WEBVTT - Office Gossip 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.640 Hell, I Suck It Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:11.719 Radio podcast. Well what is going on, sucky daters? I 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:13.240 don't know if we're going to leave that in or not, 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.880 but if we do, you're welcome for blessing your ear 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:20.040 holes with the sweet sounds of Jared's voice for our intro. 0:00:20.160 --> 0:00:23.200 He's back and Jared, how did how much did we 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:26.440 miss you? Last week? Man? I I forgot the days 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:31.320 of doing this podcast alone and just how emotionally and 0:00:31.400 --> 0:00:35.520 mentally taxing it is on me. Uh, your presence was missed. 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:37.960 You're just talking to yourself over the over and over 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:40.479 and over again. Yeah, that's pretty taxing. Well, well, we 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:43.919 had some guests last week, some great guests. But it's 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:46.040 just like you know, when it went to me and 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:48.560 you were talking to guess it's just a little bit more. 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:50.960 The flow is a lot better. So it's good to 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:52.640 have you back. I missed you, buddy. What have you 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:55.280 been doing and where the hell were you last week? 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:57.480 I was on the East Coast. I'm still on the 0:00:57.480 --> 0:00:59.280 East Coast right now. So I was in Rhode Island 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:02.560 and now I'm actually in Jersey visiting Ashley's family. But 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:04.360 we've been on the East Coast for about a month 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:09.400 now because there's not much else to do. Everything we're 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:13.000 doing is virtual, so it's been nice to have family. 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.360 We've been traveling, you know, not traveling because of COVID, 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:17.480 but it's it's been nice being back home on the 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:19.319 East Coast for quite some time, which has been nice. 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:22.720 And and we've been very safe about everything, wearing our 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.119 masks everywhere we're going, washing our hands, and I've been 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:27.679 tested actually two times already since being on the East 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:30.840 Coast because they offer asymptomatic testing, which is very nice. 0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:32.360 And it's just great to be a family. So that's 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:34.880 what I've been up to. And h Ashley and I 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:37.360 celebrated our one year anniversary, which we already talked about 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:40.480 when we were down in Newport, Rhode Island, and that 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:43.120 was gorge That was gorgeous. But it's good to be back. 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:45.880 I missed last week two and we have some topics. 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:50.040 We have some things to talk about, specifically about a 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:53.840 bachelor couple that we both know, uh that recently called 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:56.840 it quits, which is very sad. Becca and Garrett officially 0:01:56.880 --> 0:02:01.880 called it quits today. Yeah, I saw the Instagram post 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.280 from Becca about the split. You never want to see 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.680 a split. It doesn't matter who it is, it doesn't 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:10.079 I mean, I guess there are certain exceptions when it's 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:13.239 like nice to see people breaking up, but especially when 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:15.440 it's like Becca was the lead of a show and 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:18.280 she picked her Garrett. They loved each other and for 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:21.160 whatever reason they had to split. It's never never really 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:24.000 an easy thing. But I don't really know either them 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:26.239 super well. Obviously I've met Becca a few times and 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:28.920 Garrett a few times. What's your what's your take on 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:32.160 this hole on this whole breakup here, Jared, Yeah, I 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:35.040 don't know. It seemed to have started when the Black 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:38.639 Lives Matter movement started and Garrett came out in support 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:42.360 of the Blue Lives Matter. I mean that's from you know, 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:46.160 thirty thousand feet away. Um, but I just you know, 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:48.600 I mean, I wish them both the best. I I 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:53.480 really hope, Um yeah, I just hope. I hope the 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:55.799 best for them. I met them both multiple times, and 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.600 Garrett and Becca have been nothing but nice to me 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:02.760 and Ashley and very pleasant. Uh. And it's just especially 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:04.520 being the public eye, you know, anytime you go through 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.520 a breakup, it's just you get a million questions of 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:11.720 what exactly happened, why it happened. Um, So just thoughts 0:03:11.720 --> 0:03:14.560 are with them, hope they're doing well. Uh. And that's 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:16.239 all I have to really say about back and back Garret, 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:17.920 because like you said, I mean I'm not super close 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:20.440 to them either. So