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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota and this is Riley your favorite Okay, stories,

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Speaker 1: I'm hosts and we got some great stories coming up.

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Speaker 1: But before that, we have a quick two minute break

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Speaker 1: from the sponsors to keep this show alive. My stepfather

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Speaker 1: mocked my trauma, so I told him he won't be

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Speaker 1: a part of my future.

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Speaker 2: Cut you out.

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Speaker 1: My stepfather, Mail fifty one, and I female, nineteen have

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Speaker 1: not had a necessarily good relationship even before he married

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Speaker 1: my mother. We tolerate each other considering we have one

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Speaker 1: thing in common, my mother and his wife being an

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Speaker 1: important part of our lives. I have lived with my mother, stepfather,

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Speaker 1: and siblings since I was sixteen. He has very specific

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Speaker 1: rules of living in his house, which I follow. I

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Speaker 1: also pay rent now, because that just makes sense since.

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Speaker 3: I'm an adult.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Hopefully it's not like a fourth it's maybe, you know,

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Speaker 2: a couple hundred bucks a month.

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Speaker 1: Hopefully she pays rent in the form of a dance routine.

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Speaker 1: Lit't take it like a take talk dance?

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Speaker 2: What kind of tech talk? Getting off on the wrong

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Speaker 2: foot here, I really am. Let's bring it back she does, Oh,

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Speaker 2: what's a really cool dance?

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Speaker 1: She does? Tear it read does she does.

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Speaker 2: She does the bird dances, the bird Dance.

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Speaker 3: The Birds of Paradise, but like the mating dance, No.

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Speaker 2: Way did she go? Well, it was.

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Speaker 1: These rules since I was sixteen have gotten really strict

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Speaker 1: over the years. The point he argues with me over

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Speaker 1: the littlest mistakes I make. That's fine, But these days

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Speaker 1: he tries to find anything to argue with me about,

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Speaker 1: not just the rules. He starts the arguments when he

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Speaker 1: knows I'm the only one in the house, or if

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Speaker 1: my mother is not around. I tend to just stay

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Speaker 1: just stay out studying or at a friend's house to

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Speaker 1: avoid conflict. His native language and mine are not the same.

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Speaker 1: The language here is my second one. So I don't

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Speaker 1: like arguing since I can't express myself. Well, you can

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Speaker 1: always express yourself with dance, dance argument.

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Speaker 2: Have seen those kids they dance fight?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, those are just the coolest people that can dance fight,

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Speaker 1: dance battle. Have you seen the guy that like, it

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Speaker 1: looks like he's gonna do a backflip and then he

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Speaker 1: just doesn't what. No, It's like he looks like he's

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Speaker 1: in a backflip and it looks like he messed it up.

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Speaker 1: But then he like wrote like he only like lands

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Speaker 1: that's the coolest thing I've ever seen. I'll never be

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Speaker 1: that cool. Guys, this is a weird start to Wednesday. Okay,

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Speaker 1: the arguments have been happening more frequently, to the point

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Speaker 1: he does it in front of my mother too. I

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Speaker 1: can tell she is uncomfortable seeing it, but doesn't add

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Speaker 1: He uses the language against me while arguing, telling me

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Speaker 1: whether to my mother when I don't know a word

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Speaker 1: in the language spoken here, or when I'm calling my

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Speaker 1: dad since he only speaks our native language. Hey, I

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Speaker 1: would only talk to him in that language from now on.

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Speaker 2: That's that's aggressive.

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Speaker 1: Only has he has he not learned yet exclusively?

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Speaker 4: Are you comfortable a little at heart?

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Speaker 2: Hate in your heart tonight?

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Some people have been telling me I'm savage.

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Speaker 1: I guess so, this, coupled with other things happening, has

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Speaker 1: put me on edge. Tell me about it. By the way,

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Speaker 4: I'm Riley, I'm Keon.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna read this story and we know exactly what's

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Speaker 1: right and what's wrong. Our opinion what's left is the

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Speaker 3: Forehead kiss for you guys.

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Speaker 1: If this is your first time here, you might not

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Speaker 1: usually do our intros. I work and study. Last week

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Speaker 1: I said, he now had no place in my future,

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Speaker 1: could my future children. He would not be a grandfather too,

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Speaker 1: but my mother would be a grandma.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Actions have consequences, and you have the total right

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 5: I love this. He's he's like, you guys could have

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's such a low thing to do as a man,

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Speaker 2: Come on, yeah, she's nineteen, she's nineteen. How do I

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Speaker 1: Would anyone think of the fifty one year old man

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Speaker 2: Why do you care what a nineteen year old girl

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Speaker 1: I would honestly have just liveen like I can tell

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Speaker 3: I don't have to pretend like I don't want you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a very very toxic thing, very toxic.

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Speaker 1: But I'm so glad I didn't have any toxic.

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Speaker 4: I'd be like, Oh, a nineteen year old's mocking me.

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Speaker 3: Guess what, I'm not gonna go find them.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I have to pay for health insurance. Jokes

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Speaker 1: I'm so glad my parents were nice because I'd be

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Speaker 1: such a bat. I would have been such a bad

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Speaker 1: such a bad way. Oh really, Oh yeah, dude.

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Speaker 4: I would have been Yeah, you would have been like me.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I would have been like I can't imagine hearing

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Speaker 2: This happened to me. I would just I suppose wouldn't

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Speaker 1: But at nineteen, at a teenager, yeah, still damn bribe.

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Speaker 1: He told my mother, He told my mommy on me,

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Speaker 1: who for the last week has been tiptoeing around it.

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Speaker 1: I don't want my future to be filled with more arguments,

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: I will say? My mom and I we were all right,

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Speaker 3: A nice a nice adult conversation.

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Speaker 2: But we had a good relationship and we still had tension.

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Speaker 2: You have a bad relationship with your dad, it doesn't

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Speaker 2: really since he's your stepfather, it doesn't really sound like

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Speaker 2: he's your father. Yeah. No, there will always be that

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Speaker 2: step in front of him.

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Speaker 1: He's literally telling her you're not allowed to talk to

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Speaker 3: And I don't permit.

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Speaker 2: That you can't speak your native language. I'd be like, mmm,

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Speaker 2: You should embrace it. That's part of your culture. That

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Speaker 1: Heal.

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Speaker 2: I'm just thinking, we don't. We don't lat Grandpa great

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Speaker 2: Princess says, same, here to go to. My mom raised

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Speaker 2: I would have been a monster. And that's why you're

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Speaker 2: a lawyer. Yeah, because you use that for good.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We would have been the kids that like get sent

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Speaker 1: to military school and then military school sends us back

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Speaker 1: and they're like, we can't, we can't, we can't do this.

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Speaker 1: Those without info say, not the Ale. You are an

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Speaker 1: isolate your mother also? Or is it just that he

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Speaker 1: doesn't want you to talk in your native language? Ope,

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Speaker 1: he says in the house in the middle of the street.

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Speaker 1: We have general rules we have to follow, and also

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Speaker 1: just specific rules for us too. Both my mother and

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Speaker 1: I aren't allowed to speak in my native language. If

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Speaker 3: In his language.

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Speaker 1: You lawyer says, not the Ale, but you need to

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Speaker 1: just learn how to gray rock.

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Speaker 3: Just because your stepfather is trying to start an argument.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't mean you need to respond. That is true, But

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Speaker 1: OPI is nineteen, but all of that was true. Opie says, Generally,

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Speaker 1: I try to leave arguments, but we have an open

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Speaker 4: And he's like, all right, leave the door open because

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Speaker 4: I'm bored and I want to just bother you.

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Speaker 1: Bro.

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Speaker 3: What fight back?

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Speaker 3: Fight back?

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Speaker 1: Hey? What do you doing?

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Speaker 3: Fight back?

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Speaker 4: It's the what's that that meme of a picture where

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Speaker 1: It's too late. Our argument is over for I have

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Speaker 2: I think I think moving out is gonna be your

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Speaker 1: This is toxic the monkey. Yeah, guys, if you guys.

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Speaker 2: Have been in a weird, toxic relationship in your life

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Speaker 2: Down below, Katie says, my stepdad survived the teenage years

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Speaker 4: That one.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Oh, it's a monkey.

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Speaker 2: Monkey I do that to Dakota pretty good. Bit I

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Speaker 1: Bro, He've done that to me with legitimate like I'll

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Speaker 1: I was just like, no, no, he's not. He's lying.

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Speaker 1: And then it was like somehow you you rage baited

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's because I never show that.

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Speaker 4: This was you guys playing hide and seek with me today.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, never gonna do that.

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Speaker 1: Instead, I usually just leave the house if the arguments

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Speaker 3: So sadly, your mom has failed you.

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Speaker 1: She should have chosen you her child, not the immature

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Speaker 1: he says. My mother has known him since they were teenagers.

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Speaker 1: He was actually her first boyfriend back then, but he

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Speaker 2: That is pretttoxic. I don't like the origins of this relationship.

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Speaker 1: He's like, mmmm, it's definitely why he doesn't want you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a product of another relationship.

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Speaker 1: Liam Neeson, taking vast responsibility, says that it's no excuse

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Speaker 1: He said he missed my mom, and I said it's

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Speaker 1: Of course, as a kid, I was more than just hurt.

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Speaker 1: Pale Cranberry says, not the ahole. He's trying to make

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Speaker 3: Hope, he says.

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Speaker 1: I'm signing the leaves for the apartment I've been wanting tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: It's in my budget range, thankfully, and we'll be moving

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Speaker 1: I've been staying with a friend.

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Speaker 2: Holy cow. Wow, that is a jump in time right there.

