1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. 3 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in and it is a 4 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Wednesday night, six thirty pm. Uh? Do I smell okay? 5 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: You smell okay? Like? Do I do? I don't smell 6 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 1: better than you? Don't smell bad. You don't smell like 7 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: you know you normally smell good. You don't smell good? 8 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: What do I smell? Okay? Now? I feel like you're 9 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: messing with me? Do I smell like perfume or like you? 10 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: But you're not wearing anything right? I have perfume one? 11 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:39,640 Speaker 1: Oh really? Oh it's usually more potent, Like you're not 12 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: giving yourself enough as much as you usually do. You 13 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 1: usually smell a lot more. Yeah, I can't. Yeah, you 14 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: usually smell a lot more, like I don't Know's Tanya 15 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 1: just trying to get me back, like as you feel 16 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: in triggered by red Star saying agreeing with me? So 17 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: like I don't know because I cannot. I cannot confirm 18 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: or deny what she's saying. I'm not tell no. I'm 19 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,400 Speaker 1: also like still very upset by that, Like I haven't 20 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: seen him since you're upset. Yeah, you started the conversation 21 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: because I was helping you out. I was helping. It 22 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,960 Speaker 1: wasn't really it was kind of like like you could 23 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: have done it off the podcast. It was a good bit, 24 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: so it worked. It was like funny for the podcast. 25 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 1: But the whole point is I was holding my breath 26 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:25,679 Speaker 1: because it was so holding your breath. There's no way. 27 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 1: And the whole time we've been podcasting together, you've never 28 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:31,479 Speaker 1: said anything or acknowledge my breath, which after you called 29 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,319 Speaker 1: me out on it makes me think you would not 30 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 1: be That's what I'm saying. If you stunk, I would 31 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,679 Speaker 1: tell you. And what I learned some conversation is when 32 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:42,760 Speaker 1: I stink, you don't tell me. So but my boyfriend too. 33 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: We didn't say stink. We said Dale, that smells bad. 34 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: It's just not fresh anyway. So I am gonna be 35 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: gone next week. And so Becca wanted to record the 36 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: podcast this week. Um she didn't want to be SMS me, 37 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: which you know was just I just was really a blessing. 38 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: I don't feel I don't feel as though I'm in 39 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:15,920 Speaker 1: the right head space to lead a charge I know, 40 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: which honestly, I want to get too in a second. 41 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: But you just took a sip of your wine and 42 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 1: you're like acting like you can taste it. No, it's 43 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:25,119 Speaker 1: not so. People who have had COVID can relate to this. 44 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 1: People who have not had COVID cannot relate to this 45 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:32,360 Speaker 1: at all. You can feel the sensation of things, so 46 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: like if something salty, I can feel the sensation of salt, 47 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: but I can't taste whatever I'm eating. So you feel 48 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,920 Speaker 1: a sensation of liquid in your mouth, no, of like whatever, 49 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: Like the acid and wine. I guess is there acid 50 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: in wine? Well? Whatever? Natural? Yeah? Something, bitterness, no, something, 51 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: I taste the sense. I feel the sensation of wine, 52 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 1: but I can't taste the wine, which is actually good 53 00:02:57,960 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: because I don't really like the taste of wine. So 54 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: this is a great situation. And I have a round 55 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: ice cube in there. Yeah, I know you like the 56 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 1: chicness of that. I had one ice cube left, and 57 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: I was like, this is going to Becca, and we 58 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 1: have like a whole new situation set up because I 59 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: have an actual like PC computer now instead of a 60 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: laptop for work, and so we're holding our microphones and 61 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: drinking wine and like the sun's going down so it's 62 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 1: just kind of a vibe. Yeah, it's a it's a 63 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:30,639 Speaker 1: different feeling today. So, um, yeah, you posted on your 64 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: Instagram a question. Yeah, So I we should get back 65 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: to the reason why you've been like feeling a certain way, 66 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: because I think a lot of people can relate to 67 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: the way that you've been feeling, because I think in 68 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 1: some way or another, everybody's either feeling like blah or 69 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 1: like the zoom fatigue, or just feeling uninspired or in 70 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: a funk, and you've been feeling that way. I just 71 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: think a lot of people can relate to that. Yeah, 72 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: you know, I I think it was there was a 73 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:04,440 Speaker 1: lot of personal stuff. I think. I think just you know, 74 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: I have a really hard time disappointing people, which I 75 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: talked about on last week's podcasts, and um, so like 76 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: even if I whether I agree with them or I 77 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:20,080 Speaker 1: disagree with them, uh, in any capacity, I really struggle 78 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 1: with that. So I was really down on myself last week. 79 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: And then you get on social media and it's so 80 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 1: take that out of it, take my personal stuff out 81 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: of it, and everything's so heavy and the world's just 82 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: like not in a good place. Yeah, So it's kind 83 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,840 Speaker 1: of hard to like social media sometimes it's like an 84 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: escape and kind of a fun way to kind of 85 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: escape what's going on in your life. And then you 86 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: get on there and you're kind of face to see 87 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: what's going on and how people are speaking to each other. 88 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: It's just kind of like there's like heavy heavy, there's 89 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:58,120 Speaker 1: gnarly animosity. People are chomping at each other. There's a 90 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 1: lot going on in the world that you feel helpless about. 91 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 1: You want to like, there's just it's like a lot 92 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:07,479 Speaker 1: of emotions, and I think that, um, what you've been feeling. 93 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people have been feeling and 94 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: I have felt that over the last year and a 95 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: half in like lips of time, Like I've felt that 96 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: same feeling. And when you were talking about that, I 97 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:20,919 Speaker 1: felt like, as your best friend, I feel like I 98 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:25,599 Speaker 1: need to, like, um, rejolt you because I'm like on 99 00:05:25,640 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: the other side of that now where I'm feeling very inspired, 100 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: I'm feeling very ferocious. I'm feeling you know, this energy, 101 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:37,720 Speaker 1: this shift, this I'm gonna you know, I wake up 102 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 1: here me roar type thing. Um, And so I wanted 103 00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:46,719 Speaker 1: to just kind of you know, I don't know, make 104 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 1: I don't know, just make this fun and yeah, yeah, no, 105 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 1: I appreciate it because I uh, I knew Tony was 106 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: off next week, and I was like, I really don't 107 00:05:55,480 --> 00:06:01,159 Speaker 1: feel like I have the mental capacity to lead a 108 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: podcast with like a guest hose, Like the guest house 109 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:06,159 Speaker 1: might need to lead the podcast, so we either recorded 110 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: before we leave, or we're gonna have someone coming in 111 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 1: who needs to know what they're doing and they can 112 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: lead the podcast. But I think i'm you know, it's 113 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: I had therapy, which was really helpful, and you know, 114 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: she was like, when was the last time you were 115 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 1: just got off social media, like took a I'm talking 116 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: like a break where you did not get on any 117 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 1: form of social media and just checked out. I could 118 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: not remember a time where I've done that, really, not 119 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: even for a few days. No, Like, even if I 120 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 1: go on vacation, I'm either you know, if I'm staying 121 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 1: with like a hotel or something, I'm eating content like that. 122 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: And even if it's not specifically for like a sponsor thing, 123 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 1: it's too pretty because I'm somewhere pretty and I want 124 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 1: to take photos. But I can still take photos and 125 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: not need to post them, I think is what I 126 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,400 Speaker 1: think I need to remind myself about because my first 127 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: trip I did that, ever, was when I went to Hawaii. 128 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 1: I completely disconnected. I wasn't I was like waiting for 129 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 1: content nothing for a week. I didn't touch my phone. 130 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:06,360 Speaker 1: I took photos because I wanted to like have the memories, 131 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: and I took the old school camera, so we had 132 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 1: a bunch of like old school film um and it 133 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: was so I'm going to share the photos eventually because 134 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: I they're so cute and like whatever. Yeah, but I 135 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: it was so nice to just kind of capture it 136 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:21,280 Speaker 1: and just I'll be like, I'm gonna post it whenever 137 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: I want to. I didn't feel like I needed to 138 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: do anything. I wasn't and I was literally on vacation. 