1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,560 Speaker 1: Riley told me today that he has a list of 2 00:00:02,600 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: three reasons why he won't commit suicide. Reason number one 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:08,480 Speaker 1: was he didn't want to die before Queen Elizabeth, so 4 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: that's out the window. Reason number two was he can't 5 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:13,840 Speaker 1: die until he's been inside of ten. 6 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 2: What's what would you say? 7 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: You have? 8 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 2: Side plus seven? 9 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 3: Oh boy, I'll be the judge of that. 10 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: Pull it up, receipts, receets, show me, where's the video? 11 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 3: I feel like this would be too damaging to way 12 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 3: too damaccurate. 13 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, wait, let's let's let's not I know it's all good, 14 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 2: Riley Riley, No, No, we don't want to. I don't 15 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 2: want to see it. Show We'll leave it to mystery. 16 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 3: Although something that I that I think is very humbling 17 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 3: is have you ever been on true rate me True 18 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 3: what True rate me, True rape me, True rate True 19 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 3: rate me, True rate Me? 20 00:00:59,320 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 2: No? 21 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 3: Okay, So there's this subreddit on Reddit called true rate me, 22 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 3: and they have a whole fucking table of like how 23 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 3: hot are you male? Female? And if you look at that, 24 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 3: fucking humbled, fucking humbled. 25 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 2: I believe it, like I'm trying to do that. 26 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: There. 27 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 3: Let me show you. Here's the women's guide. There's no 28 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 3: tens because no one meets the standard. Let's see, it's 29 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 3: like top two point five is one out of forty 30 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 3: top it's seven point five is one out of one, 31 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,319 Speaker 3: sixty eight is one out of seven hundred and fifty. 32 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 3: Eight point five is one out of three thousand, nine 33 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 3: is one out of twenty thousand. Nine point five is 34 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:34,959 Speaker 3: one out of fifty thousand. 35 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: So they literally limit it to the people like wow, 36 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: oh my god, yeah, this is this is fucking crazy. 37 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 2: They have a men's one too. This is stupid. Oh 38 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 2: are you are you looking You're looking at the you're 39 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 2: looking at the ratings. 40 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: I see so many people that should be swap swapping places. 41 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean obviously it's not fucking yeah yeah, yeah, 42 00:01:57,920 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 3: yeah yeah. 43 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 2: It's beauty is in the eye. 44 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: That's the perfect because it's like, uh, there's this there's 45 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 1: this thing in hip hop journalism where they'll do, like, 46 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: you know, the top ten album lists or whatever, they 47 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: intentionally put a shitty album in it so that way 48 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: everybody argues about. 49 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:15,119 Speaker 3: Oh, that's super smart. I think it's like that here, 50 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 3: like here, check this out. This is what o'riley's looking at. 51 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 3: So people will fucking put their pictures on there, and 52 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:24,960 Speaker 3: then people will fucking mean as fuck. Redditors will say 53 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 3: fucking fucked up shit, those eyes. 54 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 2: And ears give me a sense of AI generated pictures? 55 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 2: What does that even mean? AI generated pictures are hot, dude. 56 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 1: All of the people, yes, all of the people that 57 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: are writing these are ugly as fuck. 58 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 2: Yeah guaranteed. 59 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, facts, Okay, So Riley, based on based on that scale, 60 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 3: where rate yourself, I. 61 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 2: Would be rated as a seven. 62 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:51,960 Speaker 3: Probably, No, Riley, dude, Fucking Chris Hemsworth is an eight 63 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:52,640 Speaker 3: point five. 64 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: Fuck me, it's it's just an intentional thing of like 65 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: being able. 66 00:02:58,040 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 2: To critique people. That's literally what it is. 67 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 3: Bryce Hall is a five point five. Anthony Mackall is 68 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,799 Speaker 3: a five, Anthony Michael is No, jay z is a four, 69 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 3: and so is that Sharon, and so is DJ. 70 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: Collin honestly, honestly, and sharing looks fucking crazy. 71 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:19,000 Speaker 3: I thought of Ed Cheering being horny. That's so funny. 72 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 3: Fuck dude, all right, this. 73 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 2: Is shaping up to be an og episode. 