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Speaker 2: In that update, we.

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Speaker 3: Got to update a year plus.

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Speaker 2: Also, congratulations on moving on at nineteen. I wasn't able

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Speaker 2: to do that. I was still relying on my parents

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Speaker 2: and finding an apartment within your range at nineteen. Congratulations.

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Speaker 2: I hate that you have to grow up a little

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Speaker 2: faster now. You don't have the luxury of time on

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Speaker 2: your side, and you kind of have to work, but

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Speaker 1: Down the road that will work. That's crazy, just uh,

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Speaker 1: that's so miserable.

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Speaker 4: The craziest thing is you're seeing how your mom treats it, like.

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Speaker 2: You're putting up with it. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, that's just how it is.

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Speaker 3: It could be, you know.

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Speaker 2: That's just who he is. It's always a tough, tough one.

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Speaker 2: You can't even have an actual genuine conversation with your dad.

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Speaker 1: Mom's a little toxic bro.

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Speaker 2: On on, Like, hey, I feel uncomfortable here, and yeah.

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Speaker 1: Your mom Mama's toxic. Don't go.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of different factors in here of why

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Speaker 2: this is actually a think.

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Speaker 1: There's an update. It's been a while, but I decided

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Speaker 1: I should update. I did end up moving out Billy

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Speaker 1: Joel then got an apartment, but a few months later

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Speaker 1: I moved back to my home country, thankfully with a

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Speaker 1: smooth transition on my studies too. I'm also in therapy,

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Speaker 1: which has helped me deeply. It's been great to see

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Speaker 1: my father, brother, an extended family again.

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Speaker 3: After I moved out, I.

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Speaker 1: Cut off all contact with my at the time stepfather. Yes,

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Speaker 1: at the time, because my mother's currently divorcing him.

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Speaker 4: Wow, wow, let's go.

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Speaker 2: She went to another reunion found someone else.

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Speaker 4: Is she going back to your your dad?

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Speaker 2: No, he's still in country. It's probably the.

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Speaker 1: You never know, I sure hope not.

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Speaker 4: It's been a year. A lot can happen.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure what finally got through to her about him.

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Speaker 4: Maybe was you leaving.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say when I moved out, I didn't

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Speaker 1: telling him where I lived. I'd meet up with her

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Speaker 1: occasionally in public, but very limited as at the time.

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Speaker 1: She still agreed with him about his actions. We have

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Speaker 2: Here, man, oh Man, time tells the truth in this situation.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad your mom got out of it, though, I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's you know, that always sucks.

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Speaker 1: I've got friends like that where it's like, yeah, it's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I love my mom. It was like she just is

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Speaker 1: in the worst relationship. It's like, why don't she stay

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Speaker 1: with that? Guys like I don't know, X, Y and Z.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, very situational. But I'm I'm glad that you were

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Speaker 2: able to move out. You're with your family now and

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Speaker 2: that guy's out of the picture. Let's freaking go. Let's go.

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Speaker 3: But spam w's in the chest.

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Speaker 4: Now you're an adult and you don't have them in

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Speaker 4: your life. You don't have to deal with them.

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Speaker 2: Big time at adult.

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Speaker 1: Paula Abdult so Opie says she did eventually apologize, but

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Speaker 1: I was moving countries. Our relationship won't be what it

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Speaker 1: be comfortable mending it to that old standard. I found

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Speaker 1: out when she apologized that before she divorced my bio father,

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Speaker 1: she did in fact cheat on him with my stepfather.

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Speaker 1: Though I wasn't surprised, and neither am.

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Speaker 4: I wait, who's your real dad?

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Speaker 2: Dude? That happened?

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Speaker 3: Who's your real dad?

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Speaker 2: What are you talking about?

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Speaker 1: Bro? Is onto nothing?

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Speaker 2: I mean not already any ages in this?

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Speaker 4: Did he go back in time?

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Speaker 1: Although I was not surprised, it was disappointing to know

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Speaker 1: He won't be in my future. I cut him out,

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Speaker 1: and legally he won't be my stepfather either in the

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Speaker 1: near future. So life's good, good study, good country, good apartment,

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Speaker 1: someone at the moment no ooh, Thank you everyone. That's all,

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Speaker 1: and there are some comments. Crazy Dre says she doesn't

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Speaker 1: what she's been doing for year after year. By giving

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Speaker 1: of the things I'm working on in therapy. Cutting contact

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Speaker 1: first I need to understand my feelings fully and recognize

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Speaker 1: everything properly that happened. It takes time, but I'm focused

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Speaker 1: your insight. I do understand what you're saying, and that

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Speaker 1: is the end of that story, all right, sick therapy,

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm doing. There's nothing wrong.

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Speaker 1: M m mm mmm mmm mmm mm mmm mmm.

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Speaker 3: I love my mom.

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Speaker 1: When I was a child, or I grew up in

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Speaker 1: sault of her faults and it's not that good a time.

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Speaker 3: Hmmmmmm mmmm.

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Speaker 4: It wasn't mild.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't mild.

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Speaker 1: I put the sauce on the rito in it wasn't mild.

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Speaker 1: It was possily. It was way too positive for me.

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Speaker 1: It hurts, it hurts, It hurts my gullet.

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Speaker 2: This is that was your mom whenever she was cheating.

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Speaker 1: You got a dirty dance and I'm gonna sell it.

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Speaker 2: Wow, all right. I told my wife that her long

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Speaker 1: Yeah, teller, get long lost, all right.

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Speaker 2: I thirty eight female, met my wife forty female about

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Speaker 2: ten years ago. Instant connection. This is a J with

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Speaker 2: a G. This is a J with a G couple.

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Speaker 3: No, it's it's actually a Thespian with an L with

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Speaker 2: Thespian with an L couple. Take out the tea.

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Speaker 1: Gay wes Wespians.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. We had a child. We both had children.

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Speaker 2: I had Emma and Nople they're like eighty, what are

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Speaker 2: these names? My wife had Simon and Ruby the eighty

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Speaker 2: they're just Thespians. I had full custody of my children.

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Speaker 2: My wife did not or excuse his finances to bury

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Speaker 2: my wife in court. She was given visitation. She barely

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Speaker 2: When we got married, she saw her kids even less.

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Speaker 2: I watched her world erupt when family shared wedding videos

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Speaker 2: of her ex and his new wife, where Ruby made

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Speaker 2: When Simon turned eighteen, he found my wife and told

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Speaker 1: After that, we did everything to talk to Ruby and

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Speaker 1: explain yeah, oh my gosh, I mean it's not Ruby's fault. No,

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Speaker 1: she was mindwashed.

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Speaker 2: During this time, Simon visited us weekly and became a

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Speaker 2: of our efforts though, even after she turned eighteen. This

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Speaker 2: is where I began to question, would I be the

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446
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Speaker 1: I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, And we're gonna.

447
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Speaker 2: Listen to this story and commentate on it. But we

448
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Speaker 2: don't have all the answers. We're just gonna be goofy

449
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Speaker 2: add what you would like to down below.

450
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Speaker 4: That's right, Yeah, we're listening to the story.

451
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Speaker 2: Op He says, my wife and i's house now consists

452
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Speaker 2: of us and Opal fifteen female. Thank you for clarifying.

453
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Speaker 2: Emma twelve female, bring us six female and Felix nine male.

454
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Speaker 2: He's gonna fix it with Simon twenty two male, visiting often.

455
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Speaker 2: Holy Cow one two, three, four.

456
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Speaker 1: Five one two Skip to my lou Well, she did

457
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Speaker 1: say gay mother of six three months ago, Ruby twenty

458
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Speaker 1: females showed up in tears, saying that her dad kicked

459
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Speaker 1: her out. We let her stay overnight, and when nothing

460
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Speaker 1: had been resolved by morning, we agreed for her to

461
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Speaker 1: live with us five children, with one visiting often. Under

462
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Speaker 1: your roof, How is your grocery beer looking? Yeah, we do.

463
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Speaker 3: We have enough sustenance.

464
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Speaker 1: We just all of these life forms.

465
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Speaker 4: We just go to the Ostco in the Just game,

466
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Speaker 4: plentiful stuff, the Bosco, the Bosco with the sea.

467
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Speaker 1: Yeah, isn't that the funny? That's the funniest thing to me.

468
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Speaker 1: People in jangs with a G they don't want to

469
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Speaker 1: say that the words that start with the first letter

470
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Speaker 1: of their opposing jang, so they call cookies bookies.

471
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Speaker 3: It's like, what are you literally eight years old?

472
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Speaker 1: It's like the dumbest thing of all time, done by

473
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Speaker 1: the most scary huh intense people like, yeah, we don't

474
00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:31,480
Speaker 1: say words that have that letter in the like anyway,

475
00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:32,920
Speaker 1: that was just a side tangent.

476
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Speaker 2: I would saying, Keane, what you're talking about?

477
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Speaker 1: I was, Oh, I was just trying to say, like,

478
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Speaker 1: crips and bloods. Bloods won't say.

479
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:42,240
Speaker 3: Words that start with c. Oh, the place the sea

480
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Speaker 3: with a B. That's why they call Compton Bompton.

481
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Speaker 2: I didn't know that.

482
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like literally some six year old level stuff.

483
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Speaker 3: It's just so funny to me.

484
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Speaker 2: Good for them. My wife's is static. It's been the

485
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Speaker 2: happiest have ever seen her. She tells everyone that she

486
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Speaker 2: has her long lost daughter. Oh, I have some reservations.

487
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 2: Ruby has no respect for me, always saying that I'm

488
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 2: the reason her mom lost custody ispy. I didn't enter

489
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 2: the picture until afterwards. She constantly uses my things without

490
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:18,080
Speaker 2: asking and often ruins them. I'm worried about her siblings.

