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Speaker 1: Hey there, folks.

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Speaker 2: In today's Love Stories series, a couple that's been together

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Speaker 2: over a decade and we can't believe it, not after

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Speaker 2: you hear how he dumped her years ago. Welcome to

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Speaker 2: this special Cuffing season edition of Amy and TJ. Robes.

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Speaker 2: This was one folks are gonna hear here in a minute.

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Speaker 2: But I've heard of some breakup stories. This is worse

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Speaker 2: than texting a breakup.

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Speaker 3: It's so bad that I can't believe that they've now

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Speaker 3: been married for seven years.

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Speaker 1: Let's just put it that way.

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Speaker 3: And we're talking about a beloved couple, a couple that

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Speaker 3: I know most of you have seen on the Ballroom

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Speaker 3: Dancing with the Stars, Peter Murgatroyd and Max Schmerkowsky.

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Speaker 1: They actually met on Broadway.

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Speaker 3: But they started dating when they were on Dancing with

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Speaker 3: the Stars, and then they stopped dating while they were

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Speaker 3: on Dancing with the Stars, which is never fun because

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Speaker 3: that's why people say you shouldn't.

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Speaker 1: I can't say what they say.

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Speaker 2: What do they say?

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Speaker 1: They say you shouldn't poop where you eat?

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Speaker 2: Is that what they say? I thought it was Pen

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Speaker 2: and Company, inc.

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Speaker 1: Oho.

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Speaker 2: Oh god. What we're trying to say is you're not

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Speaker 2: supposed to date people at work. We certainly would be

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Speaker 2: advocates of that policy. You should never ever, under any

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Speaker 2: circumstance days somebody work. But it ended up working out

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Speaker 2: for them. But you said they broke up for a

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Speaker 2: little while, and it's one of the stories or one

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Speaker 2: of the questions we've asked the couples in our series,

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Speaker 2: asking about how close they've gotten the breaking up, But

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Speaker 2: they actually broke up, and he did it in a

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Speaker 2: way that I think the video will show both of

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Speaker 2: our jaws is.

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Speaker 1: We're dropped, it's true.

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Speaker 3: But to hear how far they've come and once they

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Speaker 3: committed or recommitted back to one another, it's so cool

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Speaker 3: to hear how they operate with their three kids. In fact,

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Speaker 3: they're so busy they actually had to do this interview

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Speaker 3: you're about to hear in their closet, and that's how

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Speaker 3: we begin our interview with Max and Peter. Peter and Max,

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Speaker 3: so good to see both of you coming to us

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Speaker 3: from your closet. I love it. I just love seeing

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Speaker 3: your faces. But it's especially fun to see where you

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Speaker 3: are right now.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, it's so nice to be here. Thank you

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Speaker 4: so much for having us this is going to be

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Speaker 4: really fun.

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Speaker 1: You will you say that now?

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Speaker 5: Welcome to the closet. Welcome. Yeah, this is definitely space

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Speaker 5: we spend the most time, and if we decide to

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Speaker 5: do any kind of business activity, I take calls here.

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Speaker 5: Peter's office is literally right there.

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Speaker 4: And hibernate here and I just shut the door from

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Speaker 4: the babies.

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Speaker 5: You know, it's excellent. But what a life? What a life?

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Speaker 3: It's amazing, it's amazing. Those are all good problems to have.

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Speaker 3: All right, we're going to launch right into our questions.

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Speaker 3: So the first question we've asked all the couples is this,

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Speaker 3: each of you, if you would use three words to

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Speaker 3: describe your relationship right now?

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Speaker 1: Peter, I'll go, I'll start with you.

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Speaker 4: I got to think of some nice ones right now. Okay,

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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna be really honest.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we listen and we don't.

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Speaker 4: Stressful, Okay, three children, two babies, stressful, passionate. Can I

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Speaker 4: say cohesive, like we're working together as a team.

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Speaker 1: That's awesome.

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Speaker 2: Laughing at our answers.

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Speaker 5: The answers, there's no. I don't think there's right answer

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Speaker 5: is no. I think I think my first word was

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Speaker 5: and this is describing our relationship, you know, not like

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Speaker 5: our life and the setup in the situation. But the

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Speaker 5: first one I felt some reason, I was busy. You know,

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Speaker 5: we've never been I've never felt that way with us.

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Speaker 5: It was always just the two of us, and then

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Speaker 5: the three of us for for a while, and then yeah,

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Speaker 5: for six years we just had shy and it was incredible,

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Speaker 5: we have a kindergarten. But you know, the other two

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Speaker 5: is I would say, I would say, for some reason,

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Speaker 5: we're fighting, but not in a way of fighting each other,

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Speaker 5: but in the form of I just don't know vernacular,

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Speaker 5: like fighting for this because I found that now we

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Speaker 5: have a lot of distractions and we find ourselves to

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Speaker 5: like we are fighting to make sure that we you know,

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Speaker 4: Our date nights and we try to.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and then the last one is loving because at

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Speaker 5: the end of it all, even the frame fight, you know,

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Speaker 5: the little cuddle, the little foot touch, you know, it's

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Speaker 5: all I need and we both kind of on the

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Speaker 5: same wavelength, like listen, I don't want to talk to you,

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Speaker 5: but can I feed touch No.

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Speaker 1: Literally, I totally get that.

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Speaker 4: If we've just had like some tea or something and

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Speaker 4: we go to bed, I'll feel the foot just slowly

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Speaker 4: come in and touch my toe and I'm like, oh, okay,

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Speaker 4: here we go. Yes, and then we roll over and

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Speaker 4: have a kiss and we're good.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. But last night she did the thing and I

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Speaker 5: was like, that's it. That's where I draw a line

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Speaker 5: is when she goes above the sheet and I and

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Speaker 5: they need the sheet and she's already sleeping and I'm

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Speaker 5: trying to the foot and the sheet between us. Yesterday

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Speaker 5: I was like, No, that's it. I can do it.

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Speaker 5: I rolled over and I went to bed.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we have a question on the list about fighting,

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Speaker 2: and you all have answered like question about intimate touch,

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Speaker 2: all these others already.

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Speaker 4: We can elaborate.

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Speaker 2: All right, next question here for you guys. And we

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Speaker 2: had to take it back back to the beginning. Was

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Speaker 2: there immediate chemistry when you first met.

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Speaker 4: No, because we were in different relationships at the time.

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Speaker 4: He was engaged. I was with a long term boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: So when we met, it was very much high on

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Speaker 4: Peter Heim. I'm Max. He we met on Broadway. He

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Speaker 4: came to be headline our show, which.

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Speaker 5: Did you just say the word? I came to be

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Speaker 5: the star of the show.

