WEBVTT - Ep. 94 — Hump Day Goals 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:24.440 Holiday holiday is Monday? 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:25.680 Is that okay? 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:31.960 That's a holiday, Madonna? Come on, I was. 0:00:31.880 --> 0:00:35.120 Gonna say it would be it would be so nice. 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:38.159 That's the right, that's the right song. Y'all got us 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:39.080 working on a holiday. 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:42.120 Yes see, the love that love. 0:00:41.960 --> 0:00:43.920 You are laboring, it's the labor of love. On this 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:45.680 labor day, I. 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:47.640 Have to come to my old echoey office just to 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:50.640 get away from all the bumping sounds of Newark, of 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:55.080 people playing their amazing music and cooking their delicious food refuge. 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:58.120 I know. I mean, I'm not even gonna lie. I'm like, 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:00.360 I'm all right, but I'm like, I'm not. I mean, 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:02.720 I put on like two pounds from the ten that 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:05.080 I lost, and I'm like, but why I'm eating grass? 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:07.600 Listen? I was. I almost was glad to tell you 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:09.480 the story of the ribs that I had this weekend. 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:12.000 And then I remember who I was talking to. 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:14.240 And I love watching the Food Channel. You should just 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:17.200 see me looking mouth a gape, like, oh it looks 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:21.880 so good. Oh, but I'm holding on. I'm holding on, 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:24.919 Oh holding on. I mean, I do have way more energy. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.679 My skin is on fleak. My sister's like, what is 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:29.360 going on? With your skin. It looks amazing. I'm like, 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:32.320 I know, but like gaining the two pounds was very 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:35.280 discouraging because I'm like, why, I'm literally not eating anything. 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:38.520 I mean I'm eating, but you know, like I'm not, 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:41.400 and I'm I don't know. Maybe it's the carves I don't. 0:01:41.400 --> 0:01:43.080 I mean, well, I'm carving out. 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:45.720 You can weigh two pounds less in the morning, and 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:47.480 the end of the day you'll like gain four pounds, 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.200 like the body just just maybe you just need to 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:51.920 go to the bathroom and then like it'll be down 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:54.840 like two two rounds. I feel like, I feel like 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:58.160 weighing yourself is almost like googling yourself. Like if you're 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:00.320 gonna weigh yourself and you see the good news, you 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:03.200 have to always be prepared for like the bad news too, 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:06.280 Like for every good headline about yourself, you're gonna read 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:09.239 something terrible and it's just like the gamble, the risk 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:10.880 you take when you get on that scale. 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:13.200 No, you're right though, because every day I'm like, come on, 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:15.760 come on, come on, scale, and I'm like, they get 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:16.960 off the scale. 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:19.080 I mean really, like for me, it's more about can 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:21.400 I get in these pants? Can I get in those pants. 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:24.799 This is a good day. I certainly can't get into 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:28.040 any pants because this Labor Day weekend. We came back early, 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.000 but we went to a friend's place who has this 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:33.919 really nice, really nice home on a lake like upstate 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.480 close to Syracuse, and they had been talking about going 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:39.800 to this fair and I wasn't really paying attention because 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:41.160 work was kind of all over the place, and I 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:42.560 was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll be there, I'll be 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:45.440 there whatever. I had no idea. It was like the 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:48.600 New York State Fair. This thing was massive. It was 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:52.600 like three football fields wide. There wasn't just one ferris wheel, 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:55.720 that were three ferris wheels. There were giraffes. I fed. 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:58.720 I fed a giraffe at the fair. It was the 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:02.160 coolest thing ever. Yeah you could. I felt really bad, Okay, 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:03.799 I felt I stole some kids. Joy It's just a 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:07.320 little bit because I had an advantage being a tall 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:10.480 person in a crowd of children and children I can't 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:12.560 and you know, you spend your two dollars, you get 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:14.200 a little bag of corn, I mean a little bag 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:17.520 of carrot sticks, and everyone else seemed to get the 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:19.960 bag with like the big carrot sticks, the long ones 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:22.720 and I got the little like the baby carrot sticks 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:24.119 and I was like, damn, I gotta get really close 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:27.760 to this giraffe now. But yeah, the giraffe he leaned 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:31.320 over and their tongues are so long and yeah there 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:35.560 so long and they're like black and anyway, it was awesome. