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Speaker 1: every morning. And what up though? From Detroit and Angela

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Speaker 1: this thank you Friday. Give me a topic. Let's say

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Speaker 1: Good morning. Okay, So in our community, the black community,

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446
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 1: just joined us, we're asking have you ever fell in

447
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: love with a stripper? A gentleman out in age town

448
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 1: lent the strip of two thousand dollars, a laptop and

449
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: some Harry Potter DVD's and he suited her because he

450
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,160
Speaker 1: said they broke up. So we're asking, have you ever

451
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:49,359
Speaker 1: fell in love with us stripper? Now? I frequently DJ

452
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:52,200
Speaker 1: strip clubs all the time, and I remember one particular

453
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 1: time our camera guy up here. He was feeling sad,

454
00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 1: so I took him out for his birthday, which one

455
00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 1: nick now No, Steve, oh, Steve, okay. Set. I was

456
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 1: out of the club at about three o'clock. I said, Yo, Steve,

457
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: ready to go. He was like, nah, I'll think for

458
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 1: a little bit. It's like, Steve, you know nobody here.

459
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: He was like no, but you know the stripper is

460
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 1: feeling me. I said, no, she's not feeling she's not

461
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 1: feeling you, sir. She's feeling the money that you're throwing it.

462
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 1: He's like, no, no, no, I think we have a connection.

463
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 1: I said, well, hit me when you get home so

464
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 1: I know you made it home safe. Steve waited there

465
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 1: until about four twenty until she got out of work.

466
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 1: That's how much in love he was with that stripper.

467
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Speaker 1: What happened after that, I don't know, but he was

468
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 1: definitely in love. It's a scripper's job to give you

469
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 1: attention guys, it's a completely transactional relationship. Yes, you're throwing

470
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 1: your ones, she's dancing. That's what the Script club is for.

471
00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:45,160
Speaker 1: It's like literally going into a barbershop, paying the barber

472
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 1: to cut your hand and saying, yo, I think I

473
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 1: think he's feeling me. Yo, he's playing on my neck. No,

474
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Speaker 1: he's cutting your hair. Okay, it's the same thing with

475
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Speaker 1: a scripper. But but I will say this, and for

476
00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 1: the strippers out there, when the stripper is dope dance

477
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:03,239
Speaker 1: and they have conversations with their h Mark, I'll call them,

478
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,440
Speaker 1: that's when it gets a little they're having conversations to

479
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Speaker 1: see if you got some goddamn money, to see if

480
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: they should be wasting their time with Your conversation makes

481
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 1: the mark feel special because he's like, Wow, you dance

482
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,399
Speaker 1: for everybody, but you're sitting down talking to me. I

483
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:17,239
Speaker 1: think like, that's why Scripple was a great hole. Drop

484
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 1: on the clues, bonds fall of scripts out there. That's

485
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,239
Speaker 1: why they're amazing at what they do because they make

486
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:23,880
Speaker 1: you feel special. They make you feel wanted, and that's

487
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 1: how you have to make somebody feel if you want

488
00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:28,680
Speaker 1: them to throw the money, salute to all the scripples. Man, Yeah,

489
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 1: you ever fell in love with stribble? I no, I

490
00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:35,120
Speaker 1: absolutely haven't. I have a lot of franzy with strippers,

491
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 1: of former strippers. I mean I never fell in love

492
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Speaker 1: with a scribble. I mean you know I've been I've

493
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 1: been fond of one in my day, okay, but never

494
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 1: fell in love. The first time you got was that

495
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: a strip club? Yeah? That was I was a kid though,

496
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: Like that wasn't even I wasn't even old enough to

497
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Speaker 1: be in the script club. I'll tell you this too.

498
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Speaker 1: We need to be asking this question about the bottle girls,

499
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 1: the bartenders. The bottom the generation might have definitely fell

500
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Speaker 1: in love with a couple of bartenders, a couple of

501
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 1: bottle girls before the scripples. Well, hello, who's this? Yes, hello,

502
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 1: this is showing showing. It sounds like you fell in

503
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,360
Speaker 1: love with the ship or a bottle girl. Oh, don't

504
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: do anything like that. Yeah, I'm falling in love with

505
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: the Hooters girl. Back in the day, me and my

506
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:17,640
Speaker 1: friends we used to go up there up in se

507
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,920
Speaker 1: Kid and she was a beaune before brown skin for

508
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 1: a minute and I would tip for a lot and

509
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: I ended up she ended up for natural being to

510
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,199
Speaker 1: pay for a car payment, damn. And then I remember

511
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,879
Speaker 1: I would come into Hooters and at one point in

512
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 1: time she wouldn't giving me the energy or the love

513
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 1: that I thought I deserved. But yeah, yo, goddamn fragile ego,

514
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 1: she didn't give me the love I deserve. What the

515
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 1: hell you mean? Well, you know I was tipping her nicely, man, nicely? Ego, bro,

516
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:53,680
Speaker 1: you leading with ego? Bro boy? Poor you? That's all ego? Hello,

517
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 1: who's this? Hey can here? We can hear you? What's

518
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,159
Speaker 1: up about? You? Would love? You fell in love with

519
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 1: a stripper? And it was sir lemain and yeah, man, like,

520
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: how y'all doing? Man? I want you to know I

521
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,159
Speaker 1: definitely appreciate, appreciate what y'all do. What you got going on? Man?

522
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,359
Speaker 1: What's up? Brother? Then I fell in love with a

523
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 1: stripper man back in my high school day. And can't

524
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: hear them? Yeah, sir, tell us all about it? Yeah? Yeah,

525
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 1: her name was Essence. Man. I'm still I'm still in

526
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:20,880
Speaker 1: love with her. How long has it been, sir, yestre together?

527
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,440
Speaker 1: It's been about a good five six years. Man. The

528
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 1: girl she has a fat, foody man body shape to tattoos.

529
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,159
Speaker 1: She I mean she looked good. She looked Hello, good man.

530
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 1: I just I ain't been to the strip plus since

531
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 1: every time I go. Honestly, I fell in love with

532
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,399
Speaker 1: strippers every time I go. So I just got to

533
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: stay away from him for real. Hello, who's this nick?

534
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: You fell in love with the strip of bro? Yeah,

535
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: but I think I'm a lott one war maryl what's

536
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 1: her name? As a baby? This a Marril flaws. Y'all

537
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: start playing with me. Lord. Have you tried to highlight

538
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 1: her outside of office hour? With her when she's not working? Yeah,

539
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: I mean, we're not got to Instagram or whatever. I'm

540
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: talking to her. You know, we talked a little bit,

541
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 1: but it's a hard to get her out of the club. Man.

542
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: A lot of money in the club on her. Oh

543
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: I fent a decent amount, but I think would have connected.

544
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: Came out on the podcast. She came on your podcast. Yeah, yeah,

545
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: you know the podcast. She came on two different episodes,

546
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 1: but she called Stripersole. So we had her and a

547
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 1: couple other people. But you know, just getting the sender

548
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: interviewer and talk to her, I'm like, I don't think

549
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 1: I want a girl. So won't you tell her? Won't

550
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 1: you be like y'all gonna be honest with you. I

551
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: really like you. You know what I'm saying. Maybe you can,

552
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 1: maybe you can offset her her her lifestyle. You got

553
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:40,200
Speaker 1: enough money to offset her lifestyle. I make a decent amount.

554
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 1: But I think you know, see, she get a lot

555
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: of money already. For the money ain't gonna get her.

556
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 1: You know. So life, show a love, show a real love,

557
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 1: like like like court her. You know what I'm saying,

558
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 1: like like treat her the way you would want like

559
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: somebody to treat your daughter. You would want your father

560
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: to treat your mom like you. Show some real love.

561
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 1: Good luck? Man? Why not? Why not? Hello? Who's dance?

562
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 1: What this? Prince German? Chris? What up? Man? You fell

563
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 1: in love with the strip of bro Oh yeah, gonna

564
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: Miss Melfid's man? Oh my gosh, she blew my mind.

565
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: She gave you a lap dance and blew your mind

566
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 1: and your love. What's your name? Miss Melford's man? So

567
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 1: I got the lap dance, and I got a number

568
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 1: and all that, and I hooked the bull again, and

569
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: that the second time my hostel put up. When I

570
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 1: went to the Gas season, I got all kind of

571
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 1: pills and still man, I couldn't even finish I was.

572
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 1: I got my money for it. I take you that

573
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: damn you got. All right, man, man, have mercy on

574
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 1: my poor soul. What's that? Man? The story? I mean,

575
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 1: there is no more to the story, y'all. Brother, just

576
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 1: gotta stop letting y'all ego lead man, because some of

577
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: y'all ego be making y'all believed things that don't exist,

578
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 1: like y'all relationships with these scripples. All right, all, oh,

579
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: scripple old you is a dance. That's it. And that's

580
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 1: only because the relationship is transactional. You paid for the service,

581
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: she provided that service. That's that. Y'all get to know

582
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 1: each other outside of that, and you know, something happens

583
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 1: great other than that. Goddamn tippic keeping moving, No, allright,

584
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 1: we got more, don't move. It's the best of the

585
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. The Breakfast Club, The Breakfast Club. Your morning's

586
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 1: will never be the same morning. Everybody's DJ Envy Angela Yee, Charlemagne,

587
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: the god we all the Breakfast Club. We got a

588
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 1: special guest in the building. Yes, indeed, the first time

589
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 1: on the show. And yeah, she's never been up there,

590
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 1: you'd be busy. Seriously, Yes, Alicia, Keys's happening. Everything is everything,

591
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: just trying to feel like I've never been in this

592
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 1: room with y'all think, so, yeah, here we go. It's

593
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 1: pretty disgusting in here if you look around? Is it

594
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:53,120
Speaker 1: you prefer not to be in on? It's beautiful? This

595
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 1: is your space writes the essence to it, you know

596
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 1: what I mean? The first time doing a double album,

597
00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 1: it is my first time. You got a lot of music.

598
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 1: It's a lot so much you just have so much music,

599
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 1: or during the pandemic, you like, I just feel like working.

600
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 1: It's originals and unlocked, so yeah, it's definitely you know,

601
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 1: really it's a lot of the songs are the same

602
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 1: because the one side is original, so that's like more

603
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: stripped down piano vibe. The other side Mike Will and

604
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: I sampled the original, so it's really two perspectives of

605
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 1: the same song. So if you really break it down,

606
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: it's probably like fourteen joints times. Oh that's why I

607
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:29,719
Speaker 1: said unlock some of the tracks. Usually you don't work

608
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: with just one producer like you did with Mike Will

609
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 1: on the Unlocked version. How is that process now it

610
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 1: was great. I mean, you know, you know, to just

611
00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 1: kind of bring it back down to the basics. I

612
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 1: think at the beginning, I always it was just mostly

613
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: me and at the time I had my partner crucial

614
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 1: that we always worked together. But after that I started

615
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: to explore more different collaborations. So coming back to the

616
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 1: basics of just like being just me on the originals

617
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 1: and then just me and Mike unlocked it it's just

618
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 1: it's it's it's fluid, just feels kind of easy and

619
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: it flows, especially for now. Obviously we're not all getting

620
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: with a thousand people right now. It's about keeping the

621
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: circle tight. First of all, how are you? I don't

622
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 1: think we said that. How are you? How are you?

623
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 1: How's your energy? Thank you? My energy is amazing. I

624
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 1: was actually gonna ask you, how the hell are y'all good?

625
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 1: I'm good. I appreciate you. It's a good time of

626
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 1: the year now, holidays. I feel beat. I know it's

627
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 1: a it's a weird time still though last year was

628
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 1: really weird. This year is still a little weird. But

629
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: you got new music out and the best time I

630
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 1: feel like to drop music. It's keys miss That's what

631
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: I'm calling that Keiths miss. That chain is nuts. Thank you?

632
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 1: Where my tests beautiful? That it's so hip hop and soul,

633
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 1: that's dopey. I figure everybody else bring out their chains. Actually, Swizzy,

634
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,960
Speaker 1: he gave me this for his birthday. His birthday, he

635
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: gave me this. I thought that was kind of fire.

636
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 1: So what you know, we've been seeing you now doing

637
00:33:57,600 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 1: doing more and more interviews, More and more people are

638
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 1: starting to know who Alicia Keys really is. We really

639
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: didn't know, like you did do what what? What what?

640
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: And then it just Keys took off and then we

641
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 1: really didn't see you know what type of keys? This

642
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: part of Keys? I think you right, And I guess

643
00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:17,840
Speaker 1: I didn't ever realize it because I live with myself,

644
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: so I know who I am, and I know how

645
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: I feel, and I know what I do, and I

646
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 1: know how vibe and all of my friends and people

647
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 1: that rock with me, they know me. So I guess

648
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: I didn't. And every time I come to an interviewer,

649
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 1: I come to a thing, I'm always the same person.

650
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,919
Speaker 1: You can't say like I'm acting differently. But I guess

651
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: I just never realized that you people didn't actually get

652
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 1: to connect with me. I think because of maybe the

653
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:43,480
Speaker 1: type of interviews they were, so it didn't allow us

654
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:47,439
Speaker 1: to like get into the zone the way that maybe

655
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 1: some of these ones more recently have felt. Who is

656
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: Alicia Keys in twenty twenty one, We're going into twenty twenty?

657
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:57,280
Speaker 1: Who are you now? Who had twenty twenty two? It's crazy?

658
00:34:58,200 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 1: Um Man, you know, I'm a lot of the same

659
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 1: person and that I've always been. I'm definitely I'm definitely

660
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 1: that same kind of empathetic, relatable, boots on the ground

661
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 1: type of girl woman. Um But I definitely have a

662
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 1: lot more wisdom. I have a lot more confidence. I

663
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 1: have a lot more understanding of just just what's real

664
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:19,279
Speaker 1: and what's fake. I think sometimes this you know, this

665
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: world is game. This industry can really be confusing, you know,

666
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 1: you know, you get confused about what's actual and what's not.

667
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:29,000
Speaker 1: So um So anyway, but just like having an amazing

668
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 1: time I'm on my music. Fully, I'm better than ever

669
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 1: on that on that side, and I just feel like

670
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 1: I'm just a person who is really clear about who

671
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: I am and what I want and where I'm going.

672
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: Do your kids understand they have famous parents. They're so

673
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:48,400
Speaker 1: mad they'd be like you gotta go again, you have

674
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 1: to go again, and they always try to guilt chip

675
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: me extra like, but I'm gonna be right back every

676
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 1: time I go, I come back and you can perform

677
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: with me. Yeah, they're starting to like that. I'm noticing

678
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: my younger genesis. He's very, very shy. He is the boss,

679
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 1: and he don't play no games. He don't like you.

680
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: He's like, no, he don't care what He's not trying

681
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 1: to do it be like nice to anybody. But he's

682
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 1: starting to like being on the stage a little bit,

683
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 1: which is a shocker because he's super shy. The other

684
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 1: day he was like, Mommy, why he didn't call me

685
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 1: on stage. I was like, uh, I try to play

686
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: you like you want to go off there? Yes, so

687
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 1: anyway that yeah, they do like that now. I remember

688
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:32,240
Speaker 1: back in the day, there were some things about management,

689
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: right that people were talking about and speculating on when

690
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:36,479
Speaker 1: you had first on a deal because you got signed

691
00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 1: at an early early age, right fourteen, And then I

692
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,360
Speaker 1: remember hearing that like they were charging you like some

693
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 1: crazy percentage and then you had to get rid of management.

694
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: What was the real story behind that? Really? Um? You know,

695
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 1: I was really with the same management for a really

696
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 1: a long time, and I don't think that it was

697
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 1: like some crazy percentage. To be honest, the commissions in

698
00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: the business is just you know, it's like they're too high.

