker 2: Asking if there was any way to pay their kindness

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Speaker 2: what everyone of the story is amazing, even the redditors.

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Speaker 6: You're just swimming in precious O their awards, did the

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Speaker 6: Reddit awards. Dang it, You're right, dang. I was like,

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Speaker 1: Metals is sent to you.

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Speaker 3: I could see it after. I can see it having edit.

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Speaker 2: The daughter's son and an uncle are all working part

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Speaker 3: And that is the end of that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I stayed time and time again. I can't believe

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from a Green Sunflower seventeen

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Speaker 4: Everything smells like dog. I remove fur from chair legs

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Speaker 4: Get rid of the husband.

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Speaker 4: This consumes hours of my day every day just to

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Speaker 4: It's embarrassing. I've expressed my frustrations countless times, explaining how

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Speaker 4: When I asked if he planned to scoop litter boxes, silence,

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Speaker 4: I've grown resentful toward both him and Gregor. Every time

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Speaker 9: I've realized something in horror movies that in horror movies,

443
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Speaker 9: the real thing that the filmmaker is trying to communicate

444
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Speaker 9: is whatever is happening when the monster is not there

445
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Speaker 9: in this world, Gregor is the monster?

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Speaker 1: You removed?

447
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Speaker 5: Gregor?

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Speaker 9: Okay, this is what's actually happening. Like in the movie Godzilla.

449
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Speaker 9: Did you know that it's a I was talking to

450
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Speaker 9: Angie about this is a feminist revenge movie because the

451
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Speaker 9: protagonist is a woman and she's getting pulled away from

452
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Speaker 9: I think her fiance. That's like this like war Chief,

453
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Speaker 9: her dad and then this young guy that she's kind

454
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Speaker 9: of fall in love with, and every time one of

455
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Speaker 9: them tells her, hey, you should do this with your life,

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Speaker 9: the monster shows up.

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Speaker 3: Zilla movie? Are you talking the first one?

458
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Speaker 5: Like the og?

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Speaker 3: The ogg?

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Speaker 1: What is og og?

461
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Speaker 3: Like the one in Japan?

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Speaker 10: Okay, yeah, so I think look into the US.

463
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Speaker 9: Yeah, so Gregor is just kind of letting you know, hey,

464
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Speaker 9: I think this marriage is ready to And.

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Speaker 1: You can't blame Gregor. Gregor was just putt in the

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Speaker 1: wrong place.

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Speaker 10: He's just a dog who had a Yeah, you can't

468
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Speaker 10: put a crocodile in trained dog a zoo hoping it

469
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Speaker 10: doesn't eat all the animals anyway.

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Speaker 5: So yeah, yeah, I totally agree.

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Speaker 4: It's definitely not just about the dog, and she's realizing

472
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Speaker 4: that and good.

473
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Speaker 5: That's good.

474
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Speaker 4: But there is a little bit more into the story.

475
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Speaker 4: So now I hope he does rehome the dog if

476
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Speaker 4: that's his choice instead of stepping up. That's on him,

477
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Speaker 4: But it won't help our relationship. It'll become something that

478
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Speaker 4: he holds a grudge over, making me the bad guy

479
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Speaker 4: who forced him to get rid of his dog.

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Speaker 5: So reddit's am ida whole firm quote making my husband.

481
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Speaker 4: Get rid of his dog. If you read this far,

482
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Speaker 4: I truly appreciate it, and there are some comments. Comment

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Speaker 4: number one says, Opie, it is time to rehome your husband.

484
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Speaker 4: Number two says, can't believe he got rid of doogal

485
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Speaker 4: worst mistake. Opie says, this is the part that stood

486
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Speaker 4: out to me. That poor pup was already established in

487
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Speaker 4: his family, loved by the daughters, then was attacked in

488
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Speaker 4: his own home by a new dog, and then tossed

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Speaker 4: to the side for the new dog's comfort and the

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Speaker 4: comfort of the husband.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's huge.

492
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Speaker 4: The first loved pet of a family should always take priority.

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Speaker 4: I say this as someone who has an a Tillian

494
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Speaker 4: Pyrenees and who knows that she is destined to be

495
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Speaker 4: a single dog for the rest of her life because

496
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Speaker 4: she doesn't get along.

497
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Speaker 5: With other dogs. Cats. She's fine. Am I going to

498
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Speaker 5: get one anyway?

499
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Speaker 4: No?

500
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Speaker 5: I made a commitment to give her a home first.

501
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Speaker 4: If I brought an animal into the house that she

502
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Speaker 4: could not get along with, unfortunately, that new animal must

503
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Speaker 4: be rehomed. When you adopt a pet, you sign a

504
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Speaker 4: contract with that animal to protect them. Bringing a new

505
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Speaker 4: dog in that doesn't get along and is actively attacking

506
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Speaker 4: your dog is a breach of that contract. And Gregor

507
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Speaker 4: should have been rehomed, not Dougal. And damn what my

508
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Speaker 4: husband says, My heart hurts for Dougal. Honestly, Tom A

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Speaker 4: Number three says, here's what's going to happen. You're going

510
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 4: to contact a lawyer. The lawyer is going to help

511
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Speaker 4: you quantify your contributions to your house, to your home

512
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Speaker 4: through renovations. You're going to get on top of your

513
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Speaker 4: finances and prepare for the divorce.

514
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Speaker 5: They will help you.

515
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Speaker 4: Draw up agreements for alimony, child sport, and custody. You'll

516
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Speaker 4: put together the information necessary to garnish these payments through

517
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Speaker 4: the military in case it comes to that. Then you're

518
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Speaker 4: going to take all the unwanted animals to different rescues.

519
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Speaker 4: Now you'll be able to clean your home. Once you

520
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Speaker 4: do this, he's going to lose it and leave you.

521
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Speaker 5: You'll be ready to serve him with the divorce and boom.

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Speaker 3: Hey y'all, it's John Ogi host here. We're going to

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Speaker 3: get back to the stories. But here's a quick three

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Speaker 6: My friend copies everything I do, and now I'm starting

526
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Speaker 6: to question my sanity.

527
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Speaker 11: Do something really crazy. She has to copy.

528
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Speaker 6: I mid twenties female, am currently in the process of

529
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Speaker 6: completing my master's degree. About a year ago, I needed

530
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Speaker 6: a job so bad so I could pay off my

531
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Speaker 6: fees and landed in a retail shop for a small company.

532
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Speaker 1: But I'm confident in calling it successful.

533
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Speaker 6: I was very happy because I'm from a country where

534
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Speaker 6: unemployment is at its ultimate high, and to have someone

535
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Speaker 6: hire me while still studying was very much good. By

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Speaker 6: the way, this comes from user I Losing It sixty

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Speaker 6: four to fifty seven on the r slash charlottetob Brady

538
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Speaker 6: YouTube subreddit, and if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 6: go to the r slash Okay storytime subburn. There I

540
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Speaker 6: met my manager, also mid twenties, Emily. She was very sweet,

541
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Speaker 6: very kind, and all that she was also pursuing a

542
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Speaker 6: new degree. That's what she said. I found out months

543
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Speaker 6: later she was lying. By the second month of getting

544
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Speaker 6: the job, I had already got the hang of all

545
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Speaker 6: the daily runnings of my work and was already hard working.

546
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Speaker 6: The boss would somehow always say how much he feels

547
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Speaker 6: I'm not catching up with the work, even though I

548
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Speaker 6: would do all of my duties.

549
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Speaker 1: This was frustrating because she knew I.

550
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Speaker 6: Was doing all the work and why was he never

551
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Speaker 6: satisfied with the amount of work I was doing? And

552
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Speaker 6: she would tell me she was looking up for me.

553
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Speaker 6: To him, he is just a naturally unhappy person. I

554
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 6: would cry. She would console me and tell me she

555
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Speaker 6: has the power to get anyone fired or kept in

556
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Speaker 6: the shop, so I shouldn't work.

