Speaker 1: So let's talk about the Kardashians and this disaster. They
Speaker 1: have been getting a lot of heat because they donated
Speaker 1: things from Costco and people are saying, you can buy Costco.
Speaker 1: They donated meals from a restaurant to a fire station,
Speaker 1: and that's a drop in the bucket.
Speaker 2: You're all billionaires.
Speaker 1: And then they donated money after no and then they
Speaker 1: promoted Skims at the worst possible time and people were enraged.
Speaker 1: And then they donated money from Skims, you know, to
Speaker 1: frost it, which people are very smart. People caught on.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not saying they're right about it. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying people caught on. They said the devil works hard,
Speaker 1: but Chris Janner works harder.
Speaker 2: Okay. So they have.
Speaker 1: Gotten dragged not because they did anything so drastically wrong,
Speaker 1: because they donated. You know, we don't get to count
Speaker 1: other people's money and tell them what to do. They
Speaker 1: got dragged for having private firefighters at their house. And
Speaker 1: I saw someone at social media saying, what is money?
Speaker 1: Why did you make money and build this house so
Speaker 1: you're not gonna protect it? You know, it doesn't they're
Speaker 1: not firefighters that would be working on the big fires.
Speaker 1: So you can split the difference. It's not a great look.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you might not do it if
Speaker 1: you had the money. It doesn't mean that they're wrong.
Speaker 1: It just means that it's like, all together, not a
Speaker 1: great look. Now, I'm not against them. I have met Chloe,
Speaker 1: she's lovely. I've met Cordy she was fine. I met Kylie,
Speaker 1: she was We did not really, she didn't really say anything.
Speaker 1: I've met Chris, she was fine. And I've met Kim
Speaker 1: and she was nice. And I hear that, you know,
Speaker 1: Kim is a very nice person and on time, and
Speaker 1: like they're very hard workers. They are entrepreneurs. They are
Speaker 1: very successful, they are very smart. They have really monetized it,
Speaker 1: and everybody gave them their flowers and their money, fair
Speaker 1: and square. But the age of elitism being over, it
Speaker 1: is sticking out like it is glaring, the era of
Speaker 1: I'm up here, you're down there, the flaunting of wealth,
Speaker 1: all of these things I said on this podcast when
Speaker 1: I was just done and I was just full, I
Speaker 1: just thought, we cannot support this flaunting. This I'm a
Speaker 1: humble brag on a yacht, this lifestyle, These kids that
Speaker 1: think that you have to be in full beat hair
Speaker 1: and makeup twenty four hours a day, and your waist
Speaker 1: has to be sinched it and you have to have
Speaker 1: extensions on, and you need to all look exactly the
Speaker 1: same and your clones and then everybody had got the
Speaker 1: BBL butts. But then the Kardashians all presumably went on
Speaker 1: something to lose weight at the same time, and then
Speaker 1: their bodies are smaller, so everybody goes that way. And
Speaker 1: then we lose sixteen pounds in a week from Marilyn
Speaker 1: Monroe and like, you know, to wear that outfit. It's
Speaker 1: just all seems so superficial at this time, which is
Speaker 1: ironically hiding Montag's song that's gone viral and it's not
Speaker 1: superficial at all, So I'll get into that too. But people,
Speaker 1: not even me, I don't care. I don't know what
Speaker 1: they're doing. People have been waterboarded with this flaunting of
Speaker 1: luxury and with all of this tragedy, and with just
Speaker 1: the social media being about being real and not authentic,
Speaker 1: with them not fully translating, you know, on certain apps
Speaker 1: to the same level that they have on the more
Speaker 1: superficial look at me apps, or just the average person
Speaker 1: just doesn't want to hear about and see it. It's
Speaker 1: just too unrelatable and it's part of the elitism, the
Speaker 1: age of elitism being over, celebrity being over. It's just shifted.
Speaker 1: And they had an incredible decade long run. It was
Speaker 1: an era. It's an entire era. What they've done is
Speaker 1: will be studied in business books. But the audience has
Speaker 1: just said enough. And I predicted this. I predicted this
Speaker 1: on this very podcast in the Hamptons. I was in
Speaker 1: my basement and I said, we need a Kardashian klened,
Speaker 1: We need a Kardashian intervention. We don't need the humble
Speaker 1: brags and listen. I was on a show that was
Speaker 1: about the age of elitism. The housewives have jumped the shark.
Speaker 1: The views are abysmal because the age of elitism is over.