699
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 1: And then you have a management commission, you have a

700
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:05,840
Speaker 1: business management commission, you have a lawyer commission, and you

701
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 1: add all those commissions up and you end up with

702
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 1: less than all of them. But you know what I mean.

703
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: So I think that it's not that they were doing

704
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:16,840
Speaker 1: something that wasn't standard. The problem is that industry standard

705
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 1: is incorrect and so as a young person you don't

706
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: really know those things, and so you just do what

707
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 1: you think you're supposed to do. And then finally five

708
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:26,440
Speaker 1: years down the line, when I was looking at my

709
00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 1: bottom line and my you know, management, business managers and

710
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 1: lawyers were coming back with more money and I was

711
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 1: on the road for two years straight, I was like, oh,

712
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 1: what's happening. So again, it's just an education process. I

713
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 1: don't think it was like some major drama or thing

714
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 1: that they were like stealing from me. It was more

715
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 1: that this is what it usually is, and did you

716
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 1: manage that? How do you adjust that? You just got

717
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 1: to tell you I'm not paying you that. Yeah, Like

718
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's not happening. I get it that that's

719
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 1: what the standard is. But what has to happen for

720
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: me is I need to have a long term you know,

721
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 1: I need to be able to This needs to be

722
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 1: a long term thing for me, not a short term thing.

723
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 1: So you reapproached them and you say, I'm comfortable doing this.

724
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: I won't do I want to do hourly. I don't

725
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 1: want to do percentages. I want to monitor it, I

726
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: want to see it. And you just got to get

727
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 1: on top of your So once I figured out what

728
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: to do, I could actually execute it. But at first

729
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,400
Speaker 1: you're in there like what it might do? You know?

730
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 1: So once I got past that, that's all. I think.

731
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:19,399
Speaker 1: It was just that to clear it up. It never

732
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 1: see it never seemed like you had trouble gaining creative

733
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 1: control and freedom throughout your whole career. Even in the

734
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 1: early days. They let you just do you. I have

735
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,880
Speaker 1: to say they definitely always I always had control of

736
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 1: my music for sure, and I do think my first

737
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 1: management was really instrumental on that. They were really about

738
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 1: like me being at the head of my table, so

739
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: they knew that I was playing. They knew I was producing,

740
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,320
Speaker 1: they knew I was writing, they knew this was my sognic,

741
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 1: my sound, and it was really about like how to

742
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: get the best out of it. And we tried at

743
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 1: the beginning, we tried to do like all of the

744
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,759
Speaker 1: things where all the other producers do the thing. It

745
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: just didn't work because it didn't sound like me. It

746
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 1: wasn't New York enough, it wasn't like the vibe enough.

747
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 1: So I think it definitely. I think it definitely. I've

748
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 1: always had control of my sound. That's one thing I

749
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 1: really appreciate it. It was in marketing and promotions that

750
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 1: in your first deal they couldn't get a grasp on,

751
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 1: you think, because clearly you blew up after that first deal,

752
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 1: so you think the very first the very first deal,

753
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: they just was corny, right, But you know, I think

754
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,880
Speaker 1: it just wasn't the right place for me. You know,

755
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: now that I know and I believe in divine timing,

756
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 1: you know, you realize that it just wasn't right. So

757
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 1: I was I had to move out of there so

758
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:31,840
Speaker 1: that I could move on to the next thing. So

759
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 1: I'm actually grateful that they were corny and didn't understand

760
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 1: what I was doing because then um, I could move on.

761
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 1: All right. We got mored with Alicia Keys. When we

762
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 1: come back, don't move It's to Breakfast Club. Good morning

763
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:48,799
Speaker 1: morning everybody A CJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlomagne, the guy

764
00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: we are the Breakfast Club was still kicking it with

765
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 1: Alicia Keys. It's crazy, is this is the Alicia Keys that?

766
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 1: I don't think everybody ever seen it in their life,

767
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: you know. I mean just when I'm hearing you on

768
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 1: drink Champs. Oh, she's a just the cockiness, just how

769
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:03,880
Speaker 1: you feel, just the authentic. But we never got a

770
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 1: chance to hear you speak. And I think it's a

771
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 1: different side, you know, because we loved the music, but

772
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:10,400
Speaker 1: we didn't know eight Keys, right, you know what I mean?

773
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 1: But now it's like New Yorker. She was punch you

774
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: in your face, like this is that that vibe which

775
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 1: I loved? I was gonna ask at twelve, what got

776
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 1: you into singing and playing the piano and being a musician?

777
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: At twelve, coming from New York City Hell's kitchen, Everybody's

778
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: running around outside? What got you say? No, this is

779
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,320
Speaker 1: what I want to do. I don't know what always

780
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:31,360
Speaker 1: attracted me to the piano. It was almost like a

781
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 1: calling kind of. I think, I just I don't even

782
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 1: know nobody. I really nobody had no played. My grandmother played,

783
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:38,680
Speaker 1: but I barely saw her because she lived in like

784
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: a whole other place. Um, so I didn't There wasn't

785
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 1: somebody that was around me that kind of led me there.

786
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 1: So I think it was a calling on the piano side.

787
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 1: And then once I got a chance to have have

788
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 1: access to one, because it's like who has a piano?

789
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:53,880
Speaker 1: Like that's that's the world we don't use because we

790
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: don't have them record, you know what I mean? So

791
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: so I think, you know, oh, that's what it was.

792
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 1: I got. Um there was like a a strange gift

793
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:04,279
Speaker 1: that was a person kind of was moving and they

794
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,240
Speaker 1: didn't know what to do with this kind of piano

795
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 1: they had in their family or whatever, and they said

796
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 1: like could you use it? So it was one of

797
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:13,359
Speaker 1: those weird things that would never happen ever and did.

798
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 1: And so I think that was kind of the door

799
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 1: that opened it up, right? And how did you get

800
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 1: into the Industrycause they said your mother was a paralegal,

801
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:21,840
Speaker 1: so how did you How did m know about the

802
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:24,719
Speaker 1: music industry. She did, like, how did the family know

803
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 1: about getting you a deal? Like how she did it.

804
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 1: I wasn't raised by my father, so my mother definitely

805
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: was both for me and she she didn't know. She

806
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 1: didn't know. Um, we happened to stumble on we were

807
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:41,600
Speaker 1: at the pl doing all of these uh kind of

808
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,760
Speaker 1: we were putting together a group and rehearsing at PL

809
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 1: on a hundred thirty seventh like every day after school,

810
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: and so, um, she didn't know anything. These guys kind

811
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: of were like, hey, we you know, we think your

812
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 1: daughter can do some stuff, and this is what we

813
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 1: could do. And I remember they be in our little apartment.

814
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 1: In our apartment was like tiny and they were kind

815
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 1: of big. They'd just be sitting there taking up all

816
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: the space. And I think she just I think she

817
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 1: probably felt really distrustful. I think she just had to

818
00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 1: she decided to kind of go with it. But I

819
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:11,320
Speaker 1: don't think she knew anything. Now. On the first record

820
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:19,080
Speaker 1: on the album sample Truth, Yes, I love push Man.

821
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 1: I just felt like he has such an energy a zone.

822
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,360
Speaker 1: Um you know, I love how he flows. It feels

823
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 1: like he just zooms right into the truth and paint

824
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 1: you a picture that voice is so like you just

825
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:34,120
Speaker 1: feel like you're right there with him everywhere. It's a

826
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 1: movie to me every time that he rhymes. So I

827
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 1: can't believe I never worked with him before. I've always

828
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:42,400
Speaker 1: admired him and that that temple of the Truth and

829
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 1: the song that I wrote it is called Plentiful. It

830
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 1: feels like his lane right there. So it was perfect.

831
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 1: Why that sample, because that sample is just so so good.

832
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:54,399
Speaker 1: Can I don't feel like anybody used that. I don't

833
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,919
Speaker 1: know how that woman under the radar and I didn't

834
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: even realize that that Yay producing. I didn't really realize that.

835
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: So obviously, Yeah and I have history in regards to

836
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: music we've made, so it was kind of fresh to

837
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:08,320
Speaker 1: come back there, not only with Yay, but obviously with

838
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 1: the Truth Beanie Big love to Beanie and then push it.

839
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 1: But it felt, you know, it's all about keys. This

840
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: record is all about keys and those that organ and

841
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 1: the way that I put the keys on top of it,

842
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:20,320
Speaker 1: it felt like it had this urgency and this darkness

843
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 1: that and I like how the vocals I chose were

844
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: like a jazzy zone, So I liked this mixture of world.

845
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:28,439
Speaker 1: It felt like it was a nice way to lure

846
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: you into the world. I didn't know you did you

847
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: don't know my name? What? I don't know why. I

848
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:35,879
Speaker 1: never thought now that I feel you like I didn't

849
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 1: know it did the truth? Did you know he did

850
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,320
Speaker 1: the truth? I did when I tried to sample it,

851
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 1: I tried. I tried to sample it to use for

852
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 1: a commercial from my team. I hey, now that's fire. Also,

853
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 1: they said you would do another verses You're open to

854
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 1: it another versus another verses. Yes, I don't know who

855
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: I'm trying to kill. When I'm listening to you on

856
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 1: on drink chips, it was like, yeah, that John Legend

857
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: was cool? You know that was that was like, you know,

858
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: it was obvious. But I'm ready for that war. I'm

859
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 1: ready for that action whatever. I love that. Who would

860
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 1: be the one? Who? Do you? Do? You do? You know?

861
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:17,960
Speaker 1: I mean I agree with them at the end. Look

862
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 1: record one of my favorite records. I need to Beyonce,

863
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:27,080
Speaker 1: the Rihanna, the Maridos, one of those three. Okay, yeah,

864
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:29,800
Speaker 1: do you feel like you don't get mentioned in that?

865
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: That spear enough? No, I don't feel like that. I

866
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 1: feel like I'm in my own lane anyway. Definitely. Yeah,

867
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 1: So I could see why people wouldn't because I don't

868
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:42,359
Speaker 1: really belong there, And sometimes I feel like Alicia Keys

869
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:45,120
Speaker 1: was born in the wrong era musically, What you mean

870
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,279
Speaker 1: you don't belong there? I just feel like I belong

871
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: in my own space, you know. I just felt I

872
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: occupy my own space that really doesn't fit. Actually, And

873
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:57,880
Speaker 1: even that when he said you believe you know my

874
00:44:58,040 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 1: name wouldn't get mentioned within that, I don't even feel

875
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: like it fits quite in that group. But I do

876
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:05,879
Speaker 1: feel like I was born in the wrong era too,

877
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 1: I really do. I was probably missed it by a

878
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 1: decade or two. Even when you listening to the album now,

879
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 1: you're like, all right, wait a minute, where we at? Yeah?

880
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:17,080
Speaker 1: I mean it's like you feel Billy Holliday like that,

881
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 1: you see me see those movies where it's like the

882
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 1: bars and the lights are low and everybody's smoking cigars cigarettes,

883
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 1: Like that's how Let's feel moves. I know, I know

884
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: what you mean, and that's why I fit perfect here

885
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 1: right now, because it's meant to be like that, and

886
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 1: it's meant to have that mixture. So I don't, actually

887
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 1: I don't I disagree like you splin gass like you're

888
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:38,360
Speaker 1: a fifteen term Grammy Award winning artists. I don't. I

889
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 1: don't think people heard of for her lane. She don't like,

890
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:46,319
Speaker 1: but you never do rb she do. The pop doesn't

891
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 1: really make like that. There you go. It's kind of

892
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, I feel like that's I think what

893
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:54,839
Speaker 1: you thought I was saying was as if I don't

894
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 1: fit in that lane, as if I'm somehow not belonging there.

895
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 1: I'm mormented, as if it's maybe it's unlaneable. It's not

896
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 1: a comparison. You can't put this song against this song

897
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 1: because they're no, they're not. They just don't. They're not

898
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 1: in the same space or whatever. But she got me,

899
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 1: she got you, and she got I like that drink Champs.

900
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 1: You told the story about Prince right now, Has anybody

901
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 1: else ever not cleared a sample for you besides Prince um,

902
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,959
Speaker 1: because I can't imagine Alicia Keys comes right and she's

903
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: like when you told that story, though it was respectful,

904
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 1: but you understood. Yeah, I understand that Prince is very

905
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:36,319
Speaker 1: into ownership and making sure the right people get the money.

906
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:40,400
Speaker 1: But I can't see somebody saying they have We're not

907
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 1: going to sign off on this Alicia Keys record. You

908
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 1: know what I mean, I guess I don't have any

909
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 1: that comes to my head. That was like super super disappointing,

910
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 1: you know, when I was like no, um so yeah,

911
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: and I don't remember another one that was my best

912
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:57,800
Speaker 1: that's my best one, you though, No, he loved me,

913
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: which is why he said no. Record. He loved me,

914
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: which is why he said no. And I actually appreciate

915
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: he said no in a way that it wasn't no

916
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:09,359
Speaker 1: for me. It was no who owned what would come

917
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 1: of it? It wasn't no to me, you know what

918
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 1: I mean. I learned a lot of things about ownership,

919
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 1: like did you and Prince have those type of conversations?

920
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:21,720
Speaker 1: So I understand now. And he was very obviously super vocal.

921
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:26,400
Speaker 1: He didn't he didn't overpreachum when we were I was

922
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 1: with him, I feel like he was more concerned about

923
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:34,840
Speaker 1: me cursing Prince. He hated it because he was you

924
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 1: know what I mean, So at that point, you know,

925
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:39,279
Speaker 1: that was the most important thing to him, and he

926
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: knew I was gonna slip up. You know when I

927
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: met Prince, that's the first thing I said, because I

928
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: couldn't think of nothing the only thing he what did?

929
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 1: He said, Because it's Prince. I didn't think I'll be

930
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 1: you A certain people you get around, you don't realize

931
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 1: you started scrugg Hey, you know I was reading your

932
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:56,840
Speaker 1: whole witness too, I think to say. And then he

933
00:47:56,920 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 1: asked for a picture in princeon No, that picture. He

934
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 1: tried to sneak one anyway. We first we see prints,

935
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: we go high. I go high, he says, how he

936
00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:11,840
Speaker 1: goes witness. Yeah, we'll talk about that one day we're connected,

937
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 1: talk to me. We're talking about that. Princess. No, he said, no,

938
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 1: I don't. He's I don't want to take pictures right now. Okay,

939
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 1: he tried to sneak a picture while Prince is walking off.

940
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 1: I did. He took a picture and it was there.

941
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 1: It was Prince floating away right literally, which is just

942
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: it that represents him perfect. And guess what ten seconds

943
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:33,240
Speaker 1: later that's in my phone. That was just black true

944
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 1: story back the picture. And then it was gone, oh

945
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: that hurts so bad over het. No, that's when I

946
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:44,440
Speaker 1: let me let me know Princess other worldly being. Question.

947
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 1: Now I get it all a little movie. We got

948
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 1: more with Alicia Keys when we come back it's the

949
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club, Good Morning Morning, everybody is DJ enjy, Angela Yee,

950
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 1: Scharlom and the guy we are the Breakfast Club was

951
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: still kicking it with Alicia Keys. Yeah. When you recorded

952
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 1: this album, Keys and you were riding has where you

953
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: home during the pandemic, doing during doing this very much

954
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: in love, it feels like, definitely, I feel like a

955
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:08,839
Speaker 1: lot of people pick up on the love and it's

956
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 1: I am in love, and so that is actually right.

