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Speaker 1: My wife lied and got an SDI test after a

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Speaker 1: business triphi the actical for wanting to talk about it.

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Speaker 1: My wife is a great person and we've always gotten

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Speaker 1: a lot. We've been married for almost two years and

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Speaker 1: we've been together for four and a half year. We

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Speaker 1: partners prior to our relationship. Every year, my wife goes

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Speaker 1: on a long business trip, typically about two months.

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Speaker 2: That is a long business trip. Oh, you can do

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Speaker 1: During this time, communication over phone and email can be difficult,

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Speaker 1: a contingent upon the technological issues where she works.

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Speaker 2: She really enjoys her.

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Speaker 1: Work during the business trips and usually comes back feeling

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Speaker 2: Something's getting filled. Normally, when she.

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Speaker 1: Comes home, she takes a day too of rest and

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Speaker 1: overcomes the jet lag. It's twenty eight hour travel time

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Speaker 1: we tend to spend lots of time together, sex, dates, cuddling,

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Speaker 1: this year, she came home as her same excited self

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Speaker 1: after having had a great trip in fact, she seemed

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Speaker 1: About three hours after picking her up from the airport,

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Speaker 2: How much time she'll need to go shopping, many hours.

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Speaker 1: I think this is a little weird, considering that she

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Speaker 1: and she's usually not the time to spend more than

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Speaker 1: five hours later, she comes home with a single bag

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Speaker 1: of craft material. I register this that's strange, but don't

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Speaker 1: one tiny little bag of craft supplies. How much time

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Speaker 1: you spend it at Michael's. How much time are you

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Speaker 1: spending with Michaels Over the next few days, she didn't

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Speaker 1: really go through the jet lag phase and stayed distant.

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Speaker 1: up giving her space and just focused on school. About

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Speaker 1: two weeks post return, we still haven't had sex, despite

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Speaker 1: I find that strange since she usually is like a

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Speaker 1: we've been exploring some new kinks prior to her trip,

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Speaker 1: which we had talked about kindling once she returned.

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Speaker 1: Times she doesn't reciprocate sexy time advances. I don't think

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Speaker 1: Over the weekend, she went to meet up with her

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Speaker 1: We've always been extremely open with our phones and social media.

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Speaker 2: While she was out with her friend, I looked on

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Speaker 1: She left her work and personal email, read it and

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Speaker 1: Normally we would send nudes to each other, not put

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Speaker 1: I did. They were delivered to the portal about thirty

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Speaker 1: And there is an update suddenly. Uh, not wanting to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you already for the update. Let's let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Let's go. The secrecy of.

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Speaker 1: The whole thing really bothers me any ideas on how

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Speaker 2: Were other possible.

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Speaker 1: Explanations and another update. I just confronted her about the

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Speaker 1: secret SDD test. She admitted to cheating on our trip.

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Speaker 1: She only said once, but evidence suggests at least more

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Speaker 1: than twice. She did three times in one trip. Confirmed

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Speaker 1: digging into it now. Oh man, typical it was one

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Speaker 1: time thing. Responses, it was your fault. Responses confirmed at

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Speaker 1: least three dudes during her last trip, likely systemic serial

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Speaker 1: cheater since we've been together. Refuses to admit anything outside

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Speaker 1: of the business trip, even though she had a carbon

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Speaker 2: Refuses to be honest.

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Speaker 1: Claims she wasn't going to meet anyone on her current

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Speaker 1: in lies filing papers. Meaw, it's at least four now,

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Speaker 1: SDD test. Then mutual friend knew about it, kept its secret. Aw,

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Speaker 1: mutual friend, I should not be your friend anymore. Come on,

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Speaker 1: this is day's slash a week after we got engaged.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Op, dude, that's the end of it. Yeah, Op,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry man, Wow, Wow that isis dude. Yikes, it's

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Speaker 2: pretty obvious. I think that Ope's significant other was the

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Speaker 2: a hole here right and cheating and lying? Is op

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Speaker 2: pastors all of that stuff. I want to know what

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Speaker 2: you all think of the comments, But I mean.

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, definitely a little bit, but like I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I am ultimately very glad that he did it,

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Speaker 2: because he should not be subjected to the you know,

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Speaker 2: being cheated on all this stuff and being like staying

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Speaker 2: he maybe could have done different was like, oh, hey,

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Speaker 2: I noted like something feels off. I just wanted to

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Speaker 2: you know, give her a chance at least more of

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Speaker 2: a chance, you know. But I ultimately don't blame him

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Speaker 2: because like people who cheat and compulsively lie, like they

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess, like, yes, it's wrong. Yeah, but I

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Speaker 2: There's many cases where I think it's reason to like,

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Speaker 2: if there's no other way to know, and you want

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Speaker 2: to yeah, kind of a rock and a heartway.

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Speaker 1: Ope, this one's rough, it's true. Stay strong, brother.

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Speaker 2: Stay strong. Let's get it to the next one. My

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Speaker 2: fiance's family hates me, Am I want to kick me

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Speaker 2: out of the family. All I did was invite my

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Speaker 2: sister in law to the wedding. Am I the a whole?

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Speaker 2: How dare you invite anyone to the wedding? You think

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Speaker 2: you can invite family, No, you can't invite anyone. So

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Speaker 2: I female twenty five, am engaged in my fiance, male

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Speaker 2: other's families and celebrated holidays together. Both of our families

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Speaker 2: were happy when we announced during gay I recently found

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Speaker 1: How do you recently find that out about your fiance?

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't know that they have siblings. You

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Speaker 1: always hear that like long lost sibling. I've never known

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Speaker 2: Who I never met despite her living at her parents

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Speaker 2: it's his kid. That's my guess. You guys guess right now.

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Speaker 2: But I'm guessing it's his kid. That's a very good guess.

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Speaker 2: I think the intense response kind of shocked me, so

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Speaker 2: it with my fiance after we got home. He brushed

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Speaker 2: family events or gatherings until she decides to talk to them.

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Speaker 2: What So she's like being shunned. I don't get it,

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Speaker 2: maybe because I'm generally a curious person, but something just

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Speaker 2: picture of Anne. It's so weird. Yeah, this is just

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Speaker 2: like Anne from Arrested Development. Yeah yeah, okay, Hey, but

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Speaker 2: a few days ago I contacted Anne saying I'd love

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Speaker 2: I would say. We met up in a cafe and

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Speaker 2: that she's mute. She can hear but just can't talk. Oh, now,

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Speaker 2: like they just suck. Yeah, wow, Wow. Her parents got

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Speaker 2: them would have a disability. Yikes. Yep, they suck. Oh

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Speaker 2: they suck. God, So they excluded Anne from the family

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Speaker 2: until she talks.

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Speaker 1: Oh, it's like, oh, yeah, you're blind, how about you

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Speaker 1: learn to fucking see Raisin part of this family?

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Speaker 2: What am I supposed to do? My eye falls don't work.

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Speaker 2: We talked, I talked, and then she wrote I don't

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Speaker 2: I invited her to my wedding, telling her that I

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Speaker 2: blew up. Of course they did, because they suck, telling

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Speaker 1: I destroyed my ex boyfriend's family heirloom maybe worth over

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Speaker 2: What the freak is that request? Are you freeing crazy?

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Speaker 2: guy who's just like I. Just I just want you

435
00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:23,600
Speaker 2: to feel pain. I want this dude to feel pain.

436
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:24,320
Speaker 2: That's the same.

437
00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:27,000
Speaker 1: So it was it long after this that I realized

438
00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:29,520
Speaker 1: the fur coat was still in my closet and that

439
00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:32,040
Speaker 1: he hadn't taken it with him when he left, So

440
00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:35,440
Speaker 1: I had my mom turn it into a teddy bear boom.

441
00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:39,359
Speaker 1: To me, it symbolized something horrible could be used to

442
00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:42,679
Speaker 1: make something new and beautiful. Six months later, he contacted

443
00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:44,800
Speaker 1: me asking if I still had the fur coat. I

444
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:48,280
Speaker 1: didn't respond, and that is the last contact I ever

445
00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 1: had with him. So am I the a hole for

446
00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:53,280
Speaker 1: repurposing my ex's family heirloom?

447
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 2: At the end of the day, who's it really hurting

448
00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:58,160
Speaker 2: other than kind of like the memory of the dead

449
00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:02,119
Speaker 2: Garama Grandma, you know out after Grandma's ghost. Grandma's ghost

450
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,760
Speaker 2: is furious, like Grandma's ghost just had another heart attack,

451
00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:07,240
Speaker 2: and that ghost now as a ghosts damn double ghost,

452
00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:11,400
Speaker 2: double ghosted. Think about all the vindictive revenge one could

453
00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,119
Speaker 2: have against an AX, especially one that sounds as evil

454
00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 2: as this one is.

455
00:21:15,320 --> 00:21:18,200
Speaker 1: This is like very tame, I would say, for sure,

456
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:21,640
Speaker 1: on the tame side of X revenge. That being said,

457
00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:24,200
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking if one of my ex girlfriends left

458
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,119
Speaker 1: a family heirloom in my closet and I turned it

459
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,840
Speaker 1: into a teddy bear I think it's still an a

460
00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:32,720
Speaker 1: whole move because it was done just out of cure vindictiveness.

461
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,919
Speaker 2: The boyfriend, obviously, he's obvious a hole, the massive, massive

462
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 2: a hole.

463
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:40,480
Speaker 1: I think OP is a little tiny a hole for this.

464
00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 1: I think I think you brought me a little tiny

465
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,920
Speaker 1: a hole that tiny a hole move. Yeah, but what

466
00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:46,680
Speaker 1: do you think? Do you think OP is the a

467
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:48,919
Speaker 1: hole even like just even a little bit? Yeah, let

468
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,399
Speaker 1: us know the comments. Also, what is the uh the

469
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,199
Speaker 1: worst revenge that is either there that has either been

470
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:58,120
Speaker 1: enacted on you or that you have enacted on AX

471
00:21:58,280 --> 00:21:58,919
Speaker 1: or really anyone.

472
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 2: I want to hear your revenge big revenge stories. Please

473
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:03,639
Speaker 2: share with those us, all right, and we'll see you

474
00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:04,120
Speaker 2: in the next one.

475
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:04,399
Speaker 3: Love you.

476
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,359
Speaker 2: My best friend had an affair with her cousin's husband.

477
00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 2: She got pregnant, and I just told everyone everything.

478
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 4: Am I the A hole?

479
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 2: I might have heard this one before. Really, I watched

480
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 2: a lot of subwayz over video. Okay, okay, see now

481
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:18,879
Speaker 2: that we beef with those guys, you know what I mean,

482
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 2: We're like, we're we're I'm just everyone this this terrible

483
00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:27,159
Speaker 2: piece of us. I'm used who wants on content to die?

484
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 2: Not just kidding. This sounds so bad, I know, but

485
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 2: I had no idea what I was doing. I female forty,

486
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,879
Speaker 2: was invited to stop by and see one of my

487
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:39,879
Speaker 2: dearest friends from childhood at her mother's home yesterday evening.

488
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 2: She lives overseas and hadn't been in the States for years,

489
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,199
Speaker 2: so she wanted me to stop by, even though they

490
00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 2: had other family visiting her mother as well. When I

491
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 2: got there, my friend introduced me to a couple of

492
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 2: her cousins and their husbands. At that point, all the

493
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:57,199
Speaker 2: kids were downstairs in the playroom, but she called her

494
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,159
Speaker 2: son to come up so I could meet him. Her

495
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 2: son came and shook my hand, and I remarked how

496
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 2: handsome he was. Yeah, well, yo, why are you calling

497
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 2: his boy handsome? This is a little this is maybe

498
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:10,879
Speaker 2: a little suss over here, like who are your Miranda

499
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:12,920
Speaker 2: sings like, I think she's trying to pre order, dude,

500
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,639
Speaker 2: this is pre order. I think she's trying to pre

501
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 2: order that.

502
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 5: Uh.

503
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:23,680
Speaker 2: He had deep dimples, gorgeous hazel eyes with long lashes.

504
00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:24,159
Speaker 3: That's me.

505
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 2: I'm him. Oh god, he is him. And right behind

506
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 2: him was a girl about the same age with the

507
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 2: same eyes and dimples. I said to my friend, Oh,

508
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 2: I didn't know you had a daughter too. You two

509
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 2: look like twins. The room got suddenly quiet. Something's happened.

510
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:40,879
Speaker 2: I didn't think it was that out of pucket. My

511
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 2: friend's son corrected me and said, no, this girl is

512
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:48,880
Speaker 2: his cousin, not his sister. My friend was shooting daggers

513
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 2: at me with her eyes as if I'd said something terrible,

514
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 2: and her cousin, who I would later find out was

515
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 2: the mother of the girl, got up and left the room,

516
00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:01,399
Speaker 2: looking upset. Are you putting it together? If you know what?