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Speaker 4: Do you see what I'm dealing with?

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Speaker 5: Is why she immediately disliked me very much. She was like,

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Speaker 5: this guy walked in, who does he think he is brought? Not?

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Speaker 4: She was the list. It was very, very cordial, very

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Speaker 4: workplace environment. It wasn't anything. There was nothing on the radar.

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Speaker 4: But again until he came back and he was single.

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Speaker 4: When he came back again to do another stint with

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Speaker 4: our show, I was still with my relationship. But I crack.

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Speaker 5: He cracks, I started, I have, I have, I have

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Speaker 5: contributed to some cracks.

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Speaker 4: There were some cracks.

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Speaker 5: Every time I had a pr event to promote the show,

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Speaker 5: they'd be like, well, who do you want to take?

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Speaker 5: And it was a cast of like twenty four incredible

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Speaker 5: dances and you're like, yet the blonde one. What's her

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Speaker 5: name again?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 5: Make sure that's like, of course I don't know her anything. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: So yeah, there was definitely attraction and.

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Speaker 4: Not in the beginning, that's what they're asking.

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Speaker 5: Well again, deep inside possibly probably you know.

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Speaker 4: Because not from me.

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Speaker 5: As soon as I got single and there was a

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Speaker 5: lot of options and for some reason, a lot of.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, he was the star of the show.

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Speaker 1: He had a lot of options.

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Speaker 5: I'm all for two here with the way she presents us.

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Speaker 1: So that's amazing, all right. Next question, who' said I

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Speaker 1: love you first?

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Speaker 4: Well, we were dating for about maybe four or five

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Speaker 4: months when we wanted to. We both wanted to say it,

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Speaker 4: and I remember we made up a phrase called just

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Speaker 4: we just said pickles to one another, which is so random,

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Speaker 4: but we use the word pickles to sign off on

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Speaker 4: Because we didn't really want to say it because it

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Speaker 5: But I was definitely but he was the first one.

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Speaker 5: I'm one thousand percent more emotional in those type of

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Speaker 5: things in our relationships, So you know, I would have

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Speaker 4: Actually I screenshot all my texts from back in the day,

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Speaker 4: of course, just to like paper trail. Yeah, paper trail.

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Speaker 1: He he was.

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Speaker 4: The first one to say I want to I want

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Speaker 4: to get married. And and then he dumped me like

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Speaker 4: five months later.

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Speaker 5: We broke up. Yeah, but that's what men do when

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Speaker 5: they're in love. They run. We we I've acted on this,

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Speaker 5: you know, primeval emotion. It was like, oh my god,

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Speaker 5: what is this that I'm feeling my closet, all her stuff,

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Speaker 5: and I'm like, it was very jarring for me to

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Speaker 3: Now it's just like, well, wait, so you broke up

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Speaker 3: because you you're in the closet.

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Speaker 4: Freaked you out?

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Speaker 5: No, I think I think it was the fact that

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Speaker 5: just like, yeah, cofeet And I remember was the dumbest

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Speaker 4: And I had just bought him an eight thousand dollars

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Speaker 4: Have to realize how crazy that was. I gave it. No,

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Speaker 4: I was just like, we were so in love and

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Speaker 4: And then literally five days.

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Speaker 5: Later, I was so in love. There's no reason for

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Speaker 5: expensive presents. It's you know what I'm saying, My love

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Speaker 4: Of days later.

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Speaker 5: And I drove her to the airport she was flying

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Speaker 5: to l A. I brove her. Today she hasn't I

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Speaker 5: haven't said a word. This is true story. She's now

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Speaker 5: at the airport, she's like nothing, she's the check in.

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Speaker 5: I walked with her nothing security line. This is now

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Speaker 5: where we have to part ways. And as soon as

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Speaker 5: she's behind the rope, I'm like, let's just you know,

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Speaker 5: let's just give it time. Let's just do this. And

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Speaker 5: I did.

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Speaker 4: No. He said go do you boom, just go do

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Speaker 4: you for a second, I'm like, oh, okay, yeah. It was.

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Speaker 4: It was terrible. It was terrible.

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Speaker 3: That's almost like an in person way of breaking up

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Speaker 3: over text, Like you waited till she was on the

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Speaker 3: other side.

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Speaker 5: No, this is this is worse because she can't even

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Speaker 5: so this is like she had six six and a

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Speaker 4: It was terrible.

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Speaker 5: It was horrible, really bad.

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Speaker 4: Because she came back groveling just at my feet, just

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Speaker 4: He was just like, you're so black and white? Why

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Speaker 4: It's in storage right now.

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Speaker 4: So we dated first for that year, and then we

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Speaker 1: After you already got back together.

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Speaker 4: Yes, you're in two months that we've been back together

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Speaker 5: I remember these things. Peter doesn't remember when I proposed.

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Speaker 5: She's like, she just said it because she knew that.

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Speaker 5: That was I would never I've never gone back together

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Speaker 5: then why were you making up your mind to begin with.

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Speaker 5: You didn't give it enough thought, blah blah blah. So

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Speaker 5: Why do I have to wait? Because I'm already back

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Speaker 5: And so for me this you know, it was an

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Speaker 5: immediate yes. And also yesterday eight year old was like money, wait,

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Speaker 4: Like to get married first, that we.

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Speaker 5: Go to school in La Bro. We're not We're not

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Speaker 2: Our next question. Here has been interesting to hear some

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Speaker 4: It's funny. Once we had Shy in January twenty seventeen,

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Speaker 4: going to do it. We're just going to stay engaged

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Speaker 4: I was like, can we just stop all this wedding planning?

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Speaker 4: Like I am overwhelmed. I am three months postpartum, I'm

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Speaker 5: And I'm just like, that's how you fell.

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Speaker 4: I did. I felt it was very suffocating and as

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Speaker 4: it turned out beautiful and everything we ever wanted it was,

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Speaker 5: I don't know she was. She should have said that,

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Speaker 5: you know, I felt that there is a dream, you

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Speaker 5: But listen, you know, if I if personally, if I

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Speaker 5: you know. But we also didn't have a honeymoon. We've

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Speaker 5: you know, doing We kind of did the wedding as

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Speaker 5: So we have these beautiful, gorgeous memories, photos, videos. I'm

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Speaker 5: we're coming up, and you know it's gonna be a

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Speaker 2: Are here right? You'll never took a honeymoon?

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Speaker 5: None?

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Speaker 4: Still none?

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Speaker 2: Is it only agenda? Can you fit it into a schedule?

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Speaker 2: Is it only? Are you over it now?

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Speaker 5: We can we stop having babies?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? We're now like, okay, this summer, I'm not getting pregnant.