957
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:14,880
Speaker 1: And I also feel like I've also become able to

958
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 1: express my love for myself, So I think a lot

959
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:20,720
Speaker 1: of the love that you feel is also me loving

960
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: all myself and expressing like that love too, So it's both.

961
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:25,440
Speaker 1: It's obviously the love I have for my family, the

962
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 1: love I have for Swiss, and the love that I

963
00:49:27,680 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 1: have for myself. So I think that's what's coming out.

964
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 1: Letting him hear these songs while you were writing them

965
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 1: and recording them, m oh man, you know, he he definitely.

966
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 1: He always kind of stays out of my way because

967
00:49:39,239 --> 00:49:41,880
Speaker 1: he just, you know, lets me have my space, and

968
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,359
Speaker 1: he really likes that. But I love to play him

969
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 1: songs after I'm finished, especially when I love them and

970
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 1: when he loves them as fresh. You know, he sees

971
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:52,760
Speaker 1: extra overdramatic about everything. So I love I love that energy.

972
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 1: But have I always been and um not the way

973
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:00,800
Speaker 1: that I thought I did. I thought that I thought

974
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 1: that I was very much clear about what self love meant.

975
00:50:04,600 --> 00:50:07,239
Speaker 1: But I realized that I didn't have that confidence and

976
00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 1: I didn't have that actual love. If I did, I

977
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:14,840
Speaker 1: would have probably made different choices, or I would probably

978
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 1: have demanded more for myself in a lot of ways,

979
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 1: which is what I understand now. So what about worthiness?

980
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 1: How long did it take you to get to a

981
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: feeling of work? Yeah? The worthiness, that's a deep one

982
00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: because I always you know, I was raised by a

983
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 1: feminist for sure. I always felt very much like I

984
00:50:31,600 --> 00:50:34,800
Speaker 1: would talked about I'm worth it and as I'm a

985
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 1: superwoman and all these things, which I actually knew when

986
00:50:37,239 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 1: I was writing them that I didn't feel that way.

987
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 1: I didn't quite feel the ways I was writing, which

988
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,359
Speaker 1: is why I need to write them. But I didn't

989
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:46,919
Speaker 1: realize that it was actually a worth a self worth

990
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:50,800
Speaker 1: issue that I had. So it took a minute longer

991
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 1: than I wish. I wish I got it earlier, but

992
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:56,800
Speaker 1: I would say it within the past, you know, probably

993
00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 1: in the past three three to five years. Same. Why

994
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 1: is that? Is that about December twenty nineteen, I got

995
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:04,320
Speaker 1: to the place of worthiness. Who absolutely and do you

996
00:51:04,440 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 1: know what it was like or just like kind of

997
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 1: accumulated anything. It was a seed somebody planted in me

998
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: when they told me that even if you don't feel worthy,

999
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 1: just know God knows you're worthy. And it was like,

1000
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: you're just gonna You're just gonna feel it. And literally

1001
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:20,360
Speaker 1: I remember sitting in the house around this time twenty

1002
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 1: nineteen and it just hit me, like, you know what

1003
00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 1: I'm worthy? You know that's that's a hard one. I

1004
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 1: really feel like we don't feel like that a lot.

1005
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: When you remember when you got to that point, you

1006
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 1: remember the moment. I remember the moment I realized that

1007
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 1: I didn't feel worthy um and I realized that that

1008
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 1: was you know, I realized by being almost so accommodating

1009
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 1: that expressed that I didn't feel worthy to fight for myself.

1010
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,359
Speaker 1: You're trying to please e anybody else. But I also

1011
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:53,360
Speaker 1: realized it's something to fighting for yourself. You have to

1012
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:56,640
Speaker 1: be like, guess what I want this? What are you

1013
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:59,800
Speaker 1: gonna do about it accommodate me as opposed to me

1014
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:02,840
Speaker 1: always accommodating you. And so I started to recognize that

1015
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 1: that's what I was doing. And I thought it was humility.

1016
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:09,239
Speaker 1: I thought it was you know, fluidity. I thought it

1017
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 1: was kindness, I thought it was whatever. But I realized

1018
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:15,560
Speaker 1: it was actually I felt some type of way about

1019
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:17,560
Speaker 1: I didn't have the self worth that I should have had.

1020
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 1: It was because of guilt, too, because of when you

1021
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 1: come from a certain environment, you have all this success

1022
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 1: and you're the breadwinner and all this other stuff. Is

1023
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,239
Speaker 1: it that too, yep, yep. I think that there was

1024
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:31,080
Speaker 1: definitely a lot of a lot of unneeded guilt about

1025
00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:34,480
Speaker 1: my success and feeling like I had to fit in

1026
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 1: and wanting to um, you know, I just didn't want to.

1027
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 1: I want to be with the same people I've always

1028
00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 1: been with. I didn't want to feel like I wasn't

1029
00:52:42,239 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 1: able to they weren't able to relate to me, or

1030
00:52:44,640 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 1: I wasn't able to relate to them. So I think

1031
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 1: it's in a lot of ways, I would kind of

1032
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 1: just act that way. So yeah, I did think but

1033
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 1: that was my own thing. They didn't even feel like that.

1034
00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:56,080
Speaker 1: That's the thing we do we project for other people.

1035
00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 1: They didn't even feel like that. So that that's you

1036
00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:01,000
Speaker 1: know how that goes. Said first you and Swiss, you

1037
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 1: didn't see Swiss as that type of person, Like I

1038
00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 1: didn't have a connection at first, How y'all didn't have

1039
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:07,319
Speaker 1: that connection? What didn't you see in Swiss at first?

1040
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 1: I was like, Naby, come on, it's like we literally

1041
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:14,080
Speaker 1: day and night. And at least I thought that, noting

1042
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:16,839
Speaker 1: that that's what I'm saying, y'all, we actually did. We're

1043
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:20,799
Speaker 1: exactly the same, but I didn't realize that at the time. Um.

1044
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:22,840
Speaker 1: One thing I guess that we are a bit different

1045
00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 1: is is that he is one million times more flashy

1046
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 1: than I am. Definitely, I am, definitely, but I mean

1047
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:36,000
Speaker 1: but I'm exercising, I'm practicing, and I love it. I'm

1048
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 1: with it. But the but I think that's probably the

1049
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 1: biggest one. You know, he he would the first car

1050
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:44,399
Speaker 1: he probably got, you know, with some probably Ferrari mans

1051
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:47,600
Speaker 1: of Rieti and Zoe something, you know what I mean.

1052
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 1: The first car I got was like a mins of

1053
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 1: six to six, Like I was just like you know

1054
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 1: what I want to me? That was fresh as hell.

1055
00:53:53,520 --> 00:53:56,000
Speaker 1: I was like I was excited, but I didn't even

1056
00:53:56,160 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 1: think that I could have more. You know, it's always

1057
00:53:58,680 --> 00:54:01,399
Speaker 1: just kind of about like just doing the basics type

1058
00:54:01,400 --> 00:54:03,319
Speaker 1: of thing again, which goes back to where we were.

1059
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 1: And also I want to actually drive in the street

1060
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:07,360
Speaker 1: and actually like be able to go places. And I

1061
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:12,239
Speaker 1: realized that now. I didn't understand that then, and so

1062
00:54:12,360 --> 00:54:14,000
Speaker 1: for me that would probably be what I felt was

1063
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 1: so so day and night. He was like super over

1064
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 1: the top everything everything. But but I realized that was

1065
00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:22,799
Speaker 1: just some exercising what he deserves. And that's the thing

1066
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 1: that's the thing difference between him and I, and I

1067
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:27,760
Speaker 1: think we actually have balanced each other in a beautiful

1068
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:30,880
Speaker 1: way with that. It's like you get to express what

1069
00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 1: you deserve. I think we're taught that we're not supposed

1070
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 1: to have nice things because it's somehow unholy or not right.

1071
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 1: And I think what happened where that comes from. I

1072
00:54:41,040 --> 00:54:46,040
Speaker 1: think it's just because people can take that and get

1073
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: confused about it and get very selfish about it as

1074
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 1: opposed to being given. But one thing that Swiss is

1075
00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 1: is super given. He never does anything for himself before

1076
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:58,520
Speaker 1: he makes sure that everybody is straight. So that's the fact.

1077
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: My first b check. Ever in this business because of Swiss,

1078
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:05,520
Speaker 1: you didn't have to do that for me at all.

1079
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:08,879
Speaker 1: He's that guy, He's always that guy. So I think

1080
00:55:08,920 --> 00:55:11,160
Speaker 1: that's what happens. You get might get misconstrued, and then

1081
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: you start only thinking about yourself as opposed to making

1082
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 1: sure that everybody is good. So as long as that's

1083
00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:18,959
Speaker 1: happening and there's a balance, and there's nothing wrong with happen.

1084
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:21,200
Speaker 1: I heard the first piano that you got, he tried

1085
00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 1: to get you to get rid of it and get

1086
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 1: something way nice, and he was like, no, first first

1087
00:55:25,680 --> 00:55:28,040
Speaker 1: piano she ever received. When I guess when you signed

1088
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 1: the deal, they gave you a piano right, and you

1089
00:55:29,920 --> 00:55:32,480
Speaker 1: wouldn't get rid of He was like this way better pianos,

1090
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:35,480
Speaker 1: more expensive piano, and you was like, Nabby, you know,

1091
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 1: he wanted everything to be liver Rachi, so you know,

1092
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 1: but the I don't think he knew. He didn't realize.

1093
00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:43,239
Speaker 1: So in our house, it is my first piano, and

1094
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 1: that's the piano that I was given by Columbia when

1095
00:55:47,200 --> 00:55:51,040
Speaker 1: I was sixteen, and so that's like a memory. They

1096
00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 1: could put it in another room because you guys got

1097
00:55:52,719 --> 00:55:58,719
Speaker 1: plenty of rooms. We like this one we like. Now,

1098
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:00,120
Speaker 1: when did you come up with the idea to do

1099
00:56:00,440 --> 00:56:02,799
Speaker 1: unlocked and originals? What made you say this is how

1100
00:56:02,840 --> 00:56:05,439
Speaker 1: it's going to happen. I really wanted to, but first

1101
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:08,080
Speaker 1: of all, the originals, the concept of Keys definitely was

1102
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 1: always about the piano, and I really did want it

1103
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 1: to have that just that stripped backfield. There's something about yeah,

1104
00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:19,120
Speaker 1: and so I think Keys was really like coming back

1105
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:22,759
Speaker 1: home and so that you're just really wanting to be

1106
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,839
Speaker 1: about the piano and writing it and making it all

1107
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 1: about that. And as I did that, I loved it

1108
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:31,000
Speaker 1: and it was it was fire, but there was there's

1109
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,919
Speaker 1: also this other side of me to what you're saying

1110
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 1: that I think it's hard to show all of you,

1111
00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:38,080
Speaker 1: for all of us, I mean, for all of us,

1112
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 1: it's hard to really display that you know or have

1113
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:43,560
Speaker 1: an opportunity to display that. And it felt like doing

1114
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 1: this unlocked piece, not only was it exciting because it

1115
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 1: allowed us to reinterpret this these originals, but it allowed

1116
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 1: it to be the other side of me that I

1117
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:54,279
Speaker 1: wouldn't have wanted just a whole album of unlocked, and

1118
00:56:54,400 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 1: I didn't Maybe I would have wanted a whole original,

1119
00:56:57,040 --> 00:57:00,279
Speaker 1: but I love them together because it's full speed. I

1120
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 1: have a little movie, got more with Alicia Keys. When

1121
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:04,440
Speaker 1: we come back. It's the Breakfast Club. God, Morning Morning.

1122
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 1: Everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy we

1123
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,280
Speaker 1: are the Breakfast Club were still kicking it with Alicia Keys. Chalomagne.

1124
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 1: You got a song called a Nat King Cole on

1125
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 1: the project. Yeah, he's clearly a musical hero of yours, definitely,

1126
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 1: And I think it was just the theme that we

1127
00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 1: started to write. I wrote that with a woman named

1128
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:27,400
Speaker 1: Natalie Hemby, who's super fresh, and the theme that we

1129
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:31,560
Speaker 1: wanted to write was about because the theme of Keys

1130
00:57:31,600 --> 00:57:34,720
Speaker 1: and the theme of my life right now is really

1131
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 1: about completely never holding back ever again. And to you,

1132
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 1: you actually are allowed to be on your bullshit? Who

1133
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 1: said you have to tune down? Toned down? Like, where

1134
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:49,480
Speaker 1: did that come from? So that was a part of

1135
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:51,680
Speaker 1: my life for a long time. I rejected, I don't

1136
00:57:51,680 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 1: want to know more and so and so that song

1137
00:57:55,600 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 1: really describes that, like tear down the chandeliers and be

1138
00:57:58,440 --> 00:58:00,919
Speaker 1: like your most majestic and to me, Nat King Cole

1139
00:58:01,360 --> 00:58:04,920
Speaker 1: represents that there's like an elegance and a prowess and

1140
00:58:05,040 --> 00:58:08,960
Speaker 1: like a legacy and some really a power that he represents.

1141
00:58:09,040 --> 00:58:10,920
Speaker 1: And that's why that's why we wanted to call it

1142
00:58:11,360 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 1: that ill though, because a lot of people actually don't

1143
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 1: even know Nat King cole believe it or not. I

1144
00:58:16,800 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 1: think there's a whole generation of people that don't, you know.

1145
00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:23,000
Speaker 1: And that's fresh though, I think, because you know, because

1146
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 1: I think it turns people on to like, well, who

1147
00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:26,960
Speaker 1: was that and what is that? I think you know,

1148
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:29,000
Speaker 1: like a song or two because you over the holiday

1149
00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 1: as you hear like unforgetable, you know what I mean,

1150
00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 1: and you're like ter exactly. But but so that that wordplay,

1151
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 1: it was more about be unforgettable like Na kincole Um.

1152
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:42,160
Speaker 1: By the way, the Wayne verse on that, to me

1153
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:47,280
Speaker 1: is so masterful. I love how he I love that verse. Well,

1154
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:51,440
Speaker 1: what when for somebody who doesn't fit into an era musically?

1155
00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 1: What is your inspiration? What do you have into everything? Everything?

1156
00:58:56,600 --> 00:58:58,640
Speaker 1: I love to I love to listen to everything. I

1157
00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 1: love to listen to things that I love new discoveries.

1158
00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:05,920
Speaker 1: I love listening to new artists. I love, you know,

1159
00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:08,960
Speaker 1: taking it back to like the errors of the thirties

1160
00:59:09,000 --> 00:59:11,560
Speaker 1: and the fifties and the sixties and the seventies going

1161
00:59:11,600 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 1: through the errors are ill. So I just think listening

1162
00:59:14,360 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 1: to everything and then just allowing it to kind of

1163
00:59:16,440 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 1: be in there and then go wherever it goes. It's

1164
00:59:18,880 --> 00:59:20,400
Speaker 1: part of what creates the time is I think it's

1165
00:59:20,400 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 1: because I actually love all the errors that it sounds sexual.

1166
00:59:23,200 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: I was listening to Drink Champs. You were talking about

1167
00:59:25,640 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 1: the Empire State Record, and you said when you first

1168
00:59:27,840 --> 00:59:29,560
Speaker 1: did it, you did it in LA and Jay called

1169
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:31,640
Speaker 1: you and was like, could you change the vocals? What

1170
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 1: was your mind frame at that point, like you know

1171
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:35,880
Speaker 1: who you're talking to was wasn't at that at any point.

