Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey Brightside fam. Today on the show, we're
Speaker 1: popping off and dishing on the biggest pop culture stories
Speaker 1: of the week, and this time we're joined by two
Speaker 1: of the co hosts from the new Prime video show Influenced,
Speaker 1: Achang Agutu and Tarn Delaney Smith. It's Friday, August ninth.
Speaker 1: I'm Simone Boyce.
Speaker 2: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from
Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to
Speaker 2: share women's stories, to laugh, learn and brighten your day.
Speaker 1: Danielle, Happy Friday. We have had some moments to discuss this.
Speaker 2: Week, Yes we have, and we are taking no mess,
Speaker 2: which is a little easter egg for an episode to come.
Speaker 3: But it's time for the weekend.
Speaker 1: This weekend is the official end of the Olympics, y'all.
Speaker 1: I can't wait to see the closing ceremony on Sunday.
Speaker 1: I wonder what they're going to cook up for us.
Speaker 4: Well.
Speaker 1: On today's show, we're talking about a gold medal podium
Speaker 1: moment that will go down in Olympics history, an alist
Speaker 1: actor who's still having to defend her body on set,
Speaker 1: plus a controversial relationship trend.
Speaker 2: But before we go there, it's time to spotlight our
Speaker 2: favorite moment of the week, brought to you by our
Speaker 2: friends at BMW. The Olympics have been all over our
Speaker 2: feeds the last couple of weeks. We've witnessed some truly
Speaker 2: special moments from athletes all over the world. Some of
Speaker 2: my personal favorites have been with Simone Biles and cheering
Speaker 2: on Katie Ladeki as she swam her way into greatness
Speaker 2: yet again. And today we're spotlighting the youngest person to
Speaker 2: earn a gold medal in Australian history.
Speaker 1: And on that note, it's time to give Arisa True
Speaker 1: her flowers because at just fourteen years old, she is
Speaker 1: a gold medalist in the women's park skateboarding final. Arisa
Speaker 1: is the first Australian woman to meddle in this event
Speaker 1: and this was actually her first trip to the Olympics
Speaker 1: and poof, she got gold. Can you imagine earning Olympic
Speaker 1: medal that young four cred years old? Talk about bragging
Speaker 1: rights at school the next day. Okay, this is funny, Danielle,
Speaker 1: Guess that's how she wanted to celebrate. Tell me her
Speaker 1: parents told her she could get a pet duck if
Speaker 1: she won.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 1: How adorable.
Speaker 3: Is that that's so fourteen years old.
Speaker 2: That's not how I'd want to celebrate, But good for her.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 2: It's such a milestone. Congratulations to Arisa.
Speaker 6: True.
Speaker 3: We're so excited to see you win gold. Simone. We
Speaker 3: have something else we're celebrating.
Speaker 6: We do.
Speaker 1: It's a big day today.
Speaker 2: It is a big day. It is our one hundredth episode.
Speaker 1: One hundred episodes. I can't believe it's been one hundred.
Speaker 2: You know what's funny is you and I came from TV,
Speaker 2: and when you do one hundredth episode in TV, it
Speaker 2: means you've had like a bajillion seasons.
Speaker 3: It's a huge milestone.
Speaker 2: And we do a daily show, so it feels like
Speaker 2: this hundredth episode came so quickly.
Speaker 1: It really did snuck up on us. And it's been
Speaker 1: such a joy sharing the show with all of our besties.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for helping us make this show
Speaker 1: a success. Y'all ready to pop off? Let's do it okay.
Speaker 1: Today we are joined by two of the amazing co
Speaker 1: hosts of the Prime video show Influenced. We have achang Agutu.
Speaker 1: She is your confidence Queen, a blogger turn model turned
Speaker 1: culture maker, culture Shift or Honey. She is the twenty
Speaker 1: twenty four Sports Illustrated Swimsuit rookie and her fashion is
Speaker 1: nothing but fabulous and inspiring hi Vestie.
Speaker 2: We also have the former beauty queen and self titled
Speaker 2: reigning Chaos Goblin, an actor, a comedian, and a beautiful
Speaker 2: human being making us all laugh and sometimes cry in
Speaker 2: the best way.
Speaker 3: Taren Delaney Smith.
Speaker 6: Hey, you're rying Hello. Thanks for having me.
Speaker 2: So you two, along with your other co host Teffi Psoa,
Speaker 2: c rus Vacy and Il Booker, can all be seen
Speaker 2: on your new show Influenced, and you guys are breaking
Speaker 2: down all of our favorite trends. So it's so perfect
Speaker 2: that you're here today to do that with us. Welcome
Speaker 2: to the bright Side, Besties.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Thank you for having us.
Speaker 2: You guys are officially besties. We're all part of the
Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine family. Like it's the real besties here.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Huge, congratulations on the new show. I binged this weekend
Speaker 2: and I felt influenced.
