1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:02,640 Speaker 1: Oh my god, did I tell you the story of 2 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: what I was describing to my We were in the 3 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: car and I was one of my kids asked me 4 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: something about TV when I was little, and I was 5 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: describing to them about like it was whatever it was on, 6 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 1: and there was commercials and you had to, you know, 7 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:16,079 Speaker 1: if you had to show you watched, you had to 8 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: be home at that time and did it. I had 9 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: to go through the whole thing of what television and 10 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: like even or even like movies that were. And I 11 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:25,239 Speaker 1: was like, and you got home, you just had to 12 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: like see what was on. If your show wasn't on, 13 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:28,440 Speaker 1: you had to like see what was on and pick 14 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: something like whatever was on. Those were your choices. And 15 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: there weren't as many as there are now. There wasn't 16 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 1: like a library to scroll through. And it's just like 17 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: quiet for a minute. Once I finished, and ax, sol, 18 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 1: my little one goes your childhood sounds terrible. 19 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 2: More more, more better, more and more. 20 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 3: A little more better. 21 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 2: Oh hi, and welcome to More Better, a podcast where 22 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 2: we stop pretending to have it all together and embrace 23 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:09,960 Speaker 2: the journey of becoming more better. 24 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 3: Uh every day, a little bit, a little bit at 25 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 3: least trying to. That's Stephanie Beatrice, that's Melsa Fumero. 26 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 2: Welcome back to the podcast. I did say the intro wrong. Wow, 27 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 2: I've said it so many times and I still no. 28 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 3: You said it right. 29 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:30,839 Speaker 1: However it comes out is the right way, Stephanie Sure, sure, sure, 30 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:32,319 Speaker 1: Melissa sure? 31 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 3: How are you? I I'm good? I am good. How 32 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 3: are you? Uh? But yeah, you know's hanging in there? 33 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 3: Hanging in there? Man a man, anything you've been doing? 34 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 3: Uh ah? Oh, oh you go first. What's you're more better? 35 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 3: Been taking my pills? I mean that's a big one. 36 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 3: I have not. 37 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 2: I have not I've been taking my pills. Oh no, 38 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 2: I have a more interesting one. Okay, I give myself 39 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 2: a nail break from the extensions. 40 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 3: And I've been whoa, yeah, I've been. I'm getting like gel, 41 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:18,600 Speaker 3: like builder gel put on them. So if you don't 42 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 3: care about nails, skip stoopskip, but like let's build or gel. 43 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 4: It's like this gel that like you can make nails from, 44 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:30,839 Speaker 4: like you can like ugh, but essentially what it does 45 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 4: is like it it makes your nail like thicker and harder, 46 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 4: like it adds a layer of protection essentially. 47 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 2: Okay, like my nails are paper thin, and it's not 48 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 2: from the extensions. It's just they've always just been that way. 49 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 2: They're paper thin, so I bite them. But this stuff 50 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 2: makes my nails like not bendable, so like, oh okay, I 51 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 2: don't really mess with them, like I keep them super 52 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 2: clean and I put on my cuticle oil and I 53 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 2: don't I don't have them in my mouth or anything. 54 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 2: Like I really like it. 55 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 3: They're super pretty cute. Anyway, that's my more better. I'm 56 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 3: giving myself a break from the long nails. 57 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: What's my more better I've had going off of our 58 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: we did an episode about sleep and I am. I 59 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 1: had a few nights of not great sleep because I 60 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: went out, which was fun, but then I let myself 61 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 1: sleep in on Sunday and it was glorious. I love 62 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: my family also, like everyone allowed me to stay in bed, 63 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: and now I'm just like, yeah, for the next few nights, 64 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: I'm going to prioritize sleep because I can feel that 65 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: I need to like get back on track, like early bedtime, 66 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 1: wake up at the same day, like just be go in. 67 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 3: So my more better is like the intention to be 68 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 3: more better at sleep. I like it, but you can 69 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 3: ask me next time. If I actually did it, it 70 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 3: happened work. 71 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I had the intention for the next few 72 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: nights to just like be hardcore with my sleep. 73 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:16,360 Speaker 2: More better today we're talking about I'm going to jump 74 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,720 Speaker 2: right into it today. It getting more better at waiting. 75 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 2: M I don't like it. I don't like it. 76 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 3: I don't like it as it relates to having to. 77 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:37,160 Speaker 2: And and I think patience is mixed up with this, 78 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 2: uh yeah, a lot, specifically having to wait. I don't 79 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 2: like it. I'm not good at it. I can be 80 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 2: patient with other things, like I guess it's also waiting, 81 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 2: but like I don't. I don't like like a line 82 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 2: I'm a fan of, will wait in line. I don't 83 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 2: want to wait for things to drop. I don't want 84 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 2: to wait for boo boop. I don't like it. 85 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 3: I don't yeah, yeah, I yeah. 86 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: Similarly, I think I have I think sometimes I'm good 87 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: at waiting and other times I'm really not. I feel like, uh, 88 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 1: the world has made waiting harder, like technology and just 89 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: like we're so there's shortcuts for everything, right, Like I also. 90 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 3: Waiting a line the immediacy of stuff. It's like the 91 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 3: immediacy of stuff. Yeah, like I also. 92 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: Hate waiting onlines, and if there is an option to 93 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: pay more money to skip that line, I will nine 94 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:44,359 Speaker 1: times out of ten pay that money. 95 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 3: See I hate that. 96 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I don't want to have to. This 97 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 2: isn't right, Like I feel mad. 98 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:55,840 Speaker 3: I want I have friends that like refuse. 99 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 1: To pay for valet and like will always just like 100 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: circle circle, look for or like a parking spot, and 101 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I take my money, valet, my carnal, 102 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 1: my car. 103 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:06,159 Speaker 3: Yeah. 104 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,280 Speaker 2: So in Los Angeles, guys, like there's not a ton 105 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:14,480 Speaker 2: of you know, the real estate space is very coveted, 106 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:16,320 Speaker 2: and so there's not like it's not like you go 107 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,120 Speaker 2: to a restaurant there's like a big parking lot. Like 108 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,920 Speaker 2: that's not not case most of the time. No, there 109 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 2: are parking lots around. But like if you're in an 110 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 2: area that you don't know that well, or like you're 111 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 2: meeting friends at a certain time and now traffic's got 112 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 2: you running late or whatever, it's just yeah, I'm with 113 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:35,480 Speaker 2: you on that one. I would rine I would much 114 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 2: rather pay a little. I would like, I like bake 115 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 2: it into the cost of going out that night, like, 116 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:41,799 Speaker 2: oh yeah, got dinner. 