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All 11 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 1: thanks to Live Nations. Tickets are on sale now at 12 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 1: ticketmaster dot com for all shows running December thirtieth through 13 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 1: January third, and March sixth through the twenty eighth. But 14 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:43,199 Speaker 1: a new survey SS at gen Z might be the 15 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: most practical generation When it comes to romance. Nearly half 16 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: of people win asked said that they would take long 17 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: term financial security over falling in love. About a third 18 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: admit that they would even consider getting back together with 19 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: an X if that person had struck it rich Hella. 20 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: When it comes to income, ten percent of gen Z 21 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: women say that their dream partner makes over two hundred 22 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: grand a year. Well, most won't takeiky. You just could 23 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: hold it on two hundred, Well, most of them settle 24 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: for less than eighty, and forty six percent say that 25 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: they wouldn't date someone unemployed, no matter how attractive they are. 26 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: So here's my question, simple, very simple. Would you take 27 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:30,760 Speaker 1: money or love? You can only have one you, and 28 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,679 Speaker 1: don't I not only hear any converrom but the question is, well, 29 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: but but what about no? That's right? And then I 30 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 1: guess Part two of this is, would you write I'm 31 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:43,960 Speaker 1: standing on business twice a day? Don't start? Would you 32 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: would you take an X back if they struck it rich? 33 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: So those are my two questions for you. Eight five 34 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: five five one three five And everyone's kind of nodding 35 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:56,919 Speaker 1: their head. It's not that easy of a question to answer. 36 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: I'm taking money. I'm taking money over romantic levinyda, because 37 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: I you know, I could love myself in Bora Bora, 38 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 1: in an overwater bungalow. I could love myself several times. 39 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:16,280 Speaker 1: I could wear myself out. Well see, look, I'm just 40 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:18,519 Speaker 1: as a person who's you know, been on my own 41 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: for a long time, you become very self reliant, and yeah, 42 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: there are moments when you like a companionship would be cool. 43 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: But then there are moments when I'm like, but I 44 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:28,640 Speaker 1: you know, if you're tell me I'm rich, I'm not. 45 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 1: But then I could if I in this scenario, I 46 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: could say but that I'm rich, and then I could 47 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: go do something you know or I don't know, it 48 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:37,799 Speaker 1: would go. There are other ways I think to find 49 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: happiness and fulfill yourself that don't require another human being. 50 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: I take the money and I'm sorry, but there's no X, 51 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: no X out there, not one that if they struck 52 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 1: it rich, I'd be like, great, sure, let's do it. 53 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: Because then it's just whatever issue caused that, you know, 54 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 1: the breakup, compounded by the fact that they now control 55 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: you with their money. So no, someone texted Mary for 56 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 1: make your own money. No, next question, I rebuk that 57 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: whoever's although I'm not dating someone who doesn't have a job, 58 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: let's at least be stable. 59 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 2: Yeah. 60 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: No, Jason's very offended by that. Yes, how dare you? 61 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 3: If you would have asked me, like, I don't know, 62 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 3: five to ten years ago, I would have said. 63 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: Go for the money, go for the money. Go for 64 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 1: the money. 65 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 3: But now now that I'm finally wearing Mike enough down 66 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 3: to where he's showing little bits of affection, I'm like, wait, 67 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 3: it does feel nice to be loved, you know. 68 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 1: So now my eighteen years, it. 69 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 3: Only took fourteen years for him to break his cold 70 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 3: ass heart, and you know now I'm like, oh, wait, 71 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 3: it does feel nice when he does little things. So 72 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 3: I don't know, it's hard that the money. I mean, 73 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 3: it's nice to feel like I guess like there's always 74 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 3: like a little you know, not if you get into 75 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 3: a hard situation. 76 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: But I don't know. I was gonna say, you can't 77 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 1: pay your student loans off, and he pays all the bills. Yeah, 78 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: so imagine with it the money is coming in very 79 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: very handy. Yes, I think, Paulina, money or love, you 80 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: can only pick one. 81 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 4: I'd say money maybe at this point, yeah, I mean yeah, 82 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 4: like you know, a cost to. 83 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 1: Live fantastic lives to cost? Does it does costs a 84 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: little to cost. I don't know, Kiky, you take the 85 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: money because I heard you said two hundred thousand and 86 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 1: you just got I mean you got a little excited. 87 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:28,599 Speaker 5: Yeah, man, I'll take the money. I mean, like you said, 88 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 5: I can love really really be in love in a 89 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 5: G five Mercedes bands, like I can really like the 90 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 5: bench truck. Oh yeah, I would love you so bad, 91 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 5: you know, so like just. 92 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:42,559 Speaker 1: This imaginary thing, because yeah, right, you're not loving anyone. 