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Speaker 3: My girlfriend, Jenna and I have been together for a

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Speaker 3: little over two years. I'm a veterinarian, and we met

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Speaker 3: at my office. She had just moved to the city

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Speaker 3: and brought her dog in for an ear infection. We

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Speaker 3: started talking and what should have been a fifteen minute

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Speaker 3: so I've never been so smitten with a woman before.

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Speaker 3: Before Jenna, I lived the bachelor lifestyle. I was beginning

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Speaker 3: to think I'd stay single for even though that lifestyle

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Speaker 3: of nothing but casual flings is growing really old and empty.

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Speaker 3: Though we know it. Jenna is a charismatic woman with

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Speaker 3: a lot of friends. Her best friend is a guy Dylan,

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Speaker 3: she knew in her old town. I trust Jenna, but

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Speaker 3: I'd be bold faced lying if I told her that

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Speaker 3: her relationship with him doesn't bother me at all. I

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Speaker 3: don't get angry with her or fight about it. She's

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Speaker 3: reassured me that they've been friends their whole lives and

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Speaker 3: have never had any spicy related relationship. I'm secure and

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Speaker 3: I'm not insane, so I accept that they were friends

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Speaker 3: and have tried to buddy up with him as well.

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Speaker 3: He's visited the city three times. He's a cool guy. However,

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Speaker 3: he does not seem to like me much. M Jenna

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Speaker 3: says he's just protective. Comes off a whole lot more

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Speaker 3: like jealousy though than protectiveness, in my opinion. Jenna just

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Speaker 3: finished up grad school this spring, but she's had a

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Speaker 3: really tough time a job. We have lived together for

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Speaker 3: a year and have been understanding that she can't help

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Speaker 3: pay rent, etcetera.

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Speaker 2: Right now.

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Speaker 3: I'm very financially secure, all right, mister Vetch, So it

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Speaker 3: isn't an issue. However, I am careful to not become

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Speaker 3: a reason for her to not get a job and

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Speaker 3: have her own financial independence. I just think it's important

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Speaker 3: for everyone to have this sort of independence. Agreed, Agreed, Aka,

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Speaker 3: I don't want to pay for it, got you? I

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Speaker 3: just yeah, So, without being pushy, I let her know

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Speaker 3: at work on Monday to tell me she got a job.

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Speaker 3: to go through some pretty grueling interviews to get. I

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Speaker 3: was so happy and proud of her that decided to

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Speaker 3: bought her favorite boot, grabbed a bunch of Chinese take

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Speaker 3: out her favorite, and bought her flowers.

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Speaker 2: I had bought her a.

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Speaker 3: Nice necklace that she'd seen at a store a couple

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Speaker 3: anything to do with sharks. That's cute, adorable. I'd hidden

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Speaker 3: it in the store. I got home are we seeing?

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Speaker 2: Are we seeing? In a little ice?

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Speaker 2: John?

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Speaker 3: I really hope, I really hope I'm not seeing what

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Speaker 2: Who.

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Speaker 3: But I got home and came in the side entrance

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Speaker 3: to the basement so I could grab the necklace and

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Speaker 1: I think we're about to see some unintentional eavesdropping about

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Speaker 2: She was talking to Dylan. Hmmm, hey, laughing is not

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Speaker 2: a crime. Yeah, no, we're fine.

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Speaker 3: Do you have any you have any reason to not

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Speaker 3: to Dylan, nothing new, nothing new there. They talk at

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Speaker 3: least once a week. Then I heard what they were

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Speaker 3: she said something about how, no, he can't even compare

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Speaker 3: to ex boyfriend. Ex boyfriend had at least three inches

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, yikes, yikes, O got inches.

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Speaker 2: Damn.

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Speaker 1: I mean that's that's a lot, even in high Yeah,

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Speaker 2: That's a lot. Three inches, man for something starting a

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Speaker 2: three geeze crazy? Oh man, Oh dude, not still recovering.

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Speaker 2: That is a rough one. That's tough, man, that's tough.

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Speaker 2: That's tough. That's tough. That's tough. Hey, you know, there's

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Speaker 2: always the gym.

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Speaker 3: So I feel bad every time I eat a baby.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, oh no, I feel bad every time I

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Speaker 3: eat a baby carring around him because it must be

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm. That's rough. It is a little bit tragically hilarious.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh god, I feel so bad for him. Oh god,

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Speaker 2: This Ah dang, dude. A tank can't can't grow, that's

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Speaker 2: not that's not what mother nature intend.

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Speaker 1: Mother nature intended for carrots to that. That is that's

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Speaker 1: fruit from from the earth right there. Yeah, carrot. It's like,

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Speaker 1: I will not get back to reality. I will stay crazy. Try, Sophia, Try.

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Speaker 1: It would almost be cute if it didn't suck so much.

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Speaker 1: His body is amazing as long as he keeps his

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Speaker 1: boxers on. I don't give a craft what people on

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Speaker 1: Reddit think about the size of my member, but I

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Speaker 1: do think it's important to say that what she was

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Speaker 1: making fun of wasn't even true.

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Speaker 2: Old on, Wait a minute, which.

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Speaker 3: In my opinion makes it even more hurtful. I mean,

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Speaker 3: I don't know about the ex boyfriend. Maybe he was

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Speaker 3: Not going to up sell myself here. It's nothing to

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Speaker 3: write home about. But it's also not laughable. I've never

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Speaker 3: felt self conscious. It is what it is. But to

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Speaker 3: hear her ripping me apart to this guy that she

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Speaker 3: knows I have some concern about was just beyond hurtful.

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Speaker 3: Hurtful doesn't cover it. She also made fun of me

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Speaker 2: But not super smart. All right, all right, really quick, yep,

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Speaker 2: talk to me. I mean, this is pretty bad. It's

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Speaker 2: it's wow so whack so whack.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And Jellybud did some quick math for us. So

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Speaker 3: he's a five and the other guy's an eight.

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Speaker 2: There you go. Thanks for the quick math, Jellbos for

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Speaker 1: Crunching those numbers over there like a baby carrots doing

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Speaker 1: the lord, doing the lord's work.

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Speaker 3: I really think this is this is one violation of

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Speaker 3: trust to just really cruel and mean cruel. Maybe, I like,

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Speaker 3: you know what.