1172
00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:38,480
Speaker 1: I feel like he probably had a really hard time

1173
00:59:38,560 --> 00:59:40,880
Speaker 1: making that call. I don't feel like he wanted to

1174
00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 1: make that call. You can't have it, nobody have the engineer,

1175
00:59:48,400 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 1: Jay said, you know, um, so I feel like it

1176
00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:55,919
Speaker 1: was like, hey, how you doing, how's the kids? How's moms? Like? Yeah,

1177
00:59:57,120 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 1: can you change your verse? Yeah? Now he was just

1178
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 1: like a sub and and I was like, hey, you know,

1179
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:02,760
Speaker 1: I was excited because I was like, okay, we got

1180
01:00:03,200 --> 01:00:05,160
Speaker 1: the record, and I knew I was really trying hard

1181
01:00:05,160 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 1: to meet his deadline, and so I worked hard to

1182
01:00:07,840 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 1: get it and so I was like, yeah, you got it,

1183
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,320
Speaker 1: you heard it. And I feel like right when I

1184
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 1: asked him you got it, you heard it was right

1185
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:17,600
Speaker 1: where he was like yeah, and then he was just like,

1186
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:21,280
Speaker 1: you know, I was thinking. I was just thinking that.

1187
01:00:21,760 --> 01:00:25,439
Speaker 1: I was wondering, do you think you could do one

1188
01:00:25,560 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 1: more time? Could you do it one more time? And

1189
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:30,360
Speaker 1: I definitely remember I was like what In my head,

1190
01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:33,400
Speaker 1: I was like, what one more time I did this ship?

1191
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:36,360
Speaker 1: But he was like, because I just I just feel like,

1192
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 1: maybe one more time really gonna get the vibe. And

1193
01:00:39,560 --> 01:00:41,800
Speaker 1: I had to respect it, because you know, you do.

1194
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:44,760
Speaker 1: It's true. There's an energy on a record and you

1195
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:46,840
Speaker 1: can feel it right away, and it was his record.

1196
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:48,840
Speaker 1: He knew what he was looking for, so I had

1197
01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 1: to respect that I possibly could have gave it one

1198
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:53,480
Speaker 1: more time. And I did realize that I was sick

1199
01:00:53,680 --> 01:00:55,320
Speaker 1: because I sang it sick because I was trying to

1200
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 1: hit the deadline, and so you know, it's just you

1201
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:00,160
Speaker 1: could tell. But I think what he really wanted was

1202
01:01:00,240 --> 01:01:01,720
Speaker 1: me to talk more on it, because he was like,

1203
01:01:01,760 --> 01:01:04,240
Speaker 1: could you do more of the you know you go, uh, yeah,

1204
01:01:04,360 --> 01:01:05,640
Speaker 1: you do all of that. Can I can I get

1205
01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 1: a little more of that. So he just had the

1206
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 1: direction that gave me I can and I took it.

1207
01:01:09,640 --> 01:01:11,480
Speaker 1: If you could do a collab album with somebody, who

1208
01:01:11,560 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 1: would it be? Oh damn. I would want it to

1209
01:01:17,600 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 1: be something crazy, like three or four people from like

1210
01:01:21,560 --> 01:01:25,479
Speaker 1: whole different universes. I think that would be so ill.

1211
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 1: Who would it be? Got it? Okay, it's gonna be

1212
01:01:31,200 --> 01:01:38,320
Speaker 1: Um Kendrick M that's it. Yeah, that's what it is.

1213
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:40,960
Speaker 1: I feel like that would be almost impossible to get

1214
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:45,240
Speaker 1: done between Honestly, it's gonna be a chicky one, but

1215
01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:48,560
Speaker 1: I think it had sound out reading yea hou at

1216
01:01:48,600 --> 01:01:51,080
Speaker 1: least a record. Yeah, let's go. I feel like we

1217
01:01:51,120 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 1: could get an EP, maybe four songs, it's something, let's see.

1218
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna push for it. I feel like you might

1219
01:01:55,960 --> 01:01:57,640
Speaker 1: be just planting the seed. I think that might be

1220
01:01:57,680 --> 01:02:04,400
Speaker 1: already done, maybe a record or something. I wanted to ask,

1221
01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:06,680
Speaker 1: what would this version of Alicia Keys tell Alicia in

1222
01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:10,200
Speaker 1: two thousand and one? I think she would tell her too,

1223
01:02:11,520 --> 01:02:16,200
Speaker 1: like don't back down, don't back down, like what you

1224
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:19,360
Speaker 1: what you see, what you feel, what you need, There's

1225
01:02:19,400 --> 01:02:21,560
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that, and that you deserve it, so

1226
01:02:21,720 --> 01:02:24,320
Speaker 1: ask for it, like before you before you think you

1227
01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:28,880
Speaker 1: gotta pivot or change or fix or accommodate, like ask

1228
01:02:28,920 --> 01:02:32,400
Speaker 1: for what you want first, and definitely like to know

1229
01:02:33,000 --> 01:02:38,160
Speaker 1: that you you know what you're doing, nobody knows what

1230
01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:39,960
Speaker 1: to do better than you, because I think that that

1231
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:42,720
Speaker 1: happens to a lot of us. We start to listen

1232
01:02:42,760 --> 01:02:44,360
Speaker 1: to a bunch of people that we think no more,

1233
01:02:44,480 --> 01:02:47,080
Speaker 1: or they've been in the game longer, or they done more,

1234
01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:49,240
Speaker 1: or they we think they could take us somewhere we

1235
01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:53,400
Speaker 1: can't take ourselves. But that's actually fake, It's not real. Son,

1236
01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:55,560
Speaker 1: Did you ever backdown? Because I don't see you as

1237
01:02:55,600 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 1: a as a somebody that would backdown. It was more

1238
01:02:58,280 --> 01:03:01,560
Speaker 1: in little ways, not like you know, not liking I'm

1239
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 1: definitely strong minded, strong headed for sure, but I do

1240
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:09,840
Speaker 1: feel like I could overcompromise. I remember you told the

1241
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:13,080
Speaker 1: story about a photographer who made you feel uncomfortable and

1242
01:03:13,280 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: had you like I'm buying your pants a little and

1243
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:19,080
Speaker 1: now do this and yeah, and for women out there,

1244
01:03:19,120 --> 01:03:21,600
Speaker 1: you don't have to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

1245
01:03:21,640 --> 01:03:23,440
Speaker 1: You feel like this is all right. I'm just I

1246
01:03:23,480 --> 01:03:26,040
Speaker 1: don't want to be difficult and I'm just yeah, or

1247
01:03:26,080 --> 01:03:28,160
Speaker 1: you feel like again, Man, this is a really this

1248
01:03:28,240 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 1: is a major photographer. They shoot all the time. They

1249
01:03:31,240 --> 01:03:33,400
Speaker 1: shoot the biggest this and the biggest that. And if

1250
01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:36,120
Speaker 1: he says that I should probably unbutton the top part

1251
01:03:36,200 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 1: of my pants, maybe that's okay. That's probably good because

1252
01:03:39,520 --> 01:03:41,640
Speaker 1: he no, it's good. It don't feel good. Don't ask

1253
01:03:41,640 --> 01:03:43,400
Speaker 1: me to unbut my pants? Are you crazy? You creek?

1254
01:03:43,720 --> 01:03:52,720
Speaker 1: Like you know, it's okay, it's okay to like, it's

1255
01:03:52,800 --> 01:03:56,680
Speaker 1: okay to like guard protect yourself, man, protect yourself. Nobody's

1256
01:03:56,680 --> 01:03:58,560
Speaker 1: gonna protect you, So protect yourself. And that's what I

1257
01:03:58,600 --> 01:04:02,000
Speaker 1: would tell her, right absolutely. Album is out right now, Keys,

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01:04:02,040 --> 01:04:03,920
Speaker 1: and we appreciate you for joining us that hopefully we'll

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Speaker 1: have to be another eleven years before you come home. No,

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Speaker 1: it's Alicia, kids, It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, the

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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same. It's here.

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Speaker 1: Can make sure you're telling the watch out for Florida.

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01:04:35,280 --> 01:04:37,640
Speaker 1: The craziest people in America come from the Bronx and

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01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 1: all of Florida. Yes, you are a donkey. The Florida

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01:04:42,880 --> 01:04:45,920
Speaker 1: man a chapped and atm for a very strange reason.

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01:04:46,040 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 1: It gave him too much money. Florida man is arrested

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01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 1: after definitely say he's rigged the door to his home

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01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:52,720
Speaker 1: and an attempt to electro kid his pregnant. White police

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01:04:52,800 --> 01:04:56,160
Speaker 1: arrested in Orlando man for talking a familia the Breakfast

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Speaker 1: Club Bitchy Donkey Other Day with Charlom Haine, a guy

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Speaker 1: I don't know what y'all keep, then he can get

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Speaker 1: you elected. Well, little dude ball Okay. Not only am

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01:05:04,000 --> 01:05:06,959
Speaker 1: I getting them like this, I gotta get Jacksonville to Day. Okay,

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01:05:07,080 --> 01:05:10,000
Speaker 1: Donkey to Day goes to a Jacksonville woman named ken

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Speaker 1: Yeta Gordon. Salute to everyone who listens to the Breakfast

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Speaker 1: Club on ninety three point three to beat in Jacksonville.

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Speaker 1: Salute to the young man Quail p Okay. That record

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Speaker 1: he got out titled Charlemagne. When the world officially opens

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Speaker 1: back up, you know, not like Florida open. I mean,

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01:05:24,480 --> 01:05:27,280
Speaker 1: you know, like open open, not I don't give an

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01:05:27,280 --> 01:05:29,080
Speaker 1: f open back up. But opens back up, so the

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01:05:29,120 --> 01:05:31,240
Speaker 1: rest of us who don't take risks like you Floridians

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01:05:31,280 --> 01:05:33,120
Speaker 1: can move around. When I come to the nine or four,

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01:05:33,200 --> 01:05:35,560
Speaker 1: I want everybody to sing my name like Quail PR.

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Speaker 1: I'm not responding. Let's practice NB, say my name Charlemagne,

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Speaker 1: Hey yo, Quail P. What's happening my brother? How you

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Speaker 1: young king? What's happening to nephew? See how I ignored

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Speaker 1: Envy because he didn't sing my name the way I

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01:05:49,720 --> 01:05:52,880
Speaker 1: wanted him to. Okay, but Quail P did it right? Now?

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Speaker 1: What did your uncle Charla always say about Florida? The

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01:05:56,040 --> 01:05:58,160
Speaker 1: craziest people in America come from the Bronx and all

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01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:01,280
Speaker 1: of Florida, and today once again through all of us

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01:06:01,320 --> 01:06:03,440
Speaker 1: who notice to be true correct see ken yet To.

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Speaker 1: Gordon was arrested and charged with strong arm robbery and

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Speaker 1: possession with intent to use drug parad familia. I personally

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01:06:10,920 --> 01:06:13,640
Speaker 1: don't think anyone who gets arrested on an intent to

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Speaker 1: use charge should be sent to jail. They should be

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Speaker 1: sent to a rehab facility. But that's just my opinion

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01:06:18,320 --> 01:06:20,000
Speaker 1: and has nothing to do with this story. Really, But

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01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:22,520
Speaker 1: what did can yet To do to get arrested for

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01:06:22,640 --> 01:06:26,920
Speaker 1: strong armed robbery. Well, according to police, she robbed the bank. Look, man,

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01:06:27,080 --> 01:06:29,400
Speaker 1: times is hard and the slums we're from, I tell

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01:06:29,480 --> 01:06:31,919
Speaker 1: y'all all the time, people are starving. Your stomach. Don't

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01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:34,040
Speaker 1: stop growling because the check is on the way. Your

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01:06:34,240 --> 01:06:37,040
Speaker 1: stomach stops growling. When you get that check, cash it,

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Speaker 1: and now you got some bread to buy, some bread

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Speaker 1: to feed yourself. Okay, not making excuses for this woman

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01:06:41,840 --> 01:06:44,000
Speaker 1: at all, because we all make choices in life and

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01:06:44,160 --> 01:06:47,440
Speaker 1: have to be held accountable for the consequences of our actions.

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Speaker 1: And when you rob a bank nine times out of ten,

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01:06:49,800 --> 01:06:52,280
Speaker 1: you're going to jail. I'm just simply trying to get

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01:06:52,320 --> 01:06:55,320
Speaker 1: you all in the mindset of this woman. Okay. Now,

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Speaker 1: whenever I think about bank robberies, first thing I think

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Speaker 1: about is how much did they get right? Second thing

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Speaker 1: I think about is how did they get away? What

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Speaker 1: was the getaway vehicle? There's literally nothing you can't find

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Speaker 1: online because I google top ten getaway cars for robbing banks.

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01:07:09,560 --> 01:07:11,600
Speaker 1: Let's run them down real quick. Number ten is the

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Speaker 1: nineteen thirty two Ford V eight. That's the old black

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01:07:14,080 --> 01:07:16,000
Speaker 1: cars you see in all the old black and white movies.

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Speaker 1: Number nine is the Toyota Corolla. Number eight, it's an ambulance.

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Speaker 1: See it's all about something that is fast, is something

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Speaker 1: that blends in. Nothing blends in like an ambulance. Number

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01:07:24,000 --> 01:07:27,480
Speaker 1: seven is a Cadillac CTSV wagon. Number six is the taxi.

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01:07:27,720 --> 01:07:31,520
Speaker 1: Yet again, another vehic blends right in. Number five is

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Speaker 1: the General Lee. You know, the bright orange Dodge charge

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Speaker 1: you the duke boards you're driving duke for hazard, you

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01:07:36,760 --> 01:07:40,560
Speaker 1: know that one. Number four is the Alpine armored Cadillac Escalade.

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Speaker 1: Don't know where you just find one of those. Number

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Speaker 1: three is the Porsche Cayenne Turbo s. Number two is

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Speaker 1: the Dodge Charger SRT three ninety two. That's for speed.

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Speaker 1: And the number one getaway car for bank robberies is

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Speaker 1: the incas Hearing APC. That's the big armor truck that

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Speaker 1: the SWAT team draft. No regular civilian is gonna have that,

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Speaker 1: so I don't even know that's on there. But the

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Speaker 1: point of all these vehicles is either for speed are

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01:08:03,560 --> 01:08:06,600
Speaker 1: to blend in. Well, ken Yeta must have been going

1342
01:08:06,720 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 1: for the blend in part because she damn show wasn't

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01:08:08,840 --> 01:08:10,600
Speaker 1: going for the speed. Would you like to know what

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01:08:10,720 --> 01:08:13,680
Speaker 1: her getaway vehicle a choice was? Whould you what is it?

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01:08:13,880 --> 01:08:16,760
Speaker 1: Let's go to WJA XTBS forty seven for the report police.

