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Speaker 2: Why would you ever have two dicks in your mouth?

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying. I like how you always come back

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, thank you for watching. Today's episode is brought

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Speaker 2: people who can confidently say that they have reached the

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Speaker 2: American dream, but my guest today on IRL, Ken, she's

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Speaker 2: a comedian, actress, wife, mother, survivor, who's turned some of

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Speaker 2: the hardest chapters of her life into comedy. She is

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Speaker 2: the star and co-creator of the Emmy-nominated, record-breaking Miss Pat

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Speaker 2: show and the author of her second.

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Speaker 3: Memoir, Miss American Dream, which is here.

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Speaker 1: Cheers, Ms.

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Speaker 2: Pat on IRL today. You are a busy lady, Ms. Pat.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to be. I try to stay busy.

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Speaker 1: You know, I got to work.

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Speaker 2: You got to pay taxes. You got people to take

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Speaker 2: care of. You got all them children to take care of.

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Speaker 2: I got all them children.

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Speaker 1: Now one of them I gave birth to, but I'm

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Speaker 3: Wait, you said not one of them?

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Speaker 2: Yes, you did.

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Speaker 1: No, one of them kids came out of me. My

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Speaker 2: But your kids are grown, but you gave birth to

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Speaker 2: those kids, no? The seven that's at my house now? Oh,

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Speaker 1: When I can't file taxes for you, I forget about

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Speaker 1: And now that I'm in a different tax bracket, I

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Speaker 2: Usually after people spend, especially when you had like so

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Speaker 2: many things in your life happen, but usually people who

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Speaker 3: And you were like, yeah, nah.

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Speaker 1: Keeping me so busy? This is my fourth or fifth

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Speaker 3: Has it only been six months?

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Speaker 1: For the new ones. The other one is seven of them.

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Speaker 3: And that's the eight-year-old?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the eight-year-old, 12-year-old, and 13-year-old.

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Speaker 2: What is that process like, you know, bringing new children

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Speaker 1: Well, I call them my crack babies, right? So my

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Speaker 1: Crackers are arrows. So when they don't come from that

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Speaker 2: So how do you make this decision? You say God

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Speaker 2: Do they all... Because, you know, they say that children

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's my baby. His name is Junebug. And I

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Speaker 2: And it never occurred to you?

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Speaker 3: Do you tell all your kids?

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Speaker 1: Yes. About what?

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Speaker 1: Is Junebug my favorite?

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Speaker 3: No, that part you tell them.

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Speaker 2: But do you tell all your kids about your life?

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Speaker 1: My kids know that, me and my daughter know that

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Speaker 3: I don't know. For me, it did. Maybe not everybody.

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Speaker 2: It made me understand my life or look at my

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Speaker 1: Writing the first book, it made me realize... The way

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I wonder.

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Speaker 1: So it happens.

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Speaker 2: For your mother to be shooting at you, she done

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm quite sure she had went through some shit.

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Speaker 1: But she didn't shoot to kill. That was her belt.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely would have been scared.

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Speaker 1: Why we had more bullets than food, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: What was your mother?

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Speaker 2: Also, you know, growing up in New York, A gun

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Speaker 1: Yes. But in the South, everybody can have a gun.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. In the South, everybody had a gun.

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Speaker 1: And it was a.

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Speaker 2: 22, too, so it wasn't here to kill you. A

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Speaker 2: A little baby gun. A little baby gun. A gun

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Speaker 1: But she wasn't trying to shoot, kill us. She was

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Speaker 3: What about the rest of your family?

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Speaker 2: They okay.

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Speaker 1: My sister smoked crack. I don't know what my other

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Speaker 3: Are you still in touch?

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Speaker 1: I'm in touch, but I really don't. deal with my

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm no longer, she can't buy anything from

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Speaker 2: It's a, abusive drug though isn't it isn't it like

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Speaker 1: Don't know I ain't never smoked it but if it's

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Speaker 1: anything like Chick-fil-a she's struggling Chick-fil-a got me in a

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Speaker 1: chokehold oh my god so I mean and I try

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Speaker 2: Oh, my God. What does your family make of all

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Speaker 2: your success? Is it like.

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Speaker 1: I don't ask them.

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Speaker 1: Well, you can't ask them at this point because they

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Speaker 2: So you've built your own life and your own immediate family.

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Speaker 1: Yes. A husband, kids, grandkids. So, you know, I've been

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Speaker 2: And that's what I ended up getting.

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Speaker 3: And that is your American dream, right?

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Speaker 1: That is my American dream. Just happiness. It's not the

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Speaker 2: I'm always fascinated by people that can create what they

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Speaker 3: Grow up in a house. My mama didn't have a husband.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. You were not taught how to

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Speaker 2: do that.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?

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Speaker 1: No, but I did watch a lot of Leave it

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Speaker 1: to Bevo.

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Speaker 2: You did?

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 2: And them folks was married.

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Speaker 1: So I was like, I don't know what's going on

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Speaker 1: like that. Well, I just wanted my mama to say,

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Speaker 1: because that's what Beaver Mama had. And I never got it.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 3: But you made it now.

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Speaker 1: I made it.

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Speaker 3: Are you making lunches?

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Speaker 1: No. Because you don't even cook. I'm not a soccer mom.

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Speaker 3: But you pay somebody to make the lunches?

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Speaker 1: No. I say, go make your own shit. It's in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, at least you got Lisa's food in there.

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Speaker 1: I've never been the type of mom that's just going

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Speaker 4: Hmm.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not going to interrupt my day because

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Speaker 3: It's so tough, love.

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Speaker 1: Well, if you keep doing it, these kids are going

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Speaker 1: every day. If you want your stuff, don't leave it

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Speaker 2: So are you never a pushover for your kids?

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Speaker 1: Pushover?

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think I give them a little too much, but no,

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Speaker 1: I'm not a pushover. I cuss my kids the fuck out.

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Speaker 2: And how are they doing?

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Speaker 1: Are they like, did you do well?

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Speaker 3: Are they like happy and flourishing?

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Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know if they flourishing. Well, they fat,

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Speaker 1: but I love him.

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Speaker 2: Is that your favorite?

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Speaker 1: Hell no. Oh, no.

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Speaker 2: Not the favorite.

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Speaker 1: He's the one that I kept. But my other son,

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Speaker 1: pretty well.

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Speaker 2: That's amazing.

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Speaker 1: I'm not bailing nobody out of jail. Nobody's getting in trouble.

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Speaker 2: That's amazing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, having a mama like me, but I wasn't going

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Speaker 1: to let them fail. Yeah. That's why I can say

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Speaker 1: I stepped in a little too much and gave them

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Speaker 1: a little too much. Like, they should have at least

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Speaker 1: went hungry once a month. I always provide it.

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Speaker 2: So if you are not the softie, is your husband

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Speaker 2: the softie?

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Speaker 1: Yes, I would say my husband don't really curse like

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Speaker 1: I do. No, you know, I'll cuss you the fuck out.

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Speaker 3: Your children do.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, can I cuss on this podcast?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so I will cuss you the fuck out. You know,

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Speaker 1: I don't see it like that. I'll give you an example.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of girls in the house. And he'd

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Speaker 3: Go get in the shower?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say, I smell your pussy and you

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Speaker 1: need to wash it because you don't smell my pussy.

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Speaker 1: I know it's a little harsh, but it's real, reality. So,

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Speaker 1: you know, he's like, don't say that to them. It's

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Speaker 1: not a pussy. It's a pussy. It's got hair in

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Speaker 1: its bleed. That's not a snack. That's not a jack-in-the-box.

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Speaker 1: Bears don't fuck no bees. Go wash your pussy stain.

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Speaker 1: And so he said, I'm a little too hard.

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Speaker 2: But something worked for him. He knew who you were

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Speaker 2: when he married you. Yes.

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Speaker 3: So he must have somewhat liked it in some way.

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Speaker 1: Yes. I'm totally opposite of him. But I think I

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Speaker 1: was very strong like his mama. But his mama was

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Speaker 1: But I can say me and his mama was probably

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Speaker 1: and I was more of the street person. But we

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Speaker 4: Wow.

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Speaker 1: So he married someone that was like his mom? Yes,

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Speaker 1: who would say what she wanted to say. Excuse me,

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Speaker 1: I'm burping. I'm fat. And I can't control how shit

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Speaker 2: Make yourself at home, God. Make yourself at home.

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Speaker 1: I ain't got no other choice. Sometimes I drink shit

448
00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:36,030
Speaker 1: and it just come out. That's part of getting.

449
00:17:35,930 --> 00:17:36,290
Speaker 2: Old, child.

450
00:17:36,310 --> 00:17:37,350
Speaker 1: You can't control shit.

451
00:17:38,109 --> 00:17:40,990
Speaker 2: How do you, because I've heard you talk about menopause

452
00:17:41,040 --> 00:17:41,760
Speaker 2: and things like that.

453
00:17:41,780 --> 00:17:43,020
Speaker 1: Oh my God, it's the worst.

454
00:17:43,040 --> 00:17:44,680
Speaker 3: How is this season going for you?

455
00:17:45,100 --> 00:17:46,040
Speaker 1: Drive a John.

456
00:17:46,060 --> 00:17:48,979
Speaker 2: Oh no.

457
00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:51,760
Speaker 1: But I tell women, there's nothing wrong with menopause. It's

458
00:17:51,820 --> 00:17:55,160
Speaker 1: not like men's that we can't, you know, you can

459
00:17:55,200 --> 00:17:59,550
Speaker 1: touch us. We just, I look at vagina like, A

460
00:17:59,730 --> 00:18:01,969
Speaker 1: man having a soft penis. We all going through some

461
00:18:02,010 --> 00:18:03,709
Speaker 1: shit and a pill going to help all of us.

462
00:18:03,790 --> 00:18:04,150
Speaker 3: A pill.

463
00:18:04,310 --> 00:18:06,469
Speaker 1: Yeah, a pill. So I'm on a pill and I'm

464
00:18:06,590 --> 00:18:09,390
Speaker 1: getting a lot better. But it was very painful.

465
00:18:09,550 --> 00:18:11,530
Speaker 2: Were you like moody and did you get hot flashes

466
00:18:11,590 --> 00:18:12,220
Speaker 2: and all that stuff too?

467
00:18:12,230 --> 00:18:14,530
Speaker 1: I don't really get hot flashes. I had a lot

468
00:18:14,570 --> 00:18:15,490
Speaker 1: of vagina pain.

469
00:18:15,970 --> 00:18:16,470
Speaker 2: Oh, no.

470
00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:19,560
Speaker 1: I didn't get that pain. It was the lining. My

471
00:18:19,619 --> 00:18:22,180
Speaker 1: lining was drying out. So I had to go get

472
00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:23,040
Speaker 1: some new tires.

473
00:18:23,820 --> 00:18:24,220
Speaker 2: And so.

474
00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:25,780
Speaker 3: Now with the tires working.

475
00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:28,980
Speaker 2: The tires working good now. Yeah, they finally... You can

476
00:18:29,010 --> 00:18:30,240
Speaker 2: slide across it now.

477
00:18:32,930 --> 00:18:35,750
Speaker 1: It has gotten a lot better. But it was a

478
00:18:35,810 --> 00:18:36,470
Speaker 1: lot of pain.

479
00:18:36,490 --> 00:18:38,610
Speaker 2: I'm so happy for you and happy for your husband.

480
00:18:40,090 --> 00:18:42,910
Speaker 1: I've been married 33 years. It's just every now and then.

481
00:18:42,950 --> 00:18:46,890
Speaker 1: But I'm happy for him, too. I've been fucking since

482
00:18:46,970 --> 00:18:48,930
Speaker 1: I was in elementary school. I don't want no dick.

483
00:18:48,970 --> 00:18:50,210
Speaker 1: I want back teeth and money.

484
00:18:53,270 --> 00:18:54,870
Speaker 3: But don't the men always want it or no?

485
00:18:55,750 --> 00:18:58,170
Speaker 1: I think me and my husband both got men apart.

486
00:18:58,470 --> 00:19:00,340
Speaker 1: We don't have the house. We just go eat and

487
00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:03,440
Speaker 1: watch TV. That's sick. When you get a certain age,

488
00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:05,060
Speaker 1: we're in separate bedrooms now.

489
00:19:05,300 --> 00:19:07,420
Speaker 2: I heard you say that you're in separate bedrooms now.

490
00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:08,139
Speaker 2: It is the most best.

491
00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:11,200
Speaker 1: It's the most wonderful thing ever. And so many women

492
00:19:11,220 --> 00:19:13,940
Speaker 1: be out there talking shit. Ah, that ain't no marriage.

493
00:19:14,030 --> 00:19:16,490
Speaker 1: You go ahead on and bleed with God. You know,

494
00:19:16,630 --> 00:19:19,210
Speaker 1: do your godly thing. This is working for me, bitch.

495
00:19:19,550 --> 00:19:22,330
Speaker 1: You know, stop coming in my inbox telling me I

496
00:19:22,369 --> 00:19:24,770
Speaker 1: don't want my husband because I'm in a separate bedroom.

497
00:19:25,230 --> 00:19:29,090
Speaker 1: I'm top heavy. I'm a 40H and sometimes a 42H

498
00:19:29,450 --> 00:19:31,450
Speaker 1: whenever I gain a little weight. My titty need their

499
00:19:31,510 --> 00:19:34,169
Speaker 1: own pillow. And we don't want nobody laying next to us.