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Speaker 1: I think, like, you know, if a woman is like,

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Speaker 1: you know, not satisfied in the bedroom, I do think

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Speaker 1: that's like a such an unfortunate predicament. It's such an

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Speaker 1: I feel, I feel for people in that perspective, but

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Speaker 1: there are so many other and also this does not

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Speaker 3: That's confident, you know, yeah, yeah, it's not gonna but

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Speaker 3: I but I feel like her goal isn't for them

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Speaker 3: to have a better spicy sleep.

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Speaker 1: I think her goal is to bomb with Dylan. Oh

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Speaker 1: wait she is, do we know for sure? If she's

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Speaker 1: telling us to Dylan or I thought, for sure, alfriend.

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Speaker 3: I'm highly educated. This isn't even remotely a concern of mine.

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Speaker 3: I know I'm smart, gorgeous, and super smart with an

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Speaker 3: average size wiener. Thanks very much, Let's go stand on business,

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Speaker 3: Stand on business fully erect. I left after that. Did

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Speaker 2: Yes? Did I cry in up parking lot? Yes?

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Speaker 3: I think she may have heard the basement door close,

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Speaker 3: texting me pretty quickly after I left, asking me when

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Speaker 3: brought it up.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I think I'm still processing everything. It's horribly embarrassing and hurtful,

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Speaker 3: I'm extremely hurt and I don't know if I can

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Speaker 2: We haven't edit.

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Speaker 3: We haven't edit, but right now, let us talk about

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Speaker 3: what we think we should do here? Is this just

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Speaker 3: talk about it. Is this a breakup than talk or

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Speaker 3: a talk and then maybe break up?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I think he has to sit her down and be like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I heard the whole conversation and that was absolutely awful

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Speaker 1: and maybe even just starting there, like just saying like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I heard this, it like really hurt. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 3: I mean, he's obviously he said he's still in love

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Speaker 2: Like let's like say, with that, you still might break up. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: It gives an opportunity for him to understand more about

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Speaker 3: what's going on too. You know when we talk about

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Speaker 3: relationship integrity, like we talk about this idea of oh,

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Speaker 3: you know like yeah, maybe you could forgive, but are

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Speaker 3: might get you might be able to get back together,

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Speaker 3: but will the relationship be the same. Yeah, And this

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Speaker 3: feels like one of those things that may forever change

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Speaker 3: that relationship. So it's like, is it is this something

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Speaker 3: could could forever?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like a double whammy. The spicy sleep life

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Speaker 1: has forever change. And then can I trust her with

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Speaker 1: like very like intimate things and that she won't like

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Speaker 1: tell her friends to be giggling about me. So it's like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's tough, so tough one to come back from.

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Speaker 3: that performance. Oh dude, that but that craft scares me. Bro, Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 3: All the redecorating she did to my house was done

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Speaker 3: She said John, Yes, she didn't know why she said

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Speaker 2: I guess, like my wiener, Oh no, oh, no, so bad.

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Speaker 1: Sea you just yeah, she's a big lie dude, Like literally,

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Speaker 2: Okay, so my boy's six boy six, fine, that's good.

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Speaker 2: That's a full carrot. It's a full carrot. That's a

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Speaker 1: He's fine, he's doing five fine, and he's fit. This

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Speaker 1: And he's like, let me take the high road, you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, come on, it was amazing to watch how fast

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Speaker 3: I told her passing her alone is preferred to passing

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Speaker 3: I was alarming, and she just booked it out of

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Speaker 3: just leave her on the sidewalk. I'm in New England.

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00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:50,840
Speaker 3: It's already pretty cold here, so I told her to

439
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 3: let me give her a ride back to the house

440
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,679
Speaker 3: so she could get her stuff. But she needed to

441
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 3: leave and go stay somewhere else as soon as she

442
00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 3: packed a bag. Yeah, she agreed. I didn't talk at

443
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 3: all in the car, talk about an awkward ride. My

444
00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 3: brother and his wife were at the house when we

445
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: got there, so I stayed inside. Well, Jenna got some

446
00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,560
Speaker 3: stuff together and my brother waited outside with me. That

447
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,480
Speaker 3: went pretty uneventfully, and she had a girlfriend come pick

448
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 3: her up. I got my keyback from her before she left.

449
00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 3: She texted me throughout the night, and the text ranges

450
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 3: from sorry to sad, too angry to really angry and

451
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 3: back again. I didn't answer any of them, and only

452
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,400
Speaker 3: texted her yesterday morning to tell her that her stuff

453
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:33,719
Speaker 3: was on the porch and that she should come to

454
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:36,120
Speaker 3: pick it up while I'm at work. I didn't hear

455
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 3: from her all day until it was almost time for

456
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,680
Speaker 3: me to go home. There was a pretty nasty text

457
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 3: wishing me about every ill you can wish a person.

458
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 3: I didn't answer.

459
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 2: Great boom she moved.

460
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 3: Oh no, oh well I come home, Oh to a

461
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 3: disaster zone. She smashed everything. I don't know if she

462
00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:59,359
Speaker 3: made a spare key at some point that I was

463
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 3: unaware of, or she knows how to pick locks. But

464
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,239
Speaker 3: she got into the house somehow and she destroyed it.

465
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

466
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:10,400
Speaker 3: She smashed stuff that's irreplaceable. She ripped up furniture, She

467
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 3: clogged two sinks, left the water running, She let the

468
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 3: refrigerator open and threw food all over the kitchen. It

469
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 3: was wrecked. The only considerate thing she did was lock

470
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,159
Speaker 3: my two dogs up in the bedroom. I guess so

471
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:26,440
Speaker 3: they didn't cut themselves on glass or eat the food.

472
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 2: Oh my god, dude.

473
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 3: Oh my god, dude, I don't understand, Like what what

474
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 3: frightens me. What frightens me is you can be in

475
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 3: a relationship with someone for two years and it's totally fine,

476
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,399
Speaker 3: and then snap they become a crazy person.

477
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, just snap. Does that not terrify you? I mean,

478
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 1: that is that is? That is absolutely that. How do

479
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 1: you test for that?

480
00:24:57,320 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 2: Cha? What's the crazy test? No?