491
00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:21,040
Speaker 2: Since Ruby moved in, my other children have come to

492
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Speaker 2: me crying that Ruby says hurtful things to them, including

493
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Speaker 2: telling Emma she's not really my wife's daughter and she

494
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Speaker 2: should have called her mom because she's a stepchild, taking

495
00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:33,960
Speaker 2: ople's belongings and claiming that her mother said that she

496
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Speaker 2: could have them because she is older, making fun of

497
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Speaker 2: Felix for being adopted. Recently, we noticed Bria's behavior towards

498
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 2: opal Emma and Felix has turned very ugly. When I

499
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,440
Speaker 2: asked her why, she told me that Ruby said they

500
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Speaker 2: aren't really her siblings and she doesn't need to be nice.

501
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Speaker 4: Huh.

502
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Speaker 2: Ruby is twenty. I think she is the trojan horse here.

503
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Speaker 2: I don't think your dad actually kicked her out. She's

504
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:04,320
Speaker 2: coming in here to implode the family's.

505
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 4: Not being a real gem right now.

506
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's a good theory. She's kind of

507
00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 1: penimis what peak cinema analysis? Keep up, he's mister Penimis

508
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,439
Speaker 1: over there, actually, mister peak cinema analysis.

509
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Speaker 2: That's right, Thank you, miss miss Penimus.

510
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Speaker 3: I'm his wife.

511
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think given that she is a full grown adult,

512
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:29,919
Speaker 1: you can sit her down and be like this.

513
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 3: Is absolutely unacceptable and you need to leave.

514
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 1: You need to try to have that, in which she

515
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,160
Speaker 1: probably won't work because she's been poisoned against her mother

516
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Speaker 1: by her dad. But maybe have a sit down with

517
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Speaker 1: Simon and her and be like, Hey, so we've heard

518
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: the things you've been saying. I understand that you went

519
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 1: through a lot growing up without me and growing up

520
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 1: with your father, but he lied to you.

521
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so, he continues, I'm furious. Anytime I talk to

522
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Speaker 2: my wife about it, she says Ruby has trouble adjusting

523
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 2: because she wasn't given a chance to be a part

524
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Speaker 2: of our family due to her dad. I try to

525
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 2: be supportive, but it's impacting our younger kids. Would that

526
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Speaker 2: be the a hole if I explained to my wife

527
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Speaker 2: that because of the way Ruby acts towards her siblings

528
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Speaker 2: that I don't feel comfortable with her stink and requests

529
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Speaker 2: that she move out. I don't care that my wife

530
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 2: has a relationship with our oldest daughter, but not at

531
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Speaker 2: the cost of our other children. We have an update.

532
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Speaker 2: This is a tricky one.

533
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Speaker 4: I mean, it's you have one bad apple. It really

534
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Speaker 4: one's bad apple that.

535
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Speaker 1: Just got here. Yeah, I mean I would I wouldn't

536
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 1: say that that's wrong, but I think instead of phrasing

537
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Speaker 1: it as like she needs to go now, I think

538
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:45,959
Speaker 1: it needs to be like, for the sake of our

539
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:49,400
Speaker 1: other kids, you need to at least try to address

540
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Speaker 1: this time and change it time out.

541
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Speaker 2: You mothers are older, you guys are smarter. Let's think

542
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 2: this through. Okay, Survivor, we play Survivor with the kids.

543
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:03,440
Speaker 2: Hey god, we do not have that many bedrooms. We're

544
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 2: gonna play games and see who can stay on the island.

545
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Speaker 4: We are not having a Lord of the Flies here.

546
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Speaker 2: And then at the end of the Ruby's twenty listen, listenin.

547
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Speaker 1: We play games, and then at the end we can

548
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 1: all vote who we want them to move out.

549
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 2: You give them the games to make it seem like

550
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 2: it's fair. And then Ruby gets a lot of screen

551
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:25,719
Speaker 2: time because she's doing good at the games, but at

552
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 2: the end she gets voted out of the island.

553
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:30,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, Ruby, the twenty year old who's brand new, has

554
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 4: no real relationship, making everything really bad.

555
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she gets you know, win of the audience

556
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 2: because she's good games. But at the end we found

557
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 2: out she's terrible for actually living in the house Penamus.

558
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 1: House of Penamus, No penimis this is this is Penima

559
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Speaker 1: house that Penamus build.

560
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Speaker 2: Yeah No, it's just peak cinema. What I'm talking about

561
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Speaker 2: the Survivor Pinama All right, sorry, uh yeah, what do

562
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 2: we think about that?

563
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Speaker 1: Should we play survivor with the kids.

564
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Speaker 3: No, well, actually, on what should they actually do?

565
00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: Kean beat her up?

566
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Speaker 3: She is twenty, Let them fight, she is twenty.

567
00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 4: Let them fight.

568
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 1: If the kids all gained up on Ruby and just

569
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: savagely walloped.

570
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Speaker 4: Her, I don't think you'll Lord of the flies.

571
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:13,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, the kids don't get any of that on their

572
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 1: permanent record. As soon as they turn eighteen, you know,

573
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 1: that gets expunged. Yeah. It takes a very specific court

574
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 1: order to open up your juvenile record. So I think, yeah,

575
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Speaker 1: just like you can tell the kids that they are

576
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Speaker 1: allowed to do whatever they want.

577
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:34,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, Ruby, good, it is gracious. Uh no, here's here's

578
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Speaker 2: a here's a half inch wrench pipe, get after it.

579
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Speaker 4: No, construct, the kids have sharp things, get fun, give

580
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 4: them sharp sticks? No, no, no, no. But actually I

581
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:51,160
Speaker 4: feel like I have that conversation. Yeah, let's be let's

582
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 4: be realistic and.

583
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Speaker 2: We have a pro mom that just commented in the chat. First,

584
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 2: moms need to talk to each other and make a

585
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Speaker 2: game plan. Didn't talk to the daughter together as a

586
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Speaker 2: united front, Amy Dean. As a mom, you never let

587
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:02,879
Speaker 2: one could bully the others.

588
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, not just the moms, though, Simon should

589
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:10,919
Speaker 1: be in there because he's the brother that was figured out.

590
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 1: He got brainwashed, so that will help Ruby to maybe

591
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: be less brainwashed.

592
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 2: Oh, they're gonna say something, all right.

593
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 3: Penimis updates.

594
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 2: I spent most of the night unable to sleep while

595
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,479
Speaker 2: reading through all of the advice you kind people have offered.

596
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 2: I really appreciate all of your insights. It's easier to

597
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 2: talk to strangers than it is friends. I had it

598
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,200
Speaker 2: written down what I was going to say to my wife.

599
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 2: She woke up, We had coffee and began to talk

600
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 2: about things. Before I could really say more than two sentences,

601
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 2: our twelve year old Emma burst into the room and

602
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:49,479
Speaker 2: hysterics about finding something she found on Ople's computer.

603
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:51,120
Speaker 4: Oh no, oh.

604
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:54,680
Speaker 2: It turns out that while Emma was using Opah's computer

605
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 2: for homeschooling with Ople's permission, a bunch of Facebook messages

606
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 2: popped up from Ruby to Opel. She read through them

607
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 2: and immediately went to find us. Opal didn't want us

608
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 2: to read through them, but online safety unfortunately had to

609
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 2: trump her privacy. Friends. The amount of disgusting, inappropriate, and

610
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 2: downright nasty comments Ruby wrote to her little sister, I

611
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,640
Speaker 2: was sick to my stomach. They ranged from telling ople

612
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 2: that she hated her and would never call their sister

613
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,359
Speaker 2: to telling my sweet fifteen year old how fat and

614
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 2: ugly she was, my daughter struggles with her way on

615
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 2: a daily basis, and so much more that I refused

616
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:36,119
Speaker 2: to write. At this point, I'm just thinking, did Ruby

617
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 2: even have a good childhood growing up with her dad?

618
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: Ah? I doubt it.

619
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Speaker 4: I feel like Ruby. Ruby is one of those people

620
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Speaker 4: who's like, ah, don't you know what, might as well

621
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 4: just bring down the ship.

622
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Speaker 2: You know.

623
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 1: And now, just like you were saying with sort of

624
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: the pointy sticks, this is like you just bray, you

625
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 1: just break the pool que.

626
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 3: In half, and you say we're gonna have trys.

627
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 2: It was a wi old time.

628
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, great movie.

629
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 2: These messages date back from just a week or two

630
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 2: after Ruby moved in.

631
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 4: Wow, she she came in here. She knew it. No

632
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 4: as a she's not like a teenager, she's a full

633
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 4: grown adult. She knew what, she knew what she was

634
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 4: gonna be doing.

635
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 2: Guys, we're not even halfway through.

636
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,120
Speaker 4: She's she came in here is like I'm going to

637
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 4: alpha alpha this house, and I'm also going to burn

638
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 4: it down.

639
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: And the most recent ones were from this morning. My

640
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 2: wife couldn't deny a thing because they were time stamped,

641
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 2: and a click through the account showed it was without

642
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 2: a doubt Ruby.

643
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:36,480
Speaker 1: This is also a really great opportunity to teach ople

644
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 1: how to block people.

645
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 2: There we go.

646
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 3: I like that cyber bullying doesn't work when you just

647
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 3: block people, Thanks Tyler the creator.