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Speaker 4: We are going away. We're hopefully hopefully got a plan

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Speaker 5: I don't know how that's possible, but.

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Speaker 1: Put it on the division board for now.

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Speaker 5: It's more than fact that, like you travel with kids,

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Speaker 5: it's like the same thing, but in a different country,

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Speaker 5: you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: So and more expensive. Oh I get it. Is there

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 5: Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you?

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Speaker 4: Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Who's older?

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Speaker 5: Two times? Thank you? I mean people keep thinking keep coming.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, well I guess no, but.

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Speaker 5: I like it with my brother. It's the same thing

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Speaker 5: with Val. Now. You know, there was a period of

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Speaker 5: time when Val was like no, I'm also old, big

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Speaker 5: like it when people are like which one of years

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Speaker 5: older again?

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Speaker 1: Exactly. Oh, I know, you get to a certain point.

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Speaker 1: It's not what you want to talk about, all right.

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Speaker 1: We've asked everybody this. Feel free to answer it.

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Speaker 3: How you choose, how would you describe your sex life

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Speaker 3: and how has it changed over the years.

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Speaker 5: It's like, mister and missus Smith, what's that sex question?

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Speaker 4: I mean, passionate comes to mind. First. I don't think

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm just very attracted to her, so that

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Speaker 5: her through all these stages. It's something about that type

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Speaker 5: of I guess maybe a couple and that type of

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Speaker 5: you know. I'm just again, when she's around, I'm attracted

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Speaker 5: time when she's not about that and you know rightfully,

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00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:12,800
Speaker 5: so there's a different attachment. Then there's a different man,

443
00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:15,240
Speaker 5: you know, with Shy, I had to realize that there's

444
00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 5: another dude in the house, you know. Now I don't

445
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 5: feel that way now. I feel like we we understand

446
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 5: what we all are. But again, it's about this chemistry.

447
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,159
Speaker 5: As long as this chemistry is intact, everything else going

448
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 5: to work out.

449
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 4: I will say, though, I feel like the longer you

450
00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 4: wait in the sex life, like you know, they say,

451
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 4: don't go two weeks without having sex, so don't go

452
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 4: three days without having sex or something.

453
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,360
Speaker 5: It's I don't say that, but I really do think.

454
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:50,199
Speaker 4: It affects us. You know. I feel like he's more tense,

455
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 4: he gets more like agitated with things or stressed, you

456
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 4: know what I mean. And when there's more sex, there's

457
00:22:56,560 --> 00:23:01,680
Speaker 4: more love, there's more a joy, there's more lightheartedness.

458
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 5: You know, I would I wouldn't say it's for the

459
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 5: lack off and you get I think it's when you

460
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 5: are in that sort of agitated state because of the

461
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,400
Speaker 5: outside stuff or even the inside stuff we don't see.

462
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 5: I try about some unrelated to sex things you know

463
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 5: you have to be able to. I mean it's sex

464
00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 5: can fix that, you know, it can also fit the

465
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 5: same page. And you walk off and like, what was

466
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 5: that about? Like, okay, by the way, I thought of

467
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 5: a new idea maybe that you know, I don't know.

468
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 2: We have to tell you all. That is the most detailed,

469
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 2: psychologically sound sex answer we've gotten from any couple.

470
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I thought were.

471
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 2: No doubt about it.

472
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 5: I mean we also didn't get into specifics so about

473
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,639
Speaker 5: the hips and we don't have to.

474
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 1: Yes, two professional dancers, I'm sure you guys.

475
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,920
Speaker 4: But in terms of how much it's changed, honestly, it's

476
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 4: just be honest, it's just less because of children. But

477
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 4: we don't don't have six hours a day to stay

478
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 4: in bed anymore.

479
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:17,119
Speaker 5: But better in quality. Yeah, you know, so with the

480
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 5: quantities nights. There's no marathons for.

481
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 4: Now, there's no sex marathons.

482
00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 5: No, but a couple of times somebody came in knocking,

483
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 5: shy walked in. It was just it.

484
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 4: Sounds a disaster. There's one time that is a disaster.

485
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 5: She jumped, I don't.

486
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 4: Anyway, we won't go.

487
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 5: She jumped across the room. I'd never seen like across

488
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:44,119
Speaker 5: the room. I'm like, I don't knowsed. I was like,

489
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:52,919
Speaker 5: whoa guys like with blank like mummy, mummy, he.

490
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 4: Said, He said, Mummy, you sound like daddy's hurting.

491
00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 5: You sound like, oh my god, this is terrible.

492
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 4: You're sorry, that's terrible.

493
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,360
Speaker 1: You know what, It's so relatable. I mean, everybody has

494
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 1: a story that is hilarious.

495
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 2: Well, the next question here is something you'll actually allude

496
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:18,560
Speaker 2: it to earlier talking about the toes, the feet touching

497
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 2: in bed. But how important, I mean, aside from sex,

498
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 2: is physical touch to you all? Do you just you

499
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,120
Speaker 2: walk down the street holding hands? Do you find yourselves

500
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 2: always kind of finding a way to rub up against

501
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 2: each other.

502
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 4: If you will, Yes, he we are both. That's part

503
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 4: of our love language. But he particularly is like this

504
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 4: all day and I have to do one of these

505
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 4: ones or he gets mad at me, he thinks that

506
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 4: or something.

507
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 5: So I don't understand. If I'm already committed, right and

508
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 5: you know, there's the only source of that that I have,

509
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 5: why can't I have access to the source don't I

510
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 5: have like a key entry level, like it's a club

511
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 5: for one, it's a free.

512
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 4: Kissed off during the day or so.

513
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 5: But that's not fair because that cannot come with like, look,

514
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 5: you cannot have other sources, right, That's the only one

515
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 5: you've got. But sometimes you can come and the door

516
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 5: is locked. I'm like, okay, but that's not you know,

517
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 5: I just want I just so all the time.

518
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 4: We love holding hands and touching.

519
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 1: That's sweet. That's sweet. I love that all work.

520
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 3: Conversely, you guys are very fun and it feels like

521
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 3: you've got a really healthy back and forth, Like you

522
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 3: you know how to fight, but you know how to

523
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,920
Speaker 3: not even fight, but argue through communication, like you can

524
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 3: tell and humor. Yeah, but how often do you fight?

525
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 3: And is there something that you fight about the most?