481
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,439
Speaker 3: Do something really difficult and hard together where like things

482
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 3: will go wrong, yeah, travel maybe, yeah, get a dog,

483
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 3: but they had dogs in the crazy to come out.

484
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 2: That's true. I think I'm gonna get flamed for this.

485
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 2: Here we go.

486
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 3: But I think if you take care of a partner

487
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 3: too much, it might prevent you from learning if they can,

488
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 3: like can weather difficulty.

489
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: Right, because it's like it's the same thing of the

490
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 1: difficult scenario where it's all right, if you put yourselves

491
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:29,160
Speaker 1: in a difficult scenario, you see yourself at your worse

492
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: and it's like, how do you behave and act and like.

493
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 3: Care sounds like he kind of insulated her from anything rough.

494
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 2: We got some.

495
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 3: We got some more here. So I have two vehicles,

496
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 3: one for everyday use and then an suv for work.

497
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,879
Speaker 3: I use the suv for when I make house calls

498
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 3: and may have to bring large or exotic animals into

499
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,159
Speaker 3: the vehicle to transport it into the clinic. In the

500
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 3: middle of the drama, I'd forgotten I'd given her a

501
00:25:56,359 --> 00:26:00,119
Speaker 3: key to the suv in case she ever had had

502
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 3: an emergency and needed to drive somewhere. I went out

503
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:07,399
Speaker 3: to check the car, and she trashed the inside of it.

504
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 3: She don't flower all over the inside. In addition to tomato stew.

505
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 3: The stuff is just stuff. I suppose it's more of

506
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 3: the fact that she could do something so childish and

507
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 3: awful on top of everything else. It blows my mind.

508
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 3: Last weekend I took her to a play went out

509
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 3: with her and her friends. We played Monopoly one night

510
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 3: and made up our own drinking game with it. We

511
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 3: hung out and watched Netflix Made Love several times. All right,

512
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 3: flexless And this week in my house and vehicle are destroyed,

513
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 3: and so am I amazing how fast things change?

514
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 2: Truly? Yeah, you better look alound her every once in

515
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 2: a while. You might miss it. Wow.

516
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 3: Wow, not my finest moment. But I was so pissed

517
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 3: off that I got right onto Costco's instant delivery and

518
00:26:51,640 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 3: ordered twenty five bag bounds and ordered five pound bags

519
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 3: of baby carrots and had them shipped to her friend's place,

520
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 3: addressed to Jenna. One hundred pounds of baby carrots. They

521
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 3: deliver within one hour. I got a slew of interesting

522
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,919
Speaker 3: and insulting text from her that evening. Yes, it was petty,

523
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 3: but the only good I have about it is that

524
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 3: it was a waste of food. Hopefully she donates them

525
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 3: or cooks some of them or something. So that's that

526
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 3: I blocked her the night after the nasty texts from

527
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 3: her kept coming. I'm feeling pretty beaten down right now,

528
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 3: and I have cried more than I have in a

529
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 3: long time. It's obvious that I made the right choice.

530
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 3: Jenna is clearly not emotionally stable or mature. She really

531
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:40,400
Speaker 3: is cruel, and I know I do deserve better. I've

532
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 3: spent a lot of time since Monday thinking about myself

533
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 3: as a partner and trying to figure out what could

534
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 3: have led her, obviously to having some resentment or something.

535
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:51,680
Speaker 3: For me, I'm going to be one hundred percent honest here.

536
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 2: I work a lot.

537
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 3: I try still to make time for people I love

538
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 3: and try not to bring work home with me when

539
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,479
Speaker 3: I've had a bad day, but sometimes I do. I

540
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 3: know this, Jenna and I have thought about it before,

541
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 3: and I've really tried to pace my days a certain

542
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 3: way so that I can get home at a reasonable time,

543
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 3: and I've tried to leave bad days at work as

544
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 3: much as I can. However, anyone who is a VET

545
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 3: or has worked with one knows we're always on call

546
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,679
Speaker 3: for emergencies. Sometimes we have patients that we have to

547
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 3: check on or stay with through the night. Time off

548
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 3: can be challenging. It's doable, but challenging. My staff is

549
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 3: incredible and can handle most situations, but I do still

550
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,400
Speaker 3: get a lot of calls or texts from them when

551
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 3: I'm on vacation or an off day. I'm sure there

552
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:37,120
Speaker 3: have been times when Jenna felt second best to my job. Well,

553
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 3: I guess I know there have been. She's told me

554
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 3: that much in the past. I did try to make changes,

555
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 3: but there's only so much I can do. As far

556
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 3: as I remember, I've never been purposely mean to Jenna.

557
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 3: I've had bad days and been grumpy or absent. We've

558
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 3: had our shared disagreements and fights, but nothing unhealthy or excessive.

559
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 3: I really thought we had a solid relationship and that

560
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 3: we were both happy.

561
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 2: I know I was.

562
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:00,400
Speaker 3: It's hard not to question myself in one or if

563
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 3: I really am a letdown, or if I neglected her

564
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 3: at some point that she felt unloved enough to act

565
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 3: the way she did. I don't know, but I do

566
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 3: know that no matter what the way she put me

567
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 3: down and the way she reacted to breaking up this

568
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 3: way was way out of line. I didn't deserve that,

569
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 3: and that's on her, true, But you know what, each

570
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 3: and every one of you freaking deserve what to listen

571
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 3: to full episodes with stories just like this, go to Spotify,

572
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 3: Apple Podcast, iHeartRadio, or your favorite podcast app and search. Okay, storytime,

573
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 3: there's another relevant update, Johnny, Yes, sir, But how do

574
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 3: we feel about where things have ended?

575
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 2: Yeah?

576
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,200
Speaker 1: Man, I think, uh, you know, op, I think he

577
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 1: did a pretty good job at navigating everything and you know,

578
00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 1: just trying to keep it even keel, try to take

579
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 1: the high road, try to just make it as unmessy

580
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 1: as possible. In a massively literally and figuratively messy situation.

581
00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 2: It is messy as heck.

582
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: Uh, thank odd it happened before he gave the ring,

583
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: because she for sure, I mean she probably would.

584
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 2: Have taken it or sure, but god knows what I got.

585
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 2: How much damage did she create in that house?