648
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 2: I tried to call Ruby down to the kitchen to talk,

649
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 2: and she came down. My wife was speechless and couldn't

650
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 2: look at her. Emma began screaming at Ruby for talking

651
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 2: to her sister like that. Ruby began screaming at everyone

652
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 2: that we all hated her and that she knew we

653
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 2: didn't want her here. Opal was hysterically. Even Bria and

654
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 2: Felix look terrified. I tried to talk to her about

655
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 2: how those messages crossed the line, but my blood was boiling.

656
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 2: My wife just sat there like she was stunned. I

657
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 2: told Ruby that I wanted her to stay in her

658
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 2: room for a little while until I could think of

659
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 2: what to say, and she told me that I wasn't

660
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 2: her mom and that she didn't need to listen to me.

661
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 2: My wife stayed silent as Ruby took the keys to

662
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 2: her car and went for a drive, and then my

663
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 2: wife locked herself in our room. I've called Simon, but

664
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 2: he's speechless as well and doesn't know what to suggest

665
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 2: other than asking her to leave. Like the rest of

666
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 2: you have, I'll try to update you later when my

667
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 2: wife comes out of her room or Ruby comes home.

668
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 2: But I agree with you all this can't go on.

669
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 2: Update two. This she's out, she's she's doing this the.

670
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: She's afraid of being abandoned and that people don't like her,

671
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 1: so she's taking control of the situation by making sure

672
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 1: she does something that will make everyone not like her.

673
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 4: Alf sabotage. But she's like, yes, it's.

674
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 1: Just self fulfilling negative prophecy. The things you tell yourself

675
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 1: reinforce behaviors. You're telling yourself you're a person. The choices

676
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 1: that you come in front of you're gonna make bad choices.

677
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 2: But if you're telling yourself I'm great, I'm funny, I'm successful,

678
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 2: you're gonna make choices that are great, funny, and successful.

679
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 4: True, but it's easier, easier said than done, and especially

680
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 4: when you're going into a new environment. And she's like,

681
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 4: everyone hates me. Everyone hates me, everyone hates me, But

682
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 4: you know what, I hate them too, but hate this.

683
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 2: That comes from a place of a good foundation. If

684
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 2: her dad did a good job of laying down a

685
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 2: great foundation of reinforcing, hey, you were beautiful, you were smart,

686
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 2: you were intelligent, you can do things. She wouldn't be

687
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 2: acting this way. But with what we see with her words,

688
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 2: it looks like, Oh, you were told you were ugly,

689
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 2: you were told that you were fat, you were told

690
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 2: that you weren't good enough, you were told that you're

691
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 2: not even a sister. You were told you weren't even

692
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 2: good enough to have a mom. And your mom left

693
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 2: you because of you, Because of you.

694
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 1: I guarantee you. At some point dad whipped out the

695
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 1: oh you're acting just like your mother, just like your mother,

696
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 1: and that's why he kicked her out. And so she's

697
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 1: stuck in there.

698
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 2: There's so much therapy that needs to happen, so much

699
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 2: healing in her heart, so many of these things. I

700
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 2: pray that Ruby finds a way through it. But she's

701
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 2: just really hurt. And you guys opened your arms and

702
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 2: took her in. But now she's imploding the family and

703
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 2: you remove her. I mean, it's a little too late.

704
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 2: She doesn't look like she needs help, But this poor child,

705
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 2: this is a product of horrible parenting.

706
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, now the kids, just give all the kids sticks

707
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 1: and let them handle it. That's how people used to

708
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: do things. And you know, and everyone's been been. Everyone

709
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 1: was fine when the situation was just handled with sticks.

710
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, let's put a bundle of sticks underneath this woman.

711
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 3: And light it on fire and nothing bad happened.

712
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 2: Ever again, I am view ken. First time I whooped

713
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 2: his butt in won, said one sibling, So I always

714
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 2: lost at least anyways.

715
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 1: Update, Hey, this is Riley, your favorite Southern bell. We're

716
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: gonna get back to these stories. But here's three minutes

717
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 1: worth of that from her sponsors.

718
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 2: Up they doo. I definitely want to make it clear

719
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 2: that my intention is not to punt Ruby out onto

720
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 2: the street. So many people have messaged me concerned about that,

721
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 2: and I want to clarify I will not punt her

722
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 2: out without a plan and action. First, She's still her child,

723
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 2: and no matter what is happening, I still love her

724
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 2: very much. Onto the update, op, super proud that you

725
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 2: were showing unconditional love to a child that is really

726
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 2: in desperate need of it.

727
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you also got to show you're an adult.

728
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: That's love.

729
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's it's it's a little bit of tough love.

730
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 2: Listen, let me make you happy, let me make you

731
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 2: the best ever. It's showing disciplinary action when needed.

732
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: I might get a little flak for this. I think

733
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: if you boot her out of the house and she's

734
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 1: got a car, she's not even homeless at twenty, that's

735
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 1: basically housed.

736
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, she could fit.

737
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: And if living out of your car at twenty doesn't

738
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 1: make you start to figure out where did I so

739
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: wrong here, then we've got more problems.

740
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 3: But you should be able to get out of that

741
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 3: at twenty, Dakota.

742
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 2: I don't think she has the critical thinking skills to

743
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:11,719
Speaker 2: see you or be able to analyze herself to understand that, oh,

744
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:14,840
Speaker 2: there is something wrong. I really do think she's like

745
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 2: good heaps of therapy to be able to get to

746
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 2: a point of self analyzing. Because even if we did

747
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 2: put her on the street and put it in a car,

748
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 2: then what I hope that that would make her clarify,

749
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 2: but I think it would just reinforce everything, like, oh,

750
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 2: my own dad doesn't want me, my own mom doesn't

751
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 2: want nobody wants me.

752
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 1: To a normal person.

753
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:35,479
Speaker 2: That would work. But this child, this poor child, Holy,

754
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 2: I don't even know she got She was brought into

755
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,279
Speaker 2: a house when she had nothing else to do and

756
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:43,399
Speaker 2: she was imploding. I don't know. I hope that might work.

757
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 2: If that was a solution, i'd totally take. But I

758
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:46,320
Speaker 2: just I don't know.

759
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: Maybe she needs to get cyber bullied.

760
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 2: Here, take take some of your own medicine.

761
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:51,719
Speaker 1: Huh.

762
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 2: Onto the update. Simon ended up coming over shortly after lunch.

763
00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:00,040
Speaker 2: I know we're in the pandemic, but he's the the

764
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 2: only person that comes over to our house, so I'm

765
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 2: sure it's okay. He's been a godsend. He will try

766
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 2: to talk to his mother, who was still in our

767
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 2: room by that point, about how we both misunderstood her

768
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 2: position and how difficult it is, but that she needs

769
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 2: to focus on our other four children and how this

770
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 2: is impacting them. She was receptive to him, but still

771
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:23,359
Speaker 2: told us that she needed more time before she can

772
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 2: work through what had happened. The things she wrote to

773
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:29,319
Speaker 2: my fifteen year old were definitely comments that broke my heart.

774
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 2: Simon and I sat down with the four younger children

775
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 2: for an open and lengthy discussion about their older sister,

776
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 2: where I asked them to all tell me everything that

777
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 2: she had said to them or done to them. I

778
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 2: found out more details that truly broke my heart and

779
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 2: further my stance on that she cannot continue to live

780
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 2: here with our children. I followed what a lot of

781
00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 2: you suggested and went through my children's social media accounts

782
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,319
Speaker 2: and blocked her on all of their accounts, as well

783
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:58,879
Speaker 2: as any phone or tablet messaging app. Our youngest two

784
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 2: have messaged her app, so then keep in contact with

785
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 2: just our family or their closest friends. She will not

786
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,879
Speaker 2: be able to call, text message, or look at any

787
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 2: of their profiles, and I am firm on that she

788
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 2: has lost the privilege to be able to speak with

789
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 2: her younger siblings without a parent or simon present. Great

790
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 2: first step. I love that.

791
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, protect the children first.

792
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 2: I also asked the children what they would like me

793
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:27,799
Speaker 2: to do. Almost all of them said they didn't want

794
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 2: her to live in our house anymore. The only exception

795
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:33,320
Speaker 2: was Bria. She said that I should ground her and

796
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 2: take away her stuff. That is really sweet.

797
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 1: She's twenty.

798
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, are we ignoring that this is a grown.

799
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 4: Is a kid? Though Bria's like that will teach her?

800
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,360
Speaker 4: And like, is that would work on Bria? Yeah, but

801
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 4: it's not gonna work on Ruby.

802
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 2: I don't think Bria understand what is she a child?

803
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:53,320
Speaker 1: She twelve?

804
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. Interestingly enough or heartbreakingly enough, was that

805
00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:00,320
Speaker 2: Opal echoed a lot of what you all were saying

806
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 2: in regards to getting her her own apartment. It seems

807
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,839
Speaker 2: as though my fifteen year old, who has every right

808
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 2: to feel however she wants about Ruby, still wants her

809
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 2: older sister to be safe and healthy. We cannot afford

810
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 2: to rent an attire and apartment for Ruby to live in,

811
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 2: and even though she does work a part time job,

812
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 2: we know she can't afford a place on her own.

813
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:21,759
Speaker 2: I also do not feel comfortable with sending her to

814
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 2: live in a room to rent with strangers.

815
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 3: I want her to be safe.

816
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 2: Simon, once again a godsend, has come up with a

817
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 2: solution that his sister can stay with him for the

818
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 2: time being until we can figure out this whole thing.

819
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:36,320
Speaker 2: He said that way she's safe and cared for. My

820
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 2: wife and I can still visit her if she'd like,

821
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,879
Speaker 2: and the younger children are protected. Yeah, Simon can also

822
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 2: he has a little bit of thicker skin and won't

823
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 2: get up with it.