526
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:49,200
Speaker 5: Yes? We fight mostly about kids eating. Okay, I can't

527
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 5: I have, I have, I have probably something in my

528
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,399
Speaker 5: past I have. I need therapy for the way I

529
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 5: was brought up for sure. I come from yours. So

530
00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 5: Sar I was born nineteen eighty, very to like twenty

531
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 5: year old a couple of twenty year old. Literally they

532
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 5: were twenty and they you know, right now, I'm thinking

533
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,479
Speaker 5: about this. I'm like, can you imagine if we were

534
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 5: twenty and headed and headshy? It's just impossible to even

535
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 5: think about that. So I believe that there was some

536
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 5: The way I was brought up was very instinctually fundamental basic, right.

537
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 5: This is it's meat, fish, chicken, soup. You know this

538
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 5: that hot food once a day because it's good for

539
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 5: the digestive track and probiotics and some this and some.

540
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 5: I mean, I can go on and it's insane. It's

541
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 5: coming out of my pores. I can't help it, right,

542
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 5: So I'm looking at this and Peter comes from a

543
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 5: completely opposite side of the world. Yes, she comes from

544
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 5: a world where they work their foot and free and

545
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:52,120
Speaker 5: he eat when they eat banana and they're it's a chicken,

546
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 5: and here's a soup. And here I grow up with much.

547
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 4: Try everything on your plate. But you don't have to

548
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:00,120
Speaker 4: finish every.

549
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 5: I grew up with. If you don't finish, you.

550
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 4: Don't you did, You're dead.

551
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,679
Speaker 5: To me, there's consequence, you know.

552
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:11,360
Speaker 3: That's how I was raised backs like seriously, second generation.

553
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 3: They were Germany Germans like, very strict, very similar.

554
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 2: My parents are from the South. We brought up that

555
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 2: I've had standoffs with my parents all night. You ain't

556
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 2: getting up from that table until you finish your dinner.

557
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 5: My brother Val, the superstar champ father on his he

558
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 5: had soup on his head plainy a time because he'd

559
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 5: actually talk back, you know. The second kid whatever, I

560
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 5: never go back, you know, I would just take it

561
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 5: and like be silent. He's like, well, what are you

562
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 5: gonna do? She'd like soup on the head, you know. So,

563
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 5: I mean there was a drastically different environment. We only

564
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 5: fight about the kids. But again now eight years later.

565
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 4: Because research shows if you're trying to force food on

566
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 4: children and you make them sit, even if they're trying

567
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 4: and screaming, it doesn't do any good. That's what I

568
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 4: have come to learn, as in that makes them not

569
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 4: want to eat it more. You know, why don't you

570
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 4: give them a little bit to taste it and you

571
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 4: don't have to force them to eat the whole thing anyway.

572
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 5: And I come to you as a research of like

573
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 5: this is this is the body that it produces, And

574
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 5: I'm like, this is a great, great body. How do

575
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 5: I do that? You know what? I know a way

576
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 5: that is guaranteed. It's this this way I am not sure.

577
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 5: If he goes down, it's like, pop, I want I

578
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 5: want ice cream. It's like seven thirty in the morning, even,

579
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 5: I mean, it has to be like Santa is on

580
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 5: our roof, you know what I mean? Like, okay, you know,

581
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,600
Speaker 5: but other than that, she looks at me and I'm

582
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 5: like steam coming on my ears, like yes, of course, shy,

583
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 5: you can't. And everything inside of me is just but

584
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 5: I don't get it. Why would you have ice cream

585
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 5: for breakfast? Why not protein? Protein?

586
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 4: Sometimes you're exaggerating right now, Okay.

587
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 5: I'm not. I'm just saying that's the only everything else.

588
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 5: We don't fight, we you know.

589
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 2: Wait a minute. This has got to get settled though.

590
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 2: At some point, this guy, what's the compromise then if

591
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 2: you've all been going through this.

592
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 4: Fourth all the time. Because she's like, am I done yet?

593
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 4: Papa like, and I'm like, yes, baby, you're done. He's

594
00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 4: so nervous if Papa's gonna say no, finish all of this.

595
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 5: And then I'm like inside my mind and in my heart,

596
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 5: I'm like, yo, shut up at you. At myself, I'm like,

597
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 5: he's eating three quarters, He's completely fine.

598
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 4: I come up.

599
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:44,880
Speaker 5: I look at his plate and I'm like, and I can't.

600
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 5: I'm like, here, let's do two more spoons. Why I

601
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 5: don't understand myself.

602
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: It's so funny, though, Max, I so relate to that.

603
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 3: I had the timer set on me, and if it

604
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 3: buzzed then then I would lose, Like I couldn't go

605
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 3: out on Friday. Then I couldn't see my friends Saturday.

606
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 3: And my days of grounding we just add up to

607
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:04,959
Speaker 3: weeks because if I didn't finish.

608
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 1: But it's funny. We feel like we have to then

609
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 1: impose that on our children too.

610
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 2: But to Peter's point, to your point about research that

611
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 2: kids don't end up liking that stuff, I am a

612
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 2: grown man. I don't eat a single damn thing that

613
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 2: I ate when I was growing up as a kid. Really,

614
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 2: to my diet is nothing like it. Well no, I'm

615
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 2: from the South and it's a different type of but

616
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 2: nothing I ate as a kid do I eat today.

617
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 2: So maybe there's something to.

618
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 5: The research, Maybe not the research type.

619
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 2: All right, how about this, guys? You fight about the food,

620
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 2: but a lot of couples go back and forth on this.

621
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 2: Do you go to bed angry? Do you make a

622
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 2: point of making sure you don't sometimes we.

623
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 4: Go to bit angry, yeah, because I don't know. I

624
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 4: think I find it hard if he said something to

625
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 4: piss me off during the day, or he's done something

626
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm not the one to like come

627
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 4: back first. I don't think unless I know that I've

628
00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 4: had a part of it, or that I've done I've

629
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 4: said something I shouldn't or you know. So, yeah, there's

630
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 4: definitely times that we go to bed angry, but the

631
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 4: food comes in and that's when it kind of foot

632
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 4: me together.

633
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 5: So I think we're fundamentally different in this way. Also

634
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 5: where you know, when she fights, it's like we walk

635
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 5: up in the morning and I don't know it's for me.

636
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:43,719
Speaker 5: Monday morning something happens. Mentally I am a nightmare to her,

637
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 5: to me to like, I'm just a nightmare for about

638
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 5: two hours and then I go work out and something changes.

639
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 5: For the rest of the week, I'm fine, but Monday

640
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 5: morning stresses.

641
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 4: It's just like a Monday morning stress thing.

642
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 5: I don't know. I don't know ever since pandemics, something happen.

