1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:06,440 Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey Brightside fam. Today on the show, we're 2 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:09,080 Speaker 1: popping off and dishing on the biggest pop culture stories 3 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: of the week, and this time we're joined by two 4 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: of the co hosts from the new Prime video show Influenced, 5 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:19,119 Speaker 1: Achang Agutu and Tarn Delaney Smith. It's Friday, August ninth. 6 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:20,439 Speaker 1: I'm Simone Boyce. 7 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 2: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from 8 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:26,279 Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to 9 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:30,480 Speaker 2: share women's stories, to laugh, learn and brighten your day. 10 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 1: Danielle, Happy Friday. We have had some moments to discuss this. 11 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 2: Week, Yes we have, and we are taking no mess, 12 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 2: which is a little easter egg for an episode to come. 13 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 3: But it's time for the weekend. 14 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,240 Speaker 1: This weekend is the official end of the Olympics, y'all. 15 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: I can't wait to see the closing ceremony on Sunday. 16 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:53,720 Speaker 1: I wonder what they're going to cook up for us. 17 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:54,279 Speaker 4: Well. 18 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: On today's show, we're talking about a gold medal podium 19 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: moment that will go down in Olympics history, an alist 20 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 1: actor who's still having to defend her body on set, 21 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 1: plus a controversial relationship trend. 22 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 2: But before we go there, it's time to spotlight our 23 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 2: favorite moment of the week, brought to you by our 24 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:15,560 Speaker 2: friends at BMW. The Olympics have been all over our 25 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 2: feeds the last couple of weeks. We've witnessed some truly 26 00:01:18,880 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 2: special moments from athletes all over the world. Some of 27 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 2: my personal favorites have been with Simone Biles and cheering 28 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 2: on Katie Ladeki as she swam her way into greatness 29 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:33,319 Speaker 2: yet again. And today we're spotlighting the youngest person to 30 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 2: earn a gold medal in Australian history. 31 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: And on that note, it's time to give Arisa True 32 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 1: her flowers because at just fourteen years old, she is 33 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: a gold medalist in the women's park skateboarding final. Arisa 34 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: is the first Australian woman to meddle in this event 35 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: and this was actually her first trip to the Olympics 36 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: and poof, she got gold. Can you imagine earning Olympic 37 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: medal that young four cred years old? Talk about bragging 38 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: rights at school the next day. Okay, this is funny, Danielle, 39 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,559 Speaker 1: Guess that's how she wanted to celebrate. Tell me her 40 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: parents told her she could get a pet duck if 41 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:05,280 Speaker 1: she won. 42 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 5: Wow. 43 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: How adorable. 44 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 3: Is that that's so fourteen years old. 45 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 2: That's not how I'd want to celebrate, But good for her. 46 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 3: I love it. 47 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 2: It's such a milestone. Congratulations to Arisa. 48 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 6: True. 49 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 3: We're so excited to see you win gold. Simone. We 50 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,119 Speaker 3: have something else we're celebrating. 51 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 6: We do. 52 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 1: It's a big day today. 53 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 2: It is a big day. It is our one hundredth episode. 54 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 1: One hundred episodes. I can't believe it's been one hundred. 55 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 2: You know what's funny is you and I came from TV, 56 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:36,920 Speaker 2: and when you do one hundredth episode in TV, it 57 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:38,919 Speaker 2: means you've had like a bajillion seasons. 58 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 3: It's a huge milestone. 59 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 2: And we do a daily show, so it feels like 60 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 2: this hundredth episode came so quickly. 61 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: It really did snuck up on us. And it's been 62 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: such a joy sharing the show with all of our besties. 63 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for helping us make this show 64 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: a success. Y'all ready to pop off? Let's do it okay. 65 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:58,640 Speaker 1: Today we are joined by two of the amazing co 66 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 1: hosts of the Prime video show Influenced. We have achang Agutu. 67 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:07,400 Speaker 1: She is your confidence Queen, a blogger turn model turned 68 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: culture maker, culture Shift or Honey. She is the twenty 69 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: twenty four Sports Illustrated Swimsuit rookie and her fashion is 70 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: nothing but fabulous and inspiring hi Vestie. 71 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 2: We also have the former beauty queen and self titled 72 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:29,919 Speaker 2: reigning Chaos Goblin, an actor, a comedian, and a beautiful 73 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 2: human being making us all laugh and sometimes cry in 74 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 2: the best way. 75 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 3: Taren Delaney Smith. 76 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 6: Hey, you're rying Hello. Thanks for having me. 77 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:43,119 Speaker 2: So you two, along with your other co host Teffi Psoa, 78 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 2: c rus Vacy and Il Booker, can all be seen 79 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 2: on your new show Influenced, and you guys are breaking 80 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 2: down all of our favorite trends. So it's so perfect 81 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 2: that you're here today to do that with us. Welcome 82 00:03:56,560 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 2: to the bright Side, Besties. 83 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Thank you for having us. 84 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 2: You guys are officially besties. We're all part of the 85 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine family. Like it's the real besties here. 86 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 6: Yeah. 87 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 2: Huge, congratulations on the new show. I binged this weekend 88 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 2: and I felt influenced. 89 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 3: It worked on me. 90 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 2: You guys are really bringing so much heart and a 91 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 2: lot of laughter to that couch that you're all sitting on, 92 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 2: and it's a new type of talk show. How do 93 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 2: you think it's standing out. 94 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 5: I think it is showing that young people are forming cultures, 95 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 5: influencing culture, making things shift and shake. I think it's 96 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 5: also just an exciting way to show how social media 97 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 5: is really very much a part of our lives and 98 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 5: influences the way things ebb and flow influences what we do, 99 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,840 Speaker 5: who we are. But I think it's just a fun, exciting, 100 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 5: delicious way to show the world that we are the future. 