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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Bea Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everyone, we are scrubbing it.

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Speaker 3: Yes we are.

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Speaker 4: Well, now that's the new thing. What, Yes we are?

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Speaker 4: You've said that like three weeks in a row. Now,

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Speaker 4: which the new thing? The thing? You're going to review

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Speaker 4: it as the new thing on the Facebook group. So

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Speaker 4: you really just have to change it every week or

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Speaker 4: commit to something.

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Speaker 3: Yes we are, Yes, we are, indeed, in fact we are.

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Speaker 2: We are.

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Speaker 1: You know what we should have back on the show?

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Speaker 1: Tell me Jessica Capsule because she's on a new TV show.

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Speaker 1: It airs after Grea's Anatomy.

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Speaker 3: Yes, let's have her back on I would I.

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Speaker 1: Love her.

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But she posted a video the other day of

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Speaker 2: like her.

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Speaker 1: It was a sorry we're late.

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Speaker 2: Jessico'stone a fit you know that, and she's in a

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Speaker 2: dress like walking and people in the comments.

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Speaker 1: Are like, wow, your leg grew back nicely.

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Speaker 2: Anyways, we have a Dear Bonia episode today, just like

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Speaker 2: I'm feeling inspired to give advice today.

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Speaker 1: Me too, So I'm excited to see what they have

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Speaker 5: I'm I'm so my advice is gonna be like, what

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Speaker 5: would Taylor Swift do?

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Speaker 4: Oh wow, so you're still kind of on a high.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that high? This high is going to be

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Speaker 3: singing for a while.

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Speaker 4: All right, Well, let's start with this one from anonymous

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Speaker 4: Day one scrubber. Here, I'm meeting some advice. My best friend,

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Speaker 4: let's call her Kelly, is dating a girl that I

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Speaker 4: don't like. The girl herself actually seems to be a

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Speaker 4: good match for Kelly. They have similar interests from what

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Speaker 4: I've seen. She doesn't seem to be a bad person.

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Speaker 4: She's supportive and communicative and treats her well. But her

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Speaker 4: and I just don't vibe. She's made some move comments

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Speaker 4: tried to get closer to her, and I'm always kind

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Speaker 4: and friendly to her when we hang out, but we

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Speaker 4: just don't connect. The issue is it's upsetting Kelly and

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Speaker 4: making things weird between us. So what do I do?

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Speaker 4: Try to fake it more, pretend I do want to

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Speaker 4: be friends with her. If I bring up how she's

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Speaker 4: acted towards me. I also think you don't have to

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Speaker 4: be best friends with the best friend's partner, do you.

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Speaker 4: I'd appreciate your intake intake is that the right word?

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Speaker 4: Their input anyway? And tell perhaps I think any thoughts

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Speaker 4: you have on this situation. Love you all anxiously await

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Speaker 4: every episode every week. Thanks for being the best podcast

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Speaker 4: and creating the most loving and supportive community.

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Speaker 2: Gosh, yeah, this is hard because like, you don't have

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Speaker 2: to be best friends with your with your best friend's partner.

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Speaker 3: No, you don't.

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Speaker 1: You don't, There's there's no requirement for that.

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Speaker 2: However, you don't want your best friend to be with

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Speaker 2: someone who treats their best.

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Speaker 1: Friends in a negative way.

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Speaker 3: Correct, there's a fine line.

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Speaker 1: Because then to me, that speaks to their character, which

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Speaker 3: Is character over chemistry.

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Speaker 2: Like I would have a very hard time if Robbie

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Speaker 3: So weird he wasn't nice to you.

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Speaker 1: But it wouldn't be something that.

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Speaker 2: Was like like, oh, you shouldn't be with him, but

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Speaker 1: It would be weird because it wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: Be like I have space to say you shouldn't be

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: So, well, how would you handle that?

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Speaker 5: Like, if Helen didn't mean to I would be so sad,

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Speaker 5: I would say something to you.

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Speaker 3: I'd be like, Haley's mean to me?

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Speaker 1: I would I think I would approach it.

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Speaker 2: Let's like, I wouldn't do that because I think that

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Speaker 2: Robbie not like does? Do you know if Robbie like

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Speaker 2: Because I just feel this vibe that he like doesn't

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I get the feeling that he doesn't

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Speaker 2: I would maybe approach her from that way, because maybe

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Speaker 2: it can open the conversation for your best friend to

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Speaker 2: of way yeah, because then maybe there's some open dialogue.

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Speaker 2: But I think the worst thing you can do is

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Speaker 2: I think it's more of like, hey, I I can't

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Speaker 4: Person, Kelly's the friend?

