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Speaker 1: subject looking for love in all the wrong places. Hello,

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Speaker 1: Shirley and Steve. I'm a twenty year old black woman

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to you all because I need help. I

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Speaker 1: I'm dating, and I hate lying to them. I'm not ugly.

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Speaker 1: I think I have good qualities and I'm worth settling

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Speaker 1: we don't we don't even have time. This is so sad,

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Speaker 1: You know? To me You're a classic case of someone

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Speaker 1: You know, you're only twenty years old. You can fix this,

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Speaker 1: but you have to complete yourself. Nobody can come along

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Speaker 1: You are yourself. Canna can't abody make you happy with you?

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Speaker 1: You find happiness with a person, but can't abody make

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Speaker 1: you happy? True statements. That's all I have time to

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Speaker 1: Uh uh, young young lady, I need help. I can't

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Speaker 1: First of all, I said, you don't even know yourself yet.

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Speaker 1: Are you serious? You can't. You cannot possibly expect a

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Speaker 1: if you don't seriously show value for yourself. If you

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Speaker 1: as valuable as you think you are. If you seriously

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Speaker 1: continuing to have sex with no profusion. There are too

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Speaker 1: know these things. See for you to write this letter,

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Speaker 1: it's just a cry for help because this is stuff

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Speaker 1: If you were my daughter, I would be mortified at this. Okay,

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Speaker 1: now here's it is, here's the here's the next line

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Speaker 1: that I don't know the polos. I have one night stands.

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Speaker 1: I've slept with about forty men. I've had three sous.

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Speaker 1: can't even tell you why I do it? Right, Yeah, yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: I can tell you what because you don't have any

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Speaker 1: Something that's happened that makes you think you need to

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Speaker 1: worth settling down. Here's a lightbulb moment for your ladies

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Speaker 1: that you already know, but in case you didn't hear it.

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Speaker 1: Men only settled down with women who are settled down

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Speaker 1: them save. We not marrying the wild pony. We're not

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Speaker 1: need some self esteem. You need some counsel. You should

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Speaker 1: And God did not create you to be of servitude

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Speaker 1: or Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at

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Speaker 1: my girl. Surely that's Steve. I have a question to

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Speaker 1: I've humbly accepted, and I'm honored to be there, and

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Speaker 1: they're also going to bestow me with an honorary doctorate degree.

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Speaker 1: Were already and everything. How your speak? Um, it's not

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Speaker 1: very very long because I don't want to just keep

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Speaker 1: repeat after me the roof by stress. But you want

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Speaker 1: to have second that gets everybody at I'm the rule.

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Speaker 1: I wish I could be that. Pity you're listening to

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Speaker 1: the Stave Harvey Morning Show