1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. 3 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 2: Hello everyone, we're scrubbing in. 4 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 3: We're back again. 5 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 4: Back. 6 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 5: Would you like to introduce our guests of honor? 7 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:24,079 Speaker 6: We're back with my fiance, Haley Kio. 8 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 5: How fun is it? 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 2: It's really cool fun. Yeah. It feels like fresh and new. 10 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, so. 11 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: Tune in next week and the same thing, and I 12 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: will keep asking it until she's your wife. 13 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 5: So well feels elevated. Yeah, yeah, right, it's. 14 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:48,200 Speaker 2: Just like an upgrade because I will say I'm not felt. 15 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,639 Speaker 6: I'm not against being girlfriend or boyfriend for however long 16 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 6: it feels right. But at a certain point when we 17 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 6: say girlfriend and then people are like, oh, how long 18 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 6: have you been together, and it's like, oh, seven years, 19 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 6: it kind of felt like, do I need start saying 20 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 6: partner to make it feel a little more like elevated? Yeah? 21 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, long term, yeah, long term. 22 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 2: I don't want people to think it was just like 23 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 2: this random summer fling. 24 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 6: I was, yeah, right, right, right, So fiance feels really elevated. 25 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So we asked the scrubbers to submit their 26 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: questions for the newly engaged missus and missus and Mark 27 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: is gonna start asking those now. 28 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 7: I mean, scrubbers always come through and they're very sweet 29 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 7: and they're thrilled for you. They're so excited, and some 30 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 7: of them have said, like, you know, we want every detail. 31 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 7: If it takes ten episodes, that is fine with us. 32 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 7: Just keep it coming. But this was a nice one 33 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 7: from Jen Touton. Jen said, I'd love to know when 34 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 7: the subject of marriage started becoming more of a possibility. 35 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 7: For so long, it seemed like it wasn't a huge priority, 36 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 7: and then I noticed subtle shifts when the subject came up, 37 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 7: and I would love to know their trajectory. 38 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 5: I don't know, it's just been like a slow burn 39 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 5: for us. I feel like, yeah, I. 40 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 6: Think I would say last year, when we officially moved 41 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 6: in together, there was kind of that like, Okay, we're 42 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 6: planning our future now together because because we both had 43 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:14,839 Speaker 6: have had commitment issues in the past. I think when 44 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 6: we officially decided to move in and like merge our 45 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 6: life officially together, it felt more like, Okay, we're we're 46 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 6: in this, you know, we're doing it. And I also 47 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,919 Speaker 6: think that just like getting through some things, like where 48 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 6: Haley like would have to leave for work for long 49 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 6: periods of time, and we were able to like navigate 50 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 6: that in a healthy way, which I really had a 51 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 6: hard time with earlier, earlier in our relationship. 52 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 2: It just made it feel like, Okay, we can we 53 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 2: can do this. 54 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:42,919 Speaker 5: Yeah, Like I. 55 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 2: Feel like we've been through everything. 56 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 6: That can go. 57 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: I know, I feel like there is something to be 58 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: said about like, and no shade to anybody that gets 59 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 1: engaged after like six months of dating, Like everybody has 60 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 1: their own story, but there is something to be said 61 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: about spending so much time with someone because I do 62 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: feel like over time, that's when you like really learn 63 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: the ins and outs of like being in a relationship 64 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:03,079 Speaker 1: with somebody. 65 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 5: Yeah, what life is going to look like together? 66 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 3: Like you've always been together for a decade. 67 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's more than some people like our marriage 68 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 1: staying married, you know what I mean? 69 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 6: Yeah, true, Yeah, Yeah, we've we've you know, like we've 70 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 6: worked really hard at our relationship and also it's been 71 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 6: like the easiest thing to work. 72 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 2: Like I've I've always just wanted us to figure it out. 73 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 6: We want to be together, and so when whether it 74 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 6: was like family stuff or work stuff, or just personal stuff. 75 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 6: Like I felt like we always were like there was 76 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 6: never a moment of let's just throw in the towel. 77 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 6: It was how do we figure this out so that 78 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 6: we can be together and it be like a healthy 79 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 6: and beautiful relationship. And we've done that, and I think 80 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 6: that it just kind of started to feel more comfortable talk. 81 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 6: I think marriage to me has always felt like a 82 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 6: daunting experience. Like I think I've always just been like, 83 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,280 Speaker 6: why do you need that? You know, I never was 84 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 6: someone who like dreamed about that part of my life, 85 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 6: and so I think my focus was always if that's 86 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 6: what Haley wants, I'm so happy to do that because 87 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 6: I just know I want to be with her forever. 88 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 6: So she wants to do the traditional you know, give 89 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:16,599 Speaker 6: each other rings and have a big celebration and have 90 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 6: a wedding, I'm so happy to do that. 91 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 2: But I think when when we got engaged. 