Speaker 3: It worked on me.
Speaker 2: You guys are really bringing so much heart and a
Speaker 2: lot of laughter to that couch that you're all sitting on,
Speaker 2: and it's a new type of talk show. How do
Speaker 2: you think it's standing out.
Speaker 5: I think it is showing that young people are forming cultures,
Speaker 5: influencing culture, making things shift and shake. I think it's
Speaker 5: also just an exciting way to show how social media
Speaker 5: is really very much a part of our lives and
Speaker 5: influences the way things ebb and flow influences what we do,
Speaker 5: who we are. But I think it's just a fun, exciting,
Speaker 5: delicious way to show the world that we are the future.
Speaker 4: Honey. Yeah, I think it's really fun to watch people
Speaker 4: that I love interact with the show and my community
Speaker 4: interact with the show, because for them, they're like, wow,
Speaker 4: I can't wait to watch just when I get home
Speaker 4: from work. It's so fun to feel like I'm on
Speaker 4: the couch with you guys. It's just easy to watch
Speaker 4: and it's joyful. And I'm really interested in being part
Speaker 4: of things that ignite joy and that's a really cool
Speaker 4: conversation be part of. And I think shout out to
Speaker 4: Hello Sunshine for their job, and Hello Eensine and Amazon
Speaker 4: and there casting. Because once we all sat down on
Speaker 4: that couch together, we realized why we each we selected,
Speaker 4: and the largely was because the way that we all
Speaker 4: connected with each other. Was so genuine and so fun,
Speaker 4: and we all have a group chat that we're talk
Speaker 4: in almost every day.
Speaker 1: That's real, Auchang. We can see the glass skin from here.
Speaker 1: Our listeners cannot see it, but we can definitely see
Speaker 1: the glass skin. It's blinding. It's beautiful. We hear that
Speaker 1: you have an amazing self care routine that you think
Speaker 1: everyone needs to do.
Speaker 6: What is it?
Speaker 5: My go to self care routine, which I've just talked
Speaker 5: about right now, is one hundred percent moving your body,
Speaker 5: like even yesterday this morning. It's just kind of like
Speaker 5: a little stretch shake to kind of have your emotions
Speaker 5: in motion. Mine is high vibrational booty shaking, and just
Speaker 5: throwing that booty in a circle really has you feeling
Speaker 5: some kind of race.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 5: It has all your trauma kind of moving, It has
Speaker 5: your emotions moving, It has your body moving, so you're
Speaker 5: letting go of things, but also just being aware of
Speaker 5: things that.
Speaker 1: Your body can do.
Speaker 5: If you guys need a tutorial, I'm hosting a class.
Speaker 1: Are you really no? I should really? Can I go?
Speaker 1: Please sign up? Sign me up?
Speaker 6: Oh my god, come higher.
Speaker 5: Rational booty shaking is where it's at. And I think
Speaker 5: you should try today.
Speaker 2: Taren, we have to say a huge congratulations, not just
Speaker 2: for the show, but you have a husband. Officially, there
Speaker 2: are no longer fyance. How is how is your wedding?
Speaker 4: I mean, I got married two weeks ago and I'm
Speaker 4: still married, so it's going great, which is amazing.
Speaker 6: It was wonderful.
Speaker 4: I really wanted my wedding to feel like the best
Speaker 4: dinner party anyone's ever been to. We had these huge,
Speaker 4: long tables covered in candles and greenery, and the majority
Speaker 4: of our wedding was dinner with our life pianist, my
Speaker 4: friend Aaron Buckner's incredible. He just played all of our
Speaker 4: favorite songs all night.
Speaker 3: Taren.
Speaker 2: I have to tell you just from my perspective watching online,
Speaker 2: because I've been lucky enough to know you for a
Speaker 2: little bit. Taren is from Seattle and she's been dating
Speaker 2: the same man for years, and they moved. They moved
Speaker 2: to New York, and they were broke and working really
Speaker 2: tough jobs. Taren used to be a secretary, and you
Speaker 2: two really built a life together. So when I was
Speaker 2: on Instagram watching photos from your wedding, I guess I
Speaker 2: like felt it almost in a deeper way, because I
Speaker 2: was like, you really built this, you built this life,
Speaker 2: you built this love, and so it was such a
Speaker 2: big celebration.
Speaker 6: Thank you. Yeah, I know, it's really cool.
Speaker 4: I mean I met him when I was nineteen, and
Speaker 4: so we've grown up quite a bit together, and I
Speaker 4: mean I always say this. I'm like, I think your
Speaker 4: partner should be your biggest cheerleader in every capacity. Your
Speaker 4: partner should be somebody who you can, you know, look
Speaker 4: for across the room and they've got a big smile.
Speaker 6: On for you, like, yeah, you got this. So it
Speaker 6: was so cool too, you know.
