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Speaker 1: First Day to follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at adjocuslad dot com.

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Speaker 2: Charlie is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Penelope.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and

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Speaker 2: maybe get him a second date. But first, Charlie, how

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Speaker 2: long has it been since you heard from Penelope?

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Speaker 3: Well, the ghost watch has been on for about a

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Speaker 3: full week now.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, nothing. Ghost watch sounds like you have a

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Speaker 4: sense of humor about it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I mean since seven days it's this twenty

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Speaker 3: you got to know it's I get the feeling it's

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Speaker 3: a decision.

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Speaker 4: Have you tried to break the no contact? Uh?

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Speaker 3: Not really, it's just kind of I just want to

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Speaker 3: kind of see what's going on. I mean, I haven't

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Speaker 3: really reached out, but I think that was just something

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Speaker 3: that may have gone wrong last time we met, and

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Speaker 3: maybe it led to something, and I hope it didn't.

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Speaker 3: Something had to change. I just feel like something had

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Speaker 3: to change, you know. And I mean I think she's

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Speaker 3: a great person. I think she's a very school elegant girl.

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Speaker 3: You know the type of drinks herbal tea and keith

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Speaker 3: me plant alive emotionally, So what.

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Speaker 4: Did you guys do for your date?

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Speaker 3: Then took me to an indoor plant terrain terrarium. It's

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Speaker 3: my pronunciation is that she's saying terranium, but I know

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Speaker 3: something terrarium, right, someone where indoor plants are a workshop,

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Speaker 3: because it just seems like she had that vibe she had,

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Speaker 3: like that calm. We got a girl calm, confident, she

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Speaker 3: has that raspee. I read novels in bed type voice,

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Speaker 3: you know, ug cozy, earthy. So we were like, you know,

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Speaker 3: it was some botany into the business. We're at this thing,

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Speaker 3: so let me just say that we're at this workshop.

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Speaker 3: And the guide said something basically said, don't touch anything

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Speaker 3: behind the velvet velvet rope because some plants are just

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Speaker 3: toxic to skin. And that I told her that, uh

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Speaker 3: I know my way around foliage, like he said, as

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Speaker 3: smooth as I could, as confident as a kid. Reached

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Speaker 3: over that rope, and uh I touched a shiny leaf there.

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Speaker 3: I don't really know how to describe it. Too off

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Speaker 3: like a shiny leaf. It just looked like royalty, right, okay,

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Speaker 3: and so next to the sign that says like costic sap,

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Speaker 3: don't handle you know, but that just makes me want

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Speaker 3: to grab it more so. So yeah, that's why I do.

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Speaker 3: Like he told me not to do something, I want

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Speaker 3: to do it. I'm obsessed. So I go, I try

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Speaker 3: to shake my hand off of the SAT, wipe it

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Speaker 3: off my shirt, and then wipe it on a brush shore.

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Speaker 3: I wiped it on a fern and then they handed

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Speaker 3: me a white like wet wipes custom wipes, and uh

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Speaker 3: and yeah, she just had this look on her face

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Speaker 3: like there was this was just an absolute, uh train wreck.

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Speaker 3: But you know, I wanted to show her that, you know,

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Speaker 3: the guy who's willing to touch poison for her.

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Speaker 4: So you said out and touch poison for you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was cool after.

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Speaker 4: I'm just trying to get this straight.

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Speaker 5: The person that was conducting the stuff told you don't

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Speaker 5: touch the plants because it's it's gonna it's toxic. Then

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Speaker 5: on the other side of the rope there's a sign

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Speaker 5: that says don't touch the plants because it's toxic, and

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Speaker 5: then you touch the plants.

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Speaker 3: I just want to be double negative, okay, double negative.

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Speaker 5: I mean there's a chance. Yeah, there is a chance

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Speaker 5: every day. Is amazing.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I love it.

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Speaker 3: I think there was anything wrong with it because she

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Speaker 3: she nudged my shoulder. You know that's touch. We shared

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Speaker 3: a lavender tea. Oh he said she had plant enthusiasm energy.

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Speaker 3: Said to me that I had this energy, just plant

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Speaker 3: enthusiasm energy. We had a vibe. You don't just sip

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Speaker 3: not spiritually linked. And the link is there, And one

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Speaker 3: minute we're breathing in you to lift this fog together,

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Speaker 3: which smells great, and the next minute she's gone, like

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Speaker 3: vera goolds. Now I'm ghosted, days lost, confused, and I

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Speaker 3: don't know if it's still poisoned. But oh no, like

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Speaker 3: it's been a week. I'm doing it fine. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: I just you know, she's okay, Well what what what happened?

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Speaker 4: Well, let's call her and find out.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if hotls why she's ghosting you and maybe

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Speaker 2: get you a second date.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, you got it, all right, we'll get your first.

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Speaker 2: Day follow up next right the middle of your first

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Speaker 2: date follow up and if you're just joining us, Charlie

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Speaker 2: is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Penelope.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see iftas why

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Speaker 2: she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date.

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Speaker 2: But first, before we do that, Charlie, whyn't you break

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Speaker 2: down your situation again real quick?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Met this girls very independent, had a nice vibe out there,

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Speaker 3: so she seemed like the type would go out to

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Speaker 3: a terrarium check out some plants. They told me not to.