Speaker 1: Having the twelve thousand dollars Barkin is not relatable. Putting
Speaker 1: it on television like a character, and you know, sitting
Speaker 1: it in front of a camera and showing its price
Speaker 1: underneath and might as well and naming it is not
Speaker 1: and calling them her is not relatable. And it used
Speaker 1: to be aspirational and now it's just pretty vile. And
Speaker 1: I have a lot of luxury goods. I have a
Speaker 1: watch collection. Okay, I have beautiful homes. I have had
Speaker 1: all the bags. Like maybe out of insecurity, maybe out
Speaker 1: of flexing, maybe out of the game, maybe out of competition,
Speaker 1: maybe out of showing off on television, maybe out of
Speaker 1: being on the Housewives. This is what I'm wearing competition.
Speaker 1: You know, Denise Richards went on The Housewives with shorts
Speaker 1: and a tank to up and they looked at her
Speaker 1: like she was a fucking alien. Because people are wearing
Speaker 1: ball gowns in their basements when no one's gonna see them,
Speaker 1: when they're shooting scenes on vacation, like not their basements
Speaker 1: but their balconies. Like it's just it's performative, and that's fine.
Speaker 1: That's what it is. It's an art form. It's now
Speaker 1: a different show. It's now theatrics great. It's just not
Speaker 1: landing because people don't want to see a vile, vulgar
Speaker 1: display of wealth anymore. They just don't want to. You know,
Speaker 1: I sol fifty handbags. I have the receipts to prove it.
Speaker 1: I am about to make a sizeable donation to be strong.
Speaker 1: But I believe it's going to be North Carolina because
Speaker 1: we're gonna get into North Carolina. I'm not a hero.
Speaker 1: I am wealthy. I have a lot of things. I
Speaker 1: fly first class. I'm not you know, moving into a box.
Speaker 1: I didn't lose my house. I'm just saying that there's
Speaker 1: a line of where people want to see the highs
Speaker 1: and lows and what something costs and know what it is.
Speaker 1: Because there are wealthy people that want to buy some
Speaker 1: of the things that you have, and then there's the
Speaker 1: affordable things and you don't have to perform any of that.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying there's a line where it becomes vulgar
Speaker 1: and it becomes flaunting, and it becomes I'm rich and
Speaker 1: you're not. And the problem is that they're not going
Speaker 1: to be able to win for losing because if they
Speaker 1: then wear in expensive things, it's going to be a costplay.
Speaker 1: You know, they're going into Target, it's a costplay. They
Speaker 1: can't win for losing. So I guess that's why the
Speaker 1: Kardashians have been quieter with a K than ever. They
Speaker 1: have been quieter than ever. You know it, it's not
Speaker 1: just because the media doesn't report on them as much,
Speaker 1: which they've just been quieter than ever because they know
Speaker 1: that they have to stay quiet and this time where
Speaker 1: no one has the bandwidth for luxury and astronomical displays
Speaker 1: of wealth. And I'm not I don't hate the player
Speaker 1: hate the game, you know, don't hate the player at
Speaker 1: the game.
Speaker 2: I'm not. I'm not criticizing them. I'm really not.
Speaker 1: I'm speaking to what people are digesting and what people
Speaker 1: are talking about. Walmart Burkin broke the Internet. Okay, what
Speaker 1: is the Walmart Burkin? The Walmart Burkin is a bag
Speaker 1: that is a knockoff of an air mez bag that
Speaker 1: does not have the logo, that has an additional strap,
Speaker 1: that is made in China, that has just been put
Speaker 1: on the Amazon website. A third party market plays just
Speaker 1: I mean a marketplace that sells third party merchandise. So
Speaker 1: Walmart took the entire media blitz for this when Amazon
Speaker 1: has been doing it for years, and they do it
Speaker 1: wider and deeper. Amazon is Chinatown, just so you know.
Speaker 1: Amazon is Chinatown. It is knockoff central for any and everything.
Speaker 1: Walmart just it became a good sound to say that
Speaker 1: there's a Walmart Burkin. And Amazon and Walmart do roughly
Speaker 1: the same revenue, like six hundred and fifty million dollars
Speaker 1: a year approximately, and there could be an intellectual property issue,
Speaker 1: although there probably isn't because if Amazon has been doing
Speaker 1: it so wide and deep for so long, then I
Speaker 1: don't think there's an intellectual property issue with Walmart. Maybe
Speaker 1: their supplier ran out of bags, which is why they
Speaker 1: sold out. It's been everywhere. It literally broke the internet.