Speaker 4: When I came home from that job that I hated,
Speaker 4: I worked in a call center.
Speaker 6: I remember.
Speaker 4: I had made my first viral video with nuts. It
Speaker 4: was my first video I ever made on TikTok. As
Speaker 4: it went viral, I was discovered by my now manager
Speaker 4: and she had taken me out to coffee on my
Speaker 4: lunch hour and been like, you should quit your job.
Speaker 6: And you should do this full time. And I said, no,
Speaker 6: you're crazy, And I went home.
Speaker 3: Shout out Shoshana with the big dreams.
Speaker 4: And I came home and I told my now husband
Speaker 4: Ben boyfriend, I was like, can you believe this?
Speaker 6: Crazy woman wants me to quit my job.
Speaker 4: And it was actually my now husband who was like, Tea,
Speaker 4: you're so talented, you've got to do this. And I
Speaker 4: was like, I cannot afford, sir, to live off talents
Speaker 4: and you know, and he again was like Nazi, like
Speaker 4: you're not going to get this chance again.
Speaker 6: And he was the one that was like I got us,
Speaker 6: like I.
Speaker 4: Can pay all of our rent, like if you just
Speaker 4: pursue this. So it's all really, I mean, it's because
Speaker 4: of so many people. But I can never not thank
Speaker 4: my husband for being my biggest cheerleader.
Speaker 1: He's a good man. Savannah.
Speaker 6: I was big bild.
Speaker 2: Okay, well enough about you too, It's time to pop
Speaker 2: off about other people. Okay, are you ready already? It
Speaker 2: is the final week of the Olympics. We have all
Speaker 2: been watching and a moment that really stuck out to
Speaker 2: me was during the track and field events. So this
Speaker 2: week there was a French athlete named Alice Fino. She
Speaker 2: broke the European record for the three thousand meter steeplechase
Speaker 2: and she placed fourth overall and when she ran over
Speaker 2: the finish line, she ran over to the sidelines straight
Speaker 2: to her partner and she proposed within Olympic pin that
Speaker 2: said love is in Paris, Okay. He obviously said yes,
Speaker 2: She's on the world's largest stage right now, and she
Speaker 2: proposed to him. My question for you is could that
Speaker 2: be you? Would you all ever propose to a man?
Speaker 6: Here's what I'm gonna say.
Speaker 4: When I first saw that video, my initial reaction was like, hell, yeah,
Speaker 4: I thought that was great. I was like, that so cool,
Speaker 4: and I was I literally I should it's here because
Speaker 4: as I would any other proposal.
Speaker 6: I just thought it was so sweet.
Speaker 4: I didn't even think about it until I went to
Speaker 4: the comments and they were so naked as we can imagine.
Speaker 4: My people were like, oh, don't do this. I mean,
Speaker 4: I didn't like the discourse I found it. So I
Speaker 4: was like, are we still doing this where it's like,
Speaker 4: I don't know. I just I didn't enjoy the fact
Speaker 4: that people couldn't take it for what it was, which
Speaker 4: is this beautiful thing. They were both emotional, they were
Speaker 4: both obviously so deeply in love, and she asked him
Speaker 4: to marry.
Speaker 6: Her, and so it was great.
Speaker 4: However, for me, within the boundaries of my relationship, my
Speaker 4: husband and I knew we were going to get married
Speaker 4: from our first day, like we literally talked about it
Speaker 4: on our second date, Like he knew for the ten
Speaker 4: years or together that we were going to get married.
Speaker 4: He actually tried to marry me many years ago, and
Speaker 4: I wasn't ready because I wanted to win Miss America.
Speaker 4: I want to Miss New York. So there's a lot
Speaker 4: of things that I wasn't ready to get married. Yet
Speaker 4: we were on our own timeline, so we always knew
Speaker 4: he was going to ask me. I designed my own ring,
Speaker 4: like we did that our way. When we got engaged.
Speaker 4: There were people that were like, I.
Speaker 6: Can't believe they've been together for ten years.
Speaker 4: I'd never be with them for ten years and wait
Speaker 4: that long for them to marry me. People are always
Speaker 4: going to have an opinion on your relationship, on your timeline,
Speaker 4: and you've got to block it out because there is
Speaker 4: nothing more personal. There is nothing more personal than your partnership,
Speaker 4: be it to whatever gender they are or to whatever
Speaker 4: that you identify. You have got to block that out.
Speaker 4: So we can comment on this all day and how
Speaker 4: it wouldn't fit into the boundaries of our relationships, but
Speaker 4: really it doesn't really matter.
Speaker 5: So I think what she did was beautiful.
Speaker 1: Shout out to her. Okay, I know what you're about
Speaker 1: to say. Shout out to that lady. Love for her, Okay.
Speaker 1: I think that.
