1 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:23,919 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business, 7 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: your question. At the sound of the beep. 12 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 2: High Cheeky is this is Destiny. 13 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 3: So my question for you is what are your thoughts 14 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 3: on ultimatums. I'm currently obsessed with the show on Netflix, 15 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 3: and I see so much self discovery when an ultimatum 16 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 3: is given. Based on the show. I've been with my 17 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 3: boyfriend for five years now and we just welcomed a 18 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:09,400 Speaker 3: beautiful baby girl in December, which, by the way, her 19 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 3: name is Eleana Janney. Her middle name was very much 20 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,759 Speaker 3: inspired by you. I love you so much. But yeah, 21 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 3: what are your thoughts on ultimatums? You know my boyfriend's 22 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 3: mindset is, well, we have a baby, we have joint accounts, 23 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 3: we've been living together for so long, you know why 24 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 3: put that on a piece of paper, like we've practically 25 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 3: are married. 26 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 2: And for me, it's more of like, I want the proposal. 27 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 3: I want the cute little ceremony and you know, my 28 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 3: family being a part of it. I didn't have a kincinera, 29 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:38,400 Speaker 3: I didn't have a graduation party. 30 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 2: I feel like I deserve a wedding. 31 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:45,039 Speaker 3: I deserve a really beautiful proposal, and I love him 32 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 3: so much. He treats me well. You know, we're in 33 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 3: a great relationship. We respect each other. I just don't 34 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 3: know if he's afraid, if it's a commitment issue. 35 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 2: I don't know. What do you think? 36 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 3: What are your thoughts on possibly giving him an ultimatum 37 00:01:58,640 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 3: or ultimatums in general? 38 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 1: Destiny first. So I love your question, and thank you 39 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 1: for naming your daughter after me. Love that for us. 40 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: Thank you A big kiss to Leana and to yourself, 41 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: Lenna Janey. Okay, so ultimatums. I think ultimatums are totally fine. 42 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: That is respecting boundaries, your boundaries. I get what your 43 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 1: boyfriend is saying. Because yeah, I mean, you guys have 44 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: been together for a long time, you have a beautiful blessing, 45 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: and you have joint account, so that shows already some 46 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: type of commitment. A lot of men don't even do that, Okay, 47 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: so that I get what he's saying. For him, it's 48 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: kind of like, well, we're already here. Where are we 49 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: did all of this? Like what's the purpose? The purpose 50 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: is that you want it, and you absolutely one hundred 51 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: percent deserve that. Now, if you don't want to lose him, 52 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:45,639 Speaker 1: I would be a little careful with how you word 53 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: your ultimatum. I do think that it's okay for you 54 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 1: to say, hey, I would love to get married. I 55 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 1: and all the reasons that you just stated are completely valid. 56 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: You never had your kinsigneta, et cetera, et cetera. Like 57 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 1: you want a party, you want to feel like a 58 00:02:57,639 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 1: princess for a day, You absolutely we all deserve that's 59 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:02,760 Speaker 1: what you want, absolutely, especially if you gave him a 60 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 1: child like look, I gave you a gift, the biggest 61 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: gift of your life, this beautiful jinney. Doesn't have to 62 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: be a big ring, it doesn't have to be this 63 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: huge thing. I just I want that. I want the dress. 64 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 1: I want to give our relationship that blessing in our child. 65 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 1: Maybe give it to him that way. Maybe you guys 66 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: can even do like a couple's therapy session together and 67 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 1: explain this with someone mediating, because sometimes when it's coming 68 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: from us, we don't deliver our message correctly or they 69 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: don't even listen to us because it's coming from us. 70 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: But if someone else is mediating, like a therapist a counselor, 71 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: and you express this and they're able to express it 72 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 1: to him in a different way, then maybe it'll sink in. 73 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 1: But I have no issue with ultimatoes. I feel like 74 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: we are here to enjoy our lives to the best 75 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: way that we can. And if that's what you want, 