117 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 3: It's like this much for valet and tip. 118 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: You know, Like, but I have a friend that like 119 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:51,719 Speaker 1: absolutely hates paying for valet and will leave early enough 120 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:55,919 Speaker 1: to give themselves like twenty extra minutes to circle and 121 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,840 Speaker 1: circle and circle and look for a street. Everybody has 122 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 1: to have it, and I respect I respect it, but like, 123 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: you know, we went to Angela Johnson's comedy show. There 124 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: was a long ass line to get into the parking 125 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: lot for the will turn and across the street at 126 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: a little hotel, it said twenty dollars for parking and 127 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: I said, babe, there go there. Yeah, I said, it's 128 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 1: probably twice as much money, but fuck it, go there. 129 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: And we did, and it's so easy and it was 130 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: super easy to pick up our car, and I was like, 131 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: that was the best twenty dollars. 132 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 3: That was great. Let's fin out. I've ever spent better 133 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 3: than getting drinks at the show. 134 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 5: I I think part of what I don't like waiting is, 135 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 5: like I mean, especially if it's something big, like you know, 136 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 5: waiting to hear about a job or something, that torture 137 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 5: is sorcereus because. 138 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 3: I'm nine times out of ten that I didn't tell 139 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 3: you if you got it or not. In acting like 140 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 3: they just cast him. Yeah, So then you're like, oh, 141 00:07:56,320 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 3: I'm the guest, and announcements they're like, oh shit, didn't 142 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 3: get that? All right? Cool? That is the worst. I'm like, 143 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 3: are they making that movie? 144 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 2: And then you see an ad for it You're like, oh, 145 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 2: I guess they already Okay, okay, was not push I see. 146 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. I'm just hard though, when you want something 147 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 3: really bad. 148 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, and sometimes you're not even told if you're like 149 00:08:22,840 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: really seriously in the running, you know, like they'll be 150 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: sometimes they'll be like a pin or like an availability 151 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 1: check or but then you're like, okay, but like is 152 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 1: it between me and another person? Am I like just 153 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 1: in a small group of people, like I mean, sometimes 154 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 1: I will just literally ask, I'm like, what can you 155 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:39,120 Speaker 1: find out? 156 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 2: But yeah, I do that more often than not now 157 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 2: because I'm like, did they cast it? You know? And 158 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 2: then like yeah, at least you hear like yeah they 159 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 2: went a different way, you know, yeah yeah yeah, but 160 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 2: it value bitch. 161 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, that's why I like. 162 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 2: I Mean, there's so many reasons I like him, but 163 00:08:54,800 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 2: Vince Gilligan, I like, I'm he's like my person to 164 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 2: work with, and his people will be like, yeah, we're 165 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 2: doing something else, you know, and it's like, oh, okay, 166 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 2: that sucks, and but. 167 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 3: Thanks, thank you for telling me. 168 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really nice. I mean he classy, he rolled classy. 169 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 2: What's something that you're like really like good at waiting for? 170 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 3: Like are you good at waiting for anything? And I 171 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 3: have one, but I want to hear it. 172 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: Okay, uh what I don't know? Say yours? What's yours? 173 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:34,320 Speaker 2: I'm good at waiting. I'm training myself to be good 174 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 2: at it. I'm training myself to be good at waiting 175 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 2: for Roz to calm down. Oh yeah, I don't have 176 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 2: to meet her at the level that she's at, Like 177 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:46,599 Speaker 2: I'm really By the way, remember that tip that you 178 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 2: gave me when we were talking about sleep, when you 179 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 2: were like just go in there and don't say anything 180 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:51,200 Speaker 2: and just wait it out. 181 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, it worked. I was in her room, Brad said 182 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 3: he watched it on the monitor. I was in her 183 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 3: room and She's scream scool remenga and I just was like, hey, 184 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 3: where I was. 185 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,719 Speaker 2: She was like now, she ran over to the other 186 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 2: side of her bed started like laid on the floor 187 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 2: and I was like, ooh, if I reach over there, 188 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:10,839 Speaker 2: she's gonna scramble under the bed and it's gonna be 189 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 2: a whole thing. So I just sat on her bed, 190 00:10:12,520 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 2: and at first I was super annoyed. 191 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 3: I was like oh, And then I was like, why 192 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:18,680 Speaker 3: don't I work on my posture? Why don't I like, yeah, 193 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 3: you know, if I can relax my neck. I'm like, 194 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:23,440 Speaker 3: I waited it out. I waited, waited, waited. 195 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 2: She finally like stopped crying and like was kind of 196 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 2: peeking over the edge of the bed to see if 197 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:31,439 Speaker 2: I was still there. At one point, I like gently 198 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 2: put my hand out to like let her know she 199 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 2: was not in trouble, like just you know, like you 200 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 2: would for a dog or something. 201 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 3: I laid it on the bed. 202 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 2: And I just let her come to the moment where 203 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 2: she put her hand in mine and then I hugged 204 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:46,800 Speaker 2: her and cuddled her, and then I put her back 205 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 2: to bed and then that was it, like, and I 206 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 2: went back into the bedroom and Brad was like. 207 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 3: You're the greatest small ever. 208 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:55,959 Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, that was like I was 209 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 2: really proud of myself. I was like, wow, like I 210 00:10:58,160 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 2: did it. I waited, I waited it. 211 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:02,839 Speaker 3: I can't have a. 212 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:05,439 Speaker 2: Level of patience with my kid. That is kind of amazing. 