586
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, Emma Wilkins just said what I was thinking.

587
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 1: He definitely needs to sue her, I mean, less charges.

588
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 1: That's that's you. You can't expect like you're the one

589
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 1: that did the thing wrong, Like what are you destroying

590
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 1: his place?

591
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 2: And properity for the immature people do. That's what I guess. So,

592
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 2: but again when they're back fronted, back to the lying thing, it's.

593
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 1: Just like so it's like so so scary and so

594
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 1: just like it's like hard to imagine.

595
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 2: I don't know like that someone would do that.

596
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 3: But wow, well we got a little bit more of

597
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 3: the story. Well let's get into it. Hey it's Sam.

598
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Speaker 3: We're going to get back to these stories. But here's

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600
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Speaker 2: Thank you for rooting for me. Readit.

601
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 3: It's been great to read all the nice words. Time

602
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 3: for me and my baby care to eventually find a

603
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 3: woman who appreciates us for what we are Edits got

604
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 3: an edit. So I did find police report and took pictures,

605
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 3: which will hopefully help with recouping some of the money

606
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 3: lost to insurance. As far as the police report, it's

607
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 3: very doubtful anything will come of it since I can't

608
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 3: prove it was her. Same goes for trying to sue

609
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 3: her in small claims court, and honestly, I'd rather not

610
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 3: deal with her anymore. I'm going to hope that insurance

611
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 3: will cover the damages and I can move on with

612
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 3: my life facts to dude. Honestly, op is the most

613
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 3: stoic man a lot, dude, I mean, dude is crushing it.

614
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 3: And I have to say, listen, we we always preach

615
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 3: self care, not pettiness, but the hundred pounds of baby

616
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 3: cars was hilarious.

617
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: Hilarious and like like non offensive, harmful pettiness, you know, yeah,

618
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 1: this is this.

619
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 3: Is not harmful. Yeah, one hundred percent. And I feel

620
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 3: like you need to do something. I mean, she literally

621
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 3: destroyed his whole house. Yeah, like put in some delivering

622
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 3: some baby cares. Bro deserves something. We got to give

623
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 3: him something, man. But that's where that story ends. But

624
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 3: not this episode. We got another episode for you. But

625
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 3: oh my god, yeah that was a lot.

626
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 2: That was a lot. My goodness.

627
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 1: My fiance went to a spicy dancing club after I

628
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: told him not to.

629
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 2: Oh no, wasn't the glitter that gave it away? Huh

630
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 2: uh oh.

631
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 1: Now, two weeks ago, my fiance and I were laying

632
00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: in bed about to get intimate when I glanced over

633
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 1: and saw him looking at thirst traps on his phone.

634
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 1: I was completely turned off and told him I found

635
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,239
Speaker 1: it disrespectful to look at corn with me laying right

636
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 1: next to him, especially since we were about to have

637
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 1: spicy sleep.

638
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 2: Hey, it was just getting ready. This is the warm up, babe.

639
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 1: He apologized profusely. And by the way, this comes from

640
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: GFL one on one and if you want to submit

641
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 1: your own stories, go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

642
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 1: So when we spoke about this incident with our couple's therapist, Boom,

643
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 1: I opened up about my struggles with corn and related issues.

644
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 1: I was raised very conservatively, and while I understand it's

645
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 1: not realistic to ask him to not ever look at corn,

646
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: I have previously asked him to have the respect to

647
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 1: not do it in front of me. Babe. I need it,

648
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 1: I need it, I need it. Dude, just get a

649
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 1: VR headset. Problem solve.

650
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 2: She'll never see it, babe. I swear, I'm just plenty carrot. Yeah,

651
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 2: it's a new game, bame.

652
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 1: Game. Yeah, I'm a kneading dough. I'm a I'm a

653
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 1: baker in Friends and Belly and swe Baker. Bread is

654
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:34,719
Speaker 1: on the walls, you know, at the top down. All

655
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: the kids are playing it. I also, oh god, he's

656
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: basting the bread with the egg wash.

657
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 2: Oh man.

658
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:49,240
Speaker 1: I also suggested multiple times that we discuss our boundaries

659
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: with corn, spicy dancers, et cetera, et cetera, of course,

660
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 1: And he replied with, I don't think.

661
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 2: We need to.

662
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 3: We're on the same page. But we're on the same page.

663
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 3: Let me just put it by headset and seed some dope,

664
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 3: that's what I call him, the same page, babe.

665
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 1: This weekend is his bachelor party in Vegas.

666
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 2: God put in ice. You in sat right now. I

667
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:18,760
Speaker 2: see you. We can see a miles so painfully. Oh God.

668
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:23,200
Speaker 1: So we didn't talk about specifics, but I trusted him

669
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 1: per our previous conversations to know where my head was at. Yeah,

670
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 1: him deciding where your head was at for you. Yes,

671
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 1: that conversation.

672
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 3: It's not corn. You know it's real. They're dancers.

673
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,760
Speaker 1: Do you hate expression, babe?

674
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 2: And you hurt? You were You were so mad at

675
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:45,319
Speaker 2: me for doing corn. So I said, not doing corn anymore,

676
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,839
Speaker 2: switching it up. You're welcome in.

677
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 3: Person, baby, I mean, hey, is it a crime to

678
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 3: look at the statue of David and that man's baby carrot?

679
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 2: No?

680
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 3: No, no, it's not. That is that is beauty right there.

681
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 3: That is that is the human body. And I'm just

682
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 3: appreciating subsculpted human bodies.

683
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 2: Actually quite beautiful. The statue statue he actually got a

684
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 2: baby carrot. Well, oh, not specifically that, just in general.

685
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 2: The statue's nice. The statue. He's a good looking man.

686
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 2: He is literally the perfect the proportion man. That's how

687
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 2: they made him. Ah, well, there you go, dude.

688
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 1: If I'm being honest, had he asked me ahead of

689
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 1: time or mentioned he was going to go to a

690
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 1: spicy dancing club but with his buddies, I would have

691
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 1: been open to discussing it. Okay, communication could have happened.

692
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: He's been calling a few times a day to check in.