Speaker 5: She said this in her interview, saying, the reason I
Speaker 5: proposed was that I wanted to beat the women's three
Speaker 5: thousand steeple chase by nine, like the record was like
Speaker 5: nine minutes, and so she got like eight fifty eight
Speaker 5: or something, which is amazing. And then she said that
Speaker 5: number nine was her luckier and number nine was also
Speaker 5: the years that her and her partner have been together,
Speaker 5: and she said, because he wasn't.
Speaker 1: Going to do it, I decided to do it.
Speaker 5: And I think that's the part that got me. It
Speaker 5: felt like she really wanted this. She did it on
Speaker 5: a big stage where if this man said no, you'd
Speaker 5: be the asshole of the Olympics, Like, what the heck
Speaker 5: do you mean?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 5: And I think that it came out of a place
Speaker 5: of necessity for her, like she wanted the ring. This
Speaker 5: man wasn't going to give it to her, so she
Speaker 5: was going to use her space and this really big
Speaker 5: moment in her life to say, Yo, I want to
Speaker 5: marry you.
Speaker 4: Marry me.
Speaker 1: You know, in my head it felt like no conversation
Speaker 1: was had. In my head.
Speaker 5: It felt like he's not going to do it. It's been
Speaker 5: nine years, and I'm going to have to do it
Speaker 5: because I can't wait any longer. I support women's rights
Speaker 5: and women's wrong ungs, and for some reason, this just
Speaker 5: feels a little off to me. I want that love
Speaker 5: to prosper. I want that love to be great. She
Speaker 5: deserves that marriage, she deserves that ring. But I just
Speaker 5: don't think, especially in a day like that, you don't
Speaker 5: deserve to get on bended me to ask a man
Speaker 5: for his hand in marriage.
Speaker 1: I think that I personally would not.
Speaker 5: My mother would appear from the depths of her bedroom
Speaker 5: and appear to wherever I am on bended knee and
Speaker 5: push me over, madam, get up, stand up.
Speaker 1: Chaing the context that you dropped about her partner not
Speaker 1: having proposed to her and it's been what nine years,
Speaker 1: I think that is key here, Like the context is everything.
Speaker 1: It makes me. It does make me sad that she
Speaker 1: felt backed up against the wall, like, Okay, he's not
Speaker 1: going to do it, so I got to be the
Speaker 1: one to do it. That's giving me red flags about
Speaker 1: this relationship. Yeah, I think so really.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But don't you think sometimes people need a push,
Speaker 2: Like sometimes people want something but they just are scared
Speaker 2: to take it to the next level.
Speaker 3: They're scared to buy the house.
Speaker 1: She pushed him out of this playing with no parachute.
Speaker 3: We have to take a short break. Stick with us.
Speaker 1: We're back to popping off with the co hosts of
Speaker 1: the new show influenced Taren Delaney Smith and Achang Agutu.
Speaker 1: We do have another Olympics moment that we need to
Speaker 1: Kiki about. This one history making moment on the podium,
Speaker 1: the first all black podium in men's or women's gymnastics
Speaker 1: at the Allies.
Speaker 6: Yes, we shared that.
Speaker 1: Yes, when Rebecca andraj took home the gold in the
Speaker 1: floor event and we got to give a huge shout
Speaker 1: out to Simone Biles and Jordan Childs who placed second
Speaker 1: and third respectively. This moment was so special though, because
Speaker 1: Jordan mentioned to Simone, hey, Rebecca to come gold. What
Speaker 1: if we bow down to her during the podium ceremony
Speaker 1: and they did. And it is this moment, this photo
Speaker 1: that is completely emblazoned in my mind.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: I think it's so inspiring. It's like the girlhood of
Speaker 1: it all. For me, the fact that in that moment
Speaker 1: there was so much mutual respect and admiration between those
Speaker 1: three athletes, and the fact that like Simone Biles recognize,
Speaker 1: she knows she's the goat, like she knows that she
Speaker 1: is the main attraction at the Olympics in terms of
Speaker 1: a gymnastics event, but she took the time to recognize
Speaker 1: the skill and the talent of her competitor, of Rebecca.
Speaker 1: I can't think of enough good things to say about
Speaker 1: this moment. I'm disgushing. No, I love it. It's given girlhood, womanhood,
Speaker 1: girls being girls and all the fun stuff. And I
Speaker 1: think when it comes to sports, there is such a
Speaker 1: heavy sense of competition, like, y, if I'm winning, you
Speaker 1: can't be winning, or like and I know it's it's
Speaker 1: kind of like toxic, and especially on the Olympics, where
Speaker 1: everyone is great, like they have the best athletes of
Speaker 1: each country. And I know there was a little bit
Speaker 1: of backlash from a few people being like, oh, why are.
Speaker 5: They doing that? Why are they bowing down to her?
Speaker 5: Or why are they you know, doing this and that?