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:37.960 But I guess after I finished my bag of carrots, 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:40.200 he got really full and he just like sat down and. 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:42.960 Was not I'm good. I know they're like, I hate 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:43.360 that girl. 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:47.240 No, it was the best. We were the rides and 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:51.120 ate the funnel cake and got dinosaur barbecue and it 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:53.480 was just like a It was like a six hour, 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:56.360 eight hour day at the which I haven't done that ever. 0:03:57.080 --> 0:04:01.320 Like country fairs, they're really big. Like we were talking about. 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:03.560 The was it Montana, Minnesota? 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:05.760 Minnesota. I know it's an m but like they have 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.040 a huge fair and people are like it's an event 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:09.880 I've always wanted to go to, like you know, like 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:12.040 one of the fingers that you see on TV where 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:14.120 it's like this huge event. 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:18.719 They had butter sculptures, They had a dare there was 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:21.160 like one hole. Yeah, there was like a butter sculpture 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:24.160 exhibit where they had the butter. It was a scene 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:27.040 all carved out of butter life sized men. They were 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:29.880 like dairy farmers. Yeah I'm not kidding. And that was 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:33.760 in the middle of a giant like expo for milk. 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:36.040 So they had like all the ice cream. There's like 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:38.680 a chocolate milk bar, like they literally had chocolate milk 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:41.400 on tap and then you can go from there to 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:43.800 the real dairy bar in which was like all these 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:46.760 prize winning cows. I know, you think of like cows 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:49.760 being like the stinky like spotted cows you see on 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:52.640 the side of the road or whatever. I want. Beautiful 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:55.480 cows exist and they were in this. They were like gorgeous. 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:58.640 They all had nice like reddish brown coats and they 0:04:58.640 --> 0:04:59.800 were just like, oh. 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:01.360 These are the the supermata cows. 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:05.200 Yeah, theah Victoria's secret counts. 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:08.280 Wow, just walk up these cows out like you could 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:09.920 never your cow could never. 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:13.760 And it didn't even smell that bad. They were like 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:16.320 being groomed and like all their you know, their droppings 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:18.360 were being carted away because. 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:20.400 Wow, these cows are live in a live These are 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:23.760 those privileged cows that talk about cow lives matter. We're like, 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:25.119 we do cow lives matter. 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:28.960 This is the one percent. You came to brand ambition 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:33.080 to learn about uh both big phones and dairy cows. No, 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:35.320 it was. It was a great time at a good time. 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:37.320 And now I'm so worn out. I don't have any 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.400 plans for the actual Labor Day holiday. 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.120 I don't know me either, really, honestly, my plans are 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:44.560 too I guess I'll make myself a veggie burger because 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:48.200 everybody else is going to be eating delicious charred meat 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:52.080 that I had to buy from the supermarket, but in exchange, 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.840 Superman did all the cleaning. I hate cleaning, honestly. One 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:57.200 of the things when I finally get this house, I'll 0:05:57.240 --> 0:05:59.080 give you guys an update soon. But when I finally 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:00.880 get this house, man, one of the first things I'm 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:04.760 gonna do is get myself a not a housekeeper, but 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:08.080 like a cleaning service at least twice a month. 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:10.000 That's a nice treat for yourself. 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:12.920 I am because honestly, I hate I mean, I don't 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.279 the dishes are but I hate. I'm not gonna mop, 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:17.760 It's not gonna happen. I don't like sweeping. I hate 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:20.279 doing the bathroom like I hate cleaning, So I'm always 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:22.640 like switching off with Superman, because yeah, he actually is, 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:26.440 like he enjoys like cleaning. Well, I mean it's like therapeutic, 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:30.239 Like I like cooking, And although I don't like food shopping, 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.720 I will exchange food shopping for cleaning. I'm like, well 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:34.360 I'll food shop. He's like all right, because he hates 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:36.880 food shopping. So you know, we're trying to make it 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:39.200 work over here at the Super's house. 