92 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 6: I was like, oh, I really this feels so exciting 93 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 6: and important, you know, so. 94 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:30,760 Speaker 1: I know it's I was actually I didn't I because 95 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: I knew how you had felt about like marriage, and like, 96 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 1: I feel like you and I are very different, you know, 97 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:38,839 Speaker 1: I mean, like I look forward to it like my 98 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:40,800 Speaker 1: whole life, right, I was waiting for that moment, and 99 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: like you were always like very chill about it and 100 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: like not sure, and I'm like I knew the minute 101 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:48,720 Speaker 1: you got engaged it would like all just come like 102 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: flooding into you. 103 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's all I mean. I just I'm excited. 104 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 6: I think it's so fun that as women, and not 105 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 6: that men and women can't do this, but like that 106 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,479 Speaker 6: we both get to have the moment of getting proposed to. 107 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 5: So I will do that though relationships. 108 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:05,920 Speaker 2: That said, I know. 109 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 6: Other I know straight couples can do it, but like 110 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 6: it's fun that we both get to have it. 111 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, that's actually a really great thing. 112 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 1: Is I never did that and now I kind of 113 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:18,839 Speaker 1: feel bad. 114 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:22,359 Speaker 2: Just grab his anniversary and. 115 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 5: Yeah, I can surprise him. Yeah, oh that's a little detail. 116 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 7: You took that to a weird place. 117 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 3: I always do. 118 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:38,400 Speaker 7: Tyler yems. Now we mentioned in the last show that 119 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 7: you know, there's really been no thought given to the 120 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:42,359 Speaker 7: actual weddingven Tyler's worrying how long you would like the 121 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 7: engagement to be, and then they also added, I like 122 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 7: many scrubbers cried when seeing the posts. So thank you 123 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 7: both so much for sharing everything, and congratulations from all 124 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 7: of us. 125 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 5: Emotional. We're just going to rye this engagement out. But 126 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 5: in a couple of years. 127 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:04,599 Speaker 6: I mean, Haley is a big career year next year, 128 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 6: and so I think. 129 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 5: With my film and stuff, yeah, with her movie. 130 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 6: And so I think that it would be like within 131 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 6: the next couple of years. But I don't think we 132 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 6: feel I mean, obviously we do everything on our own time. 133 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 2: So I don't think we feel rushed at all. But 134 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,599 Speaker 2: I'm excited to like get to the point where we 135 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:20,279 Speaker 2: start planning it. 136 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:22,559 Speaker 5: Yeah, take the time to think about it, think about 137 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 5: how we want to do. 138 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 6: It, where we want to do it for us Yeah, yeah, oh. 139 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:31,479 Speaker 1: Say I we didn't mention this before the other podcast, 140 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: but like again, I was trying to be respectful of 141 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: you being present and in the moment and not asking 142 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 1: like a million questions, but I kept being like, when 143 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 1: are we announcing this? 144 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:41,679 Speaker 5: Like when's this happening? 145 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:44,840 Speaker 1: And I knew we were doing the podcast, whatever day 146 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: we were doing the podcast, and you guys hadn't announced it. 147 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: So I was like planning on just like coming in 148 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: and just doing like a regular old podcast and like 149 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: waiting for you to like announce it when you wanted 150 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 1: to announce it again, not me, not being pushy. 151 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 5: So when you announced. 152 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: It, I was like very psych It was it was 153 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:04,600 Speaker 1: like this like crazy like rush and then like Haley's 154 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: coming on and I was like, oh my gosh, it's 155 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 1: like so exciting, and I was like, I can't wear white. 156 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 1: And it took me so long to find out fit 157 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: where I'm not wearing white, and now neither one of 158 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 1: them are wearing white shirt on with another shirt covering it. 159 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 5: Fly. 160 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 8: I really don't have a lot of traditional but I 161 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 8: also don't have a lot of white, so I have. 162 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 5: Something to pass down. 163 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 6: But yeah, I was like, you're fine, you can. White 164 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 6: is still your color, Tanya. 165 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 7: So they should wear mostly white for the next two years, 166 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 7: and that's what it takes. 167 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:34,760 Speaker 3: Yes, good, it feels good. 168 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 7: So no rush is the answer to the question year 169 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 7: It could be two even more. 170 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 6: And I also just have to say, like, you know, 171 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 6: we posted and like obviously we know, we know just 172 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 6: based on how people have responded to our relationship that 173 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 6: people are going to be excited. But it always feels 174 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 6: very overwhelming to have like the love and support for 175 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 6: our relationship because we've been together so long and it's 176 00:07:57,520 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 6: been a journey, and you know, we came out publicly, 177 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 6: we had so much support. But like this part, like 178 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 6: moving into this next chapter and having people respond like 179 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 6: like that. 180 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:12,120 Speaker 2: Like Tyler, is just a reminder of like how much. 181 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: Joy there is, you know, the love always outweighs the 182 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: hate always true, so true, always always speaking of when 183 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 1: you announced it, has your phone? Have your phone just 184 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: been like going bonkers? 