Speaker 1: Hey there, folks.
Speaker 2: In today's Love Stories series, a couple that's been together
Speaker 2: over a decade and we can't believe it, not after
Speaker 2: you hear how he dumped her years ago. Welcome to
Speaker 2: this special Cuffing season edition of Amy and TJ. Robes.
Speaker 2: This was one folks are gonna hear here in a minute.
Speaker 2: But I've heard of some breakup stories. This is worse
Speaker 2: than texting a breakup.
Speaker 3: It's so bad that I can't believe that they've now
Speaker 3: been married for seven years.
Speaker 1: Let's just put it that way.
Speaker 3: And we're talking about a beloved couple, a couple that
Speaker 3: I know most of you have seen on the Ballroom
Speaker 3: Dancing with the Stars, Peter Murgatroyd and Max Schmerkowsky.
Speaker 1: They actually met on Broadway.
Speaker 3: But they started dating when they were on Dancing with
Speaker 3: the Stars, and then they stopped dating while they were
Speaker 3: on Dancing with the Stars, which is never fun because
Speaker 3: that's why people say you shouldn't.
Speaker 1: I can't say what they say.
Speaker 2: What do they say?
Speaker 1: They say you shouldn't poop where you eat?
Speaker 2: Is that what they say? I thought it was Pen
Speaker 2: and Company, inc.
Speaker 1: Oho.
Speaker 2: Oh god. What we're trying to say is you're not
Speaker 2: supposed to date people at work. We certainly would be
Speaker 2: advocates of that policy. You should never ever, under any
Speaker 2: circumstance days somebody work. But it ended up working out
Speaker 2: for them. But you said they broke up for a
Speaker 2: little while, and it's one of the stories or one
Speaker 2: of the questions we've asked the couples in our series,
Speaker 2: asking about how close they've gotten the breaking up, But
Speaker 2: they actually broke up, and he did it in a
Speaker 2: way that I think the video will show both of
Speaker 2: our jaws is.
Speaker 1: We're dropped, it's true.
Speaker 3: But to hear how far they've come and once they
Speaker 3: committed or recommitted back to one another, it's so cool
Speaker 3: to hear how they operate with their three kids. In fact,
Speaker 3: they're so busy they actually had to do this interview
Speaker 3: you're about to hear in their closet, and that's how
Speaker 3: we begin our interview with Max and Peter. Peter and Max,
Speaker 3: so good to see both of you coming to us
Speaker 3: from your closet. I love it. I just love seeing
Speaker 3: your faces. But it's especially fun to see where you
Speaker 3: are right now.
Speaker 4: Thank you, it's so nice to be here. Thank you
Speaker 4: so much for having us this is going to be
Speaker 4: really fun.
Speaker 1: You will you say that now?
Speaker 5: Welcome to the closet. Welcome. Yeah, this is definitely space
Speaker 5: we spend the most time, and if we decide to
Speaker 5: do any kind of business activity, I take calls here.
Speaker 5: Peter's office is literally right there.
Speaker 4: And hibernate here and I just shut the door from
Speaker 4: the babies.
Speaker 5: You know, it's excellent. But what a life? What a life?
Speaker 3: It's amazing, it's amazing. Those are all good problems to have.
Speaker 3: All right, we're going to launch right into our questions.
Speaker 3: So the first question we've asked all the couples is this,
Speaker 3: each of you, if you would use three words to
Speaker 3: describe your relationship right now?
Speaker 1: Peter, I'll go, I'll start with you.
Speaker 4: I got to think of some nice ones right now. Okay,
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna be really honest.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we listen and we don't.
Speaker 4: Stressful, Okay, three children, two babies, stressful, passionate. Can I
Speaker 4: say cohesive, like we're working together as a team.
Speaker 1: That's awesome.
Speaker 2: Laughing at our answers.
Speaker 5: The answers, there's no. I don't think there's right answer
Speaker 5: is no. I think I think my first word was
Speaker 5: and this is describing our relationship, you know, not like
Speaker 5: our life and the setup in the situation. But the
Speaker 5: first one I felt some reason, I was busy. You know,
Speaker 5: we've never been I've never felt that way with us.
Speaker 5: It was always just the two of us, and then
Speaker 5: the three of us for for a while, and then yeah,
Speaker 5: for six years we just had shy and it was incredible,
Speaker 5: oop and down know that, and then bam, bam, now
Speaker 5: we have a kindergarten. But you know, the other two
Speaker 5: is I would say, I would say, for some reason,
Speaker 5: we're fighting, but not in a way of fighting each other,
Speaker 5: but in the form of I just don't know vernacular,
Speaker 5: you know, English second language, but in the court of
Speaker 5: like fighting for this because I found that now we
Speaker 5: have a lot of distractions and we find ourselves to
Speaker 5: like we are fighting to make sure that we you know,
Speaker 5: we still us do.
Speaker 4: Our date nights and we try to.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and then the last one is loving because at
Speaker 5: the end of it all, even the frame fight, you know,
Speaker 5: the little cuddle, the little foot touch, you know, it's
Speaker 5: all I need and we both kind of on the
Speaker 5: same wavelength, like listen, I don't want to talk to you,
Speaker 5: but can I feed touch No.
Speaker 1: Literally, I totally get that.
Speaker 4: If we've just had like some tea or something and
Speaker 4: we go to bed, I'll feel the foot just slowly
Speaker 4: come in and touch my toe and I'm like, oh, okay,
Speaker 4: here we go. Yes, and then we roll over and
Speaker 4: have a kiss and we're good.
Speaker 5: Yeah. But last night she did the thing and I
Speaker 5: was like, that's it. That's where I draw a line
Speaker 5: is when she goes above the sheet and I and
Speaker 5: they need the sheet and she's already sleeping and I'm
Speaker 5: trying to the foot and the sheet between us. Yesterday
Speaker 5: I was like, No, that's it. I can do it.
Speaker 5: I rolled over and I went to bed.
Speaker 2: Okay, we have a question on the list about fighting,
Speaker 2: and you all have answered like question about intimate touch,
Speaker 2: all these others already.
Speaker 4: We can elaborate.
Speaker 2: All right, next question here for you guys. And we
Speaker 2: had to take it back back to the beginning. Was
Speaker 2: there immediate chemistry when you first met.
Speaker 4: No, because we were in different relationships at the time.
Speaker 4: He was engaged. I was with a long term boyfriend.
Speaker 4: So when we met, it was very much high on
Speaker 4: Peter Heim. I'm Max. He we met on Broadway. He
Speaker 4: came to be headline our show, which.
Speaker 5: Did you just say the word? I came to be
Speaker 5: the star of the show.
Speaker 4: Do you see what I'm dealing with?
Speaker 5: Is why she immediately disliked me very much. She was like,
Speaker 5: this guy walked in, who does he think he is brought? Not?
Speaker 4: She was the list. It was very, very cordial, very
Speaker 4: workplace environment. It wasn't anything. There was nothing on the radar.
Speaker 4: But again until he came back and he was single.
Speaker 4: When he came back again to do another stint with
Speaker 4: our show, I was still with my relationship. But I crack.
Speaker 5: He cracks, I started, I have, I have, I have
Speaker 5: contributed to some cracks.
Speaker 4: There were some cracks.
Speaker 5: Every time I had a pr event to promote the show,
Speaker 5: they'd be like, well, who do you want to take?