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Speaker 3: I touched a few of them and see, you know,

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Speaker 3: things got a little weird and I just want to

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Speaker 4: He sounds like a funny guy, Charlie, but also a

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Speaker 4: wild time. All right, are you ready for us to

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Speaker 4: call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's get it.

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Speaker 4: Let's all right, here we go.

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Speaker 3: Let's you think.

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Speaker 4: Him as speaks? Penelope? Please, Hey Penelope? How are you?

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Speaker 4: This is a radio show. It's called The Jubil Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Penelope, I'm Nina. Hi I'm Victorian. How are you?

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Speaker 6: I'm okay? Wait? Are the radio show school? Okay?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but we do do a segment called

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Speaker 2: the First Night follow up on our show. That's where

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Speaker 2: if you go on a date with someone and you

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Speaker 2: ghost them, that person can email us to ask why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 4: And we got an email about you from someone.

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Speaker 6: Oh interesting, Okay, this is just there, all right, gone.

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Speaker 2: So is there anybody that you can think of that

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Speaker 2: you went out with recently that you have been ghosting?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, there's one guy I can think of.

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Speaker 4: Okay, what's his name?

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Speaker 6: His name is Charlie.

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Speaker 4: Yes, it is Charlie.

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Speaker 2: Charlie dad and told us about your dates that he

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Speaker 2: really liked you and he's wondering why you're not getting

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Speaker 2: back to him, and would you mind telling us.

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Speaker 6: I don't know what he told you.

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Speaker 1: But this guy touched some poisonous step and stung his

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Speaker 1: hand like it was very traumatizing, kind of funny, but.

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Speaker 6: It was weird. It threw me off.

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Speaker 1: And just when things are getting back on track, like

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Speaker 1: during the date, he yelled.

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Speaker 6: At this lady who was leading this date, like.

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Speaker 1: The events of the day and this remember he had

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Speaker 1: touched poisonous step.

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Speaker 6: So but he blamed her for not warning him about

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Speaker 6: the dangers of them. And I mean, you literally asked

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Speaker 6: to speak to a manager like a supervisor. Here's a

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Speaker 6: really big turn off.

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Speaker 3: Oh, hold on, I wasn't yelling. I was advocating for

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Speaker 3: I deserve.

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Speaker 6: A fair warning what that action is going on right now?

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Speaker 6: So weird.

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Speaker 2: That's actually Charlie. He's on the other line listening and

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Speaker 2: wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And I wasn't yelling. Okay, Oh, I was not yelling. Okay,

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Speaker 3: it was advocating for public safety. There is a bulliage

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Speaker 3: I couldn't even finish reading it until my hand was

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Speaker 3: when I already went I read that sign. It was

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Speaker 1: Kili it tingled? Your hand literally tangled. You weren't like

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Speaker 1: trekking through the Amazon. You gently brush a shiny leaf

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Speaker 6: There's a team rate there. There's like an herbarium, like

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Speaker 6: you can't. This wasn't the jungle.

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Speaker 3: I know you know your cheese way more than I

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Speaker 3: could have been worse. It was risk. Okay, myceuticles were

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Speaker 4: You wanted to risk, Charlie, I'm so confused.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, well, yeah, I'm a ban of danger, but

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Speaker 1: Okay, Princess Betuna, it wasn't a plant staff. It's not

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Speaker 3: She should have worn a setter. There was no urgency, none.

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Speaker 1: No, she literally said, please do not touch anything behind

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Speaker 1: the velvet rope. Some stants are toxic. Those the first

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Speaker 3: She said it like please recycle, not like touch that

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, She's put the scream at like it

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Speaker 1: Or something like somebody's just saying, don't touch something behind

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Speaker 3: I was actually trying to impress you because I said

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Speaker 1: Well, you committed for sure to a rash and basically

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Speaker 3: Oh, I apologize a ferd. I wiped my shirt on. Yes, shea,

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Speaker 3: it was an innocent fern had no business seeing part

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Speaker 6: Ride, right, you apologize to the plant before you apologize

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Speaker 6: to the lady that you scolded. But like that was weird.

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Speaker 6: It was a little symbolic of how you really live

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Speaker 3: Of course she had a dad, she was in a

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Speaker 3: position of power. She's a public figures something intridiculous.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't the plant anyway, that got Blaming someone else

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Speaker 1: for your mistake is just not my vibe. I found

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Speaker 1: accountability more attractive than like lying and passing it off,

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Speaker 1: you know.

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Speaker 3: Right choice accountability.

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Speaker 1: I washed my hand, Yeah, and then you blame the

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Speaker 1: poor woman named Cheryl who just wanted to talk to

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Speaker 1: us about succulents.

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Speaker 6: Like that was the moment that I could do it anymore?

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Speaker 4: Would you like another date with Charlie, will pay for it.

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Speaker 6: No, I'm sorry, guys.

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Speaker 1: I really am into men who like take responsibility for

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Speaker 1: their actions, not men who choose the wage of verbal

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Speaker 1: that couldn't do anything.

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Speaker 3: And for the record, I want you to know I

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Speaker 3: did not wage war. Okay, this was a sperm conversation

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Speaker 3: that sween responsible adults.

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Speaker 1: No, it was not. You asked for the supervisor like

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Speaker 1: some caring I'm business. That's why we're done you guys.

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Speaker 3: That was the fird's doing well. Well.

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Speaker 6: The friend handled everything better than you did. Charlie. Okay,

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Speaker 6: you will first date fall up