517
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 2: But I see you in the comments, if you see

518
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 2: what's going down. Her husband followed her. Things became so

519
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,439
Speaker 2: weird and awkward from that moment on. I made an

520
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 2: excuse to leave. Only this afternoon when my friend's younger

521
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 2: sister called. We were also friends in school. I find

522
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 2: out why. It's anwgett now we're getting so Apparently my

523
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 2: friend had an affair with her cousin's husband when she

524
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 2: lived with them briefly. That's a big no no. And

525
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 2: her son is a product from that affair. So she's

526
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,680
Speaker 2: just that's raising this from what I was just told.

527
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 2: She won't admit it, but everyone has suspected it because

528
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 2: the older her son gets, the more he looks like

529
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 2: the man. I honestly didn't notice the resemblance last night

530
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 2: because the husband had just given me a quick wave

531
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 2: from the far side of the room where he was

532
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 2: watching a game. The reason the cousin his wife got

533
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:58,959
Speaker 2: upset and left the room is she suspected something for years,

534
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,640
Speaker 2: but everyone had worked hard at convincing her that she's

535
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 2: just paranoid and seeing a resemblance that is not there.

536
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,719
Speaker 2: So I'm the muscle in the scenario now and ruined

537
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 2: everyone's Christmas, or at least that's how it seems, because

538
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 2: my friends won't return my calls or texts. And the

539
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 2: reason I made the leap to thinking the girl was

540
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,120
Speaker 2: my friend's daughter is she came upstairs with the sun

541
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,919
Speaker 2: while the other kids stayed upstairs, and she was standing

542
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 2: beside the sun as if awaiting her turn to be

543
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 2: introduced to me. So they ran down together. They're looking

544
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:32,200
Speaker 2: like super similar. She didn't know, you know what I mean, Like,

545
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 2: she's just like, Oh, I guess, I guess she assumed

546
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 2: that they were siblings.

547
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, now I'm thinking it is not your fault. You

548
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 3: are not yatful, But I think I can find a solution. Okay,

549
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:44,480
Speaker 3: and it's for that home wrecker.

550
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 2: She got to do it again. Interesting two. Yeah, no,

551
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 2: she gotta do it the only one way to find out.

552
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:51,399
Speaker 2: And she's gotta see pop out another one. See how

553
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 2: similar it is. That's the real way. DNA test forget

554
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 2: about it. Update. I found the cousin and her husband

555
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 2: on Facebook this morning, and I got a good look

556
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,120
Speaker 2: at him and all the kids. He also has two

557
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 2: sons with his wife. He has very unique and striking features,

558
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:10,160
Speaker 2: and the kids all look exactly like him, as does

559
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,480
Speaker 2: my friend's son. Any stranger off the street would immediately

560
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 2: know they were his kids. What a mess his poor

561
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 2: wife being told she was crazy all these years and

562
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:25,160
Speaker 2: now probably feeling foolish as well as embarrassed and inexcusably betrayed.

563
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:27,920
Speaker 2: Probably it's true, but you need to get like a

564
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,199
Speaker 2: DNA test to confirm. Yeah, like trying to give her

565
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 2: the benefit of the doubt. But I don't know. It's

566
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,120
Speaker 2: still a tough situation. It's still tough. So we're still

567
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 2: going off of trust. That's true. That's true. So okay,

568
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 2: so let's let's boil it all the way down. I'm

569
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:43,680
Speaker 2: curious to everyone in the comments, A is OPI still

570
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,639
Speaker 2: the A hole for assuming that you know they were

571
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 2: brother and sister and like cause, I guess you know

572
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 2: that is an assumption versus like a fact. Right. And

573
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 2: then my follow up question is what would you do

574
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 2: if you were in OP shoes? So please comment below,

575
00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 2: but usef what what do you think? My answer still

576
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,879
Speaker 2: stands OP, not the A hole, not the not the

577
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,879
Speaker 2: A hole. Pop another one, pop out another one. That's it.

578
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 2: That's the only way to confirm. That's all. That's the

579
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 2: only way, the only option we have. I supposed to

580
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,359
Speaker 2: believe it. That's true. That's true. I just told the

581
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 2: entire office my darkest secret by mistake. Now I'm considering

582
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:20,639
Speaker 2: resigning and finding a new job. What is your darkest secret? No,

583
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 2: non't make me say it. Go it's watching rom com

584
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 2: anime at two am. Not that bad at all. That's

585
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:29,680
Speaker 2: not that bad. Then you know there's the murderers. So

586
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 2: today I fed up. Well last month, but I just

587
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:36,120
Speaker 2: remembered after blacking out the horrific memory, I was attending

588
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 2: the first day of a week long peer support specialist

589
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 2: training along with a female coworker and several other students

590
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 2: from different workplaces. The training would evolve a lot of

591
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 2: soul searching, sharing stories of addiction, struggle, et cetera, as

592
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 2: our job was to work with people in crisis. Anyways,

593
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 2: a bit earlier in the first day, I ran to

594
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 2: to a leak. When I got back, everyone was writing

595
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 2: on a flash card they'd been given and folding them up.

596
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 2: I asked my coworker what I missed, and she said

597
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 2: that I had to quote unquote write a secret. Due

598
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:10,400
Speaker 2: to the emotional nature of our training, I believed we'd

599
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,359
Speaker 2: fold them up and hang on to them or something,

600
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 2: then we'd throw them away at the end, or some

601
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 2: symbolic thing like that. So I write, I feel like

602
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 2: a terrible father and sometimes regret having my kids. I

603
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 2: have a one and a half year old imposter syndrome

604
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 2: slash depression is I folded it up and I pocketed it.

605
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 2: All right, No, I'm going to collect everybody's called now,

606
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 2: the facilitator says. I think, hmm, all right, this must

607
00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 2: be some kind of trust exercise. Brilliant stuff. Wow, oh

608
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 2: he no, I'm still rocking with that voice. He collects

609
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 2: the cards and then puts them in a cup and

610
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 2: shakes it up. Holy fuck, I am breaking a sweat now.

611
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 2: I ask my coworker what's going on. She shrugs, okay.

612
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 2: The facilitator grabs a card and reads it. It says

613
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 2: I've been bit by a shark. So not a super

614
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 2: telling like you know, no, yeah, not at all. They

615
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 2: were Yeah, that could be a life for all day though. Yeah, huh,

616
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 2: weird secret. I'd tell everyone that. The class then points

617
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 2: to one person. Some are like, oh, this has gotta

618
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 2: be you. You look like a total surfer bro surfer

619
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 2: dude confirms it's his, and everyone cheers, cheer, cheer.

620
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 3: For me.

621
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 2: Oh god, I'm at this point seconds from jumping across

622
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 2: my desk and stealing the entire bucket of cards. He

623
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 2: reads a few more, and everyone correctly guesses the secret holder.

624
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 2: I was in a movie, I was born in Canada,

625
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 2: things like that. It's just narrowing down the pool town.

626
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 2: Then he grabs mine, which is the last fing one.

627
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 2: My coworker, with me being the last one, says, I

628
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 2: guess we all know who this one's gonna be. Dude,

629
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 2: you're send me up for failure. The look on the

630
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 2: instructor's face when he opened the card. He's sort of

631
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 2: half pity laugh like that, and reads, I feel.

632
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 4: Like a terrible fall Vince sometimes regret having kids.

633
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 2: The room falls silent, and I just sit there, wanting

634
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 2: to crawl out of my skin and die. Dang. I

635
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 2: raised my hand to confirm it's me. I learned later

636
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: on that he said to write a fun fact about

637
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 2: yourself anonymously on the card, not a deep, dark secret.

638
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 2: F me. So where do they go wrong? I don't.

639
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 2: He's like, all right, let me write up like the

640
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 2: most fed up thing about myself on this card right here.

641
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 2: But it was a fun fact, bro, He's like, fun fact,

642
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 2: I hate my family? So should you quit your job?

643
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 2: That's where we're trying to say, oh should you quit?

644
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:44,600
Speaker 4: Yeah?

645
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think it's a two partners. So for

646
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 2: everyone listening, I'm very curious. A is Opie the ahole

647
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 2: for saying this? You know, honest expression? Is OPI the

648
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 2: a hole for that? And B? Yeah, what do you do?

649
00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 4: I mean?

650
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 3: One, You're not the a hole man. Your feelings are valid.

651
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 3: It's twenty twenty three. Let's appreciate everyone's by whatever they

652
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 3: got going. Everyone's fighting demons.

653
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 2: Okay, you know, like one person they don't like in

654
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 2: and out burgers, the other person hates their kids. You

655
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, Tomato tomatow like it's all good.

656
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 2: I hate in and out burgers. Yeah, so so he

657
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 2: hates his kids, but framed. But the second one is

658
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 2: should he quit his job?

659
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: And I guess I would have solved it in the

660
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 3: situation I would have I would have been like, ah,

661
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 3: it's satirical, and then like trying to play it off

662
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 3: right the cool guy, you know, like smooths my way

663
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 3: through every got you like I thought I was this

664
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 3: terrible person. Yeah, yeah, but no, or what if he

665
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 3: wanted to quit? What if he like a third take

666
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 3: was he goes all in and he's like, you know what,

667
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 3: I wanted to quit? Anyways, here's everything bad I've done.

668
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 3: I hate you just starts calling out everyone. Yeah, he's like,

669
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 3: you're you sung you song?

670
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 2: That's smart. Yeah, you get yourself out of it, you

671
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 2: know what I mean? Just like you know what clean? No,

672
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,479
Speaker 2: if I'm gonna like hit one base, might as well

673
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 2: hit a home run. Just keep her going and then no,

674
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 2: that's true, Yeah that's true. Make it work. My mother

675
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 2: in law's gorgeous anime pillows saved our marriage. My husband

676
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 2: once it gone, but I refuse. Am I the a whole?

677
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 2: I mean yusuf as a I love anime. You're not able.

678
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 2: My husband and I are best friends during the day,

679
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 2: the love of my life. It's at night that there's

680
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 2: an issue. I am a blanket stealer. I once yanked

681
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 2: them so hard poor Hubby flipped a full one eighty. Wow.

682
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know that I have the strength

683
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 2: sleeping or awake to like make someone do a one eighty. Hubby,

684
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 2: for his part, is a thrasher. Bruce Lee would be

685
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 2: jealous of the moves he pulls while unconscious. It's a

686
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 2: constant war between us when we fall asleep, and both

687
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 2: of us often wake up sore and exhausted. God wow, Okay,

688
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 2: I actually have a quick question for everyone watching in

689
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 2: you if you're like in this scenario where your partner

690
00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 2: is literally like beating you in your sleep unintentionally, do

691
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 2: you just like sleep in separate beds at a certain point.

692
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 3: Like monk beds, that way you can still have the

693
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 3: technicality is due the technicality still, you know we sleep

694
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 3: in the same bed but yeah, he just wan me

695
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 3: to remove me.

696
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 2: Now it was starting to affect our relationship. Neither of

697
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 2: us wanted to move to a separate bed because we

698
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:17,000
Speaker 2: like spending our nights together, but it seemed like an inevitability.

699
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 2: We were both crabby every morning and we started fighting

700
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 2: as soon as we got up. It sucked, but neither

701
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 2: of us wanted to concede, defeat and move to the

702
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 2: other bed. Quick background, I was a huge nerd as

703
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 2: a teenager, full on otaku. Go ahead and cringe, I

704
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 2: do too. Hey, be proud, you know what I mean.

705
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 3: Proud you like my may yusuf over here pleasure watching

706
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 3: anime rom cons at two am in the pitch black darkness.

707
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 2: That's my jam. He owns it, he loves it, he

708
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 2: craves it. Okay to sleep without it. One night, as

709
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 2: a joke, I brought down an old anime pillow that

710
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 2: I brought down from the attic. I know, cringe, and

711
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 2: I plopped it down between my husband and I, declaring

712
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 2: it was our de militarized Zone of anime pillow. Okay. Interesting.

713
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 2: Hubby also thought it was hilarious and named her dmz

714
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 2: chan Chan John Chan, I'm going DMZ chan, I'm going

715
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,359
Speaker 2: I'm sticking with that. It's like chan. But yeah, John,

716
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:15,879
Speaker 2: we also we pronounced I don't know the actual name

717
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 2: of it, but we call it a dang rapona. It's

718
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:23,839
Speaker 2: like don renapana or something dongun. I don't know. Every

719
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 2: time we say dang ropona, it's it's just crazy. Everyone

720
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 2: just like you king idiots and our sweet sexy anime

721
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 2: pillow stayed there the whole night. It was a game changer.

722
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:41,239
Speaker 2: Dmz CHOHn protected me from Hubby's r EM induced rampages.

