1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,520 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 1: tip is that if there is someone you would like 4 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:23,280 Speaker 1: to get to know better, say so. Letting people know 5 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 1: that you consider them a friend can make a real 6 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:32,519 Speaker 1: friendship far more possible. So, you probably encounter dozens of 7 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:35,919 Speaker 1: people every week in your day to day life. Some 8 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:39,680 Speaker 1: of them you probably know well. Others are fine as 9 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: casual acquaintances, but there may be a handful of people 10 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: you see regularly that you would like to get to 11 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: know better. Connecting a little more doesn't have to be 12 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 1: a huge time commitment. Simply saying that the other person 13 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: should consider you a friend or referring to them as 14 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 1: a friend can go a long way. It lets the 15 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: other person know that you would welcome making your connection 16 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: a little deeper. So, for instance, when you run into 17 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:13,840 Speaker 1: a yoga classmate at the grocery store, introduce her to 18 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: your kids as your friend from yoga, and suddenly she 19 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: is your friend. You have affirmed the relationship which you 20 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: have been building when you chat after class every week. 21 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: If you are wrapping up a work project with a 22 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: colleague from another department, and want to maintain the relationship, 23 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: Say so, I appreciated getting to work with you on 24 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,960 Speaker 1: this project, and I'd love to stay in touch. Especially 25 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,920 Speaker 1: if the colleague is new to your organization or more 26 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: junior than you, you could be even more direct and 27 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: say consider me a friend. You could invite them to 28 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: reach out if you could ever be helpful, But in 29 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: any case, simply vocalizing that you see them as a 30 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 1: valued colleague and friend is enough, because when you are 31 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: friends and trusted colleagues, of course you can reach out 32 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: to each other for help or insight. After the last 33 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: meet for your kids summer swim team, don't just say 34 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: goodbye to the other parents the same way you would 35 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: on any other day. If there is a parent you 36 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: want to keep in touch with, let them know you 37 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 1: can be direct without really feeling awkward. Simply saying let's 38 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: keep in touch or consider me a friend. We'll get 39 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: the message across. Or with an upbeat, casual tone, you 40 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: could say text me friend and pave the way for 41 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 1: the relationship to continue. Let them know that your connection 42 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: doesn't have to end with the swim season. Once you 43 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: have affirmed that you want to move from acquaintance to 44 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: friend or close colleague. There are a few steps you 45 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: can take to move that along. For instance, if the 46 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: other person says I'd love to stay in touch, you 47 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,920 Speaker 1: might offer up something adjacent to what you already do together. 48 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,080 Speaker 1: For instance, if you see a colleague in the break 49 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 1: room when you eat your lunch, mention that you've been 50 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: wanting to try the new Vietnamese restaurant in a neighborhood 51 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: and ask if they'd like to join you. Ask the 52 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: mom of the kid on your soccer team if she'd 53 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:17,480 Speaker 1: like to walk laps around the field with you. An 54 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: even more low key option for deepening a connection is 55 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: to text the person On occasion, if you see something 56 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: funny or that makes you think of them, send it along. 57 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: If you know the person has traveled somewhere, ask for tips. Eventually, 58 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: a texting relationship can become deeper. Given how many people 59 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: want more connection in life, I don't think you need 60 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: to worry about feeling too forward with all of this. 61 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: Most people will appreciate your letting them know that they 62 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 1: can consider you a friend. You might be able to 63 00:03:56,280 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: get something on the calendar together, something that you will 64 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 1: be looking forward to in the meantime. This is Laura, 65 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of 66 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've 67 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 1: got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at 68 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a 69 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, please visit 70 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to 71 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 1: your favorite shows.