WEBVTT - Alicia Keys Interview and more 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:06.120 Ain't not and Charlomagne the guys the breakfast Club is 0:00:09.280 --> 0:00:14.760 I love coming here. I'm never not gonna come here. 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:16.200 You guys are good to me. And Lautna them away 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:17.239 was gonna be good deal for a lot of people 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:19.599 in hip hop generation. The breakfast club is where people 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:22.119 get the information on the topics, on the artists and 0:00:22.120 --> 0:00:25.119 everything like that. In that aspect, Radio Student port the 0:00:25.239 --> 0:00:33.200 breakfast Club for my name, Come on, respect you. Good 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:36.120 morning yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo 0:00:36.200 --> 0:00:37.760 yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:39.519 yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:42.440 yo yo yo yo yo yo yo Good morning, angela Ye, 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:49.200 good mon, Charlomagne, the gout piece of the planet. Happy Friday. Now, 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:51.640 this is one of those times when we're pretending like 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:53.880 we're here but we're really not. But we got new 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:56.440 content for you, like we got Alicia Keys coming up 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:59.080 next hour, Judge Faith Jenkins later on in the show. 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:01.920 But I want to tell y'all a tonight tonight tonight tonight, 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:05.160 ten pm, Comedy Central, my late night talk show, The 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:08.280 Gods on His Truth. This is the last episode of 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:12.080 this year. We'll be back next year with fresh new episodes, 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:15.520 but tonight we have Kamala Harris. Vice President. Kamala Harris 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:18.119 will be on the Gods on His Truth tonight at 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:21.160 ten pm on Comedy Central. Make sure you scream The 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:23.720 Gods on His Truth on Paramount Plus to catch up 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:25.399 on all the episodes, but make sure you tune in 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:29.200 tonight at ten pm on Comedy Central. Vice President Kamala 0:01:29.200 --> 0:01:31.680 Harris will be joining me on The Gods on His Truth. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:33.600 And we're gonna be having a healthy discussion, not me 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:36.560 and Kamala, but me and Chico being in the Man 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:39.440 de sales, We'll be having a healthy discussion about who 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:43.479 really runs Christmas if he Jesus a Santa Hu find 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:45.360 out the night ten pm The Gods on His Truth 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:47.440 on Comedy Central. All right, we got more coming up 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:51.920 next with a Breakfast Club. Did your time to get 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.320 it off your chests? Whether you're man or blast, so 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:56.280 you better have the same instry we want to hear 0:01:56.320 --> 0:02:00.760 from you on the Breakfast Club? Hello, who's this shams? Now? 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:03.720 They get it off your chests? No, I just wanted 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.200 to say I love listen to y'all. Y'all help me 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:13.079 every morning. And what up though? From Detroit and Angela 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:14.960 when you need a new guest for a little service. 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:17.160 I'm trying to get on the show where you got you? 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:20.919 And Detroit? Still, Yes, I live here. What's your what's 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:23.160 your qualifications? Tell me what you do so that I 0:02:23.200 --> 0:02:25.280 can know what you want to talk about. What's a 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:28.200 radio and broadcast and so I do have experience with that. 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:31.400 I'll recently have my own podcast, but I'm trying to 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:35.320 rebrand everything and starry fresh with my own show. All right, 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:38.200 this thank you Friday. Give me a topic. Let's say 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:44.320 it's freaky Friday. What uh dark fantasy? All right? What 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:50.000 is it doing something in the car and it's so 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:53.280 very real dark in the park or nobody can see you. 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:57.680 Sounds like a hired movie waiting to happen. Yeah, thank 0:02:57.680 --> 0:03:01.120 you for calling with your freaking all right? DMN, Hello, 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:04.800 who's that? Hey? This is Chevine. Good morning to everyone. 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:12.359 Good morning. Okay, So in our community, the black community, 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:16.760 we should normalize raising our kids without abusing it. It's 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:19.680 just something that shouldn't be done, like why are we 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:23.120 beating our kids? And like and then people are quick 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:25.280 to go to the Bible and say, oh, you know, 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.920 you know they like the rone the towel. But don't 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:31.880 we all remember in school that the ride means the 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:36.640 ride of corrections and not like necessarily disciplining with pain, 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:39.160 you know you but you know you know that's something 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:42.240 we learn from our oppressing you know, you know, that's 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:45.360 that's what I'm saying, Like we need to stomp it, 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:47.960 like there are some people like that, you know, I 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.440 whipped her bud or I did this. What about getting 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:54.320 down and speaking with your child? That's right. My oldest 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:57.440 daughter is um thirteen, and you know, I think her 0:03:57.480 --> 0:04:00.320 when she was like young, like you know, two years old, 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:03.320 and I felt so stupid and I always say to 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:06.280 myself like how could my parents you know beat me 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:11.800 with the stinching cards and everything else? And be okay, 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:15.000 how did that not bother? And that's and that's what 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:17.599 I'm saying. And you're you're so right. It is coming 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:20.200 from our oppressors, but I think we needed to be 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:25.000 more conscious of where it's coming from. Like bread the 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:28.200 word talk to each other because this is so sixty 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:33.640 so sick. Yeah, that's awful, Thank you mama. Oh of 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:36.280 course you guys have a great one, you too. Now, Hello, 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:40.680 who's this what I'm getting off your chance, brother, man 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:43.040 one than guard. I'm leaving today, going to work. Man. 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:51.080 Tell Joe body talking man. I feel you all right, Brod, 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:53.000 y'all have y'all have a good day of min Yes 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:58.120 that last one too, brother. Hello, who's this? What's up? Man? Virginia? 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:00.360 What's up? Seventy five seven? Get it off you chest? 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:02.240 I just want to get it all my chest. I'm 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:06.240 feeling blessed to drop the album this one. I'm called 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:11.760 block man, black man. Okay from my little brother. He said, 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:16.000 what a part of Virginia you're from? From Chesapeake? Okay? 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:18.600 All right, so you wrapped? Yeah, all right, spend some 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:21.880 real quick this morning. I say, I'm motivated on the 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:25.520 greatest thing underrated, pockets overweighted. No you hated, won't believe 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:27.640 a lit I told you, lady, just to hold my babies. 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:30.240 You see the wings this year, ain't no Mercedes walcome 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:32.440 to the room. He going crazy because I ain't got 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:34.599 no shirt on. They will have been on my six packs. 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:37.320 Some two needs to work on chilling me as might 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:40.080 as will try to hurt home pack like the nurse home. 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:42.359 I got the wave you can hurt phone and a 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:45.320 whole lot of dough. That's a biscuit number. How old 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:48.320 are you? Brother? How old are you? Sir? Every one? Okay, 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:51.440 do you really have a six pack? Yeahs so what 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:53.239 you want to see a picture? Now? I'm just asking. 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:58.200 I gonna make sure you'll just following my id b 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:01.560 l okay at and I got some happen. Was it 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:08.320 called YouTube videos for k thing? Bro? Bro? All right? Brother? Hello? 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:11.760 Who's this? Dorian? Hey, Dorian, get it off your chest, sir. 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:13.920 I just wanted to send all the positive message to 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:17.200 everybody and also ask about therapy. Yes, sir, Hey, I 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:20.120 just wanted to tell everybody out there struggling. If you're 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:22.359 going through anything, it's all a part of your story, 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:24.960 don't give up, keep on pushing, and just keep on 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:28.400 believing in yourself, trusting yourself in visualize the best version 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:30.800 of yourself. You gotta trust your life, you gotta trust God, 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:33.400 and you gotta trust your life. That's it. That's it. Now, 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:36.040 what's your question of therapy? It's time for me to 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.320 start working on myself because it's a lot of stuff 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:40.120 that I've been holding, man, and it's time for me 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:42.880 to really start to grow more. Hey, best decision I 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:45.800 ever made. In my life back back in twenty sixteen. 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:49.839 Man started going in twenty sixteen once a week every Friday. 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:52.520 Whatever makes you feel comfortable, you can go in person. 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:54.600 You know, it's a lot of tele therapy that you 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:57.200 can do nowadays. You just gotta do some research and 0:06:57.279 --> 0:06:58.920 find the best therapist for you. What do you what 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:00.440 do you think you need to go for? I went, 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:03.440 I went for my anxiety and about the depression and 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:05.880 ended up peeling back all kind of layers of trauma. 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:08.440 But what you think you need to go for? I 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:11.320 just need to go forward, like just for my health, 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:13.600 well for my mental health, because I'm real bad with 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:18.160 my emotions. They'll affects everyone else around me. We just 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:20.080 put the golf and say, okay, it'll be all right. 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:24.320 Well I will tell you man, just just just find 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:27.480 somebody that's you know, in your area that you think 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.320 is best suited to fit your needs. That's what I 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:32.480 would tell you. And you can. You can go to 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:35.920 my website, go to go to the Mental Wealthalliance dot org. 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:38.840 And you know we have a list of providers. You 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:43.280 probably can find somebody in your area. Okayiate Mental Mental 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:46.640 Wealthfarelliance dot org. All Right, brother, thank you man, Get 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:49.120 it off your chest eight hundred five eight five one 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:50.680 oh five one. If you need to vent hit us 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:54.080 up now it's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, the Breakfast Club. 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:03.600 I'm I'm telling what's all? This is your time to 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:06.320 get it off your chest, whether you're mad or blast. 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:08.760 Eight hundred five eighty five one five one. We want 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:12.440 to hear from you on the Breakfast Club. Hello. Who's 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:15.920 this Yes to morning. I just want to bring it 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:19.800 to the attention of these gas station attendance. Why why 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:22.520 wouldn't you tell them to put one amount in your car? 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:25.880 They put another amount on the gas pensers tending the 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:29.360 foot tween eyes in my car? People? Forty what's the 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.120 months ago for the gas stakes attendance? Put tween eyes 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:33.960 in my car? He seals it up and put all 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.120 those And you know what they want to make me 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:39.439 mad because it's the language. It's the lad that's what 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:41.360 you got to say. Look, all I got is twenty dollars. 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.040 This is all I have. This is what I asked 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:46.920 you for. They go get your car. Oh your carn 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:50.360 so didn't already have your car? Right? Something that has 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:52.360 could be done. And I don't know if this news. 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:55.120 A lot of them, Um, don't speak the language. You're 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:57.360 doing other things when that happened. You're not tying to 0:08:57.400 --> 0:08:59.520 attended because you expect them to do what they would 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.840 you ask do correct. Well, I think since this has 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:04.920 been happening to you a lot, just make sure that 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:07.640 you actually pay attention now when you get gas. You 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:09.440 don't never want to act like Trump to people who 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:12.120 don't speak the language. Yeah, if it happened a bunch 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.079 of times, you gotta you know, you gotta start watching. Yeah, 0:09:14.080 --> 0:09:16.400 but if you don't speak the language, that's never happened 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:18.600 to me. He was alway stopped. Bro, they get stopped. Stop. 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:23.200 Everybody knows stop clearly not hello. Who's this hello? All right? 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:26.520 Oh my god, I can't believe I got through. Good morning, 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:32.120 breakfast up, queen you all everything that you do. Um, 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:34.400 oh my god. I just want to start out all 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:37.360 the US Army veterans out there. I am a US 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:41.800 Army veteran um part of mental health. I got out 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:45.080 of the Army and after two years of fair and doubt, 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:49.120 I launched my boutique, Fashion's House Um the house it 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:52.760 sells ah a usum in German. Because that was my 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:57.319 first duty station and I launched it on Veterans Day 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:01.240 last year. It has something easy, but I'm finding joy 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:04.719 through the process. And you know, basically, my sister and 0:10:04.800 --> 0:10:07.880 I we just made the choice to live consciously and 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:12.640 to face our goals and live intentionally right. And so 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:16.880 she also has a podcast. It's called Incommenstible. Podcast is 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:20.280 pushing to the idea that we all are unique and 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:24.439 we have to think for ourselves always, and I just 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:26.959 want to share it with you. I'm so nervous, guys, 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:29.000 you have no reason to be it. I love your 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:31.120 mission statement. And by the way, that's not an idea 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:34.320 that we all are unique. We definitely all are unique. 