WEBVTT - Just B Rant: Let's Talk About Work

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Delegation and management are critical in running a business

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<v Speaker 1>or having a good position. And there are some people

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<v Speaker 1>in your organization that will shoot to the top immediately,

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<v Speaker 1>and there are other people that will stay where they

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<v Speaker 1>are and just gradually move up the corporate structure and ladder.

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<v Speaker 1>And the problem is those people that are the good

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<v Speaker 1>workhorses that move up the corporate structure and ladder, they

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<v Speaker 1>want to know why they didn't shoot to the top.

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<v Speaker 1>And there could be many different reasons. It could be

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<v Speaker 1>work style. You're not a good salesperson, you're not charismatic,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not likable, you don't click with the person who

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<v Speaker 1>makes the decisions. You're just not a star. You're a

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<v Speaker 1>very good, amazing, solid, reliable, most valuable player worker, but

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<v Speaker 1>you're not a star. But I can tell you this,

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<v Speaker 1>if you are not an excellent manager of time and

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<v Speaker 1>other people, you will get stuck and not move. And

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<v Speaker 1>not everyone's good at managing other people, and not everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>good at managing their time. Take a course on it,

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<v Speaker 1>read about it, learn it. Because people get sucked in,

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<v Speaker 1>and people go down rabbit holes and go down in

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<v Speaker 1>the weeds. It's decision making, decision making. I have been

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<v Speaker 1>told by people at multi billion dollar companies they've never

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<v Speaker 1>met someone more decisive than I am, and that could

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<v Speaker 1>like run things and be as efficient and effective and

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<v Speaker 1>get it done as fast as I can. No one

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<v Speaker 1>on my that I've ever worked with that my entire

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<v Speaker 1>life has been as fast as I am and efficient

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<v Speaker 1>in getting things done. Why it's called make a goddamn decision.

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<v Speaker 1>Check the box, keep it moving. If you make the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong decision, you circle back, you try to correct it,

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<v Speaker 1>you shift it, you pivot it, and you keep it

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<v Speaker 1>moving again. It doesn't matter. You can't get bogged down

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<v Speaker 1>for fear or that you will make the wrong decision.

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<v Speaker 1>That is not a leader, That is not a manager.

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<v Speaker 1>That is not what you do. You make a decision,

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<v Speaker 1>you stand by it, and you keep going, and you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to ask sixty five people if it's the

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<v Speaker 1>right decision. You could ask people in crowdsourced advice about

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<v Speaker 1>the thing. Phone a friend, don't phone on the boss.

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<v Speaker 1>The boss doesn't want to be in every weed. But

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<v Speaker 1>then fucking make one decision and go and then delegation too.

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<v Speaker 1>Be able to delegate. You can't have your face in

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<v Speaker 1>the pot the whole time. Walk away from a stove,

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<v Speaker 1>turn it to simmer, have someone else to watch the pot,

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<v Speaker 1>take it off, do what you gotta do. But you

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<v Speaker 1>cannot be a person that's going to move to the

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<v Speaker 1>top without management and delegation, or get the right people

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<v Speaker 1>in the seats to manage and delegate if you aren't

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<v Speaker 1>good at that. But these are important skill sets, or

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<v Speaker 1>to know that you're not great at that and not

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<v Speaker 1>the best manager only because I get irritable and lose

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<v Speaker 1>my patience, but I get to get away with it

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<v Speaker 1>because I am the creative. I am a creative. I

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<v Speaker 1>can barely stay on a zoom for more than two seconds.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I've been put in a jail cell

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<v Speaker 1>with a dog collar around my neck. But the two

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<v Speaker 1>minutes that I'm on the zoom, I damn deliver. I

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<v Speaker 1>damn deliver marketing ideas, solutions, what to do, how to

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<v Speaker 1>name things, where everybody should be, what CCY should be in,

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<v Speaker 1>what twelve people on a meeting should be doing. And

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<v Speaker 1>then I piece the fuck out. But that's a skill

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<v Speaker 1>set and that's me. So find out what you are

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<v Speaker 1>good at thrive in it. Because I do know people

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<v Speaker 1>that are terrible time and people managers and time is

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<v Speaker 1>literally money. If you're paying someone a salary and you're

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<v Speaker 1>not getting the ROI in the amount of time that

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<v Speaker 1>they're working, but you know they're working hard. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>someone who goes to the gym for four hours, but

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<v Speaker 1>the person who goes for forty five minutes is in

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<v Speaker 1>better shape because that person who goes for forty five

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<v Speaker 1>minutes knows how to work out. They work smart, not