74 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 3: Bro, not good fucking Christiano Ronaldo is a seven point five. 75 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 2: This, No, that's not it. You know, the guy from her, 76 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 2: the main guy from her. Yeah, yeah, yeah, he's a 77 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 2: seven on this scale. Bro, he's a. 78 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: Little bit of a certain flavor. 79 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 2: But all right, sorry, I'm done, Riley into is this? God? Damn? 80 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 2: How am I in? 81 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 3: Put this in the podcast? Put this in the podcast 82 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 3: that I'm good? 83 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, in the podcast. Put in the podcast. 84 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 3: I let my daughter date my son's bully and he 85 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 3: did not take it. Well, I may have just torn 86 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 3: my entire family apart, am I That's cool? 87 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 2: See? 88 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: Usually the dad is like gatekeeping who gets to date 89 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: his daughter? 90 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 2: You know what I mean? A shot gun with a shotgun. 91 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: I feel like people who bully your son would put 92 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: him just right at. 93 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 2: The bottom, way down here. They want your daughter to 94 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 2: date a bully. I wouldn't. 95 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:19,479 Speaker 3: Yeah, I would come and get away from my property. Boy, 96 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 3: that's right, get away, yeah right. Riley's got those good 97 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 3: old Southern shotgun confrontations. 98 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 2: Have you ever been confronted with a shotgun? 99 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 1: I had been. 100 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 2: That I have what I have? Sick nuts right off? 101 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: That would make me with my pants in fear three 102 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: or four? 103 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 2: What are you doing? Riley? Just they're just like, hey, boy, 104 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 2: I have Is it like joking or is it like 105 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 2: serious or kind of a mix? I think it's semi serious. Wow, 106 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 2: all right, no thanks. 107 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:58,120 Speaker 3: This all started a couple of years ago and it 108 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 3: has completely split our family apart. My son Ze twenty 109 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:03,600 Speaker 3: two male, has pretty much been a strange from us 110 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 3: since he was eighteen. Adam is the son of good 111 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 3: family friends. He and my daughter P twenty four female 112 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:12,039 Speaker 3: began dating around when they were nineteen. The problem is 113 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:15,160 Speaker 3: Adam was a bully to my son throughout school. As 114 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,159 Speaker 3: you can imagine, he didn't take it very well. He 115 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 3: was furious. However, my daughter refused to budge on this. 116 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:22,240 Speaker 3: I tried to stay out of the situation, but my 117 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:24,839 Speaker 3: wife took my daughter's side, partially as we were good 118 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:27,680 Speaker 3: friends with the Adam's parents, but also because she thought 119 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:29,160 Speaker 3: z would eventually get over it. 120 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:30,599 Speaker 2: Also, why did they try to do anything? 121 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:33,040 Speaker 3: If they were good friends with the good family friends, 122 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:34,600 Speaker 3: why didn't they try to do anything with the bullying. 123 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 2: It's stupid to not like, yeah, that's really fucked. Yeah. 124 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 3: Unfortunately that didn't happen. Instead, it made a stark difference 125 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:45,360 Speaker 3: in my son's personality. He had become much more aggressive, cold, 126 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 3: and disrespectful. He no longer listened to me or what 127 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 3: his mother had to say, often using intimidation to get 128 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:53,240 Speaker 3: what he wanted. He would also disappear for days at 129 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 3: a time without so much a word. This would more 130 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:58,359 Speaker 3: or less carry on until he left for university, after 131 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:00,680 Speaker 3: which he probably spent no more than two weeks in 132 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 3: total back home, opting to stay with friends or whatever 133 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 3: girl he was seeing at the time. He has rejected 134 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:08,839 Speaker 3: any olive branch we extend. This has completely destroyed our family, 135 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:11,280 Speaker 3: and it especially hurts my wife as they were quite 136 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 3: close before this happened. The last time we spoke was 137 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 3: last year before lockdown. He called me a coward for 138 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:19,720 Speaker 3: sitting on the fence. I understand why he feels the 139 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,160 Speaker 3: way he does, but was I really wrong to stay 140 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 3: neutral on this? I didn't feel like it was my 141 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 3: place to control my daughter's dating life. And there is 142 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:29,800 Speaker 3: an update. But John, I want to know what everyone 143 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 3: else thinks. Is OPI the dad being an a hole? 144 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:35,479 Speaker 3: And why if you think so? Or why do you 145 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 3: not think so? But John, what do you think? 