693
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 1: I told him that wasn't necessary, but he insisted. Late

694
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 1: last night, I was temporarily locked out of our apartment

695
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:45,800
Speaker 1: building while walking our dogs. I tried using the intercom buzzer,

696
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 1: which calls his phone, but it went straight to voicemail.

697
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 1: Once I finally got inside, I texted him that I

698
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: was sorry to bug him, but it was me and

699
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: I made it in.

700
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 2: Okay.

701
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 1: He immediately read the message and didn't reply, which is

702
00:35:57,360 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 1: unlike him. He's left leaving her on red. I mean

703
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 1: it can't it can't really text? Yeah, Okay, my fingers

704
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 1: are reoccupied to experience the domemaking of real life. Dude, God,

705
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 1: I'm finally gonna be a real baker. This is chef's school.

706
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 2: Oh God.

707
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: I asked him whether everything was okay, and again he

708
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 1: left me on rend. This is unlike him, so I

709
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 1: grew a bit concerned. We share a locations and I

710
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 1: wanted to make sure his phone wasn't stolen or he

711
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:30,239
Speaker 1: wasn't in the hospital or something. He has checked my

712
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,240
Speaker 1: location several times before as well, so not a president

713
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: to do this.

714
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 2: He was at a spicy dancing club. Oh rough, yep.

715
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 1: I will admit that it didn't feel great, but I

716
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:42,760
Speaker 1: was going to let it go until he got home

717
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 1: so it wouldn't ruin his bachelor weekends. He called about

718
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 1: five minutes later to make sure I was okay. He

719
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: could tell from my voice I wasn't okay. I asked

720
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 1: him where he was. He initially said, oh, club, and

721
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: finally admitted it was a spicy dancer club.

722
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 2: Yep, yep, there you go.

723
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: And just just to be crystal clear, this is the

724
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 1: kind of spicy dancing club where the clothes disappear.

725
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:09,720
Speaker 2: It's a magic show. Yeah, just to just to define.

726
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 3: Our celting show you know, and close disappear and things

727
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 3: grow before your eyes.

728
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 2: He wants to be a baker and a magician.

729
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, baby carrots turn into full developed carrot.

730
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 1: Watch my engagement disappear. He promised he wasn't doing anything bad.

731
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 1: I explained how I found out and mentioned that I

732
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: wish that we had talked about it beforehand.

733
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:31,359
Speaker 2: I wasn't mad. I didn't yell.

734
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:35,439
Speaker 1: I was just disappointed and deflated in the moment. Once

735
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 1: he sensed us, he immediately got defensive and said that

736
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:39,719
Speaker 1: we were both at faults.

737
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 3: They David's kind of your fault that I'll be. I

738
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 3: recognize its my fault, but it's also your fault.

739
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 2: How could you let me do this?

740
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:52,400
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I mean you said, no corn. What's a

741
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:53,360
Speaker 3: man supposed to do?

742
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 2: I'm but a man. I have needs.

743
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:03,760
Speaker 1: I need the big is my passion getroke?

744
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 2: Oh god?

745
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: He said it was too coincidental and I must have

746
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 1: been stalking him all weekend.

747
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 2: Oh okay, that's that's what he's okay, my goodness.

748
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 1: He accused me of making up a story about getting

749
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:18,160
Speaker 1: locked out. I don't want a debate about whether spicy

750
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 1: clubs are okay, I recognize I am very conservative in

751
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: this area. Again, I would be open to talking to

752
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:26,799
Speaker 1: him had he brought it up. The only factor is

753
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 1: that one of his friends on the trip is a

754
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:29,800
Speaker 1: spicy club regular.

755
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 2: Babe. I'm just trying to help him get boys.

756
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 1: Sorry, hearing a free hot wings babe, bress me. Oh

757
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 1: my god, yeah, babe, I didn't go for the dancers.

758
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 1: I went for the hot wings. That food is amazing.

759
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:46,399
Speaker 2: Dude, and then get ready for this part.

760
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:50,440
Speaker 1: And that friend is constantly bragging about how many spicy

761
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 1: dancers he pays to sleep with.

762
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 2: Is that impressive? That's that's a brag. That doesn't feel

763
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,280
Speaker 2: like the flex you think, Yeah, no one will sleep

764
00:38:58,320 --> 00:38:59,560
Speaker 2: with me for free?

765
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: Yeah?

766
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:01,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

767
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:03,840
Speaker 1: I feel like my fiance broke my trust and now

768
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 1: I'm afraid of what else he did. Once he started

769
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: making ridiculous accusations, I did start yelling expletives and hung

770
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 1: up on him. He turned off his phone and I

771
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:14,839
Speaker 1: haven't heard from him since. What's the best path forward here?

772
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 1: I haven't been able to sleep much at all, and

773
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,280
Speaker 1: I feel sick to my stomach.

774
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 2: Our wedding is in two weeks.

775
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 1: WHOA, and we have an update where we may get

776
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 1: the either the wedding or the cancelation.

777
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:28,919
Speaker 2: That's what I think is coming up here.

778
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,319
Speaker 3: Well, John, there's a I feel like we've talked about

779
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 3: this before, and I think we're in agreement that we

780
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:37,880
Speaker 3: kind of don't like this common trope that kind of

781
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:39,840
Speaker 3: happens in bachelor and bachelorette parties.

782
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 2: Yes, where it's like last night of freedom. Why do

783
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 2: we need to do this? I hate that, Why do

784
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 2: we do this? It is that so unnecessary, so dumb.

785
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 3: But I do think there's a lot of people out

786
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 3: there that use the bachelor bachelorette party as the last

787
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 3: side of freedom and like say, like, hey, my one

788
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 3: day where anything goes it's like purge for spicy sleep.

789
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:05,839
Speaker 3: And I'm not saying it's for sure, but the fact

790
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:08,640
Speaker 3: that he's in the company of a guy that is

791
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:12,839
Speaker 3: paying for spicy sleep on the rag, I'm not one

792
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 3: hundred percent convinced that he didn't do anything more than.

793
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 1: Just watch yeah, especially like she said, once he started

794
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 1: getting defensive and trying to like put the blame on

795
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:25,839
Speaker 1: her too, like yeah, it's just and everything we've seen

796
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 1: from the sky so far, it I don't know if

797
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:33,880
Speaker 1: we have the trust in his responsibility and ability to

798
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,880
Speaker 1: honor and respect their soon to be marriage.