Speaker 5: And it was a cast of like twenty four incredible
Speaker 5: dances and you're like, yet the blonde one. What's her
Speaker 5: name again?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 5: Make sure that's like, of course I don't know her anything. Yeah,
Speaker 5: So yeah, there was definitely attraction and.
Speaker 4: Not in the beginning, that's what they're asking.
Speaker 5: Well again, deep inside possibly probably you know.
Speaker 4: Because not from me.
Speaker 5: As soon as I got single and there was a
Speaker 5: lot of options and for some reason, a lot of.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, he was the star of the show.
Speaker 1: He had a lot of options.
Speaker 5: I'm all for two here with the way she presents us.
Speaker 1: So that's amazing, all right. Next question, who' said I
Speaker 1: love you first?
Speaker 4: Well, we were dating for about maybe four or five
Speaker 4: months when we wanted to. We both wanted to say it,
Speaker 4: and I remember we made up a phrase called just
Speaker 4: we just said pickles to one another, which is so random,
Speaker 4: but we use the word pickles to sign off on
Speaker 4: a text or to say Okay, have a great day pickles.
Speaker 4: Because we didn't really want to say it because it
Speaker 4: was really early.
Speaker 5: But I was definitely but he was the first one.
Speaker 5: I'm one thousand percent more emotional in those type of
Speaker 5: things in our relationships, So you know, I would have
Speaker 5: said it first. I would have thought it first. I
Speaker 5: would have wanted to say it first.
Speaker 4: Actually I screenshot all my texts from back in the day,
Speaker 4: of course, just to like paper trail. Yeah, paper trail.
Speaker 1: He he was.
Speaker 4: The first one to say I want to I want
Speaker 4: to marry you. You know, this is where we're going
Speaker 4: to get married. And and then he dumped me like
Speaker 4: five months later.
Speaker 5: We broke up. Yeah, but that's what men do when
Speaker 5: they're in love. They run. We we I've acted on this,
Speaker 5: you know, primeval emotion. It was like, oh my god,
Speaker 5: what is this that I'm feeling my closet, all her stuff,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, it was very jarring for me to
Speaker 5: see that. You know, it used to be an empty space.
Speaker 3: Now it's just like, well, wait, so you broke up
Speaker 3: because you you're in the closet.
Speaker 4: Freaked you out?
Speaker 5: No, I think I think it was the fact that
Speaker 5: I knew she was the one, and you know, I
Speaker 5: did the thing that all stupid men do is we're
Speaker 5: just like, yeah, cofeet And I remember was the dumbest
Speaker 5: breakup ever.
Speaker 4: And I had just bought him an eight thousand dollars
Speaker 4: Louis Veiton's suitcase.
Speaker 5: Irresponsible, I would say, this is respons my children, but you.
Speaker 4: Have to realize how crazy that was. I gave it. No,
Speaker 4: I was just like, we were so in love and
Speaker 4: there was no reason for us to break up anytime soon.
Speaker 4: And then literally five days.
Speaker 5: Later, I was so in love. There's no reason for
Speaker 5: expensive presents. It's you know what I'm saying, My love
Speaker 5: is what it was. And then bam. You put me
Speaker 5: in the spot though I wanted to break up and
Speaker 5: I was like not. She brought me the sting I
Speaker 5: wanted for a couple.
Speaker 4: Of days later.
Speaker 5: And I drove her to the airport she was flying
Speaker 5: to l A. I brove her. Today she hasn't I
Speaker 5: haven't said a word. This is true story. She's now
Speaker 5: at the airport, she's like nothing, she's the check in.
Speaker 5: I walked with her nothing security line. This is now
Speaker 5: where we have to part ways. And as soon as
Speaker 5: she's behind the rope, I'm like, let's just you know,
Speaker 5: let's just give it time. Let's just do this. And
Speaker 5: I did.
Speaker 4: No. He said go do you boom, just go do
Speaker 4: you for a second, I'm like, oh, okay, yeah. It was.
Speaker 4: It was terrible. It was terrible.
Speaker 3: That's almost like an in person way of breaking up
Speaker 3: over text, Like you waited till she was on the
Speaker 3: other side.
Speaker 5: No, this is this is worse because she can't even
Speaker 5: text me. She got on the plane and got no reception,
Speaker 5: so this is like she had six six and a
Speaker 5: half hour flight to think about all this.
Speaker 4: It was terrible.
Speaker 5: It was horrible, really bad.
Speaker 1: Why did you take him back?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 4: Because she came back groveling just at my feet, just
Speaker 4: kind of live without you. I don't know, but well,
Speaker 4: like please please, you know, like.
Speaker 5: That, okay, just slowly.
Speaker 4: The reason why I knew he was this was just
Speaker 4: a phase. It was just a thing he was going through,
Speaker 4: was because on the way to the airport, he said
Speaker 4: to me, why did you pack up all of your things?
Speaker 4: Why did you take all the suitcases with you? And
Speaker 4: I'm like, well, you're breaking up with me, right, why
Speaker 4: would I.
Speaker 5: The suitcase?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: He was just like, you're so black and white? Why
Speaker 4: would you take everything from the house? And I was like,
Speaker 4: wait a second, do you still want me there? Partially
Speaker 4: like it was, it was so strange, and that's how
Speaker 4: you know. I was just like, Okay, this guy is
Speaker 4: just going through something. Let's give it a second. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that is.
Speaker 2: Kind of you two be that patient with him and
Speaker 2: recognize that is love. And I have to ask, where
Speaker 2: is that eight thousand dollars Louis Vuitton suitcase today? Whatever
Speaker 2: happened to it?
Speaker 4: It's in storage right now.
Speaker 5: It exists, It existed.
Speaker 4: I never get rid of it. I love it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, what do you mean it's mine to get I
Speaker 5: did not we could have given it that I didn't
Speaker 5: want to because I clearly didn't feel like this was
Speaker 5: going to be forever.
Speaker 3: All right, So this might you kind of given a
Speaker 3: little bit of the timeline here, But how long did
Speaker 3: you date before you got engaged? And then how long
Speaker 3: were you engaged before you actually got married?
Speaker 4: So we dated first for that year, and then we
Speaker 4: broke up for like a year and a half, got
Speaker 4: back together fully back together in two thousand and four.
Speaker 5: For a year and a half. Yeah, oh wow, I
Speaker 5: thought it was like nine months.
Speaker 4: No, it was a little bit longer, though it.
Speaker 5: Felt really fast.
Speaker 4: Twenty fourteen, we got back together, and then you proposed
Speaker 4: to me two thy fifteen, in December, so it was
Speaker 4: like a year and two months because.
Speaker 1: After you already got back together.
Speaker 4: Yes, you're in two months that we've been back together
Speaker 4: he proposed. And then what was the next.
Speaker 1: Question when you got married? How long were you engaged?
Speaker 4: We were we got married seventeen July eighth.
Speaker 5: I remember these things. Peter doesn't remember when I proposed.
Speaker 5: She's like, she just said it because she knew that.
Speaker 5: I was like, I was listening, But it's so funny.
Speaker 4: No, Yeah, so that was quick because and I wasn't
Speaker 4: expecting it. I never said, hey, once we're back together,
Speaker 4: you need to put a ring on my finger.
Speaker 5: That was I would never I've never gone back together
Speaker 5: any anywhere or back to anything. Like if I walk out,
Speaker 5: I'm out. And it wasn't just relationships, just you know,
Speaker 5: you know, I think it's my You know, you made
Speaker 5: up your mind. If you go back on it, well
Speaker 5: then why were you making up your mind to begin with.