101 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 4: Honey. Yeah, I think it's really fun to watch people 102 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 4: that I love interact with the show and my community 103 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 4: interact with the show, because for them, they're like, wow, 104 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:00,600 Speaker 4: I can't wait to watch just when I get home 105 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 4: from work. It's so fun to feel like I'm on 106 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 4: the couch with you guys. It's just easy to watch 107 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:09,479 Speaker 4: and it's joyful. And I'm really interested in being part 108 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 4: of things that ignite joy and that's a really cool 109 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 4: conversation be part of. And I think shout out to 110 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:20,080 Speaker 4: Hello Sunshine for their job, and Hello Eensine and Amazon 111 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 4: and there casting. Because once we all sat down on 112 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 4: that couch together, we realized why we each we selected, 113 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 4: and the largely was because the way that we all 114 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:31,159 Speaker 4: connected with each other. Was so genuine and so fun, 115 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 4: and we all have a group chat that we're talk 116 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 4: in almost every day. 117 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:38,600 Speaker 1: That's real, Auchang. We can see the glass skin from here. 118 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:41,599 Speaker 1: Our listeners cannot see it, but we can definitely see 119 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: the glass skin. It's blinding. It's beautiful. We hear that 120 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 1: you have an amazing self care routine that you think 121 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 1: everyone needs to do. 122 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 6: What is it? 123 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:53,719 Speaker 5: My go to self care routine, which I've just talked 124 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 5: about right now, is one hundred percent moving your body, 125 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 5: like even yesterday this morning. It's just kind of like 126 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 5: a little stretch shake to kind of have your emotions 127 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:11,720 Speaker 5: in motion. Mine is high vibrational booty shaking, and just 128 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,559 Speaker 5: throwing that booty in a circle really has you feeling 129 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 5: some kind of race. 130 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 1: Okay. 131 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 5: It has all your trauma kind of moving, It has 132 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 5: your emotions moving, It has your body moving, so you're 133 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 5: letting go of things, but also just being aware of 134 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 5: things that. 135 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: Your body can do. 136 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,720 Speaker 5: If you guys need a tutorial, I'm hosting a class. 137 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:38,119 Speaker 1: Are you really no? I should really? Can I go? 138 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: Please sign up? Sign me up? 139 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 6: Oh my god, come higher. 140 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:44,280 Speaker 5: Rational booty shaking is where it's at. And I think 141 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 5: you should try today. 142 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:49,840 Speaker 2: Taren, we have to say a huge congratulations, not just 143 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 2: for the show, but you have a husband. Officially, there 144 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 2: are no longer fyance. How is how is your wedding? 145 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 4: I mean, I got married two weeks ago and I'm 146 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:06,279 Speaker 4: still married, so it's going great, which is amazing. 147 00:07:06,880 --> 00:07:08,040 Speaker 6: It was wonderful. 148 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 4: I really wanted my wedding to feel like the best 149 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 4: dinner party anyone's ever been to. We had these huge, 150 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 4: long tables covered in candles and greenery, and the majority 151 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 4: of our wedding was dinner with our life pianist, my 152 00:07:25,960 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 4: friend Aaron Buckner's incredible. He just played all of our 153 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 4: favorite songs all night. 154 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 3: Taren. 155 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 2: I have to tell you just from my perspective watching online, 156 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 2: because I've been lucky enough to know you for a 157 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 2: little bit. Taren is from Seattle and she's been dating 158 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 2: the same man for years, and they moved. They moved 159 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 2: to New York, and they were broke and working really 160 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 2: tough jobs. Taren used to be a secretary, and you 161 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 2: two really built a life together. So when I was 162 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 2: on Instagram watching photos from your wedding, I guess I 163 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 2: like felt it almost in a deeper way, because I 164 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 2: was like, you really built this, you built this life, 165 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 2: you built this love, and so it was such a 166 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 2: big celebration. 167 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 6: Thank you. Yeah, I know, it's really cool. 168 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 4: I mean I met him when I was nineteen, and 169 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 4: so we've grown up quite a bit together, and I 170 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 4: mean I always say this. I'm like, I think your 171 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 4: partner should be your biggest cheerleader in every capacity. Your 172 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 4: partner should be somebody who you can, you know, look 173 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 4: for across the room and they've got a big smile. 174 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:36,080 Speaker 6: On for you, like, yeah, you got this. So it 175 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:38,080 Speaker 6: was so cool too, you know. 176 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 4: When I came home from that job that I hated, 177 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 4: I worked in a call center. 178 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 6: I remember. 179 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 4: I had made my first viral video with nuts. It 180 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 4: was my first video I ever made on TikTok. As 181 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 4: it went viral, I was discovered by my now manager 182 00:08:53,679 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 4: and she had taken me out to coffee on my 183 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 4: lunch hour and been like, you should quit your job. 184 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:01,679 Speaker 6: And you should do this full time. And I said, no, 185 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:05,359 Speaker 6: you're crazy, And I went home. 186 00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 3: Shout out Shoshana with the big dreams. 187 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 4: And I came home and I told my now husband 188 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 4: Ben boyfriend, I was like, can you believe this? 189 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 6: Crazy woman wants me to quit my job. 190 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 4: And it was actually my now husband who was like, Tea, 191 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 4: you're so talented, you've got to do this. And I 192 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:28,679 Speaker 4: was like, I cannot afford, sir, to live off talents 193 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 4: and you know, and he again was like Nazi, like 194 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 4: you're not going to get this chance again. 