Speaker 1: Hey, it's Saturday. We know you need your fix. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's Brooke and Jeffrey and you found the Second Date
Speaker 1: Update podcast. Maybe you're doing laundry, catching up on chores,
Speaker 1: going for a run. That's why we're gonna give you
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Speaker 2: Second, Yes, second second date. There we go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we got two back to back classics for you
Speaker 1: to enjoy today and hopefully it makes your day a
Speaker 1: little bit better. It all starts right now.
Speaker 2: I think people get a lot of credit for all
Speaker 2: the good things that they do, but should don't we
Speaker 2: also deserve credit for the bad things that we didn't do. Oh, Jay,
Speaker 2: I agree. I definitely think so. Because one of our
Speaker 2: listeners went on a beach date with a beautiful woman
Speaker 2: and you're gonna hear the one thing he did not do.
Speaker 1: Oh, we're gonna applaud him for it.
Speaker 2: Well, he deserves kudos for that. We're still gonna judge
Speaker 2: him for even thinking it. In fact, our audience might
Speaker 2: freak out once they hear what it was. But bottom line,
Speaker 2: he did not do it.
Speaker 1: Okay, that makes it feel like he did. Jeff, you
Speaker 1: keep saying that.
Speaker 2: Promise you he did, and you can be the judge
Speaker 2: when you hear it in your second date.
Speaker 3: Update, next second date updated, Brook.
Speaker 2: Do you believe people deserve second chances?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why do you think I'd be here with you if
Speaker 1: I didn't?
Speaker 2: Does that mean.
Speaker 5: Chance?
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know what I did. I'm serious though,
Speaker 2: If somebody makes a mistake, are you willing to let
Speaker 2: bygones be bygones and give him a fair shake?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean especially if there's like an apology, you know,
Speaker 1: like if you talk things out. I think you can
Speaker 1: always work through something.
Speaker 2: Is amazing. We have a return caller on the phone
Speaker 2: today named Scott, who you were not too happy with
Speaker 2: the last time he was on the second if you
Speaker 2: have an apology ready, because he put a little blue
Speaker 2: pill into his own drink at the dinner table and
Speaker 2: you use the word creep to describe him, So maybe
Speaker 2: we need to start with an apology from Brook to Scott. Here,
Speaker 2: go ahead, Broke, you said you believed in second chance.
Speaker 1: Especially here's my question.
Speaker 2: Have you yes?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 1: Yes? Communication, I am not apologizing it. Yeah, that's not
Speaker 1: gonna happen. But what will happen is if you have
Speaker 1: stopped sneaking those pills into your drink at the first date.
Speaker 2: Your drink.
Speaker 1: Still not cool, Jeff?
Speaker 2: Okay, have you changed your ways? Scott?
Speaker 4: You know, I think I've gotten a lot better since
Speaker 4: the last time we talked.
Speaker 2: Okay, So, now does he get the apology for what
Speaker 2: he was big enough to look past all the mean
Speaker 2: things that we called him on the show and give
Speaker 2: us another chance. I think we should give him another
Speaker 2: chance with his dating life here. Okay, Well, a little
Speaker 2: bit of a rough room, but welcome back.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're good, man, You're good.
Speaker 2: I think you should. Okay, Well, so apparently you've reached
Speaker 2: out because there's a new woman that you met.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, her name is Mandy.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, how'd you meet Mandy?
Speaker 4: I was shopping at a hardware store. She comes up
Speaker 4: to me and asked me about like the stuff I'm
Speaker 4: looking at, like she needs help. Maybe I looked like
Speaker 4: I was dressed like I worked there or something, or
Speaker 4: maybe just.
Speaker 3: Being a guy.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if you're wearing a polo shirt in one
Speaker 1: of those stories automatically.
Speaker 4: Fake, Yeah, I was wearing an orange and white Polo shirt.
Speaker 2: Well this is I mean, it's given you the perfect
Speaker 2: chance to talk to her, So what do you do?
Speaker 4: Well, you know, I thought she was cute and I
Speaker 4: was like, look, I don't know it works. I'm sorry,
Speaker 4: I barely know what i'm looking at here.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 5: But I thought she was cute.
Speaker 4: And I told her that, and I asked if she
Speaker 4: would go out.
Speaker 2: She said yeah, wow, that was really quick. So did
Speaker 2: you end up seeing her for an actual date?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: We did, and I really wanted to avoid doing something stupid.
Speaker 1: Okay, that should always be That is such a good
Speaker 1: lessons from the show.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so what was the date?
Speaker 5: Like, we went to the beach.
Speaker 1: O interesting?
Speaker 4: Yeah, so we were like hanging out. We're just like
Speaker 4: people watching, and I thought it would be funny if
Speaker 4: we were like started to rate the women who walked by.
Speaker 2: Oh god, I didn't. You didn't do that.
Speaker 5: I didn't do it.
Speaker 2: Okay, you had the thought, but you didn't follow through
Speaker 2: with it.
Speaker 4: You know, I want you guys to know all the
Speaker 4: bad ideas I didn't do.
Speaker 3: This is growth.
Speaker 2: This is exactly what we wanted from you.
Speaker 6: Hard for.
Speaker 2: Your thoughts.
Speaker 1: Okay, a worse idea that you had than that?
Speaker 2: What else didn't you do?
