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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome back to the show. I'm Eli, I'm Diana,

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Speaker 1: and we have a very exciting episode today, one of

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Speaker 1: other trashy episodes. Yeah, now, yeah, yeah, I'll skip all

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Speaker 1: those come straight to this one. This is where it

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Speaker 1: all starts, episodes, and this is where look. We found

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Speaker 1: that in the Japanese city of Kyoto, a travel agency

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Speaker 1: made headlines with some truly ridiculous news about romance. So

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Speaker 1: we had to call him the experts and we have

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Speaker 1: with us here today. Are Very, very excited that we

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Speaker 1: have the hosts of ridiculous news, Mark Kendall and Bill Warley.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the show, guys. Oh Man, is so exciting

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Speaker 1: to be here. Big Fan of the show ridiculous romance.

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Speaker 1: I love listening to you all. Uh, love the love,

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Speaker 1: you all so much for having us all the way

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Speaker 1: from the other ridiculous studio, I mean so many ridiculous

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Speaker 1: on here, big fans. That breaker gets crowded, does just

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Speaker 1: a bunch of ridiculous people being well, we talked about

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Speaker 1: the ridiculous universe all the time on our show, but

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Speaker 1: ridiculous news. So will you please tell us about your

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Speaker 1: show and yourselves? Absolutely all right. So ridiculous news. It's

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Speaker 1: a podcast in the ridiculous universe. We put out two

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Speaker 1: episodes a week and we try to do our best

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Speaker 1: that news can sometimes be a downer. So every every

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Speaker 1: Monday we put out a deep dive episode, and so

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Speaker 1: that's kind of like a deep dive into, uh, any

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Speaker 1: you know, we recently did a deep dive about potato

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Speaker 1: So one I really enjoyed was we talked with Indian

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Speaker 1: and so that's like an example of a deep dive episode.

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Speaker 1: Then every Thursday we do what's called a weekly roundup episode.

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Speaker 1: so like the deep dive, we talked about potato chips,

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Speaker 1: there's just a cool fifty just for those five chips.

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Speaker 1: That means a lot to me. All right. Well, thanks

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Speaker 1: other other projects online. No, we do have a really

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Speaker 1: glad that we have so many folks to talk about. People,

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Speaker 1: holding marriages for salogamy. And if you don't know what

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Speaker 1: slogamy is, break down this word a little bit. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: Diana got some stories to tell. There's no matchmaking, no

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Speaker 1: What is it? What's going on here? BRIDES DOT COM says, quote, sologamy,

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Speaker 1: autogamy or self marriage is a symbolic ceremony where you

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Speaker 1: We want citizens who are self actualized. You remind it's

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Speaker 1: it goes, honey. Now Brides Dot com says that, just

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Speaker 1: like traditional weddings, sylygamous weddings can be all kinds of

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Speaker 1: back here, promoting these articles. But still, I love I

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Speaker 1: love these concepts. UH, yeah, folks, take care of yourself,

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Speaker 1: don't call yourself ugly. I mean, yeah, getting up in

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Speaker 1: front of a group of people saying like I will

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Speaker 1: no longer call myself ugly. That's a pretty powerful thing

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Speaker 1: to do if that's something that you've struggled with. I mean,

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Speaker 1: that'd be a pretty old, vulnerable move for sure. You,

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Speaker 1: I mean, even to look in a mirror and say

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Speaker 1: it to yourself, like look in your eyes and say

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Speaker 1: something like that. I feel I could easily make you

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Speaker 1: cry and commit to your own happiness and, yeah, and

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Speaker 1: self esteem in that way, creating a whole life event

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Speaker 1: out of that. How could you not be reminded of

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Speaker 1: that constantly and just sort of carry that forward with you,

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Speaker 1: you know, because you know you could say I still

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Speaker 1: say a little nice things to myself, like Oh, you're

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Speaker 1: not so stupid all the time, time or whatever, and

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Speaker 1: then you find yourself next week on that I'm so

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Speaker 1: stupid thinking. But really making a big deal out of it,

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Speaker 1: sort of like bringing everyone in, like you said, mark,

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Speaker 1: and just publicly saying I'm, I'm, I'm saying good things

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Speaker 1: about myself in that kind of ceremony. That's gonna lay

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Speaker 1: engaging all your senses in that way, because you're in

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Speaker 1: a certain outfit and you're in a certain environment and

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Speaker 1: people are looking at you and taking pictures, and I

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Speaker 1: mean like when you do that, it does definitely affect

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Speaker 1: your memory in such a different way. So I don't know,

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Speaker 1: so far, so good. I feel like I'm gonna marry myself. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I realized these aren't, you know, legally binding or

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Speaker 1: anything like that, but anytime like you start something or like,

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Speaker 1: you know, Bill and I, we've talked about the artist

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Speaker 1: way a lot. Before you start, the artist's way, you know,

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Speaker 1: you sign a contract before you start doing it, and

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Speaker 1: there's something about like a proclamation. Or you do it

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Speaker 1: as a group. So there's something about like a proclamation

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Speaker 1: to yourself, people saying I'm gonna commit to doing this. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think it just like it increases the chances of

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Speaker 1: you actually following through with it. I can see how

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Speaker 1: if someone wants to like, you know, be like all

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Speaker 1: right from here on, from here on out, you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying, like I'm committing myself, committing to myself,

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Speaker 1: I can see how. I public proclamation could definitely help that,

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Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, yeah, like you said, just even just

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Speaker 1: to write it down, it would just be more real

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Speaker 1: and you'd be like, I have to, I have to.

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Speaker 1: I tell myself I promised, I gotta follow through. I

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Speaker 1: should invite fifty of my closest friends out to a

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Speaker 1: vineyard or something, gather everyone around, get a nice suit,

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Speaker 1: get a nice bouquet of iguanas or whatever, walk down

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Speaker 1: the aisle, turned to everyone and say, all right, guys,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna Finish my screenplay. You know, every gonna be like,

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Speaker 1: I don't believe it, this is let's go to the yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: I know who won't be giving my best man speech.

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Speaker 1: Eliminate Myself. Alright. Well, we better take a quick commercial break.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna come back and talk about a few specific

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Speaker 1: stories of people who married themselves right up for this.

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Speaker 1: All right, welcome back to ridiculous romance. Hey, everybody, welcome back.

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Speaker 1: We've got ridiculous news. Mark Kendall and Bill Warley here

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Speaker 1: with us today. Super excited to have them, and we're

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Speaker 1: talking SALAGAMY, marrying yourself. So we've got a few specific

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Speaker 1: examples here. One of the first recorded instances of Salagamy,

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Speaker 1: and when I read this I was thinking like Oh,

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Speaker 1: probably like the seven hundreds or something. I Beg Clean

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Speaker 1: Patri wh it did it well. We have a woman

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Speaker 1: named Linda Baker. She's from Santa Monica, California, and she

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Speaker 1: was turning forty and she'd never married anyone and she

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Speaker 1: decided that she just wanted to have that wedding ceremony.

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Speaker 1: So she invited her family, she had seventy five of

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Speaker 1: her friends, seven bridesmaids, the whole deal. Actor friend of

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Speaker 1: hers was her efficient and he said during the ceremony, quote,

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Speaker 1: all that was missing was a beer swilling couch potato

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Speaker 1: who might forget your birthday and cheat on you and

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Speaker 1: make you miserable. Damn. Real indictment of grooms. It's kind

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Speaker 1: of pretty hard but fair. Yeah, you know, that's usually

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Speaker 1: year three. I wonder, prizeman stresses are always so you know,

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Speaker 1: people don't feel great about them. So I wonder if

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Speaker 1: they were able to kind of wear their own thing

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Speaker 1: or if it was like no, you're wearing this very

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Speaker 1: bass all seven and y'all need to look the worst

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Speaker 1: you ever looked in your life. So early nineties dresses,

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Speaker 1: the hair was teased. Now it turns out that a

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Speaker 1: big reason for this wedding, you know, it was just

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Speaker 1: to celebrate her fortieth birthday. You know, it's a big year.

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Speaker 1: I ain't got no man, let's do this. And she

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Speaker 1: says she wanted it to be, quote, an occasion of joy,

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Speaker 1: not regret. The other reason that she wanted to do

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Speaker 1: this was cake. Linda Baker is a cake freak and

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Speaker 1: she said she didn't want to have to find someone,

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Speaker 1: date them, fall in love with them and do a

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Speaker 1: whole rigamarole just to get a piece of cake, which

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I mean, birthdays famously do include cake already.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you needed that part, but just

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Speaker 1: to say something about her level of restraint, that she

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Speaker 1: thought this was the one told her. She goes to

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Speaker 1: the store that says wedding cakes. Well, I obviously they

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Speaker 1: have to legally check. There's there's only a certain number

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Speaker 1: a year you're allowed. Clearly, I have to bring in

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Speaker 1: my list of vendors. You thinking, Kelly? Actually, they'd be

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Speaker 1: more open minded. But no, Linda, I mean I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't want to burst your bubble, but you could

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Speaker 1: have got a cake before them, but I'm still glad

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Speaker 1: getting in time. When you're forty you could just go

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Speaker 1: buy them, you have them for no reason, and just

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Speaker 1: have a cake, no reason at all. Just felt like

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Speaker 1: sad to interrucus me. Yeah, I said I was gonna leave,

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Speaker 1: but I just kind of walked outside and just hung

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Speaker 1: in the hallway just to listen, and I heard you

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Speaker 1: all talking about my my my friend Linda Baker. This

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Speaker 1: is actually one of my earliest gigs that I had

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Speaker 1: back in three a very interesting time. You know, outcast

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00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 1: was still a year away from their first release and

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Speaker 1: that's the main touchdown I think about when I think

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Speaker 1: about that year. Anyway, Linda had come to me and

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Speaker 1: they said, faster cakes, I need a cake for my

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Speaker 1: forty birthday wedding ceremony, and I'm like, oh no, that's

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Speaker 1: that's very that's politically charged because if you go into

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Speaker 1: a cake shop at that point in time, as you

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Speaker 1: all we're discussing, you know what I'm saying, wedding. Are

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Speaker 1: you getting married or not, because these are specifically for weddings.