195 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 6: And he was the one that was like I got us, 196 00:09:37,720 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 6: like I. 197 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,080 Speaker 4: Can pay all of our rent, like if you just 198 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 4: pursue this. So it's all really, I mean, it's because 199 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 4: of so many people. But I can never not thank 200 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 4: my husband for being my biggest cheerleader. 201 00:09:50,360 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: He's a good man. Savannah. 202 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 6: I was big bild. 203 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 2: Okay, well enough about you too, It's time to pop 204 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 2: off about other people. Okay, are you ready already? It 205 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 2: is the final week of the Olympics. We have all 206 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 2: been watching and a moment that really stuck out to 207 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 2: me was during the track and field events. So this 208 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:14,080 Speaker 2: week there was a French athlete named Alice Fino. She 209 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:17,840 Speaker 2: broke the European record for the three thousand meter steeplechase 210 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:20,559 Speaker 2: and she placed fourth overall and when she ran over 211 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 2: the finish line, she ran over to the sidelines straight 212 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 2: to her partner and she proposed within Olympic pin that 213 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:31,560 Speaker 2: said love is in Paris, Okay. He obviously said yes, 214 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 2: She's on the world's largest stage right now, and she 215 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 2: proposed to him. My question for you is could that 216 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:41,960 Speaker 2: be you? Would you all ever propose to a man? 217 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 6: Here's what I'm gonna say. 218 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 4: When I first saw that video, my initial reaction was like, hell, yeah, 219 00:10:46,679 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 4: I thought that was great. I was like, that so cool, 220 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 4: and I was I literally I should it's here because 221 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 4: as I would any other proposal. 222 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:54,160 Speaker 6: I just thought it was so sweet. 223 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 4: I didn't even think about it until I went to 224 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 4: the comments and they were so naked as we can imagine. 225 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 4: My people were like, oh, don't do this. I mean, 226 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 4: I didn't like the discourse I found it. So I 227 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 4: was like, are we still doing this where it's like, 228 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 4: I don't know. I just I didn't enjoy the fact 229 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 4: that people couldn't take it for what it was, which 230 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:16,840 Speaker 4: is this beautiful thing. They were both emotional, they were 231 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:19,840 Speaker 4: both obviously so deeply in love, and she asked him 232 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:20,479 Speaker 4: to marry. 233 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:21,319 Speaker 6: Her, and so it was great. 234 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 4: However, for me, within the boundaries of my relationship, my 235 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 4: husband and I knew we were going to get married 236 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 4: from our first day, like we literally talked about it 237 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 4: on our second date, Like he knew for the ten 238 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 4: years or together that we were going to get married. 239 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 4: He actually tried to marry me many years ago, and 240 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:41,120 Speaker 4: I wasn't ready because I wanted to win Miss America. 241 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 4: I want to Miss New York. So there's a lot 242 00:11:42,800 --> 00:11:44,320 Speaker 4: of things that I wasn't ready to get married. Yet 243 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 4: we were on our own timeline, so we always knew 244 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 4: he was going to ask me. I designed my own ring, 245 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:52,439 Speaker 4: like we did that our way. When we got engaged. 246 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 4: There were people that were like, I. 247 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:56,599 Speaker 6: Can't believe they've been together for ten years. 248 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:58,719 Speaker 4: I'd never be with them for ten years and wait 249 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 4: that long for them to marry me. People are always 250 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:05,200 Speaker 4: going to have an opinion on your relationship, on your timeline, 251 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 4: and you've got to block it out because there is 252 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:12,080 Speaker 4: nothing more personal. There is nothing more personal than your partnership, 253 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 4: be it to whatever gender they are or to whatever 254 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 4: that you identify. You have got to block that out. 255 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 4: So we can comment on this all day and how 256 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:22,440 Speaker 4: it wouldn't fit into the boundaries of our relationships, but 257 00:12:22,559 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 4: really it doesn't really matter. 258 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 5: So I think what she did was beautiful. 259 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 1: Shout out to her. Okay, I know what you're about 260 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 1: to say. Shout out to that lady. Love for her, Okay. 261 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: I think that. 262 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 5: She said this in her interview, saying, the reason I 263 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:51,440 Speaker 5: proposed was that I wanted to beat the women's three 264 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:55,320 Speaker 5: thousand steeple chase by nine, like the record was like 265 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:57,800 Speaker 5: nine minutes, and so she got like eight fifty eight 266 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:02,080 Speaker 5: or something, which is amazing. And then she said that 267 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 5: number nine was her luckier and number nine was also 268 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:08,720 Speaker 5: the years that her and her partner have been together, 269 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 5: and she said, because he wasn't. 270 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: Going to do it, I decided to do it. 271 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:16,320 Speaker 5: And I think that's the part that got me. It 272 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 5: felt like she really wanted this. She did it on 273 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 5: a big stage where if this man said no, you'd 274 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 5: be the asshole of the Olympics, Like, what the heck 275 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 5: do you mean? 276 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 1: You know? 277 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:31,560 Speaker 5: And I think that it came out of a place 278 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 5: of necessity for her, like she wanted the ring. This 279 00:13:36,400 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 5: man wasn't going to give it to her, so she 280 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 5: was going to use her space and this really big 281 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 5: moment in her life to say, Yo, I want to 282 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:45,200 Speaker 5: marry you. 283 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:45,679 Speaker 4: Marry me. 284 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:48,880 Speaker 1: You know, in my head it felt like no conversation 285 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 1: was had. In my head. 286 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 5: It felt like he's not going to do it. It's been 287 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 5: nine years, and I'm going to have to do it 288 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 5: because I can't wait any longer. I support women's rights 289 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 5: and women's wrong ungs, and for some reason, this just 290 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,439 Speaker 5: feels a little off to me. I want that love 291 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 5: to prosper. I want that love to be great. She 292 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 5: deserves that marriage, she deserves that ring. But I just 293 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 5: don't think, especially in a day like that, you don't 294 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 5: deserve to get on bended me to ask a man 295 00:14:18,080 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 5: for his hand in marriage. 