799
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:42,839
Speaker 2: But ladies and gentlemen, we have an updates. Oh boy,

800
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 2: let's see hey John Ogi host here.

801
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

802
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,840
Speaker 1: three minute break of ads from a sponsor's keeping the

803
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 1: show alive.

804
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:50,320
Speaker 2: Well.

805
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 1: First of all, I want to thank everyone for their responses.

806
00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 1: I read every single one. It was overwhelming. I had

807
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 1: posted this looking for some advice. I I didn't feel

808
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 1: like I could talk to my friends about this, as

809
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 1: I would be embarrassed. I know some folks probably think

810
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 1: I posted this to get validation. It was actually the opposite.

811
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 1: I was hoping I would be told I was overreacting

812
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,399
Speaker 1: so I could get out of my head and stop spiraling.

813
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 1: I would also like to add that if I read

814
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 1: this post, or if a friend came to me with

815
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 1: the situation, I would have reacted similarly. Before I update, though,

816
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 1: I would like to provide some background slash context and

817
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 1: answer some of the questions that were brought up. It's

818
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 1: a lot, so if you don't care, skip to the update.

819
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 1: My fans and I have been together for a bit

820
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: over three years. I had mentioned we are already in

821
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: couple's therapy. At true, I forgot about that, and some

822
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:41,720
Speaker 1: were questioning why that is. My fiance was previously married

823
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:45,440
Speaker 1: and his first wife passed away. Relationships with widower's can

824
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: be extremely difficult to navigate, so we sought help with

825
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: some of the trickier nuances of ours. We also both

826
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 1: have individual therapists. I started seeing one about a year

827
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 1: into dating him. As I mentioned, I come from a

828
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:58,840
Speaker 1: conservative background. I grew up in the Midwestern US, and

829
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 1: most of the folks around me were religious. My family

830
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 1: is not religious, but I guess some of these values

831
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 1: were imprinted. My father has never been to a spicy

832
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: dancing club in his life. He never had corn or

833
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:13,880
Speaker 1: suggestive material. When I was younger, I remember my father

834
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,879
Speaker 1: telling our family at dinner he found his boss, who

835
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 1: was a family friend, frequented spicy dancing clubs the way.

836
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 1: He and my mom spoke about it with disgusts that

837
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 1: they both equated it to infidelity. As I got older,

838
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 1: I moved around the country, I started to realize how

839
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,879
Speaker 1: extreme those beliefs are. I've personally struggled with a lot

840
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,760
Speaker 1: of these thoughts. I have been to spicy dancing clubs.

841
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:37,919
Speaker 1: I don't look down on folks who enjoy them, nor

842
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: do I look down on spicy sleep workers. It's not

843
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 1: my values or how I choose to live my life,

844
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: but I'm sure others could say the same about me.

845
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 1: Corn is another thing I have viewed corn solo as

846
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: well with my fiance. My issues with him and Corn

847
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 1: didn't arise until I realized how bad it seems to be.

848
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:58,960
Speaker 1: About a year and a half ago, he was showing

849
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: me something on Instagram and his for.

850
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 2: You page was literally all thirst traps.

851
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 3: I will say, if you are a man on Instagram,

852
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 3: you have to actively prune your explore page to not

853
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 3: show you booties.

854
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 2: Yes, it's just a fact of life.

855
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:22,800
Speaker 1: I think, like any it's like, oh if you like uh,

856
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 1: oh you like racing, Oh you like whatever, they're like, oh,

857
00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 1: let's just let's just throw some bootiest booty.

858
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 2: I mean, like, there're so I would.

859
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 3: There's a lot of other things that I would would say, like, hey,

860
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 3: like that's not good. The Instagram explore page, I don't

861
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 3: think is the smoking gun that you think it is. However,

862
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 3: I I prune my Instagram explore, I would I would

863
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,399
Speaker 3: actually be down to show my Instagram explore page right.

864
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 2: Now, that's how confident I am do it that there

865
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 2: it's blurry. Oh wow, but there is what the heck?

866
00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 3: I think I've said I'm not into stid in women

867
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 3: so many times that now Instagram has put me the.

868
00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 1: Other way, the other way. It was like, this must

869
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:09,319
Speaker 1: be the other answer. There's no other way.

870
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:13,240
Speaker 2: No, we gotta make this guy horny somehow. That's so funny.

871
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 3: Just no, it's not a complete smoking gun, but it is.

872
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 2: It's a little bit. I think.

873
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm just imagining in my mind's eye

874
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 1: what she's seeing, and I feel like there's a difference

875
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:27,239
Speaker 1: between oh, there's like a sprinkling and like like.

876
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, eefing, yeah, and all of it combined. Yes.

877
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 1: And then I also noticed him looking at one on

878
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: the couch once and I called him out. I worked

879
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 1: with my individual therapist about why this bothers me. I'm

880
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 1: not sure if the problem got better or I just

881
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:46,359
Speaker 1: chose to ignore it. Cut to a few weeks ago,

882
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 1: we were on a short vacation.

883
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 2: We were lying in bed. It's going on social media.

884
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 1: There was something he had done that annoyed me, but

885
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,880
Speaker 1: nothing major. I was just a little on edge, spicy

886
00:44:56,920 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 1: sleep was inevitable. We both knew it. That was until

887
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 1: I glanced over and watched him go to a search page,

888
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 1: scroll and click on a thirst trap and proceed to

889
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 1: scroll through her post. So I simply said, I guess

890
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:12,240
Speaker 1: we're not having spicy to sleep now. He got defensive

891
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: at first. It just popped up on my feed. What

892
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:18,880
Speaker 1: was I supposed to do? Okay, help myself. Three dots

893
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: not interested? Click and this man, this man know, this

894
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 1: man has been in a relationship, he knows, he knows

895
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: what's up.

896
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 2: Get that.

897
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 3: Get that out of my face. Come on, yeah, I

898
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 3: have again like that. The not interested is a powerful tool,

899
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,319
Speaker 3: very advantage if you're in a relationship, that is, are

900
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 3: struggling with like corn addiction or anything like that, like

901
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 3: or if you just like do it for whatever reason,

902
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 3: like I don't want to look at spicy picks on

903
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 3: the internet anymore. Just not interested, not interested? He can

904
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 3: get it out of.

