WEBVTT - Consider me a friend

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that if there is someone you would like

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<v Speaker 1>to get to know better, say so. Letting people know

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<v Speaker 1>that you consider them a friend can make a real

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<v Speaker 1>friendship far more possible. So, you probably encounter dozens of

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<v Speaker 1>people every week in your day to day life. Some

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<v Speaker 1>of them you probably know well. Others are fine as

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<v Speaker 1>casual acquaintances, but there may be a handful of people

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<v Speaker 1>you see regularly that you would like to get to

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<v Speaker 1>know better. Connecting a little more doesn't have to be

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<v Speaker 1>a huge time commitment. Simply saying that the other person

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<v Speaker 1>should consider you a friend or referring to them as

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<v Speaker 1>a friend can go a long way. It lets the

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<v Speaker 1>other person know that you would welcome making your connection

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<v Speaker 1>a little deeper. So, for instance, when you run into

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<v Speaker 1>a yoga classmate at the grocery store, introduce her to

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<v Speaker 1>your kids as your friend from yoga, and suddenly she

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<v Speaker 1>is your friend. You have affirmed the relationship which you

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<v Speaker 1>have been building when you chat after class every week.

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<v Speaker 1>If you are wrapping up a work project with a

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<v Speaker 1>colleague from another department, and want to maintain the relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>Say so, I appreciated getting to work with you on

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<v Speaker 1>this project, and I'd love to stay in touch. Especially

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<v Speaker 1>if the colleague is new to your organization or more

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<v Speaker 1>junior than you, you could be even more direct and

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<v Speaker 1>say consider me a friend. You could invite them to

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<v Speaker 1>reach out if you could ever be helpful, But in

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<v Speaker 1>any case, simply vocalizing that you see them as a

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<v Speaker 1>valued colleague and friend is enough, because when you are

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<v Speaker 1>friends and trusted colleagues, of course you can reach out

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<v Speaker 1>to each other for help or insight. After the last

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<v Speaker 1>meet for your kids summer swim team, don't just say

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<v Speaker 1>goodbye to the other parents the same way you would

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<v Speaker 1>on any other day. If there is a parent you

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<v Speaker 1>want to keep in touch with, let them know you

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<v Speaker 1>can be direct without really feeling awkward. Simply saying let's

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<v Speaker 1>keep in touch or consider me a friend. We'll get

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<v Speaker 1>the message across. Or with an upbeat, casual tone, you

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<v Speaker 1>could say text me friend and pave the way for

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship to continue. Let them know that your connection

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't have to end with the swim season. Once you

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<v Speaker 1>have affirmed that you want to move from acquaintance to

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<v Speaker 1>friend or close colleague. There are a few steps you

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<v Speaker 1>can take to move that along. For instance, if the

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<v Speaker 1>other person says I'd love to stay in touch, you

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<v Speaker 1>might offer up something adjacent to what you already do together.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, if you see a colleague in the break

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<v Speaker 1>room when you eat your lunch, mention that you've been

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to try the new Vietnamese restaurant in a neighborhood

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<v Speaker 1>and ask if they'd like to join you. Ask the

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<v Speaker 1>mom of the kid on your soccer team if she'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to walk laps around the field with you. An

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<v Speaker 1>even more low key option for deepening a connection is

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<v Speaker 1>to text the person On occasion, if you see something

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<v Speaker 1>funny or that makes you think of them, send it along.

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<v Speaker 1>If you know the person has traveled somewhere, ask for tips. Eventually,

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<v Speaker 1>a texting relationship can become deeper. Given how many people

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<v Speaker 1>want more connection in life, I don't think you need

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<v Speaker 1>to worry about feeling too forward with all of this.

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<v Speaker 1>Most people will appreciate your letting them know that they

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<v Speaker 1>can consider you a friend. You might be able to

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<v Speaker 1>get something on the calendar together, something that you will

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<v Speaker 1>be looking forward to in the meantime. This is Laura,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a

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