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:41.720 Do you feel like you're supposed to get You feel 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:43.160 like by the time you get married, you're supposed to 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:45.880 have the rhythm in place over who does what, and 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.680 like how the chores are divided. I don't really have 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:50.800 a blueprint for this because my parents flit when I 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.920 was so young. But like, and I am being married now, 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.000 Like I'm like, why are we bickering over the dishes? 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.320 It's your turn? No, it's your turn, Like we're literally 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:00.919 having but I did it this week, but the trash 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:02.880 is stinky. But I didn't put the I didn't put 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:05.320 I didn't through the food in the trash. That was you, Like, 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.239 why can't you put your shoes on the shoe rack? Waddy? 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:10.680 You know, like those ridiculous conversations. 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.400 Yes, yeah, no, you're right. That's why I was like, 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:15.880 I'm getting myself well and not that every two weeks 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.280 it's going to be, but at least it'll take care 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.760 of like the heavy lifting, you know, like the day 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:22.480 to day stuff, Like I don't mind straightening up, like 0:07:22.480 --> 0:07:24.280 he always says, like whenever it's my time to clean, 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:30.160 he's like, you don't clean, you straighten up, And I. 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.040 Do, like you put all the pile of mail in 0:07:31.080 --> 0:07:32.480 a little smaller pile. 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:36.400 Yes, I straighten everything up. Everything looks all. So if 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:38.320 at first you're like, oh, what's me down here, then 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:40.720 you realize, wait, it's still the same stuff. It's just 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:44.280 well organized. And I'm like, really, well, maybe you could 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:45.160 show me how again. 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:49.040 As I watched were you a messy? I feel like 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:51.440 the big lie of adulthood as well is that you'll 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:54.080 get better at stuff as you get older. I've always 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:56.080 been a messy kid, and I'm a messy grown up 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:57.120 and I am and I. 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:03.280 Swear like like my dad is like like Superman, and 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:05.880 I'm like my mom, Like my dad used to always 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:07.680 fuss with My mom had so much stuff and it 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:10.400 was everywhere. My dad was just secretly like throwing stuff 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:12.560 away that she wouldn't even miss anywhere until ten years later. 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:15.800 She's like, have you seen my lipstick? You know? Ten 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:17.800 years later He's like, whatever, I threw that away ten 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:20.080 years ago, you didn't even need it. And so that's 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:23.200 him now because I'm like, where's my book bag, where's 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:25.720 my this? He's like, Tiffany, I like, do those things away? 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:27.680 Like three months ago, I'm like, you're doing away? That 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:31.600 was my favorite, peeling, skunky book bag. I was gonna 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:36.040 wash it. And so I'm trying to do bad. That's 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:38.040 so I'm like, you know what if I hire help, like, 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:40.920 for example, laundry, I refuse. I hate doing laundry. Not 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:42.960 gonna do it, not gonna fold it, no, no, no. 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:44.679 The most you can get me to do is put 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:47.080 it away. So I've invested, and even though we have 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.440 a washer dryer, when it's my turn to do the 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:53.480 mounds of laundry that three people mysteriously produce, I take 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:55.120 it right to the washing fold and I pay my 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:57.880 little thirty dollars and kidding me. 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:02.200 Yo, I know, oh, I remember you said you you 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:04.559 like you had your grand plan to make your sister 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:06.959 your personal assistant, and she was gonna do. 