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:38.119 Are none of our DNAs are the same? Absolutely? Absolutely? 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:44.120 I want to share with you. Oh your phone, hold 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:47.600 on a second, mama, Hello, who's this? More than this? Jerome? 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:51.160 Jerome was up? Good morning, man, get off your chest, 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:57.440 good morning. I don't know, I'll just remember a couple 0:10:57.440 --> 0:11:00.319 of months back, says, you don't don't know us with 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:05.040 no cats, man, We know what cats? Cat? Cat? Oh 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:08.720 animal cat cat. But yeah, I just wanted to let 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:12.640 y'all know I have blessed cats and the dog and 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:16.280 the name Tina and Turner. You can follow them on 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:22.480 Instagram right now. I love cats. I'd rather have a 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.400 cat than have a dog. They are a lot more 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.800 little maintenance. Nah dog protects the crib. Yeah, and cats 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:31.760 make sure you don't have bugs or rodents. Had called 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:33.880 a couple of weeks ago, and I was talking about 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.599 the little girl in a period or whatever, and I 0:11:36.679 --> 0:11:39.920 wanted to apologize to d J. Henry because I told 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:42.160 him I wasn't because he didn't understand what I was saying. 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:49.839 But that was it, and y'all happy holidays, everything, all right. Yeah, 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:51.400 we grew up with cats in our house that we 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:54.280 had three cats and a dog. No, we never had 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:56.240 no cats. We always had dogs. My wife had a 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:58.840 cat growing up. There's nothing wrong with people who like cats. 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:02.439 Just said, I don't know anybody. If I said I 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:04.000 don't know, I just don't know any men with cats. 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:06.080 That's all I said. I don't know know man with cats, 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:11.280 being a man who has here, you can leave a 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.280 cat in the house for like three days and they'll 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:15.360 be okay. Mike Tyson had a white tiger. That's the 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:18.200 closest person I know that I don't know. Let's shout out. 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:20.400 Tell other guys with cats. How you get it? A 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:23.000 few chests eight hundred five eight five one on five one. 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:24.319 If you need to vent hit this uping now it's 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:30.120 the breakfast Club. Good morning, the Breakfast Club. I want 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:32.520 to show the Breakfast Club Charlomagne and God Angela Ye 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:34.800 dj Envy had to step out. But man, we have 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:37.280 the author of one of the best books I read 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:49.160 this year, Resumm men of Kim, author of My Grandmother's Hands, 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.520 Racialized Trauma in The Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies. 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:54.920 First of all, it is a pleasure to sit down 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.679 and talk to you. How are you. I'm doing well, man, 0:12:57.760 --> 0:13:02.200 I'm doing well. Busy but well. Absolutely absolutely. Now tell 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:04.840 folks what this book is about. So brother, the book 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:09.240 is really about racialized trauma and how more often than not, 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:13.079 when we think about racism and white body supremacy, we 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:16.600 think about it from an intellectual place like you know, uh, 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.640 you know, dates and times and stuff like that. But 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.760 my whole work is really around how trauma lives in 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.160 the body and gets passed down, and how it gets 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:29.439 passed down through generations. What is of happening is that 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:33.480 we don't just learn from our caregivers in terms of instruction, 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:37.079 we also learn from what their bodies recoil from and 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:41.120 lean into. Trauma in a person over time can look 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:45.199 like personality. Trauma in a family over time can look 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:48.080 like family traits. But trauma and a people can look 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:51.120 like culture. And we and we missed those pieces. And 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:53.839 so the whole book was about my journey, my own 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:58.679 personal journey, you know in Afghanistan. Want to raise the Milwaukee, 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:02.360 Wisconsin and my journey in terms of my people and 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:05.760 my grandmother. Can you talk about what white body supremacy is? Yes, 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:10.640 So when we say the word white supremacy, a lot 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.800 of times what happens is that people move to the head. 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.120 They start trying to say, well, I'm not racist, or 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:18.760 I'm not this or I'm not that person. Did that 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:22.720 I'm not the person? Yeah, absolutely absolutely, And so what 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:24.920 ends up happening is is that we end up having 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:28.560 an intellectual conversation and not how this stuff actually impacts 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:32.480 the body. And so white body supremacy is my attempt 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.960 to get us to begin to think about what shows 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.320 up when we're having these types of interactions, What shows 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:40.880 up when we see a black body being murdered on 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.920 the streets, right, And that actually may not just be 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:47.560 your own personal piece. It might be historical, it might 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:52.000 be intergenerational, it might be persistent institutional, and then your 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.560 own personal stuff gets combined with it. You know. It's 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:57.520 God bought this book in my life at the right time, 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.120 you know, Angela RAI kept telling me to get it. 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.120 But it came in my life at a point where 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:06.560 I started doing healing exercises. I started actually doing things 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:09.520 that helped this this trauma move to my body. Explain 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:13.760 why that's not necessary? So I so if you notice 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:15.680 in the book, brother, I don't call him exercise, I 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:19.880 call him practice it why it's because whenever we think 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:24.400 about trauma, and specifically racialized trauma, we think about something 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:29.080 we need to just purge. Right. But in an actuality, race, 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:31.920 the concept of race has a four hundred to five 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:35.160 hundred year old charge to it. So when we start 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:38.240 to begin to deal with it, that charge can overwhelm us. 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:40.680 And with your experience, and I've listened to you quite 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:43.400 a bit, and so some of the experience when you 0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:48.240 have when you yourself have been traumatized, right, in addition 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:51.280 to the historical trauma, that gets passed down in addition 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:54.880 to the intergenerational trauma, you don't really know how to articulate, 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:58.360 so the practices are designed to go slow. One of 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:00.800 the things about the practices that if forces you to 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:04.880 work with to learn discernment, Oh this is more resource, 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.080 or this really scares me, or this is more constricted 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:12.160 in my body when we're traumatized. That's all blended together. 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:16.800 We don't know how to discern one one sensation from 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:20.240 an image. You have to condition and temper your body 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:23.160 to be able to withstand the trauma and the stuff 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:26.680 that has happened, so you can metabolize it over time 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:29.040 and not just be overwhelmed when it shows up. And 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:31.640 then practices for white people as well, Oh hell yeah, 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:34.760 what happens with white folks? Right? We live in a 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:39.120 structure by which the white body deems and has deemed 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:46.520 itself the supreme standard of humanness philosophically and structurally. It's 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:49.800 the catstem that's it. So what ends up happening is 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:56.840 that in that process, the acceptance of whiteness right made 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:59.720 white people have to give up part of their humanity 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:03.120 in order to be white. They had to You can't 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:07.959 participate in brutalizing people right without disrupting part of your 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:11.080 own humanity. And so the practices in the book are 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:14.240 really designed to help white people begin to confront that 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:17.960 thing that had the ways that they've been standardized as 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:22.120 human and me and you've been standardized as deviant from human. 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:25.680 They're normal, they're the normal, and we're deviant, right, and 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:28.440 so it is standardized so they don't even feel like 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:30.960 they need to even do nothing about it. That's why 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:34.520 I have the practices in there for for white bodies. Okay, 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:36.959 we got more with the great resume of Minician when 0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:40.160 we come back discussing his book My Grandmother's Hands, Racialized 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:42.359 Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:44.960 on the Breakfast Club. Hey, I want to make sure 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:47.320 to tell y'all to tune into the Gods on Its 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:50.359 Truth tonight at ten pm on Comedy Central. That's my 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:53.240 late night talk show. And tonight we have Vice President 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:56.960 Kamala Harris on the show. So tune in ten pm 0:17:57.040 --> 0:17:59.480 tonight on Comedy Central, my late night talk show to 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:02.440 Gods on Its Truth. The Vice President Kamala Harris will 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:06.280 be joining us tonight, and you know I got questions, 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:08.040 All right, we got more. Don't move. It's the best 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:13.639 of the Breakfast Club, the Breakfast Club. Yes, it's the 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:15.840 world most dangerous. Want to show the Breakfast Club. Charlomagne 0:18:15.840 --> 0:18:18.520 and God Angela Ye dj Envy is off today and 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:21.399 we're talking to Resma men Kim. He's the author of 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:24.520 My Grandmother's Hands, Racialized Trauma in the Pathway to Mending 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:26.920 Our Hearts and Bodies. Now, can we talk about the 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:29.119 title of the book, to my Grandmother's Hands and what 0:18:29.280 --> 0:18:32.000 that does represent as far as the work that you've 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:35.680 been doing so soon. My grandmother was a small woman, 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:40.240 but when we were young, like seven eight years old, 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:42.160 we would go over there and stay with my grandmother. 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:44.960 And my grandmother number one, she would be in the 0:18:45.160 --> 0:18:48.879 kitchen and she would hum. And when you notice in 0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:51.119 the book I talk about the hum and the legal nerves, 0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:54.919 it's a very important piece. One time I was rubbing 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:57.359 the hands and I was comparing her hands to my hands, 0:18:57.400 --> 0:19:00.600 like my hands are very thin and angular. Grandmother had 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:05.320 these thick digits, like thick, and then a thickness inside 0:19:05.400 --> 0:19:07.600 of her palm, and the thickness on the back of 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:09.720 her palm, and so I was. I was rubbing, and 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:11.359 I said, Grandma, why are your hands so fat? Why 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:13.920 are your hands fat like that? And without missing the beach, 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.760 she goes, oh, boy, that's from picking cot. I'm seven 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:19.360 to eight right, and I'm like okay, And she must 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:22.840 have heard the space divide. So she turned and this 0:19:23.040 --> 0:19:25.520 and their cadence picked up right. I knew I didn't 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:26.920 know what it was, but I knew I needed to page. 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:29.280 She goes, well, you ever seen the cotton plant? No? Man, 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:31.760 She goes, complante got these birds. This is where she's talking. 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:34.560 And I said okay, and she said, when you reach 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:37.040 your hands in there, And at four years old, I 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:38.840 started walking up and down on Rose where I was four. 0:19:38.880 --> 0:19:40.600 My daddy was a sharecropper, So when you reach your 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:43.919 hands in that stuff, your hands bleed. And I did 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:46.880 not remember that story again until I started reading the book. 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:49.000 I started writing the book, that's amazing because then the 0:19:49.160 --> 0:19:53.000 calysis protect her hands bleeding, and then it just gets 0:19:53.119 --> 0:19:56.080 used to that's exactly right. And then I took that 0:19:56.200 --> 0:19:59.080 and said, whoa, that's how trauma works. You know. I 0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:01.480 wanted to ask you about Sunday because me and my 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:03.280 home girl dad was talking about this yesterday. It was 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:06.679 a Instagram post somebody posted and they say, not everything 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:10.280 is a trauma response. And they say, the point here 0:20:10.400 --> 0:20:12.600 is we can't just slap a label of trauma on 0:20:12.720 --> 0:20:16.200 the everything. We can't understand all behavior as trauma responses. 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:19.240 We have to think more about the roles culture plays 0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:23.879 and creating and sustaining trauma responses. And trauma responses aren't 0:20:23.920 --> 0:20:30.520 necessarily all bad. Yeah, absolutely, Okay, So trauma is personal 0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:34.679 and particular me and you maybe homeboys, and something happens 0:20:34.680 --> 0:20:37.840 in front of us, right, A necessary component of trauma 0:20:38.040 --> 0:20:41.000 is stuck. Right, no matter what I do, is stuck. 