723
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 2: And she's just heavy enough that I can't yank out

724
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 2: the blankets at full speed. We both thought it was

725
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 2: the funniest thing, but she legitimately helped us solve the

726
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 2: only real issue in our marriage. Dang, that's kind of beautiful.

727
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 2: That's awesome that that was the only issue. Yeah, that's true.

728
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 2: That's true. A blanket, What a beautiful issue, What a

729
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 2: beautiful marriage? That's true. That's true. One day, my mother

730
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 2: in law stopped by to pick something up. She got

731
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 2: up to use the restroom, passing by our open bedroom door.

732
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 2: See where I'm going, Yeah, you can guess what she saw,

733
00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 2: dms each on. She was propped up in the middle

734
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 2: of our bed with her giant, soulful anime eyes looking

735
00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:22,320
Speaker 2: right back deeply into my mother in laws getting steamy.

736
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,759
Speaker 2: When she got back, she quickly grabbed her stuff and

737
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 2: left for Grandma. God bro Grandma's not having and Hudby

738
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 2: and I were both confused. She later mentioned dmsch on

739
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 2: to Hubby while they were on the phone, and it

740
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 2: absolutely mortified him. As far as I know, mother in law,

741
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 2: now things were devians in a three way relationship with

742
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:47,200
Speaker 2: a body pillow. She probably thought it was something else.

743
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:49,879
Speaker 2: I mean you could see it, right, It's like it's

744
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 2: probably some sexy anime chick with on a body pill

745
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 2: I mean it's tough. This is a pillow though, So

746
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 2: it's not like we know what's up, right, But like

747
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 2: Grandma's we're here, like we understand the concern, but uh,

748
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:07,279
Speaker 2: have some trust. Hubby was too embarrassed to explain, and

749
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:11,280
Speaker 2: now he wants to put dmc chon back in the attic.

750
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 2: I crust away, No for real.

751
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 3: They like uncrusted her went through all this, went through

752
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 3: all this like hardship, right, and now you're just gonna

753
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:21,359
Speaker 3: feel judged and put her back.

754
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 2: I was upset. I told him that I didn't want

755
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 2: to go back to boxing each other at night, and

756
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 2: that dmc chon helped us so much in that. He agreed,

757
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 2: but suggested we get a normal plain body pillowcase to

758
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,800
Speaker 2: replace her. Damn just gonna throw her away like that,

759
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 2: after all, she's done.

760
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 3: Exactly, That's what I'm saying. She's been in the attic.

761
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 3: She just got her chance of freedom. Have you not

762
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 3: watched Toy Story? It's the same thing.

763
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,720
Speaker 2: Wow, do we remake Toy Story? But it's an anime.

764
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 2: Body pillow puts a whole new meeting to Woody. Oh

765
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 2: there's a snake in my boot?

766
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 1: All right.

767
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 2: I felt like there was no need to spend money

768
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 2: on something we already have, and if it was really

769
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 2: that big of an issue, we can put her in

770
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 2: the closet while we have company of But Hubby is firm.

771
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:07,360
Speaker 2: He is firm in that she has to go permanently.

772
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 2: I know he's embarrassed, but I feel that we shouldn't

773
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 2: have to compromise our inside jokes to appease other people.

774
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 2: Am I the a whole?

775
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 3: These are the types of stories you make your guilty

776
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 3: pleasure and you watch at two am and the dead

777
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 3: of night, I next year, rom tom Anime and your

778
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:24,879
Speaker 3: full sized body pillow.

779
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 2: It is a tree. I love this type of content.

780
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 2: I love you. Whoa, No, the damage is done, Let

781
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 2: it be.

782
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 3: I think the best course of action is to just

783
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,280
Speaker 3: go to the grandma and say, hey, I'm not a weirdo,

784
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,720
Speaker 3: because what are you gonna do that she's already judging

785
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:39,280
Speaker 3: it as a weirdo.

786
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 2: I feel like it's almost like that one. I just

787
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 2: want to like bathe in the awkward like silence and confusion.

788
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 2: You know, this is a married couple. They're they're a

789
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 2: little older. Mom's a little older. I don't know if

790
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 2: she's gonna get it, like if she if she just

791
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 2: sees the pillow and like leaves the house, which is

792
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 2: also like that's actually kind of an ahole move. I

793
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:00,320
Speaker 2: feel like on the mother in law's part because it's like,

794
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 2: calm down, like it's a body pillow. I don't know.

795
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,360
Speaker 2: It is a tough egg to crack. It is a

796
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 2: tough egg to crack. I think, just you know, being

797
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,920
Speaker 2: down on earth in the conversation, i'd say bring it up,

798
00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 2: but yousef I have to ask you. You know who's

799
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:14,479
Speaker 2: always down to earth?

800
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 3: Is it?

801
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 4: Is it them?

802
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 2: It is It's you guys.

803
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 4: You got it bro on the third Chile's Ago.

804
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 2: Yusef, this is your chance to just shamelessly plug any

805
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 2: and everything you want out there. So what what? What

806
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 2: do you want the people to know about you? And

807
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 2: go look up if you have anything. I'm making investigative content. Yep,

808
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 2: almost like this.

809
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 3: I'm going to be making a video where I infiltrate

810
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 3: Disney's University. It's a giant scam. So go watch that

811
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 3: video when it comes out. Yusef me are you sif

812
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 3: m I h yar on YouTube?

813
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 2: That's it. Go check it out. Thanks to my boy, yusiface.

814
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 1: My mom had to be abducted and thrown into the

815
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 1: wilderness for eighty eight days.

816
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 2: Is this abuse?

817
00:38:56,719 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: And actually we have the storyteller with us right now now,

818
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 1: Mick Night, to take a breakdown of how this abduction happened.

819
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 4: All right, So I was not a good kid. I

820
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 4: was taken. I was put in a car, a black suburban.

821
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 4: I'll never forget it. And I was also slightly medicated.

822
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:17,800
Speaker 4: I fell asleep, I woke up. This is in Florida,

823
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 4: by the way, So the drive was from West Palm

824
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 4: Beach to I would say somewhere around Henderson, North Carolina,

825
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 4: somewhere in that area. I woke up and I'm in

826
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:29,359
Speaker 4: the mountains. It put me in this room. They strip

827
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 4: searched me, make sure I don't have anything. My watch gone,

828
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 4: just take they just take everything I have, all my clothes,

829
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 4: and then they blindfold me. They put me in another

830
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 4: truck and then I get dropped off into this camp

831
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 4: with five other kids in the woods. I was given

832
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 4: like a guide book. It was like supposed to be

833
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 4: like a therapy thing.

834
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 2: That's something like it makes it you need therapy instead

835
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 2: of being therapy.

836
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, no exactly. It was. I think like for me,

837
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 4: I'm definitely like an out doorsy guy. So like at

838
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 4: first I was like, oh, this is going to be sick.

839
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 4: But like you don't they don't tell you any information.

840
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 4: They're like, they don't tell you how long you're going

841
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 4: to be there. They don't tell you what time it is,

842
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 4: what day it is, and they don't tell you where

843
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 4: you're going. You're just like walking in the woods and

844
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:12,239
Speaker 4: it was winter today.

845
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:13,799
Speaker 2: You were there for eighty eight days. Eight days.

846
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, some kids were there shorter some kids were there longer.

847
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 2: You said medicated. You were like, like, what do you

848
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 2: remember about the first night?

849
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 4: Oh, well, the first I was medicated before they put

850
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 4: me into the truck into the car.

851
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: What do you mean medicated?

852
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 4: Like my mom gave me no, no, no, my mom

853
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:34,319
Speaker 4: Like my mom basically kind of like tricked me into

854
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 4: taking like a bunch of annex So love your mom.

855
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 2: Wow, So you fall asleep and then when are you

856
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 2: awake again?

857
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:45,280
Speaker 4: When I'm in the car and I'm like seeing mountains

858
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:46,920
Speaker 4: and like, I don't know if you've been to Florida,

859
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 4: but there's no mountains, and then you're essentially waking up

860
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 4: in a car, there's mountains, it's cold. You're like, what's

861
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:52,840
Speaker 4: going on?

862
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 2: You have any idea what the reason was.

863
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 4: I was just not a very like easy to control

864
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 4: a child. I wasn't doing anything like that serious. I

865
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 4: think in my I definitely was just like just lying

866
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 4: to my mom all the time about where I was

867
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 4: like definitely like just you know, smoking weed, which I

868
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 4: don't think is you know, I don't think that was

869
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 4: like the serious thing. I definitely like I would steal

870
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 4: my mom's car like occasionally, you know, in the middle

871
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 4: of the.

872
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 2: Night, just grand theft Autumn.

873
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 4: I was also seeing this girl with blue hair, So

874
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 4: I feel like I don't even need to say more.

875
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: There you gotta watch did she turn out to be

876
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: a real She turned out to be like a nice,

877
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 1: like you know, religious girl later in life?

878
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 2: Did you go on her blue hair phase?

879
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 4: I'm so glad you asked, because she's actually a born star.

880
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 2: Now when do you like realize you're your kind of

881
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 2: like when.

882
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 4: I get searched and they take like everything I have,

883
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:44,840
Speaker 4: like my watch, Like I was just like, why are

884
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:46,800
Speaker 4: you taking my watch? Like I was just confused, And

885
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 4: they're like if you ever had like a question about

886
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 4: like time or date, they'd be like be present.

887
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 2: That's colds bro.

888
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 3: Yeah.

889
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 4: There was one like old lawnmower blade that we would

890
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 4: use to chop like wood and that was our like like.

891
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 2: Thing a lot, and we had a way to chop wood.

892
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:04,959
Speaker 1: This sounds like one of the stories that my grandpa said,

893
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:08,759
Speaker 1: like backing my day, one lawn mower blade and I

894
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 1: watch you to snow uphil both.

895
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 2: Ways to school.

896
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 4: The craziest thing is that I heard that this like

897
00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:17,279
Speaker 4: whole like program was like thirty thousand dollars, so like

898
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 4: it's not even like it was, like yeah exactly, and

899
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 4: like I'm like.

900
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 2: Your parents paid thirty k just to throw you in

901
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:25,720
Speaker 2: the wood, bro, I can throw you in the woods

902
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 2: for free right now.

903
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 4: Essentially you're allowed to leave when you finish the program.

904
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 4: They're like palm size though they're like small, little little

905
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 4: like journals, right, and they each have like different like

906
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,479
Speaker 4: wilderness skills and like certain skills that you have to master.

907
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:42,320
Speaker 4: Their wilderness skills, they're like social skills like journaling skills.

908
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 4: Before you get like the red one, like your last

909
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:47,400
Speaker 4: like final book, you have to do something called like

910
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 4: a master like bow drill challenge, right, So, like, are

911
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 4: you familiar with bow drilling?

912
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 1: Do you know what that is?

913
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 4: No?

914
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 2: What is that? No?

915
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 4: So, like you've heard of like rubbing sticks together to

916
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 4: create like.

917
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,879
Speaker 2: Five yeah, so essentially you make oh, sorry, to create fire.

918
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:03,320
Speaker 2: I thought it was just sexual arousal this story.

919
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:06,359
Speaker 4: So you have to take it's cool, you like learn

920
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 4: to match like the white pine with the red fireboard.

921
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 4: They're called and you you you spin it until it

922
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 4: creates enough friction to create like a coal. It's called

923
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:17,319
Speaker 4: you call it busting a coal and then you take

924
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:23,320
Speaker 4: that coal and you put it in. Yeah, oh, and

925
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:24,240
Speaker 4: I put a little.

926
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 2: What do you get out of this hell hole?

927
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 4: So the eighty eight days pass and I see my

928
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 4: mom for the first time. I mean, I like it

929
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 4: was hateful. I look horrible, Like I look like I

930
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 4: was just in the woods.

931
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:38,800
Speaker 2: Did you shower and stuff like that?

932
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 4: So we called them billy baths. A billy is like

933
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 4: a little bucket almost, and you take the bucket and

934
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:47,240
Speaker 4: you go into the freezing lake or like river, whatever

935
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 4: source of water, and you just kind of like splash

936
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 4: your nuts because that's all you really want to clean up.

937
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:55,760
Speaker 4: You don't want to get your hair because it's so cold.

938
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 4: It's so cold. There's like shelters all over the Appalachian Trail,

939
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 4: which is the section that like we hiked. Yeah, even

940
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 4: those shelters are really scary, like there's like ghosts of there.

941
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 2: It feels just the energy.

942
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, like you can feel it.

943
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 2: Wait, So when you saw your mom, what did you

944
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 2: say to her?

945
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 4: Like, I apologized for like whatever I did to make

946
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 4: her feel like that was her only option with it.