146 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 1: I do see the point in where it's like, Hey, 147 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: if I tell you can't date this guy, that's only 148 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 1: going to make her want to date him more Like 149 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:45,720 Speaker 1: that is the kind of catch twenty two that you're 150 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: dealing with in this situation. 151 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 2: But again kind of. 152 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,479 Speaker 1: To your point before, like why did the families not 153 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:52,359 Speaker 1: like sit him down and talk to him and be 154 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 1: like you cannot do this? 155 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think op is not the a hole for 156 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,600 Speaker 3: like not controlling, like like for for not going in 157 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 3: and controlling his daughter's life. Is the A hole for 158 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 3: not doing anything sooner? And it seems I'm way too little, 159 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:07,160 Speaker 3: too late, Like they didn't do anything to prevent the buwlling. 160 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 3: If they were family friends, they should have done more. 161 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 3: And I bet you the son felt like not only 162 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 3: was he not helped during his time when he was 163 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 3: being bulling, but now they're not really even they're not 164 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 3: They weren't taking his account to his feelings then and 165 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 3: they're not taking account of his feelings now. 166 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, and this is just like so much worse, Like 167 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 1: now your bully's gonna be constantly around you and you 168 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 1: have like basically no choice, Like yeah, home home went 169 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: from like the safe place. 170 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 2: Like to not safe. 171 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 3: Your bully has literally infistrated infiltrated your family, Like how 172 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 3: would that this Depending on how bad the bullying is, 173 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 3: that would be traumatic one hundred percent I could see 174 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 3: not wanting to be part of the family, but I 175 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,679 Speaker 3: got an update, so the verdict was you're the asshole. 176 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 3: By the comments update, it was quite clear that we 177 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 3: were in the wrong and we accept that. However, my 178 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 3: son was informed of the original post by one of 179 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 3: his cousins. He got into contact and he found it hilarious. 180 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 3: My wife managed to convince him to meet up with 181 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 3: us and talk. In regard to his sister and Adam, 182 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 3: he seemed completely indifferent to them. He said he wasn't 183 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 3: particularly interested in talking to two losers. No one really likes. 184 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 3: It was a long conversation. We talked about a lot, 185 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 3: but it seemed to end with my son letting us 186 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 3: know that while there might be the slightest bit of 187 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 3: contact between us, me and my wife will always be 188 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 3: on the outside looking in on his life. Well, this 189 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 3: isn't what me and my wife hoped for. We were 190 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 3: looking at this as a chance to eventually build our 191 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 3: relationship back up. I'm happy to say he's outgrown his 192 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 3: abrasiveness and has become a very confident and intelligent young man. 193 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 2: He now runs a charity. 194 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 3: He happily went into detail about how he works with 195 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 3: disadvantaged children and helps them get opportunities, particularly in sports. 196 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 2: And that's the end. Wow. 197 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: Wait, so did the bully become like the head of 198 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 1: a charity or like, no, this is the sun? Oh 199 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:43,680 Speaker 1: oh yeah yeah the Op's son, Opie son. Yeah, Opie's 200 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:47,719 Speaker 1: son they met up with, right, Yeah, what seemed to end? 201 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:52,079 Speaker 1: It ended like okay, yeah, I mean I think they 202 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 1: are the tool. They don't necessarily deserve anything from him. Yeah, 203 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: but he's giving a little window into his life. 204 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 3: So that's all you get asked for. I agree, But 205 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 3: what would you do? Put your answers in the comments 206 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 3: if you're bully just way into your life? Do your 207 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 3: sister your sister to fuck you up continuously? They say 208 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 3: high school ends in high school, but no high school 209 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:19,719 Speaker 3: comes in your sister, so, uh, sorry comes when you 210 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 3: least expect it. A oh yeah, let us know what 211 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 3: you would do in this situation. Kind of crazy, honestly, 212 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 3: a little You don't want your high school bullied. 