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:10.280 Your weekend and she was like, and I never got 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:12.120 my money back, Eddie change if I would give her 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:15.040 like twenty bucks or something and something costs five. I'm like, 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:19.840 so Lisa my change. She's like what I mean, but gas, 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:21.599 I'm like, it was down the street. And then she 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:23.160 wouldn't even bring me my stuff. I'm like, where's my 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:25.439 dry cleaning? I got tired, so I'm home, so I'm 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:27.480 going to try to bring about tomorrow. I'm like, literally, 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:29.920 the dry clean is around the corner, so I could 0:09:29.920 --> 0:09:32.640 have just gone to get it. So she lasted all 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:36.160 of a weekend. So yeah, no, no personal assistant for me, 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:38.360 Like I haven't admin for emails, but nobody to run 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:42.160 Errand's And honestly it's fine because it was actually more 0:09:42.200 --> 0:09:44.840 stressed than to do that myself. But yeah, no, I 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:47.000 love my They know me. At the washing fold. I'm like, 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:48.000 she's like, is you're turning again? 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:50.800 I'm like, sure, is, Well, you have a you have 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:54.280 a daughter or stepdaughter, and that adds a particular layer 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:55.760 to the mix that we don't have to deal with 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:58.080 here because we still do or like I do my laundry. 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:00.480 He has his hamper, I have my hand. But when 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:03.200 you have kids. You're right. My mom would literally spend 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:06.480 weekends just doing laundry. It was a never ending thing. 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:08.679 It's not even so much her stuff. I find it's 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:11.079 mostly like his stuff because he, like what he does 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:14.120 for a living is like physical, you know, like flipping 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.800 apartments and stuff. So it's mostly and I'm usually home 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.160 in my pj's all day working, so when you really 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.320 look at the laundry and that sect like, it's mostly 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:24.760 his stuff. And like I said, since he does most 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:26.920 of the cleaning, I'm like, okay, I'll take care of 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:29.400 the laundry. And for the He's always like, isn't that 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:32.080 a waste of money? I'm like, uh, for the three 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:33.800 hours I didn't have to do laundry, you know what, 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:36.560 thirty dollars I'm willing to pay, and I might. I 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:40.000 might do that maybe twice a month, so it's not 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.640 to me. The price is worth it, like sixty bucks 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.560 a month to not have to like and they fold 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:48.800 so well, Like I just picked up today. I was like, 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:51.520 thank Sylvia, how did you. 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:54.600 Get it all the same size? And the little bag it's. 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:58.480 Magical, magical? And then Sylvia knows that there's three but 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:00.000 I don't even know halfs I know, like I've never 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:02.280 told her, like I've got a husband and a daughter 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:05.360 and so but everything she separates all of our things. 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:07.720 So it's so great. So like her bag, Like I 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:09.760 give Supergirl her bag, I put it in her room 0:11:10.040 --> 0:11:12.000 so she knows to put her own things away. And 0:11:12.040 --> 0:11:14.680 so typically I'll put away my things and Superman's things, 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:17.240 and if I'm feeling really lazy, I'll put away my things. 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:21.640 But it's just it's magical. I look at the bag today, 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:25.000 I'm like, look at these perfectly rectangular shaped bags. Oh 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:30.040 but yeah, so yeah, I'm not the I realize I'm 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:32.320 never going to be super Sussie homemaker. Although I do cook, 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:34.800 and I enjoy cooking, but other than that, that's the 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:36.240 only thing that I do that's like. 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:39.079 Me, you enjoy making a mess, but not because we 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:39.920 already have a cookie. 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:42.480 Really is exactly, it's a mess making. And then I'm like, 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:43.839 why should I have to wash the dishes? I made 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:49.280 the food? Oh my life for Superman. 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:53.360 Sure, you guys have a barbecue today? 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:57.000 Yeah, I love a mini barbecue. He's like, I mean, honestly, 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:59.439 it's just his excuse to feed the neighborhood kids that 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.960 don't always get to eat, like, but all the stuff 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:03.480 that I bought, I'm like, this is all kids stuff. 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:05.800 Because he's like, baby, can you get juice boxes? Can 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:07.199 you get this? Can you get that? I'm like, who 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:09.520 are we feeding? Because he's adults out here have food, 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:12.160 and so he really likes making sure like the kids 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:14.640 in the neighborhood. I told you he's the he's the black. 