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Speaker 1: and honestly, she said it was a little bit of everything.

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Speaker 1: So what I did was what I did was had

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Speaker 1: never been done before. I took a standard birthday cake

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Speaker 1: and a standard wedding cake and I quite literally combined

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Speaker 1: the two together and then I made forty of them

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Speaker 1: I made for it was our forties birthday. etctly enough,

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Speaker 1: they're around forty people at this ceremony and each one

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Speaker 1: had a cake to themselves. And then why did I

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Speaker 1: make forty? Why? I combine them. Well, this is the thing.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. She was battling a lot

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Speaker 1: of societal pressures, primarily getting a wedding cake for a

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00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 1: birthday slash marrying herself in this instance, and it was

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Speaker 1: important to me that. I said, Linda, you need to

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Speaker 1: look at those naysayers and you need to choose yourself,

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Speaker 1: not just once, not just twice, but forty Ding Day time.

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Speaker 1: And every single year that it is Linda's birthday, I

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Speaker 1: come back and I make because the number of birthdays

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Speaker 1: for the number of years that she is a lot.

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Speaker 1: So exactly right. So most recently, you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: she had her seventy ninth birthday. Uh, as far as

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Speaker 1: I know. I hope she's okay. Anyway, I made seventy

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Speaker 1: nine cakes for her in honor of her seventy ninth year. Hey,

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Speaker 1: can I past your cakes? Can I just can you

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Speaker 1: bring it in for a quick hug, because I just

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00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 1: you've spent some to me and what you're doing. So

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Speaker 1: I mean bring it in and I'm just gonna stab

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Speaker 1: him in the back real quickly. But it's he's a cake.

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Speaker 1: Just came. I'm a cake, but we we do blead bill,

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Speaker 1: Imortal cake. Yes, that is whipped creaming. Yes, delicious. Oh No,

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Speaker 1: I can't. I'm going. Oh No, Bill, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: the big, beautiful cake Kevin in the sky. But I

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Speaker 1: also wanted to present to you your pickle bite cake

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Speaker 1: that I made for you. Idiot. I said it would

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Speaker 1: take two to three minutes. So like, I'm going now.

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Speaker 1: I never thought I'd be so mad in the back

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Speaker 1: by a client. This is a lot for me, but

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Speaker 1: I understand. I should have just I should have just

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Speaker 1: set them the beginning. Hey, I'm cake, but I'm also

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Speaker 1: like a mortal, immortal being. I don't regret. I don't

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Speaker 1: regret a single second of it. Neither do I. Very Well,

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Speaker 1: very well, pastor cake, a funeral cake. Oh Man, who's

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Speaker 1: going to make the funerals? The classic funeral cake? Of course,

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00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: obviously everybody is caking. Wow, I think that's that's a

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Speaker 1: normal thing. I think that's our first on air death

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Speaker 1: on the show a letter day. I wonder if pastor

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Speaker 1: cakes created himself. If he no, wonder he understands what

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00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:49,800
Speaker 1: it means to invest in yourself, himself, his shape and form.

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Speaker 1: That's pretty amazing. That's pretty amazing, I think. I'm so

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Speaker 1: glad pastor cakes came through. He taught us a lesson,

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00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:58,760
Speaker 1: so much to show us even at the end. Plus

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Speaker 1: now we have this delicious cake, so delicious. Yeah, he's

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Speaker 1: a very good best whip ever. Man's a legend. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I do love whip cream. Let's not around real quick tangent,

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Speaker 1: but billy, we're talking about this on a podcast recently

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Speaker 1: in New York state. Now you gotta be twenty one

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Speaker 1: and up to buy a whipped cream can, because that's so.

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Speaker 1: Is it because of the drug doing that? You can do.

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Speaker 1: Isn't that right? The women's yeah, that's right, and I

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Speaker 1: have to no, no, not to be judgmental, but I

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Speaker 1: think only the craziest people do whip it. I've never

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Speaker 1: seen a normal looking person or like someone who really

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Speaker 1: had their ship together, you know what I mean, like

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Speaker 1: let's hang out and do it. It never happens. I'M

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Speaker 1: gonna go ahead and invest in my for one K

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna do that's true. Who tells you they

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Speaker 1: whipp it's is the real questions. May maybe that's what

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00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 1: it's like. Only the trashiest people have ever informed me

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Speaker 1: that they do. With we had in in health class

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Speaker 1: in high school. They would everyone stwhile. There's this nurse

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Speaker 1: who would come in and talk to the class and

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Speaker 1: she was like the cool one who was like, I

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Speaker 1: know you're gonna do drugs, I know you're gonna have sex,

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Speaker 1: so let me tell you how to do it safe.

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Speaker 1: Future looks right. And she said she said, you know,

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Speaker 1: pick your poisons and whatever you do, do not do

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Speaker 1: whipp its. She was like that is the worst thing

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Speaker 1: you can do. Will just immediately destroy your brain. She said,

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Speaker 1: don't inhale anything. If it's like, you know, spray paint

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Speaker 1: in the sock or whipp it's all that stuff. It's

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Speaker 1: the worst thing you can do. And you know what,

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Speaker 1: I never did that advice would stick. If they're just

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Speaker 1: like hey, things, don't do this, I'm like that that

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Speaker 1: does stick. Yeah, do anything but this one thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think I'd be like, Oh, okay, I guess that

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Speaker 1: one's real bad. And again, if they just that's like.

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Speaker 1: It's OK, it's like a real hang up. A piece

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00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 1: on India's world is one. News was posted in June

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Speaker 1: of this year about a woman named Shama Bindo. She's

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Speaker 1: twenty four years old and she claims to be the

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Speaker 1: first Indian woman to enter into a slog MIS marriage.

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Speaker 1: And Shama told reporters, quote, I don't require a prince

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Speaker 1: charming because I am my own queen. I want the

633
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 1: wedding day, but not the next day. There you go.

634
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:57,799
Speaker 1: I love it. This sounds like a Lizzo song and

635
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 1: I would bump it. I'm waiting for this. She says

636
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 1: her parents are fine with it. Okay, that's cool, and

637
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 1: she's she had, according to the reporter, Paulka Sharma uh quote,

638
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: a big Fat Indian wedding with the priests, rituals and everything,

639
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 1: minus the groom. That is a real com. Weddings are

640
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 1: multiple days there, like everyone, and everyone in the you know,

641
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:29,839
Speaker 1: you're wherever you live, like everyone's inviting. And she did

642
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 1: the Henna, the Henna on her hands and face, I think,

643
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 1: and everything. I mean she did it all, all all the

644
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 1: outfit changes, everything. Your cousin Diana married into an Indian

645
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 1: family and they had their wedding in India and I

646
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 1: remember him telling us like, Oh, it was pretty small. Yeah,

647
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: we didn't go crazy. It was like people and he

648
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: was like oh well, I was like seven, what and

649
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 1: he was like, well, a lot of them are like

650
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: one to two thousand. So we really I was like

651
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 1: out of here. That is Chris. Well, this makes Shama

652
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 1: even more of a Badass. You know this whole because

653
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 1: I am my own Queen and I love that. I mean,

654
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 1: I hope Lizzo sends a nice follow on I g,

655
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: by the way, because now that you said that, Dana,

656
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 1: a lot of this like philosophy of slogamy, reminds me

657
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 1: of just kind of lizzo philosophy and loving yourself. If

658
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 1: y'all don't, if anyone listening doesn't follower, do because it's

659
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 1: just such a great that every post she has makes

660
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 1: my day. It's it's nice to have somebody on your

661
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 1: feet who just wants to make you happy, right, and

662
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: we love to shout out our friends on instagram and

663
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:48,840
Speaker 1: this show, including Lizzo. That's that's the ridiculous bump for you,

664
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:58,320
Speaker 1: Lizz with the little artist we have the same reporter

665
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 1: that was talking about Shama's wedding. They she quoted in

666
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 1: her piece an anonymous slogamist who wrote in and said quote.