824
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:46,720
Speaker 1: He's probably the best guy to shout out, Simon says.

825
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 1: Simon says, I'm gonna fix this, and then he did.

826
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 4: Simon says, I can fix that.

827
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 3: Simon said, let the beast stay at my place.

828
00:37:55,239 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 2: Hairo Tana good boundary, Zopie. Yes. I'm texting Ruby most

829
00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 2: of the day to request that she come back home

830
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 2: so we can discuss what happened, and she's been annoying

831
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 2: my texts and immediately hanging up every time I call.

832
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 2: It's about eleven at night and she has a returned.

833
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,280
Speaker 2: My wife is still taking time to herself to cope,

834
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,320
Speaker 2: though she said she supports the idea Simon and I

835
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 2: came up with, and Simon and I are just waiting

836
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:22,880
Speaker 2: for Ruby to return to the house so that we

837
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 2: can all sit down and discuss moving forward. She has

838
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 2: a return tonight. I think just packerbacks. I don't know.

839
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:35,319
Speaker 1: I don't know, Yeah, I guess, So just here are your.

840
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:37,359
Speaker 2: Things for the night. We're moving you to Simon's house.

841
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 2: I wanted to know that this behavior isn't acceptable, but

842
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 2: that she is still her daughter, and I'm willing to

843
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 2: give her a chance to go through therapy and for

844
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: us to support her through her feelings. It can't just

845
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 2: be in the same household as the younger children. Not

846
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:55,280
Speaker 2: yet update three, Ruby came home. This is great boundaries.

847
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 2: I love these steps. These are important steps.

848
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 1: We're taking one step at a time. There's no need

849
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 1: to rush whenever Ruby comes home. Let's make sure all

850
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 1: the kids have stick They're lined up at the door

851
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 1: when she comes in. They just one at a time,

852
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 1: and then she goes through the whacking tunnel.

853
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:14,479
Speaker 2: Dude, remember the backpack tunnel that went viral a little

854
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 2: bit ago, a few years ago, where kids would there's

855
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 2: a tunnel that these kids would have backpacks and they

856
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:20,399
Speaker 2: would run through and they would just hit them.

857
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 3: With their back Yeah, I do remember that.

858
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:24,839
Speaker 2: That was horrible. Do you remember that, ken and they

859
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 2: were just loaded up with stuff Brick's books. No, you

860
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 2: don't remember that.

861
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 3: Kids are savage.

862
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 4: I went to an all boys Catholic school.

863
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 2: I'm different than everyone. I went to a all boys Catholics.

864
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 1: What does that have to do with anything. You were

865
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 1: not in the all boys Catholic school a couple of

866
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: years ago.

867
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 2: I'm thirty, I'm at Filipino.

868
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 3: I have a peanut allergy.

869
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 2: I didn't have a graduation in twenty twenty.

870
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 3: You don't have a peanut allergy growing up.

871
00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 2: I did people with peanut allergies when they get their

872
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 2: legs cut off. Ah oh Man Peanut update three. Where

873
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:58,359
Speaker 2: it became home yesterday afternoon. We have no idea where

874
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 2: she was for the night, and she isn't willing to

875
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 2: tell us. My wife was able to come out of

876
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,400
Speaker 2: our room in the morning before Ruby got home and

877
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 2: immediately tried to make amends with the kids for not

878
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 2: listening to them sooner. I don't think that all of

879
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 2: our children really understand why she hit away and why

880
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 2: she didn't step in sooner to protect them. But for

881
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 2: the most part, it seems like they have forgiven her.

882
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 2: Emm and Felix are still very hesitant, but Ople just

883
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 2: wants everything to get back to normal. We're gonna have

884
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: to keep an eye on Ople too. Growing up. She

885
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 2: doesn't become a people pleaser. Yeah, it seems like my

886
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 2: other four children still left at home have fallen to

887
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 2: a divide over the issue at a hand, and me

888
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 2: and Felix are still very mad at Ruby and have

889
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 2: told my wife and I that they don't want to

890
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,880
Speaker 2: speak to her ever again. Brion Ople have decided they

891
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 2: don't want Ruby to live here until she could be kinder,

892
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:51,879
Speaker 2: but also have not completely written her off. Ria made

893
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 2: her a moving out card, and Opel asked if she

894
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 2: was allowed to write Ruby a message that I could

895
00:40:57,680 --> 00:40:58,760
Speaker 2: send to her on Facebook.

896
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 4: These sweet children, I know, but do you think Ruby

897
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 4: gives a rat?

898
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 1: But yeah, you write these rides.

899
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 3: This is just like she's just in just it's it's

900
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:10,439
Speaker 3: it's a she's in pain.

901
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:14,360
Speaker 1: She lost right now, she is lost in life.

902
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 3: And it's because of the fat.

903
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 4: It's get her with kindness, you know, it's like it's

904
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 4: get her. It's like, oh I hate you, I hate you,

905
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:23,359
Speaker 4: I hate you, I hate get her with they're they're

906
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,319
Speaker 4: still being nice to me. Why are they're being nice

907
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 4: to me?

908
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 2: Flowers? Everyone get flowers.

909
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 3: Flowers are just to kind of stick. Flowers are just

910
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:32,240
Speaker 3: really flimsy pretty sticks.

911
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,800
Speaker 2: Oh man him?

912
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 4: Also, I found your video you did?

913
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:39,839
Speaker 1: Yes?

914
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:41,359
Speaker 4: Do you want to watch it? Yes?

915
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 1: Yeah? I want to see kids hit each other with backpacks.

916
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 2: Yes, something to to get the void away.

917
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 4: This is what you're talking about, y Yeah.

918
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 2: Backpack challenge this is the backpack challenge.

919
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:57,720
Speaker 3: Oh my lord, oh my lord, oh my lord. Oh

920
00:41:57,920 --> 00:41:58,840
Speaker 3: oh oh.

921
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, some of these efforts be swinging that thing. Oh

922
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, that should even get hit.

923
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know why we didn't do this because we

924
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 4: would all get the oh my god, he.

925
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 1: Had two hands on that. We're so stupid. This thing.

926
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 4: It looks like I would do that so fast. This

927
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:26,319
Speaker 4: is the thing after I graduated high school. So that's why.

928
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:27,960
Speaker 4: That's why I didn't know about it.

929
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: Oh but I mean, like me and my cousin used

930
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 1: to do this when we were like ten and like nine,

931
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 1: but we weren't using backpacks. We would just take pillows

932
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 1: and we would jam the pillow down into the end

933
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:41,840
Speaker 1: of the pillowcase and then spin it around so it

934
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 1: just turned into like a pillow flail and we would

935
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 1: just smack the ever loving crap out of each other

936
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:50,439
Speaker 1: with it, and it was so fun.

937
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't do that, CTE. I think. I think

938
00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 4: I think you guys were just really that bored.

939
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 2: And like the South and the Midwest, I've never seen

940
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 2: that happen only sitting it online. I've never seen it

941
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:03,399
Speaker 2: happen in real life.

942
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 3: I've never did I've never just having hardcore pillow fights.

943
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:06,840
Speaker 4: What is wrong with you?

944
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 2: Yeah?

945
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:08,439
Speaker 4: No, I met the nack stuff.

946
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: We didn't have access to rugs or I was like,

947
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 1: how are you gonna tell me that you didn't do

948
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: dumb stuff with your friends when you were like ten

949
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 1: years old? Yeah, man, go whacking each other with pillows.

950
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 1: Come on.

951
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 4: Anyways, No, we did stupid or stuff we did.

952
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 2: We did really stupid op He agrees that Ople can

953
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 2: sud Ruby a message on Facebook. The children all seem

954
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 2: to be doing okay despite everything that's going on. While

955
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 2: we sat down with Ruby, the four younger kids went

956
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: to Emma and Ople's room. We let them pick out

957
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 2: a movie on streaming platform to watch and made sure

958
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 2: that they had some pizza, chips and a pop for

959
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 2: a little onesie movie.

960
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:47,919
Speaker 1: Minnesota, Yeah, Minnesota spotted Michigans perhaps, Oh, also michig Yeah.

961
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 1: I think those are like the two places they call

962
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:51,800
Speaker 1: it pop in the States.

963
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 3: Maybe they did. I feel like in Washington they call

964
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 3: it pop.

965
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 2: It's like mid North mid North area, yeah, Montana pop.

966
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like Minnesota to Michigan, Montana, all those like

967
00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:04,720
Speaker 1: northern Ohio, northern to the West.

968
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:05,920
Speaker 4: The Savannah does say pop so.

969
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 1: Okay, Ohio, they would totally call it pop in Ohio.

970
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 4: Uh, throughout the Midwest, So.

971
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 2: No, no, put on you.

972
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: No, we don't call it pop in Missouri.

973
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 4: Pop the Midwest, Illinois, Ohio, Michigan, Iowa, the Pacific Northwest, Washington,

974
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 4: Oregon I knew it, and Canada.

975
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 1: I knew it.

976
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 3: Washington just freaks up in the PNW.

977
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 2: We wanted to make sure they'd be busy for a

978
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 2: while so they didn't have to hear whatever was going on,

979
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 2: and we encourage Opal and Emma to lock the door

980
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 2: if they felt unsafe. At any point, Simon, my wife

981
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 2: and I sat down with Ruby to explain our concerns

982
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 2: and that we no longer felt it was healthy for

983
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:46,399
Speaker 2: her to live with us at the time being all

984
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 2: spoke in turns and just stopped speaking whenever she tried

985
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 2: to interrupt. My wife went first to explain that she

986
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 2: loved her very much, but the things that she was

987
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 2: saying to the younger kids were wildly inappropriate and that

988
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 2: she couldn't risk their safety. Simon then explained how he

989
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:03,959
Speaker 2: knew how difficult it was to live with their dad

990
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 2: and that he wanted to help her. He offered for

991
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:10,439
Speaker 2: her to stay with him, and he outlined a few

992
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 2: rules that he would have. He wants to let you

993
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 2: all know that he feels like he has a stable

994
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 2: support system and that he is willing to help his

995
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:21,160
Speaker 2: sister try to get a stable support system as well.