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:18.800 Mister rogers're thinking of analogy. I was like, Willy Wonka, 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:19.560 what do we call it. 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:21.640 Now, mister Rogers. Every time we walk, like if I 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:23.040 walk with him or he walked me to the car 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:26.560 or whatever. Everyone Hey, Superman, Hey some man, how you 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:30.520 doing here? Man? Superman? Like the kids, everyone, And I'm like, meanwhile, 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:33.680 no one's like hey hey Superwoman or hey you know. 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:38.640 Everything is like yeah, and that person with you my 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:40.920 go on, I'm not, well it was you know what, 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:43.920 I'm not I'm friendly, but I'm not. I don't know, 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:46.600 I'm not really wanted to say hi to stranger, you know. So, 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:48.680 but he's you know, he goes out of his way 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:52.280 to be extra engaging, and so where I'm like, hey, 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:54.400 I mean, if you're in my vicinity. You know, I'm 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:56.200 definitely going to be polite, but I'm not. I don't 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:58.760 know as much as like I talk as a live 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:02.000 for a living once, I'm like in my own private space, 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:04.559 I'm actually on kind of like a quieter, shyer side. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:12.760 That's okay. Yeah, introvert, extrovert, exactly, exactly, exactly. Well, I'm 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.240 looking forward to this week. It's going to be a wait, 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:18.520 how many Monday, Tuesday, three day week for me because 0:13:18.640 --> 0:13:24.480 my mom is getting married on Friday. Oh, miss Lorie Jane. Yeah, 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:29.000 her wedding. She's marrying. My mom's marrying her high school sweetheart. 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:33.240 It's all very romantic. So they met in high school 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:36.559 in Wisconsin on Alaska, Wisconsin, and they dated all through 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:38.920 high school and then he was off in the military 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:41.120 and he was gonna propose to her, or he did 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.720 propose to her, and she broke his little heart and 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:46.960 said no. This was like nineteen seventy eight, I want 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:50.800 to say. And then she moved from Wisconsin to Atlanta 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.880 with her brothers. Atlanta for some reason, people were like 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:57.560 moving there, and she never saw him again until she 0:13:57.679 --> 0:14:02.160 moved back to Wisconsin to retire a few years ago, 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:05.040 and they just rekindled their relationship and now they're getting 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:06.840 married and it's all going to be very cool, and 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:08.439 so that I have to look forward to. 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:12.040 Oh yeah, I'm at your mama. I told you your 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:15.319 mom needs to teach lessons how to how to get 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:16.079 a man to ask. 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:20.160 Yeah, she's a She's like, I tease her and I'm like, okay, 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:24.720 j lo ai. Yeah, she's like, that ain't her first rodeo. 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:27.320 With all due respect, it ain't her first rodeo. It's 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:29.520 not even it's not even my first rodeo with her. 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:30.840 So we'll see. 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:32.800 Some women are like have been like with the same 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:35.560 due for like twelve years and they're like, s wait, 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:39.520 you know your mom's like I know how to get 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:41.200 them to ask? For real. I really feel like there 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:43.600 are some women who I don't know what it is 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:49.400 that have a knack for like men wanting to Like 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:51.120 I don't know, Like, I don't know what it is. 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:53.800 I honestly wait, what women you have a knack for 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:54.960 men wanting to marry them? 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:57.480 Yeah? But like because it's like what is it? I 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.480 wonder like what is it? Because I'm not a man. 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:02.440 So when a man is like, you know what this is? 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:05.280 The woman I want to marry. There's like a switch, 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:07.720 and I find that there are some women who, like 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:09.600 I have a number of friends who they might not 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:13.080 have married them all, but have been asked numerous times, 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:15.320 you know. And then I have other friends who you know, 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:18.400 been in long term relationships and have never been asked 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:19.600 or you know what I mean. So I'm like, well, 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:22.560 what is that, like, what is that trait that makes 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:24.000 a man say I want to be with this one 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:25.600 for the rest of my life or at least try 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:26.800 you know. 