0:20:41.240 --> 0:20:44.720 Something that stuck. That's a necessary component. Something back and 0:20:44.880 --> 0:20:47.119 happened to both of us at the same time, and 0:20:47.400 --> 0:20:50.200 you get stuck and I don't, Right, So when it 0:20:50.280 --> 0:20:53.639 comes to trauma, right, But but but there's a higher 0:20:53.720 --> 0:20:58.919 propensity to get stuck, right when the thing that happens 0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:02.840 happens to a man of people. Right, And I believe 0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:06.120 that you will more likely get stuck in trauma when 0:21:06.280 --> 0:21:09.760 children are involved. Right. What I would say is some 0:21:09.960 --> 0:21:13.480 people get stuck with that and some people don't. It 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:16.280 does it? But it but but but I also don't 0:21:16.320 --> 0:21:20.760 want to take the culture off the hook, right and say, well, 0:21:21.000 --> 0:21:23.879 not everybody is traumatized, so it's not really a big deal. 0:21:23.960 --> 0:21:26.040 It is a huge deal because the trauma that we're 0:21:26.119 --> 0:21:30.760 talking about has compounded over time and has been decontextualized. 0:21:30.800 --> 0:21:33.640 So now we take it out on each other. Right, 0:21:33.720 --> 0:21:35.440 And so I have to say, well, you have to 0:21:35.600 --> 0:21:37.000 you have to do both. You have to keep the 0:21:37.119 --> 0:21:40.280 vertical and the horizontal when you're viewing this stuff around race. 0:21:40.560 --> 0:21:42.399 You have to keep both of them on the table. 0:21:42.680 --> 0:21:44.879 You know, you say that a healing racism begins with 0:21:44.960 --> 0:21:48.359 the body. Do you think that takes precedent over legislation. No, No, 0:21:48.600 --> 0:21:50.680 Here's what I Here's what I believe. I believe that 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:55.560 legislation is fine, and it is inadequate. It is unsustainable. 0:21:55.760 --> 0:21:58.640 It can't just be policy changed. It can't be policy changes. Look, 0:21:58.720 --> 0:22:01.919 look we had to we had the Voting Rights Act, right, 0:22:02.200 --> 0:22:05.440 Look a look at what we're doing right just yesterday, 0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:09.320 trying to implement the voting Right from sixty You see 0:22:09.320 --> 0:22:12.240 what I mean. What I believe is that as we 0:22:12.440 --> 0:22:15.879 created at what I call a living embodied anti racist culture, 0:22:16.359 --> 0:22:20.120 as we begin to do that, the emergence will will 0:22:20.320 --> 0:22:23.080 will open up so much room and so much feel 0:22:23.119 --> 0:22:26.399 and so much power that our politicians will either have 0:22:26.640 --> 0:22:29.520 to comply or get the hell out of the way. 0:22:30.080 --> 0:22:33.000 But because we haven't done that, because we because we 0:22:33.119 --> 0:22:37.600 haven't worked our own pieces, they can keep skirting around 0:22:38.240 --> 0:22:40.200 what they should be doing for us as a people. 0:22:40.440 --> 0:22:42.359 One of the things I appreciate about what y'all do 0:22:42.520 --> 0:22:45.760 here is that y'all pub people and do things for 0:22:46.000 --> 0:22:49.720 people without expecting something back. And what that does is 0:22:49.800 --> 0:22:53.720 creates a cultural glue, right, And so those pieces matter. 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:56.680 The more you do that, right, the more you develop 0:22:56.800 --> 0:23:03.080 these structures of trust not transaction. And at the same time, 0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:07.639 when stuff happens between us, right, I can hold it 0:23:07.760 --> 0:23:11.280 with you and help you move communally through that trauma 0:23:11.359 --> 0:23:14.480 if it's a trauma response, help you move through it 0:23:14.760 --> 0:23:18.560 and not just cast you all. That's the pieces. So, yes, 0:23:19.200 --> 0:23:22.840 legislation is fine. Anybody that's on a journey, journey of healing. 0:23:23.119 --> 0:23:26.280 You gotta get my grandmother's hands. You have to racialize 0:23:26.320 --> 0:23:28.600 trauma in the pathway to mending our hearts and bodies. 0:23:28.600 --> 0:23:31.879 It's available everywhere you get books now, Resima, thank you, 0:23:32.040 --> 0:23:36.919 my brother. It was an absolute pleasure man than it's 0:23:36.960 --> 0:23:40.640 the Breakfast Club. The Breakfast Club, your mornings will never 0:23:40.880 --> 0:23:44.960 be the same. Search Like Pictures presents the new film 0:23:45.200 --> 0:23:49.080 Nightmare Alley, directed by Academy Award winner gim Odell Toto. 0:23:49.440 --> 0:23:52.119 When a charismatic grift to endures himself to a traveling 0:23:52.200 --> 0:23:56.040 carnival group, he crafts a golden ticket to success, using 0:23:56.119 --> 0:23:58.280 his newly acquired knowledge to scheme the wealthy elite of 0:23:58.320 --> 0:24:00.920 New York society with the help of him mister psychiatrist, 0:24:01.240 --> 0:24:05.000 who might be his most formidable opponent yet. Nightmare Alley 0:24:05.040 --> 0:24:09.719 stars Bradley Cooper, Kate Blanchet, Rooney Mara, and David Strathern. 0:24:10.000 --> 0:24:20.800 Nightmare Alley only in theaters today. It's topic time called 0:24:20.840 --> 0:24:22.639 eight hundred five eight five, one oh five one to 0:24:22.720 --> 0:24:25.160 join it to the discussion with the Breakfast Club, talk 0:24:25.200 --> 0:24:30.400 about it. Warning, everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlomagne 0:24:30.400 --> 0:24:32.400 the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. And now ifew 0:24:32.440 --> 0:24:34.560 just joined us, we're asking have you ever fell in 0:24:34.600 --> 0:24:37.000 love with a stripper? A gentleman out in age town 0:24:37.119 --> 0:24:39.359 lent the strip of two thousand dollars, a laptop and 0:24:39.600 --> 0:24:42.840 some Harry Potter DVD's and he suited her because he 0:24:42.880 --> 0:24:45.160 said they broke up. So we're asking, have you ever 0:24:45.240 --> 0:24:49.359 fell in love with us stripper? Now? I frequently DJ 0:24:49.520 --> 0:24:52.200 strip clubs all the time, and I remember one particular 0:24:52.280 --> 0:24:54.760 time our camera guy up here. He was feeling sad, 0:24:54.800 --> 0:24:56.440 so I took him out for his birthday, which one 0:24:57.160 --> 0:25:02.480 nick now No, Steve, oh, Steve, okay. Set. I was 0:25:02.760 --> 0:25:05.320 out of the club at about three o'clock. I said, Yo, Steve, 0:25:05.400 --> 0:25:06.800 ready to go. He was like, nah, I'll think for 0:25:06.920 --> 0:25:09.080 a little bit. It's like, Steve, you know nobody here. 0:25:09.119 --> 0:25:10.840 He was like no, but you know the stripper is 0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:13.840 feeling me. I said, no, she's not feeling she's not 0:25:14.000 --> 0:25:16.840 feeling you, sir. She's feeling the money that you're throwing it. 0:25:16.920 --> 0:25:18.480 He's like, no, no, no, I think we have a connection. 0:25:18.840 --> 0:25:20.800 I said, well, hit me when you get home so 0:25:20.920 --> 0:25:23.159 I know you made it home safe. Steve waited there 0:25:23.240 --> 0:25:25.600 until about four twenty until she got out of work. 0:25:26.080 --> 0:25:28.040 That's how much in love he was with that stripper. 0:25:28.400 --> 0:25:30.560 What happened after that, I don't know, but he was 0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:32.879 definitely in love. It's a scripper's job to give you 0:25:32.920 --> 0:25:38.440 attention guys, it's a completely transactional relationship. Yes, you're throwing 0:25:38.520 --> 0:25:41.840 your ones, she's dancing. That's what the Script club is for. 0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:45.160 It's like literally going into a barbershop, paying the barber 0:25:45.240 --> 0:25:47.200 to cut your hand and saying, yo, I think I 0:25:47.280 --> 0:25:50.200 think he's feeling me. Yo, he's playing on my neck. No, 0:25:50.320 --> 0:25:54.480 he's cutting your hair. Okay, it's the same thing with 0:25:54.680 --> 0:25:57.240 a scripper. But but I will say this, and for 0:25:57.320 --> 0:25:59.520 the strippers out there, when the stripper is dope dance 0:25:59.560 --> 0:26:03.239 and they have conversations with their h Mark, I'll call them, 0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:06.440 that's when it gets a little they're having conversations to 0:26:06.440 --> 0:26:08.720 see if you got some goddamn money, to see if 0:26:08.720 --> 0:26:10.760 they should be wasting their time with Your conversation makes 0:26:10.800 --> 0:26:13.240 the mark feel special because he's like, Wow, you dance 0:26:13.280 --> 0:26:15.399 for everybody, but you're sitting down talking to me. I 0:26:15.440 --> 0:26:17.239 think like, that's why Scripple was a great hole. Drop 0:26:17.359 --> 0:26:18.960 on the clues, bonds fall of scripts out there. That's 0:26:18.960 --> 0:26:21.239 why they're amazing at what they do because they make 0:26:21.320 --> 0:26:23.880 you feel special. They make you feel wanted, and that's 0:26:23.880 --> 0:26:25.399 how you have to make somebody feel if you want 0:26:25.400 --> 0:26:28.680 them to throw the money, salute to all the scripples. Man, Yeah, 0:26:28.720 --> 0:26:32.480 you ever fell in love with stribble? I no, I 0:26:32.640 --> 0:26:35.120 absolutely haven't. I have a lot of franzy with strippers, 0:26:35.440 --> 0:26:37.760 of former strippers. I mean I never fell in love 0:26:37.840 --> 0:26:39.680 with a scribble. I mean you know I've been I've 0:26:39.680 --> 0:26:42.200 been fond of one in my day, okay, but never 0:26:42.280 --> 0:26:44.359 fell in love. The first time you got was that 0:26:44.480 --> 0:26:47.520 a strip club? Yeah? That was I was a kid though, 0:26:47.640 --> 0:26:49.600 Like that wasn't even I wasn't even old enough to 0:26:49.600 --> 0:26:52.120 be in the script club. I'll tell you this too. 0:26:52.680 --> 0:26:54.520 We need to be asking this question about the bottle girls, 0:26:54.560 --> 0:26:59.640 the bartenders. The bottom the generation might have definitely fell 0:26:59.720 --> 0:27:01.920 in love with a couple of bartenders, a couple of 0:27:02.040 --> 0:27:05.320 bottle girls before the scripples. Well, hello, who's this? Yes, hello, 0:27:05.480 --> 0:27:07.879 this is showing showing. It sounds like you fell in 0:27:07.880 --> 0:27:10.360 love with the ship or a bottle girl. Oh, don't 0:27:10.400 --> 0:27:12.560 do anything like that. Yeah, I'm falling in love with 0:27:12.640 --> 0:27:15.960 the Hooters girl. Back in the day, me and my 0:27:16.040 --> 0:27:17.640 friends we used to go up there up in se 0:27:17.840 --> 0:27:21.920 Kid and she was a beaune before brown skin for 0:27:21.960 --> 0:27:23.960 a minute and I would tip for a lot and 0:27:24.119 --> 0:27:25.960 I ended up she ended up for natural being to 0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:29.199 pay for a car payment, damn. And then I remember 0:27:29.240 --> 0:27:31.879 I would come into Hooters and at one point in 0:27:31.960 --> 0:27:33.920 time she wouldn't giving me the energy or the love 0:27:34.000 --> 0:27:40.200 that I thought I deserved. But yeah, yo, goddamn fragile ego, 0:27:40.320 --> 0:27:42.960 she didn't give me the love I deserve. What the 0:27:43.080 --> 0:27:48.359 hell you mean? Well, you know I was tipping her nicely, man, nicely? Ego, bro, 0:27:49.600 --> 0:27:53.680 you leading with ego? Bro boy? Poor you? That's all ego? Hello, 0:27:53.760 --> 0:27:56.520 who's this? Hey can here? We can hear you? What's 0:27:56.600 --> 0:27:58.159 up about? You? Would love? You fell in love with 0:27:58.200 --> 0:28:02.639 a stripper? And it was sir lemain and yeah, man, like, 0:28:02.760 --> 0:28:04.440 how y'all doing? Man? I want you to know I 0:28:04.480 --> 0:28:07.159 definitely appreciate, appreciate what y'all do. What you got going on? Man? 0:28:07.359 --> 0:28:09.359 What's up? Brother? Then I fell in love with a 0:28:09.400 --> 0:28:11.440 stripper man back in my high school day. And can't 0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:14.320 hear them? Yeah, sir, tell us all about it? Yeah? Yeah, 0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:17.159 her name was Essence. Man. I'm still I'm still in 0:28:17.240 --> 0:28:20.880 love with her. How long has it been, sir, yestre together? 0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:23.440 It's been about a good five six years. Man. The 0:28:23.520 --> 0:28:27.679 girl she has a fat, foody man body shape to tattoos. 0:28:27.720 --> 0:28:30.159 She I mean she looked good. She looked Hello, good man. 0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:32.640 I just I ain't been to the strip plus since 0:28:32.720 --> 0:28:34.720 every time I go. Honestly, I fell in love with 0:28:34.760 --> 0:28:36.399 strippers every time I go. So I just got to 0:28:36.400 --> 0:28:40.360 stay away from him for real. Hello, who's this nick? 0:28:40.400 --> 0:28:42.160 You fell in love with the strip of bro? Yeah, 0:28:42.200 --> 0:28:44.520 but I think I'm a lott one war maryl what's 0:28:44.560 --> 0:28:48.440 her name? As a baby? This a Marril flaws. Y'all 0:28:48.480 --> 0:28:52.640 start playing with me. Lord. Have you tried to highlight 0:28:52.760 --> 0:28:56.120 her outside of office hour? With her when she's not working? Yeah, 0:28:56.400 --> 0:28:59.200 I mean, we're not got to Instagram or whatever. I'm 0:28:59.240 --> 0:29:02.160 talking to her. You know, we talked a little bit, 0:29:02.240 --> 0:29:04.080 but it's a hard to get her out of the club. Man. 0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:07.000 A lot of money in the club on her. Oh 0:29:07.760 --> 0:29:10.800 I fent a decent amount, but I think would have connected. 0:29:10.920 --> 0:29:16.080 Came out on the podcast. She came on your podcast. Yeah, yeah, 0:29:16.120 --> 0:29:19.480 you know the podcast. She came on two different episodes, 0:29:19.480 --> 0:29:21.960 but she called Stripersole. So we had her and a 0:29:22.000 --> 0:29:24.440 couple other people. But you know, just getting the sender 0:29:24.560 --> 0:29:27.000 interviewer and talk to her, I'm like, I don't think 0:29:27.040 --> 0:29:29.200 I want a girl. So won't you tell her? Won't 0:29:29.200 --> 0:29:30.200 you be like y'all gonna be honest with you. I 0:29:30.320 --> 0:29:33.360 really like you. You know what I'm saying. Maybe you can, 0:29:33.480 --> 0:29:36.600 maybe you can offset her her her lifestyle. You got 0:29:36.720 --> 0:29:40.200 enough money to offset her lifestyle. I make a decent amount. 0:29:40.440 --> 0:29:42.840 But I think you know, see, she get a lot 0:29:42.880 --> 0:29:45.520 of money already. For the money ain't gonna get her. 0:29:45.960 --> 0:29:50.600 You know. So life, show a love, show a real love, 0:29:50.800 --> 0:29:53.640 like like like court her. You know what I'm saying, 0:29:53.800 --> 0:29:55.480 like like treat her the way you would want like 0:29:55.800 --> 0:29:58.240 somebody to treat your daughter. You would want your father 0:29:58.320 --> 0:30:00.680 to treat your mom like you. Show some real love. 0:30:00.880 --> 0:30:05.360 Good luck? Man? Why not? Why not? Hello? Who's dance? 0:30:05.800 --> 0:30:09.320 What this? Prince German? Chris? What up? Man? You fell 0:30:09.360 --> 0:30:11.760 in love with the strip of bro Oh yeah, gonna 0:30:12.040 --> 0:30:15.000 Miss Melfid's man? Oh my gosh, she blew my mind. 0:30:15.360 --> 0:30:17.080 She gave you a lap dance and blew your mind 0:30:17.120 --> 0:30:19.800 and your love. What's your name? Miss Melford's man? So 0:30:19.920 --> 0:30:22.960 I got the lap dance, and I got a number 0:30:23.000 --> 0:30:25.000 and all that, and I hooked the bull again, and 0:30:25.120 --> 0:30:27.000 that the second time my hostel put up. When I 0:30:27.040 --> 0:30:28.640 went to the Gas season, I got all kind of 0:30:28.680 --> 0:30:31.920 pills and still man, I couldn't even finish I was. 0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:33.800 I got my money for it. I take you that 0:30:34.320 --> 0:30:41.520 damn you got. All right, man, man, have mercy on 0:30:41.720 --> 0:30:44.760 my poor soul. What's that? Man? The story? I mean, 0:30:44.880 --> 0:30:46.720 there is no more to the story, y'all. Brother, just 0:30:46.800 --> 0:30:49.120 gotta stop letting y'all ego lead man, because some of 0:30:49.200 --> 0:30:51.800 y'all ego be making y'all believed things that don't exist, 0:30:51.920 --> 0:30:55.960 like y'all relationships with these scripples. All right, all, oh, 0:30:56.120 --> 0:30:59.800 scripple old you is a dance. That's it. And that's 0:30:59.840 --> 0:31:02.680 only because the relationship is transactional. You paid for the service, 0:31:02.960 --> 0:31:05.560 she provided that service. That's that. Y'all get to know 0:31:05.640 --> 0:31:08.200 each other outside of that, and you know, something happens 0:31:08.640 --> 0:31:13.720 great other than that. Goddamn tippic keeping moving, No, allright, 0:31:13.760 --> 0:31:15.240 we got more, don't move. It's the best of the 0:31:15.280 --> 0:31:22.040 Breakfast Club. The Breakfast Club, The Breakfast Club. Your morning's 0:31:22.080 --> 0:31:28.400 will never be the same morning. Everybody's DJ Envy Angela Yee, Charlemagne, 0:31:28.440 --> 0:31:30.520 the god we all the Breakfast Club. We got a 0:31:30.560 --> 0:31:32.880 special guest in the building. Yes, indeed, the first time 0:31:32.960 --> 0:31:35.320 on the show. And yeah, she's never been up there, 0:31:35.800 --> 0:31:41.920 you'd be busy. Seriously, Yes, Alicia, Keys's happening. Everything is everything, 0:31:42.080 --> 0:31:44.000 just trying to feel like I've never been in this 0:31:44.360 --> 0:31:47.320 room with y'all think, so, yeah, here we go. It's 0:31:47.360 --> 0:31:49.400 pretty disgusting in here if you look around? Is it 0:31:49.920 --> 0:31:53.120 you prefer not to be in on? It's beautiful? This 0:31:53.200 --> 0:31:55.280 is your space writes the essence to it, you know 0:31:55.320 --> 0:31:58.320 what I mean? The first time doing a double album, 0:31:58.560 --> 0:32:01.800 it is my first time. You got a lot of music. 0:32:02.160 --> 0:32:04.400 It's a lot so much you just have so much music, 0:32:04.560 --> 0:32:06.920 or during the pandemic, you like, I just feel like working. 0:32:07.280 --> 0:32:10.000 It's originals and unlocked, so yeah, it's definitely you know, 0:32:10.120 --> 0:32:12.280 really it's a lot of the songs are the same 0:32:12.360 --> 0:32:14.600 because the one side is original, so that's like more 0:32:14.640 --> 0:32:17.880 stripped down piano vibe. The other side Mike Will and 0:32:18.000 --> 0:32:21.240 I sampled the original, so it's really two perspectives of 0:32:21.360 --> 0:32:22.960 the same song. So if you really break it down, 0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:25.960 it's probably like fourteen joints times. Oh that's why I 0:32:25.960 --> 0:32:29.719 said unlock some of the tracks. Usually you don't work 0:32:29.760 --> 0:32:32.400 with just one producer like you did with Mike Will 0:32:32.520 --> 0:32:34.880 on the Unlocked version. How is that process now it 0:32:35.000 --> 0:32:37.520 was great. I mean, you know, you know, to just 0:32:37.680 --> 0:32:39.480 kind of bring it back down to the basics. I 0:32:39.560 --> 0:32:42.120 think at the beginning, I always it was just mostly 0:32:42.240 --> 0:32:44.560 me and at the time I had my partner crucial 0:32:44.640 --> 0:32:47.960 that we always worked together. But after that I started 0:32:48.000 --> 0:32:50.920 to explore more different collaborations. So coming back to the 0:32:51.000 --> 0:32:53.960 basics of just like being just me on the originals 0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:56.520 and then just me and Mike unlocked it it's just 0:32:56.680 --> 0:32:59.280 it's it's it's fluid, just feels kind of easy and 0:32:59.400 --> 0:33:02.120 it flows, especially for now. Obviously we're not all getting 0:33:02.160 --> 0:33:04.360 with a thousand people right now. It's about keeping the 0:33:04.440 --> 0:33:07.280 circle tight. First of all, how are you? I don't 0:33:07.320 --> 0:33:09.160 think we said that. How are you? How are you? 0:33:09.480 --> 0:33:12.600 How's your energy? Thank you? My energy is amazing. I 0:33:12.720 --> 0:33:15.480 was actually gonna ask you, how the hell are y'all good? 0:33:15.560 --> 0:33:17.480 I'm good. I appreciate you. It's a good time of 0:33:17.520 --> 0:33:21.160 the year now, holidays. I feel beat. I know it's 0:33:21.200 --> 0:33:23.800 a it's a weird time still though last year was 0:33:23.920 --> 0:33:26.200 really weird. This year is still a little weird. But 0:33:26.720 --> 0:33:29.040 you got new music out and the best time I 0:33:29.120 --> 0:33:31.320 feel like to drop music. It's keys miss That's what 0:33:31.400 --> 0:33:35.040 I'm calling that Keiths miss. That chain is nuts. Thank you? 0:33:35.280 --> 0:33:44.640 Where my tests beautiful? That it's so hip hop and soul, 0:33:45.120 --> 0:33:48.360 that's dopey. I figure everybody else bring out their chains. Actually, Swizzy, 0:33:48.600 --> 0:33:51.960 he gave me this for his birthday. His birthday, he 0:33:52.080 --> 0:33:54.600 gave me this. I thought that was kind of fire. 0:33:54.880 --> 0:33:57.440 So what you know, we've been seeing you now doing 0:33:57.600 --> 0:33:59.960 doing more and more interviews, More and more people are 0:34:00.080 --> 0:34:04.760 starting to know who Alicia Keys really is. We really 0:34:04.840 --> 0:34:07.800 didn't know, like you did do what what? What what? 0:34:07.960 --> 0:34:09.680 And then it just Keys took off and then we 0:34:09.760 --> 0:34:12.440 really didn't see you know what type of keys? This 0:34:12.560 --> 0:34:15.160 part of Keys? I think you right, And I guess 0:34:15.239 --> 0:34:17.840 I didn't ever realize it because I live with myself, 0:34:17.960 --> 0:34:19.560 so I know who I am, and I know how 0:34:19.640 --> 0:34:21.000 I feel, and I know what I do, and I 0:34:21.080 --> 0:34:23.160 know how vibe and all of my friends and people 0:34:23.200 --> 0:34:25.480 that rock with me, they know me. So I guess 0:34:25.520 --> 0:34:27.920 I didn't. And every time I come to an interviewer, 0:34:27.960 --> 0:34:30.480 I come to a thing, I'm always the same person. 