Speaker 5: You didn't give it enough thought, blah blah blah. So
Speaker 5: I'm like, they're this captain, and so for me to
Speaker 5: come back was like you coming back forever. And that's
Speaker 5: that period of time. I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 5: this is forever. Let me break up and see if
Speaker 5: it's real, you know, And I think that that's what
Speaker 5: it was. And I immediately as soon as we broke up,
Speaker 5: I wanted her back. You know. The the year and
Speaker 5: a half that she says it was, like I said
Speaker 5: to me, was so so much less because there was
Speaker 5: a period of time that we stayed away, but then
Speaker 5: we started bumping into each other in our friends' houses
Speaker 5: and not you know, it's it was we did not
Speaker 5: want to let each other go, so we always knew
Speaker 5: when I got back together with her. For me, it
Speaker 5: was a matter of like, why can't I do right now?
Speaker 5: Why do I have to wait? Because I'm already back
Speaker 5: with that person. That means I'm here forever, you know.
Speaker 5: And so for me this you know, it was an
Speaker 5: immediate yes. And also yesterday eight year old was like money, wait,
Speaker 5: I was born in January and your waiting was in July.
Speaker 5: And so he talked these questions.
Speaker 4: Like to get married first, that we.
Speaker 5: Go to school in La Bro. We're not We're not
Speaker 5: going to talk.
Speaker 2: Our next question. Here has been interesting to hear some
Speaker 2: of the range of answers. But why for you all
Speaker 2: was it important to be married? How would things have
Speaker 2: been different if you decided to continue your relationship without
Speaker 2: having it official, without having the government stamp if you will.
Speaker 4: It's funny. Once we had Shy in January twenty seventeen,
Speaker 4: I felt like he was all of our focus, our
Speaker 4: friends and family and Max I feel like we're very
Speaker 4: much pushing for us to get married because they they
Speaker 4: felt like, if we don't do it now, we're never
Speaker 4: going to do it. We're just going to stay engaged
Speaker 4: and have more children and stuff is that flying around
Speaker 4: my head? So I was, I said in March. I remember,
Speaker 4: I was like, can we just stop all this wedding planning?
Speaker 4: Like I am overwhelmed. I am three months postpartum, I'm
Speaker 4: working on Dancing with the Stars, like I can't take.
Speaker 5: Any more going on to work.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was very overwhelmed. And then everyone's like, no,
Speaker 4: we're getting married. We're going to Long Island and we're
Speaker 4: getting married in a castle. Peter, what type of hoopa
Speaker 4: do you want? What type of roses?
Speaker 5: And I'm just like, that's how you fell.
Speaker 4: I did. I felt it was very suffocating and as
Speaker 4: much as it was an amazing day and you know,
Speaker 4: it turned out beautiful and everything we ever wanted it was,
Speaker 4: it was a lot. And I personally I could have
Speaker 4: not been married and been happy.
Speaker 5: I don't know she was. She should have said that,
Speaker 5: because then then, you know, my thing was like we
Speaker 5: second we met was like we're gonna get married. There
Speaker 5: there was a whole castle and then and and it
Speaker 5: was a you know, pig place. It was amazing, and
Speaker 5: you know, I felt that there is a dream, you
Speaker 5: know scenario, and I felt like a girl and Peter
Speaker 5: is that girl? You know, the dress and the beautiful scenario,
Speaker 5: you know, celebration and all of that stuff. And I wanted, honestly,
Speaker 5: honest to be you know, I wanted to give it
Speaker 5: to her. I wanted her to have that. You know,
Speaker 5: this in spite of our incredibly busy schedules, and in
Speaker 5: spite of the fact that we're already you know, we
Speaker 5: started that family, were already had a kid and all that.
Speaker 5: But listen, you know, if I if personally, if I
Speaker 5: were to do it all over again, I'd probably do
Speaker 5: it the same way. You know, spend way too much
Speaker 5: money and you know, be that that that that couple
Speaker 5: that did that thing. You know, didn't have to do it,
Speaker 5: you know. But we also didn't have a honeymoon. We've
Speaker 5: never gone away or anything. We we we had a show,
Speaker 5: a season, a tour, a tour, bus and the season again,
Speaker 5: then banged wedding, then bang back on the show bank
Speaker 5: you know, doing We kind of did the wedding as
Speaker 5: like part of part of our yearly schedule, you know,
Speaker 5: so we never got to focus on it and all that.
Speaker 5: So we have these beautiful, gorgeous memories, photos, videos. I'm
Speaker 5: holding onto that, but like you said, you blink, and
Speaker 5: we're coming up, and you know it's gonna be a
Speaker 5: ten year anniversary in two years, and I'm like, I
Speaker 5: just can't believe that it's been almost a decade already.
Speaker 2: Are here right? You'll never took a honeymoon?
Speaker 5: None?
Speaker 4: Still none?
Speaker 2: Is it only agenda? Can you fit it into a schedule?
Speaker 2: Is it only? Are you over it now?
Speaker 5: We can we stop having babies?
Speaker 4: Yeah? We're now like, okay, this summer, I'm not getting pregnant.
Speaker 4: We are going away. We're hopefully hopefully got a plan
Speaker 4: like a europe trip. That's okay.
Speaker 5: I don't know how that's possible, but.
Speaker 1: Put it on the division board for now.
Speaker 5: It's more than fact that, like you travel with kids,
Speaker 5: it's like the same thing, but in a different country,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: So and more expensive. Oh I get it. Is there
Speaker 1: a nage difference between the two of you?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 5: Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you?
Speaker 4: Thank you?
Speaker 1: Who's older?
Speaker 5: Two times? Thank you? I mean people keep thinking keep coming.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, well I guess no, but.
Speaker 5: I like it with my brother. It's the same thing
Speaker 5: with Val. Now. You know, there was a period of
Speaker 5: time when Val was like no, I'm also old, big
Speaker 5: and you know, but now he's like, no, he doesn't
Speaker 5: like it when people are like which one of years
Speaker 5: older again?
Speaker 1: Exactly. Oh, I know, you get to a certain point.
Speaker 1: It's not what you want to talk about, all right.
Speaker 1: We've asked everybody this. Feel free to answer it.
Speaker 3: How you choose, how would you describe your sex life
Speaker 3: and how has it changed over the years.
Speaker 5: It's like, mister and missus Smith, what's that sex question?
Speaker 5: Sex question?
Speaker 4: I mean, passionate comes to mind. First. I don't think
Speaker 4: we've ever had like, we've never had a bad moment
Speaker 4: in our sex life or anything. We've had lull moments
Speaker 4: of like after pregnancy and you know, postpartum and stuff
Speaker 4: like that where I feel terrible about myself or just
Speaker 4: feel not sexy in myself and it takes me a
Speaker 4: little second to get back. But we've always had that
Speaker 4: spark for me, We've always had that chemistry and we
Speaker 4: never it's never been lacking.