93 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:44,839 Speaker 1: I would love you. It's hard to love broke and 94 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: I know he was taking she's taking love. I don't 95 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:49,920 Speaker 1: we have to ask the question. I think love. 96 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:53,680 Speaker 4: So so I'll either only ever have money or. 97 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:56,520 Speaker 1: Love my entire life. That's the scenario. Okay, so I 98 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: will never experience love. See I knew somebody was gonna 99 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: try and like, but what about a little love? And 100 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 1: then it's for money that's up standing on business, which 101 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 1: one is. 102 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 4: Okay, so throughout my whole life, then I would have 103 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:08,280 Speaker 4: to choose love. 104 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 1: See I knew. I'm like, we know each other for 105 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 1: a long time. Who knew? 106 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 6: Because I know rich people that are very sad, but 107 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 6: they're rich. 108 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:19,720 Speaker 1: Is it Dale, yes, Gail, Yeah, because d A. L 109 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: Is not a name anyway. It's like but the one 110 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:28,359 Speaker 1: time I don't say it the way that it's written, 111 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:32,039 Speaker 1: it's going to be like no, it's you know, you know, 112 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: And then then I'm like ignorant and sensitive and something anyway, 113 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: So hi, Hi, Gael. Not named Dale because there isn't 114 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:42,040 Speaker 1: it because there's not a named Dale anyway, Well there 115 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: is at Dale, but it wouldn't even be spelled that 116 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 1: way if there were. Okay, So please, I want to say, girl. 117 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 7: I'm shocked at your answer for at it because you 118 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:55,039 Speaker 7: have bought people like you make. You make your own 119 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 7: money yourself, so it's painful to even sit across from 120 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,360 Speaker 7: some for a two hour dinner that you're not into. 121 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: Now, Gail Dale, hold on a second, because because I 122 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:12,160 Speaker 1: wouldn't want to be with someone else for their money. 123 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:14,280 Speaker 1: I mean, I think this is love or money. I'm 124 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: assuming the necessaria of the money is mine, so I 125 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: don't need I don't need to fake the love for 126 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: the money. So if I if it's either be rich 127 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: and alone or be in love and not have any money, 128 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: I think I would rather be rich if I had 129 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: to choose, I think I'd rather be rich with money 130 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: because I feel like, yes, you would be lonely, but 131 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: there are other ways to fulfill yourself. I think as 132 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: a person who. 133 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 7: Doesn't don't, you're asking whether you should love for money 134 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 7: or love for love or marry for money or those 135 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 7: two options. 136 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,600 Speaker 1: Well that part yeah. Now part two, Gail, was would 137 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:47,480 Speaker 1: you go back to an X who won the lottery 138 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 1: or struck it rich? Now that I wouldn't do. 139 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 7: No, Yeah, okay, they're back there for a reason. 140 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: That's right, we're on the same page because the problems 141 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: wouldn't get anybody. If I know one thing about going 142 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 1: back to an X, it almost never changes except now 143 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: they're rich, which means now whatever the issues are going 144 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: to be compounded because you're staying with them. It's like 145 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: you have to put up with it because they're rich. 146 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: So that's not going to work. HEADA Gail Dale, Hey 147 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: love you by thanks for calling Illiana. Yes, hey, how 148 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: you doing? 149 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:19,520 Speaker 8: Hi? 150 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love you guys so much. 151 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 7: I literally listen to you guys every day. 152 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: Well, thank you so much. We love you for that. Okay, 153 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:29,320 Speaker 1: So you got the love or money and no other compromise. 154 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:31,560 Speaker 1: You either can be in love or you have lots 155 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: of money. What do you choose? 156 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 9: I choose love as somebody who has experienced and seen 157 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 9: like my grandma always chose money. And yeah she's had 158 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 9: always had money and she's always been very financially well 159 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 9: and stable, but she's been miserable. 160 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: And it's like and you notice that, and you see that, 161 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 1: and it's. 162 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 9: Like, yeah, you have this money, but you're alone. You're 163 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 9: not doing anything with your money, You're not being happy, 164 00:07:57,680 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 9: Like I feel like you truly have to be happy 165 00:07:59,840 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 9: with yourself to be happy with only money. And I 166 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 9: feel like in this world, ain't nobody really that happy 167 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 9: with themselves. 168 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:10,239 Speaker 1: To just be okay with money? I will say, Ileana peoples, 169 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: they use the word alone and it's always, almost always 170 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: in a negative context, and I think it's maybe people 171 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: should learn to be alone. Sometimes you don't have to 172 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: be but it's like alone, alone, alone, like it's a 173 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:24,800 Speaker 1: bad thing. Being alone is not inherently a bad thing, 174 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 1: but you're right if you hate yourself and your torture 175 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 1: with your own thoughts, and being alone is a bad thing. 176 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:32,079 Speaker 1: But if you were rich, you could hire a therapist. 177 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 9: And it's like yeah, but it's like money can bring 178 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 9: you a lot of things, but money will never bring 179 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 9: you genuine love. 180 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love. I could learn to love myself and 181 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: be I hear you though, thank you, have a good day. 182 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: Thank you you guys to have a great week. But 183 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: thank you everybody I know, not everybody, most people I 184 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 1: know it's alone, alone, alone, like it's a bad thing 185 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: being alone. I think more people should be able to 186 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 1: be alone. And if you want a companion, that's fine. 187 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:04,679 Speaker 1: But if you're able to be alone and then you're 188 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:06,720 Speaker 1: able to function in a companionship, I think that's the 189 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 1: best of both worlds. A lot of people, we all 190 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: know them, they cannot be alone. That's a good point. 