947
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 4: I was pissed, But it's like I was so happy

948
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 4: to be out of there. But I feel like I

949
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 4: learned a lot of really cool skills, and like I

950
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 4: learned that if you burn rhotodundron, if you have a

951
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 4: rhotodundron fire and you're near it, the smoke will give

952
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 4: you insane diarrhea. I mean, just there, she squaredes like

953
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 4: no one's business.

954
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 2: Did you learn that the hard way?

955
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:36,839
Speaker 4: I sure did.

956
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, And God, this is.

957
00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 4: A funny story. I wake up in the middle of

958
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,279
Speaker 4: the night, and I'm sure you guys can relate to this,

959
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 4: but you wake up in the middle of the night

960
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 4: and you're just sweating, and you know it's not good.

961
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:52,400
Speaker 4: I step out of the tent and just shard it everywhere.

962
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 4: Oh and I had to go clean myself in a

963
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 4: frozen lake at like three am, and it was just horrible,

964
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 4: just the worst, Like just no good toilet, just a

965
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 4: hole in the ground at three am in the woods,

966
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 4: no support, no.

967
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 2: Help, probably all over yet.

968
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:14,240
Speaker 4: It sounds no toilet paper, just leaves.

969
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 2: Hopefully it's not poisoned.

970
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 4: I'm like, is there a spider on this?

971
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 1: So we've come to the final question, is this child abuse?

972
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 1: And if so, why or why not?

973
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:29,800
Speaker 2: John? What do you think? First? Yeah, like off rip? Second,

974
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 2: one of the story giving your child xanax All, we're

975
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 2: already like we've barely in the journey. We're already arguably

976
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:41,439
Speaker 2: and you know child abuse territory and national territory. Yeah,

977
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 2: and then everything after it like absolutely And also I

978
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 2: heard a similar story actually on Therapy Get Go. But

979
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:52,360
Speaker 2: the parents did that because their daughter was addicted to heroin.

980
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 2: It was they had a reason hot take The only

981
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 2: part that I think is child abuse. There's three things.

982
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 1: There's say things giving you xana, abducting you, and not

983
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 1: telling you when it's gonna end. But other than that,

984
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: like this just seems like one of those summer camps.

985
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,399
Speaker 1: Like off, my parents are sending me to this lame

986
00:46:09,520 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 1: summer camp again.

987
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 4: See that it was way worse. There's no fun activities

988
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 4: that you know, kids got out earlier, kids got out

989
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 4: way before too. I've heard of kids being older too,

990
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 4: being like seventeen and then turning eighteen while they're there

991
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 4: and then they can't be like legally kept there anymore,

992
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 4: and they just like dipped in the woods. You're like

993
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 4: not allowed to like you can't leave obviously. And this

994
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 4: kid in the group, like right before I got there,

995
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:36,479
Speaker 4: he like tried to escape, and he climbed a tree

996
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 4: like looking for near like civilization, fell out of the

997
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 4: tree into a lake with both his legs broken and

998
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 4: drowned in the lake and died. And then they didn't

999
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 4: they withheld that They withheld that information from our parents too,

1000
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 4: which I thought was kind of fucked.

1001
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 2: Oh my, okay, fuck, okay, I'm adding more to my

1002
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 2: list in the child abuse section. Do you think it's

1003
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 2: definitely child abuse?

1004
00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1005
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 4: I have nightmares to this day where I'm still trapped there.

1006
00:47:01,080 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 2: But I mean to any of y'all listening or watching

1007
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:05,319
Speaker 2: right now, let us know what you think.

1008
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 4: If everyone was in Trails Carolina Bravo group probably remember

1009
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 4: me reaching out out.

1010
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: And if anyone has any stories of being gooned yourself

1011
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: or abducted like in this way, like, please let us know.

1012
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 1: We want to hear your stories. Put your answers to

1013
00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 1: the comments. But damn, Mitch, this is a crazy story.

1014
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,919
Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing. And also just want to say

1015
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:27,040
Speaker 1: Mick was a listener for a while and then reached

1016
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:28,800
Speaker 1: out and now we're having them on the show. So

1017
00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:31,800
Speaker 1: if you want to share your story on OKOP, please

1018
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: reach out.

1019
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 2: Hello, this is future Sam in Bali coming back from

1020
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,360
Speaker 2: a surf. You're about to see more episodes in Bali.

1021
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 2: But we like Mixed so much that we brought them

1022
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 2: on for another episode.

1023
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 4: So this is what you're about to see.

1024
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 1: I got switched at birth and my parents' real kid

1025
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 1: is hotter than me, and I don't water in my life.

1026
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 2: And what do you think, Vic, It doesn't sound good.

1027
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:53,280
Speaker 2: I think we need more detail.

1028
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I will give you those details and also

1029
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:59,280
Speaker 1: give you de deals on Mick. Our guest of the show, Keia,

1030
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:02,280
Speaker 1: recently came a friend of the show by clapping cheeks

1031
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 1: to the podcast, So if you ever want to be

1032
00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 1: a friend of the show, make sure you do that first.

1033
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:08,879
Speaker 1: I know that I'm probably the soul, but I feel

1034
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 1: so upset and confused. I just needed a little outside opinion.

1035
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 1: Last year, a child service worker contacted my parents asked

1036
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 1: if they would be willing to receive a child fifteen

1037
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 1: female who was recently orphaned and had biological ties to

1038
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 1: them after her parents died in a car crash. Sofia

1039
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:29,440
Speaker 1: could not locate any relatives to take her in, so

1040
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 1: she bought a DNA test to try to find out

1041
00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:33,799
Speaker 1: some distant relatives so she wouldn't have to go into

1042
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 1: foster care, which is what connected her to my adoptive family,

1043
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:41,279
Speaker 1: her biological family. What was even weirder was that she

1044
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:45,320
Speaker 1: Sofia with a genetic match to both of my parents. Okay,

1045
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 1: after some investigation, it turns out that she was their

1046
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 1: real daughter. The hospital vested up and accidentally switched me

1047
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 1: with her. I'm not actually their daughter. Hands are being thrown, dude.

1048
00:48:58,080 --> 00:48:59,600
Speaker 2: I'm suing the sh for that hospital.

1049
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:02,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you can't be switching babies.

1050
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:05,879
Speaker 2: Obviously. Once my parents found out Sofia was their daughter,

1051
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 2: they took her in and it's been around a year

1052
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:11,240
Speaker 2: since she moved in and everyone has been so happy

1053
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:13,479
Speaker 2: since she came. I know that I'm a terrible person

1054
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:16,319
Speaker 2: for being so self pitying when Sophia is going through

1055
00:49:16,400 --> 00:49:18,839
Speaker 2: so much more. But ever since the truth came out,

1056
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 2: I've been feeling really terrible.

1057
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 4: I mean, your feelings are valid, like we can't invalidate op.

1058
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 1: Here and this is now her sister, but like her

1059
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 1: family's out there somewhere or right No, I guess her

1060
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 1: family just died because they got switched at birth, right,

1061
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 1: So I never really fit in with my family and

1062
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:37,800
Speaker 1: have always been very self conscious about it.

1063
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 2: When I was little, people.

1064
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 1: Used to call me the ugly duckling, which is a

1065
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:43,839
Speaker 1: pretty good description if I'm being honest, except I never

1066
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 1: grew up into a swan.

1067
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 4: That is so sad.

1068
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 1: My parents and my older siblings have always excelled at school.

1069
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 1: They're naturally gifted athletes and really popular. I'm pasty, pimply,

1070
00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:57,880
Speaker 1: and have a lot of social anxiety. I have a

1071
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 1: hard time fitting in at school, and I us to

1072
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 1: get bullied, which caused everyone a lot of problems. And

1073
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: now they're Sophia, who has the same clear skin and

1074
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 1: shiny black hair and poises them. And even though she

1075
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 1: just joined the school last year, all the teachers and

1076
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 1: students love her. We're in the same classes, and I

1077
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 1: can't help comparing myself with her. She's so obviously a

1078
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,840
Speaker 1: better fit in the family. Even my cousins commented on it,

1079
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 1: which what the cousins?

1080
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 2: That's so bessed up.

1081
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 1: Bro.

1082
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 2: A month ago, I got a small award, not the

1083
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:30,840
Speaker 2: big three, for some digital art, but because we hadn't

1084
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:33,400
Speaker 2: gotten booster shots yet, my parents said we wouldn't go

1085
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,399
Speaker 2: to the exhibit. Now Sophia just won a Student Leader

1086
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 2: award and my parents are throwing a party for her.

1087
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:41,400
Speaker 1: I get it's not the same situation and that her

1088
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 1: award is much bigger than mine, and everyone got their

1089
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:47,319
Speaker 1: shots now, but I just started feeling so terrible when

1090
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 1: I saw how proud and happy my parents looked with

1091
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 1: an arm around her, that I couldn't take it and

1092
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 1: had to leave. Sophia saw I was going across the

1093
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:56,759
Speaker 1: room and ask kind of loud where I was going,

1094
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 1: and then everyone turned to stare at me, and I

1095
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:02,520
Speaker 1: just ran away. Come on, well, not Sophia's fault that

1096
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 1: I'm insecure, but I hate this. I hate I'm not

1097
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 1: the real daughter that I don't fit in and I'll

1098
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 1: never be able to meet my biological parents who I

1099
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 1: could have fit in with. And there is an update,

1100
00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:14,280
Speaker 1: But Mick, what do you think OHPE should do about

1101
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 1: this situation? Dude?

1102
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:17,680
Speaker 4: I really think I think it could work out. I

1103
00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 4: really think it could, because you know, it really sucks

1104
00:51:20,560 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 4: on both ends. It's like, maybe you have Sophia who's beautiful,

1105
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:27,280
Speaker 4: clear skin, everyone likes her in school, but like having

1106
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 4: the two humans that raised you for fifteen hours, like

1107
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 4: I feel like that trauma like may not get right away,

1108
00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 4: but eventually, like it's going to be really hard for

1109
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:39,600
Speaker 4: both of them, and I think if they, you know,

1110
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 4: hold it together now and become friends will be a

1111
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:42,760
Speaker 4: little easier.

1112
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 1: You guys have a lot in common, so maybe that's

1113
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 1: something that could could bring you together. But there is

1114
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 1: an update. Okay, so this is twenty one days later.

1115
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:53,280
Speaker 1: So I found out later that Sofia left the party

1116
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:55,439
Speaker 1: as soon as she saw me crying, that she spent

1117
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 1: hours searching for me before finding me in the old treehouse.

1118
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 1: I was miserable and embarrassed. Tried to give some sort

1119
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 1: of apology, but dissolved into more crying and a word

1120
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:07,880
Speaker 1: vomit of my insecurities. She hugged me and let me

1121
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:10,359
Speaker 1: sob all over her. She told me the party didn't matter,

1122
00:52:10,600 --> 00:52:13,360
Speaker 1: that I was more important to her. It hurts so

1123
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 1: much to hear that because I didn't expect it, didn't

1124
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,279
Speaker 1: feel like I could believe it. It felt like too much,

1125
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 1: like it was more than I deserve.

1126
00:52:19,719 --> 00:52:22,759
Speaker 2: For the next week, relatives scolded me about overreacting, but

1127
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:24,960
Speaker 2: it didn't hurt me so bad because someone was on

1128
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:26,920
Speaker 2: my side. We went to the art exhibit with my

1129
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 2: work later because she couldn't believe I hadn't gone yet.

1130
00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:32,000
Speaker 2: We got ice cream, and she gushed about how talented

1131
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 2: I was. She's at the top of the class and

1132
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 2: the captain of the girl's varsity volleyball team. She's a

1133
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 2: thousand times more talented. But she spoke like I was

1134
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:41,799
Speaker 2: the rebirth of the renaissance.

1135
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 4: It sounds like she really cares, and she's making effort,

1136
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,800
Speaker 4: you know, to show op that she does matter, and

1137
00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:52,320
Speaker 4: you know, I think that effort goes a long.

1138
00:52:52,239 --> 00:52:56,960
Speaker 2: Way, and it sounds like she like actually cares about

1139
00:52:57,160 --> 00:52:59,359
Speaker 2: like the sister relationship, and she's showing that right now.

1140
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 2: Sophia took me shopping and showed me the cream my

1141
00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:05,320
Speaker 2: mother used to use because she figured out skin types

1142
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:08,400
Speaker 2: would be similar. And guess what, I don't have acne anymore.

1143
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:11,760
Speaker 2: So no, so yeah, it had to be the same parents.

1144
00:53:11,920 --> 00:53:14,800
Speaker 2: She told me, I'm beautiful that I have my father's

1145
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 2: eyes and laugh and my mother's button. Nos, doesn't so

1146
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 2: freaking cute girl.

1147
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 4: So okay, so now we know that it was the parents.

1148
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:26,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, Yeah, definitely switched up barth. Yeah.

1149
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 5: Wow.