why do you let's speculate why 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:22.400 do you think they broke up? We all, like you 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:26.680 said thirty ft overview, we think it's stemmed from the 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:31.119 Black Lives Matter movement, And Garrett, I don't think it's 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:33.760 because of that. I really don't. I mean, I would 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:36.400 imagine that they would. I would hope that they, you know, 0:03:36.440 --> 0:03:40.520 would be able to uh talk through things if that 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.960 was the case. So I'm sure that there was other 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:48.520 factors at at play, not just something like that would 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:51.600 be like yes, yeah, well, I mean let's let's talk 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:54.520 about it. What do you think it would be? And 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:57.560 and obviously just speak generally, but like and on top 0:03:57.600 --> 0:03:59.120 of that, to like kind of tie it back into 0:03:59.160 --> 0:04:01.720 what we do now, how do you think that or 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:03.680 at least what we're able to give advice on, how 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:05.760 do you think the issues that they might have faced 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:09.280 as a couple could be addressed to kind of salvage 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:12.480 the relationship if it even is worth salvaging, you know, 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:15.280 because there are things like like like Caylin and I 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:19.280 are very different, like religiously, you know, Kaylin is Christian, 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:23.000 I am agnostic. We have conversations about it. We don't 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.640 look down on one for thinking the thing that we 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:27.880 think and not the other those types of things. But 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:33.240 what's your advice on people on partners disagreeing on things 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:38.040 that kind of are pretty big deals? Yeah, of course, 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:40.600 I mean I I h there are things that actually 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:43.080 and I disagree about in a lot of different factors 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:47.800 of life, and and we certainly have conversations about it. 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:49.839 And I think that goes with every every couple, like 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:53.719 you just said, whether it's religion, uh, politically driven, you 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:55.880 have to be willing to sit down and have conversations 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:58.680 with your significant other because you're entering not only are 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:02.680 you marrying the you know, like for example, I married Ashley, 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:04.800 but I also married into her family, just like she 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:06.720 married me and married into my family. And there are 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:09.880 values there and in certain beliefs, in different backgrounds and 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:13.320 different perspectives and opinions, and so I think you have 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:15.520 to be willing to have a conversation with people, especially 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:18.760 if you're entering a relationship. Um, And that's always been 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:20.680 my mindset about it. Now I'm not sure if that's 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:22.800 what happened with Becky and Garrett, but obviously we're just 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:25.720 speculating and talking about what we've seen from a very 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:29.560 you know, from what everybody else is seen as well. Um, 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:33.920 And so I go with a good relationship. My question 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:35.920 for you is, at what point do those conversations break 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:39.279 down to the point because conversation is one thing, but 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:41.920 to have those conversations eventually end up in a place 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:45.360 where you're breaking up, Like what, how do how do 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:48.599 those conversations break down? In your mind? Because again I 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.560 think all we're all you and I are capable of 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:54.479 doing is imagining a scenario where we disagree with our 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:59.320 partners on something something of substance. But I don't think 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:01.479 that I would really or see you and actually disagreeing 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:04.400 upon something so harshly that it would drive a wedge 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:06.680 large enough between the two of you to separate you. 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.680 You know, So, like, at what point does everything kind 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:10.440 of come to ahead where they're just like, you know what, 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:13.200 we're just gonna break up? Because like a political political 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:14.800 thing like you could be you could be right leaning 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.880 or left leaning and still be in a successful functioning relationship. 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:19.520 But there has to be like some breakdown at some 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:21.279 point where it's like this is just no longer a 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:24.760 suitable option for us, you know, Yeah, I mean I 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:29.120 I agree, And I guess it depends on you know, individuals. 