191 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: Think it's just the alone forever is just like the yeah, 192 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: you know, to think out. I like the rich forever. Jamie, 193 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:20,560 Speaker 1: how you doing? Good morning? 194 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 5: Good morning? 195 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: How are you, Jamie? So you got two choices? Love 196 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 1: or money? That's it? Gen Z picks money? What do 197 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:30,199 Speaker 1: you pick. 198 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:32,160 Speaker 4: Money? 199 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 10: All day? 200 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 11: I got my own money. 201 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 7: I don't need your money. 202 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 11: We just need to make money together and travel and 203 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:40,559 Speaker 11: live life. 204 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough. So you would be quote unquote I'm 205 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 1: gonna call it independent. You'd be independent, not alone. You'd 206 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:52,199 Speaker 1: be on your own and rich. You would choose that absolutely. Okay, 207 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 1: there you have it, Thank you, Jamie. All right, love 208 00:09:56,040 --> 00:10:00,560 Speaker 1: you too. Hey, how you doing, tay? Hey you take 209 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:01,439 Speaker 1: that money? 210 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:03,440 Speaker 7: Oh yeah, for sure. 211 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 11: I don't want to say. It was so funny because 212 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 11: Whendella answered, she was like, is this hey, I call 213 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:07,959 Speaker 11: a way too much? 214 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 6: As much as you want, but yeah, I'm taking the money. 215 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 1: Do you know how much gas is? 216 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 2: Like? 217 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 5: No, I'm familiar, like diapers are expensive, and no, I'm 218 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:22,640 Speaker 5: taking the money. 219 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:24,440 Speaker 1: Hold on a second, how did you make the if 220 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 1: you took the money, was it like Tay for love? 221 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:32,679 Speaker 1: I guess you said, wow, wow, Ty just paid to 222 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:35,160 Speaker 1: get knocked up. But she's rich. She could buy the diaper. 223 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: She'll be fine. 224 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 5: Yes, And then January comes around and I'm even more 225 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:40,320 Speaker 5: rich when I touched her. 226 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: You know, wow, okay, fair enough. Wow, So it's buying babies, 227 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: but she's rich, so it's fine. He'll be rid. I 228 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: got it. I don't think that's legal, but if you're rich, 229 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: a lot of things are possible. So thank you, Tay, 230 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:56,920 Speaker 1: have a good day. Glad you called. Let's do blogs 231 00:10:56,960 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 1: end up brand new waiting by the phone. Next fread show, 232 00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:05,040 Speaker 1: next right here, this is the fread Show. Let's get 233 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: you Hotel A trip for two to see Jennifer Lopez 234 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 1: her brand new Las Vegas residency. Jennifer Lopez off All 235 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 1: Night Live in Las Vegas March thirteenth, twenty twenty six, 236 00:11:15,240 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: at the Coliseum at Caesar's Palace. Text Lopez to three 237 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 1: seven three three seven right now for a chance to 238 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 1: win two tickets to the March thirteenth show at Teinut 239 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: Hotel's Day March twelve to the fourteenth at the Flamingo 240 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:31,640 Speaker 1: Hotel Casino, Las Vegas and Ron Trevert Fair. A confirmation 241 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: text will be sent. Dennered message and data rates may apply. 242 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:36,960 Speaker 1: All thanks to Live Nations. Tickets you're on sale now 243 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: at ticketmaster dot com for all shows running December thirtieth 244 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,959 Speaker 1: through January third, and March sixth through the twenty eighth. 245 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 1: A fresh show. It's Kiki's Court. 246 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 2: All rise, the. 247 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: Honorable Kikili Judge Kiki take it away? 248 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 5: All right, let's get into the courtroom. The gabble has 249 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 5: been hit, it says Kiki. Am I wrong for telling 250 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,559 Speaker 5: them mom her daughter deserved to be left out because 251 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:03,439 Speaker 5: she's a My daughter's been relentlessly bullied at school and 252 00:12:03,559 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 5: in her summer gymnastics league by my neighbor's daughter. The 253 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 5: kid is a terrorist from name calling, physical attacks, the works. 254 00:12:11,640 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 5: But my kid has come home crying multiple times, so 255 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:19,320 Speaker 5: I've talked to her parents, who always make excuses, and 256 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 5: the school. I've talked to them too, but nothing changes. 257 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 5: I finally told my daughter she can defend herself if needed. 258 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 5: And for her birthday, I bought shriek bags and party 259 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:33,559 Speaker 5: invites for her gymnastics class. I brought them for everyone 260 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,560 Speaker 5: except for the bully. At the end of the class, 261 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:40,200 Speaker 5: I told everyone to stay. Then when the bully approached 262 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:42,840 Speaker 5: me and her mom, I said, oh, you two can leave. 263 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:44,439 Speaker 1: This isn't for your kid. 264 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 5: Her mom exploded, calling my kid a punk, and then 265 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 5: stormed out. The instructor lectured me on fairness, but I 266 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 5: think it's time. 267 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:56,160 Speaker 1: That the bully feels what she dishes out. 268 00:12:56,360 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 5: Some parents say I cross the line, but I want 269 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 5: you guys to tell me and my wrong. 