500
00:19:35,020 --> 00:19:37,540
Speaker 1: So leave me the hell alone. My husband in his room,

501
00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:39,280
Speaker 1: I'm in my room. When we want to do something,

502
00:19:39,300 --> 00:19:40,460
Speaker 1: we just text each other.

503
00:19:41,109 --> 00:19:42,250
Speaker 2: When we playing it out.

504
00:19:42,310 --> 00:19:45,619
Speaker 1: What you doing? Yeah. And we might fall asleep in

505
00:19:45,660 --> 00:19:48,930
Speaker 1: the middle of the text. Shit. I don't want no sex.

506
00:19:49,010 --> 00:19:53,820
Speaker 1: I'm old. You are not that old. I'm 54. I'm

507
00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:57,040
Speaker 1: not that old, but my vagina been working since elementary school.

508
00:19:57,220 --> 00:19:57,629
Speaker 2: Got it.

509
00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:03,160
Speaker 1: You know, allowing, saying yes and saying no. So, you know,

510
00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,040
Speaker 1: it's been a long time since. Motherfucker been touching me

511
00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:06,780
Speaker 1: for a long time.

512
00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:07,500
Speaker 2: I don't need no sex.

513
00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:08,260
Speaker 1: I need some money.

514
00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:09,960
Speaker 3: Oh, my God.

515
00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:14,239
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. That was a little child molestation joke right there, cameraman.

516
00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:17,350
Speaker 1: That is.

517
00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:19,950
Speaker 2: It takes a special talent to be able to make

518
00:20:19,990 --> 00:20:21,330
Speaker 2: a child molestation joke.

519
00:20:21,369 --> 00:20:22,810
Speaker 1: I do it all the time. I know.

520
00:20:22,869 --> 00:20:25,570
Speaker 2: I'm just saying. It's not the norm.

521
00:20:25,590 --> 00:20:33,600
Speaker 1: What you gonna cry about it for? People ask me, well,

522
00:20:33,619 --> 00:20:35,620
Speaker 1: my husband mostly asks me, why do you talk about that?

523
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:37,780
Speaker 1: Because you got to say the quiet part out loud.

524
00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:39,859
Speaker 1: And then I try to tell people, you know, there's

525
00:20:39,900 --> 00:20:42,240
Speaker 1: nothing you can do to change your past. But when

526
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:44,420
Speaker 1: you can laugh at what you've been through, then you

527
00:20:44,460 --> 00:20:47,500
Speaker 1: have control of that situation. When you hold stuff in,

528
00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:51,140
Speaker 1: that stuff will eat you alive. It will run you crazy.

529
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:54,740
Speaker 1: It will create a cancer in your body. So I've

530
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,159
Speaker 1: just always been the type of person, I say the

531
00:20:57,200 --> 00:21:00,220
Speaker 1: quiet part out loud. And I'm not ashamed of anything

532
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,140
Speaker 1: that I've been through in life. You know, stop worrying

533
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:05,580
Speaker 1: about what people think about you and say what you've

534
00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:08,720
Speaker 1: been through out loud. There's nothing wrong to say when

535
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:11,179
Speaker 1: you're wrong. Like I tell this bit now about I

536
00:21:11,220 --> 00:21:14,380
Speaker 1: was a horrible mom, but I was 14 years old.

537
00:21:14,420 --> 00:21:15,680
Speaker 1: I should have been a horrible mom.

538
00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

539
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:18,540
Speaker 1: And I take people through my journey of, you know,

540
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,550
Speaker 1: how when I realized I was a bad mom. When

541
00:21:21,570 --> 00:21:23,730
Speaker 1: you can say things that happen to you and it

542
00:21:23,950 --> 00:21:26,090
Speaker 1: allow you to heal because you don't want to hold

543
00:21:26,109 --> 00:21:28,130
Speaker 1: all this stuff in there, create a cancer in your body.

544
00:21:28,170 --> 00:21:29,609
Speaker 1: It will run you crazy.

545
00:21:29,650 --> 00:21:31,650
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I get that. So tell people what you've

546
00:21:31,690 --> 00:21:32,190
Speaker 2: been through.

547
00:21:32,530 --> 00:21:35,430
Speaker 1: And you will be so surprised of how many people

548
00:21:35,470 --> 00:21:38,609
Speaker 1: that can relate to what you've been through. And it

549
00:21:38,710 --> 00:21:41,490
Speaker 1: also helps other people to say the quiet part out loud.

550
00:21:41,850 --> 00:21:43,530
Speaker 3: So comedy, like, healed you.

551
00:21:44,090 --> 00:21:44,510
Speaker 2: Yes.

552
00:21:44,530 --> 00:21:45,810
Speaker 1: People always say, you need therapy.

553
00:21:45,869 --> 00:21:46,350
Speaker 2: No, I don't.

554
00:21:46,390 --> 00:21:48,189
Speaker 1: I just need you to buy two drinks and a ticket.

555
00:21:49,410 --> 00:21:50,580
Speaker 1: And we're going to sit in that bitch in the

556
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:51,340
Speaker 1: hill together.

557
00:21:51,540 --> 00:21:52,390
Speaker 3: Let me get this out.

558
00:21:52,670 --> 00:21:54,740
Speaker 1: Yes. I be talking about it. I don't count on crazy.

559
00:21:54,780 --> 00:21:56,500
Speaker 2: But you know you do hear stories of a lot

560
00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:00,320
Speaker 2: of comedians that use jokes. to mask pain and then

561
00:22:00,340 --> 00:22:02,940
Speaker 2: they don't ever deal with the pain. And that's not good.

562
00:22:03,020 --> 00:22:05,359
Speaker 2: That's not a healthy way. But you seem to like

563
00:22:06,140 --> 00:22:07,340
Speaker 2: do the jokes.

564
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:09,460
Speaker 3: And also move past the pain. Or is the pain

565
00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:09,970
Speaker 3: still there?

566
00:22:09,990 --> 00:22:12,250
Speaker 1: The pain is always going to be there. But what

567
00:22:12,290 --> 00:22:14,369
Speaker 1: I've learned in life is to forgive the people who

568
00:22:14,430 --> 00:22:17,970
Speaker 1: hurt me. Because when you can forgive, when I forgave,

569
00:22:18,090 --> 00:22:21,190
Speaker 1: I was able to start to live. When you hate

570
00:22:21,260 --> 00:22:24,390
Speaker 1: something or somebody that hate will control you. I've said

571
00:22:24,410 --> 00:22:28,130
Speaker 1: that a thousand times. When you hate something or somebody,

572
00:22:28,170 --> 00:22:29,409
Speaker 1: that hate will control you.

573
00:22:29,710 --> 00:22:31,230
Speaker 2: So to keep the people.

574
00:22:31,010 --> 00:22:34,469
Speaker 1: That hurt me in the past from controlling me, I've

575
00:22:34,510 --> 00:22:37,930
Speaker 1: forgiven them. And I've learned to live and move on.

576
00:22:38,430 --> 00:22:39,209
Speaker 2: It's bigger than me.

577
00:22:39,430 --> 00:22:40,850
Speaker 1: So when it's bigger than you, why are you trying

578
00:22:40,869 --> 00:22:42,950
Speaker 1: to deal with it? You let God deal with it.

579
00:22:43,190 --> 00:22:46,189
Speaker 1: My baby daddy who got me pregnant, he's 22, and

580
00:22:46,260 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 1: I was 12 years old when I met him. That

581
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 1: nigga live in a rooming house now. He's hard back.

582
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:55,430
Speaker 1: God fucking him up. God is kicking his ass, keeping

583
00:22:55,450 --> 00:22:57,709
Speaker 1: him alive one pump at a time.

584
00:22:57,730 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 2: And look at me.

585
00:22:59,260 --> 00:23:01,460
Speaker 1: At one point, I was putting my billboards all by

586
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:05,980
Speaker 1: his jaw. Now he on Social Security. Sometimes you just

587
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 1: got to let God get people back. Yeah. I mean,

588
00:23:08,740 --> 00:23:11,020
Speaker 1: he beat me. He shot me. He treated me wrong.

589
00:23:11,580 --> 00:23:13,260
Speaker 1: I thought he was the first love of my life.

590
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:16,830
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just got to forgive him and move on

591
00:23:16,890 --> 00:23:20,750
Speaker 1: and let God deal with him. And he will. Yeah.

592
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,200
Speaker 2: That's really like an unbelievable journey that you've been through.

593
00:23:24,220 --> 00:23:26,619
Speaker 2: That you were from a relationship like that to being

594
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 2: in a marriage.

595
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:28,939
Speaker 1: 33 years.

596
00:23:28,980 --> 00:23:31,659
Speaker 3: For 33 years. And a healthy marriage.

597
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:33,609
Speaker 1: You're healthy, man. Well, yeah, we fat as hell.

598
00:23:33,619 --> 00:23:41,010
Speaker 3: I don't mean like that. I mean, y'all, y'all.

599
00:23:41,070 --> 00:23:41,610
Speaker 2: I love him.

600
00:23:41,770 --> 00:23:44,150
Speaker 1: You do. I wouldn't trade him for the world. That

601
00:23:44,170 --> 00:23:45,629
Speaker 1: man ain't never gave me no problem.

602
00:23:46,030 --> 00:23:47,369
Speaker 2: So, but you know, there always has to be like

603
00:23:47,410 --> 00:23:48,030
Speaker 2: a pivot, right?

604
00:23:48,050 --> 00:23:49,629
Speaker 3: Like, so if you were, if you were in a

605
00:23:49,650 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 3: bad situation.

606
00:23:51,060 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 2: Something has to either change in you or you making

607
00:23:53,100 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 2: different decisions or did you just leave that to God

608
00:23:55,540 --> 00:23:57,610
Speaker 2: to put somebody else different in your life? Like, how

609
00:23:57,630 --> 00:24:00,449
Speaker 2: did you make better decisions for yourself?

610
00:24:00,590 --> 00:24:03,190
Speaker 1: Well, I met a man that helped me make better decisions.

611
00:24:03,250 --> 00:24:04,570
Speaker 3: Oh, so you credit your husband for that?

612
00:24:04,710 --> 00:24:06,940
Speaker 1: Yes. He made, he sat me down. He said, Hey,

613
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,219
Speaker 1: You know, you out here writing people checks. Do you

614
00:24:09,260 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 1: think that's the right thing to do? I'm like, I

615
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,859
Speaker 1: don't know them people. Then he said, well, do you

616
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 1: want somebody to do that to you? Well, what if

617
00:24:14,540 --> 00:24:17,619
Speaker 1: you go to jail? What's going to happen to your kids?

618
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:20,120
Speaker 1: I never thought of it like that. I was just

619
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 1: out there hustling. And then I thought about it. I said,

620
00:24:22,300 --> 00:24:24,020
Speaker 1: if I do go to jail, what's going to happen

621
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:26,570
Speaker 1: to my kids? It never occurred to you? No, I

622
00:24:26,609 --> 00:24:29,530
Speaker 1: was 12, 13, 14. I mean, I had that baby

623
00:24:29,630 --> 00:24:32,460
Speaker 1: at 14. I'm trying to live. You know, I'm dropping

624
00:24:32,500 --> 00:24:35,020
Speaker 1: out of school in eighth grade. How can you think

625
00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 1: about going to jail? You're thinking about surviving. How am

626
00:24:37,340 --> 00:24:39,860
Speaker 1: I going to get this baby some pamphlets? And then

627
00:24:39,900 --> 00:24:42,780
Speaker 1: he wasn't no good after he got me pregnant. You know,

628
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:44,940
Speaker 1: he was already married. He was beating on me. All

629
00:24:44,980 --> 00:24:48,570
Speaker 1: kind of crazy shit. So I'm there. I'm out here 14,

630
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,100
Speaker 1: 15 year old with my second child by him.

631
00:24:50,460 --> 00:24:53,129
Speaker 2: I'm trying to live. I ain't thinking about no damn jail.

632
00:24:55,630 --> 00:24:58,550
Speaker 2: It's an amazing testimony. What about your kids?

633
00:24:58,590 --> 00:25:01,990
Speaker 3: How do they, his kids too, how do they I

634
00:25:02,030 --> 00:25:04,340
Speaker 3: don't know. Have they forgiven him?

635
00:25:04,540 --> 00:25:07,619
Speaker 1: Well, they don't really fool with him because my husband

636
00:25:07,660 --> 00:25:11,580
Speaker 1: raised him. I met him when my kids was really young.

637
00:25:11,780 --> 00:25:16,660
Speaker 1: So we're 33 years in now. My son is 38.

638
00:25:16,670 --> 00:25:20,110
Speaker 1: So that's the only daddy he's known. But I never

639
00:25:20,130 --> 00:25:25,750
Speaker 1: spoke bad about their daddy to them. You know, if

640
00:25:25,770 --> 00:25:27,690
Speaker 1: he wanted a life with him, he had an opportunity.

641
00:25:27,730 --> 00:25:29,550
Speaker 1: He didn't want a life with him. So my husband

642
00:25:29,590 --> 00:25:32,220
Speaker 1: just stepped in and became the daddy that they needed.

643
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,300
Speaker 1: But my God, talk about a course correction.

644
00:25:34,900 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 2: You made like a, you did a whole life pivot.