557
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Speaker 1: I'm there to stay. And I found out later she

558
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Speaker 1: did not have this power.

559
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Speaker 11: No, they never do when they say that.

560
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Speaker 1: At this point, she was a dear friend to me.

561
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Speaker 6: Now this is where things started to fall apart, when

562
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Speaker 6: my manager realized I could technically run the shop without her.

563
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Speaker 6: She would always be late in peace because I had

564
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Speaker 6: the keys to open up and got out during work

565
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Speaker 6: hours to do whatever she wanted, and asked me to

566
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Speaker 6: tell her when the bosses would arrive so she could

567
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Speaker 6: come back and lie and say she had a meeting somewhere.

568
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Speaker 6: I would always back her up because I felt indebted

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Speaker 6: to her. This became overwhelming because I was working for

570
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Speaker 6: two people and I was getting burnt out because of

571
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Speaker 6: my schoolwork and work.

572
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Speaker 1: Eventually, the boss realized.

573
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Speaker 6: That she wasn't pulling her weight, and she would complain

574
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Speaker 6: about how ungrateful he is that she's even always there

575
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Speaker 6: at work and willing to do it. So at this

576
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Speaker 6: point we were still very good friends and I was

577
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Speaker 6: still covering up for her.

578
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Speaker 1: Now this is where I believe I'm crazy.

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Speaker 6: At the beginning of this year, I decided I wanted

580
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Speaker 6: to show up for myself and had a point to

581
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Speaker 6: prove to myself that I can get whatever I wanted

582
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Speaker 6: if I worked hard enough. I told myself, I'm not

583
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Speaker 6: carrying anyone's burdens and I will try to see what

584
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Speaker 6: I can do to change the shop. That gave me

585
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Speaker 6: a chance, So I started with myself. I decided to

586
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Speaker 6: change my style. I have always liked crop tops, so

587
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Speaker 6: I needed a new minimalist, clean girl aesthetic and tweaked

588
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Speaker 6: it to my own sense of self. Keep in mind

589
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Speaker 6: that Emily has always dressed very nice in her own

590
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Speaker 6: very formal outfits. She has always mentioned that I dressed

591
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Speaker 6: like a teenager, but in a good way. I'm not

592
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Speaker 6: sure if that's a compliment, but I'll take it because

593
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Speaker 6: I want to stay forever young. She always said crop

594
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Speaker 6: tops are provocative, and she wants to dress classy to

595
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Speaker 6: not give the wrong idea to men. She also said

596
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Speaker 6: she doesn't do sneakers or track pants because they're not classy,

597
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Speaker 6: which is fine with me.

598
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Speaker 1: To each their own.

599
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Speaker 6: Now, as I changed my style, she all of a

600
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Speaker 6: sudden changed hers. She started wearing crop tops and baggy pants,

601
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Speaker 6: just like me. I tried to dismiss it, but I

602
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 6: could see so much resemblance in her outfits.

603
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Speaker 1: Then the backpacks.

604
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Speaker 6: She has always been a handbag Girlely, she asked where

605
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Speaker 6: I got it. I told her, and she bought the

606
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Speaker 6: exact same one, just a different color.

607
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 1: Then it became a pattern.

608
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Speaker 6: When I bought something, she would ask where I got

609
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Speaker 6: it from, and I would tell her.

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Speaker 1: The one day she.

611
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Speaker 6: Asked where I got these baggy track pants. I lied

612
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Speaker 6: to her and told her a different site from where

613
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Speaker 6: I got them. I found her searching on the site

614
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Speaker 6: looking for the track pants.

615
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Speaker 1: It's not only that.

616
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Speaker 6: When I started growing my nails, she asked me advice

617
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Speaker 6: on how to grow hers, and I gladly gave her

618
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Speaker 6: the advice.

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Speaker 1: Then my jewelry.

620
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Speaker 6: I started wearing jewelry and she started to And I'm

621
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Speaker 6: not saying she wasn't in a jewelry before, but not

622
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Speaker 6: at the time. When I stopped wearing jewelry, she stopped too.

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Speaker 6: Please bear in mind that this didn't bother me before.

624
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 6: It's starting to bother me now as I'm realizing the pattern.

625
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 6: Most of our stuff are the same now, down to

626
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Speaker 6: something as earphones. I know this is stupid to even notice,

627
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 6: but I can't help it. It's not stupid to notice this.

628
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Speaker 6: This is psychotic behavior.

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Speaker 7: This is like, this makes me wonder if someone came

630
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Speaker 7: into the shop or wherever you work and like complimented

631
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Speaker 7: ope or like told em like I really like Opie,

632
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 7: and like maybe she liked that person, or like maybe

633
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 7: she was like I want that attention. So now she's

634
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,479
Speaker 7: like hyper focused on like I need to look just

635
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 7: like her so that these same people like me.

636
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Speaker 6: But like this is weird, Like what is it that

637
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 6: you got that she wants so bad?

638
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 11: And what clicked to make her like suddenly do this.

639
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, but it's not stupid to realize this.

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Speaker 6: It's like, this is the behavior of someone who will,

641
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Speaker 6: like I don't know, leave you in the woods because

642
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 6: they like they want to steal your place.

643
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 1: And everyone will think I'm Opie and then I'll have

644
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Speaker 1: her life and it'll be perfect.

645
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 6: I bought these green Converse and she dismissed it as

646
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 6: those green shoes of yours, like they're not expensive, beautiful shoes.

647
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 1: And you know what, she went and.

648
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 6: Bought a knockoff version of the exact same shoes in

649
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:44,480
Speaker 6: a different color and came back to tell me she

650
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Speaker 6: bought the shoes that are the same as mine.

651
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Speaker 1: Now she bought sneakers. Did I tell you?

652
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Speaker 6: She thought sneakers were not womanly and I have always

653
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 6: won sneakers. Anyways, it's winter now. I went and bought coats.

654
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 6: When I wore the first one, she said, ooh, nice fur.

655
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 6: The fur is on the smallest part of the coat,

656
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 6: just the collar. Then when I wore the other coach,

657
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 6: she said to me, girl, I am gonna have to

658
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Speaker 6: be your twin.

659
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Speaker 1: Where did you buy your coat?

660
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Speaker 6: And when I said no, I do not want to

661
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Speaker 6: be your twin, she said, don't gatekeep because even if

662
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Speaker 6: you gatekeep where you bought it, because I can hunt

663
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Speaker 6: it down and buy two of them.

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Speaker 1: Why specifying you can buy two.

665
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 11: Right like you had to buy a knockoff Converse.

666
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 7: Converse aren't even that she's like this expensive green Converse

667
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 7: shoes girl commerce are not expensive compared to most shoes.

668
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, I don't know this. All of

669
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 1: her vibes are just off.

670
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 6: That was a weird way to compliment someone, but I

671
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 6: ended up just telling her where I bought it. Where

672
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 6: when I wore the third coat, she said, ooh, you

673
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,479
Speaker 6: really told yourself you want to put your foot on

674
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 6: our next with the coats.

675
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 11: This been for like a week.

676
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 7: Start dressing really weird, like a style that nobody would want.

677
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 11: Just suck up the fact that everyone's gonna think you're

678
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 11: gonna look really weird. Let her get all that and

679
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 11: then just go back to your old stough.

680
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,480
Speaker 6: It'd be less strange if this was just a friend.

681
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 6: But it's your manager at work. It's like, that's what makes.

682
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 1: It so weirdy.

683
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:56,000
Speaker 7: This is somebody though, that you only have to see

684
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 7: at work, so as weird as it is, and you

685
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 7: definitely should still report them, Like at least this isn't

686
00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 7: like someone that.