213 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 2: I love you anywhere. 214 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 3: Yeah that would suck, but uh, this is another Bali episode. 215 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 3: We miss you, we love you. Okay, So we have 216 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 3: a Patreon by the way, yes, if anyone's still here, 217 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 3: and we have a bunch of tears. We have like 218 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:40,600 Speaker 3: ad free episodes, bonus exclusive episodes, and we're doing this 219 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 3: kind of like live event kind of thing. We want 220 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:44,560 Speaker 3: to eventually do this in person, but we're doing it 221 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 3: online first called Asshole's Anonymous. We're gonna read stories with 222 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 3: you guys, you react to them and say if you 223 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 3: think they're the asshole or not, basically what we're doing 224 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 3: in the comments here, but live, and then we'll pull 225 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 3: one of you guys up on the Zoom stage and 226 00:09:56,440 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 3: interview you about your life and what's uh and one 227 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 3: of your crazy stories. Yes, we have an episode that 228 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 3: came out like probably like a week ago or two, 229 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 3: a couple of weeks ago. 230 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 2: So check it out if you want to see what 231 00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 2: it's like. 232 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 3: We'd love to see you join the Patreon so cook 233 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 3: the link in the description. 234 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 2: See you next time. Pace. 235 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:16,680 Speaker 3: Stepdad who refused to pay for my childhood wants sixty 236 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 3: thousand dollars. 237 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 2: Fine, here's what I'm gonna do. 238 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 1: So the average you know, the average cost of raising someone, right, 239 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: what is it like five hundred thousand? Like, I don't know, 240 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: let's say it's two hundred thousand, right, that's probably very 241 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 1: low I would say. I would say, since it's not 242 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:33,200 Speaker 1: your fault for being born, it's on the parents to 243 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 1: spend that. 244 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:36,960 Speaker 3: So really no, I think indentured servitude. I think you 245 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 3: have to pay back everything your parents invested. I'm twenty 246 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 3: nine female, and when I was about ten, my mom 247 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 3: married my stepfather. I have an older brother, Luke, who 248 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 3: is fifteen. My stepfather had Amy and Ada, who were 249 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:52,320 Speaker 3: twelve and eleven. What's with like parents in naming all 250 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 3: their kids with like alliteration? You know, Ah, Sophia, Sam, 251 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 3: it's my sister. 252 00:10:56,640 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 1: It's too Oh, that's true to me, Ada, John, Lauren 253 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 1: and see your parents would do that. 254 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 2: They were smart. Yeah, they didn't go with the illiteration, 255 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 2: different basic names. 256 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 3: Think about how many people you know that have siblings 257 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:11,560 Speaker 3: and have the same first letter. We didn't come from 258 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 3: a privileged background. My mom was a minimum wage worker 259 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:17,680 Speaker 3: and my dad was absent. Our stepfather had a very 260 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:22,439 Speaker 3: good income, which maybe is why mama went for the 261 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 3: step dad give me that money money a I already 262 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:30,200 Speaker 3: went for. You know, the first marriage was about getting 263 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 3: some hotties. Second marriage, but now it's about that money. 264 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 2: We're bringing it back. 265 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 3: The money our stepfather had a very good income. Their 266 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 3: deal was they wouldn't combine finances. Wait, no, the whole 267 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 3: deal of the second marriages is to combine finances. Why 268 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 3: do you get married a second time if you can't 269 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 3: go about it finances? 270 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 2: That is so hilarious and tragic. 271 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 1: She's coming in thinking like, oh man, I'm going to 272 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: get this sucker, and then he's like, yeah, we're splitting finances. 273 00:11:57,840 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 2: You stay poor, wall stay rich. 274 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 3: And they would contribute equally to the household and then 275 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 3: each take care of their children with their spare money. 276 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:09,840 Speaker 1: That's double aft because not only does she make way less, 277 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:10,720 Speaker 1: but she has to. 278 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like moving into the man. 279 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 3: She's like, okay, yeah, now you gotta pay like twenty 280 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:16,920 Speaker 3: grand a month, literally. 