270 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:07,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. I know I need. 271 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:08,959 Speaker 5: I need the jury away in because I know I'm 272 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 5: going to be off on this one because. 273 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:13,080 Speaker 1: I grew up, are you though. I grew up in 274 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,800 Speaker 1: a house where it was like, don't come in here 275 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:16,720 Speaker 1: crying about no bully. 276 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 5: If somebody is bullying you, you need to meet them 277 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,960 Speaker 5: where they're at and I'll leave it at that, and 278 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:23,679 Speaker 5: then you come back and tell me how you met them. 279 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 5: Where they at and that's it. You know, it was 280 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 5: very much go handle your bully, and she handled this. 281 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:32,079 Speaker 1: And I know that bullying has gone to a different 282 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 1: level now We've talked about this before with social media 283 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:37,880 Speaker 1: and all. You know, it's just like it's never ending. 284 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:40,400 Speaker 1: As were when we were younger, there was less of 285 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 1: that and it was more just you know, you had 286 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:44,360 Speaker 1: to deal with them one on one at school, on 287 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 1: the playground, whatever it was. At the same time, though, 288 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: you know that aside, I also think you can't ignore 289 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 1: all bullying because then your kids grow up and they 290 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:56,800 Speaker 1: into adults to get bullied by other adults because it 291 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:59,880 Speaker 1: happens all the time as grown ups and they're not 292 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:02,960 Speaker 1: equipped to handle that. Like some amount of that you 293 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 1: have to learn how to deal with as a human being, 294 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:08,280 Speaker 1: because people are not nice now, people bullied. You know, 295 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:11,199 Speaker 1: there are bullies all over the place, and you're not 296 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:13,720 Speaker 1: going to avoid them, so you can't just hide from 297 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 1: them or make them go away or quit your job 298 00:14:17,160 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: every time. So I get that, but I don't know, 299 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: what do you think. 300 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 5: I thought it was brilliant and very petty to have, 301 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:25,920 Speaker 5: you know, you announced to the entire gymnastics class everybody 302 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 5: stay back, everybody stay behind. I have treats for all 303 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:31,800 Speaker 5: the children, and then you line up all the kids 304 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 5: and the right when this little girl comes to the 305 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 5: front of the line, you're like, oh, honey, not you. 306 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 5: You know you could go by, that would slow down. 307 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 5: That was but it was kind of brilliant. 308 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's like, is there a different way to 309 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: handle it? 310 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 10: You know? 311 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:51,640 Speaker 1: Likely, I mean, not ignore it by any means, but 312 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:53,640 Speaker 1: like all the kids get treated the same, and then 313 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 1: you handle it with the parent. Maybe, but if it's 314 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 1: like way out of control, because I mean, every every 315 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 1: parent listening now is like raw rye. I want to 316 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: beat up the kid that is mean to my kid. 317 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 1: But at the same time, you know, returning fire in 318 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: the same way. Is that is that really right thing 319 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: to do? Because I don't think to beat a bully. 320 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 5: You don't become a bully, right, you don't become a bully, 321 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:17,320 Speaker 5: but you do confront a bully, if that makes sense. 322 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 10: Yeah. 323 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:21,800 Speaker 4: I think there's a parenting crisis right now happening where 324 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 4: people aren't, you know, really teaching their children certain things. 325 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:27,000 Speaker 1: And that's just my hot take. 326 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 4: I do feel that if your child is a bully, 327 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 4: I think that's something that you and you we are 328 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 4: a parent, you know your child is the bully, like 329 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,080 Speaker 4: don't play with me like you didn't, you know, And 330 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:38,200 Speaker 4: as a parent, I think that's something that you need 331 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 4: to step in on, Like I would never allow my 332 00:15:40,280 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 4: daughter to ever bully another child. I've seen my best 333 00:15:43,360 --> 00:15:45,640 Speaker 4: friend get bullied, you know, growing up, Like I don't 334 00:15:45,720 --> 00:15:48,240 Speaker 4: like that. I ride for that hard, and that's something 335 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:49,760 Speaker 4: that I don't I think that we're not doing a 336 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 4: good job. We're throwing iPads at kids and letting them 337 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 4: say what they want, to do what they want actss 338 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 4: social media. Like you mentioned Fred, things are different now 339 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 4: when it comes to bullying when we're a kid, what 340 00:15:57,560 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 4: like you took my lunch money? 341 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, but the parent calling the kid a punk. 342 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: The parents say that to a kid, That tells you 343 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 1: where it's coming. That tells you there's no account of bbility. Again, 344 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: it starts at home. So I'm really big on that. 345 00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 4: And I don't know, like I wouldn't want my kids 346 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 4: bully at the birthday party either. Now the parents need 347 00:16:16,160 --> 00:16:18,240 Speaker 4: to figure this out and not name calic you said, 348 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 4: don't do any of that. I think there's ways to 349 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 4: handle it. It's just it's not with the kids like 350 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 4: it's between the adults at that point. 