645
00:25:38,140 --> 00:25:41,919
Speaker 1: Well, the thing is, is getting your heart broken hurts

646
00:25:42,540 --> 00:25:46,350
Speaker 1: like a motherfucker. And the pain I felt after dealing

647
00:25:46,369 --> 00:25:49,389
Speaker 1: with my first baby daddy, I just, I mean, he

648
00:25:49,410 --> 00:25:51,170
Speaker 1: was the first person in my life to ever say

649
00:25:51,210 --> 00:25:53,650
Speaker 1: I love you. And I just felt like, I felt

650
00:25:53,690 --> 00:25:54,270
Speaker 1: like butter.

651
00:25:54,369 --> 00:25:55,170
Speaker 3: And you were 12.

652
00:25:55,170 --> 00:25:58,570
Speaker 1: I was 12. And he was 22. And so when

653
00:25:58,609 --> 00:26:00,450
Speaker 1: he started to beat on me and do me wrong,

654
00:26:00,510 --> 00:26:02,869
Speaker 1: I couldn't understand all of that. So, you know, I

655
00:26:02,910 --> 00:26:06,330
Speaker 1: thought no matter what, I'm going to love this man unconditionally.

656
00:26:06,950 --> 00:26:09,310
Speaker 1: And it just, it hurt. You know, getting your heart

657
00:26:09,350 --> 00:26:13,100
Speaker 1: broken by somebody who you thought loved you. And my

658
00:26:13,140 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 1: mama had already let me down. I just said, I

659
00:26:16,380 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 1: don't know about y'all, but I don't need a second

660
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:21,750
Speaker 1: dose of this bullshit. I said, I don't know how

661
00:26:21,770 --> 00:26:24,130
Speaker 1: you bitches get in an ideal relationship. Talk about you

662
00:26:24,170 --> 00:26:27,010
Speaker 1: love somebody and all. I said, God, that's okay. I

663
00:26:27,050 --> 00:26:28,830
Speaker 1: keep my asshole to myself. I mean, I keep my

664
00:26:28,850 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 1: vagina to myself.

665
00:26:32,540 --> 00:26:34,860
Speaker 2: And then how long was it between then and when

666
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 2: you met your husband?

667
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:36,439
Speaker 1: About a year.

668
00:26:36,460 --> 00:26:36,580
Speaker 4: Really?

669
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 2: About a year. You wasted no time.

670
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 1: Well, I met my husband and I was like, well,

671
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,649
Speaker 1: I'm hiring for baby daddy and he could read. He

672
00:26:44,690 --> 00:26:46,750
Speaker 1: didn't look like he hit bitches in their eye on Friday.

673
00:26:47,030 --> 00:26:48,730
Speaker 1: He just looked like a good old wholesome man. He

674
00:26:48,750 --> 00:26:51,500
Speaker 1: came from a good Christian family. Wasn't really my type,

675
00:26:51,540 --> 00:26:52,939
Speaker 1: but I said, I'm going to go for this one.

676
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:54,700
Speaker 2: I'm going to change my life.

677
00:26:55,170 --> 00:26:56,660
Speaker 1: Well, I thought I was going to get my kids

678
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Speaker 1: a baby, a daddy. That's all I needed was a

679
00:26:58,820 --> 00:26:59,380
Speaker 1: good daddy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:26:59,920 --> 00:27:01,629
Speaker 1: He had just got out of the military and I,

682
00:27:01,859 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 1: you know, he liked chicken wings.

683
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 2: I did too.

684
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:05,820
Speaker 1: And we shared some and we've been together ever since.

685
00:27:06,100 --> 00:27:06,939
Speaker 2: Amazing.

686
00:27:07,340 --> 00:27:09,859
Speaker 3: And his mama, how does mother feel about all this?

687
00:27:09,900 --> 00:27:14,530
Speaker 1: Oh, she was a bitch. Yeah, she was a Christian bitch.

688
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,510
Speaker 1: He going to get mad when he see this podcast.

689
00:27:17,590 --> 00:27:19,050
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck. I love you, baby.

690
00:27:19,590 --> 00:27:22,400
Speaker 1: She gave me hell. She called me a welfare queen.

691
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,580
Speaker 1: Somebody had all them children. You know, I was a

692
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,690
Speaker 1: welfare queen. I was getting all kinds of checks and shit.

693
00:27:29,100 --> 00:27:31,220
Speaker 1: And writing checks. I was in the streets. And, you know,

694
00:27:31,270 --> 00:27:32,940
Speaker 1: she went to church every day with her little Jane

695
00:27:32,980 --> 00:27:35,510
Speaker 1: Brown wig on. Praise the Lord. And I was doing

696
00:27:35,530 --> 00:27:38,070
Speaker 1: the opposite. And she just said she never thought I

697
00:27:38,109 --> 00:27:41,610
Speaker 1: was good enough for him. But I'm like, mind your

698
00:27:41,630 --> 00:27:43,290
Speaker 1: fucking business. He like me.

699
00:27:45,810 --> 00:27:47,970
Speaker 2: And so I cussed out a few times.

700
00:27:48,970 --> 00:27:50,470
Speaker 3: What do you think he liked about you?

701
00:27:52,970 --> 00:27:55,470
Speaker 1: I was a real one. I think he liked how

702
00:27:55,890 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 1: strong-minded I was, I guess. You know, I told all

703
00:27:59,060 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 1: his family, fuck off. I told everybody, fuck off.

704
00:28:01,580 --> 00:28:02,980
Speaker 2: He was like, yeah, I like her.

705
00:28:05,300 --> 00:28:07,500
Speaker 1: I mean, I was real, you know, like at the

706
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: time his twin was on drugs and I was like,

707
00:28:10,220 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 1: fuck him. Don't be letting him come up with how

708
00:28:11,820 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 1: he niggas smoke crack. He's like, hold on there, my brother.

709
00:28:13,820 --> 00:28:14,420
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck.

710
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,909
Speaker 1: My sister smoke crack too. And so I think he

711
00:28:17,930 --> 00:28:19,850
Speaker 1: really liked that about me. I was honest.

712
00:28:20,050 --> 00:28:23,570
Speaker 2: What do you credit, I'm looking at Miss American Dream.

713
00:28:24,090 --> 00:28:26,940
Speaker 2: What do you credit like one of your biggest decisions or...

714
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:32,500
Speaker 2: Or just awakenings that shifted your life? Like, are there

715
00:28:32,540 --> 00:28:35,980
Speaker 2: moments that you're like, okay, I'm going to change this

716
00:28:36,100 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 2: or I'm going to do differently here? Like what?

717
00:28:38,510 --> 00:28:41,390
Speaker 1: I think for me, it was learning about finance. Nobody,

718
00:28:41,510 --> 00:28:43,450
Speaker 1: and that's one of the things they don't teach in,

719
00:28:43,950 --> 00:28:47,350
Speaker 1: especially in public black schools. My kids went to all

720
00:28:47,370 --> 00:28:51,270
Speaker 1: white school in Indianapolis and they taught that. But finances,

721
00:28:51,390 --> 00:28:53,690
Speaker 1: interest rate, just talking about, you know, how to live,

722
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:55,860
Speaker 1: how to handle credit. I didn't know anything about credit

723
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,470
Speaker 1: because nobody around me had credit. And so when I

724
00:28:58,510 --> 00:29:00,150
Speaker 1: met my husband, he had a credit card. You know,

725
00:29:00,190 --> 00:29:02,770
Speaker 1: back in the day, I'm from the hood. Everybody had

726
00:29:02,790 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: a rush card, a baby fat card. And, you know,

727
00:29:05,930 --> 00:29:07,620
Speaker 1: you go, you put that little money on there, act

728
00:29:07,660 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: like you spending, you spending your own fucking money.

729
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 4: Yeah.

730
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 2: Ain't no interest rate.

731
00:29:10,860 --> 00:29:12,780
Speaker 1: You just pay them $ 10 and play like you had

732
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:13,300
Speaker 1: a card.

733
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:13,700
Speaker 2: Yeah.

734
00:29:13,940 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 1: And so when I met my husband, he taught me

735
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:21,110
Speaker 1: a lot about finance, interest rate, you know, banking account,

736
00:29:21,270 --> 00:29:22,110
Speaker 1: all of that, you know, all that.

737
00:29:22,380 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 2: I'm a Negro.

738
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: I kept my money in my teeter or in my drawer.

739
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:29,550
Speaker 1: So that changed your life. That did change my life.

740
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:30,110
Speaker 2: It did.

741
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,410
Speaker 1: You know, buying cars, buying houses, all of those things.

742
00:29:34,010 --> 00:29:36,070
Speaker 3: And then the money. Did you learn that before the

743
00:29:36,110 --> 00:29:37,170
Speaker 3: money started coming or at.

744
00:29:37,110 --> 00:29:37,430
Speaker 2: The same time?

745
00:29:37,450 --> 00:29:39,150
Speaker 1: Yeah, I learned that before the money. As I was

746
00:29:39,190 --> 00:29:41,750
Speaker 1: getting out of selling jewelry. drugs and forging checks, you know,

747
00:29:41,790 --> 00:29:43,570
Speaker 1: he was teaching me that stuff. Because I went through

748
00:29:43,590 --> 00:29:46,690
Speaker 1: a lot of money before I became Miss Patty. You know,

749
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: this ain't no new rodeo to me. The only difference

750
00:29:49,860 --> 00:29:52,860
Speaker 1: there is I pay taxes. You know, other things. I

751
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 1: was hiding money. I was a drug dealer. I had

752
00:29:54,860 --> 00:29:55,620
Speaker 1: a lot of money.

753
00:29:55,780 --> 00:29:57,660
Speaker 2: So you were a successful drug dealer.

754
00:29:58,210 --> 00:30:01,690
Speaker 1: Are we successful? Well, I guess if you're still alive,

755
00:30:01,730 --> 00:30:02,650
Speaker 1: you're successful.

756
00:30:02,730 --> 00:30:04,940
Speaker 3: Or if we're talking about financially.

757
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: Well, I made a lot of money selling drugs.

758
00:30:07,060 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 2: I did.

759
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:12,460
Speaker 1: I did. Very early on. I started when I was 16.

760
00:30:12,460 --> 00:30:13,220
Speaker 3: And you stopped when?

761
00:30:13,700 --> 00:30:17,770
Speaker 1: When I met my husband. I was 18, 19. Yeah.

762
00:30:18,050 --> 00:30:19,250
Speaker 3: And he knew that's what you were doing.

763
00:30:19,580 --> 00:30:22,850
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was forging checks too. I was forging checks.

764
00:30:22,870 --> 00:30:25,210
Speaker 1: I was really good at that because it was back

765
00:30:25,230 --> 00:30:27,290
Speaker 1: when you could write it in cursive. People don't even

766
00:30:27,330 --> 00:30:28,570
Speaker 1: know how to write it in cursive anymore. They don't

767
00:30:28,610 --> 00:30:30,130
Speaker 1: even teach that to the kids in school.

768
00:30:30,170 --> 00:30:31,450
Speaker 2: No, they don't. It's crazy.

769
00:30:31,770 --> 00:30:33,370
Speaker 1: They don't. I was talking to a young lady the

770
00:30:33,410 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: other day and I said, well, take my checking number

771
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,280
Speaker 1: to pay something for yourself. And she said, Well, what's

772
00:30:38,300 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: a routing number? I said, y'all motherfuckers ain't going to

773
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 1: make it. Y'all ain't going to make it. You don't

774
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,830
Speaker 1: know a routing number? Account number?

775
00:30:45,850 --> 00:30:47,730
Speaker 3: They know a cash app and an Apple Pay.

776
00:30:47,750 --> 00:30:48,970
Speaker 1: That's all they know.

777
00:30:49,030 --> 00:30:51,290
Speaker 3: That's all they know. That's all they know how to do.

778
00:30:51,590 --> 00:30:52,070
Speaker 1: Hey, guys.

779
00:30:52,090 --> 00:30:55,170
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799
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800
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 2: to learn in this book right here?

801
00:32:05,460 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: A lot of lessons. You know, from finances to the

802
00:32:08,060 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 1: mistakes I made with trying to buy a house, trying

803
00:32:10,540 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: to You know, trying to show other, trying to show out.

804
00:32:14,380 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 1: You know, everybody wanted a house at a time. And

805
00:32:16,900 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 1: I remember buying a house and then I said, well,

806
00:32:18,540 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: I want one bigger because I want to shit these

807
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:23,780
Speaker 1: bitches down. You know, you know how you get. So

808
00:32:24,580 --> 00:32:26,700
Speaker 1: I just, you know, the mistakes I made and I

809
00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:30,300
Speaker 1: hope people learn that. What is your American dream? You know,

810
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:34,260
Speaker 1: all that shit I've been through in life. I realize

811
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:37,550
Speaker 1: my American dream is just happiness. You can't buy what

812
00:32:37,590 --> 00:32:40,060
Speaker 1: I have now. I walk in the house and I

813
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:42,020
Speaker 1: see my family. I take off my wig and I

814
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 1: turn into a real nigga and everybody.

815
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:44,340
Speaker 2: Still love me.

816
00:32:45,140 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 4: Aww.

817
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:47,660
Speaker 2: What is better than that?

818
00:32:48,340 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: Nothing is better than that. And I had to learn that.