643
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 5: But anyway, so like I go out and make coffee

644
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 5: and something in shy it's like I wan cereal, I'm like, no, Dwight,

645
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 5: would you have cereal again? You need hearty breakfast some

646
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 5: nonsense like that, right, and then she would react and

647
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 5: she will and then she just turns off and I'm

648
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 5: like and then six seconds later I come up to

649
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:18,600
Speaker 5: her and I say hey, and she's like please, and

650
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 5: I'm like, what what did I do? She's like, look,

651
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 5: you ruined my day that sentence. You ruined my date.

652
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 5: I'm like, at seven thirty eight, I pruned your day

653
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 5: for me. I turned into like sir, I turned into

654
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 5: like a Robert de Niro in Enraging Bull. I swear

655
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 5: to god, I'm like seven thirty but I need hold

656
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 5: what anyway? Fundamental difference between us is that I will

657
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 5: fight and then immediately if we have a discussion, immediately right,

658
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 5: I will then Okay, fine, let's keep it moving. That's it.

659
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 5: We're done. I thought got my point across. You got

660
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 5: your point across, black eyed, black Eye.

661
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 4: I can't be My feelings are hurt.

662
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 5: Bro, she'll be. She'll be pissed till tomorrow morning. And

663
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:16,520
Speaker 5: if you do it again, we will humilate. And I'm like,

664
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 5: you know what, It's just, it's crazy, it's crazy. I

665
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 5: don't understand how you going to be pissedel It's like

666
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:26,720
Speaker 5: seven hours. We can be pissed for seven minutes.

667
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:30,240
Speaker 1: It's exhausting to be pissed for seven hours.

668
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 4: I think it's because in the morning, I want peace.

669
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:36,320
Speaker 4: I want the day to start beautifully. It's a Monday morning.

670
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 4: I want everything to just roll on how it's meant to. Like,

671
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:43,439
Speaker 4: why do we need to talk about cereal or hot

672
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 4: food right now? Give the child cereal for once? For

673
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 4: God's sakes, you know he's fine. I grew up on

674
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 4: cereal and toast, and you're like, he's fine. You know

675
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 4: that's just my point.

676
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,720
Speaker 2: Okay, See it's this guy. I'll say this to Max

677
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 2: and Robes. I said this. There are plenty on this thing.

678
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 2: You will or I'll just speak for broths. She wants

679
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 2: you to get over it quickly when she's the offending party, right,

680
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 2: don't don't hurt me, don't pause the fight and then

681
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 2: be upset with her, Yes for not getting it over

682
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 2: getting over it quickly that you just started off.

683
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:21,760
Speaker 5: But the thing is, I for me, it's both ways.

684
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 5: You can offend me to my core, but if we

685
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:28,399
Speaker 5: immediately have this duke it out, then you can move it.

686
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 5: Just give me a hot I feel.

687
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: The same way. I can. I can move on quickly.

688
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:33,600
Speaker 1: Even if you piss me off.

689
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 2: I can.

690
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 3: I can't get over it because I actually funny enough

691
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 3: if I'm gonna use the same thing you said, Peter.

692
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 1: I want peace, and above all, I'm like life is short.

693
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 3: I don't want to spend the next twenty four hours upset,

694
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 3: so I am gonna let it go. I don't know,

695
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 3: And yes, I know it's easier when I'm the one

696
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 3: who's upset you for sure, But I do think I

697
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 3: still do that when it's I might need I might

698
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 3: need a little time, but I don't need seven hours.

699
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 1: I don't need twenty four hours.

700
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 2: I might need the weekend.

701
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 4: Okay, do love it?

702
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so funny. Oh my god.

703
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 3: I love listening to couples where one of them is

704
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 3: exactly the way I am, and then one of.

705
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: Is exactly the way DJ is. It's hilarious. What do

706
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:15,399
Speaker 1: you love most about each other?

707
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 4: I love his resilience and passion for providing for his family.

708
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: He never stops. He's never stops with ideas and thinking

709
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 4: about you know, the next five years, ten years, and

710
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 4: he's a great planner, and I really appreciate that with

711
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 4: about a partner. He's very strong willed. I like that too.

712
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 4: I'm more of the softy So I it's our ying

713
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 4: and Yang thing. I knew I was going to be

714
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 4: with somebody that is more headstrong and opinionated and stuff

715
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 4: like that. So they're the things that kind of pissed

716
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 4: me off, but also the things that I love the

717
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 4: most too.

718
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 5: Yeah. No, we're definitely ying and Yang. We definitely fully

719
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 5: compliment that other. You know, there's a lot of stuff

720
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:06,800
Speaker 5: that we are now on the same page completely through life.

721
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 5: We got here through you know, the right type of

722
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 5: you know, understanding. Again, we're both very passionate first, we're

723
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 5: not really pragmatic. We're pragmatic later. And so we get

724
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 5: ourselves in trouble, but we get ourselves in trouble as

725
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 5: a couple, and then we get ourselves out of trouble

726
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:24,359
Speaker 5: also as a couple. And in that there's a lot

727
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 5: of strength, a lot of building. I think that we

728
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 5: have a very strong foundation. Dare I say we you know,

729
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 5: we are a couple of people from in public spotlight.

730
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 5: That adds as you guys definitely know, uh, and so

731
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 5: we're also proud of that the way we go through this,

732
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 5: I feel like we have this sort of you know,

733
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 5: not evil eye, but where I come from, my culture

734
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 5: is all about you know, you know, superstitions and stuff

735
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 5: like that when you're in public eye. A lot of time,

736
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 5: my mom just praise all the time for us not

737
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 5: to get like some kind of black voodoo and stuff.

738
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 5: But that's relevant to a lot of people's energies get

739
00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 5: in the middle of you. And so for us to

740
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:05,800
Speaker 5: continue being this way.

741
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 4: You haven't said what you love about me?

742
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 5: Oh what? I love everything. She's She's literally the I'm sorry.

743
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 5: I wanted to say, like, I love us. I love

744
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:21,080
Speaker 5: us for that reason, for the way we compliment, for

745
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 5: the way you know, I don't have to be some

746
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 5: things that she can take on and and we know that. Uh.

747
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 5: And I'm free to be myself with her. There are

748
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 5: certain things she wants me to change my facial expression

749
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 5: when I express myself sometimes, I love you, I love everything.

750
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,480
Speaker 5: For the fact that the way your mother are children

751
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:43,360
Speaker 5: is number one. I wouldn't be with her if she

752
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 5: was a different mother. It would have been very difficult

753
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 5: to me. I grew up with an incredible mother, So

754
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:52,399
Speaker 5: that's very important, but I also love that above that,

755
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 5: I am important to her and we are at the

756
00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:59,839
Speaker 5: peak of that importance. If I didn't feel it from

757
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 5: it would also be very difficult for me to have

758
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 5: spent my life leading up to this point, fall in

759
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 5: love with someone and then get sort of replaced by

760
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 5: three off springs. You know, it'd be very hard for

761
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 5: me to sort of deal with that for the rest

762
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 5: of our life.