905
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:47,720
Speaker 2: Here, delete.

906
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:49,759
Speaker 1: But I called him out and said, you clicked and

907
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:52,319
Speaker 1: scrolled with a real life woman next to you. You

908
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 1: could have the filtered photo instead. Have fun with the photo.

909
00:45:57,320 --> 00:45:59,840
Speaker 1: We spent the next therapy session going over what had happened.

910
00:45:59,880 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 1: He owned up to it, being one hundred percent in

911
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 1: the wrong, agreeing it was disrespectful, apologizing profusely, and promising

912
00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:07,839
Speaker 1: it wouldn't happen again. I use the opportunity to give

913
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 1: the therapist the context I just provided above. I guess

914
00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: I feel I have to justify this for some reason.

915
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 1: After a therapy session ended, I said it would probably

916
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 1: be a good idea to talk through boundaries, you know,

917
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 1: the rest of what happened and now, ladies and gentlemen,

918
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 1: that was just the context. That was just more background

919
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 1: to set the stage for the true update. Maybe, I

920
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:32,880
Speaker 1: mean that's I feel like that was good context.

921
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, we don't always get good context, but this

922
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 3: is I feel, fully, fully educated, fully up to speed.

923
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:43,240
Speaker 2: So now we're going to get into the juice.

924
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 1: Once he realized how upset I was, my fiance booked

925
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: an earlier flight from an earlier flight home from Vegas.

926
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:50,799
Speaker 1: When I picked him up from the airport, which I

927
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 1: debated doing. I could tell he didn't think this was

928
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 1: this was as big of a deal as it was.

929
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 1: I let him know if I could postpone the wedding,

930
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 1: I would, but we can't, and if we cancel the wedding,

931
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 1: We're done. So basically, I think she's saying, if I

932
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 1: could postpone the wedding, I would, but I guess I'm

933
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:11,320
Speaker 1: guessing venues and.

934
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:12,759
Speaker 2: Other things like it just doesn't work.

935
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 1: And if she decides to cancel the wedding, they're done, which,

936
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 1: by the way, reminder, it's in two weeks. So I

937
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: feel like opis Opie's kind of saying like, hey, we

938
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: have a two week window here to fix everything.

939
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 2: Dude, that's not gonna work. It's just, yeah, that's that's

940
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 2: too much. That's too much. It's not gonna work.

941
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, if it's if it's not a heck, yeah, to

942
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 3: get married, it should be a hair or not.

943
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: And also, I'm like, totally it would probably be a

944
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: horrendous pill to swallow, but probably doable. You just lose

945
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 1: all the money and everything else, because you're gonna lose

946
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 1: it anyways.

947
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 2: If you're not you're not gonna have the money anyways.

948
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 2: If you do the wedding, exactly, you might as well

949
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 2: just not be married to the person you shouldn't be

950
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 2: married to. Hey, you know what's more expensive. Divorce is

951
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 2: very into wedding, So how about that double.

952
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 1: So I also laid out the terms for what the

953
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 1: breakup would look like, and I insisted that he would

954
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 1: be the one telling our guests the reason why. And

955
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: it's not because he went to a spicy club. It's

956
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 1: because he's a manipulative liar who doesn't respect me. He

957
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 1: was completely shocked in his mind. All he did was

958
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 1: go to a spicy club on his bachelor party. He

959
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 1: tried to feign ignorance. All the other guys were married,

960
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 1: and their wives didn't care. Well, guess what, their wives

961
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 1: ain't me? Okay, your wives ain't this girl. You're marrying me, buddy,

962
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 1: Not their wives. They're already taken for I can across

963
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 1: the pond. If you want that fish, smell God, you

964
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:42,920
Speaker 1: want this fish, you gotta rule preemium, Mahi machia market,

965
00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 1: market day price. Okay, that's me, game cut. I laid

966
00:48:47,840 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 1: out everything that he did. I even chose some quotes

967
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 1: from the comments on the original post. Some of you

968
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 1: are better at articulating my feelings than me. Now I

969
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,640
Speaker 1: understand what I'm about to tell you next can be

970
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:00,879
Speaker 1: a form of manipulation. He could all also very well

971
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 1: be lying. I lay it out before I explain how

972
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: I feel. He started to sob, not cry, but uncontrollably sob.

973
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 1: I have never seen him anywhere close to that. He

974
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 1: didn't realize what he had done to me in our

975
00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: relationship and so close to the wedding.

976
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 2: He said he was ashamed of himself as a man

977
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 2: and a partner. He promised.

978
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 1: Nothing happened, not even a lap dance. He claims he

979
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 1: had never been to a spicy club.

980
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:26,720
Speaker 2: I swear nothing happened, not even a lap dance.

981
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 1: I didn't do anything. I came for the hot wings.

982
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 1: I came for the lemon pepper.

983
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:35,440
Speaker 2: I swear. Uh.

984
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 1: He claims it was the toxic friend. Oh, now he's toxic.

985
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:41,839
Speaker 1: He went from bragging for paying for spicy sleep, I

986
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,760
Speaker 1: mentioned the original post who was pushing the spicy club,

987
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: and he had to fight him, eventually losing. He admits

988
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 1: it was wrong, Yeah, fight him to go to a

989
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 1: spicy Nancy club.

990
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:54,759
Speaker 2: On your own bachelor party. Come on, come on.

991
00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 1: He admits it was wrong to accuse me of making

992
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 1: up the story about getting locked out. He was mad

993
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,440
Speaker 1: at me and turned off his phone as an fu.

994
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:03,879
Speaker 1: He couldn't believe that I would even think he would

995
00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 1: be unfaithful, and so on. I'm still very much struggling.

996
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 1: I hate that a lot of this is around him

997
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:11,359
Speaker 1: going to a spicy club. That's not what it is.

998
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:14,479
Speaker 1: It's aligning, the gas lighting, the wilful disrespect. I asked

999
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 1: him why he would even want to be with someone

1000
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,759
Speaker 1: like me when our values are so clearly misaligned. He said,

1001
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:23,759
Speaker 1: they are aligned, Babe, We're on the same page. Your

1002
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 1: poison tonic says, babe. I didn't get a lap dance.