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01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:20,560
Speaker 1: The Jacksonville Sheriff's Office is releasing the identity of a

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01:08:20,640 --> 01:08:23,960
Speaker 1: woman accused of robbing a bank from her wheelchair. This

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01:08:24,160 --> 01:08:27,080
Speaker 1: is a new mug shot of ken Yetta Gordon. Actually,

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01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:29,519
Speaker 1: news Jacks broke the news yesterday when police say that

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01:08:30,000 --> 01:08:32,800
Speaker 1: a woman became angry while discussing her account at the

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01:08:32,880 --> 01:08:36,160
Speaker 1: Region's bank in downtown Jacksonville. She's accused of telling a

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01:08:36,280 --> 01:08:38,800
Speaker 1: worker that she was going to kill everyone inside and

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01:08:38,920 --> 01:08:41,360
Speaker 1: that this was a robbery. She left, they say, in

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01:08:41,439 --> 01:08:44,679
Speaker 1: a motorized wheelchair after getting the cash. She was arrested

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01:08:44,760 --> 01:08:51,080
Speaker 1: just a few blocks away. Stop. I don't like when

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01:08:51,120 --> 01:08:55,240
Speaker 1: you go rogue drop. All right, Jesus, what the flaida

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01:08:55,360 --> 01:08:57,599
Speaker 1: is going on here? All right? There's only three people

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01:08:57,800 --> 01:09:00,240
Speaker 1: who could have truly gotten away with this crime. One

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01:09:00,720 --> 01:09:04,599
Speaker 1: Rolling Ray okay. Two Snoop Dogg's Character and training Day

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01:09:05,000 --> 01:09:08,719
Speaker 1: Three Professor Charles Xavier. Those are the only three individuals

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01:09:08,720 --> 01:09:11,080
Speaker 1: who who could have gotten away with robbing a bank

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01:09:11,240 --> 01:09:12,920
Speaker 1: in a wheelchair. Now, let me tell you something. This

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01:09:13,040 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 1: is why Florida is full of brilliant idiots. Because robbing

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01:09:16,120 --> 01:09:18,080
Speaker 1: a bank in a wheelchair, truly is the best way

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01:09:18,120 --> 01:09:20,960
Speaker 1: to blend in, even if you don't really need a wheelchair.

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01:09:21,040 --> 01:09:23,720
Speaker 1: If you roll in the bank, rob the bank, then

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01:09:23,920 --> 01:09:27,320
Speaker 1: roll out, okay, all the block of two, all right,

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01:09:27,680 --> 01:09:30,320
Speaker 1: once you get up and walk, ditch the wheelchair. Now

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01:09:30,400 --> 01:09:32,720
Speaker 1: you don't even fit the description of what the bank

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01:09:32,760 --> 01:09:36,880
Speaker 1: teller saw. It's genius, yes, all right. The sad part

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01:09:37,040 --> 01:09:39,799
Speaker 1: is this woman didn't have a plan. I'm not encouraging

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01:09:39,840 --> 01:09:42,479
Speaker 1: people to rob banks, No, I'm just saying, can yet

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01:09:42,479 --> 01:09:46,439
Speaker 1: them picture a plan before you picture yourself rolling into

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01:09:46,479 --> 01:09:49,559
Speaker 1: a bank asking for a big bank roll and listen,

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01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:53,280
Speaker 1: just because I have understanding of this woman's situation, meaning

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01:09:53,439 --> 01:09:55,519
Speaker 1: I understand why she would be in the mind frame

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01:09:55,600 --> 01:09:58,879
Speaker 1: the robber bank simply because I understand the current economic

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01:09:58,920 --> 01:10:02,120
Speaker 1: condition a lot of people are facing. It's easy to say,

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01:10:02,400 --> 01:10:04,679
Speaker 1: can ye to, should have just rolled with the punch's

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01:10:04,720 --> 01:10:07,320
Speaker 1: life was throwing at her, But no, folks is broke

1381
01:10:07,479 --> 01:10:10,160
Speaker 1: and you can't tell people to just roll with it. Okay.

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01:10:10,280 --> 01:10:12,640
Speaker 1: In life, we all have a role to play, but

1383
01:10:12,840 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 1: sometimes what your casted ass is out of your control.

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01:10:15,880 --> 01:10:18,479
Speaker 1: Remember when Kodak Black said he can't even roll in peace?

1385
01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:23,759
Speaker 1: Remember that neither ken ken Yeida, because she's starting waiting

1386
01:10:23,800 --> 01:10:26,920
Speaker 1: on this damn government to roll out these damn stimulus checks.

1387
01:10:27,040 --> 01:10:30,880
Speaker 1: By the way, she's only thirty nine, only thirty nine.

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01:10:32,880 --> 01:10:37,280
Speaker 1: I'm inspired by people who keep rolling no matter their age.

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01:10:37,400 --> 01:10:40,720
Speaker 1: But she's just thirty nine, and she's at the point where,

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01:10:40,760 --> 01:10:42,840
Speaker 1: even though she's disabled in a wheel, just she has

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01:10:42,880 --> 01:10:46,040
Speaker 1: to rob a bank at thirty nine. Think about that, Canda.

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01:10:46,080 --> 01:10:48,400
Speaker 1: I feel your pain. But even though I feel your pain,

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01:10:48,560 --> 01:10:50,240
Speaker 1: I still have to give this story the credit it

1394
01:10:50,280 --> 01:10:53,120
Speaker 1: deserves for being stupid. But can Yida, I'm praying for you.

1395
01:10:53,600 --> 01:10:55,360
Speaker 1: I want you to get the help you need for

1396
01:10:55,439 --> 01:10:58,360
Speaker 1: your drug problem because they found a crack pipe on you. Yes,

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01:10:58,439 --> 01:11:00,439
Speaker 1: she was riding dirty for real, But I'm telling you,

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01:11:00,560 --> 01:11:03,160
Speaker 1: can you to? I want you to get clean, put

1399
01:11:03,200 --> 01:11:06,439
Speaker 1: the bs behind you, and one day, I promise you,

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01:11:07,280 --> 01:11:11,040
Speaker 1: the good times will roll. Please give can you to Gordon?

1401
01:11:11,080 --> 01:11:13,599
Speaker 1: The sweet sounds of the Hamletones. Oh No, you are

1402
01:11:13,800 --> 01:11:24,720
Speaker 1: the dogee of the day, the dogee oh the day.

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01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:30,200
Speaker 1: Ye Oh. We're not gonna play a game. Ya don't

1404
01:11:30,200 --> 01:11:32,000
Speaker 1: want to play a game. We're not gonna do that.

1405
01:11:32,160 --> 01:11:34,599
Speaker 1: We're not gonna play a game I don't want to play. Well,

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01:11:34,920 --> 01:11:38,639
Speaker 1: I have no problem rolling out a game of Jess

1407
01:11:38,960 --> 01:11:45,080
Speaker 1: what race it? Alright? Alright, here are the context clues.

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01:11:45,120 --> 01:11:46,639
Speaker 1: All right. I don't even know if he's a contact clue.

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01:11:46,640 --> 01:11:47,880
Speaker 1: I don't even know if I use that correctly. But

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01:11:48,160 --> 01:11:52,599
Speaker 1: can you to Gordon? Okay, Jacksonville, Florida, robbed the bank

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01:11:52,680 --> 01:11:56,240
Speaker 1: and a motorized wheelchair. Oh you want a description? I

1412
01:11:56,280 --> 01:11:59,799
Speaker 1: need to give a description. I don't give a description.

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01:12:00,000 --> 01:12:02,280
Speaker 1: A little quick descriptions. Com you the description that the

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01:12:02,320 --> 01:12:04,640
Speaker 1: police were using. Hold okay, this is the description. Hold on?

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01:12:04,720 --> 01:12:07,080
Speaker 1: You see if I could find it? Hold on, officers

1416
01:12:07,120 --> 01:12:10,120
Speaker 1: are looking for an adult, blank female, thirty nine years

1417
01:12:10,120 --> 01:12:13,080
Speaker 1: of age with short blonde hair. Oh, I got you now.

1418
01:12:13,479 --> 01:12:15,120
Speaker 1: We thought it was easy. I thought it was easy.

1419
01:12:15,200 --> 01:12:18,760
Speaker 1: You thought short blonde hair? Can YadA? I said, can

1420
01:12:18,840 --> 01:12:20,920
Speaker 1: you do? Can you you know that's how you pronounced it?

1421
01:12:21,120 --> 01:12:23,959
Speaker 1: Can you eat the garden? Ramirez? All right? Who said Ramirez?

1422
01:12:26,160 --> 01:12:34,400
Speaker 1: I'm down for the profile and but go okay, Porter Angelie,

1423
01:12:34,439 --> 01:12:37,040
Speaker 1: are you sure you don't want to play? I think

1424
01:12:37,160 --> 01:12:41,479
Speaker 1: it is a white man, a white man, white man? Okay, okay,

1425
01:12:41,680 --> 01:12:43,400
Speaker 1: all right, all right, I see where we take it.

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01:12:43,439 --> 01:12:47,760
Speaker 1: It uh, And I ain't telling y'all whether y'all wright

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01:12:47,840 --> 01:12:51,320
Speaker 1: or wrong. We're just gonna lead this. Why didn't you

1428
01:12:51,360 --> 01:12:53,160
Speaker 1: ask me to sing your name? Why you only asked

1429
01:12:53,560 --> 01:12:56,120
Speaker 1: um Envy? Well, now I asked him the same my name.

1430
01:12:57,240 --> 01:12:58,560
Speaker 1: I thought you want to him to sing it? No,

1431
01:12:58,800 --> 01:13:00,599
Speaker 1: he said say it you want to say? I can

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01:13:00,760 --> 01:13:06,240
Speaker 1: say his name ahead, Charlo, go ahead, quail P. I'm

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01:13:06,240 --> 01:13:08,120
Speaker 1: not telling y'all's black three month. I'm not telling y'all.

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01:13:08,120 --> 01:13:09,920
Speaker 1: All right, all right, what can you to go again?

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01:13:10,200 --> 01:13:16,680
Speaker 1: Thank you? Interpretation O charmckay, y'all guess figure it out

1436
01:13:16,720 --> 01:13:18,640
Speaker 1: on your own, go do your own research. I'm not

1437
01:13:18,720 --> 01:13:24,040
Speaker 1: telling y'all white man, I agree with you. That's what

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01:13:24,120 --> 01:13:25,800
Speaker 1: I saw. All right. We got more. Don't move. It's

1439
01:13:25,840 --> 01:13:31,920
Speaker 1: the best of the Breakfast Club. The breakfast Club, the

1440
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:36,920
Speaker 1: breakfast Club. Your morning's will never be the same. Everybody's

1441
01:13:37,000 --> 01:13:40,640
Speaker 1: DJ Envy Angela Ye, Charlomagne, the guy. We all the

1442
01:13:40,680 --> 01:13:42,960
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in the building. Yes,

1443
01:13:43,040 --> 01:13:46,479
Speaker 1: indeed we have Judge Faith Jenkins. Welcome back, Hello, thank you.

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01:13:46,960 --> 01:13:51,120
Speaker 1: I'm doing great. It's been years. It's been three years

1445
01:13:51,120 --> 01:13:54,360
Speaker 1: since I've been here. Twenty times twice. Yes, wow, wow,

1446
01:13:54,600 --> 01:13:56,400
Speaker 1: I know what I changed for you in three years.

1447
01:13:56,800 --> 01:14:02,599
Speaker 1: A lot changed three years. I got a puppy, Cooper.

1448
01:14:03,080 --> 01:14:08,479
Speaker 1: He is a cavalier Yorky Poodle mix, very energetic little guy,

1449
01:14:08,640 --> 01:14:11,840
Speaker 1: but a lot of responsibility. There wasn't expecting that. It's

1450
01:14:11,840 --> 01:14:14,240
Speaker 1: a dog a lot on the bad. No, okay, good, No,

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01:14:14,560 --> 01:14:16,560
Speaker 1: he's got a lot on the bad. He sleeps in

1452
01:14:16,680 --> 01:14:20,000
Speaker 1: his own room. We's his own room. Well, yeah, because

1453
01:14:20,040 --> 01:14:22,640
Speaker 1: I wanted him to learn very early on to be independent,

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01:14:23,120 --> 01:14:24,880
Speaker 1: so we put him. We create trained him early on

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01:14:25,000 --> 01:14:27,519
Speaker 1: with two things we were able to do. Create train

1456
01:14:27,680 --> 01:14:29,720
Speaker 1: him and potty train him. Okay, if you don't do

1457
01:14:29,800 --> 01:14:32,639
Speaker 1: that from the beginning, then they hate it. Yes, yes,

1458
01:14:32,720 --> 01:14:34,680
Speaker 1: you don't train them to get used to that, and

1459
01:14:34,720 --> 01:14:36,640
Speaker 1: they'll go in there. Like my dog would look all

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01:14:36,680 --> 01:14:39,240
Speaker 1: sad every time, because in the beginning I would let

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01:14:39,280 --> 01:14:42,000
Speaker 1: her just like roam around. But then I was like, okay,

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01:14:42,080 --> 01:14:44,479
Speaker 1: sometimes we have to put her up if she's been bad. Yeah,

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01:14:44,720 --> 01:14:47,360
Speaker 1: and she'll look all sad and then I feel bad. Yeah.

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01:14:47,400 --> 01:14:49,280
Speaker 1: But what the trainer said, from the very beginning, the

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01:14:49,320 --> 01:14:52,040
Speaker 1: biggest mistake people make is they give the dogs too

1466
01:14:52,120 --> 01:14:54,560
Speaker 1: much freedom. Absolutely, and so you have to rain that

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01:14:54,640 --> 01:14:56,600
Speaker 1: in early on, but yeah, a lot a lot of

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01:14:56,680 --> 01:15:01,080
Speaker 1: other things change. I got married married, yes, thank you,

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01:15:01,240 --> 01:15:13,120
Speaker 1: thank you, and that I'm sure early on kind of

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Speaker 1: trade over so everything applies. Uh so got Mary started

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01:15:19,479 --> 01:15:22,600
Speaker 1: divorce court, switch judge shows you also judge faith and

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01:15:22,600 --> 01:15:24,519
Speaker 1: they alm on divorce Court. And then of course I

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01:15:24,600 --> 01:15:29,000
Speaker 1: wrote system settled the court. It's interesting, is the show

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01:15:29,080 --> 01:15:30,439
Speaker 1: real like when you say, when when you go to

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01:15:30,479 --> 01:15:32,280
Speaker 1: the divorce court after all you divorced? Or is it

1476
01:15:32,439 --> 01:15:35,400
Speaker 1: more after that? Really they change the premise of the

1477
01:15:35,439 --> 01:15:38,560
Speaker 1: show several years ago where you can be on the

1478
01:15:38,720 --> 01:15:41,960
Speaker 1: show and don't have to be married. So there's a

1479
01:15:42,160 --> 01:15:44,360
Speaker 1: there's a there's a different aspect of the show before

1480
01:15:44,479 --> 01:15:47,559
Speaker 1: Your Vows where people come in they've been in their

1481
01:15:47,640 --> 01:15:49,960
Speaker 1: relationship for a while and they're just they're trying to

1482
01:15:50,080 --> 01:15:53,600
Speaker 1: decide to get whether to get married or not. So

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01:15:53,760 --> 01:15:56,240
Speaker 1: that's a part of the show where we address the

1484
01:15:56,760 --> 01:15:59,920
Speaker 1: dudes and don't and if if they actually should perceive

1485
01:16:00,240 --> 01:16:02,840
Speaker 1: and move forward to the next level in their relationship.

1486
01:16:03,080 --> 01:16:04,840
Speaker 1: So it's really opened up to where it's not just

1487
01:16:05,000 --> 01:16:08,920
Speaker 1: married couples. And then legally, do we give divorces on

1488
01:16:08,960 --> 01:16:13,120
Speaker 1: the show? No, we give advice on what to do

1489
01:16:13,680 --> 01:16:17,160
Speaker 1: when you're at this breaking point, and people sometimes bring

1490
01:16:17,240 --> 01:16:20,719
Speaker 1: their papers and we will refer them to other attorneys.

1491
01:16:20,880 --> 01:16:26,439
Speaker 1: Friends could come on the show and friends, no, no, no,

1492
01:16:26,560 --> 01:16:29,360
Speaker 1: we haven't gone that far opening up. It's it's it's

1493
01:16:29,439 --> 01:16:32,320
Speaker 1: real people in relationships with real issues. I didn't know that.