185 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 5: We haven't when we've been here. Oh, even better, you're 186 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 5: gonna have got some texts. 187 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 6: Yeah, we've got some texts and calls while we were 188 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 6: getting ready, and yeah, it's been fun. 189 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:39,559 Speaker 2: It's so fun to have like people feel excited. 190 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 6: You know. 191 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 7: Yeah, I texted you this morning when I found out, 192 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 7: and I was not expecting a reply, but I go 193 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:45,559 Speaker 7: on right away. 194 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 2: I think. 195 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 6: Was something something I've known about myself for so long 196 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 6: is that I don't like a ton of like direct 197 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 6: attention on me. So I get a little overwhelmed in 198 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:02,959 Speaker 6: these types of moments. 199 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:04,719 Speaker 2: But I'm trying to let myself just like. 200 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 6: Accept it and embrace it and you know, not get 201 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 6: overwhelmed by it because I have always felt like I 202 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 6: couldn't fully celebrate myself. I don't know, like I've always 203 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 6: just felt that, like, oh, I just need to like 204 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 6: play it down. But I'm trying to let myself celebrate 205 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 6: and be excited. 206 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 5: Let it. You deserve You deserve that, all of it. 207 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 5: Let it in. 208 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:30,320 Speaker 7: Next question, Rosita Rodriguez Flores. We covered this a bit 209 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 7: in the last year, but this for timeline purposes. How 210 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 7: long ago did Haley purchase the ring? Because it wasn't 211 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 7: that long ago, right. 212 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:38,760 Speaker 5: No, I mean it was this year. Yeah, it was 213 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:39,640 Speaker 5: a couple of months ago. 214 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, quick answering that question, Let's see, Tiffany, did 215 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 7: Beca already plan to propose and have an idea of 216 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:50,079 Speaker 7: when she wanted to do it? 217 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 5: Wait say it again, did. 218 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 7: Beca already have an idea of when she wanted to propose? 219 00:09:57,440 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 2: If I did, I want to tell anyone interested. 220 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 6: Also, like, the whole thing with Haley is that the 221 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 6: ring is a very I need to find something very 222 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 6: specifically tailored to Haley, and we haven't gone through that process, 223 00:10:08,679 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 6: so I have to find a way to She was 224 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 6: very sneaky with how she got me to try on rings, 225 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 6: Like I had no. 226 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:21,000 Speaker 2: Idea very in my head. Now, no, no. 227 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:23,560 Speaker 8: I think we just go and pick it out and 228 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:29,319 Speaker 8: design it and then what I want exactly what I want, 229 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 8: and then we'll figure it out. 230 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:35,439 Speaker 6: Yeah, she's she's not just any girl. She deserves something 231 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:36,560 Speaker 6: that fits herself much. 232 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:39,839 Speaker 1: Have you ever looked at you know, those rings that 233 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:43,320 Speaker 1: are like they're like flipped on their side. 234 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 5: East West, That's what I'm interested in. The East West. 235 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 8: I want an East West. I don't know what. Yeah, 236 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:54,360 Speaker 8: I think I don't so cool? Yeah, yeah, so we'll see. 237 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:56,560 Speaker 6: The cool thing about it East West is that if 238 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:58,320 Speaker 6: you want to get a reset, it can be a 239 00:10:58,440 --> 00:10:58,960 Speaker 6: North South. 240 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 3: Nice act better. 241 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 5: You can just stack timeless timeless. Yeah yeah. 242 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 7: Next question Mark, Jimmy Lynn wants to be your wedding planner. 243 00:11:07,640 --> 00:11:09,320 Speaker 7: She lives in Chattanooga, Tennessee. 244 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 2: We'll be shopping for what. 245 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 7: This is from Hira Siduki. Scribers have great names, by 246 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 7: the way, great names. Are there any muffed halves you 247 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 7: already know you envision for your big day? 248 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 5: Phoebe? 249 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 8: Oh yeah, Phoebe and dress or tugs depending on But 250 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 8: she feels better. 251 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:40,240 Speaker 6: I think that what are Something I really noticed at 252 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 6: at y'all's wedding, Tanya was the just the people that 253 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 6: y'all invited was just so perfect in terms of how 254 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:52,960 Speaker 6: everyone interacted with each other and we're celebrating you guys, 255 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,080 Speaker 6: and how the whole weekend felt like that. And so 256 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 6: I think our biggest thing is going to be curating 257 00:11:58,840 --> 00:11:59,680 Speaker 6: our guest list. 258 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 5: Yeah. 259 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 1: That I think was like the we were really intentional 260 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: about our guest list, Like we were obviously like it's 261 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: the people that were closest to, but like we were 262 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 1: just very intentional. And I feel like that weekend, it's 263 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:18,000 Speaker 1: a game changer. That weekend, we couldn't tell like who 264 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:20,319 Speaker 1: were there for Robbie, who were there for me? Like 265 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: it was everybody was there for everybody, and like everybody 266 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 1: on both sides were hanging out and partying together and 267 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: like that was like the best. 268 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 6: Yeah, and so and I also felt like what we 269 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:34,920 Speaker 6: learned about Haley is that she does not do well in. 270 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 4: Y. 271 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 6: But another thing is the weather will be a very 272 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:42,679 Speaker 6: specific choice I have. 273 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 5: In Los Angeles. I'm very privileged to comfort and. 274 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 8: So we will have to be very specific with the 275 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:51,559 Speaker 8: climate that we choose. 