1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,240 Speaker 1: Buggle up and hold on tight. We gotta pull you here. 2 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 1: It is the strong buried letter subject my man's daughter 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 1: saw it all. Uh, Dear Stephen Shirley. My fiance and 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:13,560 Speaker 1: I have been together for a while, but we don't 5 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: live in the same city, so we do everything we 6 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,440 Speaker 1: can to spice keep the spice in our relationships. We 7 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: spend flirt, we send flirty texas and explicit pictures, and 8 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 1: when we're together it is on and popping. The texas 9 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:32,280 Speaker 1: and pictures we send are so raunchy, risque and vulgar 10 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: that a porn star would blush. We can't help it. Well, 11 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: now we have a big problem. My man has a 12 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 1: fifteen year old daughter and I have always had a 13 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 1: great relationship with her until recently when she went through 14 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: her daughter's phone, her father's phone and saw it all. 15 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 1: Since then, she does not want anything to do with 16 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 1: me or her dad. She has not visited him since 17 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: this incident. I reached out to her, but she will 18 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: not speak to me. I am so hurt because she 19 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,279 Speaker 1: thought of me as her step mom and I called 20 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:10,759 Speaker 1: her my daughter. My man is crushed and he doesn't 21 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: know what to do. By the way she has been 22 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: punished several times for going through other people's things, but 23 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: this time is different. I do now know how. I 24 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,400 Speaker 1: do not know how to fix this or if it 25 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 1: can be fixed. I think my man could be doing 26 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: more to help. He's got to step up, or his 27 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: relationship with his daughter may not ever be the same. 28 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:34,479 Speaker 1: I need some real advice on how to handle this 29 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: and keep my family together. Please help? Wow, uh dear, 30 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: please help. Yeah, this is a mess right here. This 31 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: is a big problem. Um. This young lady has been 32 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: punished already for going through people's things, and you know 33 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:55,040 Speaker 1: that's the problem. When you go through people's things, a 34 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: lot of times you find what you don't wanna, um find, 35 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: and you see what you don't want to see or 36 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: what you'd never think in a million years you would see. 37 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: This is her dad. She's traumatized. This is her her 38 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: soon to be step mom that you know she highly 39 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: looks up to, and at a fifteen year old, she 40 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,519 Speaker 1: as a fifteen year old, she cannot process this. It's 41 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 1: hard for her to process. So this is a major 42 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:24,360 Speaker 1: problem for everybody all around. And quite frankly, UM, you know, 43 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:26,959 Speaker 1: I don't I don't know what to tell you to do. Um, 44 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: you know you want to keep your family together. Maybe 45 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: you can start with some sort of family therapy. You know, 46 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: you gotta try and talk to this this young girl 47 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: and see if you can get through to her on 48 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 1: a different level. I mean, but it's going to be 49 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:45,240 Speaker 1: hard because she's seen you like this. So you know, 50 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: you you got to talk about the respect level. Now, 51 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: you got to talk about the fact that, um, she 52 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: sees you as probably somebody nasty and just someone that 53 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to deal with. You know, she's so 54 00:02:57,360 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: disappointed and upset with her dad. But I think in 55 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: this instance you and her dad are going to have 56 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: to sit her down and talk to her, especially her dad. 57 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:09,959 Speaker 1: But give it a little time. Let some time go by, 58 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,640 Speaker 1: and then maybe maybe you can all come to the 59 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:15,920 Speaker 1: table and and have a conversation. You know, tell her 60 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 1: it was an accident. You didn't mean to uh for 61 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: her to see all of this, and um, you know, 62 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 1: I don't know this is this is a tough one 63 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:28,519 Speaker 1: for me, Steve, not for you. Yeah, it ain't you 64 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: can do. That is nothing you can do. Let's just 65 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: start with the fact. Can't turn it down just a 66 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 1: little bit, because what I'm about to say I need 67 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: everybody's undevided. Okay, here's the whole letters in this right 68 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:59,119 Speaker 1: here we're seeing flirty texas and explicit pictures, and when 69 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: we're together it's on in pop. Here is the killer. 