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<v Speaker 1>just hard. I had a guy used to work with,

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<v Speaker 1>great guy, loved him. I walked into the boss's office

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, I'm leaving. He said, what are you

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<v Speaker 1>talking about? What do you mean such and such is

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<v Speaker 1>still here. I go, well, that's a touching story. He's like, right,

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<v Speaker 1>well then used to I go, no, cause I did

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<v Speaker 1>three times. The work is him, and I'll show you

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<v Speaker 1>it all. Here's all my work, here's all what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>making on all my jobs. And I'm not getting penalized

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<v Speaker 1>because this guy's not efficient. This motherfucker dicks around and

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<v Speaker 1>socializes and talks and laughs. I don't do that. Every

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<v Speaker 1>photoshoot that we negotiate for me to do, they want

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<v Speaker 1>me for eight hours, you'd sooner see me on a

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<v Speaker 1>spaceship tonight. With Gail King going to the moon than

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<v Speaker 1>me on a photo shoot for eight hours. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a four hour gal, but guess what, we're not jerking

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<v Speaker 1>around with lunch and pleasantries and for play and snack

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<v Speaker 1>time and dicking around. Now I get in there and

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<v Speaker 1>I get my work done and I get the fuck out,

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<v Speaker 1>and the whole crew appreciates it. They don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>dick around either. It's not like, what does everybody want

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<v Speaker 1>for Starbucks? I'm going your going much, shut up, I'm in.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get the work done. Let's get the fuck out.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone go live their lives and go to the beach.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's efficient. Other people are there for twelve hours.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not that girl. Every minute counts. Time is literally money.

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<v Speaker 1>Use your time well, it is so valuable, and manage

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<v Speaker 1>it and manage other people. And managing other people also,

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<v Speaker 1>if done improperly, sucks time. And it's days, it's weeks,

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<v Speaker 1>it's months. It's the same way that like, if you

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<v Speaker 1>buy a latte every day for seven dollars, how much

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<v Speaker 1>is that over the course of a year. If you

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<v Speaker 1>waste twenty minutes every hour on bullshit with people, what

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<v Speaker 1>is that over the course of a year, have the

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<v Speaker 1>right people in the right seats. And if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to grow your business, you have to be knock down,

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<v Speaker 1>drag out. Okay, you could be like a startup small

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<v Speaker 1>entrepreneur person if you are busting out and your business

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<v Speaker 1>is starting to explode and blow up while some people

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<v Speaker 1>might not make it, because you can then employ hundreds

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<v Speaker 1>of people if you have an efficient business model where

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<v Speaker 1>you're working smarter and not just worrying about the one

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<v Speaker 1>person that you feel bad about. It's show business. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not show friends. Okay, it's not show friends. It's show business.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's all about the Benjamin's baby in business, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's all about charity and charity and the two do

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<v Speaker 1>not come together. So if you cut loose somebody who's

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<v Speaker 1>not performing and you're worried about, say their job, you'll

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<v Speaker 1>make hundreds of jobs. So it's not for the faint

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<v Speaker 1>of heart. Let me talk about chatter at work. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what your environment is. If it's remote, it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't really matter, but it might matter on zooms. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to tell you something. If you work

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<v Speaker 1>for someone really serious, they don't want chatter. They don't

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<v Speaker 1>want work chatter they'll let you know when they want

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<v Speaker 1>to speak about something and then extend the conversation. You'll

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<v Speaker 1>be out with them for a drink after work at

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<v Speaker 1>the Christmas party. Don't add extra information and chat, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>that's so nice. Where'd you get that? None of your

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<v Speaker 1>fa where'd you go? You know? How is your weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>Is almost pushing it too far. That's sometimes too much.

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<v Speaker 1>Like sometimes bosses that are fucking badass, they don't want

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of foreplay. If they're that type of person,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll chat. It's like match their energy. Ish. I would

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<v Speaker 1>voice text people my staff and then they would voice

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<v Speaker 1>text me back up, like yeah, no, that's a one

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<v Speaker 1>way street. Huh huh. I voice text you'll text me

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<v Speaker 1>bac why there's a reason why I'm doing it. But

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<v Speaker 1>this is not for me to listen to seven thousand

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<v Speaker 1>voice messages that are probably private in public. So there's

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<v Speaker 1>a double standard there, But it's the same thing, like

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<v Speaker 1>not everybody wants to be communicated with in the same

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<v Speaker 1>way that they're communicating. They might say you look cute,

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<v Speaker 1>they might say something, they might tell you these genes

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<v Speaker 1>are great. They don't necessarily want you to chime in

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<v Speaker 1>with a monologue about genes. Okay, serious business people have

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<v Speaker 1>a lot going on, they have a lot in their mind,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're not interested in workplace chatter. In addition gossip,

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<v Speaker 1>there is a person that was actually pretty good at

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<v Speaker 1>their job. I mean, they've had this many times. I've

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<v Speaker 1>had probably five of these people. But I have someone

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<v Speaker 1>right off the top of my head that was pretty

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<v Speaker 1>good at their job and they now are chomping at

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<v Speaker 1>the bit to work back here. My sources say, because

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<v Speaker 1>we're crushing it. I'm crushing it. And this is a

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<v Speaker 1>person who really wants to get back here to work here.