667
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 1: In Our culture, everyone blindly applauds you when you announce

668
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 1: your in a relationship, but you don't get nearly the

669
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 1: same reaction when you decided to focus on your relationship

670
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 1: with yourself. In fact, everyone treats you with unspoken sympathy

671
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,239
Speaker 1: when you're single, like don't worry, love, the right man

672
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 1: is just around the corner. So I decided it was

673
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: time to rejoice in my wholeness, and what better way

674
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: to celebrate self love than with a wedding? Just, yeah,

675
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 1: kind of more what we're talking about is like, uh, some,

676
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: some damn recognition for caring about myself. Seriously, I kind

677
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 1: of this is cool too, because I saw one time, um,

678
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 1: somebody was like a lot of people like to say

679
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 1: marriage is and they were like it's not. Marriage is

680
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 1: a hundred, one hundred, like each of you have to

681
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 1: put your whole selves into it, not half of yourself

682
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: into a marriage, and I thought that was really interesting

683
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,960
Speaker 1: because it kind of it's true, right. I mean you

684
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 1: don't just bring of yourself to a marriage and the

685
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 1: other person there's not half a person there. You have

686
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: to accept the whole person. So I just thought it

687
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 1: was an interesting way to think about it and I

688
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,240
Speaker 1: guess she's kind of like I'm bringing a hundred percent

689
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,720
Speaker 1: to this. I'm I'm whole and I don't need anyone

690
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: else to be a part of this relationship. I guess

691
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 1: I gotta say so far, and we're five years in now, Diana,

692
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 1: I've only brought about half, about half of myself in.

693
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 1: So I have so much to look forward to later,

694
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, you want to keep it, keep it fresh.

695
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 1: I will be honest, though. You got the good half

696
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: of Damn, from the back half. This is what people

697
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:53,800
Speaker 1: who marry themselves are trying to avoids. The back half. Oh, damn,

698
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 1: the best half. I like that. You didn't come out

699
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 1: guns play to any line. That yeah, yeah, I'm excited

700
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:05,960
Speaker 1: for the next five years. That another yeah, I want

701
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:10,360
Speaker 1: to hear all about this. That's right. You have to

702
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 1: reach out to bill and be like, this is the

703
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:16,359
Speaker 1: ten percent I've brought today. So yeah, for her at least,

704
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 1: it was more about breaking the stereotypical image of a

705
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 1: single person, where there the sad sack with a thousand

706
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 1: cats eating a frozen meal every night or what not,

707
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 1: that there's anything wrong with that. Hey, they say they're

708
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 1: happily single at an age where people might expect them

709
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 1: to be married to someone else already and assume they're

710
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 1: unhappy if they're not. Right. And she's like I feel great. Uh.

711
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:41,800
Speaker 1: There was some great this. You know, this news report

712
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: was on Youtube, so of course the comments, you know,

713
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 1: you gotta gotta go straight to the because of course

714
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 1: there's a bunch of people that, you know, very aggressively

715
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: against this idea of slogamy. A lot of people totally

716
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,439
Speaker 1: misread it and they're like how dare someone legally trying

717
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:58,320
Speaker 1: to marry themselves, when in fact they specifically say this

718
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: is not a legal thing. You're so good at listening,

719
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:08,720
Speaker 1: and yeah, that's something a lot using the Internet. Comments

720
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 1: Section is where it all shines. Get the best of

721
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:14,440
Speaker 1: humanity in there. But some, some people were supportive. One

722
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,440
Speaker 1: commenter said she takes learned to love yourself to a

723
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:21,840
Speaker 1: whole new level. Happy, single, married life. Nice. This person

724
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:25,200
Speaker 1: did not get it. I said, how can you marry yourself?

725
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:28,359
Speaker 1: You don't need to marry you can love yourself. Okay, so,

726
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 1: like the suggestion being you can practice self love without

727
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: co opting the idea of a marriage. But I can

728
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 1: also do this. Yeah, so I did this. Don't check

729
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 1: me right. Exactly how? The other next comment was the

730
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: ultimate act of self love. Me and my hand disagree

731
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 1: Youtube comments. If anything, I'm surprised that it got it

732
00:45:54,360 --> 00:46:06,200
Speaker 1: took three to get to that youtube first. Right. Uh.

733
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:08,200
Speaker 1: This next one is pretty positive. As long as she's

734
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 1: not hurting anyone, she can do as she please, her

735
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 1: own business. Fairly positively agree. Right, just let people do

736
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:19,799
Speaker 1: their things. Yeah, I don't care. Am I a part

737
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: of that wedding? Do I have to bring you a gift? No,

738
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 1: then I don't care. Even if I did have to

739
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 1: bring a gift, I probably would not care. I would

740
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:28,760
Speaker 1: be like, this gift is an exchange for the food

741
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 1: and cake exactly. This delicious cake for attending means pickle cake.

742
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: There's so many perfectly socially acceptable things that millions of

743
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 1: people do every day that I think is weird as hell.

744
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,880
Speaker 1: So if you know, if you if you disagree with

745
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: what someone is doing, just let him do it. Come on,

746
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 1: mind your own business. Well, here's someone who decided not

747
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 1: to mind their own business, they said, purely attention seeking behavior.

748
00:46:57,440 --> 00:46:59,720
Speaker 1: There are many boys and girls who want to remain,

749
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: stay goal, but they don't announce it publicly. Keep and

750
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 1: first of all, boys and girls. How old people are

751
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: when they get married? Seven year old, Jennifer Thompson, middle school.

752
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 1: People want to stay and like the way that it's written.

753
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 1: Is Very you can behave. I'm writing over a pool

754
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 1: right now. Um, like this one. One benefit of Selogamy,

755
00:47:33,400 --> 00:47:35,879
Speaker 1: over being signal, I think, can be answering all those

756
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: relatives who pester you for no reason. Aunt, I am

757
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 1: already married. Yeah, there you go. That's a good point. Solid. Yes,

758
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:46,919
Speaker 1: commentary there. Yeah, I did. Y'All have that a lot

759
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 1: prior to or even when you were, when you were

760
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:51,240
Speaker 1: I don't know, how long were we all together before

761
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 1: you got married? Eight years? Yeah, so I'm sure that

762
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 1: came up once times. Oh, yeah, when we're childless. So

763
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:02,280
Speaker 1: you are always also get when you are having kids.

764
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 1: Sometimes they did not even care if you were married

765
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:06,320
Speaker 1: yet or not. They're just like so, when's the baby

766
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:10,680
Speaker 1: coming and you're like, Oh, I don't know. Yeah. This

767
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: next one is a comment that said madness has no end.

768
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know if they're referencing a

769
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 1: youtube clip, you know, because I think that's an act

770
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:25,879
Speaker 1: of madness. I mean like madness is. I think it's

771
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 1: like a state of mind or and emotions. So I

772
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:29,919
Speaker 1: don't know if that's an end or the beginning. Much

773
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 1: like theoretically, doesn't have to happen, man, you know, to

774
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: have an end. This person was just having their own

775
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 1: experience somewhere. Yeah, it's madness. Yeah, it's a little disconnected.

776
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 1: It's like being like, you know, Tuesday is the day

777
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:52,399
Speaker 1: of the week. It's just like, I suppose. Yeah, I'm

778
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 1: picturing like you know, Colonel Kurtz was on Youtube at

779
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 1: some point. Just ended up on this video and just

780
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 1: had to madnessess, no end. Right horrors, what is it?

781
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:08,640
Speaker 1: What did I fight for? He didn't even watch the video.

782
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:15,040
Speaker 1: He leaves that comment everywhere. I love from now on

783
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 1: I will now attribute all of crazy comments to Colonel Kurtz.

784
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 1: Doesn't like this guy is a very weird brain. Well, look,

785
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:33,840
Speaker 1: it's not exclusively women. I know we've been talking mostly

786
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:37,320
Speaker 1: about women self marrying, but there was a story from

787
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:41,520
Speaker 1: just of a man who married himself in Brazil. Got

788
00:49:41,520 --> 00:49:45,280
Speaker 1: The story on Lad Bible. They said that Doctors Uh

789
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: Giogo Habelo and Victor Bueno got engaged in twenty nineteen,

790
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:53,360
Speaker 1: but a victor said it was no Bueno and he

791
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 1: called off the engagement just a few short months before

792
00:49:56,239 --> 00:50:01,200
Speaker 1: the wedding, which anyone has gotten married knows. That's too late. Yeah,

793
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:04,920
Speaker 1: we're doing this. So Jogo decided he was just going

794
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 1: to do something anyway. He'd already had all these reservations.

795
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 1: Everybody was booked, everyone was invited. So he had his wedding,

796
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 1: which was at a very fancy resort, in it's a

797
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 1: car and gorgeous, like curious ceremony, tons of food, flowers, music.

798
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:22,320
Speaker 1: It was a pandemic wedding, so we had to scale

799
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 1: back to his number of guests, but forty. Even his

800
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 1: friends and family showed up. None of the none of

801
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 1: it's family, decided to come. That would actually be so

802
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,719
Speaker 1: ballsy if they did. Part his mom showed up and

803
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 1: was like well, I thought I'd still give me a

804
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 1: plate here. I can imagine one of the cousins being

805
00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:43,839
Speaker 1: like Hey, man, I thought you were cool. I showed up,

806
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 1: I was ready for this wedding. I want to still

807
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:52,040
Speaker 1: be friends. You know, honestly, I like you more than him.