687
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 11: Follows you like everywhere you go, Like you show up

688
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 11: to work, but that's it.

689
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 7: Like you can totally dress completely differently at work and

690
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 7: then go home.

691
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 6: This is weird because it makes me uncomfortable to wear

692
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,479
Speaker 6: my new clothes. She always says how she has style

693
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 6: and she is very pretty. He doesn't even have to

694
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 6: try hard because she knows she's all that she tries

695
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 6: too hard, she knows she will look hotter than everyone.

696
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 6: That's what she said when she was complaining about how

697
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 6: she's struggling with her style, and I tried to help

698
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 6: her with creating her own using Pinterest and likewise apps.

699
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: I am in no way saying that I invented my style.

700
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 6: I also had to see it somewhere else, like on

701
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,400
Speaker 6: Pinterest first before I liked it and shop the clothes.

702
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 6: We're just talking about exacting though nobody had like the

703
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 6: organic idea of like, I'm without any prior knowledge going

704
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 6: to get into T shirts.

705
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: It's like, no, that, of course you know what it?

706
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 7: You know, whatever does just Cassandra said, hear me out

707
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 7: bald cap earlier.

708
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:53,719
Speaker 6: Yeah, just like fake tattoo sleeves, bald cap, wear your

709
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 6: sunglasses upside down, two hats stacked on top of each other.

710
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 6: The craziest thing is her being like I would be

711
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 6: I would have better style, but if I did it,

712
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 6: I'd be so hot.

713
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 1: No men would talk to any other woman on the planet.

714
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 11: The universe just wouldn't be able to handle that. I'm

715
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 11: doing you all a favor.

716
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 6: Actually, yeah, I do this for everyone. Why is she

717
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 6: even paying that much attention? Or am I just overthinking it? Anyways,

718
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 6: let's move on to work. As I said, new Year

719
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 6: knew me, I need to get out of my comfort zone.

720
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 6: I revamped the website. She told the boss. We revamped

721
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 6: the website. I started venturing out to get more business.

722
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 6: Every time I would come with good news, she would

723
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 6: get moody or maybe I'm just imagining it. When all

724
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:33,239
Speaker 6: my quotes came back, she would act like she had

725
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 6: a part in it. Every time I did something good.

726
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 6: We speak French, it's we we we. But she never

727
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 6: misses an opportunity to throw me under the bus when

728
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 6: I do something wrong or make a mistake. When she

729
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 6: does something good, she claims it's only her, which is true,

730
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 6: it is only her, but in cases of mistakes, it's

731
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 6: another we.

732
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 1: Again to the boss. It did make a.

733
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,200
Speaker 6: Comment about how in their country the unemployment rate's pretty high, but.

734
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 11: Like, okay, but you can totally for job. You still

735
00:32:58,040 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 11: have your job.

736
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, it does away.

737
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 7: Unallowed, especially if like, yeah, start by going to HR.

738
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 7: Maybe there's a way that if this is like some

739
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 7: sort of like shift thing, because it sounds like it

740
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 7: might be a store, So maybe you can go like

741
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 7: opposite shifts of this person. Maybe you can do like

742
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 7: do not work with this person. I don't know the vibes,

743
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 7: but you can definitely report this somewhere.

744
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 6: Range vibes, strange vibes at the retail establishment.

745
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 1: It's crazy.

746
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 6: I ran a sale and sent the email to my

747
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 6: mailing list that I created when we started receiving more orders.

748
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 6: She copied and pasted the exact same email I sent

749
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 6: to the mailing list. The part where you write kind

750
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 6: regards my name, she changed too kind regards her name.

751
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 7: I will say, it probably does look good to have

752
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 7: the one business all send it the same email though.

753
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you should get credit.

754
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, she doesn't mind keeping my name in copying emails

755
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 6: where I'm in trouble.

756
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: It's so weird.

757
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 6: Every time I would get a day off for my

758
00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 6: schoolwork when I came back to work, she wants a

759
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 6: day off too. When I get sick and I get

760
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 6: a day off when I come back, she is sick.

761
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 11: Too, okay, E like go behavior.

762
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 6: I decided to ignore her, but I can't. Makes working

763
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 6: a very difficult thing for me. He's very moody most

764
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 6: of the time. We laugh one second and the next

765
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:11,359
Speaker 6: she's throwing things around, and I always try to stay

766
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:13,120
Speaker 6: in my business, but I'm struggling.

767
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: So read it.

768
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 6: Am I a crazy, delusional girl who's seeing things in

769
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 6: her head? Or am I the a hole for feeling

770
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 6: weirded out about this whole thing? Darry for the long post.

771
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,799
Speaker 7: No, I'm sure that in some ways maybe you're seeing

772
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 7: a little bit more than she is actually doing because

773
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 7: you're on that like locked in train.

774
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 11: But she's crazy, yes, crazy if.

775
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,280
Speaker 6: You're literally like yeah, so we're like ooh one second

776
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 6: and then she's throwing things around.

777
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 1: Not cool? You know that you're not weird for thinking

778
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:44,280
Speaker 1: that's kind of weird, right? Come on, folks.

779
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 4: My wife went out with a recently divorced friend and

780
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:52,879
Speaker 4: lied about her whereabouts Where is she? Last Saturday on

781
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:55,919
Speaker 4: June twenty eighth, my wife went out with a friend

782
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 4: who was recently divorced. She invited my wife out to

783
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 4: a brewery for a fun and she had told me

784
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 4: that she would be gone from about four to eight,

785
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 4: she took our youngest to their house to play with

786
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 4: her friend's child who are the same age and their

787
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 4: teenage daughter who was going to watch them. By the way,

788
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 4: this comes from below average dad, and if you want

789
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 4: to submit your own stories, go to the r slashowcase

790
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 4: storytime at separated It. So would move fast forward to

791
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 4: nine ish and I haven't heard from her. I know

792
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 4: they left the brewery and apparently decide to go bar

793
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 4: hopping to find her a man. Ooh, okay, not a

794
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 4: big deal to me. I'm comfortable with her being a

795
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 4: wingman anytime. Around eleven, I text her to see how

796
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 4: it's going, and again looking for a man for the front.

797
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 4: I send back the laugh emoji an a thumbs up cricket.

798
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 4: Until one a m. She says, my son is asleep

799
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 4: and she is sleeping there and she's being the designated driver.

800
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 4: I doubt that, but my wife is pretty good at

801
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 4: pacing herself. At this point, I find it really odd

802
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 4: that she wouldn't just wake up our kid and come

803
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 4: home at one am.

804
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 5: So I get curious and check to see where her

805
00:35:59,120 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 5: car is.

806
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 4: It's a newer car, so the app shows the location,

807
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:05,280
Speaker 4: and they're at another bar until about one thirty.

808
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 5: This is where it gets uncomfortable for me.

809
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 4: They leave and go to a random house, nowhere near

810
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 4: her friend's house or anything. I find it a little odd.

811
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 4: Her car doesn't leave from that point on. Around two thirty,

812
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 4: I decide that I need to do some recon It's

813
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 4: about a twenty minute drive, but away from town. I

814
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 4: drive out there and there's a house and barn and

815
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 4: clearly a party going on. I get out eat close

816
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 4: enough that I can hear people and music, but not

817
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 4: close enough to really see. Because it was a gravel driveway,

818
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 4: I didn't want to make noise. So I sit around

819
00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 4: for about an hour deciding how I should handle the situation.

820
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,320
Speaker 4: Do I wait until Sunday and ask her how everything

821
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 4: went last night and what time they got in and

822
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 4: see if she lies to me, or do I confront

823
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:48,880
Speaker 4: the situation. Around three thirty, I decided I need to

824
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:51,359
Speaker 4: just drive up and see what happens. I pull up

825
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 4: with my lights off. Nobody notices because of the music.