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<v Speaker 1>The shop is closed. Why because once someone leaves, the

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<v Speaker 1>other people tell you what their flaws were and what

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<v Speaker 1>they did. And my other LOYALTYA members have told me

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<v Speaker 1>this person was very gossipy, like to shit on me

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<v Speaker 1>to each other, like to shit on other people to

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<v Speaker 1>each other. Like. Workplace gossip is a poison. It is toxic.

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<v Speaker 1>Shut your fucking mouth, keep your head down, know talking

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<v Speaker 1>about anyone else, not even when a little bit prodded

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<v Speaker 1>by the boss, like there's a subtle way to say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not really sure or perhaps or something. Because you

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<v Speaker 1>want to be the favorite child and you want to

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<v Speaker 1>say the thing about the other. Do not gossip, do

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<v Speaker 1>not talk bad about anybody. Okay, your boss, if they're

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<v Speaker 1>not a moron, they know what's going on overall. They

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<v Speaker 1>might ask you for a specific thing, and it's a

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<v Speaker 1>delicate balance because if someone is not performing and it's

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<v Speaker 1>bogging you down, then when asked, you're going to have

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<v Speaker 1>to find a diplomatic way to con because bosses also

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<v Speaker 1>are not watching closely every single nuanced thing, and they

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<v Speaker 1>might not know how you have a dynamic with someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>What that is. Is it toxic? Are they annoying? Like

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<v Speaker 1>you have to find the right balance to how you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to get that information across that is not being

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<v Speaker 1>a rat, that is not gossiping and is not trashing

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<v Speaker 1>another person. It is not easy. But your boss also

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time does not want you holding on

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<v Speaker 1>to the fact that you know this person either stole

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<v Speaker 1>or is bad or can't hang and can't do the job.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, if you can land it in a

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<v Speaker 1>way that seems genuine for the boss and not self serving,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not a joke, Like, these things are very serious,

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<v Speaker 1>and most bosses that are serious think that most people

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<v Speaker 1>don't work as hard as they should, and that no

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<v Speaker 1>one cares as much as the boss. So find the

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<v Speaker 1>balance for you. And that woman who started Good American

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<v Speaker 1>and I think skims she triggered people by saying that

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<v Speaker 1>people who are mentioning their work life balance to a

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<v Speaker 1>boss or a pink flag or a red flag. I

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<v Speaker 1>think she said. I don't disagree with her, like you

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<v Speaker 1>create your own work balance. I don't know what your

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<v Speaker 1>all your hours are. I know that I have a

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<v Speaker 1>business manager that we negotiate a salary for a person,

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<v Speaker 1>and that person knows how many hours it is. If

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<v Speaker 1>they're gonna be at work late today, I always say,

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<v Speaker 1>let me know so tomorrow you can balance it at

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<v Speaker 1>or I'm gonna be away or I'm gonna be away

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<v Speaker 1>four days stack the time. Then do hear? I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>sitting around paying attention to someone's entire schedule. I can

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<v Speaker 1>text someone at ten o'clock at night to have it

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll say, like, don't worry about this now, just

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<v Speaker 1>so it's like been sent or it's somewhere. But if

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<v Speaker 1>they get hooked in and start like writing me or

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<v Speaker 1>texting me, that's on them, Like I'm not unless it's

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<v Speaker 1>an emergency. I'm not asking them at eleven o'clock at

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<v Speaker 1>night to do something about my text. So I believe

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<v Speaker 1>that that woman. I don't have the bandwidth to literally

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<v Speaker 1>know what someone's yoga schedule is and when their baby's breastfeeding.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have that bandwidth. I don't know about that.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone has to monitor and self regulate. This is about

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<v Speaker 1>self regulation. I'm a self regulator. I will be frenzied

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<v Speaker 1>and frazzled and frail and not doing well like I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't later, and then I will put myself in my bed.