819
00:32:51,310 --> 00:32:52,950
Speaker 1: Because when you out here in this world and you

820
00:32:52,970 --> 00:32:56,510
Speaker 1: chasing the things that they say you should have, Or

821
00:32:56,550 --> 00:32:59,190
Speaker 1: you see what other people have and you won't. It's

822
00:32:59,370 --> 00:33:01,770
Speaker 1: easy for you to get caught up. And so I

823
00:33:01,810 --> 00:33:03,850
Speaker 1: had to take a step back and say, what do

824
00:33:03,950 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: I really want? And I went back to my childhood

825
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:09,340
Speaker 1: and remember, all I ever wanted was to be loved.

826
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 1: All I ever wanted was a family. And I realized

827
00:33:13,140 --> 00:33:17,010
Speaker 1: I had it. And I said, OK, I got my

828
00:33:17,050 --> 00:33:17,830
Speaker 1: American dream.

829
00:33:18,110 --> 00:33:19,230
Speaker 3: And just like that, happy?

830
00:33:20,060 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: I've been happy, but I just didn't, I was trying

831
00:33:22,580 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 1: to fulfill, I was too busy trying to fulfill my

832
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: life with materialistic things. You know, the houses, the cars,

833
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:29,460
Speaker 1: the purses, the trips.

834
00:33:29,500 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 2: Or whatever.

835
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:33,220
Speaker 1: And, you know, trying to, you know, American Dream says

836
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:36,820
Speaker 1: a house, a picket fence, white picket fence, and your family. No,

837
00:33:37,420 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: that's dead.

838
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 3: How happy are you on a scale of one to ten?

839
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:44,390
Speaker 1: I'm a ten. Now, because not everybody in the family,

840
00:33:44,430 --> 00:33:45,130
Speaker 1: but I'm a ten.

841
00:33:45,330 --> 00:33:45,750
Speaker 2: Every day?

842
00:33:45,770 --> 00:33:47,550
Speaker 1: Do I cuss them out every day?

843
00:33:47,610 --> 00:33:49,310
Speaker 3: No, are you happy on a ten every day?

844
00:33:49,980 --> 00:33:51,020
Speaker 1: Don't shit get to me.

845
00:33:51,220 --> 00:33:56,810
Speaker 2: I think so. Wow. I'm happy. That is a big thing.

846
00:33:56,830 --> 00:34:00,030
Speaker 1: I don't know a day when I'm not happy. I

847
00:34:00,070 --> 00:34:02,510
Speaker 1: might be fussing about some shit, but I'm happy.

848
00:34:03,210 --> 00:34:04,290
Speaker 3: That's amazing.

849
00:34:04,470 --> 00:34:07,620
Speaker 1: I'm not worried about nothing. I don't need nothing. I

850
00:34:07,630 --> 00:34:08,779
Speaker 1: don't need nobody.

851
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 2: I'm good. I heard you tell Sarah that, Sarah Jakes,

852
00:34:13,060 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 2: that you told God he could give those blessings to

853
00:34:17,140 --> 00:34:17,879
Speaker 2: somebody else.

854
00:34:17,940 --> 00:34:18,040
Speaker 4: Yes.

855
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 1: He's been so good to me.

856
00:34:19,940 --> 00:34:22,259
Speaker 3: I've never heard. My whole life, I don't think I've

857
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:23,460
Speaker 3: ever heard somebody say that.

858
00:34:24,020 --> 00:34:25,739
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people were shocked. But I

859
00:34:25,780 --> 00:34:27,700
Speaker 1: tell God all the time, I say, you've been so good.

860
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:28,950
Speaker 1: You could have never told me I was going to

861
00:34:28,989 --> 00:34:32,690
Speaker 1: live like this legally 20-something years ago. And people are like,

862
00:34:32,730 --> 00:34:35,130
Speaker 1: she can't be that happy. I'm happy. I have a

863
00:34:35,190 --> 00:34:37,190
Speaker 1: man at home that loves me. I have kids at

864
00:34:37,210 --> 00:34:40,150
Speaker 1: home that loves me. I have any and everything I

865
00:34:40,190 --> 00:34:40,970
Speaker 1: need at that house.

866
00:34:40,989 --> 00:34:42,470
Speaker 2: I don't need shit.

867
00:34:42,489 --> 00:34:46,700
Speaker 1: I don't need nothing. Honestly, I go down and I

868
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:50,169
Speaker 1: buy TikToks. Shit off TikTok. Sometimes I just buy shit

869
00:34:50,190 --> 00:34:57,130
Speaker 1: from black people because they black. You're just happy spending money,

870
00:34:57,150 --> 00:34:59,470
Speaker 1: supporting people. Yeah, just supporting people. You know, I go

871
00:34:59,489 --> 00:35:02,820
Speaker 1: to GoFundMe and I just give money sometimes. I never

872
00:35:02,860 --> 00:35:05,820
Speaker 1: say who I am. You know them popcorn them kids

873
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 1: be selling? I go right on their website and I

874
00:35:08,300 --> 00:35:10,219
Speaker 1: don't need no more of them fucking popcorn. But I

875
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:11,620
Speaker 1: go right on there and look for them little black

876
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:15,410
Speaker 1: kids and bam, bam, just buy shit. I'm happy. And

877
00:35:15,489 --> 00:35:18,690
Speaker 1: I hope everybody can reach some type of level of

878
00:35:18,770 --> 00:35:19,890
Speaker 1: happiness in their life.

879
00:35:20,110 --> 00:35:22,150
Speaker 3: People chase that their whole life.

880
00:35:22,550 --> 00:35:24,670
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's right in your damn face. If you

881
00:35:24,710 --> 00:35:28,250
Speaker 1: stop and pay attention, you got it. You got it.

882
00:35:28,430 --> 00:35:31,110
Speaker 1: But you don't take time to really just take a

883
00:35:31,170 --> 00:35:35,950
Speaker 1: deep breath and set in it. Because if you're not

884
00:35:36,030 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 1: realizing it, you're too busy watching what people say happiness

885
00:35:40,660 --> 00:35:45,129
Speaker 1: should be. Everybody happening is different. You know, I can't

886
00:35:45,190 --> 00:35:47,870
Speaker 1: talk for other people who've been married for 30-something years.

887
00:35:47,890 --> 00:35:50,450
Speaker 1: Some people still sleep in the same bed and say

888
00:35:50,469 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: they're happy. I wasn't happy sleeping in the bed with

889
00:35:52,620 --> 00:35:55,100
Speaker 1: my husband. He got gas and he snowed real loud.

890
00:35:55,380 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 1: And I'm scared to sleep with the lights out. I

891
00:35:58,060 --> 00:36:00,320
Speaker 1: like a lamp on. My husband can't sleep with a

892
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:02,700
Speaker 1: lamp on. I said, so we need our own bedrooms

893
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:06,569
Speaker 1: because we got problems here. But, you know, people tell

894
00:36:06,610 --> 00:36:09,670
Speaker 1: me all the time, you sure you happy? I'm happy.

895
00:36:10,290 --> 00:36:13,980
Speaker 1: I don't need shit. I don't need nothing. And I

896
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 1: never thought I would get to this point and say,

897
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm so fucking bored. I'm redoing my house.

898
00:36:21,050 --> 00:36:22,270
Speaker 2: Happy redoing your house.

899
00:36:22,290 --> 00:36:24,730
Speaker 1: I'm happy redoing it. I built it three years ago.

900
00:36:25,250 --> 00:36:28,029
Speaker 2: So would you say like a part of that key, though,

901
00:36:28,070 --> 00:36:33,339
Speaker 2: is like that you identified, you identified the thing. that

902
00:36:33,420 --> 00:36:36,540
Speaker 2: you named as what would make me happy, right?

903
00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:37,720
Speaker 3: Because sometimes we don't even do that.

904
00:36:37,780 --> 00:36:39,790
Speaker 2: Like you said, you could have it already, but you're

905
00:36:39,810 --> 00:36:44,109
Speaker 2: not even self-aware enough to know what is the end.

906
00:36:44,030 --> 00:36:46,969
Speaker 3: Goal for you here. So you identified, okay, all I

907
00:36:46,989 --> 00:36:48,299
Speaker 3: ever wanted was to be loved as a kid.

908
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: All I ever wanted to be loved. And all I

909
00:36:49,700 --> 00:36:50,740
Speaker 1: ever wanted was a family.

910
00:36:51,110 --> 00:36:54,050
Speaker 2: So do you think that that's the beginning? Like identifying

911
00:36:54,330 --> 00:36:55,590
Speaker 2: what is the thing that makes you happy? It was

912
00:36:55,610 --> 00:36:57,790
Speaker 2: for me. It was for me. And then looking around

913
00:36:57,810 --> 00:37:00,010
Speaker 2: and realizing, oh shit, I already have that. I already

914
00:37:00,030 --> 00:37:00,690
Speaker 2: have it. Yeah.

915
00:37:00,790 --> 00:37:03,089
Speaker 1: You know, when I go on vacation, I take like

916
00:37:03,110 --> 00:37:05,010
Speaker 1: 20-something people. I'm like, why you bring all these motherfucking

917
00:37:05,050 --> 00:37:08,770
Speaker 1: people to you? Because I want to give them that experience.

918
00:37:09,070 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 1: And I never participate in anything I do on vacation.

919
00:37:11,820 --> 00:37:13,570
Speaker 1: I just sit back and watch other people do it.

920
00:37:13,860 --> 00:37:15,800
Speaker 1: And things like that really makes me happy.

921
00:37:15,820 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 4: Right.

922
00:37:16,350 --> 00:37:18,410
Speaker 1: To watch my kids get to do things that I

923
00:37:18,489 --> 00:37:20,569
Speaker 1: never in my life got to do. We went to

924
00:37:20,610 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: Japan this year. And we just ran through the streets

925
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 1: of Japan like black folks. And we ate in them

926
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 1: small restaurants. And we had a ball.

927
00:37:28,700 --> 00:37:31,620
Speaker 2: I love Japan. Yes, it's beautiful.

928
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 1: It's the food is good. The people is good. And,

929
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:36,330
Speaker 1: you know, just seeing my kids on that plane, getting

930
00:37:36,350 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 1: that experience, that made me happy. And I take them

931
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:42,189
Speaker 1: to Disney. I take them wherever. They say, why don't

932
00:37:42,210 --> 00:37:45,189
Speaker 1: you ever get on the roller coaster? When I see

933
00:37:45,250 --> 00:37:47,930
Speaker 1: you smiling and you're happy, I'm happy.

934
00:37:47,989 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 2: Yeah.

935
00:37:49,380 --> 00:37:49,660
Speaker 4: Wow.

936
00:37:49,900 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 1: So just spending time with my family, doing the things

937
00:37:52,140 --> 00:37:54,820
Speaker 1: that I love to do, I mean, makes me happy.

938
00:37:55,260 --> 00:37:56,620
Speaker 1: You know, I go out here and I tell these

939
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:58,950
Speaker 1: jokes so I can, hopefully, I can make other people

940
00:37:58,989 --> 00:38:01,489
Speaker 1: smile and make them happy. But when I walk in

941
00:38:01,510 --> 00:38:04,270
Speaker 1: that house and I pull off this wig, baby, it's

942
00:38:04,350 --> 00:38:07,350
Speaker 1: on and popping. I tell my son, boy, unbuckle my bra.

943
00:38:09,430 --> 00:38:11,370
Speaker 1: I drop that bitch in the floor, them kids grab

944
00:38:11,390 --> 00:38:13,589
Speaker 1: it and take it to the dirty clothes. It fill

945
00:38:13,610 --> 00:38:15,990
Speaker 1: up the whole hamper. But I'm happy.

946
00:38:18,190 --> 00:38:19,790
Speaker 2: You're doing better than most people then.

947
00:38:19,810 --> 00:38:22,030
Speaker 3: There's a lot of unhappy people in the world.

948
00:38:22,150 --> 00:38:24,510
Speaker 1: It is. And you know, I didn't realize how many

949
00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 1: people in this business that you meet that's like with

950
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:31,859
Speaker 1: low self-esteem and just not happy. I'm like, well, God, damn.

951
00:38:32,020 --> 00:38:35,580
Speaker 2: Does that really surprise you in the entertainment world that

952
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:36,580
Speaker 2: people be unhappy?

953
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 1: Because if you're on the outside looking in, you hear

954
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:42,820
Speaker 1: people say, I want a relationship like this person. I

955
00:38:42,860 --> 00:38:44,420
Speaker 1: want a relationship. But you don't know what's going on

956
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 1: in that fucking house. Then when I got into this bed,

957
00:38:47,420 --> 00:38:50,860
Speaker 1: I'm like, you got low self-esteem. You such and such.

958
00:38:51,340 --> 00:38:52,820
Speaker 1: That was shocking to me.

959
00:38:52,860 --> 00:38:53,140
Speaker 4: Wow.

960
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,460
Speaker 2: I was like, how the fuck do this person have

961
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:56,219
Speaker 2: low self-esteem?

962
00:38:56,260 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 1: The world loves them.

963
00:38:59,460 --> 00:39:01,089
Speaker 3: And you don't have that problem.

964
00:39:01,340 --> 00:39:02,779
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck what people think about me.

965
00:39:03,630 --> 00:39:06,819
Speaker 2: What do you think about yourself? I'm fat and I'm

966
00:39:06,860 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 2: going to eat when I leave here. No, but you

967
00:39:10,460 --> 00:39:12,140
Speaker 2: got to be proud of yourself. I mean, I am

968
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:12,820
Speaker 2: proud of myself.