351 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 1: That's my opinion. Hey Joe, yes, all right, you guys 352 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:28,560 Speaker 1: are the jury eight flash five five nine one one 353 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:30,400 Speaker 1: oh three five? What do you what say you? 354 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 12: I say you that she did the right thing. M okay, 355 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 12: my daughter, My daughter was bullied for a little while 356 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 12: and we kind of did the same thing, me and 357 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 12: my wife. We we kind of brushed it on the rug. Oh, 358 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 12: it's not a big deal. It's your friends. You guys 359 00:16:46,640 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 12: are girls. You'll be friends again in a week, it'll 360 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 12: be over with. But it didn't. And we told her 361 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:54,160 Speaker 12: to stand up for herself, and when she did, they 362 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 12: started to back off and the parents got concerned. And 363 00:16:57,680 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 12: we had mentioned to the parents that listen, we've brought 364 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 12: this to your attention multiple times, even to the school. 365 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 12: Like I even told my daughter, like I will deal 366 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:07,239 Speaker 12: with the school. Don't worry about it. And I had 367 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:10,520 Speaker 12: a long conversation with the principal. But I had to 368 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:12,880 Speaker 12: explain to our daughter that you know, if you let 369 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 12: this happen now, it's going to continue to happen and 370 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:18,439 Speaker 12: all through high school and and everything, and you have 371 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:19,840 Speaker 12: to just put it in the butt and that don't 372 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 12: go pull off, you know, beating her up and assaulting 373 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:24,880 Speaker 12: her and stuff. But you know, at the same time 374 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 12: you have to defend yourself and stand your ground because 375 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:30,080 Speaker 12: you know, even in middle school it can get worse. 376 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, true, Yeah, I mean, yeah, it's tricky because I 377 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:36,640 Speaker 1: mean I want to say, as far as the kids 378 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:39,680 Speaker 1: are concerned, killing with kindness almost as if the bullying 379 00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: doesn't matter, like you don't really have a voice, you're 380 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:44,960 Speaker 1: not really influencing my decisions. But at the same time 381 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:48,399 Speaker 1: it is and you wanted to stop, but then the 382 00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:55,240 Speaker 1: retaliation bullying, what does that accomplish. I mean, I'm not 383 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 1: saying yeah, no, I'm saying this. I'm not saying no, 384 00:17:59,800 --> 00:18:02,040 Speaker 1: but that's what that's what they did the mom and 385 00:18:02,080 --> 00:18:03,080 Speaker 1: that that's what they did. 386 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:06,680 Speaker 12: Yeah, I mean it feels and I guess I can 387 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 12: understand where they're coming from, right, because if you try 388 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:12,719 Speaker 12: multiple things and you have tried them with kindness, kill 389 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:15,480 Speaker 12: them with kindness before and it doesn't work. I mean, 390 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:18,639 Speaker 12: you know, we don't know what kind of bullying was 391 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:20,840 Speaker 12: going on, whether it was physical, whether it was social 392 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:23,160 Speaker 12: media media type bulliant. You know, there's so much now. 393 00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:25,400 Speaker 12: For we were kids, it was just you got picked 394 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 12: on and that was it. There's so much type of 395 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 12: bullying now that it mentally, I literally see it every 396 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:33,639 Speaker 12: day mentally affect people that they probably said, we can't 397 00:18:33,680 --> 00:18:37,800 Speaker 12: do this anymore. Let's do this instead of doing something physical. 398 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 12: Let's start with this and see if this works. Before 399 00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 12: they resulted in, you know, the child hitting them and 400 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:46,040 Speaker 12: then them sticking up for themselves and hitting them back. 401 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 12: Maybe it's let's not invite them to the party so 402 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:50,199 Speaker 12: they can kind of get a little taste to how 403 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:53,520 Speaker 12: it feels, and maybe that right there will change their attitude. 404 00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:54,400 Speaker 12: But I don't think it did. 405 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:57,640 Speaker 1: Hi Joe, thank you. Have a good day you as well. 406 00:18:57,680 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 12: Thank you. 407 00:18:58,119 --> 00:19:02,159 Speaker 1: Glad you called hey Rico, Yeah, hey, how's going on? 408 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:04,879 Speaker 1: Go hey Man? So you were you were the bully? 409 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:09,959 Speaker 2: I was, Yeah, I was. I regret it. I regret 410 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:14,119 Speaker 2: it a hundred times fold, really I do. And no, 411 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:18,240 Speaker 2: and then like I don't know, one day, I don't know, 412 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:21,240 Speaker 2: I started defending one of one of the people that 413 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 2: I was making fun of, and I was like, I 414 00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:28,040 Speaker 2: kind of beat them up a little bit. I got 415 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:30,040 Speaker 2: funded from the bush. 416 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:32,399 Speaker 1: How do you kind of beat up a little bit. 417 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:36,399 Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. How do you kind of beat them up? 418 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:41,159 Speaker 2: But anyway, you know, just like I don't know, just 419 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 2: a little bit. 420 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 1: I just mad him up a little bit. Yeah, okay, 421 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:46,760 Speaker 1: a little bit. But then you how you switch side though? 422 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:47,360 Speaker 1: You saw the light? 423 00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 2: I did, Yeah, I did, and and and now that 424 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:53,520 Speaker 2: I look back on it, I'm like, I regret that 425 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,320 Speaker 2: one hundred timesfold. And I'm just like, these people aren't 426 00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:57,679 Speaker 2: aren't they're they're not geeks. 427 00:19:57,720 --> 00:19:59,160 Speaker 12: They're they're they're really. 