826
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,320
Speaker 4: I peek into the barn and there's a camper trailer

827
00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 4: with no lights on. I go over to the house

828
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 4: and see my wife's friend and two guys talking. I

829
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 4: peek in the window and nobody else is visible. I

830
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 4: walk in the front.

831
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:08,239
Speaker 5: Door and say I'm looking for my wife.

832
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:11,360
Speaker 4: And the two guys look surprised, and one guy introduces himself.

833
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 4: I was happy it didn't get confrontational. My wife's friend

834
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 4: immediately walks out and takes me over to a different

835
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 4: camper trailer and walks in and shuts the door, and

836
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 4: I quickly hop in there, and my wife is sleeping

837
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:23,720
Speaker 4: on the bed.

838
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:24,879
Speaker 1: So we go.

839
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 4: Outside, and I'm like, I just had to make sure

840
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 4: my wife is safe, but explain that I don't think

841
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 4: it's okay then a married person would meet random guys

842
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,800
Speaker 4: and go to their house. There is some other dialogue,

843
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,719
Speaker 4: but for the sake of time, I'll spare some of that,

844
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 4: but basically I peace out and just say that I'm

845
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,319
Speaker 4: mostly upset that they would leave my child unaccompanied all night,

846
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 4: and if they wanted to go bar hopping all night,

847
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 4: I wouldn't really care. But I don't think married couples

848
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 4: should be in a position like this because they spent

849
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 4: the whole night there. Next morning, at seven thirty am,

850
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 4: my wife texts me and says that they're at my

851
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:58,400
Speaker 4: wife's friend's house.

852
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,840
Speaker 5: Uh. So she comes home around.

853
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 4: Two pm on Sunday and I walk in with my

854
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 4: other kids and she's like, are you still mad at

855
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 4: me for falling asleep. I didn't say anything to her,

856
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 4: and we had a sports barbecue that I ended up

857
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 4: being at until about nine pm with my kids, and

858
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 4: she was asleep when I got home. I got up

859
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 4: early this morning and went to work. Am I the

860
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:20,440
Speaker 4: able or am I too crazy for confronting the situation.

861
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:22,919
Speaker 4: Part of the reason I decided to drive out there

862
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:25,359
Speaker 4: is that in June twenty twenty four, my wife was

863
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 4: on a work trip to New York City and she

864
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 4: had a stroke in her hotel room, and her coworkers

865
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 4: called me at six am the next morning to ask

866
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 4: if I had heard from my wife, and I said no.

867
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 4: I tracked her through find my iPhone and she was

868
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,280
Speaker 4: at the hospital. Her family has a history of strokes,

869
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,240
Speaker 4: her sister at thirty five and her brother at thirty

870
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 4: three and her dad at forty, so I am cautious

871
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 4: of her.

872
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 5: Going out without me.

873
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:50,080
Speaker 4: We do have an update nice well wow, man, Yeah,

874
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 4: just like a lot of lack of communication going on,

875
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 4: which is exactly.

876
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 5: Not good problem. It is a problem. It's like weird because.

877
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 4: It's yeah, definitely a lack of community with like the

878
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 4: stuff in New York City, which you know, if she's

879
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 4: actually having a stroke, maybe she like can't just like

880
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:09,200
Speaker 4: text really quick. Yeah, that same time, I feel like

881
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:11,800
Speaker 4: they would be like, hey, is there anyone we can call? Yeah,

882
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 4: I don't know, how about a husband that we can call? Yeah,

883
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 4: I feel like that would happen, right, I would hope,

884
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 4: So I would certainly hope.

885
00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:19,280
Speaker 5: So Yeah.

886
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 4: But then in this modern situation, it's like she it's

887
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 4: not even that she's not communicating unless she's.

888
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 5: Lying about just lying what's happening.

889
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 4: She's lying she's staying over at randomple's houses when she's

890
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 4: supposed to be picking up the kids.

891
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 5: Exactly.

892
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:31,399
Speaker 3: Yeah.

893
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 12: And all the people who are saying legoage can be

894
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 12: any age, that's kind of the point. It's that joke

895
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 12: because we don't know their age.

896
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 4: So it's very true we don't have the age, but

897
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,160
Speaker 4: pretty surely no, it's probably two plus, which is legoage. Yeah,

898
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 4: I'm going to guess they're around like six to nine.

899
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:49,319
Speaker 4: That's my guess, indeed, But we do have a second update, Yeah,

900
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 4: o Pee, I don't think you are in the wrong. No,

901
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 4: we had about ten to fifteen minutes to talk before

902
00:39:55,239 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 4: I had to go to a meeting. I asked flat

903
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 4: out if she had spicy sleep, and she said no.

904
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 4: Then she made a snarky comment of but I easily

905
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,879
Speaker 4: could have and that completely real.

906
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: Wee wee wee. What did o?

907
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 5: Be asked if she had spicy sleep that night? Yeah,

908
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:15,480
Speaker 5: that's what I do, and she said, oh no, but

909
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:16,160
Speaker 5: I could have.

910
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 4: What She said that her friend knew whose house it

911
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 4: was and knew the guys, and that there was another

912
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 4: married couple there. She said that both guys that I

913
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,360
Speaker 4: talked to knew that she was married. She said that

914
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 4: they were friends she's known for a while, but has

915
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 4: a crush on one, and clarifying, my wife's friend supposedly

916
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 4: knows them, and my wife's friend has a crush on one.

917
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, that's exactly what you just said, OPI So okay,

918
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:44,880
Speaker 5: but thanks for clarifying you. It took a while for

919
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 5: me to get an apology. Not going to lie. This

920
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 5: sucks bad. She almost has no remorse.

921
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 4: She admitted that it was a stupid thing to do,

922
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 4: but felt that she couldn't leave her friend and come home.

923
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:59,319
Speaker 4: I said, that's ridiculous. You should have grabbed our kid

924
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 4: at two and drove home. She said that she'll never.

925
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 5: Do it again.

926
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 4: I brought up if I did that, how it would look,

927
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 4: and that's basically the only way I got an apology

928
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 4: or acknowledgment that it was a bad idea. But she

929
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 4: also deflected that because my mom cheated, that I was

930
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 4: comparing her to my mom. I said, I said, no,

931
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:23,919
Speaker 4: I'm not accusing you of anything, but that I'm sure.

932
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,279
Speaker 5: That this is how it starts out.

933
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 12: Girl, She's pulling the pointing fingers thing. She's like, oh,

934
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 12: it's because do you have trauma? Yeahsy here blaming me. No,

935
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 12: I'm blaming you because you literally just said I could have.

936
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 5: If I wanted to.

937
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 12: Yeah, yeah, like what like freaking you know Nixon being like, no,

938
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 12: I didn't. I didn't do anything.

939
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:46,799
Speaker 5: When I could have. Like, if you, if you don't

940
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 5: want to be compared to this mom, that don't look

941
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:53,720
Speaker 5: like you're cheated. Man, don't be staying at random guy's house.

942
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 1: We all know.

943
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 4: I got home a little bit before nine pm, and

944
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 4: she's asleep in our room with two of our kids.

945
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 5: So we do have a secret update. Second up day.

946
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 4: Shall we just jump right into yeah, let's do it.

947
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 4: I was uneasy last night, so we had a late

948
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 4: night discussion. She went through everything that they did that evening.

949
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 4: She said that they went to a bar with a

950
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 4: younger crowd, and at that point her friend wanted to

951
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 4: meet up with the guy that she my wife's friend.

952
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 5: Had a crush on at another bar.

953
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 4: My wife said there that she didn't have a drink

954
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 4: and was talking to an older gentleman, like in his eighties,

955
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 4: and he was talking about his grandkids. She said her

956
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:29,280
Speaker 4: friend was going to uber with the other two guys

957
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:32,239
Speaker 4: that she my wife's friend supposedly knew to the bar

958
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 4: and house where I'm married a couple of lives. It

959
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 4: seems like an odd thing and doesn't really add up

960
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 4: to me. My wife can be a yes person and

961
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 4: said because she was sober that she offered to drive

962
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 4: them out there to make sure her friend was okay.