1150
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,759
Speaker 1: After that, she cried because it hurt to remember them,

1151
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:32,360
Speaker 1: and I cried with her. She defends me at school

1152
00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 1: and at home. When a cousin took a crack at

1153
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 1: my weight, Sofia went positively glacial. That's my sister you're

1154
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 1: talking about, until he turned red and apologized. When I'm sad,

1155
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 1: she rolls a blanket around me and calls it a burrito.

1156
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:44,439
Speaker 4: Aw.

1157
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 1: It doesn't hurt me now when people compliment Sophia or

1158
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:50,719
Speaker 1: comment how she's my parents real daughter, because she is

1159
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:54,360
Speaker 1: their daughter and she really is amazing, she deserves compliments.

1160
00:53:54,440 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 2: I stopped feeling bad that my parents.

1161
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 1: Connect with her much more easily than they've ever done

1162
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 1: with me, that they take more interest in what she's

1163
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:02,520
Speaker 1: doing than they've ever done with me, because now I

1164
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 1: have someone who gets me. She tells me nice things

1165
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:08,760
Speaker 1: every day, and I'm starting to believe her. We'ren't born

1166
00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:11,080
Speaker 1: to the same people or raised by the same people,

1167
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:13,320
Speaker 1: but she's my sister, and that makes me feel so

1168
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:15,640
Speaker 1: so lucky. I'm going to be a better sister, the

1169
00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: best sister. I've never felt so much like family before.

1170
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 2: Wow, that is a full full circle, full circle, you know.

1171
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:25,720
Speaker 4: Now they need each other more than ever.

1172
00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:29,280
Speaker 1: In some ways, oh p reminds Sophia of her parents,

1173
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 1: and it's like her connection to the parents that raised

1174
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:34,520
Speaker 1: her for fifteen years and so like I imagine she

1175
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:37,359
Speaker 1: that's also why she feels really connected to Sofia, because

1176
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:39,920
Speaker 1: she reminds her of her childhood.

1177
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:42,920
Speaker 4: I just hope the parents can maintain this, like obviously

1178
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 4: they have this like new daughter. And I truly believe

1179
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:49,680
Speaker 4: there's like, you know, biological like pheromone thing where you know,

1180
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:51,920
Speaker 4: like when you know a child is yours, there's this

1181
00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 4: connection that you know can't be explained. Yet it sounds

1182
00:54:55,040 --> 00:54:57,680
Speaker 4: like Sophia is the the angel here.

1183
00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 1: Parents are definitely the athfles. My spoil well brat kidd

1184
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: is bullying poor kids at school. So I took all

1185
00:55:04,120 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 1: his name brand things. Now he has only the bear essentials.

1186
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:09,040
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

1187
00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:11,440
Speaker 4: Are we talking bear bottomed? Are we talking?

1188
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 2: No bottom? Only belly full of rice and two twigs

1189
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 2: to make a fire.

1190
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:18,000
Speaker 4: I certainly didn't have two twigs sometimes.

1191
00:55:18,120 --> 00:55:20,480
Speaker 1: So I am the mother to a teenage boy. The

1192
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:23,240
Speaker 1: father is hardly in the picture. He pays child support

1193
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 1: and that's about it. He is very absent. Otherwise another

1194
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 1: relevant thing. I'm pretty well off, all right, opim flex

1195
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:33,240
Speaker 1: I work in tech. My son's father is extremely wealthy,

1196
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 1: and the court order for child support is enough to

1197
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 1: pay for the best for my son. He goes to

1198
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 1: a fairly competitive private school, is in a lot of

1199
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:44,359
Speaker 1: extracurriculars that cost a decent bit, et cetera. I found

1200
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: out from the school administration just this month that my

1201
00:55:46,920 --> 00:55:52,719
Speaker 1: son had been bullying several students for being less wealthy, like, oh, Bath,

1202
00:55:52,880 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 1: all of you doesn't have a Rolls Royce, he's in

1203
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:58,719
Speaker 1: a prius you. He was making fun of students for

1204
00:55:58,840 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 1: being dropped off at school in a budget sedan, for

1205
00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:06,279
Speaker 1: having name brand clothes that were not as expensive as

1206
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:07,280
Speaker 1: other name brands.

1207
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:09,960
Speaker 2: I was appalled by his behavior.

1208
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:12,399
Speaker 4: Not the budget Dan, and I'm thinking like and I'm

1209
00:56:12,440 --> 00:56:14,800
Speaker 4: thinking when I think budgets, and I think Toyota is

1210
00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:16,360
Speaker 4: honestly a fine to.

1211
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 1: Jack bind vehicle. I mean, so there's no quote for

1212
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 1: a mile. I had to talk to him about how

1213
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:24,840
Speaker 1: this is wrong, and also about how it's not something

1214
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 1: that he should have any personal pride in. He has

1215
00:56:27,520 --> 00:56:31,359
Speaker 1: no job, no savings, no investments, no wealth of his own.

1216
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:34,680
Speaker 1: By totally random chance, he happened to be born into

1217
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: good circumstances and that's it. Basically, op is calling her

1218
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:42,560
Speaker 1: son a loser. You ange kid, the school admin and

1219
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:45,279
Speaker 1: I arranged an apology between him and all the kids

1220
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:47,439
Speaker 1: he was bowling. I also decided that this year we're

1221
00:56:47,560 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 1: thrift shopping for clothes, no more brand name sneakers or clothes,

1222
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 1: which low key like, that's just gonna make this kin

1223
00:56:54,160 --> 00:56:57,400
Speaker 1: cooler because thrifting actually gives you style, not just like

1224
00:56:57,960 --> 00:57:01,279
Speaker 1: randomly buying. And rather than driving him to school and

1225
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 1: activities in the Porsche or the Jaguar, I'm driving him

1226
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:07,200
Speaker 1: everywhere in my ninety two Jeep that was one of

1227
00:57:07,239 --> 00:57:09,880
Speaker 1: my first cars that I mostly keep around for nostaldra

1228
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:12,200
Speaker 1: and off roading. Lokia ninety two jeep is kind of

1229
00:57:12,200 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 1: sick though.

1230
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 4: That's so sick, and I'm picturing like, you know, if

1231
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 4: this family has ninety two like prime pay like, it

1232
00:57:18,560 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 4: still looks so sick.

1233
00:57:19,880 --> 00:57:22,080
Speaker 1: Like it has to be nice like so actually it

1234
00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 1: says it's really beaten up. And for activities, he joins

1235
00:57:25,160 --> 00:57:28,240
Speaker 1: he can borrow club equipment instead of getting his own bots.

1236
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:30,959
Speaker 1: He was really upset about it all, especially being driven

1237
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 1: to school and activities in.

1238
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 2: The jeep, not the jeep. Please take me in the

1239
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 2: roles mother, I can't be seen in the poor people cause.

1240
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 1: He said that it was causing problems with his friends, which, dude,

1241
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:45,440
Speaker 1: if that's causing problems with your friends, you need new friends.

1242
00:57:45,640 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 1: He was looking bad at school, his friend's parents didn't

1243
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:51,280
Speaker 1: want their kids getting in such an old vehicle with

1244
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:53,800
Speaker 1: no doors. He also said that it was embarrassing for

1245
00:57:53,960 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 1: him to pretend he's poor. His dad, who overall has

1246
00:57:57,200 --> 00:57:59,919
Speaker 1: been very absent, got upset with me because a parent

1247
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:02,920
Speaker 1: word had gotten around his circles. His son was being

1248
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:05,320
Speaker 1: driven around town in a junker and that I was

1249
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 1: making him use club gear for sports instead of his

1250
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:11,000
Speaker 1: own and that was not fair punishment because impressions matter

1251
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 1: and it will affect the rest of his life. So

1252
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:15,720
Speaker 1: am I the a hole for having this approach to

1253
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 1: parenting my son who is bullying kids for being poor.

1254
00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 1: I don't buy him new designer things or drive him

1255
00:58:20,680 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 1: places in luxury cars anymore. We shop at thrift stores

1256
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 1: and I am taking him to school in the jeep

1257
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:28,800
Speaker 1: I drive from ninety two. So what do you think,

1258
00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:30,720
Speaker 1: Mick is OPDA hole or not?

1259
00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:34,840
Speaker 4: Not the ass? But I think the problem isn't closed

1260
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 4: or the money or anything else.

1261
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:37,400
Speaker 2: Not the ass.

1262
00:58:37,760 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 4: But I think the problem isn't closed or the money

1263
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:43,560
Speaker 4: or anything else. I think the problem is gratitude.

1264
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 2: I think this kid is just u great so ungrateful.

1265
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:48,880
Speaker 2: And it also seems like he's probably getting this from

1266
00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 2: the father.

1267
00:58:49,560 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, it sounds like the dad is just kind of,

1268
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 4: you know, just enabling all of this. I know a

1269
00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:57,360
Speaker 4: lot of people that have a lot of money in

1270
00:58:57,560 --> 00:58:59,640
Speaker 4: by talking to them, you would never know. Yeah, I

1271
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:03,360
Speaker 4: have a great friend that's got a yacht, you know,

1272
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:05,439
Speaker 4: all the stuff. You would talk to him. He wears

1273
00:59:05,520 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 4: normal clothes. You can definitely have all those nice things

1274
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:09,400
Speaker 4: still be.

1275
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:13,640
Speaker 1: Not a douchebag. Well, that seems like Op's kid has

1276
00:59:13,720 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: not learned that lesson. And I mean it's also like

1277
00:59:16,240 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 1: usually when over this behavior occurs, it's probably because the

1278
00:59:20,040 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 1: kid's learning it from somewhere. So it's either the friend

1279
00:59:22,440 --> 00:59:25,800
Speaker 1: group is kind of a bunch of like status signaling

1280
00:59:26,040 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 1: kids that only care about money, or it's probably the

1281
00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:32,920
Speaker 1: dad like showcasing that this is what's important. Sounds like

1282
00:59:33,000 --> 00:59:36,200
Speaker 1: this kid needs that lesson, So I'd say definitely not

1283
00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 1: the a hole. My psycho boyfriend destroyed my house because

1284
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: I wouldn't let him go on vacation with my family.

1285
00:59:41,840 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 2: I'm calling the police. So am I the a hole? Me?

1286
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:47,920
Speaker 1: Twenty one female boyfriend twenty three male, let's call him Charlie.

1287
00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:50,880
Speaker 1: Around a month ago, my mom mentioned a family vacation

1288
00:59:51,120 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 1: wall on a call with me. Charlie and I have

1289
00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:55,680
Speaker 1: been together for about a year. He has still not

1290
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 1: met my mom said of the family only my dad's.

1291
00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:01,200
Speaker 1: My mom forty two female, lives in my home country

1292
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:04,560
Speaker 1: together with my stepdad fifty mail. My stepbrother twenty four male,

1293
01:00:04,760 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 1: lives there too, but not in her hometown. Because of this,

1294
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:09,360
Speaker 1: he hasn't had a chance to meet them yet. Yesterday

1295
01:00:09,400 --> 01:00:11,360
Speaker 1: I mentioned it to my best friend, twenty one female,

1296
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 1: with whom I have been best friends for seventeen years.

1297
01:00:13,840 --> 01:00:15,360
Speaker 1: I was on the phone with her. She is still

1298
01:00:15,400 --> 01:00:17,000
Speaker 1: in the city we grew up in and goes to

1299
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 1: university there because she often sees my parent. My mom

1300
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 1: invited her like she has done on any other vacation,

1301
01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:25,439
Speaker 1: and this time she decided to come. Okay, the trip

1302
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:28,280
Speaker 1: is only paid by my stepdad and my mom. My

1303
01:00:28,360 --> 01:00:31,480
Speaker 1: stepbrother will be bringing his fiance, twenty one female too.

1304
01:00:31,720 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 1: Charlie was in the room while I was on the

1305
01:00:33,800 --> 01:00:37,440
Speaker 1: call and asked me what should I pack O, Charlie

1306
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 1: is already assuming he's going a little presumptuous Charlie. I

1307
01:00:40,680 --> 01:00:43,800
Speaker 1: looked at him, confused and asked, he's going somewhere. He

1308
01:00:43,880 --> 01:00:45,400
Speaker 1: said that he needs to know what to pack for

1309
01:00:45,480 --> 01:00:47,560
Speaker 1: the trip. I laughed and thought he was joking, since

1310
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 1: I never said he was coming. When I realized he

1311
01:00:50,320 --> 01:00:52,360
Speaker 1: was serious, I sat him down and told him he

1312
01:00:52,560 --> 01:00:54,280
Speaker 1: isn't going to be able to come, and there was

1313
01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:57,120
Speaker 1: no reservation for him. Plus, it will be very inappropriate

1314
01:00:57,160 --> 01:00:59,160
Speaker 1: to invite him over knowing that this is a family

1315
01:00:59,240 --> 01:01:01,240
Speaker 1: trip and it will make a bad impression like he's

1316
01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:03,160
Speaker 1: trying to come because it's just going to be free.

