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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: This is from MJ and Steve harbfm MJ says, my

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Speaker 2: wife and I have been married for eleven years. We

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Speaker 2: have a nine year old daughter together, and my wife's

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Speaker 2: teenage son from her first marriage lives with us full time.

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Speaker 2: Everyone in our house seems happy and well adjusted except me.

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Speaker 2: For the last few years, I've felt increasingly dissatisfied with

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Speaker 2: my life. I've told my wife how I feel, and

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Speaker 2: she's verbally supportive, but she won't actually do anything to

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Speaker 2: change things. I've suggested trying new things together, moving to

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Speaker 2: a new house, anything to break up the monotony, but

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Speaker 2: since she's happy, she has no motivation. I love her

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Speaker 2: and our kids, but I'm starting to wonder if I

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Speaker 2: should leave because no one else wants change. Am I

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Speaker 2: out of line for feeling this way? Should I get therapy,

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Speaker 2: try a trial separation?

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Speaker 1: Well? Brouh, what's wrong? You know?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I appreciate you writing it, but what's wrong?

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Speaker 3: You seem like you're bored, You're not happy with where

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Speaker 3: you are in life, or you just don't like the house,

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Speaker 3: or you don't think you're getting anything in return. Look, man,

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Speaker 3: being a husband and a father is a hard job.

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Speaker 3: Because you're not gonna get it one hundred. If you're

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Speaker 3: expecting that, you're not. Marriage is not fifty to fifty.

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Speaker 3: Since stop all that. It's not fifty to fifty. Never

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Speaker 3: what's set up to be that way. It's eighty five fifteen.

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Speaker 3: They get eighty five, you get to fifteen. You have

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Speaker 3: to learn how to take that fifteen, maximize it, adjust

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Speaker 3: and enjoy it. And that's not anything that's crazy to

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Speaker 3: say to a man, because are you not taking pride

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Speaker 3: or showing gratitude for what you've accomplished? Are you losing

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Speaker 3: sight of what you've accomplished as a man because you're overly.

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Speaker 1: Concerned of what you haven't accomplished.

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Speaker 3: Now, if you've made a life where everybody in your

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Speaker 3: family's happy, brother, you've done a hell of a job

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Speaker 3: as a father and a husband, you've done a hell

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Speaker 3: of a job. Your wife is trying to be supportive,

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Speaker 3: but she don't really know what's wrong, and based on

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Speaker 3: your letter, I don't either, So, brother, I think you

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Speaker 3: should focus on the things that you have gotten right.

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Speaker 3: You have been an excellent provider, an excellent protector. You've

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Speaker 3: taken in this boy that was from another marriage. You

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Speaker 3: provided a father figure for him. Y'all got a nine

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Speaker 3: year old daughter. Your wife is happy you want to

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Speaker 3: move to a big or different house.

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Speaker 1: They don't want to move. Bruh.

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Speaker 3: You probably need to go get some therapy because you

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Speaker 3: need to talk to somebody about your feelings, because I

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Speaker 3: don't know what you're feeling.

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Speaker 1: So that's my suggestion to.

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Speaker 2: He mentioned therapy.

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Speaker 1: Should go get therapy?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you probably should, man, since that's on your list

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Speaker 3: of things to do.

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Speaker 1: I pray my way out of spey.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, we have time for another one, Steve.

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Speaker 2: This is from JJ and Steve HARVFM. JJ said, it's

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Speaker 2: weird that I'm writing this on social media since social

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Speaker 2: media has become a problem. My girlfriend and I have

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Speaker 2: been together for a year and a half, but things

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Speaker 2: have changed over the last couple of months. She took

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Speaker 2: a new job, and I guess her coworkers are absurdly

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Speaker 2: active on social media. Since she started working there, her

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Speaker 2: screen time is more than tripled and we can't go

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Speaker 2: anywhere without taking a few dozen selfies. As if that

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Speaker 2: wasn't enough, she has to double check and approve all

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Speaker 2: the photos and fix the lighting when it's not perfect.

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Speaker 2: We don't get to enjoy the places we go because

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Speaker 2: they've all become background noise to her emerging brand. I

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Speaker 2: need to talk with her about it, but I'm not

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Speaker 2: sure how to approach it because I fear becoming content.

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Speaker 2: I really don't want that kind of life. How do

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Speaker 2: I handle this?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't help you, don't. I can't help you.

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Speaker 3: A lot of people like that, you know, I know

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Speaker 3: some people. I got people in my family like that.

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Speaker 3: You got to take pictures of food before you eat.

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Speaker 1: I don't get it. I don't understand.

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Speaker 3: I work with a lot of young people. Man, they

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Speaker 3: keep their phone in their hand. Everything is content.

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Speaker 1: Everything. You can't go nowhere.

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Speaker 3: Every time you put some clothes on, every time you

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Speaker 3: walk in, they got stories.

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Speaker 1: Ms. Tarby, put that on your story? What story you're

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Speaker 1: listening to? The Steve Harvey Morning Show