763
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 2: You know, Max, you got away with words. Man, I

764
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:18,240
Speaker 2: love it. Brother.

765
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,479
Speaker 3: It's funny because Max, is that exactly what my parents said,

766
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 3: that they put each other first. They put each other

767
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 3: first above my brother and yeah, and they really believe

768
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 3: that that is part of the reason why they've been successful.

769
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 2: Still, it's hard to hear I.

770
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 3: Heard it, but I get it, Like as this as

771
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:37,399
Speaker 3: the offspring, I've heard that.

772
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:41,240
Speaker 5: But it's harder to hear as later in life because

773
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 5: we've never heard that. Our parents were like, it's all

774
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 5: about the kids, kids, kids, kids, blah blah blah. Our

775
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 5: mom had only been raising us. And then we did

776
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 5: see how it's difficult for her to transition for them

777
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 5: as a couple of you know, empty nestas as you said,

778
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 5: a lot of people have a problems with that. I

779
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 5: would love to be in the place where I definitely

780
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 5: I'm going to miss my kids. Like I said, we've

781
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 5: teared up over the fact that they're going to go

782
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 5: to college. They're still under two. But we you know,

783
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 5: when that happens, however, said, I'll be I'll turn back

784
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 5: around and it'll be back to us again, you know,

785
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 5: And so then it'll be again the same place that

786
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 5: we were in when we're just mad and in love

787
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 5: and all that. That's what I'm looking forward to, right.

788
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 2: We do have a couple of practical questions about the relationship. First, finances.

789
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:31,240
Speaker 2: How do you all handle finances as a couples everything together?

790
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 2: Do you all keep anything separate?

791
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 4: We have our separate corporations, separate companies. I have my

792
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 4: beauty company that he has his dance studio business that

793
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 4: he's had since he was sixteen. Everything is separated. I

794
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 4: think we have one joint account, but we don't even

795
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:54,280
Speaker 4: use it. Everything gets paid for together as in our

796
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 4: business management team, just you know, pools from each of

797
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:02,399
Speaker 4: us to pay things. We don't count who pays for what,

798
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 4: who pays for dinner. So I feel like our relationship.

799
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 4: It's bigger than that. It's stronger than me saying oh,

800
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,920
Speaker 4: I've paid for the mortgage.

801
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 5: It doesn't it doesn't make sense to our time. But

802
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,760
Speaker 5: we're not dating, we're not splitting the bill. The ideas

803
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:23,360
Speaker 5: that our financial structure is, you know, given our LLCs

804
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,759
Speaker 5: and all that stuff, but it all goes into one,

805
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 5: you know, one source. We are a family. We put

806
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 5: everything into the part. We had few conversations along the

807
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 5: way of like, you know, but what about this and

808
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,919
Speaker 5: what about that? And I'm like, look, I said it

809
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 5: to me. It's strange when you know, families like us

810
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 5: start to separate things and have separate this and separate that,

811
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 5: where one business management team they have oversight of our

812
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,879
Speaker 5: finances and accounts. And I think it's the right thing.

813
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 5: You know, the conversations nowadays about like opinions if you will,

814
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 5: on on TikTok and social media about everything and financial

815
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 5: structure of families among them, and you know, one joint

816
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 5: account for bills, separate accounts for you know, cash, I

817
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 5: guess pocket money and all that stuff. Like yeah, however

818
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:13,800
Speaker 5: you want to call it, sure, you know, have freedom

819
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 5: and all that, as long as it's all together. You know,

820
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 5: the one thing that Peter is never going to find

821
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 5: out about me is some separate accounts or some kind

822
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 5: of like offshot things and things like that, investment opportunities.

823
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:31,479
Speaker 5: Like I didn't get into this partnership. Also we are partners.

824
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,360
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, something happens.

825
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 5: I have no choice. Guys. You know, also that stuff

826
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:42,239
Speaker 5: for us wash you know, we didn't need to, you know,

827
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 5: and I understand, you know, people that come into this

828
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 5: relationships with companies and part of entities that require you

829
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 5: to you know, write some things. But for us, we're good.

830
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 4: We're fine, pretty simple.

831
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:57,320
Speaker 5: You guys asked a long time ago about for a second.

832
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:59,720
Speaker 5: You know, I just want to give back the marriage question.

833
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 5: It was important to us because we grew up traditionally,

834
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 5: not maybe conservatively in some words, but traditionally enough to

835
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 5: like I wanted to be married. I wanted my partner

836
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 5: for life to know that she's for life, you know.

837
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 5: And I wanted to be committed because for me personally,

838
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 5: also the way I am, the who I am, it's

839
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 5: a lot less confusing when it's committed. You know, I

840
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,800
Speaker 5: want to be committed. I wanted to be official, whatever

841
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 5: that means. If the society decided that's how we make it,

842
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 5: then let it be that. So I was looking forward

843
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 5: to all this.

844
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 2: The next practical question has to do with the household

845
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 2: as well chores. How do you all handle it around

846
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 2: the house? You got kids to deal with, but also

847
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 2: as far as the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, of

848
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 2: course has it. Oh, Peter's making a face, So please

849
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 2: tell us how's it?

850
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 4: I mean, I do most of it. I'm just going

851
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:53,839
Speaker 4: to be honest. I mean, we have a full time

852
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:59,600
Speaker 4: nanny five days a week to help us with children

853
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 4: in that aspects. So she helps with some laundry for

854
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 4: the for the babies and stuff. She cooks some meals

855
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 4: for me for the babies. But generally speaking, yes, I

856
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 4: will be the one to do most of that stuff.

857
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 4: You like to cook, though, I just wish you'd do more.

858
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 5: I love cooking. I hate laundry. The laundry thing is

859
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:21,759
Speaker 5: just absurd to me. I want to do. I want

860
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 5: to figure out like reusable undergarments of some sort that

861
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 5: are like both at the same time smell, nest and clean.

862
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 5: Because this is crazy. You wash the whole thing.

863
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 4: We just our laundry.

864
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 5: This this is a practical closet. If I show you

865
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 5: the rest, there's a lot of stuff. I wear it,

866
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:42,880
Speaker 5: she wears it, but it's just constant. I'm like, I

867
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 5: don't know, I can't not eat, but I can not

868
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 5: wear a lot of stuff. You know, just washing so much?

869
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do it.

870
00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 3: Laundry is one of those things though, that has gotten

871
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 3: to just about every couple.