428 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:04,119 Speaker 2: Cool people, you know, yes, no, And then well the 429 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:07,159 Speaker 2: thing is, so the thing is I actually became one 430 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:10,400 Speaker 2: of them. I became a geek. I wasn't in the band. 431 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:11,800 Speaker 12: Also, I was a bank. 432 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 1: See how things turn. One day, one day, somebody up 433 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:19,760 Speaker 1: a little bit. The next day you're you're the guy 434 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 1: right right right, But you saw you saw that it 435 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 1: wasn't right, and that's that's good. Good for you, man, Hey, 436 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 1: have a good day. Yes, oh yeah, I know you guys, Yeah, no, 437 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:36,120 Speaker 1: thank you. You can continue with the compliments. But I 438 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: know I was he saw the light, he saw the 439 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: other side, because you know what I mean, you're growing 440 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:43,359 Speaker 1: up and people bully you, and you'll come home and 441 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:44,800 Speaker 1: your parents will be like, you know, that says more 442 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 1: about them than it is it's about you. And you know, 443 00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:50,200 Speaker 1: I don't know all these all these cliche things that 444 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,800 Speaker 1: may be true, they don't help at the time, but 445 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:55,120 Speaker 1: the fact is this is going to be present your 446 00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:55,720 Speaker 1: whole life. 447 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:56,159 Speaker 10: It is. 448 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 1: I mean, to this day, we all still deal with 449 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 1: bullies who think they're more important than they are, people 450 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:05,040 Speaker 1: who you know, say mean things and then hide whatever 451 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:07,119 Speaker 1: is it's it's it's never going to end, so you 452 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 1: have to be equipped to deal with it. In some regard, 453 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 1: I would agree it's worse now than it's ever been, 454 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 1: because it's it's it's relentless, you know, from all different angles, 455 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,600 Speaker 1: and you can hide behind screen names and accounts and whatever. 456 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:22,199 Speaker 1: But I don't know that my parents ever would have 457 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,960 Speaker 1: My parents definitely there were kids they didn't like, and 458 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 1: and you know I knew that, but I don't know 459 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 1: that they were going to treat the kids that way 460 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,440 Speaker 1: because what message does that send, right, I mean, it's 461 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:36,679 Speaker 1: it's retaliation bullying, essentially. I don't know. I mean, there 462 00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: are parents wistly now I'm sure going good good for 463 00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 1: that mom, but then would you really do that? I'm 464 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:42,640 Speaker 1: not sure, Stacy. 465 00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:44,760 Speaker 11: Hi, hi, Hi? 466 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:48,439 Speaker 1: So are you a parent? Yes? I am, okay? So 467 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,399 Speaker 1: would you would you retaliate on a bully? Like if 468 00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:54,040 Speaker 1: your go son or daughter came home and like in 469 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 1: this case, it said this person is being mean to me, 470 00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 1: would you then get involved? 471 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:00,960 Speaker 11: Yes. Well that's why I actually give the parents a 472 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:04,040 Speaker 11: round of applause for calling out the bully, because the 473 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:07,359 Speaker 11: parents these days with the generation, don't teach their kids 474 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:09,520 Speaker 11: any type of respect. And if you want to live 475 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,080 Speaker 11: in this society, you got to have some kind of 476 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:16,480 Speaker 11: you know, thank you, please and all that other stuff. 477 00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 1: But what are you teaching, Stacy if everybody gets a 478 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,479 Speaker 1: treat except for the one kid. You know, what are 479 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,200 Speaker 1: you saying? Essentially? I mean, you're saying that it's okay 480 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: to bully. 481 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,320 Speaker 11: Being a bully. If you want to live in the society, 482 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:34,679 Speaker 11: then have some type of mental stability to let you 483 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,879 Speaker 11: be in the society with everybody else, because nowadays, with 484 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 11: people like that, you don't want to bring them in 485 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 11: your thing, not knowing if they don't have any type 486 00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 11: of mental issues, and if they're going to come and 487 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:44,760 Speaker 11: shoot up. 488 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:52,720 Speaker 8: Your party, well that's that's that's where it ends up leaving, 489 00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:55,840 Speaker 8: because that's where it ends up leading too, because they 490 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:58,359 Speaker 8: want to start saying that they get depressed. 491 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 11: Because people leave them out because they're being bullied, you know, 492 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 11: and then when they start being depressed and they start 493 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:05,360 Speaker 11: thinking about harming theirself. 494 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,280 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Stacy, Well thank you, have a good day. 495 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,399 Speaker 1: I mean dad took a turn and turned into an 496 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:16,399 Speaker 1: episode of b mess. I don't know though, see, I 497 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:20,520 Speaker 1: guess from my perspective, as as somebody who I don't know, 498 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 1: not everybody. I was kind of middle of the road. 499 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:24,680 Speaker 1: I mean, there were people that made fun of me 500 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:26,320 Speaker 1: because I was obsessed with radio and said it would 501 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:27,960 Speaker 1: never happen, and I don't know, you're you're a doork 502 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:29,560 Speaker 1: for that, And then there were people that were nice 503 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:30,800 Speaker 1: to me. I I was right in the middle. But 504 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:35,520 Speaker 1: I guess at the time my parents retaliating wouldn't have 505 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:37,840 Speaker 1: helped a whole lot. If anything, their message was not 506 00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:40,000 Speaker 1: killing with kindness, which is easy to say, but it's 507 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:43,439 Speaker 1: almost like by by not giving her a treat or 508 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:45,640 Speaker 1: not giving her not including her in with the rest 509 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,440 Speaker 1: of the group, you're essentially saying you're on you got 510 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,560 Speaker 1: under my skin. I don't like you, and and and 511 00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 1: i'm you affected me, and I think to a certain extent, 512 00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: if you can learn to rise above it, It's almost 513 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,200 Speaker 1: like here with a smile, everybody knows the person who's 514 00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: mean to you, and you're still kind to them even 515 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,880 Speaker 1: though you don't like them. And I know that it's 516 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 1: so crushing inside for the person who you're still nice 517 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:10,600 Speaker 1: to even when they're mean to you, And I think 518 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 1: there's something to be It's almost like I'm teaching you 519 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,879 Speaker 1: that that person's words don't matter and that you'll just 520 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,359 Speaker 1: continue to give good energy. But if I don't know, 521 00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:22,240 Speaker 1: if my mom comes down there and solves my problems 522 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,879 Speaker 1: for me, is that what am I learning from that? 523 00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:26,320 Speaker 1: I think you're sending the wrong message. 