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm just very attracted to her, so that
Speaker 5: that part's is, you know, and I've been attracted to
Speaker 5: her through all these stages. It's something about that type
Speaker 5: of I guess maybe a couple and that type of
Speaker 5: as they say, chemistry. You know, it's not just metaphor
Speaker 5: for some thing. I think there is a chemistry. I
Speaker 5: think you are you know, connected, when you are connected
Speaker 5: the right way. I think that those things are prevalent too,
Speaker 5: you know. I'm just again, when she's around, I'm attracted
Speaker 5: to her. I'm attracted to her the shoulder, the ankle,
Speaker 5: you know a lot of things. And so for me,
Speaker 5: there's always been a lot of like, you know, there's
Speaker 5: something else to look forward to. It doesn't she doesn't
Speaker 5: need to always be you know, eight pack and this
Speaker 5: sort of like superstar athlete in this sort of like
Speaker 5: the peak of her conditioning coming off of Dancing with
Speaker 5: the Star's tour. Right. No, I'm just I love Peter,
Speaker 5: you know, and and there's more to it than just
Speaker 5: you know, physical presence. So also there's a lot of
Speaker 5: gorgeous and beautiful things that the woman goes through through
Speaker 5: the pregnancy. Having said that, that period afterwards it is
Speaker 5: confusing because then you feel like, well, wait a minute,
Speaker 5: you know, are you not attracted to me? And so
Speaker 5: there's that there needs to be that communication because I'm like, shit,
Speaker 5: now I got to go do more crinch isn't like
Speaker 5: being the gym because she doesn't like me anymore, blah
Speaker 5: blah blah. So you know, but there's a period of
Speaker 5: time when she's not about that and you know rightfully,
Speaker 5: so there's a different attachment. Then there's a different man,
Speaker 5: you know, with Shy, I had to realize that there's
Speaker 5: another dude in the house, you know. Now I don't
Speaker 5: feel that way now. I feel like we we understand
Speaker 5: what we all are. But again, it's about this chemistry.
Speaker 5: As long as this chemistry is intact, everything else going
Speaker 5: to work out.
Speaker 4: I will say, though, I feel like the longer you
Speaker 4: wait in the sex life, like you know, they say,
Speaker 4: don't go two weeks without having sex, so don't go
Speaker 4: three days without having sex or something.
Speaker 5: It's I don't say that, but I really do think.
Speaker 4: It affects us. You know. I feel like he's more tense,
Speaker 4: he gets more like agitated with things or stressed, you
Speaker 4: know what I mean. And when there's more sex, there's
Speaker 4: more love, there's more a joy, there's more lightheartedness.
Speaker 5: You know, I would I wouldn't say it's for the
Speaker 5: lack off and you get I think it's when you
Speaker 5: are in that sort of agitated state because of the
Speaker 5: outside stuff or even the inside stuff we don't see.
Speaker 5: I try about some unrelated to sex things you know
Speaker 5: you have to be able to. I mean it's sex
Speaker 5: can fix that, you know, it can also fit the
Speaker 5: same page. And you walk off and like, what was
Speaker 5: that about? Like, okay, by the way, I thought of
Speaker 5: a new idea maybe that you know, I don't know.
Speaker 2: We have to tell you all. That is the most detailed,
Speaker 2: psychologically sound sex answer we've gotten from any couple.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I thought were.
Speaker 2: No doubt about it.
Speaker 5: I mean we also didn't get into specifics so about
Speaker 5: the hips and we don't have to.
Speaker 1: Yes, two professional dancers, I'm sure you guys.
Speaker 4: But in terms of how much it's changed, honestly, it's
Speaker 4: just be honest, it's just less because of children. But
Speaker 4: we don't don't have six hours a day to stay
Speaker 4: in bed anymore.
Speaker 5: But better in quality. Yeah, you know, so with the
Speaker 5: quantities nights. There's no marathons for.
Speaker 4: Now, there's no sex marathons.
Speaker 5: No, but a couple of times somebody came in knocking,
Speaker 5: shy walked in. It was just it.
Speaker 4: Sounds a disaster. There's one time that is a disaster.
Speaker 5: She jumped, I don't.
Speaker 4: Anyway, we won't go.
Speaker 5: She jumped across the room. I'd never seen like across
Speaker 5: the room. I'm like, I don't knowsed. I was like,
Speaker 5: whoa guys like with blank like mummy, mummy, he.
Speaker 4: Said, He said, Mummy, you sound like daddy's hurting.
Speaker 5: You sound like, oh my god, this is terrible.
Speaker 4: You're sorry, that's terrible.
Speaker 1: You know what, It's so relatable. I mean, everybody has
Speaker 1: a story that is hilarious.
Speaker 2: Well, the next question here is something you'll actually allude
Speaker 2: it to earlier talking about the toes, the feet touching
Speaker 2: in bed. But how important, I mean, aside from sex,
Speaker 2: is physical touch to you all? Do you just you
Speaker 2: walk down the street holding hands? Do you find yourselves
Speaker 2: always kind of finding a way to rub up against
Speaker 2: each other.
Speaker 4: If you will, Yes, he we are both. That's part
Speaker 4: of our love language. But he particularly is like this
Speaker 4: all day and I have to do one of these
Speaker 4: ones or he gets mad at me, he thinks that
Speaker 4: or something.
Speaker 5: So I don't understand. If I'm already committed, right and
Speaker 5: you know, there's the only source of that that I have,
Speaker 5: why can't I have access to the source don't I
Speaker 5: have like a key entry level, like it's a club
Speaker 5: for one, it's a free.
Speaker 4: Kissed off during the day or so.
Speaker 5: But that's not fair because that cannot come with like, look,
Speaker 5: you cannot have other sources, right, That's the only one
Speaker 5: you've got. But sometimes you can come and the door
Speaker 5: is locked. I'm like, okay, but that's not you know,
Speaker 5: I just want I just so all the time.
Speaker 4: We love holding hands and touching.
Speaker 1: That's sweet. That's sweet. I love that all work.
Speaker 3: Conversely, you guys are very fun and it feels like
Speaker 3: you've got a really healthy back and forth, Like you
Speaker 3: you know how to fight, but you know how to
Speaker 3: not even fight, but argue through communication, like you can
Speaker 3: tell and humor. Yeah, but how often do you fight?
Speaker 3: And is there something that you fight about the most?
Speaker 5: Yes? We fight mostly about kids eating. Okay, I can't
Speaker 5: I have, I have, I have probably something in my
Speaker 5: past I have. I need therapy for the way I
Speaker 5: was brought up for sure. I come from yours. So
Speaker 5: Sar I was born nineteen eighty, very to like twenty
Speaker 5: year old a couple of twenty year old. Literally they
Speaker 5: were twenty and they you know, right now, I'm thinking
Speaker 5: about this. I'm like, can you imagine if we were
Speaker 5: twenty and headed and headshy? It's just impossible to even
Speaker 5: think about that. So I believe that there was some
Speaker 5: The way I was brought up was very instinctually fundamental basic, right.
Speaker 5: This is it's meat, fish, chicken, soup. You know this
Speaker 5: that hot food once a day because it's good for
Speaker 5: the digestive track and probiotics and some this and some.
Speaker 5: I mean, I can go on and it's insane. It's
Speaker 5: coming out of my pores. I can't help it, right,
Speaker 5: So I'm looking at this and Peter comes from a
Speaker 5: completely opposite side of the world. Yes, she comes from
Speaker 5: a world where they work their foot and free and
Speaker 5: he eat when they eat banana and they're it's a chicken,
Speaker 5: and here's a soup. And here I grow up with much.
Speaker 4: Try everything on your plate. But you don't have to
Speaker 4: finish every.
Speaker 5: I grew up with. If you don't finish, you.
Speaker 4: Don't you did, You're dead.
Speaker 5: To me, there's consequence, you know.
Speaker 3: That's how I was raised backs like seriously, second generation.
Speaker 3: They were Germany Germans like, very strict, very similar.
