WEBVTT - “I CRASHED MY CAR WHILE LISTENING”

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<v Speaker 1>the episode. Well, Hello, Hello, how are you man?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, I am well, Actually I am surprised

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<v Speaker 2>you call. I was listening. I heard you say holy shit,

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<v Speaker 2>and here I go.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, so I got a message. So for some

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<v Speaker 1>context to those who are listening. I got a text

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<v Speaker 1>on the geck line from you saying, Hey, I'm the

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<v Speaker 1>bounty hunter that ran over the rocks, almost crashing while

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<v Speaker 1>listening to you. So context to that. There was this

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<v Speaker 1>video that I kept getting tagged in on Instagram and

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<v Speaker 1>TikTok of a dude who like crashes his car running

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<v Speaker 1>over a bunch of rocks and like it's some like

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<v Speaker 1>viral car crash video and in the car he's listening

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<v Speaker 1>to this podcast and I wouldn't. I don't know where

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<v Speaker 1>people could go to watch this video or what they

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<v Speaker 1>can google. But anyways, I kept getting tags in this

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<v Speaker 1>video and now I'm talking to you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, now that's super dope. So I posted it on

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<v Speaker 2>my Instagram because I run a small channel of all

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<v Speaker 2>the downy hunts that I do kind of like Patty

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<v Speaker 2>Mayo but real stuff. Uh, And so I was out

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<v Speaker 2>hunting for a person listening to your podcast. It was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>probably one in the morning, pitch Black taking a canyon

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<v Speaker 2>on the way home, and these rocks jumped out from nowhere,

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<v Speaker 2>and ironically the best timing was after I crashed over them.

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<v Speaker 2>You said, and that's the best you can do, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's how it ended. I was like, well, that's the

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<v Speaker 2>best I can do right there.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I got to say this in the video, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't I don't know where we'll put it. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we'll link it in the episode description or something. But

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<v Speaker 1>in this video it kind of look. You got a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of negative comments on the video because here I did.

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<v Speaker 1>It kind of looks like you crashed the car on purpose.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, hear me out, So here's what happened. So I

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<v Speaker 2>just spent the entire day, maybe eighteen hours, searching for

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<v Speaker 2>this guy, and I did catch him, but after that

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<v Speaker 2>it was really late coming back. And my defense is

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<v Speaker 2>the camera, in my defense, sees better than my visions

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<v Speaker 2>long because it was dark and my headlights weren't that great,

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<v Speaker 2>and we were coming around to curve and then all

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<v Speaker 2>of a sudden, there's the rock. But you're right. People

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<v Speaker 2>commented on that video and it was just NonStop negative,

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<v Speaker 2>negative pitches.

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<v Speaker 1>Now really quick, I gotta say this. What's your name?

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<v Speaker 2>My name's Jamie.

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<v Speaker 1>Jamie. It sounds like you're driving right.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, ironically I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Are we about to see another video online of you

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<v Speaker 1>talking to me while you grash your car?

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<v Speaker 2>Know. I was actually on my way to work. I

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<v Speaker 2>do another job at night as well, so I'm on

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<v Speaker 2>my way to work right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So what's this channel that you do? Because I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't look through the whole channel. I just saw this

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<v Speaker 1>one video.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so the channel you can find it on Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>and all the other platforms. It's the same thing. It's

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<v Speaker 2>it's a bounty vault, like a vault of bounties, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's a bounty vault.

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<v Speaker 1>And what do you what exactly does it mean to

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<v Speaker 1>be a bounty hunter?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh So what I do is, I am I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>park real quick because I got like fifteen minutes I can.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a good idea.

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<v Speaker 2>Well let's see, let me get parked real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna get a du You're gonna get a dug

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<v Speaker 1>driving under the influence.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, So on parts for safe Now. So what

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<v Speaker 2>a bounty hunter is the it is the coined term

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<v Speaker 2>for someone that is a bail enforcement agent. And so

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<v Speaker 2>what my job is is someone goes to jail they

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<v Speaker 2>can't afford the full Say your bail is ten thousand

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<v Speaker 2>dollars and you can't drop ten thousand or your family can't.

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<v Speaker 2>You can go to a bail bondsman in most states

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<v Speaker 2>and they will charge you ten percent of that whole bond,

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<v Speaker 2>and the bondsman guarantees of the court under their bond

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<v Speaker 2>that you will go to court. But if you fail

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<v Speaker 2>to appear, then they send someone like me after you

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<v Speaker 2>and I will return you to jail so you can

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<v Speaker 2>go to court, and that way the bondsman doesn't have

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<v Speaker 2>to pay that ten grand.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, what kinds of things are these people accused of doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Everything under the sun. You have everything from your

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<v Speaker 2>basic driving under the influence from you in marijuana or alcohol,

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<v Speaker 2>all the way up to your really heinous crimes where

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<v Speaker 2>you get your murder and child related crime. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>some real real piece of crap people, all the way

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<v Speaker 2>down to the your innocent like didn't know better and

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<v Speaker 2>got caught up on a bad day.

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<v Speaker 1>Now tell me when you encounter these people, when you

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<v Speaker 1>finally find them, how do you get them to come

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<v Speaker 1>with you? Do you have like a little like one

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<v Speaker 1>of those James Bond net gun things.

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<v Speaker 2>It depends. Some of these people I have a rapport with.

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<v Speaker 2>I've arrested them five, six, seven times, So I just

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<v Speaker 2>knock on their door and they're like, I say hi,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're like hi. I'm like, get in the car,

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<v Speaker 2>and get in the car. But these people, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we have to find them. Just recently, I found a

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<v Speaker 2>guy hiding inside a closet under a pile of clothes.

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<v Speaker 2>And the way I found them was, of course, I

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<v Speaker 2>was digging through the closet and I see an arm

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<v Speaker 2>that wasn't buried very well. So I told him to

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<v Speaker 2>show me and showed me his hands. He didn't want to,

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<v Speaker 2>so he ended up tased. It took three of us

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<v Speaker 2>to take him down, but the taser ended up finishing

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<v Speaker 2>the fight.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, m would you say you have a rapport with

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<v Speaker 1>these people? So are those people who you've literally rested

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<v Speaker 1>five times and when they see you, they're like, yep,

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<v Speaker 1>do they not? How do I mean? After five Here's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing though, Okay, after five times, is it like

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<v Speaker 1>they've been sentenced and released five different times over the

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<v Speaker 1>course of however many years.

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<v Speaker 2>No, this is so let's say that's the simplest one.

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<v Speaker 2>A d u y. You go to jail and you

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<v Speaker 2>get bailed out on duy. You just never went to

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<v Speaker 2>court to go deal with your charge. So then I

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<v Speaker 2>go pok, you back up, and then your family fails

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<v Speaker 2>you out again on the same exact charge, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>just waiting to go to court, and then you miss again,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I show up, and then you miss again,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I show up and there's just a rinse

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<v Speaker 2>lather repeat the situation. For some of these people, they

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<v Speaker 2>don't know why do you they out but they don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to deal with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you think they don't just like show up

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<v Speaker 1>for what I mean, if they know that they're going

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<v Speaker 1>to get caught, why do you think they keep missing

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<v Speaker 1>the court date?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I think it's you know, the whole

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<v Speaker 2>play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Some of these people

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<v Speaker 2>just they don't go. I don't understand it. There's some

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<v Speaker 2>people that they're court They literally have court the next

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<v Speaker 2>day after we bail them out, and I'm showing up

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<v Speaker 2>in two days after bailing them out because they chose

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<v Speaker 2>not to go to court the next day and they

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<v Speaker 2>could have been the whole situation.

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<v Speaker 1>How long you been doing this for I've been doing

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<v Speaker 1>it five years. And what were you doing before before that?

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<v Speaker 2>I was a school security guard as well as a

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<v Speaker 2>US Navy reservist.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah, Okay, which of these things has been the most difficulty.

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<v Speaker 2>Schools out of all of it? Dealing with the adolescent

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<v Speaker 2>children that hormones are pulsing through and them not wanting

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<v Speaker 2>to listen.

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<v Speaker 1>Why what made you want to go into this line

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<v Speaker 1>of work where you have to, like, you know, handle

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<v Speaker 1>people who are fucking off?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I would be lying if I didn't say that. Again,

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<v Speaker 2>I speak adrenaline. It is definitely an adrenaline rush to

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<v Speaker 2>to go after people. My big thing. When I was

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<v Speaker 2>looking at it, ironically, I was watching like Patty Mayo,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, I can do that, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I googled him and then I realized he wasn't real,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I went and figured out how to do

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<v Speaker 2>it in my own state, because each state has their

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<v Speaker 2>own licensing requirements, and my state has some pretty strict ones.

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<v Speaker 2>So I got licensed, and luckily I have a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of contacts in town, and I just started doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you ever want to do something else? Would you

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<v Speaker 1>ever get tired of this?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. That's a good question. I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 2>decide if this is what I want to stick with

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<v Speaker 2>for the next twenty years, because I'm thirty now, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'd like to retire, to retire when I'm fifty, And

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<v Speaker 2>that all comes down to how much income I can

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<v Speaker 2>put away in a retirement account, and I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if I can sustain that.

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<v Speaker 1>How much can you make finding people under clothes and closets?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Man, it depends on a good year. You can

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<v Speaker 2>make one hundred grand. On an average year, you can

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<v Speaker 2>make fifty sixty grand a year.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you operating out of?

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<v Speaker 2>I operate out of Washington State.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh cool man. Now, have you ever gotten into trouble?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever been to jail or anything like that?

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<v Speaker 2>Nope. I am a goodie two shoe. I don't like

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<v Speaker 2>breaking rules, and I don't think i'd survive in jail

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<v Speaker 2>now because I've put people there.

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<v Speaker 1>Would it be hot? Would you like run into a

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<v Speaker 1>guy who you put in jail and he would just

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<v Speaker 1>fuck you up?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Absolutely, if I didn't have I know, I know

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<v Speaker 2>jiu jitsu, I know how to handle myself. But if

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<v Speaker 2>he's got a little poffe and he can outnumber me,

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<v Speaker 2>he's got me.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I talked to a bounding hunter before I met one

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<v Speaker 1>in one of my interview sessions that I do out

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<v Speaker 1>in the real world. And uh, he was actually a

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<v Speaker 1>born again Christian who had had previously led, like I guess,

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<v Speaker 1>a life of crime and is now yea is now

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<v Speaker 1>putting other people in jail. He said he was complete.

