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Speaker 1: second Update. Today's second date update should be a lesson
Speaker 1: for everybody out there, something that I've been saying for
Speaker 1: a long time. When you're out with your friends and
Speaker 1: there's an awkward moment or you're saying goodbye to them,
Speaker 1: don't do like a fist bump or a handshake. Always
Speaker 1: kiss them on the mouth, preferably French style and passionately.
Speaker 1: Always kiss your friends. Whatever, it's a guy friend, it's
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, it's somebody that you're doing business with, it's
Speaker 1: man's best friend, to your animal, whatever. Always kiss your
Speaker 1: friend because if you don't, you're gonna wind up regretting
Speaker 1: it at some point. And that's what happened to Mike,
Speaker 1: who is on the phone to do a second date
Speaker 1: update right now. He's kicking himself because he didn't make
Speaker 1: out with his friend like everybody knows he should do it.
Speaker 1: Isn't that right, Mike? Well kind of yeah, okay, kind of, Well,
Speaker 1: tell me what happened. Yeah, Well, her name's Arin, and
Speaker 1: we've been friends for years. You know, we've always hung out.
Speaker 1: It's never been anything more than friends because she's always
Speaker 1: been dating and I was dating someone at the time
Speaker 1: too for a while. But yeah, I mean I've always
Speaker 1: found her attractive, you know, I've always played with that idea.
Speaker 1: But recently we've both been single for a while, and
Speaker 1: I started kind of flirting with that idea of maybe
Speaker 1: there's something more here. So would you say to ask
Speaker 1: her out? We both weren't doing anything for the weekend
Speaker 1: or other friends had dates and stuff, So I just asked, Hey,
Speaker 1: do you want to hang out, you know, just this
Speaker 1: is friends, and she said yes. Did you have any
Speaker 1: alter your motive? Like, were you planning on trying to
Speaker 1: be romantic with her? I mean I would be cool
Speaker 1: if something happened, but I wasn't really expecting anything. You know,
Speaker 1: why do you think that she knows that you like
Speaker 1: her if you asked her to hang out as just friends. Well,
Speaker 1: once we were on the date, it happened a little
Speaker 1: differently than I thought it would, Like she kind of
Speaker 1: came off a lot more flirty than I expected, and
Speaker 1: you know, giving me prolonged eye contact and all that
Speaker 1: sounds weird, but like more so than I'm used to.
Speaker 1: You know, she just caught her staring at me a lot,
Speaker 1: and well that sounds creepy. More than anything, it wasn't creepy.
Speaker 1: So you felt like she was flirting with you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like you know, touching her hair a lot, and you know,
Speaker 1: laughing with me a lot. You know, the non verbal
Speaker 1: things that girls do to show that they're interested in you.
Speaker 1: I love the nonverbal girls. That's just did you reciprocate
Speaker 1: any of the flirting? Yeah, I mean the things started
Speaker 1: getting flirted between us, which was really cool. We're laughing
Speaker 1: a lot, We're having a lot of fun, you know,
Speaker 1: the whole time. It just it felt like we were
Speaker 1: a couple. So it felt good. But your email says
Speaker 1: the real issue came when you dropped off at her house.
Speaker 1: Right There was a moment right before she went in
Speaker 1: where she kind of lingered at the door and I hesitated,
Speaker 1: and I think she wanted me to kiss her, but
Speaker 1: I didn't. And you know that's how the night ended.
Speaker 1: We just said goodbye to each other. And that's what
Speaker 1: I mean by always kiss your friends anytime there's some
Speaker 1: awkward silence just right on the lips, so you could
Speaker 1: tell that she wanted to kiss you. I think so
Speaker 1: if I'm reading the signals right. But you know, ever
Speaker 1: since then, I kind of regret that I didn't make
Speaker 1: a move. Are you scared that maybe you're not reading
Speaker 1: the signals right? Well now, I don't know. That's why
Speaker 1: I'm calling because we've been texting back and forth and
Speaker 1: I've been trying to get like a second hang out,
Speaker 1: you know, a second date with her, and kind of
Speaker 1: doesn't seem open to that. I mean, she's kind of
Speaker 1: giving me the run around. Um what she's saying to you. Well,
Speaker 1: the first time she's I asked if she wanted to
Speaker 1: hang out, she's like, oh, I don't know, l ol u.
Speaker 1: And then other times she's like, oh, I'm busy, I've
Speaker 1: worked tonight. I don't know. I literally haven't seen her
Speaker 1: since then. Are you Are you going to be okay?
Speaker 1: I'm really upset about this. Well, yeah, it's just, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just hoping for what I want to hear.