Speaker 5: All?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 4: So, like the sun started to set and I brought
Speaker 4: my camera. I like to take pictures and stuff, and
Speaker 4: I started to photograph the sunset. Okay, okay, what I
Speaker 4: wanted to do was ask for a model for me.
Speaker 5: Didn't do that?
Speaker 2: Oh you didn't.
Speaker 1: Well, it's not too bad. I mean some women would
Speaker 1: be flattered by my picture.
Speaker 2: Different. Yes, some would be offended that you weren't asking
Speaker 2: them to model. Hey, get out of my frame. Trying
Speaker 2: to capture the sunset.
Speaker 4: Don't make me get more in my head. I tried
Speaker 4: to do my best.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a good thing. Anything else.
Speaker 4: I also didn't tell her about the camera because, like,
Speaker 4: I'm a big camera nerd, and I was like, I
Speaker 4: can go on for days about the text specs of
Speaker 4: the camera.
Speaker 2: Camerapt Alexis are not hot.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: You don't know what to do. Just talking about the
Speaker 2: different of the camera. That was a good choice. Don't
Speaker 2: tell her about the details of your camera. Good call.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I for some reason kept thinking about gas prices.
Speaker 4: Didn't bring that up.
Speaker 1: Are you focused on the date? Did you talk much?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: What did you talk about?
Speaker 1: What did you do?
Speaker 7: Well?
Speaker 4: I mean we talked about like our recent dating history.
Speaker 4: I've been on a lot of dates she's only been
Speaker 4: on one lately.
Speaker 2: Do you think did that rubb her the wrong way
Speaker 2: at all?
Speaker 4: Did you notice once I knew that she hadn't been
Speaker 4: on as many dates, I sort of backed off and
Speaker 4: didn't like go into detail.
Speaker 2: Okay, good, Yeah, you don't want tound that.
Speaker 4: I didn't tell her that I was on the radio
Speaker 4: and what I was on the radio for.
Speaker 1: For your last ones.
Speaker 2: You're making a lot of good decisions here. So how
Speaker 2: do you end this night with? Mandy?
Speaker 4: Walked her? Actually she walked me to my car first.
Speaker 4: I guess we gave each other a hug. Okay, I
Speaker 4: consider taking out the guitar from my trunk to play
Speaker 4: a song, but I did not do it. Did I
Speaker 4: learned my lesson from Barbie? You don't do that. Women
Speaker 4: don't like that?
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 2: Maybe not till like the third or fourth day.
Speaker 1: Then you pull out your Matchbox twenty sound.
Speaker 4: Overall?
Speaker 2: That sounds pretty solid. What's happened since then?
Speaker 5: You know?
Speaker 4: I thought it went well too, but nothing radio silence.
Speaker 4: Haven't heard a thing.
Speaker 1: Wow. Interesting if you were just like two up in
Speaker 1: your head and you were able to actually be yourself,
Speaker 1: you know, like I feel like the whole time, you're
Speaker 1: telling yourself what not to do, not how great you are.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you should bust out those blue pillars again
Speaker 2: and see how it goes. It's back on board. Okay.
Speaker 4: Well, you know, you guys made me think that maybe
Speaker 4: I'm not so great.
Speaker 1: So we didn't think that, No, I didn't.
Speaker 4: He made me good, tossed her out.
Speaker 1: Well, how's a bad assumption to make on a first.
Speaker 2: Date, as he redeemed himself from the creep label in
Speaker 2: this state.
Speaker 1: So far, Yeah, we haven't talked to her.
Speaker 2: Yet, Jeff, all right, so so far it's pretty good.
Speaker 2: We're gonna get the rest of the story when we
Speaker 2: call Mandy for you and try and get you your
Speaker 2: second date update right after this. Okay, sounds good. All right,
Speaker 2: don't move, you creep. Here we go.
Speaker 3: Second date update.
Speaker 2: If you missed the first part of the second date,
Speaker 2: we got a returning listener to the show, Scott back
Speaker 2: with us. He went down a lit of things he
Speaker 2: considered but did not do on his date with Mandy,
Speaker 2: including he didn't ask her to rate the other women
Speaker 2: on the beach on a scale of one to ten.
Speaker 2: He thought about it, but to his credit, didn't do it.
Speaker 1: You did credit when you think about it.
Speaker 2: Still, I guess we're taking baby steps with Scott here. Also,
Speaker 2: when they went to the parking lot for their goodbye hug,
Speaker 2: he considered taking out his guitar for a little John
Speaker 2: Mayer serenade, but said, no, Brooke wouldn't like me to
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 1: I actually probably would have felt for that if I
Speaker 1: was the one on the date for him. Well, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm a sucker for a guitar. That was a stereotype.
Speaker 1: I really am.
Speaker 2: Well, so, Scott, if we call her and she says
Speaker 2: that you whipped it out, I'm gonna be slightly disappointed
Speaker 2: because I thought you made significant growth here. And that's
Speaker 2: not a little blue pill joke. That's just an honest
Speaker 2: observation of you.
Speaker 1: No, there is something wrong in my head head. I
Speaker 1: just saying that you're saying with a clean thought.
Speaker 2: That's you projecting what you want to hear. That has
Speaker 2: nothing to do with what I'm saying. I'm saying that
Speaker 2: Scott has turned a page. The only weird part is
Speaker 2: his date, Mandy has completely ghosted afterwards. So let's find
Speaker 2: out what that's about. Scott. You ready to do this.