139 00:07:25,960 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 1: I checked out. I didn't know what was going on 140 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: in the world. I don't know what day it was. 141 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 1: And there's something very cool about that. My mom goes, uh, yeah, 142 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: you know, it's just social media. It's just sometimes it's 143 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: hard to see it, so I just stay off of it. 144 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:42,239 Speaker 1: Then she goes, I mean, you know, it's your job, 145 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 1: but you know for me, it's easy to stay off. 146 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, it's my job. And I texted 147 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: Alley he's like one of my best friends in my manager. 148 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm quitting. I don't want to 149 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: do anything. I'm kind of I'm figuring out a new career. 150 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 1: I'm quitting, and she goes, well, you can't quit the podcast. 151 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 1: It we can't take a break if you need it, 152 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:04,280 Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't know what I needed. 153 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: By the way, Ali wrote me and was like, oh, 154 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: all my friends were worried. Yeah's like I'm really worried 155 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 1: about Becca. Um. I just feel like she's in a 156 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: like a sad place, and I go, I am too. 157 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: But I was like, it's totally fine. I was like, 158 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 1: we're gonna have some fun on the podcast. We're gonna 159 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: be super chill, just bring it, bring it back to 160 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: the old school days, and we're just like having fun. 161 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 1: There's no pressure to talk about anything, hanging out with 162 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: our girlfriends and we're gonna have some fun drinking nights. Yeah. 163 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 1: It's weird though, because like normally I can get myself 164 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 1: out of the headspace and I'm like, I have there's 165 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 1: nothing that I should there's I have no complaints, Like 166 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 1: there's no reason I should have a complaint. And I 167 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: couldn't get out and I normally can pull myself out 168 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 1: of it because I'm like, Becca, get it together, Like 169 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 1: you have the best friends, you have a podcast, you 170 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 1: get to do social media, and you get to travel, 171 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: and you just bought at home, you have the best 172 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:03,080 Speaker 1: dog ever, You're a healthy relationship. And I could not 173 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: get there. I was just like I don't care, which 174 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 1: is kind of dark, like literally you kind of go 175 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: like I seriously kind of felt a little bit worried 176 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: for myself to be honest, where I was like, do 177 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:21,079 Speaker 1: I need like you know? And then I started thinking, 178 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: it's just like any other job. There's that high and 179 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 1: there's that low where and there's that high where you're like, 180 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:29,839 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful I have the best job in the world. 181 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: It's so fun, I love the people I work with. 182 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:34,960 Speaker 1: What could be better than this? And then you turned 183 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: the corner the next week and you're like, is this 184 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,680 Speaker 1: what I want to do? It's not even that I 185 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: think you need to take yourself out of it. I 186 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 1: think there's a lot of people like I know something 187 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 1: that works at a coffee shop and she just took 188 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 1: a little bit of a like a mental leave because 189 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: it's just there's so much heaviness going on that I 190 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:57,440 Speaker 1: just don't think people can like figure out how to 191 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:00,120 Speaker 1: let navigate it all, you know what I mean. I 192 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:02,200 Speaker 1: mean this is for most of us, this is our 193 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: first time living through anything like this. So it's like 194 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: it is kind of that, you know, a lot of 195 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: people I'm going through we're all going through things for 196 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: the first time and like feelings for the first time. 197 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 1: But it's gonna be okay. And if you're going through 198 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:19,319 Speaker 1: something hard, it's okay to feel that you don't have 199 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:23,960 Speaker 1: to snap back and like you can be grateful and 200 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: be aware of what you have and still be sad 201 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 1: and down. And I think my therapist reminded me of that. 202 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:33,040 Speaker 1: She was like, you don't have to like just snap back, 203 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: like you are able to be grateful and acknowledge what 204 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:40,160 Speaker 1: you have and still be having a hard time. So 205 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 1: so that being said, let's get into some fun. Look, 206 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:46,559 Speaker 1: get into some fun. Well, so I was like, I'm 207 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,559 Speaker 1: just gonna go in and you know, do a little 208 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:51,839 Speaker 1: questions box. You know, I thought you were going to 209 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,120 Speaker 1: do it as well, but you know, it's fine. I 210 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: thought if they were all in one place, it might 211 00:10:56,080 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: just be better. I was not gonna do that. Um, 212 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,439 Speaker 1: but I got so many and they're like all over 213 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:07,760 Speaker 1: the board, uh types of questions, and so I'm just gonna, 214 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:11,680 Speaker 1: I guess I'm just gonna go through and fire them off. Okay, 215 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:28,679 Speaker 1: well let's take a break real quick, all right, So 216 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:32,320 Speaker 1: we are back, and I just wrote these literally straight 217 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 1: from Instagram. I didn't put them in any order. UM, 218 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:37,880 Speaker 1: so I'm just gonna go for them. Some are quick answers, 219 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:40,199 Speaker 1: some are more in depth, and then I did get 220 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 1: some lengthy ones which I'll share for the end because 221 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 1: it's very interesting. Um, some of these questions that you 222 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 1: guys sent, because they're it just made me realize how 223 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:53,560 Speaker 1: connected we all are with all of our issues and 224 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 1: things that we're going through in life. Like somebody, um 225 00:11:56,760 --> 00:12:00,160 Speaker 1: broke up with their significant other that had kids, and 226 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:01,760 Speaker 1: like they're they're literally going through what I went through 227 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 1: six months ago and like need advice and and then 228 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 1: you know, they're just somebody's going through something that you're 229 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: going through, very similar going through. And so I was like, wow, 230 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 1: all right, so we're gonna say this for the end. Okay, 231 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 1: what are your dream wedding plans? Big or small? I 232 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: don't I I literally have never been the person who 233 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: dreamed about their wedding. And I like the idea of 234 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 1: more so doing like eloping or something and then having 235 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 1: like a beautiful like party celebration with everyone I love, 236 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 1: or maybe like a destination situation. Is this you trying 237 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:34,920 Speaker 1: to get out of having me as your made of honor? No, 238 00:12:35,160 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: I can still weasel that in somewhere. Okay, all right, 239 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:45,560 Speaker 1: there are sisters to consider here. Yeah, you can't going 240 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 1: to get into that because what's the point. And also, 241 00:12:48,679 --> 00:12:51,839 Speaker 1: like you can't pick a sister engaged, but like you 242 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:53,560 Speaker 1: can't pick a sister, you know what I mean? Like 243 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 1: you can't pick people pick a sister. Oh that's rude. 244 00:12:58,200 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: Maybe I'll just be like, maybe I'll make up a 245 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 1: spot for you, Tania. Something no one's ever heard. It's 246 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:06,959 Speaker 1: called the butterfly butterfly beauty and like that. Can you 247 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: drink some of your wine? Thanking drink? This is my 248 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 1: second glass, um mine? Okay, So if you were to 249 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: ask me two years ago, I would have said, I 250 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 1: want to turtle doves in a pear tree, singing with 251 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 1: the choir, Charlie Pool Charlie Charlie Pools playing the pianos. 252 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:28,160 Speaker 1: I walked down the aisle, the big dress, the ball gown, 253 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:34,560 Speaker 1: the you know, all the things, um, and now I 254 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 1: have no idea. And I think the reason why I 255 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 1: have no idea is because I'm realizing that I put 256 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 1: so much I think a hundred steps ahead and everything 257 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,640 Speaker 1: in my life, and I'm trying to be more present 258 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:50,600 Speaker 1: and be in the day by day, and so I 259 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:54,439 Speaker 1: have no idea. It's probably going to be something like 260 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:57,280 Speaker 1: I imagined. I imagine, but like I don't know. What 261 00:13:57,440 --> 00:14:00,679 Speaker 1: if we had like a box of butterflies, we release 262 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: them at the end of the wedding, and that was 263 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 1: like the symbolism of like old men, yeah, not old men, 264 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 1: but like like older, oh not elderly, but the past 265 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: shouldn't be focusing on any past men during your wedding, right, Well, 266 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 1: it's letting go of all the symbolism there, I see, Yeah, 267 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 1: you see, I don't I don't know what the symbolism is, 268 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 1: but the butterfly beauty and then he'll smash a bunch 269 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 1: of chap hand glass and those represent all the women 270 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 1: he used to day. I don't think you'd be cool 271 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 1: with it. Yeah, you're right. Okay, So the butterfly. What 272 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: if the butterflies represent the possibilities that you're unleashing into 273 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 1: your future. That's all the kids they're gonna have, and 274 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:40,840 Speaker 1: they're in a box. The butterflies are all in a box, 275 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 1: and the box is called possibilities, and then we open 276 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 1: or no, the box is called significant. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, 277 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 1: there's gonna be a lot of symbolism, Like I feel 278 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 1: like my wedding is going to be a Taylor Swift song. Yeah, 279 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,160 Speaker 1: you know, a lot of Easter eggs in there, a 280 00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 1: lot of you know, symbolism that we really went from 281 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 1: her having no I idea, two very detailed ideas of 282 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 1: what you want, so I knew we could get there 283 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: if we really just let her. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, it's 284 00:15:06,360 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 1: gonna be like a Taylor Swift album. Oh, an album 285 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:14,240 Speaker 1: not a song? Yeah yeah yeah yeah. Okay, if you 286 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 1: could only have one makeup product, what would it be 287 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 1: for the rest of your life? Lips lip liner? I 288 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 1: think you really really brings a face together. Uh, it 289 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: would be um gosh, eyeshadow. It really brings out the eyes. 290 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 1: What more do you need? Maybe bronzer Actually, well, I 291 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:42,520 Speaker 1: was gonna say bronzer can be used for Ice Shadow. Yeah, 292 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go Bronzer exact. Okay, will you do more 293 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:53,880 Speaker 1: live shows when allowed? Absolutely? Yeah, that was easy. Absolutely. Um, 294 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 1: how do you feel about sleeping with a co worker 295 00:15:56,360 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 1: that's married but unhappily married? How do you feel about 296 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: having an affair? Is that a loophole with Is that 297 00:16:08,840 --> 00:16:12,840 Speaker 1: what I'm reading? That's exactly No, that's exactly typed them 298 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: all exactly. Um. I think that you should stop. Any 299 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 1: married man who's trying to sleep with you is quote 300 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 1: unquote unhappily married. They're always going to say that you 301 00:16:25,640 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 1: don't know what the reality is. You need to stay away. Yeah, 302 00:16:28,920 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 1: And honestly, like if this guy was that unhappily married, 303 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:36,360 Speaker 1: you say, okay, you can go and get divorced and 304 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: then I'm happy to date you. I can't remember the article. 305 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,480 Speaker 1: I can't remember who it was about, but it was 306 00:16:42,520 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 1: about it was a celebrity I think who had had 307 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:49,240 Speaker 1: like a public affair. They both were married and they 308 00:16:49,240 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 1: have been Lean Himes and uh oh and Eddie Sybrian. Yeah. 309 00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 1: And I can't remember if she said or where what 310 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,720 Speaker 1: where was said, but it was basically saying that there's 311 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:03,520 Speaker 1: this insecure you that comes with um being with someone 312 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:06,960 Speaker 1: who cheats on someone because you are thinking they did 313 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 1: that to her, what is going to stop them from 314 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:13,639 Speaker 1: doing that to me? And so I think in to 315 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 1: be honest, and here's the thing. Feelings are really powerful, 316 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:20,400 Speaker 1: and when we connect with someone, it feels like it's 317 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:22,800 Speaker 1: meant to be like they're couldn't it was just meant 318 00:17:22,840 --> 00:17:25,160 Speaker 1: to me that you come into each other's life. This 319 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,159 Speaker 1: is not how it's supposed to go for you, and 320 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:28,959 Speaker 1: if it is, it needs to be done in a 321 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: way that's respectful to every party. And what's happening right 322 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 1: now is not respect And let me just tell you. 323 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:36,080 Speaker 1: I don't know you, but you're obviously is scrubbing a 324 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:38,640 Speaker 1: listener and you are better than being a side chick. 325 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:43,160 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Like you are the prime rib, 326 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 1: we are the skirt steak, we are the New York 327 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: prime rib. I don't know which we are the filet mignon. Okay, 328 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 1: we are not the broccolini on the side broccolini. But 329 00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:58,760 Speaker 1: this is what I agree with. You're saying you're the meat. Yeah, 330 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:04,040 Speaker 1: the prime meat. But honestly, in all seriousness, you're the 331 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:07,000 Speaker 1: one who's going to get hurt here, and like how 332 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 1: these situations normally turn out, it's going to be you hurt, 333 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 1: whether he chooses to stay with his wife and you 334 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 1: get broken up with or you stay with him and 335 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:18,240 Speaker 1: then you're always wondering if it's happening to you. So also, 336 00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: don't do that to another girl, you know, like we're 337 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 1: all in this together, don't even though he's unhappily married, 338 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 1: he's still married to some woman and we don't know, 339 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:31,480 Speaker 1: Like we don't know. She could be awesome. Yeah, she 340 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:35,639 Speaker 1: probably say right or one fot out the door, in 341 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:40,440 Speaker 1: which case they should separate. Yeah, Okay, if you could 342 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: fill in for anyone on Gray's anatomy, who would it 343 00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 1: be a good one? Like right now or in the past. 344 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:52,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, open to your own interpretation. Okay, I'm 345 00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 1: going April Keptner in the seasons when she was with 346 00:18:55,640 --> 00:19:01,040 Speaker 1: Jackson Avery Really Okay, I'm going is he's Stevens the 347 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:06,760 Speaker 1: seasons when she was making out with Denny Duquette. It 348 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:10,720 Speaker 1: always comes back to Denny. It's never there's never any 349 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:12,880 Speaker 1: you know, is that part of being a cancer, like 350 00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:16,680 Speaker 1: staying in what you know? Yeah, do you think Denny 351 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 1: looks like Red Star a little bit. No, no, like, 352 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 1: couldn't be more different looking? Okay, come up with another 353 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,480 Speaker 1: look alike and I'll help. I felt that something that 354 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:29,960 Speaker 1: the other day on Instagram about how Ross Keeller is 355 00:19:29,960 --> 00:19:32,080 Speaker 1: my favorite friends character and someone's like, oh my gosh, 356 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: Red Star kind of looks like Ross Keller, and so 357 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:36,760 Speaker 1: I did a screenshot and they kind of do that 358 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:40,200 Speaker 1: makes more sense than you make that argument. You cannot 359 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:42,879 Speaker 1: make the Denny argument. I don't know. I'm gonna might 360 00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 1: do a screen grab and and do a little side 361 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:46,679 Speaker 1: by side. Do that and let me know what happened. 362 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:50,200 Speaker 1: What do you think? Okay, Becca? On your deathbed? What 363 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:53,880 Speaker 1: would be your last meal? I think my mom's roast. 364 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:57,400 Speaker 1: It's so good. I like crave that she makes these 365 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:00,080 Speaker 1: like yummy little rolls with it. It's like roast and 366 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: rice and gravy and what's roast? A pot roast? Yeah, okay, 367 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 1: and veggies on the side. Is that the butt? Well 368 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 1: it's a rump roast of a cow or I'm not 369 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:20,399 Speaker 1: good with meat and stuff. I don't know, all right? Uh? 370 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: Can Becca? Can Becca tell us anymore about her relationship 371 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:27,120 Speaker 1: with Oh, you know, I was I don't know if 372 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:29,320 Speaker 1: this is anything new, But I was just talking about 373 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:32,639 Speaker 1: how we I feel like in relationships, and I feel 374 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:35,360 Speaker 1: like you actually can agree with this. There's always one 375 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:40,160 Speaker 1: person marketis and y'all lay in here, who is uh 376 00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 1: a communicator and confronts issues, and then there's the avoider. 377 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:50,240 Speaker 1: And I feel like, I know your relationship has it, 378 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,720 Speaker 1: My relationship has it. I don't know about y'all too, 379 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,639 Speaker 1: where one persons like, let's talk it out, and the 380 00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 1: other person it's like I just want to shut down 381 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 1: and talk about it. Is that something you experience? I 382 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,680 Speaker 1: think that's accurate. Yea, yeah, that may have been information 383 00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:09,000 Speaker 1: I've already shared. I don't know if there's anything that's 384 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:15,959 Speaker 1: the information you share same? Okay, would you guys ever 385 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 1: consider making a YouTube channel? Yeah? I would love to. 386 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:25,080 Speaker 1: I don't know about YouTube channel. I'm not against it, 387 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:27,520 Speaker 1: but I am kind of in this place where like 388 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 1: I wanna I don't know, I'd like to do more 389 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:36,159 Speaker 1: with you, you know what I mean, Like, yeah, like 390 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:39,640 Speaker 1: taking a relationship to the next level, But you don't 391 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:41,359 Speaker 1: know if YouTube is the place. I don't know if 392 00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: YouTube is a place it might be. I'm just not familiar. 393 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,760 Speaker 1: I'm not like a video series. I think it's what 394 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:50,080 Speaker 1: they're trying to say. Yeah, I like that. I know 395 00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:51,560 Speaker 1: a lot of people reach out and say that they 396 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,399 Speaker 1: like the clips that they post on the Instagram and 397 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 1: they wish that that the whole podcast was on there. 