76 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 1: then you should get that. And you have to give 77 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: yourself your place in order for other people to respect it, 78 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: especially your partner. And you don't have to be mean 79 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: about it. It's just say, hey, I want this within 80 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:03,880 Speaker 1: the next two years. Please really think about it. If not, 81 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: then you're also going to have to make a decision destiny, 82 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: you know, if that's really what you want. So I 83 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 1: hope everything works out. And again, thank you so much. 84 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:16,720 Speaker 1: You are so sweet. I love you. Okay, so our 85 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,920 Speaker 1: next question comes from Velva Hi Cheeky's. 86 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:21,719 Speaker 4: I just want to let you know first off that 87 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 4: I'm a huge fan of yours. Everything that you do, 88 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:27,599 Speaker 4: your books, your music, your podcasts. I think you are 89 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 4: an amazing representation for Latina's and so just kudos to 90 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 4: you for doing the damn thing. I'm reaching out to 91 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 4: you for advice because I am an aspiring drag performer. 92 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,000 Speaker 4: I want to break you out into the local drag 93 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,240 Speaker 4: scene here in my town, and it's something I've been 94 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 4: talking about for months and I finally have the opportunity. 95 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 4: A local queen reached out to me and said they 96 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 4: want to book me for their show. And now that 97 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 4: it's becoming real, I am absolutely terrified, and I think 98 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 4: like my confidence is shaken all of a sudden, and 99 00:04:57,960 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 4: I'm doubting if I could really do it. So I 100 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:02,400 Speaker 4: guess I'm just wondering if you have any advice for 101 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:06,679 Speaker 4: I guess just not doubting myself or anybody that's trying 102 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 4: something different. How do we find the confidence to push 103 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 4: through and do it? Anyway, Thank you for your time. 104 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: Velva, Thank you so much. That is so sweet. 105 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 2: Thank you. 106 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 1: We're on the right track. Guys. It makes me so happy. Okay, look, 107 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: I think you just need to do it. Okay, it's 108 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 1: okay to be nervous. You have to just face fear 109 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: in the face and say, I'm not gonna let you 110 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: keep me from something you've been dreaming about for so long. Like, 111 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: now that it's here, I get it. I always call 112 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:35,480 Speaker 1: it the enemy. I call it like the dark vibes, 113 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: the dark energy that wants to come in and stop 114 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: you from reaching your goals. I always feel like when 115 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:46,160 Speaker 1: you're about to do something great, you get like tested 116 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: in some way. You know, it's like that dark energy 117 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: that comes and wants to switch your mind. And of course, 118 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: because you're gonna be performing, your confidence because you need 119 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:56,599 Speaker 1: confidence to go out there and do this. But the 120 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: cool thing about drag is that you have an alter 121 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: ego and that's what helps me. There's Jinney and then 122 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 1: there's Cheeky's. I put on my extensions, I go on 123 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: stage and I'm just like, okay, now it's time to 124 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 1: turn on the bad bitch. Of course, you're going to 125 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 1: have like your drag name and everything, so it's like 126 00:06:09,279 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 1: putting on a costume and just saying I'm going out there, 127 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 1: I could be a completely different person and Velva can 128 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:18,320 Speaker 1: still be Velva and do her thing and be more chill, 129 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 1: and then my drag queen can just be out there 130 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,359 Speaker 1: and do the damn thing. So I think you just 131 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,920 Speaker 1: need to do it. And maybe the first one you are, 132 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: I don't know, your ladies are going to be shaking. 