Speaker 5: Let's do it.
Speaker 1: Look at that you did the whole first half not
Speaker 1: getting shamed for anything. Scott. I think this is already
Speaker 1: a good sign of how this.
Speaker 2: He's only said three words. If anything, Brooke is the
Speaker 2: creepy pervert who's thinking bad thoughts. So there we go.
Speaker 1: I keep the thoughts inside. Jack just said that that's
Speaker 1: a win.
Speaker 2: You said. Okay, there we go. We're all in the
Speaker 2: winning page.
Speaker 6: Here.
Speaker 2: Let's call Mandy. Now, let's do it. Here we go.
Speaker 5: Hello.
Speaker 2: Hi is this Mandy?
Speaker 5: Yes speaking, Hey Mandy.
Speaker 2: This is a radio show. My name is Jeff and
Speaker 2: I'm part of Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 5: Sorry you're what?
Speaker 2: Sorry? Did I say that? Weird?
Speaker 1: Hey Mandy?
Speaker 2: Hey, there's a random person in the background who just
Speaker 2: said hi to you.
Speaker 5: On the vote.
Speaker 1: Told her who I was.
Speaker 2: I guess technically we work together. Yeah, that's Brooke. I'm
Speaker 2: Jeff and you're on Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning
Speaker 2: with a whole room full of people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Alexis are here too.
Speaker 7: Hell, what what are you calling me about?
Speaker 2: Okay, you get right to it. So, uh, this is
Speaker 2: called the Second Date Update. It's a segment where we
Speaker 2: try to help our listeners reconnect with somebody after they've
Speaker 2: gone out with them once, and you went out with
Speaker 2: a guy who listens to our show name Scott.
Speaker 7: Yeah, so what Oh well.
Speaker 2: Well, so Scott had a really good time at the
Speaker 2: beach with you, and he was hoping that.
Speaker 7: It wasn't a nice time.
Speaker 5: It was.
Speaker 7: It was fun. I won't speak badly on anybody. It
Speaker 7: was a nice time.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, if you had a good time. We're just
Speaker 2: trying to help Scott figure out why there hasn't been
Speaker 2: a second date.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he wants to see you again.
Speaker 2: The way that he described your communication afterwards was radio silent,
Speaker 2: which we appreciate because we want to keep the word
Speaker 2: radio relevant. But we understand Scott doesn't like that. So
Speaker 2: is there a reason?
Speaker 7: Well, yeah, I mean I feel like it was pretty obvious.
Speaker 7: It was just a complete turn off for me that
Speaker 7: he had been on eight dates already this year, that
Speaker 7: he's just kind of juggling all these women, whereas I'm
Speaker 7: in a different place. I've only been on one date. Like,
Speaker 7: it's just felt like different life for arenas.
Speaker 1: He's been on eight dates and that's too many for you.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, he's just what if he have like
Speaker 7: a little rollo deck.
Speaker 1: That's not like you could still count that on two hands.
Speaker 1: I think that's fine.
Speaker 7: I don't know. I just I'm just more traditional person.
Speaker 7: I'm not into the short term casual dating that a
Speaker 7: lot of guys are looking to hook up nowadays. I'm
Speaker 7: not looking for that.
Speaker 1: But do you know that even hooked up with all
Speaker 1: those people or was it just like a It could
Speaker 1: just be bad. It doesn't even mean did he say
Speaker 1: up with them?
Speaker 7: He had a look in his eyes if he kind
Speaker 7: of implied it. I wasn't going to ask guys.
Speaker 1: We can guarantee that one of those dates he did
Speaker 1: not hook up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we got into his dating history before, and yeah,
Speaker 2: it hasn't worked out for him. But you're saying he's
Speaker 2: coming across like a player to you.
Speaker 7: Yeah, And my belief is that if you spend an
Speaker 7: hour or two with somebody, you know what you need
Speaker 7: to know. You know if it's right and if you
Speaker 7: want to make things a little more serious.
Speaker 6: So if he was.
Speaker 7: Willing to commit to something a little more serious, I
Speaker 7: would say yes, But it sounds like he dates a
Speaker 7: lot and he's not looking for something like that.
Speaker 2: Honestly, we don't know, like what the state of his
Speaker 2: current dating situation is. All we know is that he
Speaker 2: reached out to us to get another date, specifically with you. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so that should tell you something and we should probably
Speaker 2: ask him about it if he does have a giant
Speaker 2: roster of girls that he's seeing, Because he is on
Speaker 2: the phone right now hand over here, he's listening to
Speaker 2: this and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 7: Yeah, hey, man, going hied it on. I just loven't
Speaker 7: expecting to be having this conversation in this format.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm just not sure what I did wrong. You
Speaker 4: just think I'm a player?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 5: You.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm definitely dating in hopes to meet someone
Speaker 4: to be with.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, okay, you're not just doing it for the sport, Yeah,
Speaker 2: just for fun.
Speaker 1: You can date for fun. That's okay too.
Speaker 4: I didn't realize that I had to commit after an hour.
Speaker 2: It sounds like, Scott, the only way that Mandy is
Speaker 2: willing to even consider going out with you is if
Speaker 2: you agree to, like right now, not see anybody else
Speaker 2: and give it one hundred percent with her. Is that
Speaker 2: something that's.
Speaker 1: A big assumption, Jeff, Are you sure that's what she's.