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Speaker 1: Oh, hey Kelly. Can we name the other person?

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Speaker 3: Sarah?

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Speaker 1: Sarah? Hey, Kelly.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I'm feeling sensitive, but I feel

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Speaker 2: I can't tell if I've done something to upset her,

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Speaker 2: but it just feels like there's this competitiveness. And I

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Speaker 2: can't really tell if it's it's something I've done or

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Speaker 2: if it's just we don't click. But I didn't know

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Speaker 2: if she's said anything to you. And I would love

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Speaker 1: You could do that.

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Speaker 5: Or oh gosh, no, this might be this might be

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Speaker 5: some bad advice, but it's advice that my husband gives

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Speaker 5: me all the time. And I do feel like, no, no, no,

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Speaker 5: It's very different when it's like your best friend's partner.

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Speaker 5: But I'm somebody that can get very sensitive about several things,

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Speaker 5: and Robbie's been very good about just telling me just.

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Speaker 3: To who cares. Let it roll off your shoulders. It

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Speaker 3: is what it is.

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Speaker 2: You.

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Speaker 5: Saying something might not change the situation. It's just going

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Speaker 5: to make it more uncomfortable for everybody. So just it

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Speaker 5: is what it is. You be you, they be them,

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Speaker 5: and we move on. And it's such a freeing way

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Speaker 5: to live if you think about it.

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Speaker 1: Do you take that?

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Speaker 3: I try?

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Speaker 1: Do you live that advice? I do?

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Speaker 5: Like there's one situation currently where I was like upset

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Speaker 5: it does not matter, Like it's literally nothing, And I

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Speaker 5: was like, you're so right. What am I gonna do

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Speaker 5: go to them and say that hurt my feelings? And

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think the thing is that I'm so

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Speaker 2: grateful that when I do spend time with both of

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Speaker 2: you and Robbie, I feel very comfortable and I never

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Speaker 2: feel like any negative feelings.

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Speaker 3: At all, Like, but I also.

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Speaker 2: Don't hang out with y'all so much that it if

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Speaker 2: he was that way to me that I would feel

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Speaker 2: right like I really need to say something, unless it

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Speaker 2: got to a point where we were spending so much

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Speaker 2: time together and I was like I can't take it. Anymore,

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Speaker 2: I have to say something correct. But if you're spending

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Speaker 1: Woola wah hashtag wlw relationships.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if anonymous, I don't know if Anonymous

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Speaker 2: is in a relationship, but if you're spending a lot

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Speaker 2: of time I'm together, if it's your best friend and

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Speaker 2: you're seeing their partner all the time, it might be

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Speaker 2: something where it's like I would rather just not even

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Speaker 2: hang out with my best friend if I'm gonna have

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Speaker 3: Horrible, that's so sad.

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Speaker 2: So another part of me is like, do you just

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Speaker 2: go straight to Sarah and say, hey, I know that

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Speaker 2: we both love Kelly, and I don't know if I've

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Speaker 2: maybe Sarah doesn't even realize she's being that way.

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Speaker 3: Well maybe you just wait it out until they break up.

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Speaker 1: My god, you're back in.

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Speaker 3: Several directions here.

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Speaker 1: I don't know your relationship with Kelly.

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Speaker 2: So if you feel comfortable just going to Kelly and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right.

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Speaker 4: This is from anonymous The starting Over conversation with my boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: and Robbie ever had conversations about that dynamic. Was Robbie

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Speaker 4: you guys are the best.

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Speaker 5: I think that your last the last thing you said

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Speaker 5: That's problematic just because I feel like once you guys

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Speaker 5: So no, it wasn't something that Robin I always saw

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Speaker 5: When you're when you're dating somebody that does that has

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Speaker 4: Hello, Becka, Tanya market Easton. This email's mostly from Mark

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Speaker 4: There you go. This is from this is a quickie anonymous.

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Speaker 4: How soon is too soon to become exclusive with your

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Speaker 1: I just have a car. I would be honest and

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Speaker 3: All fine, everything's fine, Everything's fine fine.

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Speaker 4: Krystain Alley, this is an interesting question, Cristel and Allie,

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Speaker 4: to two podcasts a week with Taylor swift new album

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Speaker 4: a challenge for Tanya Well. I mostly agree with you

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Speaker 4: Taylor brilliantly compares to Peter in this song, to Peter

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Speaker 4: The singer's like Wendy, who loves him and believes it

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Speaker 4: Do you have someone in your past that is your Peter,

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Speaker 4: you believe there's only one person who has meant for you?