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:31.720 Yeah, her lasagna is really good. I don't know, Well, 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:33.920 it's just it's really sweet because you know, he wanted 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:35.960 to marry her forty years ago and he's I know, 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:38.840 they're finally getting to do it, and she's just so like, 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:41.200 it's a little weird to see your mom. You know, 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:43.040 I had a stepdad and it was whatever, that was 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:46.080 more normal. But now she's just like really like giddy 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:49.760 and giggly and it's all the first time again, and 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:52.080 she's really you know, she's planning all the details. It's 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:53.840 going to be like a small, you know, like fifty 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.400 people wedding, but they're getting married on this really pretty 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:59.840 like like a bluff and on a mountain in the area, 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.200 and they're they're actually having their reception the same place 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:05.600 where they had their high school prom. 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:09.440 Oh that is awesome. So has he ever been married before? Oh? 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.920 Yeah, yeah, he's divorced and she was recently. She was 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:16.360 divorced a couple of years ago, so they're both he 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:18.040 was divorced a little bit longer. I'm putting all their 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:20.200 business out there, but yeah, they both had prior marriages, 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:22.720 they both have had children, and. 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:24.600 Oh, this is good. This is just them. 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:27.160 This is literally just them, none of the baggage that 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:28.960 you get when you marry with young kids. 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:30.040 Yeah. 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:33.000 And also for me too, I'm like, yeah, cool, Greg, nice, 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.240 just hang out with mom. That's nice. You know. I 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:39.680 don't feel any like pressure to have a relationship or like, 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:41.040 you know what I mean when you're a kid and 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:43.440 like you're yeah you know if you yeah, if you 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:45.240 mean you have a stepdaughter, but like if you are 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:48.960 also like the child a parent who've remarried when you 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:51.320 were younger, you know how it's like, you know, there's 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:53.880 all that that that tension in the background, if like 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:56.040 the anxiety of like are they going to get along 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:59.400 and are they going to have a relationship and so 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:01.000 there's none of that pressure, which I think is making 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:01.960 everything a lot easier. 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:04.600 Yeah, I was gonna say because it's dope, because it's like, 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:06.760 you know, it's really like it's just us. We don't 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:08.840 have to you know, she doesn't have to take into 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.000 consideration like I mean it was there was we had 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:14.480 a rough patch, like in our household with Supergirl adjusting. 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:17.879 You know, everything was awesome until like we got engaged 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:20.400 and she was like, wait, she's staying. I was like, wait, 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:22.919 I thought you liked me. She's like yeah, but like 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:27.800 that as like a permanent member. She literally said, I 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:29.879 thought you were gonna be like here today, gone tomorrow. 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:34.200 I was like, what, it's hurtful. No, I've been I've 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:36.080 been wondering how things were going, because you did say 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:38.280 there was a little bit rough stuff. 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:41.480 Honestly, I would like, it's I don't know what happened 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:45.840 and what shifted. But she's been like I would say, 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:48.080 we are eighty five percent back, because at one point, 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:50.080 you know, that was like my little buddy. We hung 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:52.640 out like we both have similar interests in Staples and 0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:55.479 Barnes and Nobles, and we would going to museums together. 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:58.520 So we hung out, you know, almost more than me 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:01.000 and her father because we had so much, so much 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.639 in common, and so everything was great. And then we 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:07.480 got engaged, and she took it not so great because 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:08.960 I guess she was still trying to figure out, well, 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.080 where does that put me? Because in her mind, you know, 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:13.959 a wife is bigger than a daughter. That's what she 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:17.600 had convinced herself, you know. And so you know, we 0:18:17.640 --> 0:18:21.439 really tried really hard, like between myself, her father, and 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:23.320