1494
01:16:32,400 --> 01:16:34,120
Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I thought that when they go

1495
01:16:34,200 --> 01:16:38,879
Speaker 1: to the voice court, they get legally. Legally, we cannot

1496
01:16:39,200 --> 01:16:42,160
Speaker 1: grant a divorce per se, but we can give them

1497
01:16:42,200 --> 01:16:45,639
Speaker 1: advice on how to proceed in going to the next level.

1498
01:16:48,439 --> 01:16:52,040
Speaker 1: I had someone come in and she'd been married for

1499
01:16:52,720 --> 01:16:57,840
Speaker 1: eleven years and they have two children together, and he

1500
01:16:57,960 --> 01:17:02,160
Speaker 1: has three other kids. And it was really crazy because

1501
01:17:02,720 --> 01:17:06,280
Speaker 1: this man would take her kids and go to the

1502
01:17:07,240 --> 01:17:10,320
Speaker 1: other women and the other kids. They all knew each other,

1503
01:17:10,479 --> 01:17:15,120
Speaker 1: but she remained uninvolved but just knowing about the other relationship.

1504
01:17:15,439 --> 01:17:17,120
Speaker 1: And I thought, how do you get to that level

1505
01:17:17,640 --> 01:17:20,480
Speaker 1: in your life where this is such a painful experience

1506
01:17:20,600 --> 01:17:24,040
Speaker 1: for you, but you're accepting it under some kind of

1507
01:17:24,640 --> 01:17:28,840
Speaker 1: premise in your mind that it's better to stay in

1508
01:17:29,000 --> 01:17:32,200
Speaker 1: this marriage because you think having him around would be

1509
01:17:32,320 --> 01:17:36,360
Speaker 1: better than nothing at all, staying in a toxic relationship.

1510
01:17:36,400 --> 01:17:39,360
Speaker 1: A relationship that's not good for you, doesn't help your children.

1511
01:17:39,479 --> 01:17:44,880
Speaker 1: All you're doing is normalizing really inappropriate behavior in front

1512
01:17:44,920 --> 01:17:48,320
Speaker 1: of them, and they in turn, they see it all

1513
01:17:48,720 --> 01:17:51,160
Speaker 1: and it affects what their relationships would be like later

1514
01:17:51,280 --> 01:17:53,360
Speaker 1: on in life. Some people feel like once they take

1515
01:17:53,400 --> 01:17:56,720
Speaker 1: a vow, then they can't break that vow because it's

1516
01:17:56,760 --> 01:17:59,320
Speaker 1: no matter what, or for better or worse the best.

1517
01:18:00,479 --> 01:18:02,840
Speaker 1: And I've heard some people feel like, you know, they're

1518
01:18:02,880 --> 01:18:05,439
Speaker 1: relying on that. Some people treat women if they leave

1519
01:18:05,439 --> 01:18:08,000
Speaker 1: a relationship or leave a man for doing something like

1520
01:18:08,120 --> 01:18:10,160
Speaker 1: they're wrong because they didn't stick through it, because you

1521
01:18:10,240 --> 01:18:12,840
Speaker 1: got to be right or die. Yeah, that's a that's

1522
01:18:12,840 --> 01:18:16,439
Speaker 1: a mistake that people make because you know, at all

1523
01:18:16,560 --> 01:18:18,679
Speaker 1: times in your life there are a lot of people

1524
01:18:18,880 --> 01:18:20,240
Speaker 1: that you love in your life, and one of the

1525
01:18:20,280 --> 01:18:22,080
Speaker 1: tough things about life is a lot of times you

1526
01:18:22,120 --> 01:18:24,640
Speaker 1: have to walk away from people that you love in

1527
01:18:24,840 --> 01:18:27,120
Speaker 1: order to protect your peace. Now, that's kind of like

1528
01:18:27,200 --> 01:18:29,800
Speaker 1: the chapter in your book, are dealing with rejection When

1529
01:18:30,200 --> 01:18:32,960
Speaker 1: life set you free? Yeah, I mean when one of

1530
01:18:33,040 --> 01:18:34,799
Speaker 1: the big chapters in the book, one of my favorite

1531
01:18:34,840 --> 01:18:37,280
Speaker 1: chapters is the chapter on rejection. Because we all go

1532
01:18:37,400 --> 01:18:39,840
Speaker 1: through rejection, and for a long time I didn't know

1533
01:18:39,880 --> 01:18:41,800
Speaker 1: how to handle it. So and I moved to New

1534
01:18:41,880 --> 01:18:43,880
Speaker 1: York right after I got out of school, so I

1535
01:18:44,120 --> 01:18:46,560
Speaker 1: was in the city trying to figure all of this

1536
01:18:46,680 --> 01:18:48,679
Speaker 1: stuff out. And I'll never forget one of the first

1537
01:18:48,720 --> 01:18:51,599
Speaker 1: times I got rejected. I was I was actually in college.

1538
01:18:52,080 --> 01:18:55,080
Speaker 1: There was an annual event called Casino Night at my

1539
01:18:55,200 --> 01:18:57,280
Speaker 1: school and I wasn't dating anyone. I didn't date much

1540
01:18:57,320 --> 01:18:59,400
Speaker 1: in college at all. I was really about the books

1541
01:18:59,439 --> 01:19:02,479
Speaker 1: and all the organizations, then cheering and all that stuff.

1542
01:19:02,880 --> 01:19:06,519
Speaker 1: And I asked a guy to go to Casino Night

1543
01:19:06,600 --> 01:19:08,400
Speaker 1: with me, just innocent, not a really a date, but

1544
01:19:08,520 --> 01:19:13,040
Speaker 1: just go to this event. And he hesitated, he paused,

1545
01:19:13,560 --> 01:19:18,200
Speaker 1: and then he told me no. And I remember because

1546
01:19:18,240 --> 01:19:22,040
Speaker 1: he was We were friends, and he was a good

1547
01:19:22,080 --> 01:19:23,880
Speaker 1: looking guy, he was cute. I knew he was single,

1548
01:19:24,200 --> 01:19:26,559
Speaker 1: so I thought, well, you can't just go to Casino Night.

1549
01:19:26,640 --> 01:19:29,360
Speaker 1: But he told me no, and I remember being embarrassed

1550
01:19:29,360 --> 01:19:30,880
Speaker 1: at the time and avoiding him for the rest of

1551
01:19:30,920 --> 01:19:34,120
Speaker 1: the semester, not wanting to see him. Well, five years later,

1552
01:19:34,520 --> 01:19:37,760
Speaker 1: I was walking down the street in my college town

1553
01:19:37,920 --> 01:19:39,920
Speaker 1: and I ran into him and he pulled me to

1554
01:19:40,000 --> 01:19:41,320
Speaker 1: the side. I was with some friends. He pulled me

1555
01:19:41,320 --> 01:19:42,519
Speaker 1: to the side. He was like, Hey, can I talk

1556
01:19:42,560 --> 01:19:44,559
Speaker 1: to you for a second. I said, okay. He said,

1557
01:19:44,560 --> 01:19:46,320
Speaker 1: do you remember several years ago when you asked me

1558
01:19:46,360 --> 01:19:48,599
Speaker 1: to casino night? He said, well, I wanted to tell

1559
01:19:48,640 --> 01:19:50,800
Speaker 1: you that I really liked you, but I didn't have

1560
01:19:50,880 --> 01:19:52,760
Speaker 1: a suit. I didn't have anything to wear. And I

1561
01:19:52,800 --> 01:19:55,280
Speaker 1: was too embarrassed to tell you that I didn't have

1562
01:19:55,520 --> 01:19:57,760
Speaker 1: a suit or anything to wear. But I thought it

1563
01:19:57,840 --> 01:20:02,840
Speaker 1: was really interesting because how many times do we take

1564
01:20:03,160 --> 01:20:05,960
Speaker 1: rejection or someone telling us know, and then we go

1565
01:20:06,040 --> 01:20:07,800
Speaker 1: down a rabbit hole and we make it about us

1566
01:20:08,000 --> 01:20:10,519
Speaker 1: that's right? Wow? Am I not good enough? Am I

1567
01:20:10,600 --> 01:20:12,519
Speaker 1: not smart enough? Am I'm not pretty enough? And it

1568
01:20:12,560 --> 01:20:15,360
Speaker 1: could absolutely have nothing to do with you, And everything

1569
01:20:15,400 --> 01:20:17,400
Speaker 1: to do with them is something that they're going through

1570
01:20:17,600 --> 01:20:19,640
Speaker 1: or their perspective, or some guy who just doesn't have

1571
01:20:19,680 --> 01:20:22,680
Speaker 1: a suit. So I learned from that experience and then

1572
01:20:22,840 --> 01:20:26,400
Speaker 1: going through other experiences dealing with rejection in my life,

1573
01:20:26,640 --> 01:20:29,040
Speaker 1: how not to internalize it and take it so personal

1574
01:20:29,160 --> 01:20:31,880
Speaker 1: all the time, whether it's with a love interest, a job,

1575
01:20:32,840 --> 01:20:37,679
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you're dealing with rejection. Most often

1576
01:20:37,880 --> 01:20:40,400
Speaker 1: it's just not about you. So Luke to Judge Phi Jenkins.

1577
01:20:40,439 --> 01:20:42,320
Speaker 1: We're talking to her right now. Her new book sys

1578
01:20:42,400 --> 01:20:44,840
Speaker 1: Don't Settle, How to Stay Smart and Matters that a

1579
01:20:44,920 --> 01:20:47,400
Speaker 1: Heart is out right now, and I want to tell

1580
01:20:47,479 --> 01:20:49,720
Speaker 1: y'all to man, make sure y'all tune in tonight to

1581
01:20:49,840 --> 01:20:52,000
Speaker 1: my late night talk show, to God's Honest Truth. It

1582
01:20:52,080 --> 01:20:54,960
Speaker 1: comes on at ten pm on Comedy Central. Okay, you

1583
01:20:55,040 --> 01:20:57,200
Speaker 1: need to get in tune. If you're not in tune,

1584
01:20:57,360 --> 01:20:59,200
Speaker 1: and you need to tune in tonight because we got

1585
01:20:59,320 --> 01:21:03,599
Speaker 1: Vice President Amala Harris joining us under God's Honest Truth

1586
01:21:03,880 --> 01:21:08,120
Speaker 1: on Comedy Central tonight at ten pm. Join me, why

1587
01:21:08,160 --> 01:21:11,040
Speaker 1: don't you? And why you're watching? Use the hashtag TGHT.

1588
01:21:11,320 --> 01:21:13,960
Speaker 1: We'll be back with more. Judge Faith Jenkins. The Breakfast

1589
01:21:14,040 --> 01:21:16,439
Speaker 1: Club was still kicking it with Judge Faith Jenkins. Show

1590
01:21:16,560 --> 01:21:19,320
Speaker 1: me if you weren't Judge Faith Jenkins, we have came

1591
01:21:19,400 --> 01:21:22,120
Speaker 1: up to you five years ago and apologizing all that

1592
01:21:22,320 --> 01:21:25,200
Speaker 1: it was five years later. I was. I was just

1593
01:21:25,320 --> 01:21:27,720
Speaker 1: running into him at the school. So we try to

1594
01:21:27,720 --> 01:21:29,200
Speaker 1: ask you that again, be like, but I got a

1595
01:21:29,240 --> 01:21:32,519
Speaker 1: money for a suit now, No, I think he just

1596
01:21:32,720 --> 01:21:34,120
Speaker 1: wanted to tell me. It was like he wanted to

1597
01:21:34,160 --> 01:21:35,840
Speaker 1: get that off of his chest. He really wanted me

1598
01:21:35,920 --> 01:21:38,200
Speaker 1: to know because he gave me no explanation at the time.

1599
01:21:38,720 --> 01:21:40,080
Speaker 1: A lot of you know a lot of times, and

1600
01:21:40,200 --> 01:21:42,400
Speaker 1: we have to release ourselves from wanting to know why

1601
01:21:43,120 --> 01:21:44,720
Speaker 1: because I you know, I talk about this in the

1602
01:21:44,760 --> 01:21:48,360
Speaker 1: book too, how I would call people and try to

1603
01:21:48,400 --> 01:21:50,400
Speaker 1: find out, Well, I just want closure and I want

1604
01:21:50,439 --> 01:21:54,120
Speaker 1: to know why this didn't happen. You know what's going

1605
01:21:54,200 --> 01:21:57,760
Speaker 1: on here, and you have to release this need to

1606
01:21:57,880 --> 01:22:01,040
Speaker 1: want to know why. Closure doesn't come from other people,

1607
01:22:01,560 --> 01:22:04,559
Speaker 1: it comes from you. Because I always say, don't give

1608
01:22:04,600 --> 01:22:06,880
Speaker 1: anybody else that kind of power over your life. No

1609
01:22:07,000 --> 01:22:08,800
Speaker 1: one should have the power. When I got married to

1610
01:22:09,080 --> 01:22:16,000
Speaker 1: my husband, Kenny always say that he um. When I

1611
01:22:16,080 --> 01:22:19,080
Speaker 1: got married to Kenny, I remember at being a time

1612
01:22:19,120 --> 01:22:20,840
Speaker 1: and this was just a year and eight months ago,

1613
01:22:21,000 --> 01:22:22,720
Speaker 1: by the way. So I spent a long time out

1614
01:22:22,760 --> 01:22:28,160
Speaker 1: in these dating streets, living, learning, growing and really having

1615
01:22:28,160 --> 01:22:31,240
Speaker 1: an appreciation for what I knew would work for me

1616
01:22:31,640 --> 01:22:34,320
Speaker 1: in a relationship and what wouldn't. What I was willing

1617
01:22:34,360 --> 01:22:36,760
Speaker 1: to compromise on, what I wasn't willing to compromise on.

1618
01:22:36,920 --> 01:22:39,000
Speaker 1: All my likes and dislikes, This is what you should

1619
01:22:39,000 --> 01:22:41,200
Speaker 1: be doing when you're single, figuring out who you are.

1620
01:22:41,880 --> 01:22:44,719
Speaker 1: You're you know, you got married and everybody's path is different.

1621
01:22:44,720 --> 01:22:47,639
Speaker 1: You got married at an early age, so you grew

1622
01:22:47,760 --> 01:22:50,920
Speaker 1: up together with your wife, whereas for me, I was

1623
01:22:51,000 --> 01:22:54,679
Speaker 1: single for so long and very independent. I was wondering,

1624
01:22:54,760 --> 01:22:57,280
Speaker 1: how am I going to mesh with somebody else when

1625
01:22:57,280 --> 01:22:59,720
Speaker 1: I haven't lived with anybody even since college. So all

1626
01:22:59,720 --> 01:23:02,000
Speaker 1: of the things you're thinking about. But I remember at

1627
01:23:02,040 --> 01:23:03,600
Speaker 1: the time when I got to the place where I

1628
01:23:03,720 --> 01:23:04,880
Speaker 1: knew I was at a point in my life I

1629
01:23:04,920 --> 01:23:07,639
Speaker 1: wanted to get married. I was so happy with where

1630
01:23:07,680 --> 01:23:10,479
Speaker 1: I was in my life, and I thought, I want

1631
01:23:10,560 --> 01:23:12,559
Speaker 1: to bring somebody in my life who's going to add

1632
01:23:12,560 --> 01:23:15,599
Speaker 1: to this happiness, not make me happy. And like you said,

1633
01:23:15,640 --> 01:23:19,000
Speaker 1: sometimes people get married and they think once we get married,

1634
01:23:19,080 --> 01:23:22,519
Speaker 1: he'll turn into the person, or still turn into the person.

1635
01:23:23,000 --> 01:23:25,040
Speaker 1: Things will stay to be and that does not happen.