808
00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 1: I didn't want this decision. I thought was crazy. This

809
00:50:56,680 --> 00:51:01,759
Speaker 1: has no ends. So so Chiogo gets this really nice

810
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:03,400
Speaker 1: white suit, he walks down the aisle, he's got a

811
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:06,280
Speaker 1: big colorful bouquet and he teared up, as he said

812
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: I do, to himself in a mirror. He did the

813
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:11,680
Speaker 1: mirror thing. Um, he got a bracelet instead of a

814
00:51:11,760 --> 00:51:14,880
Speaker 1: ring and he had his grandmother tied around his wrist

815
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 1: at the end of the ceremony. Um, and then he said, quote,

816
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:20,160
Speaker 1: the message I wanted to send to people with this

817
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 1: marriage of mine is not that of a victim. I

818
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 1: do not depend on a marriage to be happy. I

819
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:27,960
Speaker 1: do want to marry someone else, but my happiness cannot

820
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:32,919
Speaker 1: depend on that. Absolutely agree. And then victor burst out

821
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:38,960
Speaker 1: of the cake. I just wanted to say that. And

822
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 1: then cousin come as you have a playstation five. I

823
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 1: have a playstation five. Yeah, yeah, what a sweet this is.

824
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: All this stuff is just so um kind and sweet,

825
00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 1: pretty wholesome, like the image of a grandmother tying a

826
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: bracelet or out. And then the grandma was just like, okay,

827
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 1: I guess we're that's cool, no problem. Next time they're

828
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 1: better be too bracelets exactly, if this ship to your

829
00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:23,840
Speaker 1: rest again. But just like monogamous marriages, slogamous ones don't

830
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 1: always last until death. Do you part Um, which, I guess,

831
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:30,799
Speaker 1: would it part you, because you would still go on

832
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:36,319
Speaker 1: to whatever? Well, that's a much deeper conversation. All Right,

833
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:40,080
Speaker 1: I'll save it for another a thirty three year old

834
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 1: Brazilian playboy model, Christianna Galera, married herself in September. She said, quote,

835
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:50,320
Speaker 1: I was always afraid of being alone, but I realized

836
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 1: that I needed to learn to feel good about myself.

837
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:56,080
Speaker 1: When that happened, I decided to celebrate it. She posted

838
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:58,600
Speaker 1: a picture of herself in a wedding dress on instagram

839
00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 1: with a caption. It was in Portuguese, so this is

840
00:53:01,520 --> 00:53:05,720
Speaker 1: a rough google translation. The caption is I woke up. Yes, people,

841
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:08,560
Speaker 1: it's true, I got on the wave of selogamy and

842
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 1: decided to marry myself. I'm celebrating self love and want

843
00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:16,360
Speaker 1: to inspire other women to exalt their self esteem. She

844
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:19,240
Speaker 1: said that after posting that, she even got a half

845
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 1: million dollar offer from an Arab chic to marry him,

846
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:29,720
Speaker 1: but she turned him down. She's like full mill or nothing. Quote.

847
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:33,759
Speaker 1: He still keeps texting me. He's like, I still got

848
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 1: this half mill hanging out bag date. How about that?

849
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:45,560
Speaker 1: You know, down the longer she's married to herself, he's

850
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: like what about? She later commented, quote, I'm getting thousands

851
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:54,800
Speaker 1: of messages from men and women all over the world

852
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 1: wanting to marry me. It's a shame because I'm not

853
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:01,640
Speaker 1: going to divorce myself anytime soon. Well, famous last words.

854
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 1: Famous last words, because, Yep, she was wrong. After about

855
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:09,840
Speaker 1: ninety days that honeymoon phase wore off. She started finding

856
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 1: out all her pet peeves about herself. Like you know,

857
00:54:13,719 --> 00:54:16,840
Speaker 1: I really hate how I'd never wipe the catchup bottleneck.

858
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:21,759
Speaker 1: I can't believe how I load the dishwasher. I never

859
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:28,640
Speaker 1: do my laundry. Rude, very very well, I guess the positive.

860
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 1: You gotta keep reminding yourself. I'm not irritated, but now

861
00:54:35,280 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: I'm happy. It doesn't make at all. I put it

862
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 1: out before I leave. No Christianny did meet someone else

863
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 1: and she said, quote, I started to believe in love

864
00:54:53,600 --> 00:54:56,960
Speaker 1: the moment I met someone special, and she has not

865
00:54:57,040 --> 00:55:00,200
Speaker 1: identified who this person is, but apparently they are so

866
00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: special that they even got Christianity to leave her hot

867
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:08,439
Speaker 1: playboy model wife. So she divorced herself. As she said,

868
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:11,400
Speaker 1: she was happy while it lasted, but she was officially

869
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 1: getting a divorce, which I have to ask, what is

870
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: the purpose if it's not illegal? Like what what divorced

871
00:55:18,120 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 1: do you what? What proceedings do you have to go

872
00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:23,560
Speaker 1: through and like divvy up your stuff between yourself and yourself?

873
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 1: And this goes against you know, earlier we were talking

874
00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:28,800
Speaker 1: about selegamy being something you do while you were married.

875
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: You could have exactly Samyulegam cash down just now we

876
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 1: we went back. I think it's Sologamy, but I was

877
00:55:38,520 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: definitely sologamy myself for any driving that off. Okay, cool,

878
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:52,319
Speaker 1: we'll blame you too. Ridiculous News, y'all. We're the ones

879
00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 1: bringing it down. So I think I think that's weird, though,

880
00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:57,960
Speaker 1: because that she felt because to me, for all these

881
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:00,480
Speaker 1: other folks that are saying, Hey, it's about loving yourself,

882
00:56:00,760 --> 00:56:04,680
Speaker 1: you gotta bring, like you were saying, percent each person

883
00:56:04,760 --> 00:56:07,920
Speaker 1: into a relationship, it's like she's like no, if that,

884
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:11,439
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm not going to be I don't

885
00:56:11,480 --> 00:56:16,959
Speaker 1: longer care about taking care of myself. This airb cheek

886
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 1: is gonna give me some cash. And I know there

887
00:56:20,719 --> 00:56:23,239
Speaker 1: is a divorce lawyer out there, though, who would be like, Oh,

888
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:26,040
Speaker 1: I don't have to file anything, there's nothing legal, there's

889
00:56:26,200 --> 00:56:29,240
Speaker 1: no contest, but I still will charge you some money.

890
00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: Speculation station. Was this the UH, the Arab cheek, who

891
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 1: finally got through? She didn't identify who it was. Maybe

892
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:42,760
Speaker 1: he did. I feel like he finally added Enough Zeros

893
00:56:42,840 --> 00:56:45,840
Speaker 1: to that number. I think that's okay in speculation station.

894
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 1: By the way, if you all are not aware, we

895
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 1: have speculation station where we can stay whatever we want. Yeah,

896
00:56:50,560 --> 00:57:01,919
Speaker 1: we can make we've accused people of murder. So yeah,

897
00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 1: I think you're right. She probably got this Arab she

898
00:57:03,920 --> 00:57:05,560
Speaker 1: because she doesn't want to admit that she took the

899
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:09,840
Speaker 1: three dud dollar offer. I get by the ticket for

900
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:18,960
Speaker 1: one on that speculation station track. Dianne, you said you

901
00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:22,640
Speaker 1: think the number went down. I do, but maybe the

902
00:57:22,720 --> 00:57:24,840
Speaker 1: number went up. Maybe he kept calling. It was like

903
00:57:24,880 --> 00:57:31,200
Speaker 1: all right, fine, fine, fine, six, oh my God, wow,

904
00:57:31,320 --> 00:57:33,800
Speaker 1: you really think highly of yourself. She's like, yeah, I

905
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:39,400
Speaker 1: married myself, I know what I got. He finally went

906
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:40,959
Speaker 1: up to a million and she was like, all right,

907
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 1: I guess. Let me get this divorce going. Speaking of

908
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:49,640
Speaker 1: getting things going. Let's get some commercial break going. Fine,

909
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:58,480
Speaker 1: let's go right back. All right, welcome back to the

910
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: show everyone, and let's talk talk about just what the

911
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:05,160
Speaker 1: whole deal with slogamy is like. What? Where is this

912
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 1: all came from? Why? Now, you know, from onward Eve,

913
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,120
Speaker 1: been seeing more and more of these happening in recent

914
00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 1: years and, like we said, it's not entirely just uh,

915
00:58:15,080 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 1: you know, the wedding industry trying to capitalize off self love.

916
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 1: There's UH, there seems to be some real, some real

917
00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 1: trends happening. Yeah, yeah, that's true. BBC Interview Dominate Yukapas,

918
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:32,160
Speaker 1: who started a self marriage consultancy, and she says it's therapeutic.