872
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:13,439
Speaker 1: It's affected everyone. And have you all when you fight?

873
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 3: Have you all ever come close to or at least

874
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,320
Speaker 3: said threatened to break up to get divorced?

875
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:21,800
Speaker 1: Do you go nuclear in moments?

876
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:27,959
Speaker 4: God? No, it's I think if that happened, like those

877
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 4: words like I feel like we're going to get divorced

878
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 4: or something like that, or I want a divorcee Oh

879
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 4: my god, No, that would almost put a seed into

880
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,280
Speaker 4: our heads that that was going to happen in the future.

881
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 5: I think, I mean we as far as it went

882
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 5: like well, what are you going to do? You know

883
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 5: what I'm saying like that, that that's where it ends,

884
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 5: like we both know the D word is the thought

885
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,479
Speaker 5: process here, but obviously it's not gonna happen.

886
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 4: No.

887
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 5: I think it's like it's late for us at this point.

888
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 4: We actually have like kind of going to see, you

889
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 4: started this rule that we we don't swear at each other.

890
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 5: No, I didn't start there.

891
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 4: I was going to say, we don't say.

892
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 5: I don't understand that. Blah, No, that's safe.

893
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 4: That does not that.

894
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 5: Does not happen at somebody else. I'm not the guy

895
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 5: to say, you know, you know not not not to curse,

896
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 5: but at her, like you know you were this and

897
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 5: that and the other, like even in dramatic fact, you know,

898
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:29,880
Speaker 5: because I think it's.

899
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:35,880
Speaker 4: So hurtful, and it's so it tarnishes something. If he

900
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 4: were to call me an F and B or something

901
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 4: like it would that would really tarnish our relationship, I think.

902
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 5: Yeah. And then again, if you let for me, I'm

903
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 5: very sarcastic and very dry humor already, So if I

904
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 5: and if I want to go hurtful, I have hurt

905
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 5: people verbally and I'm not proud of it, and it

906
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 5: was awful moments in my life. But to be in

907
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 5: a relationship for the person that you love, that you

908
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 5: let yourself get to a certain point, there's something wrong

909
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 5: with you, you know. So for me, words have incredibly

910
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 5: heavy meanings and they're not reserved for this, for this

911
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:14,919
Speaker 5: relationship at all.

912
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:17,880
Speaker 2: That is one of the best. We're going to do

913
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 2: a wrap up of all of the some of the

914
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:21,760
Speaker 2: best advice we've gotten from all the couples we interviewed

915
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 2: ten of them. Wrap up episode that is going to

916
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 2: be included because that is a small but such a

917
00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 2: significant thing. Take profanity out of your arguments or a discussion.

918
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 2: It makes such a.

919
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 3: Difference you make a pact, especially if you tend to

920
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 3: curse just in general when you're angry, say we are

921
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 3: never going to curse at each other.

922
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 2: But saying are you crazy? Hits differently than are you crazy?

923
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 2: It really but.

924
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,880
Speaker 5: It's like, it's are you an idiot? She said?

925
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:53,760
Speaker 4: I said that one time, an idiot? It felt awful

926
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 4: coming out, but I was so heated. I forget this

927
00:47:57,440 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 4: was years ago.

928
00:47:58,360 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, but it was also my reaction.

929
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 4: He was so hurt.

930
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 5: I was so I was like, oh, it was the

931
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 5: idiot direct.

932
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,359
Speaker 4: I think I've said it one time to each other

933
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,759
Speaker 4: just and this was maybe five years ago, and from

934
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 4: then on we saw the reaction of each other and

935
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 4: we're just like, never again. We allowed ourselves to have

936
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:20,120
Speaker 4: that one time, and it's.

937
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:22,799
Speaker 2: Like, that's good advice, guys, all right, last few, and

938
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 2: we're gonna let you get out of here. But this

939
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:29,320
Speaker 2: one is a cool one. If you could get anybody

940
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 2: who is about to go in and get married, and

941
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 2: you could say one last thing to them before they

942
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 2: decide to make that decision, to say, I do. Is

943
00:48:39,040 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 2: there something you would make sure everybody kept in mind

944
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 2: or remind them of or don't want to go as

945
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 2: far as say and warn them of. But what would

946
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,839
Speaker 2: you say to somebody to make sure they consider before

947
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 2: they got married.

948
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,919
Speaker 4: Communication and compromise is everything in a marriage when you're

949
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 4: dealing with completely well with us, like we're very opposite

950
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 4: in a lot of things and very similar a few.

951
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:04,960
Speaker 4: I feel like compromise and communication is everything with his

952
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 4: you know, English and second language type of thing, Like

953
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 4: there's some things that he says that I would take

954
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:15,279
Speaker 4: to heart, like I want to tea or something. He

955
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 4: didn't mean it that way. It was the tone of

956
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 4: the voice, and I'm coming around to his tone. He's softened,

957
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 4: I've hardened up a little bit. And the compromise of

958
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 4: that with how each other feels with those sensitivities really

959
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:32,919
Speaker 4: helped us understand each other more.

960
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I would say, I would say, just

961
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,799
Speaker 5: make sure that you want to do it. You know

962
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 5: a lot of people want to do it for a moment,

963
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:46,799
Speaker 5: but you can't really know how it feels to do

964
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 5: it for life. But I think you can hold yourself

965
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 5: accountable a little bit in making that decision. I think kids,

966
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:58,000
Speaker 5: especially younger generation nowadays, is very fast to make a

967
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:01,359
Speaker 5: decision because you can also change the decision. We are

968
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 5: free to make choices. Right, Well, then well then don't

969
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:08,720
Speaker 5: call it getting married, call it getting pre married before

970
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 5: you actually get married. And then whence you stay married,

971
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 5: then you can call it that. You know, I don't

972
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 5: know because if you're going to be jumping in and

973
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 5: out and having kids with different people and as we say,

974
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:23,879
Speaker 5: muzzled off, but you know it's not right and it's

975
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 5: not right that you don't have to commit and you

976
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 5: don't have to feel that way. So I think it's.

977
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 4: Much Yeah, I'm in a space also that just to

978
00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:40,080
Speaker 4: handy back onto that. I feel like, if you're not happy,

979
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:42,799
Speaker 4: don't stay in it for the kids.

980
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 5: That's my point one hundred million.

981
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 4: My point of view is if it's not working, better

982
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 4: to better to part ways. Early. I went through that

983
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:58,759
Speaker 4: with my parents. I wish they parted ways. I told

984
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:01,480
Speaker 4: them to part ways, but stuck together for the kids.