Speaker 5: But I feel like it's like they're giving her her flowers.
Speaker 5: The athletes who won gold had like so many injuries
Speaker 5: and all that stuff for her to go through, like
Speaker 5: so many torn cels and all that stuff, to come
Speaker 5: back to the Olympics and win gold. She deserves those
Speaker 5: flowers and to have her other counterparts and her other
Speaker 5: colleagues like respect her and give her her flowers and
Speaker 5: be like, yes.
Speaker 1: Girl, we're buying down to you.
Speaker 6: You deserve this.
Speaker 1: That's so beautiful.
Speaker 5: So for other people to see that as like it's silly,
Speaker 5: or it's disgusting or it's whatever, just.
Speaker 1: Did make sense to me. I think what you're bringing
Speaker 1: up is this comment from this NFL player, Marlon Humphrey
Speaker 1: from the Baltimore Ravens. Yes. He called it out on
Speaker 1: Twitter and said that this moment was literally disgusting, which
Speaker 1: is so confusing because like, I just know the weirds
Speaker 1: the weirdest comment.
Speaker 6: Why do men have access to Twitter? Time to take
Speaker 6: it away?
Speaker 4: My first thought was, anybody who doesn't understand that does
Speaker 4: not understand sisterhood, why would and why would he understands sisterhood?
Speaker 4: So I don't know why I would expect him to,
Speaker 4: But I will say that one thing my mom has
Speaker 4: always said is the greatest leaders of all time, the
Speaker 4: greatest leaders in our history know how and when to follow,
Speaker 4: which translates to the greatest leaders, people that are truly
Speaker 4: you know, masters of what they do and should be
Speaker 4: and should be looked to as role models. They know
Speaker 4: when to let others shine, they know when to promote
Speaker 4: amplify others. There's a sense of community there and they
Speaker 4: know how and when to foster it. And to me,
Speaker 4: those other two women on the podium that agree to
Speaker 4: you bow down, those are leaders. To me, yes, those
Speaker 4: are absolute leaders because they know how and when to
Speaker 4: foster community, you know, and genuine celebration for someone else.
Speaker 2: Taran, to your point, I just listened to a podcast
Speaker 2: with Brene Brown, Adam Grant, and Simon Sinek all about
Speaker 2: mental toughness and they said the one indicator of mental
Speaker 2: toughness is humility, Yes, and that to be in the
Speaker 2: Olympics requires extreme mental toughness. I think those women were
Speaker 2: showcasing humility. And also, when you are a part of
Speaker 2: any minority group, you need the person standing next to
Speaker 2: you more than anybody else, right, Like women women of
Speaker 2: color understand the idea of community better than most people,
Speaker 2: I think, And that was showcase there.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just thought it was the most beautiful thing.
Speaker 4: I want to frame that photo, put it in my house.
Speaker 1: I do too, It's so inspiring. Okay, we are going
Speaker 1: to take a hard left turn here, you guys. I'm
Speaker 1: going to take us back a little bit. Okay, okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm scared. Don't be scared. It's all good. What do
Speaker 1: you what do you think of when you think of
Speaker 1: Kate Winslet in the nineties, It girl.
Speaker 4: Rose Titanic, the most beautiful the face.
Speaker 6: Yes, oh, this is the face. I love the face.
Speaker 5: She was a little bit of America's sweetheart. Yes, it girl, Yes,
Speaker 5: it girl. I think of Titanic, I think of classic beauty. Well,
Speaker 5: behind the scenes, Kate Winslet was actually deeply impacted by
Speaker 5: the media's criticism of her weight, and she says that
Speaker 5: that's part of the reason why she developed an eating disorder.
Speaker 5: And it turns out the scrutiny never ends, because just
Speaker 5: this week, Kate Winslet revealed that on the set of
Speaker 5: her most recent movie, while she was shooting a scene
Speaker 5: in a bathing suit, a crew member on set told
Speaker 5: her to sit up more so that her belly.
Speaker 1: Rolls would show. Excuse me, Kate has been preparing I
Speaker 1: don't know, twenty years for this moment, like the amount
Speaker 1: of scrutiny and criticism that she has had to weather
Speaker 1: around her body. She knew exactly what to say, so
Speaker 1: here's how she responded. She said, not on your life.
Speaker 1: I am not going to sit up more. Not on
Speaker 1: your life. And she says that that response was deliberate.
Speaker 1: When asked if she had an issue with looking less
Speaker 1: perfect on screen, Kate said, quote, it's the opposite. I
Speaker 1: take pride in it because it's my life, and it's
Speaker 1: my life on my face, and that matters, and it
Speaker 1: wouldn't occur to me to cover any of this up.
Speaker 1: What's your reaction to how Kate Winslet handled that moment?
Speaker 3: A change you're having like a physical reaction? What's going on, Tria?
Speaker 1: That's so crazy?