Speaker 2: Saying, that's what I'm hearing. Is that right, Mandy?
Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, I had a feeling when I was
Speaker 7: on the date. I don't know if that was mutual.
Speaker 7: What was the feeling, just that I could see myself
Speaker 7: with this person. I could see this progressing into something real,
Speaker 7: So see chemistry.
Speaker 8: You just thought, hey, he's in this phase of dating
Speaker 8: and you're not in that phase of dating.
Speaker 7: Right exact, And I'm not looking to get her so
Speaker 7: quick to give.
Speaker 1: Up on it? I know.
Speaker 2: Well, you were turned off because you thought that he's
Speaker 2: dating lots and lots and lots of women all right now.
Speaker 2: You don't want to be amongst a huge list of women.
Speaker 7: Yeah, if it's me, it's me.
Speaker 2: Okay. So, Scott, is that something that you're even willing
Speaker 2: to consider dropping any other girl that you're talking to
Speaker 2: right now and only focusing on Mandy to clear the roster?
Speaker 4: Bro I mean, I'm not talking to anybody else right now.
Speaker 2: Good answer, Okay.
Speaker 1: Mandy, he was already only talking to you.
Speaker 2: Maybe we should just go right to this then and
Speaker 2: ask Mandy, would you consider going out with Scott again?
Speaker 2: If he says right now he is willing to commit
Speaker 2: one hundred percent to you, not anybody else is scary. Basically,
Speaker 2: agree to enter a relationship on this not potentially you
Speaker 2: have to give in right now, one hundred percent, give
Speaker 2: yourself to her. I'm trying to have am I off, Mandy.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 7: I feel like you're a little laughing at me.
Speaker 4: But like that is what i'd like.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Scott, the terms have been laid out. What
Speaker 2: do you say?
Speaker 5: Why not?
Speaker 4: Let's give it a shot.
Speaker 1: That's why not? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I mean why not?
Speaker 1: He has no other options right now?
Speaker 2: Congratulations, Scott has agreed to commit one hundred percent to you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Look, Mandy, I think you're great. I usually don't commit
Speaker 4: this early, but I honestly I want to spend more
Speaker 4: time with you.
Speaker 2: Isn't that nice?
Speaker 1: Excited?
Speaker 7: I'm glad you said that you were really open and
Speaker 7: vulnerable on your end, So I'm going to be that
Speaker 7: way with you that technically I'm engaged.
Speaker 2: Wait, what my god?
Speaker 7: That's why I need the commitment. That's why I need
Speaker 7: the buy in. So I plan to end it with.
Speaker 1: Him on what was your explanation? Why?
Speaker 7: Like, that's why I need to know if he's in
Speaker 7: this or not with me.
Speaker 1: Your engage because she needs to know if the backup
Speaker 1: plan is sad before she dumps the Curry guys.
Speaker 2: Is that what's happening?
Speaker 7: She's crazy, But Scott, you don't need to listen to them.
Speaker 7: I'm just really excited to spend time with you.
Speaker 4: No, we're not hanging out.
Speaker 2: Okay, maybe, Scott, Now you should tell you wanted to
Speaker 2: rate all the other women on the beach.
Speaker 4: I did, No, you wanted to.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, the good news is, Scott, at the end
Speaker 2: of the day, the big takeaway you didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 3: He did nothing wrong.
Speaker 2: He just ended up with a strict, controlling, pre engaged
Speaker 2: kind of nut job. So can grads engage?
Speaker 1: Very engaging?
Speaker 2: Gage, you have fun, you too.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna ask the radio station to figure out who
Speaker 4: your fiance is and he give me his number.
Speaker 2: Doesn't he sound so in love? He sounds like he's
Speaker 2: nervous with the dates. Yeah, yeah, a relationship and I
Speaker 2: could serenade her with your guitar.
Speaker 1: Scott, good work freaking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: Oh man, with that woman on the phone. Now it
Speaker 2: all makes sense how she's only been with one man
Speaker 2: in the last year, because that was her fiance.
Speaker 1: Yes, oh God together, But aren't we applauding her for
Speaker 1: what she didn't do? Go on other dates with.
Speaker 2: Just go went on this one. But again, that is
Speaker 2: on us for not saying, hey, how did your last
Speaker 2: relationship end? Because her answer would have been it hasn't ended.
Speaker 2: We're engaged right now.
Speaker 1: I see, that's all.
Speaker 2: I'm just looking for a backup. How did we miss that?
Speaker 7: Brooke?
Speaker 2: Where were you on that question?
Speaker 1: My head is not in the game today.
Speaker 2: Step it up on these calls going here on out.
Speaker 2: That would have saved us a whole lot of time.
Speaker 2: But in the end, happy ending kind of for who. No,
Speaker 2: definitely for her.
Speaker 1: I mean she's got the big of a letter.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's for her. She's got commitments from not one,
Speaker 2: but two different men, a couple of people on the
Speaker 2: textboard that want her to Yes, but we can have
Speaker 2: you living here happily ever after. If you email the show,
Speaker 2: we'll call that person who's not calling you back and
Speaker 2: go check out all of our second Day podcast wherever
Speaker 2: you get yours at Brooke and Jeffrey.
Speaker 3: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: The skeptics in this studio are saying today's second date
Speaker 2: is one of the greatest scams ever pulled in dating history.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to say who those people are, but
Speaker 2: I will say that I and much more open minded.