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<v Speaker 1>He and he told me something. He said it was

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<v Speaker 1>complicated because he felt bad for some of the people

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<v Speaker 1>he was putting away because he used to do some

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<v Speaker 1>of that shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's true. I saw I know a video, a

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<v Speaker 2>video your talking thought on wants to do one of

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<v Speaker 2>the highlights on YouTube. And uh, what I can tell

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<v Speaker 2>you you can absolutely we have a felony, you can

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<v Speaker 2>you can be a previous criminal as long as you

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<v Speaker 2>can put that life behind you, and as long as

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<v Speaker 2>depending on how heinous your crimes were, you can you

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<v Speaker 2>can still become a bail bondsman or a bail enforcement agent.

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<v Speaker 2>You just have to make sure you can maintain your

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<v Speaker 2>gun right, because if you have your gun rights taken away,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't be a bondsman at all, at least not

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<v Speaker 2>in Washington.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have a family, I do, well, what kind

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<v Speaker 1>of family?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, it is a very complicated situation. So I am

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<v Speaker 2>a single dad to two children that are not my

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<v Speaker 2>blood children. But I didn't adopt them either. Their their

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<v Speaker 2>mom is not one hundred percent the best. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>the most I'll say on stream in case she ever

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<v Speaker 2>hears this. But reality is her kids now live with me.

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<v Speaker 2>Mom's in the picture when it looks good for her.

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<v Speaker 2>So I take care of two kids, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>have six cats and three dogs.

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<v Speaker 1>You take care of six kids.

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<v Speaker 2>No, six cats, two kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Two cats and six kids. That's still that's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of things that need you.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, it's true. My life is nonsought chaos, and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know when I sleep. Sometimes I sleep, sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Does that suck? Are you happy with that?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happy with my children that they've brought a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of joy to me that I didn't know was available

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<v Speaker 2>until I entered that world. Everything I do, every little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of money I make, goes towards their success. My

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<v Speaker 2>life priorities have changed to better their lives. Hold that

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<v Speaker 2>I have a fifteen and a half year old and

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<v Speaker 2>a nine year old.

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<v Speaker 1>Fifteen and a half and you're thirty. Yep, interesting there,

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<v Speaker 1>and they are your I'm sorry, can you re explain

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<v Speaker 1>that situation that you were explaining?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure? So I'm into older girls, and so their mom

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<v Speaker 2>is like thirty six, thirty seven, and I'm into their mom.

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<v Speaker 2>And when we broke up, unfortunately, I learned a lot

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<v Speaker 2>about her that wasn't beneficial for the kids. There was

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<v Speaker 2>some hoarding situations and not safe living environments, and so

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<v Speaker 2>we drifted apart, and as a result, her kids stayed

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<v Speaker 2>with me because I'm the one that ask to clean

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<v Speaker 2>house the bedrooms available for them. I have a safe

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<v Speaker 2>living space.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoa, And like, so legally are they are? They? Are

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<v Speaker 1>they legally your children? Now?

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<v Speaker 2>Legally no, So I still have to have mom's consent

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<v Speaker 2>to do a lot of things. We're working towards. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>we're working towards getting a split custody and that where

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<v Speaker 2>where Mom's gonna at least assign me like fifty percent guardianship.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't know. I don't know how that all works yet,

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<v Speaker 2>but we're moms open to it. And and then and

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<v Speaker 2>so we still communicate. We do a lot better as

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<v Speaker 2>friends than we did as a couple.

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<v Speaker 1>So they primarily stay with you. Yep, WHOA, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>that's a lot so like damn, So they were with

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<v Speaker 1>their mom and then how long you been with your

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<v Speaker 1>how long have you been in that woman's life, for.

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<v Speaker 2>I have been in their life for nine years.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoa, all right, so nine years ago and that and

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<v Speaker 1>one of the kids is nine, yes, all right, so

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<v Speaker 1>you've been there their whole life. So you're like a

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<v Speaker 1>step dad, but you're not married to the wife.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep. It's a very weird situation, unfortunately, and there's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of there's a lot of trauma to the kids

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<v Speaker 2>of why the the family kind of dynamic is the

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<v Speaker 2>way it is. There is a middle child that was

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<v Speaker 2>murdered by the second baby daddy. Now, so there used yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>there used to be three kids, and mom was always

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<v Speaker 2>into the bad boys. And unfortunately, while she was at work,

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<v Speaker 2>the dad of the of my youngest right now, his

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<v Speaker 2>dad ended up murdering the middle time.

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<v Speaker 1>Holy shit, how old was kid?

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<v Speaker 2>He so he was in the wombs bill and so

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<v Speaker 2>he he doesn't know, he knows nothing of this trauma.

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<v Speaker 2>But the youngest child, she was, I want to say,

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<v Speaker 2>she was just barely three when she when she passed m.

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<v Speaker 1>Man so so all right, So yeah, because I was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna wonder, I was kind of wondering, what's up with

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<v Speaker 1>these kids' dads? All right? So there were three kids,

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<v Speaker 1>and then one of them was killed by the second

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<v Speaker 1>baby daddy.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>And then the oldest kid, the fifteen year old, where's

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<v Speaker 1>his dad?

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<v Speaker 2>Her dad hung himself off a bridge two years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>and it is no longer is no longer in the situation.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I when that happened, I vowed to the

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<v Speaker 2>kids that I wasn't going to be the male figure

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<v Speaker 2>that left them for the third time.

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<v Speaker 1>Jeez man, So you really, I mean, so these kids

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<v Speaker 1>were just in in just totally fucked situations, and you

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<v Speaker 1>decided to step in and uh and and yeah be

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<v Speaker 1>their father figure.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, I wanted to step in. And I mean it's

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<v Speaker 2>it started out with like I was just totally into

0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:08.040
<v Speaker 2>their mom. I mean, you know, midget mom, goodbod. I

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<v Speaker 2>was totally into it. And then all this started happening.

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<v Speaker 2>And the oldest told me, she was like, don't ever

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<v Speaker 2>leave me because I have nothing else. And so I

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<v Speaker 2>made a vow that I was never going to leave her.

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<v Speaker 2>And the youngest he knows nothing but me, and so

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to put him through unnecessary trauma.

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<v Speaker 1>How old was was the was the daughter when when

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<v Speaker 1>she said that.

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<v Speaker 2>To you, she was thirteen, just a few years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Man, hmmm, and how is how is everything going? Like

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<v Speaker 1>how often do they get to see their mom versus

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<v Speaker 1>seeing you? Like, what's what's the custody kind of look like?

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<v Speaker 2>Right now they see their mom. So Mom can come

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<v Speaker 2>see them whenever she wants, and I'll take them to

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<v Speaker 2>her as well. Mom is actually going to see is

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<v Speaker 2>taking the oldest on a road trip this weekend. The

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<v Speaker 2>oldest is going to be in one of her weddings,

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<v Speaker 2>so she's the oldest is reconnecting with her with her

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<v Speaker 2>biological father's side family, and she got asked to be

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<v Speaker 2>the bride, one of the bridesmaids for a wedding in

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<v Speaker 2>the family. So she's going to be taking a road

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<v Speaker 2>trip to go up there with Mom.

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<v Speaker 1>So I would say, Mom, I thought I thought the

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<v Speaker 1>biological dad hung himself.

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<v Speaker 2>He did, but on that on on biological dad's family side,

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<v Speaker 2>the oldest is reconnecting with his side of the family,

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<v Speaker 2>so her aunt's uncles on his side. And so she's

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<v Speaker 2>learning all these connections and wanting to explore that side

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<v Speaker 2>of her life that she never got to.

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<v Speaker 1>Was were you ever married to this woman?

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<v Speaker 2>It was going to be and then we started taking

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<v Speaker 2>a massive decline. I proposed her and everything, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>kind of glad we didn't go through with it, because

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<v Speaker 2>we learned very quickly after the proposal and things started

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<v Speaker 2>getting really real that we did not do well together

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<v Speaker 2>in that capacity.

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<v Speaker 3>Hm hm.

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<v Speaker 1>And what what made you realize that?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh goodness, when when I realized that the hoarding was

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<v Speaker 2>getting out of control and there was there was to

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<v Speaker 2>the point where you know, glass was being broken on

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<v Speaker 2>the ground and she wouldn't pick it up, and I'd

0:20:54.840 --> 0:20:56.720
<v Speaker 2>have to pick it up. But it just like she

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<v Speaker 2>just leave food all over the ground and it would

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<v Speaker 2>get moldy, and she just wouldn't pick up after herself,

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<v Speaker 2>and ultimately it piled up in her house, and it

0:21:06.720 --> 0:21:08.840
<v Speaker 2>piled up, piled up, piled up to the point where

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<v Speaker 2>like the kids didn't couldn't walk around barefoot in their

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<v Speaker 2>own home. And it really frustrated me because we hadn't

0:21:16.560 --> 0:21:19.400
<v Speaker 2>moved in fully yet. We were kind of going back

0:21:19.440 --> 0:21:21.240
<v Speaker 2>and forth whose home we were going to stay in.

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<v Speaker 2>Was it going to be mine, was going to be

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<v Speaker 2>hers because we both equally owned the house, and so

0:21:27.720 --> 0:21:29.800
<v Speaker 2>we we were trying to figure that out, and it

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<v Speaker 2>just the more her the more her home started getting

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<v Speaker 2>worse and worse. And I tried to help everywhere I could,

0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:39.119
<v Speaker 2>there was no changing it, if that makes sense, Like

0:21:39.400 --> 0:21:42.439
<v Speaker 2>her mind was set on this is how it is. Ultimately,

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<v Speaker 2>she she still needs help addressing the trauma that she's

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<v Speaker 2>gone through. She signed off. She went to counseling when

0:21:50.880 --> 0:21:53.719
<v Speaker 2>everything went down with her with her middle kid, but

0:21:53.800 --> 0:21:55.720
<v Speaker 2>she went. She did it just long enough to where

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<v Speaker 2>they said, yep, you passed, and then she left. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>How often do you see her?

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<v Speaker 2>I see her? I mean we text all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>but I see the mom two three times a.

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<v Speaker 1>Week, okay, and mainly uh, to to discuss matters with

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<v Speaker 1>the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what whatever is going on with them? Schools getting

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<v Speaker 2>ready to start. So we actually got together and I

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<v Speaker 2>bought all all the stationary supplies and then she went

0:22:27.280 --> 0:22:30.040
<v Speaker 2>and bought all of their all the new school clothes

0:22:30.080 --> 0:22:33.760
<v Speaker 2>and shoes and stuff like that. So she helps, she

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<v Speaker 2>helps financially, She's involved, but not.

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<v Speaker 1>Wild man. So I got a question. So, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>if if she gets a new man in her life,

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<v Speaker 1>is she gonna is she gonna want to like be like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, let me get my kids, let me get

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<v Speaker 1>my man. Let's ride off into the sunset. Or is

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<v Speaker 1>she gonna be cool with you still? Like I asked

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<v Speaker 1>about that, fine, is that kind of an issue?