0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:33.919 You can't say like I'm acting differently. But I guess 0:34:33.960 --> 0:34:37.040 I just never realized that you people didn't actually get 0:34:37.120 --> 0:34:40.400 to connect with me. I think because of maybe the 0:34:40.600 --> 0:34:43.480 type of interviews they were, so it didn't allow us 0:34:43.520 --> 0:34:47.439 to like get into the zone the way that maybe 0:34:47.480 --> 0:34:50.080 some of these ones more recently have felt. Who is 0:34:50.120 --> 0:34:53.120 Alicia Keys in twenty twenty one, We're going into twenty twenty? 0:34:53.200 --> 0:34:57.280 Who are you now? Who had twenty twenty two? It's crazy? 0:34:58.200 --> 0:34:59.640 Um Man, you know, I'm a lot of the same 0:34:59.680 --> 0:35:03.640 person and that I've always been. I'm definitely I'm definitely 0:35:03.800 --> 0:35:07.960 that same kind of empathetic, relatable, boots on the ground 0:35:08.080 --> 0:35:11.200 type of girl woman. Um But I definitely have a 0:35:11.280 --> 0:35:14.600 lot more wisdom. I have a lot more confidence. I 0:35:14.640 --> 0:35:16.960 have a lot more understanding of just just what's real 0:35:17.040 --> 0:35:19.279 and what's fake. I think sometimes this you know, this 0:35:19.440 --> 0:35:22.560 world is game. This industry can really be confusing, you know, 0:35:22.680 --> 0:35:25.200 you know, you get confused about what's actual and what's not. 0:35:25.840 --> 0:35:29.000 So um So anyway, but just like having an amazing 0:35:29.080 --> 0:35:32.960 time I'm on my music. Fully, I'm better than ever 0:35:33.200 --> 0:35:35.719 on that on that side, and I just feel like 0:35:35.800 --> 0:35:38.880 I'm just a person who is really clear about who 0:35:38.960 --> 0:35:40.560 I am and what I want and where I'm going. 0:35:40.760 --> 0:35:43.719 Do your kids understand they have famous parents. They're so 0:35:43.880 --> 0:35:48.400 mad they'd be like you gotta go again, you have 0:35:48.520 --> 0:35:50.839 to go again, and they always try to guilt chip 0:35:50.960 --> 0:35:53.719 me extra like, but I'm gonna be right back every 0:35:53.760 --> 0:35:55.880 time I go, I come back and you can perform 0:35:55.960 --> 0:35:58.640 with me. Yeah, they're starting to like that. I'm noticing 0:35:59.480 --> 0:36:02.080 my younger genesis. He's very, very shy. He is the boss, 0:36:02.719 --> 0:36:04.560 and he don't play no games. He don't like you. 0:36:04.680 --> 0:36:07.040 He's like, no, he don't care what He's not trying 0:36:07.120 --> 0:36:11.279 to do it be like nice to anybody. But he's 0:36:11.280 --> 0:36:13.319 starting to like being on the stage a little bit, 0:36:13.360 --> 0:36:16.440 which is a shocker because he's super shy. The other 0:36:16.520 --> 0:36:18.560 day he was like, Mommy, why he didn't call me 0:36:18.640 --> 0:36:22.040 on stage. I was like, uh, I try to play 0:36:22.080 --> 0:36:25.680 you like you want to go off there? Yes, so 0:36:26.239 --> 0:36:29.160 anyway that yeah, they do like that now. I remember 0:36:29.360 --> 0:36:32.240 back in the day, there were some things about management, 0:36:32.400 --> 0:36:34.880 right that people were talking about and speculating on when 0:36:34.920 --> 0:36:36.479 you had first on a deal because you got signed 0:36:36.480 --> 0:36:40.279 at an early early age, right fourteen, And then I 0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:42.360 remember hearing that like they were charging you like some 0:36:42.520 --> 0:36:44.960 crazy percentage and then you had to get rid of management. 0:36:45.000 --> 0:36:50.000 What was the real story behind that? Really? Um? You know, 0:36:50.080 --> 0:36:52.080 I was really with the same management for a really 0:36:52.160 --> 0:36:55.200 a long time, and I don't think that it was 0:36:55.280 --> 0:36:57.920 like some crazy percentage. To be honest, the commissions in 0:36:58.000 --> 0:37:00.960 the business is just you know, it's like they're too high. 0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:03.480 And then you have a management commission, you have a 0:37:03.520 --> 0:37:05.840 business management commission, you have a lawyer commission, and you 0:37:05.880 --> 0:37:07.920 add all those commissions up and you end up with 0:37:08.520 --> 0:37:10.880 less than all of them. But you know what I mean. 0:37:11.000 --> 0:37:13.080 So I think that it's not that they were doing 0:37:13.200 --> 0:37:16.840 something that wasn't standard. The problem is that industry standard 0:37:17.080 --> 0:37:19.759 is incorrect and so as a young person you don't 0:37:19.800 --> 0:37:22.239 really know those things, and so you just do what 0:37:22.480 --> 0:37:24.560 you think you're supposed to do. And then finally five 0:37:24.640 --> 0:37:26.440 years down the line, when I was looking at my 0:37:26.520 --> 0:37:29.120 bottom line and my you know, management, business managers and 0:37:29.200 --> 0:37:30.920 lawyers were coming back with more money and I was 0:37:30.960 --> 0:37:34.160 on the road for two years straight, I was like, oh, 0:37:34.840 --> 0:37:37.200 what's happening. So again, it's just an education process. I 0:37:37.200 --> 0:37:40.279 don't think it was like some major drama or thing 0:37:40.360 --> 0:37:42.200 that they were like stealing from me. It was more 0:37:42.280 --> 0:37:45.560 that this is what it usually is, and did you 0:37:45.719 --> 0:37:47.920 manage that? How do you adjust that? You just got 0:37:48.000 --> 0:37:50.520 to tell you I'm not paying you that. Yeah, Like 0:37:50.600 --> 0:37:52.719 I'm like, that's not happening. I get it that that's 0:37:52.920 --> 0:37:54.680 what the standard is. But what has to happen for 0:37:54.760 --> 0:37:56.680 me is I need to have a long term you know, 0:37:56.719 --> 0:37:58.239 I need to be able to This needs to be 0:37:58.280 --> 0:38:00.279 a long term thing for me, not a short term thing. 0:38:00.400 --> 0:38:02.960 So you reapproached them and you say, I'm comfortable doing this. 0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:04.839 I won't do I want to do hourly. I don't 0:38:04.840 --> 0:38:06.840 want to do percentages. I want to monitor it, I 0:38:06.960 --> 0:38:07.960 want to see it. And you just got to get 0:38:08.000 --> 0:38:09.840 on top of your So once I figured out what 0:38:09.960 --> 0:38:12.799 to do, I could actually execute it. But at first 0:38:12.800 --> 0:38:15.400 you're in there like what it might do? You know? 0:38:15.520 --> 0:38:17.520 So once I got past that, that's all. I think. 0:38:17.560 --> 0:38:19.399 It was just that to clear it up. It never 0:38:19.480 --> 0:38:22.840 see it never seemed like you had trouble gaining creative 0:38:22.920 --> 0:38:26.440 control and freedom throughout your whole career. Even in the 0:38:26.480 --> 0:38:28.759 early days. They let you just do you. I have 0:38:28.880 --> 0:38:31.880 to say they definitely always I always had control of 0:38:32.239 --> 0:38:34.799 my music for sure, and I do think my first 0:38:34.840 --> 0:38:37.400 management was really instrumental on that. They were really about 0:38:37.480 --> 0:38:39.440 like me being at the head of my table, so 0:38:39.560 --> 0:38:41.680 they knew that I was playing. They knew I was producing, 0:38:41.760 --> 0:38:44.320 they knew I was writing, they knew this was my sognic, 0:38:44.440 --> 0:38:46.960 my sound, and it was really about like how to 0:38:47.120 --> 0:38:49.160 get the best out of it. And we tried at 0:38:49.160 --> 0:38:50.719 the beginning, we tried to do like all of the 0:38:50.800 --> 0:38:52.759 things where all the other producers do the thing. It 0:38:52.840 --> 0:38:55.080 just didn't work because it didn't sound like me. It 0:38:55.160 --> 0:38:57.960 wasn't New York enough, it wasn't like the vibe enough. 0:38:58.000 --> 0:39:00.640 So I think it definitely. I think it definitely. I've 0:39:00.640 --> 0:39:02.400 always had control of my sound. That's one thing I 0:39:02.440 --> 0:39:04.440 really appreciate it. It was in marketing and promotions that 0:39:04.560 --> 0:39:07.160 in your first deal they couldn't get a grasp on, 0:39:07.280 --> 0:39:10.600 you think, because clearly you blew up after that first deal, 0:39:11.239 --> 0:39:14.399 so you think the very first the very first deal, 0:39:14.800 --> 0:39:20.520 they just was corny, right, But you know, I think 0:39:20.520 --> 0:39:22.880 it just wasn't the right place for me. You know, 0:39:23.440 --> 0:39:26.640 now that I know and I believe in divine timing, 0:39:26.760 --> 0:39:28.600 you know, you realize that it just wasn't right. So 0:39:28.719 --> 0:39:30.160 I was I had to move out of there so 0:39:30.239 --> 0:39:31.840 that I could move on to the next thing. So 0:39:31.920 --> 0:39:34.920 I'm actually grateful that they were corny and didn't understand 0:39:35.480 --> 0:39:39.360 what I was doing because then um, I could move on. 0:39:39.880 --> 0:39:41.600 All right. We got mored with Alicia Keys. When we 0:39:41.719 --> 0:39:43.840 come back, don't move It's to Breakfast Club. Good morning 0:39:44.680 --> 0:39:48.799 morning everybody A CJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlomagne, the guy 0:39:48.880 --> 0:39:50.480 we are the Breakfast Club was still kicking it with 0:39:50.520 --> 0:39:53.120 Alicia Keys. It's crazy, is this is the Alicia Keys that? 0:39:53.200 --> 0:39:55.560 I don't think everybody ever seen it in their life, 0:39:55.800 --> 0:39:57.400 you know. I mean just when I'm hearing you on 0:39:58.160 --> 0:40:01.520 drink Champs. Oh, she's a just the cockiness, just how 0:40:01.560 --> 0:40:03.880 you feel, just the authentic. But we never got a 0:40:03.960 --> 0:40:06.000 chance to hear you speak. And I think it's a 0:40:06.040 --> 0:40:08.560 different side, you know, because we loved the music, but 0:40:08.680 --> 0:40:10.400 we didn't know eight Keys, right, you know what I mean? 0:40:10.480 --> 0:40:13.120 But now it's like New Yorker. She was punch you 0:40:13.120 --> 0:40:15.000 in your face, like this is that that vibe which 0:40:15.040 --> 0:40:17.160 I loved? I was gonna ask at twelve, what got 0:40:17.200 --> 0:40:21.040 you into singing and playing the piano and being a musician? 0:40:21.080 --> 0:40:24.120 At twelve, coming from New York City Hell's kitchen, Everybody's 0:40:24.200 --> 0:40:26.520 running around outside? What got you say? No, this is 0:40:26.600 --> 0:40:29.320 what I want to do. I don't know what always 0:40:29.360 --> 0:40:31.360 attracted me to the piano. It was almost like a 0:40:31.480 --> 0:40:33.440 calling kind of. I think, I just I don't even 0:40:33.520 --> 0:40:36.960 know nobody. I really nobody had no played. My grandmother played, 0:40:37.000 --> 0:40:38.680 but I barely saw her because she lived in like 0:40:38.760 --> 0:40:41.759 a whole other place. Um, so I didn't There wasn't 0:40:41.840 --> 0:40:44.239 somebody that was around me that kind of led me there. 0:40:44.320 --> 0:40:46.880 So I think it was a calling on the piano side. 0:40:47.120 --> 0:40:49.160 And then once I got a chance to have have 0:40:49.320 --> 0:40:51.120 access to one, because it's like who has a piano? 0:40:51.320 --> 0:40:53.880 Like that's that's the world we don't use because we 0:40:53.960 --> 0:40:56.000 don't have them record, you know what I mean? So 0:40:56.560 --> 0:40:58.600 so I think, you know, oh, that's what it was. 0:40:58.680 --> 0:41:01.840 I got. Um there was like a a strange gift 0:41:02.000 --> 0:41:04.279 that was a person kind of was moving and they 0:41:04.280 --> 0:41:06.240 didn't know what to do with this kind of piano 0:41:06.280 --> 0:41:07.960 they had in their family or whatever, and they said 0:41:08.280 --> 0:41:09.759 like could you use it? So it was one of 0:41:09.800 --> 0:41:13.359 those weird things that would never happen ever and did. 0:41:13.680 --> 0:41:15.319 And so I think that was kind of the door 0:41:15.440 --> 0:41:16.759 that opened it up, right? And how did you get 0:41:16.760 --> 0:41:19.080 into the Industrycause they said your mother was a paralegal, 0:41:19.800 --> 0:41:21.840 so how did you How did m know about the 0:41:21.960 --> 0:41:24.719 music industry. She did, like, how did the family know 0:41:24.800 --> 0:41:27.880 about getting you a deal? Like how she did it. 0:41:27.960 --> 0:41:30.680 I wasn't raised by my father, so my mother definitely 0:41:31.200 --> 0:41:34.640 was both for me and she she didn't know. She 0:41:34.840 --> 0:41:38.600 didn't know. Um, we happened to stumble on we were 0:41:38.640 --> 0:41:41.600 at the pl doing all of these uh kind of 0:41:42.120 --> 0:41:44.760 we were putting together a group and rehearsing at PL 0:41:44.840 --> 0:41:47.680 on a hundred thirty seventh like every day after school, 0:41:48.000 --> 0:41:51.000 and so, um, she didn't know anything. These guys kind 0:41:51.040 --> 0:41:52.480 of were like, hey, we you know, we think your 0:41:52.560 --> 0:41:54.120 daughter can do some stuff, and this is what we 0:41:54.160 --> 0:41:56.000 could do. And I remember they be in our little apartment. 0:41:56.120 --> 0:41:58.480 In our apartment was like tiny and they were kind 0:41:58.480 --> 0:42:00.160 of big. They'd just be sitting there taking up all 0:42:00.200 --> 0:42:02.160 the space. And I think she just I think she 0:42:02.280 --> 0:42:04.600 probably felt really distrustful. I think she just had to 0:42:05.080 --> 0:42:07.279 she decided to kind of go with it. But I 0:42:07.320 --> 0:42:11.320 don't think she knew anything. Now. On the first record 0:42:11.360 --> 0:42:19.080 on the album sample Truth, Yes, I love push Man. 0:42:19.320 --> 0:42:21.880 I just felt like he has such an energy a zone. 0:42:22.600 --> 0:42:25.360 Um you know, I love how he flows. It feels 0:42:25.400 --> 0:42:29.200 like he just zooms right into the truth and paint 0:42:29.280 --> 0:42:32.080 you a picture that voice is so like you just 0:42:32.160 --> 0:42:34.120 feel like you're right there with him everywhere. It's a 0:42:34.239 --> 0:42:36.520 movie to me every time that he rhymes. So I 0:42:36.600 --> 0:42:38.600 can't believe I never worked with him before. I've always 0:42:38.600 --> 0:42:42.400 admired him and that that temple of the Truth and 0:42:42.719 --> 0:42:45.160 the song that I wrote it is called Plentiful. It 0:42:45.360 --> 0:42:48.560 feels like his lane right there. So it was perfect. 0:42:48.680 --> 0:42:51.160 Why that sample, because that sample is just so so good. 0:42:51.239 --> 0:42:54.399 Can I don't feel like anybody used that. I don't 0:42:54.400 --> 0:42:56.919 know how that woman under the radar and I didn't 0:42:56.920 --> 0:43:00.600 even realize that that Yay producing. I didn't really realize that. 0:43:00.680 --> 0:43:03.000 So obviously, Yeah and I have history in regards to 0:43:03.120 --> 0:43:05.040 music we've made, so it was kind of fresh to 0:43:05.200 --> 0:43:08.320 come back there, not only with Yay, but obviously with 0:43:08.440 --> 0:43:11.160 the Truth Beanie Big love to Beanie and then push it. 0:43:11.280 --> 0:43:12.840 But it felt, you know, it's all about keys. This 0:43:12.960 --> 0:43:15.680 record is all about keys and those that organ and 0:43:15.760 --> 0:43:17.320 the way that I put the keys on top of it, 0:43:17.680 --> 0:43:20.320 it felt like it had this urgency and this darkness 0:43:20.440 --> 0:43:23.000 that and I like how the vocals I chose were 0:43:23.080 --> 0:43:26.279 like a jazzy zone, So I liked this mixture of world. 0:43:26.360 --> 0:43:28.439 It felt like it was a nice way to lure 0:43:28.480 --> 0:43:30.279 you into the world. I didn't know you did you 0:43:30.320 --> 0:43:32.200 don't know my name? What? I don't know why. I 0:43:32.280 --> 0:43:35.879 never thought now that I feel you like I didn't 0:43:35.920 --> 0:43:37.759 know it did the truth? Did you know he did 0:43:37.840 --> 0:43:40.320 the truth? I did when I tried to sample it, 0:43:40.440 --> 0:43:42.400 I tried. I tried to sample it to use for 0:43:42.480 --> 0:43:48.680 a commercial from my team. I hey, now that's fire. Also, 0:43:48.719 --> 0:43:50.840 they said you would do another verses You're open to 0:43:50.960 --> 0:43:55.719 it another versus another verses. Yes, I don't know who 0:43:56.320 --> 0:43:59.160 I'm trying to kill. When I'm listening to you on 0:43:59.360 --> 0:44:01.839 on drink chips, it was like, yeah, that John Legend 0:44:01.920 --> 0:44:03.560 was cool? You know that was that was like, you know, 0:44:04.320 --> 0:44:07.040 it was obvious. But I'm ready for that war. I'm 0:44:07.040 --> 0:44:11.200 ready for that action whatever. I love that. Who would 0:44:11.239 --> 0:44:12.960 be the one? Who? Do you? Do? You do? You know? 0:44:13.400 --> 0:44:17.960 I mean I agree with them at the end. Look 0:44:19.680 --> 0:44:23.080 record one of my favorite records. I need to Beyonce, 0:44:23.400 --> 0:44:27.080 the Rihanna, the Maridos, one of those three. Okay, yeah, 0:44:28.360 --> 0:44:29.800 do you feel like you don't get mentioned in that? 0:44:30.600 --> 0:44:34.000 That spear enough? No, I don't feel like that. I 0:44:34.080 --> 0:44:36.759 feel like I'm in my own lane anyway. Definitely. Yeah, 0:44:36.920 --> 0:44:39.480 So I could see why people wouldn't because I don't 0:44:39.480 --> 0:44:42.359 really belong there, And sometimes I feel like Alicia Keys 0:44:42.400 --> 0:44:45.120 was born in the wrong era musically, What you mean 0:44:45.160 --> 0:44:47.279 you don't belong there? I just feel like I belong 0:44:47.360 --> 0:44:49.480 in my own space, you know. I just felt I 0:44:50.360 --> 0:44:55.160 occupy my own space that really doesn't fit. Actually, And 0:44:55.400 --> 0:44:57.880 even that when he said you believe you know my 0:44:58.040 --> 0:45:01.000 name wouldn't get mentioned within that, I don't even feel 0:45:01.000 --> 0:45:03.560 like it fits quite in that group. But I do 0:45:03.719 --> 0:45:05.879 feel like I was born in the wrong era too, 0:45:06.400 --> 0:45:09.480 I really do. I was probably missed it by a 0:45:09.560 --> 0:45:12.319 decade or two. Even when you listening to the album now, 0:45:12.360 --> 0:45:14.960 you're like, all right, wait a minute, where we at? Yeah? 0:45:14.960 --> 0:45:17.080 I mean it's like you feel Billy Holliday like that, 0:45:17.280 --> 0:45:18.759 you see me see those movies where it's like the 0:45:19.200 --> 0:45:22.480 bars and the lights are low and everybody's smoking cigars cigarettes, 0:45:22.520 --> 0:45:25.160 Like that's how Let's feel moves. I know, I know 0:45:25.239 --> 0:45:27.520 what you mean, and that's why I fit perfect here 0:45:27.600 --> 0:45:29.440 right now, because it's meant to be like that, and 0:45:29.520 --> 0:45:31.800 it's meant to have that mixture. So I don't, actually 0:45:31.800 --> 0:45:35.160 I don't I disagree like you splin gass like you're 0:45:35.160 --> 0:45:38.360 a fifteen term Grammy Award winning artists. I don't. I 0:45:38.400 --> 0:45:41.080 don't think people heard of for her lane. She don't like, 0:45:41.320 --> 0:45:46.319 but you never do rb she do. The pop doesn't 0:45:46.360 --> 0:45:50.000 really make like that. There you go. It's kind of 0:45:50.080 --> 0:45:52.440 like that. Yeah, I feel like that's I think what 0:45:52.600 --> 0:45:54.839 you thought I was saying was as if I don't 0:45:54.920 --> 0:45:58.319 fit in that lane, as if I'm somehow not belonging there. 