276 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 5: You don't think you're gonna do like a snowy wedding. 277 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:55,440 Speaker 2: Not snowy, but it can't be. 278 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:59,079 Speaker 5: It needs to be neutral weather for me. Let me 279 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:07,600 Speaker 5: tell you Mexico has some U so we'll be auditioning weather. Yeah. 280 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 8: We never thought that until we were in Myerica and 281 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:13,840 Speaker 8: I was like, I can't breathe. 282 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, it was hard for me. Weather was my number 283 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 5: one Yeah, yeah, I was your dress and you really 284 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 5: want to feel it. 285 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:26,080 Speaker 7: By the way, and I was wrong and I admit it. 286 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:29,440 Speaker 7: Remember I was like, Tanya, whatever, you can't control the weather. 287 00:13:31,760 --> 00:13:34,320 Speaker 7: And by the way, it rained like crazy that weekend 288 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 7: in southern California. Yeah, yeah, because that was pushing for 289 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 7: OHI personally. Could we take a break and. 290 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:43,439 Speaker 5: The questions do you want to tease the question? 291 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:48,520 Speaker 7: Let me tease it this way. We solicited four questions 292 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:51,640 Speaker 7: before we put out the first episode with all of 293 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:54,439 Speaker 7: the details, but some of them figured stuff out anyway. 294 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:56,960 Speaker 7: So I want to reveal some of those really intuitive 295 00:13:57,000 --> 00:14:00,280 Speaker 7: listeners coming up. 296 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 3: And we're back. 297 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:22,480 Speaker 5: Mark is going to read the question. 298 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 1: Haley is gonna is taking a bite of a cupcake, 299 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: so we're gonna let her enjoy herself. 300 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 6: She was fading, she's not used to this life, this podcast. 301 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:34,120 Speaker 5: Yeah, you go away, you go into like a tunnel 302 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 5: for like I don't know what. We've been here for 303 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 5: like an hour and a half. 304 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 7: I just want to shout out a couple of listeners 305 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:42,480 Speaker 7: who gave us questions before they heard all the details 306 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 7: were really spot on, like Amalia Goudina, who said, who's 307 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 7: the first person you told? And why was it Tanya? 308 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:49,920 Speaker 2: Oh that's so funny. 309 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 5: How did they know? 310 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 7: How about this one? This is Ashley Hartwig? 311 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:53,520 Speaker 5: Really? 312 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 7: Ashley Hartwig said the ad with ring comes the Airge 313 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 7: a couple of weeks ago. Anything to do with this proposal? 314 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 4: What? 315 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 7: Yes, Ashley Hartwig, I need the. 316 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 5: Scrubbers to help me better. 317 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 2: Like Swifties, they're pretty good. 318 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:10,880 Speaker 5: They're very in tune. 319 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,320 Speaker 7: Yeah, all right, let's get to a question, shall we. 320 00:15:15,040 --> 00:15:23,200 Speaker 7: Let's see I flagged a couple here, okay, Blair Blair Maples. 321 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 7: Will they try to plan a wedding around Tanya trying 322 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 7: to have a baby? 323 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 8: Ooh, that seems complicated. 324 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, here's the thing. 325 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:36,640 Speaker 6: In an ideal world, my friends are able to come 326 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 6: and enjoy our wedding. 327 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 5: We will all figure it out when the time, will 328 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 5: figure it out. 329 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 1: I can't plan around other people's Like I had to 330 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: answer that for you, because they're just you can't. 331 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:49,520 Speaker 5: Well, I have to. 332 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 6: I've mentioned like I would, you know, I know all 333 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:54,520 Speaker 6: my friends are going into the season of like having kids, 334 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 6: and that changes. 335 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 2: I mean it's like if you're pregnant, you can't. 336 00:15:57,880 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 6: Like like full you just like like you're uncomfortable, you know, so. 337 00:16:04,880 --> 00:16:06,760 Speaker 5: A feeling. No, I don't know the feeling. But like 338 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:08,600 Speaker 5: I've already had conversations with Robby about this. 339 00:16:08,640 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 2: I think by the time the child comes, the future 340 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:15,800 Speaker 2: child but as far as I know, is not with us. 341 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 6: Yet, correct, correct, I think that he or she will 342 00:16:20,360 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 6: be of an age where you will feel comfortable evening 343 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:23,840 Speaker 6: about the time we have a wedding. 344 00:16:24,040 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, And like I already told Robby, Like I'm like 345 00:16:26,800 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 1: I already had all these Tanya has already booked her flight. 346 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 7: Yeah, like I already childcare arranged already. 347 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I've talked to you about this because I'm like, 348 00:16:35,240 --> 00:16:37,400 Speaker 1: we're starting after our honeymoon was like when we're like 349 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: actually starting, which is also a whole nother like trip 350 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: of like going from that shift in your mind of 351 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: like not having sex when it's like a risky time 352 00:16:47,720 --> 00:16:51,720 Speaker 1: to like having sex is just such a weird thing mentally, 353 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:56,000 Speaker 1: But I've already had. We've been having these conversations because 354 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:58,080 Speaker 1: right after you guys got engage, I was like having 355 00:16:58,080 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 1: all these thoughts and I was like, I just want 356 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: to Like I was like, to be there. I want 357 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 1: to be, like I want to be at everything with you, 358 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 1: Like I want to be in every dress thing. I 359 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,360 Speaker 1: want to be, Like I just want to be as 360 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:10,680 Speaker 1: involved as as do you want me to respectfully whatever 361 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:12,920 Speaker 1: you want. 362 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,199 Speaker 5: You don't want me at all the dress shopping. 