213 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:07,240 Speaker 2: I can also have a level of impatience that is 214 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 2: embarrassing and horrifying. But I feel like I'm getting better 215 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 2: at like training myself to be like, Okay, this person 216 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 2: is still figuring this all out, and like they've only 217 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 2: been alive for like a minuscule amount of time. 218 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:27,840 Speaker 3: Really, like she's not even that old, right, like I. 219 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:30,200 Speaker 2: Was talking about, Yeah, Jenna, Jenna has a twelve year 220 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 2: old she's about to be thirteen, and it's like she's 221 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 2: still not even really that old, Like she's only been 222 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 2: on oh, on the planet for like that many days. 223 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:41,000 Speaker 3: Like it's crazy, you know, of course she's still babies. 224 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and I think, yeah, it's it's like it's 225 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:48,119 Speaker 1: like I think they like they call it like co regulation, 226 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:51,679 Speaker 1: like you regulate, and then it kind of like they 227 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: end up mirroring it a little, you know, like you 228 00:11:55,840 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 1: like waiting and staying calm, that's a good one. What 229 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: am I good at waiting for traffic? 230 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 3: Good in traffic? You know what? I am kind of 231 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:10,080 Speaker 3: good at traffic. I'm kind of good at traffic too. 232 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: I'm kind of good at traffic. When traffic did what 233 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: it is annoying. It is what it is. I think, 234 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 1: you know what. I think I'm good at waiting for 235 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 1: things that I know are out of my control, Yes, 236 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: things like traffic. Sometimes I can be good at, uh 237 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 1: waiting for a job depending. I'm better at waiting for 238 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: a job than waiting to hear about a job I 239 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 1: already have, Like a show, if it's going to be renewed, 240 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 1: that torturous. 241 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 3: I do not handle it well. 242 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 2: So I just wrote down some different types of waiting. 243 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 2: Our producer Ices wrote down like, passive waiting is traffic lines, 244 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 2: hold music on the phone. I hate hold music on 245 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:01,079 Speaker 2: the phone, stuff you can't control, So that's passive waiting. 246 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 2: Then there's active waiting, which is waiting to hear back 247 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 2: about something, which is the thing that you just said. 248 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 3: Like are we going to get renewed whatever? Right? 249 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 2: That can feel like fucking torture. Then there's anticipatory waiting, 250 00:13:12,080 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 2: which is like something good's gonna happen, like my friend's 251 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 2: coming into town, I'm going to Vegas. Like this is 252 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:19,959 Speaker 2: like I can't wait for this to happen. I want 253 00:13:19,960 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 2: it to happen now. But I like that kind of 254 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:22,839 Speaker 2: waiting because it's like. 255 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 1: We yeah, that's like exciting waiting. Yeah, yeah, that's how 256 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 1: I feel. 257 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 3: In line at Disney. 258 00:13:28,120 --> 00:13:32,079 Speaker 2: I'm like, Okay, we're gonna ride, like unless it's like 259 00:13:32,120 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 2: a two and a half hour line and then we're 260 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:35,719 Speaker 2: not getting that line. But like most of the time, 261 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:38,560 Speaker 2: it's like we're gonna ride the ride, you know, and 262 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 2: then there's ambiguous waiting, don't know what you're waiting for 263 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:42,679 Speaker 2: or how long? 264 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:47,720 Speaker 3: Can feel like the worst kind Like our government right now? Government, 265 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 3: right now? What are we doing? How are we what's 266 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 3: the function? 267 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 1: I think if it's like immediate thing in my face 268 00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:58,440 Speaker 1: that I can't control, like traffic, I have the ability 269 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:00,720 Speaker 1: to just kind of and I get this from my dad, 270 00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 1: just like. 271 00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 3: Make the best of it. 272 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 1: All right, Cool, you're gonna be sitting here, what's a 273 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 1: podcast you've been waiting to listen to? Totally put on 274 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:13,720 Speaker 1: some nineties hip hop playlist, you know, or or I 275 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:16,440 Speaker 1: love to do a catch up call in traffic, I'm like. 276 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I love a catchup call. Love a catchup. 277 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:21,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, who haven't I talked to in a while 278 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:23,880 Speaker 1: that I've been missing? Let me try them now, see 279 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 1: if they're around, and like do a little catchup call. 280 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 3: It's a great time. 281 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: So it's just like right, you reframe it in the 282 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 1: moment and like turn it into something else. But then 283 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 1: there's like I think, bigger looming things, like the ambiguous 284 00:14:36,400 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: stuff that I know is not in my control that 285 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:41,760 Speaker 1: can be like a little bit more of a struggle. 286 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:46,480 Speaker 3: Just and then it's like what do you do? Right? 287 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: Like I think for me, it's like, okay, well, like 288 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: this has been a pretty long stretch I've gone without 289 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: working that I haven't had in like many years, like 290 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 1: so many in our industry. So I've been like, okay, 291 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: life stuff, life stuff, because that's the stuff I miss 292 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:07,240 Speaker 1: when I am working. I missed a lot of it 293 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 1: last year. So it's like planning little trips, having more dinners, 294 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:17,600 Speaker 1: seeing friends, being a little more social, distracting myself, right, 295 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 1: like working out, taking advantage of the time to work out, 296 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:23,000 Speaker 1: like I'm training for something yeah. 297 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:25,600 Speaker 3: Because I am. 298 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:27,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I could be you don't know, you know, right, 299 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 1: like stay ready, And it's using I guess they're coping 300 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:39,440 Speaker 1: mechanisms like for the ambiguous sort of waiting, what skill 301 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 1: can I sharpen? 302 00:15:40,520 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 3: How can I use this time? Yeah? 303 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:50,360 Speaker 1: To distract myself mostly from thinking about the waiting, but 304 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: then also things that might come in handy when the 305 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:56,600 Speaker 1: waiting is over and you all of a sudden have 306 00:15:56,640 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 1: to jump into something or be ready for something right 307 00:15:59,240 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 1: Like I think that would apply to anyone who's looking 308 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 1: for work right now or unemployed, like is there. My 309 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:10,320 Speaker 1: brother went through a long period of unemployment years ago, 310 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 1: when like unemployment was really high up and he had 311 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 1: got let go from a job and he was really 312 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 1: struggling to find something, and he started thinking about like 313 00:16:21,280 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: a career change. And he was always really good with computers, 314 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:27,280 Speaker 1: like as a teenager would take apart computers and put 315 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:30,400 Speaker 1: them back together, but didn't like do that for work, 316 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: like went did something else and he went back and 317 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 1: got like three certifications. 