985
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 4: And you know, I love my mom to death. She's

986
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 4: the best. But now she's seventy three, and you know,

987
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 4: I would love her to find somebody else. It's different then,

988
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 4: you know, So I'm I'm I'm on that wavelength of no,

989
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 4: it's okay, it's okay to get divorced if you need

990
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 4: to do that, if it's not the right decision for

991
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 4: your family and kids.

992
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, like I'm going into marriage, it's a

993
00:51:27,800 --> 00:51:30,360
Speaker 5: big decision. So if you don't take it as a

994
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 5: big decision, don't do it. Do it later, do it,

995
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 5: give a second, you know, have a kid if you

996
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 5: want to. You know, But this whole commitment stuff, it

997
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 5: has to be heavier weighted. You know.

998
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:44,360
Speaker 2: Nowadays, you know that that would a hell of an

999
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 2: add because people do go back and forth. And I

1000
00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 2: think there's been to experience the two of us sitting

1001
00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 2: here have had with that very thing, and I think

1002
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 2: there are other people have gotten that advice, like it

1003
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:55,600
Speaker 2: doesn't matter, you sacrifice and you make sure you stay

1004
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 2: together for the sake of the kids. That there are

1005
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 2: people who we have heard give that advice and.

1006
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 5: Don't believe that at all. And I'm the guy with

1007
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 5: like family first stayed, got it, but I don't believe that.

1008
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 5: The reason why is again going back to that, the

1009
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 5: fact that the whole thing is held on us and

1010
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 5: on this relationship, in this chemistry, there's a cracking dad.

1011
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 5: It's like a cracking foundation. You can plant, you know,

1012
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 5: put you know, flowers in your windows, but if that

1013
00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 5: building's cracked down there, it's never going to be safe.

1014
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 5: And so to be in that kind of unsafe on

1015
00:52:28,239 --> 00:52:31,719
Speaker 5: the edge, will it wont it it? Will it last?

1016
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1017
00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 5: And so it's not necessary to be in that state

1018
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 5: of stress. Go be happy somewhere else. I also have

1019
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 5: a very you know example of someone who I knew

1020
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:48,920
Speaker 5: very well. She turned eighteen. The father gave a flower,

1021
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 5: said bye bye, and left on that day because he

1022
00:52:51,480 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 5: stayed just for her. She didn't even know. Her mom

1023
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:57,240
Speaker 5: didn't know, he hated the mom didn't like the daughter

1024
00:52:57,600 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 5: said that like the daughter of the relationship. The fact

1025
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 5: that it was like whatever, So you know, he has

1026
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:07,799
Speaker 5: a great happy family now and moved on with life.

1027
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:12,280
Speaker 3: So you never know, Yeah, it's it's and it's something

1028
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:14,319
Speaker 3: to consider it, especially when you've lived enough life. You

1029
00:53:14,320 --> 00:53:17,239
Speaker 3: know every decision leads to the next. And you know,

1030
00:53:17,719 --> 00:53:21,880
Speaker 3: I remember a therapist telling me this, would you want

1031
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:24,799
Speaker 3: your daughters to be in the marriage you're in And

1032
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:27,160
Speaker 3: if the answer is no, you're showing them.

1033
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 1: That that's what marriage gets. And that a light bulb

1034
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 1: went off for me on that one. All right, we're

1035
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 1: gonna ask you.

1036
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 3: It's kind of a cheesy question, but it's what we've

1037
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 3: ended with all of our couples. You all have been through,

1038
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 3: and it's so cool to see how much you've been through,

1039
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 3: the ups, the downs, the breakups, the fame meeting, on

1040
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 3: the job meeting, when you were with other people. What

1041
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:50,839
Speaker 3: is the key to your success? What is the key

1042
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 3: not just to the fact that it's lasted, but that

1043
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:55,839
Speaker 3: it's so good and you're so happy even in all

1044
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:58,279
Speaker 3: the chaos chemistry.

1045
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:02,720
Speaker 5: I just read it easy again, just being.

1046
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 4: Actually really are attracted to each other and we love

1047
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 4: each other.

1048
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't. We may not agree, we may not

1049
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 5: feeld some kind of way. We may after this interview

1050
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:19,839
Speaker 5: move on like this like not in but right now, okay,

1051
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:24,839
Speaker 5: we're good. It's like, but we're so busy, and we

1052
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 5: you know, but we we still were like we're in it,

1053
00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:31,399
Speaker 5: having this moment right here at the end of it.

1054
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 5: My feeling is like, Wow, we really are great couple.

1055
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 5: You know, we've we've gone definitely more therapy.

1056
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 4: For sure, we haven't done any therapy.

1057
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 5: As you could tell, I would need many hours because

1058
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 5: I need to speak this out. I'd rather I'd rather

1059
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 5: have one of my friends therapize us for free, because

1060
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:57,400
Speaker 5: it's going to cost a lot. You can.

1061
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 2: This has been great. We keep We've said at the

1062
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 2: end of absolutely every single one of these interviews, we

1063
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 2: have personally gotten some out of it. We feel more encouraged,

1064
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 2: more optimistic, and we feel better about our relationship by

1065
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 2: talking to another couple. And I look, we know you

1066
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,239
Speaker 2: all wouldn't have sat down broth though, probably if you

1067
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:21,640
Speaker 2: all weren't already pretty good.

1068
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 3: It's a lot of trust that the other person isn't

1069
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 3: going to throw you under the bus, right right.

1070
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,240
Speaker 5: Well, yeah, I mean that's that's also a lot of trust.

1071
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:31,040
Speaker 5: And this is some of these questions is like and

1072
00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:33,840
Speaker 5: she says, I'm like, oh, really cool. I mean it's awesome.

1073
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:36,640
Speaker 5: I think that's also a key to your healthy relationship.

1074
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:39,280
Speaker 5: You keep finding things about to check it out, speak

1075
00:55:39,360 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 5: it out, you know, change your mind, change your opinion,

1076
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,320
Speaker 5: get adjusted, and keep it moving.

1077
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 4: Thank you so much. It's been so fun.

1078
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 1: Oh, thank you.

1079
00:55:47,840 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 3: Thank you, because I know that this takes in a way,

1080
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 3: it takes courage to be this honest and open and

1081
00:55:55,600 --> 00:55:56,480
Speaker 3: letting people in.

1082
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:57,359
Speaker 1: But you are.

1083
00:55:57,600 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 3: You are a power couple, and you've always been a

1084
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 3: couple that we have looked up to and have been

1085
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 3: cheering on. So it was awesome to get to know

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Speaker 3: this side of you a little bit more, a lot

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Speaker 3: more actually, So thank you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for being so willing to do this. We

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Speaker 1: appreciate you so much.

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Speaker 4: Guys, thank you.