363 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:17,640 Speaker 2: It's like I don't have to be involved in everything. 364 00:17:17,680 --> 00:17:20,160 Speaker 3: Don't worry, okay, but like whatever you want. 365 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 1: But I was explaining to Robbie though, like I want 366 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:24,880 Speaker 1: to make sure that I'm there for like every single thing. 367 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:27,159 Speaker 2: I really want to hear about your honeymoon. Are we 368 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 2: able to like, yeah, we. 369 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:31,360 Speaker 5: Can do that some other time. 370 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:34,680 Speaker 2: I want to hear No, it's fresh. Oh well, he 371 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:35,240 Speaker 2: was fading. 372 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:37,200 Speaker 3: We can't keep her here for a bunch longer. 373 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:44,160 Speaker 6: She'll be okay, okay, No, I just want to know, 374 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:46,760 Speaker 6: Like it seemed like it was so special because I 375 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:49,399 Speaker 6: know you were like you're you're you were kind of going, 376 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:53,439 Speaker 6: what's different to honeymoon? Like it's been months since the wedding, 377 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 6: like how is it going to feel different? 378 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:55,919 Speaker 2: But it felt like it did feel different. 379 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: It was so different from any trip we've ever taken. 380 00:17:59,800 --> 00:18:02,040 Speaker 1: And I think because like what's so funny is when 381 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: we first left, I was like doing the Monica Geller, 382 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:05,640 Speaker 1: like we're on our honeymoon, Like. 383 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 5: Can we come into this? Can we get an upgrade? 384 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:11,399 Speaker 5: Can we come into your lounge? No? No? No, Like 385 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:14,520 Speaker 5: it was all like no. I was like damn, Like yeah, 386 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:15,639 Speaker 5: nobody's you know. 387 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:17,679 Speaker 7: That happened to me too. I try to work it 388 00:18:17,680 --> 00:18:18,400 Speaker 7: as much as I could. 389 00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:23,199 Speaker 1: But what's crazy is at our first hotel we were sharing, 390 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:25,000 Speaker 1: we basically have like a it was like a pool, 391 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:26,679 Speaker 1: and there was like two rooms next to us, and 392 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 1: we check in and I was like, is there any 393 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 1: way be an upgrade? Like happy to pay to have 394 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:33,000 Speaker 1: like an ocean view or you know, it's our honeymoon, 395 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 1: so sorry, no space. There's like a ten year old 396 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: kid to the right of us. We're sharing a pool 397 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 1: with like this little girl laying out and I was like, Okay, 398 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:43,639 Speaker 1: it's fine, this is grades our honeymoon whatever. Like I 399 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 1: was just like not letting anything like whatever. Those people 400 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:49,320 Speaker 1: check out the next morning, and not a single person 401 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 1: checks into either room our entire stay. So because it's 402 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:54,400 Speaker 1: not about I don't care about the size of our room. 403 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:58,160 Speaker 1: We had the pool, a private pool for just us. 404 00:18:58,240 --> 00:18:59,920 Speaker 2: The whole is amazing cool. 405 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:01,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, so it ended. 406 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:04,959 Speaker 1: Up being like epic, But that wasn't even it. Like 407 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:07,600 Speaker 1: the first part of our honeymoon was like very white lotus. 408 00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:11,159 Speaker 1: We like made friends with everybody at our hotel. We 409 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:13,320 Speaker 1: saw them at every beach club. People were sending us 410 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:17,879 Speaker 1: like cakes. Like Robbie got into like there was like 411 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:20,639 Speaker 1: a girl woman there celebrating her sixtieth birthday with her 412 00:19:20,720 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 1: four daughters, and so of course I went over. 413 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 3: I was like, are you guys about to rep party? 414 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:28,200 Speaker 5: Like no, it's our mom's sixty. 415 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 1: Talking to the girls about like la the mom like 416 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:33,639 Speaker 1: newly divorced. 417 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 5: Her and Robbie like have this like moment where they're 418 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:39,800 Speaker 5: like she's like crying. I'm like, what are you talking 419 00:19:39,920 --> 00:19:42,120 Speaker 5: this way about? Like sending us like cakes. 420 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:44,959 Speaker 1: We met this other couple they like sent us caviard 421 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 1: or table we like it was. We just ended up 422 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 1: making friends with like everybody at our hotel, like exchanging instagrams. 423 00:19:52,280 --> 00:19:54,119 Speaker 5: Like it was like so cute and so fun. 424 00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:55,960 Speaker 1: And then the second part when we were in Willow 425 00:19:56,080 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 1: was like very private and romantic and like they triple 426 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:03,399 Speaker 1: upgraded us, which I've never even heard in my life, 427 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 1: which was like then they came out and they're like, 428 00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:05,800 Speaker 1: we're doing to. 429 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:08,200 Speaker 3: Triple upgrade you. I was like, I don't even. 430 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 5: Know what that means. It was great. 431 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:13,200 Speaker 1: We had like a palace, which we didn't even need again, 432 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,679 Speaker 1: like yeah, don't you just need like a nice bedroom 433 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:18,000 Speaker 1: in a full length mirror and a nice bathroom. 434 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 3: But yeah, it was. 435 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: Like just so spectacular and like never have felt more 436 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 1: like connected, Like there was so much like sexual energy 437 00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:30,360 Speaker 1: to that was like so nice. 438 00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 5: It was very rated PG I wouldn't say R. 439 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:42,400 Speaker 2: But then he posted a book to balance it out. 440 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 6: I was like funny, yeah. 441 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 2: Well but there was. 442 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 3: It was like very like there was just like a 443 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:53,800 Speaker 3: lot of like sexual. 