296 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 1: I think that I personally would not. 297 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 5: My mother would appear from the depths of her bedroom 298 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 5: and appear to wherever I am on bended knee and 299 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 5: push me over, madam, get up, stand up. 300 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 1: Chaing the context that you dropped about her partner not 301 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:39,960 Speaker 1: having proposed to her and it's been what nine years, 302 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:43,560 Speaker 1: I think that is key here, Like the context is everything. 303 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: It makes me. It does make me sad that she 304 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: felt backed up against the wall, like, Okay, he's not 305 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 1: going to do it, so I got to be the 306 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 1: one to do it. That's giving me red flags about 307 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: this relationship. Yeah, I think so really. 308 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, But don't you think sometimes people need a push, 309 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:04,400 Speaker 2: Like sometimes people want something but they just are scared 310 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 2: to take it to the next level. 311 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 3: They're scared to buy the house. 312 00:15:07,520 --> 00:15:11,440 Speaker 1: She pushed him out of this playing with no parachute. 313 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 3: We have to take a short break. Stick with us. 314 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:27,360 Speaker 1: We're back to popping off with the co hosts of 315 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: the new show influenced Taren Delaney Smith and Achang Agutu. 316 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: We do have another Olympics moment that we need to 317 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 1: Kiki about. This one history making moment on the podium, 318 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 1: the first all black podium in men's or women's gymnastics 319 00:15:44,360 --> 00:15:45,080 Speaker 1: at the Allies. 320 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 6: Yes, we shared that. 321 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 1: Yes, when Rebecca andraj took home the gold in the 322 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: floor event and we got to give a huge shout 323 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 1: out to Simone Biles and Jordan Childs who placed second 324 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:02,360 Speaker 1: and third respectively. This moment was so special though, because 325 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 1: Jordan mentioned to Simone, hey, Rebecca to come gold. What 326 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:10,400 Speaker 1: if we bow down to her during the podium ceremony 327 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 1: and they did. And it is this moment, this photo 328 00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 1: that is completely emblazoned in my mind. 329 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 3: Now. 330 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 1: I think it's so inspiring. It's like the girlhood of 331 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 1: it all. For me, the fact that in that moment 332 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 1: there was so much mutual respect and admiration between those 333 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 1: three athletes, and the fact that like Simone Biles recognize, 334 00:16:32,720 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 1: she knows she's the goat, like she knows that she 335 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:38,040 Speaker 1: is the main attraction at the Olympics in terms of 336 00:16:38,120 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 1: a gymnastics event, but she took the time to recognize 337 00:16:42,520 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: the skill and the talent of her competitor, of Rebecca. 338 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 1: I can't think of enough good things to say about 339 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 1: this moment. I'm disgushing. No, I love it. It's given girlhood, womanhood, 340 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 1: girls being girls and all the fun stuff. And I 341 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 1: think when it comes to sports, there is such a 342 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:07,160 Speaker 1: heavy sense of competition, like, y, if I'm winning, you 343 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:09,360 Speaker 1: can't be winning, or like and I know it's it's 344 00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 1: kind of like toxic, and especially on the Olympics, where 345 00:17:12,640 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 1: everyone is great, like they have the best athletes of 346 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:19,719 Speaker 1: each country. And I know there was a little bit 347 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:22,280 Speaker 1: of backlash from a few people being like, oh, why are. 348 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:24,520 Speaker 5: They doing that? Why are they bowing down to her? 349 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:27,000 Speaker 5: Or why are they you know, doing this and that? 350 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 5: But I feel like it's like they're giving her her flowers. 351 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:35,760 Speaker 5: The athletes who won gold had like so many injuries 352 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 5: and all that stuff for her to go through, like 353 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 5: so many torn cels and all that stuff, to come 354 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:42,560 Speaker 5: back to the Olympics and win gold. She deserves those 355 00:17:42,600 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 5: flowers and to have her other counterparts and her other 356 00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 5: colleagues like respect her and give her her flowers and 357 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:51,320 Speaker 5: be like, yes. 358 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 1: Girl, we're buying down to you. 359 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:53,080 Speaker 6: You deserve this. 360 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 1: That's so beautiful. 361 00:17:54,359 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 5: So for other people to see that as like it's silly, 362 00:17:57,000 --> 00:17:58,960 Speaker 5: or it's disgusting or it's whatever, just. 363 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:01,439 Speaker 1: Did make sense to me. I think what you're bringing 364 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:04,960 Speaker 1: up is this comment from this NFL player, Marlon Humphrey 365 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:08,840 Speaker 1: from the Baltimore Ravens. Yes. He called it out on 366 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 1: Twitter and said that this moment was literally disgusting, which 367 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:15,320 Speaker 1: is so confusing because like, I just know the weirds 368 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:16,359 Speaker 1: the weirdest comment. 369 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 6: Why do men have access to Twitter? Time to take 370 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 6: it away? 371 00:18:22,680 --> 00:18:25,120 Speaker 4: My first thought was, anybody who doesn't understand that does 372 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:30,280 Speaker 4: not understand sisterhood, why would and why would he understands sisterhood? 