281 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:18,000 Speaker 2: Like oh, I'm making minimum wage. 282 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 1: And he's like yeah, so half of the mortgage has 283 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 1: like ten grand a month, and she's. 284 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 2: Like, I make minimum wage work out Walmart. 285 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 3: So my mom never had anything for us at all, 286 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:32,600 Speaker 3: and my stepfather was spending big on his kids. This 287 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:36,760 Speaker 3: included This included holidays which Luke and I were excluded from. 288 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 3: Stepfather would pay for Mom and not for us. 289 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 1: How how insane is that you literally want witch watch 290 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:46,679 Speaker 1: the whole family, not just It would be one thing 291 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 1: if it was the parents. The parents and your step 292 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 1: siblings go off and you're what, you're at home doing 293 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 1: what I guess with the steps the dad, Why would 294 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 1: the mom ever agree to like, like, don't you love 295 00:12:56,760 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: your children? Like that's crazy? But she loves free vacations 296 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 1: more facts, that's the one thing they didn't split. 297 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:06,040 Speaker 3: At least at least he's paying for the vacation. This 298 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 3: is all right like that, Like if she's not getting 299 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 3: much out of this second marriage, but at least she's 300 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:12,040 Speaker 3: getting the vacation. 301 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 1: Bro, everyone everyone on Opie's family side loses. 302 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:18,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, they got totally screwed. 303 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, Luke and I also shared a room, even though 304 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 3: Amy and Ada had their own rooms and we had 305 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 3: a guess room. 306 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 2: That's so stupid. 307 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 1: Just have them share a room when someone comes over, 308 00:13:30,559 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 1: it's giving. It's giving Cinderella stepmom except stepdad. That's the 309 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: only difference. 310 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 2: Yeah. 311 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 3: So the room situation was because stepfather insisted that he 312 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:43,559 Speaker 3: was paying more towards the house, so my mom's share 313 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:47,080 Speaker 3: would only get her one room for the kids. My god, 314 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 3: what kind of marriage is this? 315 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 2: Bro? Luke and I were. 316 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 3: Constantly teased for this situation by the three of the wait, 317 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:57,079 Speaker 3: by the three of them. No, don't tell me it's 318 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 3: the dad to it there was two kids or whether 319 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:02,440 Speaker 3: it No, that's iculous, I thought I read that wrong. No, 320 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 3: three of them. As we grew up, my mom always 321 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 3: said that we should be thankful because if it wasn't 322 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 3: for our stepfather, we would not be living in a 323 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:11,559 Speaker 3: nice home in a good neighborhood. 324 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 2: Stop, which is probably true. 325 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: Mean, it's true, it's true, but it's also something as 326 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 1: a second class citizen, literally like it's it's them, like 327 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,760 Speaker 1: separating them and like it's so dumb, like it just 328 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: makes no sense. 329 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 3: No, it's it's like, here's a family. Yeah, right, this 330 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 3: is a tier S tier meeting. And then like d 331 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:37,000 Speaker 3: E F tier that's that's Op, that's is chilling. I'm sorry, op. Yeah. 332 00:14:37,040 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 2: Wow. 333 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:39,600 Speaker 3: Anyway, Luke and I determined to be able to take 334 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:41,840 Speaker 3: care of ourselves so we wouldn't need to take this 335 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 3: nonsense from anyone. Yeah, we have both done quite well 336 00:14:45,080 --> 00:14:47,000 Speaker 3: with our careers and finances, and we are in a 337 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 3: very good place. Since turning eighteen and moving out of 338 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 3: my relationship with the three of them. It has been 339 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:54,720 Speaker 3: very limited. I wouldn't call us friends, but we can 340 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,680 Speaker 3: exist peacefully in the same place. It sounds like you're 341 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 3: ready to move back into that mansion. Yeah, you can 342 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 3: live peacefully in the same place. Get that shared room, baby. 343 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 1: The story of how I murdered my stepfather for the 344 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 1: Mansion Murder Mansion coming to a podcast near you. 345 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 2: That's right. 346 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 3: I visited my mom recently and my stepfather mentioned that 347 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 3: Amy wants to buy a house now that she's pregnant. 