0:45:58.719 --> 0:46:02.719 I'm mormented, as if it's maybe it's unlaneable. It's not 0:46:02.840 --> 0:46:06.480 a comparison. You can't put this song against this song 0:46:06.560 --> 0:46:09.719 because they're no, they're not. They just don't. They're not 0:46:09.880 --> 0:46:12.840 in the same space or whatever. But she got me, 0:46:13.080 --> 0:46:16.719 she got you, and she got I like that drink Champs. 0:46:16.760 --> 0:46:19.520 You told the story about Prince right now, Has anybody 0:46:19.600 --> 0:46:23.799 else ever not cleared a sample for you besides Prince um, 0:46:24.680 --> 0:46:27.959 because I can't imagine Alicia Keys comes right and she's 0:46:28.000 --> 0:46:30.360 like when you told that story, though it was respectful, 0:46:30.400 --> 0:46:33.400 but you understood. Yeah, I understand that Prince is very 0:46:33.480 --> 0:46:36.319 into ownership and making sure the right people get the money. 0:46:37.000 --> 0:46:40.400 But I can't see somebody saying they have We're not 0:46:40.480 --> 0:46:42.920 going to sign off on this Alicia Keys record. You 0:46:43.000 --> 0:46:45.319 know what I mean, I guess I don't have any 0:46:45.440 --> 0:46:48.440 that comes to my head. That was like super super disappointing, 0:46:48.680 --> 0:46:51.080 you know, when I was like no, um so yeah, 0:46:51.120 --> 0:46:53.600 and I don't remember another one that was my best 0:46:53.719 --> 0:46:57.800 that's my best one, you though, No, he loved me, 0:46:57.960 --> 0:47:00.960 which is why he said no. Record. He loved me, 0:47:01.000 --> 0:47:03.200 which is why he said no. And I actually appreciate 0:47:03.840 --> 0:47:06.160 he said no in a way that it wasn't no 0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:09.359 for me. It was no who owned what would come 0:47:09.400 --> 0:47:13.279 of it? It wasn't no to me, you know what 0:47:13.320 --> 0:47:15.840 I mean. I learned a lot of things about ownership, 0:47:15.920 --> 0:47:18.200 like did you and Prince have those type of conversations? 0:47:18.600 --> 0:47:21.720 So I understand now. And he was very obviously super vocal. 0:47:22.040 --> 0:47:26.400 He didn't he didn't overpreachum when we were I was 0:47:26.480 --> 0:47:28.680 with him, I feel like he was more concerned about 0:47:28.719 --> 0:47:34.840 me cursing Prince. He hated it because he was you 0:47:34.880 --> 0:47:37.000 know what I mean, So at that point, you know, 0:47:37.160 --> 0:47:39.279 that was the most important thing to him, and he 0:47:39.360 --> 0:47:41.239 knew I was gonna slip up. You know when I 0:47:41.280 --> 0:47:42.640 met Prince, that's the first thing I said, because I 0:47:42.640 --> 0:47:44.520 couldn't think of nothing the only thing he what did? 0:47:44.560 --> 0:47:47.680 He said, Because it's Prince. I didn't think I'll be 0:47:47.719 --> 0:47:49.239 you A certain people you get around, you don't realize 0:47:49.280 --> 0:47:51.680 you started scrugg Hey, you know I was reading your 0:47:51.719 --> 0:47:56.840 whole witness too, I think to say. And then he 0:47:56.920 --> 0:48:00.600 asked for a picture in princeon No, that picture. He 0:48:00.640 --> 0:48:03.600 tried to sneak one anyway. We first we see prints, 0:48:03.960 --> 0:48:06.520 we go high. I go high, he says, how he 0:48:06.600 --> 0:48:11.840 goes witness. Yeah, we'll talk about that one day we're connected, 0:48:12.360 --> 0:48:16.719 talk to me. We're talking about that. Princess. No, he said, no, 0:48:16.760 --> 0:48:19.560 I don't. He's I don't want to take pictures right now. Okay, 0:48:20.000 --> 0:48:21.920 he tried to sneak a picture while Prince is walking off. 0:48:22.000 --> 0:48:24.120 I did. He took a picture and it was there. 0:48:24.400 --> 0:48:27.200 It was Prince floating away right literally, which is just 0:48:27.320 --> 0:48:29.640 it that represents him perfect. And guess what ten seconds 0:48:29.719 --> 0:48:33.240 later that's in my phone. That was just black true 0:48:33.280 --> 0:48:37.560 story back the picture. And then it was gone, oh 0:48:37.719 --> 0:48:40.239 that hurts so bad over het. No, that's when I 0:48:40.280 --> 0:48:44.440 let me let me know Princess other worldly being. Question. 0:48:45.000 --> 0:48:46.880 Now I get it all a little movie. We got 0:48:46.960 --> 0:48:48.560 more with Alicia Keys when we come back it's the 0:48:48.560 --> 0:48:53.520 Breakfast Club, Good Morning Morning, everybody is DJ enjy, Angela Yee, 0:48:53.640 --> 0:48:55.560 Scharlom and the guy we are the Breakfast Club was 0:48:55.640 --> 0:48:58.520 still kicking it with Alicia Keys. Yeah. When you recorded 0:48:58.560 --> 0:49:00.600 this album, Keys and you were riding has where you 0:49:00.719 --> 0:49:04.160 home during the pandemic, doing during doing this very much 0:49:04.200 --> 0:49:07.200 in love, it feels like, definitely, I feel like a 0:49:07.239 --> 0:49:08.839 lot of people pick up on the love and it's 0:49:08.960 --> 0:49:11.560 I am in love, and so that is actually right. 0:49:12.000 --> 0:49:14.880 And I also feel like I've also become able to 0:49:15.000 --> 0:49:17.560 express my love for myself, So I think a lot 0:49:17.640 --> 0:49:20.720 of the love that you feel is also me loving 0:49:20.800 --> 0:49:23.719 all myself and expressing like that love too, So it's both. 0:49:23.760 --> 0:49:25.440 It's obviously the love I have for my family, the 0:49:25.520 --> 0:49:27.600 love I have for Swiss, and the love that I 0:49:27.680 --> 0:49:29.480 have for myself. So I think that's what's coming out. 0:49:30.320 --> 0:49:32.719 Letting him hear these songs while you were writing them 0:49:32.840 --> 0:49:36.440 and recording them, m oh man, you know, he he definitely. 0:49:37.040 --> 0:49:39.200 He always kind of stays out of my way because 0:49:39.239 --> 0:49:41.880 he just, you know, lets me have my space, and 0:49:41.920 --> 0:49:44.359 he really likes that. But I love to play him 0:49:44.400 --> 0:49:47.040 songs after I'm finished, especially when I love them and 0:49:47.120 --> 0:49:49.200 when he loves them as fresh. You know, he sees 0:49:49.239 --> 0:49:52.760 extra overdramatic about everything. So I love I love that energy. 0:49:53.040 --> 0:49:58.160 But have I always been and um not the way 0:49:58.239 --> 0:50:00.800 that I thought I did. I thought that I thought 0:50:00.880 --> 0:50:04.200 that I was very much clear about what self love meant. 0:50:04.600 --> 0:50:07.239 But I realized that I didn't have that confidence and 0:50:07.320 --> 0:50:10.880 I didn't have that actual love. If I did, I 0:50:10.920 --> 0:50:14.840 would have probably made different choices, or I would probably 0:50:14.840 --> 0:50:18.359 have demanded more for myself in a lot of ways, 0:50:18.480 --> 0:50:21.360 which is what I understand now. So what about worthiness? 0:50:21.760 --> 0:50:22.960 How long did it take you to get to a 0:50:23.040 --> 0:50:25.719 feeling of work? Yeah? The worthiness, that's a deep one 0:50:25.800 --> 0:50:28.040 because I always you know, I was raised by a 0:50:28.120 --> 0:50:31.560 feminist for sure. I always felt very much like I 0:50:31.600 --> 0:50:34.800 would talked about I'm worth it and as I'm a 0:50:34.920 --> 0:50:37.239 superwoman and all these things, which I actually knew when 0:50:37.239 --> 0:50:38.920 I was writing them that I didn't feel that way. 0:50:38.960 --> 0:50:42.600 I didn't quite feel the ways I was writing, which 0:50:42.600 --> 0:50:44.359 is why I need to write them. But I didn't 0:50:44.400 --> 0:50:46.919 realize that it was actually a worth a self worth 0:50:47.040 --> 0:50:50.800 issue that I had. So it took a minute longer 0:50:50.880 --> 0:50:54.160 than I wish. I wish I got it earlier, but 0:50:54.640 --> 0:50:56.800 I would say it within the past, you know, probably 0:50:56.800 --> 0:50:59.120 in the past three three to five years. Same. Why 0:50:59.280 --> 0:51:02.040 is that? Is that about December twenty nineteen, I got 0:51:02.080 --> 0:51:04.320 to the place of worthiness. Who absolutely and do you 0:51:04.440 --> 0:51:06.440 know what it was like or just like kind of 0:51:06.480 --> 0:51:10.040 accumulated anything. It was a seed somebody planted in me 0:51:10.160 --> 0:51:12.080 when they told me that even if you don't feel worthy, 0:51:12.160 --> 0:51:14.120 just know God knows you're worthy. And it was like, 0:51:14.200 --> 0:51:17.560 you're just gonna You're just gonna feel it. And literally 0:51:17.560 --> 0:51:20.360 I remember sitting in the house around this time twenty 0:51:20.480 --> 0:51:22.680 nineteen and it just hit me, like, you know what 0:51:23.320 --> 0:51:26.680 I'm worthy? You know that's that's a hard one. I 0:51:26.760 --> 0:51:29.120 really feel like we don't feel like that a lot. 0:51:29.440 --> 0:51:30.759 When you remember when you got to that point, you 0:51:30.800 --> 0:51:32.880 remember the moment. I remember the moment I realized that 0:51:32.960 --> 0:51:37.719 I didn't feel worthy um and I realized that that 0:51:38.080 --> 0:51:43.440 was you know, I realized by being almost so accommodating 0:51:44.080 --> 0:51:47.600 that expressed that I didn't feel worthy to fight for myself. 0:51:48.280 --> 0:51:50.359 You're trying to please e anybody else. But I also 0:51:50.440 --> 0:51:53.360 realized it's something to fighting for yourself. You have to 0:51:53.440 --> 0:51:56.640 be like, guess what I want this? What are you 0:51:56.800 --> 0:51:59.800 gonna do about it accommodate me as opposed to me 0:52:00.000 --> 0:52:02.840 always accommodating you. And so I started to recognize that 0:52:02.920 --> 0:52:05.040 that's what I was doing. And I thought it was humility. 0:52:05.560 --> 0:52:09.239 I thought it was you know, fluidity. I thought it 0:52:09.320 --> 0:52:11.920 was kindness, I thought it was whatever. But I realized 0:52:11.960 --> 0:52:15.560 it was actually I felt some type of way about 0:52:15.560 --> 0:52:17.560 I didn't have the self worth that I should have had. 0:52:17.719 --> 0:52:19.840 It was because of guilt, too, because of when you 0:52:19.880 --> 0:52:22.120 come from a certain environment, you have all this success 0:52:22.760 --> 0:52:24.680 and you're the breadwinner and all this other stuff. Is 0:52:25.000 --> 0:52:27.239 it that too, yep, yep. I think that there was 0:52:27.280 --> 0:52:31.080 definitely a lot of a lot of unneeded guilt about 0:52:31.239 --> 0:52:34.480 my success and feeling like I had to fit in 0:52:34.920 --> 0:52:38.640 and wanting to um, you know, I just didn't want to. 0:52:39.000 --> 0:52:40.560 I want to be with the same people I've always 0:52:40.600 --> 0:52:42.160 been with. I didn't want to feel like I wasn't 0:52:42.239 --> 0:52:44.640 able to they weren't able to relate to me, or 0:52:44.640 --> 0:52:46.040 I wasn't able to relate to them. So I think 0:52:46.080 --> 0:52:47.640 it's in a lot of ways, I would kind of 0:52:48.440 --> 0:52:51.640 just act that way. So yeah, I did think but 0:52:51.680 --> 0:52:53.640 that was my own thing. They didn't even feel like that. 0:52:53.840 --> 0:52:56.080 That's the thing we do we project for other people. 0:52:56.120 --> 0:52:58.880 They didn't even feel like that. So that that's you 0:52:58.920 --> 0:53:01.000 know how that goes. Said first you and Swiss, you 0:53:01.040 --> 0:53:02.920 didn't see Swiss as that type of person, Like I 0:53:02.960 --> 0:53:05.480 didn't have a connection at first, How y'all didn't have 0:53:05.520 --> 0:53:07.319 that connection? What didn't you see in Swiss at first? 0:53:07.360 --> 0:53:10.440 I was like, Naby, come on, it's like we literally 0:53:10.960 --> 0:53:14.080 day and night. And at least I thought that, noting 0:53:14.160 --> 0:53:16.839 that that's what I'm saying, y'all, we actually did. We're 0:53:16.920 --> 0:53:20.799 exactly the same, but I didn't realize that at the time. Um. 0:53:21.200 --> 0:53:22.840 One thing I guess that we are a bit different 0:53:23.200 --> 0:53:26.160 is is that he is one million times more flashy 0:53:26.200 --> 0:53:31.080 than I am. Definitely, I am, definitely, but I mean 0:53:31.160 --> 0:53:36.000 but I'm exercising, I'm practicing, and I love it. I'm 0:53:36.040 --> 0:53:38.960 with it. But the but I think that's probably the 0:53:39.000 --> 0:53:41.279 biggest one. You know, he he would the first car 0:53:41.400 --> 0:53:44.399 he probably got, you know, with some probably Ferrari mans 0:53:44.440 --> 0:53:47.600 of Rieti and Zoe something, you know what I mean. 0:53:47.840 --> 0:53:49.759 The first car I got was like a mins of 0:53:49.800 --> 0:53:51.320 six to six, Like I was just like you know 0:53:51.400 --> 0:53:53.520 what I want to me? That was fresh as hell. 0:53:53.520 --> 0:53:56.000 I was like I was excited, but I didn't even 0:53:56.160 --> 0:53:58.640 think that I could have more. You know, it's always 0:53:58.680 --> 0:54:01.399 just kind of about like just doing the basics type 0:54:01.400 --> 0:54:03.319 of thing again, which goes back to where we were. 0:54:03.360 --> 0:54:05.640 And also I want to actually drive in the street 0:54:05.640 --> 0:54:07.360 and actually like be able to go places. And I 0:54:09.239 --> 0:54:12.239 realized that now. I didn't understand that then, and so 0:54:12.360 --> 0:54:14.000 for me that would probably be what I felt was 0:54:14.080 --> 0:54:16.160 so so day and night. He was like super over 0:54:16.280 --> 0:54:18.600 the top everything everything. But but I realized that was 0:54:18.640 --> 0:54:22.799 just some exercising what he deserves. And that's the thing 0:54:23.000 --> 0:54:25.160 that's the thing difference between him and I, and I 0:54:25.200 --> 0:54:27.760 think we actually have balanced each other in a beautiful 0:54:27.760 --> 0:54:30.880 way with that. It's like you get to express what 0:54:31.120 --> 0:54:33.600 you deserve. I think we're taught that we're not supposed 0:54:33.600 --> 0:54:38.440 to have nice things because it's somehow unholy or not right. 0:54:38.640 --> 0:54:40.960 And I think what happened where that comes from. I 0:54:41.040 --> 0:54:46.040 think it's just because people can take that and get 0:54:46.160 --> 0:54:48.960 confused about it and get very selfish about it as 0:54:48.960 --> 0:54:51.560 opposed to being given. But one thing that Swiss is 0:54:52.160 --> 0:54:55.560 is super given. He never does anything for himself before 0:54:55.600 --> 0:54:58.520 he makes sure that everybody is straight. So that's the fact. 0:54:59.360 --> 0:55:02.160 My first b check. Ever in this business because of Swiss, 0:55:03.960 --> 0:55:05.520 you didn't have to do that for me at all. 0:55:05.800 --> 0:55:08.879 He's that guy, He's always that guy. So I think 0:55:08.920 --> 0:55:11.160 that's what happens. You get might get misconstrued, and then 0:55:11.239 --> 0:55:14.279 you start only thinking about yourself as opposed to making 0:55:14.320 --> 0:55:16.640 sure that everybody is good. So as long as that's 0:55:16.680 --> 0:55:18.959 happening and there's a balance, and there's nothing wrong with happen. 0:55:19.280 --> 0:55:21.200 I heard the first piano that you got, he tried 0:55:21.200 --> 0:55:22.279 to get you to get rid of it and get 0:55:22.360 --> 0:55:25.640 something way nice, and he was like, no, first first 0:55:25.680 --> 0:55:28.040 piano she ever received. When I guess when you signed 0:55:28.040 --> 0:55:29.880 the deal, they gave you a piano right, and you 0:55:29.920 --> 0:55:32.480 wouldn't get rid of He was like this way better pianos, 0:55:32.560 --> 0:55:35.480 more expensive piano, and you was like, Nabby, you know, 0:55:35.520 --> 0:55:37.719 he wanted everything to be liver Rachi, so you know, 0:55:38.080 --> 0:55:40.960 but the I don't think he knew. He didn't realize. 0:55:41.000 --> 0:55:43.239 So in our house, it is my first piano, and 0:55:43.320 --> 0:55:47.120 that's the piano that I was given by Columbia when 0:55:47.200 --> 0:55:51.040 I was sixteen, and so that's like a memory. They 0:55:51.040 --> 0:55:52.680 could put it in another room because you guys got 0:55:52.719 --> 0:55:58.719 plenty of rooms. We like this one we like. Now, 0:55:58.760 --> 0:56:00.120 when did you come up with the idea to do 0:56:00.440 --> 0:56:02.799 unlocked and originals? What made you say this is how 0:56:02.840 --> 0:56:05.439 it's going to happen. I really wanted to, but first 0:56:05.480 --> 0:56:08.080 of all, the originals, the concept of Keys definitely was 0:56:08.120 --> 0:56:10.160 always about the piano, and I really did want it 0:56:10.239 --> 0:56:15.040 to have that just that stripped backfield. There's something about yeah, 0:56:16.080 --> 0:56:19.120 and so I think Keys was really like coming back 0:56:19.200 --> 0:56:22.759 home and so that you're just really wanting to be 0:56:22.800 --> 0:56:25.839 about the piano and writing it and making it all 0:56:25.920 --> 0:56:28.560 about that. And as I did that, I loved it 0:56:28.719 --> 0:56:31.000 and it was it was fire, but there was there's 0:56:31.000 --> 0:56:33.919 also this other side of me to what you're saying 0:56:34.239 --> 0:56:36.120 that I think it's hard to show all of you, 0:56:36.440 --> 0:56:38.080 for all of us, I mean, for all of us, 0:56:38.160 --> 0:56:41.040 it's hard to really display that you know or have 0:56:41.120 --> 0:56:43.560 an opportunity to display that. And it felt like doing 0:56:43.640 --> 0:56:46.560 this unlocked piece, not only was it exciting because it 0:56:46.640 --> 0:56:49.960 allowed us to reinterpret this these originals, but it allowed 0:56:50.000 --> 0:56:51.840 it to be the other side of me that I 0:56:51.880 --> 0:56:54.279 wouldn't have wanted just a whole album of unlocked, and 0:56:54.400 --> 0:56:56.640 I didn't Maybe I would have wanted a whole original, 0:56:57.040 --> 0:57:00.279 but I love them together because it's full speed. I 0:57:00.400 --> 0:57:02.160 have a little movie, got more with Alicia Keys. When 0:57:02.160 --> 0:57:04.440 we come back. It's the Breakfast Club. God, Morning Morning. 0:57:04.480 --> 0:57:08.400 Everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy we 0:57:08.480 --> 0:57:11.280 are the Breakfast Club were still kicking it with Alicia Keys. Chalomagne. 0:57:11.840 --> 0:57:13.640 You got a song called a Nat King Cole on 0:57:13.680 --> 0:57:18.200 the project. Yeah, he's clearly a musical hero of yours, definitely, 0:57:18.280 --> 0:57:22.000 And I think it was just the theme that we 0:57:22.160 --> 0:57:23.880 started to write. I wrote that with a woman named 0:57:23.920 --> 0:57:27.400 Natalie Hemby, who's super fresh, and the theme that we 0:57:27.520 --> 0:57:31.560 wanted to write was about because the theme of Keys 0:57:31.600 --> 0:57:34.720 and the theme of my life right now is really 0:57:34.800 --> 0:57:40.240 about completely never holding back ever again. And to you, 0:57:40.480 --> 0:57:44.560 you actually are allowed to be on your bullshit? Who 0:57:44.680 --> 0:57:46.800 said you have to tune down? Toned down? Like, where 0:57:46.800 --> 0:57:49.480 did that come from? So that was a part of 0:57:49.560 --> 0:57:51.680 my life for a long time. I rejected, I don't 0:57:51.680 --> 0:57:55.480 want to know more and so and so that song 0:57:55.600 --> 0:57:58.320 really describes that, like tear down the chandeliers and be 0:57:58.440 --> 0:58:00.919 like your most majestic and to me, Nat King Cole 0:58:01.360 --> 0:58:04.920 represents that there's like an elegance and a prowess and 0:58:05.040 --> 0:58:08.960 like a legacy and some really a power that he represents. 0:58:09.040 --> 0:58:10.920 And that's why that's why we wanted to call it 0:58:11.360 --> 0:58:13.880 that ill though, because a lot of people actually don't 0:58:13.920 --> 0:58:16.720 even know Nat King cole believe it or not. I 0:58:16.800 --> 0:58:20.000 think there's a whole generation of people that don't, you know. 0:58:20.400 --> 0:58:23.000 And that's fresh though, I think, because you know, because 0:58:23.040 --> 0:58:25.040 I think it turns people on to like, well, who 0:58:25.240 --> 0:58:26.960 was that and what is that? I think you know, 0:58:27.080 --> 0:58:29.000 like a song or two because you over the holiday 0:58:29.000 --> 0:58:31.320 as you hear like unforgetable, you know what I mean, 0:58:31.400 --> 0:58:37.240 and you're like ter exactly. But but so that that wordplay, 0:58:37.320 --> 0:58:40.160 it was more about be unforgettable like Na kincole Um. 0:58:40.320 --> 0:58:42.160 By the way, the Wayne verse on that, to me 0:58:42.440 --> 0:58:47.280 is so masterful. I love how he I love that verse. Well, 0:58:47.280 --> 0:58:51.440 what when for somebody who doesn't fit into an era musically? 0:58:51.480 --> 0:58:56.520 What is your inspiration? What do you have into everything? Everything? 0:58:56.600 --> 0:58:58.640 I love to I love to listen to everything. I 0:58:58.760 --> 0:59:02.560 love to listen to things that I love new discoveries. 