373 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 4: So I don't know why I would expect him to, 374 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:35,480 Speaker 4: But I will say that one thing my mom has 375 00:18:35,520 --> 00:18:38,800 Speaker 4: always said is the greatest leaders of all time, the 376 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 4: greatest leaders in our history know how and when to follow, 377 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:47,160 Speaker 4: which translates to the greatest leaders, people that are truly 378 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:50,040 Speaker 4: you know, masters of what they do and should be 379 00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 4: and should be looked to as role models. They know 380 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:55,880 Speaker 4: when to let others shine, they know when to promote 381 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 4: amplify others. There's a sense of community there and they 382 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 4: know how and when to foster it. And to me, 383 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 4: those other two women on the podium that agree to 384 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:10,640 Speaker 4: you bow down, those are leaders. To me, yes, those 385 00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 4: are absolute leaders because they know how and when to 386 00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 4: foster community, you know, and genuine celebration for someone else. 387 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:20,480 Speaker 2: Taran, to your point, I just listened to a podcast 388 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:23,960 Speaker 2: with Brene Brown, Adam Grant, and Simon Sinek all about 389 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:28,600 Speaker 2: mental toughness and they said the one indicator of mental 390 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 2: toughness is humility, Yes, and that to be in the 391 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:37,080 Speaker 2: Olympics requires extreme mental toughness. I think those women were 392 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 2: showcasing humility. And also, when you are a part of 393 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:46,240 Speaker 2: any minority group, you need the person standing next to 394 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:50,159 Speaker 2: you more than anybody else, right, Like women women of 395 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 2: color understand the idea of community better than most people, 396 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 2: I think, And that was showcase there. 397 00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, I just thought it was the most beautiful thing. 398 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:01,160 Speaker 4: I want to frame that photo, put it in my house. 399 00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:05,199 Speaker 1: I do too, It's so inspiring. Okay, we are going 400 00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: to take a hard left turn here, you guys. I'm 401 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 1: going to take us back a little bit. Okay, okay, Okay, 402 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:13,320 Speaker 1: I'm scared. Don't be scared. It's all good. What do 403 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:15,399 Speaker 1: you what do you think of when you think of 404 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:18,440 Speaker 1: Kate Winslet in the nineties, It girl. 405 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,080 Speaker 4: Rose Titanic, the most beautiful the face. 406 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:25,879 Speaker 6: Yes, oh, this is the face. I love the face. 407 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 5: She was a little bit of America's sweetheart. Yes, it girl, Yes, 408 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 5: it girl. I think of Titanic, I think of classic beauty. Well, 409 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:40,040 Speaker 5: behind the scenes, Kate Winslet was actually deeply impacted by 410 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:43,320 Speaker 5: the media's criticism of her weight, and she says that 411 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 5: that's part of the reason why she developed an eating disorder. 412 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 5: And it turns out the scrutiny never ends, because just 413 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 5: this week, Kate Winslet revealed that on the set of 414 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:55,200 Speaker 5: her most recent movie, while she was shooting a scene 415 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,440 Speaker 5: in a bathing suit, a crew member on set told 416 00:20:57,480 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 5: her to sit up more so that her belly. 417 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:03,919 Speaker 1: Rolls would show. Excuse me, Kate has been preparing I 418 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 1: don't know, twenty years for this moment, like the amount 419 00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:10,119 Speaker 1: of scrutiny and criticism that she has had to weather 420 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 1: around her body. She knew exactly what to say, so 421 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,400 Speaker 1: here's how she responded. She said, not on your life. 422 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,400 Speaker 1: I am not going to sit up more. Not on 423 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 1: your life. And she says that that response was deliberate. 424 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:25,080 Speaker 1: When asked if she had an issue with looking less 425 00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:27,879 Speaker 1: perfect on screen, Kate said, quote, it's the opposite. I 426 00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:32,200 Speaker 1: take pride in it because it's my life, and it's 427 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:34,480 Speaker 1: my life on my face, and that matters, and it 428 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 1: wouldn't occur to me to cover any of this up. 429 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: What's your reaction to how Kate Winslet handled that moment? 430 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:44,719 Speaker 3: A change you're having like a physical reaction? What's going on, Tria? 431 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:47,120 Speaker 1: That's so crazy? 432 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:49,439 Speaker 5: Number one, First of all, I'm glad she talked her 433 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:53,600 Speaker 5: shit and she said what had to be said. I think, 434 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,879 Speaker 5: especially women in the industry, the amount of scrutiny you 435 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 5: get for anything like these. The you can be a 436 00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:05,000 Speaker 5: popuarazzi picture of somebody walking outside and they're just walking 437 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 5: like cause that's life, right, And you may be a 438 00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:10,359 Speaker 5: little slouched over and the headline is like this person 439 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 5: spotted looking like this, or have gained week for me? 440 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: Why? 441 00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 5: I just I don't understand society's obsession with not letting 442 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:23,480 Speaker 5: women be soft, and by soft, I mean like having 443 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:28,959 Speaker 5: flesh and having a body. The amount of scrutiny that 444 00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:31,920 Speaker 5: I've received being on social media for people who have 445 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 5: told me to go to the gym, who told me 446 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:37,320 Speaker 5: to lose weight, who've told me I will never amount 447 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,560 Speaker 5: to anything because I am a chubbier black woman that 448 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:44,399 Speaker 5: they can see my stretch marks, Like, the amount of 449 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 5: scrutiny from that is absolutely insane. 450 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:52,080 Speaker 1: You're afraid of a little belly. 451 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 5: Roll, something that shows that you are actually human, that 452 00:22:55,880 --> 00:23:00,359 Speaker 5: you have life, that from your stomach, that you are 453 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:04,840 Speaker 5: breathing and living, that you have eaten well and nourished 454 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:10,560 Speaker 5: your temple, that you are existing in this beautiful wildlife. 455 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:12,280 Speaker 1: Like that's so crazy to me. 456 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 5: And honey, if you want to see more belly rolls, 457 00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 5: you can catch me on Sports Illustrated because the roles 458 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:19,280 Speaker 5: aren't rolling there. 459 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:21,399 Speaker 1: Honey, it is life. 460 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 5: And I'm glad that she's living in that truth because 461 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 5: from things like like. 462 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:32,000 Speaker 1: Crows feet or wrinkles or stretch. 463 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:34,240 Speaker 5: Works, all these things. That is a body of a 464 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 5: woman who has lived. And I can tell you Kate 465 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:41,120 Speaker 5: Winslet has lived, and I'm glad she said what she. 466 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:41,720 Speaker 1: Had to say. 467 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,680 Speaker 3: Ugh Taren, you're nodding. What do you think? 