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:33.839 You know, how how uh how attached are you to 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.640 your your your way of thinking. You know, are you 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:40.479 willing to open up and and be open minded and 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:43.600 and and listen to people and possibly change your perspective? 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:46.159 Is the other person willing to do the same thing? 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:50.080 I mean, it's it's there's no right or wrong answer. 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.720 It just depends on what you're willing to fight for 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:54.280 and what you're not willing to fight for. And I 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:57.480 think that goes with anything in a relationship and not 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:00.560 saying that's what happened with Becky and Garrett. Um, I'm 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:02.800 kind of speaking in general terms now with it within 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:04.919 the realm of all relationships, Like you have to just 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:09.240 pick your battles and and uh figure out, like I said, 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:11.160 what you're willing to fight for and what you're not 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.160 willing to fight for, and are you willing to be 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:15.720 open minded? Are you willing to learn, like you said, 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:17.840 not just about politics, but religion as well. I mean, 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:22.760 Ashley and I have talks about religion views all the time. Um, 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:25.320 especially as we get older, you know, our our families 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:28.520 getting older. It's a it's a heavy topic so well, 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:30.600 especially for you guys, because you're you're eventually going to 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:31.840 bring kids in the world. It's like, what are you 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:36.080 gonna do for raising them if you do realize them religiously? 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:39.600 What denomination, etcetera. Oh of course and we and we've 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:41.240 talked about that a lot. And you you have to 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:44.040 have those discussions before you have kids, you know, because 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:45.720 you want to you know, you don't want to bring 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:47.400 kids in this world and be like, Okay, now that 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:51.480 they're here, let's figure this out, you know, before you know, 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:53.720 we actually start family planning. Before we even got married, 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:57.040 we talked about how we're how we would want to 0:07:57.160 --> 0:08:00.240 raise a family, um, you know, the things that we 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:03.280 would want to talk to them about, how we would 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:05.520 teach them, you know, not just about religion or politics, 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:10.679 but you know, um, you know, individuality, uh, sex, um, 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:15.640 you know, uh, you know, acceptance, a lot of different 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.520 things that we've talked about throughout our relationship, about what 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.360 we would want to do when we ultimately have kids 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.560 one day. So but there, I think everyone's going to 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.400 kind of have their deal breakers. Like I I look 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:27.320 back to kind of like the beginning stages of mine 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:31.320 and Kalin's relationship, and everyone always has these conversations to 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:34.080 get kind of a general idea of where their potential 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:36.360 you know, wife or husband is going to be at 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:39.080 five years down the line, Like what religion are you? 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:42.200 Who did you vote for? You know, how are you raised? 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:45.120 All these types of things, And I think everyone's gonna 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.040 have their deal breakers. Like, for instance, when Calen and 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:49.280 I first started dating, I would ask her, I'm not 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.680 a political person, but I am involving myself more in 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:54.240 politics as I get older, just because it seems obviously 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:57.080 more necessary. Um, And so I was asking her very 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:00.520 pointed questions, and I was like kind of like harping 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:01.840 on her a little bit to see how she would 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:04.520 react of like who did you vote for? Who would 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:07.960 you be voting for in this next election? And I 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:11.720 I was um happy to see that our beliefs and 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:14.760 are opinions aligned in a lot more ways than I 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:18.079 had expected it too, because you know this me, this 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:21.920 freaking liberal guy living out of his van starts dating 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:24.880 this girl from North Carolina and Virginia, where people are 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:27.080 typically more conservative. I was like, okay, well I kind 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:28.440 of have an idea of who this person might be, 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:30.560 so I'm gonna like kind of test the waters before 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:33.160 we get too deep sort of thing, and that worked out. 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:35.920 Let me ask you this, if she was more conservative, 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:38.160 would that have caused issues? I guess my question is 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:43.640 do you think relationships should break up based on political associations. 