0:23:05.680 --> 0:23:09.840
<v Speaker 2>It's already a thing. And ironically, so, she's fine with

0:23:09.840 --> 0:23:11.520
<v Speaker 2>me being in the kids's life. She has told me

0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:14.040
<v Speaker 2>multiple times that she's glad that the kids have me.

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<v Speaker 2>But but she is with the new dude, and she's

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<v Speaker 2>pregnant with this dad with this guy. So this is

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<v Speaker 2>baby daddy number three or four, sorry, there's four baby

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<v Speaker 2>daddy's total. This is number four. And she's pregnant with

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<v Speaker 2>this kid with this guy. And I've arrested this dude.

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<v Speaker 2>No way, yeah, no way, No, It's absolutely true. I

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<v Speaker 2>have arrested this guy and he wants nothing to do

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<v Speaker 2>with me. But here's the here's the catch.

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<v Speaker 1>He also does that is that is a fucking like move.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a movie live. Your ex girlfriend starts dating a

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<v Speaker 1>guy that you, as a bounty hunter have arrested. Fucking nuts?

0:24:01.800 --> 0:24:05.000
<v Speaker 1>What did he offer? Story? But what what did you?

0:24:05.119 --> 0:24:06.760
<v Speaker 1>What did what did you arrest him for?

0:24:07.880 --> 0:24:10.280
<v Speaker 2>I arrested him on three counts of the.

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<v Speaker 1>U I jesus wait, we do UI or alcohol? Do U? I?

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<v Speaker 2>Both?

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway? All right. So, so she's pregnant again with this

0:24:27.359 --> 0:24:32.439
<v Speaker 1>dude who doesn't like you because you fucking smacked him

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<v Speaker 1>in the head with a baton or something. He went

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<v Speaker 1>really pupfully, what's the what's the story there, What's what's

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<v Speaker 1>the drama? What's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>So, so the mom makes really good money, so he

0:24:50.640 --> 0:24:53.440
<v Speaker 2>is using her as a sugar mama right now. It's

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<v Speaker 2>very it's very apparent because he is controlling her money

0:24:58.520 --> 0:25:01.639
<v Speaker 2>and he's currently on house the rest. He's been sentenced,

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<v Speaker 2>so he's on house arrest right now, but is demanding

0:25:04.600 --> 0:25:07.480
<v Speaker 2>that she pays for seeings, is demanding bringing him food.

0:25:08.200 --> 0:25:10.679
<v Speaker 2>And this dude still lives under his mom's roof on

0:25:10.720 --> 0:25:16.200
<v Speaker 2>the couch and all these things he has. He has

0:25:16.280 --> 0:25:21.040
<v Speaker 2>kids with three other women and has told the kids

0:25:21.160 --> 0:25:24.480
<v Speaker 2>my kid is mom, that he doesn't want the kid

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<v Speaker 2>and just to give it to me and I and

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<v Speaker 2>I literally put my foot downs in one. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>taking care of another child. I'm not the one that

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<v Speaker 2>got you.

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<v Speaker 1>Pregnant and them. So the mom wants you to just

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<v Speaker 1>start taking care of the new kid that she's having

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<v Speaker 1>with this guy.

0:25:43.000 --> 0:25:47.240
<v Speaker 2>No, the boyfriend does. The boyfriend told mom. The boyfriend

0:25:47.280 --> 0:25:50.359
<v Speaker 2>told Mom, just give just give Jamie the kid. He'll

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<v Speaker 2>take care of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Dude. Some people should not have kids.

0:25:54.800 --> 0:25:56.600
<v Speaker 2>There should be a license.

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<v Speaker 1>They really should. Oh man.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, So I am in a the biggest clusterfuck

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<v Speaker 2>of a relationship that I put myself in, so it's

0:26:08.359 --> 0:26:11.200
<v Speaker 2>it's equally my fault. And then I made a vow

0:26:11.320 --> 0:26:14.080
<v Speaker 2>a kid to the kids that I won't leave, and

0:26:14.200 --> 0:26:16.760
<v Speaker 2>so I'm not going to ever leave them, and my

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<v Speaker 2>goal is to make sure that they are as successful

0:26:19.320 --> 0:26:23.960
<v Speaker 2>as they possibly can be given the way they grew up. Hmmm.

0:26:26.720 --> 0:26:29.640
<v Speaker 1>So okay, so this is the This is the opposite

0:26:29.640 --> 0:26:31.480
<v Speaker 1>of the kind of scenario that I was panting because

0:26:31.520 --> 0:26:33.399
<v Speaker 1>I imagined a scenario where she would get with a

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<v Speaker 1>new guy and then they would be like, all right,

0:26:35.040 --> 0:26:37.679
<v Speaker 1>let me get my kids back. But it's the opposite.

0:26:37.720 --> 0:26:40.159
<v Speaker 1>She's in a scenario with a new guy making a

0:26:40.200 --> 0:26:43.080
<v Speaker 1>new kid and being like, hey, can you take this

0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:44.040
<v Speaker 1>new kid?

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<v Speaker 2>Yep. Luckily I put my foot down real quick on

0:26:50.600 --> 0:26:52.960
<v Speaker 2>that because she told me that the boyfriend said that,

0:26:53.359 --> 0:26:55.240
<v Speaker 2>and I looked at her square in the face. I said,

0:26:55.280 --> 0:26:59.280
<v Speaker 2>that's not happening. I go, it's already happened, and I'm

0:26:59.320 --> 0:27:01.399
<v Speaker 2>happy with where I'm out, but I didn't ask for

0:27:01.440 --> 0:27:02.119
<v Speaker 2>a third one.

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<v Speaker 1>What was what was the whatever? I'm losing track of

0:27:07.520 --> 0:27:12.200
<v Speaker 1>the relationships between all these people. But the mother of

0:27:12.240 --> 0:27:15.639
<v Speaker 1>the children, she was talking to you and she pitched

0:27:15.720 --> 0:27:17.359
<v Speaker 1>the idea to you. What was her What was her

0:27:17.400 --> 0:27:18.320
<v Speaker 1>pitch of the idea?

0:27:19.119 --> 0:27:21.679
<v Speaker 2>Her pitch of the idea was she was sitting in

0:27:21.680 --> 0:27:26.000
<v Speaker 2>the car with me and he and her boyfriend literally

0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:28.320
<v Speaker 2>texted it to her while we were sitting next to

0:27:28.359 --> 0:27:31.440
<v Speaker 2>each other, and she goes, well, here's what he wants

0:27:31.440 --> 0:27:33.960
<v Speaker 2>to do. After I found out she was pregnant, and

0:27:33.960 --> 0:27:35.880
<v Speaker 2>all of a sudden, she shows me her phone, and

0:27:36.040 --> 0:27:38.040
<v Speaker 2>her phone says, just give Jamie the kid.

0:27:38.720 --> 0:27:41.920
<v Speaker 1>And I looked at her and I said, no, dude,

0:27:41.960 --> 0:27:45.440
<v Speaker 1>what a night. Jesus Right.

0:27:48.040 --> 0:27:52.200
<v Speaker 2>So I'm living the craziest lifestyle out of a bounty

0:27:52.280 --> 0:27:56.119
<v Speaker 2>hunter with crazy living situation, but I own my home

0:27:56.240 --> 0:27:59.520
<v Speaker 2>and I'm happy, and the mom's involved as best as

0:27:59.560 --> 0:28:02.760
<v Speaker 2>she can. And so I guess there's that.

0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:06.280
<v Speaker 1>Are you? What about you? Are you going to date anyone?

0:28:06.320 --> 0:28:10.560
<v Speaker 1>Are you on the apps? Are you on Bounty hunterlove

0:28:10.680 --> 0:28:12.480
<v Speaker 1>dot com? What's up with you?

0:28:13.160 --> 0:28:16.320
<v Speaker 2>I wish that there was someone for me. And I

0:28:16.320 --> 0:28:18.639
<v Speaker 2>know everyone's gonna say there's someone, there is someone, but

0:28:18.760 --> 0:28:19.960
<v Speaker 2>I haven't found the time.

0:28:21.080 --> 0:28:25.080
<v Speaker 1>You You're you're optimistic about other people's optimism. I don't

0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:27.080
<v Speaker 1>think that's what people would say.

0:28:28.520 --> 0:28:31.680
<v Speaker 2>I I would like to say that I can find someone,

0:28:31.760 --> 0:28:37.280
<v Speaker 2>but I have tried and I have looked, and it

0:28:37.359 --> 0:28:40.120
<v Speaker 2>is what it is. And if it happens, it happens.

0:28:40.160 --> 0:28:42.240
<v Speaker 2>If it doesn't, it doesn't, I'll be happy with where

0:28:42.280 --> 0:28:42.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm at.

0:28:42.960 --> 0:28:44.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you seem like a pretty happy guy. You seem

0:28:44.960 --> 0:28:49.040
<v Speaker 1>like you're not spiraling into fits of uh uh depression

0:28:49.080 --> 0:28:51.320
<v Speaker 1>and despair on a constant basis, are you?

0:28:52.760 --> 0:28:55.360
<v Speaker 2>Uh No, But I talked to a therapist. It's because

0:28:55.400 --> 0:28:56.800
<v Speaker 2>of your stream that I'm on better.

0:28:57.160 --> 0:28:59.480
<v Speaker 1>So okay, how's that going for you?

0:29:00.080 --> 0:29:02.600
<v Speaker 2>You know, it is probably one of the best things

0:29:02.600 --> 0:29:07.600
<v Speaker 2>I've ever chosen to do. Really, Yeah, to be completely hones.

0:29:07.800 --> 0:29:10.280
<v Speaker 2>I like my therapist. I never thought therapy would be

0:29:10.320 --> 0:29:13.040
<v Speaker 2>for me. I thought that I just had to kind

0:29:13.040 --> 0:29:17.200
<v Speaker 2>of suffer by myself and and that, and it was

0:29:17.320 --> 0:29:20.200
<v Speaker 2>nice to be able to talk to someone and be

0:29:20.240 --> 0:29:22.320
<v Speaker 2>able to lay everything on the table and be told

0:29:22.360 --> 0:29:27.760
<v Speaker 2>that I'm not doing a terrible job, that I'm actually doing. Okay.

0:29:28.040 --> 0:29:30.280
<v Speaker 1>I am very happy to hear that. I just need

0:29:30.320 --> 0:29:33.120
<v Speaker 1>to say this just because I know I people are

0:29:33.120 --> 0:29:36.400
<v Speaker 1>going to accuse me of this. I swear on my

0:29:36.600 --> 0:29:40.320
<v Speaker 1>mother's life. I did not pay this man to say this.

0:29:41.040 --> 0:29:44.360
<v Speaker 1>No I would if I would never do that. I

0:29:44.440 --> 0:29:47.680
<v Speaker 1>just know I'll pay this guy to talk about. No,

0:29:47.760 --> 0:29:51.760
<v Speaker 1>it is not thing that just came up.