Speaker 2: I'm more open hearted. All my body parts are open.
Speaker 2: I am. I am so open for this right now,
Speaker 2: and I want you to text into seven eight five
Speaker 2: nine two as the second date is running. Are you
Speaker 2: on my side of pure openness? Or do you stand
Speaker 2: with the cross legged skeptics in the.
Speaker 1: Room people are committing to something else? Answer? And if
Speaker 1: our managers checked the textboard later in the day and
Speaker 1: didn't listen to this, they are going to be burying
Speaker 1: in concern.
Speaker 2: Let your thoughts fly free and open as you hear
Speaker 2: what happens in your brand new second date.
Speaker 3: Update, next second date, update date.
Speaker 2: We don't normally hear about this on second dates, or
Speaker 2: I don't know if maybe it just doesn't happen a lot.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure. But in today's call, our listener Michelle
Speaker 2: says that she paid for the entire first date that
Speaker 2: they went on, drinks, food, and the activity that they
Speaker 2: did together, and then after doing all of that, wouldn't
Speaker 2: she know it? She's not getting a call back. How
Speaker 2: does it feel to be a guy, all that effort
Speaker 2: for no reward.
Speaker 1: Why would the guy.
Speaker 2: At least do one thing.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: If she's the one that set the date up, then
Speaker 1: it's her responsibility.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think. Yeah, before we jumped to any conclusions here,
Speaker 2: let's talk to Michelle and find out what happened. Michelle,
Speaker 2: how you doing?
Speaker 1: Hi?
Speaker 6: I'm good. How are you guys doing good?
Speaker 1: It's a good start. Since you're on the phone with us.
Speaker 1: Some people come in a little bit more fragile.
Speaker 2: You seem like you're in good spirits, but clearly something's
Speaker 2: going wrong if this guy isn't calling you back. So
Speaker 2: tell us about the situation. Who is he?
Speaker 6: Well, his name is Calvin. We met on a dating
Speaker 6: appay and yeah, I mean.
Speaker 1: My first question is are you the one that initiated
Speaker 1: all the contact?
Speaker 6: And it was pretty mutual in the beginning when we
Speaker 6: exchange numbers. We were just going back and forth, and
Speaker 6: we spoke on fall a few times and face timed.
Speaker 6: But I had the topic of self care had came
Speaker 6: up during one of our conversations.
Speaker 1: You say self care, Yeah.
Speaker 6: Self care, Yeah, okay, And so I asked him if
Speaker 6: he ever had a manny and Petty and he and
Speaker 6: he said, no, oh, ever.
Speaker 8: Makes sense why I've heard that my best friend gets
Speaker 8: manny's and petties, but I've never done it.
Speaker 1: They feel so good.
Speaker 2: I had a guy friend going for a manny Petty
Speaker 2: lost his foot.
Speaker 3: File.
Speaker 8: They had fill back all yeah, Petty, well yeah, the
Speaker 8: place that he went wasn't accredited, but in this bucket,
Speaker 8: I'm assuming that you probably took him to more reputable place.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So was there any indecision about who was
Speaker 2: going to pay for this part of the date the Yeah.
Speaker 6: Well we didn't discuss it ahead of time, but I
Speaker 6: paid for the whole thing because he didn't have his wallet.
Speaker 6: He didn't know where it was, So, I mean, it
Speaker 6: wasn't It wasn't a big deal to me.
Speaker 2: Who wallet?
Speaker 1: What do you mean like you read the scene like
Speaker 1: you don't find this out till what you're standing at
Speaker 1: the register.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: So we got to the counter and he looked like
Speaker 6: he was attempting to pay, like he was padding down
Speaker 6: his pockets and stuff like that, and he's like, oh, man,
Speaker 6: I don't I don't have my wallet. It looks like
Speaker 6: I don't even.
Speaker 2: Have my wallet.
Speaker 8: It hit him.
Speaker 3: Like girls of the bars.
Speaker 1: We're like, I've never tried to kilos. If somebody buys you,
Speaker 1: I've never had my nails done. Then I'm so smart.
Speaker 1: I was, and she's like, exactly, And whose phone isn't
Speaker 1: connected these days to your credit card? You know what
Speaker 1: I mean?
Speaker 2: My phone is not connected to my credit card.
Speaker 1: By the way, you don't pay for anything.
Speaker 2: It's called a life pack. So thank you for lunch
Speaker 2: after this.
Speaker 6: And I thought of that too. I was like, oh,
Speaker 6: you can just cash up if you want or whatever.
Speaker 6: And he's like, he doesn't do that because if someone
Speaker 6: had stole his credit card information at one.
Speaker 1: Point, you have to cash out.
Speaker 6: And he said no, well he didn't have he didn't
Speaker 6: have any links.
Speaker 2: Okay, this guy he's had a rough he's had a
Speaker 2: rough go with the payment stuff in his past, so
Speaker 2: let's give him a break on that. Okay. So but
Speaker 2: there was more after the manny petty it sounds like, yeah, so.
Speaker 6: He loved it. And then after the nail salon, we
Speaker 6: went to a bar and then all of a sudden,
Speaker 6: he found his wallet. I guess he didn't realize, oh.
Speaker 8: My gosh, right after it is a guy you don't
Speaker 8: even have a purse.