1317
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 1: They have never met him, there isn't any rooms left,

1318
01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:08,800
Speaker 1: he doesn't have a passport, and there's other reasons that

1319
01:01:08,880 --> 01:01:11,440
Speaker 1: I tried explaining. He flipped out, though, and told me

1320
01:01:11,560 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 1: that I'm a bach and that I'm probably cheating on

1321
01:01:14,000 --> 01:01:15,440
Speaker 1: him and that's why he's not invited.

1322
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:15,960
Speaker 4: Leave him.

1323
01:01:16,040 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 1: I tried, yeah, and I tried explaining, but he left

1324
01:01:20,560 --> 01:01:23,440
Speaker 1: the apartment. He hasn't returned since yesterday, and at four

1325
01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:26,080
Speaker 1: am I have to leave to the airport. I'm worried, sick.

1326
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 1: I called many times and texted but he isn't responding.

1327
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 1: So am I the a hole?

1328
01:01:30,640 --> 01:01:32,400
Speaker 2: And there isn't updates? So what do you think? Man?

1329
01:01:32,640 --> 01:01:35,160
Speaker 4: Not the a hole? First of all, where's your You

1330
01:01:35,200 --> 01:01:38,120
Speaker 4: don't have a passport? I mean you're not going anywhere?

1331
01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:40,560
Speaker 4: What was your plan? Like if you didn't have the passport?

1332
01:01:40,600 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 2: I feel like if I be able to go, Like

1333
01:01:42,560 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 2: you're going to a different country, bro.

1334
01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 4: And it was this is the day before that they're

1335
01:01:46,520 --> 01:01:47,120
Speaker 4: talking about it.

1336
01:01:47,200 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, yeah four? Am I have to leave through

1337
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 2: the airport? Yeah? So this is so right there.

1338
01:01:51,240 --> 01:01:52,440
Speaker 4: So if I was the girl, I would have looked

1339
01:01:52,440 --> 01:01:53,440
Speaker 4: at Charlie and I would have been like.

1340
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 2: And what world can you come? You're delusional?

1341
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 4: Well that's what I would have said in my head.

1342
01:01:58,160 --> 01:02:00,240
Speaker 4: But I would have been like, yeah, just go grab

1343
01:02:00,280 --> 01:02:02,200
Speaker 4: your passport and then he'd be like I don't have one.

1344
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:03,920
Speaker 2: I'd be like, well you kind of need you can't come?

1345
01:02:04,040 --> 01:02:04,480
Speaker 2: He can't come.

1346
01:02:04,720 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 4: If anything, this is all good because now she knows

1347
01:02:07,560 --> 01:02:10,760
Speaker 4: she has an insecure little boyfriend and he's not responding

1348
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:13,520
Speaker 4: to her on per her worried and you know, in

1349
01:02:13,640 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 4: his dream situation. You know, she is locked up in

1350
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:19,440
Speaker 4: a cage only giving attention to him.

1351
01:02:19,640 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, red flag for sure. But let's get into this update.

1352
01:02:22,400 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 1: So, when I was leaving from my apartment four days ago,

1353
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:27,720
Speaker 1: I left a key to my neighborhood slash friend. Yesterday

1354
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:30,680
Speaker 1: she called me to inform me that my boyfriend's stuff

1355
01:02:30,840 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 1: is missing, and my writing studio and manga collection are destroyed.

1356
01:02:35,960 --> 01:02:39,040
Speaker 1: Some of my savings are stolen, and yesterday he tried

1357
01:02:39,080 --> 01:02:42,400
Speaker 1: to empty my bank account but failed miserably. Five thousand

1358
01:02:42,480 --> 01:02:45,320
Speaker 1: dollars are apparently missing from the drawer of my nightstand,

1359
01:02:45,360 --> 01:02:47,680
Speaker 1: and my boyfriend is nowhere to be found. Luckily, my

1360
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 1: stepbrother's fiance's mother is a lawyer. My mom's said of

1361
01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:52,880
Speaker 1: the family are trying to calm me down and get

1362
01:02:52,960 --> 01:02:55,200
Speaker 1: me away from the situation as much as possible. I

1363
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:57,240
Speaker 1: thought this was a minor problem in the beginning, but

1364
01:02:57,480 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 1: here we are. Dad's side of the family is telling

1365
01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 1: me that the charges and that I'm overreacting. Yes, I

1366
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 1: did place charges. I will have to deal with it

1367
01:03:04,480 --> 01:03:06,760
Speaker 1: further when I get back, but police are already on

1368
01:03:06,880 --> 01:03:07,760
Speaker 1: the hunt for him.

1369
01:03:07,960 --> 01:03:08,920
Speaker 4: Manga is valuable.

1370
01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:11,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, Meg, you can't you can't. You can't like

1371
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:12,840
Speaker 2: destroy this smutty mega.

1372
01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:15,680
Speaker 4: Come on, you can't destroy the manga. There's there's some

1373
01:03:15,840 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 4: value there that she's gonna.

1374
01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:20,919
Speaker 1: Have line, you know, take my possessions, take my money,

1375
01:03:21,080 --> 01:03:23,400
Speaker 1: but spare spare the manga.

1376
01:03:23,200 --> 01:03:26,480
Speaker 4: Spear the maga, the reading material.

1377
01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:29,280
Speaker 1: Though some people said I was the affable because this

1378
01:03:29,360 --> 01:03:31,560
Speaker 1: would be the perfect time to meet my family, but

1379
01:03:31,680 --> 01:03:33,680
Speaker 1: in this case, it just seemed like a direct I

1380
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:35,880
Speaker 1: want a free trip to me. Somebody pointed out, we

1381
01:03:35,960 --> 01:03:38,960
Speaker 1: have communication problems. Yes, yes we do. I didn't really

1382
01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:41,360
Speaker 1: want to mention this, but I'm on the autism spectrum,

1383
01:03:41,400 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 1: so it's pretty normal in a way. He knew two

1384
01:03:43,280 --> 01:03:44,880
Speaker 1: and a half weeks before I went to the trip,

1385
01:03:44,960 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 1: and I made it clear he wasn't coming. So with

1386
01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 1: all that information, Mick, I pose it to you again.

1387
01:03:49,960 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 2: Is ope? He the a whole?

1388
01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:54,600
Speaker 4: No, not the ahole. But I do think she she

1389
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:57,959
Speaker 4: thinks that he wants to be in for the free trip.

1390
01:03:58,200 --> 01:04:00,440
Speaker 4: I'd actually disagree. I think he wants wants to be

1391
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 4: there because here without her right next to him, he's

1392
01:04:03,880 --> 01:04:07,080
Speaker 4: just an insecure guy. I actually don't think it has

1393
01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:08,919
Speaker 4: to do with the money at all, And I could

1394
01:04:08,960 --> 01:04:09,320
Speaker 4: be wrong.

1395
01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:12,200
Speaker 2: I would agree that I probably doesn't have to do

1396
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:14,400
Speaker 2: with the money. I think he maybe just wants to

1397
01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 2: be integrated into the family. It could be that too.

1398
01:04:16,800 --> 01:04:19,400
Speaker 1: He's a psyclo who gives a psychoe I mean bro

1399
01:04:19,680 --> 01:04:22,040
Speaker 1: like to respond after not being invited to a trip

1400
01:04:22,160 --> 01:04:26,280
Speaker 1: to steal, destroy and like just cause a ruckus. Ope,

1401
01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:29,080
Speaker 1: he dodged a bullet because that only would have gotten worse. Yeah,

1402
01:04:29,680 --> 01:04:31,920
Speaker 1: I mean, you don't do that. Thank you all for

1403
01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:35,840
Speaker 1: a public subscribing and sharing your thoughts and comments, and

1404
01:04:35,920 --> 01:04:36,320
Speaker 1: we'll see you.

1405
01:04:36,360 --> 01:04:38,480
Speaker 2: Soon later, and thank you beg for coming on.

1406
01:04:38,680 --> 01:04:39,400
Speaker 4: Of course, I.

1407
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 1: Accidentally boned a woman and arranged marriage. Now that I

1408
01:04:43,240 --> 01:04:46,040
Speaker 1: know the truth, I'm leaving her, but she has other ideas.

1409
01:04:47,640 --> 01:04:51,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I nineteen male hooked up with a

1410
01:04:51,640 --> 01:04:54,040
Speaker 1: girl twenty two a few nights ago. Her name was

1411
01:04:54,120 --> 01:04:56,360
Speaker 1: not Anya, but I'm gonna pretend it was in order

1412
01:04:56,440 --> 01:04:59,240
Speaker 1: to tell the story without revealing real names.

1413
01:04:59,360 --> 01:04:59,680
Speaker 6: Smart.

1414
01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:03,000
Speaker 2: So Anya and I crosspaths at an aunt gallery. It

1415
01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:06,040
Speaker 2: was one of those keiche movie moments when a confused

1416
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:09,520
Speaker 2: character is staring at an abstract painting before another character

1417
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:13,120
Speaker 2: decides to approach the confused character to discuss the abstract painting.

1418
01:05:13,280 --> 01:05:14,360
Speaker 6: Oh, I like where this is going.

1419
01:05:14,640 --> 01:05:17,280
Speaker 1: I was the person staring at the painting and Anya

1420
01:05:17,520 --> 01:05:19,560
Speaker 1: was the person who approached me. The two of us

1421
01:05:19,600 --> 01:05:21,640
Speaker 1: had no idea what we were looking at, but we

1422
01:05:21,720 --> 01:05:23,840
Speaker 1: had fun trying to figure it out together. For the

1423
01:05:23,920 --> 01:05:26,840
Speaker 1: first time in my life, I finally said the right

1424
01:05:26,920 --> 01:05:29,560
Speaker 1: things at the right time to convince an attractive girl

1425
01:05:29,760 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 1: go home with it.

1426
01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:31,040
Speaker 6: Impressive.

1427
01:05:31,120 --> 01:05:32,800
Speaker 2: So I guess both of them are spinning game. I

1428
01:05:32,840 --> 01:05:35,680
Speaker 2: don't know. It seems like she was the one convincing

1429
01:05:35,760 --> 01:05:37,240
Speaker 2: you to go home with her because she was the

1430
01:05:37,320 --> 01:05:37,600
Speaker 2: one that.

1431
01:05:37,720 --> 01:05:40,000
Speaker 6: Like started the conversation, which you true.

1432
01:05:40,160 --> 01:05:43,080
Speaker 2: True, she has riz and you're just receiving the reason.

1433
01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:43,360
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1434
01:05:43,600 --> 01:05:46,760
Speaker 1: I fell asleep with Anya in my bed, not gonna lie.

1435
01:05:47,080 --> 01:05:51,160
Speaker 1: I was exhausted, but one round wasn't enough for Anya.

1436
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:51,720
Speaker 2: Man.

1437
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:54,720
Speaker 1: Oh if I ever tapped out and called it a night,

1438
01:05:54,840 --> 01:05:57,080
Speaker 1: she would still be on top of me right now.

1439
01:05:57,240 --> 01:05:59,400
Speaker 1: At around midnight, I woke up to the sound of

1440
01:05:59,480 --> 01:06:02,560
Speaker 1: Anya o key laughing. She was wide awake with her

1441
01:06:02,680 --> 01:06:04,640
Speaker 1: phone in front of her face. When I asked her

1442
01:06:05,120 --> 01:06:07,840
Speaker 1: what she was doing, she apologized for waking me and

1443
01:06:08,080 --> 01:06:12,240
Speaker 1: casually said she was reacting to messages from her fiance.

1444
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:15,520
Speaker 6: Oh, she just dropped the bomb like.

1445
01:06:15,600 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 1: That, without hesitation. She showed me the messages before I

1446
01:06:20,400 --> 01:06:22,880
Speaker 1: had time to ask another question. Based on what I

1447
01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:27,200
Speaker 1: read after almost being blinded by the brightness of Anya's phone,

1448
01:06:27,480 --> 01:06:31,480
Speaker 1: it was clear that Anya's fiance was worried about her

1449
01:06:31,720 --> 01:06:33,480
Speaker 1: and wanted to know where she was.

1450
01:06:33,760 --> 01:06:35,000
Speaker 6: She was finding that funny.

1451
01:06:35,080 --> 01:06:37,160
Speaker 2: I feel bad for this dude getting wrecked.

1452
01:06:37,240 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 1: Dude, I had no idea that Anya was in a relationship,

1453
01:06:40,000 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 1: let alone engaged. She explained that she was part of

1454
01:06:43,440 --> 01:06:46,600
Speaker 1: an arranged marriage and her fiance was not someone she

1455
01:06:46,800 --> 01:06:48,960
Speaker 1: loved or even liked.

