1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,680 Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here. 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: It is the strong very letter, thank you, nep you listen. 3 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:11,040 Speaker 1: It says I'd rather say I don't instead if I do. 4 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:15,160 Speaker 1: That is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm getting married 5 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 1: soon and I do love my fiance with all my heart, 6 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: but there are some things that I really do not 7 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 1: like about him. I'm hoping that I'm just overthinking things 8 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 1: and I can get over them before our wedding. I'm 9 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: sure I do a lot of stuff that irritates him 10 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: and maybe even turns him off, but he has never 11 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: said anything. My fiance and I were raised differently, so 12 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: I have had to tell him the dudes and don't 13 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: tell a lot of things like manners, communication, respecting other space, etc. 14 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 1: I have had quite a few conversations with him about 15 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: his behavior that turned me off. For instance, he has 16 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: a full grown beard. He has grown a full beard lately, 17 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: and I don't like it because he never grooms it 18 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:05,680 Speaker 1: and sometimes has food or lint in it. I can't 19 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:09,039 Speaker 1: see his lips, and when we kiss it's scratchy. He 20 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:12,880 Speaker 1: also has a little nagging cough, like he always has 21 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:18,839 Speaker 1: a cold, but he does not He belches loudly wherever 22 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:22,039 Speaker 1: we are and says there's more room out than in 23 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 1: to excuse his lack of manners. When we're home, he 24 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: has no respect for my personal space, and he would 25 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: always walk in on me in the bathroom, so I've 26 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: had to lock myself in there. He uses my washcloth 27 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: and my towel and doesn't understand how nasty that is. 28 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: Whether we are in love or not, his behavior really 29 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:46,919 Speaker 1: grosses me out, and I'm having second thoughts about living 30 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 1: with someone that doesn't understand how irritating he is. I'm 31 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: sick of telling him the same thing. Should I postpone 32 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: the wedding until he can pull it together? Or am 33 00:01:56,160 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: I just overreacting? What should I do? You? Oh? All right? 34 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: First of all, manners, I mean it's hard to teach 35 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: a grown person manners. I mean those are manners are 36 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 1: things you learn when you're children, and stuff you know 37 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 1: from your parents, things like that. This letter is nasty. 38 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: I mean, no, you're not overreacting. This is a man 39 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: who is who he is, and this is going on 40 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 1: before you get married. So please be clear that you 41 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: can't change a man. I mean, so please don't be 42 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: marrying him thinking that you know you're gonna be able 43 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: to change him. You've told him, and he's still doing 44 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: the same things. I mean, using your towels and not 45 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 1: keeping his beard groomed and you know, Belchi and all 46 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: of what's he doing. So, I mean, you know, a 47 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 1: lot of women marry a man and they think after 48 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: the fact of if there are things that they don't 49 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 1: like before that once they get married, they'll change. That's 50 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: not the case. And a lot of women think that. 51 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 1: But you can't change a man. He'll only change if 52 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: he wants to do it for you. I mean, Steve 53 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: says that all the time. And I think cleanliness and 54 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 1: good hygiene and good manners, all that kind of stuff, 55 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: especially cleanliness and good hygiene, those are deal breakers for 56 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: most people, uh most people, they are, So yes, I 57 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: do think you should postpone the wedding at the very 58 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: least until you guys can come to some sort of 59 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:27,239 Speaker 1: agreement here, work something out, because this is just going 60 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:30,239 Speaker 1: to build when you get married and build. It's always 61 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: those little things that you know, make you definitely want 62 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: to say I don't instead of I do, Steve, Wow, 63 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: they are proud, I don't no, tell him I'm struggling 64 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: with this man. I want to I don't know what 65 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 1: to hell, I'm gonna try to find it, but right 66 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: now I'm a little stock. You know, Let's go at 67 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: the beginning. I'd rather say I don't instead I do. Man, 68 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: what is we talking about? I do? FOLDI just gonna 69 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: say I don't. If you would rather say I don't 70 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: than I do, then why the hell is we discussing 71 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: I do. I'm getting married too. I do love my 72 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,119 Speaker 1: fiance with all my heart. What's some things I really 73 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: don't like about it? I hope I'm just overthinking things. 