Speaker 1: I had a girlfriend once called me in the middle
Speaker 1: of hanging out with one of our mutual friends, and
Speaker 1: she called me and said Oh my god, I think
Speaker 1: I'm just accidentally on a date with him. Fast forward
Speaker 1: five years and they're married with two kids. You know,
Speaker 1: I could see that actually happening to us. You know,
Speaker 1: we've been friends for so long and in the end
Speaker 1: I could see us working out together. Okay, So basically,
Speaker 1: we're gonna find out if you can date her romantically
Speaker 1: or you're about to get friend zoned live on the radio. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and thanks for putting it that way, No problem. All right,
Speaker 1: we're gonna play a song, come back, call her and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. All right, Okay, all right,
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Speaker 1: just tuning in for the second part of the Second
Speaker 1: Date update. Mike is on the phone and he wants
Speaker 1: to call his friend Aaron today. They've been friends for
Speaker 1: a while, ended up hanging out one night and he
Speaker 1: felt like things were getting more romantic. There was an
Speaker 1: awkward moment where he thought that she wanted to get kissed.
Speaker 1: He didn't take her up on it, and now he
Speaker 1: feels like that's where he screwed up, Like he should
Speaker 1: have kissed her, should have seized the moment and taken
Speaker 1: advantage of that opportunity, but he didn't do it. And
Speaker 1: now she's like, Okay, well maybe things are weird. Mike.
Speaker 1: Are you ready to give her a call? Yeah, let's
Speaker 1: do this. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Aaron please?
Speaker 1: This is Aaron. Hey, Aaron, how are you. This is
Speaker 1: Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay, Um,
Speaker 1: what's going on? I'm calling you because you recently went
Speaker 1: on a date with one of our listeners. Okay, his
Speaker 1: name is Mike. Mike called you, Yeah, he did. He
Speaker 1: actually emailed us and told us a little bit about
Speaker 1: your date. And he also says that you're not calling
Speaker 1: him back now where you are, like, you're always busy
Speaker 1: and you can't hang out, so you wanted me to
Speaker 1: call you and find out why. Um, okay, this is
Speaker 1: this is a little weird because we didn't really have
Speaker 1: a date. So when you guys hung out the last time,
Speaker 1: it wasn't a date. It was just a friend's hangout.
Speaker 1: So this doesn't really make any sense to me. Oh, okay,
Speaker 1: because he emailed us and said that during your little
Speaker 1: hangout as friends, he thought maybe you were giving him
Speaker 1: signals like you wanted more. It's all as fun as
Speaker 1: a guy. When you say that about somebody in they
Speaker 1: end up laughing when they hear it. Are you joking
Speaker 1: with me right now? No, I'm not joking with you
Speaker 1: at all. He asked us to call you because he
Speaker 1: felt like the friends date that you were on turned
Speaker 1: into more than a friend's date. This is so bizarre.
Speaker 1: Did you do you really have like no clue at
Speaker 1: all that he has like maybe a little crush on you. Well, um,
Speaker 1: well there was something, but I wasn't going to mention
Speaker 1: it to you because it was going to be really
Speaker 1: embarrassing for him. Oh that's perfect. Then we'd love to
Speaker 1: hear it. We definitely want to know. Now I can't
Speaker 1: do that. Is it reason you're not like calling him back? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean yeah pretty much? Okay, can you tell us
Speaker 1: what it is he wants to know? I mean I
Speaker 1: want to know too, but mostly he wants to know.
Speaker 1: That's why he emailed us to call you. I mean,
Speaker 1: what am I say? He just told us that you
Speaker 1: guys hung out and had fun, and then when you
Speaker 1: got back to your place at your door, there was
Speaker 1: a moment where you guys are both kind of quiet
Speaker 1: and it felt like you might want to kiss. And
Speaker 1: then he was like, I should have taken her up
Speaker 1: on the opportunity and kissed her, but I didn't, And know,
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm stupid for not doing it. Guys
Speaker 1: are so dumb. I guess I can agree with that
Speaker 1: for the most part. So what's the story from your side?
Speaker 1: So we've been joking around all night. We have like
Speaker 1: you know, friend banter. It's nothing, it's it's fun. But
Speaker 1: things got a little weird in the car at home.
Speaker 1: He said, oh my god, could you imagine if we
Speaker 1: got married? Whoa? But he was like, in a friendly way, well, no,
Speaker 1: I first I thought it was a joke, and I
Speaker 1: laughed at it, and then he laughed back. But then
Speaker 1: it started to get even worse. What do you mean
Speaker 1: by that? He just kept going like, I want a
Speaker 1: big family. He started explaining that there's a house on
Speaker 1: the market two doors down from his parents' house, so
Speaker 1: it was like he was planning out your entire future. Basically,
Speaker 1: you don't even know the half of it. I mean,
Speaker 1: at first I was still laughing, and then he was like,
Speaker 1: we're going to have three girls and one boy, and
Speaker 1: every time we're going to go in vacation. So this
Speaker 1: was more than just like a couple of friends joking about, like, Oh,
Speaker 1: how crazy it would it be of you and I
Speaker 1: are a couple. Yeah, I mean I stopped laughing, and
Speaker 1: he's going on and on about how it's going to
Speaker 1: be planned out, and I'm like, this is way too much.