0:59:02.720 --> 0:59:05.920 I love listening to new artists. I love, you know, 0:59:06.560 --> 0:59:08.960 taking it back to like the errors of the thirties 0:59:09.000 --> 0:59:11.560 and the fifties and the sixties and the seventies going 0:59:11.600 --> 0:59:14.280 through the errors are ill. So I just think listening 0:59:14.360 --> 0:59:16.400 to everything and then just allowing it to kind of 0:59:16.440 --> 0:59:18.480 be in there and then go wherever it goes. It's 0:59:18.880 --> 0:59:20.400 part of what creates the time is I think it's 0:59:20.400 --> 0:59:23.000 because I actually love all the errors that it sounds sexual. 0:59:23.200 --> 0:59:25.640 I was listening to Drink Champs. You were talking about 0:59:25.640 --> 0:59:27.800 the Empire State Record, and you said when you first 0:59:27.840 --> 0:59:29.560 did it, you did it in LA and Jay called 0:59:29.600 --> 0:59:31.640 you and was like, could you change the vocals? What 0:59:31.840 --> 0:59:33.720 was your mind frame at that point, like you know 0:59:33.720 --> 0:59:35.880 who you're talking to was wasn't at that at any point. 0:59:36.200 --> 0:59:38.480 I feel like he probably had a really hard time 0:59:38.560 --> 0:59:40.880 making that call. I don't feel like he wanted to 0:59:41.040 --> 0:59:47.640 make that call. You can't have it, nobody have the engineer, 0:59:48.400 --> 0:59:51.880 Jay said, you know, um, so I feel like it 0:59:52.880 --> 0:59:55.919 was like, hey, how you doing, how's the kids? How's moms? Like? Yeah, 0:59:57.120 --> 0:59:58.960 can you change your verse? Yeah? Now he was just 0:59:59.040 --> 1:00:00.960 like a sub and and I was like, hey, you know, 1:00:01.000 --> 1:00:02.760 I was excited because I was like, okay, we got 1:00:03.200 --> 1:00:05.160 the record, and I knew I was really trying hard 1:00:05.160 --> 1:00:07.800 to meet his deadline, and so I worked hard to 1:00:07.840 --> 1:00:09.280 get it and so I was like, yeah, you got it, 1:00:09.360 --> 1:00:11.320 you heard it. And I feel like right when I 1:00:11.480 --> 1:00:13.760 asked him you got it, you heard it was right 1:00:13.800 --> 1:00:17.600 where he was like yeah, and then he was just like, 1:00:17.680 --> 1:00:21.280 you know, I was thinking. I was just thinking that. 1:00:21.760 --> 1:00:25.439 I was wondering, do you think you could do one 1:00:25.560 --> 1:00:28.000 more time? Could you do it one more time? And 1:00:28.080 --> 1:00:30.360 I definitely remember I was like what In my head, 1:00:30.400 --> 1:00:33.400 I was like, what one more time I did this ship? 1:00:34.800 --> 1:00:36.360 But he was like, because I just I just feel like, 1:00:36.480 --> 1:00:39.480 maybe one more time really gonna get the vibe. And 1:00:39.560 --> 1:00:41.800 I had to respect it, because you know, you do. 1:00:42.720 --> 1:00:44.760 It's true. There's an energy on a record and you 1:00:44.840 --> 1:00:46.840 can feel it right away, and it was his record. 1:00:46.920 --> 1:00:48.840 He knew what he was looking for, so I had 1:00:48.880 --> 1:00:51.200 to respect that I possibly could have gave it one 1:00:51.200 --> 1:00:53.480 more time. And I did realize that I was sick 1:00:53.680 --> 1:00:55.320 because I sang it sick because I was trying to 1:00:55.360 --> 1:00:58.080 hit the deadline, and so you know, it's just you 1:00:58.120 --> 1:01:00.160 could tell. But I think what he really wanted was 1:01:00.240 --> 1:01:01.720 me to talk more on it, because he was like, 1:01:01.760 --> 1:01:04.240 could you do more of the you know you go, uh, yeah, 1:01:04.360 --> 1:01:05.640 you do all of that. Can I can I get 1:01:05.680 --> 1:01:07.520 a little more of that. So he just had the 1:01:07.600 --> 1:01:09.360 direction that gave me I can and I took it. 1:01:09.640 --> 1:01:11.480 If you could do a collab album with somebody, who 1:01:11.560 --> 1:01:17.520 would it be? Oh damn. I would want it to 1:01:17.600 --> 1:01:21.360 be something crazy, like three or four people from like 1:01:21.560 --> 1:01:25.479 whole different universes. I think that would be so ill. 1:01:26.240 --> 1:01:30.880 Who would it be? Got it? Okay, it's gonna be 1:01:31.200 --> 1:01:38.320 Um Kendrick M that's it. Yeah, that's what it is. 1:01:39.040 --> 1:01:40.960 I feel like that would be almost impossible to get 1:01:41.000 --> 1:01:45.240 done between Honestly, it's gonna be a chicky one, but 1:01:45.320 --> 1:01:48.560 I think it had sound out reading yea hou at 1:01:48.600 --> 1:01:51.080 least a record. Yeah, let's go. I feel like we 1:01:51.120 --> 1:01:53.880 could get an EP, maybe four songs, it's something, let's see. 1:01:54.360 --> 1:01:55.920 I'm gonna push for it. I feel like you might 1:01:55.960 --> 1:01:57.640 be just planting the seed. I think that might be 1:01:57.680 --> 1:02:04.400 already done, maybe a record or something. I wanted to ask, 1:02:04.440 --> 1:02:06.680 what would this version of Alicia Keys tell Alicia in 1:02:06.760 --> 1:02:10.200 two thousand and one? I think she would tell her too, 1:02:11.520 --> 1:02:16.200 like don't back down, don't back down, like what you 1:02:16.560 --> 1:02:19.360 what you see, what you feel, what you need, There's 1:02:19.400 --> 1:02:21.560 nothing wrong with that, and that you deserve it, so 1:02:21.720 --> 1:02:24.320 ask for it, like before you before you think you 1:02:24.400 --> 1:02:28.880 gotta pivot or change or fix or accommodate, like ask 1:02:28.920 --> 1:02:32.400 for what you want first, and definitely like to know 1:02:33.000 --> 1:02:38.160 that you you know what you're doing, nobody knows what 1:02:38.360 --> 1:02:39.960 to do better than you, because I think that that 1:02:40.040 --> 1:02:42.720 happens to a lot of us. We start to listen 1:02:42.760 --> 1:02:44.360 to a bunch of people that we think no more, 1:02:44.480 --> 1:02:47.080 or they've been in the game longer, or they done more, 1:02:47.240 --> 1:02:49.240 or they we think they could take us somewhere we 1:02:49.360 --> 1:02:53.400 can't take ourselves. But that's actually fake, It's not real. Son, 1:02:53.680 --> 1:02:55.560 Did you ever backdown? Because I don't see you as 1:02:55.600 --> 1:02:58.240 a as a somebody that would backdown. It was more 1:02:58.280 --> 1:03:01.560 in little ways, not like you know, not liking I'm 1:03:01.640 --> 1:03:06.200 definitely strong minded, strong headed for sure, but I do 1:03:06.440 --> 1:03:09.840 feel like I could overcompromise. I remember you told the 1:03:09.880 --> 1:03:13.080 story about a photographer who made you feel uncomfortable and 1:03:13.280 --> 1:03:15.240 had you like I'm buying your pants a little and 1:03:15.320 --> 1:03:19.080 now do this and yeah, and for women out there, 1:03:19.120 --> 1:03:21.600 you don't have to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. 1:03:21.640 --> 1:03:23.440 You feel like this is all right. I'm just I 1:03:23.480 --> 1:03:26.040 don't want to be difficult and I'm just yeah, or 1:03:26.080 --> 1:03:28.160 you feel like again, Man, this is a really this 1:03:28.240 --> 1:03:31.200 is a major photographer. They shoot all the time. They 1:03:31.240 --> 1:03:33.400 shoot the biggest this and the biggest that. And if 1:03:33.480 --> 1:03:36.120 he says that I should probably unbutton the top part 1:03:36.200 --> 1:03:39.520 of my pants, maybe that's okay. That's probably good because 1:03:39.520 --> 1:03:41.640 he no, it's good. It don't feel good. Don't ask 1:03:41.640 --> 1:03:43.400 me to unbut my pants? Are you crazy? You creek? 1:03:43.720 --> 1:03:52.720 Like you know, it's okay, it's okay to like, it's 1:03:52.800 --> 1:03:56.680 okay to like guard protect yourself, man, protect yourself. Nobody's 1:03:56.680 --> 1:03:58.560 gonna protect you, So protect yourself. And that's what I 1:03:58.600 --> 1:04:02.000 would tell her, right absolutely. Album is out right now, Keys, 1:04:02.040 --> 1:04:03.920 and we appreciate you for joining us that hopefully we'll 1:04:03.920 --> 1:04:05.920 have to be another eleven years before you come home. No, 1:04:06.280 --> 1:04:09.840 it's Alicia, kids, It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, the 1:04:10.040 --> 1:04:14.360 Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same. It's here. 1:04:14.600 --> 1:04:18.400 The most darsteaded black western ever made. The Hearted Day Fall, 1:04:18.560 --> 1:04:22.280 directed by James Samuel, alongside a killer soundtrack that features 1:04:22.320 --> 1:04:25.520 original songs by jay Z, Kid Cutty and Moore. Watch 1:04:25.640 --> 1:04:29.000 now on Netflix and stream the soundtrack now on all platforms. 1:04:30.640 --> 1:04:32.440 Can make sure you're telling the watch out for Florida. 1:04:35.280 --> 1:04:37.640 The craziest people in America come from the Bronx and 1:04:37.880 --> 1:04:42.840 all of Florida. Yes, you are a donkey. The Florida 1:04:42.880 --> 1:04:45.920 man a chapped and atm for a very strange reason. 1:04:46.040 --> 1:04:48.280 It gave him too much money. Florida man is arrested 1:04:48.360 --> 1:04:50.400 after definitely say he's rigged the door to his home 1:04:50.480 --> 1:04:52.720 and an attempt to electro kid his pregnant. White police 1:04:52.800 --> 1:04:56.160 arrested in Orlando man for talking a familia the Breakfast 1:04:56.200 --> 1:04:59.040 Club Bitchy Donkey Other Day with Charlom Haine, a guy 1:04:59.040 --> 1:05:00.520 I don't know what y'all keep, then he can get 1:05:00.520 --> 1:05:03.960 you elected. Well, little dude ball Okay. Not only am 1:05:04.000 --> 1:05:06.959 I getting them like this, I gotta get Jacksonville to Day. Okay, 1:05:07.080 --> 1:05:10.000 Donkey to Day goes to a Jacksonville woman named ken 1:05:10.040 --> 1:05:12.520 Yeta Gordon. Salute to everyone who listens to the Breakfast 1:05:12.560 --> 1:05:15.080 Club on ninety three point three to beat in Jacksonville. 1:05:15.680 --> 1:05:18.640 Salute to the young man Quail p Okay. That record 1:05:18.720 --> 1:05:21.320 he got out titled Charlemagne. When the world officially opens 1:05:21.360 --> 1:05:24.360 back up, you know, not like Florida open. I mean, 1:05:24.480 --> 1:05:27.280 you know, like open open, not I don't give an 1:05:27.280 --> 1:05:29.080 f open back up. But opens back up, so the 1:05:29.120 --> 1:05:31.240 rest of us who don't take risks like you Floridians 1:05:31.280 --> 1:05:33.120 can move around. When I come to the nine or four, 1:05:33.200 --> 1:05:35.560 I want everybody to sing my name like Quail PR. 1:05:35.600 --> 1:05:38.440 I'm not responding. Let's practice NB, say my name Charlemagne, 1:05:40.880 --> 1:05:44.480 Hey yo, Quail P. What's happening my brother? How you 1:05:44.720 --> 1:05:47.280 young king? What's happening to nephew? See how I ignored 1:05:47.400 --> 1:05:49.200 Envy because he didn't sing my name the way I 1:05:49.720 --> 1:05:52.880 wanted him to. Okay, but Quail P did it right? Now? 1:05:53.080 --> 1:05:55.920 What did your uncle Charla always say about Florida? The 1:05:56.040 --> 1:05:58.160 craziest people in America come from the Bronx and all 1:05:58.200 --> 1:06:01.280 of Florida, and today once again through all of us 1:06:01.320 --> 1:06:03.440 who notice to be true correct see ken yet To. 1:06:03.560 --> 1:06:06.960 Gordon was arrested and charged with strong arm robbery and 1:06:07.240 --> 1:06:10.880 possession with intent to use drug parad familia. I personally 1:06:10.920 --> 1:06:13.640 don't think anyone who gets arrested on an intent to 1:06:13.840 --> 1:06:15.880 use charge should be sent to jail. They should be 1:06:15.880 --> 1:06:18.200 sent to a rehab facility. But that's just my opinion 1:06:18.320 --> 1:06:20.000 and has nothing to do with this story. Really, But 1:06:20.120 --> 1:06:22.520 what did can yet To do to get arrested for 1:06:22.640 --> 1:06:26.920 strong armed robbery. Well, according to police, she robbed the bank. Look, man, 1:06:27.080 --> 1:06:29.400 times is hard and the slums we're from, I tell 1:06:29.480 --> 1:06:31.919 y'all all the time, people are starving. Your stomach. Don't 1:06:31.920 --> 1:06:34.040 stop growling because the check is on the way. Your 1:06:34.240 --> 1:06:37.040 stomach stops growling. When you get that check, cash it, 1:06:37.200 --> 1:06:39.200 and now you got some bread to buy, some bread 1:06:39.360 --> 1:06:41.800 to feed yourself. Okay, not making excuses for this woman 1:06:41.840 --> 1:06:44.000 at all, because we all make choices in life and 1:06:44.160 --> 1:06:47.440 have to be held accountable for the consequences of our actions. 1:06:47.480 --> 1:06:49.520 And when you rob a bank nine times out of ten, 1:06:49.800 --> 1:06:52.280 you're going to jail. I'm just simply trying to get 1:06:52.320 --> 1:06:55.320 you all in the mindset of this woman. Okay. Now, 1:06:55.400 --> 1:06:57.760 whenever I think about bank robberies, first thing I think 1:06:57.760 --> 1:07:00.800 about is how much did they get right? Second thing 1:07:00.840 --> 1:07:03.080 I think about is how did they get away? What 1:07:03.280 --> 1:07:05.920 was the getaway vehicle? There's literally nothing you can't find 1:07:06.040 --> 1:07:09.400 online because I google top ten getaway cars for robbing banks. 1:07:09.560 --> 1:07:11.600 Let's run them down real quick. Number ten is the 1:07:11.680 --> 1:07:14.040 nineteen thirty two Ford V eight. That's the old black 1:07:14.080 --> 1:07:16.000 cars you see in all the old black and white movies. 1:07:16.280 --> 1:07:19.200 Number nine is the Toyota Corolla. Number eight, it's an ambulance. 1:07:19.600 --> 1:07:21.600 See it's all about something that is fast, is something 1:07:21.640 --> 1:07:23.959 that blends in. Nothing blends in like an ambulance. Number 1:07:24.000 --> 1:07:27.480 seven is a Cadillac CTSV wagon. Number six is the taxi. 1:07:27.720 --> 1:07:31.520 Yet again, another vehic blends right in. Number five is 1:07:31.560 --> 1:07:34.000 the General Lee. You know, the bright orange Dodge charge 1:07:34.000 --> 1:07:36.680 you the duke boards you're driving duke for hazard, you 1:07:36.760 --> 1:07:40.560 know that one. Number four is the Alpine armored Cadillac Escalade. 1:07:40.760 --> 1:07:43.360 Don't know where you just find one of those. Number 1:07:43.400 --> 1:07:46.520 three is the Porsche Cayenne Turbo s. Number two is 1:07:46.560 --> 1:07:49.439 the Dodge Charger SRT three ninety two. That's for speed. 1:07:49.600 --> 1:07:52.360 And the number one getaway car for bank robberies is 1:07:52.520 --> 1:07:56.360 the incas Hearing APC. That's the big armor truck that 1:07:56.520 --> 1:07:59.240 the SWAT team draft. No regular civilian is gonna have that, 1:07:59.320 --> 1:08:00.840 so I don't even know that's on there. But the 1:08:00.880 --> 1:08:03.480 point of all these vehicles is either for speed are 1:08:03.560 --> 1:08:06.600 to blend in. Well, ken Yeta must have been going 1:08:06.720 --> 1:08:08.800 for the blend in part because she damn show wasn't 1:08:08.840 --> 1:08:10.600 going for the speed. Would you like to know what 1:08:10.720 --> 1:08:13.680 her getaway vehicle a choice was? Whould you what is it? 1:08:13.880 --> 1:08:16.760 Let's go to WJA XTBS forty seven for the report police. 1:08:16.880 --> 1:08:20.560 The Jacksonville Sheriff's Office is releasing the identity of a 1:08:20.640 --> 1:08:23.960 woman accused of robbing a bank from her wheelchair. This 1:08:24.160 --> 1:08:27.080 is a new mug shot of ken Yetta Gordon. Actually, 1:08:27.200 --> 1:08:29.519 news Jacks broke the news yesterday when police say that 1:08:30.000 --> 1:08:32.800 a woman became angry while discussing her account at the 1:08:32.880 --> 1:08:36.160 Region's bank in downtown Jacksonville. She's accused of telling a 1:08:36.280 --> 1:08:38.800 worker that she was going to kill everyone inside and 1:08:38.920 --> 1:08:41.360 that this was a robbery. She left, they say, in 1:08:41.439 --> 1:08:44.679 a motorized wheelchair after getting the cash. She was arrested 1:08:44.760 --> 1:08:51.080 just a few blocks away. Stop. I don't like when 1:08:51.120 --> 1:08:55.240 you go rogue drop. All right, Jesus, what the flaida 1:08:55.360 --> 1:08:57.599 is going on here? All right? There's only three people 1:08:57.800 --> 1:09:00.240 who could have truly gotten away with this crime. One 1:09:00.720 --> 1:09:04.599 Rolling Ray okay. Two Snoop Dogg's Character and training Day 1:09:05.000 --> 1:09:08.719 Three Professor Charles Xavier. Those are the only three individuals 1:09:08.720 --> 1:09:11.080 who who could have gotten away with robbing a bank 1:09:11.240 --> 1:09:12.920 in a wheelchair. Now, let me tell you something. This 1:09:13.040 --> 1:09:16.080 is why Florida is full of brilliant idiots. Because robbing 1:09:16.120 --> 1:09:18.080 a bank in a wheelchair, truly is the best way 1:09:18.120 --> 1:09:20.960 to blend in, even if you don't really need a wheelchair. 1:09:21.040 --> 1:09:23.720 If you roll in the bank, rob the bank, then 1:09:23.920 --> 1:09:27.320 roll out, okay, all the block of two, all right, 1:09:27.680 --> 1:09:30.320 once you get up and walk, ditch the wheelchair. Now 1:09:30.400 --> 1:09:32.720 you don't even fit the description of what the bank 1:09:32.760 --> 1:09:36.880 teller saw. It's genius, yes, all right. The sad part 1:09:37.040 --> 1:09:39.799 is this woman didn't have a plan. I'm not encouraging 1:09:39.840 --> 1:09:42.479 people to rob banks, No, I'm just saying, can yet 1:09:42.479 --> 1:09:46.439 them picture a plan before you picture yourself rolling into 1:09:46.479 --> 1:09:49.559 a bank asking for a big bank roll and listen, 1:09:49.800 --> 1:09:53.280 just because I have understanding of this woman's situation, meaning 1:09:53.439 --> 1:09:55.519 I understand why she would be in the mind frame 1:09:55.600 --> 1:09:58.879 the robber bank simply because I understand the current economic 1:09:58.920 --> 1:10:02.120 condition a lot of people are facing. It's easy to say, 1:10:02.400 --> 1:10:04.679 can ye to, should have just rolled with the punch's 1:10:04.720 --> 1:10:07.320 life was throwing at her, But no, folks is broke 1:10:07.479 --> 1:10:10.160 and you can't tell people to just roll with it. Okay. 1:10:10.280 --> 1:10:12.640 In life, we all have a role to play, but 1:10:12.840 --> 1:10:15.559 sometimes what your casted ass is out of your control. 1:10:15.880 --> 1:10:18.479 Remember when Kodak Black said he can't even roll in peace? 1:10:18.520 --> 1:10:23.759 Remember that neither ken ken Yeida, because she's starting waiting 1:10:23.800 --> 1:10:26.920 on this damn government to roll out these damn stimulus checks. 1:10:27.040 --> 1:10:30.880 By the way, she's only thirty nine, only thirty nine. 1:10:32.880 --> 1:10:37.280 I'm inspired by people who keep rolling no matter their age. 1:10:37.400 --> 1:10:40.720 But she's just thirty nine, and she's at the point where, 1:10:40.760 --> 1:10:42.840 even though she's disabled in a wheel, just she has 1:10:42.880 --> 1:10:46.040 to rob a bank at thirty nine. Think about that, Canda. 1:10:46.080 --> 1:10:48.400 I feel your pain. But even though I feel your pain, 1:10:48.560 --> 1:10:50.240 I still have to give this story the credit it 1:10:50.280 --> 1:10:53.120 deserves for being stupid. But can Yida, I'm praying for you. 1:10:53.600 --> 1:10:55.360 I want you to get the help you need for 1:10:55.439 --> 1:10:58.360 your drug problem because they found a crack pipe on you. Yes, 1:10:58.439 --> 1:11:00.439 she was riding dirty for real, But I'm telling you, 1:11:00.560 --> 1:11:03.160 can you to? I want you to get clean, put 1:11:03.200 --> 1:11:06.439 the bs behind you, and one day, I promise you, 1:11:07.280 --> 1:11:11.040 the good times will roll. Please give can you to Gordon? 1:11:11.080 --> 1:11:13.599 The sweet sounds of the Hamletones. Oh No, you are 1:11:13.800 --> 1:11:24.720 the dogee of the day, the dogee oh the day. 1:11:25.840 --> 1:11:30.200 Ye Oh. We're not gonna play a game. Ya don't 1:11:30.200 --> 1:11:32.000 want to play a game. We're not gonna do that. 1:11:32.160 --> 1:11:34.599 We're not gonna play a game I don't want to play. Well, 1:11:34.920 --> 1:11:38.639 I have no problem rolling out a game of Jess 1:11:38.960 --> 1:11:45.080 what race it? Alright? Alright, here are the context clues. 1:11:45.120 --> 1:11:46.639 All right. I don't even know if he's a contact clue. 1:11:46.640 --> 1:11:47.880 I don't even know if I use that correctly. But 1:11:48.160 --> 1:11:52.599 can you to Gordon? Okay, Jacksonville, Florida, robbed the bank 1:11:52.680 --> 1:11:56.240 and a motorized wheelchair. Oh you want a description? I 1:11:56.280 --> 1:11:59.799 need to give a description. I don't give a description. 