Speaker 2: My parents are from the South. We brought up that
Speaker 2: I've had standoffs with my parents all night. You ain't
Speaker 2: getting up from that table until you finish your dinner.
Speaker 5: My brother Val, the superstar champ father on his he
Speaker 5: had soup on his head plainy a time because he'd
Speaker 5: actually talk back, you know. The second kid whatever, I
Speaker 5: never go back, you know, I would just take it
Speaker 5: and like be silent. He's like, well, what are you
Speaker 5: gonna do? She'd like soup on the head, you know. So,
Speaker 5: I mean there was a drastically different environment. We only
Speaker 5: fight about the kids. But again now eight years later.
Speaker 4: Because research shows if you're trying to force food on
Speaker 4: children and you make them sit, even if they're trying
Speaker 4: and screaming, it doesn't do any good. That's what I
Speaker 4: have come to learn, as in that makes them not
Speaker 4: want to eat it more. You know, why don't you
Speaker 4: give them a little bit to taste it and you
Speaker 4: don't have to force them to eat the whole thing anyway.
Speaker 5: And I come to you as a research of like
Speaker 5: this is this is the body that it produces, And
Speaker 5: I'm like, this is a great, great body. How do
Speaker 5: I do that? You know what? I know a way
Speaker 5: that is guaranteed. It's this this way I am not sure.
Speaker 5: If he goes down, it's like, pop, I want I
Speaker 5: want ice cream. It's like seven thirty in the morning, even,
Speaker 5: I mean, it has to be like Santa is on
Speaker 5: our roof, you know what I mean? Like, okay, you know,
Speaker 5: but other than that, she looks at me and I'm
Speaker 5: like steam coming on my ears, like yes, of course, shy,
Speaker 5: you can't. And everything inside of me is just but
Speaker 5: I don't get it. Why would you have ice cream
Speaker 5: for breakfast? Why not protein? Protein?
Speaker 4: Sometimes you're exaggerating right now, Okay.
Speaker 5: I'm not. I'm just saying that's the only everything else.
Speaker 5: We don't fight, we you know.
Speaker 2: Wait a minute. This has got to get settled though.
Speaker 2: At some point, this guy, what's the compromise then if
Speaker 2: you've all been going through this.
Speaker 4: Fourth all the time. Because she's like, am I done yet?
Speaker 4: Papa like, and I'm like, yes, baby, you're done. He's
Speaker 4: so nervous if Papa's gonna say no, finish all of this.
Speaker 5: And then I'm like inside my mind and in my heart,
Speaker 5: I'm like, yo, shut up at you. At myself, I'm like,
Speaker 5: he's eating three quarters, He's completely fine.
Speaker 4: I come up.
Speaker 5: I look at his plate and I'm like, and I can't.
Speaker 5: I'm like, here, let's do two more spoons. Why I
Speaker 5: don't understand myself.
Speaker 1: It's so funny, though, Max, I so relate to that.
Speaker 3: I had the timer set on me, and if it
Speaker 3: buzzed then then I would lose, Like I couldn't go
Speaker 3: out on Friday. Then I couldn't see my friends Saturday.
Speaker 3: And my days of grounding we just add up to
Speaker 3: weeks because if I didn't finish.
Speaker 1: But it's funny. We feel like we have to then
Speaker 1: impose that on our children too.
Speaker 2: But to Peter's point, to your point about research that
Speaker 2: kids don't end up liking that stuff, I am a
Speaker 2: grown man. I don't eat a single damn thing that
Speaker 2: I ate when I was growing up as a kid. Really,
Speaker 2: to my diet is nothing like it. Well no, I'm
Speaker 2: from the South and it's a different type of but
Speaker 2: nothing I ate as a kid do I eat today.
Speaker 2: So maybe there's something to.
Speaker 5: The research, Maybe not the research type.
Speaker 2: All right, how about this, guys? You fight about the food,
Speaker 2: but a lot of couples go back and forth on this.
Speaker 2: Do you go to bed angry? Do you make a
Speaker 2: point of making sure you don't sometimes we.
Speaker 4: Go to bit angry, yeah, because I don't know. I
Speaker 4: think I find it hard if he said something to
Speaker 4: piss me off during the day, or he's done something
Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm not the one to like come
Speaker 4: back first. I don't think unless I know that I've
Speaker 4: had a part of it, or that I've done I've
Speaker 4: said something I shouldn't or you know. So, yeah, there's
Speaker 4: definitely times that we go to bed angry, but the
Speaker 4: food comes in and that's when it kind of foot
Speaker 4: me together.
Speaker 5: So I think we're fundamentally different in this way. Also
Speaker 5: where you know, when she fights, it's like we walk
Speaker 5: up in the morning and I don't know it's for me.
Speaker 5: Monday morning something happens. Mentally I am a nightmare to her,
Speaker 5: to me to like, I'm just a nightmare for about
Speaker 5: two hours and then I go work out and something changes.
Speaker 5: For the rest of the week, I'm fine, but Monday
Speaker 5: morning stresses.
Speaker 4: It's just like a Monday morning stress thing.
Speaker 5: I don't know. I don't know ever since pandemics, something happen.
Speaker 5: But anyway, so like I go out and make coffee
Speaker 5: and something in shy it's like I wan cereal, I'm like, no, Dwight,
Speaker 5: would you have cereal again? You need hearty breakfast some
Speaker 5: nonsense like that, right, and then she would react and
Speaker 5: she will and then she just turns off and I'm
Speaker 5: like and then six seconds later I come up to
Speaker 5: her and I say hey, and she's like please, and
Speaker 5: I'm like, what what did I do? She's like, look,
Speaker 5: you ruined my day that sentence. You ruined my date.
Speaker 5: I'm like, at seven thirty eight, I pruned your day
Speaker 5: for me. I turned into like sir, I turned into
Speaker 5: like a Robert de Niro in Enraging Bull. I swear
Speaker 5: to god, I'm like seven thirty but I need hold
Speaker 5: what anyway? Fundamental difference between us is that I will
Speaker 5: fight and then immediately if we have a discussion, immediately right,
Speaker 5: I will then Okay, fine, let's keep it moving. That's it.
Speaker 5: We're done. I thought got my point across. You got
Speaker 5: your point across, black eyed, black Eye.
Speaker 4: I can't be My feelings are hurt.
Speaker 5: Bro, she'll be. She'll be pissed till tomorrow morning. And
Speaker 5: if you do it again, we will humilate. And I'm like,
Speaker 5: you know what, It's just, it's crazy, it's crazy. I
Speaker 5: don't understand how you going to be pissedel It's like
Speaker 5: seven hours. We can be pissed for seven minutes.
Speaker 1: It's exhausting to be pissed for seven hours.
Speaker 4: I think it's because in the morning, I want peace.
Speaker 4: I want the day to start beautifully. It's a Monday morning.
Speaker 4: I want everything to just roll on how it's meant to. Like,
Speaker 4: why do we need to talk about cereal or hot
Speaker 4: food right now? Give the child cereal for once? For
Speaker 4: God's sakes, you know he's fine. I grew up on
Speaker 4: cereal and toast, and you're like, he's fine. You know
Speaker 4: that's just my point.
Speaker 2: Okay, See it's this guy. I'll say this to Max
Speaker 2: and Robes. I said this. There are plenty on this thing.
Speaker 2: You will or I'll just speak for broths. She wants
Speaker 2: you to get over it quickly when she's the offending party, right,
Speaker 2: don't don't hurt me, don't pause the fight and then
Speaker 2: be upset with her, Yes for not getting it over
Speaker 2: getting over it quickly that you just started off.