996
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:24,400
Speaker 2: But he thinks you all for your concerns. Ruby seemed

997
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 2: to listen just fine to them. She did complain about

998
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 2: a few things. When I spoke, she got very angry

999
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 2: again and started screaming that I was the one to

1000
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 2: blame and that I stole her mom. Ruby also screamed

1001
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 2: to my wife that she was choosing a jay with

1002
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 2: a G slur over her own daughter. Simon explained to

1003
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 2: us in private that their father constantly blamed their mother's

1004
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:49,279
Speaker 2: lifestyle choices on why they weren't allowed to see her,

1005
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 2: saying that if she had married another man, it would

1006
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 2: have been different.

1007
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:57,239
Speaker 1: Which makes yes, Which as a kid growing up in

1008
00:45:57,400 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 1: that house with your father, you go, oh, that's must

1009
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: be mom's fault, then not my dad's fault. Who's like,

1010
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: I hate them because they're different and you're not allowed

1011
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 1: to see them. Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time

1012
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: boy host. Here.

1013
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,359
Speaker 3: We're going to get back to the stories. But here's

1014
00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 3: three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

1015
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 2: It pains me, but I understand her anger and why

1016
00:46:20,120 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 2: she's upset. So I'm guessing since we got some homophobia

1017
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,720
Speaker 2: here and the word pop that they live in Michigan

1018
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:30,239
Speaker 2: or Ohio. Honestly, maybe Ohio, I can.

1019
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 4: Try and investigate.

1020
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I don't know.

1021
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 4: Okay, we have a little bit left.

1022
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,799
Speaker 2: Lots of things were said that children had to put

1023
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 2: on a second movie after the first, But in the end,

1024
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,760
Speaker 2: my wife did stand up for us and told Ruby

1025
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 2: that she loved her and felt very bad that she

1026
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:47,839
Speaker 2: wasn't there to see her grow up. But she also

1027
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 2: told Ruby that her not being there was not her

1028
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 2: fault and that she would allow any of her children

1029
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 2: to disrespect the family like that, and she felt that

1030
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 2: it was time for Ruby to go for now. My

1031
00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 2: wife did tell her that if she received counseling, and

1032
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 2: it's been a signeftic time trying to build a relationship

1033
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 2: with everyone, that she would be welcome back with open arms.

1034
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 2: We have a little bit left.

1035
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's person smart.

1036
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:12,680
Speaker 2: I love how everyone is creating a sports system for Ruby. Yeah,

1037
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:14,799
Speaker 2: keep it on arm's lengths. This is this is play

1038
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 2: by play, this is beautiful.

1039
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:19,279
Speaker 1: That was the exact framework I feel like should have

1040
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 1: been laid out.

1041
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 4: It's doing it with kindness. Like I said, they just

1042
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 4: like keep doing with kindness. It'll get to her.

1043
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't just say get out of here? Can't

1044
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 3: you tell nobody wants you or get get get out

1045
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 3: of here?

1046
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:29,759
Speaker 4: You go?

1047
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:34,600
Speaker 1: Hey, what you've been doing is really unacceptable and I

1048
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:38,120
Speaker 1: get it, but you can't come back until you make changes.

1049
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 1: How smart, and then once you make changes, you're in.

1050
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 1: It feels like a form of rehab, emotional rehab thespian

1051
00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 1: with an l rehab.

1052
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 2: As of now, Simon helped Ruby pack off her belongings

1053
00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 2: and brought them over to his apartment. Ruby refused to

1054
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 2: say anything to me the entire time, but did ask

1055
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 2: her mother if she could visit Simon and her at

1056
00:47:59,880 --> 00:48:03,320
Speaker 2: the apartment alone so they could talk privately without me present.

1057
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:05,480
Speaker 2: My wife told me yes, And I'm not sure how

1058
00:48:05,520 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 2: I feel about that being kept out of what was discussed,

1059
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 2: but I'm willing to sacrifice some peace and mind for

1060
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 2: my family to be able to heal.

1061
00:48:12,840 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 1: It's peace of mind, she said.

1062
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 2: End.

1063
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 1: I know I'm talking directly to her.

1064
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:19,800
Speaker 2: For now, I think things are on the mint. I

1065
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 2: believe in a calmer rule of threefold, which is to

1066
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 2: say that whatever you put out in the world comes

1067
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:28,080
Speaker 2: back to you threefold.

1068
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 3: Love you all all right?

1069
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 4: Three hundred dollars out there So.

1070
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 1: Many funny things we could say about that. That sounds

1071
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:38,040
Speaker 1: like a person that drives super So if you pee outside,

1072
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,360
Speaker 1: does that mean the next day you'll find three people

1073
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:42,720
Speaker 1: peeing outside.

1074
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 4: Or peeing on you?

1075
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 1: Or yeah, does that mean that one the outside you

1076
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 1: get peed on by three different creatures? Anyway?

1077
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was weird.

1078
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:53,080
Speaker 1: Good job everybody, Everyone did a good job in this story.

1079
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 2: I'm putting kids.

1080
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 1: Also, you can't really feel like you're being excluded from

1081
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:01,000
Speaker 1: that conversation with her biological children about all this stuff.

1082
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 2: You know, it just yeah, very unfair, very foundationally disruptive childhood.

1083
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:13,359
Speaker 2: But you're taking the steps to break that groundwork, break

1084
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 2: that foundation and rebuild it and repave it.

1085
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 4: Way not to give up. And I know it's like that.

1086
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:20,960
Speaker 4: So those you have to give up sometimes you do.

1087
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:23,680
Speaker 4: And you didn't have to. You didn't have to put

1088
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 4: in the work for Ruby, but you did.

1089
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: Where's the cops, Bro, where's the dad. Where's the dad

1090
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 1: who's responsible for ruining Ruby?

1091
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 2: Oh, he's off with the other wife.

1092
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, where's he?

1093
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 1: Where's he?

1094
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:37,800
Speaker 3: He needs to get it earful.

1095
00:49:38,160 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 2: I don't think he does.

1096
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 1: I think the best part of life is just living

1097
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 1: your best life and not having him involved in any way,

1098
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 1: shape or for well, I mean, if you can get

1099
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 1: it to come from him being like, yeah, I know,

1100
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:49,960
Speaker 1: I really messed up by saying all that to you.

1101
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 2: I don't think you will. That's the reason they're divorced.

1102
00:49:52,680 --> 00:49:55,160
Speaker 2: That's the reason why they're on different paths and lives.

1103
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:57,360
Speaker 2: I don't think he will ever say those words or

1104
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:01,360
Speaker 2: realize what he said, because he's he's saying his ex wife.

1105
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: Probably not.

1106
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 2: He caused a very great divide.

1107
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:07,720
Speaker 1: Where does Loan blur from their slur father?

1108
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 2: He created a childhood trojan horse? A child trojan horse.

1109
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 1: My sister's fiance is my ex, and I can't face

1110
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:18,400
Speaker 1: his parents.

1111
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 3: After our past.

1112
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 2: That is so complicated.

1113
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 1: So this is a mess. Anyways, My younger sisters getting

1114
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:26,359
Speaker 1: married next May.

1115
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:28,439
Speaker 3: Engaged just a few weeks ago.

1116
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:32,320
Speaker 1: She's coincidentally been dating my high school ex who I

1117
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 1: dated for three years between eighteen to twenty. I am

1118
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 1: now twenty seven. It was long enough ago that we're

1119
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 1: all on friendly terms and no one really finds it

1120
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 1: that's strange anymore. By the way, this comes from consistent

1121
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:47,840
Speaker 1: Librarian nine. If you want to submit your own stories,

1122
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

1123
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 4: I'm Dakota, I'm Riley, I'm Keon.

1124
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,920
Speaker 1: We're going to read this here's story. We're going to

1125
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 1: say things, things that might shock you. If you've got

1126
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 1: things to say of your own, go ahead and put

1127
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 1: him in the comments, because you can yell at your

1128
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:02,719
Speaker 1: screen all you want, but we can't hear you.

1129
00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 2: Can you have the comment and.

1130
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 1: Op says, my siss and her fiance still live in

1131
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:12,000
Speaker 1: our hometown of not that many people. I've moved away

1132
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,719
Speaker 1: since I turned twenty one. Whenever I come home, I

1133
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 1: basically only see my closest family and no one else.

1134
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:20,800
Speaker 1: I don't have the best reputation with some of the

1135
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 1: older generations, and I'm fully aware of this. This is important.

1136
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 4: Ooh, Opie's a rebel.

1137
00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: Oh p He's like, I don't ascribe to the traditions

1138
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 1: and values of previous generations and They're like, get her

1139
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:38,880
Speaker 1: thrower in the river, make her tap dance.

1140
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 2: Tap dance is fun?

1141
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:42,120
Speaker 3: Was tap dancing?

1142
00:51:42,160 --> 00:51:44,080
Speaker 1: Why do I feel like tap dancing started as an

1143
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:44,879
Speaker 1: impressive thing?

1144
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:45,440
Speaker 4: You know?

1145
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 3: It's like they may be irish, so tap dance?