444 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:57,080 Speaker 5: Energy the whole trip. It was like amazing. 445 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 1: And then we watched our wedding video and we wrote 446 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:01,919 Speaker 1: letters to ourselves for like our one year and our 447 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 1: five year wedding anniversary. 448 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:07,000 Speaker 2: So it was really really special, very intentional. 449 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:08,080 Speaker 5: Yeah I love it. 450 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:09,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, it looked amazing. 451 00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:12,040 Speaker 1: It was the best. My only complaint was I wish 452 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:13,439 Speaker 1: would have been gone longer. 453 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:17,320 Speaker 5: Me too, Me too? One week international. 454 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:20,439 Speaker 8: It's not is if you can afford it, it's like 455 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 8: you need to go longer. We'd be on the plane 456 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:25,720 Speaker 8: and people would be like, you're flying to MYERCA from 457 00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:27,320 Speaker 8: Los Angeles and you're only going to be there for 458 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:29,320 Speaker 8: a week. And I felt like I was like, do 459 00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:30,760 Speaker 8: we need to extend our trip? 460 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:31,199 Speaker 2: Everyone? 461 00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:35,199 Speaker 1: So, especially after like getting engaged, you were like in 462 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,560 Speaker 1: this like you were in like a paradise, yeah, and 463 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,359 Speaker 1: in your own bubble, right yeah. 464 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 2: And you kind of just want to like live in that. 465 00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 2: And we had. 466 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 6: It was such a long trip, but it was actually 467 00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:48,520 Speaker 6: really getting home and getting to Phoebe and like knowing that's. 468 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 8: Where we're started building our paradise at home, which is 469 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 8: like important to put energy into. 470 00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:55,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of construction happening. 471 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, like every everything can't last forever. It's true, 472 00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 5: you know what I mean, It's got to end. 473 00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:01,440 Speaker 3: You gotta go home. 474 00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:03,119 Speaker 5: Yeah, that's what I kept telling myself. 475 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:05,200 Speaker 6: I told her because she said she's like I don't 476 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 6: want to go, and I go, this is this is 477 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 6: why we're able to like go to these places and 478 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 6: appreciate it because we don't stay for too long. 479 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I could do like a couple more days 480 00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:17,240 Speaker 2: silver lining here. 481 00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 7: But in both your cases you have to go back 482 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 7: to reality. But in both situations you return into reality 483 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:24,720 Speaker 7: that is more beautiful than the reality you left. 484 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:28,959 Speaker 1: What he kept saying, they don't cry, this is the 485 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,040 Speaker 1: start of our lives, the end of our honeymoon. 486 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 8: I'm like, well, it's like that, what's that classic saying? 487 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:38,000 Speaker 8: That's like building your paradise at home. So yeah, always 488 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 8: trying to get away, and it's like it's something that 489 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:42,720 Speaker 8: you're proud of and that you want to be at. 490 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:44,920 Speaker 5: You know you want to and it's true. 491 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 1: I feel like we all have those lives that we've 492 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 1: made for ourselves at home that we don't need to 493 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:52,200 Speaker 1: get away. 494 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:56,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, but it's nice. It sure is nice. Nice to 495 00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 5: get a nice crisp tank. 496 00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 2: We took time. 497 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 3: Oh wow, I've never taken a helicopter in my life. 498 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 6: Scary, it's beautiful, but it is getting on is a 499 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:09,400 Speaker 6: I felt scared and scared. 500 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 1: Pilot looked like a teenager. I was like, this guy's 501 00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 1: flying our helicopter. 502 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:18,840 Speaker 2: It was one of his test runs to pilot. 503 00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:21,120 Speaker 3: Pete from the back like his little brother. 504 00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:22,800 Speaker 5: Yes, but twelve. 505 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 7: I was like, okay, good, everything from fight Lessons is 506 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:27,200 Speaker 7: still fresh in his brain. 507 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah. 508 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:29,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, Buddy got us there and it was good. 509 00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:34,159 Speaker 7: Blair Maples also is requesting a live podcast as a 510 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 7: bachelorette party, which I think is a great idea. I 511 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:38,879 Speaker 7: don't make those decisions, but a lot of scrubbers have 512 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:40,800 Speaker 7: mentioned doing a live show to celebrate this. 513 00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 2: We have time to plan for that. 514 00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:49,479 Speaker 7: Indeed. Uh here's another intuitive listener, Katie Hall. Did Tanya 515 00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:51,719 Speaker 7: stop asking about it so much because she knew it 516 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 7: was coming? No, Robbie, she stopped asking so much. So 517 00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:00,360 Speaker 7: pretty goody good observation. Here was a dookie is back. 518 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:04,840 Speaker 7: Remember her Invisible String is the Agars song? What Taylor 519 00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:08,200 Speaker 7: Swift song would Becca and Haley used to describe their 520 00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 7: relationship and their engagement. 521 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:11,880 Speaker 5: You gotta shake this one? 522 00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:15,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, maybe daylight? 523 00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 6: Oh you know, it's like I used to I used 524 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 6: to believe love would be black and white, but it's. 525 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,960 Speaker 5: Golden, beautiful. I have chills. 