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:46.760 I think that there's a difference between political associations, which 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:48.480 I don't think is an issue, But then there's also 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:52.040 like human rights, uh and just general ethics. I think 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:55.240 that a lot of people, especially in seem to overlook, 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:58.800 especially as it pertains to politics. Now, like politics aren't 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:02.520 really politics anymore more of just like human rights, seemingly 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:05.840 as as time moves on. Like I remember, back in 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:07.880 like two thousand A, I was super Republican because that's 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:12.040 how I was brought up, and republican was Republican still 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:13.839 isn't a bad thing. Democrats not a bad thing. Neither 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:15.960 are bad, neither are good. Really, it's just as like 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:18.960 difference of opinion, but things are kind of, in my opinion, 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:22.400 my very unprofessional opinion, obviously, things are skewing away from 0:10:22.400 --> 0:10:25.400 politics and more towards human rights. And that's a big deal. 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:28.280 That's a big thing. It's like, of course, if you 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:32.080 disagree on you know, like the ethical treatment of humans 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:35.960 and everybody around you, then that's like a deal breaker. 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:37.840 But I think a lot of people kind of have 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.480 this like shining light in them and they're always like, oh, well, 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:43.520 later down the line, this person is going to change 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:47.240 and they're gonna become more how I want them to be. 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:50.000 And if that doesn't happen, then that's kind of that's 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:52.400 kind of how I at least perceived the whole beca 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:56.200 Garrett situation is, um, you know, Becca is a little 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:59.880 bit more liberal, Garrett is more conservative. Becca had always 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.440 in the back of her head that Garrett would come 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:05.680 around and kind of lean more towards her side of thinking, 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:07.960 and that just never happened. And it all kind of 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:10.240 came to a head, especially with the Black Lives movement 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:13.840 matter and everything that that that that all of the 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:15.800 Unit States of America has kind of been going through 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:20.720 since February and honestly since freaking seventeen seventy six. But um, 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:23.400 that's that's my perception of it is there had there 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:25.880 was hope to change from either side or both sides, 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:29.240 and that never came, and then eventually they reached their 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:32.960 breaking point, and they definitely loved each other, they definitely 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:36.160 wanted the relationship to work. But once they either of 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:38.120 them or both of them realized that it wasn't going 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:41.160 to happen how they had originally foresaw it, then that's 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:44.000 when they decided to make a statement and the relationship again. 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:46.600 The entire speculation on my part, it seems like the 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.480 mature thing for both of them to do. But that's 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:51.600 just how I kind of look at it. No, I agree, man, 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:53.880 I think that was very well said. And um, so 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:55.480 we do have to move on because we have some 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:58.480 really great guests on the podcast this week. We're going 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:01.520 around the office, that's right, virtually that is, of course, 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:04.200 because nobody's in the office because of COVID, but we 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.600 have some coworkers who are gonna come on talk about 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:10.360 their relationships, what dating has been like for them during 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:13.199 these crazy times. But before we do that, and before 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:15.400 we take a small break, Dean, what we always like 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:17.000 to talk about on this podcast, and I feel like 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:19.959 we haven't talked about in quite some time. Are dating terms, 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:22.960 and I discovered a new one and I want to 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:26.160 let you know what it is. Have you heard the 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:32.760 newest dating trend called woke fishing? I never heard of it, 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:36.480 so apparently I was. I was googling dating kind of, 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:38.800 you know, looking up some things discuss what we should 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.280 discuss on the podcast, and then I saw this, And 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:44.160 you know that I love a new a good new 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:47.480 dating trend, at least a trending word that is. So 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.800 apparently woke fishing is the new thing, and it's alarming 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:53.720 people on social media. Now what is woke fishing? I 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:58.400 know you're dying to know. So apparently someone pretends to 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:02.600 be progressively political so they can score the big date 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:07.840 with someone who normally would turn them down. So apparently 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:15.280 people masquerade as holding progressive political views to ensnare potential partners. 