Speaker 1: I know, maybe he was wearing cargo pants. There are
Speaker 1: so many things.
Speaker 6: It was like in a pocket within a pot. It
Speaker 6: was like the secret for.
Speaker 1: Suddenly I found my ID so I can go into
Speaker 1: drink in this.
Speaker 2: That's fate smiling on your date right there.
Speaker 1: So I mean at that point he should pay for
Speaker 1: the drinks?
Speaker 2: I think, yeah, did he pay for the drinks at least?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 6: Mind a little bit? So he had his ID in
Speaker 6: the wallet, but he didn't have any money in his
Speaker 6: wallet because he had just made a payment rifle before
Speaker 6: he left his house. And I can understand like he
Speaker 6: was nervous about the date.
Speaker 1: There's no understanding. Why are we calling him? I mean,
Speaker 1: look is scamming her?
Speaker 2: Well, Alexis doesn't trust the guy unless he leaves the
Speaker 2: credit card at ale house. Guys have we thought? And
Speaker 2: I don't want to make this sad, but he doesn't.
Speaker 1: Have a lot of money. It's embarrassing.
Speaker 2: You don't just tell someone I have three dollars in
Speaker 2: my bag. I've been there.
Speaker 1: Take a date where you can afford something, then sure?
Speaker 2: But what if this is all true? Though? What if
Speaker 2: he actually couldn't find his wallet and he was really
Speaker 2: nervous about a date with a great girl and was
Speaker 2: just making mistakes.
Speaker 1: Okay, if it was true, Jeff, I would think that
Speaker 1: he would call her for a second date to you know,
Speaker 1: even the even if even if he wasn't super interested.
Speaker 1: If it was true, he'd be like, let's go out
Speaker 1: again so I can treat you next time I know
Speaker 1: you and to get home.
Speaker 2: Yes, but the embarrassment and the shame of having to
Speaker 2: do that is really overwhelming for somebody. I mean, my
Speaker 2: heart drops just thinking about that.
Speaker 1: I don't know. She sounds pretty nice. She sounds like
Speaker 1: it didn't bother her one bit.
Speaker 2: I mean, how did you feel about it, Michelle?
Speaker 6: Well, you know everything what really is great? On our date,
Speaker 6: I didn't mind paying. Things happen in life, and I
Speaker 6: went into it was an open mind and just wanted
Speaker 6: to get to know him. We had great conversation, so
Speaker 6: I was for it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, but at this point after the date, he's
Speaker 2: not calling you back.
Speaker 6: Right like I'll text and sometimes he doesn't respond at all,
Speaker 6: and sometimes he does and it's kind of like, sure, yeah,
Speaker 6: that's right with Brook.
Speaker 1: Why is he not taking you out to.
Speaker 2: Respond? No, maybe he just forgot what pocket his phone
Speaker 2: was in, and he was like, oh, I usually in
Speaker 2: this pocket. Now it's in my jacket pocket.
Speaker 1: Where are they finding all of these clothes with tiny
Speaker 1: hidden pockets?
Speaker 6: I mean I kind of gathered that maybe he's like
Speaker 6: embarrassed about it, and yeah, that could be it him.
Speaker 6: I did. I just want to know what's up, what's
Speaker 6: the deal. I can't wait forever, but I do.
Speaker 5: I like his vibe.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, maybe his ego is a little bit down
Speaker 2: right now, but I think just the fact that we
Speaker 2: call him and tell him that you're still interested would
Speaker 2: be a huge boost to it. Oh for sure, So
Speaker 2: let's do that. We'll come back. We're gonna call Calvin
Speaker 2: for you and try and get you a second date.
Speaker 3: Update right after this second date update.
Speaker 2: Are we just a jaded, cynical bunch of radio sleees
Speaker 2: bags judging people on the surface.
Speaker 1: Wa question, Of course we are.
Speaker 2: We shouldn't take that much pride in it, because for
Speaker 2: the first time in probably over two years, a woman
Speaker 2: has come on the show and said she paid for
Speaker 2: everything on a first date because the guy forgot his
Speaker 2: wallet or you know, misplaced it for a second at least,
Speaker 2: and most of us instantly thought, Oh, this guy's a
Speaker 2: total scam artist who doesn't deserve a date, let alone
Speaker 2: any love in his life.
Speaker 1: But I don't know that we went that far. Is
Speaker 1: that what you were thinking in your head?
Speaker 2: I heard Alexis say, why do you even want to
Speaker 2: call this guy's?
Speaker 1: Okay? Keep going with the story, though it gets worse.
Speaker 9: Why The bottom line is Michelle says she had a
Speaker 9: great time with him, felt the connection, and thought maybe
Speaker 9: his nervousness just caused him to make a few bonehead mistakes,
Speaker 9: have a lot.
Speaker 1: Of money, said he found his wallet, just his credit card.
Speaker 2: I don't know. The thing is Michelle is willing to
Speaker 2: give him the benefit of the doubt in that situation.
Speaker 2: Can we do the same find the good in him?
Speaker 1: Sounds a little scammy, but we'll try well.
Speaker 2: I guess the weird part is afterwards, Calvin isn't offering
Speaker 2: to repay her or even reaching out for another day.
Speaker 2: That's the weird part. Are at is maybe nervousness and embarrassment.
Speaker 2: Where are you at? Michelle?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I feel like he was nervous and embarrassed. I mean,
Speaker 6: you guys weren't there s Yes.