526 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:30,760 Speaker 2: I love you are in love. 527 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:46,240 Speaker 5: It's my time to show Welcome to the podcast. 528 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,320 Speaker 7: Let's take a break and we'll do one more because 529 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:50,359 Speaker 7: I got I have one is a really beautiful comment, 530 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 7: and one is a very insightful question. 531 00:24:52,720 --> 00:25:14,159 Speaker 3: Great insightful, and we're back question. 532 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 7: Mark question mark good one. Kelly Summers. I thought this 533 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,160 Speaker 7: is a really beautiful question. If Becca could go back 534 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 7: and tell her younger self about this proposal, what would 535 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:26,560 Speaker 7: she say? And then she gave six heart eye emojis, 536 00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:33,879 Speaker 7: Well six what age? First of all, what age are 537 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:36,080 Speaker 7: you envisioning talking to you? 538 00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:42,240 Speaker 6: To be honest, I'm envisioning like young ishbeca like twenty one. 539 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 2: At that age pre Bachelor, pre Bachelor. 540 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:49,280 Speaker 6: And the thing is is that it's so interesting because 541 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 6: I really would to change a single thing because sometimes 542 00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,639 Speaker 6: I think about how crazy it is that Haley and 543 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,400 Speaker 6: I met. You know, you think about like how anyone, 544 00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,240 Speaker 6: I mean you think about how you met your person 545 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,679 Speaker 6: and how all every choice that you just made like 546 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:06,879 Speaker 6: that person. And I think about how Brittany, who's our 547 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,320 Speaker 6: mutual friend who invited me to her party, I wouldn't 548 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 6: have met had I not gone on The Bachelor and 549 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 6: got invited to an iHeart event where she was one 550 00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:16,439 Speaker 6: of the handlers and became friends with her. You know, 551 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 6: it's just like all these things, and so I would 552 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:23,160 Speaker 6: just tell her that life is going to be even 553 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:42,560 Speaker 6: more beautiful and joyful and fulfilling than you could ever imagine. 554 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:47,159 Speaker 8: It's just like it's just like we had a moment 555 00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:48,359 Speaker 8: when we were out there. 556 00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 5: You were like, I cannot believe you said something like 557 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 5: that if you. 558 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,720 Speaker 8: Were to tell me I was gonna be sitting here 559 00:26:55,840 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 8: with engage with a half Asian woman. 560 00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:07,440 Speaker 2: But I just was like, it is crazy. 561 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:09,639 Speaker 6: Like I think about the person I was and like 562 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:13,600 Speaker 6: and and how much like not to like be like, 563 00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,680 Speaker 6: oh I'm so brave, but think about like how many 564 00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:22,640 Speaker 6: it's like like things I had to unlearn to accept 565 00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:26,640 Speaker 6: myself and accept our love, you know, to be able 566 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,480 Speaker 6: to share it and to even be ready and like 567 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,880 Speaker 6: so excited to say yes to her. Like I think 568 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,359 Speaker 6: about all the things that I had to do and 569 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:43,560 Speaker 6: to the relationships that were challenged, you know, and how 570 00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:47,560 Speaker 6: I just knew. I I remember thinking, like going through 571 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,760 Speaker 6: these hard moments, like I know that she's my end goal, 572 00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 6: Like I know that everything that is hard is worth 573 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 6: it because it's her right. And so I think I 574 00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 6: would just tell young Beca, like you have. 575 00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 4: No idea what's coming, don't go to the farm in Iowa, 576 00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:14,000 Speaker 4: and unexpectingly she is right around the corner. 577 00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:17,520 Speaker 8: And I'm so impressed with Becca because she a lot 578 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 8: of people aren't open to like she when we met. 579 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 8: That was because I've you know, been through a lot 580 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,800 Speaker 8: of different experiences, but like with Becca was different because 581 00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,679 Speaker 8: she was open, Like she was just open to being 582 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:34,920 Speaker 8: open for something new and like not denying it. 583 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 5: Like when we met, it was just like instant and. 584 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:40,440 Speaker 8: She just like, we'll figure it out later, but like 585 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 8: this is this is right. 586 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,120 Speaker 5: And I'm not going to question that. And like that. 587 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 8: I think that that takes a lot of bravery and 588 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 8: courage for you know, her journey of going on the 589 00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,600 Speaker 8: Bachelor twice and thinking that her life was going to 590 00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:56,480 Speaker 8: be a certain way, for her to be courageous enough 591 00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,560 Speaker 8: to go, oh my gosh, is my life actually supposed 592 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,520 Speaker 8: to be this, and like wanting to chase that and 593 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:06,080 Speaker 8: like and go for that, and like she said, challenge 594 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:10,240 Speaker 8: so many things like growing up in Louisiana, and they challenged. 595 00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:11,840 Speaker 5: So many things that she grew up thinking. 596 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:15,200 Speaker 1: You know, it's like it's just so crazy because like 597 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:19,280 Speaker 1: you say, like courageous and like for me looking like 598 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,400 Speaker 1: looking in like it was. I just felt like it 599 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:23,600 Speaker 1: was never there was never a doubt, you know what 600 00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,120 Speaker 1: I mean, Like it was just like so in you 601 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 1: and like you knew like there was this like even 602 00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:32,240 Speaker 1: though there was chaos, there was like this calm and 603 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,840 Speaker 1: this piece inside you and that decision and like that 604 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: is so telling, you know what I mean, Like that 605 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:42,480 Speaker 1: that calm and that piece, like that you found your home, 606 00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,240 Speaker 1: you know, and like I feel like that was very 607 00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 1: evident from like the minute honestly, like after your first kiss. 608 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,800 Speaker 1: As crazy as that sounds, like it was very much there. 