963
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 5: She said they sat around, talked for a.

964
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:47,879
Speaker 4: Bit, and then she asked the owner of the house,

965
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 4: the married woman, if she could lay down for a bit,

966
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:52,759
Speaker 4: and that's what led her to the trailer. I can't

967
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 4: buy that onto me. I'm sorry, I just like I

968
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 4: don't buy that. A person who was supposed to go

969
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:58,919
Speaker 4: pick up their kids was like, yeah, I'm just gonna

970
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 4: take a nap, like yeah, well, like I feel like

971
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 4: why not even if you're because if she's going from

972
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,880
Speaker 4: a point of being like, hey, friend, like I worry

973
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:10,240
Speaker 4: about you driving out to a barn with some people

974
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 4: that you kind of know, like I don't know, like

975
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 4: if if she knew them, if she knew them enough

976
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:18,040
Speaker 4: to like go to their barn at all, then she

977
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 4: would probably be safe a long yeah, you know. But

978
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:23,400
Speaker 4: if she didn't know them that well and still wanted

979
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 4: to like go out there, then she probably shouldn't go

980
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 4: at all, you know.

981
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 5: Exactly, So like the Opie's wife should just be like.

982
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 4: Hey, my kids are literally like at your place, Like

983
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 4: I gotta go pick up my kids. Yeah, I gotta

984
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:37,400
Speaker 4: be responsible of them over you because you're an adult.

985
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 5: Exactly.

986
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 4: No, that's exactly what I would say, like, Hey, I'll

987
00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:42,879
Speaker 4: call you an umber, I'll get you home.

988
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 5: I gotta go pick up my kids.

989
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:45,799
Speaker 12: Yeah, or you can come with me go pick up

990
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:48,080
Speaker 12: my kids, right right, But we're either way, I'm leaving

991
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 12: to go pick up my kids.

992
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 5: Exactly, so be safe, make your choices.

993
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 4: She said that she wasn't planning on staying long, but

994
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,799
Speaker 4: long enough to drive home to be frank, because she

995
00:43:57,960 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 4: does have a narcolepsy and when she needs nap she

996
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 4: literally cannot stay awake.

997
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 5: I told her that she should have thrown them in

998
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:04,920
Speaker 5: an uber and paid for it.

999
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:07,439
Speaker 4: She was more apologetic and assured me that I wasn't

1000
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 4: crazy for showing up or being upset by her behavior

1001
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 4: and decision making. I still plan on talking to her

1002
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 4: friend see if she'll give me the same details.

1003
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 5: To make sure that it adds up.

1004
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 4: That night, when I confronted her, she assured me that

1005
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 4: nothing happened as well, and she did seem somewhat sincere

1006
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 4: about that. As for our relationship, those that have done

1007
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:26,360
Speaker 4: some research are aware of our passed away bedroom situation,

1008
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 4: which has gone on for a few years.

1009
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 5: To say the least.

1010
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 4: We have been married for eighteen and a half years

1011
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 4: and she has literally never done something close to this,

1012
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,240
Speaker 4: and she is not a regular drinker or adult soda

1013
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:41,320
Speaker 4: drinker at all because of some of her health issues.

1014
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:43,959
Speaker 4: She usually doesn't go without me or someone who knows

1015
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 4: some of the issues she could have, and she can't

1016
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:47,160
Speaker 4: drive very far on her own.

1017
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 5: We do have an update number three.

1018
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:52,399
Speaker 4: I grabbed her iPad out of the car around four

1019
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 4: am because I couldn't sleep and went looking. I read

1020
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 4: through all current messages and now recovering all the deleted ones.

1021
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:02,280
Speaker 4: That was a one cent of updates, two sentence obi's

1022
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:03,320
Speaker 4: like four am.

1023
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:07,280
Speaker 12: I looked through her iPad. Yeah, update four oh three am.

1024
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:10,359
Speaker 12: I ran to the store to see if she was there.

1025
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 12: Exactly four ten am.

1026
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: I went home.

1027
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 5: All right, I'll obtain number four.

1028
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:19,879
Speaker 4: I read through all of her texts with her friend

1029
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 4: and obviously every other message. Nothing concerning or no major

1030
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:25,879
Speaker 4: gaps in the timeline. Not a lot of messages during

1031
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 4: that time since they were together.

1032
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 5: And I did.

1033
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 4: Recover two hundred sixteen deleted messages from her friend, but

1034
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 4: it did not change anything in what I read prior

1035
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 4: to recovery. That's a whole lot of texts. Man, I

1036
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 4: feel like after the first hundred you should.

1037
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 1: Let it go.

1038
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 12: Well, I think that you either let it go or

1039
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:45,800
Speaker 12: you say, hey, we need to talk. I don't trust

1040
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:49,479
Speaker 12: you and we need therapy, or to split up because

1041
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 12: this doesn't work.

1042
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1043
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1044
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 4: There's quite a bit of dialogue over the next two

1045
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 4: days about asking if we had talked and how things

1046
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 4: are going. I did find out about a concert that

1047
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:00,560
Speaker 4: they were planning on going to, which will not happen

1048
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 4: if we're together.

1049
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 5: I'm guessing this is the wife and the sister or

1050
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 5: the friend.

1051
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:08,439
Speaker 4: The friend mentions that I need a day or two,

1052
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 4: and my wife says she feels horrible because.

1053
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 5: She didn't communicate with me. There's a three hour gap.

1054
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 4: But they had to take their dog of fifteen years

1055
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 4: to the vet to be put down, which they mentioned

1056
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 4: before they met Saturday and almost canceled.

1057
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 5: Who's they is? Whose dog is this? This dog? Is this?

1058
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 4: I thought this was like with the wife and the friend,

1059
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 4: But why do they have a fifteen year old dog together.

1060
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 4: My wife mentions that she is the only one that

1061
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:37,000
Speaker 4: should have been concerned about her marriage. The friend says

1062
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 4: that she wishes that she had a body cam to

1063
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 4: show me nothing happened. The conversation ends yesterday late afternoon

1064
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 4: and she works during the day. I also found out

1065
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 4: that my wife invited her to the brewery for the

1066
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 4: fundraiser slash concert.

1067
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:53,400
Speaker 5: I did not know that. I also went through and

1068
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 5: recovered all her other messages back to September twenty twenty

1069
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 5: three to read through those, including family, and there are

1070
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:03,320
Speaker 5: no suspicion, just texts. Dude. Yeah, you're in deep, dude.

1071
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 4: This is just like so so far gone. You've breached

1072
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 4: trust so much. Yeah, I mean yeah, that's whether you

1073
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 4: find it or not. Your trust is gone. Yeah, Because honestly,

1074
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:21,120
Speaker 4: it's like I would believe her that she didn't do

1075
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:21,919
Speaker 4: anything with these guys.

1076
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 12: Yeah, I mean, like, did she break your trust by

1077
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 12: not going and picking up the kids.

1078
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:28,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's a different problem exactly. Like the story was

1079
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 5: weird and that was still a problem.

1080
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, but like I kind of believe what happened, you know,

1081
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:37,399
Speaker 4: not saying that it's okay because of the kids. She said, Yeah,

1082
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:40,920
Speaker 4: I could have done it. Yeah, that was definitely weird.

1083
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 4: But these are all different problems in your relationship and

1084
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,800
Speaker 4: you're looking for one. Yeah, you have a bunch, You got.

1085
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:49,320
Speaker 5: Enough, You've got some don't worry.