Speaker 2: And we also make light of stuff.
Speaker 1: We're half joking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you feel like he's a good guy deep down.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm all about the person and not money.
Speaker 2: So Alexis just rolled her eyes at you.
Speaker 1: So sorry about that.
Speaker 2: You know, let's just get Let's just call Calvin though,
Speaker 2: because I do want to hear what he has to
Speaker 2: say about this. So here we go. I'm dialing his
Speaker 2: number right now.
Speaker 5: Hello.
Speaker 2: Hey is this Calvin?
Speaker 5: Yeah? This Calvin was going on.
Speaker 2: Hey, hey Calvin, we're a radio show and we're hoping
Speaker 2: to talk to you about your dating life a little bit.
Speaker 5: What what are you talking about?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know it sounds a little bit weird, but
Speaker 2: it's a segment that we do called a second Date Update,
Speaker 2: and that's where we help our listeners reconnect with somebody
Speaker 2: that they went out on a date with if they're
Speaker 2: not able to get a second one.
Speaker 5: Yeah okay, So what's going on?
Speaker 1: Someone's interested in you? Is that surprising at all to you? Calvin?
Speaker 5: The way my life going, and yes, that's very surprising.
Speaker 2: Hold on, don't get doubt on yourself, because this is Michelle.
Speaker 2: You guys went and got like manicure pedicure stuff together.
Speaker 5: Oh my god?
Speaker 2: Oh ok, because I was like, a very much.
Speaker 1: If he's embarrassed by the date, that's a natural reaction.
Speaker 2: We heard a little from Michelle about it. We heard
Speaker 2: that she like, misplaced your wallet and couldn't pay and
Speaker 2: then found it later. Bro, it sounded like a mess
Speaker 2: and it didn't paint you in the best light.
Speaker 1: I mean. And then there was like the you so
Speaker 1: you don't do any cash app.
Speaker 2: Sorry, we're not trying to pile on you here, but
Speaker 2: I mean and also your name.
Speaker 3: I'm kidding.
Speaker 2: How did you feel about the wallet situation?
Speaker 5: I'll be ready with you.
Speaker 10: I feel really bad about the whole night, buddy. I'm
Speaker 10: just not at a really good point right now financially,
Speaker 10: which makes dating hard. Yeah, so you know, I really
Speaker 10: do feel bad about the whole night.
Speaker 5: Man.
Speaker 1: Okay, you don't feel bad. She's still really interested in you.
Speaker 8: She brought that up to her like he may not have,
Speaker 8: and she did not text is free.
Speaker 10: So I.
Speaker 2: Don't take that from the woman who has her mom
Speaker 2: pay her cell phone back. Okay, so looks not Selvin.
Speaker 2: We know that we know that you ended up finding
Speaker 2: your wallet right before you got to the bar. Was
Speaker 2: that just so that you could get your ID to
Speaker 2: get in.
Speaker 10: Yeah, because I just didn't know how to tell her
Speaker 10: I didn't have any money.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: I mean the thing is like, she sounds so open
Speaker 1: and cool, like you should have just suggested a date
Speaker 1: that didn't cost as much.
Speaker 2: She knows that we all go through tough times. So
Speaker 2: let's say that she was still interested after the disaster
Speaker 2: of your first date.
Speaker 1: I think we just said that.
Speaker 2: What is your take on that.
Speaker 10: I mean, honestly, I would probably say no because she's
Speaker 10: just too good for me.
Speaker 5: I don't want to waste her time.
Speaker 1: Dude, Why would you say that everybody goes through hard times?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 10: Yeah, but I don't want to bring that into my
Speaker 10: drama and all my life.
Speaker 1: Are you not single?
Speaker 2: Before you answer that, we get too deep into this.
Speaker 2: I want to bring on someone who's more important than
Speaker 2: any of us in this room, and that's Michelle, who's
Speaker 2: been waiting patiently on the other line, listening to this call,
Speaker 2: wanting to talk to you.
Speaker 5: Hey, what are you talking about, Seana Fauma.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how the segment works. We have them listening Michelle.
Speaker 2: Are you there?
Speaker 6: Hi? Calvin, Hi Michelle. I mean I haven't heard from you,
Speaker 6: so I'm really happy to hear your voice.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I just want to apologize up front. I'm just
Speaker 10: going through a lot right now. I don't have a job,
Speaker 10: so I just don't want to waste well, I'm honestly, I.
Speaker 6: Mean that just means you're you're an entrepreneur. I think
Speaker 6: you're just looking at this whole thing wrong.
Speaker 2: What do you do that looking at it wrong? Interesting?
Speaker 6: I mean, every business owner goes through this in the beginning,
Speaker 6: you know, I'm sure even the YouTube owners struggled. Airbnb
Speaker 6: owners struggled in the beginning. This is just and I'm
Speaker 6: I'm willing to stick by his side, you.
Speaker 2: Know, working out of his page.
Speaker 1: He was already rich.
Speaker 2: But yeah, well, I mean, Calvin, she's willing to give
Speaker 2: you the benefit of the doubt. I'm having no job.
Speaker 10: Yeah, but I'm like fully broke man, like I have
Speaker 10: no money, and I'm.
Speaker 5: Really I'm serious. I feel like she's such a good person.
Speaker 5: I just feel like I'll be wasting time.