398 00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 1: I'm always nervous. I'm not opposed to that. Every time 399 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: I see it a scrubbing IPOs, I'm like, what did 400 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 1: they choose for this week? Okay? Oh, which trait of 401 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:10,359 Speaker 1: each other's? Do you wish you had? Mmm? This is 402 00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: a good one. I would say, I wish I I 403 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:17,439 Speaker 1: mean I had. There's quite a few, actually I wish 404 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:23,600 Speaker 1: I was. I wish I did things for people like 405 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:25,520 Speaker 1: you do. I don't know what you would call that, 406 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:29,280 Speaker 1: but you're very um yeah, but it's not like I 407 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 1: do it for you because I know it's what you like. 408 00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 1: But um, I know you like I. I also like 409 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:46,200 Speaker 1: your your positivity and you're like your ambition and you're like, um, 410 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:49,400 Speaker 1: I'm trying like drive. I guess I'm just I mean, 411 00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:51,800 Speaker 1: we couldn't be more opposite. So and all the things 412 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,040 Speaker 1: I lack, I wish I had those things. It's so 413 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 1: funny because I wish I had some of those characteristics 414 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,360 Speaker 1: of you that you probably don't like. Like I wish 415 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:01,920 Speaker 1: I could be more relaxed, and I wish I could 416 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,040 Speaker 1: not take things so personal, and I wish I could 417 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,440 Speaker 1: like not be so invested. I feel like sometimes being 418 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 1: chiller is take things personal things personal, But like I 419 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 1: just feel like you have a more relaxed approach to 420 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: things that I think is going to help you in 421 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,560 Speaker 1: the long run. Like I feel like I've lost many 422 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,360 Speaker 1: years of my life, like stressing out over the dumbest 423 00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 1: things where you're just like who cares? Yeah, but I 424 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,240 Speaker 1: stress out over you know, dumb things in the sense 425 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,400 Speaker 1: of like what people think about me. Yeah. And I 426 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:33,639 Speaker 1: also wish. I wish that I could be still like 427 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:37,080 Speaker 1: you a little bit way too still. No, but it's nice, 428 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: Like I can't chill, Like I sit on my couch 429 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,560 Speaker 1: to watch something and I'm like I should be doing something, 430 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,159 Speaker 1: I should be vacuating or I should be you know 431 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 1: what I mean, Like my brain just goes and I 432 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: wish I could relax it more. And I feel like 433 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 1: you do that. Well, well, I know it's a gift. 434 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:54,720 Speaker 1: It really is only a gift when like you're sick 435 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 1: because you're not antsy or just like this is fine, 436 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:01,080 Speaker 1: I can hang. I know, but you know what's funny 437 00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,720 Speaker 1: how you said you only do those things for me. Um. 438 00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:07,399 Speaker 1: After Red started that surprise party for me, I was 439 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:10,159 Speaker 1: talking to his um brother and sister in law. They 440 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 1: would wish me happy birthday and they were talking about 441 00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:13,840 Speaker 1: the party and they were just like, we didn't know 442 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 1: he had it in him, Like he's never done anything 443 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:17,439 Speaker 1: like that before, you know. And I was like, he 444 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 1: clearly does it because he wants to do that for me, 445 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:23,960 Speaker 1: and that I started crying. Even though it was so 446 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:26,240 Speaker 1: nice and it's so noddy, I was just like crying 447 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 1: because it was just another symbol of like, I feel 448 00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:32,119 Speaker 1: like we finally have like landed together. I think you 449 00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:36,399 Speaker 1: step up for certain people, you know, like you you 450 00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 1: everyone has it in them. Like if you were like 451 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:40,600 Speaker 1: I'm not that type of person or I can't do 452 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 1: those types of things for people, you definitely can. But 453 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:50,720 Speaker 1: it's the um. Everyone has it in them. So you know, 454 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 1: on on TikTok Ginger chance, I think I'm gonna get 455 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:58,560 Speaker 1: a TikTok by the way, you can discuss that later. UM. 456 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:03,600 Speaker 1: So there's always these videos where it's like, yeah, if 457 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:07,119 Speaker 1: he can, or if he wanted to, he would. Like 458 00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:09,600 Speaker 1: that's kind of like there's some trends and it'll be 459 00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:13,800 Speaker 1: like these amazing things that these husbands are boyfriends are 460 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:18,440 Speaker 1: doing for their girlfriends, and it'll be like the comments 461 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 1: will say, ladies, if he wanted to, he would, And 462 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:25,600 Speaker 1: I always have thought about that, Like I think in 463 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 1: some cases it's a misused, but I do think everyone 464 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,159 Speaker 1: has that ability to show up for someone and do 465 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,399 Speaker 1: things that are special to that person, even if they 466 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,440 Speaker 1: don't do it, even if they've never done it for 467 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 1: anybody else. Yeah, but I also think that it's important 468 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:41,200 Speaker 1: to be open to the possibility, not attached to the outcome, 469 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,399 Speaker 1: because they might not. Some your partner might not do 470 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,120 Speaker 1: things exactly the way you want them to, but they 471 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 1: do it in their way and the way that feels 472 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,359 Speaker 1: natural and good to them, and it's like that's a 473 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:54,119 Speaker 1: beautiful thing too. I think when you have expectations, this 474 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,800 Speaker 1: is have the worst canker store or just hit my 475 00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: face so hard on the microphone. Um also reminds me 476 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:02,680 Speaker 1: somebody asked us about herpies and I'm interested in here. 477 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:04,879 Speaker 1: Well I don't have herpies, I know, but they're in 478 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,439 Speaker 1: the same family. I don't think they are. I have 479 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 1: finer swords like a virus. Okay. Anyways, so last week, 480 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:16,360 Speaker 1: when I was struggling, I realized that I never asked 481 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:19,679 Speaker 1: for comfort from people, like I'm very much like I 482 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 1: can self soothe. I can do it myself. I don't 483 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 1: need anyone to like. So that's another trade I would 484 00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:29,240 Speaker 1: like of yours. Okay, but it's kind of a double 485 00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:32,159 Speaker 1: edged sword. It's a double edged sword. So I really 486 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,760 Speaker 1: needed ninety f P this week. You know. I was 487 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,359 Speaker 1: just like I was able to be very vulnerable and 488 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,680 Speaker 1: say like I really need this or I need comfort, 489 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:43,880 Speaker 1: and you know nine and I don't receive or give 490 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:48,840 Speaker 1: comfort the same way, and so um there was a 491 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 1: moment where I was really struggling and ninety five trying 492 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:59,600 Speaker 1: to comfort me, and I was like, I feel your 493 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,800 Speaker 1: effort and I really appreciate it, but I feel worse now. 494 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:06,680 Speaker 1: So and and it was kind of that conversation of like, well, 495 00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,719 Speaker 1: what is what does come for you? And I was like, 496 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:12,640 Speaker 1: I actually don't know, because I don't do it. I've 497 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:16,320 Speaker 1: needed it, I just haven't reached out, reached out, and 498 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,240 Speaker 1: and so there was this effort, and I appreciated the 499 00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,480 Speaker 1: effort so much, Like even a couple of therapy, I 500 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,439 Speaker 1: was able to be like, even though it wasn't perfect 501 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,679 Speaker 1: or it wasn't what I needed, I appreciated the effort 502 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:29,639 Speaker 1: so much because I could feel it, Like it was like, 503 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 1: let's try different things. Let's sit on the couch and 504 00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,800 Speaker 1: watch TV all day because that's what I like to do. 505 00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:38,920 Speaker 1: And um, so I agree with you, like sometimes it's 506 00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,160 Speaker 1: not going to be this like perfect idea of what 507 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,399 Speaker 1: you expected it to be. But when you can feel 508 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:47,320 Speaker 1: that someone's trying, that is as special in my opinion, 509 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:51,760 Speaker 1: as you know someone doing it in the perfect way, 510 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:54,399 Speaker 1: for sure. But I had to learn I've had to 511 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: learn that through this relationship because I was always I 512 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,560 Speaker 1: was in this La la land fairy tale of my 513 00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:01,680 Speaker 1: prince Ring's gonna come and we're gonna have this horse 514 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:03,399 Speaker 1: and he's gonna have this glass slipper and it's going 515 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:07,119 Speaker 1: to be this thing. Yeah, I've always had that, and 516 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,480 Speaker 1: it's it is like that in a way. That's how 517 00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:14,080 Speaker 1: I feel internally, but it's not actualized in that way. 518 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 1: It's not like he's yet to show with a horse. 519 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:23,840 Speaker 1: That's so weird. What do you have glass slippers? Maybe kidding? 520 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:29,120 Speaker 1: That's kin Yeah, okay, wait, have Becca's parents met my 521 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:35,840 Speaker 1: mom has? That's it? Here to share more alright, And 522 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:40,800 Speaker 1: yeah it was advice for saying in the present. I mean, 523 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:42,520 Speaker 1: I feel like you can take that one since I 524 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 1: just gave the in depth answer to the last question. Um, 525 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 1: I I struggle with this too. I'm a planner. I 526 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 1: like to set goals, I like to have dreams and aspirations, 527 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 1: and I'm always five steps had ten steps a head. 528 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 1: So this has been something that I've been really practicing. Um. 529 00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:01,280 Speaker 1: And it's just kind of really just focusing on the day, 530 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,800 Speaker 1: waking up every day, looking at your calendar, getting your 531 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,440 Speaker 1: things that you need to and making the priorities that 532 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:08,240 Speaker 1: you have for that day and really just enjoy the moment. 