Speaker 1: But here's the bigger picture, and here's what it means.
Speaker 1: Here's what was happening as a residual effect. What was
Speaker 1: happening was the wealthiest of women in a panic, are
Speaker 1: in a panic, needing to tell on social media why
Speaker 1: the Walmart? Why the air Mes burkin is so much
Speaker 1: more elea, Why the craftsmanship, Why the stitching, Why the leather. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's a twelve one hundred dollars bag compared to an
Speaker 1: eighty five dollars bag, so it's fairly lost on people
Speaker 1: when they're like, oh, this has strong saddle restitching. People like, right,
Speaker 1: I'm putting my shit in it. My tried end is
Speaker 1: going to be at the bottom of the bag and
Speaker 1: I'm going to drop, you know, have a bottle of water.
Speaker 2: It's going to open there.
Speaker 1: Like that's what people are actually saying, but what's more
Speaker 1: important is the people that can afford it, that can't
Speaker 1: afford a burkin, which is everyone went in and.
Speaker 2: Stormed the castle.
Speaker 1: There's a pride to this also, where they didn't want
Speaker 1: to have a knockoff. They don't want to have a
Speaker 1: bag that says Airmes on it. Then their friends are like,
Speaker 1: what are you doing. You're wearing a fake bag that
Speaker 1: you can't afford, because that's not dignified, and that's you know, shame,
Speaker 1: and you feel like you don't belong. Walmart gave everyone
Speaker 1: licensed belong Walmart set. It doesn't have a label on it,
Speaker 1: and it has a strap. It's your bag, far and square.
Speaker 1: It's eighty five dollars. You get to wear it. So
Speaker 1: they have been storming the castle and saying to the
Speaker 1: rich people, guess what, we're here too. It's absolutely a
Speaker 1: problem for Aaron Mez no matter what they say, it
Speaker 1: has to be and it's a marketing problem.
Speaker 2: And the bigger.
Speaker 1: Picture of that is that it's the age of elitism
Speaker 1: is over, the age of celebrity is over, the age
Speaker 1: of I'm up here, you're down here is over. The
Speaker 1: age of luxury goods. In many cases as we knew
Speaker 1: it is over. There's a pride in people having a dupe.
Speaker 1: Now now, I believe in celebrating the original designer. I believe,
Speaker 1: and I started this thing on social media called handbag University.
Speaker 1: I believe that these people that can afford the eighty
Speaker 1: five dollars bag should not be buying a knockoff because
Speaker 1: they're sticking it to the man that they hate. So
Speaker 1: it's a person you hate, you're maybe jealous of you
Speaker 1: you can't afford to be with, you know, or the
Speaker 1: item you can't afford to have, and now you're wearing it.
Speaker 1: So it's like you hate it, but you're wearing it.
Speaker 1: People could say that about me with Chanel, but I
Speaker 1: I would take such a financial loss on the things
Speaker 1: that I own and I get it. So I'm saying,
Speaker 1: by the way, wear the knockoff if you want, don't
Speaker 1: wear the knock off if you don't want. I'm not judging.
Speaker 1: I'm saying handbag University is about finding phenomenal bags that
Speaker 1: are so affordable, like thirty dollars forty dollars, so we
Speaker 1: could feel proud and not have a bag that just
Speaker 1: has a triangle on it to make us feel secure
Speaker 1: and ABCDEFGHI letter l V letter on it, just to
Speaker 1: make us feel secure. Because I've seen tank tops of
Speaker 1: triangles that people are paying hundreds of dollars for. It's
Speaker 1: a tank top, it has a fifty cent triangle on it.
Speaker 1: So everybody's lost their mind. And the age of elitism
Speaker 1: is over in celebrity and in certainly in luxury goods.
Speaker 1: And we'll get into that more later. I just want
Speaker 1: to say, I don't want someone perfect, but I want
Speaker 1: someone new with tags. Like if I see someone and
Speaker 1: I see the pink flags, the red flags, and I
Speaker 1: realize that they have a stain, have this damage, have
Speaker 1: this problem, have this thing in the beginning when it's
Speaker 1: the new car smell.
Speaker 2: I don't want that. I want a relationship to be new.
Speaker 2: With tags.