1086
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:52,319
Speaker 4: I told her this morning, when it was me or

1087
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:54,879
Speaker 4: her friend, what she said that she wasn't going to

1088
00:47:54,920 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 4: not be her friend because our kids are friends and

1089
00:47:56,920 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 4: she doesn't have a lot of friends here, which is true,

1090
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 4: but I said, I don't care no way.

1091
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:04,680
Speaker 5: Me or her. This escalated very fast.

1092
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 4: She had to think about it, so I said I'm done.

1093
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 4: Then she came back and said, maybe we need some boundaries.

1094
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 4: I agreed, and we are going to talk in person

1095
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 4: this afternoon. Kids had practice this morning, and I'm in

1096
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 4: the office not working clearly that yeah, me or your friend?

1097
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 4: Because what because I went with my friend to this thing.

1098
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 4: I it's just Op.

1099
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:27,760
Speaker 12: I mean OP has gone so far down the rabbit

1100
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 12: hole of you know, trying to find the one thing

1101
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:33,400
Speaker 12: that proves she cheated.

1102
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 5: And now he's like, ah, you need to.

1103
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:38,319
Speaker 12: You can only be friends with you. I allow you

1104
00:48:38,360 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 12: to be friends. Like you've gone too far.

1105
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you cannot trust her, then you have to leave.

1106
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,799
Speaker 4: You can't control her so that you can trust her

1107
00:48:47,840 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 4: more Like that doesn't work exactly, But there is a

1108
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 4: little bit more to the story. Update number five. I'm done.

1109
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 4: We've been going back and forth about our relationship and

1110
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,280
Speaker 4: I told her she's the only one I've ever wanted,

1111
00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:01,439
Speaker 4: and that she needs to tell me if she wants

1112
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 4: me beyond this weekend and our passed away bedroom, if

1113
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 4: she not just loves me, but wants to be married

1114
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 4: to me. She said that she wouldn't throw it all

1115
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:12,720
Speaker 4: away for one night, and aside from that, I don't

1116
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 4: want another man. I said, okay, but do you want

1117
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 4: to be married to me? She said, of course I

1118
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 4: want to be married. I said, but married to me?

1119
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:24,640
Speaker 4: She said, what the ef? Who else would I be

1120
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 4: talking about? I told her that I'm talking to a

1121
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:28,720
Speaker 4: divorce attorney tomorrow morning.

1122
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 5: She said, fine, do it. Some of you are right.

1123
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 5: She gave up on me a long time.

1124
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 1: I think you gave up, oh.

1125
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 5: Too, I think you both gave up on this relationship.

1126
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, this feels so weird. I'm guessing there was like

1127
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 4: a lot more in their relationship that was probably cosmos.

1128
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 4: It must be, because it kind of felt like at

1129
00:49:46,719 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 4: the beginning, I mean maybe I just assumed that, like

1130
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 4: the relationship was perfect, and then.

1131
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 5: This happened, you know.

1132
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, but if this happened, and then it's like jump

1133
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 4: starting all of these other like big moves like divorce

1134
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 4: and like reviving two hundred and sixteen deleted messages, like,

1135
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 4: it feels like there's a lot more going on that

1136
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 4: we just don't really know all the dirty details of.

1137
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 5: Absolutely. Yeah, but dang, hey, Sam, we're gonna get back

1138
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:13,880
Speaker 5: to the stories.

1139
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 3: But here's three minutes of bads from our sponsors.

1140
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Speaker 12: My wife cheated on me, but it made me happy. Well,

1141
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 12: go ahead, then, wife. I twenty six male, have been

1142
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,439
Speaker 12: married to my wife, twenty six female, Laana for eight

1143
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:29,720
Speaker 12: years now. I met her sixteen years ago in elementary school.

1144
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:33,319
Speaker 12: We started dating in middle school and slept together for

1145
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 12: the first time in high school. Oh, in our young minds,

1146
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 12: we thought we were absolutely in love. Nothing would tear

1147
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 12: us apart. By the way, this comes from burner Ax

1148
00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 12: Satisfied and if you want to smit your own stories,

1149
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:47,480
Speaker 12: go to the r slash Okay, storytime separate it. So

1150
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:50,759
Speaker 12: I grew up in Georgia as a Baptist, where there's

1151
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 12: a kind of weird Christian attitude about spicy stuff and

1152
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 12: all that.

1153
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:54,759
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1154
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:57,200
Speaker 12: I've never really been religious, and neither is my wife.

1155
00:50:57,239 --> 00:51:00,320
Speaker 12: We didn't really care, but my parents did. They always

1156
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:02,360
Speaker 12: got in my back that if I was having spicy

1157
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 12: sleep with this girl, I had a marrier. Our parents

1158
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 12: weren't as strict about it, but essentially I was forbidden

1159
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:10,319
Speaker 12: from seeing her. Why didn't you you should just not

1160
00:51:10,400 --> 00:51:12,280
Speaker 12: tell them, don't tell secrets.

1161
00:51:12,560 --> 00:51:13,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the answer.

1162
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 12: My parents told me at seventeen that I would be

1163
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 12: punted out of the house if I didn't marry Lana.

1164
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:20,280
Speaker 5: Looking back now, I don't.

1165
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 12: Think they would have gone through with leaving me on

1166
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:24,080
Speaker 12: the streets for not breaking out with a girl. I'm

1167
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:26,399
Speaker 12: pretty sure they were trying to manipulate me into living

1168
00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 12: the life they wanted for me. So we got a

1169
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:31,279
Speaker 12: courtroom marriage. Her parents were cool with it.

1170
00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 5: Y'all are so funny.

1171
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:35,759
Speaker 12: I'm sorry, y'all are seventeen and her parents were like, yeah,

1172
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 12: I guess you cam married.

1173
00:51:37,120 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 5: Who was this screwby there? It's crazy. We have to

1174
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 5: get married because my parents told me.

1175
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 4: My parents that we have to get married. We're gonna

1176
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 4: grab me if I don't propose.

1177
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 5: My mom said, it's okay if we get married, if

1178
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 5: your mom, if your mom buy snacks, my mom's gonna

1179
00:51:51,880 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 5: drive us to the court room. We pick you guys up.

1180
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:58,000
Speaker 5: If your mom brings us home. Yeah, my mom's can

1181
00:51:58,080 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 5: sleep over if we get married. Yeah.

1182
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 12: They had three kids to a room, and we're glad

1183
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:05,919
Speaker 12: to have more space in the house. We always talked

1184
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 12: about having a real wedding one day, but with everything

1185
00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:10,759
Speaker 12: going on in life, we just never got around to it.

1186
00:52:10,960 --> 00:52:13,200
Speaker 12: I got to be married at eighteen to the love

1187
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 12: of my life. I'd still go to finish high school

1188
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:18,920
Speaker 12: and live with my parents. Since then, I've gotten a

1189
00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:23,319
Speaker 12: lot of therapy. I realized just how horrible it was

1190
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 12: for my parents, religious or not, to force their own

1191
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:29,400
Speaker 12: child to get married so that he wouldn't disappoint Jesus

1192
00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 12: by having spicy sleep with one person. It's not like

1193
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 12: I was even trying to follow any of their other standards.

1194
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:38,920
Speaker 12: Let's fast forward to the present day. A few years later,

1195
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 12: we moved out into our own dingy little apartment. I

1196
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 12: got a job prenticing to a plumber to pay rent,

1197
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 12: but neither me nor Lana could afford school, and my

1198
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 12: dad was only willing to pay if I went to

1199
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:52,799
Speaker 12: Church college or something. I've considered it many times, but

1200
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 12: it's whatever. Eventually, I kind of just stopped loving Lana.

1201
00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 12: It's not that she stopped being physically attractive to me

1202
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 12: or anything. It's just that over the years she did

1203
00:53:01,520 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 12: basically nothing. She never got a job, she never did

1204
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 12: work around the house. Most days she would just play

1205
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 12: video games, smoke Devil's lettuce with me, and then we'd

1206
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,799
Speaker 12: pass out or have spicy sleep. So the thing that

1207
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 12: you got married for is the only thing you do.