318 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:38,360 Speaker 3: In it and now works in it. 319 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 1: Wow, and you know, and so he I really admired 320 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 1: him doing that because he went from this sort of 321 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 1: stressful state of mind of like I got to get 322 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 1: a job, I got to get a job, like oh 323 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:52,920 Speaker 1: my god, holy shit, holy shit, to like, Okay, it's 324 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 1: not happening. I can't control the job market right now. 325 00:16:56,600 --> 00:17:02,440 Speaker 1: What skill could I possibly sharpen or harness that might 326 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: actually make me happier and he wasn't even I think 327 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 1: think I mean, I think he was kind of thinking 328 00:17:06,840 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 1: of maybe I could find a job in this field, 329 00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 1: but mostly he was also coming at it of like 330 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: I would also just like to be better at this 331 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:16,880 Speaker 1: because I have an interest in it and I want 332 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:19,879 Speaker 1: to know more. And it ended up in a full 333 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:22,760 Speaker 1: career change. 334 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 3: But yeah, so I think. 335 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:27,119 Speaker 1: You know, it's like everyone during the pandemic that like 336 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 1: went back to school and took college courses. I know 337 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:32,360 Speaker 1: I've brought that up before because I was wildly jealous 338 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:34,440 Speaker 1: because I had. 339 00:17:34,359 --> 00:17:37,360 Speaker 3: A newborn baby and there was no way I could 340 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 3: figure out how to do that. But I was like, 341 00:17:39,119 --> 00:17:41,439 Speaker 3: I would, I would totally do that right now we're 342 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 3: all just stuck at home. I would take some like 343 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 3: I don't know, history of something at some college. Like 344 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:49,200 Speaker 3: I thought that was so cool. 345 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 2: It's you know, waiting specifically talking about like waiting to 346 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 2: get a new job or like for us, our jobs 347 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 2: are so we are really technically we're really freelance artists. 348 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:10,320 Speaker 3: You know, we're just hired for this gig. We're gig workers. 349 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, but we have an interesting job because we're reflecting, 350 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:22,879 Speaker 2: you know what is Hamlet says, like we hold a 351 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 2: mirror up to nature, you know. That's what acting is, 352 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:29,199 Speaker 2: is like, this is what real life is, right, And 353 00:18:29,280 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 2: I think one of the things I think is really 354 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 2: interesting is that we try to push ourselves to get 355 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 2: another job, another job, another job. It's like what you 356 00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:44,160 Speaker 2: said is so it's spot on. It's like you miss 357 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:48,760 Speaker 2: life when you're working all the time. And so one 358 00:18:48,920 --> 00:18:53,359 Speaker 2: of the biggest gifts that we have as actors is 359 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:55,919 Speaker 2: this time off. Even though it fills us with anxiety 360 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 2: and dread and this feeling of like, oh no, no, working, 361 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 2: it's like, but you're living. You're living life right now, 362 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:06,040 Speaker 2: and like the only way that you're going to be 363 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 2: able to portray somebody that feels real on screen is 364 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:12,360 Speaker 2: that if you have lived life. I mean, we've all 365 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 2: seen performances where we're like, huh, what, like this is 366 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:18,040 Speaker 2: at any. 367 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:19,399 Speaker 3: Type of real at all. 368 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:25,080 Speaker 2: I'm like shocked, uh, And I just think it's really 369 00:19:25,119 --> 00:19:26,160 Speaker 2: a specific performance. 370 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,719 Speaker 3: I'll tell you, I'll. 371 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 2: But I just feel very I feel like you can't. 372 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:38,440 Speaker 2: I'm not saying you can't portray like pain or trauma 373 00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:39,600 Speaker 2: if you haven't gone through it. 374 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:40,240 Speaker 3: That's not what I'm. 375 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:44,360 Speaker 2: Saying, but like living life living life and dealing with 376 00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 2: the everyday stuff that everybody deals with in life, like 377 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 2: the upside down's the joy, the fucking horrible, like loss, grief, 378 00:19:56,680 --> 00:19:59,959 Speaker 2: whatever that we all go through as human beings. Like 379 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:04,440 Speaker 2: that is what we have a gift of, like sharing 380 00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:05,879 Speaker 2: that and portraying that on screen. 381 00:20:05,960 --> 00:20:10,360 Speaker 3: And also like our are you know, our. 382 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 2: Abilities with comedy And it's not like, I mean, neither 383 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:17,159 Speaker 2: one of us is like an incredible stand up comedian 384 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 2: or anything. 385 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 3: That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying like. 386 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:24,320 Speaker 2: Transferring jokes from the page out of a character's mouth 387 00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:25,160 Speaker 2: to make it feel like. 388 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:26,359 Speaker 3: This is a real moment. 389 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, this character is saying this funny thing that I'm 390 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,959 Speaker 2: responding to as an audience member. It's like all that 391 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 2: stuff comes from living life. It's like it's from living life, 392 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:36,560 Speaker 2: you know. 393 00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:40,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's yeah, you're you're fueling your creativity when 394 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:43,240 Speaker 1: you are fully immersed in your life. 395 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:47,000 Speaker 3: I think in between gigs and that is the waiting. 396 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,399 Speaker 2: That's the waiting and pushing through that waiting and like 397 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,800 Speaker 2: trying to rush through that waiting. I've spent so much 398 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 2: of my life trying to do that, and it's only 399 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 2: really recently that I'm like I want. 400 00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 3: To sit in the waiting. 401 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:01,440 Speaker 2: I mean, I've even been doing sing lately where if 402 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 2: I am waiting for something like I'm waiting for Brad 403 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 2: or I'm waiting for Roz, or I'm just in life waiting. 404 00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:09,520 Speaker 2: Like I was waiting for a coffee the other day, 405 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:10,919 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm gonna put my phone down and 406 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:12,720 Speaker 2: just sit here and look around. 407 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:15,000 Speaker 3: Ooh, and it was really nice. 408 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 2: And I was like noticing the fashion and noticing the 409 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:19,800 Speaker 2: people and noticee a couple of people looking at me 410 00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:22,199 Speaker 2: checking me out, and like it was just like I 411 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 2: was present in my life, you know, as opposed to 412 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 2: like just trying to move through it. I'm not saying 413 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:30,439 Speaker 2: like I don't move I mean, girl, I was on 414 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 2: TikTok this morning, you know what I mean, Like, I 415 00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:33,400 Speaker 2: don't know, yeah, but. 416 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 1: It's it's it's it's so easy to when you're waiting 417 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:42,639 Speaker 1: zone out or like yeah, just just pick up the 418 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:46,040 Speaker 1: phone and scroll while you're waiting. But then yeah, I 419 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:50,240 Speaker 1: love that's a really good reminder to also try to 420 00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:53,359 Speaker 1: remember just like nope, just just be just be present, 421 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 1: see what you notice, see what you see. Who knows 422 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,639 Speaker 1: you can have little, tiny micro experience. Is that like 423 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,480 Speaker 1: add to your day and good ways. 424 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:04,359 Speaker 3: Fill you up with something. 