609 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:53,480 Speaker 5: Yeah. 610 00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:59,160 Speaker 6: Yeah, we were watching The Queer Ultimatum and it's that show. Yeah, 611 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:03,840 Speaker 6: it's the Ultimat on Netflix, you know, the ultimatum. 612 00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,320 Speaker 5: Get married or like yeah. 613 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 6: Like someone in the relationship is ready to get married 614 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:12,840 Speaker 6: and that the bridge is not. And our friend Taylor 615 00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,720 Speaker 6: was with us watching and so two of the girls 616 00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,400 Speaker 6: said I love you after spending like three weeks together, 617 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 6: and She's like, oh my god, this is so dumb, 618 00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,080 Speaker 6: and they're like, yeah, that was us. 619 00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:26,480 Speaker 2: It happens quick, It happens quick. 620 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:29,320 Speaker 5: So crazy. 621 00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,520 Speaker 7: Yeah, all right, one more quick one, Carla Lopez, did 622 00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,240 Speaker 7: you know Haley at Tanya's wedding that you would be 623 00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:38,479 Speaker 7: proposing soon. Yeah, yeah, there you go. 624 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:43,720 Speaker 5: Yeah sure did one was your wedding March? Oh yeah, 625 00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,160 Speaker 5: oh yeah, that's crazy. 626 00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:50,320 Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean last year was like when you knew 627 00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:53,240 Speaker 8: here we go like I'm gonna have to figure this out. 628 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,040 Speaker 5: But it's also like how do you do it? 629 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,640 Speaker 8: Like how do you There's no rule, there's not you 630 00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 8: can't just like how do you do that? 631 00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,120 Speaker 2: How does one get a ring? 632 00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:06,760 Speaker 5: How does one surprise or how does like get a. 633 00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,960 Speaker 8: Like I was the most intimidated by the photographer part 634 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:11,480 Speaker 8: because I'm like, I'm going to New yorka like I 635 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,760 Speaker 8: don't know anyone in Marriorica, Like how how is that 636 00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:17,600 Speaker 8: gonna happen? So it just felt like the universe everything 637 00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:20,440 Speaker 8: was meant to be because y K was there. 638 00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,400 Speaker 5: He like, he's such an amazing friend. He didn't even question. 639 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 8: He's like I'm there, like I need to be there 640 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:27,280 Speaker 8: to capture this moment. 641 00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:29,200 Speaker 5: And as you've seen, the photos are. 642 00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:32,800 Speaker 8: Just like insane cinematic, like crazy. 643 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 5: So I'm so grateful for him. 644 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:36,240 Speaker 7: I love the rock with the tissue. That's such a 645 00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:36,920 Speaker 7: great Yeah. 646 00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. 647 00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:41,280 Speaker 1: I hope at some point you post the photo with 648 00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:42,520 Speaker 1: like your stick figure drawings. 649 00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:43,680 Speaker 5: So yeah, I know I'm. 650 00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 8: Going to post the evolution of my twice stick for 651 00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:50,160 Speaker 8: your drawing. Yeah, the plan's like the whole storyboard of it. 652 00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 3: Okay, good because it's just too good. 653 00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 5: It's like full type A. 654 00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:57,760 Speaker 7: Let's wrap it up with this one him channing Baylor, 655 00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,640 Speaker 7: She says, Mark, can you just tell tell her how 656 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:03,520 Speaker 7: excited we are for them. Beca helped me feel safe 657 00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 7: coming out to my friends and family. Also, we need 658 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,880 Speaker 7: another live show tour. Twenty twenty was too long ago. 659 00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:17,000 Speaker 6: Well, we just ago too out before global pandemic. 660 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:19,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, we have a wedding to plan now. 661 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,600 Speaker 6: No, we always talk about wanting to do another live show. 662 00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:26,400 Speaker 6: So fun It was so funny because Haley was in 663 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:32,200 Speaker 6: the audience for them, but for the ninety five p Yeah, 664 00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:32,520 Speaker 6: oh thank you. 665 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,880 Speaker 2: That's such pe That's so sweet, thank you, so sweet. 666 00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:39,840 Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you guys, thank you. I'm excited 667 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:43,520 Speaker 1: just to see the outpouring of love. You're going to 668 00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:48,520 Speaker 1: just like feel so many things in this next phase. 669 00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,240 Speaker 1: And I just want you to know that like I'm 670 00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:55,600 Speaker 1: here and for whatever you need, And I want to 671 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,360 Speaker 1: make this the most special time of your lives, and 672 00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:04,440 Speaker 1: I'm just really really happy for you both, but especially Becay. 673 00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,880 Speaker 1: Like I was like worried about you at one point 674 00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,560 Speaker 1: because I was like before you met Haley, obviously, and 675 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:13,360 Speaker 1: I was like, is she ever gonna like find love 676 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 1: or like feel love and like the way that you 677 00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:22,160 Speaker 1: feel about Haley and with Haley, And it's like everything 678 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,760 Speaker 1: you ever want for your best friend. And like, I'm 679 00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:26,200 Speaker 1: just so so happy for you. 680 00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:28,200 Speaker 2: We love you so much. 681 00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 5: Should we do another one last cheers? 682 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,040 Speaker 3: Wrap it up? Let Haley go have some. 683 00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:37,720 Speaker 5: I'm thinking about what I'm gonna do with. 684 00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:40,360 Speaker 2: One last time. 685 00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:47,160 Speaker 5: For our newly engaged couple. Thank you so much for 686 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,520 Speaker 5: having me. This was so special to get to share 687 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:50,280 Speaker 5: it with all of you