524 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 4: Though, if I'm inviting the bully to my birthday party 525 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 4: or my kids birthday party, like I'm rewarding your behavior 526 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:32,919 Speaker 4: at that point, because what everybody gets to come over, 527 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,359 Speaker 4: it gets a trophy. I personally don't like that children 528 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:37,000 Speaker 4: take their lives for this kind of stuff. 529 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:39,239 Speaker 1: I don't play like this was this was like at 530 00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:41,399 Speaker 1: a class, wasn't it like everybody was there? Yeah, they 531 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:43,439 Speaker 1: were in gymnastics, class. Yeah, I think you're more than 532 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: welcome to have a party and not invite everybody. I 533 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,480 Speaker 1: think that's fine. I'm not going to invite the boy 534 00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,320 Speaker 1: to my house, no, but if it's in front of everybody, 535 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,200 Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like that's probably the message 536 00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: is what you know. 537 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,280 Speaker 5: What is getting me though, the mom of the bully, 538 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,520 Speaker 5: Like you had the audacity and the nerve to get 539 00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:01,919 Speaker 5: in line to get a treat back. And you know 540 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 5: that your child is a bully, and you know I've 541 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 5: confronted you about it before, So like that on you 542 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:08,480 Speaker 5: to get in line thinking your kid deserves something when 543 00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 5: you know your kid is a bully. 544 00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:12,200 Speaker 1: What we all know what, we all know where it's 545 00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:14,400 Speaker 1: coming from them. You know, the lack of awareness means 546 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:16,479 Speaker 1: that the parent is instilling this and the kids exactly. 547 00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 1: Hey Lena, you're okay with this and you're a school counselor. 548 00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:22,080 Speaker 6: Oh yes, yes, yes I am. 549 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,280 Speaker 13: And the reason why I say that is because the 550 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,760 Speaker 13: kids nowadays are an entirely different breed. I've been doing 551 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:31,920 Speaker 13: this for over six years now, and I can see 552 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 13: the change in the way the kids interact with each other. 553 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 13: And you know, I feel like. 554 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:41,159 Speaker 6: It it gives the bully, you know, because when a 555 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,200 Speaker 6: kid is being bullied and you know they're the ones 556 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,639 Speaker 6: that are doing the bullying, they have that sense of power. 557 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 6: But I almost feel like what the mom did just 558 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,200 Speaker 6: kind of help knock that child down a little bit 559 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:55,000 Speaker 6: and maybe hopefully in the future they won't continue to 560 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:55,960 Speaker 6: do the same behavior. 561 00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:58,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I see both sides of this. I mean, 562 00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 1: I know what I would want to do was a parent, 563 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 1: and I want to kick the little kid's ass. Yeah, 564 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:04,439 Speaker 1: But at the same time that I have, I have 565 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 1: to think, like, Okay, what what is the lesson I'm teaching? 566 00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,520 Speaker 1: What am I instilling in my kid? Am I saying 567 00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,800 Speaker 1: that I'll just I'll be there for every every difficult 568 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 1: situation that my kids in and I'll fix it because 569 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 1: I won't be you know. And again, it's not like 570 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,520 Speaker 1: this was in front of everybody. This was It wasn't 571 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,159 Speaker 1: as though this was at my house and that we 572 00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:25,199 Speaker 1: were required to invite a kid. No, we weren't. Like 573 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,600 Speaker 1: this was in a thing that we're all involved with 574 00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:29,440 Speaker 1: together and one of the kids is a little jerk, 575 00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: and I feel like there's always going to be a 576 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,600 Speaker 1: little jerk for sure. 577 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:38,560 Speaker 6: Yeah, I definitely, I can see both sides, but I 578 00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:40,679 Speaker 6: don't know. I feel like the Mama Bear and me 579 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,040 Speaker 6: definitely would have been like, Okay, no, we need to 580 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:47,120 Speaker 6: take you down a little bit. But I do think that, 581 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 6: you know, I have a feeling that they're not going 582 00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 6: to have any issues with that kid anymore though, and hopefully, 583 00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:55,920 Speaker 6: you know, yeah, things will get better. 584 00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:59,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope so too. Thank you, Lena, all Right, 585 00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 1: have a good day. I'm glad you called. Hey, Michelle, Hi, 586 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,960 Speaker 1: Michelle Kicky's court. So basically, it's it's a bullying situation 587 00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 1: in a gymnastics class and there was a party of 588 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,000 Speaker 1: some kind and the kid being bullied gave that little 589 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:18,000 Speaker 1: treats to everybody except the and the mom, except for 590 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,840 Speaker 1: the kid who was the bully, And then the bully's 591 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:25,399 Speaker 1: mom got involved and it was sort of this tussle. Well, 592 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,120 Speaker 1: I mean, what do you think, I. 593 00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:33,159 Speaker 14: Mean, somebody that I saw a bullying around me, I 594 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,440 Speaker 14: just have a question about the other people that witnessed it. 595 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,320 Speaker 14: Bullying usually doesn't happen online closed doors. It happened in 596 00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:41,680 Speaker 14: front of other people, in front of coaches, in front 597 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:45,520 Speaker 14: of other kids. Like it also comes down to the 598 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:49,080 Speaker 14: people that witnessed it. How is that not complacency? So 599 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 14: I guess it just comes down to I guess yes, 600 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:57,639 Speaker 14: I think it could have been helpful because it puts 601 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 14: the bully in the place. But it's kind of chicken 602 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,520 Speaker 14: or the egg, which one comes first. It really comes 603 00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 14: down to what about the community around that watched it happen? 