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.600 So this is like the tip of this is the 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:21.880 the definition. Woke fish can pretend to be protest attending 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.520 or anti racist. According to Vice, they may appear to 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.800 be a person who drinks ethically sourced oat milk and 0:13:27.840 --> 0:13:32.319 has read the back catalog of an Audrey Lord twice. 0:13:32.760 --> 0:13:34.760 Who's Audrey Lord? Do you know who that is? I 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:36.480 guess I'm not woken up to know who that is, 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:41.080 apparently not. But what are your thoughts on woke fishing? Okay, 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:44.560 so what we're saying is there are people impostering as 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:50.640 hashtag woke people to ensnare a date with the the feminist. 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:53.160 That's how I kind of see it, that they think 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:56.440 is attractive and then this person entraps them and they 0:13:56.960 --> 0:14:00.959 and then the woman realizes they're not woke at all. Yeah. 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.240 I bet you this has been going on for a 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.880 long time and they've just finally maybe coined a phrase 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:09.360 for it. I think maybe now the feminists are becoming 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:12.920 woke to the woke fishing. Yeah. I honestly think that 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:15.439 this is because you see it a lot where people 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.760 kind of like, like we even just talked about you 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:20.840 kind of like pretend, not pretend, but maybe like hope 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.840 to be more open minded, and like you pretend to 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:25.480 a lot of people. I would say, go to these 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:27.840 protests even just to be seen at protests that other 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:31.280 people think that they're you know, quote unquote woke. So yeah, 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:33.080 I mean I definitely agree with that. I think that's 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:35.760 been happening for a long time. Woke fishing the new 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:37.680 dating trend. Get on it, ladies and gentlemen. Well, I 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:39.960 wonder there's another dating trend of the week. I bet 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:42.360 you it goes both ways. But I guess you know 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:44.480 we can talk about that at the time. I'm excited. 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:46.720 Can you bring can you do us a favorite? Jared? 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:50.160 Can you bring a new dating term to the table 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:54.400 every single episode from for the rest of I'm gonna try, 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:56.760 because what am I gonna I'm not trying. I'm gonna 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:58.680 do it. We did it for a while. We're bringing 0:14:58.720 --> 0:15:00.600 new trends. We were letting you guy guys, you know, 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:04.560 updating you on the new dating lingo. And I've been 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:06.600 letting you down. I've been letting you down, stuck army, 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:09.160 And I'm here to tell you that I no longer 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:10.800 do that. And every week I'm going to bring a 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:13.960 new dating term to the table to talk about. So 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:18.960 today woke fishing. So make sure you're not getting screwed 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:21.360 over by a woke fish. Well, let's hope this happens. 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:24.960 If you do get woke fished, woke fished instead of catfish. 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:27.440 That's kind of funny. If you do get woke fished, 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:31.360 maybe maybe we can start turning these people into woke people, 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.680 you know what I mean like that, that's always an 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:36.080 you know, it's what we're trying to do here and 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:38.320 Hope I second dating just you know, people help with people. 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:41.880 We're trying to wake people up. Anyways, like Darret said earlier, 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:43.960 we got a big episode for you guys. We are 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:46.560 going to get to know some of the I Heart 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:50.240 staff and dig into their personal dating lives because we 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:52.120 can only talk about our dating lives so much. So 0:15:52.280 --> 0:15:54.640 we're excited to hear from some people that are close 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:57.480 to us about kind of what's going on with them, 0:15:57.560 --> 0:16:00.160 and they'll give you, guys, the listeners kind of more 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.560 of a backstory and a foundation to the podcast beyond 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:07.440 just the very handsome hosts that host the podcast. So 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:09.880 we're gonna take a quick break, but stay tuned and 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:23.320 we will be right back. Welcome back to help by 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:26.920 Suck at Dating. I'm just really trying to do my 