919
00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:37,000
Speaker 1: She's seeing people, quote, leave abusive relationships, step more fully

920
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 1: into their life's work or meet their beloved after marrying themselves. Okay, okay,

921
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:45,040
Speaker 1: lot's of good outcome that kind of thing where you know,

922
00:58:45,080 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 1: if you the more you love yourself, the more confident

923
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 1: you are in yourself, the easier it's going to be

924
00:58:50,440 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 1: for you define and connect to someone right, right, right,

925
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 1: or not not settle for somebody who won't treat you,

926
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 1: you know, the way you want to be treated, definitely

927
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 1: or whatever. That makes sense to me. Um, and you

928
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:03,480
Speaker 1: can sign up for her ten week online course to

929
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:06,760
Speaker 1: prepare yourself for plogomy for the Lolo price of two.

930
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:12,320
Speaker 1: So okay, right there. That wedding industry and making money

931
00:59:12,320 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: out of she's like if you need a crash. Course,

932
00:59:16,240 --> 00:59:18,440
Speaker 1: part of me is like there's so many huge companies

933
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 1: making so much money off of weddings. I don't begrudge

934
00:59:20,800 --> 00:59:25,280
Speaker 1: someone starting their own little business. And if it's more

935
00:59:25,400 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 1: like self healthy, there's like some I'm imagining mental health

936
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 1: type services along with it or something like that. Maybe

937
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:35,920
Speaker 1: that would be worth money for sure. Tracy McMillan was

938
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:37,800
Speaker 1: a woman who had a Ted x talk and hers

939
00:59:37,880 --> 00:59:40,840
Speaker 1: was titled The Person You need to marry as yourself.

940
00:59:40,880 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 1: She talked about having been married three times and she said,

941
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:45,919
Speaker 1: you know, her first two husbands were even wonderful people.

942
00:59:45,960 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 1: She was still friends with them, she said. Her third husband,

943
00:59:48,680 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 1: she said, we're friends on facebook. We don't talk, but

944
00:59:55,400 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 1: she was talking about how her three divorces were, you know,

945
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:01,160
Speaker 1: meant to be seen as failed years like that was

946
01:00:01,200 --> 01:00:04,000
Speaker 1: how she sort of felt conditioned to think of them

947
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:07,480
Speaker 1: and how other people did. But she said she married quote,

948
01:00:07,520 --> 01:00:09,880
Speaker 1: everybody in sight except for the one person that I

949
01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 1: really needed to marry in order to have a great relationship.

950
01:00:12,720 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 1: And once I'm married that right person, all of my

951
01:00:15,400 --> 01:00:20,040
Speaker 1: relationships would be successes, even the so called failures. She

952
01:00:20,120 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 1: said that to marry yourself it's all about committing to

953
01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:25,960
Speaker 1: yourself fully building a relationship to the point that you

954
01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 1: feel like a full and whole person and to the

955
01:00:28,440 --> 01:00:31,920
Speaker 1: point that, quote, no man, woman, job or circumstance that

956
01:00:31,960 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 1: can happen to you is going to make you feel

957
01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 1: more whole and more than just about loving yourself. She

958
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 1: talks about the for better or for worse part and

959
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 1: she said that's really important because it's easy to love

960
01:00:44,040 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 1: yourself at your best, but the idea that even at

961
01:00:47,360 --> 01:00:50,240
Speaker 1: your worst, you agree to stay with yourself no matter what,

962
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:54,280
Speaker 1: that's something really powerful. And she said you, quote, need

963
01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:56,880
Speaker 1: to love yourself the way that you want someone else

964
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 1: to love you. I thought that was really interesting, because

965
01:00:59,880 --> 01:01:02,720
Speaker 1: it is it is easy to be you know, when

966
01:01:02,720 --> 01:01:05,640
Speaker 1: you feel good, you feel good and you're kind to yourself,

967
01:01:05,840 --> 01:01:07,920
Speaker 1: and when you don't, that's when it's really hard to

968
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:10,560
Speaker 1: kind of like I think we've all had that feeling.

969
01:01:10,680 --> 01:01:12,400
Speaker 1: It's like I wish I could just leave me here

970
01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:16,640
Speaker 1: and go off somewhere else right now. That bully in

971
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:18,520
Speaker 1: your head. I don't know if everyone has one. I

972
01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:22,160
Speaker 1: definitely do, Um, but yeah, and when you're at your worst,

973
01:01:22,160 --> 01:01:25,120
Speaker 1: she's very mean to me. She's very mean to me.

974
01:01:25,120 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 1: Maybe I need to marry her, Mary, marry your bully.

975
01:01:28,720 --> 01:01:31,240
Speaker 1: That'll fix it. Yeah, I think everybody has it. I

976
01:01:31,320 --> 01:01:32,960
Speaker 1: think we all have it, cincer, and I think if

977
01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,640
Speaker 1: you don't have it, that's narcissism. I think that's what

978
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 1: healthy people have something inside of them that's, you know, uh,

979
01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:45,280
Speaker 1: letting you know when you've got a little bit too far.

980
01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 1: But also you can't let that over overcome and you know,

981
01:01:48,680 --> 01:01:52,440
Speaker 1: I'm sure Tracy McMillan um found a way to quiet

982
01:01:52,480 --> 01:01:55,680
Speaker 1: that voice with this and you know, just for a

983
01:01:55,720 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 1: week you can do her course on for your own.

984
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:06,160
Speaker 1: But I think the point about divorced too, because you know,

985
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:09,640
Speaker 1: it's kind of unfortunately, I hate that it's her third husband.

986
01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:16,000
Speaker 1: That's just facebook friends. But you know, divorce is a

987
01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:18,480
Speaker 1: good thing right. It's like people always look at as

988
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:20,440
Speaker 1: a failure, but I think it's can be a positive

989
01:02:20,440 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 1: thing for people to figure out what they need and

990
01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 1: you know if they were bringing and the other bringing,

991
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:31,560
Speaker 1: or you know, maybe it's thirty seven equal hundred and

992
01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:34,640
Speaker 1: you gotta find the hundred. And Diane, I'm curious to

993
01:02:34,680 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 1: hear what he's a hundred is going to be over

994
01:02:36,520 --> 01:02:42,959
Speaker 1: these to I really don't know myself yet. A little

995
01:02:43,120 --> 01:02:48,880
Speaker 1: little surprised, a little nerve. No, well, that's it's. The

996
01:02:48,920 --> 01:02:51,120
Speaker 1: other thing too, is that it's like, well, you get

997
01:02:51,160 --> 01:02:54,280
Speaker 1: married at whatever age and then you grow and change.

998
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 1: Everyone does, and so it's like sometimes the person you

999
01:02:57,600 --> 01:03:00,080
Speaker 1: change into is no longer right with that person and

1000
01:03:00,160 --> 01:03:02,560
Speaker 1: that you were that you're married to. I think that

1001
01:03:02,560 --> 01:03:07,120
Speaker 1: that's not that uncommon. It's not always like, oh, this

1002
01:03:07,280 --> 01:03:09,960
Speaker 1: person is a piece of ship or I cannot stand them.

1003
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:11,960
Speaker 1: It's just like we're just no longer moving in the

1004
01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:14,280
Speaker 1: same direction. We don't want the same things, we don't

1005
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:16,600
Speaker 1: you know, whatever the case might be. There's so many

1006
01:03:16,600 --> 01:03:19,840
Speaker 1: reasons why our marriage might not work out, but it

1007
01:03:19,960 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 1: is I think you're right better to think about it

1008
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:24,840
Speaker 1: as like it's just a new chapter. You know, it's

1009
01:03:24,840 --> 01:03:27,720
Speaker 1: not a failure. I didn't do something wrong. We should

1010
01:03:27,720 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 1: have gotten married. We did have, however many years together.

1011
01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 1: That helped me become who I am and figure out

1012
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:37,120
Speaker 1: what I did want. I mean, that's valuable. Right. We're

1013
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 1: so steeped in permanence. I feel like sometimes, like we

1014
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:42,520
Speaker 1: talked about this with artistic projects sometimes too, where you

1015
01:03:42,600 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 1: just you have it, you know, a long term thing,

1016
01:03:45,360 --> 01:03:46,960
Speaker 1: and the longer it goes on, the more it feels

1017
01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:49,760
Speaker 1: like this needs to exist forever and if it doesn't,

1018
01:03:49,800 --> 01:03:53,040
Speaker 1: I failed, as opposed to know, now I move on

1019
01:03:53,080 --> 01:03:55,560
Speaker 1: to the next thing. And I did that. It existed

1020
01:03:55,600 --> 01:03:58,240
Speaker 1: for a period of time, it always will have, and

1021
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 1: now I get to create something new. That's super interesting

1022
01:04:01,480 --> 01:04:04,040
Speaker 1: to like moving into the creative space because, you know,

1023
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 1: Bill and I were big we talked about the show

1024
01:04:06,160 --> 01:04:09,800
Speaker 1: Atlanta a lot and, you know, yeah, the last season

1025
01:04:09,880 --> 01:04:12,280
Speaker 1: starting soon and Donald Glover and some of the interviews

1026
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 1: I've read talking about like endings are important, you know,

1027
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:16,919
Speaker 1: and it's like it's not gonna be the last thing

1028
01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:20,120
Speaker 1: he makes or anything like that. Is just like it's done.

1029
01:04:20,240 --> 01:04:22,680
Speaker 1: Try to move on, you know, like yeah, and having

1030
01:04:22,680 --> 01:04:25,440
Speaker 1: that idea where it's just like it's you know, it's okay.