969
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 1: I tell people all the time, when you can walk

970
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:18,029
Speaker 1: in the shoes that I've walked in, then you understand

971
00:39:18,110 --> 00:39:20,270
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, why I say the things I say.

972
00:39:20,610 --> 00:39:22,290
Speaker 1: When people come on my page talking that shit, I say,

973
00:39:22,310 --> 00:39:25,790
Speaker 1: you can politely kiss my ass from the back, from

974
00:39:25,830 --> 00:39:29,790
Speaker 1: the front, because it'll go that long sometime. So I don't,

975
00:39:29,890 --> 00:39:32,740
Speaker 1: you know, my assistants always say, stay out the comments.

976
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: Those comments don't bother me no more. I don't care

977
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,370
Speaker 1: what people think about me. You know why? Because I

978
00:39:37,430 --> 00:39:40,029
Speaker 1: learned to love myself. So it ain't shit you can

979
00:39:40,090 --> 00:39:43,860
Speaker 1: say about me that I have not already said about myself.

980
00:39:44,500 --> 00:39:45,299
Speaker 2: I'm confident.

981
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: I know who I am. I know what I want

982
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 1: to do. And I know where the fuck I'm going.

983
00:39:49,500 --> 00:39:51,870
Speaker 1: And it does not include you. So you take your

984
00:39:51,930 --> 00:39:54,730
Speaker 1: shitty ass opinion and you go clock back in at

985
00:39:54,750 --> 00:39:57,590
Speaker 1: your shitty ass job. You miserable bitch.

986
00:40:02,989 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 2: Why would anybody even try you in the car? They

987
00:40:05,140 --> 00:40:05,859
Speaker 2: try me all the time.

988
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 1: Why would they try you?

989
00:40:07,460 --> 00:40:08,020
Speaker 2: I don't know.

990
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:09,820
Speaker 1: Why would they do that? Somebody asked me, what do

991
00:40:09,860 --> 00:40:11,779
Speaker 1: you think about, Lord, I shouldn't even say that. What

992
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:13,540
Speaker 1: do you think about what Judge Judy said? And all

993
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 1: I said was Judge Judy is, I don't know, fuck

994
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:18,399
Speaker 1: wrong hurts. I mean, how can you say things like

995
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:20,320
Speaker 1: America's been good to you?

996
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:21,300
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, so stupid.

997
00:40:21,460 --> 00:40:23,340
Speaker 1: It was so fucking stupid when so many people out

998
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 1: here are struggling.

999
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 2: That's somebody who's not in the right world. They're in

1000
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: their own bubble. They never stepped outside.

1001
00:40:31,450 --> 00:40:34,370
Speaker 1: And they don't know anybody that's struggling. All your friends

1002
00:40:34,410 --> 00:40:37,610
Speaker 1: probably have brownstones. Well, some of my friends are being evicted.

1003
00:40:37,650 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 1: Some of my friends are calling me for help. You

1004
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:41,819
Speaker 1: don't have those types of friends. So how can you

1005
00:40:41,860 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 1: say America has only been good to you? It ain't

1006
00:40:44,700 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: been good to everybody. You know why you say that?

1007
00:40:47,180 --> 00:40:48,940
Speaker 2: If you don't like it, you can get out of it.

1008
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:50,220
Speaker 1: Well, bitch, you ain't from here.

1009
00:40:50,260 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 2: So you can't criticize or you can't point out the

1010
00:40:52,620 --> 00:40:55,310
Speaker 2: injustice and all the things that are wrong with this country?

1011
00:40:55,350 --> 00:40:56,070
Speaker 2: She's ridiculous.

1012
00:40:56,090 --> 00:40:57,830
Speaker 1: Because those people don't have no injustice.

1013
00:40:58,590 --> 00:40:58,760
Speaker 4: Oh, God.

1014
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:00,819
Speaker 3: There's stupid people out here.

1015
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 2: What are you going to do?

1016
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:02,860
Speaker 1: There's stupid people out here, but there's nothing, you know,

1017
00:41:02,900 --> 00:41:04,379
Speaker 1: and people are like, oh, are you wrong for saying?

1018
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: I'm not wrong for saying because I know those people.

1019
00:41:07,020 --> 00:41:11,540
Speaker 1: And when you fuck up the economy, gas prices are $ 6.

1020
00:41:10,460 --> 00:41:13,610
Speaker 1: I'm in Atlanta, gas price was $ 5 for regular, definitely

1021
00:41:13,610 --> 00:41:15,790
Speaker 1: $ 5 for regular when I left this week. So I

1022
00:41:15,830 --> 00:41:18,190
Speaker 1: can imagine what my friends who have a nine to

1023
00:41:18,230 --> 00:41:19,149
Speaker 1: five is going through.

1024
00:41:19,310 --> 00:41:19,570
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1025
00:41:19,910 --> 00:41:21,670
Speaker 3: No, it's real. It's tough for a lot of people.

1026
00:41:22,310 --> 00:41:22,549
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1027
00:41:22,570 --> 00:41:24,090
Speaker 3: A lot of people struggling and not happy.

1028
00:41:24,660 --> 00:41:25,450
Speaker 1: And not happy.

1029
00:41:25,469 --> 00:41:26,230
Speaker 4: No. Yeah.

1030
00:41:26,250 --> 00:41:27,830
Speaker 1: I mean, when you got to go back to buying

1031
00:41:27,870 --> 00:41:31,190
Speaker 1: sunbeam bread, that's a fucking problem. You ever had sunbeam?

1032
00:41:31,210 --> 00:41:32,650
Speaker 1: That shit stick to the top of your mouth. You

1033
00:41:32,670 --> 00:41:34,830
Speaker 1: try to swallow, girl, it's like you got two dicks

1034
00:41:34,890 --> 00:41:36,390
Speaker 1: in your mouth. Ain't nothing going down.

1035
00:41:36,730 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 2: Why would you ever have two dicks in your mouth?

1036
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 1: I'm just saying. I like how you always come back

1037
00:41:41,900 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 1: with a question. Stop asking me questions and just get

1038
00:41:46,260 --> 00:41:53,230
Speaker 1: the visual. It's my job. I got questions.

1039
00:41:54,310 --> 00:41:57,950
Speaker 2: I got a bad question. I don't know.

1040
00:41:58,260 --> 00:42:01,320
Speaker 1: I was just trying to think of something thick.

1041
00:42:01,460 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 2: And here I go.

1042
00:42:02,820 --> 00:42:03,500
Speaker 1: And why?

1043
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 2: And what would the occasion be that you.

1044
00:42:06,500 --> 00:42:08,540
Speaker 1: Would want to have two dicks in your mouth? When

1045
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:10,379
Speaker 1: you need your rent paid, gas is hot.

1046
00:42:13,810 --> 00:42:14,230
Speaker 2: Okay.

1047
00:42:14,489 --> 00:42:16,510
Speaker 3: There you have it on IRL. That is a question

1048
00:42:16,550 --> 00:42:18,810
Speaker 3: I never asked on IRL today. We'll have a lot

1049
00:42:18,850 --> 00:42:20,770
Speaker 3: of firsts today with Ms.

1050
00:42:20,830 --> 00:42:23,140
Speaker 1: Pat. Well, you never had Ms. Pat. That's why you

1051
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:24,109
Speaker 1: got a lot of firsts.

1052
00:42:24,219 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 2: I know.

1053
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 3: I'll take it.

1054
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: Your cameraman back there so serious. You look like he

1055
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 1: had a crime scene the way he back there looking

1056
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:31,020
Speaker 1: at that fucking camera.

1057
00:42:33,180 --> 00:42:35,020
Speaker 3: You got my sound man all flustered.

1058
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: Oh, he was sweating, baby. He touched that. He was

1059
00:42:37,260 --> 00:42:39,450
Speaker 1: on the titty with no nipple, too. So he just

1060
00:42:39,469 --> 00:42:42,470
Speaker 1: started shaking. He was shaking like this fucking boot so hard.

1061
00:42:42,770 --> 00:42:44,630
Speaker 1: He punched my damn titty. I was like, what are

1062
00:42:44,650 --> 00:42:47,930
Speaker 1: you doing, sound man? But they were soft, right? Because

1063
00:42:47,989 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: I didn't buy them.

1064
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 2: They were soft? They were soft.

1065
00:42:49,900 --> 00:42:52,799
Speaker 1: These are food stamp titties, baby. These titties were built

1066
00:42:52,900 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: off a welfare system. You ain't never got rid of

1067
00:42:59,060 --> 00:43:00,529
Speaker 1: my sucking no glue in these titties.

1068
00:43:01,510 --> 00:43:05,410
Speaker 2: Oh, my God. Okay, what are we going to go

1069
00:43:05,430 --> 00:43:07,550
Speaker 2: to now? I have so many in real life questions

1070
00:43:07,590 --> 00:43:10,070
Speaker 2: for you, Pat. How can I ask you a serious question?

1071
00:43:10,530 --> 00:43:12,010
Speaker 1: Ask it.

1072
00:43:12,110 --> 00:43:13,010
Speaker 2: And see what happens.

1073
00:43:17,090 --> 00:43:18,589
Speaker 1: No question is serious to me.

1074
00:43:18,770 --> 00:43:23,969
Speaker 2: I know. Nothing's ever serious. You never wake up in

1075
00:43:24,010 --> 00:43:27,210
Speaker 2: a mood? Yeah, because I do have mood swings. Okay,

1076
00:43:27,230 --> 00:43:29,130
Speaker 2: but you don't feel like being funny? Don't fuck with me.

1077
00:43:29,450 --> 00:43:30,529
Speaker 3: Okay, don't fuck with me.

1078
00:43:30,590 --> 00:43:32,490
Speaker 1: But I still find it funny, ain't it? But you're

1079
00:43:32,510 --> 00:43:35,359
Speaker 1: still going to crack a joke. Somewhere in between, somehow,

1080
00:43:35,380 --> 00:43:36,819
Speaker 1: I'm going to crack a joke. But yeah, I have

1081
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: mood swings. I'll be a bitch someday. But that be

1082
00:43:38,980 --> 00:43:41,660
Speaker 1: that menopause. Don't fuck with me. Menopause is on and

1083
00:43:41,700 --> 00:43:43,060
Speaker 1: popping today.

1084
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 2: So your family probably don't know what to do with

1085
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:47,580
Speaker 2: you when you're not... Like, they probably would worry about

1086
00:43:47,620 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 2: you if you woke up and you wasn't being funny. Like,

1087
00:43:49,620 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 2: you was.

1088
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:52,870
Speaker 1: No, my family don't see me as being funny. This

1089
00:43:52,950 --> 00:43:54,790
Speaker 1: is just the person that they live with. This is

1090
00:43:54,810 --> 00:43:55,470
Speaker 1: just mama.

1091
00:43:55,510 --> 00:43:56,450
Speaker 3: They don't think you're funny?

1092
00:43:56,469 --> 00:43:59,130
Speaker 1: I don't think they think I'm funny like you do.

1093
00:43:59,150 --> 00:44:01,469
Speaker 1: They laugh, but my family is funny.

1094
00:44:01,270 --> 00:44:02,370
Speaker 2: As hell, too. Oh, got it.

1095
00:44:02,390 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 1: So we all sit around the table and talk about

1096
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 1: each other. But when I'm in a mood or I'm

1097
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:10,009
Speaker 1: having a mood swing... My husband was like, take your

1098
00:44:10,030 --> 00:44:11,870
Speaker 1: crazy ass to your room. Don't get fucked out of

1099
00:44:11,890 --> 00:44:14,910
Speaker 1: my room. Take your crazy ass to your room.

1100
00:44:14,989 --> 00:44:15,410
Speaker 2: And you go?

1101
00:44:15,670 --> 00:44:17,890
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, and people, when you've been around me

1102
00:44:17,930 --> 00:44:20,689
Speaker 1: long enough, you kind of know when my menopause is fucking.

1103
00:44:20,710 --> 00:44:22,770
Speaker 1: Even my sister, she'd be like, she crazy right now.

1104
00:44:23,190 --> 00:44:23,890
Speaker 1: I'll be back.

1105
00:44:24,350 --> 00:44:28,710
Speaker 2: That means you got a good crew.

1106
00:44:28,730 --> 00:44:29,670
Speaker 3: You got a good crew around.

1107
00:44:29,690 --> 00:44:32,030
Speaker 2: Yeah. Hey guys, you ever sign up for a phone

1108
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Speaker 2: questions in here. Wait, what was that?

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Speaker 1: Why you made that face? What's your favorite thing about

1126
00:45:28,510 --> 00:45:31,150
Speaker 1: being your age? Oh, that's a good question. I can

1127
00:45:31,230 --> 00:45:33,750
Speaker 1: answer that one. You know my favorite thing about being

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00:45:33,790 --> 00:45:36,009
Speaker 1: my age is I have a lot of gas and

1129
00:45:36,070 --> 00:45:39,009
Speaker 1: it just come out. It's silent and it don't smell,

1130
00:45:39,050 --> 00:45:41,069
Speaker 1: but I fart all the time and I don't give

1131
00:45:41,090 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: a fuck.

1132
00:45:41,660 --> 00:45:42,470
Speaker 3: And you like it?

1133
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:47,020
Speaker 1: Well, yeah. If God were to text you right now, what?