0:29:51.920 --> 0:29:54.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, No, I it was. It's the best choice I

0:29:54.320 --> 0:29:57.600
<v Speaker 2>ever made. It's there were so many apps, ironically, there

0:29:57.600 --> 0:29:59.960
<v Speaker 2>were so many ads in all of your Spotify pods

0:30:00.120 --> 0:30:03.160
<v Speaker 2>cast that I just decided to google it and look

0:30:03.240 --> 0:30:06.200
<v Speaker 2>into it, and I was going to try.

0:30:05.920 --> 0:30:07.840
<v Speaker 1>Did you did you use the code gecko?

0:30:08.520 --> 0:30:10.040
<v Speaker 2>Of course I used the code get goo.

0:30:10.240 --> 0:30:12.200
<v Speaker 1>Okay, And it's working for you. Okay, I'm glad it's

0:30:12.240 --> 0:30:14.200
<v Speaker 1>working for you. I'm glad it's working. I'm glad it's working.

0:30:14.240 --> 0:30:15.120
<v Speaker 1>That makes it very happy.

0:30:16.040 --> 0:30:16.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:30:16.920 --> 0:30:21.200
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, anyway, anyway, anyway you seem you see, I mean, god,

0:30:21.240 --> 0:30:25.800
<v Speaker 1>this whole thing is is such a crazy scenario. Are

0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:29.440
<v Speaker 1>and so your oldest is in high school right now?

0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:31.680
<v Speaker 2>Yep, she starts tenth grade.

0:30:32.240 --> 0:30:35.080
<v Speaker 1>Is she doing? Is she doing? Okay? And in school

0:30:35.120 --> 0:30:35.800
<v Speaker 1>and ship.

0:30:36.000 --> 0:30:41.640
<v Speaker 2>She you know, she is so freaking smart, like wickedly smart.

0:30:41.680 --> 0:30:46.280
<v Speaker 2>She's an all honor student. She gets a's and b's

0:30:46.320 --> 0:30:49.360
<v Speaker 2>like nothing. She's also in the junior the j r

0:30:49.400 --> 0:30:55.880
<v Speaker 2>OTC program, so the junior military program, and she she

0:30:56.120 --> 0:30:59.560
<v Speaker 2>is just wickedly smart. And it pisses me off because

0:30:59.560 --> 0:31:02.360
<v Speaker 2>they'll be like, I'm trying to do something and I

0:31:02.440 --> 0:31:04.280
<v Speaker 2>never thought I'd have to go to her and ask

0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:06.320
<v Speaker 2>her how do I do this on my iPhone? Or

0:31:06.440 --> 0:31:09.400
<v Speaker 2>what's the answer to this question? And she just knows

0:31:09.400 --> 0:31:11.800
<v Speaker 2>it up top her head and makes me feel really

0:31:11.800 --> 0:31:14.360
<v Speaker 2>old and dumb sometimes even though I'm not old and

0:31:14.400 --> 0:31:17.480
<v Speaker 2>I know I'm not dumb, but it's crazy just how

0:31:17.520 --> 0:31:19.360
<v Speaker 2>smart she is. I can ask her anything and she

0:31:19.440 --> 0:31:20.280
<v Speaker 2>just knows the answer.

0:31:21.000 --> 0:31:23.680
<v Speaker 1>Well, it's funny because I mean, thirty is so young

0:31:23.840 --> 0:31:29.080
<v Speaker 1>and like, yo, you guys are really not like, oh

0:31:29.240 --> 0:31:32.040
<v Speaker 1>you're very You're very young for a father figure.

0:31:32.920 --> 0:31:36.520
<v Speaker 2>Right well, and especially for her. I get confused to

0:31:36.640 --> 0:31:40.840
<v Speaker 2>being her brother a lot more than I do being stepdad,

0:31:41.400 --> 0:31:46.480
<v Speaker 2>and I understand the confusion and it's something that her

0:31:46.480 --> 0:31:48.360
<v Speaker 2>and I have had to work through. I don't get

0:31:48.360 --> 0:31:51.000
<v Speaker 2>that with her brother because obviously he's a lot younger,

0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:55.920
<v Speaker 2>but a lot of people don't understand that I was

0:31:56.440 --> 0:32:00.240
<v Speaker 2>much my my interests was very much so of the

0:32:00.240 --> 0:32:04.600
<v Speaker 2>older woman and resulted in her having a family that

0:32:04.680 --> 0:32:05.560
<v Speaker 2>I became a part of.

0:32:06.320 --> 0:32:11.680
<v Speaker 1>How did How does she feel about the convoluted nature

0:32:11.760 --> 0:32:13.800
<v Speaker 1>of of her situation?

0:32:15.360 --> 0:32:22.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh, my oldest Yeah. Some days she she just explains

0:32:22.320 --> 0:32:26.760
<v Speaker 2>it like, uh, that I'm just step dad and that's

0:32:26.760 --> 0:32:30.440
<v Speaker 2>what it is, and people didn't bother her with it.

0:32:30.800 --> 0:32:33.719
<v Speaker 2>Other times she she uses me as a bragging right

0:32:33.760 --> 0:32:38.240
<v Speaker 2>because I'm a by hunter. Uh, and it shares the

0:32:38.280 --> 0:32:41.480
<v Speaker 2>boys away, the ones that she doesn't want doesn't want

0:32:41.480 --> 0:32:46.160
<v Speaker 2>around at least mm hmm. And then uh. And then

0:32:46.240 --> 0:32:50.760
<v Speaker 2>other times she gets frustrated because I get confused to

0:32:50.840 --> 0:32:53.080
<v Speaker 2>being her brother instead of the parents that here.

0:32:54.760 --> 0:32:57.160
<v Speaker 1>Do you think is she gonna? Does she want to

0:32:57.200 --> 0:32:59.080
<v Speaker 1>go to college? I mean, I guess it's kind of

0:32:59.120 --> 0:33:00.720
<v Speaker 1>really for that discussion, but.

0:33:01.120 --> 0:33:03.600
<v Speaker 2>Well, she she does. She wants to grow up to

0:33:03.680 --> 0:33:09.400
<v Speaker 2>be a therapist, psychological therapist for military veterans suffering through PTSD.

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:14.959
<v Speaker 1>That is a wildly impressively specific life goal for a

0:33:15.000 --> 0:33:16.440
<v Speaker 1>sixteen year old.

0:33:16.800 --> 0:33:18.920
<v Speaker 2>Yep, that's what she wants to do. And I want

0:33:18.960 --> 0:33:20.240
<v Speaker 2>to make sure it happens for her.

0:33:21.480 --> 0:33:24.960
<v Speaker 1>That's beautiful, man, that's beautiful. And the nine year old

0:33:25.440 --> 0:33:28.120
<v Speaker 1>probably likes playing Xbox.

0:33:28.520 --> 0:33:31.160
<v Speaker 2>YEP, NonStop Xbox. I have to keep it on a timer.

0:33:31.720 --> 0:33:33.320
<v Speaker 1>What's he on? What's what's the game is he on?

0:33:34.520 --> 0:33:39.360
<v Speaker 2>Uh? What one? Isn't he on? He is on every game?

0:33:39.440 --> 0:33:42.040
<v Speaker 2>He plays a lot of Roadblocks and a lot of Fortnite.

0:33:42.320 --> 0:33:45.040
<v Speaker 2>And then I have g I have Grand Theft Auto

0:33:45.080 --> 0:33:46.480
<v Speaker 2>blocked because he doesn't need that.

0:33:48.480 --> 0:33:50.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to say, how great? What grade? What grade

0:33:50.880 --> 0:33:52.000
<v Speaker 1>is nine years old?

0:33:52.800 --> 0:33:54.240
<v Speaker 2>He is starting fourth grade?

0:33:55.080 --> 0:33:57.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay? Yeah, because I start, I want to say I

0:33:57.720 --> 0:34:03.560
<v Speaker 1>first played Grand Theft Auto for in the sixth grade,

0:34:04.680 --> 0:34:07.680
<v Speaker 1>which is probably still not an amazing time to play

0:34:07.720 --> 0:34:12.480
<v Speaker 1>granted THOTO, but yeah, that's about when I started playing it,

0:34:13.320 --> 0:34:21.000
<v Speaker 1>which would be like sixth grades, like what eleven, twelve? Anyway?

0:34:21.840 --> 0:34:24.560
<v Speaker 1>All right, well, before we go, what's your what's your name? Again?

0:34:24.600 --> 0:34:29.880
<v Speaker 1>One more time? Jamie, Jamie, Jamie? What's what's your? Before

0:34:29.920 --> 0:34:31.239
<v Speaker 1>we go? What's the next for you?

0:34:31.320 --> 0:34:31.480
<v Speaker 2>Man?

0:34:31.520 --> 0:34:34.120
<v Speaker 1>What's what do you? What's your what's your what's your dream?

0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:34.960
<v Speaker 1>What are your hopes?

0:34:35.800 --> 0:34:36.000
<v Speaker 2>You know?

0:34:36.120 --> 0:34:38.160
<v Speaker 1>What do you do? You are you gonna have anything to.

0:34:38.280 --> 0:34:41.759
<v Speaker 1>You have so much to nav I'm throwing a bunch

0:34:41.800 --> 0:34:43.799
<v Speaker 1>at you, but you have so much to navigate, and

0:34:43.920 --> 0:34:49.960
<v Speaker 1>yet you seem happy. You don't seem as stressed as

0:34:50.440 --> 0:34:52.680
<v Speaker 1>I think I would be if I were dealing with

0:34:52.719 --> 0:34:53.719
<v Speaker 1>everything you're dealing with.

0:34:55.040 --> 0:35:00.000
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, you know my uh my big goal in life

0:35:00.160 --> 0:35:04.560
<v Speaker 2>right now is just to make sure they're successful. And

0:35:04.680 --> 0:35:08.520
<v Speaker 2>that said, I am looking. I'm looking for what my

0:35:08.600 --> 0:35:11.239
<v Speaker 2>retirement plan is going to be. I want to make

0:35:11.280 --> 0:35:14.560
<v Speaker 2>sure that at fifty fifty five I am I am done.

0:35:15.160 --> 0:35:17.759
<v Speaker 2>And if that means I need to find a more

0:35:17.800 --> 0:35:22.680
<v Speaker 2>stable career that can be sustaining for the kids and

0:35:22.680 --> 0:35:25.120
<v Speaker 2>myself and keep my home over my head, That's what

0:35:25.120 --> 0:35:28.439
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do. Is whatever whatever benefits the greater good

0:35:28.480 --> 0:35:29.360
<v Speaker 2>for the kids.