1146
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,399
Speaker 2: Okay? Saw a lot of videos of people getting shot

1147
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:51,799
Speaker 2: out at their feet and had to tap dance.

1148
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, is that where that came from?

1149
00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:54,719
Speaker 2: No, I don't think.

1150
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 1: So here's throwing knives at your feet.

1151
00:51:57,280 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 2: Tory Lanze will try to do that with Megan.

1152
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,280
Speaker 1: So the issue I'm now facing is that I truly

1153
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 1: desperately do not want to see my sister's fiance's parents

1154
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 1: who hated me when we were dating.

1155
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 3: We had split on terrible terms.

1156
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,240
Speaker 1: My fault. I was in a bad place and cheated

1157
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:19,240
Speaker 1: on him in college. Oh but even though he doesn't

1158
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:22,319
Speaker 1: carry any kind of grudge anymore, everyone in town knows

1159
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:26,400
Speaker 1: his family despises me. Are you sure as they should?

1160
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 4: Are you sure he doesn't carry that grudge anymore because

1161
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 4: he's dating I don't know, I don't know your sister, gotcha?

1162
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 3: He's like, is he gonna cheat on your sister to

1163
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 3: get revenge at you?

1164
00:52:39,239 --> 00:52:40,640
Speaker 2: That's a good bot is in my head.

1165
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:42,400
Speaker 1: If he's deading the sister, it really does mean that

1166
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 1: he doesn't have a grudge, because if you did, why

1167
00:52:44,200 --> 00:52:46,600
Speaker 1: on earth would you still be around her?

1168
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 4: The world moves in a very interesting way.

1169
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, my sister recently called me about this very topic.

1170
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 1: She wanted to walk me through all the tricky pitfalls

1171
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:01,279
Speaker 1: of interacting with his parents and they still hate me

1172
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 1: and will probably say terrible things to me in public.

1173
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 2: Goodness gracious.

1174
00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:08,239
Speaker 1: She told me that his parents promised to be on

1175
00:53:08,400 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 1: good behavior, but that I shouldn't provoke them.

1176
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 4: Oh god, it sounds like, ope, you like to poke

1177
00:53:15,040 --> 00:53:15,560
Speaker 4: the bear?

1178
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. She is warning her she'd really

1179
00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 2: like to poke the bear. Probably would have. Hey asked

1180
00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 2: him this, ask him that really get things stirred up.

1181
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, I guarantee you. Oh he's like, but how

1182
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:28,719
Speaker 4: far can't like? How how much is too far? I

1183
00:53:28,760 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 4: don't know, keep going.

1184
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:33,320
Speaker 1: But no matter how much I insisted that was a

1185
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:36,319
Speaker 1: complete lie from them, my sister is still one hundred

1186
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 1: percent blind to how psychotic and dishonest his parents could be.

1187
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 1: So I sat on it for a few days, thinking

1188
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:45,920
Speaker 1: about all the crap they'll end up doing to me,

1189
00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 1: and it just ate at me so much I couldn't

1190
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:52,840
Speaker 1: sleep for two nights. I talked it through with friends

1191
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:55,759
Speaker 1: and my boyfriend, and eventually called my sister to tell

1192
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,040
Speaker 1: her that I don't know what to do because I

1193
00:53:58,120 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 1: might not be able to go to her wedding. If

1194
00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:03,840
Speaker 1: there's any chance, I'll be publicly humiliated and verbally battered

1195
00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 1: in front of hundreds and.

1196
00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 4: They will be just embarrassing themselves.

1197
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:08,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, bro, what are you talking about?

1198
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 4: I think I think Opie is a face the past.

1199
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 3: You just have to be like, oops, yeah, but I'm

1200
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:16,280
Speaker 3: not that person anymore.

1201
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, anyway, Uh, I hope you enjoy the wedding

1202
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:22,560
Speaker 1: and then you just disengage and then what who cares?

1203
00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:24,880
Speaker 2: Your adults? Opie was like.

1204
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, you knew this day was coming.

1205
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:28,760
Speaker 1: You're twenty seven.

1206
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 3: You're twenty seven.

1207
00:54:30,120 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 4: Everyone makes mistakes. That's not you anymore. Everyone has those days.

1208
00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 1: I just remembered a personal story. Oh in the Yeah, okay,

1209
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 1: speaking of mistakes, Well, I guess I shouldn't talk about

1210
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 1: that because I did technically commit a crime.

1211
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:43,040
Speaker 4: Don't talk about it.

1212
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 2: Finish your story.

1213
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, hold on, it's still loading. I have to reset it. Fully.

1214
00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 1: I got a text from somebody's mom once and it

1215
00:54:50,360 --> 00:54:53,319
Speaker 1: was like a high school drama text of blah blah

1216
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah blah, and I was just like, oh,

1217
00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: that's embarrassing. I didn't feel anything other than look at

1218
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 1: her go. I think I literally just responded with like, okay, was.

1219
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 2: She pretty high strong?

1220
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 4: Um?

1221
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 1: You know, she was just on her leg. She was

1222
00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 1: just being a high schooler. Literally, she was being high

1223
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:09,840
Speaker 1: school is what these parents would be doing. But you

1224
00:55:09,880 --> 00:55:12,839
Speaker 1: did cheat on their son, so they kind of they

1225
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: deserve you.

1226
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 4: Don't again before One last thing is why would the

1227
00:55:17,600 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 4: fiance your sister's fiance's parents focus on you when it's

1228
00:55:20,719 --> 00:55:22,560
Speaker 4: their son's wedding day. I think that's the last thing

1229
00:55:22,600 --> 00:55:24,120
Speaker 4: I wanted to want to do, was just like, you

1230
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:26,399
Speaker 4: know what, Yeah, let's let's focus on op.

1231
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:28,919
Speaker 2: Yeah that's true.

1232
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: Well I gently raised this with my sister, but she

1233
00:55:33,200 --> 00:55:35,359
Speaker 1: lost it. She said if I miss her wedding, then

1234
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 1: I should just never call her again because she won't

1235
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:39,960
Speaker 1: pick up. She thinks I should just suck it up

1236
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:42,239
Speaker 1: and let his parents do whatever they want to me

1237
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:44,799
Speaker 1: for her big day. I get where she's coming from.

1238
00:55:44,880 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 1: But I also feel like the cost is too high

1239
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 1: for the sake of my own mental sanity over the

1240
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:48,880
Speaker 1: next year.

1241
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

1242
00:55:49,840 --> 00:55:53,520
Speaker 1: Yeah? No, you're you're Yes, you're being childish, and you're

1243
00:55:53,560 --> 00:55:56,320
Speaker 1: making it about you because, like you said, it's like,

1244
00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:58,440
Speaker 1: are they really just gonna make Oh, it's time to

1245
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:00,360
Speaker 1: make our son's wedding about his that.

1246
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 3: Cheated on him?

1247
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:02,880
Speaker 4: Also, you're just assuming, Yeah.

1248
00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: You're just like they're gonna they're obsessed with me, and

1249
00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 1: they're gonna It's like, no, they'll probably just like be

1250
00:56:08,320 --> 00:56:09,719
Speaker 1: like hello and then ignore you.

1251
00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:15,719
Speaker 4: Truly, truly, I think Op's overthinking this to the extreme.

1252
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:18,840
Speaker 4: But they're gonna they're gonna put pigs blood on me,

1253
00:56:19,120 --> 00:56:21,440
Speaker 4: and they're gonna embarrass me and the entire town. No,

1254
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:23,760
Speaker 4: like they're gonna hate me. You don't live there anymore.

1255
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:26,440
Speaker 4: You left the town that already said that you you're

1256
00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 4: infamous for being you in I don't.

1257
00:56:29,040 --> 00:56:32,279
Speaker 2: Know consequences, and I mean, this isn't even that bad.

1258
00:56:32,320 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 2: It doesn't sound like they're coming for your throat.

1259
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:36,160
Speaker 4: Also, yeah, exactly, you cheated on him.

1260
00:56:36,560 --> 00:56:37,759
Speaker 1: You made this up.

1261
00:56:37,880 --> 00:56:39,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, you did this to yourself.

1262
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:42,120
Speaker 1: Op said, It's like, well, they don't know how psychotic

1263
00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:44,399
Speaker 1: and crazy the parents could be. It's like, well, maybe

1264
00:56:44,440 --> 00:56:48,239
Speaker 1: they get a little psychotic when you cheat on their son. Yeah,

1265
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:51,919
Speaker 1: and then I don't know, maybe not really take any

1266
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:53,439
Speaker 1: accountability for it at the time.

1267
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 4: Oh no, the town rebel is gonna be seemed like

1268
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 4: a town rebel anyway.

1269
00:56:58,080 --> 00:57:00,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a little bit more story here. Let's let's

1270
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 1: fin let's finish this story.

1271
00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:03,920
Speaker 4: Well, you have some I don't know, this is just

1272
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:08,440
Speaker 4: really irking me because it's been seven years. Maybe a

1273
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:12,200
Speaker 4: little bit more. Yeah, and you you literally brought this

1274
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:14,879
Speaker 4: problem up to your sister, and your sister said, yeah,

1275
00:57:14,920 --> 00:57:16,400
Speaker 4: it's it's clear.

1276
00:57:16,600 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 3: Just don't provoke the op literally started the story.

1277
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:21,880
Speaker 4: Oh no, I wanted to provoke them so bad.

