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Speaker 1: Radio clock. But I'm in jail with some people, and

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Speaker 1: I'll explain. Oh yeah, I didn't realize I went and done?

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Speaker 1: Did it this morning? I already did it, only took

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Speaker 1: and done? Did it? Go ahead, Cay, we'll take it

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Speaker 1: away your.

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Speaker 2: Blog, please, okay, deer blog.

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Speaker 3: So I need to take a little sample survey of

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Speaker 3: all of you, because I'm certain to get the vibe

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Speaker 3: that my mom just like may not be that into me.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure, but she is constantly trying to move

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Speaker 3: any remnants of me out of her home, which is

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Speaker 3: not in this state.

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Speaker 2: It is in Michigan.

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Speaker 3: We are currently in Illinois, but I know we have

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Speaker 3: friends all over. So do you guys, what's the deal

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Speaker 3: at all of your parents' home?

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Speaker 2: At Helena's home, do you guys still have a room.

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Speaker 3: Set up or you Is it still what it looks

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Speaker 3: like when you were in high school?

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Speaker 1: Is my room and no one's allowed to use it,

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Speaker 1: even though I haven't lived there in a long time. Really,

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Speaker 1: it is not to be used as a guest room.

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Speaker 1: It is not. It is used to it is no.

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Speaker 1: It should be untouched by the human hand except for mine?

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Speaker 3: Do you have do you keep like clothing there because

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Speaker 3: I know you go back a lot, or do you

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Speaker 1: Thatngers in my bed?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? No, I mean I feel that.

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Speaker 1: And they got a big enough house, they have a

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Speaker 1: guest room. My sister's room is fine.

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Speaker 4: You know, they're strangers in your parents' house.

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Speaker 1: I don't want my I don't want my I don't

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Speaker 1: want anyone in my bed. I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't, right, woe right? So, I mean I live

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Speaker 3: I think, like we all know, I don't have a

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Speaker 3: lot of space, and I'm doing my best to you know,

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Speaker 3: become successful, maybe.

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Speaker 2: Get another additional bedroom. I'm trying out.

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Speaker 3: Here, okay, but my mom is constantly texting me pictures

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Speaker 3: of stuff and asking can I get rid of this?

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Speaker 2: Can I get rid of that? And we've narrowed it down.

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Speaker 3: I feel to a manageable situation where like I have

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Speaker 3: pictures of yount, get.

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Speaker 2: Rid of this, paint of this?

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Speaker 3: Can you? But so it's like I leave clothing there

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Speaker 3: that I use when I'm back home, and it's useful

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Speaker 3: sweatshirts and stuff, but it's all tucked away. My mom

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Speaker 3: is a neat freak, Like, I know your mom is friend,

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Speaker 3: so she never also let me hang like posters.

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Speaker 2: We didn't have locks on her door. It was a

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Speaker 2: whole thing. But you know, it's all neatly tucked away.

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Speaker 3: Someone is allowed to use it if they want to

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Speaker 3: use it as a guest room. But I'm starting to

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Speaker 3: feel like she doesn't want any signs of me there

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Speaker 3: because it's constantly like when.

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Speaker 2: I'm home, go through this, get rid of them.

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Speaker 1: They're probably is some point gonna not have whatever size

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Speaker 1: house they have, Yeah, because at some point, I know

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Speaker 1: my mom is gonna call me and say, because we

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Speaker 1: still have the house that we grew up in. So

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Speaker 1: what I'm guessing is that is it. At some point

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Speaker 1: they're gonna she's gonna summon me back to Scottsdale, Arizona,

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Speaker 1: and say, anything you want take it, because we're not

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Speaker 1: going to have the house and we're gonna get like

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Speaker 1: a condo or something, you know, and we don't have

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Speaker 1: room for all your crap. Yeah, but I don't like you.

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Speaker 1: I don't have room for it either, right, Like, so

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Speaker 1: they don't want to do with it.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna have to go have these on a storage unit.

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Speaker 2: He was like, what am I gonna do? Because there's

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Speaker 2: things I want to save.

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Speaker 3: Meanwhile, I was already moved out of my original room

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Speaker 3: because I have a little sister who you know, is

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Speaker 3: Potter's closet when I go home, which is the tiniest,

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Speaker 2: And that's fine, you know, live your best life, Bella.

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Speaker 2: But you know she's got all kinds of stuff in there.

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Speaker 2: Can't I keep a couple of sweatshirts? You know? Does

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Speaker 2: your mom do this? Paulina.

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Speaker 5: Oh, I've been kicked out of this house many of

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Speaker 5: times as far as like my stuff, but I always

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Speaker 1: That's because that's because you said on the radio, Paulina. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: been in a perfect world, you would rent out your

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Speaker 1: two homes for profit and move into your mom's house

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the problem.

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Speaker 1: Un If I'm Mama Marta, I'm I'm not only telling

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Speaker 1: you to get your stuff out, I'm changing the locks

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Speaker 5: Yeah, my listen, I moved back in so many times,

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Speaker 5: and at this point I would move right back in

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Speaker 5: as well, like I'm missing my mother. I want my

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Speaker 5: like I would literally, like I just that's all I

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Speaker 5: my family, but that's okay.

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Speaker 2: I will not allow.

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Speaker 5: But you know what she game together that was so

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Speaker 5: random and I don't know what to do with it.