533 00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,320 Speaker 1: And I've never done that up until this year. Truly. 534 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 1: I'm always thinking about the next thing. Yeah. My personality, 535 00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:17,040 Speaker 1: I just I think I was born this way or 536 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:21,000 Speaker 1: something at a young age started this mentality where I 537 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 1: don't think about future. Yeah, it's weird to me. I'm 538 00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 1: just not programmed that way. Yeah. Yeah, so let's tell 539 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,200 Speaker 1: someone questions. This is like, this goes a little deep. 540 00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,680 Speaker 1: But I once saw someone questioned, like, I never think 541 00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:39,960 Speaker 1: about the future, Like do you think that means that 542 00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 1: my future isn't there? Like what you know, like maybe 543 00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:52,080 Speaker 1: you don't plan things out because or you don't feel 544 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,680 Speaker 1: the need to plan things out because maybe you're not 545 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,880 Speaker 1: going to be here. Okay, you're just really taking a 546 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 1: dark term, but no, but okay, so that has helped 547 00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:04,440 Speaker 1: me think that you don't think about the future because 548 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 1: you're gonna like I don't want to say that a 549 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 1: lout of I don't know. I like don't know what 550 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,440 Speaker 1: you know. I don't I don't know the answers anything. 551 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,080 Speaker 1: But I think I find comfort and not knowing, and 552 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,520 Speaker 1: so it's easy for me to just go, Okay, this 553 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,720 Speaker 1: is my life today. What am I doing today? What 554 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 1: do I have? You know, going on? And I'm able 555 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,840 Speaker 1: to do it because like, none of us are promised, 556 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,280 Speaker 1: like none of us not get it, but I'd like 557 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:32,440 Speaker 1: to like I'm promised. I said it was dark, but 558 00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:37,560 Speaker 1: I was just saying someone on TikTok get off of TikTok. 559 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 1: But someone said it, and it really I was like, oh, 560 00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,280 Speaker 1: like that's a really dark way of looking at this mentality, 561 00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,600 Speaker 1: What can we think about that? Let me Yeah, I'd 562 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:51,520 Speaker 1: be like swipe delete, Yeah not no, thanks, No, I'm 563 00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:55,040 Speaker 1: I'm fine. I'm not scared of death, So I don't, like, 564 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:59,440 Speaker 1: I have no fear of it really, yeah, I really don't, 565 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: but not in a way like I feel. I believe 566 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:06,400 Speaker 1: that I'm going to heaven, like that's what I believe. 567 00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:07,800 Speaker 1: So I find a lot of peace in that. So 568 00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:11,760 Speaker 1: I don't fear. In my mind. What I believe heaven 569 00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:17,959 Speaker 1: is is better than here. So I I find a 570 00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:21,800 Speaker 1: lot of peace in thinking like if if that happened, 571 00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:26,600 Speaker 1: that I would be somewhere that was safe. M mhm. 572 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:31,800 Speaker 1: Not really different, darter. So, but that's what I believe. Yeah, 573 00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:33,720 Speaker 1: I mean I do. I like, you know, I believe 574 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,080 Speaker 1: in heaven and that it's going to be better than 575 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 1: it is here. But I quite like it here right now. Yeah, 576 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,600 Speaker 1: it's good here. But it's the weather has been great. 577 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,800 Speaker 1: The weather has been great today. I love my falling 578 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,680 Speaker 1: curtain Rod, I love this wine I'm enjoying, you know, 579 00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 1: it's just very happy. I I couldn't not complain about 580 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 1: my life here, but I don't. I've never feared death, 581 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 1: so I so that's your advice for staying in the present, 582 00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 1: don't fear death. No, my advice was staying in the 583 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,240 Speaker 1: present is that you have no control over what happens 584 00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,640 Speaker 1: in the future. You only have what's happening today in 585 00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:07,120 Speaker 1: the moment, and no matter how much you worry about 586 00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:11,200 Speaker 1: it or planet, you're not in control over what happens. Okay, 587 00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:13,600 Speaker 1: the next two are actually kind of just for me, 588 00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:15,680 Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna do it. I'm not dating a 589 00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,880 Speaker 1: man with kids. Yeah, I'm going to take the next two. Um. 590 00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:20,880 Speaker 1: This one says, would love to hear more about meeting 591 00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:24,240 Speaker 1: Red Stars kiddos if you can share. Um, So I 592 00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 1: met the kids. I don't really know when in terms 593 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:30,880 Speaker 1: of timing, because I feel like the last six months 594 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:34,080 Speaker 1: have been a giant blur. But you remember the date, 595 00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:37,520 Speaker 1: not the date, but the month one month Acember oh 596 00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:41,120 Speaker 1: oh oh oh oh yeah yeah, but like really met 597 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:45,520 Speaker 1: like I feel like the second go around, Yeah yeah, 598 00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 1: I remember that one. Yeah. Um. But so when we 599 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,440 Speaker 1: got back together, it was kind of like, we're doing 600 00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:54,400 Speaker 1: this and um. The reason why I haven't talked about 601 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,800 Speaker 1: it is just because they're young. They're super young, and 602 00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 1: this is all new to them. And we're all kind 603 00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,320 Speaker 1: of learning through it, and I just want to make 604 00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:10,360 Speaker 1: sure that it's more comfortable for everybody involved before I 605 00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 1: share about it. Does that make sense? Yeah, of course, yeah, 606 00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,080 Speaker 1: Like I mean they're kids, it's not like they have 607 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 1: a say and what you talk about, right, right, But 608 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:25,240 Speaker 1: like just because it's still this you know, unfamiliar territory 609 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,320 Speaker 1: and we're just getting to know each other, it's like, 610 00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:30,080 Speaker 1: I just want to out of respect for them and um, 611 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:33,040 Speaker 1: and I think that was you know, red Star's biggest concern. 612 00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:34,440 Speaker 1: He's like, I don't care what you say about me. 613 00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:36,480 Speaker 1: You can say whatever you want about me. It's he's 614 00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:39,120 Speaker 1: just very protective of them. So I just want to 615 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:44,800 Speaker 1: make sure that, like we're in a good place and yeah, okay, 616 00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:47,680 Speaker 1: And following up, how is it dating a man with kids? 617 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:51,480 Speaker 1: Like nothing I've ever done before? Like, it's it's interesting. 618 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:55,240 Speaker 1: So I've created like a little community of women who 619 00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:59,120 Speaker 1: have neither married or are dating men with kids. And 620 00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:02,240 Speaker 1: it's like you don't really get advice about it from 621 00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:05,240 Speaker 1: somebody that's not living it, because like, you know, I 622 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 1: talked to like Becca about stuff, and I'll talk to like, 623 00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:10,359 Speaker 1: you know, my girlfriend's Raquel and UM try and get 624 00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:14,440 Speaker 1: their opinion about stuff, but you really can't understand it 625 00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,200 Speaker 1: unless you're in it. And so I've created this like 626 00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,799 Speaker 1: sweet kind of little community of women that I've met 627 00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:23,120 Speaker 1: throughout Like the podcast I met one she came in 628 00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:25,360 Speaker 1: and did a podcast with us, and she gave me 629 00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:27,320 Speaker 1: her number and was like, if you ever have questions, 630 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:29,200 Speaker 1: call me. And I don't think she actually thought I 631 00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:32,400 Speaker 1: was going to call her. And I was like, hey, Candas, Hey, 632 00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 1: remember you gave me your number at that and Taylor 633 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:40,680 Speaker 1: event um, so I have a question about this um 634 00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,560 Speaker 1: and her and then Teddy Maillencamp is somebody that I 635 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,840 Speaker 1: go to a lot because her husband had a daughter 636 00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:50,520 Speaker 1: before they got married, and so she's been really helpful 637 00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:55,080 Speaker 1: UM in that regard. And there's a couple other people too, 638 00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:56,839 Speaker 1: and so I kind of have this like kind of 639 00:34:56,920 --> 00:35:00,959 Speaker 1: sweet little community of women that helped me navigate because 640 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:04,280 Speaker 1: it is it's it's just it's a different situation navigate. 641 00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,880 Speaker 1: But it's so funny. Teddy once told me this, and 642 00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:09,399 Speaker 1: I'll never forget it. She was like, because I think 643 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 1: this was still at the point where you know, I'm 644 00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:14,520 Speaker 1: not fully integrated with you know, he saw his time 645 00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:16,239 Speaker 1: with his kids, and there's time with me, and you know, 646 00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:19,040 Speaker 1: there's time together time. But um, She's like, would you 647 00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,560 Speaker 1: rather be dating a guy who isn't with you and 648 00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:24,279 Speaker 1: is with his kids, or isn't with you and is 649 00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 1: in Vegas with his dudes at a golf tournament or 650 00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:32,719 Speaker 1: like whatever. I mean. I was like, you know what, Yeah, 651 00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:36,200 Speaker 1: so you're full, you're really enjoying it. But it's very different. 