1456
01:06:50,240 --> 01:06:52,400
Speaker 6: Oh, this is heart wrenching.

1457
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:53,240
Speaker 2: She said.

1458
01:06:53,280 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 1: It was funny reading his messages because he didn't even

1459
01:06:56,640 --> 01:06:58,400
Speaker 1: know her well enough to spell her name right.

1460
01:06:58,560 --> 01:07:01,480
Speaker 2: I didn't know how to rep bond. What do you

1461
01:07:01,680 --> 01:07:03,480
Speaker 2: how do you respond? That is a lie?

1462
01:07:03,720 --> 01:07:06,520
Speaker 1: Anya kissed me and said her plan was to fully

1463
01:07:06,640 --> 01:07:09,440
Speaker 1: embrace her ha fes and sleep with as many people

1464
01:07:09,480 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 1: as possible before she became a wife and a mom.

1465
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:14,919
Speaker 1: I said I was kind of uncomfortable being the other guy,

1466
01:07:15,080 --> 01:07:18,160
Speaker 1: and encouraged Anya not to proceed with the arranged marriage

1467
01:07:18,240 --> 01:07:20,760
Speaker 1: if it made her unhappy. Anya got upset when I

1468
01:07:20,880 --> 01:07:22,840
Speaker 1: was somewhat reluctant to kiss her back, and said she

1469
01:07:23,040 --> 01:07:26,240
Speaker 1: counted on me to be less disappointing in bed.

1470
01:07:26,520 --> 01:07:27,960
Speaker 6: Oh my god, brutal.

1471
01:07:28,280 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 1: She's just being brutal all around. I was decent, not disappointing.

1472
01:07:33,600 --> 01:07:36,480
Speaker 1: Anya disagreed and got dressed. I offered to drive her

1473
01:07:36,520 --> 01:07:38,680
Speaker 1: home because we used my car to get to my flat,

1474
01:07:38,800 --> 01:07:41,800
Speaker 1: but she insisted on using an uber. I waited with

1475
01:07:41,920 --> 01:07:44,320
Speaker 1: her outside, even though she continued to tell me how

1476
01:07:44,520 --> 01:07:47,320
Speaker 1: mediocre I was. In the bedroom. She said, the last

1477
01:07:47,440 --> 01:07:50,000
Speaker 1: random guy she hooked up with was smaller than me

1478
01:07:50,160 --> 01:07:52,560
Speaker 1: below the waist, but at least he knew.

1479
01:07:52,440 --> 01:07:54,600
Speaker 2: How to use his distant Wait, why is she being

1480
01:07:54,720 --> 01:07:56,400
Speaker 2: so mean? She said?

1481
01:07:56,560 --> 01:08:00,520
Speaker 1: My nipples were shaped like angry eyes, and my belly

1482
01:08:00,600 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 1: button looked off center. She said she didn't mean to

1483
01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:06,480
Speaker 1: body shame. You don't mean to body shavy.

1484
01:08:06,760 --> 01:08:09,120
Speaker 6: Wait, it sounds like she's done non stop body shaming.

1485
01:08:09,440 --> 01:08:11,560
Speaker 1: She said she didn't mean to body shamy, but she

1486
01:08:11,640 --> 01:08:14,240
Speaker 1: had nothing else to focus on during sex because I

1487
01:08:14,440 --> 01:08:17,879
Speaker 1: was so bad at making her feel any kind of pleasure.

1488
01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:20,320
Speaker 1: Out of frustration, I said, I was beginning to feel

1489
01:08:20,400 --> 01:08:22,519
Speaker 1: sorry for the guy who was going to marry her.

1490
01:08:22,680 --> 01:08:26,000
Speaker 1: Guess what, There's more, Anya, Anya's not done. Anya looked

1491
01:08:26,080 --> 01:08:28,280
Speaker 1: like she wanted to slap me, but she continued to

1492
01:08:28,400 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 1: roast me instead. She said, my balls looked like prunes

1493
01:08:31,400 --> 01:08:33,640
Speaker 1: and my roommate was far more attractive than me. It

1494
01:08:33,760 --> 01:08:36,479
Speaker 1: was the longest two minutes of my life. I returned

1495
01:08:36,520 --> 01:08:38,879
Speaker 1: to my flat as soon as I saw the uber approaching.

1496
01:08:39,040 --> 01:08:41,920
Speaker 1: I didn't bother saying goodbye. This was by far the

1497
01:08:42,000 --> 01:08:46,519
Speaker 1: most bizarre and unhealthiest hookup I have ever experienced. Anya

1498
01:08:46,800 --> 01:08:50,240
Speaker 1: managed to unlock insecurities in me I didn't even know

1499
01:08:50,560 --> 01:08:51,200
Speaker 1: I had.

1500
01:08:51,560 --> 01:08:55,760
Speaker 6: Oh, that's so sad. She she has some issues to

1501
01:08:55,880 --> 01:08:56,160
Speaker 6: work on.

1502
01:08:56,479 --> 01:08:59,639
Speaker 2: I think she's just trying to stab anything that moves.

1503
01:08:59,439 --> 01:09:02,360
Speaker 5: You know, unleashed something in her. She got triggered, But

1504
01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:05,200
Speaker 5: I feel like how else was she expecting him to

1505
01:09:05,240 --> 01:09:05,560
Speaker 5: take that?

1506
01:09:05,880 --> 01:09:08,519
Speaker 2: So my question is have you ever had anything like

1507
01:09:08,640 --> 01:09:09,280
Speaker 2: this happened to you.

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01:09:09,520 --> 01:09:11,840
Speaker 5: I've dealt with a few body sham and comments. That's

1509
01:09:11,880 --> 01:09:14,360
Speaker 5: probably the most that I can relate to. This after

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01:09:14,439 --> 01:09:16,679
Speaker 5: a hookup, No, not after hookup, just in general.

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01:09:16,840 --> 01:09:19,080
Speaker 1: The worst hookup story that I've ever had. It was

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01:09:19,120 --> 01:09:22,759
Speaker 1: a tender date and the reason that there. It didn't

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01:09:22,840 --> 01:09:26,920
Speaker 1: go beyond us just talking. She made me drop everything

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01:09:27,160 --> 01:09:30,840
Speaker 1: to call my mom to figure out the time of

1515
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:34,639
Speaker 1: my birth so she could do our astrological star sign

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01:09:34,880 --> 01:09:36,200
Speaker 1: chart thing that is.

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01:09:36,479 --> 01:09:38,599
Speaker 2: That was the biggest turn off for me. Well, Emma,

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01:09:38,920 --> 01:09:39,960
Speaker 2: shall we get into the next story.

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01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:41,040
Speaker 6: Let's get into the next one.

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01:09:41,160 --> 01:09:41,519
Speaker 2: Let's do it.

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01:09:41,680 --> 01:09:45,040
Speaker 5: My boyfriend's brother just called me fat, so I clapped

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01:09:45,080 --> 01:09:48,120
Speaker 5: back hard. My boyfriend is furious and says I went

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01:09:48,200 --> 01:09:48,559
Speaker 5: too far?

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01:09:48,760 --> 01:09:51,000
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole pens if the clap back

1525
01:09:51,160 --> 01:09:53,000
Speaker 2: is like out of the boyfriend's weight class.

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01:09:53,240 --> 01:09:55,800
Speaker 5: So I, at twenty five female, have been dating my

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01:09:55,920 --> 01:09:59,040
Speaker 5: boyfriend at twenty nine mail for eight months. I moved

1528
01:09:59,040 --> 01:10:01,120
Speaker 5: to the US two years ago. I met my boyfriend

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01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:03,360
Speaker 5: at work. I mentioned this for context, and all is

1530
01:10:03,439 --> 01:10:05,560
Speaker 5: good so far. Then a week ago he said he

1531
01:10:05,640 --> 01:10:08,439
Speaker 5: wants me to meet his family. I agreed, and honestly,

1532
01:10:08,520 --> 01:10:10,519
Speaker 5: I was nervous and giddy about it because I felt

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01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:13,280
Speaker 5: like everything was going really smoothly and was excited about

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01:10:13,280 --> 01:10:13,960
Speaker 5: where it was going.

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01:10:14,080 --> 01:10:14,920
Speaker 6: He called his parents.

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01:10:15,000 --> 01:10:19,320
Speaker 2: God, I'm waiting for all the balls to drop at

1537
01:10:19,360 --> 01:10:20,439
Speaker 2: it to go terribly.

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01:10:20,640 --> 01:10:22,880
Speaker 5: It's too good right now. He called his parents and

1539
01:10:22,960 --> 01:10:25,120
Speaker 5: they were really excited to meet me, so we decided

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01:10:25,160 --> 01:10:27,439
Speaker 5: to make it a weekend. His parents have a spare room,

1541
01:10:27,520 --> 01:10:29,320
Speaker 5: so they offered it to us. When we got there,

1542
01:10:29,360 --> 01:10:32,040
Speaker 5: I was greeted with hugs from mother in law, sister

1543
01:10:32,120 --> 01:10:34,880
Speaker 5: in law, and her wife. Sister in law's wife. His

1544
01:10:35,040 --> 01:10:37,200
Speaker 5: father in law gave me a stern pat on the back,

1545
01:10:37,320 --> 01:10:39,519
Speaker 5: but he seemed like a reserved type of man, so

1546
01:10:39,600 --> 01:10:40,639
Speaker 5: I took it as a good sign.

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01:10:40,880 --> 01:10:43,200
Speaker 2: That's like the most father in law thing to do.

1548
01:10:43,439 --> 01:10:45,720
Speaker 2: It's like, how's it going, soun.

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01:10:46,040 --> 01:10:48,680
Speaker 5: I then met one of his two brothers, nineteen and

1550
01:10:48,760 --> 01:10:50,760
Speaker 5: the other one worked on Saturday, so he would only

1551
01:10:50,800 --> 01:10:53,240
Speaker 5: be there for dinner. We sat down and chatted and

1552
01:10:53,360 --> 01:10:56,120
Speaker 5: they got me some real British tea and slippers.

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01:10:55,680 --> 01:10:58,400
Speaker 6: And it was going really well. Then it came to dinner.

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01:10:58,520 --> 01:11:00,479
Speaker 6: It's hot and I'm in a her dress.

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01:11:00,720 --> 01:11:03,600
Speaker 2: It was hot. I was wearing a summer dress handbag

1556
01:11:03,680 --> 01:11:05,040
Speaker 2: from hermeasy yes.

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01:11:05,360 --> 01:11:07,800
Speaker 5: So that's when Mike twenty six mail came home. He

1558
01:11:07,880 --> 01:11:10,120
Speaker 5: lives with his parents after a nasty breakup with his

1559
01:11:10,200 --> 01:11:12,720
Speaker 5: ex a year ago. Boyfriend told me she screamed at

1560
01:11:12,800 --> 01:11:16,240
Speaker 5: him on Christmas for being a controlling sexist, A hole.

1561
01:11:16,400 --> 01:11:19,280
Speaker 5: She kicked him out of their apartment. My boyfriend introduced me.

1562
01:11:19,479 --> 01:11:21,719
Speaker 5: Mike looked me up and down but didn't say anything

1563
01:11:21,840 --> 01:11:22,640
Speaker 5: but nice to meet you.

1564
01:11:22,840 --> 01:11:25,160
Speaker 2: I brushed it off, frickin weird. A look up and

1565
01:11:25,280 --> 01:11:26,040
Speaker 2: down is weird.

1566
01:11:26,160 --> 01:11:28,880
Speaker 5: Halfway through dinner, the combo is flowing really nicely, and

1567
01:11:28,960 --> 01:11:31,759
Speaker 5: I feel comfortable when Mike, out of the blue asks

1568
01:11:31,880 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 5: if I'm pregnant. Now I am what people call midsize.

1569
01:11:35,479 --> 01:11:37,920
Speaker 5: Kudos to my boyfriend, who choked on his food. He

1570
01:11:38,000 --> 01:11:40,360
Speaker 5: got really upset by that comment. I replied with a

1571
01:11:40,439 --> 01:11:42,880
Speaker 5: laugh and said, no, the pregnant question.

1572
01:11:43,000 --> 01:11:45,519
Speaker 2: That's never okay, especially this someone you don't know.

1573
01:11:45,720 --> 01:11:48,720
Speaker 5: Boyfriend was staring daggers at Mike, who was staring at me.

1574
01:11:49,000 --> 01:11:52,120
Speaker 5: Then he said, boyfriend has never dated a fat girl before.

1575
01:11:52,280 --> 01:11:55,400
Speaker 5: I was so shocked my mouth went dry. Everyone kind

1576
01:11:55,439 --> 01:11:59,360
Speaker 5: of sucked in air and froze. Boyfriend has never dated

1577
01:11:59,439 --> 01:12:00,599
Speaker 5: a fat girl before.