1134
00:45:49,340 --> 00:45:50,240
Speaker 3: That's my favorite question.

1135
00:45:50,500 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 1: If God were to text me right now, he'll probably say, See,

1136
00:45:54,660 --> 00:45:56,970
Speaker 1: I told your ass to take them kids. Look what

1137
00:45:57,010 --> 00:46:00,230
Speaker 1: I done for you. I have to tell you this story.

1138
00:46:00,250 --> 00:46:02,609
Speaker 1: So right after I agreed, I said, okay, God, because

1139
00:46:02,670 --> 00:46:05,350
Speaker 1: I had this whole conversation that back and forth with

1140
00:46:05,370 --> 00:46:07,610
Speaker 1: God about taking these new kids that I have because

1141
00:46:07,650 --> 00:46:12,010
Speaker 1: I already had kids. And I cleaned my own house.

1142
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:15,900
Speaker 1: And I was cleaning my girl's bathroom one day. And

1143
00:46:15,940 --> 00:46:18,359
Speaker 1: I see my manager, my agent, blowing up my house.

1144
00:46:18,380 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: What the fuck they want? I'm trying to clean my

1145
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:23,280
Speaker 1: goddamn house. So I answer the phone and they all,

1146
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:26,660
Speaker 1: whenever lawyers and managers them calling you, they got something

1147
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:28,879
Speaker 1: for you. It's either good or bad. So I said, yeah,

1148
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:30,830
Speaker 1: what y'all want? And they was like, well, we want

1149
00:46:30,850 --> 00:46:33,690
Speaker 1: to tell you, you know, VH1 want to offer you

1150
00:46:33,730 --> 00:46:36,009
Speaker 1: a new show. And I said, a new show? And

1151
00:46:36,030 --> 00:46:37,910
Speaker 1: they was like, they told me what the money was.

1152
00:46:37,930 --> 00:46:38,730
Speaker 1: And they like, do you want?

1153
00:46:38,770 --> 00:46:39,589
Speaker 2: I was like, hell yeah.

1154
00:46:39,630 --> 00:46:42,270
Speaker 1: It's coming out on VH1. It's called Americans Funniest People.

1155
00:46:42,489 --> 00:46:42,779
Speaker 4: Oh, yes.

1156
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:44,700
Speaker 1: And that was two weeks after I got them kids.

1157
00:46:44,739 --> 00:46:47,069
Speaker 1: And I remember sending them. with that damn rag in

1158
00:46:47,140 --> 00:46:49,859
Speaker 1: my hand, cleaning with my gloves on, cleaning the toilet.

1159
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:51,740
Speaker 1: And I looked at the one and I said, God,

1160
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 1: you play too fucking much. Because that was God way

1161
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 1: of saying, you did what I asked you to do.

1162
00:46:58,120 --> 00:46:59,540
Speaker 1: And I told you, as long as you do what

1163
00:46:59,580 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 1: I asked you to do, I will provide for you.

1164
00:47:02,180 --> 00:47:05,190
Speaker 1: I didn't ask for a whole nother show. I did.

1165
00:47:05,989 --> 00:47:08,330
Speaker 1: And God was like, since you did what I told

1166
00:47:08,350 --> 00:47:10,910
Speaker 1: you to do, I'm going to always keep you working.

1167
00:47:11,190 --> 00:47:12,649
Speaker 1: And I just looked at it and it was just,

1168
00:47:12,790 --> 00:47:15,629
Speaker 1: it was like at the right moment. And I said, God,

1169
00:47:15,650 --> 00:47:17,790
Speaker 1: you play too damn much. And I went back to

1170
00:47:17,810 --> 00:47:18,670
Speaker 1: cleaning the toilet.

1171
00:47:20,390 --> 00:47:21,370
Speaker 2: But you knew what it was.

1172
00:47:21,650 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 1: I knew it was because I obeyed when he said,

1173
00:47:24,180 --> 00:47:25,900
Speaker 1: go get those kids. And it was six of them.

1174
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:27,660
Speaker 1: I couldn't get all six. I ended up getting three,

1175
00:47:27,900 --> 00:47:30,580
Speaker 1: three girls. And he said, you did what I asked

1176
00:47:30,620 --> 00:47:31,020
Speaker 1: you to do.

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00:47:31,340 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 4: Wow.

1178
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,259
Speaker 3: How do you know when you hear him? How do

1179
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:34,540
Speaker 3: you know?

1180
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:36,520
Speaker 1: It's a voice. And I've heard it for years. When

1181
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 1: I used to sell dope, right, and I would sit

1182
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:41,910
Speaker 1: on the corner and sometimes my mind would say, get

1183
00:47:41,950 --> 00:47:43,730
Speaker 1: up and move. And I would be still sitting there

1184
00:47:43,750 --> 00:47:45,630
Speaker 1: and the voice would say, get the fuck up and move.

1185
00:47:45,910 --> 00:47:47,910
Speaker 1: And I would get up and take off running. And

1186
00:47:48,130 --> 00:47:50,810
Speaker 1: in the house behind me would get buzzed. At one point,

1187
00:47:50,830 --> 00:47:53,470
Speaker 1: people thought I was a snitch. But I wasn't a snitch.

1188
00:47:53,630 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 1: God would always tell me when to move. When I

1189
00:47:55,739 --> 00:47:57,859
Speaker 1: got shot in the titty and the ball was shooting

1190
00:47:57,900 --> 00:47:59,980
Speaker 1: at me and I felt all of those bullets going

1191
00:48:00,020 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 1: by my head. And I remember I said, Lord, I said,

1192
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: my kids is all I got. Don't let me get killed.

1193
00:48:05,580 --> 00:48:08,279
Speaker 1: And God said, stop. And I reached my hand up

1194
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,180
Speaker 1: to the door and the bullet went up on my

1195
00:48:10,300 --> 00:48:13,510
Speaker 1: arm and shot my areola off. Had I kept going,

1196
00:48:13,630 --> 00:48:15,129
Speaker 1: I would have got shot in the head. I felt

1197
00:48:15,190 --> 00:48:16,710
Speaker 1: those bullets going by my head.

1198
00:48:16,989 --> 00:48:17,350
Speaker 4: Wow.

1199
00:48:17,590 --> 00:48:19,910
Speaker 1: So it's a voice. I've heard it for years.

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00:48:20,050 --> 00:48:21,050
Speaker 3: Like a clear voice.

1201
00:48:21,110 --> 00:48:25,299
Speaker 1: It's a clear voice. It's raspy. I want to say

1202
00:48:25,340 --> 00:48:27,420
Speaker 1: it's a man, but hell, I'm a girl and I

1203
00:48:27,460 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 1: got a raspy-ass voice, so I don't know what it is.

1204
00:48:30,380 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: But I hear it a lot. Wow. I hear it

1205
00:48:34,140 --> 00:48:34,439
Speaker 1: a lot.

1206
00:48:34,780 --> 00:48:37,239
Speaker 2: Well, it's no wonder that you've made it through some

1207
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:38,620
Speaker 2: of the things that you've made it through.

1208
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:40,649
Speaker 1: I never said I didn't have an angel.

1209
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:42,460
Speaker 3: No, I know.

1210
00:48:42,540 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 2: But, you know, it's like there's something you it's not

1211
00:48:44,580 --> 00:48:47,620
Speaker 2: because it's not it's not a typical experience. It's like

1212
00:48:47,820 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 2: you can't write this. You couldn't write that script in somebody.

1213
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,680
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like it's it's really, you know,

1214
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:56,589
Speaker 2: we joke and stuff, but it's really unbelievable what you've

1215
00:48:56,739 --> 00:48:59,250
Speaker 2: how you've been able to turn your life around.

1216
00:48:59,270 --> 00:49:01,089
Speaker 1: People ask me all the time, like, you're not angry.

1217
00:49:01,110 --> 00:49:03,390
Speaker 1: A lot of people be angry. There's nothing to be

1218
00:49:03,510 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: angry about. You know, especially when you have forgiven the

1219
00:49:07,219 --> 00:49:09,360
Speaker 1: people that you felt like have done wrong. And also,

1220
00:49:09,460 --> 00:49:11,580
Speaker 1: I realized from writing my first book that I was

1221
00:49:11,660 --> 00:49:16,380
Speaker 1: born in a generation of curse. High school dropout, teenage pregnant, alcoholism, drugs.

1222
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,940
Speaker 1: I realized that had just been going through my family

1223
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:22,340
Speaker 1: from generation after generation. When it got to me, I

1224
00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:24,379
Speaker 1: was like, no, y'all ain't going to be molesting my daughter.

1225
00:49:24,620 --> 00:49:26,279
Speaker 1: Y'all ain't going to be doing this. My kids ain't

1226
00:49:26,300 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 1: going to drop out. So my daughter was the first

1227
00:49:29,420 --> 00:49:32,910
Speaker 1: child to graduate. Her and my niece, the first kids

1228
00:49:32,930 --> 00:49:35,049
Speaker 1: to graduate in my family, three generations, and the first

1229
00:49:35,130 --> 00:49:36,190
Speaker 1: one to ever go to college.

1230
00:49:36,270 --> 00:49:36,570
Speaker 4: Wow.

1231
00:49:37,460 --> 00:49:39,460
Speaker 1: So, but yeah, it's a voice. It's a voice that

1232
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:41,239
Speaker 1: I hear. And I don't really like to say it

1233
00:49:41,260 --> 00:49:43,250
Speaker 1: out loud because people are going to start thinking I'm crazy.

1234
00:49:43,330 --> 00:49:45,370
Speaker 3: No, you're not the first person to share that.

1235
00:49:45,630 --> 00:49:45,870
Speaker 1: Yes.

1236
00:49:45,910 --> 00:49:49,009
Speaker 2: I'm always fascinated about that because I feel connected, but

1237
00:49:49,030 --> 00:49:50,209
Speaker 2: I don't hear a clear voice.

1238
00:49:50,230 --> 00:49:51,350
Speaker 1: Because you're not listening.

1239
00:49:51,670 --> 00:49:52,390
Speaker 3: Is that what it is?

1240
00:49:52,530 --> 00:49:55,049
Speaker 1: You might not be listening. Because sometimes when I first

1241
00:49:55,070 --> 00:49:56,490
Speaker 1: started hearing it. Sometimes I'd be like, is that my

1242
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:58,220
Speaker 1: own voice? Yes.

1243
00:49:58,340 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 2: I'd be trying to separate what I think I'm hearing, but.

1244
00:50:01,580 --> 00:50:02,140
Speaker 1: It's not clear.

1245
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:04,020
Speaker 2: And then I'll tell you another incident.

1246
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:04,700
Speaker 1: I know we got to go.

1247
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:05,140
Speaker 2: No, no.

1248
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 1: I remember when I shot the pilot for the Miss

1249
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 1: Pat show, right? And we was killing it. It was

1250
00:50:10,219 --> 00:50:12,920
Speaker 1: on Fox Live. It's Lee Daniel and Ron Howard show, right?

1251
00:50:13,260 --> 00:50:15,140
Speaker 1: And we on Fox Live. And it was so many

1252
00:50:15,180 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 1: people that came out to see. We had an overflow room.

1253
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:20,380
Speaker 2: And during the rehearsal.

1254
00:50:20,900 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 1: the big guy from Hulu walk in and my spirit,

1255
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:25,540
Speaker 1: when I don't, when I, when I walk into a

1256
00:50:25,620 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: room and if your spirit rattles, I get the fuck on. Oh,

1257
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:31,700
Speaker 1: I tell my sister, that motherfucker right there. I ain't right.

1258
00:50:32,260 --> 00:50:35,029
Speaker 1: I said, I can tell if you like me, I

1259
00:50:35,050 --> 00:50:37,129
Speaker 1: can tell when I walk into a room, I can

1260
00:50:37,170 --> 00:50:39,210
Speaker 1: feel the spirit. And if it's a spirit in that

1261
00:50:39,270 --> 00:50:42,110
Speaker 1: bitch fight, I, I actually, I started talking to you like,

1262
00:50:42,130 --> 00:50:43,910
Speaker 1: what the fuck going on with you? Oh, I stay

1263
00:50:43,930 --> 00:50:46,229
Speaker 1: the fuck away from you. Make a long story short.

1264
00:50:46,550 --> 00:50:48,870
Speaker 1: We shoot the pilot. And as we shooting the pilot,

1265
00:50:48,930 --> 00:50:51,700
Speaker 1: you know, I'm a comedian. I'm no actor. And it's

1266
00:50:51,760 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: about school shooting and shit. And we killing it that night.

1267
00:50:55,560 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 1: I shot that first. We shot that first show because

1268
00:50:58,140 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 1: we shot two shows that night. God told me, he said,

1269
00:51:01,580 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 1: Hulu is not going to pick up your pilot. So

1270
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:06,480
Speaker 1: I went to Debbie Allen and I went to my creator,

1271
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:08,660
Speaker 1: Jordanie Cooper. I said, I just want y'all to know

1272
00:51:09,260 --> 00:51:11,580
Speaker 1: that God told me that Hulu is not going to

1273
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:13,420
Speaker 1: pick up the pilot. And they was like, what are

1274
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:16,540
Speaker 1: you talking about? We killing it. I said, I don't care.