1031
01:04:25,440 --> 01:04:27,960
Speaker 1: It's good for things to you know, like and yeah,

1032
01:04:28,160 --> 01:04:30,640
Speaker 1: having that having that self awareness, I think it's important.

1033
01:04:30,840 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 1: You know, yeah, your Tango Dot Com says, quote. These

1034
01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:38,000
Speaker 1: people are still dating, still meeting people, they're still hoping

1035
01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:40,720
Speaker 1: to find someone to spend their lives with. The only

1036
01:04:40,760 --> 01:04:43,320
Speaker 1: difference is that, while they wait for that person, they

1037
01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:46,360
Speaker 1: already have someone loving them, vowing to take care of

1038
01:04:46,400 --> 01:04:50,720
Speaker 1: them and accepting them for who they are. BBC Sites,

1039
01:04:50,760 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 1: one of the first women to have a solo wedding

1040
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:56,240
Speaker 1: with circa, travels to Moi Sajuano, as saying, quote, the

1041
01:04:56,320 --> 01:05:01,000
Speaker 1: package boosted my sense of self esteem. So obviously, you know,

1042
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:04,000
Speaker 1: we've we've talked endlessly about self love and how that

1043
01:05:04,120 --> 01:05:08,280
Speaker 1: sort of drives this whole idea. But why now? Is

1044
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:10,440
Speaker 1: the big question again, as this really surged in the

1045
01:05:10,520 --> 01:05:13,360
Speaker 1: last few years. Well, a lot of these articles, a

1046
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:14,600
Speaker 1: lot of these people kind of come back to the

1047
01:05:14,600 --> 01:05:19,120
Speaker 1: same point. We live in a very fast paced, chaotic world,

1048
01:05:19,400 --> 01:05:21,200
Speaker 1: you know, we're all trying to keep up with each other,

1049
01:05:21,320 --> 01:05:24,040
Speaker 1: we're all pitted against each other and in this what

1050
01:05:24,120 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 1: I'll call a rat race. I don't know if anyone's

1051
01:05:26,360 --> 01:05:35,760
Speaker 1: ever said that before, it feels like, but you know,

1052
01:05:35,840 --> 01:05:37,960
Speaker 1: what do we sacrifice to do that? We really lose

1053
01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:41,680
Speaker 1: touch with ourselves. UH, self love has dwindled as people

1054
01:05:41,720 --> 01:05:43,640
Speaker 1: sort of put their own mental health and happiness in

1055
01:05:43,680 --> 01:05:46,640
Speaker 1: the background so they can focus more on success and

1056
01:05:46,680 --> 01:05:50,040
Speaker 1: survival and achievements, things like that. Um. So I think

1057
01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:53,520
Speaker 1: that sort of becomes the root of why it becomes

1058
01:05:53,520 --> 01:05:56,920
Speaker 1: important for us to focus more deliberately on this idea

1059
01:05:56,960 --> 01:05:58,360
Speaker 1: of self love and say, how do I how do

1060
01:05:58,400 --> 01:05:59,880
Speaker 1: I put this at the front of my brain? How

1061
01:05:59,920 --> 01:06:02,080
Speaker 1: do I have a big ceremony so that I won't

1062
01:06:02,120 --> 01:06:06,160
Speaker 1: forget that I care about myself? Yeah, again, I'm the

1063
01:06:06,200 --> 01:06:08,920
Speaker 1: one person who I am stuck with for life. I

1064
01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:11,959
Speaker 1: can never get away from me, so I need to

1065
01:06:12,080 --> 01:06:15,720
Speaker 1: enjoy my own company, care about what's happening to me

1066
01:06:15,800 --> 01:06:20,920
Speaker 1: and how I feel. I get that I'm coming bound

1067
01:06:21,120 --> 01:06:27,280
Speaker 1: to life cake. I thought I was dead and I

1068
01:06:27,280 --> 01:06:30,160
Speaker 1: was I was dead and I was in I was

1069
01:06:30,240 --> 01:06:33,920
Speaker 1: in the great beyond and as I was floating in

1070
01:06:34,040 --> 01:06:38,600
Speaker 1: the ether, seeing things that I couldn't even describe, the

1071
01:06:38,640 --> 01:06:44,080
Speaker 1: great infinite, the great beyond, I found myself and I realized, no,

1072
01:06:44,960 --> 01:06:48,160
Speaker 1: it is not the outside things that determine when I

1073
01:06:48,240 --> 01:06:51,360
Speaker 1: live or when I die. If I love myself, I

1074
01:06:51,560 --> 01:06:55,480
Speaker 1: determined when I go that and I did whip it's

1075
01:06:55,600 --> 01:06:59,800
Speaker 1: one time, because, because I am a cake and not

1076
01:07:00,200 --> 01:07:03,840
Speaker 1: human being, the chemical properties are a little bit different,

1077
01:07:04,160 --> 01:07:07,960
Speaker 1: and it managed, it didn't managed, to stitch my cake

1078
01:07:08,120 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 1: wounds back together. And so now I am held together

1079
01:07:12,720 --> 01:07:15,200
Speaker 1: not by the whip cream that was once from my

1080
01:07:15,440 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 1: life force, but instead the laughing gas which is also

1081
01:07:19,440 --> 01:07:24,160
Speaker 1: within the canister, and that I am bolstered by the

1082
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:29,600
Speaker 1: hot air, not of lies or delusions, but the hot

1083
01:07:29,640 --> 01:07:34,280
Speaker 1: hair that forms when we truly love ourselves. And I

1084
01:07:34,320 --> 01:07:40,680
Speaker 1: also just wanted to say as our population potentially decreases,

1085
01:07:40,960 --> 01:07:44,640
Speaker 1: as we make different decisions about when we choose to

1086
01:07:45,240 --> 01:07:49,520
Speaker 1: uh marry, or however many children that we have, I

1087
01:07:49,640 --> 01:07:53,080
Speaker 1: have found that when I came back, I forgot that

1088
01:07:53,160 --> 01:07:57,919
Speaker 1: I made a bunch of Little Pasti cupcakes. Me here

1089
01:07:58,360 --> 01:08:01,400
Speaker 1: long after when I go so I don't know, see

1090
01:08:01,440 --> 01:08:08,040
Speaker 1: them there moving about, little man adorable, lots of cookies

1091
01:08:08,080 --> 01:08:14,000
Speaker 1: and cream, and I just bill, had you not stabbed

1092
01:08:14,040 --> 01:08:17,760
Speaker 1: me in the back, I would not have had this opportunity.

1093
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:23,000
Speaker 1: Was Self Discovery, because sometimes you don't really know how

1094
01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:26,519
Speaker 1: much you love yourself when you are opened up, and

1095
01:08:26,600 --> 01:08:30,599
Speaker 1: you opened me up to help me discover what was inside,

1096
01:08:31,200 --> 01:08:35,759
Speaker 1: and I found. I found Aerosol, drugs and and little

1097
01:08:35,800 --> 01:08:40,320
Speaker 1: cupcake children. Well, wow, I'm glad I could return the favorite,

1098
01:08:40,360 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 1: cause you opened me up to past your cakes. You

1099
01:08:42,600 --> 01:08:47,040
Speaker 1: Open the spray sweat and this bicycle cake. I'll never

1100
01:08:47,120 --> 01:08:50,160
Speaker 1: forget it. So the least I could do was just

1101
01:08:50,320 --> 01:08:53,360
Speaker 1: give you a slafestab. Well, I appreciate Y'all and I'll

1102
01:08:53,400 --> 01:08:55,439
Speaker 1: leave y'all now. I gotta get these little ones to

1103
01:08:55,520 --> 01:09:01,080
Speaker 1: take care. Ok. So we'll go, we'll go found. It's

1104
01:09:01,080 --> 01:09:10,320
Speaker 1: been a pleasure. Come on, you'll be careful there, man.

1105
01:09:10,920 --> 01:09:14,240
Speaker 1: You know, I think we all learned a lesson in uh,

1106
01:09:14,360 --> 01:09:17,759
Speaker 1: the strength of whippets and the benefits of getting stabbed

1107
01:09:17,760 --> 01:09:19,559
Speaker 1: in the back by your friends. Uh Oh, let me

1108
01:09:19,600 --> 01:09:24,040
Speaker 1: cancel that funeral cake. We don't need that. I don't

1109
01:09:23,920 --> 01:09:28,599
Speaker 1: let me cancel that. Well, okay, now we can undo

1110
01:09:28,680 --> 01:09:30,960
Speaker 1: the first death that's ever happened on our show. I'm

1111
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:34,919
Speaker 1: kind of glad we had our first resurrection. That's pretty ridiculous.