348 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 3: He asked me if I'm able to help out a 349 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 3: little bit with the deposit. The house is five hundred 350 00:15:22,840 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 3: thousand pounds and she needs one hundred and fifty thousand 351 00:15:26,200 --> 00:15:29,240 Speaker 3: pound deposit. She has one hundred thousand pounds so far, 352 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 3: twenty five k on her own, twenty five k from 353 00:15:32,360 --> 00:15:34,960 Speaker 3: her mom, and fifty k from stepfather. 354 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 2: He was asking if Luke and I can. 355 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 3: Help cover the extra fifty k, and he said he'd 356 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 3: pay us back as part of our inheritance eventually. So 357 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 3: man's like not even like, ah, I can pay you back. 358 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 3: It's like, yo, when I die, you can have some money. 359 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 3: I guess this has to stop. This is so fucking insane. 360 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 3: It's ridiculous. All right, Well guess what, OP says what? 361 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:04,440 Speaker 3: Big fat No. He insisted that Luke and I both 362 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 3: own our houses outright, and with our incomes, we should 363 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 3: be able to help. Huh sounds like you could have 364 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:13,600 Speaker 3: helped out with your income and childhood. 365 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:14,400 Speaker 2: You know what. 366 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 1: Happens when you have extra money but you don't spend 367 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:18,440 Speaker 1: it on your own children. 368 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, this is karma, that's what happens. Hey, for that 369 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 3: crap yourself, I said, whether I can or not is irrelevant. 370 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 2: My answer is no facts. Yoh. 371 00:16:29,960 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 3: He reminded me that Luke and I gave ten k 372 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 3: to our cousin for buying a house's gift. Yo, that's 373 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 3: the cousin now, you're domas. Doesn't make a difference, bro, 374 00:16:40,280 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 3: I said, that was our choice and this is my 375 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 3: choice now. He insisted that we should be willing to 376 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 3: help out our family if we're able to help. 377 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 2: I replied back, like how. 378 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 3: You helped out me and Luke when we were kids exactly. 379 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:52,280 Speaker 2: Huh. 380 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:57,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, take that, daddy, God stepdad, go get stuck in 381 00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 3: a washing machine for all I care. 382 00:16:58,800 --> 00:17:02,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, or stick something now in your butthole. 383 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:05,920 Speaker 3: Everyone just went quiet when I said this who's everyone 384 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 3: is like an audience here. Everyone just went quiet after 385 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 3: I said this. After a while, he said, if we 386 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,880 Speaker 3: went back in time, he would have done things differently. 387 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 3: Huh no, too freaking late to frick and late. He 388 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:20,760 Speaker 3: said he would have treated all four of us equally. 389 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 3: I said, that's good of you, but it doesn't make 390 00:17:23,320 --> 00:17:24,560 Speaker 3: you entitled to my money. 391 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:24,800 Speaker 2: Now. 392 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:27,920 Speaker 3: He said he knows he's not entitled. That's why he's 393 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 3: asking and promising to pay it back after he's dead. Like, look, 394 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:35,359 Speaker 3: I said, the answer is still know and he's not 395 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:38,120 Speaker 3: entitled to alone either. My mom told me I could 396 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:40,200 Speaker 3: have turned him down without being an asshole of bringing 397 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:42,919 Speaker 3: up childhood, which he already feels guilty about. 398 00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:47,719 Speaker 2: Rick ed guts, he should feel guilty. I want you 399 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:50,440 Speaker 2: to die with that gilt. You have to stop with 400 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 2: this anyway. Am I the a hole? 401 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 1: Oh my god, No, no way, no, no, dude, I'm 402 00:17:57,960 --> 00:18:02,080 Speaker 1: so glad that you not, because like it's awkward, especially 403 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: like having the audacity to ask in front of the family. 404 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:07,800 Speaker 2: Found like a family gathering, it's awkward. 405 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:09,880 Speaker 1: To say no, and like I could see somebody like, okay, 406 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 1: let me just like politely say no and just try 407 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 1: to get off the subject, but like OPI is like, no, 408 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:17,399 Speaker 1: this is this is why, like you you fucked up. Also, 409 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:20,360 Speaker 1: it's like she probably didn't has not said that, damn ever. 410 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 1: Yes right, It's like like this is like her chance 411 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: to be like, hey, you treated us terribly, and I 412 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:29,840 Speaker 1: like like, you know you did. I know you did, 413 00:18:30,080 --> 00:18:35,119 Speaker 1: and here are the consequences. We love it, We love it, 414 00:18:35,160 --> 00:18:35,960 Speaker 1: We love it, Opie. 415 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 3: Shout out Brandon el Fitch, Brandon ell Fitch, we saw 416 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:40,960 Speaker 3: your Spotify rapt thank you for being a fan of 417 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 3: the show. 418 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 2: We love you.