425 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 2: I mean, we're so used to like historically, we waited 426 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:14,040 Speaker 2: more for everything. It's like, yes, you know you filled 427 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 2: your time with like fucking scrub on the floor or 428 00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:18,720 Speaker 2: whatever you needed to do as a woman. 429 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:23,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, but we remember letters. Remember letters? Did you ever 430 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:26,720 Speaker 1: have a pen pal as a kid? I that was 431 00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:28,920 Speaker 1: the best, best. 432 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:29,640 Speaker 3: Kind of waiting. 433 00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:33,000 Speaker 1: That makes me sad that kids, like, I mean you 434 00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:36,200 Speaker 1: could always just like pick that up for a kid, 435 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:40,400 Speaker 1: but like it was so more common and normalized back then, 436 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:40,840 Speaker 1: and it. 437 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 3: Was so neat fun, so neat. 438 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 2: It was like getting your letter would arrive Japan or 439 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:50,760 Speaker 2: wherever it was coming YaST cool like or you know, 440 00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 2: even I read a lot of like historical nerd books 441 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,359 Speaker 2: and I'm I'm almost one with it. 442 00:22:58,440 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 3: It's about Victorian England. 443 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:02,040 Speaker 2: But like even just like one of the things I 444 00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 2: loved about Little House on the Prairie was like you 445 00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:09,119 Speaker 2: would have to wait. You'd wait until like, Okay, the 446 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:11,560 Speaker 2: pig is like finally old enough and now we're gonna 447 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 2: butcher it and we're gonna use every single part of 448 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,600 Speaker 2: the pig, or like we picked our dress material and 449 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:18,800 Speaker 2: now it's gonna like they're gonna order it from wherever 450 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:22,240 Speaker 2: they're you know, making the material, and then we're gonna 451 00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 2: get it. Then we're gonna cut it, and then we're 452 00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:25,240 Speaker 2: gonna sew it, and then we're gonna fit it. You know, 453 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 2: like or you order a dress out of a catalog 454 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,400 Speaker 2: and you have to wait for it to come. 455 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 3: It's not like, you know, you gotta wait. 456 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 2: You wait for the thing to come because it's been 457 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 2: handmade or like hand beat it or hand you know, 458 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:42,800 Speaker 2: somebody put in the work to make the thing, and 459 00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 2: like there's something about that that's so beautiful. I think 460 00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:52,919 Speaker 2: that's part of what I like about vintage clothing. You know, 461 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 2: like sometimes you can see somebody, somebody hand did this, 462 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 2: you know, like I'm wearing these pants right now, but 463 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:03,120 Speaker 2: like hold on, well, the crotch is weird, but stand 464 00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 2: up on my churn and show you the patches. 465 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,399 Speaker 3: Oh, those are so cute. 466 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,640 Speaker 2: He did that, you know, like they didn't just put 467 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,600 Speaker 2: it through and did it handed, those patches, which I 468 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:16,200 Speaker 2: think is so. 469 00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,040 Speaker 3: You know, so beautiful. 470 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,840 Speaker 2: There's something about yeah, the time, I guess, the time 471 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:28,040 Speaker 2: that things took when you had to wait for them 472 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:30,600 Speaker 2: someone to fix your pants before you could wear them again, 473 00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 2: instead of just throwing them out and buying a new pair. 474 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:38,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's so different now, Like recently, my son 475 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 1: wanted this special kind of water bottle. It's got these 476 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,640 Speaker 1: little flavor things that you can put in it for 477 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:49,040 Speaker 1: there's different there's ones with like he sold me on 478 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,959 Speaker 1: it as like mom, it's it's got vitamin B and 479 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,639 Speaker 1: there's like one with like electrolytes, and like, you know, 480 00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,520 Speaker 1: he comes prepared for his presentation. 481 00:24:57,720 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 3: It really does. 482 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,720 Speaker 1: And so so I looked at it and he was like, 483 00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 1: it's going to help me drink more water. And I 484 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,480 Speaker 1: was like, oh, you have been not great at drinking 485 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:08,960 Speaker 1: water lately, so you know whatever. So I decide to 486 00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,120 Speaker 1: but I think it's a small it's a smaller company, 487 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: it's a small business. So I order the water bottle 488 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,919 Speaker 1: and it takes almost two weeks to get here, like 489 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:21,400 Speaker 1: a week and a half. And he could not comprehend 490 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:25,959 Speaker 1: why it was taking so long for a water bottle 491 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:29,840 Speaker 1: to arrive at our house. Oh God, because he's grown 492 00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:33,320 Speaker 1: up in the age of like in things, you order 493 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 1: something and it comes the next day or maybe two days. 494 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:40,520 Speaker 1: Sometimes it comes the same frickin' day, yes, and on 495 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 1: your doorstep hours later, oh my god, And every day 496 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 1: asking me mom, can you check? 497 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 3: What does the tracking say? 498 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,600 Speaker 1: And I'm like, the date has not changed, my love, 499 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,000 Speaker 1: Like it is coming on this day and this is 500 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:56,000 Speaker 1: the day. And then what made it flip was me 501 00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:59,560 Speaker 1: having the realization of like, oh, he doesn't understand. I said, bib, 502 00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:03,440 Speaker 1: this is a small business. This was probably someone had 503 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:07,399 Speaker 1: this great idea. They worked really hard to raise the money. 504 00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:10,920 Speaker 1: This is almost like an invention of theirs. So it's 505 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 1: coming from this one warehouse or whatever that they have 506 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: across the country. You've taken that flight. You know how 507 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 1: long that flight is? 508 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:20,280 Speaker 3: Right? 509 00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:22,720 Speaker 1: Maybe they have orders, they're backed up, they got to 510 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,439 Speaker 1: make more water bottles to make the water bottle. 511 00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:26,960 Speaker 3: Who knows. I don't know. I made like a whole 512 00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:28,120 Speaker 3: laborat story. 513 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:30,639 Speaker 1: And I was like and then I was like and 514 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 1: then they got a box and they got it, and 515 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 1: I went through all the steps and I was like, 516 00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,160 Speaker 1: this isn't like a huge corporation that just has these 517 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:38,480 Speaker 1: things everywhere and could just shell it out. I was like, 518 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 1: maybe this is a family, like you know, And and 519 00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,040 Speaker 1: then he became more patient waiting for the water bottle. 