1208
00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:18,320
Speaker 12: She didn't cook, didn't clean.

1209
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:18,719
Speaker 1: Hell.

1210
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 12: I even had to do the laundry after work at

1211
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:23,000
Speaker 12: midnight some nights, just so i'd have something to wear

1212
00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:25,880
Speaker 12: in the morning. I felt trapped. I wanted to divorce

1213
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 12: her so so badly.

1214
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 1: I'd talked to her.

1215
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,279
Speaker 12: About changing so many times that I feel like I

1216
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 12: had the same conversation over and over and over. She'd

1217
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:38,319
Speaker 12: get a job and quit after a month. She'd cook

1218
00:53:38,360 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 12: three meals in an entire week and then stop for months.

1219
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:43,280
Speaker 12: These aren't things you find out about a woman.

1220
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:43,720
Speaker 1: In high school.

1221
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 12: So we started to get a little distant. Spicy sleep

1222
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:48,879
Speaker 12: produced to once a month, if that. We didn't even

1223
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 12: hang out those nights. When I'd come home, she'd be

1224
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:54,239
Speaker 12: sleeping or way too baked to hold a decent conversation with.

1225
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:56,600
Speaker 12: In the morning, she would go to Starbucks for coffee

1226
00:53:56,640 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 12: and some other big goods. Sometimes she'd get something for me.

1227
00:53:59,480 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 3: Sometimes.

1228
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 12: Why didn't I divorce her? Well, honestly, it was just

1229
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 12: about alimony. I could barely afford to pay rent as

1230
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 12: it is, but divorcing her, I know she'd get some

1231
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:11,440
Speaker 12: kind of share of the money. I already have an

1232
00:54:11,480 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 12: issue keeping mmm with everything about my parents. I wasn't

1233
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 12: willing to move in with them, so I just felt

1234
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:20,360
Speaker 12: trapped where I was. I know of too many stories

1235
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 12: where people get a divorce and have to pay alimony

1236
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 12: for the rest of their lives, and that just seems

1237
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:25,399
Speaker 12: like too.

1238
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:26,280
Speaker 5: Much for me to handle.

1239
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:28,839
Speaker 12: What One day, while out on the job, I had

1240
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:31,800
Speaker 12: a panic attack because of everything going on and decided

1241
00:54:31,840 --> 00:54:34,880
Speaker 12: to go home early. I live five minutes away from

1242
00:54:34,920 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 12: where I was working. I texted Lana on the way

1243
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 12: home that I would be there soon. Lana answered the

1244
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:44,879
Speaker 12: door in her lingerie. Oh nearly out of breath. Oh oh, well,

1245
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 12: that was suspicious already, but there was no one in

1246
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:49,239
Speaker 12: the apartment, so I didn't think anything of.

1247
00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:53,120
Speaker 4: It immediately, not anymore. Maybe she was having some alone

1248
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 4: time and the lingerie helped her get in the mood

1249
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:58,360
Speaker 4: or something. But that night it ate at me. I

1250
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:00,080
Speaker 4: didn't voice any concerns to her.

1251
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:01,600
Speaker 5: I just let it eat away at me.

1252
00:55:01,840 --> 00:55:04,400
Speaker 12: The next morning, I called and sick, without telling Lana,

1253
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:08,160
Speaker 12: drove off and snuck back to our apartment complex. I

1254
00:55:08,200 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 12: watched our apartment until I saw a jeep roll up

1255
00:55:10,800 --> 00:55:12,960
Speaker 12: and a man walked out. He walked up to our

1256
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 12: first floor apartment and Lana opened the door and let

1257
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 12: him in. This wasn't a man I'd ever seen before,

1258
00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:21,200
Speaker 12: but I knew what was going on. I went into

1259
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:24,480
Speaker 12: my apartment, burst into the bedroom to see them already

1260
00:55:24,560 --> 00:55:25,960
Speaker 12: unclothed with each other.

1261
00:55:26,320 --> 00:55:30,879
Speaker 5: And took some pictures. Okay, ob ignoring your.

1262
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:32,800
Speaker 12: Cris, I packed him a bag with any clothes I

1263
00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:34,240
Speaker 12: can find and left.

1264
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 5: Why am I happy about this? I think we all know.

1265
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:39,480
Speaker 5: I think we've all intuited.

1266
00:55:39,760 --> 00:55:40,000
Speaker 1: Yep.

1267
00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 5: I live in Georgia, where adult tree is considered a

1268
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:48,720
Speaker 5: crime and no alimony for cheaters. There you go jail.

1269
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:50,360
Speaker 5: Is it a jail crime or is it just a

1270
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 5: fine civil crime?

1271
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:54,279
Speaker 7: You know?

1272
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:57,279
Speaker 5: So you're not jail, but you're gonna have today. It's

1273
00:55:57,320 --> 00:56:01,319
Speaker 5: money like a misdemeanor. No, no, oh, I don't think so.

1274
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 5: Probably like it's probably like a money thing. I'm assuming

1275
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:07,080
Speaker 5: that's what I'm You're probably right, or at least like

1276
00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:09,840
Speaker 5: reason to not get out. Yeah.

1277
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:12,080
Speaker 4: I felt like I had the entire world ahead of

1278
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 4: me as I drove away.

1279
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:14,920
Speaker 1: I know I need a lawyer.

1280
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:16,839
Speaker 12: I know I need to cover my tracks and all

1281
00:56:16,840 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 12: of that. She doesn't use Reddit, so she won't see this.

1282
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 12: But man, some dems it's.

1283
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:23,919
Speaker 5: Good to be cheated not wow.

1284
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 4: Okay, sure o pepe, all right, there is an update, folks.

1285
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:29,840
Speaker 4: But I really I don't know if I have advice

1286
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 4: for Ope.

1287
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 5: I'm just I'm happy for I mean, like, good for

1288
00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 5: you. You're getting your dreams.

1289
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 12: You're gonna break up with this lady that you, you know,

1290
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 12: have dated since you were seventeen.

1291
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, do you know how old they are now? Well?

1292
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 4: He said, seven years of probably twenty four. Oh yeah,

1293
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:45,719
Speaker 4: and you're still so young.

1294
00:56:45,800 --> 00:56:48,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're young. That's my age. That's FN.

1295
00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:51,960
Speaker 4: So like you'll be totally fine in like just starting

1296
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 4: a new relationship easy anyway.

1297
00:56:55,000 --> 00:56:55,360
Speaker 5: Update.

1298
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:58,800
Speaker 12: Yeah, first off, I've already been meeting with a lawyer

1299
00:56:58,920 --> 00:57:01,759
Speaker 12: about everything. She says, the case is pretty cut and

1300
00:57:01,840 --> 00:57:03,800
Speaker 12: dry and I should be able to get away without

1301
00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 12: any alimony as long as I present this affair on alive,

1302
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:09,160
Speaker 12: my marriage attitude about it. She's helping me draft up

1303
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:11,520
Speaker 12: my divorce papers now. I also saw a doctor and

1304
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:15,880
Speaker 12: m currently awaiting test results for STDs and STIs. Doctor

1305
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 12: thinks they'll come back negative based on lack of symptoms.

1306
00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 12: But you know, outas on to the good stuff. When

1307
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 12: I drove away, my phone was ringing like crazy. Obviously

1308
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:27,160
Speaker 12: I didn't answer it. I didn't want to hear from her.