133 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:32,240 Speaker 1: Might not be perfect, but it's okay. That's how you learn, 134 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:34,119 Speaker 1: that's how you grow. Like you have to be okay 135 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,720 Speaker 1: with saying okay, maybe the first time wasn't perfect. When 136 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: I went on stage, you think it was perfect. No, 137 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,279 Speaker 1: Now that I look back, I'm like, damn, I love 138 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 1: to know how far I've come. That's growth. Like I 139 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:45,599 Speaker 1: love to show people that I could do it, so 140 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:47,159 Speaker 1: I know you could do it. Just keep all of 141 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:49,799 Speaker 1: that in mind. I think you just need to do it, girl, 142 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: Just do it. That's so exciting. I'm so excited for you. 143 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: And it's okay. It's okay if you're feeling a little nervous, 144 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: if you're like shaking in your boots, that is all 145 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: normal and part of the process and part of this journey, 146 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: especially right before going on stage where you're going to 147 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: feel like you want to throw up, but it's all 148 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: good once you get up there. I don't know what happens, 149 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: but then the lights are on and the music and 150 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: you're just you'll see it's in you. You're going to 151 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: be just fine, So just do it. Okay. So our 152 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 1: next question comes from Stephanie. 153 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 5: Hi Chiki's I hope you are having a wonderful day today. 154 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 5: I first want to start off by saying, thank you 155 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 5: so much for having this podcast and allowing us to 156 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 5: be able to ask you questions and you respond to us. 157 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 5: We know that we love to get advice from the 158 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:40,640 Speaker 5: people who we truly love, adore, and admire, and girl, 159 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 5: we love you so much, so thank you so so 160 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 5: much for that. Also, I think you're so so beautiful, 161 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 5: and I just wanted you to know that I love 162 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 5: you and your family so much. Okay, my question is 163 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 5: I am a very shy person. I always complain about 164 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 5: being alone and not having someone, but then when guys 165 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 5: come my way, I'm so shy and I don't respond 166 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 5: or I don't go forward with it. 167 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 6: I don't know why I'm just so shy. So my 168 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 6: question is how can I stop being so shy and 169 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 6: how can I put myself out there and actually date 170 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 6: because it's so hard for me. I don't know why, 171 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 6: I'm just so shy. Thank you so much, girl, I 172 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,040 Speaker 6: love you. 173 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 1: You guys are gonna make me cry today. Thank you 174 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: so much, Stephanie. Oh my god, you guys are the sweetest. 175 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: I love you guys, and I love that you guys 176 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: are loving my podcast and just taking the time to 177 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: leave your questions like you guys have no idea how 178 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: much it makes me happy. Okay, So Stephanie, I get it. 179 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: I think that's cute that you're shy, and a lot 180 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: of guys like that. Okay, I think like a lot 181 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 1: of guys like shyness. You could be shy but be confident, 182 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 1: like just say I know who I am, I know 183 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: what I bring to the table. You don't have to 184 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 1: say it, but like you just give off that energy 185 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:49,200 Speaker 1: because you should know that, like, yeah, I'm shy, I'm cute, 186 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 1: I'm a little quiet, but I'm confident in who I am. 187 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: That is very different from being shy. So if you're shy, 188 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: it's okay. I think that you just need to take 189 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 1: the risk. If you you want a partner, if you 190 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:05,679 Speaker 1: want a companion, then you need to respond. Girl, you're 191 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: asking the universe for this. They're delivering. God is delivering. 192 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 1: Your angels are delivering. The universe is delivering. So you 193 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 1: just have to move forward and just say, hey, like 194 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: you have to just take the risk, even if you 195 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 1: are shitting your pants, okay, like you have to go 196 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: on the date. You have to respond. They had the 197 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: g like, let yourself be loved. Don't block yourself from that, 198 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:27,319 Speaker 1: because if you keep doing it and not responding or 199 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,320 Speaker 1: not going on these dates or really trying this, then 200 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 1: the universe is going to think that you, Okay, she's 201 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,440 Speaker 1: not ready, so let me just not send her anyone. 202 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: So do it, shy, go on these dates. Even if 203 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 1: you're a little quiet, if maybe taking a shot, you know, 204 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: of tequila makes you feel a little bit better, do that. 205 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: There are like stress pills, not stress pills, gummies that 206 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 1: I've taken that just ease your stress levels and it 207 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 1: helps with anxiety. And you gotta like just do it 208 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:53,679 Speaker 1: and be yourself. If you are shy, that is who 209 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: you are, Like you are going to meet the right 210 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: person for you and is going to love that shyness. 