Speaker 5: But the thing is, I for me, it's both ways.
Speaker 5: You can offend me to my core, but if we
Speaker 5: immediately have this duke it out, then you can move it.
Speaker 5: Just give me a hot I feel.
Speaker 1: The same way. I can. I can move on quickly.
Speaker 1: Even if you piss me off.
Speaker 2: I can.
Speaker 3: I can't get over it because I actually funny enough
Speaker 3: if I'm gonna use the same thing you said, Peter.
Speaker 1: I want peace, and above all, I'm like life is short.
Speaker 3: I don't want to spend the next twenty four hours upset,
Speaker 3: so I am gonna let it go. I don't know,
Speaker 3: And yes, I know it's easier when I'm the one
Speaker 3: who's upset you for sure, But I do think I
Speaker 3: still do that when it's I might need I might
Speaker 3: need a little time, but I don't need seven hours.
Speaker 1: I don't need twenty four hours.
Speaker 2: I might need the weekend.
Speaker 4: Okay, do love it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so funny. Oh my god.
Speaker 3: I love listening to couples where one of them is
Speaker 3: exactly the way I am, and then one of.
Speaker 1: Is exactly the way DJ is. It's hilarious. What do
Speaker 1: you love most about each other?
Speaker 4: I love his resilience and passion for providing for his family.
Speaker 4: He never stops. He's never stops with ideas and thinking
Speaker 4: about you know, the next five years, ten years, and
Speaker 4: he's a great planner, and I really appreciate that with
Speaker 4: about a partner. He's very strong willed. I like that too.
Speaker 4: I'm more of the softy So I it's our ying
Speaker 4: and Yang thing. I knew I was going to be
Speaker 4: with somebody that is more headstrong and opinionated and stuff
Speaker 4: like that. So they're the things that kind of pissed
Speaker 4: me off, but also the things that I love the
Speaker 4: most too.
Speaker 5: Yeah. No, we're definitely ying and Yang. We definitely fully
Speaker 5: compliment that other. You know, there's a lot of stuff
Speaker 5: that we are now on the same page completely through life.
Speaker 5: We got here through you know, the right type of
Speaker 5: you know, understanding. Again, we're both very passionate first, we're
Speaker 5: not really pragmatic. We're pragmatic later. And so we get
Speaker 5: ourselves in trouble, but we get ourselves in trouble as
Speaker 5: a couple, and then we get ourselves out of trouble
Speaker 5: also as a couple. And in that there's a lot
Speaker 5: of strength, a lot of building. I think that we
Speaker 5: have a very strong foundation. Dare I say we you know,
Speaker 5: we are a couple of people from in public spotlight.
Speaker 5: That adds as you guys definitely know, uh, and so
Speaker 5: we're also proud of that the way we go through this,
Speaker 5: I feel like we have this sort of you know,
Speaker 5: not evil eye, but where I come from, my culture
Speaker 5: is all about you know, you know, superstitions and stuff
Speaker 5: like that when you're in public eye. A lot of time,
Speaker 5: my mom just praise all the time for us not
Speaker 5: to get like some kind of black voodoo and stuff.
Speaker 5: But that's relevant to a lot of people's energies get
Speaker 5: in the middle of you. And so for us to
Speaker 5: continue being this way.
Speaker 4: You haven't said what you love about me?
Speaker 5: Oh what? I love everything. She's She's literally the I'm sorry.
Speaker 5: I wanted to say, like, I love us. I love
Speaker 5: us for that reason, for the way we compliment, for
Speaker 5: the way you know, I don't have to be some
Speaker 5: things that she can take on and and we know that. Uh.
Speaker 5: And I'm free to be myself with her. There are
Speaker 5: certain things she wants me to change my facial expression
Speaker 5: when I express myself sometimes, I love you, I love everything.
Speaker 5: For the fact that the way your mother are children
Speaker 5: is number one. I wouldn't be with her if she
Speaker 5: was a different mother. It would have been very difficult
Speaker 5: to me. I grew up with an incredible mother, So
Speaker 5: that's very important, but I also love that above that,
Speaker 5: I am important to her and we are at the
Speaker 5: peak of that importance. If I didn't feel it from
Speaker 5: it would also be very difficult for me to have
Speaker 5: spent my life leading up to this point, fall in
Speaker 5: love with someone and then get sort of replaced by
Speaker 5: three off springs. You know, it'd be very hard for
Speaker 5: me to sort of deal with that for the rest
Speaker 5: of our life.
Speaker 2: You know, Max, you got away with words. Man, I
Speaker 2: love it. Brother.
Speaker 3: It's funny because Max, is that exactly what my parents said,
Speaker 3: that they put each other first. They put each other
Speaker 3: first above my brother and yeah, and they really believe
Speaker 3: that that is part of the reason why they've been successful.
Speaker 2: Still, it's hard to hear I.
Speaker 3: Heard it, but I get it, Like as this as
Speaker 3: the offspring, I've heard that.
Speaker 5: But it's harder to hear as later in life because
Speaker 5: we've never heard that. Our parents were like, it's all
Speaker 5: about the kids, kids, kids, kids, blah blah blah. Our
Speaker 5: mom had only been raising us. And then we did
Speaker 5: see how it's difficult for her to transition for them
Speaker 5: as a couple of you know, empty nestas as you said,
Speaker 5: a lot of people have a problems with that. I
Speaker 5: would love to be in the place where I definitely
Speaker 5: I'm going to miss my kids. Like I said, we've
Speaker 5: teared up over the fact that they're going to go
Speaker 5: to college. They're still under two. But we you know,
Speaker 5: when that happens, however, said, I'll be I'll turn back
Speaker 5: around and it'll be back to us again, you know,
Speaker 5: And so then it'll be again the same place that
Speaker 5: we were in when we're just mad and in love
Speaker 5: and all that. That's what I'm looking forward to, right.
Speaker 2: We do have a couple of practical questions about the relationship. First, finances.
Speaker 2: How do you all handle finances as a couples everything together?
Speaker 2: Do you all keep anything separate?
Speaker 4: We have our separate corporations, separate companies. I have my
Speaker 4: beauty company that he has his dance studio business that
Speaker 4: he's had since he was sixteen. Everything is separated. I
Speaker 4: think we have one joint account, but we don't even
Speaker 4: use it. Everything gets paid for together as in our
Speaker 4: business management team, just you know, pools from each of
Speaker 4: us to pay things. We don't count who pays for what,
Speaker 4: who pays for dinner. So I feel like our relationship.
Speaker 4: It's bigger than that. It's stronger than me saying oh,
Speaker 4: I've paid for the mortgage.
Speaker 5: It doesn't it doesn't make sense to our time. But
Speaker 5: we're not dating, we're not splitting the bill. The ideas
Speaker 5: that our financial structure is, you know, given our LLCs
Speaker 5: and all that stuff, but it all goes into one,
Speaker 5: you know, one source. We are a family. We put
Speaker 5: everything into the part. We had few conversations along the
Speaker 5: way of like, you know, but what about this and
Speaker 5: what about that? And I'm like, look, I said it
Speaker 5: to me. It's strange when you know, families like us
Speaker 5: start to separate things and have separate this and separate that,
Speaker 5: where one business management team they have oversight of our
Speaker 5: finances and accounts. And I think it's the right thing.