1578
01:12:00,880 --> 01:12:03,559
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Mike, you sun.

1579
01:12:03,720 --> 01:12:05,840
Speaker 5: I think everyone was too stunned to speak because we

1580
01:12:05,920 --> 01:12:08,679
Speaker 5: were all frozen and staring. I was staring at Mike

1581
01:12:08,760 --> 01:12:12,400
Speaker 5: when he looked down at my breasts and continued, and

1582
01:12:12,560 --> 01:12:14,920
Speaker 5: you're showing a lot of skin. I'm not sure if

1583
01:12:14,920 --> 01:12:16,760
Speaker 5: he was trying to haze me, but that did it.

1584
01:12:16,920 --> 01:12:20,040
Speaker 5: I laughed so loudly that a few people jump. This

1585
01:12:20,160 --> 01:12:22,960
Speaker 5: is getting so worse. You'd think a twenty six year

1586
01:12:22,960 --> 01:12:26,840
Speaker 5: old man living with mummy and daddy would learn not

1587
01:12:27,080 --> 01:12:30,000
Speaker 5: to judge people. But then again, your girlfriend kicked you

1588
01:12:30,040 --> 01:12:31,720
Speaker 5: out for being a piece of shit, So what do

1589
01:12:31,840 --> 01:12:33,960
Speaker 5: I know? Oh? I like the clambag.

1590
01:12:34,280 --> 01:12:34,720
Speaker 4: I like it.

1591
01:12:36,200 --> 01:12:39,240
Speaker 5: Sister in law's wife and brother in law all laughed,

1592
01:12:39,360 --> 01:12:43,759
Speaker 5: but everyone else was shocked. Mike, however, got angry, stood

1593
01:12:43,840 --> 01:12:46,680
Speaker 5: up and told me fat girls shouldn't judge people. So

1594
01:12:46,840 --> 01:12:49,120
Speaker 5: I told him that neither should a man with a

1595
01:12:49,200 --> 01:12:54,519
Speaker 5: micro easy to say. Dinner was ruined. Mike got up

1596
01:12:54,560 --> 01:12:56,680
Speaker 5: and stormed out of the house. Sister in law and

1597
01:12:56,760 --> 01:12:59,080
Speaker 5: sister in law's wife stayed to clean up, and boyfriend

1598
01:12:59,120 --> 01:13:00,880
Speaker 5: took me to our room to calm me down. He

1599
01:13:00,960 --> 01:13:03,680
Speaker 5: told me what I did was justified. The next day

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01:13:03,920 --> 01:13:07,240
Speaker 5: was just boyfriend, me, and his parents. Boyfriend in law's

1601
01:13:07,320 --> 01:13:08,599
Speaker 5: hiding in his room after.

1602
01:13:08,439 --> 01:13:09,400
Speaker 6: An awkward breakfast.

1603
01:13:09,640 --> 01:13:12,040
Speaker 5: Mother in law is worried because Mike didn't come home

1604
01:13:12,240 --> 01:13:15,160
Speaker 5: and won't answer his calls. We left sorely after breakfast

1605
01:13:15,280 --> 01:13:17,519
Speaker 5: and father in law rubbed my back, but I got

1606
01:13:17,640 --> 01:13:19,560
Speaker 5: no hugs from mother in law and I know I

1607
01:13:19,680 --> 01:13:20,760
Speaker 5: over reacted.

1608
01:13:20,840 --> 01:13:23,000
Speaker 2: But am I the ankle? Yeah? I mean Mike sounds

1609
01:13:23,080 --> 01:13:24,160
Speaker 2: like an absolute piece of work.

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01:13:24,160 --> 01:13:27,720
Speaker 1: I don't think Op is the apple though for clapping back,

1611
01:13:27,880 --> 01:13:31,040
Speaker 1: although although like if she's trying to win brownie points

1612
01:13:31,200 --> 01:13:34,559
Speaker 1: by with like the family, this isn't the.

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01:13:34,600 --> 01:13:35,200
Speaker 2: Way to do it.

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01:13:35,360 --> 01:13:38,200
Speaker 6: But she didn't start it, so I don't I think.

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01:13:38,160 --> 01:13:40,519
Speaker 2: The other started She's in the right for sure.

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01:13:40,720 --> 01:13:43,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think the mother in law probably needs some

1617
01:13:43,680 --> 01:13:46,040
Speaker 5: time to get over the situation because that sounds like

1618
01:13:46,120 --> 01:13:50,040
Speaker 5: an awkward dinner. But I think that objectively, only one

1619
01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:51,040
Speaker 5: person was in the wrong.

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01:13:51,200 --> 01:13:52,439
Speaker 1: But I want to know what all of y'all did,

1621
01:13:52,520 --> 01:13:55,519
Speaker 1: would do And also have you ever been insulted by

1622
01:13:55,680 --> 01:13:59,120
Speaker 1: your significant others family or one of their family members.

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01:13:59,360 --> 01:14:01,360
Speaker 1: I would love to hear those stories in the comments.

1624
01:14:01,479 --> 01:14:03,000
Speaker 1: And with that, let's get into the next story.

1625
01:14:03,160 --> 01:14:06,080
Speaker 2: Let's do it. I tricked my boyfriend into cheating and

1626
01:14:06,280 --> 01:14:08,920
Speaker 2: now we're breaking up. Am I the end hole so far?

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01:14:09,120 --> 01:14:09,280
Speaker 4: Yes?

1628
01:14:09,479 --> 01:14:11,479
Speaker 6: Right off the back? Definitely the a hole here.

1629
01:14:11,560 --> 01:14:14,280
Speaker 1: I am not knowing what's worse, my friend testing my

1630
01:14:14,360 --> 01:14:17,880
Speaker 1: boyfriend or my boyfriend falling for her baits. I told

1631
01:14:17,960 --> 01:14:19,920
Speaker 1: my friend there was no need to test his loyalty,

1632
01:14:20,040 --> 01:14:23,240
Speaker 1: but she kept on insisting and did it anyways, and

1633
01:14:23,479 --> 01:14:26,720
Speaker 1: she was right. She sent him a text online and

1634
01:14:26,840 --> 01:14:30,320
Speaker 1: asked if he wanted to talk or was horny, which

1635
01:14:30,400 --> 01:14:31,920
Speaker 1: is a great opener line.

1636
01:14:32,040 --> 01:14:33,840
Speaker 2: Hey do you want to just talk? Or are you horny?

1637
01:14:34,920 --> 01:14:35,559
Speaker 2: What's the vine?

1638
01:14:35,920 --> 01:14:41,280
Speaker 1: He responded both. Ultimately, he asked her to send a

1639
01:14:41,360 --> 01:14:44,240
Speaker 1: picture of her I feel sick. I don't know if

1640
01:14:44,280 --> 01:14:46,200
Speaker 1: I should even talk to him about this or just

1641
01:14:46,280 --> 01:14:48,439
Speaker 1: break up with him. Why would he talk about our

1642
01:14:48,479 --> 01:14:51,599
Speaker 1: future together, marriage and children? Tell me about his family

1643
01:14:51,920 --> 01:14:55,400
Speaker 1: and let his family see them, and then go around

1644
01:14:55,680 --> 01:14:58,960
Speaker 1: for some cat emoji picks and there is an update? Okay,

1645
01:14:59,400 --> 01:15:02,280
Speaker 1: but question for you, Emma, is this breakup worthy?

1646
01:15:02,560 --> 01:15:03,800
Speaker 6: Definitely break up worthy?

1647
01:15:04,080 --> 01:15:06,880
Speaker 5: It sounds like such an unhealthy relationship both sides. This

1648
01:15:07,720 --> 01:15:09,759
Speaker 5: definitely should not be talking about marriage.

1649
01:15:10,120 --> 01:15:12,439
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm not able to respond to everyone, but

1650
01:15:12,479 --> 01:15:15,240
Speaker 1: I greatly appreciate the advice and caring text answer a

1651
01:15:15,280 --> 01:15:18,760
Speaker 1: few questions the convo started. She basically said, Hey, want

1652
01:15:18,800 --> 01:15:21,479
Speaker 1: to talk or you just horny? He answered a bit

1653
01:15:21,520 --> 01:15:23,679
Speaker 1: of bull, sweetie, but we can do whatever you want.

1654
01:15:23,840 --> 01:15:27,519
Speaker 1: It's a sm app where you can post whatever is

1655
01:15:27,600 --> 01:15:30,280
Speaker 1: on your mind and can call to discuss with strangers.

1656
01:15:30,320 --> 01:15:32,479
Speaker 1: I don't believe my friend is interested in him. I

1657
01:15:32,560 --> 01:15:34,920
Speaker 1: think she genuinely was watching out for me. But I

1658
01:15:35,080 --> 01:15:38,160
Speaker 1: understand some of you think I'm a bad just a character. Also,

1659
01:15:38,479 --> 01:15:40,640
Speaker 1: he didn't know as my friend, as she didn't use

1660
01:15:40,720 --> 01:15:44,160
Speaker 1: her profile. I've never denied him so far. If anything,

1661
01:15:44,360 --> 01:15:47,840
Speaker 1: he chooses to abstain, and I've also asked him through

1662
01:15:47,960 --> 01:15:51,200
Speaker 1: phases of our relationship if he's happy or if there's

1663
01:15:51,200 --> 01:15:53,719
Speaker 1: anything he'd like me to improve on, But his answer

1664
01:15:54,280 --> 01:15:55,839
Speaker 1: is always I'm content.

1665
01:15:56,760 --> 01:15:59,160
Speaker 2: So that's more like info in the relationship. It just

1666
01:15:59,200 --> 01:16:01,120
Speaker 2: doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. It does not.

1667
01:16:01,320 --> 01:16:04,360
Speaker 5: There's a lot of lies, not much communication. I think

1668
01:16:05,000 --> 01:16:07,160
Speaker 5: the abstaining is confusing him.

1669
01:16:07,320 --> 01:16:11,200
Speaker 1: Cheating on you is not because you didn't fulfill him exactly.

1670
01:16:11,520 --> 01:16:14,680
Speaker 1: Totally has to do with him not being a good

1671
01:16:14,720 --> 01:16:16,599
Speaker 1: partner rather than you not being a good partner.

1672
01:16:16,720 --> 01:16:19,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, if she has set the precedent of the relationship

1673
01:16:19,920 --> 01:16:22,160
Speaker 5: and he clearly agreed to it, or at least they

1674
01:16:22,200 --> 01:16:24,760
Speaker 5: were on the same page, and that's not on her

1675
01:16:24,800 --> 01:16:25,400
Speaker 5: in any way.

1676
01:16:25,479 --> 01:16:28,519
Speaker 6: To try to read between the lines of what he

1677
01:16:28,640 --> 01:16:29,200
Speaker 6: really wants.

1678
01:16:29,320 --> 01:16:30,000
Speaker 2: Maybe yeah.

1679
01:16:30,040 --> 01:16:31,439
Speaker 1: But what I want to know is I want to

1680
01:16:31,520 --> 01:16:35,479
Speaker 1: know if you guys have any texts that you either

1681
01:16:35,560 --> 01:16:38,960
Speaker 1: caught either a friend sending or a partner sending that

1682
01:16:39,280 --> 01:16:41,280
Speaker 1: you're like, that's a little suss. I want to hear

1683
01:16:41,360 --> 01:16:45,960
Speaker 1: your sustexts in the comments below. But with that, Emma,

1684
01:16:46,240 --> 01:16:49,240
Speaker 1: thank you so much for coming on the good Emma

1685
01:16:49,320 --> 01:16:50,000
Speaker 1: working for the people.

1686
01:16:50,080 --> 01:16:50,400
Speaker 2: Find you.

1687
01:16:50,760 --> 01:16:53,000
Speaker 5: You can find me streaming on Twitch three days a

1688
01:16:53,080 --> 01:16:56,839
Speaker 5: week Tuesdays, Wednesday, Thursdays, and I'm also a lot on YouTube.

1689
01:16:56,920 --> 01:16:59,280
Speaker 5: We do a lot of build videos, gameplay videos, all

1690
01:16:59,360 --> 01:17:02,240
Speaker 5: the SIMS four and my username across all social media

1691
01:17:02,439 --> 01:17:03,439
Speaker 5: is high Emina Cole.

1692
01:17:03,640 --> 01:17:06,439
Speaker 1: All right, well bye Emana Cole. It was great having

1693
01:17:06,520 --> 01:17:09,320
Speaker 1: you and we'll see all of you very soon.

1694
01:17:09,520 --> 01:17:09,800
Speaker 5: Bye.

1695
01:17:10,320 --> 01:17:10,599
Speaker 2: Peace,