604 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:08,640 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, yeah. 605 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:11,440 Speaker 5: The mom says she's spoken to everyone, the school administrator, 606 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:15,040 Speaker 5: she went to the parents, and nobody's taking her please seriously. 607 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:20,480 Speaker 1: So she's like, okay, I'll take matters into my own hands. Yeah. Yeah, teammates, 608 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 1: so one, are the other kids that standing up? 609 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 14: Yeah, those that were being bullied around me? 610 00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:29,959 Speaker 5: Yeah, this seems like young kids. Yeah, and the gymnastics. 611 00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:33,119 Speaker 5: I don't know. I wouldn't put the the responsibility on 612 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,480 Speaker 5: the other kids. I've already approached the parents and the 613 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:36,480 Speaker 5: adults in the situation. 614 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:39,480 Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, yeah, thank you, Michelle, have a good day. 615 00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 12: Thanks you too. 616 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 8: Uh. 617 00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:45,880 Speaker 1: I want to say, Antonio, hey, go ahead, you doing 618 00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:49,040 Speaker 1: and tell you don't agree with me? I gotta go. Sorry, 619 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,520 Speaker 1: we have a nice day. Thanks for calling. No, what 620 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,880 Speaker 1: do you want to say? I get where you're going 621 00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:55,200 Speaker 1: with it. 622 00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 10: I'm a parent of three, and I don't want to 623 00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:01,240 Speaker 10: call it revenge bullying because it's really hard to get 624 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 10: kids to stand up for themselves when it's like not 625 00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 10: naturally in them. As she mentioned, it's something that's happened 626 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,920 Speaker 10: at school, it's happened at gymnastic, and it's became physical. 627 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 10: Most people would have been lost it at that point, 628 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,480 Speaker 10: and evening you personally, I'm a challenge to parent at 629 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 10: that point. I need to see what's going on and 630 00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,000 Speaker 10: if you're not going to correct your child, I'm going. 631 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:22,720 Speaker 12: To correct your child. And I thought that was. 632 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:27,120 Speaker 10: Very gentle, a very gentle response, and for it, that's 633 00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 10: a Fox move. 634 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,560 Speaker 1: Baby, you out smarter them. You don't get physical, you're 635 00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,080 Speaker 1: out smart them. That's a Fox move. Well, but I 636 00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:36,000 Speaker 1: agree with you that, like, let's have the conversation among parents, 637 00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:38,000 Speaker 1: and as hard as it is to do and as 638 00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,080 Speaker 1: much as I don't necessarily always do this in my 639 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 1: life and would like to, the killing with kindest thing 640 00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,480 Speaker 1: is the move because what you're saying to the bully 641 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,920 Speaker 1: kid or adult is that you are not getting under 642 00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,080 Speaker 1: my skin, like I'm going to continue to be nice 643 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,719 Speaker 1: to you because we're not. And it's hard to do, 644 00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:55,800 Speaker 1: but like if I still give you this present, like 645 00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:58,800 Speaker 1: everybody else or whatever, it's just like, at what point 646 00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 1: do they get bored and move on to somebody else 647 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:02,800 Speaker 1: and they. 648 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:06,360 Speaker 10: Didn't and attack them or antagonize them. It's just more 649 00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:08,600 Speaker 10: you don't deserve to be there. And we have a 650 00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:11,600 Speaker 10: writer's people. Especially as the mom said, I know that 651 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 10: she went a little off the richter with the school shooting, 652 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:17,960 Speaker 10: but that happens. I've been in a situation where my 653 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,240 Speaker 10: kid was at a school and this kid like that. 654 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,400 Speaker 10: That's nothing nobody wants to ever be a part of. 655 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:24,960 Speaker 10: We don't know where it starts, so we have to 656 00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:28,640 Speaker 10: be proactive and not reactive in them situations. And I'll 657 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:31,720 Speaker 10: tell you get stressed anxiety, like to be around somebody 658 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,840 Speaker 10: who treats mistreats you. That's a very uncomfortable situation for 659 00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:37,920 Speaker 10: an adult. That's crazy off the chart for a kid. 660 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:39,920 Speaker 10: And like I say, I agree with what you're saying 661 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 10: as far as like, we don't want that to be 662 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:45,240 Speaker 10: teddy hypocritical. It can't get that's a fine line. 663 00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:46,520 Speaker 12: So I agree with what you're saying. 664 00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:48,960 Speaker 10: But I thought as a dad that was gentle because 665 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:50,120 Speaker 10: I don't have that in me like. 666 00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:51,600 Speaker 2: That, So I thought that was really clever. 667 00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:53,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. No, see, I know what I'd like to do. 668 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,440 Speaker 1: I just would hope I wouldn't do it because, and 669 00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:58,160 Speaker 1: tell you, everyone knows what you do. You smile to 670 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,400 Speaker 1: their face and you get online with the fakes rename 671 00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:02,280 Speaker 1: and you say that, uh, you know, the mom's got 672 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,600 Speaker 1: drugs in her house. She called the cops, get the docs, 673 00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:06,760 Speaker 1: and we get the swat team out there. Everyone knows 674 00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:08,000 Speaker 1: what that's how you handle it.