Speaker 5: Number one, First of all, I'm glad she talked her
Speaker 5: shit and she said what had to be said. I think,
Speaker 5: especially women in the industry, the amount of scrutiny you
Speaker 5: get for anything like these. The you can be a
Speaker 5: popuarazzi picture of somebody walking outside and they're just walking
Speaker 5: like cause that's life, right, And you may be a
Speaker 5: little slouched over and the headline is like this person
Speaker 5: spotted looking like this, or have gained week for me?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 5: I just I don't understand society's obsession with not letting
Speaker 5: women be soft, and by soft, I mean like having
Speaker 5: flesh and having a body. The amount of scrutiny that
Speaker 5: I've received being on social media for people who have
Speaker 5: told me to go to the gym, who told me
Speaker 5: to lose weight, who've told me I will never amount
Speaker 5: to anything because I am a chubbier black woman that
Speaker 5: they can see my stretch marks, Like, the amount of
Speaker 5: scrutiny from that is absolutely insane.
Speaker 1: You're afraid of a little belly.
Speaker 5: Roll, something that shows that you are actually human, that
Speaker 5: you have life, that from your stomach, that you are
Speaker 5: breathing and living, that you have eaten well and nourished
Speaker 5: your temple, that you are existing in this beautiful wildlife.
Speaker 1: Like that's so crazy to me.
Speaker 5: And honey, if you want to see more belly rolls,
Speaker 5: you can catch me on Sports Illustrated because the roles
Speaker 5: aren't rolling there.
Speaker 1: Honey, it is life.
Speaker 5: And I'm glad that she's living in that truth because
Speaker 5: from things like like.
Speaker 1: Crows feet or wrinkles or stretch.
Speaker 5: Works, all these things. That is a body of a
Speaker 5: woman who has lived. And I can tell you Kate
Speaker 5: Winslet has lived, and I'm glad she said what she.
Speaker 1: Had to say.
Speaker 3: Ugh Taren, you're nodding. What do you think?
Speaker 4: This is an epidemic of pushing women from the moment
Speaker 4: that they hit puberty to be thin, to have flat stomachs,
Speaker 4: when in reality bodies were meant to bend and stretch
Speaker 4: and roll.
Speaker 6: What a blessing? What a blessing like that?
Speaker 4: Chang said, what a blessing if you have a body
Speaker 4: that bends and stretches and the softened places, because that
Speaker 4: is what bodies do.
Speaker 5: One other thing I have to say is I have
Speaker 5: come to a point where a lot of these things
Speaker 5: that are like thrown at you from people on the
Speaker 5: internet is always thinks those people are experiencing and insecurity,
Speaker 5: so people have and it's always like a putting it
Speaker 5: on you, like for a long time for me, I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 5: this is what my body looks like. Yeah I have
Speaker 5: a fuupa And I didn't clock to me that that
Speaker 5: was something that was maybe not accepted until people started
Speaker 5: calling it out like oh, maybe in that dress, maybe
Speaker 5: you should wear banks or something so that your stomach
Speaker 5: doesn't truth. In my head, I was like, Okay, that's fine.
Speaker 5: Like in my head, I was like, it's fine, this
Speaker 5: dress looks cute on me. But then somebody else would
Speaker 5: say that. I'm like, oh, it's not something I should
Speaker 5: be thinking of. Or maybe next time you should wear
Speaker 5: long sleeves. Arms done show.
Speaker 1: What do you mean, y'all? Like my arms is looking
Speaker 1: so cute in sixty indies Dreys, what do you mean?
Speaker 5: So those are always insecurities from other people, and people
Speaker 5: always project. When it's something they can't deal with, they
Speaker 5: will project it on you.
Speaker 2: I think that there's one part of this we haven't
Speaker 2: touched on yet, which is media. So I think about
Speaker 2: the viral thing on Instagram. You wouldn't last an hour
Speaker 2: in the asylum where they raised me. Trend And I
Speaker 2: remember going to grocery stores in Chicago, growing up in
Speaker 2: the suburbs and seeing the magazine covers of Okay and
Speaker 2: people in all these places, and they would circle women's
Speaker 2: stomachs on the beach and they would like circle. They
Speaker 2: would zoom in on Britney Spears, who was in incredible
Speaker 2: shape and say, look at this cellulite. And I think
Speaker 2: there was a generation of women that were raised on
Speaker 2: this idea.
Speaker 3: I know that it really impacted me.
Speaker 2: I can say that that media impacted me more than
Speaker 2: probably my friends at school or the good things my
Speaker 2: mother was telling me.
Speaker 3: It is so damaging, and.
Speaker 2: So I think social media in some ways has actually
Speaker 2: helped it because there are real people showing real bodies
Speaker 2: and body diversity that are making every other woman feel like, oh,
Speaker 2: this is normal and this is okay and this is beautiful.