468 00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,480 Speaker 4: This is an epidemic of pushing women from the moment 469 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:55,760 Speaker 4: that they hit puberty to be thin, to have flat stomachs, 470 00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 4: when in reality bodies were meant to bend and stretch 471 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:00,119 Speaker 4: and roll. 472 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,399 Speaker 6: What a blessing? What a blessing like that? 473 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 4: Chang said, what a blessing if you have a body 474 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:09,480 Speaker 4: that bends and stretches and the softened places, because that 475 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 4: is what bodies do. 476 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,639 Speaker 5: One other thing I have to say is I have 477 00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 5: come to a point where a lot of these things 478 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 5: that are like thrown at you from people on the 479 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:25,200 Speaker 5: internet is always thinks those people are experiencing and insecurity, 480 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:28,280 Speaker 5: so people have and it's always like a putting it 481 00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:32,960 Speaker 5: on you, like for a long time for me, I'm like, yeah, 482 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,080 Speaker 5: this is what my body looks like. Yeah I have 483 00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:38,159 Speaker 5: a fuupa And I didn't clock to me that that 484 00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 5: was something that was maybe not accepted until people started 485 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:44,160 Speaker 5: calling it out like oh, maybe in that dress, maybe 486 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:47,639 Speaker 5: you should wear banks or something so that your stomach 487 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,119 Speaker 5: doesn't truth. In my head, I was like, Okay, that's fine. 488 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 5: Like in my head, I was like, it's fine, this 489 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,040 Speaker 5: dress looks cute on me. But then somebody else would 490 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 5: say that. I'm like, oh, it's not something I should 491 00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:59,360 Speaker 5: be thinking of. Or maybe next time you should wear 492 00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:00,840 Speaker 5: long sleeves. Arms done show. 493 00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,440 Speaker 1: What do you mean, y'all? Like my arms is looking 494 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: so cute in sixty indies Dreys, what do you mean? 495 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,760 Speaker 5: So those are always insecurities from other people, and people 496 00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:14,159 Speaker 5: always project. When it's something they can't deal with, they 497 00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:15,480 Speaker 5: will project it on you. 498 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 2: I think that there's one part of this we haven't 499 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:22,280 Speaker 2: touched on yet, which is media. So I think about 500 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:27,200 Speaker 2: the viral thing on Instagram. You wouldn't last an hour 501 00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:31,439 Speaker 2: in the asylum where they raised me. Trend And I 502 00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 2: remember going to grocery stores in Chicago, growing up in 503 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 2: the suburbs and seeing the magazine covers of Okay and 504 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:42,800 Speaker 2: people in all these places, and they would circle women's 505 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:45,719 Speaker 2: stomachs on the beach and they would like circle. They 506 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,840 Speaker 2: would zoom in on Britney Spears, who was in incredible 507 00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,680 Speaker 2: shape and say, look at this cellulite. And I think 508 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,639 Speaker 2: there was a generation of women that were raised on 509 00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:57,120 Speaker 2: this idea. 510 00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 3: I know that it really impacted me. 511 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,040 Speaker 2: I can say that that media impacted me more than 512 00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 2: probably my friends at school or the good things my 513 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 2: mother was telling me. 514 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:11,159 Speaker 3: It is so damaging, and. 515 00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:14,960 Speaker 2: So I think social media in some ways has actually 516 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:19,679 Speaker 2: helped it because there are real people showing real bodies 517 00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:24,600 Speaker 2: and body diversity that are making every other woman feel like, oh, 518 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,960 Speaker 2: this is normal and this is okay and this is beautiful. 519 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:31,840 Speaker 2: But the media scrutiny, which is I think what Kate 520 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:36,040 Speaker 2: Winslet is also alluding to, it was just horrendous. 521 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 6: It was actlutly. 522 00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,199 Speaker 4: I remember and like the way I remember growing up 523 00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:44,200 Speaker 4: under the impression because I thought everywhere was Jessica Simpson. 524 00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 6: They just tore her for her body in the same 525 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 6: the headlines. 526 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:53,159 Speaker 4: Talking about how fat Jessica Simpson was, and now I 527 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,119 Speaker 4: look back at photos of her during that era and 528 00:26:55,160 --> 00:27:00,439 Speaker 4: I'm like, what, Like, I cannot believe that we we 529 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:03,440 Speaker 4: were brainwashed. We were brainwashed. And I also I feel 530 00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,359 Speaker 4: and I feel terrible for these women that were subjected 531 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:09,119 Speaker 4: to this and nobody like I just don't feel that 532 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,560 Speaker 4: anybody was calling it out. I don't feel that anybody. 533 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 4: I think that we are a lot better now about 534 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,439 Speaker 4: calling it out. I think it is so pervasive that 535 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:18,639 Speaker 4: it continues. 536 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,320 Speaker 6: This narrative has not gone anywhere. 537 00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 4: It's there, but at least we have platforms now that 538 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 4: we can call it out and talk about it more. 539 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,199 Speaker 4: But it just makes me, It makes them so sad 540 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:29,679 Speaker 4: and it's so frustrating. 541 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 2: Okay, I want to close out on a topic that 542 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,840 Speaker 2: is let's just say it's going to be a hot take, 543 00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,399 Speaker 2: but I need a promise from all three of you 544 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 2: before I jump in. 545 00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,280 Speaker 3: I need your true, honest opinion. 546 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:46,199 Speaker 2: Now, what do you think people want to hear? Because 547 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:47,880 Speaker 2: this one it could get us. 548 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,719 Speaker 1: In some hot water. The proposal story was the warm up. 549 00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:53,399 Speaker 1: This is I'm ready, Yeah, I'm ready. 550 00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:54,160 Speaker 3: Okay. 551 00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:57,679 Speaker 2: There is a new controversial relationship trend that is taking 552 00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 2: over the internet. It is called holly amory t l 553 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:06,160 Speaker 2: y amory. So this term was started by relationship columnists 554 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,800 Speaker 2: and podcaster Dan Savage, and it's a new term that 555 00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 2: means a partner or spouse turns a blind eye or 556 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 2: tolerates their partner or spouse's sexual relations with other people. 557 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:21,560 Speaker 2: So TLDR, you're okay or tolerate cheating? 