1636
01:23:25,120 --> 01:23:28,840
Speaker 1: Like that. Marriage doesn't change anything about anybody. It may

1637
01:23:28,920 --> 01:23:31,439
Speaker 1: change your last name, but that's it. So people come

1638
01:23:31,520 --> 01:23:34,160
Speaker 1: in they want they're dating their reality, but they want

1639
01:23:34,200 --> 01:23:38,240
Speaker 1: to marry potential. And that is a big mistake because

1640
01:23:38,280 --> 01:23:40,800
Speaker 1: you have to learn radical acceptance accept this person for

1641
01:23:40,920 --> 01:23:43,559
Speaker 1: who they are, and if their core values aren't lined

1642
01:23:43,640 --> 01:23:45,920
Speaker 1: up with your core values, what about a wedding do

1643
01:23:46,000 --> 01:23:47,920
Speaker 1: you think is going to change that? Because all it

1644
01:23:48,000 --> 01:23:51,000
Speaker 1: does when you get married is really revealing more about

1645
01:23:51,040 --> 01:23:54,280
Speaker 1: who people are. It's revealing what's already there. And so

1646
01:23:54,439 --> 01:23:58,479
Speaker 1: if you don't like what's there, nothing about getting married

1647
01:23:58,600 --> 01:23:59,880
Speaker 1: is going to change that. It's only going to a

1648
01:24:00,000 --> 01:24:02,800
Speaker 1: exacerbate any problems that you already see on the circle.

1649
01:24:02,840 --> 01:24:04,400
Speaker 1: What did you mean, Kenny? And how did you know

1650
01:24:04,479 --> 01:24:09,200
Speaker 1: he was the one? I met him through a blind date? Really? Yeah,

1651
01:24:09,320 --> 01:24:12,799
Speaker 1: I had just gone through a breakup six months prior

1652
01:24:12,960 --> 01:24:15,120
Speaker 1: to meeting him, and I had a conversation with God.

1653
01:24:15,160 --> 01:24:17,360
Speaker 1: I had a real honest conversation and I said, I've

1654
01:24:17,439 --> 01:24:20,360
Speaker 1: learned all of these lessons in my life at this point,

1655
01:24:21,120 --> 01:24:22,680
Speaker 1: what else is there for me to learn in the

1656
01:24:22,760 --> 01:24:25,639
Speaker 1: relationship space? I really believe it's time, And I wrote,

1657
01:24:25,680 --> 01:24:27,320
Speaker 1: I took a sheet of paper down and I said,

1658
01:24:27,360 --> 01:24:28,800
Speaker 1: within this next year, this is what I want to

1659
01:24:28,800 --> 01:24:31,240
Speaker 1: see happen in my life. And one of those things

1660
01:24:31,360 --> 01:24:33,120
Speaker 1: is I want to be my husband. And I took

1661
01:24:33,120 --> 01:24:34,519
Speaker 1: that sheet of paper down and I wrote that, and

1662
01:24:34,560 --> 01:24:36,840
Speaker 1: I go through this stage, all this this process in

1663
01:24:36,880 --> 01:24:39,680
Speaker 1: the book of what I did to manifest what I

1664
01:24:39,920 --> 01:24:42,840
Speaker 1: wanted to happen in my life. And six months later

1665
01:24:43,000 --> 01:24:45,960
Speaker 1: I met him and I was not just out there

1666
01:24:46,080 --> 01:24:47,760
Speaker 1: like every day, okay, is that is that him? Is

1667
01:24:47,800 --> 01:24:49,960
Speaker 1: that my husband? Like with everyone? I was just living

1668
01:24:50,040 --> 01:24:52,000
Speaker 1: my life. So I decided I was going to go

1669
01:24:52,200 --> 01:24:55,519
Speaker 1: and take some singing lessons again. I was going to

1670
01:24:55,600 --> 01:24:59,360
Speaker 1: put out a Christmas album and well, you got bored

1671
01:24:59,400 --> 01:25:04,000
Speaker 1: down to fa. I was gonna put out a kid

1672
01:25:04,160 --> 01:25:07,920
Speaker 1: hit single, hit single and uh. And so I started

1673
01:25:07,960 --> 01:25:10,400
Speaker 1: taking some voice lessons. I met up with this super producer,

1674
01:25:10,600 --> 01:25:13,920
Speaker 1: Aaron Lindsay, and the moment I sat down with him,

1675
01:25:14,200 --> 01:25:16,599
Speaker 1: he said, for him it clicked. She should meet Kenny.

1676
01:25:16,800 --> 01:25:18,519
Speaker 1: He said, there they would be perfect for each other.

1677
01:25:19,040 --> 01:25:22,280
Speaker 1: And so he set us up and we met. In

1678
01:25:22,360 --> 01:25:25,920
Speaker 1: the rest is history. We just went to lunch, no pressure.

1679
01:25:25,960 --> 01:25:28,080
Speaker 1: We sat and talked for two hours. What does the

1680
01:25:28,120 --> 01:25:30,240
Speaker 1: pressure like for you? And people asking all the time

1681
01:25:30,439 --> 01:25:32,639
Speaker 1: when are you gonna get married? When are you gonna

1682
01:25:32,640 --> 01:25:35,679
Speaker 1: have kids? Because you discussed that. Also, Yeah, it's hard

1683
01:25:35,840 --> 01:25:38,839
Speaker 1: because being single in my twenties and in my thirties

1684
01:25:38,920 --> 01:25:41,439
Speaker 1: and being from Louisiana. So I would go home for

1685
01:25:41,520 --> 01:25:44,400
Speaker 1: the holidays, and I had this one uh aunt, Freda,

1686
01:25:44,840 --> 01:25:46,960
Speaker 1: who would show up with her watery mac and cheese,

1687
01:25:47,280 --> 01:25:54,519
Speaker 1: but always, you know, questioning me and my relationships. Some

1688
01:25:54,720 --> 01:25:59,600
Speaker 1: names have been changed, but she could show up. And

1689
01:26:00,120 --> 01:26:03,040
Speaker 1: but then I started getting it from strangers, right. And

1690
01:26:03,680 --> 01:26:07,519
Speaker 1: if you're not careful, you can really internalize that and

1691
01:26:07,920 --> 01:26:11,240
Speaker 1: can make you feel like somehow you're lacking. Because no

1692
01:26:11,320 --> 01:26:14,760
Speaker 1: one asked me do you want to get married? They

1693
01:26:14,800 --> 01:26:17,240
Speaker 1: would just say why aren't you as if there were

1694
01:26:17,280 --> 01:26:20,560
Speaker 1: no other option for me, I get wrong. And so

1695
01:26:20,720 --> 01:26:22,560
Speaker 1: if you're not careful, though, that pressure can get to

1696
01:26:22,640 --> 01:26:25,240
Speaker 1: you and you can start to feel like, is me

1697
01:26:25,360 --> 01:26:28,120
Speaker 1: being single something I need to explain to other people?

1698
01:26:28,360 --> 01:26:31,400
Speaker 1: Is this something I need to defend. No, there are

1699
01:26:31,520 --> 01:26:33,880
Speaker 1: almost eight billion people on this planet. We can't all

1700
01:26:33,960 --> 01:26:35,720
Speaker 1: be doing the same things at the same time. We

1701
01:26:35,800 --> 01:26:37,840
Speaker 1: all have a different life path, a different life journey.

1702
01:26:38,160 --> 01:26:40,679
Speaker 1: Please stop asking people when they're going to get married,

1703
01:26:40,840 --> 01:26:42,680
Speaker 1: when they're going to have kids, and let people live

1704
01:26:42,760 --> 01:26:45,559
Speaker 1: their lives. So I talk about that in my book

1705
01:26:45,600 --> 01:26:48,280
Speaker 1: How do you navigate when the questioning comes for you?

1706
01:26:48,760 --> 01:26:52,080
Speaker 1: I will tell you this. I was never unhappily single.

1707
01:26:52,479 --> 01:26:56,200
Speaker 1: I lived my life. If I had waited, I would

1708
01:26:56,200 --> 01:26:58,080
Speaker 1: have lived half my life just existing because I just

1709
01:26:58,160 --> 01:27:01,400
Speaker 1: got married last year. So I just made a determination

1710
01:27:01,479 --> 01:27:03,280
Speaker 1: that I was going to live my best life. And

1711
01:27:03,320 --> 01:27:06,240
Speaker 1: guess how I met my husband going to do something

1712
01:27:06,360 --> 01:27:09,320
Speaker 1: that I just loved doing, going to pursue a different hobby,

1713
01:27:09,439 --> 01:27:12,240
Speaker 1: something that I was interested in, singing again, and that's

1714
01:27:12,280 --> 01:27:14,040
Speaker 1: how I ended up meeting my husband. And I hear

1715
01:27:14,080 --> 01:27:16,240
Speaker 1: so many other women talk about that, how they were

1716
01:27:16,320 --> 01:27:20,040
Speaker 1: doing something that they loved in their own lives and

1717
01:27:20,240 --> 01:27:23,439
Speaker 1: that's how they met the person that they ended up

1718
01:27:23,479 --> 01:27:27,040
Speaker 1: having this authentic love experience with. So in my book,

1719
01:27:27,280 --> 01:27:31,000
Speaker 1: it's really a practical guide because I did not have

1720
01:27:31,479 --> 01:27:33,800
Speaker 1: these huge examples of love, like I said, And this

1721
01:27:33,960 --> 01:27:35,240
Speaker 1: is the book that I would have wanted to have

1722
01:27:35,520 --> 01:27:37,720
Speaker 1: when I moved to New York at twenty five years old.

1723
01:27:37,960 --> 01:27:39,800
Speaker 1: I wish somebody would have given me something like this

1724
01:27:39,920 --> 01:27:42,120
Speaker 1: to read, as you were a whole and happy when

1725
01:27:42,160 --> 01:27:44,280
Speaker 1: you met Kenny Austin. When I think that's important too,

1726
01:27:44,360 --> 01:27:47,519
Speaker 1: because sometimes people feel like they need the other person

1727
01:27:47,640 --> 01:27:50,599
Speaker 1: to complete them, when really you both should be complete

1728
01:27:50,600 --> 01:27:53,360
Speaker 1: people when you come together to have a great relationship, yes,

1729
01:27:53,479 --> 01:27:56,040
Speaker 1: and that happiness and wholeness. As you know, it's a

1730
01:27:56,160 --> 01:28:00,200
Speaker 1: journey because as you get older, it's actually hard harder

1731
01:28:00,280 --> 01:28:03,040
Speaker 1: to fall in love as you get older, especially you know,

1732
01:28:03,280 --> 01:28:05,160
Speaker 1: being single in my twenties and thirties, because you've been

1733
01:28:05,200 --> 01:28:07,800
Speaker 1: through heartbreak. And if you're not careful over time, you

1734
01:28:07,840 --> 01:28:11,519
Speaker 1: can become very cynical about love. And you cannot be

1735
01:28:11,600 --> 01:28:14,439
Speaker 1: a cynic about love and expected to attract it in

1736
01:28:14,520 --> 01:28:16,320
Speaker 1: your life at the same time. Break that down here

1737
01:28:16,360 --> 01:28:17,680
Speaker 1: you talking about that in a book. I think, I

1738
01:28:17,720 --> 01:28:21,280
Speaker 1: think that's very important. Well, you can't be a cynic

1739
01:28:21,479 --> 01:28:23,320
Speaker 1: about love and expect to attract it in your life

1740
01:28:23,360 --> 01:28:25,640
Speaker 1: at the same time. At some point you have to

1741
01:28:25,720 --> 01:28:28,679
Speaker 1: be able to work on releasing the past. You can't

1742
01:28:28,680 --> 01:28:31,320
Speaker 1: say all men, all men are dogs. I want one

1743
01:28:31,800 --> 01:28:36,280
Speaker 1: exactly exactly because I went through that time where all

1744
01:28:36,360 --> 01:28:39,719
Speaker 1: of those things were really about fear of opening myself

1745
01:28:39,840 --> 01:28:42,679
Speaker 1: up to love again, and I realized that that fear

1746
01:28:42,920 --> 01:28:45,880
Speaker 1: wasn't serving me. All it was was poisoning my perspective.

1747
01:28:46,400 --> 01:28:48,760
Speaker 1: And so if you really want love, you can't have

1748
01:28:48,960 --> 01:28:51,920
Speaker 1: this poisonous mindset about what you really think about it

1749
01:28:52,160 --> 01:28:54,680
Speaker 1: based on your past. But I also don't believe that

1750
01:28:55,000 --> 01:28:57,639
Speaker 1: you can just, at the drop of a hat say, Okay,

1751
01:28:57,880 --> 01:29:00,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna free myself from my past. Nothing about my

1752
01:29:00,400 --> 01:29:02,080
Speaker 1: past is gonna bother me anymore. I'm not going to

1753
01:29:02,120 --> 01:29:05,240
Speaker 1: bring this to my next relationship. That's not realistic. What

1754
01:29:05,600 --> 01:29:09,240
Speaker 1: is realistic, though, it's recognizing what your triggers are and

1755
01:29:09,439 --> 01:29:11,840
Speaker 1: working on it. It is a process so that you

1756
01:29:11,960 --> 01:29:15,160
Speaker 1: don't make somebody new come in your life and pay

1757
01:29:15,600 --> 01:29:18,120
Speaker 1: for something they had nothing to do within your past.

1758
01:29:18,439 --> 01:29:20,479
Speaker 1: All we Little movie got more with Judge Faith Jenkins.

1759
01:29:20,560 --> 01:29:22,320
Speaker 1: When we come back, it's the Breakfast Club. Good morning,

1760
01:29:22,960 --> 01:29:30,160
Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club more everybody to see j Envy, Angela Yee,

1761
01:29:30,280 --> 01:29:32,479
Speaker 1: Charlemagne the guy we are the Breakfast Club was still

1762
01:29:32,560 --> 01:29:35,080
Speaker 1: kicking it with Judge Faith Jenkins. How does he propose

1763
01:29:35,439 --> 01:29:38,160
Speaker 1: here in Central Park than Paul? Yeah, and my wife

1764
01:29:38,200 --> 01:29:44,400
Speaker 1: in Central Park? Yeah? So who sings better then? Who? Oh? Yeah?

1765
01:29:45,000 --> 01:29:49,360
Speaker 1: Well come on down there. I'm dealing with a professional

1766
01:29:49,439 --> 01:29:51,519
Speaker 1: here who's been doing this a long time, twenty five years.

1767
01:29:51,880 --> 01:29:54,880
Speaker 1: But I don't sink in front of Kenny was was

1768
01:29:55,720 --> 01:29:58,640
Speaker 1: was therapy a requirement? Because all my sister friends and

1769
01:29:58,800 --> 01:30:01,840
Speaker 1: he refused the data man right now, or even take

1770
01:30:01,840 --> 01:30:04,679
Speaker 1: a man serious if they're not doing the work on themselves.

1771
01:30:05,080 --> 01:30:08,120
Speaker 1: We took things a step further. We went to pre

1772
01:30:08,320 --> 01:30:12,200
Speaker 1: engagement counseling. Wow, what is that? Before we got engaged?

1773
01:30:12,640 --> 01:30:16,600
Speaker 1: We did counseling sessions with a pastor. Because for me,

1774
01:30:17,000 --> 01:30:19,600
Speaker 1: I think after you get engaged and you've announced and

1775
01:30:19,720 --> 01:30:22,280
Speaker 1: you've told people, and then when you go to counseling

1776
01:30:22,400 --> 01:30:25,800
Speaker 1: or therapy sessions, it's harder for people to say, well,

1777
01:30:25,840 --> 01:30:28,000
Speaker 1: hold up, wait a minute, is this what I really

1778
01:30:28,080 --> 01:30:31,360
Speaker 1: want to do, because everybody knows there's that extra pressure there.