Speaker 1: He thought about this way too much. Did you try
Speaker 1: to like stop him from talking about it at all?
Speaker 1: Or are you just gonna let it go? And then
Speaker 1: I was about to say something, and then he was like,
Speaker 1: should we do private schooling for the kids? What? And
Speaker 1: this is the first time he has ever like come
Speaker 1: on to you at all. I mean all friends were
Speaker 1: a little bit, but it's innocent, and I thought this
Speaker 1: was innocent, and it just took a turn and kept going.
Speaker 1: So is that why you've been telling him that you're
Speaker 1: too busy to hang out lately. I think it's best
Speaker 1: if we let this die down a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: or you just bite the bullet and get married already. Hey, Aaron,
Speaker 1: At this point, I would love to tell you that
Speaker 1: Mike is actually on the other line listening to this conversation.
Speaker 1: Are you serious, yep, hen I'll be going, Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: really I'm really sorry that you had to hear the say.
Speaker 1: You know, I was really just joking in the car,
Speaker 1: but I mean, like we were laughing about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you took it too far, and I think it's
Speaker 1: pretty clear that you are curious. Well, No, I wasn't like,
Speaker 1: I mean, this was just a big you know, these
Speaker 1: were what if you know, I thought we were both
Speaker 1: laughing at it, okay at the start, but after a
Speaker 1: five minutes you were the only one laughing. Did you
Speaker 1: not notice that she had quieted down when you started
Speaker 1: talking about your family and if the kids you go
Speaker 1: to private school and everything else? Mike, No, I mean
Speaker 1: I thought we were just having a conversation, you know,
Speaker 1: I don't remember it that way. I thought we were
Speaker 1: just having a good time. On the way home to
Speaker 1: your house, you asked me what color you wanted our
Speaker 1: bedroom painted. You went that deep, Mike, that one was
Speaker 1: a joke. That one was a joke, so that that
Speaker 1: one was a joke, but the others weren't a joke. Mike, No,
Speaker 1: I you know, I we're both single, we're getting older.
Speaker 1: I'm is just you know, these what ifs. I'm sorry
Speaker 1: if I went too far, but I really was. You
Speaker 1: asked you what kind of diamond cut I wanted in
Speaker 1: my ring. Oh my god, Mike, are you having like
Speaker 1: some regret right now about going so fast? So quick
Speaker 1: with her? It's not fast. I mean we've been friends
Speaker 1: for a really long time and she was giving you
Speaker 1: were giving me signals like like you were flirting with me,
Speaker 1: and this is as much your fault as it is mine.
Speaker 1: I agree, Mike. I agree. Listen, every time I'm talking
Speaker 1: to a girl about something and then she just gets
Speaker 1: cold and stops talking to me and is awkward, It's
Speaker 1: obvious she's flirting with me and she wants me to
Speaker 1: keep going. She should not have done that to you, Mike.
Speaker 1: If you were picking up signals, you just you misinterpreted
Speaker 1: the signal. I guess. Oh, Aaron, have you ever thought
Speaker 1: about I mean, like, if you were to take yourself
Speaker 1: out of that situation right now, could you think of
Speaker 1: him romantically at all? Because sometimes the best relationships are
Speaker 1: born of friendships. I mean we've talked about, like other
Speaker 1: people that We've dated with each other before, and there's
Speaker 1: always been some kind of flirtation between us. But I
Speaker 1: just it couldn't start this way. I mean, it was
Speaker 1: too much, like you've been thinking about this for so
Speaker 1: long and I had no ideas. I haven't really been
Speaker 1: thinking about this that long. You haven't been thinking about
Speaker 1: it that long. You asked if your kids to go
Speaker 1: to private school or not? Mike. That just came out.
Speaker 1: Often that stuff just flies out of our mouth. Hey, Aaron,
Speaker 1: would you like to go on a second date with Mike?
Speaker 1: I will pay for it. Aaron. I am sorry if
Speaker 1: I went too far and if I offended you, but
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously I care about you. We've been friends
Speaker 1: a long time, and you know, I hope you will
Speaker 1: hang out with me again because we have fun together,
Speaker 1: and who knows, maybe we'll laugh about this on our
Speaker 1: wedding day. Mike, I'm joking. Oh okay, Aaron, what do
Speaker 1: you say? Would you go out with Mike again? Come on,
Speaker 1: give it one try. It's not going to hurt anything. No, really,
Speaker 1: I'd be more than happy to hang out with you
Speaker 1: and group hangouts, but I think it'd be best if
Speaker 1: we just don't hang out alone together for a long time.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be alone with you. That's a
Speaker 1: second date update first. Sorry Mike. Yeah, I guess I
Speaker 1: kind of screwed up. Oh, my parents are going to
Speaker 1: be disappointed in this. Your parents are well, you know.
Speaker 1: I told them all about the wedding date and all
Speaker 1: about Aaron and I'm joking again. Oh. I cannot pick
Speaker 1: up on when you're joking at all. Mike broken jubil
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