Speaker 6: It's not that you don't have any You're not materialistic.
Speaker 6: It's not about money with.
Speaker 2: You, oh god, everything you guys live together.
Speaker 1: Some of my best relationships they were men who didn't
Speaker 1: have home.
Speaker 2: Yeah, them the moment. Okay, honestly, we'll tell your husband
Speaker 2: to give up the house and move into your.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just saying that it's a hard.
Speaker 2: Husband to hear the best relationships are with the homeless.
Speaker 1: He's obviously my best. Why do you have to compare everything, Jesus,
Speaker 1: it's like talking to my husband right now. I had relationships.
Speaker 2: You're hearing a happy relationship on the phone right these people?
Speaker 2: Excuse me? Sorry, continue, Michelle.
Speaker 6: He's not homeless. He has a home if he needs
Speaker 6: to come here.
Speaker 2: Wow, is that offered you?
Speaker 3: Just girl?
Speaker 2: Calvin?
Speaker 5: I mean, I never about it anything like that. Honestly,
Speaker 5: be real with you. I felt like.
Speaker 10: Even at night, I was kind of getting on her
Speaker 10: nerves because I was talking a lot of junk about
Speaker 10: my ex girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Oh, don't bring it up now, obviously, did you not
Speaker 1: learn anything for the last thirty seconds of my life?
Speaker 2: Everything is good, Michelle. Did you have a problem with
Speaker 2: him talking about his ex the whole night?
Speaker 7: No.
Speaker 6: I took it as it means that he's really passionate
Speaker 6: about love and he still believes in it.
Speaker 1: You cannot bring her down. No, I need to call
Speaker 1: her every time I'm having a bad day. So she
Speaker 1: could spin it.
Speaker 2: Fam I mean, I think Brook she sees this little
Speaker 2: lump of coal and spots of diamond.
Speaker 1: Dude, he's Aladdin right now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And there's nothing wrong with wanting to change a
Speaker 2: man to be better.
Speaker 6: I don't want to change him. I don't need to
Speaker 6: change him.
Speaker 7: He perfect the way he is.
Speaker 2: That's really nice.
Speaker 1: Don't pass this up, Calvin. This is like once a
Speaker 1: lifetime you meet a person like this.
Speaker 2: I mean, we would love to offer you, guys, to
Speaker 2: go out on another date, and we would pay for
Speaker 2: it if you're willing to at least give it a shot. Calvin.
Speaker 2: That way, you don't have to worry.
Speaker 6: No no, no, no, no no no no. Listen, guys, this
Speaker 6: is my money, my choice. I want to pay for
Speaker 6: the date and let him know I am by his side.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 8: I wouldn't feel bad for Tgi Friday the more financial decisions.
Speaker 2: Calvin, I mean, what are you going to say? Are
Speaker 2: you willing to give her a chance to pay for
Speaker 2: your next day?
Speaker 5: She's offering the honor to Michelle. Thank you for even
Speaker 5: just understanding what I'm going through and wanting to be
Speaker 5: there for me. So yes, I would love to.
Speaker 8: Go on, are man, this turned out so good?
Speaker 1: It like chipped away at my little jaded heart.
Speaker 2: Well, congratulations you too.
Speaker 5: You're going to meet up Michelle for real? Are you
Speaker 5: sure you want to go out with me? After all?
Speaker 10: It is because you know every time on the day,
Speaker 10: I'm just talking about myself.
Speaker 1: Wait, what what is that a rule? Or maybe we
Speaker 1: could not do that?
Speaker 6: I mean I just looked at it like you're opening
Speaker 6: up to me. You feel comfortable opening up to me.
Speaker 2: Just not as Wallace.
Speaker 3: Brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: We're got a lot of texts coming in at seventy
Speaker 2: five night or two about this second date. Someone said,
Speaker 2: we absolutely have to get an update update from these two.
Speaker 2: She is the most understanding woman in the world.
Speaker 1: I know. I'm actually like, I'm worried about her, not
Speaker 1: necessarily in this relationship, but just in life. Is she
Speaker 1: gonna get taken advantage of can you live? Can you live?
Speaker 1: That opening kind?
Speaker 8: She's gonna be a guy who's like, yeah, I murdered
Speaker 8: a bunch of people, and she's like, you.
Speaker 2: Sound very passionate.
Speaker 6: Ye.
Speaker 2: Another text says it's funny Brook called the guy a
Speaker 2: scammer in the first part and by the end, her
Speaker 2: heart was melting with shame.
Speaker 1: Shame.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's not fair. Brooks heart was not melting
Speaker 2: with shame. It was melting thinking about her homeless ex boyfriends.
Speaker 2: Let's give her some credit on that.
Speaker 1: Listen, you guys, it's not that I still love them.
Speaker 1: They just say it was a fun relationship.
Speaker 4: You know we're doing.
Speaker 1: We stayed at my house all the time.
Speaker 2: That was the only option. Alexis, maybe did you learn
Speaker 2: anything from this second date update? Anything you want to
Speaker 2: put into your own dating life?
Speaker 1: Was I supposed to No?
Speaker 2: No, never should have asked.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: What I should be asking is if you have any
Speaker 2: issues in your love life that you want a little
Speaker 2: help with, we can be that person to step.
Speaker 5: In for you.
Speaker 1: This makes me feel like we can do good things,
Speaker 1: truly
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