70 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: The text and pictures we sin are so runchy, ris 71 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: skate and vulgar that a pawn star would blush. I 72 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 1: hadn't done it. What she's saying is what Stormy Daniels did. 73 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 1: We're President Trump. Ain't nothing. Y'all been doing photos, photo 74 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:40,239 Speaker 1: shoots and set ups from black Tail magazine Tail. Yeah, 75 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: that's how raunchy yoga. Black Tail was a black porno 76 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 1: magazine with no makeup artist, with no no touch up. 77 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: So photo, we're taking this picture, we're printing it. We 78 00:04:56,120 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 1: ain't got money for touch up. Stretch marks, bullet wounds, 79 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: bruising cuts, very coast veins. All love it. Bite. Now, 80 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: what my question to you is when you say runch 81 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:23,479 Speaker 1: you risk, skate and vocal that a pawn stalwart blood. 82 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 1: Let me ask you a couple questions. So you obviously 83 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 1: have sent a picture where your right foot was on 84 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 1: the floor, Well, where was your left foot? She did 85 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: not put that in the letters. I'm just asking because 86 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: how raunchy. As we're talking, she said, if your left foot, 87 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 1: let's explain something to you, was higher than your pelvic 88 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: in that picture right there? Who that wrounch you? Now 89 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:55,600 Speaker 1: now now that we've covered now that's risk skate, that's 90 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,360 Speaker 1: risk skate. Now that you got your foot up, hide 91 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 1: in your pelvit what would make it runch you? What 92 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 1: did you do? Well, now you start that had movement 93 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 1: in it. Raunchy is movement. So you didn't send a 94 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:17,640 Speaker 1: video and you didn't spare it up. Who are you 95 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 1: are humping at at that? That's that's that I'm talking about. 96 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 1: Like like you like you like a Jackhammel. Yeah, you're 97 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 1: and the air hovering like boomerang like in that scene 98 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: of Boomerang. Well, yeah, you know on Instagram when you 99 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 1: boomerang and photos just keep going back and forth. Then 100 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: you did something that made it vulgar? What did you 101 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:48,799 Speaker 1: have in your hand? See? Because these pictures is runchy, 102 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:53,720 Speaker 1: risque and vulgar. The the risk skate was when you 103 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: raised your foot a little bit. The raunchy was when 104 00:06:56,920 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 1: you started making your picture move your eyeball ray. The 105 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: vulgar is what was in your hand lord. Okay, we 106 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: come back to fifteen year old girl that broke into 107 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: her daddy's phone and since they live a part in relationship, 108 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:18,440 Speaker 1: they send each other explicit pictures. The text and pictures 109 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: we're seeing are so raunchy, risk and vulgar that a 110 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: pawn star with with blush. We can't help it. Well, 111 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: the problem is a girl and found the pictures and 112 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 1: since she then saw it, she don't want anything to 113 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: do with me or her daddy. But we didn't punish 114 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 1: this girl before for going through other people's things, but 115 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: this time is different. I don't know how to fix it. 116 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: For it can be fixed. This can't be fixed. But 117 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: now let's reiterate. You set a picture that was raunchy, risk, skate, 118 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 1: and volgar. My breakdown is how to picture was the 119 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 1: three things escape picture is? Your foot is on the floor, 120 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:04,679 Speaker 1: your right foot is flat on the float, your left 121 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 1: foot is somewhere up higher than your Pelvit that makes 122 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 1: for a risk a picture. What made the picture runch? 123 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: You runch? You? Was you put that special effect on 124 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: it where you was at humping real faces. You was 125 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: bumeranging your picture. Now you got that in there, then 126 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 1: what made it vulgar was something was in your hand. 127 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: Oh the only other thing you could have been doing. 128 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 1: You nick it and you barefoot and your right foot 129 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: is you on your toes on your right foot, but 130 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: your left foot is flat up gainst that wall. I'm 131 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 1: talking about, flat up gainst that wall. That's the breakdown 132 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: between risk, a runchy and volume. Yeah, now you haven't 133 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 1: done all this hill and you turning round talking back 134 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: over your shoulder at the camel, and you didn't mention 135 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: his name. So the little girl thank yourself now all 136 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: she s and you yeah, and you got many what 137 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: you know to look back? She could damn there see 138 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: it yours probably, And when you got your leg up 139 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: that high, you damn the got you look right over 140 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 1: your shoulder and right behind your shoulder, plant out, daddy. 