Speaker 2: But the media scrutiny, which is I think what Kate
Speaker 2: Winslet is also alluding to, it was just horrendous.
Speaker 6: It was actlutly.
Speaker 4: I remember and like the way I remember growing up
Speaker 4: under the impression because I thought everywhere was Jessica Simpson.
Speaker 6: They just tore her for her body in the same
Speaker 6: the headlines.
Speaker 4: Talking about how fat Jessica Simpson was, and now I
Speaker 4: look back at photos of her during that era and
Speaker 4: I'm like, what, Like, I cannot believe that we we
Speaker 4: were brainwashed. We were brainwashed. And I also I feel
Speaker 4: and I feel terrible for these women that were subjected
Speaker 4: to this and nobody like I just don't feel that
Speaker 4: anybody was calling it out. I don't feel that anybody.
Speaker 4: I think that we are a lot better now about
Speaker 4: calling it out. I think it is so pervasive that
Speaker 4: it continues.
Speaker 6: This narrative has not gone anywhere.
Speaker 4: It's there, but at least we have platforms now that
Speaker 4: we can call it out and talk about it more.
Speaker 4: But it just makes me, It makes them so sad
Speaker 4: and it's so frustrating.
Speaker 2: Okay, I want to close out on a topic that
Speaker 2: is let's just say it's going to be a hot take,
Speaker 2: but I need a promise from all three of you
Speaker 2: before I jump in.
Speaker 3: I need your true, honest opinion.
Speaker 2: Now, what do you think people want to hear? Because
Speaker 2: this one it could get us.
Speaker 1: In some hot water. The proposal story was the warm up.
Speaker 1: This is I'm ready, Yeah, I'm ready.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: There is a new controversial relationship trend that is taking
Speaker 2: over the internet. It is called holly amory t l
Speaker 2: y amory. So this term was started by relationship columnists
Speaker 2: and podcaster Dan Savage, and it's a new term that
Speaker 2: means a partner or spouse turns a blind eye or
Speaker 2: tolerates their partner or spouse's sexual relations with other people.
Speaker 2: So TLDR, you're okay or tolerate cheating?
Speaker 3: Could you ever? Taren? I want to start with you.
Speaker 6: I have runners insurance.
Speaker 4: I would burn this apartment to the ground, and I
Speaker 4: know the walls heard me.
Speaker 6: Absolutely not.
Speaker 4: I like how we think that if we put a
Speaker 4: word on something that unfortunately people have been doing to
Speaker 4: their partners for years, that we're going to normalize it.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 4: I mean people have been having affairs since the dawn
Speaker 4: of time and it was hurtful then it's hurtful now.
Speaker 6: I think hell no is my general answer. But I
Speaker 6: really want to.
Speaker 4: Say whatever floats about, I want to say that it
Speaker 4: does not float mine.
Speaker 1: I'm not floating.
Speaker 3: Okay, what do you think?
Speaker 5: A but absolutely not, honey, not on Beyonce's Internet.
Speaker 1: Can you be saying that? Are you mad? Listen?
Speaker 5: Tolerating, tolerating betrayal, tolerating cheating a.
Speaker 1: Lot of people, I don't know.
Speaker 5: I wouldn't say I said it like married people or whatever,
Speaker 5: but it's people who have been in relationships for a while.
Speaker 5: Once you've built something, sometimes it's hard to let that go.
Speaker 5: But then it's a sunken cost. If somebody has disrespected
Speaker 5: you in your relationship in a way that you deem
Speaker 5: is not tolerable for you.
Speaker 1: I think you must pack your bags.
Speaker 5: And you need because you're you are tolerating this madness
Speaker 5: for the sake of who. Because at the end of
Speaker 5: the day, you're still upset, You're still mad, You're still worried.
Speaker 5: You're still worried if this person is going to do this, this,
Speaker 5: and this there. You're worried if this person is bringing
Speaker 5: what back into your house for the sake of what
Speaker 5: a nice house in West Village.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to throw in one little thing to
Speaker 2: stir the pot. I have a really close friend who
Speaker 2: got married when we were young, and she started having
Speaker 2: kids and stopped working, and so her husband is the
Speaker 2: breadwinner and finances her life and the children's life, their
Speaker 2: family's life, and she takes care of the kids. He
Speaker 2: cheated on her, and she called me and she was like,
Speaker 2: I love him, I don't want to break up our family.
Speaker 2: And I also feel stuck. I think once I'm not
Speaker 2: married or have children, so simon, I'm going to defer
Speaker 2: to you. Yeah, but once you have kids, I do
Speaker 2: think there's something that changes in your mind about cheating
Speaker 2: what do you think.
Speaker 1: I think that a marriage is strong enough to survive cheating.