652 00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:39,440 Speaker 1: It's very different. It's nothing I ever saw for myself, 653 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:42,239 Speaker 1: but in the same way, he's exactly what I saw 654 00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:45,080 Speaker 1: for myself. So it's it's weird. This is that is 655 00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,480 Speaker 1: so weird. I literally said to Haley the other day, 656 00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:51,680 Speaker 1: I go, it's so funny because I never saw Tania 657 00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:57,040 Speaker 1: being with someone who had kids. Yeah, Robbie is who 658 00:35:57,080 --> 00:36:00,399 Speaker 1: I could see, who I would see Tony with. That's 659 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:02,279 Speaker 1: so funny that I felt the same way. Well, I 660 00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:07,440 Speaker 1: feel the same way. Great, Yeah, so that's the answer 661 00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:24,120 Speaker 1: that Oh this movie is so sweet. I didn't just 662 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:25,400 Speaker 1: want to put it there because I just, you know, 663 00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,160 Speaker 1: it felt like you need some positivity. She said, thank 664 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:29,040 Speaker 1: you both for being so positive and joyful. After I 665 00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:32,440 Speaker 1: just talked about my future and death and body else 666 00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,520 Speaker 1: said that they left a very nice review on our podcast, 667 00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:37,680 Speaker 1: So I just wanted to share that with you. UM 668 00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:40,840 Speaker 1: struggling because my significant other and I are different faiths 669 00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:45,880 Speaker 1: more because of what other people think. Oh and we 670 00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:52,160 Speaker 1: both kind of or in one of these Yeah, I 671 00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:56,319 Speaker 1: am less concerned about what people think about UM in 672 00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:00,920 Speaker 1: that regard because we both have such a respect for 673 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:05,360 Speaker 1: each other regarding that topic. And so if anything, I 674 00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:11,640 Speaker 1: think sometimes uh, there's curiosity uh over like my faith, 675 00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,319 Speaker 1: And I think what I was talking about, like in 676 00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,440 Speaker 1: certain things, like I just feel like a piece that 677 00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:19,880 Speaker 1: I can only kind of attribute to my faith and 678 00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,120 Speaker 1: like believing in something that's so much bigger than me, 679 00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:25,279 Speaker 1: And so I think there's this respect and curiosity. We 680 00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:29,640 Speaker 1: were raised so differently that like, you can't expect one 681 00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,960 Speaker 1: of us to be like the other with how we 682 00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,640 Speaker 1: were raised, if that makes sense. Like I was raised 683 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:37,480 Speaker 1: in the South, I was raised in a Christian home. 684 00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:42,480 Speaker 1: I was raised by parents who also we're like in 685 00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 1: that same culture, and so I naturally was always going 686 00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:50,880 Speaker 1: to grow up in that way and then grew up 687 00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:55,360 Speaker 1: out in California and had a very different upbringing. And 688 00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,600 Speaker 1: so there's just I think it comes down to respect. 689 00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,759 Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people are very judgmental 690 00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,640 Speaker 1: about people being together with different face and I don't 691 00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:10,359 Speaker 1: really understand why they feel the need to share that 692 00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:13,240 Speaker 1: type of opinion because it's really none of their business. 693 00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 1: But if it's healthy and you both have respect for 694 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:19,359 Speaker 1: each other, the caring what other people think part is, 695 00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:26,000 Speaker 1: don't don't let that affect you because it's none of 696 00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:30,040 Speaker 1: their business. Yeah, caring about what other people think it 697 00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,640 Speaker 1: is not an issue for me. So um, I don't 698 00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:36,720 Speaker 1: know how to like help you in that regard. Um, 699 00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:38,759 Speaker 1: But I think it comes down to just honestly you 700 00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:41,360 Speaker 1: and your your partner, because I think for me, I 701 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:42,759 Speaker 1: always thought I was gonna end up with somebody that 702 00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,000 Speaker 1: was Christian like I that was the same. Yeah. It 703 00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,560 Speaker 1: was just like a thing and it was kind of 704 00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:49,120 Speaker 1: a box that I put people in when I was 705 00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:50,960 Speaker 1: dating them. I was like, are you Christian? Do you 706 00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:52,920 Speaker 1: have a job? And do I want to make out 707 00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:59,080 Speaker 1: with you? Um? And it's funny because more so because 708 00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:02,040 Speaker 1: I'm dating a man that's Jewish, everybody says, are you 709 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:05,319 Speaker 1: going to convert? You'renn convert? And never once has he 710 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,640 Speaker 1: said he wants me to. Has he said, he wants 711 00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:11,440 Speaker 1: me to look into it. He actually asked him. I 712 00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:13,120 Speaker 1: was like, is this hard for you that I'm not, 713 00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:18,080 Speaker 1: And he goes, no, he goes like, I'm doing things 714 00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:19,920 Speaker 1: that I've never done before, like he decorated Christmas tree 715 00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:22,680 Speaker 1: with me, and and I celebrate the Jewish holidays with him, 716 00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:25,000 Speaker 1: and he just thinks. He's like, you're so open to 717 00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:28,440 Speaker 1: my traditions and my faith, and he's open to my 718 00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,920 Speaker 1: traditions and my faith, and it's such a beautiful thing 719 00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:33,439 Speaker 1: because we just kind of respect and understand and love 720 00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:37,080 Speaker 1: each other's traditions. And so it's funny because I haven't 721 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:39,400 Speaker 1: said anything. I have not even said this to him, 722 00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:43,400 Speaker 1: and I probably won't um. But I've looked into, like, 723 00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:45,040 Speaker 1: I want to start learning more because I have my 724 00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:48,480 Speaker 1: newest Jewish encyclopedia that I read about stuff. But I've 725 00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,479 Speaker 1: looked into like actually taking classes about the faith and 726 00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:53,759 Speaker 1: learning more about it, not to convert, but just to 727 00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:58,279 Speaker 1: really familiar with it. But he's never at once told 728 00:39:58,280 --> 00:39:59,919 Speaker 1: me to, but I want to do it because he's 729 00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:02,040 Speaker 1: so chill about it that I'm like, I kind of 730 00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:03,399 Speaker 1: want to just do this so that I know when 731 00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,440 Speaker 1: I'm going to Rashashanna, you know, with his family. I 732 00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,200 Speaker 1: know what's going on. You know what my encyclopedia has 733 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,640 Speaker 1: been telling me. Yeah, I mean the news Jewish sounds 734 00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,640 Speaker 1: like a very helpful tool. It is a very helpful tool. Yeah. 735 00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:19,279 Speaker 1: But yeah, the more we know about other religions, other cultures, 736 00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:22,640 Speaker 1: and other ethnicities, the better off this world is going 737 00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:24,920 Speaker 1: to be. It's the people who know nothing about the 738 00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:28,080 Speaker 1: other ones that become filled with fear, and that leads 739 00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,040 Speaker 1: to hatred, and that leads to resentment and all kinds 740 00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:32,319 Speaker 1: of stuff. So the more we can know and experience 741 00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:34,520 Speaker 1: that other stuff, the better off this planet will be. 742 00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,319 Speaker 1: It's so true, Like, but I feel like for so 743 00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,960 Speaker 1: long everybody's been told the opposite of that. It's like 744 00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:42,360 Speaker 1: date in your community, date in your faith, day in 745 00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:47,480 Speaker 1: your listen. I am no, Like, I one thousand percent 746 00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:51,920 Speaker 1: believe that can your relationship be easier if you agree 747 00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:55,120 Speaker 1: on your faith, which is something that most people value 748 00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,560 Speaker 1: and is very important to them. Yeah, I do, But 749 00:40:57,680 --> 00:40:59,360 Speaker 1: do I think you can make it work and have 750 00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:03,879 Speaker 1: a very healthy and respectful relationship by getting to learn 751 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:07,680 Speaker 1: about someone else's upbringing and what they believe. Yes, I 752 00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:09,560 Speaker 1: think it makes it like Mark said, I think it 753 00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:15,719 Speaker 1: makes us all better, smarter, more empathetic, more compassionate, Like 754 00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:19,920 Speaker 1: it doesn't do anything bad to be respectful and curious 755 00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:24,120 Speaker 1: about someone else's religion in my opinion. Yeah. So, Um, 756 00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:26,480 Speaker 1: in a few weeks I might be uh to having 757 00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:30,080 Speaker 1: taking some tutoring lessons with a rabbi. I can't wait 758 00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:38,040 Speaker 1: to hear about that on the podcast. Um okay, oh um, 759 00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:39,799 Speaker 1: Can you cycle? I get this question a lot, so 760 00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:41,680 Speaker 1: I'm actually excited about this. Can you cycle sink while 761 00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,520 Speaker 1: on birth control? So I'm not the cycle thinking queen, 762 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:48,440 Speaker 1: but cycle thinking is helping with your hormones, helping balance 763 00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:53,480 Speaker 1: your hormones, and birth control is hormones. So I'm gonna 764 00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:57,520 Speaker 1: just say probably not because if you're taking up hormones, 765 00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,840 Speaker 1: you're probably your hormones are gonna be on balance anyway. 