1:12:00.000 --> 1:12:02.280 A little quick descriptions. Com you the description that the 1:12:02.320 --> 1:12:04.640 police were using. Hold okay, this is the description. Hold on? 1:12:04.720 --> 1:12:07.080 You see if I could find it? Hold on, officers 1:12:07.120 --> 1:12:10.120 are looking for an adult, blank female, thirty nine years 1:12:10.120 --> 1:12:13.080 of age with short blonde hair. Oh, I got you now. 1:12:13.479 --> 1:12:15.120 We thought it was easy. I thought it was easy. 1:12:15.200 --> 1:12:18.760 You thought short blonde hair? Can YadA? I said, can 1:12:18.840 --> 1:12:20.920 you do? Can you you know that's how you pronounced it? 1:12:21.120 --> 1:12:23.959 Can you eat the garden? Ramirez? All right? Who said Ramirez? 1:12:26.160 --> 1:12:34.400 I'm down for the profile and but go okay, Porter Angelie, 1:12:34.439 --> 1:12:37.040 are you sure you don't want to play? I think 1:12:37.160 --> 1:12:41.479 it is a white man, a white man, white man? Okay, okay, 1:12:41.680 --> 1:12:43.400 all right, all right, I see where we take it. 1:12:43.439 --> 1:12:47.760 It uh, And I ain't telling y'all whether y'all wright 1:12:47.840 --> 1:12:51.320 or wrong. We're just gonna lead this. Why didn't you 1:12:51.360 --> 1:12:53.160 ask me to sing your name? Why you only asked 1:12:53.560 --> 1:12:56.120 um Envy? Well, now I asked him the same my name. 1:12:57.240 --> 1:12:58.560 I thought you want to him to sing it? No, 1:12:58.800 --> 1:13:00.599 he said say it you want to say? I can 1:13:00.760 --> 1:13:06.240 say his name ahead, Charlo, go ahead, quail P. I'm 1:13:06.240 --> 1:13:08.120 not telling y'all's black three month. I'm not telling y'all. 1:13:08.120 --> 1:13:09.920 All right, all right, what can you to go again? 1:13:10.200 --> 1:13:16.680 Thank you? Interpretation O charmckay, y'all guess figure it out 1:13:16.720 --> 1:13:18.640 on your own, go do your own research. I'm not 1:13:18.720 --> 1:13:24.040 telling y'all white man, I agree with you. That's what 1:13:24.120 --> 1:13:25.800 I saw. All right. We got more. Don't move. It's 1:13:25.840 --> 1:13:31.920 the best of the Breakfast Club. The breakfast Club, the 1:13:32.120 --> 1:13:36.920 breakfast Club. Your morning's will never be the same. Everybody's 1:13:37.000 --> 1:13:40.640 DJ Envy Angela Ye, Charlomagne, the guy. We all the 1:13:40.680 --> 1:13:42.960 Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in the building. Yes, 1:13:43.040 --> 1:13:46.479 indeed we have Judge Faith Jenkins. Welcome back, Hello, thank you. 1:13:46.960 --> 1:13:51.120 I'm doing great. It's been years. It's been three years 1:13:51.120 --> 1:13:54.360 since I've been here. Twenty times twice. Yes, wow, wow, 1:13:54.600 --> 1:13:56.400 I know what I changed for you in three years. 1:13:56.800 --> 1:14:02.599 A lot changed three years. I got a puppy, Cooper. 1:14:03.080 --> 1:14:08.479 He is a cavalier Yorky Poodle mix, very energetic little guy, 1:14:08.640 --> 1:14:11.840 but a lot of responsibility. There wasn't expecting that. It's 1:14:11.840 --> 1:14:14.240 a dog a lot on the bad. No, okay, good, No, 1:14:14.560 --> 1:14:16.560 he's got a lot on the bad. He sleeps in 1:14:16.680 --> 1:14:20.000 his own room. We's his own room. Well, yeah, because 1:14:20.040 --> 1:14:22.640 I wanted him to learn very early on to be independent, 1:14:23.120 --> 1:14:24.880 so we put him. We create trained him early on 1:14:25.000 --> 1:14:27.519 with two things we were able to do. Create train 1:14:27.680 --> 1:14:29.720 him and potty train him. Okay, if you don't do 1:14:29.800 --> 1:14:32.639 that from the beginning, then they hate it. Yes, yes, 1:14:32.720 --> 1:14:34.680 you don't train them to get used to that, and 1:14:34.720 --> 1:14:36.640 they'll go in there. Like my dog would look all 1:14:36.680 --> 1:14:39.240 sad every time, because in the beginning I would let 1:14:39.280 --> 1:14:42.000 her just like roam around. But then I was like, okay, 1:14:42.080 --> 1:14:44.479 sometimes we have to put her up if she's been bad. Yeah, 1:14:44.720 --> 1:14:47.360 and she'll look all sad and then I feel bad. Yeah. 1:14:47.400 --> 1:14:49.280 But what the trainer said, from the very beginning, the 1:14:49.320 --> 1:14:52.040 biggest mistake people make is they give the dogs too 1:14:52.120 --> 1:14:54.560 much freedom. Absolutely, and so you have to rain that 1:14:54.640 --> 1:14:56.600 in early on, but yeah, a lot a lot of 1:14:56.680 --> 1:15:01.080 other things change. I got married married, yes, thank you, 1:15:01.240 --> 1:15:13.120 thank you, and that I'm sure early on kind of 1:15:13.240 --> 1:15:19.400 trade over so everything applies. Uh so got Mary started 1:15:19.479 --> 1:15:22.600 divorce court, switch judge shows you also judge faith and 1:15:22.600 --> 1:15:24.519 they alm on divorce Court. And then of course I 1:15:24.600 --> 1:15:29.000 wrote system settled the court. It's interesting, is the show 1:15:29.080 --> 1:15:30.439 real like when you say, when when you go to 1:15:30.479 --> 1:15:32.280 the divorce court after all you divorced? Or is it 1:15:32.439 --> 1:15:35.400 more after that? Really they change the premise of the 1:15:35.439 --> 1:15:38.560 show several years ago where you can be on the 1:15:38.720 --> 1:15:41.960 show and don't have to be married. So there's a 1:15:42.160 --> 1:15:44.360 there's a there's a different aspect of the show before 1:15:44.479 --> 1:15:47.559 Your Vows where people come in they've been in their 1:15:47.640 --> 1:15:49.960 relationship for a while and they're just they're trying to 1:15:50.080 --> 1:15:53.600 decide to get whether to get married or not. So 1:15:53.760 --> 1:15:56.240 that's a part of the show where we address the 1:15:56.760 --> 1:15:59.920 dudes and don't and if if they actually should perceive 1:16:00.240 --> 1:16:02.840 and move forward to the next level in their relationship. 1:16:03.080 --> 1:16:04.840 So it's really opened up to where it's not just 1:16:05.000 --> 1:16:08.920 married couples. And then legally, do we give divorces on 1:16:08.960 --> 1:16:13.120 the show? No, we give advice on what to do 1:16:13.680 --> 1:16:17.160 when you're at this breaking point, and people sometimes bring 1:16:17.240 --> 1:16:20.719 their papers and we will refer them to other attorneys. 1:16:20.880 --> 1:16:26.439 Friends could come on the show and friends, no, no, no, 1:16:26.560 --> 1:16:29.360 we haven't gone that far opening up. It's it's it's 1:16:29.439 --> 1:16:32.320 real people in relationships with real issues. I didn't know that. 1:16:32.400 --> 1:16:34.120 I didn't know that. I thought that when they go 1:16:34.200 --> 1:16:38.879 to the voice court, they get legally. Legally, we cannot 1:16:39.200 --> 1:16:42.160 grant a divorce per se, but we can give them 1:16:42.200 --> 1:16:45.639 advice on how to proceed in going to the next level. 1:16:48.439 --> 1:16:52.040 I had someone come in and she'd been married for 1:16:52.720 --> 1:16:57.840 eleven years and they have two children together, and he 1:16:57.960 --> 1:17:02.160 has three other kids. And it was really crazy because 1:17:02.720 --> 1:17:06.280 this man would take her kids and go to the 1:17:07.240 --> 1:17:10.320 other women and the other kids. They all knew each other, 1:17:10.479 --> 1:17:15.120 but she remained uninvolved but just knowing about the other relationship. 1:17:15.439 --> 1:17:17.120 And I thought, how do you get to that level 1:17:17.640 --> 1:17:20.480 in your life where this is such a painful experience 1:17:20.600 --> 1:17:24.040 for you, but you're accepting it under some kind of 1:17:24.640 --> 1:17:28.840 premise in your mind that it's better to stay in 1:17:29.000 --> 1:17:32.200 this marriage because you think having him around would be 1:17:32.320 --> 1:17:36.360 better than nothing at all, staying in a toxic relationship. 1:17:36.400 --> 1:17:39.360 A relationship that's not good for you, doesn't help your children. 1:17:39.479 --> 1:17:44.880 All you're doing is normalizing really inappropriate behavior in front 1:17:44.920 --> 1:17:48.320 of them, and they in turn, they see it all 1:17:48.720 --> 1:17:51.160 and it affects what their relationships would be like later 1:17:51.280 --> 1:17:53.360 on in life. Some people feel like once they take 1:17:53.400 --> 1:17:56.720 a vow, then they can't break that vow because it's 1:17:56.760 --> 1:17:59.320 no matter what, or for better or worse the best. 1:18:00.479 --> 1:18:02.840 And I've heard some people feel like, you know, they're 1:18:02.880 --> 1:18:05.439 relying on that. Some people treat women if they leave 1:18:05.439 --> 1:18:08.000 a relationship or leave a man for doing something like 1:18:08.120 --> 1:18:10.160 they're wrong because they didn't stick through it, because you 1:18:10.240 --> 1:18:12.840 got to be right or die. Yeah, that's a that's 1:18:12.840 --> 1:18:16.439 a mistake that people make because you know, at all 1:18:16.560 --> 1:18:18.679 times in your life there are a lot of people 1:18:18.880 --> 1:18:20.240 that you love in your life, and one of the 1:18:20.280 --> 1:18:22.080 tough things about life is a lot of times you 1:18:22.120 --> 1:18:24.640 have to walk away from people that you love in 1:18:24.840 --> 1:18:27.120 order to protect your peace. Now, that's kind of like 1:18:27.200 --> 1:18:29.800 the chapter in your book, are dealing with rejection When 1:18:30.200 --> 1:18:32.960 life set you free? Yeah, I mean when one of 1:18:33.040 --> 1:18:34.799 the big chapters in the book, one of my favorite 1:18:34.840 --> 1:18:37.280 chapters is the chapter on rejection. Because we all go 1:18:37.400 --> 1:18:39.840 through rejection, and for a long time I didn't know 1:18:39.880 --> 1:18:41.800 how to handle it. So and I moved to New 1:18:41.880 --> 1:18:43.880 York right after I got out of school, so I 1:18:44.120 --> 1:18:46.560 was in the city trying to figure all of this 1:18:46.680 --> 1:18:48.679 stuff out. And I'll never forget one of the first 1:18:48.720 --> 1:18:51.599 times I got rejected. I was I was actually in college. 1:18:52.080 --> 1:18:55.080 There was an annual event called Casino Night at my 1:18:55.200 --> 1:18:57.280 school and I wasn't dating anyone. I didn't date much 1:18:57.320 --> 1:18:59.400 in college at all. I was really about the books 1:18:59.439 --> 1:19:02.479 and all the organizations, then cheering and all that stuff. 1:19:02.880 --> 1:19:06.519 And I asked a guy to go to Casino Night 1:19:06.600 --> 1:19:08.400 with me, just innocent, not a really a date, but 1:19:08.520 --> 1:19:13.040 just go to this event. And he hesitated, he paused, 1:19:13.560 --> 1:19:18.200 and then he told me no. And I remember because 1:19:18.240 --> 1:19:22.040 he was We were friends, and he was a good 1:19:22.080 --> 1:19:23.880 looking guy, he was cute. I knew he was single, 1:19:24.200 --> 1:19:26.559 so I thought, well, you can't just go to Casino Night. 1:19:26.640 --> 1:19:29.360 But he told me no, and I remember being embarrassed 1:19:29.360 --> 1:19:30.880 at the time and avoiding him for the rest of 1:19:30.920 --> 1:19:34.120 the semester, not wanting to see him. Well, five years later, 1:19:34.520 --> 1:19:37.760 I was walking down the street in my college town 1:19:37.920 --> 1:19:39.920 and I ran into him and he pulled me to 1:19:40.000 --> 1:19:41.320 the side. I was with some friends. He pulled me 1:19:41.320 --> 1:19:42.519 to the side. He was like, Hey, can I talk 1:19:42.560 --> 1:19:44.559 to you for a second. I said, okay. He said, 1:19:44.560 --> 1:19:46.320 do you remember several years ago when you asked me 1:19:46.360 --> 1:19:48.599 to casino night? He said, well, I wanted to tell 1:19:48.640 --> 1:19:50.800 you that I really liked you, but I didn't have 1:19:50.880 --> 1:19:52.760 a suit. I didn't have anything to wear. And I 1:19:52.800 --> 1:19:55.280 was too embarrassed to tell you that I didn't have 1:19:55.520 --> 1:19:57.760 a suit or anything to wear. But I thought it 1:19:57.840 --> 1:20:02.840 was really interesting because how many times do we take 1:20:03.160 --> 1:20:05.960 rejection or someone telling us know, and then we go 1:20:06.040 --> 1:20:07.800 down a rabbit hole and we make it about us 1:20:08.000 --> 1:20:10.519 that's right? Wow? Am I not good enough? Am I 1:20:10.600 --> 1:20:12.519 not smart enough? Am I'm not pretty enough? And it 1:20:12.560 --> 1:20:15.360 could absolutely have nothing to do with you, And everything 1:20:15.400 --> 1:20:17.400 to do with them is something that they're going through 1:20:17.600 --> 1:20:19.640 or their perspective, or some guy who just doesn't have 1:20:19.680 --> 1:20:22.680 a suit. So I learned from that experience and then 1:20:22.840 --> 1:20:26.400 going through other experiences dealing with rejection in my life, 1:20:26.640 --> 1:20:29.040 how not to internalize it and take it so personal 1:20:29.160 --> 1:20:31.880 all the time, whether it's with a love interest, a job, 1:20:32.840 --> 1:20:37.679 whatever it is that you're dealing with rejection. Most often 1:20:37.880 --> 1:20:40.400 it's just not about you. So Luke to Judge Phi Jenkins. 1:20:40.439 --> 1:20:42.320 We're talking to her right now. Her new book sys 1:20:42.400 --> 1:20:44.840 Don't Settle, How to Stay Smart and Matters that a 1:20:44.920 --> 1:20:47.400 Heart is out right now, and I want to tell 1:20:47.479 --> 1:20:49.720 y'all to man, make sure y'all tune in tonight to 1:20:49.840 --> 1:20:52.000 my late night talk show, to God's Honest Truth. It 1:20:52.080 --> 1:20:54.960 comes on at ten pm on Comedy Central. Okay, you 1:20:55.040 --> 1:20:57.200 need to get in tune. If you're not in tune, 1:20:57.360 --> 1:20:59.200 and you need to tune in tonight because we got 1:20:59.320 --> 1:21:03.599 Vice President Amala Harris joining us under God's Honest Truth 1:21:03.880 --> 1:21:08.120 on Comedy Central tonight at ten pm. Join me, why 1:21:08.160 --> 1:21:11.040 don't you? And why you're watching? Use the hashtag TGHT. 1:21:11.320 --> 1:21:13.960 We'll be back with more. Judge Faith Jenkins. The Breakfast 1:21:14.040 --> 1:21:16.439 Club was still kicking it with Judge Faith Jenkins. Show 1:21:16.560 --> 1:21:19.320 me if you weren't Judge Faith Jenkins, we have came 1:21:19.400 --> 1:21:22.120 up to you five years ago and apologizing all that 1:21:22.320 --> 1:21:25.200 it was five years later. I was. I was just 1:21:25.320 --> 1:21:27.720 running into him at the school. So we try to 1:21:27.720 --> 1:21:29.200 ask you that again, be like, but I got a 1:21:29.240 --> 1:21:32.519 money for a suit now, No, I think he just 1:21:32.720 --> 1:21:34.120 wanted to tell me. It was like he wanted to 1:21:34.160 --> 1:21:35.840 get that off of his chest. He really wanted me 1:21:35.920 --> 1:21:38.200 to know because he gave me no explanation at the time. 1:21:38.720 --> 1:21:40.080 A lot of you know a lot of times, and 1:21:40.200 --> 1:21:42.400 we have to release ourselves from wanting to know why 1:21:43.120 --> 1:21:44.720 because I you know, I talk about this in the 1:21:44.760 --> 1:21:48.360 book too, how I would call people and try to 1:21:48.400 --> 1:21:50.400 find out, Well, I just want closure and I want 1:21:50.439 --> 1:21:54.120 to know why this didn't happen. You know what's going 1:21:54.200 --> 1:21:57.760 on here, and you have to release this need to 1:21:57.880 --> 1:22:01.040 want to know why. Closure doesn't come from other people, 1:22:01.560 --> 1:22:04.559 it comes from you. Because I always say, don't give 1:22:04.600 --> 1:22:06.880 anybody else that kind of power over your life. No 1:22:07.000 --> 1:22:08.800 one should have the power. When I got married to 1:22:09.080 --> 1:22:16.000 my husband, Kenny always say that he um. When I 1:22:16.080 --> 1:22:19.080 got married to Kenny, I remember at being a time 1:22:19.120 --> 1:22:20.840 and this was just a year and eight months ago, 1:22:21.000 --> 1:22:22.720 by the way. So I spent a long time out 1:22:22.760 --> 1:22:28.160 in these dating streets, living, learning, growing and really having 1:22:28.160 --> 1:22:31.240 an appreciation for what I knew would work for me 1:22:31.640 --> 1:22:34.320 in a relationship and what wouldn't. What I was willing 1:22:34.360 --> 1:22:36.760 to compromise on, what I wasn't willing to compromise on. 1:22:36.920 --> 1:22:39.000 All my likes and dislikes, This is what you should 1:22:39.000 --> 1:22:41.200 be doing when you're single, figuring out who you are. 1:22:41.880 --> 1:22:44.719 You're you know, you got married and everybody's path is different. 1:22:44.720 --> 1:22:47.639 You got married at an early age, so you grew 1:22:47.760 --> 1:22:50.920 up together with your wife, whereas for me, I was 1:22:51.000 --> 1:22:54.679 single for so long and very independent. I was wondering, 1:22:54.760 --> 1:22:57.280 how am I going to mesh with somebody else when 1:22:57.280 --> 1:22:59.720 I haven't lived with anybody even since college. So all 1:22:59.720 --> 1:23:02.000 of the things you're thinking about. But I remember at 1:23:02.040 --> 1:23:03.600 the time when I got to the place where I 1:23:03.720 --> 1:23:04.880 knew I was at a point in my life I 1:23:04.920 --> 1:23:07.639 wanted to get married. I was so happy with where 1:23:07.680 --> 1:23:10.479 I was in my life, and I thought, I want 1:23:10.560 --> 1:23:12.559 to bring somebody in my life who's going to add 1:23:12.560 --> 1:23:15.599 to this happiness, not make me happy. And like you said, 1:23:15.640 --> 1:23:19.000 sometimes people get married and they think once we get married, 1:23:19.080 --> 1:23:22.519 he'll turn into the person, or still turn into the person. 1:23:23.000 --> 1:23:25.040 Things will stay to be and that does not happen. 1:23:25.120 --> 1:23:28.840 Like that. Marriage doesn't change anything about anybody. It may 1:23:28.920 --> 1:23:31.439 change your last name, but that's it. So people come 1:23:31.520 --> 1:23:34.160 in they want they're dating their reality, but they want 1:23:34.200 --> 1:23:38.240 to marry potential. And that is a big mistake because 1:23:38.280 --> 1:23:40.800 you have to learn radical acceptance accept this person for 1:23:40.920 --> 1:23:43.559 who they are, and if their core values aren't lined 1:23:43.640 --> 1:23:45.920 up with your core values, what about a wedding do 1:23:46.000 --> 1:23:47.920 you think is going to change that? Because all it 1:23:48.000 --> 1:23:51.000 does when you get married is really revealing more about 1:23:51.040 --> 1:23:54.280 who people are. It's revealing what's already there. And so 1:23:54.439 --> 1:23:58.479 if you don't like what's there, nothing about getting married 1:23:58.600 --> 1:23:59.880 is going to change that. It's only going to a 1:24:00.000 --> 1:24:02.800 exacerbate any problems that you already see on the circle. 1:24:02.840 --> 1:24:04.400 What did you mean, Kenny? And how did you know 1:24:04.479 --> 1:24:09.200 he was the one? I met him through a blind date? Really? Yeah, 1:24:09.320 --> 1:24:12.799 I had just gone through a breakup six months prior 1:24:12.960 --> 1:24:15.120 to meeting him, and I had a conversation with God. 1:24:15.160 --> 1:24:17.360 I had a real honest conversation and I said, I've 1:24:17.439 --> 1:24:20.360 learned all of these lessons in my life at this point, 1:24:21.120 --> 1:24:22.680 what else is there for me to learn in the 1:24:22.760 --> 1:24:25.639 relationship space? I really believe it's time, And I wrote, 1:24:25.680 --> 1:24:27.320 I took a sheet of paper down and I said, 1:24:27.360 --> 1:24:28.800 within this next year, this is what I want to 1:24:28.800 --> 1:24:31.240 see happen in my life. And one of those things 1:24:31.360 --> 1:24:33.120 is I want to be my husband. And I took 1:24:33.120 --> 1:24:34.519 that sheet of paper down and I wrote that, and 1:24:34.560 --> 1:24:36.840 I go through this stage, all this this process in 1:24:36.880 --> 1:24:39.680 the book of what I did to manifest what I 1:24:39.920 --> 1:24:42.840 wanted to happen in my life. And six months later 1:24:43.000 --> 1:24:45.960 I met him and I was not just out there 1:24:46.080 --> 1:24:47.760 like every day, okay, is that is that him? Is 1:24:47.800 --> 1:24:49.960 that my husband? Like with everyone? I was just living 1:24:50.040 --> 1:24:52.000 my life. So I decided I was going to go 1:24:52.200 --> 1:24:55.519 and take some singing lessons again. I was going to 1:24:55.600 --> 1:24:59.360 put out a Christmas album and well, you got bored 1:24:59.400 --> 1:25:04.000 down to fa. I was gonna put out a kid 1:25:04.160 --> 1:25:07.920 hit single, hit single and uh. And so I started 1:25:07.960 --> 1:25:10.400 taking some voice lessons. I met up with this super producer, 1:25:10.600 --> 1:25:13.920 Aaron Lindsay, and the moment I sat down with him, 1:25:14.200 --> 1:25:16.599 he said, for him it clicked. She should meet Kenny. 1:25:16.800 --> 1:25:18.519 He said, there they would be perfect for each other. 1:25:19.040 --> 1:25:22.280 And so he set us up and we met. In 1:25:22.360 --> 1:25:25.920 the rest is history. We just went to lunch, no pressure. 