Speaker 1: I mean, marriages do it all the time. I think
Speaker 1: what becomes problematic is a pattern of that, Like after
Speaker 1: you've repaired and after you've committed to rebuilding the trust
Speaker 1: as partners. If this is a pattern, which is what
Speaker 1: tollyamory is, it's like turning a blind eye. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying this is what every marriage should do, but I
Speaker 1: just I do want to say it is possible for
Speaker 1: a marriage to recover from an affair. And when you
Speaker 1: do have kids, there are more factors to consider. Now,
Speaker 1: I would say to that friend, she better get her
Speaker 1: finances in order, Like she needs to be autonomous, she
Speaker 1: needs to have agency in that relationship. I pray to
Speaker 1: God that she has at least transparency over the bills
Speaker 1: and how things are being She does.
Speaker 2: But she still doesn't want to break up her family,
Speaker 2: like she you know, She's.
Speaker 6: Which I can respect.
Speaker 4: And I think I think a lot of women out
Speaker 4: there I want to acknowledge. I feel like a lot
Speaker 4: of women out there they see this and this is
Speaker 4: the sacrifice.
Speaker 6: They're like, this is the sacrifice because.
Speaker 2: We see that with so many athletes wives, I think, right, yeah, But.
Speaker 4: What I'll say is I've never had married parents in
Speaker 4: my household. Right.
Speaker 6: My my mom.
Speaker 4: Separated from my dad right before I was born. We
Speaker 4: won't go into all that on this show. But what
Speaker 4: I can say is there was never a day that
Speaker 4: I wish my parents were married. Because my mom, yes,
Speaker 4: she struggled a lot.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 4: I don't feel broken from that. I feel strong from that.
Speaker 4: I love watching my mom know her worth and know
Speaker 4: what is good for her, and know that my mom
Speaker 4: wanted freedom, she wanted She was like, I wanted to
Speaker 4: live my life the way I wanted to, and I
Speaker 4: wanted to raise my children the way I wanted to.
Speaker 4: And so if I don't know, if anyone's listening to
Speaker 4: this and they're toggling between that, I can just say
Speaker 4: I'm from a home where that's happened, and my mom's.
Speaker 6: Okay, you did a great job.
Speaker 4: And I am now happily married, and I know that
Speaker 4: that's because I was raised by a woman who really
Speaker 4: taught me that I don't need a man to support
Speaker 4: her completely, but I do get to choose the partner
Speaker 4: that will love me in the way I need to
Speaker 4: be loved.
Speaker 1: That is so special.
Speaker 5: Because I think the thing is that also keeping that
Speaker 5: family unit where now there's no whether you've healed from
Speaker 5: that betrayal, where now there's a point where there's normal love.
Speaker 5: Your relationship with your partner is not the same. Kids
Speaker 5: peak a pickup on things like that, right, They can
Speaker 5: tell these attentions, They can tell the something that is wrong.
Speaker 5: So you would rather keep that toxic thing together for
Speaker 5: the sake of a space that.
Speaker 1: Has already been burnt down, you know.
Speaker 5: And I think when these children added into the equation,
Speaker 5: it does make things different. But like Tarn has said,
Speaker 5: there is space for healing, there is space for re restoration,
Speaker 5: whether it is and for my for me, I truly
Speaker 5: believe it can be by yourself and so for your friend. Yeah,
Speaker 5: try and figure out how you can have autonomy in
Speaker 5: that relationship where you you don't have to be folk
Speaker 5: like be like the only person who's bringing money back
Speaker 5: into this house is this man, and I cannot live
Speaker 5: without this man supporting me or my children.
Speaker 4: That you know, someone who did a great job of
Speaker 4: acknowledging that a marriage can heal. And then it doesn't
Speaker 4: necessarily mean if you stay you're foolish or something, right,
Speaker 4: like if you stay with a partner who really wants
Speaker 4: to repair things and.
Speaker 6: It's genuinely sorry.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 6: I also think there's beauty in that and that's good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's more so this whole toleration of betrayal,
Speaker 4: tolerating being hurt again and again and again. That's a
Speaker 4: different conversation.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think, yeah, to they need to take that
Speaker 5: off to the internet.
Speaker 1: Since they need to, someone's going to start a clult.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, taliamory cult. We can't be doing that. Okay.
Speaker 2: You guys are just incredible and smart and thoughtful and funny.
Speaker 2: And if you all want more of Tarin and Achang,
Speaker 2: which I'm sure you do, go watch Influenced on Amazon.
Speaker 2: It's so great. Thank you for popping off with us today.
Speaker 5: Yes, thank you, superstar, Thank you for having us pop
Speaker 5: off with y'all. Thank y'all.
Speaker 4: We love y'all.
Speaker 6: Thank you.
Speaker 2: Taren Delaney Smith and Achang Agutu are the co hosts
Speaker 2: of the new talk show Influenced. All ten episodes are
Speaker 2: available to stream right now on Prime Video.
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