1779
01:30:31,840 --> 01:30:34,400
Speaker 1: So for us, things were going, things had gone so well,

1780
01:30:34,439 --> 01:30:37,280
Speaker 1: and a lot of people think, by the way, oh, well,

1781
01:30:37,439 --> 01:30:39,320
Speaker 1: what's going on? Are you having problems? Is that? Is

1782
01:30:39,360 --> 01:30:41,320
Speaker 1: that where you were going to counseling? It was the opposite.

1783
01:30:41,880 --> 01:30:44,240
Speaker 1: We weren't having these issues and we were we were

1784
01:30:44,360 --> 01:30:48,360
Speaker 1: so in sync on what our core values were. I thought, Okay,

1785
01:30:48,760 --> 01:30:51,719
Speaker 1: I haven't been married before. Are there questions I'm not asking?

1786
01:30:53,040 --> 01:30:56,080
Speaker 1: Is there is there something else that I need to

1787
01:30:56,880 --> 01:30:59,519
Speaker 1: delve into that I'm not so, what's the best way

1788
01:30:59,560 --> 01:31:02,040
Speaker 1: to find that out? Go to a professional? It was

1789
01:31:02,080 --> 01:31:04,280
Speaker 1: my idea. It was my idea. I said, So was

1790
01:31:04,320 --> 01:31:05,920
Speaker 1: he nervous when you said that? Because not at all,

1791
01:31:07,560 --> 01:31:11,040
Speaker 1: not at all. And I thought that's a good way

1792
01:31:11,040 --> 01:31:14,120
Speaker 1: to be proactive. So proactive because I do feel like

1793
01:31:14,160 --> 01:31:17,040
Speaker 1: in a relationship, because you won't always get along, you

1794
01:31:17,160 --> 01:31:19,919
Speaker 1: have to know how to handle each other when issues

1795
01:31:19,960 --> 01:31:22,840
Speaker 1: come up. Absolutely, how to deal with conflict in an

1796
01:31:22,880 --> 01:31:26,360
Speaker 1: emotionally mature way, how to deal with anger and an

1797
01:31:26,400 --> 01:31:29,519
Speaker 1: emotionally buture way, because that's really the key. The quickest

1798
01:31:29,560 --> 01:31:33,600
Speaker 1: way to ruin romance in any relationship and marriage is unkindness.

1799
01:31:34,040 --> 01:31:36,519
Speaker 1: I think you got to hang first. Corinthians thirteen. Was

1800
01:31:36,560 --> 01:31:40,120
Speaker 1: it four through eight? Up in your house? As a

1801
01:31:40,200 --> 01:31:43,960
Speaker 1: constant reminder, Yeah, because that's when you talk about therapy,

1802
01:31:44,000 --> 01:31:46,200
Speaker 1: you talk about counseling, that's what you're talking about. You're

1803
01:31:46,200 --> 01:31:48,120
Speaker 1: talking about getting out in front of it something. You

1804
01:31:48,160 --> 01:31:50,280
Speaker 1: don't wait till the wheels fall off and then try

1805
01:31:50,280 --> 01:31:52,320
Speaker 1: to go and salvage the relationship and go to therapy.

1806
01:31:52,320 --> 01:31:53,960
Speaker 1: Then wait till your house gets ribbed to get an

1807
01:31:54,000 --> 01:31:56,720
Speaker 1: alarm system exactly exactly, so you're out in front of

1808
01:31:56,760 --> 01:31:58,280
Speaker 1: it and you're doing the work in advance. And so

1809
01:31:58,400 --> 01:32:00,160
Speaker 1: that's what we did when we went to our pre

1810
01:32:00,360 --> 01:32:02,720
Speaker 1: engagement counseling before we ever got engaged, when we were

1811
01:32:02,760 --> 01:32:05,639
Speaker 1: talking about getting married, and then when we did get engaged,

1812
01:32:06,080 --> 01:32:08,680
Speaker 1: we did it with so much peace because we've been

1813
01:32:08,720 --> 01:32:10,840
Speaker 1: through these counseling sessions. And I remember at the end,

1814
01:32:10,880 --> 01:32:12,599
Speaker 1: and by the way, Kenny was like, if he weren't

1815
01:32:12,600 --> 01:32:14,800
Speaker 1: a singer, he would be I think he would be

1816
01:32:14,840 --> 01:32:16,519
Speaker 1: a preacher. I think he would be I think he

1817
01:32:16,560 --> 01:32:19,160
Speaker 1: would be a counselor. There's the wisdom that came out

1818
01:32:19,200 --> 01:32:22,360
Speaker 1: in those sessions. I remember my counselor turning because he,

1819
01:32:22,520 --> 01:32:25,240
Speaker 1: you know, he's been through I didn't marry somebody who's

1820
01:32:25,520 --> 01:32:28,559
Speaker 1: who hasn't been tested right like I have. We both

1821
01:32:28,600 --> 01:32:31,320
Speaker 1: had relationships that didn't work out for one reason or another,

1822
01:32:31,600 --> 01:32:34,280
Speaker 1: and we've both been tested in those areas, and so

1823
01:32:34,479 --> 01:32:36,840
Speaker 1: when we went through those counseling sessions to hear the

1824
01:32:36,920 --> 01:32:39,519
Speaker 1: wisdom they came out of him. I remember the pastor

1825
01:32:39,560 --> 01:32:41,880
Speaker 1: turning around at one point and he was looking like, Okay,

1826
01:32:42,080 --> 01:32:44,679
Speaker 1: what do you have to say. I heard what he said,

1827
01:32:44,760 --> 01:32:47,280
Speaker 1: what's your response to that? And I was like, uh,

1828
01:32:47,600 --> 01:32:49,439
Speaker 1: you know. But at the end, I remember him saying,

1829
01:32:49,520 --> 01:32:53,680
Speaker 1: I have no reservations whatsoever in blessing the two of

1830
01:32:53,760 --> 01:32:58,040
Speaker 1: you and moving forward in marriage A plus, and counseling

1831
01:32:58,120 --> 01:33:01,360
Speaker 1: we got an A plus. Fires I know you talk

1832
01:33:01,360 --> 01:33:04,640
Speaker 1: about triggers and red flags also in the book, So

1833
01:33:04,840 --> 01:33:07,280
Speaker 1: for you, what were some of those? For me? I

1834
01:33:08,080 --> 01:33:12,000
Speaker 1: would not date someone who had a history of infidelity.

1835
01:33:12,880 --> 01:33:16,360
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that people don't change, right, but for me,

1836
01:33:17,320 --> 01:33:21,400
Speaker 1: um patterns in people's lives reveal a lot. Most guys

1837
01:33:21,439 --> 01:33:22,920
Speaker 1: aren't going to admit to you that they have a

1838
01:33:23,040 --> 01:33:25,799
Speaker 1: history of infidelity either. You have to do your due diligence.

1839
01:33:26,479 --> 01:33:30,800
Speaker 1: And that's a section. That's a section in the book.

1840
01:33:31,160 --> 01:33:33,000
Speaker 1: You do your due diligence. You do the best you can.

1841
01:33:33,520 --> 01:33:36,000
Speaker 1: I mean you sometimes I'm not saying turn your house

1842
01:33:36,040 --> 01:33:38,120
Speaker 1: into a cside lab in the back end and pluck

1843
01:33:38,200 --> 01:33:40,360
Speaker 1: a hair while he's sleeping, But I'm just saying, do

1844
01:33:40,439 --> 01:33:42,760
Speaker 1: your due diligence, if you know, But if you know.

1845
01:33:42,920 --> 01:33:45,439
Speaker 1: See a lot of people know, though, Angela, and they

1846
01:33:45,479 --> 01:33:47,439
Speaker 1: still choose to look the other way. It's like, Okay,

1847
01:33:47,479 --> 01:33:50,599
Speaker 1: there's a red flag, but how red is this red flag?

1848
01:33:51,320 --> 01:33:53,600
Speaker 1: Or how exactly how far back have you going on

1849
01:33:53,680 --> 01:34:04,120
Speaker 1: Instagram and you're snooping? Yeah, I perused history of infidelity. Yeah,

1850
01:34:04,120 --> 01:34:07,759
Speaker 1: a history of infidelity is a red flag to me. Um, honesty.

1851
01:34:07,880 --> 01:34:09,920
Speaker 1: If you tell me you're a vegan, but I see

1852
01:34:09,960 --> 01:34:14,200
Speaker 1: you on Snapchat with wings, you know, it's like, just

1853
01:34:14,320 --> 01:34:16,519
Speaker 1: be just be honest, don't don't don't try to present

1854
01:34:16,600 --> 01:34:19,479
Speaker 1: yourself as somebody that you're not, because to me, those

1855
01:34:19,520 --> 01:34:22,160
Speaker 1: little things really do add up if you're not really

1856
01:34:25,560 --> 01:34:29,519
Speaker 1: anything else. Also, work ethic a good work ethic because

1857
01:34:29,520 --> 01:34:33,240
Speaker 1: I'm very ambitious and so when you know, though, when

1858
01:34:33,280 --> 01:34:35,439
Speaker 1: you just know what you're just know what your red

1859
01:34:35,479 --> 01:34:37,560
Speaker 1: flags are, what things are important to you. If you

1860
01:34:37,720 --> 01:34:40,759
Speaker 1: know you don't want to date long distance, don't complain

1861
01:34:40,840 --> 01:34:43,200
Speaker 1: to me about your boyfriend not calling you from Dubai

1862
01:34:43,439 --> 01:34:46,720
Speaker 1: if he lives in Dubai. So, Um, just knowing what

1863
01:34:46,880 --> 01:34:50,560
Speaker 1: they are and identifying them and recognizing them, you know,

1864
01:34:50,640 --> 01:34:53,880
Speaker 1: red means stop. People will not change for you. They

1865
01:34:54,000 --> 01:34:56,280
Speaker 1: change for themselves. And no one wants to change because

1866
01:34:56,320 --> 01:34:58,439
Speaker 1: you put a gun to their head. It has to

1867
01:34:58,520 --> 01:35:01,559
Speaker 1: come from within. Do you think your healing journey your

1868
01:35:01,600 --> 01:35:06,280
Speaker 1: love journey, it's part of your healing journey anyway. I

1869
01:35:06,520 --> 01:35:11,560
Speaker 1: don't project on my husband or on people in my

1870
01:35:11,720 --> 01:35:17,160
Speaker 1: life or responsibility that they have to help me heal

1871
01:35:17,640 --> 01:35:20,559
Speaker 1: in every aspect. I think when people come in your life,

1872
01:35:21,240 --> 01:35:23,960
Speaker 1: in your life, they are a part of your journey,

1873
01:35:24,800 --> 01:35:29,640
Speaker 1: but that responsibility really has to come from you. And

1874
01:35:30,000 --> 01:35:33,880
Speaker 1: when I have women in divorce court and they're very

1875
01:35:33,960 --> 01:35:36,960
Speaker 1: broken and they've been through a lot, and I tell them,

1876
01:35:37,000 --> 01:35:39,200
Speaker 1: I say, you know, the trauma that you experience in

1877
01:35:39,280 --> 01:35:42,240
Speaker 1: your past was not your responsibility, It was not your fault,

1878
01:35:42,400 --> 01:35:45,519
Speaker 1: but your healing really is. So I never wanted to

1879
01:35:45,680 --> 01:35:50,080
Speaker 1: project any hurt from my past onto somebody else for

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Speaker 1: them to take their responsibility to heal me, because again,

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Speaker 1: that power had to come from me, you know. In closing,

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Speaker 1: I do want to say, sis, don't settle. Some people

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Speaker 1: have only that settling down means you settle, right, They're like, oh,

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01:36:03,800 --> 01:36:06,559
Speaker 1: it's in the word settling down. So you can't have everything,

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01:36:07,160 --> 01:36:10,360
Speaker 1: and sometimes you have to just compromise and say, Okay,

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01:36:10,439 --> 01:36:13,280
Speaker 1: I'm willing to settle. But to see how you've managed

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01:36:13,280 --> 01:36:16,439
Speaker 1: to wait to find the right person and not settle

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01:36:16,600 --> 01:36:19,680
Speaker 1: and get exceed the expectations that you had, I think

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Speaker 1: as a testament to making sure that you can know

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Speaker 1: that you can have it all right. Your career, your

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01:36:26,200 --> 01:36:29,080
Speaker 1: relationship and in your own timing and not have to

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01:36:29,160 --> 01:36:32,160
Speaker 1: worry about what anybody else has to say. Right, your

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01:36:32,280 --> 01:36:36,120
Speaker 1: life's journey is your journey. And I think that especially

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01:36:36,200 --> 01:36:39,639
Speaker 1: as women, we have to embrace and love what our

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01:36:39,720 --> 01:36:43,400
Speaker 1: journey is. No comparison is the thief of joy, and

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01:36:43,479 --> 01:36:46,880
Speaker 1: stop comparing our lives to somebody else. And you know,

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01:36:47,040 --> 01:36:50,320
Speaker 1: have these milestones and your happiness can't be tied to

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01:36:50,400 --> 01:36:53,280
Speaker 1: getting married, Your happiness can't be tied to having children.

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01:36:53,320 --> 01:36:55,439
Speaker 1: Your happiness can't be tied to your next TV show,

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Speaker 1: your next job, because then you'll always be chasing a

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01:36:57,920 --> 01:37:01,120
Speaker 1: carrot on a moving stick. So what this really is

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01:37:01,200 --> 01:37:03,960
Speaker 1: about is learning to be happy right where you are.

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01:37:04,560 --> 01:37:06,639
Speaker 1: Look at everything that's happened in the in the past

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01:37:06,760 --> 01:37:08,559
Speaker 1: year and a half and what we've learned about life.

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Speaker 1: If you don't love today where you are today, then

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01:37:12,360 --> 01:37:14,680
Speaker 1: you just missed out on a day of living your life.

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Speaker 1: Because there are a lot of people who wish they

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01:37:15,920 --> 01:37:18,240
Speaker 1: could be in your shoes right now, just living. So

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01:37:18,320 --> 01:37:21,360
Speaker 1: when I talk about not settling, it really is about

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01:37:21,479 --> 01:37:24,439
Speaker 1: embracing your journey and being at peace where you are

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Speaker 1: and not allowing somebody else to pressure you to be

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Speaker 1: somewhere where you're not supposed to be because this is

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Speaker 1: your journey, this is what you're doing, all right, well, sis,

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Speaker 1: don't settle faith, Jenkins. I had given Steve Harvey a

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Speaker 1: run for his money quote in the front of the yes, yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: he's a good friend and supported my book and I

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Speaker 1: really appreciate that. And all of you too joining us

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Speaker 1: this morning and thank you. No, that's not your first

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Speaker 1: Christmas together. Second, it's our second. Yeah, that's an amazing Christmas.

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Speaker 1: Thank you duet or something for us where for Christmas?

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Speaker 1: Your Christmas song? Duet? Oh you know, Angel, don't put

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Speaker 1: me on the spot like that. Maybe one day, Jenkins.

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Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, So Breakfast Club, Your

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Speaker 1: Some restrictions applying everybody, DJ Envy, ANGELA Yee, charlomage mcguy.

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Speaker 1: We are the Breakfast Club. Now, Charlomagne, you got a

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Speaker 1: positive note. Yes, the positive note of to day is

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Speaker 1: simply this, never blame anyone in life. The good people

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01:38:39,320 --> 01:38:41,719
Speaker 1: give you happiness. The worst people give you a lesson.

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Speaker 1: The best people give you memories. Remember that, especially during

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Speaker 1: the holiday season. Breakfast Club, you know I'm finish for y'all.

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