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Speaker 5: Exactly your point. She made a binder of all of

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Speaker 5: my things when I was little, all of my like ribbons,

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Speaker 5: report cards, like any awards I won, like on paper, certificates.

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Speaker 5: It's all this big fat binder and she's like, please

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Speaker 1: Could?

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Speaker 2: I don't know? He organized?

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Speaker 5: That was the whole thing. Another fight of ours, but like, yeah,

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Speaker 5: why what do I do with it? Though?

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Speaker 2: But it's not going in the attic. Where is it

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 3: And then to their credit, we just moved this crap

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Speaker 2: Get rid of.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's also something that like I don't have

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Speaker 2: But like that's what parents are forced.

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Speaker 6: It is their obligation to hold on to that stuff

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Speaker 6: and that Yeah, Helena does it all the time.

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Speaker 2: So now my car is just full of thumb.

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Speaker 6: That's what that homeless man was in my car because

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Speaker 6: she's just full of like childhood stuff that she sends me.

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Speaker 1: Everything disappointed and he found a bunch of crayon drawn

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Speaker 1: old shirt. Yeah, no, wonder you don't lock your car

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Speaker 1: keep and you're hoping somebody'll come and take your drawing

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Speaker 1: some third grade.

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Speaker 6: This lady sends me home every time with a stack

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Speaker 6: of mail. Yeah you know, he took me a long

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Speaker 6: time change my address. So she sends me with a

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Speaker 6: stack of mail and then like a household item. In

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Speaker 6: the moment I moved out of her house, she repainted

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Speaker 6: the room, reharnished the room, put a desk.

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Speaker 2: In there, got new lighting, Like say you hate me? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so I feel you on this time.

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Speaker 1: Man, Yeah, no, I think that at some point they're

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Speaker 1: stay away for you? Oh you did you did that

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Speaker 1: like a year ago? Could your parents moved out of

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I threw so much stuff out, but they

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Speaker 4: took boxes of my crap and then just put it

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Speaker 1: Because I don't want it.

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Speaker 2: It's nice of like if my mom gave.

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Speaker 1: Me that, I'd be like, I don't want this.

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Speaker 2: Like I honestly like.

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Speaker 4: If we were doing that exchange while the move is

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Speaker 2: No much stuff out, like I don't need it.

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Speaker 1: I don't want this. But it was traumatic and formal.

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Speaker 1: I don't want.

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Speaker 2: It for you. I want the selling me for.

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Speaker 1: Your who you want to spelling me?

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Speaker 5: Fat?

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Speaker 2: We've been through this. Yes, I want in third grade

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Speaker 2: and I have a ribbon to prove it. How could

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Speaker 1: I'd like to see I need I'm gonna need to

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Speaker 1: see proof of it. Your driving test. But you could

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Speaker 1: spell in third grade?

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Speaker 2: I guess I am that girl.

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Speaker 6: Wow.

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Speaker 1: No, you're a very smart lady, but I I guess

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Speaker 2: Hey, man, I did what I did.

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Speaker 1: You weren't hard to unspelling them? Driving?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I still got both my license and I want.

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Speaker 1: Wow, you know you're right, though, I don't know what

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Speaker 2: Yes, don't you want to look at it?

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Speaker 3: Mom?

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Speaker 1: It's your job. It's treasure everything that I've ever done.

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Speaker 1: Jan See, your.

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Speaker 2: Mom loves you. She really does.

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Speaker 6: Let you put your legos in her house. Helena wouldn't

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Speaker 1: I never thought that. They don't want to say about me.

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Speaker 2: She likes to do whatever, and I love that. I

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't, uh, don't go in my room.

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Speaker 1: That's my room.

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Speaker 4: Seems hard to not have a room anymore, like I don't,

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Speaker 4: I don't have It's.

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Speaker 1: Gonna be it's gonna be weird, like it's somebody. They're

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Speaker 1: The funny thing is they want to downsize at some point.

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Speaker 1: But the family's bigger now than it's ever been because

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Speaker 1: my sister's got seventy four kids, you know, and then

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Speaker 1: in Uruguay, in South America, so she thinks that's her

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Speaker 2: They can't move.

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Speaker 1: We all think it's there. We all treat their house

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Speaker 1: as our vacation home. The problem is it's their home.

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Speaker 1: It's their primary and only resident hotel. Right. Well, no,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna come to that because it's like my parents like,

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Speaker 1: we need a smaller house. I'm like, you got more

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Speaker 1: people now. It's like a work so that you're right.

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Speaker 1: Someday I'm not gonna have my own room anymore, and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to use the same room everybody else

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Speaker 1: use it. My parents, ratchet friend's gonna be doing it

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Speaker 2: My bead they're wild parties.

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Speaker 1: Oh I think my sister's friends used to do it

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Speaker 1: found like a like a bag full of weed, and

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Speaker 1: they were like, Christopher, I haven't been there in a year,

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Speaker 1: Like what are you talking about. I can't believe you.

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Speaker 1: I'm weeding. It's not mine. My sister's like, oh, it

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Speaker 1: was definitely not mine, of course it was. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: if it was nefarious, it was Amanda's certainly not mine,

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Speaker 1: but you know it will be weird though, not to

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Speaker 1: have them.

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Speaker 2: You're their baby. They always need to keep a room

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Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I agree, I agree, and you know you know what,

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Speaker 1: I'm install one of those code locks on it so

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Speaker 1: that no one else can use it