1003
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 1: I got two lap dances. Yeahs, bab, I just let

1004
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 1: that out.

1005
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:34,160
Speaker 2: I was a lying babe.

1006
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: I also got a grammar game on my VR headset. Okay,

1007
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:42,320
Speaker 1: I taped the right word to a lingo. He doesn't

1008
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 1: want to be the person who goes to spicy clubs,

1009
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: then don't do it. You just thought about that so simple.

1010
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:51,399
Speaker 1: He wants to live up to my standards. I don't

1011
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: know how I feel about that last comment. At this point,

1012
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 1: I don't know what to believe. I don't think he

1013
00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:57,520
Speaker 1: cheated on me. In terms of what happened to the

1014
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 1: spicy club. He swears they were at a big table,

1015
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 1: only the toxic guy went to the back room for

1016
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:04,320
Speaker 1: a lap dance. I had to explain to him several

1017
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:07,160
Speaker 1: times how he was lying. I don't know what I

1018
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 1: believe in terms of who pushed who to go or

1019
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 1: whether that was the plan. There's a lot of doubts.

1020
00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: By the way, One thing that you will be never

1021
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 1: in doubt of is that you have two thousand episodes

1022
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: waiting for you to binge at your heart's desire.

1023
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 2: If you go to.

1024
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:26,239
Speaker 1: Spotify, Apple or iHeart Radio and search, Okay, storytime being

1025
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:27,920
Speaker 1: to the pod guys, it's a it's a it's a

1026
00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 1: great thing too, you know it is check out. But

1027
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:33,200
Speaker 1: before we get into the finale of this story and episode,

1028
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:34,960
Speaker 1: what are we thinking thosing thoughts?

1029
00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 5: I feel like, I mean, like basically what the crux

1030
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:46,760
Speaker 5: of it is he he didn't he wasn't truthful about

1031
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 5: going to the Spicy Club or wasn't fourth right, and

1032
00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 5: it seems like he's like having some kind of corn addiction.

1033
00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 3: I think it. The thing is, it's been brought up

1034
00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 3: a lot. They're already in counseling. Yeah, I think maybe

1035
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:02,400
Speaker 3: you can you can like really say like this is

1036
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 3: like you know that she's kind of said all the

1037
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 3: things like she's like, I don't know, this is like really,

1038
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 3: in my values, it feels like we're entering a breaking point.

1039
00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:14,480
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm down to because I don't feel like

1040
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 3: it's it is divorce divorce worthy. But I also don't

1041
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:21,840
Speaker 3: think you should get married. You know what the marriage

1042
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 3: is in two weeks. This feels this feels like a

1043
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 3: like a postpone or cancel marriage. But it also seems

1044
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:30,560
Speaker 3: that if you cancel the marriage that it's over.

1045
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:32,520
Speaker 2: That's what she you know.

1046
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:36,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, if I was to lean one way, it would

1047
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:40,879
Speaker 3: probably be to to not get married, not get married, Yeah,

1048
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:42,399
Speaker 3: everything that entails, Oh for sure.

1049
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1050
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 1: I think like I would say, like definitely don't get married,

1051
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:48,920
Speaker 1: but maybe just like give yourself that beat just to

1052
00:52:48,920 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 1: you if anything, just like you know, think through everything

1053
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:55,720
Speaker 1: and figure out what your next move is. But I think,

1054
00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 1: I think I feel it feels like she's frustrated and

1055
00:52:58,719 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 1: he keeps ping ponging like he's like, oh, I'm so sorry,

1056
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:04,360
Speaker 1: and then he goes and does the same like like

1057
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:06,879
Speaker 1: so similar, but not that exact same thing.

1058
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 2: You know.

1059
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 1: It goes from you know, first it's the explore page

1060
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:11,840
Speaker 1: when they're about to look up. Then it's the strip club,

1061
00:53:11,920 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 1: like it's it's.

1062
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 3: It's spicy sleep whack them all, yes, right, yes, like, oh,

1063
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 3: I can't do this all right over here, Oh I

1064
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 3: can't do this boo.

1065
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 1: And Opie's like, I'm not trying to play whack them all.

1066
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 1: Just give me my my cute teddy bear and let

1067
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 1: me let me go home. Ah well, let's let's get

1068
00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 1: into the finale of the story and episode.

1069
00:53:29,680 --> 00:53:30,720
Speaker 2: Okay, let's see.

1070
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm sorry I can't provide a better update, but I

1071
00:53:32,719 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 1: don't know what will happen. We have a couple of

1072
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:36,680
Speaker 1: therapy tonight. I'm putting together a list of requirements that

1073
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 1: I am going to consider moving forward. How do you

1074
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 1: move forward when the trust has been this broken? I

1075
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:44,280
Speaker 1: don't know. There's still a lot of pain and anger.

1076
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:47,440
Speaker 1: I feel foolish, scared of the future, weak. Thanks for

1077
00:53:47,480 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 1: giving me an outlet. I will try to reply to

1078
00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 1: comments if anyone cares for more information.

1079
00:53:51,320 --> 00:53:53,759
Speaker 2: And that is it. So we don't know.

1080
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 1: We don't know how it ended up, but you know

1081
00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:59,279
Speaker 1: what Opie's I feel like Opie's on the path to

1082
00:53:59,520 --> 00:54:00,200
Speaker 1: figuring out.

1083
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, and like giving her some time to figure it

1084
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:07,040
Speaker 3: out and giving himself a beat. Kim believe the counseling. Yeah,

1085
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Speaker 3: Kimberly Fine, says the Lord knows. He gave himself a

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Speaker 3: beat too.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, oh god. Yeah, he decided to add uh,

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Speaker 1: what's it called.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he decided to add butcher to the to the

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Speaker 2: to the hyphen job list. He's a what is it? Baker, Baker,

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Speaker 2: butcher and spicy sleep connoisseur.

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Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, there was. There was another one we threw

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Speaker 1: in there, Baker butcher and oh gosh, I thought there was.

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Speaker 1: I thought there was a second one, we said, but

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Speaker 1: I remember, but I believe that's where that episode ends.

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Speaker 1: That's rights of you. O. Yes, it is.

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