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Speaker 4: I look forward to hearing your answers. Thank you for

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Speaker 4: keeping us entertained. You are our favorite podcast, and it

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Speaker 3: I don't believe I have a Peter.

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Speaker 1: I don't have a Peter.

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Speaker 1: But I don't love Peter.

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Speaker 4: I don't think there's no one I dated, even once

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Speaker 4: in the past that I think would have worked long term.

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Speaker 4: Tell amorous. All right. We got some fun random questions

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Speaker 4: from Jesse, but first a brave oh yeah, I mean this.

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Speaker 1: All right the finale of the episode.

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Speaker 4: Let's make it grand from Jesse. Hey, everyone, I absolutely

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Speaker 4: love the podcast. I wanted to send it some fun,

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Speaker 4: dear Bonia questions that maybe you could ask since the

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Speaker 4: tackle bell order question might have been some of my

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Speaker 4: favorite contents so far. What's your death row meal?

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Speaker 1: Really?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Nice?

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Speaker 3: Big heaping pile with not gluten free pasta, feta chini

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Speaker 3: and a bunch of parmesan cheese.

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Speaker 2: I would go whipped eggplant from Elafonte with the red Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and then maybe like that's it.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I think it was my last meal. I meaning

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Speaker 4: a lot.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, yeah, it says drink, appetizer, entree, dessert, drink

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Speaker 2: big fresh icy doctor pepper, whipped eggplant. And then for

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Speaker 2: my entree, I might go like my mom's roast. I

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Speaker 2: love my mom's roast. I think about it a lot.

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Speaker 2: And then dessert, I'm going like ice cream, something ice cream,

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Speaker 2: like a Sunday with like chocolate syrup, caramel, peanuts, cherries,

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Speaker 2: all the things, or like a really I think I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna go like gooey homemade chocolate chip cookie.

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Speaker 1: Yes, what are you doing for your dessert?

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Speaker 5: Well, my drink would be a leachy martini and if

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Speaker 5: it was going, I'm gonna go out toasty tipsy, and

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Speaker 5: my dessert I'd say either a churo with chocolate dipping

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Speaker 5: sauce or some sort of ice cream.

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Speaker 3: Pie with like an oreo crust.

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Speaker 1: And close by the way, she's thinking, she's.

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Speaker 5: Daydream Baskin Robbins makes like this, like ice cream pie yea,

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Speaker 5: like an oreo crust, and then they put like mint

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Speaker 5: chip ice cream in it, and then they do this

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Speaker 5: like hard fudge like chocolate on top. I don't know

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Speaker 5: what it is, but it is a delicacy. It's like

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Speaker 5: thirty four ninety nine wow for the whole pie.

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Speaker 1: The price and everything she's given to us generous.

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Speaker 3: That's what That's what it would be, all right, Mark.

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Speaker 4: Oh, what my drink would be. I'd probably go for

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Speaker 4: like a beer wa Yeah, that would be crazy. That

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Speaker 4: would be crazy appetizer. I probably like a boneless chicken

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Speaker 4: wing kind of a thing, dipping sauces, not broth, No,

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Speaker 4: I think I do like a wing. I do like that.

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Speaker 4: I think traditional buffalo with cheese ranch. But I wouldn't

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Speaker 4: mind an assortment of dipping sauces.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you get that.

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Speaker 4: Tough. I've mentioned my wife's panini on here before. That's great.

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Speaker 4: I also love a deep dish pizza, like a really

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Speaker 4: it's almost like a casserole that's so damn thick. But

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Speaker 4: that's what I like. A pie, like a pizza pie,

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Speaker 4: a thick one like they have a to Carlos in Milwaukee.

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Speaker 4: It's phenomenal. Tony's gonna vomit really loaded up because all

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Speaker 4: just it's all cheese and sauce and pepperoni in there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and dessert.

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Speaker 4: You know, I thought of the different radio station I

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Speaker 4: worked at. They brought in up pineapple cheesecake and I

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Speaker 4: was like, eh, and I tried it and it was

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Speaker 4: life changing. And then my wife tracked down the woman

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Speaker 4: who made that and got it for my birthday that year.

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Speaker 4: It is a life changing dessert. It was a pineapple

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Speaker 4: cheesecake and it was heaven. That or my my wife's that.

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Speaker 4: Mickey makes a pretzel cherry torte. That's pretty phenomenal. So

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Speaker 4: I'm going on, yeah, that's really great. There you go.