Speaker 1: It will get stain, it will get dirty, it will
Speaker 1: become damage. But if somebody comes in and I'm dating
Speaker 1: them and they have they're already defective merchandise where someone's
Speaker 1: going to sell it for twenty percent off put it back.
Speaker 2: What do I mean?
Speaker 1: You meet someone their texting communication is bizarre. They sort
Speaker 1: of ghost for a while, they disappear, They have some sketch,
Speaker 1: they have a background, there are red flags. People tell
Speaker 1: you things, you find out things. They are not making
Speaker 1: you feel good, they're not taking care of you, they're
Speaker 1: not an equal partner. Whatever it is. You know, it's
Speaker 1: different for everyone. You know, you make excuses for them,
Speaker 1: You make excuses, you market it new with tags.
Speaker 2: You do not need.
Speaker 1: And I don't mean damaged goods like someone has is
Speaker 1: divorced with children.
Speaker 2: That's not damaged goods. That's beautiful.
Speaker 1: I don't mean someone has suffers from anxiety. I don't
Speaker 1: mean that. I mean someone is just not meeting you
Speaker 1: where you're at. Okay, and it could be it could
Speaker 1: be because of something they've been through. I suppose, you know,
Speaker 1: timing is everything. You're not going to meet someone the
Speaker 1: second after they get divorced or after they you know,
Speaker 1: went bankrupt or something that's that's a trauma experience like
Speaker 1: something like that, but new with.
Speaker 2: Tags, especially for the young ones.
Speaker 1: Okay, I want to talk about gas lighting in relationships
Speaker 1: because I think it's an overused word, but it's also
Speaker 1: an under used word. It's an underused concept. I am
Speaker 1: so grateful for that word that years ago. I think
Speaker 1: I'm housewives. Someone said it, or someone said it at
Speaker 1: a reunion and I didn't really understand it. It's used
Speaker 1: for like, wait, you know, you're pushing that on me,
Speaker 1: and when it's really you, You're it's a turnaround whatever.
Speaker 1: I have to tell you that, I think in relationships
Speaker 1: it is so overused, not the term but the practice.
Speaker 1: So I'm talking to ladies, I think men and women. No,
Speaker 1: I'm talking to everyone. So I'm talking to you guys,
Speaker 1: men and women. When you're in a relationship and you
Speaker 1: trust your gut, or you're dating someone and you trust
Speaker 1: your gut and you know that what you're feeling is
Speaker 1: correct and valid, and after you talk to someone or
Speaker 1: convey that, somehow, the pile of shit is dumped on
Speaker 1: you and you don't have clarity. You actually think you
Speaker 1: did something wrong, or you start to understand, or you
Speaker 1: reshift and you remarket the situation. You've been gas lit,
Speaker 1: and it's very hard to have the self control to
Speaker 1: not allow that, and it's very hard to not be
Speaker 1: steamrolled and to not yourself feel guilty and start apologizing
Speaker 1: for something you didn't even do.
Speaker 2: It's the turnaround.
Speaker 1: It's somebody cheats on you and then they tell you
Speaker 1: that you haven't been there for them, that you haven't
Speaker 1: been communicating, that you never dress sexy, that you let yourself.
Speaker 2: Go something like that. That's gaslighting, right like.
Speaker 1: It's the turnaround when someone does something that's not correct,
Speaker 1: that's rude, that's ungrateful, and you express that it hurt
Speaker 1: you or that you don't like it, and they tell you,
Speaker 1: do you not realize what I'm going through? You're so
Speaker 1: insensitive right now? Or justifies what they did and says,
Speaker 1: I mean that wasn't that bad. I mean, come on,
Speaker 1: and then puts it on, dumps it on you. Don't
Speaker 1: dump your pile of shit on me. So do not
Speaker 1: let anyone dump their pile of shit on you what
Speaker 1: you feel. If you're saying if you have a history
Speaker 1: of you know, being irrational or flying off the handle,
Speaker 1: or going half cocked or not thinking before you speak,
Speaker 1: that's a different thing. Please be honest with yourself. If
Speaker 1: you are a rational, sane person that is calm, cool
Speaker 1: and collected, your feelings are valid. And if your gut
Speaker 1: usually serves you right at work in other areas, then
Speaker 1: your feelings are valid. And if someone makes you feel crazy,
Speaker 1: they've likely gaslight you. So it's not a great term
Speaker 1: right now because of the fires. But you put out
Speaker 1: that fire and you don't tolerate that, and it's a
Speaker 1: red it's a flaming red flag.