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Speaker 1: It's light work, light work. We're doing doing Dillans eight

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Speaker 1: little that's like three ubers. Come on, three ubers, you know,

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Speaker 1: a few Dave and Busters. Oh, you're going to maybe

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Speaker 1: like Clash of Clans, making sure you get that that gold.

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Speaker 1: Gotta get a baby, gotta get that. Okay, it's okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: angry Birds. I don't know what other and what other

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Speaker 1: know that one. Let's see. I am nineteen and I

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Speaker 1: my brothers and I were young. Eldest was eleven, second

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Speaker 1: so op, he's the youngest. They left money for each

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Speaker 2: Bro get turning eighteen and getting two hundred and thirty

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Speaker 2: grand insane. That's I would have pieced that out a

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Speaker 2: just getting two hundred thirty parents are dead though, No,

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Speaker 1: You would give it like you give like eighteen and

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Speaker 1: I thought you were about to say, is like, damn

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Speaker 3: Five parents, wank wank.

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Speaker 1: I decided to split the money into two accounts, seventy

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Speaker 1: I wasn't spending much every month, and my grandma has

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Speaker 1: straight into my brother's accounts. He had somehow gotten hold

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. And he's like not even eighteen years old.

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Speaker 1: So no, no, So he's the brother is like twenty one,

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Speaker 3: Oh, grow throw him in jail, like that is bad.

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Speaker 1: So we're still going a little bit okay. So he

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Speaker 1: to spend one hundred ninety seven thousand dollars? Right? Maybe

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Speaker 3: What did he do? Sam?

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Speaker 1: What did it all on? Food? And in game purchases?

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Speaker 1: How it's a line of Uber eats, Postmates and game purchases.

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Speaker 1: My grandma wants me to forgive him and let him

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Speaker 1: My mind is completely blown round. That would suck so much?

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Speaker 1: What two hundred k? Two hundred k gone?

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Speaker 3: Oh to spend that much on that, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I guess it has to be the in game purchases,

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Speaker 1: So there's an update. Oh oh god. So question one

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Speaker 1: Apparently my grandma sends him to the store with her

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Speaker 1: And there's another update. I've managed to convince my grandma,

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Speaker 1: just screwed. Oh wow, oh p The brother is such

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Speaker 1: In game purchase, unless he's gonna like maybe he can

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Speaker 1: either way. But damn that sucks. Guys, watch your bank accounts,

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Speaker 2: There's money, like I was. I was about to say,

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Speaker 2: Like just figure out way to watch your finances. Watch,

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Speaker 2: watch your finances. My girlfriend broke up with me, had

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Speaker 4: Okay, op, but dumb, dumb but dumb, dumb but dumb,

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend broke up with me, had a baby with

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Speaker 3: Not a situation I would want to be in.

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Speaker 1: No, but I want to hear about it and live

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Speaker 1: Knock baby dude, frick like dude, this is so tough.

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Speaker 1: I don't think he's an a hole for saying no,

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Speaker 1: I mean like it's like it's not his problem necessarily,

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Speaker 1: it's definitely not the nicest thing he could do. Like

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Speaker 1: it's not his responsibility, right, Like he's not related by blood.

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Speaker 1: He dated this girl for a couple of years, and

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Speaker 2: Actually, there there was an interesting comment that I pulled

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Speaker 2: Great handle there, Oh, I actually got some kryptonite right here.

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Speaker 2: Uh oh bute, Yeah, that is right there.

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Speaker 3: You've been crystaled.

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Speaker 2: The kid doesn't remember you, it's been two years. She

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Speaker 3: Since you were so boring, baby.

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Speaker 1: Not Like, if you want to become a better person,

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Speaker 1: A little sugar to your side, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Like I had an ex girlfriend of like three years.

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Speaker 3: Like you dated her for four or five years.

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Speaker 1: I did her for two years and it ended like

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Speaker 1: If she suddenly said, Sam, I'm dying, can you adopt

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Speaker 1: it's I don't I don't think I'm like uh, No,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want you.

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Speaker 3: I don't want you in my life, in my family's life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And you can't just like say like hey, you know,

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Speaker 1: Like that's not how it works. No.

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Speaker 3: No, if like Op really wanted to, that's fine.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but you know what, it is okay to.

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