766 00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,520 Speaker 1: So doing natural things isn't really going to do much, 767 00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,640 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Not doctor google it, but 768 00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,160 Speaker 1: I think if you're in birth control, cycles thinking is 769 00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:10,920 Speaker 1: just not gonna do it. Like eating a steak instead 770 00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:15,000 Speaker 1: of chicken is not gonna do much for you, you know. Oh, 771 00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,280 Speaker 1: tips on having sex for the first time. I'm getting 772 00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:25,040 Speaker 1: married next month and we are both virgins. Well, congratulations. Um, 773 00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:27,440 Speaker 1: I think I said it last week on the podcast 774 00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:29,600 Speaker 1: with a botch of a but I was saying, like, 775 00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:33,680 Speaker 1: you know, our culture is very uh. I feel like 776 00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,480 Speaker 1: virginity is very frowned upon for a lot of people, 777 00:42:36,520 --> 00:42:39,919 Speaker 1: and like what is popular or cool? I think it's 778 00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:42,680 Speaker 1: really beautiful. And even though you know, I saved myself 779 00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:45,279 Speaker 1: and was in my mid twenties when I lost my 780 00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:47,799 Speaker 1: virginity and I don't I you know, I went through 781 00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,560 Speaker 1: like this shame and guilt, but it was more so 782 00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:54,000 Speaker 1: to do with what people thought of me. Shocker. Um. 783 00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:57,399 Speaker 1: But it might be awkward at first, like it might 784 00:42:57,440 --> 00:43:00,200 Speaker 1: be uncomfortable. You're both any time you do some thing 785 00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:04,319 Speaker 1: for the first time, there's this um uncomfortability about it 786 00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:07,759 Speaker 1: that you're it's not going to be this perfect experience 787 00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,520 Speaker 1: and it might be great, but it's okay if it's not, 788 00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:15,480 Speaker 1: so just be you know, be open with each other, 789 00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:19,040 Speaker 1: communicate with each other and kind of I don't know, 790 00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,360 Speaker 1: I've never had I've never had sex with a virgin, 791 00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:24,000 Speaker 1: so I don't know like what it's like. I've always 792 00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,960 Speaker 1: had someone who knew what they were doing or they've 793 00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:29,759 Speaker 1: done it before, so I've never had this experience, but 794 00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,560 Speaker 1: I think just like be able to laugh and if 795 00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:36,520 Speaker 1: things get if something goes in the wrong place or whatever, 796 00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:39,120 Speaker 1: just like laugh about and communicate with each other because 797 00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:42,919 Speaker 1: you're both in the same boat. I'm gonna say, first 798 00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:46,759 Speaker 1: of all, congratulations, very exciting. Um my device is going 799 00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:51,200 Speaker 1: to be more practical. So really go slow because I 800 00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:54,040 Speaker 1: think the first time you just try and like jackhammer 801 00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:57,720 Speaker 1: and like it's like done and you're like what just happened. Also, 802 00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,279 Speaker 1: maybe put a towel down because I bled the first time, 803 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:03,439 Speaker 1: and it's like that's going to be especially if you're 804 00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:06,560 Speaker 1: like getting married and like waiting till after like put 805 00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:11,319 Speaker 1: his towel down. You know you might rip tear I tour. Okay, Yeah, 806 00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:16,399 Speaker 1: so scary, don't be scary. It's great and he's gonna 807 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,799 Speaker 1: be your husband and like it's beautiful. If he tears you, 808 00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:22,440 Speaker 1: it's fine and heals real quick. Jesus. I was just 809 00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,680 Speaker 1: gonna say, I thought you were really starting off strong 810 00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:27,040 Speaker 1: with got slow. Like I think that's a very like 811 00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:29,560 Speaker 1: be don't feel like you just have to like do 812 00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:32,560 Speaker 1: it and be done. Be gentle, like don't have sex, 813 00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:40,960 Speaker 1: make love. Yeah, there's a difference. Just Tamy, I feel 814 00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:45,279 Speaker 1: like talking about tearing and putting them, I'm gonna be 815 00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:47,440 Speaker 1: I think you're just scaring the hell out of this person. 816 00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:50,640 Speaker 1: I think the advice to keep the expectations low is 817 00:44:50,800 --> 00:44:53,600 Speaker 1: great and just let it be what it is. And 818 00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:57,520 Speaker 1: Becca's advice laugh if something is weird, it's it's all good. 819 00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,320 Speaker 1: You can make it great over the course of your lives. 820 00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:03,120 Speaker 1: I was just gonna say that it will only get 821 00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:07,000 Speaker 1: better than the first time. So and also like even 822 00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,680 Speaker 1: like there's been times not being a virgin, where things 823 00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:13,440 Speaker 1: are like funny and awkward, it's just like, you just 824 00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:16,000 Speaker 1: go with it. And if you really you clearly love 825 00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:19,440 Speaker 1: the person you're gonna marry, so you have fun together. 826 00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:23,399 Speaker 1: I hope. So it'll be great. Yeah, and please, no 827 00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,520 Speaker 1: more your gut off. What's the next? I was just 828 00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:27,640 Speaker 1: gonna say, please let us know how it goes. Like 829 00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:32,040 Speaker 1: that'd be cute to follow up on. Okay, okay, Becca, 830 00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:34,480 Speaker 1: there's only two more left. Becca, How did you meet? 831 00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:37,399 Speaker 1: You never shared this? How did you meet? And what 832 00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:41,000 Speaker 1: was your first date? We met at an event that 833 00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:44,080 Speaker 1: I actually was not going to go to, but in 834 00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:47,280 Speaker 1: my mind I thought worst case scenario if it sucks. 835 00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,239 Speaker 1: We I was with a group of friends. I was like, 836 00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:51,960 Speaker 1: we can go somewhere else. Always the move by always 837 00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:53,920 Speaker 1: the move, but actually so much fun. We had a 838 00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,759 Speaker 1: great time. So we met there. Not I didn't go 839 00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:59,919 Speaker 1: with but I went with another friend and we met. 840 00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,560 Speaker 1: Tell that, but what was your first date? Um? Our 841 00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:07,719 Speaker 1: first date? We have different This kind of goes back 842 00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:09,359 Speaker 1: and forth. We don't have like a step first date 843 00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:11,839 Speaker 1: because technically the first date was more of like a 844 00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:14,239 Speaker 1: friend thing. But we ended up talking for like four 845 00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:17,880 Speaker 1: hours at the at this restaurant bar, and like it 846 00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:20,160 Speaker 1: closed while we were still there, so like we kind 847 00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:25,279 Speaker 1: of shut it down, and I remembering being like, huh, 848 00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:28,319 Speaker 1: it was interesting. I've never done that before. So that 849 00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,560 Speaker 1: was We always say it's our first date, but like 850 00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:34,000 Speaker 1: it technically was not a date. Like if you re 851 00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:35,719 Speaker 1: enacted your first day in ten years, would you go 852 00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:40,040 Speaker 1: back to that same bar? We've been back there? Okay, 853 00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:41,920 Speaker 1: so what is your first date? Yeah, because it was 854 00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:46,600 Speaker 1: a significant moment I think where we can't realize like butterflies, 855 00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,480 Speaker 1: and the last one is rate your first kiss with 856 00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,439 Speaker 1: your significant other? Oh my god, like a hundred out 857 00:46:52,440 --> 00:47:02,360 Speaker 1: of ten. Wow? It was like the best kiss ever. Yeah, 858 00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:07,560 Speaker 1: what would I just want to hear more. It was 859 00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:10,920 Speaker 1: just it was it was a really good kiss. Like 860 00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:12,719 Speaker 1: you know how when you kiss someone for the first time, 861 00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:15,200 Speaker 1: it can be awkward and like you're like, I don't know, 862 00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:18,160 Speaker 1: they're different, Like if you kissed someone for a long 863 00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:20,080 Speaker 1: time and then you kiss someone for the first time 864 00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:22,160 Speaker 1: and you're kind of like, oh, this is different. It's 865 00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:25,200 Speaker 1: like not familiar. Like the person I was with for 866 00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:31,480 Speaker 1: a minute, this didn't feel like that. So like that's great. Yeah, 867 00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:33,920 Speaker 1: I was like the one kiss wonder Like when I 868 00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:36,319 Speaker 1: was dating it was just you first date, I would 869 00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:38,040 Speaker 1: make out because I want to see this chemistry and 870 00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:39,840 Speaker 1: I think you can feel a lot and a kiss 871 00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:43,080 Speaker 1: and I like kissing, you know. I just think it's 872 00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,560 Speaker 1: like fun, and so I do it a lot. You know. 873 00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:49,319 Speaker 1: If it was an Olympic sport, I think I would yeah, 874 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:53,080 Speaker 1: get yeah, I get the bronze up in a goal. Yeah, 875 00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:55,400 Speaker 1: because I'm really like, I'm a heavy tongue girl. So 876 00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,600 Speaker 1: I think there are people that would enjoy that and 877 00:47:57,680 --> 00:48:00,359 Speaker 1: some that would not enjoy that. Maybe we to talk 878 00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:03,120 Speaker 1: about that after this. Yeah, So if my judge were 879 00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:05,560 Speaker 1: somebody that didn't like a lot of tongue. I'd probably 880 00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:09,120 Speaker 1: get less of a score, so bronze. But it's nice. 881 00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:14,319 Speaker 1: I'm nice. It's good. So anyways, cut to my My 882 00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:20,800 Speaker 1: first kiss with Red Star was beyond, like beyond a 883 00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:23,279 Speaker 1: first kiss that I've ever had. I had tingles all 884 00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:26,880 Speaker 1: over my body. I wanted to jump on top of him. 885 00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:31,279 Speaker 1: It was crazy. But the first date, yeah ended it 886 00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:34,040 Speaker 1: real nice ended the first date. Real end of the 887 00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:39,440 Speaker 1: first date was just a kiss, no more, Yeah, just kiss. 888 00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:41,759 Speaker 1: So I ubered to the bar that we met at. 889 00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:43,080 Speaker 1: He offered to pick me up. What I said, it 890 00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:44,960 Speaker 1: was really sweet, Thank you so much. I'm you might 891 00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:46,560 Speaker 1: be a serial killer. I'm gonna be at the bar. 892 00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,080 Speaker 1: Um And so we met at the bar and again 893 00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:50,360 Speaker 1: we ended up saying I thought it was gonna be 894 00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:51,960 Speaker 1: there for an hour. We stayed for like five hours. 