1275
00:51:17,020 --> 00:51:19,469
Speaker 1: That man of Hulu don't like it. So I sent

1276
00:51:20,370 --> 00:51:22,070
Speaker 1: my friend back there. I said, go back there and

1277
00:51:22,090 --> 00:51:24,580
Speaker 1: see if he laughing. He wasn't laughing at shit. God

1278
00:51:24,660 --> 00:51:27,420
Speaker 1: told me on that floor before I shot that second

1279
00:51:27,540 --> 00:51:31,180
Speaker 1: episode that Hulu was not going to pick up that show.

1280
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,020
Speaker 1: And Hulu did not pick up that fucking show.

1281
00:51:34,060 --> 00:51:34,690
Speaker 2: They dropped it.

1282
00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:37,859
Speaker 1: I was in Raleigh, North Carolina, Valentine's Day when Lee

1283
00:51:37,890 --> 00:51:40,830
Speaker 1: Daniel called me and told me Hulu said the show

1284
00:51:40,870 --> 00:51:44,650
Speaker 1: wasn't good enough for their network. But he also told

1285
00:51:44,690 --> 00:51:47,859
Speaker 1: me When he told me that night, I said, that's fine, Lee.

1286
00:51:47,910 --> 00:51:49,290
Speaker 1: I got to go. I got to go get on stage.

1287
00:51:49,730 --> 00:51:52,150
Speaker 1: I never felt like it wasn't going to get picked up.

1288
00:51:52,469 --> 00:51:54,250
Speaker 1: I knew it was going to get picked up. I

1289
00:51:54,290 --> 00:51:57,150
Speaker 1: just didn't know where. Not even a month later, Lee

1290
00:51:57,190 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 1: Collins said, BET Plus ordered 10 episodes. I said, what

1291
00:52:01,700 --> 00:52:06,360
Speaker 1: the fuck is BET Plus? Because I didn't watch BET.

1292
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 1: And I remember my friend said, my co-creator said, well,

1293
00:52:09,500 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 1: we're going to go over there to die. Nobody's over

1294
00:52:11,180 --> 00:52:13,190
Speaker 1: at BET Plus. I said, one thing I know about life,

1295
00:52:13,739 --> 00:52:16,299
Speaker 1: two things that never had a commercial is cracking Waffle House.

1296
00:52:16,380 --> 00:52:18,860
Speaker 1: If we create that, we're going to win. And we

1297
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:21,830
Speaker 1: in our sixth season. But God told me, God, and

1298
00:52:21,870 --> 00:52:24,969
Speaker 1: you know what's crazy? I've been nominated for an Emmy

1299
00:52:25,050 --> 00:52:27,630
Speaker 1: four times for that show. Never won. Thank God we

1300
00:52:27,650 --> 00:52:29,630
Speaker 1: got nominated. You know, I'm not a trophy hoe. I

1301
00:52:29,650 --> 00:52:31,660
Speaker 1: don't care about no trophy. I care about the checks clear.

1302
00:52:32,260 --> 00:52:35,029
Speaker 1: Every time, We go to the Emmy. I see the

1303
00:52:35,070 --> 00:52:37,290
Speaker 1: man who dropped the Miss Pat show. The who the man?

1304
00:52:37,590 --> 00:52:40,190
Speaker 1: Guess what he was sitting at this year? Behind me.

1305
00:52:41,050 --> 00:52:41,310
Speaker 2: Oh.

1306
00:52:42,030 --> 00:52:45,410
Speaker 1: And we still didn't win. But every time I see

1307
00:52:45,450 --> 00:52:47,650
Speaker 1: that man, and usually I speak.

1308
00:52:48,010 --> 00:52:48,690
Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.

1309
00:52:49,650 --> 00:52:51,850
Speaker 1: But it's just God saying, I'm going to continue to

1310
00:52:51,910 --> 00:52:54,790
Speaker 1: keep bringing you here. And, you know, I would never

1311
00:52:54,830 --> 00:52:57,629
Speaker 1: let this person forget or show the heat that could

1312
00:52:57,650 --> 00:52:58,950
Speaker 1: have been big for their network.

1313
00:52:58,969 --> 00:52:59,189
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

1314
00:52:59,230 --> 00:53:01,180
Speaker 1: Because why is he the first motherfucker I see every

1315
00:53:01,219 --> 00:53:02,070
Speaker 1: time I go to the Emmys?

1316
00:53:02,300 --> 00:53:02,450
Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.

1317
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:04,980
Speaker 2: Every time. I've been four times.

1318
00:53:06,120 --> 00:53:06,780
Speaker 3: No, that's wild.

1319
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:08,800
Speaker 1: And this time he was sitting behind me.

1320
00:53:10,670 --> 00:53:12,810
Speaker 2: Do you remember the first time that you heard that voice?

1321
00:53:14,790 --> 00:53:15,810
Speaker 1: When I was selling drugs.

1322
00:53:16,250 --> 00:53:16,710
Speaker 3: Really?

1323
00:53:17,110 --> 00:53:20,739
Speaker 1: No, I'll tell you, when I got shot, that voice said, stop.

1324
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 1: Because I felt them bullets go in my mouth. And

1325
00:53:24,580 --> 00:53:26,399
Speaker 1: the bullet is, and this is going to sound crazy,

1326
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:29,989
Speaker 1: it's very strong feeling. Because, you know, I ended up

1327
00:53:30,010 --> 00:53:31,509
Speaker 1: getting shot in the titty. And I got shot in

1328
00:53:31,530 --> 00:53:33,549
Speaker 1: the head once by my kid's father. But this boy

1329
00:53:33,570 --> 00:53:35,509
Speaker 1: who particularly shot me in the titty, the bullets was

1330
00:53:35,550 --> 00:53:38,089
Speaker 1: going by my head. It was like, foo, foo, foo, foo, foo, foo, foo.

1331
00:53:38,460 --> 00:53:40,660
Speaker 1: And I said, Lord, don't let me die. And that

1332
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:44,319
Speaker 1: boy said, stop. And I stopped. And the bullet hit

1333
00:53:44,340 --> 00:53:45,359
Speaker 1: me up under the arm.

1334
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 3: Did you know in that moment?

1335
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,190
Speaker 1: No, I thought I snagged my titty on the door.

1336
00:53:50,410 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 1: I was running in a crack house, and I said, damn,

1337
00:53:52,140 --> 00:53:54,500
Speaker 1: I snapped my motherfucking titty on the door. And I

1338
00:53:54,540 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 1: looked down, and it was a big-ass hole, and my

1339
00:53:58,700 --> 00:54:01,240
Speaker 1: nipple was hanging off. And so they called an ambulance,

1340
00:54:01,300 --> 00:54:03,070
Speaker 1: and they was like, well, we're looking for an entry point.

1341
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:04,810
Speaker 1: And I held up my arm. He said, oh, it went.

1342
00:54:05,050 --> 00:54:05,819
Speaker 1: It was like a.

1343
00:54:05,489 --> 00:54:06,149
Speaker 2: 45.

1344
00:54:06,150 --> 00:54:08,370
Speaker 1: It went up under my arm, and it destroyed my

1345
00:54:08,410 --> 00:54:10,110
Speaker 1: fucking titty. Wow.

1346
00:54:10,590 --> 00:54:10,850
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1347
00:54:10,969 --> 00:54:12,509
Speaker 1: And I have Medicaid, so they didn't give a fuck.

1348
00:54:12,530 --> 00:54:14,350
Speaker 1: They just laid that nipple back up, and it came

1349
00:54:14,370 --> 00:54:16,089
Speaker 1: back together like RoboCop.

1350
00:54:17,180 --> 00:54:19,380
Speaker 3: But you knew it was God in that moment or

1351
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:19,899
Speaker 3: you didn't know?

1352
00:54:20,140 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I knew it was God in that moment.

1353
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 2: You didn't?

1354
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:25,569
Speaker 1: When I met my husband, I told God, I said, okay, Lord,

1355
00:54:25,590 --> 00:54:27,450
Speaker 1: I'm tired of selling crack. That's it. I'm going to

1356
00:54:27,469 --> 00:54:29,730
Speaker 1: get killed out here. Because right before I met my husband,

1357
00:54:29,810 --> 00:54:31,490
Speaker 1: I was in a gambling house, me and my kids.

1358
00:54:32,110 --> 00:54:35,850
Speaker 1: And these niggas got the shot, shooting. And over $ 50,

1359
00:54:35,780 --> 00:54:37,700
Speaker 1: we all in that gambling. And he shoot the boy

1360
00:54:37,760 --> 00:54:39,500
Speaker 1: right there in front of us. And my kids were

1361
00:54:39,540 --> 00:54:41,940
Speaker 1: sitting in the living room. And my daughter was so smart.

1362
00:54:42,460 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: At the time, she grabbed her brother Nestor and she

1363
00:54:44,620 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 1: took the fuck off with my son. We had to

1364
00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:48,210
Speaker 1: get in the car to stop her from running. And

1365
00:54:48,250 --> 00:54:50,390
Speaker 1: I remember grabbing her. She said, you're going to get

1366
00:54:50,450 --> 00:54:53,089
Speaker 1: us killed. We're going to die. We're going to die.

1367
00:54:53,110 --> 00:54:55,089
Speaker 1: And I said, OK, God, I say. And I saw

1368
00:54:55,150 --> 00:54:57,689
Speaker 1: drugs in front of her school. And I said, OK, God,

1369
00:54:57,750 --> 00:55:00,280
Speaker 1: I say I say I need my kids need a daddy.

1370
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 1: And within not even a month, I met my husband. Wow.

1371
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:07,219
Speaker 1: And never looked back. And you know how when you

1372
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:08,850
Speaker 1: break up with somebody, you go back a couple times,

1373
00:55:08,890 --> 00:55:10,770
Speaker 1: get you some more dick, and keep it moving. And

1374
00:55:10,790 --> 00:55:12,390
Speaker 1: make sure you don't want that dick no more.

1375
00:55:12,410 --> 00:55:13,890
Speaker 2: You didn't do none of that? None of that.

1376
00:55:14,190 --> 00:55:15,810
Speaker 1: Not one time. I kept it moving.

1377
00:55:16,530 --> 00:55:18,110
Speaker 2: It's been 33 years.

1378
00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 1: Wow. So I listened to God all the time. And

1379
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:24,180
Speaker 1: when I said, God, I need a daddy, bam, he

1380
00:55:24,219 --> 00:55:26,860
Speaker 1: popped up. He was a little fat and he smoked.

1381
00:55:27,320 --> 00:55:31,460
Speaker 1: But he said, you didn't tell me everything. I said, Lord,

1382
00:55:31,500 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 1: I want a man that don't go outside and don't

1383
00:55:33,500 --> 00:55:34,960
Speaker 1: hit a bitch in the eye and don't cheat me.

1384
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:36,569
Speaker 1: And I want no more crabs and gone to real.

1385
00:55:36,930 --> 00:55:41,310
Speaker 1: And I got all of that. He gave you everything

1386
00:55:41,350 --> 00:55:42,029
Speaker 1: you asked for.

1387
00:55:42,110 --> 00:55:42,590
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1388
00:55:42,730 --> 00:55:44,750
Speaker 1: But he brought him in as a cigarette smoker. But

1389
00:55:44,790 --> 00:55:45,489
Speaker 1: we fixed that.

1390
00:55:45,890 --> 00:55:46,689
Speaker 2: He stopped? He quit?

1391
00:55:46,750 --> 00:55:47,880
Speaker 1: He stopped cold turkey.

1392
00:55:48,100 --> 00:55:48,500
Speaker 4: Wow.

1393
00:55:49,260 --> 00:55:50,900
Speaker 1: And I had no problems out of it.

1394
00:55:52,570 --> 00:55:54,570
Speaker 3: And most importantly, you're happy.

1395
00:55:54,590 --> 00:55:57,490
Speaker 1: I'm happy. And I got to say this. I'm so

1396
00:55:57,530 --> 00:55:58,399
Speaker 1: happy to meet you.

1397
00:55:58,580 --> 00:55:59,940
Speaker 2: I'm so happy to meet you, too.

1398
00:56:00,140 --> 00:56:01,100
Speaker 1: Really, I am.

1399
00:56:01,580 --> 00:56:02,500
Speaker 3: Miss American Dream.

1400
00:56:02,520 --> 00:56:04,700
Speaker 1: Y'all make sure y'all pick up my book because I

1401
00:56:04,739 --> 00:56:06,740
Speaker 1: would like for it. What I needed to be on, Jasmine?

1402
00:56:08,930 --> 00:56:09,430
Speaker 2: New York Times.

1403
00:56:09,450 --> 00:56:11,109
Speaker 3: We want a New York Times bestseller.

1404
00:56:11,150 --> 00:56:13,690
Speaker 1: Yeah, so pick the damn book up. You deserve a

1405
00:56:13,730 --> 00:56:14,910
Speaker 1: New York Times bestseller.

1406
00:56:14,989 --> 00:56:16,850
Speaker 2: Thank you. Thank you.

1407
00:56:16,890 --> 00:56:18,430
Speaker 3: I want that for you. We have a segment. Do

1408
00:56:18,450 --> 00:56:20,330
Speaker 3: we have a voice note before you go? Okay, we

1409
00:56:20,350 --> 00:56:22,379
Speaker 3: have a segment. It's a voice note segment. Somebody sent

1410
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:24,540
Speaker 3: you a message. I don't know who it is. Usually

1411
00:56:24,580 --> 00:56:28,220
Speaker 3: a fan or a friend of the pod or something.