1278
00:57:22,720 --> 00:57:24,640
Speaker 1: They're like, yeah, this was like a different time. We're

1279
00:57:24,640 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 1: like different, this is like a different life. But also

1280
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:29,439
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make my sister's wedding about how I'm gonna

1281
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,960
Speaker 1: be insulted by the parents of the man I cheated on. Anyway, Uh,

1282
00:57:33,040 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: to everyone asking why no one has told the parents

1283
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: to behave the parents are telling my sister and her

1284
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:39,840
Speaker 1: fiance that they won't say anything to me and will

1285
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 1: be perfectly sweet, but I know them well enough to.

1286
00:57:42,400 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 3: Know this is a complete and utter lie.

1287
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 4: Seven years.

1288
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 1: Ope, I need the I need the power Ball, and

1289
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 1: I need the lottery numbers. I need to know who's

1290
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:52,480
Speaker 1: gonna win the World Series next.

1291
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 2: Year, who's gonna win the playoffs.

1292
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 1: Who's gonna win Who's gonna be president in two years?

1293
00:57:56,880 --> 00:57:59,520
Speaker 1: I need to know. And I'm gonna make the ultimate parlay.

1294
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 1: They're gonna bring Joe Biden back again.

1295
00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 2: There we go, he still has another term.

1296
00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:06,040
Speaker 1: It's just gonna be Joe Biden and Trump forever. I

1297
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:08,800
Speaker 1: told my sister I thought they would lie, but she

1298
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:11,120
Speaker 1: has never seen their nasty side and totally believes them

1299
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: at their words. So now it makes me look like

1300
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 1: I'm bailing on her wedding for no reason at all,

1301
00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:16,960
Speaker 1: even though I know his parents won't resist talking down

1302
00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 1: to me if they see me.

1303
00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:18,800
Speaker 4: Dude, you suck.

1304
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 2: Is there an update?

1305
00:58:19,960 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 4: I want to check.

1306
00:58:20,800 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 3: There is no update. The verdict is a whole and

1307
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:24,680
Speaker 3: that is the end of that story.

1308
00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 2: I want to I want to see the update. I

1309
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:28,800
Speaker 2: want to see. If you cut off your sister from

1310
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 2: past decisions, it's just at some point in your life,

1311
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:34,280
Speaker 2: you're gonna have to come face to face with the

1312
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:37,000
Speaker 2: decisions you've made and you got to choose, and it

1313
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 2: seems like you're cowarding away from it.

1314
00:58:39,160 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 3: Well she just thinks.

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Speaker 1: She's like, well, my mind tells me that they're going

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Speaker 1: to do this, But she hasn't learned that your mind

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Speaker 1: is not a truth telling machine. Your mind is a

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Speaker 1: mind machine.

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Speaker 2: It does predict things from the past and tries to

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Speaker 2: make a pattern of what could happen in the future.

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Speaker 2: No update, But if you don't critically challenge yourself, you'll

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Speaker 2: be stuck in thinking that behavior. Some patterns show up

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Speaker 2: regularly and you don't you don't embrace or you don't

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Speaker 2: plan for sporadic things. Yeah, little soapbox I.

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Speaker 4: Stood on there, dude, But there was a thing where

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Speaker 4: OPI just said his parents are telling both of them

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Speaker 4: that they won't utter a peep to me, which are

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Speaker 4: which is such an obvious lie. But my sister and

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Speaker 4: her fiance will like believe them to you know. And

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Speaker 4: it's also like they won't be provoked the trap. Who

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Speaker 4: cares if they peep to you at all? Just shut

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Speaker 4: the hell up, swallow it and go yep, good to

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Speaker 4: see you.

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Speaker 1: I hope you enjoy the wedding and move on with

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Speaker 1: your freaking life because you're not the main character. This

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Speaker 1: is your sister's wedding, and you did cheat on that guy,

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Speaker 1: so they deserve to be as nasty to you as

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Speaker 1: they want.

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Speaker 3: So honestly, shut the hell up, move on.

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Speaker 4: He said, you don't know these people like I do.

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Speaker 4: I know when they're making an obvious lie, like this girl,

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Speaker 4: you haven't you dated this guy for three years and

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Speaker 4: you cheated on their son.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's an aggressive take.

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Speaker 4: The last thing their head is you.

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Speaker 2: Obi uh ash awesome. As she says, Obie thinks a

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Speaker 2: lot of herself. They didn't think about you after seven years,

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Speaker 2: so get over yourself. There is one of those things. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we'll see other comment.

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Speaker 4: There's a comment that it's like just calls her out

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Speaker 4: here that you are the A hole and uh it

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Speaker 4: has a lot of up.

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Speaker 2: Votes the a whole. But there's nothing we can do

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Speaker 2: to change this woman. I mean, she's gonna she's gonna

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01:00:19,800 --> 01:00:21,920
Speaker 2: pick a decision and I suppose she's gonna live with

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Speaker 2: And it doesn't really sounds like she's looking to thrive

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Speaker 2: in life. It's just kind of being complacent and comfortable.

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Speaker 2: And that's the comfortable choice, and she's her mind is

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01:00:30,480 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 2: telling her this is the most comforta choice is saying

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Speaker 2: that they're the villains, they're the bad guys, and I

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Speaker 2: don't have to do anything to combat that.

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Speaker 3: Oki.

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Speaker 2: You know what did?

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Speaker 4: Obi just ran away because she can't face the truth

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Speaker 4: that she is a bad person and she did bad things. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: you can change, but she doesn't want to go back

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Speaker 4: and be like those people know that I did bad things.

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Speaker 1: It's just all ridiculous her because even Opie's even like

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Speaker 1: I tried to gently tell my sister I won't go

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Speaker 1: to her wedding if her literal in laws talk to

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Speaker 1: me after, and it's like, yeah, if you don't go

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Speaker 1: to my wedding over that, I just don't even talk

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Speaker 1: to me. You're insane, Yeah, yeah, super weird.

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Speaker 4: They're in your head. You're in your head. They're in

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Speaker 4: your head. That's crazy. Yeah, it's been that long. You've

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01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:13,080
Speaker 4: moved on, you've moved away, you have a new life,

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01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 4: you have a new boyfriend, new partner, whatever, and the

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01:01:15,560 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 4: fact that you're like they're gonna be there, those are

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Speaker 4: my ops, Like they hate me because I cheated on

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Speaker 4: their son and they can do terrible things to me

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Speaker 4: because it's just some might say stuff to.

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Speaker 1: Me that's mean.

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Speaker 2: And if you if you want to ruin your relationship

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Speaker 2: with your sister over this, for it ultimately your choice,

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Speaker 2: do it. But guys, we got some comments before this

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Speaker 2: episode freaking ends. That was a frustrating episode in so

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Speaker 2: many ways, But we got some comments Dakota Okay.

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Speaker 1: These comments coming from the video my husband's best friend

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01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:47,160
Speaker 1: made AI explicit picks of me and his sister yikes,

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01:01:47,440 --> 01:01:50,120
Speaker 1: that was posted on May twenty ninth, twenty twenty six. Deal.

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01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:51,760
Speaker 1: The art for the first story is, oh, he found

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01:01:51,760 --> 01:01:55,400
Speaker 1: out her husband's childhood best friend had been making fake

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01:01:56,120 --> 01:01:59,760
Speaker 1: newdy AI videos of her using photos from her Instagram.

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01:01:59,880 --> 01:02:02,040
Speaker 1: And it wasn't just her. There were more than twenty

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Speaker 1: images and videos of his own family and his girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: There's also a twist that nobody saw coming, and if

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Speaker 1: you're curious to know this full story, you can go

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01:02:13,080 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 1: watch the full video.

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Speaker 4: We have some comments from that lovely video and that

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Speaker 4: lovely story. First comment here is from Jared TSM saying,

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Speaker 4: the scariest thing about that story is that this is

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01:02:23,280 --> 01:02:24,919
Speaker 4: probably more common than we all think.

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01:02:25,160 --> 01:02:29,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it is it is.

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01:02:29,600 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 4: It's sad computa. Another comment here by Macy Jude saying

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01:02:34,680 --> 01:02:37,640
Speaker 4: corn addiction is crazy, like how you try to label

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01:02:37,680 --> 01:02:40,360
Speaker 4: it as a normal thing. That's all guys do when

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01:02:40,400 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 4: it leads to more perverse levels like that dude literally

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01:02:43,600 --> 01:02:45,880
Speaker 4: looks at every woman in his life in that way.

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Speaker 2: Yep, it's really sad and it's really damaging to be

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01:02:49,160 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 2: sexualizing every single woman you look at. It is not healthy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it can't be good for your noodle.

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01:02:54,440 --> 01:02:55,840
Speaker 2: It's not good for your noodle. And if you do

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01:02:55,920 --> 01:02:57,720
Speaker 2: that for a couple of years, dude, you were you

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01:02:57,840 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 2: were frying your brain.

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Speaker 4: Another comment here by adj w or adj wind Do

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01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:07,000
Speaker 4: seventy saying they should have taken that guy's phone and

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01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:07,440
Speaker 4: gave it.

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Speaker 1: To the police honestly, Yeah, I mean give it to

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01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:12,720
Speaker 1: give it to his mom.

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01:03:13,960 --> 01:03:15,040
Speaker 2: Let let her handle it.

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01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 4: And the last comment is very funny. Uh. Samantha Kaylee

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Speaker 4: fifty four h nine says, in a singing tune, sweet Home, Alabama.

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Speaker 1: Sweet Home a pregnant mom. Yeah bound, Yeah, this isn't

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01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:32,920
Speaker 1: even I don't even know what this is. This is,

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01:03:33,080 --> 01:03:36,440
Speaker 1: this is something street is something else straight from hell. Bro.

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Speaker 4: Well that's end. Of those comments and the end of

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Speaker 4: this video.