895 00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:54,359 Speaker 1: And it's right down the street from where I live. 896 00:48:54,440 --> 00:48:57,040 Speaker 1: And so he said, can I take you home? And 897 00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:59,279 Speaker 1: at that point I really wanted to like check under 898 00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:02,000 Speaker 1: the hood, so he was going on, So I said sure. 899 00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:04,440 Speaker 1: So he took me home and before he got out, 900 00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:08,920 Speaker 1: he leaned in what hood were you checking? Under his mouth? Oh, 901 00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,319 Speaker 1: I was like isn't that the term they used for 902 00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:16,959 Speaker 1: something else then queen? Yeah, the queen. What's under the hood. 903 00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:19,279 Speaker 1: It might be slang for something, but I mean his mouth. 904 00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:21,040 Speaker 1: I just want to okay, okay, So you want to 905 00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,760 Speaker 1: see if he was a good kisser. There was chemistry. Yeah, 906 00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:25,520 Speaker 1: I wasn't like inviting him up or anything after the 907 00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:27,960 Speaker 1: first day. Yeah, I was leaving the next day. Is 908 00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:30,520 Speaker 1: he does he use his tongue or is he more 909 00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:37,719 Speaker 1: of like the receiver of the tongue. Now we have 910 00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:41,280 Speaker 1: like a groove of our kissing, so it's equal parts tongue. 911 00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:46,000 Speaker 1: But I think the first kiss was I don't know, 912 00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:48,239 Speaker 1: I felt nice. So I'm gonna say he was a 913 00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:53,920 Speaker 1: good more tongue, he was equal tongue, equal tongue. Yeah. Oh, 914 00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:55,479 Speaker 1: there is one that I didn't want to talk about. 915 00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:57,359 Speaker 1: I'm not going to read the message. But I got 916 00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:00,839 Speaker 1: a lot of scrubbers very concerned that Morgan Stewart has 917 00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,320 Speaker 1: beef with me because apparently the way she was sitting 918 00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:05,960 Speaker 1: or something when I did Daily Pop and somebody sent 919 00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:08,359 Speaker 1: me in a question about that because there was all 920 00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:11,040 Speaker 1: this scuttle in the Facebook group. But we do not 921 00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,839 Speaker 1: have beef. It's the quite opposite of beef. She's like 922 00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:15,600 Speaker 1: sitting next to her and daily Pop is like sitting 923 00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,759 Speaker 1: next to um when if you know, when he was 924 00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:19,280 Speaker 1: sit next to one of your best friends in class 925 00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:21,560 Speaker 1: and then there's something going on and they're just like 926 00:50:21,920 --> 00:50:23,440 Speaker 1: talking to you, trying to get your you know, like 927 00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:26,319 Speaker 1: we're just like chit chatting when we're off camera, and 928 00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:28,880 Speaker 1: then they're like three too, and she's talking to me 929 00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:30,960 Speaker 1: up until they say three to one, and so I'm 930 00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:33,160 Speaker 1: always just like caught off guard because she were like 931 00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:36,120 Speaker 1: mid conversation, but she's doing it every day, you know 932 00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:39,880 Speaker 1: what I mean, So it's just like easier natural for her. Um. 933 00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:43,359 Speaker 1: But no, there's definitely no beef. Morgan loves me. I 934 00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:48,360 Speaker 1: love Morgan, and it's a friendship. It's a very nice friendship. 935 00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:50,200 Speaker 1: So it was really funny when I got that message 936 00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:53,120 Speaker 1: because I was like, it's the complete opposite of of 937 00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:56,040 Speaker 1: that with Morgan. Well, as far as I guess she 938 00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,320 Speaker 1: was like sitting, I guess that was always her body, 939 00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:02,480 Speaker 1: her body language. Yeah. Yeah, I hate when people make 940 00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:05,080 Speaker 1: assumptions about body, but a lot of people are very 941 00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:08,920 Speaker 1: like they really believe in that. All right, So we're 942 00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:12,440 Speaker 1: gonna um, next time we're together. I'm going to save 943 00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:15,640 Speaker 1: these lengthy d m s because I think a lot 944 00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:17,880 Speaker 1: of them are really relatable. There was one about career. 945 00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:21,719 Speaker 1: There's one about making new friends. There's one about um 946 00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:25,880 Speaker 1: their faith, struggling with their faith because they are gay. 947 00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:31,960 Speaker 1: There is one about a girl that is um dating 948 00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:36,839 Speaker 1: somebody who is has children. And I just think these 949 00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:40,280 Speaker 1: are things that need more time than just a quick 950 00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:44,320 Speaker 1: with a rapid fire and a rapid fire. Yeah, before 951 00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:47,000 Speaker 1: we go, I just want to bring something up really fast. Um. 952 00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:50,480 Speaker 1: You know, people listen to this podcast, I know that 953 00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:54,239 Speaker 1: I'm the Carmel Corn Princess and I appreciate getting that 954 00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:58,359 Speaker 1: crown so much. But something really cool is happening right now. 955 00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:03,080 Speaker 1: There's this really popcorn company called Thank You Popcorn, and uh, 956 00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:07,480 Speaker 1: they let me design my own karmel corn with them. 957 00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:11,640 Speaker 1: It's called the Karmic Princess Mix and you can get 958 00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:14,360 Speaker 1: it right now on thank You Popcorn dot com. And 959 00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:16,319 Speaker 1: the really cool part about though, is that all the 960 00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:18,960 Speaker 1: proceeds go to this charity called Shoes that Fit. It 961 00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:21,520 Speaker 1: gets a little kids new shoes for school that can't 962 00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:25,759 Speaker 1: afford it, helps raise your self esteem, stuff like that Um, 963 00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:28,839 Speaker 1: so it's it's Karmel corn with Eminem's mixed in, which 964 00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:30,640 Speaker 1: is something I do when I go to the movies 965 00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:34,840 Speaker 1: and you you both have some on the way to 966 00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:38,600 Speaker 1: your house right now. Uh, And I'm really excited about it. 967 00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:40,600 Speaker 1: And they're picking a new Karmic Corn princess, and I 968 00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:42,960 Speaker 1: really hope it's me. But if if you go to 969 00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:45,360 Speaker 1: if you go to thank you Popcorn dot Com, you 970 00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:47,799 Speaker 1: can you can see the popcorn that I designed me 971 00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:50,160 Speaker 1: and you can get it. A dream come true for 972 00:52:50,239 --> 00:52:53,839 Speaker 1: Eastern and were making our vision boards come to life, 973 00:52:54,080 --> 00:52:57,080 Speaker 1: just one popcorn at a time. I love Eminem's and 974 00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:59,719 Speaker 1: my popcorn too to actually, and I thought that I 975 00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:01,840 Speaker 1: love by that, but I do. I do enjoy it. 976 00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:04,319 Speaker 1: It's so good. It's so good. Well, everyone go get 977 00:53:04,320 --> 00:53:07,000 Speaker 1: your popcorn so that a child can get some shoes. 978 00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:10,560 Speaker 1: Even if you don't like popcorn, go get some popcorne. 979 00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:15,560 Speaker 1: Congrats Eastern. We're so proud of you. You can't wait 980 00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:20,200 Speaker 1: to see it, taste it, thank you. So yeah, he's 981 00:53:20,239 --> 00:53:22,440 Speaker 1: gotta go. Yeah. I hope your food. I hope you 982 00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:27,000 Speaker 1: can microwave and it still tastes good. It's gonna taste delicious. 983 00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:31,359 Speaker 1: Because I made it even cold. Um, I love you, 984 00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:33,960 Speaker 1: love you. It's been a blast. It's been a blast. 985 00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:37,000 Speaker 1: I'll see you for the good times. I'm gonna fillip 986 00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:40,319 Speaker 1: your glass of wine. No great love. You love you, 987 00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:43,719 Speaker 1: and we love you, and we love you so much. 988 00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:47,560 Speaker 1: I hope you know how much we love you, because 989 00:53:47,680 --> 00:53:52,160 Speaker 1: it is that's a two glasses of wine. And tell 990 00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:54,920 Speaker 1: me it's a lot of love and and and and 991 00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:58,400 Speaker 1: to Kylie gay Or, she really goes a lot a 992 00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:03,120 Speaker 1: long way with her love for us, and I just what, Yeah, 993 00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:06,319 Speaker 1: this is this This was specifically for Kylie Gayer because 994 00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:09,040 Speaker 1: she she was so excited, so excited about this Q 995 00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:11,120 Speaker 1: and A. She was just so excited about it, and 996 00:54:11,120 --> 00:54:13,839 Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I just love her enthusiasm. 997 00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:16,279 Speaker 1: It just makes me so happy. Okay, And I want 998 00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,600 Speaker 1: to give a shout out to Danielle because she said 999 00:54:18,719 --> 00:54:21,239 Speaker 1: she and her mom work in the Okay, I just 1000 00:54:21,239 --> 00:54:22,680 Speaker 1: need to read this because I just think it's the 1001 00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:24,839 Speaker 1: cutest thing. Me and my mom work in the same 1002 00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:27,759 Speaker 1: office together as mail carriers. She's a rural carrier of 1003 00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:30,440 Speaker 1: twenty plus years and I'm a city carrier of five years. 1004 00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:36,440 Speaker 1: This month for a tiny town called Pelos Pelosios, Texas, 1005 00:54:36,520 --> 00:54:39,160 Speaker 1: located on the Gulf. I've been listening to the podcast 1006 00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:40,839 Speaker 1: for a while now and I couldn't stop talking about 1007 00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:43,319 Speaker 1: how hilarious you two are and how and told her 1008 00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:45,400 Speaker 1: she has to give the podcast a chance. She fell 1009 00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:47,200 Speaker 1: in love with it, and now we look forward to 1010 00:54:47,239 --> 00:54:49,920 Speaker 1: every Tuesday so we can listen, laugh, and call each 1011 00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:52,799 Speaker 1: other afterwards to talk about it. Thank you too for 1012 00:54:52,840 --> 00:54:54,759 Speaker 1: bringing us so much joy during the week and giving 1013 00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:57,640 Speaker 1: us all something to bond over. And then she was like, 1014 00:54:57,680 --> 00:55:00,160 Speaker 1: if you give us a shout out, so free love 1015 00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:03,320 Speaker 1: you both, so shout out to Danielle and your mom. 1016 00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:06,480 Speaker 1: We love you. Danielle and your mom, we love you, 1017 00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,600 Speaker 1: and everyone else we love you and have a great week. 1018 00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:12,440 Speaker 1: And hi to each other bybe