1:25:25.960 --> 1:25:28.080 We sat and talked for two hours. What does the 1:25:28.120 --> 1:25:30.240 pressure like for you? And people asking all the time 1:25:30.439 --> 1:25:32.639 when are you gonna get married? When are you gonna 1:25:32.640 --> 1:25:35.679 have kids? Because you discussed that. Also, Yeah, it's hard 1:25:35.840 --> 1:25:38.839 because being single in my twenties and in my thirties 1:25:38.920 --> 1:25:41.439 and being from Louisiana. So I would go home for 1:25:41.520 --> 1:25:44.400 the holidays, and I had this one uh aunt, Freda, 1:25:44.840 --> 1:25:46.960 who would show up with her watery mac and cheese, 1:25:47.280 --> 1:25:54.519 but always, you know, questioning me and my relationships. Some 1:25:54.720 --> 1:25:59.600 names have been changed, but she could show up. And 1:26:00.120 --> 1:26:03.040 but then I started getting it from strangers, right. And 1:26:03.680 --> 1:26:07.519 if you're not careful, you can really internalize that and 1:26:07.920 --> 1:26:11.240 can make you feel like somehow you're lacking. Because no 1:26:11.320 --> 1:26:14.760 one asked me do you want to get married? They 1:26:14.800 --> 1:26:17.240 would just say why aren't you as if there were 1:26:17.280 --> 1:26:20.560 no other option for me, I get wrong. And so 1:26:20.720 --> 1:26:22.560 if you're not careful, though, that pressure can get to 1:26:22.640 --> 1:26:25.240 you and you can start to feel like, is me 1:26:25.360 --> 1:26:28.120 being single something I need to explain to other people? 1:26:28.360 --> 1:26:31.400 Is this something I need to defend. No, there are 1:26:31.520 --> 1:26:33.880 almost eight billion people on this planet. We can't all 1:26:33.960 --> 1:26:35.720 be doing the same things at the same time. We 1:26:35.800 --> 1:26:37.840 all have a different life path, a different life journey. 1:26:38.160 --> 1:26:40.679 Please stop asking people when they're going to get married, 1:26:40.840 --> 1:26:42.680 when they're going to have kids, and let people live 1:26:42.760 --> 1:26:45.559 their lives. So I talk about that in my book 1:26:45.600 --> 1:26:48.280 How do you navigate when the questioning comes for you? 1:26:48.760 --> 1:26:52.080 I will tell you this. I was never unhappily single. 1:26:52.479 --> 1:26:56.200 I lived my life. If I had waited, I would 1:26:56.200 --> 1:26:58.080 have lived half my life just existing because I just 1:26:58.160 --> 1:27:01.400 got married last year. So I just made a determination 1:27:01.479 --> 1:27:03.280 that I was going to live my best life. And 1:27:03.320 --> 1:27:06.240 guess how I met my husband going to do something 1:27:06.360 --> 1:27:09.320 that I just loved doing, going to pursue a different hobby, 1:27:09.439 --> 1:27:12.240 something that I was interested in, singing again, and that's 1:27:12.280 --> 1:27:14.040 how I ended up meeting my husband. And I hear 1:27:14.080 --> 1:27:16.240 so many other women talk about that, how they were 1:27:16.320 --> 1:27:20.040 doing something that they loved in their own lives and 1:27:20.240 --> 1:27:23.439 that's how they met the person that they ended up 1:27:23.479 --> 1:27:27.040 having this authentic love experience with. So in my book, 1:27:27.280 --> 1:27:31.000 it's really a practical guide because I did not have 1:27:31.479 --> 1:27:33.800 these huge examples of love, like I said, And this 1:27:33.960 --> 1:27:35.240 is the book that I would have wanted to have 1:27:35.520 --> 1:27:37.720 when I moved to New York at twenty five years old. 1:27:37.960 --> 1:27:39.800 I wish somebody would have given me something like this 1:27:39.920 --> 1:27:42.120 to read, as you were a whole and happy when 1:27:42.160 --> 1:27:44.280 you met Kenny Austin. When I think that's important too, 1:27:44.360 --> 1:27:47.519 because sometimes people feel like they need the other person 1:27:47.640 --> 1:27:50.599 to complete them, when really you both should be complete 1:27:50.600 --> 1:27:53.360 people when you come together to have a great relationship, yes, 1:27:53.479 --> 1:27:56.040 and that happiness and wholeness. As you know, it's a 1:27:56.160 --> 1:28:00.200 journey because as you get older, it's actually hard harder 1:28:00.280 --> 1:28:03.040 to fall in love as you get older, especially you know, 1:28:03.280 --> 1:28:05.160 being single in my twenties and thirties, because you've been 1:28:05.200 --> 1:28:07.800 through heartbreak. And if you're not careful over time, you 1:28:07.840 --> 1:28:11.519 can become very cynical about love. And you cannot be 1:28:11.600 --> 1:28:14.439 a cynic about love and expected to attract it in 1:28:14.520 --> 1:28:16.320 your life at the same time. Break that down here 1:28:16.360 --> 1:28:17.680 you talking about that in a book. I think, I 1:28:17.720 --> 1:28:21.280 think that's very important. Well, you can't be a cynic 1:28:21.479 --> 1:28:23.320 about love and expect to attract it in your life 1:28:23.360 --> 1:28:25.640 at the same time. At some point you have to 1:28:25.720 --> 1:28:28.679 be able to work on releasing the past. You can't 1:28:28.680 --> 1:28:31.320 say all men, all men are dogs. I want one 1:28:31.800 --> 1:28:36.280 exactly exactly because I went through that time where all 1:28:36.360 --> 1:28:39.719 of those things were really about fear of opening myself 1:28:39.840 --> 1:28:42.679 up to love again, and I realized that that fear 1:28:42.920 --> 1:28:45.880 wasn't serving me. All it was was poisoning my perspective. 1:28:46.400 --> 1:28:48.760 And so if you really want love, you can't have 1:28:48.960 --> 1:28:51.920 this poisonous mindset about what you really think about it 1:28:52.160 --> 1:28:54.680 based on your past. But I also don't believe that 1:28:55.000 --> 1:28:57.639 you can just, at the drop of a hat say, Okay, 1:28:57.880 --> 1:29:00.400 I'm gonna free myself from my past. Nothing about my 1:29:00.400 --> 1:29:02.080 past is gonna bother me anymore. I'm not going to 1:29:02.120 --> 1:29:05.240 bring this to my next relationship. That's not realistic. What 1:29:05.600 --> 1:29:09.240 is realistic, though, it's recognizing what your triggers are and 1:29:09.439 --> 1:29:11.840 working on it. It is a process so that you 1:29:11.960 --> 1:29:15.160 don't make somebody new come in your life and pay 1:29:15.600 --> 1:29:18.120 for something they had nothing to do within your past. 1:29:18.439 --> 1:29:20.479 All we Little movie got more with Judge Faith Jenkins. 1:29:20.560 --> 1:29:22.320 When we come back, it's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, 1:29:22.960 --> 1:29:30.160 the Breakfast Club more everybody to see j Envy, Angela Yee, 1:29:30.280 --> 1:29:32.479 Charlemagne the guy we are the Breakfast Club was still 1:29:32.560 --> 1:29:35.080 kicking it with Judge Faith Jenkins. How does he propose 1:29:35.439 --> 1:29:38.160 here in Central Park than Paul? Yeah, and my wife 1:29:38.200 --> 1:29:44.400 in Central Park? Yeah? So who sings better then? Who? Oh? Yeah? 1:29:45.000 --> 1:29:49.360 Well come on down there. I'm dealing with a professional 1:29:49.439 --> 1:29:51.519 here who's been doing this a long time, twenty five years. 1:29:51.880 --> 1:29:54.880 But I don't sink in front of Kenny was was 1:29:55.720 --> 1:29:58.640 was therapy a requirement? Because all my sister friends and 1:29:58.800 --> 1:30:01.840 he refused the data man right now, or even take 1:30:01.840 --> 1:30:04.679 a man serious if they're not doing the work on themselves. 1:30:05.080 --> 1:30:08.120 We took things a step further. We went to pre 1:30:08.320 --> 1:30:12.200 engagement counseling. Wow, what is that? Before we got engaged? 1:30:12.640 --> 1:30:16.600 We did counseling sessions with a pastor. Because for me, 1:30:17.000 --> 1:30:19.600 I think after you get engaged and you've announced and 1:30:19.720 --> 1:30:22.280 you've told people, and then when you go to counseling 1:30:22.400 --> 1:30:25.800 or therapy sessions, it's harder for people to say, well, 1:30:25.840 --> 1:30:28.000 hold up, wait a minute, is this what I really 1:30:28.080 --> 1:30:31.360 want to do, because everybody knows there's that extra pressure there. 1:30:31.840 --> 1:30:34.400 So for us, things were going, things had gone so well, 1:30:34.439 --> 1:30:37.280 and a lot of people think, by the way, oh, well, 1:30:37.439 --> 1:30:39.320 what's going on? Are you having problems? Is that? Is 1:30:39.360 --> 1:30:41.320 that where you were going to counseling? It was the opposite. 1:30:41.880 --> 1:30:44.240 We weren't having these issues and we were we were 1:30:44.360 --> 1:30:48.360 so in sync on what our core values were. I thought, Okay, 1:30:48.760 --> 1:30:51.719 I haven't been married before. Are there questions I'm not asking? 1:30:53.040 --> 1:30:56.080 Is there is there something else that I need to 1:30:56.880 --> 1:30:59.519 delve into that I'm not so, what's the best way 1:30:59.560 --> 1:31:02.040 to find that out? Go to a professional? It was 1:31:02.080 --> 1:31:04.280 my idea. It was my idea. I said, So was 1:31:04.320 --> 1:31:05.920 he nervous when you said that? Because not at all, 1:31:07.560 --> 1:31:11.040 not at all. And I thought that's a good way 1:31:11.040 --> 1:31:14.120 to be proactive. So proactive because I do feel like 1:31:14.160 --> 1:31:17.040 in a relationship, because you won't always get along, you 1:31:17.160 --> 1:31:19.919 have to know how to handle each other when issues 1:31:19.960 --> 1:31:22.840 come up. Absolutely, how to deal with conflict in an 1:31:22.880 --> 1:31:26.360 emotionally mature way, how to deal with anger and an 1:31:26.400 --> 1:31:29.519 emotionally buture way, because that's really the key. The quickest 1:31:29.560 --> 1:31:33.600 way to ruin romance in any relationship and marriage is unkindness. 1:31:34.040 --> 1:31:36.519 I think you got to hang first. Corinthians thirteen. Was 1:31:36.560 --> 1:31:40.120 it four through eight? Up in your house? As a 1:31:40.200 --> 1:31:43.960 constant reminder, Yeah, because that's when you talk about therapy, 1:31:44.000 --> 1:31:46.200 you talk about counseling, that's what you're talking about. You're 1:31:46.200 --> 1:31:48.120 talking about getting out in front of it something. You 1:31:48.160 --> 1:31:50.280 don't wait till the wheels fall off and then try 1:31:50.280 --> 1:31:52.320 to go and salvage the relationship and go to therapy. 1:31:52.320 --> 1:31:53.960 Then wait till your house gets ribbed to get an 1:31:54.000 --> 1:31:56.720 alarm system exactly exactly, so you're out in front of 1:31:56.760 --> 1:31:58.280 it and you're doing the work in advance. And so 1:31:58.400 --> 1:32:00.160 that's what we did when we went to our pre 1:32:00.360 --> 1:32:02.720 engagement counseling before we ever got engaged, when we were 1:32:02.760 --> 1:32:05.639 talking about getting married, and then when we did get engaged, 1:32:06.080 --> 1:32:08.680 we did it with so much peace because we've been 1:32:08.720 --> 1:32:10.840 through these counseling sessions. And I remember at the end, 1:32:10.880 --> 1:32:12.599 and by the way, Kenny was like, if he weren't 1:32:12.600 --> 1:32:14.800 a singer, he would be I think he would be 1:32:14.840 --> 1:32:16.519 a preacher. I think he would be I think he 1:32:16.560 --> 1:32:19.160 would be a counselor. There's the wisdom that came out 1:32:19.200 --> 1:32:22.360 in those sessions. I remember my counselor turning because he, 1:32:22.520 --> 1:32:25.240 you know, he's been through I didn't marry somebody who's 1:32:25.520 --> 1:32:28.559 who hasn't been tested right like I have. We both 1:32:28.600 --> 1:32:31.320 had relationships that didn't work out for one reason or another, 1:32:31.600 --> 1:32:34.280 and we've both been tested in those areas, and so 1:32:34.479 --> 1:32:36.840 when we went through those counseling sessions to hear the 1:32:36.920 --> 1:32:39.519 wisdom they came out of him. I remember the pastor 1:32:39.560 --> 1:32:41.880 turning around at one point and he was looking like, Okay, 1:32:42.080 --> 1:32:44.679 what do you have to say. I heard what he said, 1:32:44.760 --> 1:32:47.280 what's your response to that? And I was like, uh, 1:32:47.600 --> 1:32:49.439 you know. But at the end, I remember him saying, 1:32:49.520 --> 1:32:53.680 I have no reservations whatsoever in blessing the two of 1:32:53.760 --> 1:32:58.040 you and moving forward in marriage A plus, and counseling 1:32:58.120 --> 1:33:01.360 we got an A plus. Fires I know you talk 1:33:01.360 --> 1:33:04.640 about triggers and red flags also in the book, So 1:33:04.840 --> 1:33:07.280 for you, what were some of those? For me? I 1:33:08.080 --> 1:33:12.000 would not date someone who had a history of infidelity. 1:33:12.880 --> 1:33:16.360 I'm not saying that people don't change, right, but for me, 1:33:17.320 --> 1:33:21.400 um patterns in people's lives reveal a lot. Most guys 1:33:21.439 --> 1:33:22.920 aren't going to admit to you that they have a 1:33:23.040 --> 1:33:25.799 history of infidelity either. You have to do your due diligence. 1:33:26.479 --> 1:33:30.800 And that's a section. That's a section in the book. 1:33:31.160 --> 1:33:33.000 You do your due diligence. You do the best you can. 1:33:33.520 --> 1:33:36.000 I mean you sometimes I'm not saying turn your house 1:33:36.040 --> 1:33:38.120 into a cside lab in the back end and pluck 1:33:38.200 --> 1:33:40.360 a hair while he's sleeping, But I'm just saying, do 1:33:40.439 --> 1:33:42.760 your due diligence, if you know, But if you know. 1:33:42.920 --> 1:33:45.439 See a lot of people know, though, Angela, and they 1:33:45.479 --> 1:33:47.439 still choose to look the other way. It's like, Okay, 1:33:47.479 --> 1:33:50.599 there's a red flag, but how red is this red flag? 1:33:51.320 --> 1:33:53.600 Or how exactly how far back have you going on 1:33:53.680 --> 1:34:04.120 Instagram and you're snooping? Yeah, I perused history of infidelity. Yeah, 1:34:04.120 --> 1:34:07.759 a history of infidelity is a red flag to me. Um, honesty. 1:34:07.880 --> 1:34:09.920 If you tell me you're a vegan, but I see 1:34:09.960 --> 1:34:14.200 you on Snapchat with wings, you know, it's like, just 1:34:14.320 --> 1:34:16.519 be just be honest, don't don't don't try to present 1:34:16.600 --> 1:34:19.479 yourself as somebody that you're not, because to me, those 1:34:19.520 --> 1:34:22.160 little things really do add up if you're not really 1:34:25.560 --> 1:34:29.519 anything else. Also, work ethic a good work ethic because 1:34:29.520 --> 1:34:33.240 I'm very ambitious and so when you know, though, when 1:34:33.280 --> 1:34:35.439 you just know what you're just know what your red 1:34:35.479 --> 1:34:37.560 flags are, what things are important to you. If you 1:34:37.720 --> 1:34:40.759 know you don't want to date long distance, don't complain 1:34:40.840 --> 1:34:43.200 to me about your boyfriend not calling you from Dubai 1:34:43.439 --> 1:34:46.720 if he lives in Dubai. So, Um, just knowing what 1:34:46.880 --> 1:34:50.560 they are and identifying them and recognizing them, you know, 1:34:50.640 --> 1:34:53.880 red means stop. People will not change for you. They 1:34:54.000 --> 1:34:56.280 change for themselves. And no one wants to change because 1:34:56.320 --> 1:34:58.439 you put a gun to their head. It has to 1:34:58.520 --> 1:35:01.559 come from within. Do you think your healing journey your 1:35:01.600 --> 1:35:06.280 love journey, it's part of your healing journey anyway. I 1:35:06.520 --> 1:35:11.560 don't project on my husband or on people in my 1:35:11.720 --> 1:35:17.160 life or responsibility that they have to help me heal 1:35:17.640 --> 1:35:20.559 in every aspect. I think when people come in your life, 1:35:21.240 --> 1:35:23.960 in your life, they are a part of your journey, 1:35:24.800 --> 1:35:29.640 but that responsibility really has to come from you. And 1:35:30.000 --> 1:35:33.880 when I have women in divorce court and they're very 1:35:33.960 --> 1:35:36.960 broken and they've been through a lot, and I tell them, 1:35:37.000 --> 1:35:39.200 I say, you know, the trauma that you experience in 1:35:39.280 --> 1:35:42.240 your past was not your responsibility, It was not your fault, 1:35:42.400 --> 1:35:45.519 but your healing really is. So I never wanted to 1:35:45.680 --> 1:35:50.080 project any hurt from my past onto somebody else for 1:35:50.240 --> 1:35:54.080 them to take their responsibility to heal me, because again, 1:35:54.200 --> 1:35:57.000 that power had to come from me, you know. In closing, 1:35:57.040 --> 1:35:59.679 I do want to say, sis, don't settle. Some people 1:35:59.760 --> 1:36:03.720 have only that settling down means you settle, right, They're like, oh, 1:36:03.800 --> 1:36:06.559 it's in the word settling down. So you can't have everything, 1:36:07.160 --> 1:36:10.360 and sometimes you have to just compromise and say, Okay, 1:36:10.439 --> 1:36:13.280 I'm willing to settle. But to see how you've managed 1:36:13.280 --> 1:36:16.439 to wait to find the right person and not settle 1:36:16.600 --> 1:36:19.680 and get exceed the expectations that you had, I think 1:36:19.720 --> 1:36:23.320 as a testament to making sure that you can know 1:36:23.520 --> 1:36:26.120 that you can have it all right. Your career, your 1:36:26.200 --> 1:36:29.080 relationship and in your own timing and not have to 1:36:29.160 --> 1:36:32.160 worry about what anybody else has to say. Right, your 1:36:32.280 --> 1:36:36.120 life's journey is your journey. And I think that especially 1:36:36.200 --> 1:36:39.639 as women, we have to embrace and love what our 1:36:39.720 --> 1:36:43.400 journey is. No comparison is the thief of joy, and 1:36:43.479 --> 1:36:46.880 stop comparing our lives to somebody else. And you know, 1:36:47.040 --> 1:36:50.320 have these milestones and your happiness can't be tied to 1:36:50.400 --> 1:36:53.280 getting married, Your happiness can't be tied to having children. 1:36:53.320 --> 1:36:55.439 Your happiness can't be tied to your next TV show, 1:36:55.479 --> 1:36:57.880 your next job, because then you'll always be chasing a 1:36:57.920 --> 1:37:01.120 carrot on a moving stick. So what this really is 1:37:01.200 --> 1:37:03.960 about is learning to be happy right where you are. 1:37:04.560 --> 1:37:06.639 Look at everything that's happened in the in the past 1:37:06.760 --> 1:37:08.559 year and a half and what we've learned about life. 1:37:09.040 --> 1:37:12.320 If you don't love today where you are today, then 1:37:12.360 --> 1:37:14.680 you just missed out on a day of living your life. 1:37:14.680 --> 1:37:15.920 Because there are a lot of people who wish they 1:37:15.920 --> 1:37:18.240 could be in your shoes right now, just living. So 1:37:18.320 --> 1:37:21.360 when I talk about not settling, it really is about 1:37:21.479 --> 1:37:24.439 embracing your journey and being at peace where you are 1:37:24.520 --> 1:37:27.120 and not allowing somebody else to pressure you to be 1:37:27.320 --> 1:37:29.920 somewhere where you're not supposed to be because this is 1:37:29.960 --> 1:37:32.519 your journey, this is what you're doing, all right, well, sis, 1:37:32.600 --> 1:37:35.320 don't settle faith, Jenkins. I had given Steve Harvey a 1:37:35.400 --> 1:37:39.720 run for his money quote in the front of the yes, yes, yes, 1:37:39.840 --> 1:37:41.640 he's a good friend and supported my book and I 1:37:41.680 --> 1:37:43.960 really appreciate that. And all of you too joining us 1:37:44.000 --> 1:37:46.720 this morning and thank you. No, that's not your first 1:37:46.800 --> 1:37:50.240 Christmas together. Second, it's our second. Yeah, that's an amazing Christmas. 1:37:50.280 --> 1:37:53.400 Thank you duet or something for us where for Christmas? 1:37:53.439 --> 1:37:57.120 Your Christmas song? Duet? Oh you know, Angel, don't put 1:37:57.160 --> 1:38:02.599 me on the spot like that. Maybe one day, Jenkins. 1:38:02.640 --> 1:38:05.800 It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, So Breakfast Club, Your 1:38:05.880 --> 1:38:11.960 morning's will never be the same. One of y'all is 1:38:12.040 --> 1:38:14.760 dj NV. You could save over five hundred dollars on 1:38:14.840 --> 1:38:17.240 car insurance with the General Insurance. You heard that right. 1:38:17.320 --> 1:38:19.320 Take a closer look at the General and call eight 1:38:19.400 --> 1:38:21.680 hundred General or visit the General dot com today. The 1:38:21.800 --> 1:38:25.439 General Auto Insurance Services, Inc. An insurance agency Nashville, Tennessee. 1:38:25.479 --> 1:38:30.799 Some restrictions applying everybody, DJ Envy, ANGELA Yee, charlomage mcguy. 1:38:30.840 --> 1:38:33.600 We are the Breakfast Club. Now, Charlomagne, you got a 1:38:33.640 --> 1:38:35.720 positive note. Yes, the positive note of to day is 1:38:35.760 --> 1:38:39.200 simply this, never blame anyone in life. The good people 1:38:39.320 --> 1:38:41.719 give you happiness. The worst people give you a lesson. 1:38:41.920 --> 1:38:44.800 The best people give you memories. Remember that, especially during 1:38:44.800 --> 1:38:48.040 the holiday season. Breakfast Club, you know I'm finish for y'all. 1:38:48.120 --> 1:38:48.360 Dumb