520 00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 3: That's cool, that's cool reasons to like understand. 521 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 1: I gave him the reason, and I was like, when 522 00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 1: we go to out cause it was like the it 523 00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:56,160 Speaker 1: was it's based in maybe Connecticut or nature. It's somewhere 524 00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:58,679 Speaker 1: on the East coast. And my kids have done that 525 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,280 Speaker 1: flight every year or they do that flight multiple times. 526 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,000 Speaker 1: So I was like, how long does it take us 527 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:03,640 Speaker 1: when we get there? 528 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:03,840 Speaker 3: Right? 529 00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,240 Speaker 1: We leave early morning and when we arrive is it dark? 530 00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,199 Speaker 1: And he goes yeah, I'm like, it's all day and 531 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:13,560 Speaker 1: we're people. This is just a water bottle that people 532 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:16,600 Speaker 1: have to assist in getting here. And then who knows 533 00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:19,000 Speaker 1: where it lands. Maybe it's got to take a second plane. 534 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,439 Speaker 1: Maybe it's got a you know, it's not a person 535 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 1: with a ticket. It didn't plan its route. 536 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:37,879 Speaker 2: You inadvertently did this from this time article how to 537 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,560 Speaker 2: train your brain to be more patient. You inadvertently did 538 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,359 Speaker 2: the things that it says in the article, which is 539 00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,640 Speaker 2: set set realistic expectations. 540 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:48,800 Speaker 1: Mm hmm. 541 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,720 Speaker 3: You did that with him and then change your mindset 542 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:55,800 Speaker 3: about like here's what the expectations are. 543 00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:59,440 Speaker 2: It's like now you can like decide how to go like, oh, okay, right, 544 00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 2: I've done that flight. 545 00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,159 Speaker 3: I see how far that is. This isn't going to 546 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,000 Speaker 3: be it? You like did that? Also? 547 00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:08,919 Speaker 2: In this is savor what feels pleasant? I guess like 548 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,719 Speaker 2: savoring slows down the time pressure building up in our 549 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:13,840 Speaker 2: daily lives. Savoring is really important. 550 00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:16,960 Speaker 3: Oh this is cute. 551 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,160 Speaker 2: Your child's efforts to put on their shoes may seem eternal, 552 00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,280 Speaker 2: but try to few these formative moments as precious and fleeting. 553 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:26,520 Speaker 2: One day they'll leave the house without you. Instead of 554 00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 2: fixating on how long it takes to improve your golf games, 555 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:33,879 Speaker 2: savor whatever golf. But like, that is something I can't remember. 556 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,920 Speaker 2: I think it was a TikTok. And guys, I do read. 557 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:39,120 Speaker 2: I do other things, spend. 558 00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:41,240 Speaker 1: Time on You just said you were reading a book. 559 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:45,560 Speaker 1: I was don't read books anymore. So you're already winning. 560 00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:47,200 Speaker 1: Have all the TikTok you want? 561 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,680 Speaker 3: Two kids. I remember watching this TikTok. 562 00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,240 Speaker 2: That was like when I get annoyed with my kid, 563 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 2: I think to myself that I'm time traveling, and here 564 00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,320 Speaker 2: I am. I have time traveled back in time and 565 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:03,640 Speaker 2: they're a little again, and I'm with them when they're 566 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:07,239 Speaker 2: little and like how much that changes the way that 567 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:09,880 Speaker 2: they see the moment that's happening. And I love that 568 00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,960 Speaker 2: because like, yeah, sometimes it is like, oh, bit's just 569 00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,200 Speaker 2: a brush your fucking teeth, you know, Like I'm trying 570 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,760 Speaker 2: to get to Bud too. But bro put your pajamas on, 571 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:23,240 Speaker 2: blowing that down and going like like he's really you know, 572 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,240 Speaker 2: soon he won't have to have you standing there being 573 00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:29,160 Speaker 2: like put your pajamas on, because he'll be in an 574 00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:33,480 Speaker 2: apartment somewhere by himself, you know what I mean. That 575 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 2: is very cool that like savor what feels pleasant, Okay, 576 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:44,760 Speaker 2: distract yourself with flow, pass the time, absorb yourself in something. 577 00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:44,960 Speaker 3: That you like. 578 00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,840 Speaker 2: I do bring a book with me a lot of times, 579 00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,480 Speaker 2: like if I have to take a long journey in 580 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:53,320 Speaker 2: a vehicle that I'm not driving. And we talked about 581 00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,600 Speaker 2: podcasts as a way to like distract yourself with something 582 00:29:55,640 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 2: that you're into. Learn when to pay attention to inpatients. 583 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,280 Speaker 2: Impatience isn't always bad. It may alert us to problems 584 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:06,239 Speaker 2: that may be actively solved when passive waiting won't cut it. 585 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,920 Speaker 2: A deep sense of purpose something beyond yourself helps motivate patience, 586 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 2: but it's equally important to know when to disengage with 587 00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:15,120 Speaker 2: the purpose leading nowhere and reject the status quo when 588 00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,480 Speaker 2: I love that, if you have both patients and courage 589 00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,160 Speaker 2: in your arsenal, you can pick which one. I mean, 590 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 2: I love that because like sometimes it's like no, no, no, 591 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:26,840 Speaker 2: crack on. Let's you know, I haven't had this experience 592 00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 2: many times at work, but I have had it before 593 00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 2: where it's like, oh, so, why are we waiting. I'm 594 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 2: not one of those people that's like, what are we 595 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:36,960 Speaker 2: waiting on? What's preventing? 596 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:38,600 Speaker 3: I'm not one of those fine assholes. 597 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 2: But like, if we have been waiting to shoot this 598 00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 2: scene for two hours and I've been ready since you know, 599 00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 2: let's say I've been ready to since eight am. It's 600 00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:50,120 Speaker 2: the first scene up, We're still not shooting. It's eleven, 601 00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,520 Speaker 2: it's eleven o'clock. We have to break for lunch at twelve. 602 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,600 Speaker 2: What is going on? What is happening? Oh well, we're 603 00:30:55,640 --> 00:31:00,560 Speaker 2: waiting for this person. Why are we waiting that person? 604 00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:04,920 Speaker 3: Well, because we have to no no, no, no no, this. 605 00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:07,440 Speaker 2: Something has to change, Like something's got to change, like 606 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,000 Speaker 2: either we change the schedule, so like two hundred people 607 00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 2: aren't sitting here waiting for two hours. We change the schedule, 608 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:16,560 Speaker 2: we shoot a different scene in the morning so that 609 00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:18,000 Speaker 2: person can be as late. 610 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:21,200 Speaker 3: As they want to be, yep, or we fire that person. 