0:35:29.760 --> 0:35:31.279
<v Speaker 1>What are you going to do with your retire what like,

0:35:31.320 --> 0:35:33.360
<v Speaker 1>if you are fully retired, what are you going to

0:35:33.480 --> 0:35:34.360
<v Speaker 1>do with your time?

0:35:35.080 --> 0:35:40.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna sleep. I'm going to sleep, and I honestly

0:35:40.400 --> 0:35:42.680
<v Speaker 2>I want to travel. I've been around the world. I

0:35:42.760 --> 0:35:44.239
<v Speaker 2>want to go back to Korea. I want to go

0:35:44.320 --> 0:35:46.120
<v Speaker 2>back to Japan and visit some of the places I

0:35:46.160 --> 0:35:49.000
<v Speaker 2>haven't gotten to see.

0:35:49.800 --> 0:35:52.560
<v Speaker 1>What's the What's what? What does your net worth have

0:35:52.640 --> 0:35:53.680
<v Speaker 1>to be before you retire?

0:35:55.920 --> 0:35:58.279
<v Speaker 2>Oh goodness, well a million dollars isn't what it's going

0:35:58.320 --> 0:36:02.759
<v Speaker 2>to be, worse than twenty years. But I mean they

0:36:02.800 --> 0:36:05.879
<v Speaker 2>say you got to take your annual income times. I'm

0:36:05.920 --> 0:36:10.959
<v Speaker 2>in years and so I don't know million at least.

0:36:11.760 --> 0:36:14.360
<v Speaker 1>See I'm thinking about too, But I'm thinking. I'm thinking.

0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:17.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking differently. I'm thinking, like, how can I train

0:36:17.200 --> 0:36:20.000
<v Speaker 1>my body to not need food and shelter so that

0:36:20.080 --> 0:36:23.160
<v Speaker 1>way I can just retire on the streets.

0:36:23.239 --> 0:36:28.680
<v Speaker 2>You know, right now you still need food. You can

0:36:28.680 --> 0:36:30.640
<v Speaker 2>live on the streets, but you still need food.

0:36:31.800 --> 0:36:33.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do this real quick. Does I want the

0:36:33.239 --> 0:36:37.000
<v Speaker 1>chat of any questions for Jamie? Sometimes I'll ask the

0:36:37.120 --> 0:36:41.920
<v Speaker 1>chat for questions or the kids in therapy?

0:36:42.040 --> 0:36:45.440
<v Speaker 2>Yes, both of them are. They are both actively in

0:36:45.600 --> 0:36:46.439
<v Speaker 2>professional help.

0:36:46.640 --> 0:36:49.319
<v Speaker 1>Someone asks when the kids are grown, are you going

0:36:49.400 --> 0:36:52.000
<v Speaker 1>to leave the situation? It doesn't sound like you are.

0:36:53.200 --> 0:36:56.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I don't know. That's a question for the future

0:36:57.520 --> 0:36:58.280
<v Speaker 2>and how I feel.

0:37:01.200 --> 0:37:03.560
<v Speaker 1>All right. Somebody asked, what is your favorite food?

0:37:04.160 --> 0:37:09.720
<v Speaker 2>That would have to be really spicy sushi.

0:37:10.440 --> 0:37:17.560
<v Speaker 1>Really spicy sushi. Well, I hope that you do eventually

0:37:17.600 --> 0:37:20.319
<v Speaker 1>get to retire and go to Japan and have all

0:37:20.400 --> 0:37:23.040
<v Speaker 1>the spicy sushi that you want, and if you don't,

0:37:23.080 --> 0:37:27.360
<v Speaker 1>they have some at the grocery store. Jamie, is there

0:37:27.360 --> 0:37:28.480
<v Speaker 1>anything else you want to say to the people of

0:37:28.520 --> 0:37:29.400
<v Speaker 1>the computer before we go?

0:37:30.440 --> 0:37:32.040
<v Speaker 2>Well, the only thing I would want to say for

0:37:32.239 --> 0:37:35.000
<v Speaker 2>that is, you know, look forward to all your goals,

0:37:35.239 --> 0:37:38.240
<v Speaker 2>achieve what you can, and leave a better legacy behind

0:37:38.280 --> 0:37:39.120
<v Speaker 2>than what you currently have.

0:37:39.520 --> 0:37:42.400
<v Speaker 1>Thanks man. Hey, you know what, Jamie, I might just

0:37:42.480 --> 0:37:45.239
<v Speaker 1>go steal a candy bar from a liquor store just

0:37:45.280 --> 0:37:47.080
<v Speaker 1>so I can see you again one more time.

0:37:47.520 --> 0:37:48.200
<v Speaker 2>Will sound good?

0:37:48.320 --> 0:37:51.399
<v Speaker 3>Lyle have a good one too.

0:37:51.360 --> 0:38:00.440
<v Speaker 1>Goodye, solid conversation with Jamie making me think about what

0:38:00.520 --> 0:38:06.239
<v Speaker 1>my retirement plan is. My retirement plan is. I'm gonna

0:38:06.280 --> 0:38:09.200
<v Speaker 1>see if anyone listening to this podcast wants to pay

0:38:09.239 --> 0:38:15.399
<v Speaker 1>me a million dollars for a used Gecko glove? Any

0:38:15.480 --> 0:38:19.080
<v Speaker 1>takers starting? All right? Five hundred thousand?

0:38:19.640 --> 0:38:19.680
<v Speaker 3>No?

0:38:23.040 --> 0:38:29.040
<v Speaker 1>Four hunt, no, all right? Maybe I'll just get a

0:38:29.120 --> 0:38:36.280
<v Speaker 1>job at the DMV or something. Hello, what's up dog?

0:38:36.400 --> 0:38:37.760
<v Speaker 1>How you doing? How's life?

0:38:38.280 --> 0:38:42.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh dude, oh man, life is better now that I'm

0:38:42.120 --> 0:38:44.240
<v Speaker 3>talking to you. Holy buckets?

0:38:44.719 --> 0:38:49.080
<v Speaker 1>Oh what's your name? What's your name, Oh.

0:38:49.880 --> 0:38:54.360
<v Speaker 3>My name is Connor Connor Connor and before we but

0:38:54.440 --> 0:38:56.480
<v Speaker 3>I must say we've met once before.

0:38:57.120 --> 0:38:58.360
<v Speaker 1>When did we grabon?

0:39:00.320 --> 0:39:03.000
<v Speaker 3>You were at Bonnaroo and then after you're set there,

0:39:03.080 --> 0:39:05.160
<v Speaker 3>you went behind and someone was like, can I play

0:39:05.160 --> 0:39:08.480
<v Speaker 3>you a song? And you were dancing. I walked up

0:39:08.520 --> 0:39:10.280
<v Speaker 3>to you and I said can I get a picture?

0:39:10.400 --> 0:39:12.640
<v Speaker 3>And You're like yes, And we hugged and you were like,

0:39:12.680 --> 0:39:14.880
<v Speaker 3>what's your name? Man? And I was like, I'm Connor,

0:39:16.200 --> 0:39:18.120
<v Speaker 3>and that was that was the first time we met.

0:39:18.440 --> 0:39:19.520
<v Speaker 1>I said, what did I say? After that?

0:39:21.200 --> 0:39:23.239
<v Speaker 3>You were just like nice to meet you, man, And

0:39:23.280 --> 0:39:26.640
<v Speaker 3>I was smiling so big in the photo that someone

0:39:26.760 --> 0:39:29.000
<v Speaker 3>was like, it's Christmas for him.

0:39:29.160 --> 0:39:33.080
<v Speaker 1>And man, normally, if I'm normally, if I'm walking around

0:39:33.080 --> 0:39:35.080
<v Speaker 1>at a festival and I'm in my gecko costume and

0:39:35.120 --> 0:39:36.880
<v Speaker 1>somebody asked me for a photo, I'll look at them

0:39:36.920 --> 0:39:39.000
<v Speaker 1>and I'll go like does it don't you see that

0:39:39.080 --> 0:39:42.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm fucking busy, and I'll shove them into to the ground.

0:39:42.360 --> 0:39:43.960
<v Speaker 1>So I'm glad you're not one of the people that

0:39:44.000 --> 0:39:44.640
<v Speaker 1>I did that too.

0:39:45.960 --> 0:39:47.879
<v Speaker 3>Oh, me too, me too.

0:39:49.960 --> 0:39:53.960
<v Speaker 1>Connor Connor, you texted me, you said, you said the

0:39:54.000 --> 0:39:58.240
<v Speaker 1>biggest choice of my life is in the next two weeks.

0:39:59.280 --> 0:39:59.840
<v Speaker 1>What's up with that?

0:40:00.239 --> 0:40:04.920
<v Speaker 3>So yes, yes, okay, so let me precurse this. So

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:09.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm in law school right and I'm in my third

0:40:09.800 --> 0:40:12.319
<v Speaker 3>year of law school. It's coming to an end, my

0:40:12.480 --> 0:40:15.600
<v Speaker 3>last year of college then getting thrown to the wolves

0:40:15.600 --> 0:40:18.920
<v Speaker 3>into the real life, right. And so last summer I interned,

0:40:18.920 --> 0:40:22.120
<v Speaker 3>and I'm going to law school in North Dakota. And

0:40:22.280 --> 0:40:25.360
<v Speaker 3>last summer I interned at a place in South Dakota.

0:40:25.960 --> 0:40:28.919
<v Speaker 3>And the place in South Dakota liked me so much

0:40:28.960 --> 0:40:32.239
<v Speaker 3>that they offered me a job. But I go to

0:40:32.360 --> 0:40:35.600
<v Speaker 3>school in North Dakota. All my friends are in North Dakota.

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:38.160
<v Speaker 3>And when it comes to like law and stuff, wherever

0:40:38.200 --> 0:40:40.359
<v Speaker 3>you decide to work, like, that's where you're at because

0:40:40.360 --> 0:40:43.720
<v Speaker 3>you got to take an exam called the bar exam,

0:40:43.800 --> 0:40:46.600
<v Speaker 3>and it's state specific. So if I were to choose

0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:50.200
<v Speaker 3>South Dakota, I'd be like, oh, peace out all my

0:40:50.360 --> 0:40:52.840
<v Speaker 3>friends who I've made over the last three years and

0:40:52.880 --> 0:40:56.480
<v Speaker 3>all my connections kick rocks. But if I choose North Dakota,

0:40:57.040 --> 0:40:59.880
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh, peace out. This nice job offer that

0:41:00.160 --> 0:41:02.520
<v Speaker 3>I was offered, kick rocks. I don't want it. And

0:41:02.560 --> 0:41:05.520
<v Speaker 3>then I'd have to like do the whole application and

0:41:05.680 --> 0:41:09.120
<v Speaker 3>interview process and all that stuff in North Dakota when

0:41:09.120 --> 0:41:11.960
<v Speaker 3>it's kind of nice just you know, the offers already

0:41:11.960 --> 0:41:13.839
<v Speaker 3>out there, you know, well, saying.