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<v Speaker 1>I will turn on a television show and I will

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<v Speaker 1>force myself to go to sleep. I will go and

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<v Speaker 1>harden the paint on a bunch of events and a

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<v Speaker 1>bunch of things, and then I will lay in bed

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<v Speaker 1>for four days and get five massages and recover, not five,

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<v Speaker 1>but like one or two. Know thyself, know thy body.

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<v Speaker 1>But you have to self regulate. AH work ethic. People

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<v Speaker 1>don't change. You don't go backwards. You don't go back

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<v Speaker 1>and get back with your ex where it didn't work,

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<v Speaker 1>it was toxic, or you fired them for some reason.

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<v Speaker 1>So you don't go back and hire someone you fired

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<v Speaker 1>that it didn't work and you don't go back and

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<v Speaker 1>hire someone that quit because they weren't being loyal. But

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<v Speaker 1>now they see that you're doing well and they want

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<v Speaker 1>back in. Fuck them. That's your ex seeing you dating

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<v Speaker 1>a hawk eye and he wants you back. Fuck that

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<v Speaker 1>guy too, So none of that shit goes. You move forward.

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<v Speaker 1>We are going in one direction. It's candy Land. We're

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<v Speaker 1>not going back. We might go across to get to

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<v Speaker 1>the top faster, but you can trust and believe we're

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<v Speaker 1>not going backwards. Okay, it's not Candyland. You keep going.

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<v Speaker 1>And you also, you forgot, you've now glamorized them. You

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<v Speaker 1>forgot why their presence irritated you, why they were lazy,

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<v Speaker 1>why they worried about leaving work at four o'clock, because

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<v Speaker 1>they were more interested in boba than what you were doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever it was, it happened for a reason. You move forward,

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<v Speaker 1>not backwards. Oh. Also, if you work from home but

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<v Speaker 1>occasionally are with your boss, don't you ever book an

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<v Speaker 1>appointment on that day. Don't you book an appointment or

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<v Speaker 1>anything that goes on on a day that you're in

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<v Speaker 1>person with your boss. If you're a work from home

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<v Speaker 1>People who come from my generation who are successful and

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<v Speaker 1>wealthy and worked their asses off seven days a week

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<v Speaker 1>without even thinking about it because they were happy to

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<v Speaker 1>have a job. Do not appreciate work from home people

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<v Speaker 1>on the very rare occasions that they're in person leaving

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<v Speaker 1>early immediately, now, immediately, fucking no, make your appointments on

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<v Speaker 1>your own time in those situations. If you work a

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<v Speaker 1>nine to five and you're going to a doctor, yes

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<v Speaker 1>you're not going on Sunday or Saturday to the doctor.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know that your boss. You think they don't

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<v Speaker 1>notice everything. They notice every move you make and every

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<v Speaker 1>step you take for the most part, and they energetically

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<v Speaker 1>also know who's working really hard and who's not. So

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<v Speaker 1>don't be the person that's not a team player and

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<v Speaker 1>lets the other people work harder than you. You know too,

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<v Speaker 1>who's working harder. You know whose load is heavier, whose

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<v Speaker 1>lift is heavier, and you be a team player. Your

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<v Speaker 1>boss notices things you don't know. Your boss knows. They

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<v Speaker 1>notice things you don't notice. It's in the way you write,

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<v Speaker 1>it's in the way you speak, it's in the way

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<v Speaker 1>you present a text an email. It's in your positivity,

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<v Speaker 1>it's in your place of yes, it's in your solving problems.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you ask for a salary number that is high,

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<v Speaker 1>you better be able to back that up, and you

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<v Speaker 1>better be able to do all of the things that

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<v Speaker 1>fall within that salary range. You don't just arbitrarily pick

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<v Speaker 1>a salary number and decide that's what you are unless

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<v Speaker 1>you have institutional knowledge and experience that backs that number up.

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<v Speaker 1>Like unless you're and I got it person, You're not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna need any help with anything within this job perview

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<v Speaker 1>because you know it all. Why, because you ask for

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of money. If you ask for a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of money, bosses don't mind spending money. Okay, most bosses

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<v Speaker 1>don't mind spending a lot of money, but they better

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<v Speaker 1>get value. They better get value, otherwise they'll resent you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not different than a relationship. Buy her beautiful gifts,

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<v Speaker 1>spoil her, et cetera. Buyer the ames beags. She better

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<v Speaker 1>be respectful and thoughtful and grateful and doting, responsive and

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<v Speaker 1>reciprocate and cook dinner and go to the farmer's market

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<v Speaker 1>and give massages and do whatever it is. Okay, because

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<v Speaker 1>nobody gets out without paying the bill. You're welcome. Bye.

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