558 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:27,440 Speaker 3: Could you ever? Taren? I want to start with you. 559 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:29,480 Speaker 6: I have runners insurance. 560 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,760 Speaker 4: I would burn this apartment to the ground, and I 561 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 4: know the walls heard me. 562 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:35,919 Speaker 6: Absolutely not. 563 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,600 Speaker 4: I like how we think that if we put a 564 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:42,760 Speaker 4: word on something that unfortunately people have been doing to 565 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 4: their partners for years, that we're going to normalize it. 566 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:45,720 Speaker 5: No. 567 00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:48,600 Speaker 4: I mean people have been having affairs since the dawn 568 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:52,080 Speaker 4: of time and it was hurtful then it's hurtful now. 569 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 6: I think hell no is my general answer. But I 570 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:57,560 Speaker 6: really want to. 571 00:28:57,480 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 4: Say whatever floats about, I want to say that it 572 00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:03,840 Speaker 4: does not float mine. 573 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 1: I'm not floating. 574 00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 3: Okay, what do you think? 575 00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:12,280 Speaker 5: A but absolutely not, honey, not on Beyonce's Internet. 576 00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:16,800 Speaker 1: Can you be saying that? Are you mad? Listen? 577 00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:27,200 Speaker 5: Tolerating, tolerating betrayal, tolerating cheating a. 578 00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,239 Speaker 1: Lot of people, I don't know. 579 00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:31,760 Speaker 5: I wouldn't say I said it like married people or whatever, 580 00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 5: but it's people who have been in relationships for a while. 581 00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:38,240 Speaker 5: Once you've built something, sometimes it's hard to let that go. 582 00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:43,160 Speaker 5: But then it's a sunken cost. If somebody has disrespected 583 00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 5: you in your relationship in a way that you deem 584 00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:48,800 Speaker 5: is not tolerable for you. 585 00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 1: I think you must pack your bags. 586 00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:56,000 Speaker 5: And you need because you're you are tolerating this madness 587 00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,000 Speaker 5: for the sake of who. Because at the end of 588 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:02,040 Speaker 5: the day, you're still upset, You're still mad, You're still worried. 589 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,640 Speaker 5: You're still worried if this person is going to do this, this, 590 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,360 Speaker 5: and this there. You're worried if this person is bringing 591 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,440 Speaker 5: what back into your house for the sake of what 592 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 5: a nice house in West Village. 593 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,000 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to throw in one little thing to 594 00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:19,360 Speaker 2: stir the pot. I have a really close friend who 595 00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:22,800 Speaker 2: got married when we were young, and she started having 596 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:27,440 Speaker 2: kids and stopped working, and so her husband is the 597 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:30,920 Speaker 2: breadwinner and finances her life and the children's life, their 598 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,720 Speaker 2: family's life, and she takes care of the kids. He 599 00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 2: cheated on her, and she called me and she was like, 600 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 2: I love him, I don't want to break up our family. 601 00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 2: And I also feel stuck. I think once I'm not 602 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 2: married or have children, so simon, I'm going to defer 603 00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:50,320 Speaker 2: to you. Yeah, but once you have kids, I do 604 00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 2: think there's something that changes in your mind about cheating 605 00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,040 Speaker 2: what do you think. 606 00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:01,200 Speaker 1: I think that a marriage is strong enough to survive cheating. 607 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,360 Speaker 1: I mean, marriages do it all the time. I think 608 00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:09,000 Speaker 1: what becomes problematic is a pattern of that, Like after 609 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 1: you've repaired and after you've committed to rebuilding the trust 610 00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:15,040 Speaker 1: as partners. If this is a pattern, which is what 611 00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,360 Speaker 1: tollyamory is, it's like turning a blind eye. I'm not 612 00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:21,360 Speaker 1: saying this is what every marriage should do, but I 613 00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 1: just I do want to say it is possible for 614 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,720 Speaker 1: a marriage to recover from an affair. And when you 615 00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 1: do have kids, there are more factors to consider. Now, 616 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:35,080 Speaker 1: I would say to that friend, she better get her 617 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:38,960 Speaker 1: finances in order, Like she needs to be autonomous, she 618 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,480 Speaker 1: needs to have agency in that relationship. I pray to 619 00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:44,160 Speaker 1: God that she has at least transparency over the bills 620 00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:46,480 Speaker 1: and how things are being She does. 621 00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:49,640 Speaker 2: But she still doesn't want to break up her family, 622 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,600 Speaker 2: like she you know, She's. 623 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:54,120 Speaker 6: Which I can respect. 624 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 4: And I think I think a lot of women out 625 00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:58,240 Speaker 4: there I want to acknowledge. I feel like a lot 626 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 4: of women out there they see this and this is 627 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:01,560 Speaker 4: the sacrifice. 628 00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,960 Speaker 6: They're like, this is the sacrifice because. 629 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 2: We see that with so many athletes wives, I think, right, yeah, But. 630 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,520 Speaker 4: What I'll say is I've never had married parents in 631 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:12,239 Speaker 4: my household. Right. 632 00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,480 Speaker 6: My my mom. 633 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 4: Separated from my dad right before I was born. We 634 00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:21,760 Speaker 4: won't go into all that on this show. But what 635 00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:23,840 Speaker 4: I can say is there was never a day that 636 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:28,440 Speaker 4: I wish my parents were married. Because my mom, yes, 637 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,120 Speaker 4: she struggled a lot. 638 00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:30,960 Speaker 1: I don't. 639 00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 4: I don't feel broken from that. I feel strong from that. 640 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 4: I love watching my mom know her worth and know 641 00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,760 Speaker 4: what is good for her, and know that my mom 642 00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:43,240 Speaker 4: wanted freedom, she wanted She was like, I wanted to 643 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:45,160 Speaker 4: live my life the way I wanted to, and I 644 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,479 Speaker 4: wanted to raise my children the way I wanted to. 645 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:50,640 Speaker 4: And so if I don't know, if anyone's listening to 646 00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:53,840 Speaker 4: this and they're toggling between that, I can just say 647 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 4: I'm from a home where that's happened, and my mom's. 648 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:00,920 Speaker 6: Okay, you did a great job. 649 00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,640 Speaker 4: And I am now happily married, and I know that 650 00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:08,520 Speaker 4: that's because I was raised by a woman who really 651 00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:13,760 Speaker 4: taught me that I don't need a man to support 652 00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,160 Speaker 4: her completely, but I do get to choose the partner 653 00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:18,760 Speaker 4: that will love me in the way I need to 654 00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:19,240 Speaker 4: be loved. 