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:30.720 best Mark impersonation. Whenever I have a life conunder them, 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:34.080 I think what would Mark do? Anyway, Becky, Becky, we 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:36.320 have you on the podcast. Now. Becky is an I 0:16:36.440 --> 0:16:40.080 Heart staff member who is fantastic. Becky just started working 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:43.120 on the podcast, at least this particular podcast, the best 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:45.440 podcast there is at I Heeart only about what a 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:49.800 month ago maybe, um, and we are very lucky to 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:52.120 have her on the staff because Becky is awesome, hard working, 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:54.800 uh and quite lovely. So Becky, thank you so much 0:16:54.800 --> 0:17:00.520 for joining us on the podcast today. Becky, We're stiking 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:02.600 to have you, And for the listeners out there, I 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:04.680 want to I just wanna go ahead and preface this 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:08.159 whole segment with I'm just as as excited as the 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:11.560 listeners are because Becky and I and Jared have only 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:13.760 As Jared said, I've been working together for about a month, 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:15.720 so this is just as much of a learning experience 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:18.440 for me as it is for everyone else out there. 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:21.840 So I'm excited. I'm excited too. You guys get to 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.439 know a little bit more about me, all right. So Becky, 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:26.399 this is like the dating game, you know, It's like 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:30.320 Becky's twenty three years old. She's taking a hiatus from dating. 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:34.040 Beginning of Quarantine, she tried virtual dating and met really 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:37.639 interesting people on dating apps. One guy would put me 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:42.520 on a quote time out. If I had an quote attitude, 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:46.439 please tell us more about that person. Yes, Um, he 0:17:46.680 --> 0:17:52.040 was very interesting. Um, I am Latina, so I have 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:55.360 an attitude. It just comes naturally, that's you know, where 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:58.240 I came from. And that he didn't like it. And 0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:00.600 I asked him, I said, have you ever been with 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:02.880 the Latina? And he was like no, but all women 0:18:02.920 --> 0:18:06.480 are the same. And I was like, oh, you're in 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:10.840 fir tree. That was really ignorant of the same. Any 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:14.800 guys listening to podcast right now probably don't say that. 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:18.840 I don't say that. Yeah, definitely. Um. And I remember 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:23.240 if like we would face time, he would um get 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:26.679 upset if like I just like became sassy or something, 0:18:26.760 --> 0:18:29.800 and um, he'd be like, I'm penning you on time 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:32.280 out and then actually would not talk to me for 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:35.919 five minutes. And I would I would just be so confused. 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:39.760 And he also would like tickle me a lot. It 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:44.440 was just a really weird scenario. And I was like, yeah, 0:18:44.480 --> 0:18:46.960 I don't know about this. I really don't know about 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:49.720 virtual dating or the dating apps. So what do you 0:18:49.720 --> 0:18:54.520 mean tickle you? Ye? Would you virtually if we met 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.199 up in person? Sorry, you should have prefaced that we 0:18:57.200 --> 0:19:00.879 met him a couple of times, and yeah, after like 0:19:00.960 --> 0:19:03.320 the third time, I was just like, oh, this is 0:19:03.359 --> 0:19:05.639 just weird. I thought maybe it would turn qute and 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:08.160 it would become cute, and it just wasn't. It wasn't 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:11.800 at all. Never enjoyed it. So would he just break 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:14.480 out into random fits of tickling or was there like 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:17.720 a method to the madness? And just I just I'm 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:20.760 curious to them more about this whole tickling. Yeah, I know, 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:24.120 it was really random, um, really random, and I would 0:19:24.160 --> 0:19:26.800 actually get like pretty upset and then and then he 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:30.560 would put me on time out. M hm. He sounds 0:19:30.640 --> 0:19:35.159 like a douche bag. Yep, he was. So what was 0:19:35.200 --> 0:19:37.760 it initially that attracted you to this guy? Because I 0:19:37.840 --> 0:19:43.399 need to know more about this backstory. Um. So actually 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:49.040 I saw on his dating profile, um a familiar face 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:51.080 like in one of his pictures, and I found out 0:19:51.119 --> 0:19:55.400 that he his brother I went to college with over 0:19:55.400 --> 0:19:58.720 in New York. So I was just like, oh, I 0:19:58.760 --> 0:20:02.200 feel like I kind of know him a little bit, 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:05.080 so like that's more comfortable for me than like someone 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:10.120 completely random. And so that was what, like, you know, helped, 0:20:10.240 --> 0:20:13.199 But it wasn't. It wasn't the one, and now you 0:20:13.240 --> 0:20:16.400 are consciously taking a break from dating. As you put it, Yes, 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:23.160 it's just um hasn't been working out. Um. I did 0:20:23.280 --> 0:20:28.320 can like try a couple of times after that, and uh, 0:20:28.600 --> 0:20:31.800 that was not great experience either. So at this point, 0:20:31.840 --> 0:20:34.400 I'm just like, we're going to take a break. It's 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:38.720