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Speaker 1: Okay, Delegation and management are critical in running a business

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Speaker 1: And the problem is those people that are the good

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Speaker 1: And there could be many different reasons. It could be

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Speaker 1: work style. You're not a good salesperson, you're not charismatic,

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Speaker 1: you're not likable, you don't click with the person who

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Speaker 1: makes the decisions. You're just not a star. You're a

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Speaker 1: very good, amazing, solid, reliable, most valuable player worker, but

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Speaker 1: you're not a star. But I can tell you this,

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Speaker 1: if you are not an excellent manager of time and

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Speaker 1: not everyone's good at managing other people, and not everyone's

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Speaker 1: good at managing their time. Take a course on it,

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Speaker 1: read about it, learn it. Because people get sucked in,

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Speaker 1: the weeds. It's decision making, decision making. I have been

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Speaker 1: told by people at multi billion dollar companies they've never

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Speaker 1: met someone more decisive than I am, and that could

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Speaker 1: like run things and be as efficient and effective and

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Speaker 1: get it done as fast as I can. No one

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Speaker 1: on my that I've ever worked with that my entire

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Speaker 1: Check the box, keep it moving. If you make the

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Speaker 1: you shift it, you pivot it, and you keep it

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Speaker 1: moving again. It doesn't matter. You can't get bogged down

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Speaker 1: for fear or that you will make the wrong decision.

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Speaker 1: That is not a leader, That is not a manager.

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Speaker 1: That is not what you do. You make a decision,

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Speaker 1: you stand by it, and you keep going, and you

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Speaker 1: don't have to ask sixty five people if it's the

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Speaker 1: right decision. You could ask people in crowdsourced advice about

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Speaker 1: the thing. Phone a friend, don't phone on the boss.

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Speaker 1: The boss doesn't want to be in every weed. But

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Speaker 1: then fucking make one decision and go and then delegation too.

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Speaker 1: Be able to delegate. You can't have your face in

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Speaker 1: turn it to simmer, have someone else to watch the pot,

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Speaker 1: take it off, do what you gotta do. But you

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Speaker 1: cannot be a person that's going to move to the

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Speaker 1: good at that. But these are important skill sets, or

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Speaker 1: to know that you're not great at that and not

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Speaker 1: because I am the creative. I am a creative. I

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Speaker 1: I feel like I've been put in a jail cell

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Speaker 1: name things, where everybody should be, what CCY should be in,

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Speaker 1: what twelve people on a meeting should be doing. And

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Speaker 1: then I piece the fuck out. But that's a skill

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Speaker 1: just hard. I had a guy used to work with,

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Speaker 1: Let's get the work done. Let's get the fuck out.

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Speaker 1: Everyone go live their lives and go to the beach.

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Speaker 1: So that's efficient. Other people are there for twelve hours.

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Speaker 1: Use your time well, it is so valuable, and manage

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Speaker 1: person that you feel bad about. It's show business. It's

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Speaker 1: not show friends. Okay, it's not show friends. It's show business.

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Speaker 1: And it's all about the Benjamin's baby in business, and

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Speaker 1: that's so nice. Where'd you get that? None of your

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Speaker 1: Is almost pushing it too far. That's sometimes too much.

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Speaker 1: Like sometimes bosses that are fucking badass, they don't want

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Speaker 1: they'll chat. It's like match their energy. Ish. I would

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Speaker 1: create your own work balance. I don't know what your

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Speaker 1: so it's like been sent or it's somewhere. But if

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Speaker 1: nobody gets out without paying the bill. You're welcome. Bye.

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