655 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,240 Speaker 1: That is so special. 656 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:26,680 Speaker 5: Because I think the thing is that also keeping that 657 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:31,880 Speaker 5: family unit where now there's no whether you've healed from 658 00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:35,520 Speaker 5: that betrayal, where now there's a point where there's normal love. 659 00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 5: Your relationship with your partner is not the same. Kids 660 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:42,600 Speaker 5: peak a pickup on things like that, right, They can 661 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:45,840 Speaker 5: tell these attentions, They can tell the something that is wrong. 662 00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 5: So you would rather keep that toxic thing together for 663 00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 5: the sake of a space that. 664 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,920 Speaker 1: Has already been burnt down, you know. 665 00:33:55,800 --> 00:34:01,080 Speaker 5: And I think when these children added into the equation, 666 00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:04,440 Speaker 5: it does make things different. But like Tarn has said, 667 00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:11,040 Speaker 5: there is space for healing, there is space for re restoration, 668 00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:14,960 Speaker 5: whether it is and for my for me, I truly 669 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:20,240 Speaker 5: believe it can be by yourself and so for your friend. Yeah, 670 00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,359 Speaker 5: try and figure out how you can have autonomy in 671 00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:25,759 Speaker 5: that relationship where you you don't have to be folk 672 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,319 Speaker 5: like be like the only person who's bringing money back 673 00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:30,800 Speaker 5: into this house is this man, and I cannot live 674 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:33,920 Speaker 5: without this man supporting me or my children. 675 00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,600 Speaker 4: That you know, someone who did a great job of 676 00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:39,600 Speaker 4: acknowledging that a marriage can heal. And then it doesn't 677 00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 4: necessarily mean if you stay you're foolish or something, right, 678 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:45,400 Speaker 4: like if you stay with a partner who really wants 679 00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:46,520 Speaker 4: to repair things and. 680 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:48,240 Speaker 6: It's genuinely sorry. 681 00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 4: Right. 682 00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:52,280 Speaker 6: I also think there's beauty in that and that's good. 683 00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:55,759 Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's more so this whole toleration of betrayal, 684 00:34:56,400 --> 00:35:00,640 Speaker 4: tolerating being hurt again and again and again. That's a 685 00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:01,640 Speaker 4: different conversation. 686 00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,239 Speaker 5: Yeah, I think, yeah, to they need to take that 687 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:06,400 Speaker 5: off to the internet. 688 00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:11,000 Speaker 1: Since they need to, someone's going to start a clult. 689 00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:17,480 Speaker 3: No, no, no, taliamory cult. We can't be doing that. Okay. 690 00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:22,280 Speaker 2: You guys are just incredible and smart and thoughtful and funny. 691 00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,880 Speaker 2: And if you all want more of Tarin and Achang, 692 00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:29,880 Speaker 2: which I'm sure you do, go watch Influenced on Amazon. 693 00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,560 Speaker 2: It's so great. Thank you for popping off with us today. 694 00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,799 Speaker 5: Yes, thank you, superstar, Thank you for having us pop 695 00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:38,719 Speaker 5: off with y'all. Thank y'all. 696 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:40,000 Speaker 4: We love y'all. 697 00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:40,800 Speaker 6: Thank you. 698 00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:45,200 Speaker 2: Taren Delaney Smith and Achang Agutu are the co hosts 699 00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 2: of the new talk show Influenced. All ten episodes are 700 00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,759 Speaker 2: available to stream right now on Prime Video. 701 00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:53,680 Speaker 1: We need to take a quick break, but we'll be 702 00:35:53,760 --> 00:36:04,360 Speaker 1: right back. Don't go anywhere. We're back. All right, Danielle, 703 00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:07,120 Speaker 1: it's Friday. Let's get ready for the weekend with another 704 00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,120 Speaker 1: What's in Your Cart presented by Walmart. 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On Monday, Oscar nominated actor June 737 00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,960 Speaker 1: Squib joins us to talk about her leading role at 738 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,080 Speaker 1: ninety four years old in the new movie Thelma Plus. 739 00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:45,960 Speaker 1: She gives us a glimpse into Hollywood through the ages. 740 00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:53,880 Speaker 2: Listen and follow The bright Side on the iHeartRadio app, 741 00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:58,200 Speaker 2: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The bright 742 00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:01,880 Speaker 2: Side is a production of Hello Sunshe and iHeart Podcasts 743 00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:04,600 Speaker 2: and is executive produced by Rehys Witherspoon. 744 00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:08,640 Speaker 1: Production by Arcana Audio. Courtney Gilbert is our associate producer. 745 00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:13,200 Speaker 1: Jessica Wank is our producer. Our senior producers are Janice Yamoka, 746 00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:18,560 Speaker 1: IT'SI Kintania and Amy Padula. Our engineer is PJ. Shahamat. 747 00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,240 Speaker 1: Additional mixing this week by Zach Schmidt. 748 00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:26,040 Speaker 2: Arcana's executive producers are Francis Harlowe and Abby Ruzika. Arcana's 749 00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:27,720 Speaker 2: head of production is Matt Schultz. 750 00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:31,600 Speaker 1: Natalie Tulluck and Maureen Polo are the executive producers for 751 00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:32,640 Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine. 752 00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:36,120 Speaker 2: Julia Weaver is the supervising producer, and Ali Perry is 753 00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:38,400 Speaker 2: the executive producer for iHeart Podcasts. 754 00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:40,799 Speaker 3: Tim Palazzola is our showrunner. 755 00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:44,640 Speaker 2: This week's episodes were recorded by Graham Gibson, Carl Catel, 756 00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:47,520 Speaker 2: Jessica Crinchitch Bahied Fraser. 757 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:51,920 Speaker 1: Our theme song is by Anna Stumpf and Hamilton lighthauser. 758 00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:54,560 Speaker 2: Special thanks to Connell Byrne and Will Pearson. 759 00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,520 Speaker 1: I'm Simone Voice. You can find me at simone Voice 760 00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:59,239 Speaker 1: on Instagram and TikTok. 761 00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:02,280 Speaker 2: And I'm Danie yea Robe on Instagram and TikTok. 762 00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:03,640 Speaker 3: That's r O b A. 763 00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,720 Speaker 1: Y See you Monday. Keep looking on the bright side, y'all.