1112
01:09:35,000 --> 01:09:38,160
Speaker 1: Resurrection is a pretty good name for a show. I

1113
01:09:38,160 --> 01:09:45,519
Speaker 1: don't know what it's about, but it's about something. Okay, so, Yakiko. Anyway,

1114
01:09:45,720 --> 01:09:49,280
Speaker 1: circa travels president said quote. Some people have said it

1115
01:09:49,320 --> 01:09:52,320
Speaker 1: would be lonely, miserable or sad to do this, and

1116
01:09:52,360 --> 01:09:55,400
Speaker 1: there's definitely a lot of judgments out there, many articles

1117
01:09:55,479 --> 01:09:58,519
Speaker 1: judging the ship out of people for doing this. But

1118
01:09:58,560 --> 01:10:01,599
Speaker 1: more and more Japanese people have been living alone in

1119
01:10:01,680 --> 01:10:05,400
Speaker 1: recent years and according to the National Institute of Population

1120
01:10:05,479 --> 01:10:09,879
Speaker 1: and Social Security Research, Japan's population is expected to decline

1121
01:10:09,920 --> 01:10:12,840
Speaker 1: between twenty six and thirty eight percent in the next

1122
01:10:12,960 --> 01:10:18,200
Speaker 1: forty years. That's pretty significant, uh, and that trend echoes

1123
01:10:18,280 --> 01:10:22,680
Speaker 1: across the world. The Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development

1124
01:10:23,080 --> 01:10:25,759
Speaker 1: says that there are a record number of unmarried people

1125
01:10:25,880 --> 01:10:29,040
Speaker 1: in many advanced countries across the world, and people who

1126
01:10:29,080 --> 01:10:32,559
Speaker 1: are getting married are doing it later than they used to.

1127
01:10:32,600 --> 01:10:36,519
Speaker 1: A study from in the nineties, when Linda Baker would

1128
01:10:36,960 --> 01:10:40,120
Speaker 1: have been putting her wedding together, the main age of

1129
01:10:40,160 --> 01:10:43,559
Speaker 1: women at first marriage was between twenty two and twenty

1130
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:47,400
Speaker 1: seven years old. For Men it was twenty four thirty.

1131
01:10:47,400 --> 01:10:50,400
Speaker 1: By twenty the average age for women is almost thirty

1132
01:10:50,439 --> 01:10:54,839
Speaker 1: one and for men it's thirty three. And our world

1133
01:10:54,920 --> 01:10:57,479
Speaker 1: in data dot org says that in the US the

1134
01:10:57,560 --> 01:11:01,240
Speaker 1: highest marriage rate was sixteen and one thousand people after

1135
01:11:01,360 --> 01:11:04,880
Speaker 1: World War Two. Okay, and that dipped and bounced a

1136
01:11:04,920 --> 01:11:07,880
Speaker 1: lot since then, but a long decline started in the

1137
01:11:07,960 --> 01:11:10,600
Speaker 1: seventies when it was about ten and one thousand, and

1138
01:11:10,680 --> 01:11:13,080
Speaker 1: it's currently the lowest in history with six and a

1139
01:11:13,160 --> 01:11:17,400
Speaker 1: half in one thousand. So people just are not interested

1140
01:11:17,520 --> 01:11:21,559
Speaker 1: in getting married right now and I you know, or

1141
01:11:21,640 --> 01:11:24,160
Speaker 1: having children. I guess this is the other thing with

1142
01:11:24,240 --> 01:11:27,120
Speaker 1: population decline, right, is that people don't want to have kids. Well,

1143
01:11:27,160 --> 01:11:30,679
Speaker 1: we talked in a recent episode about the Russian Stark Derby,

1144
01:11:30,880 --> 01:11:35,040
Speaker 1: that it was an old Russian tradition that they started

1145
01:11:35,040 --> 01:11:38,599
Speaker 1: in the Soviet era. Yeah, you could get for having

1146
01:11:38,600 --> 01:11:41,360
Speaker 1: ten children, right. You got a medal and a cash prize. Yeah,

1147
01:11:41,400 --> 01:11:43,920
Speaker 1: it was the order of maternal glory, right, it's a

1148
01:11:44,000 --> 01:11:48,640
Speaker 1: very Soviet name. Putin just reinstated that. Yeah, he was

1149
01:11:48,720 --> 01:11:52,560
Speaker 1: like have ten kids please, and people be like a

1150
01:11:52,680 --> 01:11:56,920
Speaker 1: hero of the of the nation which on running. And

1151
01:11:56,960 --> 01:11:59,760
Speaker 1: I was like, I kind of appreciate because we act

1152
01:11:59,840 --> 01:12:01,960
Speaker 1: like we really want everyone to have a family, but

1153
01:12:02,000 --> 01:12:04,919
Speaker 1: then we don't create a society that is very helpful

1154
01:12:04,960 --> 01:12:07,679
Speaker 1: to family. So it was kind of like at least

1155
01:12:07,680 --> 01:12:10,960
Speaker 1: he's putting his money where his mouth is in a way. Right, Um,

1156
01:12:11,000 --> 01:12:13,599
Speaker 1: but on the other hand, it's a very crazy thing.

1157
01:12:13,640 --> 01:12:20,479
Speaker 1: Asked woman have toby, somebody, somebody there who's trying for

1158
01:12:20,520 --> 01:12:23,040
Speaker 1: it and then taps out at eight and it's like, well,

1159
01:12:23,200 --> 01:12:27,160
Speaker 1: now I can't get the cash. Got To feed eight

1160
01:12:27,240 --> 01:12:31,040
Speaker 1: children for the press of their life, right, sorry, coming

1161
01:12:31,720 --> 01:12:39,160
Speaker 1: not your obligation. You must still fighting. I will go now.

1162
01:12:39,439 --> 01:12:49,880
Speaker 1: He's my children. Goodbye to children with yeast, I must well,

1163
01:12:49,880 --> 01:12:53,000
Speaker 1: we talked to that episode about you know. I think

1164
01:12:53,040 --> 01:12:55,519
Speaker 1: you said like hey, maybe y'all should look inward and

1165
01:12:55,560 --> 01:12:58,559
Speaker 1: try and build a society that's more encouraging to have

1166
01:12:58,760 --> 01:13:01,960
Speaker 1: kids in, yes, as opposed to just saying like, I

1167
01:13:02,160 --> 01:13:04,639
Speaker 1: have your kids in my country, I'll give you fifty

1168
01:13:04,640 --> 01:13:08,080
Speaker 1: bucks right. I mean that's it's just like America. We're

1169
01:13:08,120 --> 01:13:10,479
Speaker 1: sort of on that train too. We're like let's overturn

1170
01:13:10,560 --> 01:13:12,960
Speaker 1: Rovie Wade and make people have babies and so on,

1171
01:13:13,080 --> 01:13:15,040
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, well, maybe you should think about

1172
01:13:15,040 --> 01:13:18,080
Speaker 1: why people don't want them. And usually, if you ask,

1173
01:13:18,280 --> 01:13:21,760
Speaker 1: it's financial insecurity, it's worry about the future, what kind

1174
01:13:21,760 --> 01:13:24,800
Speaker 1: of world you're bringing a kid into? I think the

1175
01:13:24,880 --> 01:13:29,800
Speaker 1: most popular answers. I don't want to which I think

1176
01:13:30,000 --> 01:13:35,240
Speaker 1: a perfectly reasonable reason, but there's so many other factors

1177
01:13:35,360 --> 01:13:37,880
Speaker 1: right that you could actually do something about and make

1178
01:13:38,560 --> 01:13:40,559
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's a little more stable for people.

1179
01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:42,759
Speaker 1: So they're they're like, yes, I would like to continue

1180
01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:46,280
Speaker 1: this species right now. I don't know why I don't

1181
01:13:46,320 --> 01:13:48,920
Speaker 1: want to. They're going to have a lot of room

1182
01:13:48,960 --> 01:13:55,040
Speaker 1: in Japan soon, so maybe over there and then afforded

1183
01:13:55,200 --> 01:14:00,679
Speaker 1: house or an apartment. That would be nice. Give years, y'all,

1184
01:14:00,760 --> 01:14:03,120
Speaker 1: and there's gonna be a lot of real estate opening up.

1185
01:14:04,000 --> 01:14:09,280
Speaker 1: Oh my God, it'll be like you can finally buy

1186
01:14:09,280 --> 01:14:17,479
Speaker 1: a home my golden years in Kyoto. So yeah, well,

1187
01:14:17,520 --> 01:14:21,280
Speaker 1: that is the story of slogamy. Are you all ready

1188
01:14:21,320 --> 01:14:26,320
Speaker 1: to marry yourselves? Absolutely. I have a perfectly bike cake

1189
01:14:26,439 --> 01:14:30,400
Speaker 1: with some pickleballs in here. I'm super excited. I'm gonna

1190
01:14:30,400 --> 01:14:33,439
Speaker 1: try and pull in some of those cupcakes that ran

1191
01:14:33,479 --> 01:14:37,439
Speaker 1: away earlier from pasture cakes and if I like, I did.

1192
01:14:38,160 --> 01:14:39,800
Speaker 1: And I don't know if it's really a solo wedding,

1193
01:14:39,800 --> 01:14:42,240
Speaker 1: but you know, I love Bonrou. I'm big on and

1194
01:14:42,320 --> 01:14:44,400
Speaker 1: music festivals in general, but that one I've liked a lot.

1195
01:14:44,439 --> 01:14:46,559
Speaker 1: So I've been a sixteen of those and I did

1196
01:14:46,600 --> 01:14:48,920
Speaker 1: go one time by myself. I couldn't find friends to

1197
01:14:49,000 --> 01:14:51,920
Speaker 1: go and I loved it. I had so much fun.