74 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 1: I can't get over him before I wed. Now, she 75 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 1: said I do a lot of stuff. I'm pretty sure 76 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:28,279 Speaker 1: he irritates him, but he ain't say nothing to me 77 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 1: about it because y'all was raised difference. So you say, 78 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:35,159 Speaker 1: so you gotta talk to him all the damn time. 79 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: So you're talking too much. There's a lot of conversations 80 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: about some basics, you know, simple stuff like manners, respecting 81 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: other space communication. So you had a bunch of conversation 82 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,799 Speaker 1: with this man. Now let's get into what's wrong. For example, 83 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 1: he didn't grown a full bid lately, and I don't 84 00:04:56,800 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: like it because he don't groom it. You know what 85 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,799 Speaker 1: that means. You don't comb me, he don't brush it, 86 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: you donna pick it. He's just on his face. It's 87 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: just how on his face. He'd be sitting up that 88 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: thinking with his head in his hand, but it being 89 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:18,040 Speaker 1: a half getting mashed up. He got it mattic down. 90 00:05:18,520 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: It looked like a corn rose and looked like dredge. 91 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 1: It looked like it ain't picked. It look unkept. And 92 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:29,359 Speaker 1: then on top of all that, sometime he's got food 93 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: in it. Naw, damn, damn dog. What you're not been 94 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:36,479 Speaker 1: to do? And sit over here and talk to me 95 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: with this egg in your dog? No, you're gonna stop talking. Hey, hey, pardon, hey, hey, 96 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 1: you got chicken in your beard. We just sit here. 97 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:58,120 Speaker 1: Took a man. Get that damn gravy off your down, man, dog, Hey, dog, dog, dog, 98 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:02,040 Speaker 1: wipe your you got around your mouth? Now it's in 99 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 1: your bed. Now he got lit in it. Yeah, just 100 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: been in here, just got paper, tile and cotton all 101 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 1: on him. Look like he looked he used coming through 102 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: a cotton file trying to get to the north. Now 103 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: he just standing there looking crazy. Yeah, I've had all 104 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: these conversations with him, and then he don't ever glooming, 105 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: and then sometimes not only food and lit it. I 106 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: can't see his lips when we kiss. I don't know 107 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:34,919 Speaker 1: how long you can look at the limp before you 108 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: end up kissing knowing how that disappeared on it. You 109 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:40,600 Speaker 1: know when you move in forward kissing at one point 110 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:43,280 Speaker 1: where you can't see the lips, but but you can't 111 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 1: see his lips and it scratch it. Yeah, now he 112 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: go to park. That scare me a little bit. He 113 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: got a little nag and cough like he had got 114 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: a cold, but he ain't got no cold. Well, what 115 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: the hell he got in? Well? I see now we 116 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:00,480 Speaker 1: need to talk about this hill. He got an nagging 117 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:03,120 Speaker 1: cough like he ain't like he got a cold, but 118 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: he ain't got a cold. That's why we're not getting 119 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 1: mad at because I don't know what this unknown ass disease? 120 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: You not what the hell we're gonna find out? Well, 121 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: I don't give a damn about all the food in 122 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 1: your face. I'm trying to figure out what the hell 123 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: you coughing from. Don'tbody know what it is? All right? 124 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: Hang on, Steve, hang on, Let's recap today's strawberry letter. 125 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: I'd rather say I don't instead of I do so 126 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: then don't, yeah, because right now this letters a mess. 127 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 1: She had little, this fiance she really loved with all 128 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 1: this hard and she does some things that they're aggravating 129 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: this woman, but she says she thinks she does some 130 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: stuff that's aggravating him too. I got ready to say 131 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: I bet you do, but then you started describing the 132 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: things that's wrong. And one of the things you don't 133 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: like a this new bid he didn't grow because he 134 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: don't grow me. He brushing it in, combing it, He 135 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: don't shampoo it, he don't or it. It's jet hell 136 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 1: on his damn face. Now we don't know what this looking. 137 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: If it's maddt Steve, I don't know if he'd a 138 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 1: braided it, what sh Can I just say, you had 139 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:14,119 Speaker 1: a beard recently, you cut it off. It looked great. 140 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: You took very good care of your beard. Every yes, 141 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: kept all shampoo or everything. That ain't what he doing. 