Speaker 5: You know, the conversations nowadays about like opinions if you will,
Speaker 5: on on TikTok and social media about everything and financial
Speaker 5: structure of families among them, and you know, one joint
Speaker 5: account for bills, separate accounts for you know, cash, I
Speaker 5: guess pocket money and all that stuff. Like yeah, however
Speaker 5: you want to call it, sure, you know, have freedom
Speaker 5: and all that, as long as it's all together. You know,
Speaker 5: the one thing that Peter is never going to find
Speaker 5: out about me is some separate accounts or some kind
Speaker 5: of like offshot things and things like that, investment opportunities.
Speaker 5: Like I didn't get into this partnership. Also we are partners.
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, something happens.
Speaker 5: I have no choice. Guys. You know, also that stuff
Speaker 5: for us wash you know, we didn't need to, you know,
Speaker 5: and I understand, you know, people that come into this
Speaker 5: relationships with companies and part of entities that require you
Speaker 5: to you know, write some things. But for us, we're good.
Speaker 4: We're fine, pretty simple.
Speaker 5: You guys asked a long time ago about for a second.
Speaker 5: You know, I just want to give back the marriage question.
Speaker 5: It was important to us because we grew up traditionally,
Speaker 5: not maybe conservatively in some words, but traditionally enough to
Speaker 5: like I wanted to be married. I wanted my partner
Speaker 5: for life to know that she's for life, you know.
Speaker 5: And I wanted to be committed because for me personally,
Speaker 5: also the way I am, the who I am, it's
Speaker 5: a lot less confusing when it's committed. You know, I
Speaker 5: want to be committed. I wanted to be official, whatever
Speaker 5: that means. If the society decided that's how we make it,
Speaker 5: then let it be that. So I was looking forward
Speaker 5: to all this.
Speaker 2: The next practical question has to do with the household
Speaker 2: as well chores. How do you all handle it around
Speaker 2: the house? You got kids to deal with, but also
Speaker 2: as far as the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, of
Speaker 2: course has it. Oh, Peter's making a face, So please
Speaker 2: tell us how's it?
Speaker 4: I mean, I do most of it. I'm just going
Speaker 4: to be honest. I mean, we have a full time
Speaker 4: nanny five days a week to help us with children
Speaker 4: in that aspects. So she helps with some laundry for
Speaker 4: the for the babies and stuff. She cooks some meals
Speaker 4: for me for the babies. But generally speaking, yes, I
Speaker 4: will be the one to do most of that stuff.
Speaker 4: You like to cook, though, I just wish you'd do more.
Speaker 5: I love cooking. I hate laundry. The laundry thing is
Speaker 5: just absurd to me. I want to do. I want
Speaker 5: to figure out like reusable undergarments of some sort that
Speaker 5: are like both at the same time smell, nest and clean.
Speaker 5: Because this is crazy. You wash the whole thing.
Speaker 4: We just our laundry.
Speaker 5: This this is a practical closet. If I show you
Speaker 5: the rest, there's a lot of stuff. I wear it,
Speaker 5: she wears it, but it's just constant. I'm like, I
Speaker 5: don't know, I can't not eat, but I can not
Speaker 5: wear a lot of stuff. You know, just washing so much?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do it.
Speaker 3: Laundry is one of those things though, that has gotten
Speaker 3: to just about every couple.
Speaker 1: It's affected everyone. And have you all when you fight?
Speaker 3: Have you all ever come close to or at least
Speaker 3: said threatened to break up to get divorced?
Speaker 1: Do you go nuclear in moments?
Speaker 4: God? No, it's I think if that happened, like those
Speaker 4: words like I feel like we're going to get divorced
Speaker 4: or something like that, or I want a divorcee Oh
Speaker 4: my god, No, that would almost put a seed into
Speaker 4: our heads that that was going to happen in the future.
Speaker 5: I think, I mean we as far as it went
Speaker 5: like well, what are you going to do? You know
Speaker 5: what I'm saying like that, that that's where it ends,
Speaker 5: like we both know the D word is the thought
Speaker 5: process here, but obviously it's not gonna happen.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 5: I think it's like it's late for us at this point.
Speaker 4: We actually have like kind of going to see, you
Speaker 4: started this rule that we we don't swear at each other.
Speaker 5: No, I didn't start there.
Speaker 4: I was going to say, we don't say.
Speaker 5: I don't understand that. Blah, No, that's safe.
Speaker 4: That does not that.
Speaker 5: Does not happen at somebody else. I'm not the guy
Speaker 5: to say, you know, you know not not not to curse,
Speaker 5: but at her, like you know you were this and
Speaker 5: that and the other, like even in dramatic fact, you know,
Speaker 5: because I think it's.
Speaker 4: So hurtful, and it's so it tarnishes something. If he
Speaker 4: were to call me an F and B or something
Speaker 4: like it would that would really tarnish our relationship, I think.
Speaker 5: Yeah. And then again, if you let for me, I'm
Speaker 5: very sarcastic and very dry humor already, So if I
Speaker 5: and if I want to go hurtful, I have hurt
Speaker 5: people verbally and I'm not proud of it, and it
Speaker 5: was awful moments in my life. But to be in
Speaker 5: a relationship for the person that you love, that you
Speaker 5: let yourself get to a certain point, there's something wrong
Speaker 5: with you, you know. So for me, words have incredibly
Speaker 5: heavy meanings and they're not reserved for this, for this
Speaker 5: relationship at all.
Speaker 2: That is one of the best. We're going to do
Speaker 2: a wrap up of all of the some of the
Speaker 2: best advice we've gotten from all the couples we interviewed
Speaker 2: ten of them. Wrap up episode that is going to
Speaker 2: be included because that is a small but such a
Speaker 2: significant thing. Take profanity out of your arguments or a discussion.
Speaker 2: It makes such a.
Speaker 3: Difference you make a pact, especially if you tend to
Speaker 3: curse just in general when you're angry, say we are
Speaker 3: never going to curse at each other.
Speaker 2: But saying are you crazy? Hits differently than are you crazy?
Speaker 2: It really but.
Speaker 5: It's like, it's are you an idiot? She said?
Speaker 4: I said that one time, an idiot? It felt awful
Speaker 4: coming out, but I was so heated. I forget this
Speaker 4: was years ago.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but it was also my reaction.
Speaker 4: He was so hurt.
Speaker 5: I was so I was like, oh, it was the
Speaker 5: idiot direct.
Speaker 4: I think I've said it one time to each other
Speaker 4: just and this was maybe five years ago, and from
Speaker 4: then on we saw the reaction of each other and
Speaker 4: we're just like, never again. We allowed ourselves to have
Speaker 4: that one time, and it's.
Speaker 2: Like, that's good advice, guys, all right, last few, and
Speaker 2: we're gonna let you get out of here. But this
Speaker 2: one is a cool one. If you could get anybody
Speaker 2: who is about to go in and get married, and
Speaker 2: you could say one last thing to them before they
Speaker 2: decide to make that decision, to say, I do. Is
Speaker 2: there something you would make sure everybody kept in mind
Speaker 2: or remind them of or don't want to go as
Speaker 2: far as say and warn them of. But what would
Speaker 2: you say to somebody to make sure they consider before
Speaker 2: they got married.
Speaker 4: Communication and compromise is everything in a marriage when you're
Speaker 4: dealing with completely well with us, like we're very opposite
Speaker 4: in a lot of things and very similar a few.