1198
01:14:52,000 --> 01:14:54,040
Speaker 1: It was such an amazing experience and I wonder if

1199
01:14:54,080 --> 01:14:56,479
Speaker 1: that was kind of my own little ceremony being like bill, yeah,

1200
01:14:56,520 --> 01:14:57,880
Speaker 1: you don't have to, you don't have to go. Some

1201
01:14:57,880 --> 01:14:59,519
Speaker 1: of those you can go. And I me, you know,

1202
01:14:59,720 --> 01:15:01,760
Speaker 1: made tons of friends while I was there, but it

1203
01:15:01,840 --> 01:15:04,000
Speaker 1: was just about me in the music and having a

1204
01:15:04,000 --> 01:15:07,080
Speaker 1: good time and that was a pretty a pretty good

1205
01:15:07,120 --> 01:15:11,040
Speaker 1: part of my life. That that every weekend. I said

1206
01:15:11,080 --> 01:15:13,840
Speaker 1: a lot about traveling alone. They're like it's just so

1207
01:15:13,880 --> 01:15:16,680
Speaker 1: empowering in a way to just be like it's I

1208
01:15:16,760 --> 01:15:19,040
Speaker 1: have to entertain myself the whole time, I have to

1209
01:15:19,080 --> 01:15:21,840
Speaker 1: make all the decisions. Like some of that's easy for

1210
01:15:21,920 --> 01:15:24,120
Speaker 1: some and harder for others, but I think it's interesting

1211
01:15:24,120 --> 01:15:27,400
Speaker 1: that just be alone in a new city and have

1212
01:15:27,560 --> 01:15:30,880
Speaker 1: to like get have fun, just to be able to

1213
01:15:30,920 --> 01:15:33,120
Speaker 1: have fun by yourself. I mean I think that's really important,

1214
01:15:33,240 --> 01:15:35,639
Speaker 1: to be important to know that you could do that. Yeah,

1215
01:15:35,680 --> 01:15:37,840
Speaker 1: I do. I do enjoy traveling alone as well as

1216
01:15:37,880 --> 01:15:42,000
Speaker 1: like or like going to like new places by myself,

1217
01:15:42,040 --> 01:15:43,800
Speaker 1: whether it's like whether it's a new city or just

1218
01:15:43,840 --> 01:15:49,040
Speaker 1: like a different restaurant. You know, just like being right. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1219
01:15:49,360 --> 01:15:51,439
Speaker 1: we have that. I mean we love traveling together. It's

1220
01:15:51,439 --> 01:15:53,519
Speaker 1: one of our favorite things to do together, but I

1221
01:15:53,560 --> 01:15:56,120
Speaker 1: also love traveling alone. You know, I don't think we

1222
01:15:56,120 --> 01:15:58,160
Speaker 1: get to do it as often because I'm always like, well,

1223
01:15:58,320 --> 01:16:01,960
Speaker 1: let's go to this place, but next time that's the

1224
01:16:01,960 --> 01:16:08,240
Speaker 1: other the very independence is off by himself right now. Yeah,

1225
01:16:08,439 --> 01:16:10,920
Speaker 1: I see how it is. Well, I just wanted to

1226
01:16:11,040 --> 01:16:13,519
Speaker 1: before we leave, I just wanted to ask what your

1227
01:16:13,520 --> 01:16:17,479
Speaker 1: solo weddings would be like. Y'All, we're planning your own

1228
01:16:17,600 --> 01:16:20,960
Speaker 1: solo wedding to yourself. What would be some essentials? I

1229
01:16:20,960 --> 01:16:25,799
Speaker 1: feel like this is revealing. Yeah, I definitely there be music,

1230
01:16:26,000 --> 01:16:30,960
Speaker 1: live music. Oh yeah, I loves just some solid Band

1231
01:16:30,080 --> 01:16:33,160
Speaker 1: d you know, let's get back in there, since this

1232
01:16:33,240 --> 01:16:37,479
Speaker 1: is works. There's sang out, he's Party and we're gonna

1233
01:16:37,479 --> 01:16:43,120
Speaker 1: have Jeff Tweetie saying some of the mortality songs the show.

1234
01:16:43,880 --> 01:16:45,400
Speaker 1: You know, Lizzo is going to come out at the

1235
01:16:45,479 --> 01:16:49,479
Speaker 1: end just to come and she officiate. I feel like

1236
01:16:49,520 --> 01:16:55,320
Speaker 1: she should affiates gets it, she gets it. Yeah, I

1237
01:16:55,360 --> 01:16:59,640
Speaker 1: was going to say how I'm ready to go. I

1238
01:16:59,720 --> 01:17:03,920
Speaker 1: want I want to be in the pit. I'm gonnash

1239
01:17:04,160 --> 01:17:10,160
Speaker 1: bills Solo wedding. What about you? Oh yeah, I go.

1240
01:17:10,560 --> 01:17:13,040
Speaker 1: Oh well, I guess I should say names. I'm sorry,

1241
01:17:13,960 --> 01:17:17,599
Speaker 1: you could remarry just to yourself. Um, I would love

1242
01:17:17,640 --> 01:17:19,599
Speaker 1: to catch up on some of the things we didn't

1243
01:17:19,720 --> 01:17:21,600
Speaker 1: that we talked about doing but didn't get do in

1244
01:17:21,600 --> 01:17:28,639
Speaker 1: our wedding, like repelling in from a helicopter. I feel

1245
01:17:28,680 --> 01:17:32,880
Speaker 1: like that really shows my confidence in myself comes out

1246
01:17:32,920 --> 01:17:35,000
Speaker 1: in that moment, because I'm not I always said I

1247
01:17:35,200 --> 01:17:37,160
Speaker 1: don't want to get in a helicopter. I'm not big

1248
01:17:37,160 --> 01:17:42,040
Speaker 1: on heights. But that would be super cool and me,

1249
01:17:42,439 --> 01:17:45,720
Speaker 1: you know, overcoming something true. Plus, the helicopter would have

1250
01:17:45,720 --> 01:17:47,400
Speaker 1: to have a really low and everyone's hair would get

1251
01:17:47,400 --> 01:17:52,320
Speaker 1: messed up and, yeah, great pictures. That would be awesome.

1252
01:17:52,400 --> 01:17:54,160
Speaker 1: But you know what everybody loves is looking bad at

1253
01:17:54,160 --> 01:17:58,240
Speaker 1: a wedding. That's right, that's what they put all the

1254
01:17:58,320 --> 01:18:01,320
Speaker 1: makeup on for. Okay, mark, what about you? It would

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Speaker 1: be your Solo. You know, I'd love like a really

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Speaker 1: good chef. I don't know too many celebrities, but I'd

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Speaker 1: love like really cool chef, or like or like what if? Like?

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Speaker 1: I really like cool chef interpreted like a wolf house

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Speaker 1: menu or something like that, where it's just like you're

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Speaker 1: blending something that's like pretty down home and simple, but

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Speaker 1: then like you also give it some like fancy flair,

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Speaker 1: you know. So that was kind of cool for for

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Speaker 1: a ceremony, I feel, you know, so people get the

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Speaker 1: comfort food, but it's also like, oh, these are some

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Speaker 1: fancy ingredients, that elevating h yeah, like elevated down home cuisine.

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Speaker 1: I love that. So far these weddings sound pretty great.

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Speaker 1: I like everything y'all said. I think I would also

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Speaker 1: like Lizzo to appreciate that would make me comfortable. I

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Speaker 1: think the location I would want like a really cool

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Speaker 1: old castle or some dope ship, like Oh, that's nice,

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Speaker 1: and then I could stay there, you know, for the

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Speaker 1: week to celebrate myself. Yeah, and be like somewhere cool,

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Speaker 1: either like like an old, I don't know in Scotland

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Speaker 1: or something in England, old ass castle, but still sort

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Speaker 1: of comfortable, you know what I mean. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to ruins, I just wanted to look like history, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know. Or the Winchester House would be pretty cool.

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Speaker 1: What's the Winchester House? It's that lady who built that

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Speaker 1: Crazy House that has like stairways. Yeah, that would be

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Speaker 1: pretty cool. So like just a cool destination so people

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Speaker 1: could come. And you know, that's my self esteem problem.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, nobody would go to my wedding, but

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Speaker 1: there was somewhere really cool. I like that all three

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Speaker 1: of you had things that were like people would really

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Speaker 1: like this food or this concert or this location. And

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Speaker 1: I'm like I'd look cool jumping out of a helicopter,

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Speaker 1: but you would look very cool. Yeah, but I'm not

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Speaker 1: given anything to anyone else. So everybody comes to my

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Speaker 1: wedding gets fifty bucks. I feel like we should just

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Speaker 1: have solo weddings where we combine all our ideas, because

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Speaker 1: I've got a good location, you have a great entrance,

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Speaker 1: we've got the menu and we have the entertainment all

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Speaker 1: worked out with so I just feel like we just

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Speaker 1: planned and absolutely and for only two hundred dollars, and

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Speaker 1: Thank you all so much. This was awesome and I'm

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