0:41:14.280 --> 0:41:16.520
<v Speaker 1>Take cup, First of all, I need you to take

0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:21.000
<v Speaker 1>comfort in the fact that you're fucked either way, because

0:41:21.000 --> 0:41:23.000
<v Speaker 1>no matter what, you have to live in either North

0:41:23.080 --> 0:41:25.440
<v Speaker 1>or South Dakota. And that should be comforted to you.

0:41:25.480 --> 0:41:32.080
<v Speaker 1>That should make the decision less difficult. Yes, yes, I'm

0:41:32.239 --> 0:41:32.920
<v Speaker 1>what how old do you?

0:41:33.320 --> 0:41:36.440
<v Speaker 3>I am twenty four, but in a week and a

0:41:36.480 --> 0:41:38.320
<v Speaker 3>half I'll be twenty five.

0:41:38.880 --> 0:41:42.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, cool man? And where are you calling me from

0:41:42.800 --> 0:41:44.600
<v Speaker 1>North Dakota Grand.

0:41:44.360 --> 0:41:47.640
<v Speaker 3>Forks, North Dakota, shout out und baby woo.

0:41:48.239 --> 0:41:52.200
<v Speaker 1>All right, and you're in school right now?

0:41:52.280 --> 0:41:53.760
<v Speaker 2>Where where?

0:41:53.800 --> 0:41:55.560
<v Speaker 1>What are you doing right now? School?

0:41:55.960 --> 0:41:58.480
<v Speaker 3>So I'm in my last year of law school. So

0:41:59.120 --> 0:42:02.480
<v Speaker 3>I already have an undergraduate degree, which is four years

0:42:02.480 --> 0:42:05.919
<v Speaker 3>of college, and now I'm on my third last year.

0:42:06.040 --> 0:42:10.000
<v Speaker 3>It'll be my seventh year of school of higher education

0:42:10.160 --> 0:42:11.120
<v Speaker 3>and then I'm done.

0:42:11.760 --> 0:42:13.439
<v Speaker 1>Cool, cool, cool cool.

0:42:13.480 --> 0:42:14.840
<v Speaker 3>So I kind of need to figure it out. And

0:42:14.880 --> 0:42:17.000
<v Speaker 3>the reason I only have two weeks is because the

0:42:17.120 --> 0:42:21.000
<v Speaker 3>job offer in South Dakota gave a deadline of August

0:42:21.080 --> 0:42:23.000
<v Speaker 3>thirty first to accept it.

0:42:23.520 --> 0:42:26.000
<v Speaker 1>Do you have jobs? Do you have a job offer

0:42:26.000 --> 0:42:26.760
<v Speaker 1>in North Dakota?

0:42:27.840 --> 0:42:28.320
<v Speaker 3>I do not?

0:42:29.400 --> 0:42:33.800
<v Speaker 1>Okay, how are I don't know. I don't know this universe.

0:42:34.080 --> 0:42:38.080
<v Speaker 1>How rare our job offers?

0:42:38.360 --> 0:42:41.439
<v Speaker 3>You know, I don't know. I don't know because I've

0:42:41.480 --> 0:42:44.640
<v Speaker 3>just been in college my whole life. I really don't

0:42:44.760 --> 0:42:47.480
<v Speaker 3>know how rare job offers are. I mean, it's my

0:42:47.600 --> 0:42:49.920
<v Speaker 3>first and only one. I guess right?

0:42:50.680 --> 0:42:52.279
<v Speaker 1>How much? Can I ask you? How much money the

0:42:52.760 --> 0:42:54.080
<v Speaker 1>South Dakota job offers for?

0:42:54.520 --> 0:42:54.800
<v Speaker 4>Oh?

0:42:54.920 --> 0:42:59.000
<v Speaker 3>You can? You can? So it's in South Dakota where

0:42:59.040 --> 0:43:01.800
<v Speaker 3>the cost of living it's pretty low, but it's seventy

0:43:01.920 --> 0:43:03.120
<v Speaker 3>g seventies.

0:43:03.120 --> 0:43:06.520
<v Speaker 1>You just can get you can get your You can

0:43:06.520 --> 0:43:08.319
<v Speaker 1>get you a hell of a seven to eleven run

0:43:08.360 --> 0:43:09.160
<v Speaker 1>in South Dakota.

0:43:10.200 --> 0:43:13.120
<v Speaker 3>Oh oh yes, it could get me to a live

0:43:13.840 --> 0:43:14.640
<v Speaker 3>Gecko show.

0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:18.440
<v Speaker 1>M well, it wants because I'm never stepping foot in

0:43:18.480 --> 0:43:22.160
<v Speaker 1>South Dakota. But I bet why can't you?

0:43:22.200 --> 0:43:22.279
<v Speaker 4>So?

0:43:22.440 --> 0:43:22.759
<v Speaker 2>All right?

0:43:22.840 --> 0:43:25.240
<v Speaker 1>So what a minute? So have you been on indeed

0:43:25.400 --> 0:43:29.480
<v Speaker 1>or LinkedIn or or any of those other have you?

0:43:29.560 --> 0:43:31.799
<v Speaker 1>Have you researed? Because it sounds like you want to

0:43:31.800 --> 0:43:34.040
<v Speaker 1>live in North Dakota because you have friends and connect

0:43:34.080 --> 0:43:38.560
<v Speaker 1>you have your life is in North Dakota, and you

0:43:38.600 --> 0:43:39.560
<v Speaker 1>do you like your life?

0:43:39.840 --> 0:43:42.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah? I like my life. It's a pretty good life.

0:43:42.840 --> 0:43:47.640
<v Speaker 1>All right. So is this so is this decision to

0:43:47.800 --> 0:43:49.799
<v Speaker 1>take a job in South Dakota Is it out of

0:43:49.800 --> 0:43:53.080
<v Speaker 1>a mind Is it out of a scarcity mindset that

0:43:53.120 --> 0:43:55.360
<v Speaker 1>you will not be able to find the job in

0:43:55.719 --> 0:43:57.799
<v Speaker 1>North Dakota. That's that's in the field of.

0:43:57.800 --> 0:44:04.000
<v Speaker 3>Law, almost scarcity. And also like like I almost like

0:44:04.080 --> 0:44:09.319
<v Speaker 3>my confidence in myself to get more job offers. Yeah,

0:44:09.360 --> 0:44:12.400
<v Speaker 3>it's not very good like interviews and stuff. I'm not

0:44:12.440 --> 0:44:14.680
<v Speaker 3>really an interview guy. I feel like I'm more of

0:44:14.719 --> 0:44:17.160
<v Speaker 3>a get to know me type guy, you know, rather

0:44:17.239 --> 0:44:21.120
<v Speaker 3>than like a thirty minute hour meeting. Oh that was

0:44:21.280 --> 0:44:24.319
<v Speaker 3>you know. So it's really the fear of going through

0:44:24.360 --> 0:44:25.760
<v Speaker 3>the whole process again.

0:44:27.120 --> 0:44:29.839
<v Speaker 1>Let's step back, Connor, what makes you happy? What's making

0:44:29.880 --> 0:44:32.040
<v Speaker 1>you happy in life right now?

0:44:32.080 --> 0:44:35.719
<v Speaker 3>What makes me happy? What makes me happy? That is

0:44:35.760 --> 0:44:39.879
<v Speaker 3>a great question. You know. I do enjoy time with

0:44:39.920 --> 0:44:45.200
<v Speaker 3>my friends, I play video games, I like concerts, But

0:44:45.280 --> 0:44:48.120
<v Speaker 3>on a day to day thing, I really don't know

0:44:48.200 --> 0:44:49.320
<v Speaker 3>what makes me happy.

0:44:50.160 --> 0:44:56.279
<v Speaker 1>Okay, because there's there's I'm thinking about this in several ways.

0:44:56.880 --> 0:45:02.319
<v Speaker 1>There's this whole idea of leaving your comfort zone and

0:45:02.360 --> 0:45:06.640
<v Speaker 1>going to a new place evolves you as a human being,

0:45:06.680 --> 0:45:10.640
<v Speaker 1>which is something I believe in a lot. But you're

0:45:10.680 --> 0:45:13.239
<v Speaker 1>also going from North Dakota to South Dakota. So that's

0:45:13.280 --> 0:45:17.000
<v Speaker 1>not the most I don't know if you're gonna have

0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:22.520
<v Speaker 1>an eat prey love experience down in South Dakota in that,

0:45:22.960 --> 0:45:24.680
<v Speaker 1>but it could, but it could evolve you as a

0:45:24.760 --> 0:45:28.560
<v Speaker 1>human being in other ways because you're now challenged to

0:45:28.719 --> 0:45:33.040
<v Speaker 1>make new friends. You're challenged to put yourself out there, right.

0:45:33.440 --> 0:45:36.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. And the dude and like South Dakota, like like

0:45:36.960 --> 0:45:40.920
<v Speaker 3>the dude from The Reverend that movie Leonardo DiCaprio acted

0:45:41.000 --> 0:45:44.880
<v Speaker 3>in like he's from South Dakota. That happened in so

0:45:45.080 --> 0:45:48.520
<v Speaker 3>like it's got cool things like that. And the Corn

0:45:48.600 --> 0:45:50.120
<v Speaker 3>Palace I think is down there.

0:45:51.239 --> 0:45:54.399
<v Speaker 1>Moving to South Dakota because it's where the revenue takes

0:45:54.440 --> 0:45:56.960
<v Speaker 1>place and that's where the corn Palace is. That's that's

0:45:56.960 --> 0:45:58.359
<v Speaker 1>a terrible reason to move.

0:45:58.400 --> 0:46:02.120
<v Speaker 3>There's also fair almost.

0:46:01.800 --> 0:46:04.000
<v Speaker 1>I honestly think a job. It's a terrible reason to

0:46:04.040 --> 0:46:07.759
<v Speaker 1>move South Dakota. Sorry for the there's somebody in South

0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:11.240
<v Speaker 1>Dakota who's listening to this that I'm upsetting.

0:46:13.080 --> 0:46:18.080
<v Speaker 3>No, no one of one of the twenty of them.

0:46:18.160 --> 0:46:20.160
<v Speaker 1>And also, okay, you mentioned too that you mentioned you

0:46:20.200 --> 0:46:21.920
<v Speaker 1>mentioned too that if you if you move down there,

0:46:22.160 --> 0:46:26.319
<v Speaker 1>that if you take the bar, that's like where you're

0:46:26.640 --> 0:46:28.839
<v Speaker 1>settled at, right, because you can't you.

0:46:28.719 --> 0:46:32.160
<v Speaker 3>Have forever forever, yeah, for like a half decade.

0:46:32.280 --> 0:46:35.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, all right, And you don't want to move there, you.