611 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:27,320 Speaker 2: Because like it's that kind of stuff. Is like when 612 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:31,440 Speaker 2: I feel like this isn't this isn't working for me anymore, 613 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:34,360 Speaker 2: Like yeah, like the hold on the phone for hours 614 00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,000 Speaker 2: and hours, like I won't do it, I'll just be 615 00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:37,360 Speaker 2: like O'll call back later, Like. 616 00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,000 Speaker 3: No, no, I really appreciate now that. 617 00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:43,280 Speaker 1: Did you notice that My phone will will now if 618 00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:45,800 Speaker 1: if it realizes you're on a hold, it will say 619 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 1: do you want us to call you back like you 620 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:49,040 Speaker 1: want to? And I'm like, oh my god, this is 621 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,240 Speaker 1: the best new feature, the greatest great I can go 622 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 1: about my day and you will let me know when 623 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 1: they're ready. Yeah, the waiting at work is challenging. There 624 00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,760 Speaker 1: are a lot of times where we are waiting waiting. 625 00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:04,640 Speaker 1: I mean the saying is hurry up and wait because 626 00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:08,000 Speaker 1: you'll get all this pressure to go through the works. 627 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,200 Speaker 3: How long until she's ready? How long till she's ready? 628 00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:12,920 Speaker 1: And then you sit in your trailer and two hours 629 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:14,520 Speaker 1: have gone by and you're like, why did you just 630 00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,200 Speaker 1: stress everyone out in the hair and makeup trailer trying 631 00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,360 Speaker 1: to get me ready, and now I'm just sitting here 632 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 1: the works. 633 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,600 Speaker 2: The works is the hair and makeup trailer. Guys like yeah, 634 00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:26,000 Speaker 2: sorry at the works or whatever. 635 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 1: You go through the works, you get your your hair 636 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:33,240 Speaker 1: and makeup done, and and then sometimes yeah, sometimes you're 637 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 1: just waiting and it's and there's lots of different reasons. 638 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,960 Speaker 1: You know, when something technical is going wrong, you're just like, oh, 639 00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,720 Speaker 1: that sucks. Okay, I got to like distract myself. I 640 00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 1: got to keep my energy. I got to yeah something. 641 00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:46,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 642 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,440 Speaker 1: Oftentimes I'll be like, do I have enough time for 643 00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:51,560 Speaker 1: a power nap? Because that's really going to set me up, 644 00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,280 Speaker 1: because if so, I will set a timer, set a 645 00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,520 Speaker 1: timer for twenty Yeah, do I have twenty minutes? Great, 646 00:32:58,560 --> 00:32:59,480 Speaker 1: I'm a set of timer. 647 00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:04,080 Speaker 2: That is something I really learned on set, is how 648 00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:06,240 Speaker 2: And I love when makeup artists give me this compliment 649 00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:08,280 Speaker 2: where they're like, oh my god, nothing moved, and I'm 650 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:11,720 Speaker 2: like thank you. Yeah, yeah, I'm like I was sucking 651 00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:13,720 Speaker 2: vampire up in there. 652 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,680 Speaker 3: You learn how to lay down and not anything. 653 00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,400 Speaker 1: You learn how to move your hair out of the 654 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,720 Speaker 1: way so the back doesn't get set up exactly, how 655 00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:23,800 Speaker 1: to put the pillow, what to put under your head. 656 00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:27,120 Speaker 2: So yeah, I never get dressed until the last second, 657 00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,360 Speaker 2: so that I don't say anything or crumble anything or anything. 658 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:31,200 Speaker 3: Yeah. 659 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:33,680 Speaker 2: I don't know what to do though, Like, I mean, 660 00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:35,240 Speaker 2: what are we gonna do if we ever get cast 661 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,600 Speaker 2: in a like a period piece where we have to 662 00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:40,640 Speaker 2: get into a horse and stuff like Wow, the only 663 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:42,520 Speaker 2: time I've ever had to do that is for a play. 664 00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:45,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, and even then. 665 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:51,320 Speaker 1: Because that's that's that's stripes. 666 00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:52,720 Speaker 6: Yeah. 667 00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 3: Ooh, I don't know. 668 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,120 Speaker 1: If I ever meet anyone from Bridgerton, I'm going to 669 00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:03,480 Speaker 1: ask them. 670 00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:02,520 Speaker 3: Or your friends with what's her name? Wy, don't you 671 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,800 Speaker 3: ask her what she does? Nicola? 672 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:09,520 Speaker 1: What's I love her? That's one of my favorite parts 673 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:14,200 Speaker 1: of the show. Ask Nicola, Ask Nikola your friend what 674 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,240 Speaker 1: she does while she's waiting? 675 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,319 Speaker 3: Does she have to sit in a corset? Do they 676 00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:19,160 Speaker 3: have a I. 677 00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,440 Speaker 2: Would imagine you do. I would imagine you have to 678 00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:22,680 Speaker 2: write like I mean. 679 00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,200 Speaker 3: Maybe you can like sit in the corset. 680 00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,520 Speaker 1: Now we're totally on a tangent thinking this out, but 681 00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:31,239 Speaker 1: maybe you have to sit in the corset and like 682 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,360 Speaker 1: some of the undergarments, but you don't have to have 683 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:37,359 Speaker 1: the full thing on. Maybe like the whole overdress can 684 00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: be thrown on in a few seconds and you can 685 00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:40,600 Speaker 1: wait for that part. 686 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:43,319 Speaker 2: Have you seen those pictures of like old Hollywood where 687 00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:46,000 Speaker 2: they would have there's pictures of you know, everyone's waiting 688 00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 2: around in their chairs to shoot and the women are 689 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:49,200 Speaker 2: on leaning boards. 690 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:52,000 Speaker 3: Have you seen those? Yes, Because you couldn't. 691 00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,480 Speaker 2: Sit down, You'd just be like on a six foot 692 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,920 Speaker 2: board that was kind of like leaning backward, and you 693 00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:58,839 Speaker 2: just like lay there. 694 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:02,440 Speaker 1: When I was on the soap opera and my character 695 00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,719 Speaker 1: got married, they made this really beautiful wedding dress and 696 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:09,799 Speaker 1: it was all custom made, but it was hot and 697 00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:12,640 Speaker 1: it was like a corset situation. I literally could not 698 00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:15,520 Speaker 1: sit in the dress even if I wanted to. Could 699 00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,520 Speaker 1: not sit and I needed a leaning board because I 700 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:19,440 Speaker 1: was looking for things. 701 00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,680 Speaker 3: We were shooting all day. 702 00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:23,840 Speaker 1: It was like a long ass day and I was 703 00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:25,960 Speaker 1: in this dress for hours and hours, and I feel 704 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:29,120 Speaker 1: like I had like soreness in my Like I was 705 00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:31,040 Speaker 1: like sore from the dress the next day. 706 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,320 Speaker 3: And I just was like trying. 707 00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,239 Speaker 1: They were trying to like fashion stuff on set for 708 00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: me to just like lean lean to take breaks waiting 709 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,759 Speaker 1: because it wouldn't it wouldn't even bend. Yeah, like it 710 00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:48,840 Speaker 1: was so tight in the hips, it wouldn't even bend, 711 00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,840 Speaker 1: like like I couldn't. It wasn't a wrinkle situation. It 712 00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,160 Speaker 1: was just like you physically can't sit in it. 713 00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 2: What a fun time? What a fun time. I was like, 714 00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:00,640 Speaker 2: I would never and then I thought, no, I would. 