141 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: That's why she don't want to talk to nobody. Now. 142 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: Now the girl don't want to talk to y'all cause 143 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:37,599 Speaker 1: her damn daddy. It's justice, naxt. I'm gonna tell you 144 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 1: one thing, because my daddy did something pornographic around me 145 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: one time. I would not pornographic to me. It's around 146 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: me which would have been today, would have been pornographic. 147 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:54,719 Speaker 1: And my daddy was woke up neked one night and 148 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: went in the refrigerator and I was coming downstairs to 149 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: use the bathroom and he was standing the refrigerated drinking 150 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: out of ice water box. Nick and I saw it, 151 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: and we didn't have money for therapy. So I'm just 152 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 1: gonna be honest with you. I still ain't over. I'm 153 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: still trauma. That he had wasn't as bright as today's 154 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:29,679 Speaker 1: turned around at mede eye contact, and then when he 155 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 1: saw me, he continued to drink and put his damn 156 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: hand on this hire. You know, it was very different 157 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:44,839 Speaker 1: from me back then, so I didn't have to worry 158 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 1: about it, and so I was traumatized. This girl is traumatized. 159 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:53,960 Speaker 1: She not talking to you all. Her daddy and uh, 160 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: y'all got to get in therapy, but she probably ain't 161 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:01,599 Speaker 1: gonna want to go. I mean, I mean, if she 162 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 1: goes by and said, what's she gonna do? What you're 163 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 1: all gonna do, y'all gonna take the pictures and discuss 164 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 1: each one. But you know she's gone back, well maybe not. 165 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 1: She might not trouble for looking yeah, because she didn't 166 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: got in trouble. Ain't don't need a whipping her, punishing 167 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 1: her for this, because if y'all hadn't have been sending 168 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:23,439 Speaker 1: all that nasty man and what what what? And what 169 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:27,440 Speaker 1: code your your fiance guy? Where fifteen year old can 170 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 1: get in it? I know, well you know why is it? 171 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:35,320 Speaker 1: Fifteen year old with his phone? Thank you? I got 172 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:37,319 Speaker 1: to have my own phone. But I mean she has 173 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 1: a problem obviously with being nosy and nosy then got 174 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: your in therapy. Yeah, now your share all shot. Yeah, 175 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 1: she's looking for something, but in due time this will heal. 176 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: It will heal in time because she's gonna go off 177 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: to college. Her own activities will begin. And what y'all 178 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: doing with pale and compassion? And what the kids out 179 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 1: here doing right now? I'm telling y'all right now, you 180 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 1: think they'll get married? Who the lady who wrote the 181 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: letter in her fiance? Yeah? They go, yea man, we 182 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 1: cast that little girl and probably screen shot them pictures 183 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 1: and send them to health home. Yeah, that little girl 184 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:21,520 Speaker 1: right now, I would date. They're probably gonna have to 185 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 1: go on and get married and all that. So I 186 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: don't know, and we we really can't help. I don't 187 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: know what to tell you. I don't know how how 188 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 1: nasty risk, a raunchy and vulgar. There's levels. So let 189 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 1: me guess what another picture you was on. You was 190 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:45,559 Speaker 1: nicking on a bike like her stationary bike. Yeah, she 191 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: was nicking on because she was exercising. Yeah, on the 192 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 1: two of the friends bike, and you got extra jiggy 193 00:12:57,400 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: with you took the seat off. You don't sent that 194 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:04,199 Speaker 1: pisnatal little girl in all types of I feel sorry 195 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 1: for the little girl because she tried to get her 196 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 1: mind wrapping hot nasty you and her her damn daddy 197 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:12,960 Speaker 1: is and Steve. No one wants to see their parents, nobody, 198 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: No one wants like that. You really don't want to 199 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: see your mom. You don't want to and you definitely 200 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:23,360 Speaker 1: don't want to hear him. But that's a whole another ship. No, no, no, 201 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:27,880 Speaker 1: you don't want to see your mama, now your daddy. 202 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:31,920 Speaker 1: As a boy, you're gonna get past that. But you 203 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 1: don't ever want to see you don't. You don't ever 204 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: want to see your mama. Your mama, you don't want 205 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:40,240 Speaker 1: to see. You just don't want to. And I think 206 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 1: the Lord that I never ever had any ill memory 207 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:49,000 Speaker 1: of my mother. I think God, my damn dad didn't 208 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 1: give a damn it was his house. My daddy traumatized. 209 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: I've been in the bathtub, taken the bath. He didn't 210 00:13:58,040 --> 00:13:59,880 Speaker 1: came in and sat on the toilet. 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