142 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:28,040 Speaker 1: We wouldn't even have this letter exact. This food got 143 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 1: lit and food in it, eggs, sausage, cheese, he got 144 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:40,559 Speaker 1: he just walked around, damn Delhi in his damn instit 145 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: up here talking all you can see your food falling out. 146 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: This damn beard he didn't got on. Now that all 147 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:49,959 Speaker 1: that's funky, but hit a part that threw me on. 148 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: Can't see his little to any kids. It scratchy. But 149 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 1: he has a little nagging cough like he always has 150 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 1: a cold, but he does not. You cough like you 151 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: got a cold, but it ain't a cold. What the 152 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 1: hell is you? Man? His sick ass and you don't 153 00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:13,439 Speaker 1: know what the hell he got. You need to do 154 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 1: some blood work. It's what you need to get him. 155 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 1: Damn a shade. You need some damn blood work. You 156 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: need somebody to look at it. He benches loudly wherever 157 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:27,680 Speaker 1: we are, says this mo room out than in Damn 158 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:31,559 Speaker 1: that belching now when we home. He's got no respect 159 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 1: from my personal space. He walked in on me when 160 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 1: I'm in the bathroom. Lock you'll don't yea with the 161 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: damn door opening, he gonna walk in. Hey baby, hey baby, 162 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 1: hell you see men shut that, don't you see me? 163 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: Pants around my ankle inside of hill? See how to 164 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: lift these matches and got this water running in hill? 165 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: Get away from him. Stand up in there talking like 166 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:06,439 Speaker 1: ain't nothing going on, but damn all that. Why is 167 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 1: he confed? And we don't know what you got this 168 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 1: blood work? Because this feel right him coffing, and don't 169 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: nobody know what it is? That's something else. Now you 170 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: need to get some blood work done on his ass. 171 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: He uses my washcloth and tile and don't understand how 172 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: nasty that is. Hell no, you don't know. Just in here, 173 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 1: just got your tie between his legs, just say, you know, 174 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: you take the pin time pretty tween your legs and 175 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 1: start what are you doing with it? What you think? 176 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: Then she laying on the floor. It's damn the levitating 177 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:59,800 Speaker 1: on the floe because it's so strong that tie. All 178 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:04,200 Speaker 1: crack sawing it back and forth and throwing it on 179 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:08,319 Speaker 1: the floor. It is levitating. It's two inches off the 180 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:11,520 Speaker 1: ground because the marble don't want it on that. The 181 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 1: heat from the towel it's got, the heat waves got 182 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 1: it up off the floor when you get from the 183 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 1: sawing it. You need some damn lab work on his 184 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:37,439 Speaker 1: just using your washcloth and his towel. Then handed and 185 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: hang it back up there. Let it dry. You know 186 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:44,440 Speaker 1: how that thing smell when it dry. Now it's rotten 187 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:48,559 Speaker 1: to the coat sitting up Why you man is nasty 188 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 1: until breaking? Man much in love with no damn. But 189 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: I don't give a damn. If I do love you, 190 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: we out of love. Yeah, I don't even care. You 191 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 1: don't get my washcloth from get out from the back 192 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: of your ass. Wait a minute, Hold up, wait, waitmen, 193 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: I know you boy? Is that my watch? What is you? 194 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: That's a face cloth? Him cheeks your face cheeks. It's 195 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: for your car. Now the ass sitting up in here? 196 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: What is this cofi back? Sick of you coughing? Now? 197 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 1: You ain't got no card? What is you got? Harol? 198 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:46,960 Speaker 1: Answer me? What is you got? Yeah? Sick it is? 199 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 1: I don't won't know TV. What did you do? You 200 00:12:51,800 --> 00:13:01,839 Speaker 1: ain't gonna down all that damn food in your bed. 201 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 1: You're sitting up in here. If you put my watch, 202 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:06,679 Speaker 1: get your tie, take my tie out between the legs, 203 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: take my tild between your nuns. That's your towel. I 204 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:18,560 Speaker 1: don't want to tie. I'm gonna get some fresh tiles 205 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: all my all My toils didn't be pink. Don't touch pink. 206 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 1: Lead the damn pink tiles alone. Caugh again. You're not shaving? 207 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,920 Speaker 1: Hell were divorce it. Yeah, I'm not man, You're sick ass. 208 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:43,959 Speaker 1: You got Tubergolosan, got the wash by your ass somewhere. 209 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:46,559 Speaker 1: You just stuck my tie tween your legs and you 210 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 1: just saw back and forth. Now the tiler's over. That 211 00:13:50,280 --> 00:14:00,719 Speaker 1: levitating in the corner called forget. That's what I get. Help. 212 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: Oh god, it is some lad work, all right. Listen, Please, guys, 213 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 1: email us your Instagram us your thoughts on today's nasty 214 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:22,600 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, or you can check 215 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:26,640 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're listening to 216 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 1: the Steve Morning Show.