211 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 1: But if you don't try it and you keep blocking it, Like, 212 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:03,600 Speaker 1: how how tell me? How is it gonna happen? 213 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:03,800 Speaker 6: Girl? 214 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 1: How? So girl? Go on these dates? Okay, be yourself. 215 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 1: Be yourself. That's what always works and should always like. 216 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: Whoever's gonna end up with you should love you for 217 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:15,440 Speaker 1: who you are. So be yourself. That is my biggest 218 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:22,040 Speaker 1: and best advice. Okay, okay, So our next question comes 219 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 1: from an anonymous listener. 220 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 2: Hey, Cheeky's, how are you girl? Your body is looking amazing. 221 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 2: I'm in love with it. 222 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:34,679 Speaker 7: Well, let me keep it short and simple. So I'm 223 00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:39,720 Speaker 7: struggling financially, but I'm also an emotional spender and it 224 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 7: sucks because I stress and I want to spend even 225 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:50,199 Speaker 7: if cinema stamnbolata, and then I feel guilty for spending it, 226 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 7: and I don't know how to control myself. 227 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 6: Any tips? 228 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:59,320 Speaker 1: Okay, thank you for your question, anonymous listener. When you 229 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:02,440 Speaker 1: guys can and let's it's like a really secret question 230 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 1: that you guys don't want people to know that it's 231 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: you guys, leave your name because I would love to 232 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: call you by your name, you know. But okay, but 233 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:09,920 Speaker 1: in regards to your question, I get that. I get 234 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 1: it because I was like that for a very long time, 235 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,960 Speaker 1: so I understand. I think that you have to be 236 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:19,960 Speaker 1: very adamant about saving. I always tell you guys this, 237 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 1: like for a rainy day, you never know what will happen, 238 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 1: even if it's five dollars in your savings account where 239 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: you're absolutely I cannot touch it. I promise myself, I 240 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: promise God that I'm not going to touch this, no 241 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 1: matter how much I want this purse, whatever it may be. 242 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: I think that it's important for us to really be 243 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 1: good stewards of our money, not be cheap, not be 244 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:44,600 Speaker 1: go goos, but be good stewards. What does that mean? Like, Okay, 245 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 1: when God is blessing us with a job, with you know, 246 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 1: our finances, like our money, we should be able to 247 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: take care of that because it comes and it goes. 248 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 1: So that's what you have to kind of switch your mindset. 249 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: And that's what I did, where I was like, Okay, 250 00:11:57,840 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: right now, things are going great and I'm very grateful 251 00:11:59,920 --> 00:12:02,079 Speaker 1: for and I can buy it, you know, this thing 252 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:04,840 Speaker 1: that I don't necessarily need. But what if tomorrow I can't, 253 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,319 Speaker 1: Let me not buy this thing that I really don't need, 254 00:12:07,360 --> 00:12:10,000 Speaker 1: and let me just save that money just in case, 255 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: because what if something happens that I really need the money. 256 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:15,360 Speaker 1: I like to live in the present absolutely and enjoy 257 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: my life right now. A lot of people say, I know, 258 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:20,080 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna take the money when I leave, like 259 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: leave the earth is what I mean. But we also 260 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 1: have to be responsible. I know it's hard, I know 261 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:28,839 Speaker 1: it's it's it's difficult, but then it's I don't know, 262 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: you just gotta just hold it and just say, you 263 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 1: know what, I'm not going to I'm doing this for 264 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: my future self. I'm doing this and I'm saving this 265 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 1: one dollar for my future self because you know what, 266 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 1: I don't really need this. So it's gonna take time, Okay. 267 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 1: It's giving yourself therapy and asking yourself questions and going 268 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 1: to the store and saying do I really need this? 269 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 1: Come on, is this a luxury or is this a necessity? 270 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: Ask yourself that. Okay. So I hope that helped. 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