1412
00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 3: Let's see.

1413
00:56:29,180 --> 00:56:29,800
Speaker 2: What do we got?

1414
00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:31,500
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Jen from Brooklyn.

1415
00:56:31,540 --> 00:56:33,880
Speaker 4: I'm 29 years old and I just want to say

1416
00:56:34,380 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 4: I love both Angie Martinez and Miss Pat. So having

1417
00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:42,850
Speaker 4: you guys together, man, I can't wait to watch this episode.

1418
00:56:43,390 --> 00:56:45,879
Speaker 4: But yeah, Miss Pat, I just wanted to know What

1419
00:56:45,980 --> 00:56:50,140
Speaker 4: advice would you give a 29-year-old who's starting her new journey?

1420
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:52,800
Speaker 2: 30s is near, very near.

1421
00:56:52,820 --> 00:56:54,500
Speaker 4: Oh, man.

1422
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:56,300
Speaker 1: And, I mean, I know I'm.

1423
00:56:56,239 --> 00:56:58,220
Speaker 4: Still young and have time.

1424
00:56:59,030 --> 00:57:01,730
Speaker 2: But, you know, life be life.

1425
00:57:01,870 --> 00:57:05,169
Speaker 4: And it's like you never know when that turning point

1426
00:57:05,230 --> 00:57:06,010
Speaker 4: is going to be.

1427
00:57:06,410 --> 00:57:08,650
Speaker 2: Like, what do you do to motivate.

1428
00:57:08,190 --> 00:57:12,200
Speaker 4: Yourself and keep going even when you don't know what's next?

1429
00:57:14,020 --> 00:57:15,580
Speaker 1: I would say wake up in the mirror every day

1430
00:57:15,620 --> 00:57:18,300
Speaker 1: and tell yourself, you know, how much you love yourself.

1431
00:57:18,820 --> 00:57:20,540
Speaker 1: And be careful about the people that you, you know,

1432
00:57:20,580 --> 00:57:22,580
Speaker 1: young people so quick to say people are their friends.

1433
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 1: Be careful about the people that you have surrounded you.

1434
00:57:25,380 --> 00:57:28,380
Speaker 1: Because they're not always happy for you. And you, believe

1435
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:29,930
Speaker 1: it or not, they be the ones that be holding

1436
00:57:29,970 --> 00:57:32,330
Speaker 1: you back. I tell my kids every day, the word

1437
00:57:32,430 --> 00:57:36,510
Speaker 1: friends end in the word in for a reason. They

1438
00:57:36,550 --> 00:57:39,430
Speaker 1: ain't your fucking friends. So, you know, you should say

1439
00:57:39,490 --> 00:57:41,250
Speaker 1: life be life and then it do be life. But

1440
00:57:41,270 --> 00:57:44,320
Speaker 1: take a look in your mirror. And set goals for yourself.

1441
00:57:44,740 --> 00:57:45,730
Speaker 1: Tell yourself what.

1442
00:57:45,610 --> 00:57:46,370
Speaker 2: You're going to do every day.

1443
00:57:46,550 --> 00:57:48,590
Speaker 1: When I started doing Became a Comedian, I told people,

1444
00:57:48,610 --> 00:57:50,110
Speaker 1: I said, I'm going to get me a sitcom. They

1445
00:57:50,130 --> 00:57:52,670
Speaker 1: thought I was fucking crazy. But at least put that

1446
00:57:52,750 --> 00:57:55,110
Speaker 1: in the universe. Because if you keep putting it in

1447
00:57:55,130 --> 00:57:58,500
Speaker 1: the universe, I promise you it will come back. Because

1448
00:57:58,520 --> 00:58:00,380
Speaker 1: the more you keep saying it is the more you're

1449
00:58:00,400 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 1: going to keep working towards it. When you don't have

1450
00:58:03,380 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: goals in life, you become a bomb.

1451
00:58:05,060 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1452
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:08,220
Speaker 2: So set a goal for yourself.

1453
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:09,930
Speaker 1: Young people don't want to set goals. They just want

1454
00:58:09,950 --> 00:58:12,270
Speaker 1: to become, I'm the CEO. You ain't no CEO of

1455
00:58:12,290 --> 00:58:15,510
Speaker 1: a motherfucking thing. You ain't this shit. They love that

1456
00:58:15,530 --> 00:58:19,970
Speaker 1: we're a CEO. Who the fuck is a CEO? Set

1457
00:58:19,990 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 1: your ass down. Set some goals for yourself. Can you

1458
00:58:24,740 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 1: start as the employer or the creator first? You're going

1459
00:58:27,180 --> 00:58:31,040
Speaker 1: to go straight to CEO, motherfucker. So I would say

1460
00:58:31,080 --> 00:58:33,520
Speaker 1: young lady who's 30 years old, set a goal for yourself.

1461
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:35,080
Speaker 1: Look in the mirror and tell yourself how much you

1462
00:58:35,120 --> 00:58:38,470
Speaker 1: love yourself and motivate yourself. You can motivate yourself and

1463
00:58:38,510 --> 00:58:40,870
Speaker 1: just put it in the universe what you want to do.

1464
00:58:41,530 --> 00:58:44,140
Speaker 1: And every day you wake up and you work towards it.

1465
00:58:45,450 --> 00:58:46,710
Speaker 3: What do you still want for yourself?

1466
00:58:49,210 --> 00:58:51,610
Speaker 1: I would love to sell out arenas. That don't happen

1467
00:58:51,650 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 1: a lot for women comedians. I would love an arena show.

1468
00:58:56,360 --> 00:58:56,939
Speaker 2: Is that a goal?

1469
00:58:57,140 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 1: That's a goal I'm working towards, yes.

1470
00:58:59,440 --> 00:59:02,120
Speaker 2: That's a goal. And in the middle of the goal,

1471
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:06,010
Speaker 2: you have a cooking show. I have a cooking show.

1472
00:59:06,030 --> 00:59:06,090
Speaker 4: Ms.

1473
00:59:06,090 --> 00:59:06,570
Speaker 2: Pat show.

1474
00:59:06,690 --> 00:59:06,760
Speaker 4: Ms.

1475
00:59:06,790 --> 00:59:08,810
Speaker 2: Pat show, a judge show. A new judge show. A

1476
00:59:08,810 --> 00:59:11,860
Speaker 2: new show. You got a new show. And more shows.

1477
00:59:11,950 --> 00:59:14,120
Speaker 1: And a book. And a book. Second book. And I'm

1478
00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:15,720
Speaker 1: working on a couple other things, too.

1479
00:59:16,040 --> 00:59:16,240
Speaker 4: Wow.

1480
00:59:16,750 --> 00:59:18,690
Speaker 1: I mean, this is like selling dope to me. If

1481
00:59:18,710 --> 00:59:20,410
Speaker 1: you create it, they're going to smoke it.

1482
00:59:24,090 --> 00:59:27,090
Speaker 2: So I'm having fun selling this shit. And some of

1483
00:59:27,150 --> 00:59:27,830
Speaker 2: it don't sell.

1484
00:59:27,870 --> 00:59:30,430
Speaker 1: And what don't sell, I'm going to create it myself.

1485
00:59:31,010 --> 00:59:36,310
Speaker 1: That's what I did for the cooking show. I'm enjoying myself.

1486
00:59:36,390 --> 00:59:39,690
Speaker 1: I'm having fun. And that's what life is all about.

1487
00:59:40,010 --> 00:59:42,730
Speaker 1: And just because these people in this industry tell you no,

1488
00:59:42,750 --> 00:59:46,620
Speaker 1: it don't have to be no. Because you can always

1489
00:59:46,680 --> 00:59:49,180
Speaker 1: turn your no into a yes if you believe in yourself.

1490
00:59:49,930 --> 00:59:52,210
Speaker 1: And sometimes that no is a no to make you

1491
00:59:52,290 --> 00:59:55,730
Speaker 1: stronger and see how bad you really want it. And

1492
00:59:55,770 --> 00:59:59,250
Speaker 1: most of the time, that first no is where you

1493
00:59:59,290 --> 01:00:02,990
Speaker 1: wasn't supposed to be in the first damn place. You

1494
01:00:03,010 --> 01:00:05,250
Speaker 1: can't get discouraged because these people don't want your shit.

1495
01:00:05,290 --> 01:00:07,240
Speaker 1: You know how many times I tried to sell pussy

1496
01:00:07,260 --> 01:00:08,940
Speaker 1: and the people changed their mind when I got there?

1497
01:00:09,100 --> 01:00:10,660
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1498
01:00:12,430 --> 01:00:14,350
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. I ain't never sold no pussy, but

1499
01:00:14,370 --> 01:00:14,970
Speaker 1: I'm just saying.

1500
01:00:14,990 --> 01:00:17,260
Speaker 2: I was like, I never heard that part, that chapter.

1501
01:00:17,280 --> 01:00:19,640
Speaker 2: I never read that chapter in the book. They was like,

1502
01:00:19,660 --> 01:00:20,060
Speaker 2: you too fat.

1503
01:00:20,120 --> 01:00:20,880
Speaker 1: I changed my mind.

1504
01:00:20,920 --> 01:00:22,000
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, okay.

1505
01:00:22,080 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 1: I was going to make you pay double anyway, bitch.

1506
01:00:25,240 --> 01:00:27,380
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.

1507
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 4: All right.

1508
01:00:27,680 --> 01:00:28,740
Speaker 3: My last IRL.

1509
01:00:28,800 --> 01:00:31,410
Speaker 2: We have like all these IRL questions. What are you

1510
01:00:31,510 --> 01:00:32,930
Speaker 2: most proud of about yourself?

1511
01:00:33,830 --> 01:00:37,030
Speaker 1: That I never gave up. And I hope the little

1512
01:00:37,090 --> 01:00:40,090
Speaker 1: girl in me, Rabbit, is proud of me. I'm so

1513
01:00:40,150 --> 01:00:42,790
Speaker 1: glad I never gave up because there was time I wanted,

1514
01:00:42,830 --> 01:00:46,740
Speaker 1: there was times I wanted to. So that's my most

1515
01:00:46,800 --> 01:00:49,420
Speaker 1: proudest moment to see where I'm at today. You know,

1516
01:00:49,440 --> 01:00:51,700
Speaker 1: sometimes when I think about it, usually I'm on a

1517
01:00:51,740 --> 01:00:55,780
Speaker 1: plane and I was like, wow, how did I get here, Lord?

1518
01:00:56,680 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 1: What is from me not giving up? And it was

1519
01:00:58,800 --> 01:01:01,430
Speaker 1: that voice in my ear. that said you can make it.

1520
01:01:01,460 --> 01:01:04,920
Speaker 1: I remember writing a quote in this book about one

1521
01:01:04,940 --> 01:01:06,920
Speaker 1: time I was on the, oh, matter of fact, you

1522
01:01:06,940 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 1: just made me remember in the book, I heard it

1523
01:01:08,520 --> 01:01:11,200
Speaker 1: a little early. One time when I first had my daughter, Ashley,

1524
01:01:11,220 --> 01:01:12,000
Speaker 1: and I know we got to go.

1525
01:01:12,160 --> 01:01:12,530
Speaker 2: No, no.

1526
01:01:12,550 --> 01:01:15,830
Speaker 1: I had my daughter, Ashley, and I'm poor. I was

1527
01:01:15,910 --> 01:01:18,870
Speaker 1: so fucking poor. And, you know, to the point where

1528
01:01:18,890 --> 01:01:21,270
Speaker 1: I was almost washing pampers out. And I take her

1529
01:01:21,290 --> 01:01:23,730
Speaker 1: to the hospital, Grady Hospital, and I get on the train.

1530
01:01:24,310 --> 01:01:26,680
Speaker 1: And this bomb was on the train.

1531
01:01:26,700 --> 01:01:27,140
Speaker 2: I had $ 10 to my name.

1532
01:01:28,690 --> 01:01:30,430
Speaker 1: And I wanted to buy my baby some more pamper.

1533
01:01:30,570 --> 01:01:33,230
Speaker 1: And God said, get that person at $ 10. I said, God,

1534
01:01:33,250 --> 01:01:34,810
Speaker 1: you don't love me. I'm okay, man. Leave me alone.

1535
01:01:35,250 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 1: Because he was early on. I think I was about

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Speaker 1: 15 at the time. He said, get that woman at $ 10.

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Speaker 1: I said, no. He said, get a woman at $ 10.

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Speaker 1: No fucking lie. I gave that lady my $ 10. I

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Speaker 1: got off the train and found $ 100. And I said, God,

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Speaker 1: do give it back 10 times.

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Speaker 4: So.

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Speaker 1: To be honest with you, I started hearing the voice

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Speaker 1: earlier than that. Yeah. But you knew it was him always.

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Speaker 1: I always knew it was him.

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Speaker 3: So that faith was always there, yeah?

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Speaker 1: It was always there. It was always being tested because

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Speaker 1: I was 15 when that happened. But I told that

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Speaker 1: story in the book and I just remembered.

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Speaker 3: Miss American Dream.

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Speaker 2: Miss American Dream.

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Speaker 1: Go get it, y'all.

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Speaker 3: Miss Pat in real life, everybody.

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Speaker 1: This is Miss Pat in real life.

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, thanks for watching. Make sure you subscribe, like, comment,

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Speaker 2: and check out all of the other episodes we have

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Speaker 2: on Angie Martinez IRL podcast.