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Speaker 2: Any weird food combos you secretly love. Her example is

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Speaker 2: peeb and Jay dipped in chicken noodle soup.

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Speaker 4: I could see that being a feeling. Really yeah.

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Speaker 2: I normally can get those like mine mine, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: My craziest is probably butter on a pop tart, which

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Speaker 2: you've had. It's a delicacy.

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Speaker 3: Nothing that's that weird, though.

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Speaker 5: It's like putting toast on butter on a toast pop

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Speaker 5: tart was like, it's like a sweet piece of toast.

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Speaker 4: Some find it odd that I put butter on my

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Speaker 4: peanut butter and jelly. That I butter my peanut butter

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Speaker 4: and jelly.

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Speaker 3: Gross.

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Speaker 1: Haley butters her bagel before or cream cheese? Is that normal?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: That sounds great to me.

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Speaker 1: It's delicious. It does make an impact, it.

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Speaker 4: Does, and buttery butter on a peb and j makes

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Speaker 4: it that much creamier.

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Speaker 1: M hm, you have a weird one.

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Speaker 4: No, everything, I don't.

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Speaker 1: Say your eggs and bone broth is kind of like.

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Speaker 3: It's like it's like people, It's like egg drop soup.

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Speaker 3: It's literally like egg drop soup.

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Speaker 4: Wait a minute, which is bone broth? And what do

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Speaker 4: you put into it?

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Speaker 5: Smbled scrambled eggs, but you don't scramble the eggs. You

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Speaker 5: like put them in and then they cook in the

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Speaker 5: like egg drop soup.

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Speaker 1: Oh I thought you'd put scrambled eggs. Okay, I feel better.

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Speaker 1: One all right?

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Speaker 4: If you had to live in one TV show universe,

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Speaker 4: what would it be?

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Speaker 1: Friends?

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Speaker 4: I was thinking friends too, second City, so we'd all

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Speaker 4: be in New York.

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Speaker 3: Cute?

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Speaker 4: What animal matches your personality the best?

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Speaker 3: Sonny? I was gonna say koala bear interesting or kangaroo?

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Speaker 5: Just hopping along, wanting everybody to get in my belly.

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Speaker 4: Ye know, I'm asking Chatchy beut, knowing what you know

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Speaker 4: about me, what animal would you say I am most

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Speaker 4: similar to? I could do that soon because I really

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Speaker 4: don't know how to answer this question, and I feel

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Speaker 4: like Chatchi BENSI better than I think. Really, Uh, let's

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Speaker 4: see a wolf.

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Speaker 5: Oh, I don't actually have memory on in this chat,

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Speaker 5: so I don't know how much about you.

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Speaker 2: Yes about Tanya rad that just asked to say, what

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Speaker 2: animal would you compare to?

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Speaker 1: Tanya?

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Speaker 2: Famous celebrity Tanya rab Mine said, I'd compare Becca Tilly

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Speaker 2: to a golden retriever.

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Speaker 1: Here's why. Warm and approachable, playful but loyal, relatable, comforting presence.

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Speaker 5: WHOA I would say, you're a golden retriever. That's nice, thanks, all.

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Speaker 4: Right, Tanya.

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Speaker 3: A humming bird that's good?

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Speaker 1: Just what's wrong with that?

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Speaker 2: I love?

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Speaker 3: They're so annoying.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited to see a hummingbird.

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Speaker 5: Energetic and passionate, bright and vibrant presence, adaptable and resilient,

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Speaker 5: delicate but strong.

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Speaker 1: Oh.

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Speaker 2: The thing about hummingbirds that's not quite like you is

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Speaker 2: you have you almost you have to like work to

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Speaker 2: get them to come to you.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to. You don't have to work.

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Speaker 3: Yeah you do.

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Speaker 1: You have to.

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Speaker 3: You gotta put it work, work, work work.

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Speaker 1: That was fun. Yeah, great, great episode, guys. Banger banger,

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Speaker 1: banger after banger. It's what we do. But we will

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Speaker 1: be back next week.

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Speaker 4: Oh, next time we're back, we will all have listened

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Speaker 4: to the Tailor album.

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Speaker 3: Oh it's already a new month.

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Speaker 4: Dang, it's October. Welcome to it, beck birthday month.

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Speaker 1: Hey oh yeah.

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Speaker 2: I'm not wanting to celebrate my birthday month, but my

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Speaker 2: birthday is the last, not the last.

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Speaker 1: But we hope you have a wonderful weekend.

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Speaker 3: Yes we do, and we love you so much.

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Speaker 1: Love you, b