0:46:35.360 --> 0:46:39.080
<v Speaker 3>Know, I'm fine with moving there. I'm fine that, like,

0:46:39.080 --> 0:46:42.160
<v Speaker 3>like moving's not the issue, you know what I mean,

0:46:43.360 --> 0:46:46.880
<v Speaker 3>it's just like the people. You know, I'm fine with

0:46:47.040 --> 0:46:50.959
<v Speaker 3>moving there, but I'm not fine with leaving my friends too,

0:46:51.200 --> 0:46:51.440
<v Speaker 3>you know.

0:46:52.040 --> 0:46:56.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Sure, man? Well what's what? Well? What what the

0:46:56.239 --> 0:46:59.400
<v Speaker 1>have you have? You even let me ask it? Have

0:46:59.520 --> 0:47:01.719
<v Speaker 1>you even let's say, let's say you had two job

0:47:01.800 --> 0:47:05.200
<v Speaker 1>offers for the same amount of money and one was

0:47:05.239 --> 0:47:07.319
<v Speaker 1>in North Dakota, womans in South Dakota. You'd take the

0:47:07.320 --> 0:47:09.200
<v Speaker 1>North Dakota one, right, Oh?

0:47:09.280 --> 0:47:11.240
<v Speaker 3>I think I would?

0:47:11.360 --> 0:47:15.440
<v Speaker 1>Actually you think you would. What do you want? What

0:47:15.480 --> 0:47:17.240
<v Speaker 1>do you want out of life? Connor? Are you trying

0:47:17.280 --> 0:47:22.200
<v Speaker 1>to expand your social circle and life experience? Outside of

0:47:22.960 --> 0:47:27.000
<v Speaker 1>the the the Dakota's or are you really happy diving

0:47:28.040 --> 0:47:32.560
<v Speaker 1>deeply into the existing social circle and existing experiences that

0:47:32.640 --> 0:47:34.600
<v Speaker 1>you have. It's an important question.

0:47:34.680 --> 0:47:38.840
<v Speaker 3>No, I know it sounds kind of vanilla, but almost

0:47:38.920 --> 0:47:41.520
<v Speaker 3>the latter, because when I was younger of young, I'm

0:47:41.560 --> 0:47:43.920
<v Speaker 3>on twenty five, but I used to like want to

0:47:44.040 --> 0:47:48.120
<v Speaker 3>venture and like be like a private practice attorney and

0:47:48.320 --> 0:47:51.759
<v Speaker 3>get a boat or something. But now I just kind

0:47:51.760 --> 0:47:55.120
<v Speaker 3>of want to be like a humble like law professor

0:47:55.160 --> 0:47:58.320
<v Speaker 3>who like goes hiking summers.

0:47:58.719 --> 0:48:02.279
<v Speaker 1>Okay, go on, and I know, I I this is

0:48:02.320 --> 0:48:07.399
<v Speaker 1>a tough question. Go on, indeed, go on LinkedIn, Go

0:48:07.480 --> 0:48:09.479
<v Speaker 1>see what's go see if you can get a job

0:48:09.520 --> 0:48:10.360
<v Speaker 1>in North Dakota.

0:48:11.880 --> 0:48:16.640
<v Speaker 3>Okay, Okay, So maybe so maybe just you know, let

0:48:16.680 --> 0:48:19.279
<v Speaker 3>that thirty first deadline slide a little bit.

0:48:19.400 --> 0:48:22.480
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I would say, look, I'm not I can't tell

0:48:22.520 --> 0:48:26.120
<v Speaker 1>you what to do, because yeah, no, of course, of

0:48:26.160 --> 0:48:28.200
<v Speaker 1>course you can't tell you what. I can't tell you what.

0:48:28.400 --> 0:48:30.440
<v Speaker 1>I can't tell you what to do, but I can

0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:34.920
<v Speaker 1>tell you have some have some confidence in yourself that

0:48:35.320 --> 0:48:37.200
<v Speaker 1>you're good enough at what you do that you can

0:48:37.360 --> 0:48:44.000
<v Speaker 1>you can You'll be okay, Okay, okay.

0:48:44.680 --> 0:48:46.640
<v Speaker 3>You know that. You know, my mom tells me that

0:48:46.760 --> 0:48:49.360
<v Speaker 3>same thing all the time, but for some reason, coming

0:48:49.400 --> 0:48:52.520
<v Speaker 3>from there to get go, it just sounds it hits

0:48:52.640 --> 0:48:53.400
<v Speaker 3>way more home.

0:48:53.880 --> 0:48:54.480
<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm.

0:48:55.920 --> 0:48:56.319
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

0:48:57.600 --> 0:49:01.319
<v Speaker 3>Okay, all right, confidence in myself. Don't just settle on

0:49:01.440 --> 0:49:05.360
<v Speaker 3>the first job offer that was floated at me. Okay,

0:49:05.600 --> 0:49:08.000
<v Speaker 3>all right, That's what I'm taking from this conversation.

0:49:08.440 --> 0:49:11.680
<v Speaker 1>Okay, And I just want you to know if you

0:49:11.800 --> 0:49:14.279
<v Speaker 1>fuck up your life because if anything I told you,

0:49:14.920 --> 0:49:19.120
<v Speaker 1>remember that your mom said. Remember remember remember that your

0:49:19.200 --> 0:49:21.439
<v Speaker 1>mom said it to you first, So blame her.

0:49:21.440 --> 0:49:21.759
<v Speaker 2>I met.

0:49:22.920 --> 0:49:26.200
<v Speaker 1>Okay, definitely connors anything.

0:49:26.600 --> 0:49:29.800
<v Speaker 3>In a box. I won't come for a vendetta against you. Lyle.

0:49:30.360 --> 0:49:31.799
<v Speaker 1>Is there anything you want to say to the people

0:49:31.840 --> 0:49:32.839
<v Speaker 1>of the computer before we go?

0:49:33.400 --> 0:49:38.560
<v Speaker 3>Oh? Man, people of the computer, just keep keep keep

0:49:38.640 --> 0:49:41.080
<v Speaker 3>being you and you, if you're part of the Therapy

0:49:41.120 --> 0:49:45.439
<v Speaker 3>Gecko family, you're probably a pretty chill person. And thank

0:49:45.440 --> 0:49:48.080
<v Speaker 3>you guys for listening to me, and thank you Lyle

0:49:48.280 --> 0:49:50.720
<v Speaker 3>for taking my call. It's it's it's been an honor,

0:49:52.239 --> 0:49:52.560
<v Speaker 3>you know what.

0:49:52.640 --> 0:49:56.920
<v Speaker 1>Fuck it, man, it's been an honor talking to you too. Good.

0:49:57.360 --> 0:50:01.160
<v Speaker 1>Have fun in the dakotas man, go h go, for

0:50:01.239 --> 0:50:01.800
<v Speaker 1>a walk.

0:50:02.400 --> 0:50:05.640
<v Speaker 3>Hell yeah, I will. And you I know you probably

0:50:05.680 --> 0:50:07.839
<v Speaker 3>have a PR team or something, but I'm gonna send

0:50:07.840 --> 0:50:10.319
<v Speaker 3>you that picture of me and you at Bonnail and

0:50:10.360 --> 0:50:12.040
<v Speaker 3>whether or not you actually see it or not.

0:50:12.680 --> 0:50:14.120
<v Speaker 1>Wait, wait, what do you mean? What do you mean

0:50:14.160 --> 0:50:16.279
<v Speaker 1>I have a PR like send it to my Instagram.

0:50:17.200 --> 0:50:19.239
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I'm gonna send it to your Instagram.

0:50:19.360 --> 0:50:21.480
<v Speaker 1>I do not have I think people think I have,

0:50:21.600 --> 0:50:24.959
<v Speaker 1>like at a guy or something. It's me. I'm looking

0:50:25.000 --> 0:50:25.520
<v Speaker 1>all that shit.

0:50:27.080 --> 0:50:29.480
<v Speaker 3>Well, hopefully you see the picture and I and I

0:50:29.520 --> 0:50:32.200
<v Speaker 3>will and I'll enjoy the rest of your stream tonight.

0:50:32.440 --> 0:50:34.120
<v Speaker 1>All right, thank you, Connie, you have a good night.

0:50:35.120 --> 0:50:36.319
<v Speaker 3>Thank you as well.

0:50:38.640 --> 0:50:41.399
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<v Speaker 3>Good?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you not much? What's going on? How can

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<v Speaker 1>I get you today?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh? I mean, what is your preferred method of gecking?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, i'll rephrase the question. Is there anything in particular

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<v Speaker 1>that you wanted to talk about today? It's okay?

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<v Speaker 4>If not, No, you know, the one thing that is

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<v Speaker 4>super on my mind is life after college and how

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<v Speaker 4>much of a mess it could be?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you in life after college?

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<v Speaker 4>I am graduating in twenty two.

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<v Speaker 1>Graduated in twenty two, okay, and what are your observations

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<v Speaker 1>thus far?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, it's a time I went to school for theater.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's not something where it's like, yes, I know,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to have something like right out the door,

0:52:27.600 --> 0:52:28.279
<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? So you graduated in twenty two, and what have

0:52:33.760 --> 0:52:34.680
<v Speaker 1>you been doing since then?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I moved to a new city literally like a

0:52:40.719 --> 0:52:45.640
<v Speaker 4>year ago around this time I've been I moved here

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<v Speaker 4>because I was, you know, trying to make it as

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<v Speaker 4>an actor. But when I first sit here, I started

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<v Speaker 4>as an English tutor for elementary kids. Didn't like the

0:52:58.400 --> 0:53:02.719
<v Speaker 4>nine to five aspects of it. It didn't really give

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<v Speaker 4>me time to really do the theater as much as

0:53:04.800 --> 0:53:08.080
<v Speaker 4>I thought it would. And then I got a job

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<v Speaker 4>as at a bakery and not baking, just selling the stuff,

0:53:12.800 --> 0:53:15.520
<v Speaker 4>and I actually put in my two weeks for that

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<v Speaker 4>the other day, and today I had my first training

0:53:20.000 --> 0:53:23.320
<v Speaker 4>for a waitress job. So I've done a few shows

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<v Speaker 4>in between that. But other than that, I'm just trying

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<v Speaker 4>to make money, but I'm not doing good at saving it.

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<v Speaker 1>And you live you live in New York.

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<v Speaker 4>I actually live in Philadelphia. I'm from New Jersey, like

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<v Speaker 4>close to New York, but I live in Philly.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, did you go to school in Philly?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I went to school in South Jersey.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, Philly. Philly is a great city. Man. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you so? Are you? Are you still pursuing acting?

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<v Speaker 4>I am, yeah, okay?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you making stuff on the internet?