715 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,640 Speaker 2: It was it was a really it was fact. It 716 00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:06,360 Speaker 2: was a beautiful dress. Like if someone was like, you 717 00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:08,959 Speaker 2: could put on this vintage door, you won't be able 718 00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,320 Speaker 2: to like sit in it, I'd be like, strap me in, baby, 719 00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:12,120 Speaker 2: I mean in there. 720 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:12,479 Speaker 3: Wait. 721 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:14,760 Speaker 1: I have a memory of you laying in the limo. 722 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:17,480 Speaker 1: But that was like not to get wrinkles. Yeah, you 723 00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:22,360 Speaker 1: couldn't sit. That was like wrinkles to the Glows, to 724 00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:23,480 Speaker 1: the sag Awards. 725 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:25,440 Speaker 2: I laid down in the back of a limo like 726 00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:28,520 Speaker 2: a zombie. Yeah, and I wouldn't my dress And it 727 00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:32,160 Speaker 2: didn't matter anyway. I didn't. 728 00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:33,200 Speaker 3: I didn't wrinkle it. 729 00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:39,399 Speaker 2: Uh, I didn't wrinkle it more better. 730 00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 3: How do you feel about what we talked about today? 731 00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:46,840 Speaker 3: I feel good. 732 00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:51,080 Speaker 1: I feel like I think waiting is a struggle for everyone. 733 00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:52,359 Speaker 3: I think. 734 00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,759 Speaker 1: It's something we have to be more intentional with our 735 00:36:56,800 --> 00:37:00,000 Speaker 1: young people and with kids. I when we were talking 736 00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 1: talking about that before, someone smarter than me, much smarter 737 00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 1: than me, told me once like, any opportunity you can 738 00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:10,040 Speaker 1: give your kids to wait is good because they live 739 00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:14,640 Speaker 1: in a world where it just doesn't happen like it 740 00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:15,040 Speaker 1: used to. 741 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:20,320 Speaker 3: Wait. There's a comedian that has a really great joke. 742 00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:24,680 Speaker 1: I can't I'm blanking on who it is about mindfulness. 743 00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:27,480 Speaker 1: Have you seen this clip of this joke about mindfulness? 744 00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:31,040 Speaker 1: And he's like, mindfulness is so popular now. It wasn't 745 00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:34,279 Speaker 1: when we were growing up, because like you just did 746 00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:37,200 Speaker 1: it everyday life. You're sitting on the bus, You're watching 747 00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:43,480 Speaker 1: the raindrops fall down the window, miranger, think my rain 748 00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:44,200 Speaker 1: drop's gonna win. 749 00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:44,920 Speaker 3: Uh. 750 00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:48,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, he was like mindfulness Like we didn't have phones, 751 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:50,759 Speaker 1: we didn't have we just had to wait for shit. 752 00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:53,520 Speaker 1: And so he was like yeah, and it and it's 753 00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:55,440 Speaker 1: a really funny joke. But I also was like, oh, 754 00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:59,600 Speaker 1: it's funny because it's so true. I do think mindfulness 755 00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:05,279 Speaker 1: is so much more prevalent nowadays because we don't have 756 00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:09,040 Speaker 1: as many opportunities to just to sit and be present 757 00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,520 Speaker 1: and to like do it and so it is. 758 00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 3: It's it's waiting. 759 00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:22,319 Speaker 1: Sometimes should be an intentional practice. I think for ourselves it's, yeah, 760 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:29,200 Speaker 1: be bored, let yourself like lean into the wait, reframe it, 761 00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:32,160 Speaker 1: you know, all the things I think that we talked about, 762 00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:36,080 Speaker 1: and and try to pass that on to your kids too, 763 00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:40,040 Speaker 1: because I think it's even harder. And I have empathy 764 00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,880 Speaker 1: for young people that struggle even more than we do 765 00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:47,719 Speaker 1: with waiting because it just wasn't a daily thing they 766 00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:48,560 Speaker 1: had to practice. 767 00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,600 Speaker 3: Really yeah, I mean I don't have any from them. 768 00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:52,359 Speaker 3: Suck it up. 769 00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:59,239 Speaker 2: In my day, we have to wait nil Saturdays, all right. 770 00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:03,120 Speaker 3: In mind day, we cantime my friends. 771 00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,080 Speaker 2: So no, in my day we had to wait till 772 00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:07,920 Speaker 2: the next day to see their faces again. 773 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:10,560 Speaker 1: Oh my god, did I tell you the story of 774 00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:12,520 Speaker 1: what I was describing to my We were in the 775 00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:14,640 Speaker 1: car and I was one of my kids asked me 776 00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:17,160 Speaker 1: something about TV when I was little, and I was 777 00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:20,000 Speaker 1: describing to them about like it was whatever was on 778 00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,600 Speaker 1: and there was commercials and you had to you know, 779 00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:24,000 Speaker 1: if you had to show you watched, you had to 780 00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:25,759 Speaker 1: be home at that time and did it. I had 781 00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:29,640 Speaker 1: to go through the whole thing of what television and 782 00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:32,120 Speaker 1: like or even like movies that were And I was like, 783 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:33,480 Speaker 1: and you got home, you just had to like see 784 00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:35,200 Speaker 1: what was on. If your show wasn't on, you had 785 00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:37,080 Speaker 1: to like see what was on to pick something like 786 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:39,320 Speaker 1: whatever was on. Those were your choices, and there weren't 787 00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:41,080 Speaker 1: as many as there are now. There wasn't like a 788 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:44,600 Speaker 1: library to scroll through. And it's just like quiet for 789 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,160 Speaker 1: a minute once I finished, and axel, my little one goes. 790 00:39:48,080 --> 00:40:01,880 Speaker 6: Your childhood sounds terrible, not fucking real, dude. 791 00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:04,840 Speaker 3: We laught so hard. We laught so hard. It was 792 00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:08,399 Speaker 3: so good. Real. That's funny though, because like they it 793 00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:13,000 Speaker 3: wasn't it was. Our childhoods were pretty good. I know 794 00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:15,239 Speaker 3: they were great. They were great. But in terms of 795 00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:18,520 Speaker 3: TV watching, he was like, that sounds awful. No, in 796 00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:20,879 Speaker 3: terms of TV, He's spot on. It was a shit show. 797 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,640 Speaker 3: It sucked. Yeah, it sucked. Yeah, but we didn't know 798 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:24,680 Speaker 3: anything else, so we didn't know it. 799 00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,440 Speaker 2: Would I had ever, would I have ever discovered I 800 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:28,760 Speaker 2: love Lucy and Carol Burnett. 801 00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:33,560 Speaker 3: I don't think so that part. That part, yeah, yep. 802 00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:38,560 Speaker 3: I feel a little more better about waiting. I mean, 803 00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:41,040 Speaker 3: I think I'm doing it too. 804 00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:45,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it's like yeah, excepting that it's like, 805 00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:46,680 Speaker 1: it's just it's a struggle for all. 806 00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:50,480 Speaker 3: It's hard. It's hard. Waiting is hard. Waiting is hard. 807 00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:54,600 Speaker 3: It's a practice. It's a practice. Yeah, waiting is a practice. 808 00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:58,279 Speaker 3: The practice. 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