Speaker 4: I feel like compromise and communication is everything with his
Speaker 4: you know, English and second language type of thing, Like
Speaker 4: there's some things that he says that I would take
Speaker 4: to heart, like I want to tea or something. He
Speaker 4: didn't mean it that way. It was the tone of
Speaker 4: the voice, and I'm coming around to his tone. He's softened,
Speaker 4: I've hardened up a little bit. And the compromise of
Speaker 4: that with how each other feels with those sensitivities really
Speaker 4: helped us understand each other more.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I would say, I would say, just
Speaker 5: make sure that you want to do it. You know
Speaker 5: a lot of people want to do it for a moment,
Speaker 5: but you can't really know how it feels to do
Speaker 5: it for life. But I think you can hold yourself
Speaker 5: accountable a little bit in making that decision. I think kids,
Speaker 5: especially younger generation nowadays, is very fast to make a
Speaker 5: decision because you can also change the decision. We are
Speaker 5: free to make choices. Right, Well, then well then don't
Speaker 5: call it getting married, call it getting pre married before
Speaker 5: you actually get married. And then whence you stay married,
Speaker 5: then you can call it that. You know, I don't
Speaker 5: know because if you're going to be jumping in and
Speaker 5: out and having kids with different people and as we say,
Speaker 5: muzzled off, but you know it's not right and it's
Speaker 5: not right that you don't have to commit and you
Speaker 5: don't have to feel that way. So I think it's.
Speaker 4: Much Yeah, I'm in a space also that just to
Speaker 4: handy back onto that. I feel like, if you're not happy,
Speaker 4: don't stay in it for the kids.
Speaker 5: That's my point one hundred million.
Speaker 4: My point of view is if it's not working, better
Speaker 4: to better to part ways. Early. I went through that
Speaker 4: with my parents. I wish they parted ways. I told
Speaker 4: them to part ways, but stuck together for the kids.
Speaker 4: And you know, I love my mom to death. She's
Speaker 4: the best. But now she's seventy three, and you know,
Speaker 4: I would love her to find somebody else. It's different then,
Speaker 4: you know, So I'm I'm I'm on that wavelength of no,
Speaker 4: it's okay, it's okay to get divorced if you need
Speaker 4: to do that, if it's not the right decision for
Speaker 4: your family and kids.
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, like I'm going into marriage, it's a
Speaker 5: big decision. So if you don't take it as a
Speaker 5: big decision, don't do it. Do it later, do it,
Speaker 5: give a second, you know, have a kid if you
Speaker 5: want to. You know, But this whole commitment stuff, it
Speaker 5: has to be heavier weighted. You know.
Speaker 2: Nowadays, you know that that would a hell of an
Speaker 2: add because people do go back and forth. And I
Speaker 2: think there's been to experience the two of us sitting
Speaker 2: here have had with that very thing, and I think
Speaker 2: there are other people have gotten that advice, like it
Speaker 2: doesn't matter, you sacrifice and you make sure you stay
Speaker 2: together for the sake of the kids. That there are
Speaker 2: people who we have heard give that advice and.
Speaker 5: Don't believe that at all. And I'm the guy with
Speaker 5: like family first stayed, got it, but I don't believe that.
Speaker 5: The reason why is again going back to that, the
Speaker 5: fact that the whole thing is held on us and
Speaker 5: on this relationship, in this chemistry, there's a cracking dad.
Speaker 5: It's like a cracking foundation. You can plant, you know,
Speaker 5: put you know, flowers in your windows, but if that
Speaker 5: building's cracked down there, it's never going to be safe.
Speaker 5: And so to be in that kind of unsafe on
Speaker 5: the edge, will it wont it it? Will it last?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 5: And so it's not necessary to be in that state
Speaker 5: of stress. Go be happy somewhere else. I also have
Speaker 5: a very you know example of someone who I knew
Speaker 5: very well. She turned eighteen. The father gave a flower,
Speaker 5: said bye bye, and left on that day because he
Speaker 5: stayed just for her. She didn't even know. Her mom
Speaker 5: didn't know, he hated the mom didn't like the daughter
Speaker 5: said that like the daughter of the relationship. The fact
Speaker 5: that it was like whatever, So you know, he has
Speaker 5: a great happy family now and moved on with life.
Speaker 3: So you never know, Yeah, it's it's and it's something
Speaker 3: to consider it, especially when you've lived enough life. You
Speaker 3: know every decision leads to the next. And you know,
Speaker 3: I remember a therapist telling me this, would you want
Speaker 3: your daughters to be in the marriage you're in And
Speaker 3: if the answer is no, you're showing them.
Speaker 1: That that's what marriage gets. And that a light bulb
Speaker 1: went off for me on that one. All right, we're
Speaker 1: gonna ask you.
Speaker 3: It's kind of a cheesy question, but it's what we've
Speaker 3: ended with all of our couples. You all have been through,
Speaker 3: and it's so cool to see how much you've been through,
Speaker 3: the ups, the downs, the breakups, the fame meeting, on
Speaker 3: the job meeting, when you were with other people. What
Speaker 3: is the key to your success? What is the key
Speaker 3: not just to the fact that it's lasted, but that
Speaker 3: it's so good and you're so happy even in all
Speaker 3: the chaos chemistry.
Speaker 5: I just read it easy again, just being.
Speaker 4: Actually really are attracted to each other and we love
Speaker 4: each other.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't. We may not agree, we may not
Speaker 5: feeld some kind of way. We may after this interview
Speaker 5: move on like this like not in but right now, okay,
Speaker 5: we're good. It's like, but we're so busy, and we
Speaker 5: you know, but we we still were like we're in it,
Speaker 5: having this moment right here at the end of it.
Speaker 5: My feeling is like, Wow, we really are great couple.
Speaker 5: You know, we've we've gone definitely more therapy.
Speaker 4: For sure, we haven't done any therapy.
Speaker 5: As you could tell, I would need many hours because
Speaker 5: I need to speak this out. I'd rather I'd rather
Speaker 5: have one of my friends therapize us for free, because
Speaker 5: it's going to cost a lot. You can.
Speaker 2: This has been great. We keep We've said at the
Speaker 2: end of absolutely every single one of these interviews, we
Speaker 2: have personally gotten some out of it. We feel more encouraged,
Speaker 2: more optimistic, and we feel better about our relationship by
Speaker 2: talking to another couple. And I look, we know you
Speaker 2: all wouldn't have sat down broth though, probably if you
Speaker 2: all weren't already pretty good.
Speaker 3: It's a lot of trust that the other person isn't
Speaker 3: going to throw you under the bus, right right.
Speaker 5: Well, yeah, I mean that's that's also a lot of trust.
Speaker 5: And this is some of these questions is like and
Speaker 5: she says, I'm like, oh, really cool. I mean it's awesome.
Speaker 5: I think that's also a key to your healthy relationship.
Speaker 5: You keep finding things about to check it out, speak
Speaker 5: it out, you know, change your mind, change your opinion,
Speaker 5: get adjusted, and keep it moving.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much. It's been so fun.
Speaker 1: Oh, thank you.
Speaker 3: Thank you, because I know that this takes in a way,
Speaker 3: it takes courage to be this honest and open and
Speaker 3: letting people in.
Speaker 1: But you are.
Speaker 3: You are a power couple, and you've always been a
Speaker 3: couple that we have looked up to and have been
Speaker 3: cheering on. So it was awesome to get to know
Speaker 3: this side of you a little bit more, a lot
Speaker 3: more actually, So thank you.
Speaker 1: Thank you for being so willing to do this. We
Speaker 1: appreciate you so much.
Speaker 4: Guys, thank you.