1309
00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 12: I called up a friend of mine grew up going

1310
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:31,640
Speaker 12: to the same church as him. Great guy, currently working

1311
00:57:31,640 --> 00:57:33,560
Speaker 12: on becoming a pastor for the church I used to

1312
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:36,280
Speaker 12: go to with him. I told him everything, and he

1313
00:57:36,360 --> 00:57:38,240
Speaker 12: invited me to stay with him until the whole thing

1314
00:57:38,360 --> 00:57:41,480
Speaker 12: is settled. He also encouraged the divorce, telling me I

1315
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 12: need to take it easy for a while. I didn't

1316
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:47,080
Speaker 12: block on anything. I'd usually just let the phone ring

1317
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 12: about a dozen times in an hour and then move

1318
00:57:49,280 --> 00:57:51,720
Speaker 12: on with my day. I've been applying for jobs all

1319
00:57:51,760 --> 00:57:53,800
Speaker 12: over the world because honestly, I just want to get

1320
00:57:53,800 --> 00:57:56,520
Speaker 12: out of here. I mean, dude, yeah, you don't have

1321
00:57:56,600 --> 00:57:59,440
Speaker 12: any of the same beliefs as the people around you.

1322
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 12: You don't have kids, you know, you're not going to

1323
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:05,360
Speaker 12: be married for long, you have nothing tie any year.

1324
00:58:05,440 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 4: Go explore and get out of there. Finally find somewhere

1325
00:58:08,640 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 4: where it's a little more.

1326
00:58:10,080 --> 00:58:12,200
Speaker 5: Accepting of having spices sleep before marriage.

1327
00:58:12,280 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 12: Also, if you get a job all the you know,

1328
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 12: you get a work visa and then maybe you can

1329
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 12: find some you live there for a year, and then

1330
00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 12: you get a residency and then you can get really cheap.

1331
00:58:23,360 --> 00:58:23,760
Speaker 5: Education.

1332
00:58:24,440 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 12: I honestly have no idea what I want to do

1333
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:28,360
Speaker 12: with my life anymore, because before all I did was

1334
00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 12: just make money to support myself and Lana financially. Never

1335
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:33,800
Speaker 12: really thought about a life without her until now. To

1336
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 12: be eh, of course, a few fantasies here and there

1337
00:58:36,200 --> 00:58:39,600
Speaker 12: and passing, but nothing like definite. I really like animation,

1338
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:42,880
Speaker 12: though maybe that I don't know about. Three days later,

1339
00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:45,600
Speaker 12: I caved. I answered the phone during one of Laana's

1340
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:48,400
Speaker 12: many attempts to contact me. We spoke on that phone

1341
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 12: for a few hours about well everything, life, our lives together,

1342
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 12: et cetera. I kept the impression that I'm just a

1343
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:57,200
Speaker 12: heartbroken man who wants to end the marriage because she

1344
00:58:57,320 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 12: cheated and for no other reason, but the conversation went

1345
00:58:59,800 --> 00:59:02,120
Speaker 12: a lot deep. Honestly, there really is part of me

1346
00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:04,160
Speaker 12: that still loves this woman from the bottom of my

1347
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:06,880
Speaker 12: very soul. Most of my life has been spent with her,

1348
00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:09,080
Speaker 12: and it's just kind of over, you know. I mean, yeah,

1349
00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:12,120
Speaker 12: this is a woman that you have known, like have

1350
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:16,480
Speaker 12: been with, you know, since middle school. Yeah, obviously you're

1351
00:59:16,480 --> 00:59:19,000
Speaker 12: going to care for her. But that doesn't mean that

1352
00:59:19,040 --> 00:59:21,480
Speaker 12: you have to stay in this part of your life.

1353
00:59:21,840 --> 00:59:23,760
Speaker 12: It just means you know, you're going on to a

1354
00:59:23,800 --> 00:59:26,160
Speaker 12: new part, and that's scary sometimes. She told me about

1355
00:59:26,200 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 12: the guy after I hesitantly asked. He was just a

1356
00:59:28,760 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 12: random guy she met on a hookup app. Her depression

1357
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 12: was starting to border on self harming, and she thought

1358
00:59:33,600 --> 00:59:36,400
Speaker 12: that if she cheated it might bring some excitement back

1359
00:59:36,400 --> 00:59:38,360
Speaker 12: into her life. She admitted that it did for the

1360
00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:40,800
Speaker 12: first couple of times, but after that it grew just

1361
00:59:40,840 --> 00:59:42,800
Speaker 12: as stale as the rest of her life. It was

1362
00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 12: over three months that she cheated with random guys, always

1363
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:49,000
Speaker 12: with protection, and she would usually get an STD test

1364
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:52,160
Speaker 12: after moving on to the next guy. At least she

1365
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:54,720
Speaker 12: cheated in a way that you know wouldn't hurt.

1366
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 5: You, like this safe way.

1367
00:59:58,440 --> 01:00:00,640
Speaker 12: I'm still very happy she did. She did so I

1368
01:00:00,640 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 12: could move on with my life, but I feel like

1369
01:00:02,600 --> 01:00:05,840
Speaker 12: I failed as a husband completely. You're still a kid, Yeah,

1370
01:00:05,920 --> 01:00:08,000
Speaker 12: she told me. She thinks she failed as a wife

1371
01:00:08,040 --> 01:00:10,080
Speaker 12: and doesn't blame me for wanting a divorce. After this,

1372
01:00:10,320 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 12: Lana said after a few days, she's going to move

1373
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:15,120
Speaker 12: out of the apartment so that I can move back

1374
01:00:15,160 --> 01:00:17,680
Speaker 12: in since I'm the one paying for it. It's been

1375
01:00:17,800 --> 01:00:20,320
Speaker 12: years since her parents were overwhelmed with too many kids

1376
01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:22,080
Speaker 12: in the house, so she's going to move back in

1377
01:00:22,120 --> 01:00:24,720
Speaker 12: with them and start over on her life too. I

1378
01:00:24,760 --> 01:00:27,480
Speaker 12: can say I'm still happy about everything going on. I'm

1379
01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 12: looking forward to the future, and I'm happy to still

1380
01:00:29,800 --> 01:00:32,000
Speaker 12: be young in this situation, and I'm happy that my

1381
01:00:32,040 --> 01:00:35,040
Speaker 12: financial status will be okay for the foreseeable future. But

1382
01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 12: this person who is my best friend, closest confidant, and

1383
01:00:38,160 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 12: who my entire life was devoted to is just gone.

1384
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:43,920
Speaker 12: My life feels completely empty, more than it did when

1385
01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:45,520
Speaker 12: I was with her. I'm going to reach out to

1386
01:00:45,520 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 12: a therapist again and get this all sorted in my

1387
01:00:47,800 --> 01:00:50,320
Speaker 12: head before I maybe leave the country. Crazy thought in

1388
01:00:50,360 --> 01:00:52,160
Speaker 12: my head is that maybe in a few years, if

1389
01:00:52,200 --> 01:00:54,600
Speaker 12: Lana can get her crap together, I could go back

1390
01:00:54,600 --> 01:00:56,720
Speaker 12: to her try again with her. I think by that

1391
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:59,120
Speaker 12: time you'll realize that you have both moved on to

1392
01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:00,000
Speaker 12: different parts of your life.

1393
01:01:00,160 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, but for now, I'm gonna live a single life.

1394
01:01:02,680 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 12: I'm not going on any dates with any women for

1395
01:01:04,880 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 12: a long time. It's gonna be hard enough having to

1396
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:10,600
Speaker 12: learn how to even do that. Yeah, but you know

1397
01:01:10,720 --> 01:01:12,840
Speaker 12: that's that's the excitement, learning new things.

1398
01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:16,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's gonna be a good, good thing to learn. Yeah,

1399
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:20,120
Speaker 4: totally be single. Definitely, don't jump into another relationship.

1400
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:21,040
Speaker 5: Be single.

1401
01:01:21,760 --> 01:01:26,480
Speaker 4: Travel, learn new skills the world, make friends, Yes,