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<v Speaker 4>No, that's not my school? Really just live theater. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>trying to get involved in like student films and do

0:54:10.400 --> 0:54:16.560
<v Speaker 4>some like volunteer non paid stuff just to like get

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<v Speaker 4>in front of a camera or get on a stage

0:54:19.440 --> 0:54:22.720
<v Speaker 4>and make connections and whatnot.

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<v Speaker 1>And what what is like in that? I don't I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know much about the live theater universe. Is the

0:54:30.680 --> 0:54:33.239
<v Speaker 1>goal to like get get in some kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>touring show or something like that, Like what's the what

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<v Speaker 1>are the jobs in that?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, you know, there's a lot of ways that you

0:54:42.800 --> 0:54:46.759
<v Speaker 4>people can make it happen. I recently got I had

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<v Speaker 4>a conversation with someone who works for like the National

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<v Speaker 4>Theater Children to Theater for children and they do tours

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<v Speaker 4>and like the greater Philadelphia area. But it's not it.

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<v Speaker 4>He was the guy that I talked to was like,

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<v Speaker 4>you should submit another time because it seems to give

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<v Speaker 4>a lot going on. I actually like, don't have a

0:55:08.680 --> 0:55:14.040
<v Speaker 4>specific like goal. I just want to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool, Well that's all. That's uh, that's fun, that's good.

0:55:20.680 --> 0:55:23.120
<v Speaker 1>That's better than having a specific goal. I think just

0:55:23.239 --> 0:55:26.560
<v Speaker 1>wanting to do it. It's a better having a specific

0:55:26.600 --> 0:55:29.640
<v Speaker 1>goal because you're gonna have a because you'll be happy

0:55:29.760 --> 0:55:31.640
<v Speaker 1>or just wanting to do it than being like if

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<v Speaker 1>I don't do this, then I'll I'm going to have

0:55:34.120 --> 0:55:42.439
<v Speaker 1>to die. Right, Okay, are you like what what else

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<v Speaker 1>are you.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you.

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<v Speaker 1>Any other specific stuff about post grad life that you

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to you wanted to touch on in your.

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<v Speaker 4>Experience, you know what, I'm struggling a lot with, Like,

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<v Speaker 4>since moving to Silly, my biggest issue has been like

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<v Speaker 4>needing people and making friends and keeping my those relationships

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<v Speaker 4>that I've made in college that I assumed would continue

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<v Speaker 4>after college, you know what I mean, and they're just

0:56:10.760 --> 0:56:12.439
<v Speaker 4>not do those people?

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<v Speaker 1>Where do those people live? Do they live outside of Philadelphia?

0:56:15.880 --> 0:56:16.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Outside, but like my where I went to school is

0:56:19.239 --> 0:56:23.040
<v Speaker 4>literally like twenty twenty five minutes away, so it's like

0:56:23.160 --> 0:56:26.640
<v Speaker 4>not that far. And I've tried to reach out, tried

0:56:26.680 --> 0:56:29.520
<v Speaker 4>to you know, keep up with it, but it's just

0:56:29.600 --> 0:56:32.160
<v Speaker 4>not being reciprocated. And then I'm sitting here, like what

0:56:32.280 --> 0:56:37.400
<v Speaker 4>did I do to not have this friendship? Keep going?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have friends in Philadelphia?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I've had like a hard I don't know. I've

0:56:44.280 --> 0:56:48.360
<v Speaker 4>had a hard time, I guess like branching out and

0:56:48.440 --> 0:56:51.880
<v Speaker 4>meeting people. Like I live with two roommates, one of

0:56:51.880 --> 0:56:54.080
<v Speaker 4>them I went to school with, and like, I'm pretty

0:56:54.080 --> 0:56:56.280
<v Speaker 4>good friends with my roommates, so like that's a plus,

0:56:56.280 --> 0:57:00.680
<v Speaker 4>but we all have different lifestyles and you know, like

0:57:00.920 --> 0:57:04.279
<v Speaker 4>it's ours. Our paths don't always intertwine.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm, I'm thinking about this. I'm having a hard time

0:57:08.040 --> 0:57:12.200
<v Speaker 1>making friends too. I'm thinking about it.

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<v Speaker 4>That's like, you know, I you know, I joined bumble

0:57:16.440 --> 0:57:21.040
<v Speaker 4>DFF and I put in my big My sister suggested

0:57:21.120 --> 0:57:23.400
<v Speaker 4>I do that, and I put in my bio. Like,

0:57:23.480 --> 0:57:26.160
<v Speaker 4>I have a really hard time connecting with people over

0:57:26.200 --> 0:57:28.880
<v Speaker 4>the phone or like through a screen, so it'd be

0:57:28.920 --> 0:57:32.200
<v Speaker 4>great to like grab drinks or like get coffee or something.

0:57:32.480 --> 0:57:37.800
<v Speaker 4>And nobody seems like interested in doing that. And so

0:57:38.080 --> 0:57:39.920
<v Speaker 4>like I got a few messages that are like, I

0:57:39.960 --> 0:57:41.920
<v Speaker 4>know it's hard, but like we can make it work.

0:57:42.680 --> 0:57:46.040
<v Speaker 4>So like I'm trying to take the steps to meet people.

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<v Speaker 1>Well you're well, you're in acting, and I feel as

0:57:50.680 --> 0:57:54.800
<v Speaker 1>though there's a lot of different clubs, and I mean,

0:57:54.800 --> 0:57:58.480
<v Speaker 1>why don't you join a fucking sketch comedy group or

0:57:58.520 --> 0:58:03.080
<v Speaker 1>something like that? True in that in that whole vain. Yeah,

0:58:03.120 --> 0:58:05.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna you know, I'm gonna give you a specific suggestion.

0:58:05.480 --> 0:58:09.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't usually do that. Usually meander, uh, go join go,

0:58:09.160 --> 0:58:12.600
<v Speaker 1>do fucking go get involved in improv and sketch. In Philadelphia,

0:58:12.640 --> 0:58:14.400
<v Speaker 1>go to Fit. You know what FIT is. I don't

0:58:14.400 --> 0:58:20.560
<v Speaker 1>know if it's still around. No Fit p H I T.

0:58:20.880 --> 0:58:22.400
<v Speaker 1>I do not know if it's still around. They might

0:58:22.400 --> 0:58:24.960
<v Speaker 1>have closed with the pandemic. But if it is, go

0:58:25.120 --> 0:58:29.600
<v Speaker 1>check it out to the Philadelphia Improv Theater Philadelphiladelphia was

0:58:29.600 --> 0:58:33.680
<v Speaker 1>all this great sketch and improv going on, and it's

0:58:33.720 --> 0:58:35.880
<v Speaker 1>really just people who go and fuck around on the

0:58:35.920 --> 0:58:39.640
<v Speaker 1>stage for five minutes and then get drunk afterwards. So

0:58:40.000 --> 0:58:44.640
<v Speaker 1>it's a good place to make friends that go look

0:58:44.680 --> 0:58:46.720
<v Speaker 1>into that. That's what I That's how I made friends

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<v Speaker 1>when I was in Philadelphia was through stand up And

0:58:50.400 --> 0:58:52.600
<v Speaker 1>it was cool because you could because you could go

0:58:52.720 --> 0:58:54.680
<v Speaker 1>there and there would be it felt like cheers. Man,

0:58:54.760 --> 0:58:56.320
<v Speaker 1>you go to an open mic and even though you

0:58:56.480 --> 0:59:00.560
<v Speaker 1>suck and stuff like, you know, you know everybody, it's fun.

0:59:00.720 --> 0:59:02.640
<v Speaker 1>It's good. It's a good time. Yeah, there's all these

0:59:02.720 --> 0:59:05.880
<v Speaker 1>scenes in Philadelphia and if whoever's listened to this in

0:59:06.200 --> 0:59:09.720
<v Speaker 1>cities around the world, so go find a scene. Because

0:59:11.000 --> 0:59:13.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, this whole thing of of trying to keep

0:59:13.200 --> 0:59:18.360
<v Speaker 1>up all these individual friendships that are all over the place,

0:59:18.440 --> 0:59:21.640
<v Speaker 1>it's fucking hard. So you know, try to get involved

0:59:21.680 --> 0:59:23.520
<v Speaker 1>in a scene of some kind of you're in the

0:59:23.600 --> 0:59:27.000
<v Speaker 1>absolute most perfect place and then a perfect city to

0:59:27.320 --> 0:59:30.800
<v Speaker 1>go do that, so, you know, go on Facebook and

0:59:30.920 --> 0:59:37.520
<v Speaker 1>search fucking improv group or just or sit at home

0:59:37.560 --> 0:59:40.400
<v Speaker 1>alone and never talk to anybody again.

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<v Speaker 4>That's yeah, you know, it's nothing wrong with an easy route, right,

0:59:43.240 --> 0:59:46.880
<v Speaker 4>And that's like what I do now. But the most

0:59:47.000 --> 0:59:50.200
<v Speaker 4>like what I've what I've been telling myself constantly is like,

0:59:50.440 --> 0:59:55.000
<v Speaker 4>you know, you've got to just do it. And like,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I was talking about my friends and

0:59:56.920 --> 1:00:00.439
<v Speaker 4>he said, like, if you just show up, just show

1:00:00.440 --> 1:00:03.720
<v Speaker 4>your face, see what happens. You don't have to say anything.

1:00:03.760 --> 1:00:07.200
<v Speaker 4>You just have to be there, see what the vibe is,

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<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Jade, Is there anything else you want to say to

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<v Speaker 1>the people of the computer before we go?

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<v Speaker 4>I want to say Yolo.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, people people look at the word. I think

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<v Speaker 1>Yolo has this brand of being vapid, but it's really deep,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what. You know what the phrase of you know,

1:00:29.040 --> 1:00:34.680
<v Speaker 1>the phrase of memento mori means no remember death. I

1:00:34.720 --> 1:00:37.920
<v Speaker 1>think that's what it means. I don't know, but it's like,

1:00:38.000 --> 1:00:41.720
<v Speaker 1>why is momento moury? Why is that some cool Roman

1:00:42.480 --> 1:00:45.960
<v Speaker 1>thing that book. People say, but Yolo is stupid. They

1:00:46.040 --> 1:00:48.000
<v Speaker 1>mean the same thing, So I'm with.

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<v Speaker 4>You, Yolo.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for calling Jade.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah that's Jules, but thank you. Sorry forever, Okay, Jeel Cever,

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<v Speaker 4>have a great night.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh. I don't have any friends either.

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<v Speaker 2>Man.

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<v Speaker 1>The repeat Kid goes on the line, thinking of phone

1:01:10.040 --> 1:01:13.240
<v Speaker 1>calls every night. The repeat Kid goes to on his eye.

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<v Speaker 1>He's teaching you a loud live your life, but he's

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<v Speaker 1>not really an expert.